Hey mate, thanks this means alot right now! a lot of people seem to think so... Not sure i believe, but il do the thing anyway! hope you are doing ok whoever you are!
Keep talking to people, walk in the park, call family if you can for a chit chat, share your feelings (don't keep them bottled in), and no 30 year old has a house now. Maybe you know a few, so do I, but most nowaways are struggling, living in house shares or with parents, no savings. I'm 28, living in my older brothers spare room for low rent, have an enjoyable but low paying part time job, but will have to move out soon when my bro starts a family. We keep chugging along.
You are spot on! so many people are in the same boat aren't they? i could write an essay in response to your comment, something i want to talk about in future videos. I think a lot of people (men moreso) are struggling with social connections.
@@gbtheluckyone hey mate! for sure i will - as per this video i am moving for my new job next week! will post about it all soon. gives a follow if you are interested ;)
would love to pick your brain and talk about what its like on the other side. We should talk, would make a good video. let me know if you are up for it
Great video! Struggling with similar issues rn, but I keep applying and interviewing. Sometimes I get really depressed because I feel so helpless and so alone in this, but luckily it does not last long. I can see so many of us are in the same boat...
it took me 7 months, applying every day. I bet you definitely feel like there's no light at the end of the tunnel, but believe me there is: if I can get through this shit, i promise you you can too. you are not alone, even if it feels like the world is against you. I mean it is haha, but its against everyone. just can't give up! keep in touch mate let me know how you get on
I am 26 and still living with my parent. I graduated college four years ago but am going back to school this fall to learn a different profession. It suck cuz it feels like I am not where I want to be despite doing my best and feel like I am failing in life. I can only pray and hope it gets better on both of our end...
I think what im going to say to you actually applies to me. we are both young, people change careers at any age. the fact you have education behind you is SO good for future prospects, sounds like you are killing it! just don't give up, something will pay off! what are you going to study?
@@Bye3000 I took a year out to study coding languages. that's what landed me a role in insurance, but i got comfy and didn't look for jobs whilst employed. Such a good idea to study IT, especially if you can get behind AI. sounds like you are on the way to great things, before you know it you'll be working remote for £30k starting :P
that would be ideal, living with family just not possible. yeah houseshares usually mean renting a single room, but im still looking (Average) £600 deposit + £600 1 month advance rent.
Ive been between homeless and not several times. Currently im spending literally everything i have and tossing out half of what i own just to make a move to a new place. If it doesnt pan out, i dont know what ill do.
Shit mate, sorry to hear. What country are you from? yeah, im selling everything to afford a deposit + 1 month rent. Its hard if you don't have family support, its literally You vs the world. The only thing you can do is just fight through all of it, and try get on top. Keep in touch, let me know how you get on.
Happy I came across your video! And I agree both with the other comments and with your take on consistency. It is a crazy world we live in, and all we can do is try and do our best! Feeling stressed out and not sleeping well doesn't have to be the end of the world, as long as it is only for a short time. I hope you'll find a new place soon, and I'm sure you'll be able to relax a whole lot with a better idea of how the next few months are going to go. Having to find and finance a new place to live after being without a job for a while, that's double rough! Do you think you're on track to pull it off one way or another? Would you be open to, or have you already looked into, some form of crowdfunding to help you out?
Hey thanks! appreciate the comment too! Its going to be rather tight but I believe I can pull it off, going to have to be very careful with money! Crowdfunding... my instinctive reaction is i don't want others to help me and be out of pocket. I have a hard time asking for help (probably some historic issues there!) especially financially, as i have never recieved it (unless you count jobseekers). But I am thinking about it. If i could pay those back when i could, like a loan that didn't have absurd interest rates
@@GammageBenjamin Yeah, I can understand that. It can even be a source of pride to put together a plan and have it work! One concept that helped me be more comfortable asking for and accepting help is the "pay it forward" idea - I may be in need of some support today, but if things go well I will in turn be able to help out others in the future (not necessarily just financially either, helping others can take many forms). From what you mention in the video, you are in a bit of a tough spot right now through some unfortunate timing of events in your life. But it should only be a temporary thing, with the new job you're starting. I am sure there would be people willing to contribute toward your deposit for the new place, for example. And sincerely not expect to be paid back anything.
Once you get settled in your job it could be worth looking more deeply at your finances. Do you budget? Do you know what your biggest costs are? Do you have credit card or high interest debt? Future you will thank you if you get your finances in order so that no one can put you in this situation again.
Well, I sold a certian stock which essentially covers a potential deposit, but my float or "im screwed money" covered 3 months. that dried up. since being unemployed the debts came quickly. Its difficult to budget when i made the wrong life choice of renting alone. the cash flow was such that i could not save enough. to cover 6 months of unemployment for example, whilst renting alone with bills etc would take me 9 months. thats allowing for a £200 month for food. I should of had a larger float, having to rely on credit to supplement jobseekers after 3 months was not ideal. but given my work history that wasn't financially feasible. and thats after making money on every stock and crypto i had. making money on very little is still very little. if you know of financial methods that can optimise the market based on funtional or technical analysis do spill the beans! but what i do know now, is not rely on job security and always houseshare :(
@@GammageBenjamin I think having a rainy day fund makes sense. Sharing living expenses will help. I wouldn't touch crypto but that's just me. Dollar cost average into low expense index fund is probably the only guaranteed way to build wealth over time.
Algorithm seemed to bring me here, but I’m glad it did. You seem like you have a good mindset for this man, and a good head on your shoulders. I know you’re not seeking sympathy but I feel for you that you’ve been going through it for the last few months and beyond. Really chuffed that you’ve landed a job and all the best for finding a place to live. Discipline is everything and I wish you all the best going forward fella!
I used to help my family run this carpet shop (i was useless), learnt to code over covid and got into the insurance world as a analyst of sorts. I got a job offer recently which ive accepted but also had loads of interviews with various insurance companies so will be interesting to hear their feedback!
You are amazing mate i am 100 percent sure you gonna figure out everything
Hey mate, thanks this means alot right now! a lot of people seem to think so... Not sure i believe, but il do the thing anyway! hope you are doing ok whoever you are!
Rough situation, but you're not the only one man, keep your chin up, good luck
yeah my story is pretty common. Il carry on, thanks for the words though bud! hope you are doing ok
Keep talking to people, walk in the park, call family if you can for a chit chat, share your feelings (don't keep them bottled in), and no 30 year old has a house now. Maybe you know a few, so do I, but most nowaways are struggling, living in house shares or with parents, no savings. I'm 28, living in my older brothers spare room for low rent, have an enjoyable but low paying part time job, but will have to move out soon when my bro starts a family. We keep chugging along.
You are spot on! so many people are in the same boat aren't they? i could write an essay in response to your comment, something i want to talk about in future videos. I think a lot of people (men moreso) are struggling with social connections.
@@GammageBenjamin Please make a video about the topic.
@@gbtheluckyone hey mate! for sure i will - as per this video i am moving for my new job next week! will post about it all soon. gives a follow if you are interested ;)
@@GammageBenjamin Subscribed.
Keep going circumstances Don make the man
absolutely agree, fuel for the fire so to speak!
I just got done working in a jobcentre. Was horrific. Now unemployed myself so on the other side of the desk now.
would love to pick your brain and talk about what its like on the other side. We should talk, would make a good video. let me know if you are up for it
Great video! Struggling with similar issues rn, but I keep applying and interviewing. Sometimes I get really depressed because I feel so helpless and so alone in this, but luckily it does not last long. I can see so many of us are in the same boat...
it took me 7 months, applying every day. I bet you definitely feel like there's no light at the end of the tunnel, but believe me there is: if I can get through this shit, i promise you you can too. you are not alone, even if it feels like the world is against you. I mean it is haha, but its against everyone. just can't give up! keep in touch mate let me know how you get on
All the best mate. You can get through ot.
Cheers man, yeah I have my health so i cant complain. People have it worse. hope all is good with you
I am 26 and still living with my parent. I graduated college four years ago but am going back to school this fall to learn a different profession. It suck cuz it feels like I am not where I want to be despite doing my best and feel like I am failing in life.
I can only pray and hope it gets better on both of our end...
I think what im going to say to you actually applies to me. we are both young, people change careers at any age. the fact you have education behind you is SO good for future prospects, sounds like you are killing it! just don't give up, something will pay off! what are you going to study?
@@GammageBenjamin Computer Information Technology.
@@Bye3000 I took a year out to study coding languages. that's what landed me a role in insurance, but i got comfy and didn't look for jobs whilst employed. Such a good idea to study IT, especially if you can get behind AI. sounds like you are on the way to great things, before you know it you'll be working remote for £30k starting :P
Please move in with a relative and ask to pay no rent. Of course if it's not possible, just rent a single room
that would be ideal, living with family just not possible. yeah houseshares usually mean renting a single room, but im still looking (Average) £600 deposit + £600 1 month advance rent.
Ive been between homeless and not several times. Currently im spending literally everything i have and tossing out half of what i own just to make a move to a new place. If it doesnt pan out, i dont know what ill do.
Shit mate, sorry to hear. What country are you from? yeah, im selling everything to afford a deposit + 1 month rent. Its hard if you don't have family support, its literally You vs the world. The only thing you can do is just fight through all of it, and try get on top. Keep in touch, let me know how you get on.
Happy I came across your video! And I agree both with the other comments and with your take on consistency. It is a crazy world we live in, and all we can do is try and do our best! Feeling stressed out and not sleeping well doesn't have to be the end of the world, as long as it is only for a short time. I hope you'll find a new place soon, and I'm sure you'll be able to relax a whole lot with a better idea of how the next few months are going to go.
Having to find and finance a new place to live after being without a job for a while, that's double rough! Do you think you're on track to pull it off one way or another? Would you be open to, or have you already looked into, some form of crowdfunding to help you out?
Hey thanks! appreciate the comment too! Its going to be rather tight but I believe I can pull it off, going to have to be very careful with money!
Crowdfunding... my instinctive reaction is i don't want others to help me and be out of pocket. I have a hard time asking for help (probably some historic issues there!) especially financially, as i have never recieved it (unless you count jobseekers). But I am thinking about it. If i could pay those back when i could, like a loan that didn't have absurd interest rates
@@GammageBenjamin Yeah, I can understand that. It can even be a source of pride to put together a plan and have it work! One concept that helped me be more comfortable asking for and accepting help is the "pay it forward" idea - I may be in need of some support today, but if things go well I will in turn be able to help out others in the future (not necessarily just financially either, helping others can take many forms).
From what you mention in the video, you are in a bit of a tough spot right now through some unfortunate timing of events in your life. But it should only be a temporary thing, with the new job you're starting. I am sure there would be people willing to contribute toward your deposit for the new place, for example. And sincerely not expect to be paid back anything.
Once you get settled in your job it could be worth looking more deeply at your finances. Do you budget? Do you know what your biggest costs are? Do you have credit card or high interest debt? Future you will thank you if you get your finances in order so that no one can put you in this situation again.
Well, I sold a certian stock which essentially covers a potential deposit, but my float or "im screwed money" covered 3 months. that dried up. since being unemployed the debts came quickly. Its difficult to budget when i made the wrong life choice of renting alone. the cash flow was such that i could not save enough. to cover 6 months of unemployment for example, whilst renting alone with bills etc would take me 9 months. thats allowing for a £200 month for food.
I should of had a larger float, having to rely on credit to supplement jobseekers after 3 months was not ideal. but given my work history that wasn't financially feasible. and thats after making money on every stock and crypto i had. making money on very little is still very little.
if you know of financial methods that can optimise the market based on funtional or technical analysis do spill the beans! but what i do know now, is not rely on job security and always houseshare :(
@@GammageBenjamin I think having a rainy day fund makes sense. Sharing living expenses will help. I wouldn't touch crypto but that's just me. Dollar cost average into low expense index fund is probably the only guaranteed way to build wealth over time.
Algorithm seemed to bring me here, but I’m glad it did. You seem like you have a good mindset for this man, and a good head on your shoulders. I know you’re not seeking sympathy but I feel for you that you’ve been going through it for the last few months and beyond. Really chuffed that you’ve landed a job and all the best for finding a place to live. Discipline is everything and I wish you all the best going forward fella!
this comment is bloody beautiful and watered the tear ducts haha. Cheers, that means a lot though. All the best!
what profession are you into?
I used to help my family run this carpet shop (i was useless), learnt to code over covid and got into the insurance world as a analyst of sorts. I got a job offer recently which ive accepted but also had loads of interviews with various insurance companies so will be interesting to hear their feedback!
@@GammageBenjamin so you work with insurance?
yes insurance in the uk, motor and home :)
@@GammageBenjamin do you have a degree?
@@Nik-rx9rj Nope. nor would i spend money on one. il make a video on what I'm doing, see if a vlogging direction would be popular'
Was this to goon to?
what does goon mean? I can't keep up with the slang im getting old haha