Well I respect the parents who care for their children and I also think that midnight is somewhat okay for people who have curfew for their children...
When she gets home is not the problem. It isn't about 12 or 1am, and certainly not 12:30... It's the mindset that is the problem, she is a grown woman, obviously very reliable and responsible, so the parents need to realise that. I feel that they just want to have a baby forever and that they feel nostalgic and sorry that their kids are all grown up. That's normal parental behaviour and is totally ok, but they need to get over it and let her live her own life, otherwise she is just going to grow apart from them.
I feel for the daughter. I hope their sexist opinions can change and her parents can realize that they need to listen to her, and change the way they treat her versus her brother.
Everytime there is a story abt parent and childs like this, I feel so much thankful to my parents that never even once they control my life. They give me trust and freedom to do what I want
I've never in my life had a curfew... We had rule about this. My parents trust me that I won't do anything stupid and I trust them that they won't control me. Don't get me wrong. It's not like I could go out and come back 4am next day. I always told them in advance if I were ever late so they won't worry. And that was the best for all of us. Trust
Zuza that’s the best relationship of trust ever!!! If I went out, I didn’t really have a cerfew, my parents would just say to not come back too late. It only happened literally twice when I stayed out later than a person should so they called me because I didn’t notify them. More parents should be trusting and confident their kids!!! If you raised the kids with good manners then they won’t do anything dumb majority of the time. Lolololol
Same for me. And because they trusted me made me not want to betray that so I never stayed out later then 1 am. Even then I would call and update them throughout the night so they where I was and who I was with.
Same. I always tell my mom the details of my whereabouts and who I'm with, despite her reluctance at times, she'd let me go. When a party ends very late at 3 or 4 am, she'd even tell me to just stay with my friends and just go home in the morning so that it will be safer to travel. I've seen how my friends' parents are so strict that they often just lie to them just so they won't get nagged. I'm really grateful for the trust my parents give me so I never do anything to betray that trust. Looking back now, I admire my mom for letting me have such freedom, despite being quite worried for my well-being.
I try not to stay out late since I didn't have a curfew and every time I was late like it was past 1 am it'll be because of food. Like caters coming late, food coming in late, long lines at seemingly all the food places and we're all hungry then.
Zuza I turned 17 this September. But I barely go out on night. Beside for the school things, last year was the first time I went out with my friend until 8 p.m. it seriously drive me crazy. But when I'm on a school trip, I will do anything to stay up all night and if my friends still want going around, I will definitely say yes. I just don't want to get curfew that early. Is it make sense for a high school students to had their curfew at 6 pm?
@@monica3139 yes but the fact that in Korea if you are big you can be famous only as a commedian, or else you'll be take fun of, is really a disrespectful and toxic thing
@bubblegum Lol when i was little i have developed faster than gurls around me my thighs got huge And plus me binge eating for every Meal i became chubby at school for 2 years i was bullied untill college i started beating TS out of them /drinking/ smoking but now im clean( thnk the lord ) Being comfortable in your own skin is something ppl should strive to achieve ,some ppl just have tO MYOB 😍😍😍
I've been in her shoes... my dad would be chill since he knows all my friends and every time i'd ask to go out with them he would say yes but my mom would always so no and then he would change his answer too.... it was like all of elementary, middle, and high school! It wasn't until post graduating i put my foot down saying i wanted to go with them cause the rare occasions i would meet them they would always talk and laugh about things and gatherings that they had and i would feel so left out.... since i stood my ground i introduced my friends to my mom and since then every time i say i wanna go out with them she just asks for how long, with who, and where and then i'm allowed to go.... i understand the mother's concern but at the same time you can't stop your child from going out and experiencing life
I really feel for her because my parents don't ever listen to me when i have issues. What would i know when I'm so young and shit. It gets really annoying to hear all the time. :/
I am sorry to hear that , i hope we can learn from this and be better parents ourselves. One day you'll understand them that the generation gap is too much for anyone to be understanding , some parents are a little more then others but thats it
Who had to make scrambled eggs when they were 8 ? Anyone ? DAILY ROUTINE at 13 i made tea/coffee every morning *wash dishes *get ready for school *go school / come back at 4 pm *clean up alittle *do homework *sleep 12 am REPEAT
Oh my I know no one cares but still, it's will be my first time watching hello counselor and I actually know one of the guest appearances and yes I did watch the drama she was in left-handed wife which I loved and was so sad to see it ended. Thank you .
At first, i also like Youngja. I understand why her parents did that and think it just them be worried about their daughter but the more i listen to the daughter, the more i feel sorry to her. Imagine sharing room with your parents for 24 years, they supposed to give the room to her not her oppa. They called her as baby but got treated unfair compared to his one year old brother. Despite all of it, the daughter still grown as a nice daughter. It it was me, i don't think i can be as obedient as her. P/S: The daughter is pretty and the whole family too tbh
Nuha so you got all that from my sentence thank you , if you're in America and you're puzzled how Trump won look at yourself and see why people avoid someone like you for Trump.
This happend to me too. I'm now 21 years old and have been a good kid all my life, always listened to my parents and never did anything out of line. However, now as a 21 year old, I want to go out with my friends and enjoy new things- but they've grown accustomed to me being around them 24/7, if I don't notify them about where I am, I will have a long lecture, If I have plans and a family matter comes up, I should cancel my plans. I understand this girl too much, she deserves more than just a 1am curfew but to have more freedom to enjoy life for the first time!! A very frustrating concern indeed :(
Kinda same with my family. My parents want us, girls, to back at home by 7 PM. but when it comes to my brother, he can comes late by 12 AM. There's a lot family like that where parents are very lenient towards boys but not girls. "Girls need to do all the housework and treat man like a king" I REALLY HATE THIS since i'm living in this kind of family.
@@elvisishakmboni4333 It's not about being woke. It's about how you're not allowed to do normal things just because you're a women. The main reason why women aren't allowed to stay out is because of the dangers they could face due to men. Of course, there are female perpetrators but they are very few to the millions of oppressing men.
I'm 25 and about to get married next year and I still have curfew till 6pm. I need my parents permission whenever i want to go out with my friends or even date with my boyfriend. 3 hrs is the maximum hrs for our date. that's when i decided not to fgo out ever again. All I do now is go to work then go home.
My curfew is 9pm but I always stretch it until 10 or 11pm. They dont shout as much as they used to but every single time my mum has to nag me and blow up my phone with messages. I'm 22!!! It's not right for parents to control you and treat you like a child. It's mental abuse. This is also why I always miss out on having fun with friends. What gukjoo said at the end almost brought me to tears. I realised Im growing apart from my parents and even though we live in the same house, we hardly talk. They prohibit so many things for me that I cant even speak to my mum about anything.
She's a grown woman and doesn't need her parents to keep butting into her life when it is not needed. She shouldn't even need a curfew to begin with. She goes to work, travels an hour to get home, and by the time she wants to relax, it's late. Even on her days off, she needs to have peace in her mind that she can enjoy her time with her boyfriend, or friends, or even alone planning a day for herself. The parents need to change and hopefully when she gets married, they won't bother her afterwards.
This is me with my parents right now. I have a hard time getting close to them and they would always lie to me, blame eachother for not raising me the way they want, and always go out their way to lock me at home. And it's true, you can drift away from your parents just like that.
I can totally relate: mother being worried about you because you're a girl alone (which is not sexism btw), getting comments on spending too much money (also getting too many packages!), and questioning the 'utility' hobbies (as if hobbies should always be 'useful'). It makes you enjoy things less, because it gives you a feeling of guilt.
I really feel sad about the gender discrimination because i am also suffering from that but for the curfew i can't relate to it because my mom always ask me to go outside and meet people instead of staying at home all the time but it is not my fault that i am unsociable and i always tell her that it is better than making her deal with problems that i will cause if i go outside fortunately that always ends this discussion.
Sharing the same room than her parents..😱..how suffocating it is for her..and no intimate privacy for her parents either. Obviously she was an unwanted pregnancy.
You’re still lucky to have a curfew @ 12. My curfew is unclear. My mom would flood my phone with messages and calls @ 6pm. She wouldn’t stop unless I answered her calls and messages.
18:27 Seriously the first concern got me singing Chungha's gotta go until they actually played it later 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Edit: wahhh.. the girl is actually very good daughter. Mostly, the girl of her age would leave the house already!! Aingg..lee kookju..sucha wise words to say..🤤😍
Maybe the mom sees herself in her daughter. They do look really alike. Maybe that’s where the overprotectiveness comes from and she doesn’t want the daughter to make the same mistakes she did.
I understand the parents and also the daughter. I've been through that too. Growing up from an asian fam, big but not too well off family. I mean, both of my sister and I are at our 20's already too but we still share a room at home. My mum and 3 siblings share a room and when my dad return home from work he often tried squeezing w/ them at that room or sleep on the living room (i honestly don't know how the 5 of them manage to squeeze in 1 room considering my teen siblings' big physique) anyway the point is, when I was younger I always also felt very confined. Especially towards my dad. He was a military man, and he rarely came home so we weren't really that close. But i felt suffocated around him, i often even described him as an overprotective dad to my friends bef (which i felt really guilty and very bad rn) and my mum is a very docile and soft woman. She can also be very guilible and panicky at hearing bad news. And she often gets easily anxious and over think things. So yea, as a typical teen in their puberty i had my rebelious phase. To the point where i almost hated and bore a grudge on them. I both hated and loved them. I also hated the fact that they treated me as a child and accused that fact as the reason why i wasn't as independent as the peers around my age (heck i couldn't even order my own food at the counter or at the restaurant until i was 19) i felt like i didn't have enough freedom to grow, to fail and learn from those mistakes on my own. HOWEVER! When i turned 20, those changed. Gradually, i got to better understand them, their reasons as parents and accept. I gradually started to adjust. But that didn't happen just bec. It all started when I was first diagnosed for depression and among other things (almost died twice or thrice for su!c*de attempt) so I had no choice but tl confont my parents about my situation and the things i've been bottling up. We had somewhat of an open forum. Talked calmly, tried to be open minded to each perspective on things, and tried to find a solution together. It was hard, for me and to my parents especially seeing their daughter like that. They felt like they failed as a parent and that also hurt me bec i also at the same time felt like a failure to them as a daughter for making THEM feel bad about themselves. In the end, we all discovered that engaging in small talks and simple conversations, major or not, no matter how busy we are is important. Both as a parent and child. We come from different generations so ofc our values and beliefs differ. Our decisions often contrast. And so talking is always better. Not fighting or anything, just plain simple and civil verbal communication about how we feel, our complaints anything. And here we are, closer than ever. I'm more able to joke w/ my dad, to cuddle up w/ my mum, or other simple sweet cringe things and talk openly with them. And to my parents, I felt like they started trusting me more. They started undertsanding and gradually seeing me not as a child in constant need of attention but as an adulting woman in need of a little guidance (I mean i still dont know a lot, I need them no matter my age i cant lose them never 😂) and I love them for that. I dont know about others abusing their trust but for me, the trust they gave me just 1. Let me understand the past concerns and over protectiveness they had in me before. 2. Let me accept their over protectiveness. 3. Made me willing to cater to their over protectiveness (its become a habit of mine to inform them about my wellbeing and location everytime i'm out even w/out them needing to remind me) and 4. It made me want to turn into a less impulsive and more trustworthy daughter. It made me want to prove them that me earning their trust is well appreciated and deserved. So i hope someday, teens or adults like her and parents like them realize a few little things and start adjusting for the better of each 😊
I never came home late unless I was with my parents . I do that not because she was strict or I have curfew but i did it out of respect for my parents.
Korean culture is different. The normal time to go home is around 1:30am-3:00am. 12 is very early specially when work time in Korea starts late in the morning and ends late at night unlike in other countries where work starts early in the morning and ends in the afternoon to early nighttime.
Actually in my family, me (20 yrs) and my sisters (26 yrs) are not allowed to go out after 8 p.m. unless with our parents or brothers. While my brother during his 20's he must at home bfr 12 a.m. what i want to say is.. sometimes i do understand her concern but i totally agree with her mom since i get used to it and our culture that belief girls must be at home after dusk. Diffrent curfew, diffrent culture since in our culture there is no drinking culture after work unless it is a dinner.
Open your mind up. Why do you judge people by your own standards? Im 25 and live with my parents. Why? Because im still in Uni and part time working so its more convenient and cheaper. Houses here are not easy to get or high prices and she probably has the same problem i guess.
Its a cultural thing also , almost in every culture the kids especially the girls do live with their parents until they get married, not everything is like in the US
@@leena5898 I'm not from the US, I'm from Poland, very conservative country and still it blows my mind and I can't comprehend this cause literally I know no one who after graduating high school would stay with parents. But I think it's because collage is here for free and parents have obligation to pay for children till they turn 26 if they study, so they pay for your apartment. Also even with part-job you can afford here living on your own and studying. Here people expect their children to become independent as fast as they can and I can't even imagine how troublesome it has to be to live with your parents for such a long time. Even though I love my parents so much i would never stand such situation has hers for such a long time. I dont get how anyone can tell an adult woman what she has to do, when she must come back home, with who she should meet. Hello, she's grown-up woman who should live her own life! It's not like she's 16 and parents have rights to control her. She can make her own choices, she should take her own responsibilities and live her own life as she wants, because its hers, not her parents. That's my opinion and nothing will change it. I think her family is toxic and the way they treat her is not right at all. She's not their property.
It's a cultural thing sometimes. Kids can move out if they want or they can stay and save up until they're ready. Filipinos are definitely the type to stay with parents even past 25. Especially because living alone can be very expensive, especially here in Hawaii.
Yeah, I'd have to move out. I wouldn't care if I lived in a 1 room studio or officetell. I'd have to go. Living like that is not healthy. When you live with folks or are surrounded by people who are constantly treating you as less than, deny you space to have an identity or as if you don't matter you will eventually develop some really unhealthy tendencies. Not to mention lack of confidence, codependency, inability to express oneself, unnaturally timid. Not to mention the inability to create strong bonds with other people and have healthy relationships and expectations. I moved out at 17. A person can only take so much and being over bearing has nothing to do with love. Everything to do with control, fear,manipulation and selfishness.
this not just about sexist where a women should not be outside after 12 am but it is really not safe for anyone to go outside after 12 am.. anything can happen, its better to come home as soon as possible..
Most Korean cities are alive all night long. There is no such thing as out too late. The coworkers are in businesses open for service when she has to go home.
@@kristinesharp6286 you do realise not too long ago there was a news in korea where a women come home late been followed by a stranger and she only save because her door close faster before the man approached it?? again it is not safe to go home late..
Actually it seems it was dangerous for that man to be out after midnight as he tried to do something bad. There are 25 million women in S Korea who were also out after 10 that night and nothing happened to them. Seoul doesn’t sleep. The Seoul metro area doesn’t and the half dozen other cities of over a million people also don’t sleep. The work day is into the early morning. Overtime is into the early morning. She was with her coworkers after work. The places to eat are open into the early morning. This isn’t a 9-5 society where everything closes at 8 and people are asleep at 10pm. There are high school students out at study hall after academy until 2am. If 1 million high school students are out past midnight it’s fine for a woman in her 20’s.
this made me cry hard but i just want to say on an unrelated note that her brother is SMOKING like i knew he was gonna be good looking even when his face was censored but damn
I’m 13 and I’ve never had a curfew? When I’m going out and I’m staying out late and I know that I am I call my parents and tell them that I’m staying out late and they trust me if she’s never done anything for them not to trust her why are they so controlling? Trust is the key between parents and their children and my parents trust me to make the right decisions ,I hope her parents become like that to and treat them equally like my parents do+(don’t think I’m American I’m Arab but my parents are very flexible when it comes to rules)
Maybe she should move out? Is that an option? Maybe they should have explored that. If it's her parents' house, then they have the right to set whatever curfew they want...She wants freedom? Get your own place... She's working and she's 26? then she can leave if she doesn't want a curfew or if she doesn't want to live with strict parents...Just another option she could go for...
That is one controlling mom. Who's parent wouldn't love for their kid to learn calligraphy and make rice cakes omg atleast it's a wholesome activity. I feel bad for this girl.
Unpopular opinion: Hello Counselor SHOULD NOT be a variety show. The way I picture a variety show is a show that’s funny. Most of these topics are serious and the people on the panel always wants to throw in something funny. Seriously? Hello Counselor should also hire some professional help since most of the guest really needs it.
My younger sister has a 12 am curfew too. If she wants to stay out late then she must be with someone I know. If I'm worry, I'll just check the gps instead of nagging her so much.
Just give her the "freedom" she wants , sometimes i wonder why parents even bother , if you don't want to live my so called strict way id give you what you want the most, i would stop giving a f*** about you, let you dictate your life the way you want it ,if it goes well fine ,if it doesn't then f** it i wouldn't care . I don't even know what people want from parents these days sshh .
@@udiana2887 ikr even when I was in school I could come home whenever but I can understand why some would not. But still when you are above 18 your parents really shouldn't have any say about it.
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i dont really understand this girl's concern at all. if i have daughter i will set her curfew at 6pm even, nobody know what they would do with boys past that time
must be a korean thing being out like that and crap..well if u have a job thats a different story..but if not why so late lol i never leave the house at all tho loll but another point is shes 26 lol cant she min her own buisness she is a adult u dont need permisson to live alone
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"Being a parent doesn't mean you're always right and your child isn't always wrong"
Well I respect the parents who care for their children and I also think that midnight is somewhat okay for people who have curfew for their children...
@@lasttofirst3335 she's 26 y/o...
@@udiana2887 yeah I know it's too much for us to think about it but I'm talking about the families who have curfew...
Yong Geun Song huh? Especially that last part. HUH?
@Yong Geun Song what in the world are you talking about? And what business is it of yours whom a girl chooses to speak to?
Younja she is the reason I like this show so much
Yong Geun Song you sound dumb bro. stop.
When she gets home is not the problem. It isn't about 12 or 1am, and certainly not 12:30... It's the mindset that is the problem, she is a grown woman, obviously very reliable and responsible, so the parents need to realise that. I feel that they just want to have a baby forever and that they feel nostalgic and sorry that their kids are all grown up. That's normal parental behaviour and is totally ok, but they need to get over it and let her live her own life, otherwise she is just going to grow apart from them.
I feel for the daughter. I hope their sexist opinions can change and her parents can realize that they need to listen to her, and change the way they treat her versus her brother.
I hate being sexist but I guess most of the people in these countries are like that...
enough of the sexist bull , if i have a daughter and a son , ure damn right my protective instinct on the daughter for me will be greater .
@@elvisishakmboni4333 thats mad weird. thats your children, the protective instinct should be equal on both ffs
Everytime there is a story abt parent and childs like this, I feel so much thankful to my parents that never even once they control my life. They give me trust and freedom to do what I want
"If the parents never listen, you will always have nothing to say".
I've never in my life had a curfew... We had rule about this. My parents trust me that I won't do anything stupid and I trust them that they won't control me. Don't get me wrong. It's not like I could go out and come back 4am next day. I always told them in advance if I were ever late so they won't worry. And that was the best for all of us. Trust
Zuza that’s the best relationship of trust ever!!! If I went out, I didn’t really have a cerfew, my parents would just say to not come back too late. It only happened literally twice when I stayed out later than a person should so they called me because I didn’t notify them. More parents should be trusting and confident their kids!!! If you raised the kids with good manners then they won’t do anything dumb majority of the time. Lolololol
Same for me. And because they trusted me made me not want to betray that so I never stayed out later then 1 am. Even then I would call and update them throughout the night so they where I was and who I was with.
Same. I always tell my mom the details of my whereabouts and who I'm with, despite her reluctance at times, she'd let me go. When a party ends very late at 3 or 4 am, she'd even tell me to just stay with my friends and just go home in the morning so that it will be safer to travel. I've seen how my friends' parents are so strict that they often just lie to them just so they won't get nagged. I'm really grateful for the trust my parents give me so I never do anything to betray that trust. Looking back now, I admire my mom for letting me have such freedom, despite being quite worried for my well-being.
I try not to stay out late since I didn't have a curfew and every time I was late like it was past 1 am it'll be because of food. Like caters coming late, food coming in late, long lines at seemingly all the food places and we're all hungry then.
Zuza I turned 17 this September. But I barely go out on night. Beside for the school things, last year was the first time I went out with my friend until 8 p.m. it seriously drive me crazy. But when I'm on a school trip, I will do anything to stay up all night and if my friends still want going around, I will definitely say yes.
I just don't want to get curfew that early. Is it make sense for a high school students to had their curfew at 6 pm?
Kudos to Gookju for saying what she did. It's like a prison for the daughter.
It's so sad that Korea only takes big people as a joke...
Where i live most Thick not big it give me sad vibe ,but thick ppl are HILARIOUS they play a big role in my community .
@@monica3139 yes but the fact that in Korea if you are big you can be famous only as a commedian, or else you'll be take fun of, is really a disrespectful and toxic thing
@bubblegum
Lol when i was little i have developed faster than gurls around me my thighs got huge
And plus me binge eating for every
Meal i became chubby at school for 2 years i was bullied untill college i started beating TS out of them /drinking/ smoking but now im clean( thnk the lord )
Being comfortable in your own skin is something ppl should strive to achieve ,some ppl just have tO MYOB 😍😍😍
@@monica3139 so sorry for what you've been trough. I'm so glad you're okay now, hope the best life for you✨💓
@bubblegum
Lol i just like to think that i
Went through a faze in life that
Some people didn't😊😊😊
I've been in her shoes... my dad would be chill since he knows all my friends and every time i'd ask to go out with them he would say yes but my mom would always so no and then he would change his answer too.... it was like all of elementary, middle, and high school! It wasn't until post graduating i put my foot down saying i wanted to go with them cause the rare occasions i would meet them they would always talk and laugh about things and gatherings that they had and i would feel so left out.... since i stood my ground i introduced my friends to my mom and since then every time i say i wanna go out with them she just asks for how long, with who, and where and then i'm allowed to go.... i understand the mother's concern but at the same time you can't stop your child from going out and experiencing life
I really feel for her because my parents don't ever listen to me when i have issues. What would i know when I'm so young and shit. It gets really annoying to hear all the time. :/
I am sorry to hear that , i hope we can learn from this and be better parents ourselves. One day you'll understand them that the generation gap is too much for anyone to be understanding , some parents are a little more then others but thats it
Who had to make scrambled eggs when they were 8 ? Anyone ?
DAILY ROUTINE
at 13 i made tea/coffee every morning
*wash dishes
*get ready for school
*go school / come back at 4 pm
*clean up alittle
*do homework
*sleep 12 am
REPEAT
And your parents heard the same thing from their parents. And your grandparents heard the same thing from their parents....
@@BlueMeaney49 yeah probably it's just sad
Never had a curfew because I don't even go out at night 😂😂
Oh my I know no one cares but still, it's will be my first time watching hello counselor and I actually know one of the guest appearances and yes I did watch the drama she was in left-handed wife which I loved and was so sad to see it ended. Thank you .
Tell the father to stop nagging at the mom too! He plays an important role in this matter, not just a middle person like he claimed to be.
At first, i also like Youngja. I understand why her parents did that and think it just them be worried about their daughter but the more i listen to the daughter, the more i feel sorry to her. Imagine sharing room with your parents for 24 years, they supposed to give the room to her not her oppa. They called her as baby but got treated unfair compared to his one year old brother. Despite all of it, the daughter still grown as a nice daughter. It it was me, i don't think i can be as obedient as her.
P/S: The daughter is pretty and the whole family too tbh
She really went through all that and the mom cried and stuff to only give her 35 more minutes?? Jdjsjdjesjjs omg if i was the daughter i could never
The better point is no more calling .. Focus ;)
spoilt generation is all i see , to me id let her "live her life"
@@elvisishakmboni4333 The younger generation is spoilt?
Nuha oh sorry for the spelling but yh basically it is spoiled .
Nuha so you got all that from my sentence thank you , if you're in America and you're puzzled how Trump won look at yourself and see why people avoid someone like you for Trump.
This happend to me too. I'm now 21 years old and have been a good kid all my life, always listened to my parents and never did anything out of line. However, now as a 21 year old, I want to go out with my friends and enjoy new things- but they've grown accustomed to me being around them 24/7, if I don't notify them about where I am, I will have a long lecture, If I have plans and a family matter comes up, I should cancel my plans. I understand this girl too much, she deserves more than just a 1am curfew but to have more freedom to enjoy life for the first time!! A very frustrating concern indeed :(
Be a good kid and hang around parents as much as you can. Becuase u'll never know when they will exit from your life. Just like mine
I cried because of this list very often.🤣😊😭
I love this cast in this episode 😄
Kinda same with my family. My parents want us, girls, to back at home by 7 PM. but when it comes to my brother, he can comes late by 12 AM. There's a lot family like that where parents are very lenient towards boys but not girls.
"Girls need to do all the housework and treat man like a king"
I REALLY HATE THIS since i'm living in this kind of family.
Im sorry to ask this but where are you from ?
thats normal , people have become to sensitive and "woke" parents will always worry about a woman being late over a man for obvious reasons.
@@elvisishakmboni4333 It's not about being woke. It's about how you're not allowed to do normal things just because you're a women.
The main reason why women aren't allowed to stay out is because of the dangers they could face due to men.
Of course, there are female perpetrators but they are very few to the millions of oppressing men.
@@adithyarubini1991 definitely she might be an indian
@@chotabheem4497 OMG I forgot I even asked this question 🫣
I'm 25 and about to get married next year and I still have curfew till 6pm. I need my parents permission whenever i want to go out with my friends or even date with my boyfriend. 3 hrs is the maximum hrs for our date. that's when i decided not to fgo out ever again. All I do now is go to work then go home.
The Adventures of Moana You're about to get married and still under control ?????? Your parents need to treat you like an adult
@@xTenshiAi ikr? But then what can I do? I have to obey them. 😢
My curfew is 9pm but I always stretch it until 10 or 11pm. They dont shout as much as they used to but every single time my mum has to nag me and blow up my phone with messages. I'm 22!!! It's not right for parents to control you and treat you like a child. It's mental abuse. This is also why I always miss out on having fun with friends. What gukjoo said at the end almost brought me to tears. I realised Im growing apart from my parents and even though we live in the same house, we hardly talk. They prohibit so many things for me that I cant even speak to my mum about anything.
She looks like a bunny! Cutie 💕
I can totally relate to the daughter
23 years old with a 11:00pm curfew 😂😂😂😂 gonna break it as I got my first job.
She's a grown woman and doesn't need her parents to keep butting into her life when it is not needed. She shouldn't even need a curfew to begin with. She goes to work, travels an hour to get home, and by the time she wants to relax, it's late. Even on her days off, she needs to have peace in her mind that she can enjoy her time with her boyfriend, or friends, or even alone planning a day for herself. The parents need to change and hopefully when she gets married, they won't bother her afterwards.
This is me with my parents right now. I have a hard time getting close to them and they would always lie to me, blame eachother for not raising me the way they want, and always go out their way to lock me at home. And it's true, you can drift away from your parents just like that.
I can totally relate: mother being worried about you because you're a girl alone (which is not sexism btw), getting comments on spending too much money (also getting too many packages!), and questioning the 'utility' hobbies (as if hobbies should always be 'useful'). It makes you enjoy things less, because it gives you a feeling of guilt.
Packages from online shop u mean? Hahaha me too
I really feel sad about the gender discrimination because i am also suffering from that but for the curfew i can't relate to it because my mom always ask me to go outside and meet people instead of staying at home all the time but it is not my fault that i am unsociable and i always tell her that it is better than making her deal with problems that i will cause if i go outside fortunately that always ends this discussion.
Sees title
Sees the cover for video
Me:oh no
i love Gookjoo for this 😞💜
This family have a good gene
Finally someone mentioned it
Sharing the same room than her parents..😱..how suffocating it is for her..and no intimate privacy for her parents either. Obviously she was an unwanted pregnancy.
Gookju Is Soooooo Beautifullllll
22:34 awww she's so cute😂
the best episodeeeeee of hc :)
You’re still lucky to have a curfew @ 12. My curfew is unclear. My mom would flood my phone with messages and calls @ 6pm. She wouldn’t stop unless I answered her calls and messages.
18:27 Seriously the first concern got me singing Chungha's gotta go until they actually played it later 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Edit: wahhh.. the girl is actually very good daughter. Mostly, the girl of her age would leave the house already!! Aingg..lee kookju..sucha wise words to say..🤤😍
In my opinion if her parents don't stop the behavior she needs to get her own apartment so she can draw boundaries
@@AG-ev3hj righttt? She even share the bedroom with her parents..like whatt??
Maybe the mom sees herself in her daughter. They do look really alike. Maybe that’s where the overprotectiveness comes from and she doesn’t want the daughter to make the same mistakes she did.
I'm 20, student but curfew at 7pm if I'm at home✌🏼
In her place I would look for some small apartment to live away from parents.
Even a small appartment is expensive. If you really don't have much money, you can't do that...
Bro I’m nearly 20 and my curfew is 4pm if I’m not at work
I understand the parents and also the daughter. I've been through that too. Growing up from an asian fam, big but not too well off family. I mean, both of my sister and I are at our 20's already too but we still share a room at home. My mum and 3 siblings share a room and when my dad return home from work he often tried squeezing w/ them at that room or sleep on the living room (i honestly don't know how the 5 of them manage to squeeze in 1 room considering my teen siblings' big physique) anyway the point is, when I was younger I always also felt very confined. Especially towards my dad. He was a military man, and he rarely came home so we weren't really that close. But i felt suffocated around him, i often even described him as an overprotective dad to my friends bef (which i felt really guilty and very bad rn) and my mum is a very docile and soft woman. She can also be very guilible and panicky at hearing bad news. And she often gets easily anxious and over think things. So yea, as a typical teen in their puberty i had my rebelious phase. To the point where i almost hated and bore a grudge on them. I both hated and loved them. I also hated the fact that they treated me as a child and accused that fact as the reason why i wasn't as independent as the peers around my age (heck i couldn't even order my own food at the counter or at the restaurant until i was 19) i felt like i didn't have enough freedom to grow, to fail and learn from those mistakes on my own. HOWEVER! When i turned 20, those changed. Gradually, i got to better understand them, their reasons as parents and accept. I gradually started to adjust. But that didn't happen just bec. It all started when I was first diagnosed for depression and among other things (almost died twice or thrice for su!c*de attempt) so I had no choice but tl confont my parents about my situation and the things i've been bottling up. We had somewhat of an open forum. Talked calmly, tried to be open minded to each perspective on things, and tried to find a solution together. It was hard, for me and to my parents especially seeing their daughter like that. They felt like they failed as a parent and that also hurt me bec i also at the same time felt like a failure to them as a daughter for making THEM feel bad about themselves. In the end, we all discovered that engaging in small talks and simple conversations, major or not, no matter how busy we are is important. Both as a parent and child. We come from different generations so ofc our values and beliefs differ. Our decisions often contrast. And so talking is always better. Not fighting or anything, just plain simple and civil verbal communication about how we feel, our complaints anything. And here we are, closer than ever. I'm more able to joke w/ my dad, to cuddle up w/ my mum, or other simple sweet cringe things and talk openly with them. And to my parents, I felt like they started trusting me more. They started undertsanding and gradually seeing me not as a child in constant need of attention but as an adulting woman in need of a little guidance (I mean i still dont know a lot, I need them no matter my age i cant lose them never 😂) and I love them for that. I dont know about others abusing their trust but for me, the trust they gave me just 1. Let me understand the past concerns and over protectiveness they had in me before. 2. Let me accept their over protectiveness. 3. Made me willing to cater to their over protectiveness (its become a habit of mine to inform them about my wellbeing and location everytime i'm out even w/out them needing to remind me) and 4. It made me want to turn into a less impulsive and more trustworthy daughter. It made me want to prove them that me earning their trust is well appreciated and deserved. So i hope someday, teens or adults like her and parents like them realize a few little things and start adjusting for the better of each 😊
She gave her 30 more minutes, where is the compromise...?
I never came home late unless I was with my parents . I do that not because she was strict or I have curfew but i did it out of respect for my parents.
Korean culture is different. The normal time to go home is around 1:30am-3:00am. 12 is very early specially when work time in Korea starts late in the morning and ends late at night unlike in other countries where work starts early in the morning and ends in the afternoon to early nighttime.
eonni Lee Gookju,
so cute
Actually in my family, me (20 yrs) and my sisters (26 yrs) are not allowed to go out after 8 p.m. unless with our parents or brothers. While my brother during his 20's he must at home bfr 12 a.m. what i want to say is.. sometimes i do understand her concern but i totally agree with her mom since i get used to it and our culture that belief girls must be at home after dusk. Diffrent curfew, diffrent culture since in our culture there is no drinking culture after work unless it is a dinner.
Culture changes too. It is not necessarily right.
This isn’t Korean culture that girls have to be with male relative to travel anywhere in public.
@@trancd822 yeah true .. it just some parents still believe and hold it. Not every parents can adapt to changes.
I don’t get how 25-years-old woman still lives with her parents, and they even treat her like that... Like, she’s an adult?
Open your mind up. Why do you judge people by your own standards? Im 25 and live with my parents. Why? Because im still in Uni and part time working so its more convenient and cheaper. Houses here are not easy to get or high prices and she probably has the same problem i guess.
Because is too expensive living alone in other countries..
Its a cultural thing also , almost in every culture the kids especially the girls do live with their parents until they get married, not everything is like in the US
@@leena5898 I'm not from the US, I'm from Poland, very conservative country and still it blows my mind and I can't comprehend this cause literally I know no one who after graduating high school would stay with parents. But I think it's because collage is here for free and parents have obligation to pay for children till they turn 26 if they study, so they pay for your apartment. Also even with part-job you can afford here living on your own and studying. Here people expect their children to become independent as fast as they can and I can't even imagine how troublesome it has to be to live with your parents for such a long time. Even though I love my parents so much i would never stand such situation has hers for such a long time. I dont get how anyone can tell an adult woman what she has to do, when she must come back home, with who she should meet. Hello, she's grown-up woman who should live her own life! It's not like she's 16 and parents have rights to control her. She can make her own choices, she should take her own responsibilities and live her own life as she wants, because its hers, not her parents. That's my opinion and nothing will change it. I think her family is toxic and the way they treat her is not right at all. She's not their property.
It's a cultural thing sometimes. Kids can move out if they want or they can stay and save up until they're ready. Filipinos are definitely the type to stay with parents even past 25. Especially because living alone can be very expensive, especially here in Hawaii.
If your grown up live alone. If your living with parents obey thier rule. Its natural parents to worry about kids.
Yeah, I'd have to move out. I wouldn't care if I lived in a 1 room studio or officetell. I'd have to go. Living like that is not healthy. When you live with folks or are surrounded by people who are constantly treating you as less than, deny you space to have an identity or as if you don't matter you will eventually develop some really unhealthy tendencies. Not to mention lack of confidence, codependency, inability to express oneself, unnaturally timid. Not to mention the inability to create strong bonds with other people and have healthy relationships and expectations. I moved out at 17. A person can only take so much and being over bearing has nothing to do with love. Everything to do with control, fear,manipulation and selfishness.
지금 부모님 형편을 생각해라.부모님이 잇는데 안해줄까...나오신 부모님에게 난 응원을 보내고싶다.
I never been so early 🤭
Me either
She kinda looks like dahyun from twice
축하드려요.
this not just about sexist where a women should not be outside after 12 am but it is really not safe for anyone to go outside after 12 am.. anything can happen, its better to come home as soon as possible..
Most Korean cities are alive all night long. There is no such thing as out too late. The coworkers are in businesses open for service when she has to go home.
@@kristinesharp6286 you do realise not too long ago there was a news in korea where a women come home late been followed by a stranger and she only save because her door close faster before the man approached it??
again it is not safe to go home late..
Actually it seems it was dangerous for that man to be out after midnight as he tried to do something bad. There are 25 million women in S Korea who were also out after 10 that night and nothing happened to them. Seoul doesn’t sleep. The Seoul metro area doesn’t and the half dozen other cities of over a million people also don’t sleep. The work day is into the early morning. Overtime is into the early morning. She was with her coworkers after work. The places to eat are open into the early morning. This isn’t a 9-5 society where everything closes at 8 and people are asleep at 10pm. There are high school students out at study hall after academy until 2am. If 1 million high school students are out past midnight it’s fine for a woman in her 20’s.
Men can be victims of these crimes too.
I Have came to this realization that their is too much of a generation gap between a parent and child for anyone to understand
Earlyyyy ❤️
this made me cry hard but i just want to say on an unrelated note that her brother is SMOKING like i knew he was gonna be good looking even when his face was censored but damn
I’m 13 and I’ve never had a curfew? When I’m going out and I’m staying out late and I know that I am I call my parents and tell them that I’m staying out late and they trust me if she’s never done anything for them not to trust her why are they so controlling? Trust is the key between parents and their children and my parents trust me to make the right decisions ,I hope her parents become like that to and treat them equally like my parents do+(don’t think I’m American I’m Arab but my parents are very flexible when it comes to rules)
저런부모 진짜 싫어 본인이 불완전함 불안함 때문에 왜 자식에게 그런 스트레스를 전가하는가. 진심 역겹고 토나옴. 너무 싫다. 엄마라는 사람
Maybe she should move out? Is that an option? Maybe they should have explored that. If it's her parents' house, then they have the right to set whatever curfew they want...She wants freedom? Get your own place... She's working and she's 26? then she can leave if she doesn't want a curfew or if she doesn't want to live with strict parents...Just another option she could go for...
That is one controlling mom. Who's parent wouldn't love for their kid to learn calligraphy and make rice cakes omg atleast it's a wholesome activity. I feel bad for this girl.
Im feel bad for the daughter
Unpopular opinion: Hello Counselor SHOULD NOT be a variety show. The way I picture a variety show is a show that’s funny. Most of these topics are serious and the people on the panel always wants to throw in something funny. Seriously? Hello Counselor should also hire some professional help since most of the guest really needs it.
Where is the animations.....
Kalo di indonesia mah beginian udah biasa , pulang abis maghrib aja langsung kena omel yekan
딸이 너무 잘커줬다
술먹고 밤 늣게 으슷한 골목에서 술에 고주망테 되어서 비틀거리는 여자. 끔찍하다.
My younger sister has a 12 am curfew too. If she wants to stay out late then she must be with someone I know. If I'm worry, I'll just check the gps instead of nagging her so much.
does someone know the song at 3:08 ?
i just find it it’s Beautiful Night- Ulalasession (if anyone is wondering)
i am from MOROCCO
These concerns are pointless! If you don't want a curfew move out!
Just give her the "freedom" she wants , sometimes i wonder why parents even bother , if you don't want to live my so called strict way id give you what you want the most, i would stop giving a f*** about you, let you dictate your life the way you want it ,if it goes well fine ,if it doesn't then f** it i wouldn't care . I don't even know what people want from parents these days sshh .
통금 12시라고 고민이라고 나오는건 너무하지않나 다른 같은 고민자들은 7시9시 이런사람들도 있는데 12시면 거의 통금이 없는거로 보이는데
Gokju really lose some weight
고분고분한것도 좋지 않다. 부모님입장에서야 편하겠지만..
우리집안도 그래..
Lol i find the actress who acknowledges that her drama was kinda ridiculous fuNny
That actress was right. Left-Handed Wife was the No. 1 WORST drama I have ever seen in all my years of watching Kdramas.
korea has all kinds of jobs (dance sports ) what? plus stop talking abt someone's weight dang ..
That left handed drama was awful. I liked the lead in soulmate and let’s eat. Didn’t make sense.
never been this early either
She's 25 and has a curfew? I've never had one in my life.. 🙄
If you're still in school, that's understandable, but she's a grown up 🤔
@@udiana2887 ikr even when I was in school I could come home whenever but I can understand why some would not. But still when you are above 18 your parents really shouldn't have any say about it.
@@이달의소녀이브 ikr, maybe the parents didn't really trust their daughter to be an independant, who knows hmm
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i dont really understand this girl's concern at all. if i have daughter i will set her curfew at 6pm even, nobody know what they would do with boys past that time
Your weird
Ugh Korea and the fat jokes. ENOUGH already.
I don’t think they meant harm when they said “Then make her plump.”
Ugh america and pretending fat is ok and actually good.... hey, its true
must be a korean thing being out like that and crap..well if u have a job thats a different story..but if not why so late lol i never leave the house at all tho loll but another point is shes 26 lol cant she min her own buisness she is a adult u dont need permisson to live alone
Move out.
You were in a room with your parents until age 24? huh?
“My curfew is 12am” damn if I’m not working my curfew is 10:30 and I’m 20 😭😭 (I’m saving up to move out)