I’m so sorry to hear this. Makes me so upset how companies get away with treating employees like this. 😓😓 it’s insanely difficult being a gen z adult!!!
I rarely ever comment on UA-cam videos but your story really moved me. What you went through is horrible and nobody deserves that kind of treatment. Please don’t blame yourself - you did what anyone would do in your situation. I also really relate to your thoughts about employment and the publishing industry. I got my first ‘proper job’ in publishing last year and while I love it for the most part, I have seen how cutthroat it can be. I also get paid less than I did working in retail and I have two degrees. It’s disheartening, but I, like you, chose to do it for my career. You seem incredibly bright and capable and I have no doubts that you will find another job in the industry. You are doing everything you can do. Be kind to yourself in these tough times. Happier times are on the way xx
I'm in the same position as you right now. It's absolutely brutal. I have over three hundred applications in, I cater my resume and cover for everything I apply to, and I'm applying for jobs I'm over qualified for. Three months in and not a single interview.
Oh, I just want to come over and give you a hug! You're so strong, you're such a hard worker, and you deserve better from a company that you invest time into. You've done everything you can and you have been failed by corporate greed. Older folks who don't have empathy for you or your situation should point their ire at the mistreatment of human workers by corporations, not at those who work so hard to get treated as you have. ❤ Much love and luck to you and your family.
Very sorry to hear this. Please don't blame yourself, you're doing your best!! I sincerely hope better things are on the way✨ Thank you so much for sharing here!!
you should sue that company or at the very least file a complaint with your state. Just from what you described, that seems like you were discriminated against. A basic google would have let the HR dept know that you qualified for FMLA and the CEO calling you "that pregnant lady" is nuts !!
this video was suggested to me, i’m so sorry this happened. companies have no form of security and it’s stressful everyday and they have no concern for their employees! you will move pass this 😢
Ariel, I am so so sorry you are going through this! The whole situation is sooo crappy and unfair. I really relate to a lot of what you said in the beginning and have also had many struggles post-grad. I have a masters degree in political science, but I got it thinking I wanted to do a phd and become a professor, so the work I did in the MA was all geared towards that and not super practical outside of academia. I applied to so many jobs...all with tailored resumes and detailed cover letters...and heard nothing. I was basically in tears the whole time. It's a horrible feeling especially when you read a job description and feel like you could absolutely do the job, but the experience they're asking for is outrageous (though I still applied to some of those). There was one position I found with an activism non-profit that I really admired that I thought might be a stretch, but I knew I would be good for. I got an email the next day asking for an interview with the head of the org! I was freaking out and was so happy. Still didn't think I had much of a shot, but I spent SO much time preparing and researching, even bought a new outfit (lol). I get to the interview and she immediately tells me the position is already filled (huh?!) and that she almost cancelled my interview , but love my cover letter so much so still wanted to meet with me. She asked if I would be interested in another position and I said yes. But then found out I just needed to apply again like normally. Another cover letter written and I don't hear anything for a while, but then hear from a different person about if I would be interested in applying for a DIFFERENT position (no mention of the second position I applied for). So I say yes again, write ANOTHER cover letter, get another interview that I feel like goes well, and they tell me they will contact my references. I had talked to one of my references and he was going to do some extra research on the org to really give me a good recommendation. Then I hear from him that he was never contacted....I was so upset. I thought they would have contacted him immediately. I followed up with the org and they said "oh sorry, the position has been filled." I was devastated. They strung me along for so long and really made me feel like they liked me and wanted me to work there. Not to mention wasting the time of my reference. And it was just so embarrassing. After that I basically just gave up on applying to jobs related to my degrees. My partner and I ended up taking jobs at a brand new small veggie farm (we have some farming experience) and I came to feel like it was actually a dream job. BUT a year later and we are going to quit. We are the only two people that work there and are so undervalued and under-appreciated by the owners. The whole farm is just an afterthought to them, but we've rearranged our lives to make it work, thinking we had a future there. The pay is decent, but sometimes we struggle just to get 20hrs of work a week. There is no instruction, no feedback, not even a business plan for the future. Thinking about just going back to retail. As you said, the pay isn't even that much less. And yeah retail can be so crappy in the moment, but when I would leave work, I wouldn't be stressed about work. Whereas now with the farm, it is like all I think about all the time. And, yes, I have totally given up on trying to convince my parents or any one of their generation that is it not younger generations fault for not being able to get a "good" job. In their eyes, there is always something more we could be doing, some other "secret tip" we probably don't know, etc. SO infuriating. Yet almost everyone I know who has a "good/real/adult" job is literally just sending emails all day and like watching youtube! They aren't working that hard at all! Anyway, thank you for reading my ridiculously long comment. And thank you so much for sharing your perspective. I hear you and really hope things start looking up for you soon. I will be thinking of you and hope all goes well with your birth! ❤
Ohhh no ! 😥I'm very very sorry this entire mess happened at a time like this !! I don't have any advice to give, but I am sending you all the love, hugs and strength. Better days will come 💛💛
I am so, so sorry you are going through this, especially at this point in your life. Having been through a layoff myself, I know how hard it is. My first advice would be to be extra kind to yourself right now. Nothing you're feeling is wrong, or anything to feel badly about. It's a part of processing a very devastating experience. As for work advice, if you are in New England and close to a college or university, they can be great places to work. I'm sure that the right job is out there for you. Please take care, and I wish you health and happiness moving forward.
this video was suggested to me, i’m so sorry this happened. companies have no form of security and it’s stressful everyday and they have no concern for their employees! you will move pass this 😢 please get an employment lawyer!!
I work retail full time & I can tell you working with the public and constantly having to talk with people and be on your feet all day is the most exhausting job I've ever had. I hope you find a job in your career soon! Have you thought about teaching?
Hi, I’m an “older people” I’m in my 40’s and let me tell you is not easy for us either. I became so desperate to get a job any job that now I’m working in a kitchen getting paid almost nothing. My computer science degree and 20 years experience is useless. However I been gaslighted by our president who’s telling the nation “we’re in the best economic in years”
The only difference between a strong economy and a weak economy is that fewer people struggle to find work in the former. There is never an economy where everyone finds a job easily. Also, economies are dynamic, especially in capitalist societies, which means skill demands change. Job types boom, while some wither, not to mention everything can change state to state, city to city.
I was let go last month adter preparing to relocate fo no reason after 1st week from a company that sought me out. Created a hardship for me and family. I did get new offer and in process of relocating for it. It took over a year.
This is a bitter truth and I agree with you. There certainly is an overproduction of this kind of elite degree and it is causing a strain on the market as well as increasing precarity in people's lives, like this young woman's. But the more germane concern here is the fact that the company _knew_ it was making this move, it _knew_ that it was hiring new people who would inevitably get slashed, and it did it _anyway_ without ever making them aware of this until the very last minute. And that's the criminally negligent aspect that higher ups don't pay for, legally speaking. She deserved an honest appraisal of affairs but they lied to her and it hurt her, and that's what should be punished.
I will be praying for you. You did your best. Don't question your decisions! Jesus loves you and he wants to help you. You're right, the job market is horrible now 😥. You have a lot of grit and what you did, is what anyone would really do, when it comes to pursuing a career etc. You tried and that's all that matters! A lot of things weren't in your hands so please don't blame yourself. I'm sure you make the best decisions for your family and this would not be any different. I pray that you can continue to go after your dreams and to share your passion. I don't know if this was a dream of yours to work there, but sometimes in life, things happen to change our direction. You will have so much joy when you find the very thing that you want to do. These things take time ❤❤ I find that when trials and obstacles come, that's when you're closer to your blessings. I'm not trying to dismiss any of your feelings, they are valid and I care about your well being. God bless your family and I pray that you will have a safe delivery and that your baby will be healthy. - you have a great speaking voice, it's very soothing! Also I was very intrigued by this video, I almost didn't watch it, but I'm glad I did. Have a great day!
hi, this is the reality now unfortunately. last year I've been laid off, my department has been moved to another country. there were signs, however management told us we are stable and they are planning for longer term with our dept. people were hired also. beginning of the year they presented the plan, we just were not included in it.... I hope the situation gets better for you, what they did with you related to the maternity leave is suspicious, I know, in my country this would be very sketchy and no company would risk to do it. I don't know about the legal situation in the US though...
ariel, i really felt this 💔 losing a job, especially as part of a career, always feels so completely flattening as the threads of so many delicate hopes and needs are scrambled hastily together and frayed at once. the threads are still there, however, and we do become expanded and fresh again; we do retain our cozy selves 🌸✨ so, smothered as it may be by pain and the undeniability of material need; however sceptical or begrudging; from however long a sight, i would like to recall and embrace that warm and welcoming part of my friend whom i have had the grateful opportunity to connect with here, for there is care, there is community, there are people to work with who consider feelings and don't sweep the human elements under the rug-there are people who understand the human parts of us are what connects the company to both itself and the ecosystem around it 🌲🍄🌷 whatever your next step, i hope you follow your nose for warmth. i hope you lead with your desire to, and for, care. i hope you feel how incredibly not alone you are in your ache for a lovelier world, and i feel so strongly that your budding, burgeoning family will become nothing but an epicenter of that! 🫶🏻✨ lastly, thank you for sharing. it helped me approach similar feelings as well, which is so much harder when one is also tasked with the reality of the situation, and so please keep speaking your thoughts-whether light or deep, your conversation is always relevant and meaningful to me! 🩷✨
I think the new job these days is learning how to survive similar to the Amish. The world is getting weird and difficult. I hope for the best for you. 🤍
I’m so sorry to hear this. Makes me so upset how companies get away with treating employees like this. 😓😓 it’s insanely difficult being a gen z adult!!!
I rarely ever comment on UA-cam videos but your story really moved me. What you went through is horrible and nobody deserves that kind of treatment. Please don’t blame yourself - you did what anyone would do in your situation. I also really relate to your thoughts about employment and the publishing industry. I got my first ‘proper job’ in publishing last year and while I love it for the most part, I have seen how cutthroat it can be. I also get paid less than I did working in retail and I have two degrees. It’s disheartening, but I, like you, chose to do it for my career. You seem incredibly bright and capable and I have no doubts that you will find another job in the industry. You are doing everything you can do. Be kind to yourself in these tough times. Happier times are on the way xx
I'm in the same position as you right now. It's absolutely brutal. I have over three hundred applications in, I cater my resume and cover for everything I apply to, and I'm applying for jobs I'm over qualified for. Three months in and not a single interview.
Oh, I just want to come over and give you a hug! You're so strong, you're such a hard worker, and you deserve better from a company that you invest time into.
You've done everything you can and you have been failed by corporate greed.
Older folks who don't have empathy for you or your situation should point their ire at the mistreatment of human workers by corporations, not at those who work so hard to get treated as you have. ❤
Much love and luck to you and your family.
Very sorry to hear this. Please don't blame yourself, you're doing your best!! I sincerely hope better things are on the way✨
Thank you so much for sharing here!!
you should sue that company or at the very least file a complaint with your state. Just from what you described, that seems like you were discriminated against. A basic google would have let the HR dept know that you qualified for FMLA and the CEO calling you "that pregnant lady" is nuts !!
this video was suggested to me, i’m so sorry this happened. companies have no form of security and it’s stressful everyday and they have no concern for their employees! you will move pass this 😢
Ariel, I am so so sorry you are going through this! The whole situation is sooo crappy and unfair. I really relate to a lot of what you said in the beginning and have also had many struggles post-grad. I have a masters degree in political science, but I got it thinking I wanted to do a phd and become a professor, so the work I did in the MA was all geared towards that and not super practical outside of academia. I applied to so many jobs...all with tailored resumes and detailed cover letters...and heard nothing. I was basically in tears the whole time. It's a horrible feeling especially when you read a job description and feel like you could absolutely do the job, but the experience they're asking for is outrageous (though I still applied to some of those).
There was one position I found with an activism non-profit that I really admired that I thought might be a stretch, but I knew I would be good for. I got an email the next day asking for an interview with the head of the org! I was freaking out and was so happy. Still didn't think I had much of a shot, but I spent SO much time preparing and researching, even bought a new outfit (lol). I get to the interview and she immediately tells me the position is already filled (huh?!) and that she almost cancelled my interview , but love my cover letter so much so still wanted to meet with me. She asked if I would be interested in another position and I said yes. But then found out I just needed to apply again like normally. Another cover letter written and I don't hear anything for a while, but then hear from a different person about if I would be interested in applying for a DIFFERENT position (no mention of the second position I applied for). So I say yes again, write ANOTHER cover letter, get another interview that I feel like goes well, and they tell me they will contact my references. I had talked to one of my references and he was going to do some extra research on the org to really give me a good recommendation. Then I hear from him that he was never contacted....I was so upset. I thought they would have contacted him immediately. I followed up with the org and they said "oh sorry, the position has been filled." I was devastated. They strung me along for so long and really made me feel like they liked me and wanted me to work there. Not to mention wasting the time of my reference. And it was just so embarrassing.
After that I basically just gave up on applying to jobs related to my degrees. My partner and I ended up taking jobs at a brand new small veggie farm (we have some farming experience) and I came to feel like it was actually a dream job. BUT a year later and we are going to quit. We are the only two people that work there and are so undervalued and under-appreciated by the owners. The whole farm is just an afterthought to them, but we've rearranged our lives to make it work, thinking we had a future there. The pay is decent, but sometimes we struggle just to get 20hrs of work a week. There is no instruction, no feedback, not even a business plan for the future. Thinking about just going back to retail. As you said, the pay isn't even that much less. And yeah retail can be so crappy in the moment, but when I would leave work, I wouldn't be stressed about work. Whereas now with the farm, it is like all I think about all the time.
And, yes, I have totally given up on trying to convince my parents or any one of their generation that is it not younger generations fault for not being able to get a "good" job. In their eyes, there is always something more we could be doing, some other "secret tip" we probably don't know, etc. SO infuriating. Yet almost everyone I know who has a "good/real/adult" job is literally just sending emails all day and like watching youtube! They aren't working that hard at all!
Anyway, thank you for reading my ridiculously long comment. And thank you so much for sharing your perspective. I hear you and really hope things start looking up for you soon. I will be thinking of you and hope all goes well with your birth! ❤
Ohhh no ! 😥I'm very very sorry this entire mess happened at a time like this !! I don't have any advice to give, but I am sending you all the love, hugs and strength. Better days will come 💛💛
You are not alone we are all in this sinking ship together ❤
My heart breaks for you. Stay healthy and best wishes for your upcoming birth. Sending hugs and love ❤️
I'm so so sorry you're going through this. *hugs*
I am so, so sorry you are going through this, especially at this point in your life. Having been through a layoff myself, I know how hard it is. My first advice would be to be extra kind to yourself right now. Nothing you're feeling is wrong, or anything to feel badly about. It's a part of processing a very devastating experience. As for work advice, if you are in New England and close to a college or university, they can be great places to work. I'm sure that the right job is out there for you. Please take care, and I wish you health and happiness moving forward.
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this video was suggested to me, i’m so sorry this happened. companies have no form of security and it’s stressful everyday and they have no concern for their employees! you will move pass this 😢 please get an employment lawyer!!
I work retail full time & I can tell you working with the public and constantly having to talk with people and be on your feet all day is the most exhausting job I've ever had. I hope you find a job in your career soon! Have you thought about teaching?
take a week of sick time for pregnancy leave is insane... those people need to be in jail.
Hi, I’m an “older people” I’m in my 40’s and let me tell you is not easy for us either. I became so desperate to get a job any job that now I’m working in a kitchen getting paid almost nothing. My computer science degree and 20 years experience is useless. However I been gaslighted by our president who’s telling the nation “we’re in the best economic in years”
The only difference between a strong economy and a weak economy is that fewer people struggle to find work in the former. There is never an economy where everyone finds a job easily. Also, economies are dynamic, especially in capitalist societies, which means skill demands change. Job types boom, while some wither, not to mention everything can change state to state, city to city.
I was let go last month adter preparing to relocate fo no reason after 1st week from a company that sought me out. Created a hardship for me and family. I did get new offer and in process of relocating for it. It took over a year.
The problem is the type of degree. You need to make sure there's actual demand in the job market before studying.
This is a bitter truth and I agree with you. There certainly is an overproduction of this kind of elite degree and it is causing a strain on the market as well as increasing precarity in people's lives, like this young woman's. But the more germane concern here is the fact that the company _knew_ it was making this move, it _knew_ that it was hiring new people who would inevitably get slashed, and it did it _anyway_ without ever making them aware of this until the very last minute. And that's the criminally negligent aspect that higher ups don't pay for, legally speaking. She deserved an honest appraisal of affairs but they lied to her and it hurt her, and that's what should be punished.
I will be praying for you. You did your best. Don't question your decisions! Jesus loves you and he wants to help you. You're right, the job market is horrible now 😥. You have a lot of grit and what you did, is what anyone would really do, when it comes to pursuing a career etc. You tried and that's all that matters! A lot of things weren't in your hands so please don't blame yourself. I'm sure you make the best decisions for your family and this would not be any different. I pray that you can continue to go after your dreams and to share your passion. I don't know if this was a dream of yours to work there, but sometimes in life, things happen to change our direction. You will have so much joy when you find the very thing that you want to do. These things take time ❤❤ I find that when trials and obstacles come, that's when you're closer to your blessings. I'm not trying to dismiss any of your feelings, they are valid and I care about your well being. God bless your family and I pray that you will have a safe delivery and that your baby will be healthy.
- you have a great speaking voice, it's very soothing! Also I was very intrigued by this video, I almost didn't watch it, but I'm glad I did. Have a great day!
Wow 4 bachelor's degrees, what are they in? I thought having 2 was already pushing it. I have one in literature and another in computer science.
hi, this is the reality now unfortunately. last year I've been laid off, my department has been moved to another country. there were signs, however management told us we are stable and they are planning for longer term with our dept. people were hired also. beginning of the year they presented the plan, we just were not included in it....
I hope the situation gets better for you, what they did with you related to the maternity leave is suspicious, I know, in my country this would be very sketchy and no company would risk to do it. I don't know about the legal situation in the US though...
I think you need to seriously consider getting specialty that is in demand. If you were nurse or IT, you wouldn’t ever make such video
ariel, i really felt this 💔 losing a job, especially as part of a career, always feels so completely flattening as the threads of so many delicate hopes and needs are scrambled hastily together and frayed at once.
the threads are still there, however, and we do become expanded and fresh again; we do retain our cozy selves 🌸✨
so, smothered as it may be by pain and the undeniability of material need; however sceptical or begrudging; from however long a sight, i would like to recall and embrace that warm and welcoming part of my friend whom i have had the grateful opportunity to connect with here, for there is care, there is community, there are people to work with who consider feelings and don't sweep the human elements under the rug-there are people who understand the human parts of us are what connects the company to both itself and the ecosystem around it 🌲🍄🌷
whatever your next step, i hope you follow your nose for warmth. i hope you lead with your desire to, and for, care. i hope you feel how incredibly not alone you are in your ache for a lovelier world, and i feel so strongly that your budding, burgeoning family will become nothing but an epicenter of that! 🫶🏻✨
lastly, thank you for sharing. it helped me approach similar feelings as well, which is so much harder when one is also tasked with the reality of the situation, and so please keep speaking your thoughts-whether light or deep, your conversation is always relevant and meaningful to me! 🩷✨
I think the new job these days is learning how to survive similar to the Amish. The world is getting weird and difficult. I hope for the best for you. 🤍