The secret to being taken seriously | 3 things that happen when you chase men
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- Опубліковано 30 лип 2021
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The secret to being taken seriously by a guy. 3 reasons you don’t chase guys. Women who chase men usually experience very consistent problems. Many women who chase men get used. Chasing men isn’t a good idea, not matter what you hear on the internet from influencers who clearly don’t care about your better interests. The secret to being taken seriously is not so secret. It’s just about doing what’s best for you and keeping your boundaries and standards.Don’t let how much you like a guy determine how you handle him or let him treat you. Guys won’t take you seriously if you’re up their ass chasing them. If you want guys to take you seriously watch this video. - Навчання та стиль
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Appreciate you and your videos Kev Hick 🙂
Thankfully I have been me.
Kev pls I need ur assistance
You said you had a new channel you were pinning to the top of the comments....
And remember ladies you can always turn it around by simply JUST STOPPING.
NEVER date potential!! Date who they are right now.
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Not sure if you already did this, but you also need to tell these young ladies NOT to propose to a man…
That part!
Amen!
Bruh
hmmm... I proposed (albeit as a joke) and here we are - 30yrs and 2 teenage kids later.. I never got a ring back then - because we were church-mouse poor, but he bought me my ring and an A-class watch of my choice over the last 5 yrs. So never say "never"... there's always an exception to the "rule"...
Very True. Reeks so much of desperation. SMH!
This is a useful throwback. Getting hacked a few month’s ago threw some of my most helpful videos out of the algorithm. Stopping their views almost completely. The hackers made all my videos private so it cut off 4 years of natural organic view traffic. So every week I find a video that needs to get a little more attention to help my newer subscribers. That’s what these throwbacks are about.
Jokes of them because I’m really enjoying rewatching these! Great refreshers. Keep em coming. 📝👏🏽🔥
Envy is terrible.. Hope you'll get double the monetization now that you have more subscribers and success 🙏😀
Oh Wow, I didn't know you got hacked. To me, you never missed a beat, you were always on target, consistent, trustworthy, standing your ground, I had No idea you were dealing with this. Your centeredness makes a positive difference in our lives.
But, no hacker could ruin your reputation. 🏅🏆
The blessings behind your posting the throwbacks are: (1) a gentle reminder for those of us who had seen these before but need a refresher; and (2) available answers for those who are watching these for the very first time. Either way, the situation was bad but it's paying off dividends. Thank you for reposting these. Many blessings, bro!
Treat men as if they are your applicants.
Good idea
When you know your worth you do better. ❤
True Facts
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Been watching this channel before I met my current man who is crazyyyy about me. Can say Kev's advice has been so helpful. Best part is that he focuses on guiding us on how we should "be" and not what we should "do".
This man tells the 1000% truth
Pretty sick.i don't chase. I don't want diseases.
What was the secret?
Wow I realize how profound that statement is. That they do not evaluate you by how you treat them but by how you let them treat you.
When the man ignores me he ain't worth it thank u
Yes, I love what you said about not chasing a man. It's really not chasing the negativity. When i was confronted with toxic behavior it scared me & I lashed out. And I know It's not want I want in a relationship. I want patience & understanding.
I'm clapping 👏👏for myself for walking away from a toxic relationship and this time it for good I will never turn back.
I felt like a heavy rock that was on top of me has been remove when he told me to do what will free my soul "in other words he was breaking up with me. That when I realised that I was wasting my time. So now I am free and I know my worth👑👌❤️
Anyways 😇I do my full medical checkups every beginning of the year I want to maintain a healthy living lifestyle 😇😇I am healthy medically, physically and spiritually 🙏😇
Proud of you! All the best
Me as well
That was the biggest gift that man couldve ever given you. That was some serious divine intervention right there lol
@zinhle congratulations!
I have been trying to walk away for some time, (he of course didn’t wanna give me up) and finally have broken ties…
It’s scary yet liberating… I wish you the best!
I have always been too shy to do the " chasing" anyway
If he does not pursue me it is not going to happen." No healthy man wants to rule over a woman" and men like confident women as much as women like confidence in men.♥️♥️♥️
Your so right… I keep getting dogged because I’m a single mom, but I’m stable all by myself I’m just not available on the weekends and I’m not interested in rushing to accommodate…. I totally should make a list of my strengths and my boundaries… because I’m worthy of good things… tfs
Yes Ma’am ‼️
U sure are keep ur values and a the man 4 you will meet ur standards
Preach Kev!! Like I heard stated so eloquently, " If a man asks what you bring to the table, say I am the f*cking table." -G.L. Lambert. Be ready to bounce to the next. As my Dad always said, there are 7 billion people on the planet, one ain't acting right there's another to take his place.
I know women that chase men. I don't chase I replace.
No one taught us that relationships have got such complicated rules when growing. I grew up knowing that when I love a man, I just got to love him
True😪😪
Lol fr tho. Relationships are exhausting. Dealing with people in general is a whole science.
I always have the mindset that a man that doesn't value me is the looser because I they know my value & what I bring to the table!..walking away should be easy for you because you are the one giving too much without getting anything back!!
This video is savage!!!!!!!!! I love the way you put everything Kev! So true.
I’m so relieved my soul finally understand this. I finally get this in my thicccc skull. I am free from the addiction to chase men that run from me.
All I did was be celibate for a year, focus on myself, watch self development and videos like these daily and actually work hard to change my mindset.
Lastly, I had to realize that I was addicted to the chase because my dad was never really around and I chased him for his approval. Once I healed that father wound, I had more understanding and decided I didn’t need to date anyone until I got a hold of myself.
I’m at the point now where I dnt care abt dating anymore. Just focused on my goals and on loving myself. I love it here♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
"I ain't got to take this shit"
Yes...me too
I really like your suggestion that we should make a written list of our positive attributes and treat ourselves like the person described on it. A great tip to teach yourself about your own worth and create confidence.
This is clear, fresh, and to the point directive.. These reminders need to be said, and resaid over and over again. I love how you use different analogies, phrases and words to "preach the word". Amen, Amen, Amen. Thanks Kev, you are a treasure
Facts!💯💯 Never forget your worth!!
I wish I could be myself and not have all these crazy rules.. to just be myself and have a man who loves and protects that.
AMEN
I understand you !
Life would be so much better
Gracious!! I needed to see this today. Much appreciated!!!!!!
Thank you for that video , I recently just had to cut my self off from a situation that discredited my worth and I had to remind myself of my worth and what I bring to the table and how I deserved to be treated but this person could care less and had no effort to put forth so instead of forcing the matter I staged Left to the exit door so that I could breathe in some Fresh Air that I deserved. You definitely was on point and glad I subscribed
Hello, I’m just discovered your channel and casually watch, but love this video. I’m at a crossroad in my life dealing with this topic (chasing men, ppl who are not putting in the same effort). Thanks so much for the great advice and will be saving this to rewatch anytime im falling into any of these desperate habits
Amazing content Kev!!!!! Thanks a million ❤
I had a man tell me that I’m damaged goods. Maybe it was because I chased him.
Ouch!
That and he don’t care about you nor do he respect you if he told you that…keep it push in
Look ladies. Most men think this
We know women sleep with badboys, so we label her as (streets)
Women from the streets will get sex
But not relationship. This go for sexualised women.hoes, older women, women with badboys.promiscuis, feminist, masculine women, women who oppose good men, single mothers
Good men Avoid these types for relationships.
@@mrc7627 well I don’t know, I’m 23, a virgin, and this dude I was talking to who’s also 23 was chasing me at first, he slid into my messages on Tinder and was on me the first 3 weeks. Then he became inconsistent. I wanted a relationship, but it seems he only wanted a friends with benefits thing. I managed to get in contact with his ex, and she’s a different kinda girl, she’s 20 with 2 kids (single mom) and she’s ratchet with tattoos and smokes weed. So idk what to think now, because it seems like dudes like those thotty, ratchet kinda girls. Guys avoid girls like me cause we’re seen as “boring”. Like how come he cuffed her at one point, but didn’t cuff me, if dudes don’t like thotty promiscuous women or single moms..? I don’t get it he said I was beautiful inside & out and I asked him once if I wasn’t enough and he said “you’re too much if anything”
@@melaniebrown1443 in other words, he feels you’re too good for him. Guys will deal with women like that because they have low self esteem and feel like that’s what they relate to & deserve. Truth is, it all depends on the guy and his own individual standards as to whether he’d commit to you.
Kev got me changing my whole outlook on things. I’m still single but feel way more valuable for it😎
Exactly! Not giving these clowns any chances!
Speaking All Facts here bro. Love It! Thank You!!!
Kev? It’s seems like these new men want women to take them on dates and by them flowers😭. I’m so confused 🤦🏾♀️
No he didnt. If he didnt make first move and make u feel u should make move , it means u live in ur own mind and he just not sure abt you thats why he didnt move
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@@HigherSelfStudio I didn’t take anybody on a date. I’m just saying. Social media has created a new breed of men
@@silverestsky I'm an older woman, I started "dating" 35 years ago, and boys were showing attention before this, and honestly, they all, {except for one guy} wanted and expected to be chased and wooed. Pre social media time. So many men didn't even want to make the effort to initiate and pay for the phone call.
There needs to be a program to school and produce a billion "kev Hicks"
@@HigherSelfStudio True
Yessss Kev Thankyou🙌🏾🙌🏾… I’m so proud of myself because I do all these tips when I’m dealing with men💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾
At 51 and I'm a grandmother of eight I learned to take my life back and be a good single woman and stay strong until God send me someone because of this man may he always be blessed. 👑🦁🎓💯
Nice video,you are sensible and on point,never chase a man,don't be a doormat, have standards ,get to know each other,Be confident about what you have to offer,Be Realistic,Loving your content..🔥🔥
The self evaluation list is an excellent idea thank you for the suggestion
Just came across this video and I’m so glad I did, this was exactly the wake up words I needed to hear.
Thanks Kev for all you do!
Thank yo so much love! This video is fantastic. And so helpful for me today!
Thanks Kev 🙏🏼💙
Thanks for the advice Kev, I really like this channel, its helping me out greatly.
Greetings from Sierra Leone 🇸🇱
W/Africa.
Wow This wa a good one I really needed to hear this one this morning Kevin as I was thinking about someone who has showed no initiative to continue to pursue me I forgot who I was Thank You
Kev!!!! You’re mf’n right! I am the ish!! Thank you for being big brother to us women who are realizing and knowing their self worth. As you know a lot of traumas for outside forces That we internalize and believe. I always heard… all the answers are inside of you. I get it now. This helped seal a deal with myself of a list that I need to uphold in my heart forever!
Kev you da man! Love this advice, good reminders and insight
Thanks for the reminder, Kev!
Thanks for the advice ...I'm definitely writing down why I'm worth it.
The way u say don't chase man..really needed to hear that
Love this thanks. Good reminder to not chase men.
Speak!!! I absolutely love this channel!
This was one of my fave videos of yours! It definitely helped me reaffirm my worth after leaving a bad relationship and holding myself accountable.
@Kev Hick I love you explain things so eloquently. You are very well spoken and give good advice that makes sense. Keep up the good work!
Ur videos are really educative been watching for just a few days but I learnt alot.I’m 25 and I’ve been single for 2 years from my first relationship of 5years and I just feel like I’m not sure if I want to date again or not but watching this gives me some kind of hope
💝 NEVER....CHASE....' EM !!!!! 💝
This is so well said kev hicks. I love your Channel. It truly helps me in my funks. ❤️
You speaking facts brother and protecting hearts left and right listening to you keeps me safe from fboys
🙄Men✋🏾stop stalking women everywhere ESPECIALLY when you know that you don't like her.🤭😂
Teach!! Gotta deal with those codependency issues too. Can’t be addicted to a person.
This is an AWESOME video. Thank u so much❣❣❣
Love this video thank you Kevin ❤️
Beautifully said!!!
Love ittttttt!!!!! Thankyou kev🤗🥰
Why do people want a relationship so bad?
I ask myself that same question. You mist be a natural loner too huh??
@@akiac.8101 It is too stressful to stress about it all day long.
@Silver & Cold you cant predict the future just driving yourself insane worrying about when you will get married.
Because people are nosy and want to put added pressure on you, for no real reason.
I don't know, personally the more you crave for something, the less it happens. It is better to just go with the flow and live your life to the fullest 🤗🙏
They CLEARLY don't know who I am. I ain't gotta take this shit! Amen (I am totally in agreement with these statements!) lolll
Perfectly said. Thank you
Absolutely right, great stuff!!!!!!!!!!!
Great video!
I've learned it's okay to flirt but don't chase a relationship this is why I'm been cellibate so long and I know what is meant for me and what is not if he shows no interest the first time I don't pay any attention to him anymore either
You are my reflection!! There is one guy that I liked, he told me that he wanted to be friends with benefits. I do not go that route because I do not believe in casual sex. I need to be in a relationship. So when I was telling him that I was going somewhere with some guy, he got in his feelings. I told him you told me that you wanted to be friends. why are you acting like that?? But of course he had nothing to say. I can't stand men who don't want you, but don't want you to find someone that will possibly be good for you. I have also been celibate for a long time as well, and don't have any problems with it whatsoever!
@@juliawhite7152 you are right these cocky feminine men make it easy for me to be cellibate know why they tell on themselves they try to make the woman a last option but want you to pine over them I think there should be ways that they have to stay away from good people
Exactly! See what he is, not what you can make him
Amen... Don't guess and gamble with your health.💜🦁👑🎓💯
I need to listen to this on repeat. I feel like such a sucker.
We have all been here before! Accept it , learn the lesson and move on! Hell and Remember who TF you are!!!!
This was a great video I love this channel ✨
Never that! I don’t chase I align, I call it into me because what I want wants me, what I seek seeks me!
Hi kev you are so on point and a positive person
Great advice. 💕💕💕
Soooo true.. 🥲 " I ain't fixing to take this shit"
Someone once told me don't be Bob the builder.
Great video. 🤗
Thanks for this
Like the advice just started listening to you and like your style.
Awesome advice! ♥️
Been there done that not happening ever again. I wont tolerate disrespect ever.
When you get to the point where there are things you don’t like or won’t deal with if you’re considered in a “good space” with that person or not are you obligated to let that person know you’re walking away or you just block them and go on your merry way?
THANK YOU❣️
I really needed this today Kev. I feel better already, ty💝
Sometimes rejection should inspire us to look in the mirror though, not just say I’m good. I recently rejected a guy cuz he is 35 but acts as if he’s 15. He shouldn’t just keep fooling himself
He has a God given gift in deciphering all the b.s. dudes wanna kick to us.
Needed this, should have watched it about 24 hours ago, oops
BIG BRO!!!!!!!!!! 🙌🏾
Very helpful video.
I looooove this video.. Everytime I watch it .. I learned so much
Awesome video!!!🤚🏼
People believe about you what you believe about yourself. 💫 beautiful 🔥
That’s how I was in the beginning… many yrs later I got soft and in a terrible alternative reality started doing this with my own husband.. I should have walked away.. what was I thinking??
The bars dropped in this video 🔥
Thank you so much.
You are the realest…
I'm glad I've changed no longer toxic. But I will ask questions and proceed to move on. But he be hitting them facts
Yes a list!
I don't chase period... Been single over two years... Still not desperate.