Viet Trap talks about being raised by the devil
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literally my life too. crazy to hear it from someone else
Nobody is asking this lame ahh interview, not everyone can do podcast fr
@@hmsp7799
@@kiwiblue2519 your mum ?
Respect man. That’s a hard life. Don’t know who he is but I hope he’s doing well.
cry me a river
So you left moms there with no one to protect her?
@@ryanmctear5606 gotta do what you gotta do 🤷🏼♂️
@@ryanmctear5606 Most moms just want their kids to be safe! His mom probably understands more than anything, because he is ok now!
The same happened to me but dad was the nice one
I remember praying that the neighbors would call the cops, no one ever did. I knew they heard everything, they wouldn't even make eye contact with us the nights after a big fight😢
Should’ve called the cops yourself
@@ForevaLaTrelle easier said than done, sadly. Especially if you're a kid you will be scared as hell, especially because you dont know what kind of consequences calling the cops yourself might bring for you.
@@ForevaLaTrelle so the cops can pull up, talk some shit and leave for you to get beat even worse? Nah
@@Mari_iii this exactly❤️ My Dad always told us since I could remember, "If you ever call the cops remember, they can't get here faster than I can get to you." I knew he meant it.
@@JustASmallTownGirl85 I'm so sorry, I hope you're doing better now :) ❤
Had an ex that was Vietnamese and the abuse he was subjected to was absolutely appalling
yeah bro vietnamese people defo beat their kids
edit: was being sarcastic but the stats indicate this is actually true
prayers …❤😢
When you've been badly abused like that you should not have kids.
Is child abuse common in Vietnamese households?..
@@udontevenwannaknowbruv from what I’ve heard, very. That’s multiple Vietnamese ppl I know as well
"Just cuase a house is nice, doesn't mean nice stuff is happening inside it." Johnny Lawrence
Factssss
Imagining him walking through the rain with his bag telling the cop he feels better than ever is almost artistic. Really beautiful end to a sad story
anime back story
Absolutely
given all the physical aspects that make it seem like a lot, its a better place than the 4 walls and roof some know
People love to call things like this artistic because they yearn to find meaning or purpose in suffering. It’s not really beautiful. We just have to accept that lots of kids go through this shit for absolutely no reason.
It’s 🧢
The fact he stated he had to grow up more to understand his mom wasn't allowing his dad to be this way, they were both victims of an angry man. My mother and I were in the same boat except we left together.
Same case with my father and I we were both victims but thankfully I got out of that situation a while back
Naw she chose him
The kid doesn’t choose parents
It’s sad I feel like a lot of men leave women & other men scarred for life. Hints just one reason why a lot of women just go gay, cuz they can’t be with a man from the trauma they were put thru from them in the past. Bs. But we’re all just animals in reality. & men r just naturally more…aggressive may b the word.
I am with you there, same my mom and I left together thankfully
nah she shoulda left
Sadly so many Asian households are toxic & abusive like this. I ran away from abusive Filipino parents too
I’m so sorry, I’m glad you got away and I hope you’re in a good place now
I had a childhood precisely like his. From age 6 well into my 20s, I was abused extensively: being punched in the face, verbal abuse, you name it, I got it. Same with my mother and sister. My mother never left, and so we all stayed in that home enduring his treachery. It took me a long time to understand my own worth, even at 32 years old. Now, I am taking care of my mother alone as she undergoes cancer treatment for a 2nd time. I only speak to my father when necessary, and he's still an angry asshole in his 70s. He has taken so much from us, but most importantly, I've also become resilient and have proven to myself that I am enough. More than enough. I honestly want to leave both of them behind and finally live my life, but I'd feel so guilty, especially with my mother's cancer diagnosis.
i belive in you and i know things are going to get better. i understand what it feels like to just want to leave it all behind and i would strongly suggest you take some time for yourself so you don't get consumed in all that toxicity
@@pereetete4886 Thank you so much ❤
Verily, after every hardship comes ease. May Allah heal and guide you and your family.
Take care of yourself. Be nice to yourself and take care of your mother. I don’t know you but a wish you good and I will pray for you❤
@@AaaAaa-mh5ev Thank you for the kind words ❤
you think your dad still got hands 🤔
“Yeah I feel better than ever”
His mom at home:
@@itsyaboyjay9862 she didn’t build enough courage to leave
@@papi7936 yeah but that doesn't mean he shouldn't care about her
@@itsyaboyjay9862 and you made this assumption based on what?
@@akwl0l812 what assumption?
I didn't make any
The white neighborhood thing hits so hard. I grew up in good neighborhoods, yet no one ever called the cops. I was crying every single day yet no one ever cared to check up on me.
Don’t worry, they don’t care in ghetto neighborhoods either
@@pinkbombshellcasing2672 that’s why I specified good neighborhoods lol, you’d think people that live better would be more alert about possible child abuse situations but people don’t really care.
It’s the hardest thing too because it will have me second guessing my worth as a human being. Was I not worthy of being saved? I know this isn’t the case but it feels like it. People who did know also used it against me 💔
@@henloworld514I'm so sorry to hear you suffered so much. It's beautiful that you persevered and are seemingly in a better place now. If nothing else, at least sharing your story can motivate people to take action when they find themselves in similar situations. Still, sending lots of love your way!
Can relate, ran away at 16. Never looked back.
(Now I'm just stressed trying to find a stable job lmao)
best of luck my friend
You got this, don’t worry yourself to much
Same. It's incredibly hard to have a stable job when you are struggling with mental health and trauma.. wish I didn't have to work, it's too much
Think about serving. Always a demand for good servers and its a cash rich business. Great way to transition. Think sushi, busier bistros, breweries
@@fullmoonlite I’ve experienced traumatic events but you have to remember only you have control over your own Brian and thoughts
While this dude sits there in a pink wig💀💀
Dat portrait behind the other dude of him w the guy wearing the pink wig 😂
@@GasBabyDee58 lol what am i watching
I wonder what his dad said
@@tyresejackson8481 no dad prob
You’re completely missing the point of the video, but ok.
The worst thing about toxic parents is that they don’t think they do or say anything wrong because they had the same thing done to them and that’s all they’ve known 😢😢
Facts this hit kinda hard
@@Whokare Very sad because you kinda feel sorry for them but at the same time they’re breaking you. I hope we can break these generational curses!
This was my parents. Some really bad stuff happened few years ago in our family and it humbled them a lot! Also probably age made them more humble and I'm so glad. I feel like same thing that happened to my parents and changed them now that they are 60, happened to me when I was 20. We are now in good terms.
@@beatnik6806 I’m glad you guys were able to heal! It’s a blessing.
Exactly and it’s kinda sad too because that’s an unresolved trauma they’ve normalized to the point where they think that’s how you raise a child.
I feel him. My dad is very abusive and my mom sometimes supports it. I finally just left and never looked back. Left everything with nothing to my name and rebuilding everything back right now but I'm doing so much better in terms of my mental health.
I wish you all the best in life. Take care ❤️
poor kid, i hope he’s doing good now
he’s proof of how thankful we should be for getting good parents
Relatable. It’s sad when you feel safe “out there” where anything can happen. You’re at peace even because he can’t hurt you if he doesn’t know where you are. And when you’re home, you can’t even sleep out of fear and anxiety of being abused. Glad we’re speaking up about child abuse. So many people normalize it and don’t talk about it because “what happens in my house stays in my house”.
@Pink Sprite I think you misunderstood the comment my guy😂.
Yeah and they try to hide it under the disguise of " discipline "
Being in dysfunctional family feels like being in a prison and your only time off is the night when they sleep.
I felt it when he said i felt better tha ever
and now you carry hate in ur name... cmon man you can do better then that
Not when your parents continue to start fighting in the middle of the night... waking everyone up🤡
The fighting that continue in the night and damn my father is the same. Mental abuse since I was a child. My mom finally open her eyes and decide to leave. But we are still in preparation phase for a new house... hope nothing happen in the next 3 years
Crazy… for me it was the other way around for some times. Then I never had time off during the day because the abuse was messing with my mind when I was awake
I understand the pain which you have been through and I empathise with you, but when you define your UA-cam account around your hatred for a community just trying to survive like the rest of us, you lose my respect. Do better.
Viet I’m so sorry you had to go through that you’re so strong.
Story is a mirror to my own, glad to see someone else who survived, lived and is healing/moving forward
Respect. I’m glad this dude would understand some things for himself as he got older and more mature
Didn’t get to watch the full thing yet but when he left did the mom stay?
Fight back nicca😊😊
If you have a good father or mother, let them know you appreciate them.
Seriously. It’s really difficult when people try to shame or guilt you into constantly putting up with your parents bad behaviors.
I love them despite all they did. I do forgive them, but I won’t stay around them as long as they continue to be dismissive, rude and abusive to me.
I love my parents but they were abusive. I still appreciate them, but I put up boundaries. I’m glad I’m older so that they don’t treat me like a rag doll.
Kids who are able to find the strength to escape those situations are amazing.
This young man is a badass.
You never know what someone is going through
That's why his hearts so big he's transmuted that trauma and loves regardless he's strong for that well done
"Yeah! I feel better than ever!" Whoa
W
It feels amazing to be free from those shackles. I can relate to what this person is saying and I pray for those individuals going through the same shit. It can be really hard sometimes, but don't ever give up on life.
As a Mexican, who lived a similar life, we don’t get that attention but I’m glad this guy is doing better
Well he was diagnosed with bpd so idk about better
@@eve972 Being diagnosed with a mental disorder in a way is kind of a good thing, i mean ofc struggling mentally is not good, but what i mean is now that you are diagnosed, u can receive better help to address your issues u know?
@@eve972 But I still understand your point, and I just hope he is doing better
I know that feeling except my parents weren’t immigrants like his were, my parents were second generation Americans from Hawaii. My dad would beat my ass over the dumbest shit too and I was told that the most I’d ever amount to is being in jail or being on the streets. Of course his experiences were worse than mine but hearing this is something I can relate a little bit.
My heart breaks for his mom 💔
they’re way better off now i followed him for a minute @vietrap
I feel bad for her being a victim to the abuse as well, - but at the same time, she DID enable the abuse by refusing to leave with her child, or puting the child in a better situation in a safe household.
@@pinkpixiemoon Yeh but she was probably on the same boat as her son. She was probably so mentally abused by her husband that she couldn't find the will to leave.
@@pinkpixiemoon She was Vietnamese.. Unlike an average single mother, she did not understand the language in America, its culture, and access to resources where she could recieve help. The son even said she was with the father at 18 years old. She's also a damn child if you think about it.
@@Spider_aaaahhhwhat happened to his mom now
God bless this dude…I wish I could talk to him
I’m so happy for you dude . Me and my sister went through a similar situation but with our mother she was very abusive and manipulative it got to a point where we had to leave we were very young at the time and so we escaped to live with our father and I cannot feel better . Leaving an abusive environment and not looking back is hands down the best feeling ever it really shapes a person. I’m glad you left before getting real messed up .
“Yeah feel better than ever” that shit hit hard
I’m sorry 😞 I lived a similar situation. My mother would remind me if it wasn’t for my father begging not to she would have aborted me that she never wanted me, would beat us older 3 but truly hated me because the love my father showed. Sending you and others who have experienced this extreme pain love 💜
Hope life turned out ok and it’s treating you how it should❤
My heart breaks for him! That’s so messed up! Such a handsome guy to love his tattoos!😢❤
I had been verbally and physically abused by my mom since I can remember. Luckily, I have a dad who love me, so I pulled through very difficult teenage years. I don’t blame him for not protecting me, cause he was and still is a victim too. I am Chinese.
Yup, growing up Asian, I can relate to this. We had to save ourselves. No one will save us…
We all have to save ourselves no one will save any of us unless we do it. That’s for all adult nothing to do with a specific race
That feeling when you get back at sombody that did nothing but f**k with your life is amazing
My heart breaks for him. He deserved so much better.
That moment you walk away and know for a fact that you're never going back is the most pure and amazing feeling
Left my house when I was 17 due to a very similar situation. Walking to school that day was one of the most tranquil things I’d ever experienced. It was like before all the real world problems kicked in, the ability to not think about what it was gonna be like when you got back home was one of the most freeing experiences I’d ever had
@s l a p j a c q cant relate more, the MOST free ive ever felt was finally realizing i didnt have to go home to hell on earth anymore even though i was starving and was homeless i felt genuinely happy
Hope he’s doing alright bro. I’m an East African immigrant and our parents went through a lot with wars and stuff, so it probably pushed them to a dark path which is why many immigrant kids were severely punished. Hope his moms’nem is doing alright too!
Nope. Aholes are always aholes. I know many good people who went throught wars.
I felt this but my pops left when i was 11 and my mom took his place with verbal abuse saying i wont be shit because i didnt have a dad
good to see you pushed through, best of luck to you
I wish u the best life ever !
@@lyd6874 i appreciate it 🙏🏽
I can relate so much with this, but I was the only victim. It's so much of a relief to just leave and save yourself, but also so draining when your family pressures you to forgive and be around your abuser because "oh it couldn't have been that bad"
I'm glad you pulled through it and I'm glad you're here and sharing your story with us God-bless you
Went through something that destroyed my family like this and also left when I was 17. You keep running, you may be lucky and find a way to make a decent living, but even if you make money one day decades later you look at yourself in the mirror and realise all these things you have accumulated which others would call success. These things are not success they are a way to keep running. One day you will need psychological healing , you will need to face your inner demons and truly free your mind spirit and soul so that the second half of your life will truly be free. Only then will you break the cycle
This is deep !
Beautiful comment and advice ❤
He’s so beautiful. His eyes are gorgeous. Like you could get lost in them
What's his name btw?
@@malazan6004 I’m not sure.
@@malazan6004 “viet trap” is his name
@@soullooker cheers
I was raised this way too, a lot of Vietnamese are like this.
I need to listen to his full story…feel like it’s one I gotta do in bed so I can cry and sleep for 10 hours
He speaks like x and it's just comforting
fr, they have similar cadence
rightt
having a serious convo with with that picture behind yall is impossible lol
it really is😭
i love how open he is and it's amazing to see how he's progressing and maturing
Who is he?
Worst feeling in the world bra!!! Still deal with my past till this day… Big 🆙 to you bro ✊🏾🤝🏾
Sounds exactly what I went through as a kid. A school counselor even told me that it was normal for my parents to hit me. Only time people try to get involved was once when I was five years old, I was a very small five year old and when the neighbor found out that my dad was beating me, she confronted him because obviously I was too small to receive any kind of beating. And a second time when my dad popped The blood vessels in my eye after hitting me really hard. At that point I thought it was normal for your parents to beat you so I was honest with the nurse and they called DCF but still nothing happened. Eventually I just made my own way after age 19, I’ve made a pretty comfortable life for myself so far.
🦋
I told a counselor and they laughed at me and I never spoke anyone about what I went through because I thought it was normal until I met my husband and he got me away from my family and I realized who toxic they were
@@peepeepoopoo2749 man’s got hit in the face so hard it popped a blood vessel in his eye yea that’s not a beating bro like I’ve been through stuff too but something like that is not normal that’s straight child abuse
@@peepeepoopoo2749 I understand what you're saying, but I've never gone to the hospital just because of a beating. That's the point where I call it child abuse
theres a difference between disciplining and child abuse and i wish the line is drawn
I’m glad your ok. Sending love ❤
Crazy bro your story is just like mine. My parents are refugees from Iraq. Same story, and I ran away when I was 18 , but I’m 25 now and still doin my thing, all the pain and loneliness I been through... it’s all good I realized I don’t need nobody but my self to be happy and the right people and women will come along.... yo I got mad serious respect for my Vietnamese people, as an Iraqi I got nothing but love for y’all because ya go through the same things we go through... and look how we gonna be shining in the new world. Stay up my G you have a lot to be proud of, keep ur head high
“I don’t need nobody but myself” with this mindset it will serve you well in life . We dictate how we would like the world to treat us. Stay positive! That’s half of the life’s battle.
I want to hold and hug and baby and soothe and comfort and cuddle Viet so badly. 😭 Every time I see his face, I want to hug him. Now more than ever. 🥺 It takes a lot of courage to talk about surviving abuse. Im a DV survivor. He likely won’t read this, but just in case: Viet, I’m very proud of you. I hope you heal and find happiness and healthy love. You deserve it. ❤❤❤
That is exactly what my mother did, my mom is Vietnamese and grew up in a house hold like this, my grandma was never beaten but she removed herself emotionally from everything. My mom left at 17. She actually has a great relationship with her parents now, they never apologized but she still forgave them
Proud of you.
I love when kids grow up and speak out!!!! Hats off to you
This can have a lot to do with his bpd diagnosis. Childhood trauma like this causes so many painful issues for us… glad he made it out
Is BPD always caused by trauma?
I know a guy with a similar story man hes homeless now and it's literally the happiest and healthiest ive seen him in the 8 years I've known him. Hes getting on his feet and he's doing well
When there is one person controlling the house, there is one person controlling the house. I will forgive my mom for being afraid of my dad, but I will never forgive him for making her afraid of him. She did all she knew how to do to protect me from his wrath and faced it
herself, refusing him to let me face it head-on. I love her to this day. My dad has tried more, but I still can’t forgive him for how much he scared us when I was younger.
I honestly felt that, growing up in those kinda environments really strengthens and fortifies a person. Ofc inna shitty way but I understand his pain cuz we had almost the same lives with subtle differences
Man, I feel it. I'm a csa survivor so I know that stuff can be going down in your house that your neighbors might not even know about or perceive how bad it is. Keep your chin up, my guy, it can only get better from here ❤️✌️
I feel his pain! I am sorry man!
So many stories like his and I get so sad. Please, if you can, mentor young people. Become a teacher. So many kids need a safe adult. I’ve been a high school teacher for 16 years and his story is more common than you’d care to think. Be there for them if you can. I hope he is doing well. ❤
That explains the BPD diagnosis. Makes me reject a lot about how fucked up so many others childhoods are
Aww good for him for getting out of that situation. I hope his mom can too
As a korean i can relate. Dad will wake me up 3am to beat me. And i gotta go to school in a couple hours.
You good?:(
Hopefully you good now homie
Are you alright now? Do you need help???
Were you up at 3 am playing video games
@@Michael-nd3rs i was sneaking back at 3am from your mom's bedroom and got caught
Read the book “ a child called it” it’s sad af reminds of this story
Omg that book is so sad- literally cried reading it
No joke. I feel like Viet is emotionally maturity is almost transiting the podcast now. He's so much more lighter and brighter now
“Better than ever” man those words hit hard
Same shit here, but not the dad. The Mom, humiliated me in public and shit like “I should’ve choked you when you were a baby”, ect…Never show up in any special occasions of my life.
Ghost them for nearly 10 years, now feel better than ever.
My father was like that I couldn't fight back but I ended up moving.
It’s crazy how many of us relate to this… for anyone out there going through it, it’s gonna be scary but sometimes you just gotta leave. You’re not required to stay and try to change your parents, they’re grown ass people with fully developed brains.
Mad respect. Hope he’s doing well now.
Hopefully those hard/harsh experiences is reason you're a better indivisual today my guy✊🏼👈🏽🙏🏽
I hope he works on heeling himself. He had to deal with that amount of trauma for so long, it’s a difficult task to walk on eggshells.
Felt this shit to the max… hardest trauma I’m still learning to overcome
Man I just wanna hug him 😢 respect dude ❤
Even if you have a kid by mistake, you need to take care of that kid the best possible way you can. Yes, kids can be a pain sometimes but never do shit like that your kid runs away. Sorry viet.
“yeah feel better than ever” lol felt
Oh wow! Big ups! To you and hope your spirit continue to grow as well as your growth
That Berserk tat on his neck respect 🤝
Sounds like his Dad was doing what was done to him as a child, which doesn't make it right. He just never broke the cycle! Good for you for leaving, I'm sorry your Mom didn't have the strength to leave.
Rain especially water has such a powerful meaning. He was baptized by the Universe this man most definitely has a purpose. Every scar every word manifested him into who he is today.
Beautifully said.
mom could have called CPS
😂🤣😅
Glad you stayed with us bro because as sad as it is, there are so many kids and people just like you and by you being here and showing us that there is a calm after the storm speaks volumes.
I hope and pray that the trauma you past caused you can pass and heal and you can grow from it. Some days are hard and others it feels like nothing can stop us. Just know that there are people who love you and believe that you deserve to be here .
Not people victim blaming the mom. Be ashamed of yourself.
Same thing happend to me. I was punished for playing video games when I was 10 and I had to sleep outside on the stoop, and neighbors asked if I was okay, and then they called the cops and he was arrested. 22 now and haven’t seen him since
Sounds like he might have gotten the book thrown at him, sent to a prison, and.... Well, I'm sure you're aware of what happens to child abusers in prison.
I relate. My mom kicked me out at 16 after my ex's mom called cps on her. Ended up in foster care and it wasn't great but it was better. I hope the best to all people who have been in abusive situations
Wow! This is so difficult and traumatic to deal with! So happy he left! ❤
Yo i don't know this guy but as a fellow Vietnamese i can relate more than I want to
I grew up in Canada with a Vietnamese father ,I only got beat when I didn’t listen or had bad grades . I was one of the lucky ones, some of my friends with Viet. Or Cambodian parents was just getting beat for existing,
One thing that always stuck with me was the time my dad ripped my gold buddah necklace off pushed me back through t the closet door and when I hit the ground he said bring Shame and make our family name Lose face ,I’m weak and don’t deserve to wear buddah ….
Honestly I think he hates that I’m half white one only half viet the most , like shit not my fault you slept with a white woman and made me…
Your communities are a mess.
I wanna give him a hug
it’s really admirable of him to have been able to understand that his mom was also a victim. a lot of the times ppl find themselves resenting a parent for not protecting them, even when the parent was also being abused. it’s one thing to know it, but it’s another to be able to understand and reconcile that fact in your heart and be ok with it. i’m glad he seems to be doing well now.
one day, if you can make the right moves, it’ll feel like it happened to someone else. good luck bro.
He is a real surviving struggler
I see the brand of sacrifice on his neck
Sadly I feel this man. Good for you being strong and talking about your story!
Bruh the one time you had a chance to tell the coo fumbled. Crazy that the mom didn’t leave. Like I understand why but it’s just sad.