I'm so so sorry. I had no idea. I lost my mother to dementia in 2011 and it's a horrible, cruel disease. Fortunately my father was able to take care of her until the end. There's not much I can say, apart from take care of yourself as much as possible, and we'll still be here if you need to take some time off. And if anyone gives you a hard time for this video, you have my permission to tell them to go to hell. :)
For those of us who have watched our parents decline in health, we understand fully. It feels like working 24-7 as caregiver, the regular job, and trying to care for yourself. We all wish you the best for you and yours, Ben.
I worked with patients with neurodegenerative diseases for 10+ years. Caretaker fatigue is a very real thing. Do what is best for your father, but please do take care of yourself (and pass along the same advice to your mom). Hang in there, Ben. The Archive faithful are ride or die. So, unfortunately you're stuck with us. 😅
Please don’t apologize for taking a break when you need to. Archive still being a weekly show for the last however many years still blows my mind and I’d rather see you and your family safe above everything else. I’ve been through something similar and know how much it affects everyone, so I’m wishing the absolute best for your father. Take all the time you need and don’t forget to look after yourself as well.
I lost both of my parents less than a year from each other. I will never give anyone any flack for caring for their loved ones in their time of need. We’ll be around - do what you need to.
From what I learned by following the artist and illustration community on social media for the last few years, family should always come first. I won't mind the slower schedule at all if it means being able to help out your father and family, as well as keeping your mental health from deteriorating as well. Taking care of aging and ill family members is one of the most challenging things in life. I've been through it myself as both of my parents passed away from illness six years apart. Thank you for being honest and upfront with the situation here, and ignore any of the haters and naysayers that come your way.
Ben, family always comes first. You got to take care of YOU though. Channel or not, you need to make sure you're taking care of yourself. Self care tends to get to be forgotten a lot when taking care of a loved one.
I'm sorry to hear about your father's diagnosis. Good on you and your mom for taking such good care of him. Do what you need to do - family comes first. We understand, and if anyone doesn't, well, that's their problem.
My 80-year-old mother went into the hospital on Saturday, December 30th for flu and pneumonia. At that time, she was still driving and reasonably independent. She came home Friday, January 5th exhibiting shocking cognitive decline, which apparently is not uncommon when the elderly are placed in an unfamiliar environment for an extended period. Although not diagnosed, she has all the classic signs of Alzheimer's. As my caretaking journey begins, I wish you the best as yours continues. We'll all be here for you and the Archive - once-a-week, once-a-month, once-a-year, whenever.
I’m so sorry. I lost my father in law to dementia and I have lost friends to it. I work in a hospital and see it every day. Thoughts with you and your mother ❤
All of us who have cared for someone , have to go through this some time. Some things take a long time to get through, some of us bring it with us for the rest of it.
Take it as it comes, Ben. My dad succumbed to it after 5 years of a roller coaster ride. Believe it or not, he actually was happier when he had forgotten his family completely because there was no reason to keep asking where any given sibling was every 15 min. Get respite care if you can, it makes a big difference to your own well being. Take care, best wishes to you and your mom.
This was a powerful video. Take as long as you need between vids. The loyal watchers will be waiting patiently for new content. Take a breather and take care of your family and mental health.
Sorry to hear that Ben. Kinda starting to see that with my mom. She talks to pictures, thinks people on TV are talking straight to her. Everyday I have to go through the kitchen drawers and cupboards to make sure she not putting food in them like I do find once and awhile. I dred the day when she might ask "who are you?" Right now been working 2 jobs for a year now, but I'm hoping to able to drop one soon, so I can become her caretaker. Til then I'm gonna do whatever I can for her and also try like hell to keep her out of the nursing home, that was a promise I made to her a long time ago. Hugs Ben and keeping you guys in my prayers. Hang in there buddy ,we are here for you!!!!
Ben! Thank you for the work you do. My best to you and your family. I’m going through something similar myself. Anyway, m glad you’re taking time for yourself and your family. I’m not going anywhere
Take as much time as you need. Your father's health is more important. I'll be praying for you and your family. God bless, God loves you. Philippians 4:13 I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.
Hey Ben - thanks for sharing. Don’t worry about your schedule - the channel will survive. UA-cam is a never-satisfied taskmaster of a mistress. Content creation is hard even when you’re not creating but just presenting things. I know from experience that It’s easy to get burnt out on the endless treadmill of “new videos”, even without life obligations. (I’ve gone through a major bit of personal strife myself in the last couple years)That being said, your issue is obviously different. My dad has been on a significant mental decline for a few years as well but not to the degree as you’re experiencing. Challenges will be increasing as time goes on I’m sure and all we can do is try and face it with as much courage and grace as we can muster. Good luck to you and your Mom and remember to be forgiving to yourself as well. ❤
I'm so sorry Ben. As someone who has taken care of relatives who have had altimeter's you have my deepest sympathy as I know how devastating it is. As a fan I'll support your decisions no matter what and I'm sure they all feel the same way I do (based on the few comments I've seen so far). If you need time off, take it and we'll be here when you come back.
I remember when my grandmother had Alzheimer’s and our family needed to move her close to home and it still stressed me out even though I didn’t directly care for her. To see her decline was a nightmare. I’m so sorry
Please don’t think of your mental health being “flaky “. It’s tough to care for someone who raised you! Especially seeing them no longer the same person that you remember as a child. You put out great content on people, places and things that I had no idea about!
virtual hugs to you and your mom ben so sorry to hear about your dad. I know how draining it can be I had to help take care of my grandmother when her health declined after a stroke so yeah I feel for you . we all love you Ben you take care of your dad ,your mom and yourself . the archive will take care of itself . love ya benny boy .God bless you and your family . ❤❤❤❤
You're doing amazingly well with OA considering everything going on. Your fans are here for you, Ben. Hoping 2024 turns out a bit better for you and the family.
I've been a regular viewer for 8 or so years and I've never felt compelled to comment until now. You're a good man, Ben. As much as I love the show, family comes first and your fans understand. Hang in there and all my best to you and your family. And thanks for the years of fun, entertaining videos!
After watching a dozen or so of your videos, something about the way you articulate made me believe that you are a good guy. This video just proved that to me. I'm sorry about your dad. Just know that there are people out there who care about you and what you do. Stay strong.
Thanks for sharing Benny boy - long time viewer but I don't comment often. Stay strong buddy, you're a good guy. Do what you need to do, we'll all be here for you. Family comes first. Look after yourself too !🤗
I know what it's like to have caregiver fatigue. It's a physical, emotional, and mental drain. Put out the episodes you can, we'll be here to watch and support you.
I lost my dad to that horrible disorder in 2018. We need to contribute for more research to not only to slow it down, but to stop it completely from happening. Happy 2024 to ya Benny-Boy!
Ben, I’m sorry about this, I’ll be praying for you and parents, I really enjoy your channel, but it’s understandable that you’re just one man, and we have plenty old videos to hold us over, just don’t let it get to ya, I went through what you’re going through and I know with my sweet granny in 2004, and I can empathize with ya there
I have watched and loved you channel for some time and totally understand. My mom died of Alzheimers this past April after a 10 year battle. It was incredibly difficult for everyone as we worked to maintain her well being, familiarly of home and dignity until the very end. What you and your mom are doing for your dad says a lot about the goodness in you both and how much you love your dad. Just take it day by day and do the best you can. Take care of yourself, the channel can wait.
Thank you for sharing. This is really personal, but completely understood. I've supported a spouse through this journey with her parent. Your main focus is in the right place. I will happily wait when necessary and appreciate what you can do. Take care. There are people out here who understand.
I fully understand what you're going through. I've had experiences in my family with Alzheimer's talking one life close to me and a stroke disabling another, and it takes a very honest toll on you. Especially with Alzheimer's, which is honestly one of the scariest diseases I've ever seen. Sending much love to you and your family, Ben! 💕
You have my prayers. my mom died last may. My mom and i lived in Cozumel, Mexico since 2009 and in recent years i say starting in 2020, she began to go downhill. it was lung cancer from smoking. she was 75. i was alone in taking care of her along with my one physical limitations and aspergers to match. i never dealt with anything like this before..😢 we did have a friend who would help out but mom didn’t trust her but she was all i had. my mom and me’s goal was to sell the house and move back to Texas… i thought anyway, turned out she didn’t really want to move at all even though the US had better doctors and she didn’t even have a proper check up in 10 years.. So.. as things turned out i had to turn to my sister who was trying to get us to move which i wanted to also😢 to make a long story short i had to make an emergency move to California where my sister is and mom was brought to california by our friend where she passed away.. Now i’m living with my sister in California, having to sell moms house in Mexico, i have to actually go back to Cozumel Mexico and sign some papers and BE DONE WITH IT! 😪😰 Anyway that was my 2023..🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽 I really wanted to move back to the states… but not like this..😪
Incredibly sorry about your dad. My sister was diagnosed with cancer in 2016 and my family and I were all taking turns taking care of her for a couple years until she inevitably passed away at the age of 37. It's incredibly hard to watch a loved one slowly deteriorate and do the best you can to make them comfortable, knowing they're not who you've known them as for your entire life. It was necessary but draining, and i barely had enough time and energy to go to work, take care of myself and make time for the things I wanted to do. Having been there, it is most certainly not flakey to say your mental health took a dump as a result and you're not able to keep up with the channel as much as you used to. Take as much time as you need. My heart goes out to you and your family. Take good care of yourself, Ben.
Truly Sorry to Hear about your Father Benny Boy. And I want to say, you're Mom is incredibly strong. I lost my Grandma in 2017. She was in the Early Stages of Dementia and was 79 years old. She died 10 weeks after turning 79.
I'm so sorry to hear about your dad, Ben. It's got to be rough on you and your mom. Whatever schedule works best for you with Archive; family comes first. I'll be thinking of you guys - I hope 2024 is good to you.
You totally have my sympathies and total understanding. It must be one of the most difficult experiences anyone can go through. Obgivously, sympathies to your mom too. I lost my dad before Xmas, to a massive stroke that he somehow lived through, but lost all his ability to communicate and mainly slept, wheezing for every breath, and when he was present (not often) he'd point to himself, shake his head and point upwards (to heaven, as he confirmed when asked) I jokingly pointed to the ground, and he laughed at that, but it was a terrible few weeks before - as the doctors predicted - his systems realised it wasn't going to change and shut down.
i am so sorry to hear of this, but am glad you are there for your mother as I have heard that many are not. i also understand how this can take a toll on someone both mentally and physically. as I always say, family comes first. Archive can wait.
Well, best wishes to you for a challenging and unpleasant situation. I suspect, though, that subscribers of this channel are a little more durable than most; if there's a delay, there's a delay. This is one of only two channels on the whole of UA-cam I make sure I never miss, checking the main channel page periodically to make sure I didn't get busy and miss something (the other is Technology Connections). Take care of what's really important. Delay or not, I'll still be here. I suspect this is largely true of viewers of this channel, generally. Thanks for all the work you put in to this. I really hope things are minimally complicated for you and happy New Year to you and your family, whatever the challenges you face.
I feel for you. My own dad went this way. My sister and I tried to take care pf him at home, but he got so bad that we had no choice but to get him into a Care facility. Thankfully, he qualified to be in a vet's home due to his service and spent his last years in care.
Take whatever time you need to to look after yourself and your family; as these are the most important things, of course! Don't let it all get on top of you and always ask for help if things do become too much or too difficult to handle!
Ben, I’ve been watching your videos since I was 12. I appreciate everything you do for our entertainment. Take the time you need to focus on your family. I’m sure all your viewers understand. Watching a loved one go through this isn’t easy, so make sure you’re taking care of your health and mental health. I’d like to recommend the book My Two Elaines if you haven’t read it already. It’s a fantastic book that I recommend to clients whose loved ones get diagnosed with dementia. It talks not only about caring for the family member but oneself, and it describes how to find help and balance in life.
I work with a lot of dementia patients, and it’s a cruel disease… it’s just as hard, if not harder, on the family than it is on the patient. Do whatever you need to for your dad and mom, and also don’t forget to take care of yourself…which I know can be a challenge when you’re caring for an ill family member. Much love to all of you.
My father had FTD during the last decade of his life, so i can really appreciate what you're going through, and I'm sorry. I'm glad you're prioritizing your family over Archive. Any true fan should understand.
I'm so sorry to hear about your father's dementia. My grandfather had the same condition and spent his last days in a hospice where he could get the specialised care he needed and his family could visit him daily. The only person he had any sort of recognition before the end was my mother and even then this was fleeting. I haven't noticed any lessening of the quality of OA and it makes the release of the OA OST even more of a great effort that should be respected considering what you had to do in order to achieve this. It doesn't matter if the release schedule slows down - your family comes first. We will still be here for you when you return. Take care Ben. :)
Damn, Ben.. We just lost my grandmother in December after several years with dementia. The "stair step" down is definitely how it went with her, too. The last time I visited with her, she didn't recognize me at all anymore. It was so heart-breaking. Do what you need to do. Take the time that you need. Don't let anyone give you grief for it. We'll still be here, bobbing back and forth Max-style.
As someone who has dealt with family members with dementia/alzheimer's (albeit indirectly), it really does take a toll on you. Take all the time you need, take whatever breaks you need to take, etc. People like me (and a lot of other commenters on this video) completely understand. We (or at the very least I) had absolutely no idea. Thank you for being open with your audience on this. We're all here for you, man.
Geez, Ben, I'm so sorry about your dad and the whole situation in general. And you are absolutely not "overblowing" things, or being too sensitive or whatever. I was a caretaker specialist in a secured dementia ward for a few years, and eventually had to quit, because I was so burnt out mentally and emotionally. So I know from where I speak. How can anyone presume to know what you're going through, or tell you how you "should" feel when dealing with such a jarring situation? I had family members that would come in to visit residents, that would express guilt because they, "Wanted to remember dad/mom/grandma the way they were, but by the same token, I feel bad for not being around when they need me, now." How is that anything short of an impossible choice? So, yeah, let yourself feel what you feel, without being filtered through other people's egos and opinions. And anyone who says you're being exploitative, we'll all stab em in the eye with a hatpin. You take as much time as you need, we'll all be waiting for new OA eps whenever you push em out. Hell, they're all so rewatchable, I have 20 queued up right now to watch while I'm working!
Ben I know what you are dealing with. I am taking care of both my parents. My mom has mobility issues. My father is in the very early stages of his decline. If you need to talk let me know. I never get out much. My father has his good days and his bad days. He can go a few weeks than all of a sudden have a bad spell.I do like your videos they bring me much enjoyment. Both of your parents are lucky to have you at home. I know with me it is a full time job caring for my parents. Hang in their Ben.
Thank you for filling us in, and, my sympathies. 😢 As a long term supporter, I have to admit, I was wondering what was going on with The Archive. I had to take care of my mother, when she was dying of Cancer, in the last weeks there was dementia, so I understand what you are going through, and I had to handle her Estate as well, so, take all the time you need. We will be here for you. ❤
I AM SORRY TO HEAR 👂 ABOUT YOUR DAD I WENT THROUGH THE SAME THING WOTH MY DAD I PRAY THAT EVERYTHING GOES GOOD FOR YOU AND YOUR MOM /DAD IN JESUS CHRIST NAME AMEN 🙏 I TYPE IN ALL CAPS BECAUSE OF MY BAD EYESIGHT NOT YELLING
Aging parents is a frightening aspect, and my father's been doing worse every year since some incident back in 2018 or so. I wouldn't say he's nursing home bound, but he's very slowly becoming someone who can't leave the house or walk for an extended period of time without one of those walkers with wheels and a seat. He doesn't have dementia or Alzheimers, but he has some digestive disease that ruined his liver. I barely have the money to take care of myself, so I'm completely useless in this situation. If you got to a point where you had to be a caregiver full time and the show makes less episodes or stops completely, that's something we should all respect.
my heart goes out to you, ben. i watched my mother and father in that position as i grew up, taking care of my grandparents and being in and out of hospitals and facilities at a constant revolving door. it would be remiss of me to not admit that it took a toll on them; it’s entirely understandable that you’d need to slow things down and take time for yourself. i’ve been a fan of the archive since i was young and you’ve brought so much joy to my life and the lives of others, it’s only natural that you give some of that to yourself. much love!! please remember to take care of yourself too!! ❤
Family comes first. Don’t push yourself too hard and burn the candle at both ends. I lost my dad in a horrible case of cancer. I still enjoy all of your episodes and your sound tracks. Godspeed Ben!
Thank you, Ben, my friend, for sharing this. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. I also want to thank you for bringing so much joy to my life in the form of Archive. So many memories that this show helps bring back it’s like I have dead media in my head I think it’s lost forever and then it turns up on an episode of Archive. So much talent u have, says Yoda. Love ya Bennie Boy.
I'm sorry you are going through so much I also had help take of my dad for four months straight. He unfortunately passed well guess you would call it last year but it was in August. 😢 I really wish things were better for you. I'm always glad to watch your videos and glad you are not shutting down. Hang in there and be strong.
Take your time with the slower schedule, family and life comes first. I can only hope for things to go as well as they can, and I'm going to be here to watch your videos at whatever cadence you feel able to make.
Sorry to read of your situation. Both my grandmother (father's side) and my auntie (mother's side) had dementia and it can really take a toll. Both of them were able to still live more or less independently for a while but eventually it got to the point where they had to go into a home. And there is no way I could find the time to look after a family member, and keep a UA-cam channel going like you are. Hats off to you.
I’m so sorry about what’s happening and as someone who has a grandma with dementia and as someone who works in a nursing home, I understand the stress that’s happening. My mom’s been stressed with her because it’s her mom and it’s affected me too.
@3:43; I feel for you there. The last time I ever saw my grandmother alive back in 2004, my mother (on one side of her hospice bed) told her "Jon is here too." then pointed in my direction on the other side of the bed, to where she turned her head, looked me in the eyes and said, "My grandson, Jon?" to which I nodded. After a few minutes, I called my mother outside, to which I told her, "Yup, she's losing it."
Benny Boy, sad to hear all of this but it reflects things in my life too. It’s good to have a distraction and we all enjoy having you in our lives, but heart breaking all the same. I feel like we’re friends. Do what you need to do.
Ben, so deeply sorry to hear this. Dementia is a cruel disease. My Grandfather suffered from dementia as well. It so hard, both for the person and their loved ones. It’s like they are right there but behind bullet proof glass. I’m sure everyone here has been touched in some way by this disease and we all understand. Take all the time you need to focus on your family. Thoughts and prayers 🙏.
I'm so sorry to hear about your father. My mother had dementia at the end of her life and it is so hard on so many levels. You do what you gotta do. Family always comes first. Take care.
Seen it happen to my parents when my dad's parents started going downhill in the fall of 2011. Thankfully, we eventually got them into a good nursing home that no doubt bought them a few more years until they both passed in 2014. I had no idea what was going on in your personal life. It's a miracle you are able to get anything done.
I extend my condolences. I lost my grandma to the same in 2019, and I can understand some of the sentiments that you're going through right now. We love you here Ben. Do what you gotta do, we'll always be here when you get back.
I know that felling Ben, my mom's mom my grandmother, in late 99 was diagnosed with this, and we lost her in 2000. Not a problem on quality there. Loosing a parent is hard, when I lost my dad a few years back is when I discovered OA on YT. I hope all goes well. My dad was a US Navy Vet.
Hey man you should be kind to yourself. If you got circumstances whether that be external or internal you got circumstances. I appreciate the work you do. If some prick says you're being sensitive or exploitative or whatever thats his problem
❤❤❤ I have wondered as a long time fan, however that is the most understandable thing I could fathom.. My mom went through the same thing eons ago. I now, alot because of the fact; work in "memory care". I don't know what to say to make it better except I still watch all of your content and am most enthused for it....Also, having family involved is a big deal. You gotta keep, if you can.. bringing back what happy memories that have managed to stick with them and that which they can still enjoy. You're doin' right. You got my thoughts and best wishes.. Often I believe this hurts more for those around the person in question than it does them. Just comfort is all you can offer. It can be frustrating and very strange at times...
I’m really sorry you’re going through this my friend. I took care of my mom from the age of nine until the age of 30 so I understand what it’s like. I can’t say this about every one of your fans but Family comes first and will be here
Really sorry to hear about your father, Ben. I've been watching your videos for about 10 years. Please take care of yourself and your mom. My sister's mother-in-law also had dementia, so I know what that's like.
I’m sorry you’re in such a rough spot. You’ve gotta take care of your business first, Ben. I know I’ll be around whenever you post, and I think most of us will too, but I understand life comes first. Take care of yourself.
Family always comes first, and being a viewer of yours for about nine years, I have no issues with you taking things slower, especially given the situation you're in. My grandfather passed away from dementia in 2021, so I understand how rough it can be taking care of a family member with such a disease. Take care of yourself and your family, Ben! My prayers go out to you!
I feel ya when you said it’s affecting your mental health, cause it’s doing the same thing to my mom.(and me and my siblings) My grandma has been suffering from Alzheimer’s for 3-4 years now and the feeling is terrible (especially on her birthday.) You take your time with your videos. If waiting a little longer means you will be better, I’ll take it.
I'm so so sorry. I had no idea. I lost my mother to dementia in 2011 and it's a horrible, cruel disease. Fortunately my father was able to take care of her until the end. There's not much I can say, apart from take care of yourself as much as possible, and we'll still be here if you need to take some time off. And if anyone gives you a hard time for this video, you have my permission to tell them to go to hell. :)
You owe us nothing Ben, we on the other hand owe you patience and support in whatever way we can. All the best for 2024
I totally agree with you. 😀👍🏻❤️
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For those of us who have watched our parents decline in health, we understand fully.
It feels like working 24-7 as caregiver, the regular job, and trying to care for yourself.
We all wish you the best for you and yours, Ben.
I worked with patients with neurodegenerative diseases for 10+ years. Caretaker fatigue is a very real thing. Do what is best for your father, but please do take care of yourself (and pass along the same advice to your mom).
Hang in there, Ben. The Archive faithful are ride or die. So, unfortunately you're stuck with us. 😅
You're brave for sharing this Ben, thank you. We have at least one advanced relative suffering this terrible aliment.
Please don’t apologize for taking a break when you need to. Archive still being a weekly show for the last however many years still blows my mind and I’d rather see you and your family safe above everything else. I’ve been through something similar and know how much it affects everyone, so I’m wishing the absolute best for your father. Take all the time you need and don’t forget to look after yourself as well.
I lost both of my parents less than a year from each other. I will never give anyone any flack for caring for their loved ones in their time of need. We’ll be around - do what you need to.
From what I learned by following the artist and illustration community on social media for the last few years, family should always come first. I won't mind the slower schedule at all if it means being able to help out your father and family, as well as keeping your mental health from deteriorating as well. Taking care of aging and ill family members is one of the most challenging things in life. I've been through it myself as both of my parents passed away from illness six years apart. Thank you for being honest and upfront with the situation here, and ignore any of the haters and naysayers that come your way.
Ben, family always comes first. You got to take care of YOU though. Channel or not, you need to make sure you're taking care of yourself. Self care tends to get to be forgotten a lot when taking care of a loved one.
I'm sorry to hear about your father's diagnosis. Good on you and your mom for taking such good care of him. Do what you need to do - family comes first. We understand, and if anyone doesn't, well, that's their problem.
My 80-year-old mother went into the hospital on Saturday, December 30th for flu and pneumonia. At that time, she was still driving and reasonably independent. She came home Friday, January 5th exhibiting shocking cognitive decline, which apparently is not uncommon when the elderly are placed in an unfamiliar environment for an extended period. Although not diagnosed, she has all the classic signs of Alzheimer's. As my caretaking journey begins, I wish you the best as yours continues. We'll all be here for you and the Archive - once-a-week, once-a-month, once-a-year, whenever.
I’m so sorry. I lost my father in law to dementia and I have lost friends to it. I work in a hospital and see it every day. Thoughts with you and your mother ❤
Caretaking is hell. Hang in there and don’t worry about anything but taking care of you.
All of us who have cared for someone , have to go through this some time. Some things take a long time to get through, some of us bring it with us for the rest of it.
Take it as it comes, Ben. My dad succumbed to it after 5 years of a roller coaster ride. Believe it or not, he actually was happier when he had forgotten his family completely because there was no reason to keep asking where any given sibling was every 15 min. Get respite care if you can, it makes a big difference to your own well being. Take care, best wishes to you and your mom.
I've had to talk to a social worker a couple of times now.
Ben, I'm sorry to hear about your Dad's health. Take care of yourself, and your family. We're going to be here.
This was a powerful video. Take as long as you need between vids. The loyal watchers will be waiting patiently for new content. Take a breather and take care of your family and mental health.
Sorry to hear that Ben. Kinda starting to see that with my mom. She talks to pictures, thinks people on TV are talking straight to her. Everyday I have to go through the kitchen drawers and cupboards to make sure she not putting food in them like I do find once and awhile. I dred the day when she might ask "who are you?" Right now been working 2 jobs for a year now, but I'm hoping to able to drop one soon, so I can become her caretaker. Til then I'm gonna do whatever I can for her and also try like hell to keep her out of the nursing home, that was a promise I made to her a long time ago. Hugs Ben and keeping you guys in my prayers. Hang in there buddy ,we are here for you!!!!
Ben! Thank you for the work you do. My best to you and your family. I’m going through something similar myself. Anyway, m glad you’re taking time for yourself and your family. I’m not going anywhere
Sorry to hear about this situation you and your family are in. Take all the time you need.
Take as much time as you need. Your father's health is more important. I'll be praying for you and your family. God bless, God loves you.
Philippians 4:13 I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.
Hey Ben - thanks for sharing. Don’t worry about your schedule - the channel will survive. UA-cam is a never-satisfied taskmaster of a mistress. Content creation is hard even when you’re not creating but just presenting things. I know from experience that It’s easy to get burnt out on the endless treadmill of “new videos”, even without life obligations. (I’ve gone through a major bit of personal strife myself in the last couple years)That being said, your issue is obviously different. My dad has been on a significant mental decline for a few years as well but not to the degree as you’re experiencing. Challenges will be increasing as time goes on I’m sure and all we can do is try and face it with as much courage and grace as we can muster. Good luck to you and your Mom and remember to be forgiving to yourself as well. ❤
Thank you for the work that you do for us, Ben, even through caring for your father. Do what you have to as a son first. We're always here.
I'm so sorry Ben. As someone who has taken care of relatives who have had altimeter's you have my deepest sympathy as I know how devastating it is. As a fan I'll support your decisions no matter what and I'm sure they all feel the same way I do (based on the few comments I've seen so far). If you need time off, take it and we'll be here when you come back.
I remember when my grandmother had Alzheimer’s and our family needed to move her close to home and it still stressed me out even though I didn’t directly care for her. To see her decline was a nightmare. I’m so sorry
Please don’t think of your mental health being “flaky “. It’s tough to care for someone who raised you! Especially seeing them no longer the same person that you remember as a child. You put out great content on people, places and things that I had no idea about!
virtual hugs to you and your mom ben so sorry to hear about your dad. I know how draining it can be I had to help take care of my grandmother when her health declined after a stroke so yeah I feel for you . we all love you Ben you take care of your dad ,your mom and yourself . the archive will take care of itself . love ya benny boy .God bless you and your family . ❤❤❤❤
You're doing amazingly well with OA considering everything going on. Your fans are here for you, Ben. Hoping 2024 turns out a bit better for you and the family.
I've been a regular viewer for 8 or so years and I've never felt compelled to comment until now. You're a good man, Ben. As much as I love the show, family comes first and your fans understand. Hang in there and all my best to you and your family. And thanks for the years of fun, entertaining videos!
After watching a dozen or so of your videos, something about the way you articulate made me believe that you are a good guy. This video just proved that to me. I'm sorry about your dad. Just know that there are people out there who care about you and what you do. Stay strong.
Thanks for sharing Benny boy - long time viewer but I don't comment often. Stay strong buddy, you're a good guy. Do what you need to do, we'll all be here for you. Family comes first. Look after yourself too !🤗
I know what it's like to have caregiver fatigue. It's a physical, emotional, and mental drain. Put out the episodes you can, we'll be here to watch and support you.
I lost my dad to that horrible disorder in 2018.
We need to contribute for more research to not only to slow it down, but to stop it completely from happening.
Happy 2024 to ya Benny-Boy!
Ben, I’m sorry about this, I’ll be praying for you and parents, I really enjoy your channel, but it’s understandable that you’re just one man, and we have plenty old videos to hold us over, just don’t let it get to ya, I went through what you’re going through and I know with my sweet granny in 2004, and I can empathize with ya there
I have watched and loved you channel for some time and totally understand. My mom died of Alzheimers this past April after a 10 year battle. It was incredibly difficult for everyone as we worked to maintain her well being, familiarly of home and dignity until the very end. What you and your mom are doing for your dad says a lot about the goodness in you both and how much you love your dad. Just take it day by day and do the best you can. Take care of yourself, the channel can wait.
Thank you for sharing. This is really personal, but completely understood. I've supported a spouse through this journey with her parent. Your main focus is in the right place. I will happily wait when necessary and appreciate what you can do. Take care. There are people out here who understand.
I fully understand what you're going through. I've had experiences in my family with Alzheimer's talking one life close to me and a stroke disabling another, and it takes a very honest toll on you. Especially with Alzheimer's, which is honestly one of the scariest diseases I've ever seen.
Sending much love to you and your family, Ben! 💕
You have my prayers. my mom died last may. My mom and i lived in Cozumel, Mexico since 2009 and in recent years i say starting in 2020, she began to go downhill. it was lung cancer from smoking. she was 75. i was alone in taking care of her along with my one physical limitations and aspergers to match. i never dealt with anything like this before..😢 we did have a friend who would help out but mom didn’t trust her but she was all i had. my mom and me’s goal was to sell the house and move back to Texas… i thought anyway, turned out she didn’t really want to move at all even though the US had better doctors and she didn’t even have a proper check up in 10 years..
So.. as things turned out i had to turn to my sister who was trying to get us to move which i wanted to also😢 to make a long story short i had to make an emergency move to California where my sister is and mom was brought to california by our friend where she passed away..
Now i’m living with my sister in California, having to sell moms house in Mexico, i have to actually go back to Cozumel Mexico and sign some papers and BE DONE WITH IT! 😪😰
Anyway that was my 2023..🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽
I really wanted to move back to the states… but not like this..😪
Ben, Please get me if you need me, always available as the need maybe..God Bless my friend, stay well for you right now.
Incredibly sorry about your dad. My sister was diagnosed with cancer in 2016 and my family and I were all taking turns taking care of her for a couple years until she inevitably passed away at the age of 37. It's incredibly hard to watch a loved one slowly deteriorate and do the best you can to make them comfortable, knowing they're not who you've known them as for your entire life. It was necessary but draining, and i barely had enough time and energy to go to work, take care of myself and make time for the things I wanted to do. Having been there, it is most certainly not flakey to say your mental health took a dump as a result and you're not able to keep up with the channel as much as you used to. Take as much time as you need. My heart goes out to you and your family. Take good care of yourself, Ben.
Truly Sorry to Hear about your Father Benny Boy. And I want to say, you're Mom is incredibly strong. I lost my Grandma in 2017. She was in the Early Stages of Dementia and was 79 years old. She died 10 weeks after turning 79.
Do what you need to do, Ben. Family comes first.
I'm so sorry to hear about your dad, Ben. It's got to be rough on you and your mom. Whatever schedule works best for you with Archive; family comes first. I'll be thinking of you guys - I hope 2024 is good to you.
Sending love and thank you for all the entertainment you have provided us over the years
You totally have my sympathies and total understanding. It must be one of the most difficult experiences anyone can go through. Obgivously, sympathies to your mom too. I lost my dad before Xmas, to a massive stroke that he somehow lived through, but lost all his ability to communicate and mainly slept, wheezing for every breath, and when he was present (not often) he'd point to himself, shake his head and point upwards (to heaven, as he confirmed when asked) I jokingly pointed to the ground, and he laughed at that, but it was a terrible few weeks before - as the doctors predicted - his systems realised it wasn't going to change and shut down.
Hang in there Ben. The OA CD is a great thing to listen to.
i am so sorry to hear of this, but am glad you are there for your mother as I have heard that many are not. i also understand how this can take a toll on someone both mentally and physically. as I always say, family comes first. Archive can wait.
Family first, Ben. Your loyal fans (myself included) will be here whenever you're ready. All our best to you and yours, my friend.
take all the time you need, Benny Boy.
I send love and hope in these rough times.
Ben, I’ve been with you since the downtown Aurora days… sorry to hear man…
Well, best wishes to you for a challenging and unpleasant situation. I suspect, though, that subscribers of this channel are a little more durable than most; if there's a delay, there's a delay. This is one of only two channels on the whole of UA-cam I make sure I never miss, checking the main channel page periodically to make sure I didn't get busy and miss something (the other is Technology Connections). Take care of what's really important. Delay or not, I'll still be here. I suspect this is largely true of viewers of this channel, generally. Thanks for all the work you put in to this. I really hope things are minimally complicated for you and happy New Year to you and your family, whatever the challenges you face.
Sorry to hear about your dad, Ben. I lost my mother to dementia back in April.
I hope you have a happier 2024.
I feel for you. My own dad went this way. My sister and I tried to take care pf him at home, but he got so bad that we had no choice but to get him into a Care facility. Thankfully, he qualified to be in a vet's home due to his service and spent his last years in care.
Condolences, Ben. Sorry to hear about it.
Take whatever time you need to to look after yourself and your family; as these are the most important things, of course! Don't let it all get on top of you and always ask for help if things do become too much or too difficult to handle!
Ben, I’ve been watching your videos since I was 12. I appreciate everything you do for our entertainment. Take the time you need to focus on your family. I’m sure all your viewers understand. Watching a loved one go through this isn’t easy, so make sure you’re taking care of your health and mental health.
I’d like to recommend the book My Two Elaines if you haven’t read it already. It’s a fantastic book that I recommend to clients whose loved ones get diagnosed with dementia. It talks not only about caring for the family member but oneself, and it describes how to find help and balance in life.
I work with a lot of dementia patients, and it’s a cruel disease… it’s just as hard, if not harder, on the family than it is on the patient. Do whatever you need to for your dad and mom, and also don’t forget to take care of yourself…which I know can be a challenge when you’re caring for an ill family member. Much love to all of you.
My father had FTD during the last decade of his life, so i can really appreciate what you're going through, and I'm sorry.
I'm glad you're prioritizing your family over Archive. Any true fan should understand.
I'm so sorry to hear about your father's dementia.
My grandfather had the same condition and spent his last days in a hospice where he could get the specialised care he needed and his family could visit him daily. The only person he had any sort of recognition before the end was my mother and even then this was fleeting.
I haven't noticed any lessening of the quality of OA and it makes the release of the OA OST even more of a great effort that should be respected considering what you had to do in order to achieve this.
It doesn't matter if the release schedule slows down - your family comes first. We will still be here for you when you return.
Take care Ben. :)
Damn, Ben..
We just lost my grandmother in December after several years with dementia. The "stair step" down is definitely how it went with her, too. The last time I visited with her, she didn't recognize me at all anymore. It was so heart-breaking. Do what you need to do. Take the time that you need. Don't let anyone give you grief for it. We'll still be here, bobbing back and forth Max-style.
As someone who has dealt with family members with dementia/alzheimer's (albeit indirectly), it really does take a toll on you. Take all the time you need, take whatever breaks you need to take, etc. People like me (and a lot of other commenters on this video) completely understand. We (or at the very least I) had absolutely no idea. Thank you for being open with your audience on this. We're all here for you, man.
My gran is going through this sort of descent and it's kind of stressful to watch more and more of her erode away. My condolences...
Geez, Ben, I'm so sorry about your dad and the whole situation in general. And you are absolutely not "overblowing" things, or being too sensitive or whatever. I was a caretaker specialist in a secured dementia ward for a few years, and eventually had to quit, because I was so burnt out mentally and emotionally. So I know from where I speak. How can anyone presume to know what you're going through, or tell you how you "should" feel when dealing with such a jarring situation? I had family members that would come in to visit residents, that would express guilt because they, "Wanted to remember dad/mom/grandma the way they were, but by the same token, I feel bad for not being around when they need me, now." How is that anything short of an impossible choice? So, yeah, let yourself feel what you feel, without being filtered through other people's egos and opinions. And anyone who says you're being exploitative, we'll all stab em in the eye with a hatpin. You take as much time as you need, we'll all be waiting for new OA eps whenever you push em out. Hell, they're all so rewatchable, I have 20 queued up right now to watch while I'm working!
Ben I know what you are dealing with. I am taking care of both my parents. My mom has mobility issues. My father is in the very early stages of his decline. If you need to talk let me know. I never get out much. My father has his good days and his bad days. He can go a few weeks than all of a sudden have a bad spell.I do like your videos they bring me much enjoyment. Both of your parents are lucky to have you at home. I know with me it is a full time job caring for my parents. Hang in their Ben.
Thank you for filling us in, and, my sympathies. 😢
As a long term supporter, I have to admit, I was wondering what was going on with The Archive.
I had to take care of my mother, when she was dying of Cancer, in the last weeks there was dementia, so I understand what you are going through, and I had to handle her Estate as well, so, take all the time you need. We will be here for you. ❤
I AM SORRY TO HEAR 👂 ABOUT YOUR DAD I WENT THROUGH THE SAME THING WOTH MY DAD I PRAY THAT EVERYTHING GOES GOOD FOR YOU AND YOUR MOM /DAD IN JESUS CHRIST NAME AMEN 🙏 I TYPE IN ALL CAPS BECAUSE OF MY BAD EYESIGHT NOT YELLING
Sorry to hear about your situation. It's certainly a lot to handle even without your other responsibilities.
Aging parents is a frightening aspect, and my father's been doing worse every year since some incident back in 2018 or so. I wouldn't say he's nursing home bound, but he's very slowly becoming someone who can't leave the house or walk for an extended period of time without one of those walkers with wheels and a seat. He doesn't have dementia or Alzheimers, but he has some digestive disease that ruined his liver. I barely have the money to take care of myself, so I'm completely useless in this situation. If you got to a point where you had to be a caregiver full time and the show makes less episodes or stops completely, that's something we should all respect.
Family is more important. Wishing you the best!
We get it man. Do what you got to, we're not going anywhere.
my heart goes out to you, ben. i watched my mother and father in that position as i grew up, taking care of my grandparents and being in and out of hospitals and facilities at a constant revolving door. it would be remiss of me to not admit that it took a toll on them; it’s entirely understandable that you’d need to slow things down and take time for yourself. i’ve been a fan of the archive since i was young and you’ve brought so much joy to my life and the lives of others, it’s only natural that you give some of that to yourself. much love!! please remember to take care of yourself too!! ❤
Family comes first. Don’t push yourself too hard and burn the candle at both ends.
I lost my dad in a horrible case of cancer.
I still enjoy all of your episodes and your sound tracks.
Godspeed Ben!
Take care and do what you need to do Ben. I hope you’ll have a great year overall. I hope and pray for the best for your father.
Thank you, Ben, my friend, for sharing this. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.
I also want to thank you for bringing so much joy to my life in the form of Archive. So many memories that this show helps bring back it’s like I have dead media in my head I think it’s lost forever and then it turns up on an episode of Archive. So much talent u have, says Yoda. Love ya Bennie Boy.
I'm sorry you are going through so much I also had help take of my dad for four months straight. He unfortunately passed well guess you would call it last year but it was in August. 😢 I really wish things were better for you. I'm always glad to watch your videos and glad you are not shutting down. Hang in there and be strong.
Take your time with the slower schedule, family and life comes first. I can only hope for things to go as well as they can, and I'm going to be here to watch your videos at whatever cadence you feel able to make.
You have a good back catalog, I want to watch some again others for first time, so you still have content if anyone cares to look.
I'm sorry to hear about that. I know caretaking can be an exhausting job, so hang in there.
Sorry to read of your situation. Both my grandmother (father's side) and my auntie (mother's side) had dementia and it can really take a toll. Both of them were able to still live more or less independently for a while but eventually it got to the point where they had to go into a home. And there is no way I could find the time to look after a family member, and keep a UA-cam channel going like you are. Hats off to you.
All the best for you and your family! I hope the OA will continue. Thank you for entertaining and informing me for all these years.
Rough stuff, bro. Best of luck! I I always love the content when it comes!
I’m so sorry about what’s happening and as someone who has a grandma with dementia and as someone who works in a nursing home, I understand the stress that’s happening. My mom’s been stressed with her because it’s her mom and it’s affected me too.
@3:43; I feel for you there. The last time I ever saw my grandmother alive back in 2004, my mother (on one side of her hospice bed) told her "Jon is here too." then pointed in my direction on the other side of the bed, to where she turned her head, looked me in the eyes and said, "My grandson, Jon?" to which I nodded. After a few minutes, I called my mother outside, to which I told her, "Yup, she's losing it."
Benny Boy, sad to hear all of this but it reflects things in my life too. It’s good to have a distraction and we all enjoy having you in our lives, but heart breaking all the same. I feel like we’re friends. Do what you need to do.
Ben, so deeply sorry to hear this. Dementia is a cruel disease. My Grandfather suffered from dementia as well. It so hard, both for the person and their loved ones. It’s like they are right there but behind bullet proof glass. I’m sure everyone here has been touched in some way by this disease and we all understand. Take all the time you need to focus on your family. Thoughts and prayers 🙏.
I'm so sorry to hear about your father. My mother had dementia at the end of her life and it is so hard on so many levels. You do what you gotta do. Family always comes first. Take care.
Seen it happen to my parents when my dad's parents started going downhill in the fall of 2011. Thankfully, we eventually got them into a good nursing home that no doubt bought them a few more years until they both passed in 2014.
I had no idea what was going on in your personal life. It's a miracle you are able to get anything done.
I take it the thrifting excursions on done on the days you don't take care of your dad. Also, do you work a day job, or are you a full-time caregiver?
As I said in the video, caregiving has become my de-facto day job. OA is the only professional thing right now.
@@OddityArchive Those Patreon supporters are all the more vital then.
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I was reading the comments as well as busy being blindsided by this depressing revelation about you, so I may have missed some details.
I extend my condolences. I lost my grandma to the same in 2019, and I can understand some of the sentiments that you're going through right now. We love you here Ben. Do what you gotta do, we'll always be here when you get back.
I know that felling Ben, my mom's mom my grandmother, in late 99 was diagnosed with this, and we lost her in 2000. Not a problem on quality there. Loosing a parent is hard, when I lost my dad a few years back is when I discovered OA on YT. I hope all goes well. My dad was a US Navy Vet.
Your youtube career has helped your family amazingly, i am so happy to support you through this via patreon.
Hey man you should be kind to yourself. If you got circumstances whether that be external or internal you got circumstances. I appreciate the work you do. If some prick says you're being sensitive or exploitative or whatever thats his problem
❤❤❤ I have wondered as a long time fan, however that is the most understandable thing I could fathom.. My mom went through the same thing eons ago. I now, alot because of the fact; work in "memory care". I don't know what to say to make it better except I still watch all of your content and am most enthused for it....Also, having family involved is a big deal. You gotta keep, if you can.. bringing back what happy memories that have managed to stick with them and that which they can still enjoy. You're doin' right. You got my thoughts and best wishes.. Often I believe this hurts more for those around the person in question than it does them. Just comfort is all you can offer. It can be frustrating and very strange at times...
God bless you and your family. Keep creating when you can, but rest when you need.
I’m really sorry you’re going through this my friend. I took care of my mom from the age of nine until the age of 30 so I understand what it’s like. I can’t say this about every one of your fans but Family comes first and will be here
Really sorry to hear about your father, Ben. I've been watching your videos for about 10 years. Please take care of yourself and your mom. My sister's mother-in-law also had dementia, so I know what that's like.
I’m sorry you’re in such a rough spot. You’ve gotta take care of your business first, Ben. I know I’ll be around whenever you post, and I think most of us will too, but I understand life comes first. Take care of yourself.
Family always comes first, and being a viewer of yours for about nine years, I have no issues with you taking things slower, especially given the situation you're in. My grandfather passed away from dementia in 2021, so I understand how rough it can be taking care of a family member with such a disease. Take care of yourself and your family, Ben! My prayers go out to you!
I understand entirely, i hope for the best for you
Do what you need to do! Your content is so great that I'll happily wait. I'm glad to take the slower moving Archive train.
I feel ya when you said it’s affecting your mental health, cause it’s doing the same thing to my mom.(and me and my siblings) My grandma has been suffering from Alzheimer’s for 3-4 years now and the feeling is terrible (especially on her birthday.) You take your time with your videos. If waiting a little longer means you will be better, I’ll take it.