In marriage, men’s obligations (to provide, support the family financially, etc.) are enforceable by law. Women’s obligations (to be intimate with their husband, take care of the children) are not.
@@screenplay78deA woman is very much a ticking time bomb. That can blow up in your face for any reason. No accountability by women to be reasonable. It is essential to bring up the boys in a different way. And that way has not yet been realised, identified or set in motion.
its been that way since before I was born. its got worse but even at my birthtime it was already too bad. men have been choosing to suffer for decades still. sad.
Not only does the feem ale have zero burden of performance, but she is actively encouraged, incentivized and rewarded for destroying the family/man. Truly an untenable contract.
Same here. I thought being single would be a hollow existence. Now, I don't think so. I miss the three letter word (the one with s and ends with x, heh), with the women I've been with. What I don't miss is the grief, the entitlement, the psychological fighting "just to do it" quite a few women would do, the masking of their selfish motives, and as you stated, the misery. And nearly almost ALL of them were not good with finances, which if I was making a little or much more at job I would generally live on my means---and invest gradually.
Agreed. Been over 2 years since my last relationship. I must say, I don't regret staying single. 10 years or so ago, yeah...I would've felt lonely for being single. But nowadays, I feel glad and happy for it, solitude 100%. 👏🏻🗿
Imagine getting married and providing all these resources only to find out your wife cheated and your kids might not be yours. Feminism tells women to cheat. That it’s her body and she’s not a slave to her husband for sex. In divorce court she’s rewarded for her cheating and breaking her vows. Why would any man enter into such a relationship? It’s insane.
Feminism doesn't tell women anything, it gives more choices than only one which some random male wants to force upon women. As for cheating there was study done analyzing DNA and proving historically only 40% of males reproduced (>80% women) which means most raised milkman's children or consequences of nobles having first night rights with every woman who get married or woman having secret bf because nobody loves and stays loyal if they are forced into marriage. Meanwhile men cheated so much there was never time in history when worlds oldest profession would sit without job. Ironically despite males today crying about big bad feminism the paternity rates are much better because women are not forced to breed with garbage someone else chose for her.
I'll second that from a 79 year old fellow who discovered long ago what "polymorphous-sexual" is, what it's for and, how to USE IT to great and varietous advantage. All about this, the younger generations of males have learned MUCH. I'm not sure HOW or IF femaliens are ever to get back into our good graces. Writing's on the wall here.
I’m very lucky I got a loyal woman married 17 years. But knowing what I know now I would of never taken the risk, fortunately my ignorance worked in my favour but it could of easily backfired
i stopped 15yrs ago, i travel overseas to get laid and vacation to mexico, cuba, nicaragua, colombia, HOT women, nice coral reef, beach and sun, every 3 months i go there and enjoy life.
My neighbour is a single unmarried man without kids. He has 2x sports cars and 2x motorbikes. His house looks fantastic, and he's always chatty and cheerful 👍
@simon8864 While I know marriage is a complete scam but no children is not life. Having a bunch of toys are great but you need children. But in no way do I support marriage.
@@JeremySayers38 yeah, I agree. I have a daughter that I love very much. And although her mum is difficult (and frustrating) to live with, I work hard to keep us together primarily for my daughters benefit.
Mandatory paternity testing at birth. No man should escape his responsibility and no man should be able to accept responsibility for a kid that isn't his.
I am a single man at peace. Why would I invite accusations, judgements, meltdowns, entitlement, nagging, manipulation, silent treatment, ultimatums, humiliation, guilt trips, mistreatment by the courts, and risk losing half my stuff if it doesn't work out?
Ours is not to kick up our heels, sip on cognac and watch the sun rise and fall all the days of our lives. Then declare we led happy lives. We are here to make a difference.
I don't know. There's a lot to be said about an experience good or bad as opposed to a whole lot of nothing. Wouldn't be the first time I've overpaid for a lemon.
@@pondeify The God thing is your best bet to regulate the sexual urge that keeps men thinking about women in the first place. If you're renting you're still an addict.
A diamond is valuable only because of its rarity. When you find a female who has not thrown out the baby with the bathwater (otherwise known as her dignity), then the reward overshadows the gamble. This is my belief. Not my experience. My experience (only because I am 1 among 7 billion humans) is that most women have not only thrown out the baby and bathwater. They've thrown out the soap, the towels and everything else that is wondrous about womankind. But it is merely a knee-jerk reaction. At the core of their collective behavior is the belief that their very femininity endangers them in a man's violent world. The way society functions nowadays, how can we be surprised that it is only getting worse?
The older I get the more I realize the uselessness of men. They don't grow up, they grow fat, sloppy and I've found they are more stupid about their finances because they didn't plan well for their retirement. It is nice that with my independence and smarts, I can step on these guys like the cockroaches they are. Yes, well, I am older, but I keep myself in terrific shape, wear stylish clothes and wear the right makeup and make good decisions about the way I live. So, guys watch out for the gold diggers and their intentions, they want someone to pay their expenses and help pay for their adult children's expenses too.
Picture this: you are always right, never wrong.. every day, with every decision you make... that's life as a single man. And when you are not, you take accountability for your actions, because we are men.
@@johnmccracken3473 Nah. One of the many things I didn’t do properly. Oh well. Learnt a lot during the years after divorce. Now I do things my way and have nobody policing and criticising. My dishwasher now = my hands. 🙂🧐💪🏻✊🏻
@@parrotshootist3004 Truly this, we want to believe in the fairy tales so much we delude ourselves into believing the lies. Part of it isn't just on us though, as humans we are social creatures, we are supposed to be around other people but everything has changed.
This right here. "Divorcentration camps." Soo true. I fear divorce enough to stay unmarried to avoid the risk of having to experience the consequences of divorce. By staying unmarried, I'll never have to experience living a quiet life of desperation day by day, to avoid entering the divorcentration camps! This right here is soo real.
Most married men have the same story. The sex ended two years after our marriage but he is stuck with all her bills. He becomes homeless if he leaves. Million of men in this situation today.
There are ways to protect yourself (not always absolute)… I recommend every man to sit down and come up with ideas to do so if he actually wants to marry (wouldn’t recommend legal marriage myself ever)
76, single and alone 45yrs..no kids, no debt....maybe not sane, but happily at peace....I have learned to repel most women by looking poor. Shabby house, old car, simple-well worn dress.....simple pleasures.....works like a charm
@@mikedee8876 Fact is a relationship will very soon spend the lot. You will be left bereft and wonder why you could ever have been that stupid. Stay safe. Best Regards Better out than in.
@@Proud5050man single life is honestly better. Modern women are absolutely useless to say the least. Life is so much better off single and alone. I have twins 👯♀️ boys 🧒 that are my only priority in life
A few years ago I heard a lawyer say that it's best to have your assets put in an irrevocable contract trust. Apparently prenups can be broken up in court. Consult your attorney about getting an Irrevocable Contract Trust. 👍🏼
False: Every single asset is up for grabs if kids are born. If the judge can’t transfer ownership they will assign alimony and child support proportional to your wealth…
One sucker born to a minute means that 59 non suckers per minute are also born. Therefore mathematics dictates that suckers make up 2 percent of the population. Don't be so pessimistic. Besides, P.T.Barnum was not a man I'd like to emulate.
@@alanbradley9621Coach Greg Adams coined that phrase. Killer live streams and content. It’s true. They have *always* been in business. It’s their nature. You know how I know? Little girls exhibit this behavior naturally without conditioning.
I just turned 50 a little over a week ago. No kids and never married. If someone would have told me when I was in my 20's and through my late 30's that by the time I hit 50 years of age, I would be looking at everything involved with "romance" as a SEVERE quality-of-life affecting issue and must be avoided, I would not have believed them. There is so much wrong. My heart goes out to the younger guys who are hell bent to "be the man."
Facing challenges in relationships is part of the journey, but there’s always a way forward. My marriage encountered significant issues, but with the right help, my wife and I managed to overcome them and strengthen our relationship. Solutions are attainable if you’re willing to put in the work and collaborate. Keep your hope-solutions are out there.
I’m facing major problems in my relationship and can't imagine losing her. I love and miss her greatly and am prepared to do whatever is necessary to have her return. I’d be deeply grateful for any advice or guidance you can offer.
Moving away from someone you hold close is invariably tough, but in my particular situation, I was supported by a spiritual counselor who prevented the unraveling of my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
I appreciate this guidance. I'll quickly search for her online. Thank you. I'm optimistic that this approach will also bring me the results I desire; I miss her dearly
There should be a law that requires first-time marriage intent young men to have a min of 3 hrs,or whatever, course on the legal implications of marriage and what can happen during a divorce. Us old boomers did not have the internet and youtube videos to educate the men as to the serious ramifications of marriage.
I did not get divorced, but my wife passed away years ago. However, marriage is not something to enter into lightly as the responsibilities and challenges are far greater than one would imagine. Yes, one should take a marriage course like what is required to get that first drivers license at the least.
I've worked around refineries or in an office where I designed refineries my entire career. Everyone that enters the facility must endure hours upon hours of safety training to the point of being certified. And yet that did not prevent many of my colleagues from being blown to pieces. Everything in life is a gamble.
I'm one of those Sucker's, I was Born in 1960, i Will never Get Married Again,She took my 3 kids,She took my Money, She Took My Benefits,She Gets 17% of My Retirement, She Has My House,So What Did I Get from her,Child Support,Maintenance,My Name On The Deed of The House, To Throw away All my Hopes and Dreams and Get Nothing in Return,The Game is Over,........jus sayin.........
@@billydee8444 you were not duped. You are an F* up. You just did not want to leave Mr. Wiggley behind a shut zipper. It was very predictable what would happen when you let Mr. Wiggley come out and play. Now you have an ex-wife and a child that have certain views about you. That progeny of yours is not ok. Do not get a dog and do not booze up!!!
As an 80-year-old man who lived through very different times, I can definitely relate to the changes you’re talking about. Back in the day, marriage had a clear set of expectations; now, it seems so much more complicated and risky for men. I have friends who faced harsh consequences in divorces, and it makes younger men hesitate. Really makes me think about how different the world has become.
Everything you've said is true, but ask any man who has been divorced and they will tell you that marriage is a death trap. Even not being married but living with a woman for a period of time is a huge eye opener. It's not worth giving up your freedom and peace to just have a live in girlfriend. They aren't worth what they bring to a relationship, which is only going to drain you, your time, energy, and most of all, your peace. Date them...fine, but never again will I live with one.
I was once accused by the social welfare office of being married to more than one woman … I wrote back to them and “H*ll, no ! One is more than enough.”
"Polymorphous-sexual" -- a clinical term used by psychologists and psychiatrists for what is built-in to ALL human males by Mother Nature. Learn what it is and, how to use it wisely. (We are NOT "monomorphic.")
I was married for 14 years, two children, home, savings, we both made the same salary. In short, financially I was destroyed. Before my credit score was in the mid 800’s. I lost my home and was ordered to give a huge chunk of my 401k to her. I had to literally start from scratch while paying a lawyer and having zero cash saved. Yeah, she emptied the joint account of thousands of dollars. I had nothing literally living paycheck to paycheck. Living on the couches of family and friends until I got a place. I spent the first 5 months sleeping on the floor in a borrowed sleeping bag. It took 15 years to rebuild from nothing. Who could blame guys if they don’t want that to happen to them.
With all the info on the net right now, I don’t understand why young men continue to get married. Do they think they’ll be the lucky one? Only 10% of marriages are actually happy marriages. So you have a 90% chance of being in a miserable marriage or losing your assets and kids. Don’t young men understand those odds?
I’m 72, never married, retired debt free, own home, bought a new Infiniti for cash and travel extensively. Dated in my younger days, have some nice memories but don’t need women anymore and happy as a clam.
This may be a popular phrase. But that doesn't make it accurate. If this phrase held even a spec of truth, then bad intentions would be a direct ticket to Heaven. Instead, I think that good intentions are ALL that matters. Cast your net into the water. God delights when we give up control.
@@ajstockt4832Bro no, this is how you end up a Liberal. Just because good intentions often end in failure don’t mean bad intentions necessarily end in success. Poor logic Edit bc Yt deleted my reply to your cute reply: Let me break this down for you: You claimed that if the phrase the road to hell was paved with good intentions" "held a... spec[spl of truth, then bad intentions would be a direct ticket to Heaven". This is shoddy logic and totally false. I addressed why in my initial response. You then claim that "good intentions are all that matters". '. This is patently and self- evidently false to anyone with 90 days of life experience. Intent does not matter when the outcome is destructive (which happens very often). If you need guidance, look up Thomas Sowell's commentary on results versus intention. Every single point, 100% wrong. Enjoy your Saturday
Got married 15 years ago and it drives her crazy I still keep my house in my parent's name. I'm the one who paid it off and has paid all the bills over the years. Nobody will take my house.
You are not thinking straight. Any property acquired using money within your marriage is half hers. You not transferring title to your name puts you at risk for a real estate fraud which is exploding. someone should just stamp “Loser,” on your forehead.
@estebancorral5151 seems my comment struck a nerve. Getting emotional and name-calling is probably why your husband left you. Real estate fraud happens no matter whose name is on the title.
Feels to me that a little bit of “cold hearted bastard” is the required armor men must wear when dealing with modern relationship dynamics Brother John!
Consider not just the withdrawal of intimacy- But it's reallocation to another man during the marriage. The no fault scenario not only negates any penalty but incentivizes. Now consider a man reallocating financial resources to another female during the marriage. Family Court would (and has) literally put the man in jail
The reason the man is on the hook for alimony is so that the state does not have to pay her. Someone’s gotta pay, and the state would rather it be the guy than them.
Of course, like my ex-neighbor who went to bail his son out of jail at 1:30am. The other three boys had parents to not even bother. The next night two them were raped.
The law needs to change there. Here in Norway, the assets you had before marriage are yours; she can't take them, so if she comes with nothing, she is leaving with nothing. If she has kids, they might be with the father, and she has to pay child support. That's automatic but limited to 25% of her income in total. This goes both ways, of course.
still not fair. during the marriage the man does the majority of the work. she shouldn’t be entitled to the fruits of your labor. most of what women do can be cheaply outsourced
@@sverre371 Men are responsible for her protection, emotional state, and feelings. Doesn’t work the other way around. The responsibilities are not commensurate. I am intimately familiar (literally) with the women of Norway, they are no different or better than here. The burden of responsibility always lies on the man, otherwise women do not associate with men. Briffault’s law. No relationship is 100% equal ever. If you are a married man, you shoulder the majority of the burden. Hence my comment. It’s still unfair and unequal.
@@truthtelleranon My point is that they can not take what you already had before marriage; after, it's 50/50, protection from what? Her emotional state or feelings are her problem. I am Norwegian and have had a few, never lost a penny on their tantrums.
My "feminist" girlfriend and later wife who I met in the 70s always paid her half of expenses from the start. She helped me remodel homes and later build our own house. We both were college educated and always had jobs in the IT industry that paid similar amounts. Sex for us normally happened on a daily basis. We both come from farm families with parents that were married over 50 years. We are now near our 50th year together. We both feel sad for the young people growing up today because of the impact of the internet and social media on the mindset of society. We feel it has amplified the differences between men and women to the detriment of both. The old constructs of religion and law no longer seem to meet the demands of modern life. The old family structure has fallen. It is a good question, what replaces it? Like the old knight said in the movie Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade we must "choose wisely".
@ From all that you have stated, it can only be inferred that you were the unintentional, though readily foreseeable, consequence of two very disingenuous people who merely wanted to placate their libidos. More unfortunately for you, is that you did not have a strong willed father with a convincing leather belt to keep you away from the offsprings of dysfunctional parents.
Facing difficulties in relationships is normal, but there’s always a path to resolution. My marriage went through tough times, but with the right assistance, my wife and I resolved our issues and enhanced our connection. Solutions exist if you’re willing to work together and persevere. Don’t lose faith-answers are possible.....!
Moving on from someone you hold dear is invariably challenging, but in my experience, I was guided by a spiritual counselor who prevented the breakdown of my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
You guys should listen to yourselves, I can’t believe you’re in this deep of damage mode. You’re really that badly hung up on a woman? She apparently doesn’t give a $hit about you, why are you chasing her? Never chase a woman. Look all women are basically the same, they either have a moral compass or they don’t and if she’s treating you badly then she doesn’t deserve you and for Christ sake’s don’t you dare be the guy who’s damaged by her, it’s what she wants. She wants you to feel the same suffering that she feels. Women are weird like that. “If she ain’t happy ain’t nobody happy.” Right? Guess what, none of them are happy. A woman wants what she can’t have and if you’re chasing her it causes her to lose respect for you. Nothing would piss her off more and make her wish she had been better to you than to see you with your $hit together. Ignore her, date lots of women but nothing serious, play the field and kick them to the curb if they get sideways with you and guess what they will. Look, if a guy has game and takes good care of himself, has a nice place, he’s jacked and fit, nice car or whatever but he’s got his act together. He will eventually date and bed the non-biological daughters of his former girlfriends. It’s true because I’ve done it. Women grow old. Men grow up. Women age like stale bread, men age like fine wine. Younger women are totally into older guys. If she’s not the next one is. How many women in this world? 4.5 billion and you’re hung up on one? Come on brother, let her go and FK the $hit out of all her girlfriends and never speak to that bitch ever again. I’ll tell you a secret that’ll help you understand women. A woman is genetically engineered to store the DNA of her lovers. That’s right, every lover she has ever had has his DNA permanently stored inside her. University of Seattle Washington if you want to look it up. Women are literally a walking spermbank and women are walking around with a hundred other men in them that you can’t see. Her body count could even be into the hundreds. Do you really want that controlling your life? That woman with hundreds of men inside her? Making you a miserable human being just because she can. There are alpha males. Beta males. Gamma males and sigmas. Be a sigma. Be mysterious and reserved. The strong silent type and she literally can’t handle it. But I look at women for what they are and potentially have the attributes I’m looking for but it’s better to not let them into my life. They have so much power over men but it’s changing and changing fast and it’s time guys stopped trying to please women because that’s never going to happen. A woman is never content but men are
Ever since I was a teenager I thought legally shackling oneself to another person based on transitory emotions unbelievably unwise, demented even. The though of marriage makes me feel ill and I've never done it nor ever will. Now, in my fifties, my friends all want to know what my secret was.
im with you......the idea of marriage is ridiculous when it comes to the legal definition and consequences.....humans are not naturally monogamous...society needed a way to build and its a good idea in theory just not realistic.
Demographics? I'm 73, and at my age, single women far outnumber single men (perhaps 8 to 1). Women date, marry, and divorce for resources, it is all business. I learned an expensive lesson at the settlement table in mid-life and it took about a decade to recover. I quickly share my insight with my grandsons and caution my granddaughters about the feminism my generation spawned. The smart ones heed my advice and prosper. Me? I remarried 27 years ago and replaced it all several times over. We are better off than 95% of our peers and my wife delights in the country club life I provide. There is great satisfaction in massive success and Karma deals with my EX. I chuckle.
@@andre1987eph agreed, once past 45, forget it, (post-)menopause removes the last vestiges of the hormones making women have the jitters for the opposite sex! Why bother with what mother Nature is trowing on the trashheap?
I see a married women in the gym daily with her husband. She must be in her early 50s but she seems so miserable and cold. Yesterday I said how you doing, as a friendly gesture. She looked at me and looked locked up without even saying a word. I wonder what's going on with her. Her husband seems uptight. I hate seeing people look like this, it doesn't make for a good atmosphere.
Married women in public offices are the most depressing people I have ever met in my entire life. So many times I have argued with them simply because of their smug attitude.
Don't presume that they hated each other. Maybe they regretted saying no to an entitled child. Maybe one of them made an investment mistake in which they both fell victim. Marriage does not mean utopia nor hell.
100% FACTS! I have been "married" for 21 years and filed for divorce 11 years ago after sleeping on the couch for 5 years. I am still not divorced and live in another state. It is a long story. It never ends....do not do it!!
I'm single with no kids and never been married.I use to think I was doing something wrong, but now that I've listen to your wisdom, I actually feel smart and fortunate 😂
@@marianitozz1 They're awesome, but they still limit your freedom, cost you a ton of money over the long run (especially as they get older) and you will spend years looking after the bathroom habits of another living being. Love my doggy, she's almost 15 now-I will be crushed when she passes, but I wouldn't do it again; at least not at this age.
The marriage license is a contract with the county/State. For the contract to be binding, all parties must provide equal consideration. I have never seen a woman or the county/State provide equal consideration. Also, the county clerk withheld a lot of information about the contract. This makes the contract null and void. Rescind your signature, have it notarized, and send it to the county clerk’s office.
I'm sorry but that's wishful thinking along the lines of sovereign citizens. You're going to need a lawyer. It's going to cost you between 1,000 and 5,000. And if you have kids, it's going to ruin your family holidays for the next 20 years after the divorce.
You mentioned Thailand and the Philippines, and other such places, but they have division of assets too. (It's annulment, not divorce, in the Philippines but it's the same result.) The Philippines also has common law marriage. There is no escape once you get government involved. Smart men don't marry (Bone Tomahawk). It really sucks, though - I wanted kids, white picket fence, etc.
@@redemissarium There is no practical difference - that's why I said "it's the same result." If I had not pointed out that the Philippines has annulment, not divorce, someone would have called me out on that, this being the internet and all. Are you trying to understand, or are you trying to make a point?
Until someone stops the free reign of Family Court, good men will avoid marriage and women in general. Nowadays, only 6.5 men in a thousand get married. When he does get married, the following scenario plays out: (1) man gets married, (2) wife refuses to have sex, (3) wife racks up huge credit card debt, (4) wife stops contributing financially, (5) wife stops cooking & cleaning, (6) wife cheats on husband, (7) wife files for divorce and takes the house, cars, savings, and kids, (8) wife falsely accuses husband of abuse and he no longer can see his kids, (9) wife poisons kids against the father. What man in his right mind will sign up for this?
@@crappyfellow I hit every number except number 3. To get a new husband, an aging hot dog hall needs to play Damsel in Distress. "So what's your distress damsel? I might play along if it gets me laid." "It's my evil ex. He does horrible things like open a savings account for my child, travel 3,000 miles for a visitation, & plan for my child's future. I am going to have the State utterly destroy him & has professional reputation. You could help me out of this nightmare." And so your child firmly believes you are a demon.
I've been divorced for 20 years. I'm very happy living alone. I don't want a woman in my life. I don't need the drama, crazy mood swings, or at-home boss mentality.
More and more men are beginning to understand that marriage is not compulsory. The ability to live life on *your* terms is a powerful thing. This coupled with the fact that women wantonly break marriages (70% of divorces are initiated by women) because they are "not happy" has given rise to men telling themselves "this is not in my best interest" and walk away. In layman's terms, it's just not worth it and sadly every single day, countless men get their butts handed to them when their wives tell them "I want a divorce". Remember, you cannot lose if you do not participate in this game --- and that's what it is. 52 male, never married and no kids.
My dad said that marriage is compromise and sacrifice, Who wants that chit ? And the same old gal night after night ? I laugh at my married buddies and tell them, you look defeated, I tried to tell you, but you didn’t listen…
@@masgordo it’s true but 🤣 funny. I laugh when hear them say “marriage is hard work “ . I’m thinking why would I take on more hard work. It’s hard enough just being alive.
In Africa, we don't face the challenges of loosing our assets or paying alimony. But the problems of the fair transaction in the marriage is still present considering female nature is the same anywhere you go. Men here are still meant to provide and protect and women can ration intimacy or simply break the marriage at will. Which is why our fore fathers had many women outside marriage cos the intimacy was never fully met. Find what works for you though but at least know what you're getting yourself into.
What’s really fascinating is I just just saw a comment from a guy in India who had similar complaints. So it seems like we’re dealing with a worldwide problem.
I shall see some of my friends on Facebook making a mistake they got that goofy grin and they're with their girl and they're like hey we just got to engaged it's always that goofy grin
My awakened buddy and I share and discuss these pictures privately between us and cringe when we come across one... that goofy grin of the man who has loaded himself into the cannon and doesn't even realise.
I think female fidelity should be fundemental to a marriage. Paternity tests should be compulsory and the marriage annulled if the husband turns out not to be the father. Otherwise men are taking a huge risk of devoting their lives to bring up another man's child, something that women need not fear.
The divorce rate is 65 percent now, if you include all the LGBT marriages and second marriage. Every older male friend I ever had warned me not to get married. Glad I never did
What’s really telling is that lesbians seem to have the highest divorce rate! That’s what happens when you get two women in one relationship. Everything goes to hell fast.
@@john-griffin when you're right, you're right. It's time for LGBT to stop hogging up so much air time in the media. With an 80 percent lesbian divorce rate, they may want to consider stepping out of the lime light
Marriage was a religious agreement designed to protect women-because they could not compete against men in the work marketplace. Given that few today have any religious standards and that women can take on careers alongside men there’s really no purpose for marriage because all it really does is protect female hypergamy-Men got married because they believed it ensured sexual access for life-Now that this doesn’t ensure this there’s no reason to even “commit” because we all know she will more than likely lose interest and take at least half your resources in the process.
well said....men get married for one main reason....no teenage boy man dreams of is wedding day ..they go into reluctantly because they have craving for that one thing......that one thing is cut off real fast but now its to late
This phenomenon usually occurs when a person's parents was too restrictive and did not allow her to venture out. Perhaps she imagined the same restrictions in marriage. The reasons are always there. The question is; can you love despite discomfort?
Yeah. Just do her. Make babies that don't live with you. Watch her march a brigade of other men before them. And trust that they will love them like you do. That'll work.
I saw a meme that said, “Women want a man to be more successful, taller, stronger, and richer and they want that man to pretend that they are equal.” It fucked my head up and made so much sense. And after the divorce you are still required to make payments on the Bentley (the ex-wife in his analogy) although you aren’t allowed to drive it.
Hardcore feminists oppose marriage from the women’s perspective … we can all agree on something 😂. Seriously though fellas never EVER get married … zero reasons for big govt to be involved. Some men think wife can be hedge against life’s risks until they realize a wife IS the biggest risk.
That a government can negate legal contracts such as a prenuptual agreement will make all marriage agreements a thing of the past imo. In Canada if a couple cohabitates for 2 years they automatically become commonlaw which equates to marriage in every way regardless of them not having a marriage contract. A couple can enter into a legal cohabitation agreement to avoid the commonlaw marriage laws but judges can and have negated these agreements as well. The consequence of this government interference is that men (and women too) are either avoiding cohabitating altogether or when they do they are sure to break the living arrangement before the 2 years is up. So I think a new marriage contract such as is suggested in this video is a fantastic idea, but if a judge can't be trusted to uphold them then what good are they?
Gyn0centric law = maximum redistribution of the man's assets to the feem ale. Oh, she left a toothbrush at your house? Pay her. Untenable contracts for men.
First off, never get married and you'll never have to worry about all this BS. If you have to for some demented reason, look into trusts to save/protect your assets. Prenups are like swiss cheese.
Was married 3x times. Three (3x's) wives cheated on me, two got pregnant by their lovers, and had their babies. The third one aborted our child and said to me, "we don't need a child now. We are both young and in college, and we can have children later." She met an older, well established man with money and left me for him. She divorced me, married him, dropped out of college, and became a housewife with five of his babies. The other two wives had their babies by their lovers, and the guys never married them. I am 78 yrs old, single with no children. Retired with a Pension and SSI. Life is good. Women sure know to hurt a man. I am much more at peace and contented. I am an introvert and enjoy being alone. I'm very happy keeping myself company. Me, myself, and I; we're a great team. 😊
I was never with a woman who made me feel like she would stand by my side and have my back if all the shit went wrong. Or even just not to her liking. I've always had that sense that they would turn if things don't go their way.
I know a man in his mid 40’s who decided to forgo marriage and get a surrogate so he can have a family of his own. He now has two boys (twins) and he is happier than ever. Marriage was a very risky and dangerous proposition for him. The cost of having a surrogate deliver the twins and raising the twins on his own is considerably less than having a wife…not to mention all the risks it involves.
If I were very wealthy, I would find identical triplets, and have them give me nine surrogate children! Lol I would pay them extremely well... I would then have nannies and maids to help me take care of things.
@@ajstockt4832 - I am sure he took that into consideration as well. However, that did not deter him. He feels that he can provide everything the boys need to develop into healthy well functioning adults. In addition, he has women in his family as well as a full time nanny to help him raise the boys.
If I was younger, I would do the same thing. My godson satisfied my yearnings for fatherhood. He turned out great. Highly-educated like myself and has a great job.
Thanks for giving a man's perspective. I just divorced after 23 years. I will stay single. I stayed home with the kids and homeschooled for 13 years. No retirement money was set aside for me. What I got in property settlement isn't enough to retire on, but at least I can start over. I understand your perspective and would definitely have preferred to stay married but I just couldn't see getting old with him. I even went back to work and started my own business to continue homeschooling our child with autism. He really doesn't like me. I hope you understand. I think prenups are a good thing. I wish people would consider compatibility in sex drive and also everyone needs to understand how pregnancy changes a woman physiologically and psychologically as well.
I do have a question. Does intimacy only happen in the sex act? Women can't really turn it on and off like a light switch. We can do our "duty," but wouldn't you prefer we want it too. A mutually fulfilling experience is preferable to me anyway. My experience is having the non sexual intimacy and affection withdrawn and still be expected to put out. Not really that fun. People shouldn't get married if they aren't honestly concerned about each other's emotional wellbeing. Women aren't that complicated. Some flowers just because and telling us we are beautiful pretty regularly and date nights will get you a consistently enthusiastic sex partners. Just saying, but that's just me.
The most important sex organ is the brain. We live life from the inside out. We can make choices about our own happiness and how we choose to perceive our partners.
One of the best explanations in a calm educational manner, this video should be in all schools, These sorta things wre never even mentioned in school during the 90's and I doubt the 80'. or even today.
The thing is this---it is easy to say there is all this negativity toward marriage----but you keep seeing these guys who are together upstairs, physically fit like this dude, have resources obviously---and they are all walking away. I live in foreign countries and ALL the expat males say the same from ALL western countries. They don't want their own women. One guy in Cambodia had rentals in Milan that gave him income--had a Kumar live in. Another dude from France--fitness trainer---Kumar live in. You keep hearing the same stories---good together dudes who keep saying the same thing. Hmmmm
No mate I'm 50yrrs old worked all over Australia met alot of people I saw this phenomenon 30yrs ago social media exposed what most men already knew marriage is dead in western countries
@@airadaimagery692poor analogy...not a worthy comparison...a radio station you can switch whenever you want....marriage is a LONG TERM financial commitment..I have seen my Dad and Mom, my older brother Greg, my sister, several freinds get divorced....it's messy...NOT like a radio station
@@john-griffin living after having a knife pulled outta yer back - does not make you cold hearted. we Greeks have a saying... once we burn our mouths with hot food we even blow on the refrigerated yogurt.
But nothing's happening. If nothing else this forum proves as much. Change starts within. And just for information's sake, I've undergone the same misfortune as you all. I just refuse to put all women in the same category because I've experienced a grandmother, a daughter, a grade school/ high school sweetheart and an admirer. I've also experienced the former. My advice, if it helps, is to regard all human beings as a work-in-progress as opposed to a-piece-of-work.
With all the available online material on marriage and laws ,no man today should get married. If he still does, then he deserves all the consequences that a divorce will bring him. Stay single. Stay free, young men.
Plus those countries ate entering into reciprocity contracts with usa called NATO, European Union, etc. It's 1980 in Phillipines. Don't get burned twice.
John…very good topic. I also thought of this concept being the contract..where there is a standard timeframe, say 20 years…then a new renewal term is set, say for a further option of 2-5 years. At that point again it is renewed or terminated. Like a commercial lease…after all, are we not just leasing these women anyway?
Marriage is contract, divorce is termination of marriage contract and not divorcing is keeping marriage contract active. Why tf anybody needs to "renew" it after every few months as you suggest it? Sounds like scam business to fill the pockets of some and waste other peoples time just because some men are cowards who can't do anything in their life without someone else making them to do it. If you want to divorce, Steve, just do it! You don't need to be coward who "forgets" to renew marriage to get out of marriage you hate so much although I think you are not even married. Without children there is not much reason for women to marry men or even live with men but if there is children involved they need stronger family than something what could be forgotten to be renewed or not done because financial reasons at the moment or forbidden by big brother because you don't have up to date booster.
@@rengurengeah, yes... of course this comment comes from a woman. Its always the same garbage: "men are cowards!" Terrible shaming tactics. You are going to be lonely
In marriage, men’s obligations (to provide, support the family financially, etc.) are enforceable by law. Women’s obligations (to be intimate with their husband, take care of the children) are not.
Yes, it´s a trap for men, it´s a ticking timebomb.
Damn!……..Got damn! That’s a bomb on marriage dude! 😂
@@screenplay78deA woman is very much a ticking time bomb. That can blow up in your face for any reason.
No accountability by women to be reasonable.
It is essential to bring up the boys in a different way. And that way has not yet been realised, identified or set in motion.
its been that way since before I was born. its got worse but even at my birthtime it was already too bad. men have been choosing to suffer for decades still. sad.
Not only does the feem ale have zero burden of performance, but she is actively encouraged, incentivized and rewarded for destroying the family/man. Truly an untenable contract.
I rather be single and childless than miserable with a miserable person
Same here. I thought being single would be a hollow existence. Now, I don't think so. I miss the three letter word (the one with s and ends with x, heh), with the women I've been with. What I don't miss is the grief, the entitlement, the psychological fighting "just to do it" quite a few women would do, the masking of their selfish motives, and as you stated, the misery. And nearly almost ALL of them were not good with finances, which if I was making a little or much more at job I would generally live on my means---and invest gradually.
Agreed.
Been over 2 years since my last relationship.
I must say, I don't regret staying single.
10 years or so ago, yeah...I would've felt lonely for being single. But nowadays, I feel glad and happy for it, solitude 100%. 👏🏻🗿
No compromise. No negotiation. Family on our terms, surrogacy-supplemented single-fatherhood, or freedom. There's no going back.
It's a great life....UNMARRIED!!
Better to die on your feet than live on your knees.
Imagine getting married and providing all these resources only to find out your wife cheated and your kids might not be yours. Feminism tells women to cheat. That it’s her body and she’s not a slave to her husband for sex. In divorce court she’s rewarded for her cheating and breaking her vows. Why would any man enter into such a relationship? It’s insane.
Worst business contract ever!
Because so many men are s!mps
Feminism doesn't tell women anything, it gives more choices than only one which some random male wants to force upon women. As for cheating there was study done analyzing DNA and proving historically only 40% of males reproduced (>80% women) which means most raised milkman's children or consequences of nobles having first night rights with every woman who get married or woman having secret bf because nobody loves and stays loyal if they are forced into marriage. Meanwhile men cheated so much there was never time in history when worlds oldest profession would sit without job. Ironically despite males today crying about big bad feminism the paternity rates are much better because women are not forced to breed with garbage someone else chose for her.
@@map3384 even with a prenup in place it’s precarious.
@@VoxWodler Does not matter. If you were married when she gave birth then you are legally responsible for the kid, regardless of paternity
Young men! DO NOT GET MARRIED!!! Take it from this 50 yr old man…
Second and third that from a 47 year old who was wiped out by divorce! Stay single and gaurd your lives young fellas! Learn from our mistakes!
@@richrivers1232 🙏 my brother
I'll second that from a 79 year old fellow who discovered long ago what "polymorphous-sexual" is, what it's for and, how to USE IT to great and varietous advantage.
All about this, the younger generations of males have learned MUCH.
I'm not sure HOW or IF femaliens are ever to get back into our good graces.
Writing's on the wall here.
I’m very lucky I got a loyal woman married 17 years.
But knowing what I know now I would of never taken the risk, fortunately my ignorance worked in my favour but it could of easily backfired
@IvanDalmatinac of course but man it could of so easily been different. There’s horror stories all around me
I won't get married because I can't afford to get divorced
Very true you’re a smart man
Bingo, the same reason for me lol
I won't get divorced because I'll never.get married! Hahahhahaha!
@@vincentbaca790You are so mean 😢 depriving a woman of a divorce … truly heartless … 😭
i stopped 15yrs ago, i travel overseas to get laid and vacation to mexico, cuba, nicaragua, colombia, HOT women, nice coral reef, beach and sun, every 3 months i go there and enjoy life.
The data is in. Men generally are happier, healthier, fitter, and wealthier unmarried.
Source?
The data shows that marriage generally is better for men than women. There are a bazillion women's channels rejecting marriage.
@@VoxWodlerThat's weird, marriage is when my sex life ended. Ending marriage is when it began again..
@@VoxWodler being single was the gateway for me ;-)
@@VoxWodlerSince modern feminism marriage is the gateway to much less or NO. sex. Don't do it guys.
My neighbour is a single unmarried man without kids.
He has 2x sports cars and 2x motorbikes.
His house looks fantastic, and he's always chatty and cheerful
👍
Happiness is being single
Chatty AND Cheerful! Wow! No women mucking it up!
@simon8864 tragic for society, though, since his place will be taken by illegal aliens
@simon8864 While I know marriage is a complete scam but no children is not life. Having a bunch of toys are great but you need children. But in no way do I support marriage.
@@JeremySayers38 yeah, I agree. I have a daughter that I love very much. And although her mum is difficult (and frustrating) to live with, I work hard to keep us together primarily for my daughters benefit.
Mandatory paternity testing at birth. No man should escape his responsibility and no man should be able to accept responsibility for a kid that isn't his.
no man should be forced to support anothers mans seed..
Just be aware if you're married you're still legally liable for the kid, even if you prove it's not yours. That's part of the marriage contract.
@@bigglyguy8429 Sounds like a scam to me.
@@HoboToto It does, doesn't it?
It isn't mandatory because women obviously lobbied against it for clearly evil reasons.
I am a single man at peace. Why would I invite accusations, judgements, meltdowns, entitlement, nagging, manipulation, silent treatment, ultimatums, humiliation, guilt trips, mistreatment by the courts, and risk losing half my stuff if it doesn't work out?
Ours is not to kick up our heels, sip on cognac and watch the sun rise and fall all the days of our lives. Then declare we led happy lives. We are here to make a difference.
The problem is that we cannot trust each other anymore
You get most of that EVEN IF IT DOES WORK OUT......lol
If you touch a hot stove and get burned you learn not to do that again. Marriage is like that.
Not true. Maybe after 2 or 3 times
@@fredflinstone6601Only for slow learners.
But you guys are not talking about touching a hot stove. You want to throw it out entirely.
And if you see your friend touch a hot stove and it melts his hand off, you're going to be damn careful around stoves.
@@macmcleod1188 Careful is one thing. Resorting to campfires is another.
Praise God!
Absolute fact, anyway you slice it.
@@DanielBergerHewitt 💯
I don't know. There's a lot to be said about an experience good or bad as opposed to a whole lot of nothing. Wouldn't be the first time I've overpaid for a lemon.
Lately the juice has gotten bitter.
There’s not even juice to squeeze
Never marry.
Rent
seen too many of my friends lives destroyed by marriage, put me off for life.
No prostitution. No exchange of money for box. True life is experienced in serving God and his creation.
@@involuntarilychad4048 yeah this whole god thing is how they get guys to waste their whole lives. rent - it's much better.
@@pondeify The God thing is your best bet to regulate the sexual urge that keeps men thinking about women in the first place. If you're renting you're still an addict.
Sample
High risk, low reward.
*All risk/zero reward.
You had the reward and used up the reward before getting married.
She gave the reward to all the previous ones who didn't marry her.
A diamond is valuable only because of its rarity. When you find a female who has not thrown out the baby with the bathwater (otherwise known as her dignity), then the reward overshadows the gamble. This is my belief. Not my experience. My experience (only because I am 1 among 7 billion humans) is that most women have not only thrown out the baby and bathwater. They've thrown out the soap, the towels and everything else that is wondrous about womankind. But it is merely a knee-jerk reaction. At the core of their collective behavior is the belief that their very femininity endangers them in a man's violent world. The way society functions nowadays, how can we be surprised that it is only getting worse?
NO reward.
Got engaged to a girl, she dried up on the spot and turned into a bridezilla. I cancelled the wedding. Best thing I ever did
Her mistake for pulling off her mask before the wedding. Luck you
You didn't dodge a bullet, you dodged an atomic bomb. 😂
Women grow old.
Men grow up.
@@jonmueller2117 Menopause Menopause = male death wish. pre Menopause= woman's suicide wish.
Either we work and support each other or we do not.
@jonmueller2117
LOL -
You’ve never spent a single fecking day of your life on a construction site, have you?
I heard someone laughing! Uh oh it was me!!!! Ha! Ha! Ha!
The older I get the more I realize the uselessness of men. They don't grow up, they grow fat, sloppy and I've found they are more stupid about their finances because they didn't plan well for their retirement. It is nice that with my independence and smarts, I can step on these guys like the cockroaches they are. Yes, well, I am older, but I keep myself in terrific shape, wear stylish clothes and wear the right makeup and make good decisions about the way I live. So, guys watch out for the gold diggers and their intentions, they want someone to pay their expenses and help pay for their adult children's expenses too.
Not everyone grows up. No shortage of teenage adults in the workplace.
Picture this: you are always right, never wrong.. every day, with every decision you make... that's life as a single man.
And when you are not, you take accountability for your actions, because we are men.
Been married. Was ALWAYS wrong then.
Now divorced. Sometimes right/sometimes wrong, but usually learn from my mistakes. ✊
@@TestOverload This is the way.
@@johnnyjohnn281 Did you ever learn to load the dishwasher correctly?
@@johnmccracken3473 Nah. One of the many things I didn’t do properly. Oh well. Learnt a lot during the years after divorce. Now I do things my way and have nobody policing and criticising. My dishwasher now = my hands. 🙂🧐💪🏻✊🏻
@@johnnyjohnn281 Did you wonder why women put the knives in a dishwasher, with the pointy sharp end uppermost?
As seen in horror movies!
Hoeflation is real.
funny!
@@fudogwhisperer3590 hyperhoeflation 2025
I've had a mother, two sisters, cousins and a host of exes. All I can say is my grandmother loved me and my son loves me.
Gents please stay out of the divorcentration camps.
I can't fathom how men willing walk in to that these days.
@@andre1987eph Your Divorce Decree: "Arbeit Macht Frei"
@@andre1987ephignorance and 'madness' called love.
@@parrotshootist3004 Truly this, we want to believe in the fairy tales so much we delude ourselves into believing the lies.
Part of it isn't just on us though, as humans we are social creatures, we are supposed to be around other people but everything has changed.
This right here. "Divorcentration camps." Soo true. I fear divorce enough to stay unmarried to avoid the risk of having to experience the consequences of divorce. By staying unmarried, I'll never have to experience living a quiet life of desperation day by day, to avoid entering the divorcentration camps! This right here is soo real.
Most married men have the same story. The sex ended two years after our marriage but he is stuck with all her bills. He becomes homeless if he leaves. Million of men in this situation today.
I wish this information had been available when I was young!
There are ways to protect yourself (not always absolute)… I recommend every man to sit down and come up with ideas to do so if he actually wants to marry (wouldn’t recommend legal marriage myself ever)
@@djaeger-k5m Do like I did... Live in the Philippines! But there are dangers here, too, though the risks are much less...
@JohnGrigg-gz9gm
It's the same, just it's cheaper and maybe you won't lose all when you hide your money.
Don't get married to have sex.
just pay a professional and save yourself the trouble!
If it flies, f*cks, or floats...rent NEVER buy.
@@GhostRider-870 coach gang 😎
Feminism killed society brother.
It certainly did.
…and commercialism.
Death cult.
@@JamesHawkeUA-cam Correct Correct.
No Civilization can survive Feminism
I'm done
Rather be single
Sober and sane
I'm 45
No kids No debt
Even lost 40 lbs
I've has girlfriends
Got tired of.em spending my.money up
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76, single and alone 45yrs..no kids, no debt....maybe not sane, but happily at peace....I have learned to repel most women by looking poor. Shabby house, old car, simple-well worn dress.....simple pleasures.....works like a charm
@@mikedee8876 😄@ "learnt to repel most women by looking poor"
@@mikedee8876 Fact is a relationship will very soon spend the lot. You will be left bereft and wonder why you could ever have been that stupid. Stay safe. Best Regards Better out than in.
@@Proud5050man single life is honestly better. Modern women are absolutely useless to say the least. Life is so much better off single and alone. I have twins 👯♀️ boys 🧒 that are my only priority in life
Men have rejected marriage but more importantly many of their parents also feel the same way.
Marriage only works for the three percent of people who married their high school sweetheart. They exist, but it's a rare breed
Even then it is overrated.
Even many "highschool sweetheart" situations don't pan out, often because of women that cheat.
It's only luck that it lasts, that's all!
3% seems kinda high, it's more like 1%
@@PastraniO1ER I think you are right
A few years ago I heard a lawyer say that it's best to have your assets put in an irrevocable contract trust.
Apparently prenups can be broken up in court.
Consult your attorney about getting an Irrevocable Contract Trust. 👍🏼
False: Every single asset is up for grabs if kids are born. If the judge can’t transfer ownership they will assign alimony and child support proportional to your wealth…
@Billpeterson4785 OK...I was told this from a lawyer but you could very well be right. Kids change EVERYTHING.
@ Any lawyer that tells you he has advice “which you pay for” to advantage you in divorce court is full of shit.
@Billpeterson4785 Check out Big John MGTOW Irrevocable contract trust
I wouldn’t take Bills word as truth, you would have to ask a family lawyer or someone in the know in your State.
"There's a sucker born every minute", P.T. Barnum.
I believe Barnum claimed that he never actually said it. (Like Queen Victoria never said: "We are not amused").
a preacher at the podium said it
now its every second.
These days, it's every 15 seconds !
One sucker born to a minute means that 59 non suckers per minute are also born. Therefore mathematics dictates that suckers make up 2 percent of the population. Don't be so pessimistic. Besides, P.T.Barnum was not a man I'd like to emulate.
Marriage new name is business and it's the worst deal for businessmen !
@@singhgotnochill..805 We understand the mantra now. Men are in love....Women are in Business. And they are good at it.
@@alanbradley9621Coach Greg Adams coined that phrase. Killer live streams and content. It’s true. They have *always* been in business. It’s their nature. You know how I know? Little girls exhibit this behavior naturally without conditioning.
I just turned 50 a little over a week ago. No kids and never married. If someone would have told me when I was in my 20's and through my late 30's that by the time I hit 50 years of age, I would be looking at everything involved with "romance" as a SEVERE quality-of-life affecting issue and must be avoided, I would not have believed them. There is so much wrong. My heart goes out to the younger guys who are hell bent to "be the man."
Never sign a contract that rewards the other party for breaking it.
WOW, WOW, WOW, COULDN'T HAVE BEEN BETTER SAID.
You're describing the phenomenon known as *HOEFLATION* (and currently *Hyperhoeflation* )
@@andre1987eph hyperhoeflation 😂
Though your comment is high on slogan, it is low on intelligence.
Facing challenges in relationships is part of the journey, but there’s always a way forward. My marriage encountered significant issues, but with the right help, my wife and I managed to overcome them and strengthen our relationship. Solutions are attainable if you’re willing to put in the work and collaborate. Keep your hope-solutions are out there.
I’m facing major problems in my relationship and can't imagine losing her. I love and miss her greatly and am prepared to do whatever is necessary to have her return. I’d be deeply grateful for any advice or guidance you can offer.
Moving away from someone you hold close is invariably tough, but in my particular situation, I was supported by a spiritual counselor who prevented the unraveling of my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
I appreciate this guidance. I'll quickly search for her online. Thank you. I'm optimistic that this approach will also bring me the results I desire; I miss her dearly
I promise you will not regret it
If marriage is so wonderful and natural, why would you need help overcoming issues ?
There should be a law that requires first-time marriage intent young men to have a min of 3 hrs,or whatever, course on the legal implications of marriage and what can happen during a divorce.
Us old boomers did not have the internet and youtube videos to educate the men as to the serious ramifications of marriage.
I did not get divorced, but my wife passed away years ago. However, marriage is not something to enter into lightly as the responsibilities and challenges are far greater than one would imagine. Yes, one should take a marriage course like what is required to get that first drivers license at the least.
yes, and an age limit, say 21 or 25 when the brain is fully-formed!
I've worked around refineries or in an office where I designed refineries my entire career. Everyone that enters the facility must endure hours upon hours of safety training to the point of being certified. And yet that did not prevent many of my colleagues from being blown to pieces. Everything in life is a gamble.
My advise to american men,, young or older. Never get married. Have girlfriends and keep yuor money that u worked hard for👍👍
cant even risk that bro. STDs are rampant.
This is ridiculous. Girlfriend = Woman. Woman = children. Children = money.
@@CNCGuyyeah I caught one in a foreign country
I'm one of those Sucker's, I was Born in 1960, i Will never Get Married Again,She took my 3 kids,She took my Money, She Took My Benefits,She Gets 17% of My Retirement, She Has My House,So What Did I Get from her,Child Support,Maintenance,My Name On The Deed of The House, To Throw away All my Hopes and Dreams and Get Nothing in Return,The Game is Over,........jus sayin.........
It's really hard to believe a human being can do this, I'm not getting married. I'm sorry you going through this Sir
@@billydee8444 you were not duped. You are an F* up. You just did not want to leave Mr. Wiggley behind a shut zipper. It was very predictable what would happen when you let Mr. Wiggley come out and play. Now you have an ex-wife and a child that have certain views about you. That progeny of yours is not ok. Do not get a dog and do not booze up!!!
As an 80-year-old man who lived through very different times, I can definitely relate to the changes you’re talking about. Back in the day, marriage had a clear set of expectations; now, it seems so much more complicated and risky for men. I have friends who faced harsh consequences in divorces, and it makes younger men hesitate. Really makes me think about how different the world has become.
"The intimacy went away... But the contract was still in place" .. righteous words right there brother
The intimacy went away because men and women regard intimacy differently.
Everything you've said is true, but ask any man who has been divorced and they will tell you that marriage is a death trap. Even not being married but living with a woman for a period of time is a huge eye opener. It's not worth giving up your freedom and peace to just have a live in girlfriend. They aren't worth what they bring to a relationship, which is only going to drain you, your time, energy, and most of all, your peace. Date them...fine, but never again will I live with one.
Yeah I agree. Honestly they never live up to the expectation anyway. I can have more sex now than when I had a wife! Ain't that something!
100% truth right there brother ☝️
I did the same....deep down all women want marriage...it's worse than a cult!
I was once accused by the social welfare office of being married to more than one woman … I wrote back to them and “H*ll, no ! One is more than enough.”
"Polymorphous-sexual" -- a clinical term used by psychologists and psychiatrists for what is built-in to ALL human males by Mother Nature.
Learn what it is and, how to use it wisely. (We are NOT "monomorphic.")
Men need to stop obsessing about sex, this is just a small part of life & so overrated in my opinion. Concentrate on yourself guys.
So true. Once you realise that you can enjoy it but don't really need it, the world around you becomes far more peaceful & productive.
No seggs is had in marriage.
Men are only obsessed with sex when they can't get any of it.
When needed hire!!
Ironically if simps and chads did this, wed all be okay...
“..the moment you say ‘I do’ everything you have just lost half its value”. Wow that’s a powerful sentence.
I was married for 14 years, two children, home, savings, we both made the same salary. In short, financially I was destroyed. Before my credit score was in the mid 800’s. I lost my home and was ordered to give a huge chunk of my 401k to her. I had to literally start from scratch while paying a lawyer and having zero cash saved. Yeah, she emptied the joint account of thousands of dollars. I had nothing literally living paycheck to paycheck. Living on the couches of family and friends until I got a place. I spent the first 5 months sleeping on the floor in a borrowed sleeping bag. It took 15 years to rebuild from nothing. Who could blame guys if they don’t want that to happen to them.
Glad that you made it in 1 piece, man!
Alcoholics, have often told me this same story. I have been a round the block more than once. Is there something else to this story?
With all the info on the net right now, I don’t understand why young men continue to get married. Do they think they’ll be the lucky one? Only 10% of marriages are actually happy marriages. So you have a 90% chance of being in a miserable marriage or losing your assets and kids.
Don’t young men understand those odds?
No unfortunately they don’t
and of those 10% its only a matter of time until it falls apart!
Marriages plummited below 1 per 1000. I think we can celebrate.
Blinded by the pooosaaay
@@feralandroid That's what he is doing and many others in the UA-cam space, deprogramming the centuries old training.
I’m 72, never married, retired debt free, own home, bought a new Infiniti for cash and travel extensively. Dated in my younger days, have some nice memories but don’t need women anymore and happy as a clam.
14:15 "The road to hell is paved with good intentions."
I disagree with him on this, there were no good intentions involved with any of this.
The road to wed is lined with locks … 🔒
This may be a popular phrase. But that doesn't make it accurate. If this phrase held even a spec of truth, then bad intentions would be a direct ticket to Heaven. Instead, I think that good intentions are ALL that matters. Cast your net into the water. God delights when we give up control.
@@ajstockt4832Bro no, this is how you end up a Liberal. Just because good intentions often end in failure don’t mean bad intentions necessarily end in success. Poor logic
Edit bc Yt deleted my reply to your cute reply: Let me break this down for you: You claimed that if the phrase the road to hell was paved with good intentions" "held a... spec[spl of truth, then bad intentions would be a direct ticket to Heaven". This is shoddy logic and totally false. I addressed why in my initial response.
You then claim that "good intentions are all that matters".
'. This is patently and self-
evidently false to anyone with 90 days of life experience. Intent does not matter when the outcome is destructive (which happens very often). If you need guidance, look up Thomas Sowell's commentary on results versus intention. Every single point, 100% wrong. Enjoy your Saturday
@@truthtelleranonPoor understanding on your part because my very point is that neither are true. Try again.
Got married 15 years ago and it drives her crazy I still keep my house in my parent's name. I'm the one who paid it off and has paid all the bills over the years. Nobody will take my house.
You are not thinking straight. Any property acquired using money within your marriage is half hers. You not transferring title to your name puts you at risk for a real estate fraud which is exploding. someone should just stamp “Loser,” on your forehead.
@estebancorral5151 seems my comment struck a nerve. Getting emotional and name-calling is probably why your husband left you. Real estate fraud happens no matter whose name is on the title.
@@WinstonBartholomewIIIhow dare this woman SHElaborate this nonsense to you, sir
Women change drastically as the age , usually not for the better
Feels to me that a little bit of “cold hearted bastard” is the required armor men must wear when dealing with modern relationship dynamics Brother John!
Just a bit 😀
No, one needs The Full Armour of God (Ephesians 6:12). It's spiritual at this point.
@@andre1987eph - has nothing to do with gods of any sort.
Yup women don’t put out but divorce men and score men’s assets in divorce court. Through no fault divorce. Stay single guys.
Consider not just the withdrawal of intimacy-
But it's reallocation to another man during the marriage.
The no fault scenario not only negates any penalty but incentivizes.
Now consider a man reallocating financial resources to another female during the marriage.
Family Court would (and has) literally put the man in jail
Truly an untenable gyn0centric scam contract for men.
What the Groom says the day of the marriage: "I Do". What the husband says five years after the marriage: "I Shouldn't have"
What the groom should have said..."I do......NOT!"
@@vincentbaca790 😂
@@vincentbaca790 this cracked me up I can't lie
The reason the man is on the hook for alimony is so that the state does not have to pay her. Someone’s gotta pay, and the state would rather it be the guy than them.
the purse is mightier than the penis
It's not 'getting worse'. Men not getting married = getting better.
I'm 62 years old, single and virgin and I am content in that state. Looks like that has spared me a lot of grief.
Of course, like my ex-neighbor who went to bail his son out of jail at 1:30am. The other three boys had parents to not even bother. The next night two them were raped.
The law needs to change there. Here in Norway, the assets you had before marriage are yours; she can't take them, so if she comes with nothing, she is leaving with nothing. If she has kids, they might be with the father, and she has to pay child support. That's automatic but limited to 25% of her income in total. This goes both ways, of course.
never happen here in the states.....woman have to much influence and politicians are scared to get them mad...
still not fair. during the marriage the man does the majority of the work. she shouldn’t be entitled to the fruits of your labor. most of what women do can be cheaply outsourced
@@truthtelleranon Women work as much as men in most sectors, including at home.
@@sverre371 Men are responsible for her protection, emotional state, and feelings. Doesn’t work the other way around. The responsibilities are not commensurate. I am intimately familiar (literally) with the women of Norway, they are no different or better than here. The burden of responsibility always lies on the man, otherwise women do not associate with men. Briffault’s law. No relationship is 100% equal ever. If you are a married man, you shoulder the majority of the burden. Hence my comment. It’s still unfair and unequal.
@@truthtelleranon My point is that they can not take what you already had before marriage; after, it's 50/50, protection from what? Her emotional state or feelings are her problem. I am Norwegian and have had a few, never lost a penny on their tantrums.
My "feminist" girlfriend and later wife who I met in the 70s always paid her half of expenses from the start. She helped me remodel homes and later build our own house. We both were college educated and always had jobs in the IT industry that paid similar amounts. Sex for us normally happened on a daily basis. We both come from farm families with parents that were married over 50 years. We are now near our 50th year together. We both feel sad for the young people growing up today because of the impact of the internet and social media on the mindset of society. We feel it has amplified the differences between men and women to the detriment of both. The old constructs of religion and law no longer seem to meet the demands of modern life. The old family structure has fallen. It is a good question, what replaces it? Like the old knight said in the movie Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade we must "choose wisely".
Did you get a loan to build your house?
Can't blame social media. I grew up in the 80's, well before all that, and mine and ALL my friends parents were divorced.
@ From all that you have stated, it can only be inferred that you were the unintentional, though readily foreseeable, consequence of two very disingenuous people who merely wanted to placate their libidos. More unfortunately for you, is that you did not have a strong willed father with a convincing leather belt to keep you away from the offsprings of dysfunctional parents.
Facing difficulties in relationships is normal, but there’s always a path to resolution. My marriage went through tough times, but with the right assistance, my wife and I resolved our issues and enhanced our connection. Solutions exist if you’re willing to work together and persevere. Don’t lose faith-answers are possible.....!
Moving on from someone you hold dear is invariably challenging, but in my experience, I was guided by a spiritual counselor who prevented the breakdown of my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
Yes. Pls do.
You guys should listen to yourselves, I can’t believe you’re in this deep of damage mode. You’re really that badly hung up on a woman? She apparently doesn’t give a $hit about you, why are you chasing her? Never chase a woman. Look all women are basically the same, they either have a moral compass or they don’t and if she’s treating you badly then she doesn’t deserve you and for Christ sake’s don’t you dare be the guy who’s damaged by her, it’s what she wants. She wants you to feel the same suffering that she feels. Women are weird like that. “If she ain’t happy ain’t nobody happy.” Right? Guess what, none of them are happy. A woman wants what she can’t have and if you’re chasing her it causes her to lose respect for you. Nothing would piss her off more and make her wish she had been better to you than to see you with your $hit together. Ignore her, date lots of women but nothing serious, play the field and kick them to the curb if they get sideways with you and guess what they will. Look, if a guy has game and takes good care of himself, has a nice place, he’s jacked and fit, nice car or whatever but he’s got his act together. He will eventually date and bed the non-biological daughters of his former girlfriends. It’s true because I’ve done it. Women grow old. Men grow up. Women age like stale bread, men age like fine wine. Younger women are totally into older guys. If she’s not the next one is. How many women in this world? 4.5 billion and you’re hung up on one? Come on brother, let her go and FK the $hit out of all her girlfriends and never speak to that bitch ever again. I’ll tell you a secret that’ll help you understand women. A woman is genetically engineered to store the DNA of her lovers. That’s right, every lover she has ever had has his DNA permanently stored inside her. University of Seattle Washington if you want to look it up. Women are literally a walking spermbank and women are walking around with a hundred other men in them that you can’t see. Her body count could even be into the hundreds. Do you really want that controlling your life? That woman with hundreds of men inside her? Making you a miserable human being just because she can. There are alpha males. Beta males. Gamma males and sigmas. Be a sigma. Be mysterious and reserved. The strong silent type and she literally can’t handle it. But I look at women for what they are and potentially have the attributes I’m looking for but it’s better to not let them into my life. They have so much power over men but it’s changing and changing fast and it’s time guys stopped trying to please women because that’s never going to happen. A woman is never content but men are
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Ever since I was a teenager I thought legally shackling oneself to another person based on transitory emotions unbelievably unwise, demented even. The though of marriage makes me feel ill and I've never done it nor ever will.
Now, in my fifties, my friends all want to know what my secret was.
Common sense and looking at reality was the secret. Hard for your average NPC zombie today.
I feel the same way. I am 64 and never married. The risks seem way too high for me to ever consider it. I am so glad that I didn't cave.
Sentience, less restrained by education.
Transitory emotions,well done!
im with you......the idea of marriage is ridiculous when it comes to the legal definition and consequences.....humans are not naturally monogamous...society needed a way to build and its a good idea in theory just not realistic.
Demographics? I'm 73, and at my age, single women far outnumber single men (perhaps 8 to 1). Women date, marry, and divorce for resources, it is all business. I learned an expensive lesson at the settlement table in mid-life and it took about a decade to recover. I quickly share my insight with my grandsons and caution my granddaughters about the feminism my generation spawned. The smart ones heed my advice and prosper. Me? I remarried 27 years ago and replaced it all several times over. We are better off than 95% of our peers and my wife delights in the country club life I provide. There is great satisfaction in massive success and Karma deals with my EX. I chuckle.
That's the key...
You ARE successful... 90% of men won't experience this unfortunately
Absolutely NO reason ANY man should be checking for a 73 year old lady. 😅
@@andre1987eph agreed, once past 45, forget it, (post-)menopause removes the last vestiges of the hormones making women have the jitters for the opposite sex! Why bother with what mother Nature is trowing on the trashheap?
I see a married women in the gym daily with her husband. She must be in her early 50s but she seems so miserable and cold. Yesterday I said how you doing, as a friendly gesture. She looked at me and looked locked up without even saying a word. I wonder what's going on with her. Her husband seems uptight. I hate seeing people look like this, it doesn't make for a good atmosphere.
Married women in public offices are the most depressing people I have ever met in my entire life. So many times I have argued with them simply because of their smug attitude.
Don't presume that they hated each other. Maybe they regretted saying no to an entitled child. Maybe one of them made an investment mistake in which they both fell victim. Marriage does not mean utopia nor hell.
100% FACTS! I have been "married" for 21 years and filed for divorce 11 years ago after sleeping on the couch for 5 years. I am still not divorced and live in another state. It is a long story. It never ends....do not do it!!
I hope things get better for you bro
I'm single with no kids and never been married.I use to think I was doing something wrong, but now that I've listen to your wisdom, I actually feel smart and fortunate 😂
It is likely that you are very fortunate.
@@john-griffin thank you John, very nice of you yo say that
Recipe for happiness:
No Wife, No Kids, No Pets, No Debts,
Why not pets? they love you uncoditionally what s wrong with that?
@@marianitozz1 They're awesome, but they still limit your freedom, cost you a ton of money over the long run (especially as they get older) and you will spend years looking after the bathroom habits of another living being.
Love my doggy, she's almost 15 now-I will be crushed when she passes, but I wouldn't do it again; at least not at this age.
I like having a pet, a cat gives great joy to me.😅
@@danmslacker6782 love my dogs. Get home from work and they wags their tails.
@@LarryWilliamsArtist That depends on the type of pet. There are some pets that cost next to nothing in maintenance costs.
The marriage license is a contract with the county/State. For the contract to be binding, all parties must provide equal consideration. I have never seen a woman or the county/State provide equal consideration. Also, the county clerk withheld a lot of information about the contract. This makes the contract null and void. Rescind your signature, have it notarized, and send it to the county clerk’s office.
Yep. People unfortubately dont know the difference between lawful and legal.
I'm sorry but that's wishful thinking along the lines of sovereign citizens.
You're going to need a lawyer. It's going to cost you between 1,000 and 5,000.
And if you have kids, it's going to ruin your family holidays for the next 20 years after the divorce.
You mentioned Thailand and the Philippines, and other such places, but they have division of assets too. (It's annulment, not divorce, in the Philippines but it's the same result.) The Philippines also has common law marriage. There is no escape once you get government involved. Smart men don't marry (Bone Tomahawk). It really sucks, though - I wanted kids, white picket fence, etc.
did annulment also involve man losing half and pay all child sport and alimony or no?
@@redemissarium Yes, some mix of that. That's my point.
@@nunuvyurbiz123 so whats the difference other than term? 😲
@@redemissarium There is no practical difference - that's why I said "it's the same result." If I had not pointed out that the Philippines has annulment, not divorce, someone would have called me out on that, this being the internet and all. Are you trying to understand, or are you trying to make a point?
@@nunuvyurbiz123 'white picket fence' - did you really want that or is it more the idea of that. Be careful what you wish for.
Until someone stops the free reign of Family Court, good men will avoid marriage and women in general. Nowadays, only 6.5 men in a thousand get married. When he does get married, the following scenario plays out: (1) man gets married, (2) wife refuses to have sex, (3) wife racks up huge credit card debt, (4) wife stops contributing financially, (5) wife stops cooking & cleaning, (6) wife cheats on husband, (7) wife files for divorce and takes the house, cars, savings, and kids, (8) wife falsely accuses husband of abuse and he no longer can see his kids, (9) wife poisons kids against the father. What man in his right mind will sign up for this?
You left out the part where the man lives in his car because his wife gets both alimony and child support.
@@crappyfellow I hit every number except number 3. To get a new husband, an aging hot dog hall needs to play Damsel in Distress. "So what's your distress damsel? I might play along if it gets me laid."
"It's my evil ex. He does horrible things like open a savings account for my child, travel 3,000 miles for a visitation, & plan for my child's future. I am going to have the State utterly destroy him & has professional reputation. You could help me out of this nightmare."
And so your child firmly believes you are a demon.
When she wants something from you just tell her you have a headache😅😅😅
I like the way you think!
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As a man in 2024 , you get sexual access, sexual exclusivity and children from women without being married. Why do we still need to get married??
In such a setting you'll still be legally married. Even cohabitation for five years or more will get you into trouble if she wants to.
@@dw4956 in the US , only a few states practice common-law marriages. Just look it up and enjoy dating.
Those are excellent points
So is this all about a marriage license or women's behavior. Because when things sour, you and your children are left unhappy all the same.
If you're living together with a woman and raising children together with her, you're essentially married.
I've been divorced for 20 years. I'm very happy living alone. I don't want a woman in my life. I don't need the drama, crazy mood swings, or at-home boss mentality.
More and more men are beginning to understand that marriage is not compulsory. The ability to live life on *your* terms is a powerful thing. This coupled with the fact that women wantonly break marriages (70% of divorces are initiated by women) because they are "not happy" has given rise to men telling themselves "this is not in my best interest" and walk away. In layman's terms, it's just not worth it and sadly every single day, countless men get their butts handed to them when their wives tell them "I want a divorce". Remember, you cannot lose if you do not participate in this game --- and that's what it is. 52 male, never married and no kids.
My 88 year old dad used to say:
“There’s no fool like an old fool”.
😮
Well that's not very original. Besides you don't live to be 88 without having been taken advantage of at least once in life.
My dad said that marriage is compromise and sacrifice, Who wants that chit ? And the same old gal night after night ? I laugh at my married buddies and tell them, you look defeated, I tried to tell you, but you didn’t listen…
Freedom isn't for everyone. Low-vibrational norm1e plantation males can't fathom it.
Agree...just go to any mall and see how miserable the men are with their women....both on their phones....
@@vincentbaca790 The guy at the mall knows that the piece of leather in his pocket is going to get more wrinkled.
Didn't you ever want children though? They are the great gift that, with good nurturing, will keep on giving.
@@masgordo it’s true but 🤣 funny. I laugh when hear them say “marriage is hard work “ . I’m thinking why would I take on more hard work. It’s hard enough just being alive.
In Africa, we don't face the challenges of loosing our assets or paying alimony. But the problems of the fair transaction in the marriage is still present considering female nature is the same anywhere you go. Men here are still meant to provide and protect and women can ration intimacy or simply break the marriage at will. Which is why our fore fathers had many women outside marriage cos the intimacy was never fully met. Find what works for you though but at least know what you're getting yourself into.
What’s really fascinating is I just just saw a comment from a guy in India who had similar complaints. So it seems like we’re dealing with a worldwide problem.
@@john-griffinfemale nature/entitlement/social media/hypergamy are to blame
Women are women first regardless of country or traditions. Protect yourselves at all times
@@emmaabumere2870 Polygamy means most men get no sex.
Nothing works with the modern woman. Nothing!!!! Africa or America.
I shall see some of my friends on Facebook making a mistake they got that goofy grin and they're with their girl and they're like hey we just got to engaged it's always that goofy grin
That Sphinx-like smile
My awakened buddy and I share and discuss these pictures privately between us and cringe when we come across one... that goofy grin of the man who has loaded himself into the cannon and doesn't even realise.
@@WildB06💥
@@dy4710 😂
Beta males submitting and being knee-takers. Comical to watch because they are beyond help or reason.
Thanks!
Thank you!
this channel + GCA + Happy wife school = hell no to marriage
I think female fidelity should be fundemental to a marriage. Paternity tests should be compulsory and the marriage annulled if the husband turns out not to be the father. Otherwise men are taking a huge risk of devoting their lives to bring up another man's child, something that women need not fear.
The divorce rate is 65 percent now, if you include all the LGBT marriages and second marriage. Every older male friend I ever had warned me not to get married. Glad I never did
What’s really telling is that lesbians seem to have the highest divorce rate! That’s what happens when you get two women in one relationship. Everything goes to hell fast.
@@john-griffin when you're right, you're right. It's time for LGBT to stop hogging up so much air time in the media. With an 80 percent lesbian divorce rate, they may want to consider stepping out of the lime light
@@john-griffin agreed. Yet the media caters to them
@@john-griffin And on the other hand, gay men have the best stats for long-lasting marriages! Men not dealing with women... Lol 🤣
Marriage was a religious agreement designed to protect women-because they could not compete against men in the work marketplace. Given that few today have any religious standards and that women can take on careers alongside men there’s really no purpose for marriage because all it really does is protect female hypergamy-Men got married because they believed it ensured sexual access for life-Now that this doesn’t ensure this there’s no reason to even “commit” because we all know she will more than likely lose interest and take at least half your resources in the process.
Great insights. Thanks
well said....men get married for one main reason....no teenage boy man dreams of is wedding day ..they go into reluctantly because they have craving for that one thing......that one thing is cut off real fast but now its to late
@@workingshlub8861You mean no more brief occasional moments of ejaculatory relief in exchange for all your energy time and money 😊
"It is better to live alone in the desert than with a quarrelsome, complaining wife." -Proverbs 21:19
The only winning move in the game of marriage and divorce is to not play at all.
The more I watch this guy the more they aren’t getting a penny from me . Wild
3:03 it's not "some" reason. It's always she's "unhappy" and needs to "find herself".
This phenomenon usually occurs when a person's parents was too restrictive and did not allow her to venture out. Perhaps she imagined the same restrictions in marriage. The reasons are always there. The question is; can you love despite discomfort?
Men, never sign a contract with the state.
Anybody thinking about getting married, don’t do it! That’s all I’ve got to say.
Yeah. Just do her. Make babies that don't live with you. Watch her march a brigade of other men before them. And trust that they will love them like you do. That'll work.
@@ajstockt4832 Nope no babies! This world is too fckd up to bring ids into it
Yes. Fools rush in where angels dare to tread. And yet the angels applaud us.
I saw a meme that said, “Women want a man to be more successful, taller, stronger, and richer and they want that man to pretend that they are equal.” It fucked my head up and made so much sense.
And after the divorce you are still required to make payments on the Bentley (the ex-wife in his analogy) although you aren’t allowed to drive it.
Hilarious
Hardcore feminists oppose marriage from the women’s perspective … we can all agree on something 😂. Seriously though fellas never EVER get married … zero reasons for big govt to be involved. Some men think wife can be hedge against life’s risks until they realize a wife IS the biggest risk.
That a government can negate legal contracts such as a prenuptual agreement will make all marriage agreements a thing of the past imo. In Canada if a couple cohabitates for 2 years they automatically become commonlaw which equates to marriage in every way regardless of them not having a marriage contract. A couple can enter into a legal cohabitation agreement to avoid the commonlaw marriage laws but judges can and have negated these agreements as well. The consequence of this government interference is that men (and women too) are either avoiding cohabitating altogether or when they do they are sure to break the living arrangement before the 2 years is up. So I think a new marriage contract such as is suggested in this video is a fantastic idea, but if a judge can't be trusted to uphold them then what good are they?
Gyn0centric law = maximum redistribution of the man's assets to the feem ale. Oh, she left a toothbrush at your house? Pay her. Untenable contracts for men.
First off, never get married and you'll never have to worry about all this BS. If you have to for some demented reason, look into trusts to save/protect your assets. Prenups are like swiss cheese.
Never enter into a contract that rewards the other party for beeaking it.
@@vtc8570 Yeah, it's a fucking no brainer...
Was married 3x times. Three (3x's) wives cheated on me, two got pregnant by their lovers, and had their babies. The third one aborted our child and said to me, "we don't need a child now. We are both young and in college, and we can have children later." She met an older, well established man with money and left me for him. She divorced me, married him, dropped out of college, and became a housewife with five of his babies. The other two wives had their babies by their lovers, and the guys never married them. I am 78 yrs old, single with no children. Retired with a Pension and SSI. Life is good. Women sure know to hurt a man. I am much more at peace and contented. I am an introvert and enjoy being alone. I'm very happy keeping myself company. Me, myself, and I; we're a great team. 😊
sad story....
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@@pete546 sad, but in control. At least he's not a beta....
I was never with a woman who made me feel like she would stand by my side and have my back if all the shit went wrong. Or even just not to her liking. I've always had that sense that they would turn if things don't go their way.
At best, only 1 in 4 women stand by their man in hard times.
I know a man in his mid 40’s who decided to forgo marriage and get a surrogate so he can have a family of his own. He now has two boys (twins) and he is happier than ever.
Marriage was a very risky and dangerous proposition for him. The cost of having a surrogate deliver the twins and raising the twins on his own is considerably less than having a wife…not to mention all the risks it involves.
Wow! That is a great story. Thanks
If I were very wealthy, I would find identical triplets, and have them give me nine surrogate children! Lol I would pay them extremely well... I would then have nannies and maids to help me take care of things.
On the surface that seems logical. But what about the need for two personalities to balance out a child's character?
@@ajstockt4832 - I am sure he took that into consideration as well. However, that did not deter him. He feels that he can provide everything the boys need to develop into healthy well functioning adults. In addition, he has women in his family as well as a full time nanny to help him raise the boys.
If I was younger, I would do the same thing. My godson satisfied my yearnings for fatherhood. He turned out great. Highly-educated like myself and has a great job.
you pretty much said it all. thanks
Thanks for giving a man's perspective. I just divorced after 23 years. I will stay single. I stayed home with the kids and homeschooled for 13 years. No retirement money was set aside for me. What I got in property settlement isn't enough to retire on, but at least I can start over. I understand your perspective and would definitely have preferred to stay married but I just couldn't see getting old with him. I even went back to work and started my own business to continue homeschooling our child with autism. He really doesn't like me. I hope you understand. I think prenups are a good thing. I wish people would consider compatibility in sex drive and also everyone needs to understand how pregnancy changes a woman physiologically and psychologically as well.
I do have a question. Does intimacy only happen in the sex act? Women can't really turn it on and off like a light switch. We can do our "duty," but wouldn't you prefer we want it too. A mutually fulfilling experience is preferable to me anyway. My experience is having the non sexual intimacy and affection withdrawn and still be expected to put out. Not really that fun. People shouldn't get married if they aren't honestly concerned about each other's emotional wellbeing. Women aren't that complicated. Some flowers just because and telling us we are beautiful pretty regularly and date nights will get you a consistently enthusiastic sex partners. Just saying, but that's just me.
The most important sex organ is the brain. We live life from the inside out. We can make choices about our own happiness and how we choose to perceive our partners.
So you quit your marriage (because you weren't happy), and you got the house? 😅
55 never married. Never regretted it. Never will.
Every young or single man needs to see this. Thanks so much for posting!!!
One of the best explanations in a calm educational manner, this video should be in all schools, These sorta things wre never even mentioned in school during the 90's and I doubt the 80'. or even today.
Thanks
Too many guys were denied of basic thing ( snuggles) in marriage - that got to stop 🛑
The thing is this---it is easy to say there is all this negativity toward marriage----but you keep seeing these guys who are together upstairs, physically fit like this dude, have resources obviously---and they are all walking away. I live in foreign countries and ALL the expat males say the same from ALL western countries. They don't want their own women. One guy in Cambodia had rentals in Milan that gave him income--had a Kumar live in. Another dude from France--fitness trainer---Kumar live in. You keep hearing the same stories---good together dudes who keep saying the same thing. Hmmmm
No mate I'm 50yrrs old worked all over Australia met alot of people I saw this phenomenon 30yrs ago social media exposed what most men already knew marriage is dead in western countries
@@airadaimagery692poor analogy...not a worthy comparison...a radio station you can switch whenever you want....marriage is a LONG TERM financial commitment..I have seen my Dad and Mom, my older brother Greg, my sister, several freinds get divorced....it's messy...NOT like a radio station
Any logical man with options and self-respect knows that being a beta who signs untenable contracts and submits on his knee is and absurd proposition.
@@airadaimagery692 Noticing trends of this magnitude is a little beyond your radio station analogy.
My ex discarded me took everything important to me and destroyed our family. Women fully deserve what is happening.
I sense a kindred "Cold Hearted Bastard". Thanks!
@@john-griffin living after having a knife pulled outta yer back - does not make you cold hearted. we Greeks have a saying... once we burn our mouths with hot food we even blow on the refrigerated yogurt.
But nothing's happening. If nothing else this forum proves as much. Change starts within. And just for information's sake, I've undergone the same misfortune as you all. I just refuse to put all women in the same category because I've experienced a grandmother, a daughter, a grade school/ high school sweetheart and an admirer. I've also experienced the former. My advice, if it helps, is to regard all human beings as a work-in-progress as opposed to a-piece-of-work.
With all the available online material on marriage and laws ,no man today should get married. If he still does, then he deserves all the consequences that a divorce will bring him.
Stay single. Stay free, young men.
American men must be careful if they wish for a foreign wife. There are so many scams out there for that. I agree with everything you said. Take care.
Plus those countries ate entering into reciprocity contracts with usa called NATO, European Union, etc. It's 1980 in Phillipines. Don't get burned twice.
John…very good topic. I also thought of this concept being the contract..where there is a standard timeframe, say 20 years…then a new renewal term is set, say for a further option of 2-5 years. At that point again it is renewed or terminated. Like a commercial lease…after all, are we not just leasing these women anyway?
Marriage is contract, divorce is termination of marriage contract and not divorcing is keeping marriage contract active. Why tf anybody needs to "renew" it after every few months as you suggest it? Sounds like scam business to fill the pockets of some and waste other peoples time just because some men are cowards who can't do anything in their life without someone else making them to do it. If you want to divorce, Steve, just do it! You don't need to be coward who "forgets" to renew marriage to get out of marriage you hate so much although I think you are not even married. Without children there is not much reason for women to marry men or even live with men but if there is children involved they need stronger family than something what could be forgotten to be renewed or not done because financial reasons at the moment or forbidden by big brother because you don't have up to date booster.
@@rengurengeah, yes... of course this comment comes from a woman. Its always the same garbage: "men are cowards!" Terrible shaming tactics. You are going to be lonely