1:41:27 I did the same. Took sex off the menu. I grew closer to God and grew to know myself. 1 year later I met my husband. We were married 2 years from the day we met. God is good and He is faithful when we submit and surrender it ALL to Him.
I loved this woman speaking truth! Do it Gods way or you will be left on the highway all alone. Character and integrity is what im looking for. I will not settle anymore! Lord Jesus! Let my people go!
@@angelotorres4936it’s funny how yall can separate males that do bad things from women and say that the women shouldn’t have been dating them. But the moment you run into a bad women it’s suddenly all women this or women need to take accountability but you never separate those women and say the males should have chose better
This woman means business and I love her for it! This is that living word that is sharper than a double edged sword piercing the soul. The hard hitting truth is needed in this world full of foolishness. Talk to them Tara! I can't even give her the credit, she is just a vessel communicating the standards and ways of God. Thank you for being bold enough to speak God's truth.
Yes I told a guy I just recently got baptize. He said basically insinuated that my pool for a husband is not going to be really small. Wow it’s crazy in these street. I am glad it will be small because I want a certain kind of man. A biblical man!
My favorite guest so far! Just bought her book and the dating cards. I evicted the jezebel spirit this year and see a vast change in my life and the men I attract because my energy has shifted. It's true what she says, it's different when you abstain because you have. a RELATIONSHIP with God instead of just following the rules.
I agree with Tara’s declaration of a mass maturation that will bring about an influx of Godly marriages that raise up Godly children and heal our communities!!! 🙌🏾🙏🏾
Blessed! She is speaking facts!! So many of us psychotherapists and coaches hear the carnage people are going through in our offices. When you lead with sex and ignore red flags 🚩 the outcomes are heartbreaking. Getting the wisdom out to help these young men and women are necessary. Praise God 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
I love that she said the men of women lives are not covering them. Men need to talk to men more and hold them accountable for their decisions. Its a community effort.
I’m 41 minutes in and this lady is spitting straight 🔥. Big shout out to her! I can remember being in a 5 year relationship from college and EVERYBODY around us continuously asked me when we were getting married as if I was the one that was going to propose to him. No one asked him. No one held him accountable. So glad God has delivered me from that and situations like it. I’ve operated in jezebel spirit and have fallen for men with the same spirit. It’s DESTRUCTIVE to the soul. Abstinence/sexual purity is where I am until my husband comes. I’m committed to Christ which is the only way to be🙌🏾
Blessed!! The Bible is very relatable. That’s why it’s the living word. It will forever live on. People are people! There is literally nothing new under sun… literally! Again, people are people!
This lady truly has an anointing on her life. You don't have to be a minister to have that and this lady has so much class and discernment that you can't help but to listen when she talks and she is definitely dropping gems to put in your back pocket. So refreshing to hear someone at such a young age. Speak with so much wisdom. So many times people run away from people that talk like her when they really need to listen because it can help you to do better in your life. Thanks to these brothers for having such great content on their podcast and I was truly blessed by this segment
Sooo blessed. Tara is so brutally honest, and that's exactly what I needed to hear. Already initiated into some tough decisions I'll be voicing for sure.
She reminds me of Pastor Stephen Darby’s wife but she cuts just like Pastor Darby himself. Keep on with the punches mama. Need more speakers like her on this show.
I truly love your honesty we need that I’m teaching my daughters what I learned and been through. These types of podcasts are great for this generation. HI ❤
BLESSED PLEASE BRING HER BACK What a powerful message This is what is needed for real change and growth Congratulations to Tashawn and Ryan for this powerful platform You are making a significant difference in many lives around the world
There are a lot of good actors out here pretending to be the full package and will lie, deceive and manipulate to get what they want in the present. Some are more susceptible to this because of trauma and past abuse too. I don’t sleep around, I’m sober and celibate and people still playing a fool’s game whilst pretending they are a King/Queen. Sometimes you can be doing everything right and end up with dusty people. Abusive people are professionals at deceiving, manipulation and lying. I know many good people who have ended up in situations like this and are good hearted. Sometimes it’s more complicated, there are some nasty people out here.
My girl Nailed on the head!!! Men are not looking for a Christian woman, I've spoken to a few and once the conversation turns to God and things of a deeper nature they out wit the quickness...some try to stick around to see if it's a front but when they realize it's not, they move on. I've seen it as God's covering and protection 🙏🏾
But the same women expect men to spend money on them the entire time lol y’all are funny. If men wasn’t spending money, he can be god fearing all he want, no woman will would date him so stop it. lol
@kingleyo9277 unfortunately, that's an assumption. I can only speak for myself, and it's not about spending money on me. If there is a mutual interest, both should be able to spend on each other or come to an understanding of going Dutch. I honestly believe that when money and sex aren't involved, you get to see the true character of someone and actually know if you enjoy their company. Just my little ol' thoughts
@@MissMoeGodschild I agree totally about removing money and sex to find the true character. Money and sex are both seductive tools used by the jezebel spirit to corrupt.
This hit the NAIL . I am 27 husband is 34 and I recently initiated a separation due to my husband's lack of motivation providing always getting fired gaslighting me calling me his mom and more. What really did it we had to move from FL to VA due to him getting fired again and I couldn't hold it all together myself even when i worked 55 hours weekly. He is not with me and our toddler but I feel a huge weight off my shoulders . I don't have to worry about a whole other adult anymore. I start my old job back next week even more pay got benefits for me and our son and looking to get my own apartment in 6 months or so. He is around our son ofcourse I want my family but i look back when I was 21 when we first meet . The day he told his mom he was moving out she told me he wasn't ready to move out when he was 27! I was so native and didn't know better . Don't get me wrong we had so many good memories and we share a handsome son but now I need to take control of my life again . Just thought being with a older men was best . He is 34 btw
Going through a similar thing with a man 15 years old than me. It breaks my heart to break up my family but being a married single mom is too much pressure. I've waited for 13 years for him to begin to atleast meet me halfway but I'm finally coming to understanding he's incapable. I love very much still but it's too draining. Definitely take your life back while you're young.
I had to come back at look at this over in tears her delivery was stern but she was so right we fall into traps due to low self worth and confidence and not trusting but not knowing how to trust anybody and not being nurtured so you search for the wrong things . I see so much clearer walking away from my last relationship and being abstinent .
I think sometimes people make things harder than they are. Know what you want. When you meet some that you are interested in; pay attention both words and behavior. It may take a little while (and a variation of circumstances) to truly see who a person is. And always remember to move at your own pace. Don’t let anyone make you feel like you have to do something that doesn’t feel right within.
Kenya- darling when I heard you discuss your experience, I literally tested up because no one should have to go through that betray from family and someone you considered your partner. I hope you find love, healing and the peace of God that surpasses all understanding. It hits close to home because while my sister has never betrayed me like that she has also made it her life’s mission to break me down, ruin my reputation etc simply because I don’t behave the way she does and I look after my family including my siblings and my mother. So I understand the betray and I pray that you continue to find your joy in the Lord 🤍🤍🤍
48:53 Yep! Many of us watched those shows regularly (still watch some) and never once considered the “programming” the conditioning of our subconscious.
Bring her back! She's unbais, straightforward, and knows her word and is not preaching or professing to be a pastor or all science she is spiritual aligned ! So much i can resonate with my spirit is stirred! I sure can use her event sadly its out of budget Can seducee vs. seducee form trauma bonds and cause more turmoil ?
Tara 🙏🏼 married since 1997 and thank GOD we matured, grew and built history together It took me some time to APPRECIATE a good man and I’m so blessed to be in a relationship that feels like GOOD HEALTH thanking GOD
Yes ma'am! 👏🏽👏🏽This was a great podcast!! As a married woman of 20+ years, I concur with EVERYTHING this woman shared. It was a great discussion for both men and women. Keep up the amazing work guys! 😊👍🏼
This has been so eye opening for me! I ordered the book and I’m looking forward to reading it! Thank you all for the amazing information and conversation on this platform.😊
This woman is the TRUTH. She speaks in sound biblically based counsel. Regardless of where you are in your journey, she guides us to an opportunity for introspection. Thank you for bringing her back Ty and Ryan! #Blessed
Bring her back!!! Over and over again. She is changing thought processes and saving souls. Thank you for bringing her back to address this topic in detail.
Blest, I've never seen your podcast a day in my life, and this was the first one I've ever seen, and I loved it. ❤❤ I have already shared this video 4 times.
Listen I watched this episode from beginning to end and this beautiful,educated woman of GOD spoke to me in a way that I get it. Definitely bring her back. Loved it!!!
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Your BEST guest!
Not one lie told and she did not stutter!
We need more women like this 👏🏾
Facts!! This is a true woman who cares about lifting women up the right way. God bless her
Period!!
I stand in agreement!
Maam, when are you going to sit at the table? @BreenyLee
I second that!!
1:41:27
I did the same.
Took sex off the menu.
I grew closer to God and grew to know myself.
1 year later I met my husband.
We were married 2 years from the day we met.
God is good and He is faithful when we submit and surrender it ALL to Him.
You go girl!!!
So you waited 2 years to have sex?...seems like a long time?
@@proph2008sex is not that deep
@@joycewatt8289 amen! I did the same! God sustains you in peace during that time. Glory to God.
@@proph2008it flies by.
That spirit of rejection got most of us in a choke hold you hear me 😩😩😩
That spirit is the biggest root of most people's problems even more than Jezebel.
Rejection is big!
Nailed it. The Spirit of Rejection is over the World and hits hard in the U.S.
Been there
Facts!!
I loved this woman speaking truth! Do it Gods way or you will be left on the highway all alone. Character and integrity is what im looking for. I will not settle anymore! Lord Jesus! Let my people go!
True that ☝️
Amén
O brother let the Christian prison go lol
Exactly…there’s no way around it
If only finding a spouse who has the same morals and principles were easy.
Please have her back she speaks on what a lot of ppl are afraid to talk about.
I got married at19 and my husband was 18, it’s been 34 years now and 5 blessed daughters!
Praise God, lots of work!
Marriage Works and it is WORK!
When tara get that look in her eye!!! She is not playing with none of us! I love her 😂😂
She's a bold woman who keeps it real. I even read her book even though it was for women 😜
😂 i just seen the look
Even if you win him, he’s not a prize! Powerful
#AbsolutelyTrue
Some men don’t want to cover, they want to get you in the COVERS!!
The men want TO BE COVERED....that's why she's paying his cellphone bill,driving her car, living in her house.
If you choose those types of men then whose fault is it really? Because alot of women go for those types of dudes.
Now this is a Bar 😂…no but that’s real
@@angelotorres4936it’s funny how yall can separate males that do bad things from women and say that the women shouldn’t have been dating them. But the moment you run into a bad women it’s suddenly all women this or women need to take accountability but you never separate those women and say the males should have chose better
LoL
“Your spouse cannot give you permission to sin against God” WOWWWW
Yep, just like Eve in the garden of Eden!
I pray for a circle of like minded women who help each other by holding them accountable according to the Godly standards..
Yes!!!!
Amen 🙏🏾
Let's start a sisters group??? I'm down.
@@ms.jordan5634 I’m down I need this
Ameen !
This woman means business and I love her for it! This is that living word that is sharper than a double edged sword piercing the soul. The hard hitting truth is needed in this world full of foolishness. Talk to them Tara! I can't even give her the credit, she is just a vessel communicating the standards and ways of God. Thank you for being bold enough to speak God's truth.
Yes I told a guy I just recently got baptize. He said basically insinuated that my pool for a husband is not going to be really small. Wow it’s crazy in these street. I am glad it will be small because I want a certain kind of man. A biblical man!
Amen!!!!
Be grateful he was honest with you! Move accordingly and continue to save your for your husband.
Amen!!! His loss
My favorite guest so far! Just bought her book and the dating cards. I evicted the jezebel spirit this year and see a vast change in my life and the men I attract because my energy has shifted. It's true what she says, it's different when you abstain because you have. a RELATIONSHIP with God instead of just following the rules.
Bring TARA back!
This lady is a gem used by God! So blessed by this and the truth shall set you free 🔥
This was a blessing to hear. More real christian should cry loud and not be afraid of the voice of the Lord. Thank you women of God
There have been some FANTASTIC conversations recently, but THIS RIGHT HERE.........the BEST to me thus far!!!
She said nothing but the truth‼️
I agree with Tara’s declaration of a mass maturation that will bring about an influx of Godly marriages that raise up Godly children and heal our communities!!! 🙌🏾🙏🏾
Blessed! She is speaking facts!! So many of us psychotherapists and coaches hear the carnage people are going through in our offices. When you lead with sex and ignore red flags 🚩 the outcomes are heartbreaking. Getting the wisdom out to help these young men and women are necessary. Praise God 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
I love that she said the men of women lives are not covering them. Men need to talk to men more and hold them accountable for their decisions. Its a community effort.
I’m 41 minutes in and this lady is spitting straight 🔥. Big shout out to her!
I can remember being in a 5 year relationship from college and EVERYBODY around us continuously asked me when we were getting married as if I was the one that was going to propose to him. No one asked him. No one held him accountable. So glad God has delivered me from that and situations like it. I’ve operated in jezebel spirit and have fallen for men with the same spirit. It’s DESTRUCTIVE to the soul.
Abstinence/sexual purity is where I am until my husband comes. I’m committed to Christ which is the only way to be🙌🏾
I think this is the first episode that literally has me in tears… truth is powerfully and hurts. Great episode
Blessed!! The Bible is very relatable. That’s why it’s the living word. It will forever live on. People are people! There is literally nothing new under sun… literally! Again, people are people!
This lady truly has an anointing on her life. You don't have to be a minister to have that and this lady has so much class and discernment that you can't help but to listen when she talks and she is definitely dropping gems to put in your back pocket. So refreshing to hear someone at such a young age. Speak with so much wisdom. So many times people run away from people that talk like her when they really need to listen because it can help you to do better in your life. Thanks to these brothers for having such great content on their podcast and I was truly blessed by this segment
Sooo blessed. Tara is so brutally honest, and that's exactly what I needed to hear. Already initiated into some tough decisions I'll be voicing for sure.
She reminds me of Pastor Stephen Darby’s wife but she cuts just like Pastor Darby himself. Keep on with the punches mama. Need more speakers like her on this show.
This!!!!
They should bring Mrs. Darby on here. #respect
I truly love your honesty we need that I’m teaching my daughters what I learned and been through. These types of podcasts are great for this generation. HI ❤
"Is this man grown like you?" took me out LOL
AS A 21 YEAR OLD, I AM BLESSEDDDDD TO SEE THIS!
PLEASE be encouraged and stand on your square!!!!
BLESSED PLEASE BRING HER BACK What a powerful message This is what is needed for real change and growth Congratulations to Tashawn and Ryan for this powerful platform You are making a significant difference in many lives around the world
I just realized that Tara has a similar voice inflection as Tabitha Brown.
Yes, I agree
I thought the same.
Yes she does.
I thought the same
I was thinking the same thing
Y'all have the best shows when she is there. Her 2 are honestly my favorite. 👏🏾
There are a lot of good actors out here pretending to be the full package and will lie, deceive and manipulate to get what they want in the present. Some are more susceptible to this because of trauma and past abuse too. I don’t sleep around, I’m sober and celibate and people still playing a fool’s game whilst pretending they are a King/Queen. Sometimes you can be doing everything right and end up with dusty people. Abusive people are professionals at deceiving, manipulation and lying. I know many good people who have ended up in situations like this and are good hearted. Sometimes it’s more complicated, there are some nasty people out here.
Yep. Even Jesus said that it rains on the good & the wicked.
Yea probably only women right lol because god knows women don’t do no wrong right.
This is my first time watching Hardly Initiated and I am so glad I clicked on this particular replay because Mrs. Tara most definitely BLESSED ME!!!!
He words give me chills only because this is what I've been telling folks for the longest. She's a truth teller.
Keep speaking truth!!
Yes. She's not saying anything new but it hits because it's the truth.
Phenomenal Conversation. I absolutely LOVE Tara. She is such a blessing✨️🙏🏾✨️
My girl Nailed on the head!!! Men are not looking for a Christian woman, I've spoken to a few and once the conversation turns to God and things of a deeper nature they out wit the quickness...some try to stick around to see if it's a front but when they realize it's not, they move on. I've seen it as God's covering and protection 🙏🏾
But the same women expect men to spend money on them the entire time lol y’all are funny. If men wasn’t spending money, he can be god fearing all he want, no woman will would date him so stop it. lol
@kingleyo9277 unfortunately, that's an assumption. I can only speak for myself, and it's not about spending money on me. If there is a mutual interest, both should be able to spend on each other or come to an understanding of going Dutch. I honestly believe that when money and sex aren't involved, you get to see the true character of someone and actually know if you enjoy their company. Just my little ol' thoughts
@@MissMoeGodschild I agree totally about removing money and sex to find the true character. Money and sex are both seductive tools used by the jezebel spirit to corrupt.
Yea we hear that at the same time church women be the biggest lairs and deceiver out here
This hit the NAIL . I am 27 husband is 34 and I recently initiated a separation due to my husband's lack of motivation providing always getting fired gaslighting me calling me his mom and more. What really did it we had to move from FL to VA due to him getting fired again and I couldn't hold it all together myself even when i worked 55 hours weekly.
He is not with me and our toddler but I feel a huge weight off my shoulders . I don't have to worry about a whole other adult anymore. I start my old job back next week even more pay got benefits for me and our son and looking to get my own apartment in 6 months or so. He is around our son ofcourse I want my family but i look back when I was 21 when we first meet . The day he told his mom he was moving out she told me he wasn't ready to move out when he was 27! I was so native and didn't know better . Don't get me wrong we had so many good memories and we share a handsome son but now I need to take control of my life again . Just thought being with a older men was best . He is 34 btw
Going through a similar thing with a man 15 years old than me. It breaks my heart to break up my family but being a married single mom is too much pressure. I've waited for 13 years for him to begin to atleast meet me halfway but I'm finally coming to understanding he's incapable. I love very much still but it's too draining. Definitely take your life back while you're young.
This episode spoke volumes to me, the insights and the clarity from Tara! Just want to thank you
Amazing episode‼️ I love this type of conversation. Mature & necessary 💯
This conversation was such a blessing,….so enlightening and wisdom filled. #neededthis❤🙏🏾
I loved this episode, so full of good information. I’ll definitely be sharing.
This is so darn good. Tara never misses, please bring her back. My first introduction to her through our church has changed my life FOREVER!!!!
This was a great and important episode, folks! 💯
I had to come back at look at this over in tears her delivery was stern but she was so right we fall into traps due to low self worth and confidence and not trusting but not knowing how to trust anybody and not being nurtured so you search for the wrong things . I see so much clearer walking away from my last relationship and being abstinent .
I think sometimes people make things harder than they are. Know what you want. When you meet some that you are interested in; pay attention both words and behavior. It may take a little while (and a variation of circumstances) to truly see who a person is. And always remember to move at your own pace. Don’t let anyone make you feel like you have to do something that doesn’t feel right within.
Yes! ...and ask questions❤
This truly blessed me. I’ve been abstinent for 2 years now and this just gave me strength to keep going🙏🏾
Kenya- darling when I heard you discuss your experience, I literally tested up because no one should have to go through that betray from family and someone you considered your partner. I hope you find love, healing and the peace of God that surpasses all understanding.
It hits close to home because while my sister has never betrayed me like that she has also made it her life’s mission to break me down, ruin my reputation etc simply because I don’t behave the way she does and I look after my family including my siblings and my mother. So I understand the betray and I pray that you continue to find your joy in the Lord 🤍🤍🤍
Thank you for that I pray that God purify our hearts.
As a Licensed Professional Therapist, this is a great and enlightening conversation… Thanks for hosting this conversation…
Love her! She’s speaking so much truth and wisdom.
Advice at 1:54 hit home…. That caller is my story 😢 her life hit my house… God is so good to me because I feel his protection around me.
This women is truly a Gem!!!! I feel like Jezebel spirit is also the reason women don't trust each other too!!
Blessed for sure!! I am glad you guys had her on! My first time hearing about Tara. I want to join the bootcamp. I love what you guys are doing!
Blessings to you all I pray that this video goes massively viral!
This was your best show period.
This combo the 3 of you should be a weekly show and same subject promise it would be successful!❤❤❤❤😂
I was just praying 🙏 to God to help me find my husband and this podcast immediately popped up on notifications. God is talking to my Jezabel spirit. 😭
Blessed... I'm over here reevaluating my life. The conviction is heavy!
MY FAVORITE GUEST!! SHE ALWAYS TELLS THE TRUTH!
I'm so sorry to my children for all those mistakes I made. I will apologize to all of them. Thank you my sister for that I needed to hear that.
48:53
Yep! Many of us watched those shows regularly (still watch some) and never once considered the “programming” the conditioning of our subconscious.
49:52
She preaching now! 👏🏽
I love Tara guys , keeping bringing her back every month. She is real and just straight to the point.
Here we go! 2 steps forward! It didn't take her 60 years to get married! Ladies, listen and learn from THIS woman!
32:58 the ring is not power ranger to change your personality I’m glad I watch yall now!!!
Bring her back! She's unbais, straightforward, and knows her word and is not preaching or professing to be a pastor or all science she is spiritual aligned !
So much i can resonate with my spirit is stirred!
I sure can use her event sadly its out of budget
Can seducee vs. seducee form trauma bonds and cause more turmoil ?
Tara 🙏🏼 married since 1997 and thank GOD we matured, grew and built history together It took me some time to APPRECIATE a good man and I’m so blessed to be in a relationship that feels like GOOD HEALTH thanking GOD
Yes ma'am! 👏🏽👏🏽This was a great podcast!! As a married woman of 20+ years, I concur with EVERYTHING this woman shared. It was a great discussion for both men and women. Keep up the amazing work guys! 😊👍🏼
48 years married..until death took him, and Tara Is 100% CORRECT❤
52:32 OoooWeeee You need to apologize TO YOUR CHILDREN😮
This has been so eye opening for me! I ordered the book and I’m looking forward to reading it! Thank you all for the amazing information and conversation on this platform.😊
This woman is the TRUTH. She speaks in sound biblically based counsel. Regardless of where you are in your journey, she guides us to an opportunity for introspection. Thank you for bringing her back Ty and Ryan! #Blessed
Man get Jackie and Preston on it’ll be the best show EVER!!!!!!!!
Bring her back!!! Over and over again. She is changing thought processes and saving souls. Thank you for bringing her back to address this topic in detail.
The BEST GUEST you've ever had!!! Period.
I’m only 15 minutes in and THIS OS AMAZING . MORE PEOPLE NEED TO TAKE HEED TO THIS WISDOM .
Tara is the truth!
Beautiful conversation but hard Truth❣️ I've been blessed by the conversation for sure 💯❣️
blessed! Bring her back!
Tara I’m with you! Character is #1 you were spot on!
This was powerful!
I applaud her. The host kept asking reductive follow up questions to appease low standards and lifestyles - she held her own.
Wow, this is lit. Thank you so much for bringing her on. A wealth of knowledge 🙌🏾👌🏾
Blest, I've never seen your podcast a day in my life, and this was the first one I've ever seen, and I loved it. ❤❤ I have already shared this video 4 times.
This is good!!! She is on point❤
Blessed !! She drops gems every time !!
Kingdom Blessings And Greetings 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 Watching Replay...This Conversation HAS Truly Blessed Me!!!❣️
#GRATEFUL
#SPIRITANDTRUTH
Bring TARA back!! Great on point… I’m still processing everything brought up on this show.. gonna watch it again❤
This woman speaks real stuff. I luv her!
Powerful woman of God. His anointing is all over her. Thank you for being a blessing and pouring knowledge into us.
That Kevin Hart ‘Damn’ get me every time. 😂
@@HerNameIsGeeG Yes 😂
This was a great conversation. Tara is a gem.
Bring her back!
Listen I watched this episode from beginning to end and this beautiful,educated woman of GOD spoke to me in a way that I get it. Definitely bring her back. Loved it!!!
Dope show.. like to see Pastor LA Ewing.
I got my radar on for that notification!!
This was so powerful 👏
Bless you woman of God for this life changing information 🙏
Through knowledge are the just delivered.
1:28:03 I learned to stay away from older men if you ain’t got it ready by 40 then you won’t magically get it ready for me!
MrsTara!!!! if I ever meet anyone I want to be married to - we're coming to you for pre-martial counselling!! This was fire!!
Sound teaching gems!!!!!!!!
She’s always been the truth! She helped me so much when I was working as a counselor in Orlando. She’s dope!
Bombshell, please do bring Tara 🔙 😊..