Melinda Alexander: An Abuse Survivor Let Go of Her “Cool” and Found Freedom
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- Опубліковано 13 жов 2024
- StyleLikeU’s What’s Underneath Interview With Melinda Alexander: An Abuse Survivor Who Let Go of Her "Cool" and Found Freedom.
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“I had to lose myself completely to find myself again”, explains women’s work activist Melinda Alexander, adorned in a floral blazer and a pink chiffon robe, as she bravely details the abusive relationship that catapulted her to become her most full and liberated self.
In her mid-twenties, Melinda met and fell in love with a buzzy rapper, married and had a child with him. The relationship, however, compounded what had began at a young age for Melinda: a fixation on outside validation and fitting in based on her appearance. But Melinda’s ex-husband was also jealous and abusive, telling her what to wear, manipulating her through subtle threats and often getting violent with her.
Always resilient, a terrifying incident turned into an inflection point for Melinda in her life, a moment where she decided she was not going to continue to let others dim her light. She not only had her ex-husband jailed for domestic abuse, but also stopped wearing makeup, shaving her leg hair, and started going to the grocery store with her “saggy” side-boob on proud display, things she’d never would have dreamed of doing her previous, outer-directed incarnation.“You just realize,” Melinda said of her radically altered life approach, “that all rules are bullshit. There are no rules. It’s all your own conversation with yourself and I just needed to really see who I was when I didn’t have someone else there telling me who I was supposed to be.”
"I'm so glad I'm not that person anymore but I feel like I needed to be her to be here now." Perfect.
The way she fights off her tears - head tilted back, the sound makes when she clicks her tongue, like she's gathering her thoughts - struck me immediately as the way strong women, those who fight so hard not to be vulnerable, cry. I have seen one of my best friends, a woman who is also a strong single mother like her, fight tears exactly like this and it really hits home. We all hurt and suffer in this world sometimes. Let's continue to love each other even harder.
This is beautiful. Thank you for sharing and supporting.
Well said ❤!
How come this channel doesn't have million subscribers already?
Kamila Marczuk I always wonder that too
humankind still not going in the right direction...:/
The idea that you can be the healthiest you've ever been while still being the heaviest you've ever been is revolutionary when it shouldn't be. The more people like Melinda share that, the more understood it will hopefully become.
Once again, this project has pulled out such strong emotions. Still my absolute favorite series on UA-cam.
Thank you for this
AGREE!!!!! 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌
" I remeber when i was like 8...i was really into hugging myself because i realized that i was always gonna be with myself". Wow that really made ne feel something, love this.
Really appreciate this series- puts things into perspective and reminds me that everyones gone through something in life but are still powering on.
Thank you so much for your love and support.
We met 4 years ago as two hurt women. We had walls and secrets and FEAR.
Thank You for pushing me through the hard times and reminding me that we must DO THE WORK.
I'm so blessed to "WATCH YOU WIN" and free more of our sisters along the way.
You're a FORCE...I LOVE YOU!
Xoxox
Wanna
I got out of an emotionally abusive relationship a little over a month ago and the way she described her abuser is eerily similar to my ex... really makes me tear up when I think of how my life could've turned out if I'd stayed. I loved this video! What an inspiring, powerful woman xoxo
Stay strong. You are loved.
Aww
'should i not be in ross with cleavage?' so much realness
Her spirit is a fairy warrior 💖🍃🌈✨🎉🌲🌻
This was beautiful ❤️ always loved following Melinda on IG but this just made me love her even more. Honest, raw, and hopeful.
So glad you liked it. We really love Melinda and her presence on Instagram. Thank you for commenting!
MissCharmsie what is her IG account
Mummamansion or mumamansion not sure the spelling rite now
Love people who are just trying to live their best lives. She's everything.❤⭐
"I've come a long way from caring." What a beautiful sentiment. I absolutely love Melinda. She has one of my favorite Instagram accounts ever.
She's amazing and inspires us all the time.
I discovered her on insta a few months ago and have been virtually in love with her ever since. She is a true inspiration but someone I can still relate to.
It is such an honour to see her collaborate with one of my favorite projects yet. This was so rewarding and healing.
Beautiful beyond words!
it takes a lot of strength to admit the truth.
She's stunning while vulnerable and when she's strong. What she said about her stomach really resonated with me. It's a really important Chakra.
I love how each person shares her/his story.
And I don't understand the dislikes on videos like these.
I've followed her on IG for some time now & im glad that she was able to peel back the layers of pain & be as free as she was in this video. I've wondered about her story 😍❤️ loved this!
Leah Robinson check out my channel
Amazing! My story is nothing like hers and exactly like hers. As a mother of a daughter, I thank you for your contribution of a good man. There are a lot of them out there but I'm grateful for one more.
Thank you for supporting.
Melinda, you are beautiful and strong. And I know your son is lucky to have a mother like you!
And she's lucky to have a son like him. The love and respect flows easily both ways.
so powerful! hugging yourself bc your always going to be with yourself, so you better love yourself!!!
She's amazing :)
SO incredible. I am in love with this series. Hearing people's stories is amazing. You never know what's truly going on in people's lives. It's fascinating to uncover and makes us more compassionate after listening, don't you think?
I live for her jewelry. What a beautiful soul.
She truly is a beautiful soul.
Melinda's raw, vulnerable, honest telling of her story is breathtaking and beautiful. Bravo, lady. Captivating. Sending blessings to you and your son. Xo
So strong and so beautiful
she has a very warm laughter. that's how kind people laugh. amazing being.
this gave me chills 😨
So, so brave to discuss this....... Power to her for becoming the fantastic woman she now is.
I didn't know Melinda before. I think she has such charisma, apart from the outside beauty, I love the tone of her voice, her vulnerability showing thru and at the same time seeing her clear strength. There is a light in her face, I just want to keep looking at her.
I love this channel. You have no idea how much you're helping. Those people make me feel like a normal human being. Thank y'all for being so real.
Thank you for supporting this movement and believing in this project.
Ah, what a beautiful woman.
Gosh this is so powerful and fascinating I would give anything to be on this show - I think I need the free therapy!
She's incredible! The world needs more women / humans like her. Thanks you for this.
Thank you for supporting
Omg I love her. What rock have I been under? Thank u for your honesty. Profound
Thank you for supporting Melinda!
you are a true inspiration Melinda! thank you for sharing your story
I love this woman. Such amazing recovery.
beautiful, thank you for your contribution
This made me realise that my mum was in an abusive relationship, not physical, but when she mentioned the broken windows, that's what a lot of stuff was like when I was growing up. A lot of broken things, doors, walls. My dad was very angry back then and still can be but has mental health problems, although that doesn't give anyone an excuse to treat others as lesser than you. My parents are divorced now and a lot happier for that.
The honesty and vulnerability you display on your daily walk is both empowering and inspiring to all that know and love you. Sending all the Libra Love in the univers to you my sisterfriend on this life journey! Incredibly powerful interview ❤♎❤♎
This is such a beautiful video
This was absolutely beautiful and divine and so damn good.
I love this beautiful Lady - Ms.Melinda, thank you
This moved me deeply...thank you so much for sharing Melinda. Truly.
hi
She's bright and honest...her clothes reflect how far she's come 💕
This was so beautiful. Its pretending that we all have perfect lives and have never been hurt and 'don't care' that separates us, its this honesty shown by Melinda and so many other women on social media platforms that brings us closer and reminds us we all have separate journeys and different pains and we can share them and use them for good. we can be the person we wish we had in our most vulnerable and painful experiences for others.
Love
wow. she is so incredible.
Amazing❤️
Melinda, thank you for telling your story so raw and authentically. I felt every word you said. This was my relationship with my adoptive mother all growing up and I'm 25 and breaking those chains.. today was one of those growing days and I'm watching these stylelikeu videos. The world needs brave loving loud women like you. Thank you for your voice and your style and teaching me what's possible. Also, StyleLikeU.. thank you for these videos!
Loved the interview thank you so much Melinda for participating.
This woman was just beyond... I have no resemblance to her life, yet her experiences are now part of mine.
Watching this video is like looking what would've happened to be if I stayed in that relationship I was in when I was 22. It's terrifying and also relieving and I have so much respect for this woman.
Just wanted to say that I think this series is fantastic and it really has helped me take on a new approach on matters which I think I really needed. It's only ever good vibes on this channel :)
Thank you so much
i love you Melinda Alexander. You are so You
You look beautiful.dont ever be ashamed of that beautiful body. Your Soul shines through!!!
This was so beautiful. I wanted to hug her so much when she was tearing up
Thank you so much to bring back this show on UA-cam.
It's so inspiring
She is so beautiful inside and out.
I don’t know who she is but I’m gonna have to find out because she’s so cool! so funny and real! A woman you wish was your friend!
I don't know if you'll see this Melinda but I just wanted to say you gave me hope by making this video. I am in a similar position to you right now. Single mother after coming out of a physically, emotionally and financially abusive relationship. My little baby boy has been the only reason to keep going after the abuse I suffered over the past few years. Whatever it takes, I'll make sure he knows he is loved and that he knows how to love other people and treat them well. I put on quite a bit of weight during pregnancy and after, yet for the first time in my life i feel good in myself. I feel like a strong woman and not a scared little girl anymore. I got myself out of the "relationship", sought help and confided in the people I could trust. I wish you and your son all the best and thank you for making me feel less alone.
Thank you for sharing your story with us Melinda.
I just want to say to you that this channel is helping me a lot, its helping me with my anxiety and my self love issues, i can see my self in these women, in parts of there story’s. Hope you keep doing this for a looooooong time. Lots of love from Dominican Republic 🇩🇴.
Jessica Herrera M , happy to hear that, thank you for being here!
Melinda, you are a very beautiful and strong woman. You should be proud of who you are and how successful you have been in recognizing your strengths. God Bless!
Beautiful❣️ your videos males my heart and soul smile
You are amazing!!! Thank you so much for sharing your story!
I'm over here hugging myself thanks to you Melinda. So inspirational and honest. Thank you for opening up and helping others be comfortable with being themselves.
Thank You for sharing your story, and having the courage to be yourself.
love her feelings how she express, what a beautiful soul...Blessings& 🧡
I adore Melinda and the energy/work/voice she puts out into the world. I appreciate how she shares her vulnerability and the willingness to speak up on spiky, difficult topics like race and feminism really resonates with me. Awesome episode
-Athena x
"I'm so glad I'm not that person anymore, but I feel like I had to be her, so I could be here." 💚
Thank you for this, Melinda Alexander. Your voice is strong and beautiful and hits my ears with exactly what I needed to hear right now. 💕
Beautiful! Really inspiring!
Awww man that was so inspirational! Thank you for sharing this great story on self love. You are BEAUTIFUL!!
Such a beautiful inspiration
Thank you
Thank you--thank you. Yet again, another impactful interview. Melinda was so loud and clear with her messages. Best way to start my day!
Thank you Melinda and Thank you Style Like Us
Melinda you are so beautiful inside and out... thank you for sharing your pain and your joy I love you all the way from New Zealand... oh and back..
Awesome! Keep it up!
thank you
I'm sorry it was hard but glad you have made it thru the other side.
wow,that little baby may have saved her life,when she said "he started choking,because that's my dude",that little baby knew his mum was in danger.
What a beautiful story 💕
beautiful.
She's so amazing!
She really is!
This was wonderful. I can really relate to Melinda, and it's gorgeous that she agrees not to mess with her son's hair :)
Powerful and moving.
Awww...what a beautiful soul!
Wow. So powerful. So beautiful.
Thank you. I love you. I cried.
I love her so much. what an inspiring human. ♡
Amazing guest! Thank you so much for sharing this.
Beautiful.
Thank you
I love your boldness through you growth!!!🧡🧡🧡
Great interview! She is a beautiful light!
Her vulnerability is beautiful
O m g beautiful thank you for sharing it has truly touched me more than you could know. 💜
Still one of my favorite episodes
I adore her
I always like the video before watching because I know it's going to inspire me in some way..thank you! :')
I LOVE THIS CHANNEL AND YOUR BOOK AND EVERYTHING SO MUCH! ROCK ON
Wonderful!