The Bougie Black Women | Bougie diaries
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- Опубліковано 28 вер 2024
- Hey everyone, I am starting off 2021 with a video essay/analysis of the bougie black woman archetype. This is an archetype I have been seeing for quite some time now and I simply love it ! I spoke mainly about the depiction of this archetype in films and television shows. This is an archetype which relates a lot to the growth of the black feminity movement here on UA-cam. I thought it would be pretty cool to shed a light on this archetype considering it is one of my favorites. Tell me your thoughts on this archetype as well , because I would love to know how you feel about them. Hopefully, you enjoy this video!
super sorry about the crackling mic sounds , it only last for the first minute, I am new to microphones I'll have it fixed by my next video essay
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Media Mentionned :
- Two Can Play that Game (2001)
- Girlfriends (2000-2008)
- Fresh Prince of Bel-Air (1990-1996)
- Clueless (1995)
- Saved by the bell (1989-1993)
- Dear White People (the show : 2017-)
- Dynasty (1981-1989)
- Scandal (a.k.a the love of my life) : (2012-2018)
- Chewing Gum (2015-2017)
- Boomerang (1992)
- Insecure (2016-)
- Little Miss Jocelyn (2002)
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We need more bougie black women characters on tv.
Absolutely!
Yess
Agreed
We need more bougie Black women PERIOD.
Absolutely! I love it
People call me boujie all the time. People don’t know the difference between being boujie, high maintenance and simply having standards. I’m not boujie at all lmao I’ve lived in the hood my whole life, went to public school, I wasn’t really in the tax bracket to be boujie. But because my parents had STANDARDS they kept the house nice, kept themselves looking clean, bought themselves nice things when they could and taught me to have standards for myself and I think because I let those standards be known people mistake that for being boujie
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Yesss , honestly I completely understand you when it comes to standards . My parents definitely raised me that same way and were fortunate to give me everything that I needed . I went to a private school with a lot of white people but I never really fit in with them . However , when I got to college I made a lot of black friends (and still didn't fit in) but because of the way I carry myself and because I am kind of reserved a lot of people think I am stuck up when really I just don't like talking that much If I don't have nothing to say . It's just miscommunication and people just want to think whatever they want too so I let them .
Yesssssssss Same!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
@@AbrasiveYouth Honestly my life🤦🏽♀
@A Rare Sophisticate That is true, and it's true when they say sex sales😒
I would say the OG aunt Viv was the best version of a educated black woman her and Clair huxable they let their education and self confidence lead them and had husbands in their lives that valued this and uplifted them that didn’t see them as intimidating but saw them as a partner to do life with I would say we need to see more educated black women on screen like we did in the 90s
I agree. Though I like aunt Viv more than Claire
Agreed!
Exactly...but I have to also add Whitley Gilbert and Olivia Pope as the epitome of This archetype of the Bougie Black Woman-
@SkateBoard_C_ definitely. I love her tooooo though, lmao
Aunt Viv and Claire were never bourgeois though they were just educated classy black women
I work hard for my money and I spend it how I want to...... as an intelligent young lady.
Honestly yesss , life is too short !
Right!!!! Call us bougie but so long as we have our respect that’s all that matter.
As long as you're not spending it on men.
My cousin called me bougie in middle school, she wasn’t lying 😭😂 I hate that bougie black women in media are constantly being “humbled” by relationship troubles, as if no one else experiences trouble too. Girls, do not settle and never question your standards. Men are abundant, so even if it takes a while to find the right one I don’t mind 🤷🏾♀️
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Art is imitating life. When a woman is bougie, elegant, successful she wants a man to match and it becomes more difficult to find. This is why we see too many successful black women with mediocre men, but thats a conversation for another day
The narrative has to change. There are ALOT of men who can step up to the plate for successful block women and they don’t have to be black men. A lot of beautiful successful black women have strong successful men as partners and that needs to be represented more on tv period.
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I hope this archetype evolves and shows more black women in healthy relationships. Black women deserve love and having it reflected in the media!
agree !
Periodddddddddd !
I think it's black people (women in particular) who need to be the writers for this. For example, the only quirky black girl characters that I'm aware of were written by BLACK WOMEN - Micaela Cole for Chewing gum and Issa Rae Awkward Black Girl
Agreed. I feel like the media is going out of the way to show everyone else except black women in committed relationships these days.
@@KinkyCurlyVicki Yes Indeed.. IT'S INTENTIONAL.. the divide and conquer is prevalent, unfortunately the BC is allowing it to happen...imo
Y’all missing a real bougie black queen
Ms. Lynn Whitfield
Yes Ms. Brandi Webb in A Thin Line Between Love and Hate.
Oh yeah I love watching Ms Whitfield act. Truly a lady.
Yesss she is the og
Yessssssss !
She is the epitome of bougie block woman. I love it so much
There needs to be a thread of black women that actually worked in luxury as well (luxury hotels, spas, high end gyms, designer stores, golf courses etc.) I know most of us work in corporate America but there’s a few of us who work in these establishments as well
Meeee.
Let's connect my IG is @worldofdaisyflowers
I currently work in a luxury hotel in a downtown area as a hostess for the restaurants of the hotel
I'm interested in this
@@TheBlackychan09 Do you like it sis??
Black woman here 🙋🏾♀️ I worked in an extremely luxury hotel in downtown Seattle. I was the hotel manager. Loved every bit of it.
I've never seen Dynasty but that scene took me out and I need to watch more
My mom loved that show,girl queen was serving her OK
@@ladydiaspora807 I literally paused after the clip she showed just to take it all in.
I need to see that episode..
It’s on Amazon prime video 💁🏾♀️
You've definitely should watch dynasty just because of Diane Carroll absolutely gorgeous
Lmao I love being a combo of the bougie and awkward black woman. I'm finally letting myself embrace who I am without fear of being labelled an Oreo
Without these archetypes being linked to black women, they would have such regular titles
The quirky black girl would just be quirky
Bougie black woman would just be a rich girl
That’s true but because they’re such anomalies in black television they become titled.
I mean you can be boujie ans not rich
AGREED! Bougie black woman is seen as a negative, whereas bougie white woman is seen as a positive. But, they are literally the same thing! 😡 So does that mean Paris Hilton is a bougie queen too?!
I grew up on 2000's Black shows and as a child I always been drawn to Toni Childs from Girlfriends. I was sooooo fascinated with her!!! I know she has her flaws however I liked the way she carried herself with self-assurance
Yes , I recently watched Girlfriends because it was just put on Netflix and I loooooooovee Toni . She definitely is not perfect but I just adore her and find her so interesting !
Great video. All these women are certainly my faves, always found their characters to be so inspirational. Think you forgot Michaela Pratt from HTGAWM, sis was always on top of her game.
I was so devastated when I realized I forgot Michaela I just haven’t seen HTGAWM in so long so she slipped my mind completely . I’ve always loved these women and I think I always will & thank you so much for your comment !
*Blk women would not have to settle if they sought after more powerful men, regardless of race*
Exactly
Point taken.
Exactly proposed to 4 times before I got married in 2017 African, Indian, Mexican, White... case closed
Really liked this video. I would love to see your take on the free-spirited black women characters on tv (quirky, bohemian, alternative, artsy etc)
Ohh good idea I’ll work on that next ! I love the alternative aesthetic on black girls especially willow smith such a goddess 💗💗
Exactly..we are out here...
@@AbrasiveYouth no..we mean..Rachel true.....Lisa Bonet....etc
Like Lynn from girlfriends?
@@tpgamble exactly. Interesting that all the examples given are biracial (or ls) women which is something I noticed about this ‘archetype’. But yes I definitely mean - Zoe Kravitz, Lisa Bonet, Rachel True, Willow Smith, Cree Summers and characters like Lynn from Girlfriends.
I grew up watching Whitley Gilbert/Jasmine Guy. The absolute best!
I love the bougie Black woman. I am the bougie Black woman.🥂
This is my personality too. I love that they keep up with healthy lifestyle. You won’t catch them drinking, smoking or eating bad. Most are into keeping their body healthy with exercise and eating healthy. A good date for them is a nice restaurant, theater, museum, hanging out at the beach doing something chill.
This was outstanding. This is how my late grandmother was …VERY much Tony from Girlfriends tbh right down to the white husband. I was always more of a Tomboy growing up but I try more and more each day to embody the bougie black woman. “ *I am her she is me* “
I would be on the *rags to riches* end of the spectrum. I lived in a single parent, 5 baby daddy’s …but some how absentee father home w/ waaaay more than my fair share of physical & mental abuse.
Not to mention there were extended times w/ no running water, uncollected trash for months on end, no lights, no gas, and a new house phone number every 6 mos or so.
Therefore I promised myself I would never live that life by choice. I got my degree, I’m married to my sons father I religiously pay up on my bills just in case something happens and do my best to never settle for areas or interactions that I know are beneath me and goals I set for myself.
I honestly can’t stand to see my ppl settle for less bc coming out of it I know it has so much to do with the choices you make. But that’s a rant for another day lol.
I love that these Black Femininity videos are popping up bc I’m having so much fun taking bits and pieces to make it my own and keep me inspired to act like the lady I wanna be.
Love this video! definitely agree with a lot of the points made and the immediate person who came to mind was Michaela Pratt from HTGAWM. Such an ambitious, hardworking individual but she really did get a poor portrayal in the end
Omg I cannot believe I forgot Michaela she’s another bougie queen I just haven’t seen HTGAWM in such a long time so I completely forgot her ! I’ll def see how she turns out in the end & thank you 😊
My husband calls me bougie all the time. Yet, he’s the one that treats me like one. He thinks I should just take care of myself and just sip tea and relax. Luckily I have a career that I love, I can’t just sit home, shop, and do nothing. When cleaning our home, he says I should hire a maid. I’m like why? I’m fully capable of cleaning my own home. Like he doesn’t like seeing me doing too much.
Your husband sounds great. You're working, why not get help around the home? He doesn't want you to be stressed out.
Does he have a brother? Can a sista get a hook up??? Tired of bums
Girl you married a unicorn!
Live the soft life for us!!!🤣
What do you do? I need this type of career lol
Where did you meet him? Lol
I love all bougie and classy women/girls. I'm just born this way.
Proud bougie black gal❤💋
I'm married to a bougie black woman and she's my soul mate
Hmmm LOL Toni is too crazy girl, her character is so far fetched to me. Do people like her really exist. Besides that, you always produce insightful videos keep them coming
She really iss omg but Monica is crazier tho and there are probably people who act like Toni in real life I haven’t come across anyone like that tho . & thank you so much 💕
Yes my sister is a definite Toni.
There is a word for people like Toni. She's a narcissist.
Can I just say that I love that you used Diahann Carroll in this video? She is the epitome of class and grace.
I find myself somewhere between awkward/ quirky black woman and bougie, advocate for myself bad ass. I feel like it's a nice balance that allows me to be myself.
That dialogue in Dynasty was everything!! 👏🏾👏🏾
Also, don’t forget Michaela Pratt from How To Get Away With Murder!
❤️ this for black women
I'm here for boujie black women....there's nothing wrong in having standards, wanting the best for yourself, and being educated!!
This feels like an attack! 😂 I've been accused of being bougie since birth. Favorite character is Hilary!
Definitely not an attack and same I love Hillary but my fav character is coco conners and Olivia pope for suree
i love the video but you forgot Olivia Pope and Viola DAVIS, they portrayed classy, upper-class boogie, black women too
Okayy so Olivia Pope I know she’s bougie but for some reason I just never pictured her fitting into this archetype and I think that’s because of her relationship with fitz and how she allowed it to control her . But she’s definitely bougie 100% !
I have always been labeled as "bougie" starting from a very young age. This video resonates with me a lot.
I LOVE the bougie black woman character but have you ever notice you only see the bougie black girl wear her natural hair when she's light-skin? Otherwise they wear wigs or weaves.
That’s true I think that has a lot to do with respectability politics like I mentioned in the video !
Tony Childes was the embodiment of the bougie black woman ❤❤❤💜💜💜
My little sister called me bougie the other day because I said I don't like processed cheese 😅, (the fact I have a choice is a blessing). I said yeah I like nice things, but I'm bougie without bougie money 😭.
love love love this omgosh we need more Bougie Black Women characters all day everyday! love love love
Clerminah from BGC (Jelaminah and the Clermont Twins) were the bougie black girl trio. They stood up for each other and even sued BGC when they let the cast destroy their things. I would hate to go through what they did in the house but I admire their strength, especially Jela standing up for herself and the twins at the reunion despite the twins not being present.
Jela had the hands and she always looked put together
Elektra from Pose is also a great example of a bougie black woman
With the exception of the mammy, I feel like these are basic character archetypes for women. They aren't necessarily negative as they exist as part of storytelling. They are negative when they become exclusive to Black women.
As a black girl stepping into her feminity, this is everything to me. I now love having my nails done, wearing chiffon and poofs and frills, bows in the hair. Makeup. And I think black feminity is thought of as Cardi B with hyper sexualization. But it's not always the case. It's subtle and lovely. It's not being oreo. Feminity and demure behaviour isn't just for white women. Luxury and comfort should be things every woman can achieve. God forbids a black woman who has more to offer than some stereotypical fetishizing fantasy gets with someone successful and can finance her and gives her everything she wants. 🙄
As someone who some would consider bougie one thing I've noticed is men. Before I got married i dated both in and out of my race. With white men the dusty ones wouldn't dare approach me. But with black men they would approach me then try to humble me down to their level. Then I'd get the "oh you're too good huh?" To go to Applebee's for a 2 for 20....yes. absolutely I am lol
Yesssss sis
Yes girl I will tell them in a heartbeat that I’m too good for that
The fact this is a lable infuriates me. I dislike when people call me bougie because I like to live comfortably. I don’t ever really see people call people of different races “bougie” as much as they call black women. It’s almost like it’s not even normal?
but the majority of people who call black women bougie are other black women... how can the cycle stop if not addressed from within?
@@__-bg7jo of course, you’re right it must be addressed within our own people first. We shouldn’t alienate or lable our own people like that as if it’s rare or almost impossible to live well and expect and appreciate nice things
I agree 100% I’ve been told I’m boujie and white washed because I talk proper and that I act like I’m too good for someone because of my standards but thats not the case it’s simply because I just act myself and I’m not going to settle for less
She made a valid point in that Dear White People clip
We need more of these characters!!!! I love them 😍😍😍😍😍😍
I’m told often by men my standards are too high. Thank you for reassurance and that I’m not alone.
This was a fantastic video, thank you so much for making this. I was getting so tired or seeing all the negative narratives out there related to the other archetypes existing for black women, so a video like this was much needed! ❤️❤️❤️
I live in the carribean.
And as we’re prodominantly black
Hence I do not have to refer to myself as a black woman.
But as just a woman 👩.
I'm living breathing version👸🏾😊🥰💕
I miss these tv shows so much. I'm so happy my parents grew me up on them ❤
I got called this by all 3 of my kids yesterday and I’m like what does that mean🤛🤛 I’m quiet and kind but often get called bougie. I’m sure people think I’m stuck up but I’m just an introvert folks
Lol I always crack up on the line from 2 can play that game wen Gabriel say “ let me go holler at that negro.” 😂😂😂
I hope in 2021 Black women get rid of the narrative that LOVE is hard to find 😁 Black women need to be OPEN to LOVE 💕
THIS!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Thank you! 🤣
This video brought me so much joy. I FEEL UNDERSTOOD ❤️
4:17 She’s not dumb. She’s brilliant for doing that 😂
😂😂 very truee .
I have been called bougie so many times, it is usually by men I am not interested in, and women who want to be me, LOL!
I laughed out loud lmao 4:20
She used it to her advantage though, do that was smart 😆😆
Olivia pope
I forgot her 😭😭 but she’s such an inspiration for me !
Recently I had to a go to a funeral pre-COVID and I worked a half day at work. So after the funeral I went to work. Well I wore a long black romper (it fit me well, appropriate), with a sweater-like cape that draped over me that buckled in the front, low heels, earrings, lip gloss... and this lady was like “Awww look at you looking all bougie” . I kind of stared at her because there were a few other black women and white in the room , and this was a white woman who said it. (She is one that has a lot of black friends and a black boyfriend, so she think she can say stuff like that apparently)... and I said, don’t you ever go to church??? Of course not... 🤔
OMG I love your voice, so smooth.
Hilary Banks is my girl. She thought me I can rock my hair and still be bougie
Claire Huxtable… Aunt Viv…. Helen from the Jeffersons
this is such a GREAT analysis
thank you I really appreciate it !
Bougie but proud to be Black(not a swirler), now there’s actually nothing wrong with that. 👍🏾
This is my life story girl I claim this video thank you for making this ❣️
Could Zoey from Grownish be included in this as well?? Love the video btw
You think you're all that, you better than everyone!!! That's what I use to hear all the time and I foolishly adjusted myslef.. No more
I get that all the time but it just means people are intimidated by you ! It is what it is
I've been called a bougie black woman and it used to bother me but I like the way I am! 💁
I think it may be because the media always shows the rich and bougee black woman in groups where she is the minority and seem like an anomaly. Whereas you will see the rich white girl surrounded by other rich white girls.
I love this video! Randomly popped up in my feed. Have looked up to most of these women my entire life. What’s the song in the beginning?
Thank you so much & yes they have always inspired me as well ! the song is called unlawful by la Hara
Femininity is more than your appearance, it’s also your ability to be cooperative, selfless and submissive which is why the “bougie black women” portrayed in the media tends to struggle in relationships
I personally feel like a Bougie black woman and femininity is not synonymous .
100% I love that women of color should inspire to be seen as luxurious and expensive. I get called bougie often and I don't mind, it just means I'm viewed with money! ❤😊 thanks I'll take that any day ❤ I can't definitely back up that statement too.
Let's not forget about Joan from Girlfriends or was that to just be considered class?
Hillary wasn't born in wealth, she grew up wealthy. She was around 7 when Uncle Phil got his first big break. There's an entire episode where they went to help clean up their old neighborhood.
But even still she was bougie at seven years old and also she didn’t have to work for anything she has like Toni Child’s , Michaela Pratt and Coco Conners .
@@AbrasiveYouth
That isn't entirely true. She was still expected to get a job on her own when she dropped out of college, and still worked her way up from weather girl to daytime host. Yes, she isn't a 100% rags to riches story, but she still had to work to get to where she was, specially since most didn't expect her to amount to anything other than a dumb socialite who does nothing at all other than spend daddy's cash.
If you wanted a real "born into wealth" example, you'd go with Ashley, since she was born long after they got the house and the cash.
@@lunayen but Ashley was a lot more humble and didn’t fit into the bougie stereotype
We need to bring back B.A.P👸🏾👑🏰 (black American princess) it's sort of like the younger version of the bougie black women♥️
I just wanna say I really love the fact that this is even a video 😂👏🏾 hella funny !
I want to see a bougie plus size black woman with a big heart. That's it 😭
What about regine hunter from living single? She was also bougie
Oomf we forgot about Regine from "Living Single" I see
Yes to the legendary Dynasty Read!
You forgot about Essence Atkins character from Half & Half (Dee Dee Thorne) & Big Dee Dee
That black woman in dynasty...dayuuuum!
You forgot the daughter and the mom from Half and Half. I loved them both. All the actresses were a bit bougie though in their own way. Just that the other two were spoilt and entitled. Lol. . Love love the bougie black woman. 100%
What an insightful video! You did a good job x
Thank you so much!
You missed out Olivia Pope from scandal
You threw biracials in with black girls 🤨
Who’s biracial ?
@@AbrasiveYouth Karin parsons, Stacey dash, jasmine guy
@@wellexcusemyfrench You’re pathetic.
@@wellexcusemyfrench The actresses are mixed, but the characters are Black.
Stacey Dash is mixed? Isn’t she Afro Latino? Damon Dash’s father and her father are brothers?
@@tapped564 not you being the biracial brigade 😂😂
I’ve been called bougie by black, white, my husband....I love it!
I'm attracted to the bougie black chick
It always get to me when we hear about media executives saying that "black women don't sell." RHOA is the highest watched of the Real Housewives franchise. I'd guess that it's the ratchet type of black woman that some don't relate with. Classy black women in luxury, being ladylike and feminine, try that execs!
They are super ratchet lol they have money but not class and people are obsessed with those drama filled caricatures of black women
It’s about time I fully embrace being Bougie 🤷🏽♀️ It’s actually okay to be bougie, with a good heart though 😉
Yes I definitely agree ! As long as you’re humble .
Factsss sis
@balenxy oh well. Let us be in peace. We can finance our own selves. At least we won't be having fatherless children. Keeping our goods to ourselves.
@balenxy It’s possible luv. Who knows. I don’t think a lot of us care though.
@balenxy ❤
What I love most about the "bougie BW" character is that most of them are darker skin women. Us blessed and highly melanated tones always get called masculine but to see my skin tone, feminine, beautiful, smart and speaking her mind just warms my heart. I really enjoyed this video.
That’s very true ! Thank you so much 😊
Omg so trueeee
💗💗right!
If I had a DOLLAR for EVERY TIME I’ve been called bougie I’d be lounging in my dream home sipping champagne right now!!! I think a big misconception about women like this is that we are white identified. I am a rather dark skinned, natural haired blk woman and love every bit of how I look and who I am, it’s just that I enjoy the finer things life has to offer.
And that's okay babe, live your best life👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
And it's just so confusing how a lot of things are seen as things white women do only(anime, aesthetics hair & makeup, etc,,)and when a black woman goes to do it than she's pretending or she's trying to be like the white woman blah blah blah! Like why do people always try to discourage black girls from living their best lives😒
Saaame.
I rather be bougie then be poor. What's so great about being poor.
Absolutely
It's so crazy how these traits are somehow assigned exclusively to whiteness. It's completely nonsensical.
a lot of people don't realize bougie black people really do exist; we all travel to same places, live in the same areas, go to same schools, join the same recreational clubs etc. it's like a national community where everyone knows everyone.
HOW DO I JOIN
@@kittycoutourxxx2706 be rich i guess
Learned this going to HU lol
@@88angels HU?
@@irrelevance3859 Howard university. An Hbcu
I take being called Bougie as a compliment, because a 95% of the time the person calling me this is some loser who doesn't have anything going on in their life.
Amen
Yep! Same!
This
Righhhtttt fck dem
Lol
Just an interesting life observation I’ve made. A lot of people build their confidence off the degradation of Black women, especially darker skinned Black women. There seems to be this pervasive mentality that suggest as long as I’m doing better than black women, I’m good. I’ve noticed it in my own life. People tend to automatically not like me or are intimidated by the way I carry myself and material items I have. Simply put, they are threatened by Black women that don’t fit racist stereotypes.
Great factual observation babe👏🏼👏🏼👌🏼
@t t THIS! I had some random white man tell me years ago that I was spoiled because I worked in a lavish office and told him I enjoy relaxing. Years later I realized that ppl truly don't like to see black women in a state of comfort.
@@saramatthews7159 The nerve! I'm the same way, I carry myself as if I deserve it all. And guess what? People treat me as if I do!😊
dang
@@patty8644 lol that's right! I believe in treating myself like a princess...ppl are just gonna have to get used to black women wanting the finer things in life and pampering themselves.
Bougie black women with natural hair for the real win 🥰
Every type of bougie black woman whether you are natural or relaxed !
Yes natural ❤❤
thissss
yesss
Natural all the way
We DO deserve to see the better parts of life
Definitely!
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Black women only seem to have a hard time finding love when we’re trying to be with black men solely. Example: Molly; Molly was in her first actual relationship on insecure with a non black man. All the men before that were black and didn’t want to commit.
It's really sad that bw have to date interracially to find commitment and love . Thanks for your input !
@@AbrasiveYouth it really is. I wish it wasn’t this way. Thank you for replying ☺️.
Black women should date whoever loves them but some black women do have preferences like some only want a white man and some only want a black man and both are fine as long as they treat you right and have the means to support you.
And she ended up ruining it by being herself lol
As someone who dates all races it’s truly about finding the right man. Good men come in all shades and I’m an advocate for trying them all
Black men called me “bougie” or “high class” damn near my whole adult life. Whole time I’m just high maintenance, and just like nice things 😂 if you’re broke just say that!
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Really? I haven’t heard the term bougie widely used in 20yrs lol. I thought the narrative about women and money shifted to “gold digger” or “high maintenance” or something like that (and now the dreaded “high value” and now “hypergamous” for the youtube set) but I really haven’t heard of Black class issues spoken of the way they were in the 80s, 90s and back and tv made Black-class issues popular.. Even in the 2000s when the Obamas were in the WH, I didn’t hear a revamp of term “bougie.” It was more like “educated Blackpeople” etc and people were striving to be like Michelle and it wasn’t a bad thing. Just what I thought I guess.
@@noble604 I’m from the south. People from other regions use different terms right?
The hate we get for wanting better in life is unfair. I don’t clown people for underachieving.
I love me some Hilary Banks omg her outfits I would still wear today!!!!!!!
Literally Same she always looked good !
IKR! Timeless fashions
Same
olivia young miss toni childssss she always gave me life
@@queenbaudelaire3021 the show was not the same after Toni left