I am in no contact with my ex right now. I have tried to convey the message that I am willing to work and to try and resolve the things that happened in our relationship, because I know she left because of what happened and was feeling too shameful to stay. I want to express to her, that the behavior wasn’t ok, but I have told her that I understand why things happened the way that they did. I truly think she is scared that I hate her, and will never look at her the same, and I know I need to get that message across to her. I asked her to meet me for dinner, so we could see one another and talk to one another and get these things out in the open and start to work on the healing process.
Hey, I love all your videos, your videos are the best ones that I have watched. I have been learning lot from you. Your sessions made me feel that process of healing can be so beautiful. After watching your videos I am able revisit my traumatic experience to learn from it and not be resentful. So much love for you ❤️❤️❤️
This will never work when the person that cheated lies gaslights and trickle truth for months on end to the point where you will never know what the hell even happened, sad
This is the first explanation I have found that really explains rebuilding trust after there has been infidelity. Where it addresses the needs of both people involved in the relationship! So often it seems only the person who was cheated on helped. When most likely there was a reason why the other person cheated in the first place. Maybe the person that was cheated on did something in the past to their partner that they would never own up to or made their partner’s needs not matter!
I think we are all not perfect, we need to forgive each other but again I think there is an extend where you need to forgive or move, if someone cheats on you it shows disrespect for you.
My partner wants to end the relationship saying he can't trust me, when I haven't cheated at all. His insecurity and fear of being cheated on is the main problem. I don't know how to help building trust with him, as it seems he's just projecting his past onto me
@@Alphacentauri819 Thank you! You are absolutely right! We have decided to be just friends. He recognizes that he needs to heal from his past and that this wouldn't be a healthy romantic relationship. We still care for each other and will keep in touch :)
we did end the relationship (and she moved in with him); we are trying to be amicable but he continues to seem to act in an avoidant way. i think we need consulting on better communication but his has been resistant. it would be nice to get advice on this…because i do really appreciate all these videos. I’ve learned a lot!
Life rule number one. Never ever, on pain of death, ever take back a cheat. They WILL do it again. You must not do this. Move on, no matter how painful.
@@saharaofthedeep I repeat. Never EVER on the pain of death, take back a cheat. They WILL do it again. In addition I will add that, if you take them back you have essentially given them permission to cheat again. Best wishes. x
Wow. Thanks for invalidating the experiences and relationships of people who were cheated on and overcame the cheating. The vast majority of long-term committed relationships that work for both people involved cheating at some point. The fact that you were unwilling or unable to overcome doesn’t engage the rest of us.
Not that any cheating happened, but this is golden advice in general. Thank you!
I am in no contact with my ex right now. I have tried to convey the message that I am willing to work and to try and resolve the things that happened in our relationship, because I know she left because of what happened and was feeling too shameful to stay. I want to express to her, that the behavior wasn’t ok, but I have told her that I understand why things happened the way that they did. I truly think she is scared that I hate her, and will never look at her the same, and I know I need to get that message across to her. I asked her to meet me for dinner, so we could see one another and talk to one another and get these things out in the open and start to work on the healing process.
Incredibly helpful. I’m not even in a relationship but I’ve recently experienced emotional wounding from friends and this applies here as well
Hey, I love all your videos, your videos are the best ones that I have watched. I have been learning lot from you. Your sessions made me feel that process of healing can be so beautiful. After watching your videos I am able revisit my traumatic experience to learn from it and not be resentful. So much love for you ❤️❤️❤️
So happy to hear this! We love you too! Thanks for watching our videos
This will never work when the person that cheated lies gaslights and trickle truth for months on end to the point where you will never know what the hell even happened, sad
This is the first explanation I have found that really explains rebuilding trust after there has been infidelity. Where it addresses the needs of both people involved in the relationship! So often it seems only the person who was cheated on helped. When most likely there was a reason why the other person cheated in the first place. Maybe the person that was cheated on did something in the past to their partner that they would never own up to or made their partner’s needs not matter!
Thank you for this Thais. From this video, I have formed a strategy on how I will approach this with my DA ex if I manage to reconnect with him.
I think we are all not perfect, we need to forgive each other but again I think there is an extend where you need to forgive or move, if someone cheats on you it shows disrespect for you.
My partner wants to end the relationship saying he can't trust me, when I haven't cheated at all. His insecurity and fear of being cheated on is the main problem. I don't know how to help building trust with him, as it seems he's just projecting his past onto me
@@Alphacentauri819 Thank you! You are absolutely right! We have decided to be just friends. He recognizes that he needs to heal from his past and that this wouldn't be a healthy romantic relationship. We still care for each other and will keep in touch :)
we did end the relationship (and she moved in with him); we are trying to be amicable but he continues to seem to act in an avoidant way. i think we need consulting on better communication but his has been resistant. it would be nice to get advice on this…because i do really appreciate all these videos. I’ve learned a lot!
Life rule number one. Never ever, on pain of death, ever take back a cheat. They WILL do it again. You must not do this. Move on, no matter how painful.
This video is literally about REPAIRING trust.
@@saharaofthedeep I repeat. Never EVER on the pain of death, take back a cheat. They WILL do it again.
In addition I will add that, if you take them back you have essentially given them permission to cheat again.
Best wishes. x
it’s rare but, no, sometimes they don’t cheat again.
@@7one11 Perhaps.... But maybe it'll always be on your mind?
Wow. Thanks for invalidating the experiences and relationships of people who were cheated on and overcame the cheating. The vast majority of long-term committed relationships that work for both people involved cheating at some point. The fact that you were unwilling or unable to overcome doesn’t engage the rest of us.
Thank you so very much for this information.
You dont.
Stop this toxic non sense.