Behind the Scenes: Funeral Home
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- Опубліковано 20 лип 2024
- 1/16/08 - Rick Koster goes Behind the Scenes at the Byles Memorial Home in New London. (Video by Peter Huoppi)1/16/08 - Behind the Scenes at the Byles Memorial Home in New London. (Video by Peter Huoppi)
I live in a funeral home. My dad is the owner and director and I have helped out with everything that goes on. I see this all the time. This is nothing new or abnormal for me...it's my day to day life. And no, it is not creepy...it has taught me to never take life for granted.
Is this Paul Bearer and the Undertaker?
What I would give for a day in your shoes....really tho!
Is your name Vada Sultenfuss.?..just kidding probably never get to ask anyone that again..lol
Wow that sounds awesome to learn about. One day I'd love to just buy one and change nothing but the zoning.
Creepy funeral homes usually have good bad and trapped spirits gateways for demons fark that
I appreciate the relaxed tone of this video. No hyper-smiley host and millions of jump cuts, no fake sadness and corny puns. Just chill dudes having a chill conversation about a career.
Couldn't do it. I had an Uncle who did this work all his life, even lived in along with his immediate family the upper floor of the funeral home. Needless to say, as a kid I use to get really creeped out when we went to visit my Uncle because we had to go through of course the lower floor where the bodies were (already prepared for upcoming funerals). And my Mom and grandmother wanted to "see" who all was in the caskets on our way upstairs. Naturally I followed and looked because as a kid I sure wasn't going to be left alone on that floor by myself. I do respect and appreciate all who do this work with respect and great care for the deceased.
A very big thank you to all the people who take care of our loved ones once they're dead. You have all the respect of the world. You are admired for your services. Thank you once again.
Am I the only one who finds death fascinating and the whole funeral process fascinating as well?
Nope. ;) I myself went to college for mortuary science and funeral service, and I finally start my first job in a funeral home in just a couple days. Yea!
annm861 I wonder about it every once in a while
dbzgal04. did u like
It fascinates me I'd love to do a green cemetery, but it's a bit late for me to start a project that huge alone. I'm going in the ground in a shroud in a green cemetery when I die. Ashes to ashes, dust to dust.
Laura Lovesthestones. Ok weirdo
They were once like you, and pretty soon you'll be like them.
i seen a Tomb Stone one time that said about the same thing you just stated
I saw an epitaph one day and it said "as you are I once was. As I am you one day shall be."
Know you now as you walk by
That as you are so once was I
And as I am so must you be
Prepare for death and follow me...
Prose from a tombstone
@@grammamarth6681 That's VERY true!
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This is a world that many people dont know about. So , these videos are very important , and informative. Thx for put it out there.
My father passed away at home around midnight this past March. The death was somewhat expected with Hospice to have started the next day. My mom called all the children and then called EMS. My sister actually called me first and when I saw her name on caller ID I knew exactly why she was calling. Because he died at home the police were contacted and "secured the scene". About 2:00 AM the coroner arrives dressed in a tie and jacket. He looked like he was going to a nice dinner. All of us had to leave the room while he investigated the scene. About 30 minutes later he relieves the police from the room and then starts interviewing the family. At around 3:00 AM two young girls in their 20's arrive in a black mini-van dressed in white shirts, black sweaters with the funeral home insignia, and black slacks. My father weighed about 225 lbs and these young ladies were able to move him from his bed to their stretcher without any assistance (although we offered assistance). These young ladies asked us to leave the room for about 10 minutes while they prepared his body. Then they allowed the entire family back into the room to say our final goodbye before he was taken directly to the funeral home. I never gave a single thought previously that there is an entire workforce working 2:00 AM every night transporting dead people to funeral comes or coroner's office. It was a night that I will never forget.
I have been a hospice social worker but i could not do this type of work. Its good that we all have different skill sets.
im watching this because i wanna know what they did too my grandma ... i cant believe she gone
It's okay. Things will get better. My Aunt and Grandma passed away in the same week. I thought I would never get over it. You will think about them everyday but crying helps!
My grandma passed last Friday and today is the funeral. I can't believe she is gone either
Shautiana Sullivan mine passed away Wednesday... funeral was today :(
I know ti's been a year, but I just wanted remind you that the embalming process is meant for you (the family). It's intended to allow closure and reflection. In my case, it allowed me to say goodbye to a few people who died while I was out of town.
Colin Masterson same...my aunt and grandma passed away...but 3 months apart...it’s really a hard thing...I miss there voice..there hugs...and everything about them...but you just gotta be strong😊
As a graduate student, I took a health course in death, dying, and bereavement. The title sounds as if it would be morbid and depressing, but that was one of the best classes I ever completed. It was not morbid, but more of an appreciation of life course.
These folks are some of the most intelligent, most compassionate folks I've ever met. They did a superb job with my dad with his cremation, memorial service, and interment last October. Just beautiful.
Thank you for this behind the scene look at a funeral home.
I work in the industry. U wouldnt believe what they charge for use of the kitchen. Nothing is inexpensive. The people here are good people. It is the prices that are ridiculous.
thanks for sharing behind the scenes, this was great.
I'm a former EMT for many years, I'll admit the first body that moved when I least expected it and I was alone within 30'of my partner scared the hell out of me!
I really don't care what they do to my body. But I want a comedian telling jokes at my funeral.
shares mother 93 years old
Barry Sabahat amen fam
Your amazing your like my dead brother he was like u a joker I miss him u take care
@@juliebromley5998 you too. RIP brother. 😢
@@Barzins1 bless thank u
Max respect for those who donate their bodies for medical training.
Thank you so much for posting this video! Doing a career planning project, I think I could do this..
My Dad has that same Urn @2:19. RIP to all who have gone before us. I enjoyed this video.
I live about 10 miles from New London where this funeral home is. Nice to human bodies treated with such respect.
My husband was cremated 2 yrs ago . No casket . I’m curious if they wrapped a sheet around him , or nothing at all ?
In our area , it is customary to “rent “ caskets if a cremation follows .
Funeral employees are always the last people to let you down.
Just looking at the inside of a funeral home gives me the Heebie-jeebies .. Respect to those who do this type of work!
architecture student here, final project of the semester is a funeral home in a venetian style, your video was very detailed and helpful, thank you kindly
This I feel was done in good taste ,wasn't morbid and face it this will happen to all of us,I hope I have someone as kind as these folks seem
“As big as you or as thin as me” 😂 I see what he did there
I was confused... Was he making a joke? Lol
I'm glad this video was made I've always wanted to work in a funeral home I currently take care of abandoned graves
Thank you so much for posting this video. I've always wondered about what goes on behind the scenes. I recently had an a cousin and two uncles pass in the recent years. I'm still coping with these losses. But each day gets a little better.
The funeral home is big bussiness, it's a place that we all will stop on by sooner or later.....
why am I watching this ? 😱
u need boyfriend
It does happen to us all.whether you watch it or not.
, isn't it a man why do you care
You find it interesting..
Why am I reading all the comments?
thanks for the upload
We loved this Funeral Home, very professional and courteous staff, inspiring services on behalf of our loved one and family. We saved 3k on the casket by ordering online and having it flown in as well, beautiful casket from Best Price Caskets and the funeral home was so gracious about it, we couldn't be happier :-)
This is a job I couldn't have. I would have a heart attack & die right there if someone's eyes poped open while I'm working on them like he just said.
The funeral industry definitely isn't for everyone.
it's not for everyone. I have been working for one for 6 months now and there are weird moments. You need nerves of steel sometimes.
Keisha Curry I am with you there I don't find death fasenating at all I could not work in that kind of business at all
Keisha Curry was
Long as they don't ask me if my cigarette tastes cool!
Started out in criminal justice. Witnessed an autopsy. The odor was intense. Worked at a hospital. Witnessed even "stranger" things.
@Ron DeVita I will attend a funeral this 26th of August. My question is, what should I expect? I never been to one!
What AN AMAZING PLACE you are doing an amazing job X
Thanks for the video.
I'm glad you posted this. I am very interested in becoming a funeral director, and it's nice to get a closer look at what I may be doing someday.
This comment is 12 years old. How's that dream coming? I too am considering funeral directing as a career
this is what I do, 13 yrs and counting.
+Dan Kozlauskos
Hello Dan,
A question for you if you don't mind. I have been a diagnostic ultrasonographer for the last 34 years; am 63 y/o. I had the good fortune to be hired as a funeral assistant for 2 years in California while I did my ultrasound work at the hospital as well. Always wanted to be a funeral director. Sorry to say, I have no interest in returning to school. Any suggestions or encouragement for me as I leave my hospital work. Originally from Chicago, currently in Philly. I know, it IS my calling and I feel I shortchanged myself in life for not doing this earlier in life. Thank you ahead of time your help. Sam
+Sam Rocco just apply and see which funeral home will give you a try...start by getting death certicates signed...little by little work your way up thats how I started....good luck
Sam, you said you're in Philly. Pennsylvania requires a 2 year Funeral Service degree to be a Funeral Director / Embalmer (all one license). I'm licensed in PA.
There are two schools in PA: one is in Pittsburgh (PIMS) and the other is in the Bethlehem area (Northampton Area Community College). You can also take your classes online through other states' programs, but you'd have to do clinicals (embalming labs) on site.
Once done, you have to take and pass the National Board Exam and State Board Exam and do a one year internship. Then you get a full license.
As for getting in... it can be very tough. Your best bet, as Dan said, is to talk to funeral directors around your area, work as an assistant on funerals and offer to run errands such as getting death certificates signed and doing removals. If you're reliable, you'll likely stick out in their minds and they can either bring you on as an intern or give you ideas of who to talk to.
Good luck!
Dan Kozlauskos I have mad respect for you
much respect for the work you do
These presentations make the whole subject of death and dying much easier to comprehend and accept. We’re all gonna die anyway so we might as well learn about what happens.
thanks for posting.this is very intersting.I visited a funeral home when i was in high school
alot of people seem to be opting for cremation nowdays due to the cost of funerals
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It's way cheaper, and most people dont like the idea of rotting in a casket
I think it's disrespectful to the body., even though the body is a temple, if you're saved.
So Marilyn what your saying is that if your not saved your body is not a temple Is that correct
@@AwesomeAlexAdam dont listen to these high horse religious nutjobs. If ur saved ur body is a temple. I find that comment so wierd. Some ppl think they r more worthy of heaven and r not sinners. Fuck tards. Just ignore it
Be more worried wer ur souls going instead of death it'll happen to us all.. get with God n be rightous n live a godly life n be saved ..
Thank you for this information
What most people don't realize is that, in most states, you can act as your own funeral director and do the funeral at home. What that means is transporting the body yourself, washing and dressing the body, keeping it on dry ice for three days, and having visitation where you are most comfortable--in your own home. Not being so removed from the process by relinquishing all care of the person you love to a stranger is incredibly healing and costs very little compared to the ave cost of $10,000
I built my own funeral urn. Made from the headboard of the first bed my wife and I shared.
7700Purplexity Damn thats special
Wow
So romantic.💞
pussy
Awe that's beautiful
I want to be an mortician so bad omg this is so relaxing to me I've seen my uncle do bodies as a young girl and I was never scared
Much respect for the people who do this job...you have to have your A game, all the time...there is no room for error...God bless the funeral directors...
"as thin as me" gave did me a chuckle on a somber topic
I have to admit I am scared of the dead.
Perhaps you're afraid because you have yet to lose someone who means all the world to you? I used to be afraid as well, until I lost my husband who was the love of my life. That fear disappeared because I wanted to be with him and look upon him as Long as I possibly could; because I knew, once buried, I would Never see him again in this life. I believe the fear of the dead comes from watching Fictional scary movies ... at least that how I grew to fear the dead. By the time other family members began to pass away, there was no more fear for me.
Me too... but I see it this way we never die. Are bodies stop working but our souls live on. The earth is not our home.
my mom use to say ,itsnot the dead that's going to hurt you its the living. So true.
No one has to fear death if they are right with God.
CRaptor it okay just think of that as going to see the Lord ps I lost my mom last year
dying is easy, living is the hard part
I cudnt agree with you more
The crazy part about it is we don't know when we die and we don't know when we're dead. Families have feuds about funeral services, I want my family to know I won't know so don't fight.💜🕊️
Why am i watching this 10 years later .
Very well put together. Death is just a part of life. Found this vid interesting and informative. Why the negativity peeps?
We Christians, by nature, should desire to do good deeds, but good deeds are not what gets you to heaven. It's salvation through Jesus. :)
Amen! 🙏🏻😎👍
Shut up
gee..........what a cheerful, uplifting video !!! : ]
GOTTA LOVE The sales pitch at the end.
I am not scared of death when you die you go to heaven and you are with the father the son and the holy spirit and the angels and I will be with my stepmum I miss her so much god bless you and keep you safe amen
Curiosity has alot to do with my interest... It was a blessing for me to do my MOM hair n make up....SHE WAS BACK TO NORMAL....
That a special way to share last time with your mom. 🙏
Very interesting video. Thank you.
Thank you
I love this profession : I drove a hearse for every transport.
Looks like it costs a bomb. What's wrong with a simple pine coffin, no embalming, makeup or shit, lying in your own house, then church, then burial?
James Upton I toally agree with you James. There's a lot of good things and bad things about our profession. I been in this profession for the last 17 years. I have educated a lot of families on their affordable options when it comes to funeral services. I've chosen to be cremated however is important to that my family creates a lovely life celebration service with family or friends, because every human being has a life story that must be told.
Cheers
It's more expensive to get a burial than it is to embalm. But I'm totally with home funerals and home viewing, it's just very difficult to have cleared
@ James Upton---They couldn't have THAT, James !!! The big Funeral-parlour monopolies wouldn't make any MONEY off of you !!!!!
No $$ in it James Its as simple as that
Pretty sure embalming is required most places, because a body starts to rot and smell after a few hours.
But yes, in the old days they wrapped the person up, sometimes laying them on ice, and had the service within 24 hours.
Also, modern funerals - and all the paperwork - confirm the person actually died and didn't try to fake their own death or whatever.
I just hope and pray that every thing goes well tomorrow
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@UntrustedXSoul I worked at one for about 3 years before applying to medical school. Honestly, it really prepared me for my current job (EMT) and future career as a doctor. Never had any nightmares. Everyone's very respectful to the deceased and their families.
i am actually curious about this. i desire to do this as a career
same here!
same
Go for it, and good luck! ;) Have you looked up mortuary colleges yet?
dbzgal04 nah i havent.... but i should start
Victoria Jones try gupton Jones in Atlanta GA
CREMATORIUM... let me BE... CREMATORIUM... just leave me alone...
That's why i suggested memorial societies. I'm a member of the Peoples Memorial Association of Washington. My parents were both cremated under a Peoples Memorial plan and buried at a local cemetery in what they called "cremation plots" - the two feet or so of space between the ends of regular graves. The cremations and plot together cost less than $1,500. My parents were both very adamant that expense was to be held down.
never heard of an urn enclave before i watched this.learned something new
I put my parents into their urns without opening the plastic bag.
Mary&Maya Vlogs
Too smart... Lol I like...
Hey Mary & Maya, it generally differs on various aspects.
Funeral homes have various ways of doing this and generally, it goes down to the type of urn, personal tradition, and other factors. Most of the time when I put ashes into an urn generally the urn is already ordered and at our place, so after we get done reducing the bone fragments to the granular form most call cremains or ashes, I have the plastic bag inside the urn already and ill just add the ashes in and seal the bag. That way if the urn does break the ashes aren't going to go everywhere.
We will all meet this fate one day..I just hope that when it's my time to go, my family plays Drop it Like It's Hot as they're putting me into the ground...LMFAO
dfl ik I'm late put it in your will
boris paul 69 : you have a suspiciously morbid sense of humor . I love it.
Great job !! Nice home
I am a funeral director apprentice they do not go over how much paper work is involved with every thing that is done in a funeral home that is like one of the biggest things that we do
I had no idea that ashes weighed as much as sand!😐
Good point, but though the approximate consistency may be like sand, the actual makeup might not be the same. Cremains are mineral but I personally don't know that volumetrically the weight is the same. Never thought about it, but it makes sense that the two would be about the same (if not exactly) weight.
I'm so sad. my grandad just passed away. I'm so sad
Thank you for your thoughts!
+Niki Banks Deepest condolences!
I just lost my love one so I understand how feel but he is in a better place looking down and saying I made it to heaven so don't be upset you will always have memories be strong and it will get easier god bless you and your family
Me too. My 3rd brother down from me died last week. Now there are only 3 of us left out of 7 children.
Blessed are they that mourn, for they shall be comforted.
Quick question.. what short cuts are they taking? Also, thanks for doing it the right way.
From stroller to casket, they profit from our first breath to our last.
This would be very different at a traditional Jewish funeral home, where embalming is not done, and cremation is not encouraged. Also, Jewish funeral homes usually do not hold viewings except for the close family names. However, the services themselves are usually held in a chapel on the premises. Plus the caskets are supposed to be plain pine boxes. But just like some Jews are now opting for cremation, others may be going in the other direction and opting for personalized caskets.
+rslitman Yes, and everything you mentioned is done by this mortuary and by most others. While almost all funeral homes know and do provide services to almost any religion or belief, there are many homes that cater more toward a particular religion, most commonly Judaism and Catholicism in the US, usually depending upon region..
There is a Jewish funeral home in the nearest city to me that takes care of most of the deceased Jewish people in the area. Thousands per year.
They told me that embalming is done on more and more of them.
they get buried standing up so the change don't fall out of there pockets
Man, those instruments shown at 3:20 are so old and overused, can you imagine how many dead folks they were used upon?
Very well done.
Wow. I just hope all bodies are treated with the Highest Respect! Because, That was someones Mom, Dad, Sister or brother.
Yeah those funeral home caskets are ridiculously priced.
You can buy caskets at Walmart. Seriously. And funeral homes HAVE to allow it. They are usually shipped within a day of order. Whodathunk it?
Walmart sells caskets? I had no idea. I know Costco does, and at a fraction of the cost as a funeral home and they ship the same day. Yeah a lot of people don't realize they are not obligated to buy anything at the funeral home. Best to begin looking in advance and compare prices. There's a huge difference.
Rebecca Coomes Yes, you can buy caskets in Costco too. But the quality of the caskets is dubious. I work for a mortuary and I've seen people bring is some ridiculously crappy caskets that they bought online, and after shipping costs they paid as much as if they had just bought the same style casket from the mortuary.
***** Actually, it depends on your state laws.
FEDERAL law requires funeral homes to accept privately purchased caskets. Whether they like it or not.
Doesn't matter how fancy a casket is. Or if a person wants horses or whatever their wishes are. People should be wondering where they will be once they die. They will not be in a casket with horses and rainbows. We all have a choice and that is, will Christ be your Savior today? Because no one knows what tomorrow holds and when they will die. A person can have the most glamorous funeral and another "meaning me", just wants to be cremated and be with my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ for eternity. I pray that anyone that see's this, will think about...where will you go when you die?
Well side the biggest thing when someone dies is do they have a relationship with God that's the only thing that matters
jeff chapman No! It is not a matter of a person being good.
Galatians 3:1 O foolish Galatians, who hath bewitched you, that ye should not obey the truth, before whose eyes Jesus Christ hath been evidently set forth, crucified among you?
2 This only would I learn of you, Received ye the Spirit by the works of the law, or by the hearing of faith? 3 Are ye so foolish? having begun in the Spirit, are ye now made perfect by the flesh?
Romans 8: 38 For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, 39 neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.
Psalms 103: 12 As far as the east is from the west, so far hath he removed our transgressions from us.
Where in the bible are you claiming we have to have a perfect relationship with God in order to get into heaven? Yes, that is exactly what we should have with the Lord is a good relationship and give our lives 110% to Jesus. But NO WHERE is it written that what you said is the way to heaven.
+Laura Parker So what is the proof you have of the claims you made? what proof exists of a heaven? what proof exists of a hell? are you just here to try to appeal to the masses which means offering them a false sense of comfort? (promising the dead eternal life is a false promise you can't prove it).
troll jones I never said that. God did. The bible is the word of God and if you don't believe that, you are going to have to answer to God, not me. Sorry to burst yours and anyone's dreams and tell them that if a loved one dies, that is it. The answer is all in the bible and that is why Christ died for the world.
Laura Parker You must prove that your god even exists in the first place. If you place the book on the level of being the word of god and not just a mythological book of fairy tales.
We do not know the answer of what happens after death but without evidence we can't just say one religions account is the correct one.
I grew up just down the road from the local cemetery and I've been through there looking at graves and even went inside a crypt which was full with about 4-5 coffins.The door now is sealed up so you cant open it,but I didn't scare me then or now.
I want someone to play Queen's "another bites the dust" at my funeral.
Am watching dis vedio cause mi wan know what dem do to mi Brother still cant believe him gone sigh rip
This is what i would like to do as a career.
Me? I'd rather be a porn star. But hey, we all have our dreams.
As i child i fascinated with the funeral industry.
I love this job. I work in Brazil
2:23 ain’t no way I’ll be doing that without a mask or gloves ..I’m not about to be breathing in no human ashes
@Ethan Stilwagen hell i don’t care
yeaaaa how I wish I could live forever though haha
Thanks
One question if your been at the coroner for 6 weeks then taken to the funeral directors can you still be viewed at the chapel of rest or will you be to decompose? Thanks
This is the funeral INDUSTRY. They are there to make money off of the family of the dead person. I worked in a funeral home for three years and the biggest boast of the owner was that he could talk someone out of a simple cremation into a full scale funeral at ten times the cost. At a college for morticians it was 49 credits for a funeral directer's degree - 6 credits, embalming and cosmetology, 43 credits salesmanship and merchandising. Look up memorial societies to keep down the cost.
I want Rush played at my funeral! Play 2112!
Zudemaster,I want funeral for a friend by Elton John played at mine.
Very nice documentary.
I don’t know why I’m here
merry Christmas 🎁
I decided to pay a few hundred bucks more and went with a cremation place that had it 's own crematory. Just sayin'. I'm new to this. May peace be with us all.
Wow_Most placesI have seen the mortuary has it's own, or they contract with another one that does. There are 2 places her, literally across he street from one another and each has it's own crematory. But in a way it makes sense, because according to a person at another mortuary, the crematory (in order to operate properly) has to cool down, kind of slowly before the remains can be removed and another body cremated. In this state-and probably every other state-it would be illegal to do more than one at a time (for humans). Animal remains can be cremated together.( an aside: I have had pets who have died-generally of old age or some disease that was unforeseen-and supposedly the shelter with the crematorium for animals would do that for animals set from veterinarians. Now supposedly the cremains were 'spread around behind the animal shelter, on land belonging to the shelter". Respect for the owners was guaranteed. Of course what they were really doing was taking the cremains down the road to the municipal landfill and dumping them, so no I do not automatically trust any mortuary service of any kind). But if you look into nearby or likely to be needed mortuaries and ask people, you will et a good sense of cost, and the reliability of the service. That means cremation, burial etc. By the way, a person close to me was cremated, and by going and making the arrangements in a town 30 miles away, the family saved hundreds of dollars. Weirdly, the person who suggested that this was an option was employed by the same mortuary but in a different town. It was just two branches of the same mortuary, and they did that kind of thing all the time-tell people the truth and help them save on the funeral costs.
1:30 so there are states that actually require embalming by law? talk about governments not knowing their bounds.
All States requiring embalming by Law if you have any intentions of having a public viewing and the body has been dead more then 3 days; and rightly so, as dead bodies which start to decay carry all kinds of harmful bacteria's and possibilities for disease. A body that has not been embalmed should be buried within 72 hours, mandatory.
I hadn't thought about the microbiology standpoint with bacteria. I don't know much about burial, I'm more of the bury me in a plywood box in the backyard kind of guy.
Embalming is required if the family wishes to have a public viewing, long distance transportation, or long term storage. Other than that embalming is not required by any state. A family can always choose other options that don't entail embalming. Direct cremation and burials are done every day without embalming.
oh god I hate watching this stuff, was directed here by mistake, I don't want this, I want a hefty bag and thrown over a clift , I like hw they had it in the old days being buried in ur backyard
lisaanne thomas LOL! I don't think anyone would want to buy your house after that! LOL
I've always been creeped out my morgues/funeral homes, but this video makes it seem much mor clinical
@cannoir Washing is almost always done, but embalming is usually an option. An unembalmed body won't "blow up" in short order unless other circumstances (heat, moisture, etc.) help that process along.
An embalmed body in a casket will be preserved for a relatively long time, but not forever. Sooner or later, embalmed bodies also decompose, so you get the same effects - just at a later date.