FRIENDS TO ENEMIES! B SIMONE SHADES EX BEST FRIEND MEGAN LISTEN WELL SO YOU DON T SUFFER TOO
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And Meg the one that was married for years if we going there. As soon as Meg went from the back to the front it was an issue. I have been watching them before the podcast. Something about B.Simone is off and always has been.
@dorothyb9697You are too grown to be this bothered over an opinion but agree to disagree.Both parties are guilty it takes two for a demise of an relationship I don't for one second think Meg innocent.I just merely pointed out the difference in treatment once the dynamics of their friendship changed.Either way you giving a lot of energy off of this discussion hun.
@dorothyb9697 Take care!
@dorothyb9697 We can debate but you came at me strong. The only thing that I could see is that Meg's mental woes could've been overbearing on B.Simone and I'm sure Meg is guilty as well but B.Simone's issues to me are more noticeable.
@dorothyb9697 All is well😊.Until his next video abt this topic you can fight me again😂😂😂.
Facts.
I completely agree that B's arrogance was the 'thing' that drew attention to her true INTENTIONS. Her audacious, boastful and arrogant jabs at Megan betrayed B's mask that she didn't actually like Megan, Megan was just useful and convenient. B will attract a shallow audience that's interested in "the tea," her being on the fringe of her celebrity associates, etc. Megan's show is about growth, the meat and potatoes of life, and its issues. While Megan may be hurt by the shedding of their friendship, I feel it was a necessary move in the trajectory of growth. MEGAN outgrew B, and she didn't even realize it.
I think that was a biased conclusion. You are not behind the scenes and anyone can play the part they want to be perceived as. Both parties have their faults but it looks like the crowd have chosen their villain
TALK TO EM🙌🏽🗣️🗣️
Even “enemies” deserve respect and grace.
It’s crazy because a few eps in you can tell Megan is extremely self aware and emotionally intelligent and B Simone is very delusional in her thinking and leads w/ ego but Megan is the type to almost self denigrate probably because she feels indebted to B Simone, the disgraceful part is they seemingly broke up amicably but B Simone has been slighting and belittling Megan every chance she can get now that she has her own show and it seems extremely unnecessary they can both have success separately comes off like B is upset that she doesn’t have control over Megan anymore.
Right.
deff agree
I see both sides. Sometimes you get frustrated with friends who complain about the same thing and do nothing to change it. It gets frustrating.
@@jaeraee3437I definitely see both sides as well.
I worked for B Simone as an assistant for an event. I can attest that she’s NOT a good person when she’s not in front of a camera.
Oh wow😢. Sorry to hear that. I hope that you didn't suffer too much while under her. Were you paid correctly?
I believe it. It comes across to those who have discernment.
Can you tell us more?
This video is hitting home. I’m definitely an avoidant and ended a 20+ year friendship a few years ago. I told my best friend at the time after she continually complained about me that if I’m causing her so much stress I can just go away. She took it as an attention seeking comment and literally told me, “ Well, I support your decision.” I am someone who was in and out of foster care during my formative years and experienced a lot of abuse, I was not attention seeking, I was problem solving.
I no longer felt emotionally safe in that friendship. There’s obviously way more to this story than I’m willing to divulge but that’s the main reason I walked away.
Also, if I can speak up for avoidant people because even as I typed I was judging myself because I know I kind of sound harsh. Trust me, I love an I love hard and I grieved the hell out of that friendship but I strongly felt our friendship had run it’s course and I honestly feel that I made the best decision for all parties.
Anyways, good job with this video!
I have so much more I can add but I got to stop somewhere, lol.
What’s ur zodiac sign?
@@sierrareed8225 Leo
@@sierrareed8225it doesn’t matter
That's so me. If you feel I am a burden then I will disconnect and move on. I will no longer bother you and both of us will be at peace. I do not like confrontation and I am a problem solver. There is no need for arguments, disrespect, and hate. Let's just let go before it even gets that far. And maybe we can reconnect later on in life.
You’re not alone sis!! You got this and you deserve a safe space within your friendships . I had to learn that I deserve genuineness from people I choose to surround myself with because it’s what I give. I’m also a problem solver vs the panicked. Choose you every time sis until you find a girl that doesn’t mind being a true friend. 🫶🏾
I don’t at all agree with how B is handling it because it seems tacky and she’s showing herself is not really having any gracefulness because on several occasions, it seems like she has taken jabs at Meg. from this clip to her posting and boasting about how her podcast is charting rather high it’s almost like I don’t need you and I’m doing better than you as if she’s rubbing it in her face. because Meg has a new podcast as well and it’s amazing also! The difference is Megan has a totally different audience and it’s super mature and God centered. B. Simone …her audience is not necessarily that. You can easily see on her page where many of her followers have called Megan “too deep” and such.
Yea, did you see the episode where meg was talking about how she cried and was really hurt when B got that abortion? It gives B. Simone don't wanna center her life around God nd holiness, she's a fake, a liar, nd so much more that doesn't align with God. It showed long ago that Meghan was better off without HER! God will take care of Meghan so she'll be fine!
Such an interesting topic. I have backed away from friends because I had so much going on, I didn’t want to burden them. I could sense they were tired of hearing my issues. Going to therapy helped. Some friends understood while others didn’t. At one point I was called a bad friend
Did you communicate it to your friends before you backed away?
@@Dekthagr8 I did. I said I have so much going on and I can only deal with so much right now. This was probably 10+ years ago. I found out who my true friends were. 💗
Same here, but I didnt communicate it before I backed out. I had 4 good friends I grew up with and only 1 and a Half is still there
B. Simone had a traumatic childhood (not attuned by mom) so she's likely developed a fearful-avoidant attachment style.
I’m over here chuckling to myself knowing that depending on the relationship, I can be either one. Historically, anxious in platonic relationships and avoidant in romantic relationships.
The root of both is fear..
‼️ and both can be hard to adjust. Even after you have identified it
@@drekathigpen4869 seriously!!
What did Meg do bc B acts as if she did something too her and I just can’t see Meg doing anything she is very emotionally intelligent and aware…. B is delulu
Thank you for calling out the manipulation of the Anxious attached and their need to LOOK like the good guy. I’m currently ending a friendship because this person could never admit when the hurt me (healing avoidant). I’m still grieving, because I really wanted the relationship to continue. But I can’t be the ONLY one willing to look at my impact.
I absolutely hear it honestly. It’s very difficult place to be in
I have had friends walk away from me and that's okay ... I think a lot about how i could have prevented that. This was a good take.
I think dissecting a friendship from the outside is insane. No one knows what occurred, and why should we care?! It's sad, Pray for them both, and keep it moving. I couldnonly digest 7 minutes 😩
Idk if he’s dissecting a friendship or making people away of attachment style that could cause a friendship to destruct. I’ve learned a lot. I have no care in the world regarding these young ladies. I pray they heal and find peace in whatever they decide for their relationship
@@missvee1650 Thank you for that perspective. I just don't want people choosing sides when they don't know these women in real life.
The whole intent vs impact thing (shout out 10 years married) reminds me of uk criminal law (Latin words) mens rea (intentions & knowledge of wrongdoing) and actus reus (a persons actions) let’s just hope that it’s breaking to come back stronger somewhere in the future
My best friend and I have been friends for almost 20 years and we have had our issues and all. But, one thing for sure 2 things for certain, if we stopped being friends today we would still love each other from afar, wish greatness for each other, pray for each other's kids (some things don't stop), keep each other's secrets and DEFINITELY would never bash each other! B Simone needs to grow up and heal like Megan is doing! And she's touching lives!!!! Your channel is different from the "gossip" ones. Thank you for your integrity!
Megan did admit she was the “villain” (her words not mines) in the situation. I’ll pay top $ to know what happened. I really loved their friendship it’s so sad.
This was very insightful even with taken out B. Simone and Meghan and applying it to your own personal friendships
This is SAD!!!!
Meghan had grown so much. Trust in a relationship is everything❤
Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. Y’all can say what y’all want about B all day, but something tells me that Meghan is not as innocent as the public likes to think.
Absolutely. I think b tried hard with Megan and Megan and we heavy and critical of b and b got burnt out. Now b on the other side is sounding arrogant but she’s just done
There has to be a series of unknowns. Megan tended to judge B Simone…a lot. I wonder what the last straw was? Something took place that was non negotiable and there was no turning back.
Yea I see mode siding with Megan saying something is off about B Simone and I agree to an extent but there is something so condescending and disingenuous about Megan. I think there is something there…
@@thisgirlisfancy‼️
Yup I agree with this they both don't wanna admit Megan was to judgemental of b Simone and b Simone may not admit it but she was to judgemental to Meagan too they both should've been accepting instead of trying make each other understand ,sometimes no matter what, you can't understand your friend no matter how they explain it , same for actions and choices we may not agree with our friends choices and actions but accepting them is the part I feel both of them lacked they never really accepted each other completely so that easily leads to mistrust @@thisgirlisfancy
B Simone's 1st episode has come out. I think you'll get better insight. Looking forward to part two.
She has a new podcast?
@adjustingwithjess6501 Yep. It’s called Let’s try this again.
Definitely ready to hear his POV of it.
This clip is from the new pod cast….. you see the ltta letters on the low right of her screen… stands for let’s try this again
I just found this channel and didn't know a lot about the avoidants vs anxious beef. This was interesting.
Meg is the type most people can't see through. They are swayed by the manipulative mask, the tears, the ploy to attract pity. She is admittedly not well, and it affects her relationships. Being her friend would be very hard work.
B is the type who people will hate no matter what. She has surface traits that often lead to ridicule for women. She's a go-getter, a powerhouse, a winner, a boss. She won't be stopped by fear, gossip, blockages, or even failure. She put Megan on and carried her for years while Megan was constantly criticizing her for things like "doing it tired." As if constantly sacrificing yourself for someone isn't good enough if you have the audacity to feel exhausted. B is probably hard to work with but it looked like she was going overboard as a friend.
Of course both of these women have their own personal issues, but one of them has everyone fooled. If you can't see it, you better hope you don't run into that type yourself.
💯💯💯💯
B lacks integrity...its an easy assessment
I agree, I think Megan just has higher expectations in friendships and it exhausted B. It seems like she only shows up when it’s convenient for her.
@@tatianabenjamin8086 how would you know If she show up only when it's convenient the barely told us when they were going through problems. Stop projecting
@@AngelaElikya That’s why I said “it seems” I never stated matter of factly.
Very easy. This guy just seems biased and lean more twds B. Simone.
You broke it down so well 🙌. So on point 💯
I knew it was a matter of time when i saw their podcast 😂
He explained someone (Avoidant) I’ve been dealing with spot on.
Again it's simple. B is an ARROGANT abrasive Aries. Megan is a Super Sensitive intuitive Pisces. Two total opposites. B should tread lightly though because when a Pisces finally strikes....It can be RUTHLESS! You could tell how nasty B Simone was when that ex died suddenly and she had almost nothing to say, showed no emotion and almost was kinda snarky about it in her "condolences".
They weren’t friends. They just knew each other, and they knew each other a long time!
When I see B Simone now the only thing I can think about is how she don’t bathe regularly.
Why you say that???
@@32redrubiescause she said it 😂😂
@@ebonimynd4133 😯 oh wow.
Interesting analysis. Great points!😊
You do not know what happened between them sometime. You’ve been hurt so much by friends and family. You just walk away.
For an anxious attachment, I’m questioning the intent of whether I can trust you will show up for me as my friend, not because there’s a mad or animosity. If a friend is going to always avoid having a convo about something that went wrong, and pop up like a pimple each time, I’m going to question whether I can disclose my most vulnerable self.
Beautiful vid, definitely seeing things from a complete different view 💗
Love your analysis
I like how you talk about anxious and avoidant attachments. But what about secure? How does that look like? And how does one obtain that?
Social Avoidant here! You are preaching to me 15:14
I 1000% agree that both women are not bad people but intention is everything!!!. However, I feel like Megan has owned up to her wrong doing several times on previous podcast episodes saying how her burdens were probably too heavy for her friends and she should have looked to God. A lot of religious people can be manipulative so I’m not gonna ever say that she isn’t at all or wasn’t in the past. However, she’s been very forthcoming saying how some of her actions may have triggered other people in her life as to why they aren’t friends anymore. As well as how B. Simone is feeling. I do feel like protecting your peace is important and you must do what is best for you however, the way she is going about it being petty and talking down on a 20 year friendship is wild.
it deep rooted unresolved colorism.... every single time
every time ive had to be a shoulder to cry on when these happens or it was me crying... the lightskin gets mad when the darksin becomes the top dog or takes a place they never expected
Can yall please stop with these colorism lies.
You’re the only person being colorist here
They never told you why they was not being friends anymore so we left you too specially, on what you think. My mother always stay. You make an ass of yourself trying to figure out with somebody else you’re thinking.
U are very intelligent
Meg was married, b simone never made it to that
I commented on one of your other videos posted months ago regarding their dynamic and the breakdown of their friendship and I find the whole concept of "Avoidants" vs "Anxious" very intriguing. My overall question for you on your other video was is it possible to be BOTH an "Avoidant" & an "Anxious" person or is it more likely that I am neither?? 🤔. Idk if you are into Zodiacs but I AM a Libra and I do often feel there is so much dichotomy to my pysche because I see so much grey in a world that often operates in so much black and white if that makes sense 😅. I feel i can find examples of myself displaying characteristics of both an "Avoidant" at times and an "Anxious" depending on the situation, circumstances, available support, etc. I wld love to talk to you more about your thoughts on this! I love psychology and wanted to be a therapist myself but never finished school.
U can be both. It’s called fearful avoidant or dysfunctional attachment. But sometimes we change attachments due to people we interact with
@@LittleBlackBook91 I found a little quiz online regarding attachment styles and apparently I am a "Secure Attachment" and after reading the characteristics it actually sounded more like me than either of the other 2 😅. I think we all have our "weak moments" in relationships and friendships but I do believe overall I feel pretty secure in most dynamics I encounter and carry in my life.
@@LittleBlackBook91 Also, I wanted to add looking back at the videos u posted discussing B. Simone & Megan's attachment styles and me seeing myself in both of them was mainly the aspect of Megan feeling like she didn't understand why it seemed maybe B Simone didn't always consider her the way she considered her as well as being someone who tends to need to talk thru my feelings to ultimately be coo on the other side of it (not necessarily looking for a solution from my friend or family member) but just having the ability to get it off my chest and out my system as well as potentially getting an unbiased opinion to validate if I am tripping or not lol. As far as how I cld identify with B. was my ability to "walk away" or better yet accept a relationship that either needs to end for me or has ended for w.e reason. I can be looked at as "unfeeling" at times but for me it's not even that. I too tend to be more "solution based" as B. Simone and u mentioned about "Avoidants" and when someone comes to me for help or advice I can listwn but at the same time I am quick to assess and offer solution because anything else can seem counterproductive and in my mind I do tend to think that's what they are needing from me. When it comes to discourse in my own personal relationships I am always willing to work thru things if they are viable but if they are not I feel I know how to part ways in a healthy way mainly for myself to be "ok" but I have even been able to foster a "healthy break up" with my last ex (who btw I feel is probably an Anxious Preoccupied) for HIS good as well. He definitely was in constant fear our entire relationship that if I left he wld NOT be ok (he deals with anxiety, bi-polar disorder, & chronic depression 😔) and by virtue of caring about his well being I know I stayed longer than I probably should have not to mention I knew there was SOME contentment and comfortability I had as well staying because I knew he really loved me. By the time I KNEW it was time and I HAD to move on I feel I did it in such a careful respectful loving way that he was actually able to accept it in a healthy way as well. I basically told him (and meant it) that I wasn't abandoning him, our relationship was just changing and NEEDED to for us both. We had no real "bad blood" and truly shared a friendship and so I assured him the friendship didn't have to die and I wld still be there for him if he needed just in a different way now. It took him a little bit but he finally accepted it and was fine and we r good on that level to this day which is great considering I found out I was pregnant TWO WEEKS after we officially broke up 🤦🏽♀️. God is funny I tell ya! Lol cuz I was making that move to be single to open my life up for maybe the person who I was supposed to marry but I also wanted at least one more child (specifically a daughter) but I didn't want another BD (I have a child from my younger years with HS Sweetheart). I joke that God was tryna tell me my husband was NOT around the corner 😂 but he blessed me with my baby girl that I so desired ☺️. I want to add me and her dad in our 6 year relationship NEVER had a pregnancy scare so this did feel like "GOD" to me (that and clearly my ovulation finally aligning since the "last time" was off our usual "schedule"😅). Sorry if this was TMI! But wanted to clarify all my thoughts on this 🙃
She was never her friend !!!!
Who’s she and who’s her
@@Dom-if7rx B Simone was never Meagan’s friend.
@@justtneek2570this
Dealing with someone’s mental health for 20 years is not FRIENDS ? she’s tired if anything & exhausted Megan continues to move her goal post of expectation, it kind of draining. How long could you tolerate a bipolar personality?
I fall somewhere in the middle.
Can an avoidant ever convince the other they were not out to hurt them
You are describing my past relationship so perfectly
I think I’m a mix what is that called
Possibly disorganized attachment
This is a reach. A big reach
How did you do a whole commentary on these people you know nothing about because somebody had body language more than the other
how did u come to a video and miss the whole point of the video? You left three comments...haha
💛🩷💚
Okay … intent vs impact? You legit just copied and pasted from Aunty Deborah’s show recently… this is what plagiarism looks like folks smh