The Single Parent Household Created Masculine Women & Feminine Men
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- Опубліковано 5 жов 2024
- The single-parent household led by mothers has caused our children to be in a reverse state. The boys act like their mothers, and the girls act like men.
Speaking as a black man who was raised by a single mother, Phil is correct. I wish that I could have been raised with my father in the home because not having him there damaged my growth as a man. But I’m thankful that The Lord Jesus Christ saved me when I was young and that I’ve had a HEAVENLY FATHER to raise me. Thank you Jesus.
The SBF household has destroyed the in the city, with nothing but Welfare kids with not structure,no father's for discipline, all they do is destroy everything, all this crime comes from SBF households.End of story.
Hallelujah!!!!
Amen 🙏
Appreciate the honesty!
@@Maxx-mw2zt Thank you.
Teachers see it daily. I had a sister and brother in my classroom during different periods. The boy was docile and the girl was more assertive. I dated a woman with a son. I worked with him but he was still feminine. Son Husband
preach! I’m a teacher and I seen it 5 days a week! boys wearing purses & defending it and girls sagging and being masculine! I had to let em know in my class, dudes don’t whine, cry, or wear purses! Girls won’t sag, nag, or talk crazy to the boys!
Coddled her son and tough on the daughter... See that all the time now.
My dad taught me and my brother about working when we were 7 and 5. On Saturdays during the fall, my dad would help my grandfather chop wood to get ready for winter. They would chop the wood up into small blocks about 18 inches long so they would fit into a heater stove. Me and my brother would load and unload the trailer with the wood blocks.This was back in1988. I'm 43 now, and my brother is 41. My younger relatives look at us like we're crazy when we talk about it.
That's peak masculine bonding time. I would have loved to have that experience for me and my brother growing up. People who thought you were crazy are soft and it shows why they thought you were crazy.😂
They wanna be there momma! True indeed brother Phil. That's why its important to have a father in the household. To teach a boy how to be a man.
Sorry, But majority of black women in this country are not listening to you or anyone.
BLACK MEN WHY YA NOT IN YA SONS LIVES. GO GET YOUR SON STOP BLAMING WOMEN GO GET YA SONS. simple concept all ya do is COMPLAIN
I think the mothers relationship with her daughters becomes antagonistic after a certain age. They begin to resent their daughters because they represent the youth the mother no longer has. That's why the become "hard" on their daughters. As for the sons, they literally have nothing else to offer him other than a mothers love. A woman can't turn a boy into a man. She literally has no idea on how that is to be accomplished.
Only a jealous mother would be jealous of her daughters or daughter.
I agree!
@@latoyathomas9640 Thx !
Here comes the "you just dont like Bw" crowd somewhere in the chat again 😂..but again many sistas have covered this issue , so dont blame Bm
It’s simple masculine and masculine repels each other but masculine and feminine energy attracts and compliments one another
The people from that crowd are low-key WHITE SUPREMACISTS I would say, Regardless of whether they're black or white.
i blame white men because i only seen white bois raised like this while they allow it
Real spill i make sure my sons know what a real man is keeping masculinity going down my lineage
Whyte ppl don't like that they try to separate black folk especially when they see that the world doing it go talk to a bw as a BM watch her act weird even more weird when whyte ppl around they have a slavery mindset the men and women to the point there is no masculinity any form they see anywhere they wanna get rid of it go see what I'm talking about as a BM go experiment
Its easy to tell a woman to be "hard" on her son, but women are not programmed for such a task, because they're not meant to. In the concept of straight relationships;
A mother's role is to raise her daughter, but nurture her son
A father's role is to raise his son, but nurture his daughter
A woman can't be hard on a boy, because she doesn't understand what it takes to turn a boy into a man. She's not one, she'll never experience it, nor will she ever understand it. That's why women need men just the same as men need women. We come from two completely different mindsets with different expectations. You can't expect a fish to teach a bird to breathe under water no more than a bird can teach a fish how to fy through the air.
There is a generation of 'Son-Husbands,' where women, knowingly or unknowingly, raise men to be subservient and compliant, often in spite of the father's influence. I realized this through extensive counseling with both female and male counselors, which helped me unpack my upbringing. On the other hand, mothers can harbor resentment towards their daughters who have surpassed them in life achievements, leading to envy and conflict between them.
I strongly recommend the book "Attached" by Amir Levine. This book, along with comprehensive counseling, freed me mentally, emotionally, and physically from my mother's influence, and I hope it offers the same liberation to others.
Some mothers also raise their sons to be the man they always wanted but never got. Which often isn't a realistic man and pure fantasy that often leads to the man them growing up to be the man women hate. Like you said they teach them to be servants and when these boys get older, start dating and being around other women they realize everything their mother has taught them was all a lie and creates some sort of fracture in their identity. Either they will be a doormat or they'll be womanizers. Some actually come out okay but it's not that often. We really need to start raising our sons knowing their worths the way we do our daughters. If the girls have a right to have boundaries and expectations why can't our sons?
I blame several things including black men and women, and the system of white supremacy 😢
okay Umar 🙄
These things are also happening in all the other communities as well. Only the top 1 percent of the population maintain the traditional family and push the alphabet lifestyle on the rest of the population. This makes the majority easier to control and they won’t rebel against the elites.
Everything starts in a structured household with a strong Male leadership, it's obvious in the black community how black men have become more feminine, black women are loud and disrespectful, but Black women don't need men, What a joke.
White supremacy has absolutely nothing to do with the problems in the black community. As long as black women continue to have kids out of wedlock at a 70% rate, the black community will never leave the bottom of the economic class.
Exactly l
I was raised by a single mother, and I appreciate all the things she did for me, but it took years on my own to handle issues with less emotion. I recently had that discussion with some childhood friends who were raised under the same circumstances. They too get emotionally triggered. Some still struggle with that today. If a young male has his father in the household, he should be taught to handle problems from a place of logic, not emotion. That’s why a lot of emotionally-triggered males end up in jail or prison.
When you angry .....you supposed to frown
@@robertmarley8852 But not kill.
Phil is exactly correct! I thank God for my grandfather for being a father figure in my life
Like one of my mentors and teachers told me it's a classic case of single mom's loving their sons ... but raising their daughters! I asked them for an example and main one was the Mom coddling their sons! Another example was the boy not having the same responsibilities as the girl. He might get up from the dinner table and leave his plate. He might not even take the trash outside while the girls clean up the table after him
True my man! I see it everyday!. The way men handle themselves in a social environment. U can tell he had very limited masculinity around him growing up.
Some of us weren’t coddled. Some of us were just left to sink or swim.
This! And I love to swim that's how I grew up. Even if you get tired, you'll learn to float until you get the energy to swim again.
Gen x pretty much were all raised this way ,we had to learn about everything the hard way
@@DemetriT1i doubt you got the drift of what the comment was about .
Oh I understood. I just gave my response to the sink or swim in life analogy.
My son wants to be outside more than inside the house.
Willie L. Letter said this centuries ago! Too bad the letter was 💯 accurate on every point!
Yo son, you on to something...
Donna Farrakhan: Breaking Of The Black Woman 1/3 said just this....
Donna talked about the Willie Lynch letter, something I have never heard of it...
Read the letter; it breaks it all down! This was all foretold in 1712!
1,000% SOCIAL ENGINEERING!!!!
@@freddy8479yes it was!
1000% facts, my brother.
All of this was by DESIGN!!!!
People have choices.
@@Maxx-mw2zt
Yup all about choices.
And people fell for it
And bw fell for it. They got in bed with the government and kicked the men out the homes. They evolved into strong independent black women and the black men were being incarcerated at an extremely high rate. Now the women are wanting their sons to mimic them. Look at the damaged product now. Our women are masculine, combative and out of control and the boys are feminine, gay and trans. White America did a number on us and its irreversible. I give us another 1000 yrs. We will become extinct in America.
yep its exactly what this country was founded on
The damage is irreversible the Gen Z cats are gone.
Yep.
There are consequences for having children out of wedlock!!
Not always
@@alpaphoenix3252 WRONG!!😑 the consequences of having bastard/illegitimate kids are ALWAYS severe!! There is no upside in it!!
there are consequences to having children in wedlock too
A bastard shall not enter into the congregation of the LORD; even to his tenth generation shall he not enter into the congregation of the LORD.- Deuteronomy 23:2
For the word of the LORD is right; and all his works are done in truth - Psalm 33:4
He that is of God heareth God's words: ye therefore hear them not, because ye are not of God.John 8:48-49
I have a friend who’s son is turning 6 in a few months she’s been asking his father to take him so he can learn from him as he gets older. He refuses it’s not always the women some men don’t what the child full time
majority of courts give joint custody. the dads that say they aren't allowed to see their kids are lying. majority dont want the responsibility. my son is 8 and has no memory of his dad even though he has joint custody
Not just coddling but I see this often, toxic behavior beating on the son as if he the baby daddy yall mad at
Exactly my sister does that to her son and that's a serious issue that needs to be addressed
then maybe baby daddy shoud've stuck around
That is another one! That is emotional incest.
@@up-uw4op?? or maybe the mother shouldn't physically and verbally assault the child at all whether the dad is around or not
Only way these issues get addressed and solved is if a large portion of us come together somehow and deal with them.
THIS has been going on for generations, especially in the Caribbean
There's a scene in the movie roots where the men took the boys away from their mothers to do a rights of passage into man hood, alot of people don't even remember that scene.
ASE! Thank you Uncle Phil for this highly informative video! AMEN-ASE!
That's why I'm glad to have been raised by both parents...moreso my father than mother. And I'm glad I co-parented my son to be a man as well. I stayed fiercely protective of my daughters as well. He is now thriving, out of the house, and making his own power moves since he moved away from me. My dad was hard on me and my brothers. And in turn, I had to be hard on my son at certain times. The dads are VERY necessary in the homes. I don't care what this society or what this world thinks.
I know your gonna hit some nerves with that video😂
It's long overdue. We must realize we have some serious issues in our community with no fault but our own. People have choices.
It’s true! Our single mommas are 10X harder on us than our brothers! We’re raised to be tough but our brothers are babied and grow up momma’s boys!
My mother and grandmother were SO mean to me growing up. I remember my mother telling me that holding hands and or kisses from her were considered gay and not appropriate. I couldn’t cry or anything that involved expressing myself. They essentially taught me how to “suck it up” and not cry about ANYTHING. When I became an adult I was a total mess and didn’t know how to handle my emotions because all I knew how to do was bottle them up.
At this point it’s a done deal. The women were complicit. Maybe it’ll change in a few generations
My mom was masculine but my Faith in God got to understand his purpose for man and woman. That’s the only thing that kept me going on that path
the sooner men start stepping up and stop abandoning their kids the sooner things will change
Doubt it. IT'S DOWN BAD.
@@up-uw4op 🗣️🗣️🗣️say it again for the ones in the back. People somehow glide over this.
I was raised by my mother and father my father taught me how to do construction work he taught me how to cut the grass how to change my tire everything a woman cannot show me none of that
If Black men (supposedly) have been "coddled" by their mothers for generations, where are they going to find good Black male role models? Haven't the male role models also been tampered with by their mothers and other elder females?
I know. It's a mixed bag. That's why I used to watch old school cartoons with masculine characters to fill in what to model after.
@@DemetriT1so what now u have a unrealistic depiction of manhood? U couldn't study none of the writings of the great black revolutionaries? IJS
they're going to have to start having morals and be leaders
No. Some women coddled.
I'm glad the sister is waking up
Buddy is sweeter than the sweetest honeycomb trying to disagree with facts
Who you talking about?
I completely agree to this! It’s a setup for failure.
As a daughter, i couldn't understand it growing up why my bio mother wanted to fight me, be mean to me, and unloving, but ny brothers she babied them😊
I'm grateful that I had a tough mom growing up. My father wasn't around but she understood that boys have to grow up to be Men. That's how she was raised by my grandparents and my uncles when they were growing up. She taught me to be independent and strong. I did have a lot of influence from my uncles, teachers, coaches, and masculine characters in cartoons for me and my brother.
Her voice says it all. She is trying to be masculine
you must need hearing aids
I worked with a guy no dad! He was very emotional and silly as women are! But wanted to get violent for nothing! Recipe for disaster!! 😩🤦♂️
there arent too many women that get violent for nothing. thats the result of his dad teaching him zero respect
I see strong Independent women struggling you can see it in their eyes they tired in this day in time, young men today most cant survive on they own they are weak, single women parenting is not good but i understand its not by choice for some women.
This video brings up some really interesting points about how family dynamics can shape our behaviors and roles. It's fascinating to think about how being raised in a single-parent household might influence a person's development and personality traits. The idea that women might take on more traditionally masculine roles and men more feminine ones in such households is definitely something worth discussing. Thanks for shedding light on this topic!
It’s not up for discussion. Just correction
@@curtiswatkins8474 Got it, thanks for clarifying! I appreciate the correction
I just sent my dad this. This is my life.
They're calling it a "murse" now?!? Are you serious?!?
😂😂😂
Mothers are jealous of their daughters and love their sona.
I think the woman speaking plays a nurse on the Kountry Wayne skits
This is true my mom was tough on me and my little brother got everything! A car, job with my dad and they turned the garage into an apartment for him!!!
It's tough for single mothers to be hard on their boys because as soon as the boy reaches puberty, she can no longer discipline him physically, that where the father ought to step in if he was around. With their daughters, they still have physical control.
yea right my 10 yr old daughter is 100 lb. i cant do anything with her. thankfully she has amazing behavior
She enmeshed her sons and rushed her daughters to adulthood. This is typical in black America today, and it does create hard women and soft men.
You can’t put the toothpaste back in the tube. Its FUBAR at this point and all you can do is control your own personal actions and not contribute to the dysfunction.
Purses, painted finger nails and BONNETS neee to stop for these dudes... WTF...🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️
TBH…even if she’s telling the truth, she’s part of the problem and the damage has already been done to her own kids, by her admission.
Hi Phil question with 40-50 black American, living in the richest and most powerful country in the world, with a spending power of 2 trillion, with lots of black millionaires and billionaires, why don’t you have a Conglomerate of engineers and architects and trade people, to go to the Islands and Africa to build roads, bridges, airports, and hospitals, and schools.?
When my Father was in the house myself along with my siblings were competitive, once he was removed from the house the was no more competing with the World.
DAMN SHAME you have a lot of young Men out here that can't even do a simple tune-up or oil change on a vehicle.
All done by design
Oh these black women not gone like this! They hate taking Responsibility
the men need to step up and be dads
What a delusional statement… “women hate taking responsibility”… more than 90% of single parent households are women led. If that’s not being RESPONSIBLE, I don’t know what is! Tell these men who have abandoned their children to be apart of their children’s lives!!! Remember, they are the ones who say, “I want you to have my baby”. Okay, now the baby is here and has grown into a child. Dad where are you?? Dad I need you.
Bruh father's do exactly that. Father's cuddle there daughters and tough on there sons. Nothing wrong with being tough on son's,but toughen up the daughters to.
Lol, in my family, both sexes had to be independent. And yes, my grandfather, uncles, and stepdad all told me to have my own and never depend on anyone, men included. Hence why I worked hard to take care of myself. My husband of 13 years has never had a problem with it. We both pay bills, cook, clean, and take care of our kids. He's not afraid of a woman who doesn't need a leader. That's for insecure boys. 😂
She talking about she believe in the structure of God and the man being the one she submit to, but couldn't do it in real life. Get these chameleons outta here 💪🏽
because there arent men for her to submi to
Nothing worse than a daddy’s girl
100%!!
ASA OR SHALOM FAMILY :
Well said and well done , couldn’t have said it better myself .
ASA OR SHALOM FAMILY :
This is why my 48 yr old jailbird brother keeps going back home when he gets out of prison. Our mother was a single mom while our dad was in prison and she coddled my brother and tolerated his criminal behavior.Meanwhile, I’m the only one who graduated h.s and college and I work in healthcare. My mother treats my brother like he can do no wrong. Recently, This dude got mad at me bc I asked him one too many questions, he threw a tantrum (in my car) and demanded that I take him back to our parents. I told him he’s not going to speak to me like that and think he can still ride in my car so walk home. He calls our mom as he walks back. I get to the house and my parents ask me why am I being mean to my brother. This man got irate and yelled at me because I asked him a question abt something I was unsure of instead of just listening to him. But I’m the mean one. When he finally gets home he tells me don’t talk to him and don’t even say his name and insults me. The sad part is that he thinks he’s a real man and a catch. Lol.
Damn... that has got to be frustrating to see and deal with... 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Facts.
That’s normal behavior for the mother to coddle her son. Same as how men do it for their daughters. It’s just different in the single parent household because you don’t have the other parent to balance that out. But this is just the way it’s going to be until we’re able to get that family dynamic back into the community
Yes, please don't coddle the sons. I never understood why some women do that.
Nurse Amanda???? Kountry Wayne series???
Yeah that does look like her🙂
You have some women wouod srgue back and forth with the father when tell her to stop babying her son.
This is not a phenomenon from the result of single parenting. This is a generational phenomenon partly due the way we educate our children, cultural and societal shifts in gender roles which started during the 1970’s. Boys have been getting neglected by society for decades to level the playing field of girls in education, sports, careers and entertainment therefore the girl power movement was born, which was fine, but boys were completely ignored because the theory was the boys would be okay which was not the case. They just took a back seat and begin to naturally evolve to become more feminine emotionally, and physically. Girls became more naturally masculine physically and emotionally. I also believe the other part is environmental and due to the all ultra processed foods we are feeding our children. I recently read an article that men have lower sperm counts now than in the previous generations. Women are experiencing infertility at record rates. If this continues the human race will be eventually become extinct.
My baby mommas turning my sons against me already.
There are consequences for putting forth and bringing forth children out of wedlock!!
Should have chosen better
you should've made better choices and not allowed that to happen.
@@darnellrhodes6174 what does wedlock have to do with it
@@IceburgPimp Everything!! It goes against God’s natural order for mankind!!
The Fanny pack turns into a Funny pack
Simple she can’t keep no man. Her son closest thing to that. The love and nurturing she cant bestow to a man in a relationship she does to the son. That’s why they always wanna be “the friend” and not a parent
The State systematically attacked black families and as a result our social bonds have been broken which is the cause of what we are seeing so this needs to be mentioned. Also the hierarchical realism that continues to be an issue within black communities in regard to this notion of “the natural order of things” is ridiculous in its own right. Here is a reading recommendation from The Anarchist Library: Childhood and the Psychological Dimension of Revolution by Ashanti Alston.
Nope people make choices to lay down with dead beats and procreate. Can't blame anyone but the one in the mirror.
Give the children to the fathers who want to be fully involved. Problem solved. To bad the ego of XXs won't allow that to happen.
most courts do automatic joint custody but very few dads actually want the responsiblity.
A lot of moms do that, then the women have to deal/avoid their sons. One of my exes didn’t know how to wash his clothes till he was 18 or mow the lawn. His mom babied him. lol
No sir! The amount of parents in a home doesn't determine femininity or masculinity...there are plenty of kids with both parents that's suspect to...the problem is society... telling kids they can be whatever they want to be... encouraging gayism...and if the parent or parents don't accept the gay..they immediately are labeled as non supportive...its not the single parents...its just this sensitive ass society that we live in today
Long fingernails and arches eyebrows NOT ALLOWED
Glad im gen x .
Wow 😳😲
The talking points sound good what are you doing to change it besides being a arm chair revolutionist
And it’s no to Phil it’s to the men wear condoms
This Sister is 100% right
Thanks my parents my mom couldn't handle us sons my pops was always there and discipline too I stayed getting kicked out the house and leaving on my own time I still have parents who cares meaning if I wanted to go back and start over I can go stay with my parents or siblings my family is thst close and if they see that you're trying we'll help each other if I was not doing handling my business I wouldn't dare to contact my family so basically I take accountability for my actions instead of running away from it and having my hand out
Let's make one thing straight just because a man was raised by a single mom dosent makes him feminine
So what is the solution since the fathers are absent?
Abandon ship…too far gone now…
I don't believe the narrative that she is saying maybe to a small point, but most men knows from a certain age they have to fight for themselves the problem with most women today is they turn this feminist b and men decided to stand up and they fiind that they are being ignored so it becomes a problem to them allegedly 😂😂
Because they're jealous of their daughters.
Alright, as a guy I must know:
What's wrong with carrying a "murse" or whatever you call it? I've been carrying a pouch for a few years the same way as a purse and the main reason is that it's far less likely that I'll forget it or that I won't notice coins or cash falling out if I forget to zip it. I've always hated carrying wallets because of how easy it is to lose them or the content inside. Am I considered less manly for simply choosing the safest way to carry around my cash, cards, and on occasion other important paraphernalia?
Never heard of a murse and had to google it. I remember that was a thing briefly in the 70s but haven’t see it since.
Always thought it was a metrosexual style.
I just carry a simple small RFID blocking wallet that’s only large enough for my two credit card,debit card, ID’s and a folded $20 bill. I always wear pants with extra pockets like tactical/BDU and similar and keep wallet in front pocket.(got in the habit of using front pockets since traveling to over 60 countries)
Keep coins in the car for toll or car wash but don’t carry them around.
Have a collection of backpacks and daypacks for travel.
If I need to carry things like important papers,snacks/water,iPad,etc. I grab my daypack.
You want to raise them to be human doings and not human beings. To be John Henry. He works himself to death and that’s his life. What are you teaching your daughter about how to submit, obey, and follow a man? This is that same old, “She’s a princess, he’s there to worship her,” BS.
Yes
You gotta take the boys away from their mothers
Why should boys be taken away from there mother's when she's the mother ?
@@cierra9520you don’t understand
@steadmoney3431 It's not that I don't understand I was asking a question why should a son be taken away from his mother if she is the mother from the context of his statement but since you have the answer to the question I ask let me know
no the dads just need to responsible and help raise them and teach them life skills
@@up-uw4op The women are incapable of raising the boys on their own because they're incapable of choosing men who can support them
What IS Her Name
Boyz 2 Men is not a daycare
I remember men used to wear clear nails polish I'm not sure if that's feminine or not but women usually improvise when there is no man. They have brothers, uncles, pastors,ect. Don't get me wrong it's no substitute but still. Most men I know arent feminine. I guess this is something new with the latest generation but it needs to stop.
I didn't raise my son that way
somebody asked me today about Juneteenth and I told them Juneteenth means nothing to me with all the reparation check because that is setting a slave free without nothing what good is that going to do the slave here in America🎉
*White Man received reparations. THEY DON'T TEACH THAT.*
WS fault
I disagree
I totally agree.