Why Men Are Rejecting Marriage (and It's Getting Worse)

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  • @plasmaarmelund
    @plasmaarmelund Місяць тому +1259

    In marriage, men’s obligations (to provide, support the family financially, etc.) are enforceable by law. Women’s obligations (to be intimate with their husband, take care of the children) are not.

    • @screenplay78de
      @screenplay78de Місяць тому +96

      Yes, it´s a trap for men, it´s a ticking timebomb.

    • @carlosaponte-xy5wb
      @carlosaponte-xy5wb Місяць тому +81

      Damn!……..Got damn! That’s a bomb on marriage dude! 😂

    • @alanbradley9621
      @alanbradley9621 Місяць тому

      ​@@screenplay78deA woman is very much a ticking time bomb. That can blow up in your face for any reason.
      No accountability by women to be reasonable.
      It is essential to bring up the boys in a different way. And that way has not yet been realised, identified or set in motion.

    • @rgw5991
      @rgw5991 Місяць тому +59

      its been that way since before I was born. its got worse but even at my birthtime it was already too bad. men have been choosing to suffer for decades still. sad.

    • @masterblaster1502
      @masterblaster1502 Місяць тому +102

      Not only does the feem ale have zero burden of performance, but she is actively encouraged, incentivized and rewarded for destroying the family/man. Truly an untenable contract.

  • @carlossebastiannecroticgot7232
    @carlossebastiannecroticgot7232 Місяць тому +848

    I rather be single and childless than miserable with a miserable person

    • @christopherrobin361
      @christopherrobin361 Місяць тому +28

      Same here. I thought being single would be a hollow existence. Now, I don't think so. I miss the three letter word (the one with s and ends with x, heh), with the women I've been with. What I don't miss is the grief, the entitlement, the psychological fighting "just to do it" quite a few women would do, the masking of their selfish motives, and as you stated, the misery. And nearly almost ALL of them were not good with finances, which if I was making a little or much more at job I would generally live on my means---and invest gradually.

    • @Roddy_Zeh
      @Roddy_Zeh Місяць тому +28

      Agreed.
      Been over 2 years since my last relationship.
      I must say, I don't regret staying single.
      10 years or so ago, yeah...I would've felt lonely for being single. But nowadays, I feel glad and happy for it, solitude 100%. 👏🏻🗿

    • @Mr.Ambrose_Dyer_Armitage_Esq.
      @Mr.Ambrose_Dyer_Armitage_Esq. Місяць тому

      No compromise. No negotiation. Family on our terms, surrogacy-supplemented single-fatherhood, or freedom. There's no going back.

    • @vincentbaca790
      @vincentbaca790 Місяць тому +17

      It's a great life....UNMARRIED!!

    • @Mr.Ambrose_Dyer_Armitage_Esq.
      @Mr.Ambrose_Dyer_Armitage_Esq. Місяць тому +26

      Better to die on your feet than live on your knees.

  • @themoonsea9893
    @themoonsea9893 Місяць тому +526

    You sign a contract that you will pay her for leaving you.

    • @tumslucks9781
      @tumslucks9781 Місяць тому

      @@themoonsea9893 👰🏼‍♀️➕📜🟰🧛🏼‍♀️

    • @MediaHappeningNow
      @MediaHappeningNow Місяць тому +18

      Yes 👍 Precisely

    • @nobuddy2012
      @nobuddy2012 Місяць тому +22

      Much like Charlie Sheen said. "You don't pay a prostitute for sex. You pay them to leave".

    • @RealSerie26
      @RealSerie26 Місяць тому +11

      That is 💯 correct. You enter into a contract where the other party has an incentive to break it as soon as they sign it.

    • @tonieplacide-oy4xx
      @tonieplacide-oy4xx Місяць тому

      Yes we paid them for sex and also to leave ​@@nobuddy2012

  • @KJ-pu8dw
    @KJ-pu8dw Місяць тому +463

    Never marry.
    Rent

    • @pondeify
      @pondeify Місяць тому +44

      seen too many of my friends lives destroyed by marriage, put me off for life.

    • @involuntarilychad4048
      @involuntarilychad4048 Місяць тому +23

      No prostitution. No exchange of money for box. True life is experienced in serving God and his creation.

    • @pondeify
      @pondeify Місяць тому +45

      @@involuntarilychad4048 yeah this whole god thing is how they get guys to waste their whole lives. rent - it's much better.

    • @involuntarilychad4048
      @involuntarilychad4048 Місяць тому

      @@pondeify The God thing is your best bet to regulate the sexual urge that keeps men thinking about women in the first place. If you're renting you're still an addict.

    • @andre1987eph
      @andre1987eph Місяць тому +2

      Sample

  • @jyeeeee
    @jyeeeee Місяць тому +459

    The data is in. Men generally are happier, healthier, fitter, and wealthier unmarried.

    • @j.davila4523
      @j.davila4523 Місяць тому +12

      Source?

    • @lorrilewis2178
      @lorrilewis2178 Місяць тому

      The data shows that marriage generally is better for men than women. There are a bazillion women's channels rejecting marriage.

    • @ChadVanKlompenburg
      @ChadVanKlompenburg Місяць тому +60

      ​​@@VoxWodlerThat's weird, marriage is when my sex life ended. Ending marriage is when it began again..

    • @GreenTeaViewer
      @GreenTeaViewer Місяць тому +13

      ​@@VoxWodler being single was the gateway for me ;-)

    • @victorparker308
      @victorparker308 Місяць тому +16

      ​@@VoxWodlerSince modern feminism marriage is the gateway to much less or NO. sex. Don't do it guys.

  • @JediDarkForce
    @JediDarkForce Місяць тому +502

    I won't get married because I can't afford to get divorced

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  Місяць тому +38

      Very true you’re a smart man

    • @j.davila4523
      @j.davila4523 Місяць тому +13

      Bingo, the same reason for me lol

    • @vincentbaca790
      @vincentbaca790 Місяць тому +27

      I won't get divorced because I'll never.get married! Hahahhahaha!

    • @penguinvic9892
      @penguinvic9892 Місяць тому +27

      @@vincentbaca790You are so mean 😢 depriving a woman of a divorce … truly heartless … 😭

    • @kaleeysmith8801
      @kaleeysmith8801 Місяць тому +21

      i stopped 15yrs ago, i travel overseas to get laid and vacation to mexico, cuba, nicaragua, colombia, HOT women, nice coral reef, beach and sun, every 3 months i go there and enjoy life.

  • @DanielBergerHewitt
    @DanielBergerHewitt Місяць тому +718

    Praise God!

    • @Mrhdigital3791
      @Mrhdigital3791 Місяць тому +23

      Absolute fact, anyway you slice it.

    • @thecaptain4420
      @thecaptain4420 Місяць тому +3

      @@DanielBergerHewitt 💯

    • @ajstockt4832
      @ajstockt4832 Місяць тому +4

      I don't know. There's a lot to be said about an experience good or bad as opposed to a whole lot of nothing. Wouldn't be the first time I've overpaid for a lemon.

    • @daves2520
      @daves2520 Місяць тому +15

      Lately the juice has gotten bitter.

    • @MetalOverlord01
      @MetalOverlord01 Місяць тому +12

      There’s not even juice to squeeze

  • @map3384
    @map3384 Місяць тому +433

    Imagine getting married and providing all these resources only to find out your wife cheated and your kids might not be yours. Feminism tells women to cheat. That it’s her body and she’s not a slave to her husband for sex. In divorce court she’s rewarded for her cheating and breaking her vows. Why would any man enter into such a relationship? It’s insane.

    • @jkmarshall3553
      @jkmarshall3553 Місяць тому +42

      Worst business contract ever!

    • @chilpeeps
      @chilpeeps Місяць тому

      Because so many men are s!mps

    • @rengurenge
      @rengurenge Місяць тому

      Feminism doesn't tell women anything, it gives more choices than only one which some random male wants to force upon women. As for cheating there was study done analyzing DNA and proving historically only 40% of males reproduced (>80% women) which means most raised milkman's children or consequences of nobles having first night rights with every woman who get married or woman having secret bf because nobody loves and stays loyal if they are forced into marriage. Meanwhile men cheated so much there was never time in history when worlds oldest profession would sit without job. Ironically despite males today crying about big bad feminism the paternity rates are much better because women are not forced to breed with garbage someone else chose for her.

    • @Psyfi85
      @Psyfi85 Місяць тому +25

      @@map3384 even with a prenup in place it’s precarious.

    • @bigglyguy8429
      @bigglyguy8429 Місяць тому +20

      @@VoxWodler Does not matter. If you were married when she gave birth then you are legally responsible for the kid, regardless of paternity

  • @DUNEATV
    @DUNEATV Місяць тому +220

    Young men! DO NOT GET MARRIED!!! Take it from this 50 yr old man…

    • @richrivers1232
      @richrivers1232 Місяць тому +25

      Second and third that from a 47 year old who was wiped out by divorce! Stay single and gaurd your lives young fellas! Learn from our mistakes!

    • @DUNEATV
      @DUNEATV Місяць тому

      @@richrivers1232 🙏 my brother

    • @jamesmiller4184
      @jamesmiller4184 Місяць тому

      I'll second that from a 79 year old fellow who discovered long ago what "polymorphous-sexual" is, what it's for and, how to USE IT to great and varietous advantage.
      All about this, the younger generations of males have learned MUCH.
      I'm not sure HOW or IF femaliens are ever to get back into our good graces.
      Writing's on the wall here.

    • @IvanDalmatinac
      @IvanDalmatinac Місяць тому +10

      57 never even had a girlfriend

    • @Gumpmachine1
      @Gumpmachine1 Місяць тому +11

      I’m very lucky I got a loyal woman married 17 years.
      But knowing what I know now I would of never taken the risk, fortunately my ignorance worked in my favour but it could of easily backfired

  • @simon8864
    @simon8864 Місяць тому +248

    My neighbour is a single unmarried man without kids.
    He has 2x sports cars and 2x motorbikes.
    His house looks fantastic, and he's always chatty and cheerful
    👍

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  Місяць тому +38

      Happiness is being single

    • @bryanblanks1714
      @bryanblanks1714 Місяць тому +24

      Chatty AND Cheerful! Wow! No women mucking it up!

    • @fantasia55
      @fantasia55 Місяць тому

      @simon8864 tragic for society, though, since his place will be taken by illegal aliens

    • @JeremySayers38
      @JeremySayers38 Місяць тому +7

      @simon8864 While I know marriage is a complete scam but no children is not life. Having a bunch of toys are great but you need children. But in no way do I support marriage.

    • @simon8864
      @simon8864 Місяць тому +9

      @@JeremySayers38 yeah, I agree. I have a daughter that I love very much. And although her mum is difficult (and frustrating) to live with, I work hard to keep us together primarily for my daughters benefit.

  • @DrBilly90210
    @DrBilly90210 Місяць тому +199

    High risk, low reward.

  • @TestOverload
    @TestOverload Місяць тому +204

    Picture this: you are always right, never wrong.. every day, with every decision you make... that's life as a single man.
    And when you are not, you take accountability for your actions, because we are men.

    • @johnnyjohnn281
      @johnnyjohnn281 Місяць тому +16

      Been married. Was ALWAYS wrong then.
      Now divorced. Sometimes right/sometimes wrong, but usually learn from my mistakes. ✊

    • @heartlessangel1460
      @heartlessangel1460 Місяць тому +5

      @@TestOverload This is the way.

    • @johnmccracken3473
      @johnmccracken3473 День тому

      @@johnnyjohnn281 Did you ever learn to load the dishwasher correctly?

    • @johnnyjohnn281
      @johnnyjohnn281 День тому

      @@johnmccracken3473 Nah. One of the many things I didn’t do properly. Oh well. Learnt a lot during the years after divorce. Now I do things my way and have nobody policing and criticising. My dishwasher now = my hands. 🙂🧐💪🏻✊🏻

  • @JamesHawkeYouTube
    @JamesHawkeYouTube Місяць тому +529

    Feminism killed society brother.

  • @HoboToto
    @HoboToto Місяць тому +132

    Mandatory paternity testing at birth. No man should escape his responsibility and no man should be able to accept responsibility for a kid that isn't his.

    • @workingshlub8861
      @workingshlub8861 Місяць тому +18

      no man should be forced to support anothers mans seed..

    • @bigglyguy8429
      @bigglyguy8429 Місяць тому +6

      Just be aware if you're married you're still legally liable for the kid, even if you prove it's not yours. That's part of the marriage contract.

    • @HoboToto
      @HoboToto Місяць тому +13

      @@bigglyguy8429 Sounds like a scam to me.

    • @bigglyguy8429
      @bigglyguy8429 Місяць тому +2

      @@HoboToto It does, doesn't it?

    • @bs8350
      @bs8350 Місяць тому +3

      It isn't mandatory because women obviously lobbied against it for clearly evil reasons.

  • @fudogwhisperer3590
    @fudogwhisperer3590 Місяць тому +379

    Hoeflation is real.

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  Місяць тому +16

      funny!

    • @bryanbobadilla-b1s
      @bryanbobadilla-b1s Місяць тому +11

      @@fudogwhisperer3590 hyperhoeflation 2025

    • @ajstockt4832
      @ajstockt4832 Місяць тому +17

      I've had a mother, two sisters, cousins and a host of exes. All I can say is my grandmother loved me and my son loves me.

  • @jonmueller2117
    @jonmueller2117 Місяць тому +415

    Women grow old.
    Men grow up.

    • @alanbradley9621
      @alanbradley9621 Місяць тому

      @@jonmueller2117 Menopause Menopause = male death wish. pre Menopause= woman's suicide wish.
      Either we work and support each other or we do not.

    • @chriscoughlin9289
      @chriscoughlin9289 Місяць тому +3

      @jonmueller2117
      LOL -
      You’ve never spent a single fecking day of your life on a construction site, have you?

    • @bryanblanks1714
      @bryanblanks1714 Місяць тому +3

      I heard someone laughing! Uh oh it was me!!!! Ha! Ha! Ha!

    • @delilah1479
      @delilah1479 Місяць тому

      The older I get the more I realize the uselessness of men. They don't grow up, they grow fat, sloppy and I've found they are more stupid about their finances because they didn't plan well for their retirement. It is nice that with my independence and smarts, I can step on these guys like the cockroaches they are. Yes, well, I am older, but I keep myself in terrific shape, wear stylish clothes and wear the right makeup and make good decisions about the way I live. So, guys watch out for the gold diggers and their intentions, they want someone to pay their expenses and help pay for their adult children's expenses too.

    • @sntmdsa3628
      @sntmdsa3628 Місяць тому +7

      Not everyone grows up. No shortage of teenage adults in the workplace.

  • @Educatedlame
    @Educatedlame Місяць тому +261

    I'm done
    Rather be single
    Sober and sane
    I'm 45
    No kids No debt
    Even lost 40 lbs
    I've has girlfriends
    Got tired of.em spending my.money up

    • @histreasure3189
      @histreasure3189 Місяць тому +2

    • @mikedee8876
      @mikedee8876 Місяць тому +22

      76, single and alone 45yrs..no kids, no debt....maybe not sane, but happily at peace....I have learned to repel most women by looking poor. Shabby house, old car, simple-well worn dress.....simple pleasures.....works like a charm

    • @histreasure3189
      @histreasure3189 Місяць тому

      @@mikedee8876 😄@ "learnt to repel most women by looking poor"

    • @alanbradley9621
      @alanbradley9621 Місяць тому +3

      @@mikedee8876 Fact is a relationship will very soon spend the lot. You will be left bereft and wonder why you could ever have been that stupid. Stay safe. Best Regards Better out than in.

    • @Onetakelifestyle3323
      @Onetakelifestyle3323 Місяць тому +4

      @@Educatedlame single life is honestly better. Modern women are absolutely useless to say the least. Life is so much better off single and alone. I have twins 👯‍♀️ boys 🧒 that are my only priority in life

  • @davidpitchford6510
    @davidpitchford6510 Місяць тому +143

    Gents please stay out of the divorcentration camps.

    • @andre1987eph
      @andre1987eph Місяць тому +7

      I can't fathom how men willing walk in to that these days.

    • @davidpitchford6510
      @davidpitchford6510 Місяць тому

      @@andre1987eph Your Divorce Decree: "Arbeit Macht Frei"

    • @parrotshootist3004
      @parrotshootist3004 Місяць тому +6

      ​@@andre1987ephignorance and 'madness' called love.

    • @Anotherguy1st
      @Anotherguy1st Місяць тому +4

      ​@@parrotshootist3004 Truly this, we want to believe in the fairy tales so much we delude ourselves into believing the lies.
      Part of it isn't just on us though, as humans we are social creatures, we are supposed to be around other people but everything has changed.

    • @Scottie-x3o
      @Scottie-x3o Місяць тому +6

      This right here. "Divorcentration camps." Soo true. I fear divorce enough to stay unmarried to avoid the risk of having to experience the consequences of divorce. By staying unmarried, I'll never have to experience living a quiet life of desperation day by day, to avoid entering the divorcentration camps! This right here is soo real.

  • @xfiles4792
    @xfiles4792 Місяць тому +52

    I am a single man at peace. Why would I invite accusations, judgements, meltdowns, entitlement, nagging, manipulation, silent treatment, ultimatums, humiliation, guilt trips, mistreatment by the courts, and risk losing half my stuff if it doesn't work out?

    • @ajstockt4832
      @ajstockt4832 Місяць тому

      Ours is not to kick up our heels, sip on cognac and watch the sun rise and fall all the days of our lives. Then declare we led happy lives. We are here to make a difference.

    • @Delibng
      @Delibng 17 днів тому +1

      The problem is that we cannot trust each other anymore

  • @xfiles4792
    @xfiles4792 Місяць тому +92

    If you touch a hot stove and get burned you learn not to do that again. Marriage is like that.

    • @fredflinstone6601
      @fredflinstone6601 Місяць тому

      Not true. Maybe after 2 or 3 times

    • @xfiles4792
      @xfiles4792 Місяць тому

      @@fredflinstone6601Only for slow learners.

    • @ajstockt4832
      @ajstockt4832 Місяць тому

      But you guys are not talking about touching a hot stove. You want to throw it out entirely.

    • @macmcleod1188
      @macmcleod1188 Місяць тому +2

      And if you see your friend touch a hot stove and it melts his hand off, you're going to be damn careful around stoves.

    • @ajstockt4832
      @ajstockt4832 Місяць тому +1

      @@macmcleod1188 Careful is one thing. Resorting to campfires is another.

  • @mcgravy60
    @mcgravy60 Місяць тому +163

    "There's a sucker born every minute", P.T. Barnum.

    • @elultimo102
      @elultimo102 Місяць тому +1

      I believe Barnum claimed that he never actually said it. (Like Queen Victoria never said: "We are not amused").

    • @jrnumex9286
      @jrnumex9286 Місяць тому

      a preacher at the podium said it

    • @michael-ph3jn
      @michael-ph3jn Місяць тому +4

      now its every second.

    • @tomkelsey3512
      @tomkelsey3512 Місяць тому +2

      These days, it's every 15 seconds !

    • @ajstockt4832
      @ajstockt4832 Місяць тому

      One sucker born to a minute means that 59 non suckers per minute are also born. Therefore mathematics dictates that suckers make up 2 percent of the population. Don't be so pessimistic. Besides, P.T.Barnum was not a man I'd like to emulate.

  • @andre1987eph
    @andre1987eph Місяць тому +160

    You're describing the phenomenon known as *HOEFLATION* (and currently *Hyperhoeflation* )

    • @lakeland01
      @lakeland01 Місяць тому +10

      @@andre1987eph hyperhoeflation 😂

    • @ajstockt4832
      @ajstockt4832 21 день тому

      Though your comment is high on slogan, it is low on intelligence.

  • @GhostRider-870
    @GhostRider-870 Місяць тому +65

    If it flies, f*cks, or floats...rent NEVER buy.

    • @mgithui
      @mgithui Місяць тому

      @@GhostRider-870 coach gang 😎

  • @singhgotnochill..805
    @singhgotnochill..805 Місяць тому +89

    Marriage new name is business and it's the worst deal for businessmen !

    • @alanbradley9621
      @alanbradley9621 Місяць тому +3

      @@singhgotnochill..805 We understand the mantra now. Men are in love....Women are in Business. And they are good at it.

    • @truthtelleranon
      @truthtelleranon Місяць тому

      @@alanbradley9621Coach Greg Adams coined that phrase. Killer live streams and content. It’s true. They have *always* been in business. It’s their nature. You know how I know? Little girls exhibit this behavior naturally without conditioning.

  • @RubenWalsh-iv5ik
    @RubenWalsh-iv5ik Місяць тому +26

    I had what called psychosomatic pancreatitis for years during my marriage. After my separation I COMPLETELY HEALED. Let that sink in.

  • @RollingThunder808
    @RollingThunder808 Місяць тому +117

    Men have rejected marriage but more importantly many of their parents also feel the same way.

  • @fredflinstime6676
    @fredflinstime6676 Місяць тому +10

    “..the moment you say ‘I do’ everything you have just lost half its value”. Wow that’s a powerful sentence.

  • @johnprim
    @johnprim Місяць тому +139

    Marriage only works for the three percent of people who married their high school sweetheart. They exist, but it's a rare breed

    • @Noisycowonline
      @Noisycowonline Місяць тому +27

      Even then it is overrated.

    • @Sin_Alder
      @Sin_Alder Місяць тому +24

      Even many "highschool sweetheart" situations don't pan out, often because of women that cheat.

    • @Erick-di9gm
      @Erick-di9gm Місяць тому +7

      It's only luck that it lasts, that's all!

    • @PastraniO1ER
      @PastraniO1ER Місяць тому +8

      3% seems kinda high, it's more like 1%

    • @johnprim
      @johnprim Місяць тому +1

      @@PastraniO1ER I think you are right

  • @mikecolorado6073
    @mikecolorado6073 Місяць тому +15

    Got engaged to a girl, she dried up on the spot and turned into a bridezilla. I cancelled the wedding. Best thing I ever did

  • @oldfriend327
    @oldfriend327 Місяць тому +42

    I just turned 50 a little over a week ago. No kids and never married. If someone would have told me when I was in my 20's and through my late 30's that by the time I hit 50 years of age, I would be looking at everything involved with "romance" as a SEVERE quality-of-life affecting issue and must be avoided, I would not have believed them. There is so much wrong. My heart goes out to the younger guys who are hell bent to "be the man."

    • @IvanDalmatinac
      @IvanDalmatinac Місяць тому +7

      Yep, amazing when we reflect on our younger lives how much time and money would've been saved if we didn't chase women. I played around somewhat but never married, never had a girlfriend, no kids and 57 I thank God everyday for blessing me with not being cool enough.

  • @billydee8444
    @billydee8444 Місяць тому +45

    I'm one of those Sucker's, I was Born in 1960, i Will never Get Married Again,She took my 3 kids,She took my Money, She Took My Benefits,She Gets 17% of My Retirement, She Has My House,So What Did I Get from her,Child Support,Maintenance,My Name On The Deed of The House, To Throw away All my Hopes and Dreams and Get Nothing in Return,The Game is Over,........jus sayin.........

    • @ThandikhayaGodongwana
      @ThandikhayaGodongwana Місяць тому +8

      It's really hard to believe a human being can do this, I'm not getting married. I'm sorry you going through this Sir

    • @estebancorral5151
      @estebancorral5151 8 днів тому

      @@billydee8444 you were not duped. You are an F* up. You just did not want to leave Mr. Wiggley behind a shut zipper. It was very predictable what would happen when you let Mr. Wiggley come out and play. Now you have an ex-wife and a child that have certain views about you. That progeny of yours is not ok. Do not get a dog and do not booze up!!!

  • @georgesontag2192
    @georgesontag2192 Місяць тому +156

    Most married men have the same story. The sex ended two years after our marriage but he is stuck with all her bills. He becomes homeless if he leaves. Million of men in this situation today.

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  Місяць тому +23

      I wish this information had been available when I was young!

    • @djaeger-k5m
      @djaeger-k5m Місяць тому

      There are ways to protect yourself (not always absolute)… I recommend every man to sit down and come up with ideas to do so if he actually wants to marry (wouldn’t recommend legal marriage myself ever)

    • @JohnGrigg-gz9gm
      @JohnGrigg-gz9gm Місяць тому

      @@djaeger-k5m Do like I did... Live in the Philippines! But there are dangers here, too, though the risks are much less...

    • @sven471111
      @sven471111 Місяць тому +1

      @JohnGrigg-gz9gm
      It's the same, just it's cheaper and maybe you won't lose all when you hide your money.

    • @kylaarmstrong-benjamin8066
      @kylaarmstrong-benjamin8066 Місяць тому +2

      Don't get married to have sex.
      just pay a professional and save yourself the trouble!

  • @IvanDalmatinac
    @IvanDalmatinac Місяць тому +34

    I've known dudes going through divorce and they end up losing most of their entire asset base after they've had to pay legal fees etc and they didn't even have kids with the woman. You'd have to be absolute nuts to take that risk.

  • @MediaHappeningNow
    @MediaHappeningNow Місяць тому +10

    "The intimacy went away... But the contract was still in place" .. righteous words right there brother

    • @ajstockt4832
      @ajstockt4832 21 день тому

      The intimacy went away because men and women regard intimacy differently.

  • @peterantonsen3539
    @peterantonsen3539 Місяць тому +62

    My advise to american men,, young or older. Never get married. Have girlfriends and keep yuor money that u worked hard for👍👍

    • @CNCGuy
      @CNCGuy Місяць тому +6

      cant even risk that bro. STDs are rampant.

    • @ajstockt4832
      @ajstockt4832 Місяць тому

      This is ridiculous. Girlfriend = Woman. Woman = children. Children = money.

    • @b-41subject57
      @b-41subject57 Місяць тому

      ​@@CNCGuyyeah I caught one in a foreign country

  • @MrBBaron
    @MrBBaron Місяць тому +53

    There should be a law that requires first-time marriage intent young men to have a min of 3 hrs,or whatever, course on the legal implications of marriage and what can happen during a divorce.
    Us old boomers did not have the internet and youtube videos to educate the men as to the serious ramifications of marriage.

    • @jfnuyen
      @jfnuyen Місяць тому +4

      I did not get divorced, but my wife passed away years ago. However, marriage is not something to enter into lightly as the responsibilities and challenges are far greater than one would imagine. Yes, one should take a marriage course like what is required to get that first drivers license at the least.

    • @erdelegy
      @erdelegy Місяць тому

      yes, and an age limit, say 21 or 25 when the brain is fully-formed!

    • @ajstockt4832
      @ajstockt4832 21 день тому +1

      I've worked around refineries or in an office where I designed refineries my entire career. Everyone that enters the facility must endure hours upon hours of safety training to the point of being certified. And yet that did not prevent many of my colleagues from being blown to pieces. Everything in life is a gamble.

  • @aaroncostello8812
    @aaroncostello8812 Місяць тому +57

    Never sign a contract that rewards the other party for breaking it.

    • @CarlMartin-hw3ev
      @CarlMartin-hw3ev Місяць тому +1

      WOW, WOW, WOW, COULDN'T HAVE BEEN BETTER SAID.

  • @RS-ms1bz
    @RS-ms1bz Місяць тому +106

    Everything you've said is true, but ask any man who has been divorced and they will tell you that marriage is a death trap. Even not being married but living with a woman for a period of time is a huge eye opener. It's not worth giving up your freedom and peace to just have a live in girlfriend. They aren't worth what they bring to a relationship, which is only going to drain you, your time, energy, and most of all, your peace. Date them...fine, but never again will I live with one.

    • @Anotherguy1st
      @Anotherguy1st Місяць тому +5

      Yeah I agree. Honestly they never live up to the expectation anyway. I can have more sex now than when I had a wife! Ain't that something!

    • @MediaHappeningNow
      @MediaHappeningNow Місяць тому +7

      100% truth right there brother ☝️

    • @vincentbaca790
      @vincentbaca790 Місяць тому +8

      I did the same....deep down all women want marriage...it's worse than a cult!

    • @penguinvic9892
      @penguinvic9892 Місяць тому +1

      I was once accused by the social welfare office of being married to more than one woman … I wrote back to them and “H*ll, no ! One is more than enough.”

    • @jamesmiller4184
      @jamesmiller4184 Місяць тому +2

      "Polymorphous-sexual" -- a clinical term used by psychologists and psychiatrists for what is built-in to ALL human males by Mother Nature.
      Learn what it is and, how to use it wisely. (We are NOT "monomorphic.")

  • @Newtonwilson-yw4kg
    @Newtonwilson-yw4kg Місяць тому +795

    Facing challenges in relationships is part of the journey, but there’s always a way forward. My marriage encountered significant issues, but with the right help, my wife and I managed to overcome them and strengthen our relationship. Solutions are attainable if you’re willing to put in the work and collaborate. Keep your hope-solutions are out there.

    • @oglaskubuot
      @oglaskubuot Місяць тому +4

      I’m facing major problems in my relationship and can't imagine losing her. I love and miss her greatly and am prepared to do whatever is necessary to have her return. I’d be deeply grateful for any advice or guidance you can offer.

    • @Newtonwilson-yw4kg
      @Newtonwilson-yw4kg Місяць тому +2

      Moving away from someone you hold close is invariably tough, but in my particular situation, I was supported by a spiritual counselor who prevented the unraveling of my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.

    • @oglaskubuot
      @oglaskubuot Місяць тому +3

      I appreciate this guidance. I'll quickly search for her online. Thank you. I'm optimistic that this approach will also bring me the results I desire; I miss her dearly

    • @Newtonwilson-yw4kg
      @Newtonwilson-yw4kg Місяць тому

      I promise you will not regret it

    • @moreme40
      @moreme40 Місяць тому +11

      If marriage is so wonderful and natural, why would you need help overcoming issues ?

  • @ttocselbag5054
    @ttocselbag5054 Місяць тому +29

    Feels to me that a little bit of “cold hearted bastard” is the required armor men must wear when dealing with modern relationship dynamics Brother John!

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  Місяць тому +2

      Just a bit 😀

    • @andre1987eph
      @andre1987eph Місяць тому +1

      No, one needs The Full Armour of God (Ephesians 6:12). It's spiritual at this point.

    • @ttocselbag5054
      @ttocselbag5054 Місяць тому

      @@andre1987eph - has nothing to do with gods of any sort.

  • @feralandroid
    @feralandroid Місяць тому +90

    With all the info on the net right now, I don’t understand why young men continue to get married. Do they think they’ll be the lucky one? Only 10% of marriages are actually happy marriages. So you have a 90% chance of being in a miserable marriage or losing your assets and kids.
    Don’t young men understand those odds?

    • @malcolmhayward4431
      @malcolmhayward4431 Місяць тому +25

      No unfortunately they don’t

    • @subliminallyinc
      @subliminallyinc Місяць тому +16

      and of those 10% its only a matter of time until it falls apart!

    • @dw4956
      @dw4956 Місяць тому +6

      Marriages plummited below 1 per 1000. I think we can celebrate.

    • @Arasaka
      @Arasaka Місяць тому +8

      Blinded by the pooosaaay

    • @Rey-Nolds
      @Rey-Nolds Місяць тому +9

      @@feralandroid That's what he is doing and many others in the UA-cam space, deprogramming the centuries old training.

  • @jamesopiela
    @jamesopiela Місяць тому +21

    What the Groom says the day of the marriage: "I Do". What the husband says five years after the marriage: "I Shouldn't have"

    • @vincentbaca790
      @vincentbaca790 Місяць тому +5

      What the groom should have said..."I do......NOT!"

    • @jfnuyen
      @jfnuyen Місяць тому +1

      @@vincentbaca790 😂

    • @princenwankwo9457
      @princenwankwo9457 Місяць тому

      @@vincentbaca790 this cracked me up I can't lie

  • @nunuvyurbiz123
    @nunuvyurbiz123 Місяць тому +97

    14:15 "The road to hell is paved with good intentions."

    • @JayTide
      @JayTide Місяць тому +3

      I disagree with him on this, there were no good intentions involved with any of this.

    • @penguinvic9892
      @penguinvic9892 Місяць тому

      The road to wed is lined with locks … 🔒

    • @ajstockt4832
      @ajstockt4832 Місяць тому

      This may be a popular phrase. But that doesn't make it accurate. If this phrase held even a spec of truth, then bad intentions would be a direct ticket to Heaven. Instead, I think that good intentions are ALL that matters. Cast your net into the water. God delights when we give up control.

    • @truthtelleranon
      @truthtelleranon Місяць тому

      @@ajstockt4832Bro no, this is how you end up a Liberal. Just because good intentions often end in failure don’t mean bad intentions necessarily end in success. Poor logic
      Edit bc Yt deleted my reply to your cute reply: Let me break this down for you: You claimed that if the phrase the road to hell was paved with good intentions" "held a... spec[spl of truth, then bad intentions would be a direct ticket to Heaven". This is shoddy logic and totally false. I addressed why in my initial response.
      You then claim that "good intentions are all that matters".
      '. This is patently and self-
      evidently false to anyone with 90 days of life experience. Intent does not matter when the outcome is destructive (which happens very often). If you need guidance, look up Thomas Sowell's commentary on results versus intention. Every single point, 100% wrong. Enjoy your Saturday

    • @ajstockt4832
      @ajstockt4832 Місяць тому

      @@truthtelleranonPoor understanding on your part because my very point is that neither are true. Try again.

  • @robertanna9964
    @robertanna9964 Місяць тому +25

    Consider not just the withdrawal of intimacy-
    But it's reallocation to another man during the marriage.
    The no fault scenario not only negates any penalty but incentivizes.
    Now consider a man reallocating financial resources to another female during the marriage.
    Family Court would (and has) literally put the man in jail

    • @masterblaster1502
      @masterblaster1502 Місяць тому

      Truly an untenable gyn0centric scam contract for men.

  • @recabitejehonadab2654
    @recabitejehonadab2654 Місяць тому +28

    Yup women don’t put out but divorce men and score men’s assets in divorce court. Through no fault divorce. Stay single guys.

  • @WisdomAdvice.80
    @WisdomAdvice.80 Місяць тому +4

    As an 80-year-old man who lived through very different times, I can definitely relate to the changes you’re talking about. Back in the day, marriage had a clear set of expectations; now, it seems so much more complicated and risky for men. I have friends who faced harsh consequences in divorces, and it makes younger men hesitate. Really makes me think about how different the world has become.

  • @terrylocke1808
    @terrylocke1808 26 днів тому +8

    I was married for 14 years, two children, home, savings, we both made the same salary. In short, financially I was destroyed. Before my credit score was in the mid 800’s. I lost my home and was ordered to give a huge chunk of my 401k to her. I had to literally start from scratch while paying a lawyer and having zero cash saved. Yeah, she emptied the joint account of thousands of dollars. I had nothing literally living paycheck to paycheck. Living on the couches of family and friends until I got a place. I spent the first 5 months sleeping on the floor in a borrowed sleeping bag. It took 15 years to rebuild from nothing. Who could blame guys if they don’t want that to happen to them.

    • @bigalex7393
      @bigalex7393 17 днів тому

      Glad that you made it in 1 piece, man!

    • @estebancorral5151
      @estebancorral5151 8 днів тому

      Alcoholics, have often told me this same story. I have been a round the block more than once. Is there something else to this story?

  • @gordonbecker5055
    @gordonbecker5055 Місяць тому +8

    My 88 year old dad used to say:
    “There’s no fool like an old fool”.
    😮

    • @ajstockt4832
      @ajstockt4832 Місяць тому

      Well that's not very original. Besides you don't live to be 88 without having been taken advantage of at least once in life.

  • @sverre371
    @sverre371 Місяць тому +60

    The law needs to change there. Here in Norway, the assets you had before marriage are yours; she can't take them, so if she comes with nothing, she is leaving with nothing. If she has kids, they might be with the father, and she has to pay child support. That's automatic but limited to 25% of her income in total. This goes both ways, of course.

    • @workingshlub8861
      @workingshlub8861 Місяць тому

      never happen here in the states.....woman have to much influence and politicians are scared to get them mad...

    • @truthtelleranon
      @truthtelleranon Місяць тому +4

      still not fair. during the marriage the man does the majority of the work. she shouldn’t be entitled to the fruits of your labor. most of what women do can be cheaply outsourced

    • @sverre371
      @sverre371 Місяць тому

      @@truthtelleranon Women work as much as men in most sectors, including at home.

    • @truthtelleranon
      @truthtelleranon Місяць тому +5

      @@sverre371 Men are responsible for her protection, emotional state, and feelings. Doesn’t work the other way around. The responsibilities are not commensurate. I am intimately familiar (literally) with the women of Norway, they are no different or better than here. The burden of responsibility always lies on the man, otherwise women do not associate with men. Briffault’s law. No relationship is 100% equal ever. If you are a married man, you shoulder the majority of the burden. Hence my comment. It’s still unfair and unequal.

    • @sverre371
      @sverre371 Місяць тому

      @@truthtelleranon My point is that they can not take what you already had before marriage; after, it's 50/50, protection from what? Her emotional state or feelings are her problem. I am Norwegian and have had a few, never lost a penny on their tantrums.

  • @leviathon2
    @leviathon2 Місяць тому +38

    Ever since I was a teenager I thought legally shackling oneself to another person based on transitory emotions unbelievably unwise, demented even. The though of marriage makes me feel ill and I've never done it nor ever will.
    Now, in my fifties, my friends all want to know what my secret was.

    • @masterblaster1502
      @masterblaster1502 Місяць тому +6

      Common sense and looking at reality was the secret. Hard for your average NPC zombie today.

    • @jongolsteyn9680
      @jongolsteyn9680 Місяць тому +5

      I feel the same way. I am 64 and never married. The risks seem way too high for me to ever consider it. I am so glad that I didn't cave.

    • @parrotshootist3004
      @parrotshootist3004 Місяць тому

      Sentience, less restrained by education.

    • @timothyhayes2935
      @timothyhayes2935 Місяць тому

      Transitory emotions,well done!

    • @workingshlub8861
      @workingshlub8861 Місяць тому

      im with you......the idea of marriage is ridiculous when it comes to the legal definition and consequences.....humans are not naturally monogamous...society needed a way to build and its a good idea in theory just not realistic.

  • @daleparkes1570
    @daleparkes1570 Місяць тому +4

    I'm 62 years old, single and virgin and I am content in that state. Looks like that has spared me a lot of grief.

    • @estebancorral5151
      @estebancorral5151 8 днів тому

      Of course, like my ex-neighbor who went to bail his son out of jail at 1:30am. The other three boys had parents to not even bother. The next night two them were raped.

  • @RichardMorse-h6r
    @RichardMorse-h6r Місяць тому +40

    The marriage license is a contract with the county/State. For the contract to be binding, all parties must provide equal consideration. I have never seen a woman or the county/State provide equal consideration. Also, the county clerk withheld a lot of information about the contract. This makes the contract null and void. Rescind your signature, have it notarized, and send it to the county clerk’s office.

    • @dw4956
      @dw4956 Місяць тому +5

      Yep. People unfortubately dont know the difference between lawful and legal.

    • @macmcleod1188
      @macmcleod1188 Місяць тому

      I'm sorry but that's wishful thinking along the lines of sovereign citizens.
      You're going to need a lawyer. It's going to cost you between 1,000 and 5,000.
      And if you have kids, it's going to ruin your family holidays for the next 20 years after the divorce.

  • @EllyzGoodwill
    @EllyzGoodwill Місяць тому +139

    Facing difficulties in relationships is normal, but there’s always a path to resolution. My marriage went through tough times, but with the right assistance, my wife and I resolved our issues and enhanced our connection. Solutions exist if you’re willing to work together and persevere. Don’t lose faith-answers are possible.....!

    • @GodfreyKelz
      @GodfreyKelz Місяць тому

      I’m encountering serious challenges in my relationship and can’t bear the thought of losing her. My love for her is immense, and I miss her deeply. I’m willing to do anything to win her back. I would be extremely grateful for any advice or support you can provide

    • @EllyzGoodwill
      @EllyzGoodwill Місяць тому

      Moving on from someone you hold dear is invariably challenging, but in my experience, I was guided by a spiritual counselor who prevented the breakdown of my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.

    • @GodfreyKelz
      @GodfreyKelz Місяць тому

      Thank you for this advice. I'll promptly start searching for her online. I appreciate it. I'm optimistic that pursuing this approach will also lead to favorable outcomes for me; her absence weighs heavily on me.

    • @EllyzGoodwill
      @EllyzGoodwill Місяць тому

      Yes. Pls do.

    • @RobertSellers-v9x
      @RobertSellers-v9x 13 днів тому

      You guys should listen to yourselves, I can’t believe you’re in this deep of damage mode. You’re really that badly hung up on a woman? She apparently doesn’t give a $hit about you, why are you chasing her? Never chase a woman. Look all women are basically the same, they either have a moral compass or they don’t and if she’s treating you badly then she doesn’t deserve you and for Christ sake’s don’t you dare be the guy who’s damaged by her, it’s what she wants. She wants you to feel the same suffering that she feels. Women are weird like that. “If she ain’t happy ain’t nobody happy.” Right? Guess what, none of them are happy. A woman wants what she can’t have and if you’re chasing her it causes her to lose respect for you. Nothing would piss her off more and make her wish she had been better to you than to see you with your $hit together. Ignore her, date lots of women but nothing serious, play the field and kick them to the curb if they get sideways with you and guess what they will. Look, if a guy has game and takes good care of himself, has a nice place, he’s jacked and fit, nice car or whatever but he’s got his act together. He will eventually date and bed the non-biological daughters of his former girlfriends. It’s true because I’ve done it. Women grow old. Men grow up. Women age like stale bread, men age like fine wine. Younger women are totally into older guys. If she’s not the next one is. How many women in this world? 4.5 billion and you’re hung up on one? Come on brother, let her go and FK the $hit out of all her girlfriends and never speak to that bitch ever again. I’ll tell you a secret that’ll help you understand women. A woman is genetically engineered to store the DNA of her lovers. That’s right, every lover she has ever had has his DNA permanently stored inside her. University of Seattle Washington if you want to look it up. Women are literally a walking spermbank and women are walking around with a hundred other men in them that you can’t see. Her body count could even be into the hundreds. Do you really want that controlling your life? That woman with hundreds of men inside her? Making you a miserable human being just because she can. There are alpha males. Beta males. Gamma males and sigmas. Be a sigma. Be mysterious and reserved. The strong silent type and she literally can’t handle it. But I look at women for what they are and potentially have the attributes I’m looking for but it’s better to not let them into my life. They have so much power over men but it’s changing and changing fast and it’s time guys stopped trying to please women because that’s never going to happen. A woman is never content but men are

  • @We-Do-NOT-Consent-303
    @We-Do-NOT-Consent-303 Місяць тому +38

    When she wants something from you just tell her you have a headache😅😅😅

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  Місяць тому +6

      I like the way you think!

    • @jabba0975
      @jabba0975 Місяць тому

      👍👍👍👍👍👍👍

  • @jk6854
    @jk6854 Місяць тому +6

    Women change drastically as the age , usually not for the better

  • @droidgunner3840
    @droidgunner3840 Місяць тому +64

    I shall see some of my friends on Facebook making a mistake they got that goofy grin and they're with their girl and they're like hey we just got to engaged it's always that goofy grin

    • @skelatonman
      @skelatonman Місяць тому +2

      That Sphinx-like smile

    • @WildB06
      @WildB06 Місяць тому +20

      My awakened buddy and I share and discuss these pictures privately between us and cringe when we come across one... that goofy grin of the man who has loaded himself into the cannon and doesn't even realise.

    • @dy4710
      @dy4710 Місяць тому +1

      @@WildB06💥

    • @histreasure3189
      @histreasure3189 Місяць тому +1

      @@dy4710 😂

    • @masterblaster1502
      @masterblaster1502 Місяць тому +1

      Beta males submitting and being knee-takers. Comical to watch because they are beyond help or reason.

  • @longstroker68
    @longstroker68 Місяць тому +117

    Men need to stop obsessing about sex, this is just a small part of life & so overrated in my opinion. Concentrate on yourself guys.

    • @LesterBurnham1978
      @LesterBurnham1978 Місяць тому +19

      So true. Once you realise that you can enjoy it but don't really need it, the world around you becomes far more peaceful & productive.

    • @masterblaster1502
      @masterblaster1502 Місяць тому

      No seggs is had in marriage.

    • @earthwormjim3269
      @earthwormjim3269 Місяць тому

      Men are only obsessed with sex when they can't get any of it.

    • @matchhunter7012
      @matchhunter7012 Місяць тому +8

      When needed hire!!

    • @hyronharrison8127
      @hyronharrison8127 Місяць тому +5

      Ironically if simps and chads did this, wed all be okay...

  • @stevenwistort9903
    @stevenwistort9903 Місяць тому +28

    I see a married women in the gym daily with her husband. She must be in her early 50s but she seems so miserable and cold. Yesterday I said how you doing, as a friendly gesture. She looked at me and looked locked up without even saying a word. I wonder what's going on with her. Her husband seems uptight. I hate seeing people look like this, it doesn't make for a good atmosphere.

    • @maximumpotential3796
      @maximumpotential3796 Місяць тому +6

      Married women in public offices are the most depressing people I have ever met in my entire life. So many times I have argued with them simply because of their smug attitude.

    • @ajstockt4832
      @ajstockt4832 Місяць тому

      Don't presume that they hated each other. Maybe they regretted saying no to an entitled child. Maybe one of them made an investment mistake in which they both fell victim. Marriage does not mean utopia nor hell.

  • @1Skeptik1
    @1Skeptik1 Місяць тому +25

    Demographics? I'm 73, and at my age, single women far outnumber single men (perhaps 8 to 1). Women date, marry, and divorce for resources, it is all business. I learned an expensive lesson at the settlement table in mid-life and it took about a decade to recover. I quickly share my insight with my grandsons and caution my granddaughters about the feminism my generation spawned. The smart ones heed my advice and prosper. Me? I remarried 27 years ago and replaced it all several times over. We are better off than 95% of our peers and my wife delights in the country club life I provide. There is great satisfaction in massive success and Karma deals with my EX. I chuckle.

    • @aim-for-greatn3z947
      @aim-for-greatn3z947 Місяць тому +6

      That's the key...
      You ARE successful... 90% of men won't experience this unfortunately

    • @andre1987eph
      @andre1987eph Місяць тому +5

      Absolutely NO reason ANY man should be checking for a 73 year old lady. 😅

    • @ndhtyu
      @ndhtyu Місяць тому

      @@andre1987eph agreed, once past 45, forget it, (post-)menopause removes the last vestiges of the hormones making women have the jitters for the opposite sex! Why bother with what mother Nature is trowing on the trashheap?

  • @arcadeages3917
    @arcadeages3917 Місяць тому +11

    The reason the man is on the hook for alimony is so that the state does not have to pay her. Someone’s gotta pay, and the state would rather it be the guy than them.

    • @arcadeages3917
      @arcadeages3917 Місяць тому +1

      the purse is mightier than the penis

  • @WinstonBartholomewIII
    @WinstonBartholomewIII 12 днів тому +6

    Got married 15 years ago and it drives her crazy I still keep my house in my parent's name. I'm the one who paid it off and has paid all the bills over the years. Nobody will take my house.

    • @estebancorral5151
      @estebancorral5151 8 днів тому

      You are not thinking straight. Any property acquired using money within your marriage is half hers. You not transferring title to your name puts you at risk for a real estate fraud which is exploding. someone should just stamp “Loser,” on your forehead.

    • @WinstonBartholomewIII
      @WinstonBartholomewIII 8 днів тому

      @estebancorral5151 seems my comment struck a nerve. Getting emotional and name-calling is probably why your husband left you. Real estate fraud happens no matter whose name is on the title.

  • @nunuvyurbiz123
    @nunuvyurbiz123 Місяць тому +45

    You mentioned Thailand and the Philippines, and other such places, but they have division of assets too. (It's annulment, not divorce, in the Philippines but it's the same result.) The Philippines also has common law marriage. There is no escape once you get government involved. Smart men don't marry (Bone Tomahawk). It really sucks, though - I wanted kids, white picket fence, etc.

    • @redemissarium
      @redemissarium Місяць тому +1

      did annulment also involve man losing half and pay all child sport and alimony or no?

    • @nunuvyurbiz123
      @nunuvyurbiz123 Місяць тому +4

      @@redemissarium Yes, some mix of that. That's my point.

    • @redemissarium
      @redemissarium Місяць тому

      @@nunuvyurbiz123 so whats the difference other than term? 😲

    • @nunuvyurbiz123
      @nunuvyurbiz123 Місяць тому +6

      @@redemissarium There is no practical difference - that's why I said "it's the same result." If I had not pointed out that the Philippines has annulment, not divorce, someone would have called me out on that, this being the internet and all. Are you trying to understand, or are you trying to make a point?

    • @Sabadiver
      @Sabadiver Місяць тому

      @@nunuvyurbiz123 'white picket fence' - did you really want that or is it more the idea of that. Be careful what you wish for.

  • @Candlelight787
    @Candlelight787 Місяць тому +5

    The phrase that a sucker is born every day is true today as well...

  • @jaimemonte6298
    @jaimemonte6298 Місяць тому +2

    I'm single with no kids and never been married.I use to think I was doing something wrong, but now that I've listen to your wisdom, I actually feel smart and fortunate 😂

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  Місяць тому

      It is likely that you are very fortunate.

  • @royschmidt8526
    @royschmidt8526 19 днів тому +4

    My "feminist" girlfriend and later wife who I met in the 70s always paid her half of expenses from the start. She helped me remodel homes and later build our own house. We both were college educated and always had jobs in the IT industry that paid similar amounts. Sex for us normally happened on a daily basis. We both come from farm families with parents that were married over 50 years. We are now near our 50th year together. We both feel sad for the young people growing up today because of the impact of the internet and social media on the mindset of society. We feel it has amplified the differences between men and women to the detriment of both. The old constructs of religion and law no longer seem to meet the demands of modern life. The old family structure has fallen. It is a good question, what replaces it? Like the old knight said in the movie Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade we must "choose wisely".

  • @wisl8122
    @wisl8122 Місяць тому +25

    As a man in 2024 , you get sexual access, sexual exclusivity and children from women without being married. Why do we still need to get married??

    • @dw4956
      @dw4956 Місяць тому +6

      In such a setting you'll still be legally married. Even cohabitation for five years or more will get you into trouble if she wants to.

    • @wisl8122
      @wisl8122 Місяць тому

      @@dw4956 in the US , only a few states practice common-law marriages. Just look it up and enjoy dating.

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  Місяць тому +3

      Those are excellent points

    • @ajstockt4832
      @ajstockt4832 Місяць тому +1

      So is this all about a marriage license or women's behavior. Because when things sour, you and your children are left unhappy all the same.

    • @markrcca5329
      @markrcca5329 28 днів тому +1

      If you're living together with a woman and raising children together with her, you're essentially married.

  • @philaman1972
    @philaman1972 Місяць тому +9

    More and more men are beginning to understand that marriage is not compulsory. The ability to live life on *your* terms is a powerful thing. This coupled with the fact that women wantonly break marriages (70% of divorces are initiated by women) because they are "not happy" has given rise to men telling themselves "this is not in my best interest" and walk away. In layman's terms, it's just not worth it and sadly every single day, countless men get their butts handed to them when their wives tell them "I want a divorce". Remember, you cannot lose if you do not participate in this game --- and that's what it is. 52 male, never married and no kids.

  • @stevekostakis2983
    @stevekostakis2983 Місяць тому +8

    John…very good topic. I also thought of this concept being the contract..where there is a standard timeframe, say 20 years…then a new renewal term is set, say for a further option of 2-5 years. At that point again it is renewed or terminated. Like a commercial lease…after all, are we not just leasing these women anyway?

    • @rengurenge
      @rengurenge Місяць тому

      Marriage is contract, divorce is termination of marriage contract and not divorcing is keeping marriage contract active. Why tf anybody needs to "renew" it after every few months as you suggest it? Sounds like scam business to fill the pockets of some and waste other peoples time just because some men are cowards who can't do anything in their life without someone else making them to do it. If you want to divorce, Steve, just do it! You don't need to be coward who "forgets" to renew marriage to get out of marriage you hate so much although I think you are not even married. Without children there is not much reason for women to marry men or even live with men but if there is children involved they need stronger family than something what could be forgotten to be renewed or not done because financial reasons at the moment or forbidden by big brother because you don't have up to date booster.

  • @skelatonman
    @skelatonman Місяць тому +50

    It has and always will be a BUM DEAL

    • @masterblaster1502
      @masterblaster1502 Місяць тому

      It was ok before no-fault/no-reason incentivized divorce grape became the law. Now? Only for delusional knee-takers.

    • @penguinvic9892
      @penguinvic9892 Місяць тому

      Well, at least once some men had a certain social status being married … once (as in the past) … today? 🥺😳🙄

  • @MD-xb1qw
    @MD-xb1qw Місяць тому +22

    Men, never sign a contract with the state.

  • @vtc8570
    @vtc8570 Місяць тому +9

    Never enter into a contract that rewards the other party for beeaking it.

    • @dodge1515
      @dodge1515 Місяць тому

      @@vtc8570 Yeah, it's a fucking no brainer...

  • @libo6368
    @libo6368 Місяць тому +45

    Men are realizing there a misalignement with the traditional romance...hyundais with csdillac prices

    • @nunuvyurbiz123
      @nunuvyurbiz123 Місяць тому +10

      Rental Hyundais, used and abused, dented, scratched, battered, now back on the lot after years of rentals and tons of miles demanding full retail price.

    • @malcolmhayward4431
      @malcolmhayward4431 Місяць тому +2

      Amen

    • @kimlambert4394
      @kimlambert4394 Місяць тому +2

      Come on, I don’t think a lot of guys married caddys, more like Chevys and Ford pintos!

    • @SchrödingersMath
      @SchrödingersMath Місяць тому +2

      ​@@kimlambert4394maybe an AMC pacer....like in Wayne s World....

    • @mikaelw.nielsen9902
      @mikaelw.nielsen9902 Місяць тому

      So very true ! 😀

  • @CruickedReality
    @CruickedReality Місяць тому +5

    100% FACTS! I have been "married" for 21 years and filed for divorce 11 years ago after sleeping on the couch for 5 years. I am still not divorced and live in another state. It is a long story. It never ends....do not do it!!

    • @Gavi-144
      @Gavi-144 Місяць тому

      I hope things get better for you bro

  • @MrDodavis61
    @MrDodavis61 День тому

    Every young or single man needs to see this. Thanks so much for posting!!!

  • @hhkk6155
    @hhkk6155 Місяць тому +4

    Too many guys were denied of basic thing ( snuggles) in marriage - that got to stop 🛑

  • @danmslacker6782
    @danmslacker6782 Місяць тому +139

    Recipe for happiness:
    No Wife, No Kids, No Pets, No Debts,

    • @marianitozz1
      @marianitozz1 Місяць тому +34

      Why not pets? they love you uncoditionally what s wrong with that?

    • @LarryWilliamsArtist
      @LarryWilliamsArtist Місяць тому +29

      @@marianitozz1 They're awesome, but they still limit your freedom, cost you a ton of money over the long run (especially as they get older) and you will spend years looking after the bathroom habits of another living being.
      Love my doggy, she's almost 15 now-I will be crushed when she passes, but I wouldn't do it again; at least not at this age.

    • @freeagent8225
      @freeagent8225 Місяць тому +14

      I like having a pet, a cat gives great joy to me.😅

    • @vincentharris7909
      @vincentharris7909 Місяць тому +10

      @@danmslacker6782 love my dogs. Get home from work and they wags their tails.

    • @earthwormjim3269
      @earthwormjim3269 Місяць тому +2

      @@LarryWilliamsArtist That depends on the type of pet. There are some pets that cost next to nothing in maintenance costs.

  • @JP-pl9mv
    @JP-pl9mv Місяць тому +57

    My dad said that marriage is compromise and sacrifice, Who wants that chit ? And the same old gal night after night ? I laugh at my married buddies and tell them, you look defeated, I tried to tell you, but you didn’t listen…

    • @masterblaster1502
      @masterblaster1502 Місяць тому

      Freedom isn't for everyone. Low-vibrational norm1e plantation males can't fathom it.

    • @vincentbaca790
      @vincentbaca790 Місяць тому +12

      Agree...just go to any mall and see how miserable the men are with their women....both on their phones....

    • @maxhouse1125
      @maxhouse1125 Місяць тому +4

      @@vincentbaca790 The guy at the mall knows that the piece of leather in his pocket is going to get more wrinkled.

    • @patrickmelling8404
      @patrickmelling8404 Місяць тому +1

      Didn't you ever want children though? They are the great gift that, with good nurturing, will keep on giving.

    • @dukewilliam3660
      @dukewilliam3660 Місяць тому +3

      @@JP-pl9mv it’s true but 🤣 funny. I laugh when hear them say “marriage is hard work “ . I’m thinking why would I take on more hard work. It’s hard enough just being alive.

  • @Justfor2day10
    @Justfor2day10 Місяць тому +11

    Anybody thinking about getting married, don’t do it! That’s all I’ve got to say.

    • @ajstockt4832
      @ajstockt4832 Місяць тому

      Yeah. Just do her. Make babies that don't live with you. Watch her march a brigade of other men before them. And trust that they will love them like you do. That'll work.

    • @Justfor2day10
      @Justfor2day10 Місяць тому

      @@ajstockt4832 Nope no babies! This world is too fckd up to bring ids into it

    • @ajstockt4832
      @ajstockt4832 21 день тому

      Yes. Fools rush in where angels dare to tread. And yet the angels applaud us.

  • @johnprim
    @johnprim Місяць тому +17

    The divorce rate is 65 percent now, if you include all the LGBT marriages and second marriage. Every older male friend I ever had warned me not to get married. Glad I never did

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  Місяць тому +8

      What’s really telling is that lesbians seem to have the highest divorce rate! That’s what happens when you get two women in one relationship. Everything goes to hell fast.

    • @johnprim
      @johnprim Місяць тому

      @@john-griffin when you're right, you're right. It's time for LGBT to stop hogging up so much air time in the media. With an 80 percent lesbian divorce rate, they may want to consider stepping out of the lime light

    • @johnprim
      @johnprim Місяць тому

      @@john-griffin agreed. Yet the media caters to them

    • @JohnGrigg-gz9gm
      @JohnGrigg-gz9gm Місяць тому +1

      @@john-griffin And on the other hand, gay men have the best stats for long-lasting marriages! Men not dealing with women... Lol 🤣

  • @youareIndenial981
    @youareIndenial981 Місяць тому +3

    55 never married. Never regretted it. Never will.

  • @crappyfellow
    @crappyfellow Місяць тому +23

    Until someone stops the free reign of Family Court, good men will avoid marriage and women in general. Nowadays, only 6.5 men in a thousand get married. When he does get married, the following scenario plays out: (1) man gets married, (2) wife refuses to have sex, (3) wife racks up huge credit card debt, (4) wife stops contributing financially, (5) wife stops cooking & cleaning, (6) wife cheats on husband, (7) wife files for divorce and takes the house, cars, savings, and kids, (8) wife falsely accuses husband of abuse and he no longer can see his kids, (9) wife poisons kids against the father. What man in his right mind will sign up for this?

    • @JohnGrigg-gz9gm
      @JohnGrigg-gz9gm Місяць тому +4

      You left out the part where the man lives in his car because his wife gets both alimony and child support.

    • @vahjayjayaddict
      @vahjayjayaddict Місяць тому +1

      @@crappyfellow I hit every number except number 3. To get a new husband, an aging hot dog hall needs to play Damsel in Distress. "So what's your distress damsel? I might play along if it gets me laid."
      "It's my evil ex. He does horrible things like open a savings account for my child, travel 3,000 miles for a visitation, & plan for my child's future. I am going to have the State utterly destroy him & has professional reputation. You could help me out of this nightmare."
      And so your child firmly believes you are a demon.

  • @pascalcooper4518
    @pascalcooper4518 Місяць тому +6

    I was never with a woman who made me feel like she would stand by my side and have my back if all the shit went wrong. Or even just not to her liking. I've always had that sense that they would turn if things don't go their way.

    • @JohnGrigg-gz9gm
      @JohnGrigg-gz9gm Місяць тому

      At best, only 1 in 4 women stand by their man in hard times.

  • @appendix-q6k
    @appendix-q6k Місяць тому +6

    A legal contract where the government controls your love affair is just absurd to me. The fact that somebody can leave and take at least half of your stuff because they aren’t happy is insane. A heavy price to pay to get involved in a legal marriage to only be at the mercy of one persons feelings that’s just nuts.

  • @Noisycowonline
    @Noisycowonline Місяць тому +2

    Any man who marries in today's social and legal climate deserves and earned the steamroller. All the information is right out there. No pity going forward.

  • @joaquinmurrieta2406
    @joaquinmurrieta2406 Місяць тому +13

    Gentleman, you can be happy, wealthy, and in peace, or get married.

    • @ajstockt4832
      @ajstockt4832 21 день тому

      I'd rather return to my maker with stories to tell.

    • @joaquinmurrieta2406
      @joaquinmurrieta2406 10 днів тому

      ​@@ajstockt4832 Chances are you will wish you were with your maker afterwards.

    • @ajstockt4832
      @ajstockt4832 4 дні тому

      @@joaquinmurrieta2406 I've wished that often once confronted with adversity. But that doesn't negate the fact that I have a task to complete and so do you. We were not sent here to be happy, wealthy or at peace. If those things occur, they are only incidental. Our task here is to experience life. To what end, I do not know. How the threads are interwoven to make a loving tapestry, I can not even imagine. But I do know that this mission doesn't come with guarantees. Angels, yes. Bodyguards. No.

    • @joaquinmurrieta2406
      @joaquinmurrieta2406 4 дні тому

      My advice is to you is follow the course of wisdom. The Book of Proverbs warns men to "avoid certain types of women" the book also reminds men "better to be alone then with a contentious woman" this wisdom is provided so a man can be happy wealthy and in peace.

  • @DHcycling
    @DHcycling Місяць тому +10

    you pretty much said it all. thanks

  • @newparadigm907
    @newparadigm907 Місяць тому +3

    Using cars as analogies to describe modern women, dating and marriage is very useful and relevant

  • @thomaslecour2462
    @thomaslecour2462 Місяць тому +3

    Disappointing but true, my mom and dad married for 69 years faithfully. I was married just under 10 years and raised my 2 daughters as a single father at ages 3 and 4, I’m very discouraged but loving my life being single

    • @toplespecah666
      @toplespecah666 18 днів тому

      @thomaslecour2462 heyy, u still lucky u staying with ur child, that's more than anything, god bless you

  • @NobbyClark-g3y
    @NobbyClark-g3y Місяць тому +6

    I got married at 20(1980), divorced in 2000 after 20 years, 2nd relationship was much better, lasted 20 years again, but never married. That made separation much easier, no legal costs, more amicable. Men! Don't get married, they'll change and they'll want to change you, usually into something they don't like or respect. What you both found endearing and cute initially, will become annoying and grate on your nerves after several years.

  • @Bubbagump871
    @Bubbagump871 Місяць тому +4

    Entering a contract with a party who is rewarded for breaking it is stupid and foolish.

  • @andrews68
    @andrews68 Місяць тому +10

    Hardcore feminists oppose marriage from the women’s perspective … we can all agree on something 😂. Seriously though fellas never EVER get married … zero reasons for big govt to be involved. Some men think wife can be hedge against life’s risks until they realize a wife IS the biggest risk.

  • @MrBBaron
    @MrBBaron Місяць тому +4

    With all the available online material on marriage and laws ,no man today should get married. If he still does, then he deserves all the consequences that a divorce will bring him.
    Stay single. Stay free, young men.

  • @wallacegarrett3537
    @wallacegarrett3537 Місяць тому +22

    Was married 3x times. Three (3x's) wives cheated on me, two got pregnant by their lovers, and had their babies. The third one aborted our child and said to me, "we don't need a child now. We are both young and in college, and we can have children later." She met an older, well established man with money and left me for him. She divorced me, married him, dropped out of college, and became a housewife with five of his babies. The other two wives had their babies by their lovers, and the guys never married them. I am 78 yrs old, single with no children. Retired with a Pension and SSI. Life is good. Women sure know to hurt a man. I am much more at peace and contented. I am an introvert and enjoy being alone. I'm very happy keeping myself company. Me, myself, and I; we're a great team. 😊

    • @pete546
      @pete546 23 дні тому +1

      sad story....

    • @ThangLe-hl7xj
      @ThangLe-hl7xj 22 дні тому

      Không ai tắm hai lần trên một dòng sông. Vậy mà bạn đã rớt xuống sông tận 3 lần🧐

    • @TungB
      @TungB 16 днів тому

      @@pete546 sad, but in control. At least he's not a beta....

  • @zeethree7395
    @zeethree7395 Місяць тому +2

    You bring up some very good points. I'm happy 67 year old with a happy relationship with my woman but we haven't been together long, it's a relationship that provides companionship.we get along because we don't have grudges against each other.

  • @sw6118
    @sw6118 27 днів тому +1

    I love that marriage is a contract perspective. It’s really important to understand that it IS a contract.

  • @timbateman4680
    @timbateman4680 Місяць тому +8

    I think female fidelity should be fundemental to a marriage. Paternity tests should be compulsory and the marriage annulled if the husband turns out not to be the father. Otherwise men are taking a huge risk of devoting their lives to bring up another man's child, something that women need not fear.

  • @bradgraystock5966
    @bradgraystock5966 Місяць тому +13

    That a government can negate legal contracts such as a prenuptual agreement will make all marriage agreements a thing of the past imo. In Canada if a couple cohabitates for 2 years they automatically become commonlaw which equates to marriage in every way regardless of them not having a marriage contract. A couple can enter into a legal cohabitation agreement to avoid the commonlaw marriage laws but judges can and have negated these agreements as well. The consequence of this government interference is that men (and women too) are either avoiding cohabitating altogether or when they do they are sure to break the living arrangement before the 2 years is up. So I think a new marriage contract such as is suggested in this video is a fantastic idea, but if a judge can't be trusted to uphold them then what good are they?

    • @masterblaster1502
      @masterblaster1502 Місяць тому +1

      Gyn0centric law = maximum redistribution of the man's assets to the feem ale. Oh, she left a toothbrush at your house? Pay her. Untenable contracts for men.

    • @jkmarshall3553
      @jkmarshall3553 Місяць тому +1

      First off, never get married and you'll never have to worry about all this BS. If you have to for some demented reason, look into trusts to save/protect your assets. Prenups are like swiss cheese.

  • @Lady-Fairfax33
    @Lady-Fairfax33 Місяць тому +4

    Thanks for giving a man's perspective. I just divorced after 23 years. I will stay single. I stayed home with the kids and homeschooled for 13 years. No retirement money was set aside for me. What I got in property settlement isn't enough to retire on, but at least I can start over. I understand your perspective and would definitely have preferred to stay married but I just couldn't see getting old with him. I even went back to work and started my own business to continue homeschooling our child with autism. He really doesn't like me. I hope you understand. I think prenups are a good thing. I wish people would consider compatibility in sex drive and also everyone needs to understand how pregnancy changes a woman physiologically and psychologically as well.

    • @Lady-Fairfax33
      @Lady-Fairfax33 Місяць тому +2

      I do have a question. Does intimacy only happen in the sex act? Women can't really turn it on and off like a light switch. We can do our "duty," but wouldn't you prefer we want it too. A mutually fulfilling experience is preferable to me anyway. My experience is having the non sexual intimacy and affection withdrawn and still be expected to put out. Not really that fun. People shouldn't get married if they aren't honestly concerned about each other's emotional wellbeing. Women aren't that complicated. Some flowers just because and telling us we are beautiful pretty regularly and date nights will get you a consistently enthusiastic sex partners. Just saying, but that's just me.

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  Місяць тому

      The most important sex organ is the brain. We live life from the inside out. We can make choices about our own happiness and how we choose to perceive our partners.

    • @andre1987eph
      @andre1987eph Місяць тому

      So you quit your marriage (because you weren't happy), and you got the house? 😅

  • @jabba0975
    @jabba0975 Місяць тому +4

    It's not 'getting worse'. Men not getting married = getting better.

  • @DanielBergerHewitt
    @DanielBergerHewitt Місяць тому +9

    What do you use for those panning/moving shots? Is it a drone, because I don’t see you use a remote?

    • @nunuvyurbiz123
      @nunuvyurbiz123 Місяць тому +6

      A follow me drone, one probably with ActiveTrack (subject recognition) and obstacle avoidance.

    • @danmslacker6782
      @danmslacker6782 Місяць тому +2

      They have hands free remotes that drones can be pre-programmed to track

    • @DankDaddyz
      @DankDaddyz Місяць тому +2

      DJI Osmo Pocket 3

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  Місяць тому +3

      I am using a drone called the Hover X1. And like the other comment or said it does use facial recognition, and it does have preset patterns. I can actually fly it by moving my body on one side of the trail or the other, and the drone will follow me. it’s extremely cool