Escape Mediocrity: "Social Media, Porn & Laziness Are Worse Than You Think!" | Robert Greene

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  • Опубліковано 28 тра 2024
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    Get ready to break free from the common traps that hinder most people on their journey to success! In this powerful episode of Impact Theory, join me, Tom Bilyeu, as I sit down with the brilliant author Robert Greene. Together, we uncover the habits that can transform your life and help you overcome destructive behaviors.
    If you're tired of feeling stuck and want to manage your time effectively, avoid distractions, and rise above mediocrity, then this conversation is for you. Robert Greene offers up some of the most invaluable insights on how to hack yourself for personal growth, develop discipline, and find your purpose in life.
    Laziness, drugs, alcohol, porn, nihilism, and doom-scrolling on social media social media are time-sucking activities that give nothing in return. It's time to ditch these destructive habits and focus on what truly matters.
    Success doesn't happen by chance; you have to actively pursue it.
    Robert Greene reveals the strategies you need to navigate this minefield of life. Discover the power of desire and how it can fuel your journey towards fulfillment. Learn the importance of self-reflection, curating an information rich diet, and avoiding the pitfalls of fetishizing artificial intelligence and technology.
    The theme of this episode is clear: life may be tough, but what's your next move? Will you settle for a mediocre existence, or will you find your purpose and master the power to rise above the 99%? It's time to stop playing the victim and start taking control of your life.
    Join me and Robert Greene if you seriously want to break free from the self-destructive patterns and create a life of meaning and impact.
    Make sure to check out Robert Greene's incredible books, which are packed with wisdom and actionable advice: www.amazon.com/stores/Robert-...
    Chapter Markers:
    [00:00] Introduction To Get Ahead of the 99%
    [00:32] Desire Is The Answer
    [15:21] A ‘Rebel Without A Cause’ Is WEAK
    [22:07] Your Situation Sucks, Now What!?
    [37:40] Fueling Success With Envy
    [47:13] This Is Destroying Your Purpose
    [1:05:34] Mastery Is More Than 10,000 Hours
    Powerful Insights From Robert Greene:
    “If you can’t be bored and take a notebook and start writing things out about your childhood, about who you are, about who you love and what you hate, [...] there’s no hope for you.”
    “If there’s so much injustice against you, there’s your cause. There’s your energy.There’s your hope.”
    “You have to make a choice. Do I want something else for myself or do I just want to wallow in self-pity and blame other people?”
    “Train yourself to be happy for other people’s success. You won’t believe what a great relief it is and how it will help you and benefit you therapeutically in your mind in general to be happy to celebrate other people’s success.”
    “Be aware that your mind is so active that you have to have something to fill it, but it’s your choice whether you’re going to consume mindless stuff or if you’re going to actually use that restless active brain of yours and put it to some incredible function.”
    Follow Robert Greene:
    Website: www.robertgreene.co/
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    Twitter: / robertgreene
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    Follow Me, Tom Bilyeu:
    Website: impacttheoryuniversity.com/
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  • @TomBilyeu
    @TomBilyeu  5 місяців тому +150

    WARNING: I will never ask for your contact info in the comments section, that is someone impersonating me!

    • @the_ab101
      @the_ab101 4 місяці тому +5

      ok

    • @henrythegreatamerican8136
      @henrythegreatamerican8136 4 місяці тому +3

      As long as you enjoy what your doing, does it really matter if it makes you a mediocre person in the eyes of society?
      99.99% of us won't be remembered for anything other than taking up space, including YOU.

    • @gallant1772
      @gallant1772 4 місяці тому +2

      @@henrythegreatamerican8136if you enjoy what you’re doing and your actually good at it than you’ll never be mediocre

    • @balkaur3313
      @balkaur3313 4 місяці тому

      Thanks Tom I almost sent you money some scammer out therre

    • @Cracked0
      @Cracked0 4 місяці тому

      ​Are you watching jiddu krishnamurti?​@@henrythegreatamerican8136

  • @superunknown6674
    @superunknown6674 4 місяці тому +84

    I truly dislike Tom’s ego in this. 1:32:00 Spectacular guest btw!! 🎉

    • @True38
      @True38 3 місяці тому +10

      Same. That was just stupid, especially since they are in fact basically saying the exact same thing but he just wants to argue for the sake of arguing. Apparently, he has not read Law #9... The student fails the Master once again.

    • @TheTigerlily86
      @TheTigerlily86 3 місяці тому +4

      So true

    • @7JeTeL7
      @7JeTeL7 2 місяці тому +2

      no, it was meant to happen...both guys seem to be little tired and irritated, both were kinda dancing around fate, succesfully avoiding it, and it will be revealing for both of them after watching this, as it is for us

    • @bicmitchum1368
      @bicmitchum1368 2 місяці тому +1

      I couldn't put words to it. But yeah the guy is not willing absorb the knowledge being giving, also before that point I could sense some passive aggressive energy , at some point he said your last book bored me to death

  • @glendonemmons3859
    @glendonemmons3859 4 місяці тому +123

    1:02:01 So I have a good example of someone changing their life on their 50th birthday. My mother was a life long bartender at 49 years old. I was 22 and had just gotten out of college. On her 50th birthday, we took every penny we had ($14,000) and moved to a vacation island off the coast of Georgia and started a very successful vacation rental company. I know that me being 22 throws off her number a little, but I promise that I was completely useless for at least the first two years. I run large parts of the company now, but we still couldn’t run without her. This was 12 years ago. I’m now 35 and she’s 61. It definitely wasn’t easy, but I wanted to give a really encouraging example to anyone 50 and struggling. My mother will never have to work again.

    • @georgenduuru
      @georgenduuru 4 місяці тому +8

      I love it bro am 22 still in collage in Africa ..I stopped drinking and smoking and am in self improvement journey

    • @Knobcorp
      @Knobcorp 4 місяці тому +3

      Thank you for sharing this.

    • @tomatlanta2665
      @tomatlanta2665 4 місяці тому +4

      Yes, the emphasis on you have to be young in Roberts’s remarks was baffling to me

    • @realbrownblackhuman1317
      @realbrownblackhuman1317 4 місяці тому

      ​@@georgenduuru

    • @realbrownblackhuman1317
      @realbrownblackhuman1317 4 місяці тому

      ​@@Knobcorp

  • @olivertaveras9896
    @olivertaveras9896 4 місяці тому +284

    Social skills saved my life. Being able to give someone a great experience while being around you is priceless. And the dividends never stop paying.

    • @SolarpunkSeed
      @SolarpunkSeed 4 місяці тому +6

      Interesting, any specific positive tips for those who might be reading this?

    • @LAKitchen
      @LAKitchen 4 місяці тому +2

      Mind sharing sources you learned from? :)

    • @CliffMark
      @CliffMark 4 місяці тому

      ​@SoarpunkSeed Read The Laws of Human Nature

    • @CliffMark
      @CliffMark 4 місяці тому

      ​@@LAKitchenRead The Laws of Human Nature

    • @0Ciju0
      @0Ciju0 4 місяці тому +18

      Right?! Its wild how growing up I have been pre-dispositioned to seek a white-collar, office job to be happy. On paper it makes sense, but holy moly is it draining the soul out of me.
      Never would I have thought that an interaction with a stranger at the grocerry store could envoke SOO much more pleasure than "going HAM at my job". Being able to make someones day easier literally makes my day for me and I love to sit and reflect on good conversations I had with people.
      Maybe I am just starved for genuine connections.

  • @user-jx3hl8mh2u
    @user-jx3hl8mh2u 4 місяці тому +53

    Robert Greene had some wonderful insights. Respectfully, Tom, I think you can be a little more respectful in verbalizing your opposing opinion rather than continuing to hammer the fact that you don't agree into your guest. However, I agree with both sides of the coin. On one end, "it was meant to happen so that I learn" but also "I am choosing to learn from this". I think in life, it is a little bit of both. We aren't totally giving our power away but we also recognize the possibility of something greater than us and that even in bad times, life happens for us, not against us.

    • @rahandapapadopoulou8790
      @rahandapapadopoulou8790 3 місяці тому +4

      very well stated

    • @fiuytvat4322
      @fiuytvat4322 3 місяці тому +3

      I agree, Tom wasn't respectful to his guest.. trying to hammer his opinion. Don't invite anybody, just talk alone in that case.

    • @dmj2020
      @dmj2020 3 місяці тому +2

      If you knew Tom and worked for his company in the early days you would laugh your ass off at the moral pillar he presents himself as. He is a figment of his own imagination and figures that because he rose on the backs of 22 year olds working 7 days a week, 70 hours a week with pitiful compensation and no time off (my daughter being one of them), he is now a guru of success. The man is a total joke. Lots of people make "millions", even billions. He's not special.

    • @samuelanderson9416
      @samuelanderson9416 3 місяці тому +4

      Seriously, it was actually a great talk and it kind of pulled me out of a little depression. Then out of nowhere in the end Tom gets into a petty semantics disagreement and totally killed the vibe

  • @kvashishth5760
    @kvashishth5760 4 місяці тому +209

    I am 29 year old. This podcast of Robert Greene was for us, us who are entering in 30s , who still had not found meaningful job or Bussiness or work, who thinks there 20s have wasted, who has now awakened to ask hard questions to ourselves. Thankyou Tom for calling Robert Greene. Every word of him was relevant.

    • @HELL-FORGED
      @HELL-FORGED 4 місяці тому +29

      I'm 37 it doesn't get easier.. put a family in the mix, who look to you for answers.. add in existential crisis.. 🧠 💥

    • @tonyamartin1425
      @tonyamartin1425 4 місяці тому +16

      Im 98 trying to take an online course or something lol

    • @realbrownblackhuman1317
      @realbrownblackhuman1317 4 місяці тому +2

      ​@@HELL-FORGED

    • @Pathtoadulthood
      @Pathtoadulthood 4 місяці тому +6

      Crazy I read this comment. I'm exactly in the same boat as you my friend.

    • @DanTanzoid1
      @DanTanzoid1 4 місяці тому

      lol wut??@@tonyamartin1425

  • @HWEdward
    @HWEdward Місяць тому +3

    Robert Greene is awesome. His ability to control the interview indirectly is amazing.

  • @clubadv
    @clubadv 4 місяці тому +41

    Wow TOM,you allowed first 5 minutes him to talk without interuotion and without saying how amazing you are. I might enjoy this channel now.

  • @naarilugo2833
    @naarilugo2833 4 місяці тому +10

    Robert Greene is so wise and his vision is enlightening! I unfortunately felt that the interviewer Tom was adding his own personal view points to much and being a bit arrogant with his way of approaching it.

  • @ahmadbels
    @ahmadbels 4 місяці тому +10

    only thing better than reading Greene is listening to Robert

  • @AntonHinxman
    @AntonHinxman 4 місяці тому +146

    If you are in your 30's,40's or 50's etc finding your direction or purpose need not be difficult. It is only more challenging to be outwardly seen to be achieving your goal/purpose. Look deeper within yourself, to be free of being measured by others, so that you can break free of your past. You then have mastery of at least yourself rather than simply an ambition to change the world.

    • @tsheposeeletso6475
      @tsheposeeletso6475 4 місяці тому +3

      Well said Anton

    • @tone3560
      @tone3560 4 місяці тому +2

      Ok Tony robbins

    • @schoolofgreatness4741
      @schoolofgreatness4741 4 місяці тому

      if you analyse your life with some disturbing emotion you make your brain worse every time , Stop analyse and build something new ! Listen to Joe Dispenza if you want to change your life ! Robert Greeen's idea can mislead you sometime ! i don't agree with him !! Joe Dispenza is Number One in the World on people's transformation

    • @Drew_Hurst
      @Drew_Hurst 4 місяці тому

      ​@@tone3560Robins is a fine mentor,
      and far better than no mentor at all.

    • @realbrownblackhuman1317
      @realbrownblackhuman1317 4 місяці тому

      ​@@tsheposeeletso6475

  • @DanaRaquel
    @DanaRaquel 4 місяці тому +120

    The part about not reading history is insanely true. I study a lot of history and it's always been wacky... few people have a completely charmed experience. The truth is you have nothing to lose by being positive about things. It's certainly the lesser of evils and it's not even an evil, believing things are possible is the first step to doing things. There are WAY more distractions now that ever. And he's on the button that social media is number 1. It can be a powerful tool or a mindless sucker of time. The less you use it for the wrong reasons the more you can figure out what's important to you, is what I'm finding.

  • @Marinaxxyz12jwvrofhwb
    @Marinaxxyz12jwvrofhwb 4 місяці тому +31

    Both are incredibly smart men, Robert Greene changed my life, Tom is great in his work too, but too bad he kept bringing Robert’s message back to his own beliefs. This is an Interview, Tom couldn’t let go, I feel sorry for Robert having sit there as a guest in the end. I will remain a fan of Tom, but Robert deserved a warmer Thank you, Tom lost his emotional control in the end such an uninterested outro. :(

  • @magnaajube7784
    @magnaajube7784 4 місяці тому +87

    Robert Greene has been blessed with divine understanding due to his unique experience which lead to valuing life. He has so much to share.

    • @mixelplik
      @mixelplik 4 місяці тому +2

      Ironic he was blessed by the "divine" since he's an atheist. But I still enjoy his readings. :)

    • @realbrownblackhuman1317
      @realbrownblackhuman1317 4 місяці тому

      ​@@mixelplik

  • @ayobamidele
    @ayobamidele 4 місяці тому +72

    I'm over 50 and left my sales career in October 23, I now play music fulltime. I've no idea what the future holds, but I'm loving every minute of it. I've got Mastery and am looking forward to reading it. Thanks Tom and Robert it's always inspiring hearing you both share your stories, thoughts and philosophies.

    • @jennyperez3981
      @jennyperez3981 4 місяці тому +1

      Do what makes you happy most of us we spend our lives trying to pease others .
      Enjoy the ride.

    • @realbrownblackhuman1317
      @realbrownblackhuman1317 4 місяці тому

      ​@@jennyperez3981

    • @MF-kr4hf
      @MF-kr4hf 3 місяці тому

      For Real.. Did he leave his job just to post that he left his job??

  • @mimsc2914
    @mimsc2914 4 місяці тому +20

    I follow Robert Greene from podcast to podcast 🤓

  • @TenSish
    @TenSish 4 дні тому +1

    I love Robert Greene. Read all his books, but I can listen to him all day.

  • @wealthtrekkers
    @wealthtrekkers 4 місяці тому +134

    I am 30 years old and this podcast hit hard. I am struggling to accept some of the mistakes I made in my younger years and have yet to carve a new path for myself. Thank you so so much for your message!

    • @0Ciju0
      @0Ciju0 4 місяці тому +11

      Fellow 31-year old here. I hear you brother; its not so much accepting my mistakes (I believe a lot - almost to a fault - in personal responsibility) but definetely carving a path for myself. I also suffer from ADHD, and I have a pattern of thinking I have found my calling or the thing that will fullfil me, but I get bored of it after exploring and it goes on the back burner. I have started two companies, simillar issue: I get bored of doing the actual work after spending the time to learn the niche. I get excitement from learning new things. Once I've explored a topic pretty thoroughly, I need to find something new to learn.

    • @pinkifloyd7867
      @pinkifloyd7867 4 місяці тому +1

      ​​@@0Ciju0..seems like a relationship issue 😅

    • @tsheposeeletso6475
      @tsheposeeletso6475 4 місяці тому +15

      I’m turning 40 next month and as someone who’s made catastrophic mistakes I’ve learnt that life goes on and what’s important is being okay every day. Putting undue pressure on yourself is the best way to ruin your mental health

    • @tsheposeeletso6475
      @tsheposeeletso6475 4 місяці тому +4

      @@0Ciju0I can 100% relate and there’s nothing wrong with that. Don’t compare your path to others, your quest is a constant adventure and that’s something a lot of people don’t have a lot of balls to pursue so enjoy it nothing wrong with it at all.

    • @godfrey.ndlovu
      @godfrey.ndlovu 4 місяці тому

      With you brother🙏

  • @radrazor1355
    @radrazor1355 4 місяці тому +48

    I'm 38 and grateful for waking up fully but furious it took me so f***ing long. Thank you Tom and Robert for your wisdom. See you soon Tom

    • @Ndogg012
      @Ndogg012 4 місяці тому +4

      When would you say you woke up? I'm 32, I feel similar. I smoked weed for 14 years and I feel its the epitome of choosing easy dopamine sources over long term goals, and I'm bitter about it. Woke up just 2 years ago myself

    • @surfside75
      @surfside75 4 місяці тому +1

      10 years b4 I woke up, yr doing great😅

    • @suzanneemerson2625
      @suzanneemerson2625 4 місяці тому +4

      ⁠@@Ndogg012 That sixties saying that people used to toss out casually, “Today is the first day of the rest of your life,” sounds cliche, but it can be a good way to live if you think about it. Keeps you in the present, while leaving the past behind. Forgive yourself, pull your energy into now, and do your best moving forward.

    • @Solitaryism101
      @Solitaryism101 4 місяці тому +1

      Why, "See you soon"? Do you think you are going to be a guest on Tom's show?

    • @radrazor1355
      @radrazor1355 4 місяці тому

      @Ndogg012 I say I awoke 5 years ago but took that time to rebuild my ideals and mindset. Unfortunately I was smoking weed at that time to deal with ptsd but also using it as a crutch of dependency. Stopped smoking 3 weeks ago and that cured a variety of "mentality congruence issues". A veil was lifted and now an extreme amount of the advice I've heard my mentors say is all falling into place.
      Truth about the easy dopamine hits. But nothing compares to the satisfaction I feel when overcoming issues that would mentally sideline me. Surrender to the process; and use the Stoic teaching from the greats to prevail.

  • @Liza-Omana09542
    @Liza-Omana09542 4 місяці тому +814

    I raised the hammer high when your first pick was Amazon AMS20T.. Been collecting this bear cycle.

  • @Cesar_Medrano
    @Cesar_Medrano 4 місяці тому +34

    Robert Greene has been an incredible discovery. I found him while on a run back in 2020 during the height of the pandemic. I found David Goggins through Tom Bilyeu as well. I appreciate the interviews! Both Robert Greene and David Goggins have been massive influences to my life. Thank you!

  • @increator1
    @increator1 4 місяці тому +23

    Oh man. I'm just blown away by this discussion. I really resonate with the rebel without a cause idea. Like 10 years ago I came to understand problems with capitalism. But rather than looking for a cause to work with for a better world, I became isolated. Thinking the world was bad. People are evil, and everyone was gonna die. And for like 5-7 years i was a full nihilist. It sucked in every imaginable way. Accidentally though I found a cause and the last 4 years has been a process of reintegrating parts of myself and world that I abandoned. Seeing, that maybe people are not all bad after all, maybe there is hope. And every more, creating my own path of hope for me and others. For me it ment starting an regenerative agriculture business. I'm still rebel and criticise capitalism, but now instead of only critique, I learn to play the game and are proactively developing a path towards a more humane game to play. As Buckminster Fuller once said: " If you want to change something, don't waste your energy on fighting the old system. Instead focus on developing a new one, which will make the old one obsolete."

    • @beesworld04
      @beesworld04 4 місяці тому +1

      Yes to all of this. I went down a documentary rabbit hole about the world and isolated myself like you except I stopped watching the videos and started a self awareness journey. This lasted like 2 years though. I slowly started getting back into the world, if you will. I love your idea of playing the game cause I had the same thought. Love the quote too, I’ve never heard it.

    • @realbrownblackhuman1317
      @realbrownblackhuman1317 4 місяці тому

      ​@@beesworld04

  • @valvosburg
    @valvosburg 4 місяці тому +11

    I disagree with about going down the “wrong” path and making “mistakes”… I am 53 and my life is better than it has ever been!!! Not despite the “mistakes’ but because of them! I’m growing my business and feel SO fulfilled! I am so grateful that I have always lived a fluid life and have never, nor will I ever be the rigid person he describes. It makes me feel a little sad for the journey he has taken. I hope he can get a bit out of his head and feel the beauty of love and light💕

    • @jayl9346
      @jayl9346 4 місяці тому +4

      Thank you for writing this. I have to say, I see so many comments about how inspiring this conversation was and I actually felt that the message Robert ultimately gave was that if you don't figure out the "right" path for you in your 20s, then you won't and your future is bleak. I was quite disappointed and completely disagree.

    • @realbrownblackhuman1317
      @realbrownblackhuman1317 4 місяці тому

      ​@@jayl9346

    • @latoyiadionne3905
      @latoyiadionne3905 3 місяці тому +1

      I totally agree. I am 40 and don’t regret one bit of my degrees or my corporate career in my 20s/30s. Because of my education and career those skills transferred over to my business. I continue to grow and learn each day. My business would not be as successful if I didn’t have the education that I pursued or the career that I had. Even if the experience was bad, good or indifferent, it has shaped me.

  • @heatherkeeping6773
    @heatherkeeping6773 2 місяці тому +1

    Many of your loyal audience are reinventing selves in their 50’s & 60’s! Thank you for going beyond 50! Great podcast & guest!

  • @annatsoibeauty
    @annatsoibeauty 4 місяці тому +57

    This was so freaking good even though I disagree that after 40 we’re more resistant to new things. I’m more than just excepting to learn new things at my 44 y.o. Love your podcast, Tom! ❤

    • @chrisignacio1791
      @chrisignacio1791 4 місяці тому +1

      Neuroscience states That after 35 you’re programmed to who you are.So trying new things gets more difficult because our brains are wired to keep us safe and that comes from what’s familiar..In saying All of That I am Also in my 40’s But Excited To Try New things..

    • @XTen1000DaysX
      @XTen1000DaysX 4 місяці тому +4

      You're fine as long as you're aware of it which you are. Most are not aware.

    • @hmmhuh1222
      @hmmhuh1222 4 місяці тому +4

      Yes!! Throw out anything to do with age related limitations! Your mind is fresh and ready for whatever you apply it towards☆

    • @beatricerweyemamu5540
      @beatricerweyemamu5540 4 місяці тому

      I haven't heard the content of the video I was intrigued with the subject of it...if we are to quite social media and how are we going to access these resources...that was my big question...!!

    • @XTen1000DaysX
      @XTen1000DaysX 4 місяці тому

      @@beatricerweyemamu5540 he means use it constructively, not wasting time on reels or chatting for hours etc. For example I get on to see any new posts for 5 minutes, then msg friends. Maybe 30m total a day. The average person spends 4-5 hr a day on the phone.

  • @Sevita-Saruprani54473
    @Sevita-Saruprani54473 4 місяці тому +636

    I like both, but I think Amazon AMS20T is gonna be utilized sooner.

  • @rachaelp8998
    @rachaelp8998 4 місяці тому +8

    Sect 53 of this video He talks about things being near impossible to do after age 50 re to his book Mastery. I can see why some people would that as giving up but that is so far from the truth. We are more than the sums of our parts. we are the lineage of experiences that that some of these younger people have not had and when confronted with may need the support that through our experiences we can give. Our brains never stop growing until the day we take our last breath. This based on science. Not anyone's place to say we no longer have a purpose or the ability to reach our goal.

  • @beesworld04
    @beesworld04 4 місяці тому +8

    I’m 10 minutes in and this is exactly what is missing in people’s life! My god I wish this had more views!!

  • @ALT3REDB3AST
    @ALT3REDB3AST 4 місяці тому +8

    I just turned 50. Ive been in IT in a specific niche for all my career. Technology is moving so fast and the bar to keep up is beyond my desire/ability to do so. I need to pivot to survive the next 20, 30 years, but to what and how? Its beyond daunting!

    • @W.A.777
      @W.A.777 4 місяці тому +4

      Start to invest.. if you haven’t already.. start with real estate , rental properties.
      Start your IT business and have advantages of young fresh people.. I am in IT mid 30s it’s definitely going crazy and exhausting to keep up with technology.

  • @michellebohm3130
    @michellebohm3130 4 місяці тому +14

    Robert speaks about having family members who were involved in the Holocaust. I have the same background. Both of my parents, almost all my aunts and uncles, and my grandparents on both sides are either survivors or were killed. Most of my aunts and uncles went on to have very happy marriages and close relationships with their children. My mother, on the other hand, was so broken that she defined herself by that experience till she died at 92. She was depressed her entire life.
    Esther Perel had parents who had both lost their ENTIRE families in the Holocaust, yet fell in love and created happy lives. She had the most perfect line in an interview I saw. "Some people live and others just don't die". So brilliant, so true. I was so struck by that line that I just wrote a short memoir essay built around that very true premise. The Choice, indeed.

  • @wolfesound
    @wolfesound 4 місяці тому +5

    Fantastic talk as always. Just one thing I totally think differently on, and that is most people I have encountered had their course-correction in their 40's and 50's, and rarely anyone in their 20's. Maybe some in their 30's, but most were indeed above 40. That is because they start to look back at their lost time and missed opportunities and cannot bare to miss out on more. So many who ignored the call in their youth find it even harder to ignore it later in life, They look for another chance, for freedom, and for genuine fulfillment. It is not impossible. Quite the contrary. It is near impossible to convince our 20-year old selves to course correct. In any event, don't get defeated thinking it's impossible. At least, give it a shot. We all owe ourselves this much.

  • @MichaelCBryan
    @MichaelCBryan 3 місяці тому +1

    I’m going to join some of the comments here about talking about older people. I’m turning 60 this summer. I was an abused child and my mother killed herself and I suffered from extreme depression, anxiety and suicidal tendencies. I worked for many years in office jobs and was miserable and in my mid-50s I left my office job and created an LLC and I moved from New York City to Los Angeles. I do cross training four days a week, boxing three days a week and I help people all over the world with their mental health. I am also an actor in and a writer who is selling a TV show and a movie in Los Angeles, and I am writing a book about my journeys towards healing. I love Robert Green‘s message to a tremendous degree. And at the same time we arrive when we arrive. Keep the urgency alive. The equestrian horse that society is not expecting to see are those of us over the age of 50 and over the age of 60 coming into a fully realized sense of self. Believe in yourself. Love yourself. Celebrate yourself. And know that if I can be here after all that I’ve been through and not be dead, but thriving, so can you.

  • @bobbobsin3985
    @bobbobsin3985 3 місяці тому +2

    As a 19 year old the idea of child like insecurity’s spoke to me. I love how humble the truth of our past made me change perspective of self and think deeply of who I want to be for the now.

  • @michaelholmes8848
    @michaelholmes8848 4 місяці тому +21

    Hey Tom you should show some respect to your guests and put their names in the title or on the thumbnail.

  • @nksharma2114
    @nksharma2114 4 місяці тому +10

    1:30 - Desire
    4:00 - Diet
    8:45 - Culture of Nihilism
    19:50 - Fear of failure
    35:00 - Frame of reference
    1:20:00 - Love the doing
    1:32:50 - joy of path of Mastery

  • @katewetherell4846
    @katewetherell4846 3 місяці тому +1

    I'm a baby boomer--I worked hard for 25 years to get ahead, then lost it all because of a spouse who couldn't control his spending, then built my life back up over the next 15 years. Only at almost age 66 am I back to where I feel a small amount of financial security, and I'm still working hard. It seems like the generations behind us feel like it should be faster to get ahead, but that wasn't true in my life. I think the key is to notice how awful it is that you have to work so damned hard, but to work hard anyway, in spite of your resentments and self-pity, which were my constant companions on the journey.

  • @Iloveyou-ts1xb
    @Iloveyou-ts1xb 3 місяці тому +2

    Create something with your talents and gifts and sell it. Do it for a big picture purpose.
    Strength train once a week.
    Spiritual / gratitude practices are good too.
    This builds self esteem and confidence, write it, schedule it and stick it on your wall.

  • @corinaspfx
    @corinaspfx 4 місяці тому +3

    Anthony Bourdain wrote his first book at 44. Martha Stewart started her Living Magazine at 50

  • @yoyo-jc5qg
    @yoyo-jc5qg 4 місяці тому +8

    Robert greene is so right, people have such obvious things that they're good at over other things, we are born with definite strengths and should follow that path until finding something that sticks, everything up until then is a learning experience and adventure.

  • @ArchMageDarium
    @ArchMageDarium 4 місяці тому +9

    I think what most viewers need to realize is that it's never too late to get on the path to slaying your demons and that these are just self-help merchants selling a brand. Redefine what success means to you. Is it being a good mother/father, philanthropic deeds, debt freedom, an active love life? If you're constantly striving at a certain income level and don't have a purpose for that money you're going to be unhappy.

  • @Jack_Meadows
    @Jack_Meadows 3 місяці тому +1

    Started Roberts new book "The Laws of Human Nature" and couldn't recommend it more. A fascinating aggregation of very important aspects of our personalities, as well as helpful information on how to see through someone's external persona into who they really are.

  • @RahimBah1
    @RahimBah1 4 місяці тому +6

    Robert Greene delivers profound insights on escaping mediocrity, finding purpose, and mastering power. A captivating discussion that challenges conventional thinking and inspires a strategic approach to personal and professional growth.

  • @alexlewis5365
    @alexlewis5365 4 місяці тому +4

    I think one of my new years resolutions is going to be cut the amount of entertainment I'm doing in half. To me, that's going to include only watching youtubers Im subscribed to and educational content in recommended. No more scrolling on Instagram. The most important thing is working on my goals.

  • @SuccessSeeker09
    @SuccessSeeker09 4 місяці тому +2

    man as much as I disliked Robert Greene at first glance on his book the laws of power, completely changed how I feel 6 years later now and i really like and admire his point of view on life and finding your purpose

  • @iako...
    @iako... 3 місяці тому +1

    Im 38, lived interesting life, learned alot, worked alot, had interesting jobs, projects, professional experiences, made few dreams come true etc, meaning I wasnt lazy or wasting my time. Guess what, I still feel afraid, stressed ,regretful, struggle with sleepless nights worring on time, future, things I feel i need to create and I still dont have. its the mortality that makes it so, no matter what you do its ending, this doesnt sound positive but I belive this is the ultimate truth and unless you learn how to live in NOW , the so called accomplishments , finding your purpose, hustle and nonstop chase of success wont make you happy and this is all blah blah. Life ends, thats why we have all that enxity and I believe Robert does too, no matter how many books he has already written. Its a sorrow of being human.

  • @marialutta
    @marialutta 4 місяці тому +21

    I started my channel because of this channel. I am at 290 subs so far but am so encouraged by Tom and his team. This channel is always mind-blowing every conversation is a food for thought

  • @dipf7705
    @dipf7705 4 місяці тому +6

    I get this guys point about having a positive attitude, media can be unhealthy, and there have been times where people were pretty broke in the last 100 years.
    But, pick a year from 1940- 1950-60-70 whatever look at median income, price per acre, and house. 1945 is 1400 income/2500 family a year, $32 acre, $2800 house. 1400 per year per person. You and your brother or something could make 50% below median wage, and still be able to pay off a house in 5-10 years. Or buy 10 acres, and build whatever the you wanted on it after working for like 6 months.
    Yeah interest rates have been bad at multiple periods throughout, but the income/cost ratio was better. You didn't really have to work your a** off and be the best you possible, as this guy is describing, just afford a house. You could do it on a gas station attendant salary as long as you didn't have a serious drinking gambling or drug problem
    What's happening now is so constrictive that its crashing birthrates, Yet this guy seems more concerned with global warming.
    His opion seems like a psyop, recommending ignoring the health of the system, " its fine, put your head down and work harder, its been worse before"
    Does anyone agree?

    • @mercyme8014
      @mercyme8014 4 місяці тому

      individual context is key which is the message early in the podcast. Introspection..know yourself. . If you’ve been injured and Green has you’ll see life with limitations in mind. To not lookout for your energy and ability to balance life/stress is a mistake that can short circuit your life.

  • @rekaahne7190
    @rekaahne7190 4 місяці тому +18

    I love this episode so much! My perspective on the differences argument regarding “things happening for a reason” is definitely semantics, or “frame of reference.”
    You don’t know what you don’t know, so allow yourself grace in the self actualization. “The reason” is our grace period for realization! We are humans being after all…

  • @BLOOMwithANSA
    @BLOOMwithANSA 3 місяці тому +1

    I like Robert's approach much better. That's called living a balanced life with all lows and highs and while being a work in progress you enjoy your progress and your essence as a human being.

  • @clirmoo5672
    @clirmoo5672 4 місяці тому +3

    They both have different perspective. Overcome different struggles. Still end up successful. In the end its up to you watching this podcast to contemplate on what resonates you the most. None of it was rude.

  • @alid6616
    @alid6616 4 місяці тому +5

    I like how Tom stuck up for the younger generation, even though these times are not the Great Dep, or Ww2, there is a more covert enemy amongst us

  • @alphabeta8403
    @alphabeta8403 3 місяці тому +1

    2:50 What builds character is resistance
    11:00 Fetishize the human brain
    17:00 Cynicism drains your energy
    22:00 *Ugly periods is history; NO success before 39*
    31:00 When you’re young, you’re idealistic
    37:40 *Envy; human brain is a comparing machine*
    48:00 Being a human is difficult
    51:50 Mastery; Discover your life’s task
    1:01:30 As you get older, you become rigid
    1:12:40 RG overcoming frustrations and depression

  • @user-jv5do6wc8c
    @user-jv5do6wc8c 4 місяці тому +9

    The power of comfronting yourself is so genuine

  • @jerryyoung3167
    @jerryyoung3167 4 місяці тому +4

    So grateful for Tom and Impact Theory. This channel has changed my life! Thanks, Tom and team!!!

  • @carolspencer6915
    @carolspencer6915 4 місяці тому +13

    Good evening Tom and Robert
    Super grateful for the sanity brain gym.
    Experiencing small bumps in the road right now mainly work related, less hope than expected but not hopeless.😀
    However cannot predict the stupid actions of others nor the less than trust worthy decision-making choices of our leaders. Such a scary crazy time, big life lessons indeed.
    Thankyou again and again for both of you.
    Sensemaking and fairness seems lacking, sometimes!
    Lots to DO!
    💜

  • @explodingstardust
    @explodingstardust 4 місяці тому +4

    Love RG. He is such a realist. He will be read thousands of years. What a guest🎉

  • @Qwuiet
    @Qwuiet 2 місяці тому +1

    I can safely assume that we who seek out this type of videos are very introspective, critical of ourselves. Not everybody is like that. This is our unique trait.

  • @neveragain733
    @neveragain733 4 місяці тому +5

    I told my ex, its either you phone or me.
    Her reply, " im not giving up my phone".
    I am now single.

  • @base840
    @base840 4 місяці тому +16

    If I had to choose one podcast to listen to all week it would most definitely be impact theory!

  • @PauloPereiraUnico
    @PauloPereiraUnico 4 місяці тому +2

    It was great to see that they didn’t cut the discussion part. Nowadays is so common to listen podcasts that people only converge on the content and their convictions are not put into test or even stressed through arguments, or maybe they are but something was not good for their image or positioning to get published. Thanks for getting this part published and let us see how you guys really think, act and react. We could see at least part of the theory put into practice.

  • @carlosmiguel8640
    @carlosmiguel8640 3 місяці тому +1

    I agree with Robert, everything happens for a reason. All the jobs that he had and the experiences ge got through taught him valuable lessons. Thanks for those situations now I'm listening to him reading his books and it helped to see the life in a new perspective. Thank you Robert..!!

  • @nathananderson8720
    @nathananderson8720 4 місяці тому +3

    This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my UA-cam channel 10 months ago about self development. Now I have 1,891 subs and > 2k hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I could haven’t learned without getting started in the 1st place.

    • @CM7777...
      @CM7777... 3 місяці тому

      Everybody wants a UA-cam channel

  • @emmanuelssembatya288
    @emmanuelssembatya288 4 місяці тому +7

    Am from Uganda 🇺🇬 and i do love you brother ❤

  • @rekaahne7190
    @rekaahne7190 4 місяці тому +2

    Respect, loyalty, and friendship apparently provided Robert the reverence to speak freely on IT! Always a favorite guest, but the candor today is pivotal! Let’s go 2024!!!

  • @travdaddy11
    @travdaddy11 4 місяці тому +4

    Tom, this is a great discussion and more of this is very much appreciated!

  • @MicahBratt
    @MicahBratt 4 місяці тому +25

    I think perhaps one of the things that people struggle with is trying to find the thing that fulfills them while managing the loneliness that comes with it. You can be passionate about something but that doesn't mean you will be able to handle the lonely path that is required.

    • @ArmaniTheGreat003
      @ArmaniTheGreat003 4 місяці тому

    • @rachaelp8998
      @rachaelp8998 4 місяці тому +3

      Right there is my biggest challenge. Lonliness and wanting to figure out what I want to do at 62. I'live in a very rural area so I definitely have those moments. thank you for posting this, It's easy to think we are the only ones going through this.

    • @realbrownblackhuman1317
      @realbrownblackhuman1317 4 місяці тому +1

      ​@@ArmaniTheGreat003

    • @realbrownblackhuman1317
      @realbrownblackhuman1317 4 місяці тому

      ​@@rachaelp8998

  • @lovemesomepollo
    @lovemesomepollo 4 місяці тому +4

    Wow what a powerful conversation - inspiring tough love. Thank you both!

  • @averyparker9110
    @averyparker9110 4 місяці тому

    In the DOZENS of episodea i have watched, this by far, has been the most mentally stimulating interactions i have borne witness to. This is the legendary flow state many hope to seek!

  • @darnellaford8141
    @darnellaford8141 4 місяці тому

    There is a LOT to unpack in this masterclass, friends. One of the very best podcast episodes ever. Period. ❤

  • @sourijohnson749
    @sourijohnson749 4 місяці тому +5

    I like all the things you say Robert however, I’m turning 60 in 15 days the last thing I wanna hear is I’m almost dead. I know it but I don’t wanna hear it. I hate it I’m happy with my age. Yes you’re right about a lot of things But this one kind of doesn’t stick because I don’t wanna believe that it’s over and it’s not

    • @emem2863
      @emem2863 4 місяці тому

      It's never too late to change your life. I think the older you get, it can be harder because you likely have family obligations or debt. It's riskier to make big changes after age 35, but it's probably more rewarding because you know yourself better and are more confident that the change is the right direction. At 23, most people haven't lived long enough to know what themselves or if they need to change direction.

  • @TheBloch007
    @TheBloch007 4 місяці тому +6

    Crazy to hear Tom wants a biological experience while also not wanting to create a biological experience, truly one of the paradoxes of our time

    • @paulogorris18
      @paulogorris18 4 місяці тому +3

      he clearly never suffered from depression before. There is no "I'm not gonna sit in it". There is no negotiation. You just wanna not exist.

    • @realbrownblackhuman1317
      @realbrownblackhuman1317 4 місяці тому

      ​@@paulogorris18

  • @OPatron24
    @OPatron24 4 місяці тому +1

    Tom I love your channel, your constant pushing the envelope and providing value! Thank you!

  • @beatbrainer
    @beatbrainer 4 місяці тому +1

    I am hereby a fan. note: I hope you never feel the dark hell of true depression. I'm driven AF, have been in the tough music biz full time for 24 years, and have faced down all manner of bullshit and life-threatening illness. I'm still here for my family. I'm still 'grinding' daily to make my side hustles my main income. But depression is its own beast. When it sinks its deep fangs into you, the idea of "not sitting in it" sounds awesome, but has a way of losing its power in the muck. I think what you WOULD do differently is to take aggressive and consistent action when the depression lifts enough to allow you to catch your breath; of that, I have no doubt. Much respect, and thanks for showing up for all of us.

  • @dream-ps7nr
    @dream-ps7nr 4 місяці тому +5

    Thank you & Happy New Year ❤

  • @bobm8637
    @bobm8637 4 місяці тому +6

    I love Robert, I own and have read most of his books and through experience, I agree with most of what he has said and has written but there are a few things I do not agree with that are also informed by my experiences. All in all, thanks for this, it was wonderful and full of insights. Thanks.

  • @LennefalkStudios
    @LennefalkStudios 4 місяці тому +2

    Love this uplifting and intellectually stimulation episode, thanks for sharing 😊🔥

  • @GabrielDouglasR
    @GabrielDouglasR 4 місяці тому +1

    "You should be listening to Tom's podcast" - around 6 minutes in. That was a huge endorsement from the legend himself!

  • @mariacruz-cc5jc
    @mariacruz-cc5jc 4 місяці тому +6

    Really enjoyed this podcast I really appreciate that no body was pleasing anybody totally agree with Robert Green
    And Tom picking his brain . I also loved Robert’s profound insight on learning from our own life experiences and mistakes that can make us humble and stronger and understanding at the same time I also understand Tom’s perspective the two of you are very necessary in our society some people would only listen to Tom some others would only listen to Roger.
    Thank you for this interview it was really interesting .

  • @thebook6861
    @thebook6861 4 місяці тому +12

    Be very careful with what you’re saying to any of your listeners that are over 50. Yes, they have responsibilities that are different than in your 20s typically. But absolutely nothing is impossible if you’re willing to put in the work.

    • @PriusTurbo
      @PriusTurbo 4 місяці тому +1

      What's the difference between someone who is 50 and as as fit, healthy and capable as a 30 year old? Limiting yourself based on age is pointless. The warnings of "when you are 32 or 38" need to be clarified. Robert then says he wasn't successful until 39. He is really saying that you don't have time to waste no matter how old you are, not "if you are 40 and you haven't made it yet, you are screwed".

  • @esracaliskan3956
    @esracaliskan3956 4 місяці тому +1

    I am grateful for meeting with Robert Greene books-podcasts all this insights🙏🙏 Thank you for this great podcast💐💐

  • @raymondchatwinfilms7542
    @raymondchatwinfilms7542 3 місяці тому +1

    Today, it's easy to live an easy life. It's hard to live a life of fulfillment. It's like everything is so good that I can't find a worthy cause to focus my attention. I do bodybuilding and that helps, but it still doesn't give fulfillment, it just serves as a distraction. I just want to be important in some way

  • @Dmotivator-yl1bj
    @Dmotivator-yl1bj 4 місяці тому +3

    This is so good i had to watch twice, take notes and leave a comment. Stimulating conversations in an overstimulated society!

  • @SigmaWarrior1978
    @SigmaWarrior1978 4 місяці тому +6

    Very relevant topic. Huge thanks for confronting it.

  • @towandaallen314
    @towandaallen314 4 місяці тому +1

    We love you guys, like it or not, disrespect, unkindness, lack of integrity, lack of self love never worked, doesn't work, this is what people don't understand today, no matter how much they make, they don't have the life experiences and don't respect it. That is where we are going to win, so they best stop being know it all's, humble themselves, respect themselves, life, get with the program, start making a difference, keep it moving and let's go! 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

  • @henrybiemba4301
    @henrybiemba4301 4 місяці тому +1

    This is the best video on this channel. Thank you Bob and Tom. Please do this again.

  • @averageboy5
    @averageboy5 4 місяці тому +3

    I can tell Robert really enjoys being on your show perhaps even more so than yourself! And wow, what a great pair of talented individuals! At end of day the spiel just boils down to an age old adage that my father often used for reminding us, that “where there is a will there is…!”

  • @BellaBev
    @BellaBev 4 місяці тому +3

    I want to meet all these people! Specially you Robert. I am at this point that I love myself deeply that gives me peace and much happiness and now that I felt it! I find him within me! I love my creator more and now I am aiming to know more about my only creator!My God! It makes sense that I am destined to go through everything in life! Life is a test for us to grow up!❤❤❤Amazing! Loving God is just a pleasure! ❤❤❤

  • @AR-ko5pc
    @AR-ko5pc 4 місяці тому +2

    The interview on Huberman runs circles around this one. Robert Greene is absolutely wonderful. Surprised to see him on this podcast.

  • @nicky_rads
    @nicky_rads 4 місяці тому +1

    Excellent episode, Robert has some very good thoughts. Loved his point at the end about a mastery becoming a super power. Keep moving forward !

  • @dariacompati8070
    @dariacompati8070 4 місяці тому +7

    I came here to borrow some of Robert’s wisdom but ended up discovering the immerse beauty of Tom’s personality! Loved his remarks, was amazed by the depth of his questions and a sincere yearning to get the answers! Amazing conversation, thank you both!

  • @rondalucy
    @rondalucy 4 місяці тому +8

    This is by far one of the best episodes I’ve seen. Thank you both for this extremely insightful and inspiring conversation.

  • @astroprimer1988
    @astroprimer1988 4 місяці тому

    Stuff like this really does bring value than when I would just smoke weed, drink , and watch Netflix. Thank you for this channel Tom

  • @zachampson
    @zachampson 4 місяці тому +1

    Absolutely love this, asking great questions which are really needed to be addressed in this current time 😊💪

  • @80amnesia
    @80amnesia 4 місяці тому +6

    Robert Greene: great chap

  • @godfrey.ndlovu
    @godfrey.ndlovu 4 місяці тому +3

    I totally agree with Tom’s perspective at the very end.

  • @thesweetestbittercandy
    @thesweetestbittercandy 3 місяці тому

    Im 25 and still looking for something worth doing. I hope anyone who reads this comment, whatever age you are, where ever you are I hope you find it and I hope you find love and happiness with it

  • @janespitfire9884
    @janespitfire9884 4 місяці тому +2

    Thank you SO much. Great information for living today

  • @AnnaPoli800
    @AnnaPoli800 4 місяці тому +3

    lots of practical advice in this podcast! happy new yer

  • @patriciaoreilly8907
    @patriciaoreilly8907 4 місяці тому +7

    Robert is worth listening too 😊

  • @openeyes-cz
    @openeyes-cz Місяць тому

    You both are brilliant! Thank you for your work and contribution to society.