I Thank God He Did Not Save My Marriage | Divorce Testimony

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  • @conquererforchrist
    @conquererforchrist Рік тому +518

    As born again Christians I believe we need to hear from God before choosing a marriage partner. Most of the time God shows us the signs during the courtship but we ignore them.

    • @kwazikwakhe9524
      @kwazikwakhe9524 Рік тому +12

      Too true

    • @Stitchesbycarol
      @Stitchesbycarol Рік тому +10

      Exactly.

    • @CatholicPrayerForum
      @CatholicPrayerForum Рік тому

      Hearing from God doesn’t eliminate problems in marriage, it also doesn’t mean a divorce can’t happen. God told Hosea to marry Gomer the prostitute, I bet when she went back to her customers, I bet one would have said same

    • @theabrown423
      @theabrown423 Рік тому +18

      That’s it. Now she remains the wife of that man even though she is divorced because In the eyes of God, she is still married. She’s only separated through death.

    • @1anre
      @1anre Рік тому +6

      Like what?

  • @busisiwekhumalo6258
    @busisiwekhumalo6258 Рік тому +147

    I believe there are signs that the person is not right for you but we turn to ignore them 😢

  • @yoniqueblake4648
    @yoniqueblake4648 Рік тому +84

    My heart goes out to every woman, who are in an abusive relationship,i hope you'll get out safely ❤

  • @rosemariesteele-pm3tx
    @rosemariesteele-pm3tx Рік тому +51

    Wow!! Wow!! Wow!!Just what I needed to hear.
    I am going through divorce proceedings at the moment. I have been betrayed, deceived, gas lighted, humiliated etc in my marriage and suffered emotional, verbal and psychological abuse throughout.
    Even though the pain sometimes kicks in when I remember my wedding day ....how things seemed so perfect; how beautiful I was with my bridal party and guest, dressed stylishly in 1920s theme, I know now that I have missed the signs and Red flags that God was showing me in courtship.
    Whoever is reading this, please understand.. ..when we are walking with God, he will show us signs when we are taking the wrong path of the journey and when we miss that sign, consequences will be there to face ... no matter how we look at it. However, our loving father is here to pick us up, teach us that it was only for our good in order for him to get the glory.. Hallelujah!!!!
    God's grace is carrying me through.....I have forgiven, let go and allowing God to use me to empower others too.
    I speak a blessing over your life my sister and pray your generation will be used by God tremendously. Shalom🙏

    • @kennethadukpo-egi8232
      @kennethadukpo-egi8232 Рік тому +1

      Am also close to someone going through divorce proceedings. There's hypertensive heart disease because of emotional harm, psychological trauma, mental torture, physical harm and all forms of abuse.

    • @angelinedzukwa1241
      @angelinedzukwa1241 Рік тому

      Hallelujah 🙏🙏🙏

    • @sandramatua6293
      @sandramatua6293 Рік тому

      Helo, i am also still goin through divorce proceedings. And went through abuse in the marriage 🙏

  • @danar6950
    @danar6950 Рік тому +34

    I’m not sure why UA-cam recommended this video and not sure why I actually clicked to watch, but this testimony was powerful! I’m going to watch again, to really absorb all of the points made especially the section on grace. Thank you for sharing 🙌🏾🙏🏾

  • @GracefullyKaren
    @GracefullyKaren Рік тому +38

    Everyone has a story to tell. There is nothing that is wasted before God. Many times, we put ourselves in our own mess but God who is gracious uses it to birth a message. Inasmuch as we always say “If God knew this or that, why did he allow it”. I’ve come to understand that God is present but we have to make room in our lives for Him. We cannot select which compartment we want to place God. If we can trace back to the situation and where we were on our journey’s with God, many times, our relationship with Him was not solid but still yet God is Good. What looked like ashes God uses it for His glory. Thank you for sharing your testimony 🙏🏿

  • @rosethorns1893
    @rosethorns1893 Рік тому +122

    Your ex-husband is what is known as a “narcissist”
    I was raised Christian and I so desperately wish that the young people were taught about this in church. I was so naive and this caused a world of pain for me as well, and then our religion tells us that we must stay, yet condemns us for being unequally yoked. Maybe we hadn’t prayed about it or not prayed enough or didn’t listen, etc.
    I love my Lord and Savior and I’m so grateful that He helped me see that it was okay to file for divorce and leave with my babies.

    • @exquisitecaribbeanqueen7198
      @exquisitecaribbeanqueen7198 Рік тому +5

      Exactly so, I wish I had known.

    • @bruci8717
      @bruci8717 Рік тому +5

      @Rose Victorious. Same!

    • @nanaabasam5021
      @nanaabasam5021 Рік тому +28

      Well done, ma’am. True, God hates divorce but I personally think He values your soul more than a ring on your finger with a certificate.
      Spousal abuse in any form is very real and highly unacceptable. Either way, I sometimes think divorce is God’s own way of getting you out of the mess you put yourself in. It shouldn’t always be frowned upon. Weigh your circumstances well, pray and don’t speak to/listen to anybody. Sometimes, people have a tendency of using their “good advice” to get you out of God’s will.
      Let’s be warned.

    • @kwazikwakhe9524
      @kwazikwakhe9524 Рік тому +7

      May the Lord keep and help us. Thank you for watching and grace to you all.

    • @mbulemaisela346
      @mbulemaisela346 Рік тому +3

      What a beautiful honest testimony. May this grace grow. May we realise that this gracious God wants us reaching people instead of chasing a status in church. May we come to the understanding that 'for God so loved the world' not the social church.

  • @fhatukhosa189
    @fhatukhosa189 Рік тому +68

    I've never gone through marriage or divorce but this uplifted me. I like the part where you say we must not think for God and where you say we must not be afraid of being broken🙏

    • @kwazikwakhe9524
      @kwazikwakhe9524 Рік тому +2

      Thank you so much and grace be upon you ❤

    • @banthatiramontsho9540
      @banthatiramontsho9540 Рік тому +1

      Thank you Kwazi for this powerful n uplifting testimony. Yes, a lot of us jumped into relationships without seeking God's direction.
      May God continue to use you as you praise His Holy Name for not saying your marriage, cause He saved you n showed you great things instead.
      Loving this testimony as I relate n would like to contact you directly - kindly share your email.
      👏👏👏

  • @janekogo2752
    @janekogo2752 Рік тому +18

    "This is my story,this is my song, praising my Savior all the day long....Thank you for your testimony,I needed to hear this today.

  • @zodwaxiviti8868
    @zodwaxiviti8868 Рік тому +52

    I thank God for my parents who supported me through it all and allowed me to leave the luxury behind n welcome me home😢

  • @Nacole_Lashoun
    @Nacole_Lashoun Рік тому +61

    ❤❤❤ Glad you made it out! Anyone dealing with this please read “Stop Walking on Eggshells”by Randi Kreger. It’s saved my life and sanity. Nothing makes sense until your experience is validated. It will also help you to understand how to articulate your experience, which is extremely difficult initially. It gives you the language so that you will not loose your mind when people can’t understand. This book will give you clarity and strength. God bless all those who make it to the other side of narcissistic abuse. There is hope and life is better when your’e out! ❤❤❤

    • @tshepomogobe1529
      @tshepomogobe1529 Рік тому +1

      Thank you for the recommendation

    • @kelmillan6271
      @kelmillan6271 Рік тому

      Walking away from a narcissist person is the hardest thing ever, may God have mercy

  • @Jabepoma
    @Jabepoma Рік тому +14

    Intimate spousal abuse, emotional abuse, is very traumatic. Thank you for sharing your story.....yes walking away is okay. Your life is important.

  • @anneroarty6473
    @anneroarty6473 Рік тому +6

    Thank you sister for a truthful video. I saw red flags but ignored them. Two years married I knew he was not for me. He abused me physically mentally and sexual abuse. I married a narcissist..

  • @cynthiaawuor-bk8eg
    @cynthiaawuor-bk8eg Рік тому +6

    Was so broken but after listening to your testimony am strong now indeed God's grace is sufficient thanks for sharing your testimony God bless you❤❤❤

  • @nicolettechristian4760
    @nicolettechristian4760 Рік тому +26

    Marriage is for peace. It's never perfect, but Paul in the book of corinthians said it is for peace. God does not condone violence or abuse. It is not the plan God had in mind when He created this beautiful institution, called marriage. If couples are willing to look into their wrongful ways, repent and change, then perfect, but if the abuse continues, then you must flee, regardless of whether you are male or female. Trauma takes time to heal, but WITH GOD you will heal completely and your testimony is what He will use to restore and help many. God bless you, my sister.

  • @ZinhleSibeko-ed5jm
    @ZinhleSibeko-ed5jm Рік тому +50

    Oh my God.....I can relate.....at one point I remember I slept 3 days straight without eating,or drinking anything and no I wasn't on fast, I was lethargic but God's grace carried me out of that darkness 🙏

    • @NJAN321
      @NJAN321 Рік тому +3

      I'm happy you summoned the courage to leave. And also happy you left alive.

    • @kwazikwakhe9524
      @kwazikwakhe9524 Рік тому +5

      May His Grace keep and sustain you

  • @SEUNNY2306
    @SEUNNY2306 Рік тому +12

    Thanks for sharing your testimony. God is a specialist in turning mess into messages, trials into triumph and tests into testimonies and that is exactly what He has done with you. Your testimony is a powerful and loaded message of God’s grace and mercy towards mankind. His grace is sufficient for us!!!

  • @susannjuguna8886
    @susannjuguna8886 Рік тому +12

    You have been used by God ,,, to speak to me...I had similar experience in marriage now separated ,mother to one gal
    The mess only God can make ...I thank Holy spirit for coming through for me and now leading and teaching me .God allows pain for his purpose glory and honour belongs to him.
    I have been listening to many people but you are choosen for this purpose to heal and give hope to broken hearted
    Thank you for understanding your assignment ❤

  • @angelinesithole6536
    @angelinesithole6536 Рік тому +16

    Thanks Kwazi for sharing I love God because He never leaves us nor forsake us..... and I admire you for packing and leaving the luxury behind because Your source of life is not in materialism, it all belongs to God anyway, we forget He gives all good things. So if He once gave you a good thing, He can even give you better, the secret is to continue seeking God, and wen you find Him, ALWAYS PUT HIM FIRST !! He is the only friend I know, so faithful and so true❤ 🙌

    • @kwazikwakhe9524
      @kwazikwakhe9524 Рік тому

      Thank you for this. Thanks for watching. May His mercy abide with you.

  • @StarDaughterOfZionDube
    @StarDaughterOfZionDube Рік тому +20

    One of the most touching, genuine , life changing testimonies Iv heard , this is powerful wow Lord help me as you’ve helped this woman 💙‼️🙏🏽

  • @nolasmith1236
    @nolasmith1236 Рік тому +12

    Beautiful testimony….. I m moved by this. My strength is made perfect in weakness. Hallelujah.

  • @judiamoatshe100
    @judiamoatshe100 Рік тому +8

    Amen sister His mercy picks us up and His unfailing, unconditional love will never fail us. Our destiny is in His hand despite the route He make us go through and trust me He'll never fail us.

  • @PeaceAbayomi-by3fz
    @PeaceAbayomi-by3fz Рік тому +3

    Thank you for sharing sister,God would rather have the marriage end than have us destroyed from His plan.just got strengthed

  • @nonhlanhlamathibela1521
    @nonhlanhlamathibela1521 Рік тому +3

    I love what you said "I am not an example, I am a testimony " profound stru ❤then "they won't say look at her, but they will say because of her" 💯👌

  • @ingeloff5337
    @ingeloff5337 Рік тому +14

    Praise God as I can relate to you. Your trials and pain became your testimony. I also thank God for my divorce and every bad experience I had but for God's grace. Bless you 🙏

    • @kwazikwakhe9524
      @kwazikwakhe9524 Рік тому

      And as I always say, I'm not an example, I'm a full testimony. Thanks for watching and Grace to you and family.

  • @neegee3755
    @neegee3755 Рік тому +12

    Thank you for sharing your vulnerability with us. It’s a relatable testimony. Satan attacks God’s people by using marriage to fulfill his purpose which is to kill steal and destroy. We thank God for saving you. His promises are Ye and amen 🙏🏼 ❤

  • @cheryljonas282
    @cheryljonas282 Рік тому +12

    I lived with my childrens father for 27 years 16 of those years were bad .. I accepted christ while living in sin with him.. sincd I left him I finally got baptizrd and started living a christan life. . For the past 8 yeats I have been single..I am afraid of any relationship. I feel sorry for good womdn who are treated badly by their husbsnds . May God help us🙏🙏🙏 All

  • @chelesanisibanda2224
    @chelesanisibanda2224 Рік тому +1

    My heart goes out to you Kwazi and everyone in an abusive relationship or marriage. Thank God you came out alive. I wonder why UA-cam suggested this video to me but I'm glad I clicked on it. You're beautiful, strong and brave.

  • @eunicemueni9321
    @eunicemueni9321 Рік тому +8

    Am so glad that the Lord has given you the courage to share with us you're testimony...exactly what I went through ..the mask part weee,fear of sinning yet you're in sin
    Thankyou Jesus for comings through

    • @kwazikwakhe9524
      @kwazikwakhe9524 Рік тому

      And you just keep hoping that no one sees... We thank God for His love. Grace to you sis

  • @mapsmaps805
    @mapsmaps805 Рік тому +20

    Hi Kwazi. Thank you for sharing your story and being so vulnerable. It will help so many women who find themselves in a similar situation. Thank God for healing. You have a bright future ahead of you. God bless you abundantly.

    • @kwazikwakhe9524
      @kwazikwakhe9524 Рік тому

      Thank you for watching. We indeed are anchored

    • @kwazikwakhe9524
      @kwazikwakhe9524 Рік тому

      Amen. Grace to you ❤

    • @andiswapupa1637
      @andiswapupa1637 Рік тому +1

      Love it when you say, Our salvation is not that of 1996, we re saved everyday. Thank you ❤️God bless you 🙏

  • @sharonreyes3812
    @sharonreyes3812 Рік тому +3

    I agree Grace is for the undeserving. Grace is made perfect in our weaknesses

  • @annahmochadibane7969
    @annahmochadibane7969 Рік тому +6

    Bless you for making me see and know that my life is a journey, that I should not think that I'm defeated. Thank you for responding to God's calling . I'm definitely sharing this. ❤️🙏👌

  • @mariaguilzene6817
    @mariaguilzene6817 Рік тому +8

    Great testimony which is coming from a tested life . I'm so touched by ur story n I know others r also . God have u for a purpose sound words from u my sista . There is NOT one broken vessel that God cannot mend

    • @kwazikwakhe9524
      @kwazikwakhe9524 Рік тому

      Oh Amen. Thank you so much for your encouraging words.

  • @ricrori32
    @ricrori32 Рік тому +24

    You're a strong black woman, I've been through divorce, and I was sick when I was thrown out into the streets 20 years ago. These trials come to make us strong, I'm a person of Godly boldness, and His love. I've been bountifully blessed over the years since I'm free from the bondage...

    • @erickotieno6164
      @erickotieno6164 Рік тому +1

      Amen

    • @kwazikwakhe9524
      @kwazikwakhe9524 Рік тому +3

      You're an inspiration and a clear indication of God's love. More grace to you Sir

    • @ricrori32
      @ricrori32 Рік тому +2

      @@kwazikwakhe9524 Without a doubt you're a child of God. God loves you more than you know, and has an amazingly blessed future for you. May the Lord bless, protect, and prosper you, and your family forever in the name of Yeshua,
      Amen my sister 🙏🏽☝🏽🔥💞🌹

    • @ricrori32
      @ricrori32 Рік тому +3

      @@kwazikwakhe9524 What you're saying about the streets is definitly from the Lord, because I use to be a pulpit preacher, God called me out of the institutionalized organized church many years ago. I've even dealt with people from different parts of the world because of the closeness that I have with Him. Intimate time will bring the blessing of God, and the blessing of God brings the blessings. I minister where ever God sends me, the streets, shopping, doctor appointments it doesn't matter Jesus will be where ever He sends us. I went to the Bahamas for sixteen days. What a mission that was, lots of learning from heartships, but God has changed all of that now, I've had two women in my life since my divorce, it's been 11 years since I had anyone in my life 18 years since my divorce, God is still with me no matter what, so keep up the greater works sweetie you are blessed!!!

    • @ricrori32
      @ricrori32 Рік тому +1

      @@kwazikwakhe9524 💞🌹💞

  • @marydena3027
    @marydena3027 Рік тому +21

    Lord help me!
    I refuse to receive any beautifully packaged evil gifts-be they marriages, friendships,businesses, careers, etc-in the great name of Jesus Christ!

    • @kwazikwakhe9524
      @kwazikwakhe9524 Рік тому +1

      May the Lord continue to help us. You're blessed. May He continue to Anchor you

  • @NetsaiMachengete
    @NetsaiMachengete Рік тому +3

    Thank so much with your testimony,after listening to you story I am healed from my abusive realationship

  • @anytingandeverytingwithnad8012
    @anytingandeverytingwithnad8012 Рік тому +13

    I agree with you it’s not once saved always saved it’s an everyday thing. Great testimony

  • @doreenachom
    @doreenachom Рік тому +23

    I was once in a mentally abusive marriage that I was always blamed and never appreciated. I got myself there cause I remember God Speaking to me about my ex husband. At first it was him, I was meant to get married to but later after proposing and arranging marriage, I saw I different version of dreams about him with a changed heart of marrying me. Whatever happened and trauma I went through was revealed to me in a dream. He was a good man before getting rich but after getting rich his heart totally change. I used to resist God's voice cause I thought that it was the devil that never wanted me to get married. I started rebuking voices in my head and never wanted to listen to my prayer partner who had told me about a dream she got. I am grateful that I went through that marriage it positioned me to learn how to be patient and to listen to God's voice. I dont regret the time I wasted cause its never too late. Am happy leaving with my little girl and free from the bondage. Its now 4 years, looking to settle with someone else and commiting the person I meet before God. This time until I get a sign. Would rather stay single than fall into a dark hole of a wrong partner/ marriage

  • @mariabaemedi3326
    @mariabaemedi3326 Рік тому +3

    Yoh! This testimony spoke volumes in my life, thank you Woman of God for sharing it is worth a lifetime 🙏

  • @sharonreyes3812
    @sharonreyes3812 Рік тому +1

    My sister yes we are all in a process. Thank God for your testimony. I'm blessed.

  • @larissastalczynski7813
    @larissastalczynski7813 Рік тому

    I'm commenting at 25 minutes of the testimony. Thank you beautiful sis for sharing your trial. I'm glad you are better now and glowing!!
    We can't fully know people.

  • @bridget82Thembi
    @bridget82Thembi Рік тому +9

    Sister what you have spoken, to me means what I went through is a testimony cos I went through my in-laws doesn't want to see me with their son, fast forward after 6 years if giving me protection order to get out of their compound with their son, now they came back and say we are sorry for what we did to your marriage with my son, they said forgive us n be a family again. I thank God because he allowed me get out Egypt n now I know grace saved my marriage

    • @kwazikwakhe9524
      @kwazikwakhe9524 Рік тому

      Oh sis... thank you for sharing. May your testimony touch others too.

  • @gleaverwilliams4767
    @gleaverwilliams4767 Рік тому +4

    Your testimony is truly an encouragement to me, it is a reminder that we are not our own, without him we are nothing and without him we can do nothing.
    Also whatever out plans, dreams, aspirations are, we need to take them to God first and let him lead us.

  • @kacymak3765
    @kacymak3765 Рік тому +16

    Thank you Testimony and Kwazi for sharing this beautiful story. Indeed, there's beauty in the struggle. I'm inspired!

    • @kwazikwakhe9524
      @kwazikwakhe9524 Рік тому

      Thank you so much for listening Kacy and I pray that the same grace that continues to Anchor me, finds everyone too.

    • @samuelagwotu5074
      @samuelagwotu5074 Рік тому +1

      @@kwazikwakhe9524 Marriage !!! many Girls want to be brides but not wives , girls before getting married, ask your self, and be honest , ,do i have what it takes to be wife ? if you can not , then don't be married . get to know what a wife is , google and get thorough knowledge of wife and responsibilities of wife and Husband ,see this in a man your to marry . stay a way from this FEELINGS things of your heart ? BROKEN marriage =curse =Adultery, CHILDREN FROM ADULTERY =evil offspring= evil linage, why choose that willfully .....??????

    • @kwazikwakhe9524
      @kwazikwakhe9524 Рік тому +1

      @@samuelagwotu5074 absolutely get you. #anchored

    • @jareya
      @jareya Рік тому +1

      @@samuelagwotu5074 this comment is not only false, it has no connection to this video

  • @taniaschuppius
    @taniaschuppius Рік тому +12

    Pole sana🌻May God be praised for His lifting grace…raising you from the pit of despair (Psalm 40:2)🎉It’s painful & hurts when a husband ignores Colossians 3:19. Out of reverence for Christ, wives submit and also unto each other (Col 3:18/Eph 5:12)🍃

  • @nicolettedeerr8552
    @nicolettedeerr8552 Рік тому +9

    Your testimony is a healing for the soul and spirit of women all over the world who may have a similar experience. Thank you for your humility and openness. Very powerful and real. May the Grace of Jesus Christ continue to be with you and your children always. You are beautiful and strong. I appreciate your interpretation of how God uses the million broken pieces. Praise Jesus, I was truly blessed.

  • @revothomas9343
    @revothomas9343 Рік тому

    Intelligent,young,beautiful,strong and full of wisdom,you are God,s vessel Kwazi .

  • @1anre
    @1anre Рік тому +11

    Damn this video humbled me, reminded me that your struggle could be painful but could still be God's approach to expand you, and it also thought me to take time to reflect on how well you're aligning with God's plan and of you're not doing so, to remember that should God decide to shake the ship up, it can get pretty hairy.

    • @kwazikwakhe9524
      @kwazikwakhe9524 Рік тому

      Powerful. Thank you so much for this. Be blessed!!!

  • @nomsadladla7936
    @nomsadladla7936 Рік тому +10

    Sterling nuggets of wisdom from this lady, I learned so much from you. I was broken so much too but it brought me closer to God. Keep rising and lifting others.

  • @agrished2590
    @agrished2590 Рік тому

    Wow @Kwazi....Not sure why my feed led me to your testimony "When Grace Finds You" is the line that keeps ringing in my head. We thank God that you are a living testimony of His Grace. Never would I judge any woman going through this, so much misconstrued by the church regarding "being saved". May God continue to build you in capacity.Amen

  • @shanellewilliamson-chow2809
    @shanellewilliamson-chow2809 Рік тому +1

    This is beautiful. I am not an example. I am a testimony. Thank you for sharing your life. This testimony has given me much encouragement. Give God all the glory. His grade is sufficient for me.

  • @M-Izilda
    @M-Izilda Рік тому +9

    Thank you for sharing your story, our past is our testimony for the glory of GOD, to bless others, not to be hidden❤

  • @samkeloo377
    @samkeloo377 Рік тому +1

    Thank u for healing us who were broken in marriage but didnt have the courage to speak out.also thank God for coming out alive

  • @anointedshazzymom
    @anointedshazzymom Рік тому +7

    Psalm 51:17
    My sacrifice, O God, is a broken spirit;
    a broken and contrite heart
    you, God, will not despise. I am soooo inspired by this, so similar to my story, thank you for sharing ❤❤❤❤❤❤

    • @yomiwint658
      @yomiwint658 Рік тому +1

      I Feel You girl , Thank You Jesus For Shearing.. Blessings ,Keep Pushing .....🙏🙏🙏

  • @ihoumairene2011
    @ihoumairene2011 Рік тому +4

    Hang in there my sister, it will get better from now on with God's grace. You deserve the radiating and boundless joy that only Christ can give.

  • @vickydayo7868
    @vickydayo7868 Рік тому +3

    One day I will tell my story and hope it help our sisters to get out of toxic,abusive mariage.I got out of 22 years of been miserable and feeling like death was best then live that constant pain at the end of last year after so many attempt.I am waiting for divorce now.May our Father help me to finally brake free.

  • @olabuk2000
    @olabuk2000 Рік тому

    Touched to tears, as you explained about Grace, thank you Kwazi❤️

  • @esmemartins7923
    @esmemartins7923 Рік тому +11

    17/05/2023 -Powerful Testimony - Jesus did not suffer so and due to give us abundant life to see us used misused and abused in our marriages as believers or in any other situation.
    We need a true understanding of scripture as a whole and for verses to be put in their proper context, rather than used as a tool to keep people in bondage.
    God bless you my sister and move you on from one degree of glory to another, in Jesus name 🎉

  • @hlengiwehadebe_
    @hlengiwehadebe_ Рік тому +2

    I needed to hear this so bad 😢😢
    Thank you for sharing your experience ❤

  • @anniedeborahchinungo4434
    @anniedeborahchinungo4434 Рік тому +13

    I felt every thing you went through. Got treated so bad to the point that I lost my worth and sense of self. Found myself always defending myself. Living in fear , broken and just torn apart. No remorse, no empathy, just a cold cold person. Always being picked at , all past events being thrown in my face. Every man I know, I was sleeping with. everything I say being used against me. Conditional relationship, I can only be with you if you do this, if you prove this. I don’t trust you. A whole hell. Im scared of marriage. Really scared.

    • @khadijstbashorun1815
      @khadijstbashorun1815 Рік тому +6

      Quite pathetic! Those who went through this can relate! I went through it. Meeeen...not a good experience! Constant fighting and argument, beating me up at every slight misunderstanding. Chaii bad marriage is like hell on earth! I had to leave him for my sanity sake! At least I regained back my self worth and dignity. He later came back to apologize but sorry.....an animal will always be animal

    • @africansister
      @africansister Рік тому +1

      Next time don't tell your future husband about your past, some men behave like they have no stain

    • @KJ1965Prime
      @KJ1965Prime Рік тому

      I was accused day and night... I joined his cell phone plan.. still got accused about robo calls... always defending myself

  • @lungilemkhize9631
    @lungilemkhize9631 Рік тому +8

    Girl. I can relate. I am a lso a child of God. Being saved doesn't mean that you deserve to stay in an abusive relationship. Thats not God’s plan for us our children. People who judge are those who have not walked a mile on your shoes. Im proud of you, girl. It's like you're relating my own life and, Im on my way out after 27 years.

  • @caurinewilliams4559
    @caurinewilliams4559 Рік тому +6

    Thank you Jesus , for this victorious testimony , continue to use her Jesus, listening to this story am encouraged ,and I can relate to some part ,tho am not yet divorced

  • @Azertyy-k2y
    @Azertyy-k2y Рік тому +18

    I feel safer when people come out to speak up and enlighten or strengthen those who are still dying in abusive marriages. This kind of talk looked like a taboo in the past, but now it's not. Come out , speak up, take a decision EXCEPT SUICIDE, accept the situation , cry, heal, and move on. Sister, you are sooo beautiful. I love you.

  • @zynabuchishala2132
    @zynabuchishala2132 Рік тому +3

    Iam so inspired I pray one day I live to tell my testimony...may my broken pieces be used for the help of many.

  • @aamengor953
    @aamengor953 Рік тому +6

    Your story resonates so well with mine, for a moment I thought you were reading my story but thank God for His Mercies 2:42

  • @giftylawson-kearns8561
    @giftylawson-kearns8561 Рік тому +4

    Thanks for sharing your refinery encounter with me. May the Almighty God continue to mould you and renew your strength. Much love daughter of Zion 🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽☘️

  • @BrendaNakimera-qx4rr
    @BrendaNakimera-qx4rr Рік тому +3

    Thanks for sharing
    I am so encouraged and I know that I am not alone
    God bless you dear Kwazi

  • @liloshania6612
    @liloshania6612 Рік тому +48

    One time I went to the bedroom and cried my heart out. When my husband came from the living room, he asked me," kwani umeshikwa na homa! Meaning, " you mean you have you caught a cold! I vowed from that night never to cry again because of a man. Fast forward to now, we are separated and I am a happy soul again.

    • @kwazikwakhe9524
      @kwazikwakhe9524 Рік тому +1

      Thank you for sharing. May He keep anchoring you in His Grace

    • @gracetimowolabi4561
      @gracetimowolabi4561 Рік тому +4

      This happened to me too....I was crying and he was laughing at me, I quickly stopped and vowed never to shed a tear because of him...EVER!

    • @norahrigha8436
      @norahrigha8436 Рік тому +1

      wow,, things we go through in these marriages... wacha tu. i will give my story one day

    • @JoyTshabalala-jg7yv
      @JoyTshabalala-jg7yv Рік тому +1

      Askies

    • @katemunguti9228
      @katemunguti9228 Рік тому +1

      Pole sana my sister...life is larger than marriage

  • @wamush3338
    @wamush3338 Рік тому +1

    Am happy to see you are well now girl. God does the extra ordinary things we dont think He can. May God heal your heart completely, and prosper you and your kids.

  • @mickyymay
    @mickyymay Рік тому +3

    Such eloquence! Thanks for sharing your story. GOD is not done with you yet.

  • @tesha22
    @tesha22 Рік тому +4

    What a beautiful woman. Strong and resilient.🎉

  • @mariamataboge9836
    @mariamataboge9836 Рік тому

    Strong and brilliant young lady. A child of God keep it up

  • @spiwe78
    @spiwe78 Рік тому +1

    Thank you for sharing this testimony. It is important for family to support and have a child who's alive than bury them for the sake of being Mrs!

  • @fusierchindowa7977
    @fusierchindowa7977 Рік тому +4

    This hit close to home maan.

  • @samanthabrady3265
    @samanthabrady3265 5 місяців тому

    Your testimony was an inspiration. Thank you for the courage to share

  • @predestinated9248
    @predestinated9248 Рік тому +7

    Thank you for sharing by the time I left physically I had already divorced emotionally one year ago. it's important to fight for the marriage and then realize that there is nothing to salvage then you pull the plug

  • @junelewis
    @junelewis Рік тому +5

    Your story is very inspiring. I am now half way thru and glued to this testimony

    • @kwazikwakhe9524
      @kwazikwakhe9524 Рік тому +1

      May the Grace that found me, see you through. You're loved.

  • @hopepeace8060
    @hopepeace8060 Рік тому +2

    It is good to pray before getting into any relationship - business or personal

  • @lindahnagudi4937
    @lindahnagudi4937 Рік тому +1

    My same feeling we share alot I truly thank God for not saving mine to and believing in him for a marriage ordained by him

  • @Glm8
    @Glm8 Рік тому +14

    Salvation we are talking about is accepting Jesus as your Lord and Saviour, it can only happen once at thr conviction of the Holy Spirit, where a person is saved from eternal condemnation to life, your name is written in the book of life, you don't have to be saved everyday because it is not like your name can be written everyday as if it was deleted overnight, this we receive by faith and not by our works.
    Thank you for sharing your experience, may God heal everyone going through the same and men who abuses their parteners🙏🏾

  • @mariaguilzene6817
    @mariaguilzene6817 Рік тому +5

    God will bring them back to the potter's house n mold, melt, break n put back the way it is suppose to be. Thank u for this powerful testimony

  • @Blessed591
    @Blessed591 Рік тому +2

    Me too . . . Am out of it 23 years later. Free at last and healing .

  • @bosedeoluwayomi
    @bosedeoluwayomi Рік тому +3

    What a mighty testimony!!! Thank you Lord for the rescue and the new woman born to become all she was created for. God bless you for sharing your life with us. The good work He began He shall complete in Jesus' name. I've learned so much from this testimony.

    • @sellahchepkwony3123
      @sellahchepkwony3123 Рік тому

      Thank you very much for sharing! May God bless you and continue using you

  • @sibomatayi
    @sibomatayi Рік тому +1

    Thank you so much. "My Grace is sufficient for you".

  • @delmahnori1582
    @delmahnori1582 Рік тому +4

    God is the best friend you could have ask for. He is the only One that there for you when the people you think will protect and support you become monster. I am related to your story but I came through because of God. My life without God is like me withithout breath. We serve an amazing God who loves unconditionally. Trust in Him and He will lead you through montains you face every day.

    • @kwazikwakhe9524
      @kwazikwakhe9524 Рік тому

      I thank God for keeping you and strengthening you. May He continue to anchor you

  • @upendolove6333
    @upendolove6333 Рік тому +3

    Your testimony is powerful. Am encouraged.❤

  • @stadenmabibo1139
    @stadenmabibo1139 Рік тому +6

    I thank God for you, if you were close i would hug you tightly and tell you what you know already "Jesus loves you". When God wants to use a man he makes sure he bares the marks. The wounds of the Holy Spirit gives birth to psalms 91:1. Im blessed to have heard your powerful testimony. Im humbled 🙇🏽‍♀️

    • @wendyswaby3197
      @wendyswaby3197 Рік тому +1

      Im going through the same thing now on my way out

  • @serwahprempeh3466
    @serwahprempeh3466 Рік тому +9

    He was a complete narcissis God help us see the red flag before getting into such union

  • @claudiaorgill4785
    @claudiaorgill4785 Рік тому +22

    You did not loose the years with him, he loose out on the good times that he would have with you if he had treated you much better.

  • @sekaichamhere9390
    @sekaichamhere9390 Рік тому +9

    I am very emotional🥲🥲😭😭.Passed through the same situation. I also thank God for my divorce and every bad experience I had but for God's grace

    • @kwazikwakhe9524
      @kwazikwakhe9524 Рік тому +1

      We learn that we are truly Anchored when even at our worst, He sees the best. Grace to you sis

  • @shanempire2023
    @shanempire2023 Рік тому +4

    We find the True God in our darkest place. THANK GOD HE RECOVERED YOU.

  • @soniavelez5569
    @soniavelez5569 Рік тому +5

    I thank God I’m out of my 26 yr marriage . All the red flags were there but I ignored them . I should of prayed about it first before excepting that relationship .

    • @carol-anncollins6671
      @carol-anncollins6671 Рік тому +2

      Same 23years for me and I am still struggling and feeling more lost and lonely 😢😢

    • @soniavelez5569
      @soniavelez5569 Рік тому

      Never been happier and at peace with myself. Just think about how miserable you were with him and how much better off you are without him . Think positive . 🙏 . He didn’t deserve you .

    • @Msterri4u
      @Msterri4u Рік тому

      @@carol-anncollins6671 I was in for 23 years too and I was the one who divorced my ex. Seek God for strength and comfort. He’s waiting for you.

  • @winnieshozi8746
    @winnieshozi8746 Рік тому +1

    Thanks sis, for sharing your story, mine aswell is the same I ended leaving this relationship because it was draining having to defend yourself All the time makes you feel less of a person, that's when I decided enough is enough I don't care if he's paid lobola but having to subdue my life like this what's going to happen when we get married because to him I'm just an object that he owns

  • @nabawanukagorreth2981
    @nabawanukagorreth2981 Рік тому

    Thank you so much for sharing...am wiser after your testimony

  • @modernmodesty
    @modernmodesty Рік тому +8

    Powerful testimony indeed!

    • @kwazikwakhe9524
      @kwazikwakhe9524 Рік тому

      We are thankful for His Mercy. Thanks for watching

  • @wamush3338
    @wamush3338 Рік тому +3

    Am in a totally abusive marriage, am praying that God gets me out safe with my two children. But i dont know where to turn too, am jobless, though i got parents its like i dont have coz they tells me to be patient, i need to pay for school fees , uncounable expenses am feeling like i can run mad, guys pray for me if you read this that i may get out safe with my kids. Am down, without support, without anyone to turn to but God. Kindly pray for my safety and my kids.

    • @shona.6004
      @shona.6004 Рік тому

      I'm praying for you and your children.

    • @wamush3338
      @wamush3338 Рік тому

      @@shona.6004 Amen , thank you ,i really appreciate.

    • @mimi-dq3xc
      @mimi-dq3xc Рік тому

      ​@@wamush3338It shall be well😢

  • @georginaopany703
    @georginaopany703 Рік тому

    Wow!!!Wow!!! Thanks for sharing this at this time I needed it.God bless you

  • @exquisitecaribbeanqueen7198
    @exquisitecaribbeanqueen7198 Рік тому +3

    I thank God he did not save my marriage either. My wedding was nothing as big as yours. Mine was the nice guy thing, but degraded me " emotionally " ......I am glad you're overcoming. Wow what a story.....that ex was crazy.

  • @positivevibe7346
    @positivevibe7346 Рік тому

    I feel same Queen... When we choose partners without the Almighty giving them to us, we get a beaten... Blessing

  • @Iam.com.c
    @Iam.com.c Рік тому

    Very well and clearly said , praise God in your life sister you are an inspiration