She had no idea of her being the cause of her son lying which is why she came to the show otherwise she wouldn't want to be humiliated by her own family in front of the whole nation.. try thinking logically instead of hating on her, she's a human, there are things not everyone understands.
She just publicly admits that she abuses him physically and verbally. She says ''kids learn from their parents and that is why he is a liar like his dad'' but what about her? Does she not realize that he is learning from her as well? He is learning how to be emotionally manipulaive and abusive....great parenting, really. This woman pisses me off. The whole family is afraid of her.
@@vion7246 i'm asian but this is wrong for sure, lying isn't good but he's a kid. Kids and even adults lie. Everyone lies. The problem is that the way the mom punishes him does effect him. It makes him lie as a habit. Also, what kind of normal mom says to their other children, "wouldn't it be great if it was just the two of you?" That's messed up.
@@vion7246 No its not. You dont see that he learnt lying, because of the CRAZY caning. 30 times! Its traumatizing. It happened when he was very little and not just now and it keeps happening. Imagine living in FEAR of when she will scream shout manipulate and The punishment should match the crime and parents after punishing the child should always sympathize and comfort the child, say that they did so for the child and no matter they love the child. MY BOYFRIEND IS COMPLETELY TRAUMATIZED FROM HIS CHILDHOOD. This slick woman reminds me of his mother. She blames me for her problems now and I literally always told him not to lie and always be nice. She beat him up, a 26 year old adult, with shoes belts hangers etc for two days straight and grounded him, confined him, and took his communication away, gave him silent treatment, made him eat alone , no one talk to him etc. until he turned into and emotionless corpse. It took me a month to return him to half of what he used to be. When she thought she had broken him and controlled him, he decided to act just as angry and scary back at her. He didnt do this in the FIRST place because he was so NUMB for days on end. Just like the guy in the video, he learned to become emotionally manipulative in nature. Once he processed his feelings he went berserk on her and got his life back. Do you wanna know WHY ? Cause I called the house when SHE was suspected of having COVID, when SHE was sick and tried to HELP HIM TAKE CARE OF HER. She didnt appreciate how much I cared, how well he listened to me, and she LOST it. She tried to manipulate him by popping pills, he had to pick all of it out of her mouth, all 12 of them. I called again and said please I dont care if you swear at or shout at me, lets please TALK this out. She announced in a lilting patronizing voice that she was kicking her son out and "You two are on your own now". She didnt realise that we are both adults with adult friends and jobs. she was probably a loser at my age. She married at 18 to an absolute uneducated ass. She didnt know much about life then, and thought we are the same. When I tried to talk, it didnt help, and to prevent a physical fight, I sent someone over.Its COVID, no shelter, nothing is open, and the weather was too bad. They kicked him out without his phone his cards and his wallet. SHE LEFT HIM TO DIE. When they found that he got help and was capable of living on his own, they confined and abused him instead. THIS ISNT DISCIPLINE, ITS CALLED BEING A CRAZY CONTROL FREAK WHO DOESNT CARE HOW SHE GETS HER WAY.
Ella Mae the mom was biting her lips and glaring at him whenever her son talks too 😑 like she was ready to hit him but they're far apart. I can't imagine what could happen when they come home after this show
I cant believe that the mother would say things like “I would rather have my other two kids” and “How great would it be if it were just you two?”. That’s so horrible and heartbreaking. This is verbal and emotional abuse and she is literally beating this child. This woman needs to get herself some help. Jimin does not deserve this. He’s lying because he can feel the resentment his mother has towards him and he wants to be loved and praised. He literally looks terrified this entire episode. My heart is breaking for him. Jimin, I’ll come rescue you ☹️
How everyone ignored that she says these awful things as if it's nothing even though that may be the main cause of his lies & he also said he's hurt the most by her saying she doesn't want him
He clearly wants his mothers love so he lies about doing well in order to get it. She’s mother dearest and has anger problems she was probably raised in a home with lots of anger. The older son will rebel worse. It’s sad and it’s abuse.
The mother has anger issues, and gets angry over the little of things. Her husband and kids lie because they are scared of her. Hell I would be too. Not only did she wet him and tossed him outside in winter, but verbally abuse him as well.
@@norastifler How are the kids obviously at fault though? Just look at Jimin. He's obviously very scared of his mother. And on top of being scared, she verbally abuses him and kicks him out of the house in the winter time. She even went as far as to ask to cut ties with him. You can't help but understand why the child would lie to his mom. Im not saying that Jimin isn't also at fault, but you can't possibly say that the kids and husband are obviously in the wrong here when the mother is also a HUGE problem.
i had a friend like that.. he got a super good score on the psat and sat and even got the scholarship but the problem was that he didn’t get a perfect score. In the act he got above 53 (on 60) and got many medals for science and math but he didn’t get all so his mom threw all his stuff out in the freezing cold and burnt all of his diaries albums etc and he now is in Harvard.. but it was super hard for him i remember when he came to my house crying his soul out. In Korea it’s a huge thing kicking kids out
He looks so scared...im actually sorry for him and he gets beaten up..I mean people who say this is asian culture is terrible because no asian go the extent of this mother.This mother needs help,not her son!
Are you an Asian by any chance? I'm Asian and my parents still beat the crap out of me for the most stupid reasons. Its probably much worse than the one in the concern
I used to get beaten by the belt, kneel on grains for hours until I get bruises, and get things thrown at me ever since I could remember. The only time it stopped was when my teacher found out about the abuse and threatened my father of child authorities. Asian parents do go really far and parents do not have to be Asian to do those things. Abuse comes in many forms
@@graviitea Yes i agree! I hope that ur safe now! I think some asiana parents take it very far and when u confront them abt it,they will just say that's "this is the Asian style of disciplining children" which is such a stupid excuse!! Anyone who do to this extent where their children starts getting bruises,injuries and scars or mental issues are so WRONG! THIS IS ABUSE NOT DISCIPLINING!
This mom is too needy in my opinion. Her expectation o the children is just to unhealthily high so the kids cannot do anything with that but lie. The mother verbally expresses somewhat twisted her affection to her children as if that is her right. She seems to need help on that and on emotion control.
It's great she admits to her wrong doings about verbally abusing him and doing such things to him but she's not talking about changing herself. I think she's the problem and not her son or husband. The son has trauma from those past experiences and lies to his family so he can be loved because his mom is always bullshitting to him. Just look at how nervous he is in this video. Look at the way she glares at her own son but try to be the good person in this. It's so annoying because my mom is the same, always trying to make her story the saddest out of all them sad mom stories, totally ignoring everyone else's opinion, positive suggestions and stories about themselves.
She did talk about changing herself though. She said she wouldn't use corporal punishment on him anymore, just discipline involving removing privileges.
Clearly she's the one who has a problem. It reminds of an abusive relationship - there are people who lie to their partners to avoid getting into arguments. He is lying because he knows how she will react if he tells her the truth. She gave birth to him, abused him, and now she's bitching that life would be better without him. What nerve she has...
eXCUSE mE she has the audacity to say "How great would it be if it were just you two?" seriously this woman, you abuse your son verbally and mentally and you expect him to learn from that?!? He's lying because he's scared of you!! Shouldn't that open your eyes to show that how you treat him is instigating the problem?!? Yes, children learn from their parents but in this case it is your fault that your son keeps lying. All he wants to do is make you proud
He genuinely looks terrified and literally trembling holding the mic. Ahhhh im crying for him >.< D'''': His siblings are so sympathetic It warmed my heart
Because they might get sued. Reputation is very precious in SK society. That's why if you have a criminal in the family, you get shunned. Being the child of a criminal is like a death sentence.
IKR I’m actually so mad he should be the one sitting on that concern seat how can they ignore her abusing him physically and worse mentally we can heal physically but mentally there will always be scar a reminder what he has been through when he gets older she may change her behaviour but I’m sorry women the damage is already done and he got the permanent scar the host should enlighten her about abuse how it can affect anyone and how can it can damage a person especially a child?? Hello counsellor should really step up there game and hire a professional psychologist I feel sorry for the boy he looks so timid in front of his MOM Every child seek moms comfort to feel good but he can’t even do that
In most Asian countries, caning is a normal and acceptable form of disciplining children (but not all). Westerners will be quick to shout "abuse!", but I think it's a cultural thing... Unfortunately, thus the line between "discipline" and "abuse" is blurry...
_She abuses her son, and she had the AUDACITY to sit there and complain?? Families are people you can be close with, people you can open up to with no feeling of fear or uneasiness. If her son and husband lies because of her, it can be concluded that SHE is the problem._
She probably couldn't accept that she's the one with the problem. Good news is that the whole SK+international fans of this show watched this so I'm hoping that her relatives/co-workers can knock some sense into her.
she deadass said "im happy with just only my two child" right in front of his first son.... i feels so bad for him. Looking at how discourage he act in front of his mother breaks my heart..
Firstly, when has a child ever felt safe, loved, protected enough to be truthful to parents who beat them and abuse them physically and mentally. It’s usually the children with more ‘liberal’ open minded parents that can be more truthful to their parents. It’s looking like mandatory parents classes are needed. It’s strange isn’t it? You have to study and practice for a driving test but having a child when people are clearly not suitable is so easy. Secondly, a kid doesent choose you, doesent choose to have parents. It is entirely the parents decision to have kids. (Depending on the circumstances) A child is not something you buy in the shop and decide to take back. I presume the women decided to have kids. I am stunned that she thinks she can select between them. A women doesent go through months of pregnancy to pick and choose which kid she will love and give more attention to. That lady is not a mother. You DO NOT tell your kid life would be better without you. She clearly has psychological issues. I am not a therapist or pshchoanalyst, or whatever. But from what I have observed the fact that she becomes enraged with little white lies shows her incessant need to control. Abuse has many forms and she was unaware and manipulative enough to blame the issues on her son and husband. EVERYONE lies, especially kids. We are not born with a system that tells us wrong from right, we learn from our mistakes. The audience might laugh, I did at parts but that should not take away the fact that this women needs help. I find it amazing how people can get married, have children and be this emotionally unhinged. Their are many issues that I have missed but I’d be here forever if I had to list the range of problems with this concern.
Well said!👏👏 Poor boy he was nervous the whole time! The worst thing a mom can say to her child is that she prefers her other children 😢😢 poor boy all he wanted was his mom's warmth ,love and compliments.. usually when a teacher compliments we just feel happy, but when our mom compliments we get really happy and boost our confidence to do more!!
I know.. I agree that sooo many parents are really shitty and abusive, I wish there were more help and support in schools so kids could feel safe at least there.
I want this jimin to become as succesful as bts jimin and show his mom ..... Waaahhh .... If my mom said tht i would be "okay fine bye bye i can be alone"
This mother has got some nerve coming on acting all innocent. you literally verbally abuse your child, saying harsh words too him, beating him. jimin looks scared to even look at his mom. I’m so angry. The mom is the damn problem not him. She needs help!! jimin honey I will come and rescue you
엄마가 고집이 세고 독선적이네요. 아무 문제도 아닌 걸 가지고 문제는 어머니인데요. 자기의 화를 애한테 푼 것 같애요. 제가 그랬어요. 공포감을 조성하니까 누구든 쉬쉬 하고 눈치 보더라고요. 옳은 것만 주장하는 것보다 사랑의 엄마, 애가 무슨 얘기라도 할수 있는 엄마가 되기로 했답니다. 애들과 친구가 되었어요.
this is like a spider web with so much lies all tied to this mothers reaction once she finds out that they lied... also how could a mother be such harsh tongue... like kicking a kid out in the winter, telling her kids i wish it was only the two of us .. obviously that's gonna cause hurt, lies and more deceit... she needs to get her act together, teach her kids its ok if you make mistakes, but pls don't lie to me and stop saying harsh things.. she's the problem not the kid...
"hello tv people can you pls make my son stop lying even though im the one who created them by punishing him harshly whenever he tells the truth and blaming it on his dad oxoxoxoxoxoxo"
This is so heartbreaking to watch. What type of parent says those things to their son. Saying that she happier without her husband and Jimin 😭 ❤️ u can see how sad Jimin is this whole episode 😭
9:27 I’m a Psychology Professor & work closely with families in🇬🇧All the mother described & seeing the boy, he displays many signs of Autism, a specialist would be able to diagnose what if so, what level & what he needs as a individual to thrive. It’s too often children get labelled naughty but, their not naughty they have a condition that can be controlled & go on to live normal lives. Also Autistic children/adults are very clever. At a point they find 1 passion & thrive beyond their age. We ask families we work with, to pay attention to what they engage in most. When someone is autistic or has ADHD & families keep calling them naughty, punish, instead of getting doctors appointment, the person will internally struggle & do certain, “naughty” things. As families don’t know what healthy changes to make, after a few appointments that work & help child/adult to control whatever they do because their frustrated & don’t have support, to spread their wings & thrive in life. Instead of coming on a TV SHOW! Take your child to see a doctor, if you feel your child is out of control. Better to be safe than sorry & IF he is, when he sees my mother took me on a global platform slammed me, didn’t help me & I didn’t ask for the condition - it will be heartbreaking. So anyone reading this, if your child acts up that it effects your life so much, be safe, responsible parents & take your child to see a doctor 1st. Stop calling them naughty because theirs always a root cause, if it’s not a medical condition, it’s something going on behind closed doors at home, which is the cause. Don’t be ashamed to take your child please, I promise if your child is autistic/ADHD you’ll be so proud & shocked with some change how much better they’re able to do beyond belief. Don’t belittle children - period! Unfortunately in Asian/Indian communities parents won’t do the right thing & feel if they do people will talk. Thankfully in🇬🇧it’s not a taboo subject & so many parents are getting children checked. Care about your child & not others. 🙏 11:28 I wish she was in🇬🇧she would be in prison, for verbal, mental & physical abuse. She proudly talks about it & should I hope the he is ok & if anyone reading knows him, please look after him. He’ll 100% have PTSD from childhood trauma 😢
Child abuse is everywhere. Black kids get beat with stuff like broom stick to :/ the only thing about this is it’s sad that they’re speaking publicly about this and no one is gonna do anything about it
Najma Said Ali First of all, you don’t know me so don’t tell me what I have or haven’t experienced. I’m black and I have been beaten with switches,shoes, belts,and etc. And I never said it was ONLY black kids but the majority of black kids do go through it. I understand that other races get beaten with stuff to. I never said anyone else didn’t
It is the mother. Like what her neighbor friend said, her righteousness can't stand small petty lies. "My first love" being the name of his son on her phone book touched me.
worst mother of the year award goes to.. (when the boy was first revealed i noticed that his expression were scared and he was shaking a bit you can really tell that he's received a lot of abuse from his mother, gosh i wish i could help him.)
I thought he was in the wrong until he said his mom beats him. And you can clearly see the whole atmosphere in the studio change. Dongyub's jaw falls to the floor lol. In that moment I was completely on the kid's side.
wow "Go on and live with your dad" how can they even laugh at this? I felt like hearing my mom, this is what she always says whenever we have a confrontation, it's horrible, it makes you feel trapped because in my case i couldn't even imagine moving out as it would automatically mean changing school (i have social anxiety), you feel like you have nowhere to turn to. She doesn't realize how traumatizing that is. I haven't watched the whole thing yet but i feel like him and I are in a very similar situation i'm so sorry that he had to go through this (living w a mom like that and now even being mocked on national tv because of it).
I can truly relate to him. My family was the same and mostly everything he said I could relate to. I also lied a lot because us people who are in same or similar situations are scared of our family getting angry at us so I would always lie to my parents but just got my punishment which involved all the abusive acts that his mum did. For girls, I realised that if you grow up with the experience of abusive acts done by family you end up being mum's little helper and that everyone who relates this it can lead to depression as I had it 2 years ago from all the horrid flashbacks. I hope we can stop this in our society.
Don’t have kids if you gonna have expectations and not love them when they don’t reach it. Or just don’t have kids period if you can’t treat them right....
They need to call child services , because you should not be scared of your mother you should respect your mother to do what she asks of you, but to straight up fear her. Smh 🤦🏾♀️
how does she expect her son to be honest when all she does when he makes a mistake is beating him with a broom and kicking him out in winter and sprayed water?? the mom is sick.
Amen Lord please bless this little boy he is so sweet and innocent and it just melts my heart that his mom could say such things to him and I sincerely do hope that hello counselor invites guests who are specialists in family problems to help solve them also she might not look it but I feel like the boy's mom looks like she really wants to change
My father did the same to me too. He beat me, physically and mentally. He cursed and verbally abused me. So my mother told me to lie. And that's become habit. Lies buried with bigger lies and buried with another lies again...
I think the mother needs to manage her anger, that’s the thing that makes all her kids and her husband lie to her.. and verbally abuse is still an abuse, it hurts too
Why did it end on a note about the son's lies? The mother's verbal and emotional abuse are the biggest root here ffs ohmygod hello counselor needs to step up and have a psychiatrist or some specialist in the field
I can related to this kid partially because my mom yell all the time but she wants to be me as a good kid. sometimes I scared unconscious whatever i do something what if my mom yell me. So, I think this kid is also like me.although He doesn’t like to lie , he thinks that the matter is resolved and he doesn’t get slap and get out of the house when he lie.
When you have your kid's number saved as 'My First Love' then please keep showing in your actions too. Asian parents do this mistake of only being a stick and completely missing on the carrot part. A kid needs balance of both and yes stick need not to be the literal stick. Physical abuse surely not necessary. It doesn't hurt to say a few nicer things to your kid. Those must be the words said in the heat of the moment but for a kid, it's imprinted that he is no longer required in your life. You don't understand but it's a mind shattering statement from one's mother.
when you relate to the kid cause your mother said the exact same things to you seriously over a hundred times. Almost every week for the past 5 or 6 years
People need to stop laughing at abuse. If this is a light family show then they should choose the subject accordingly. I am very concerned about the child.
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she abused him verbally, hit him several times and now she wants help bc her son turned out the way she raised him?? what a joke lol
Lol exactly (': lmao played the victim card jokes on the mum she is the problem lmao wtf
Righttt 💯
On point 💯💯
I know seriously! A horrible mother 😡 poor kid 😔
She had no idea of her being the cause of her son lying which is why she came to the show otherwise she wouldn't want to be humiliated by her own family in front of the whole nation.. try thinking logically instead of hating on her, she's a human, there are things not everyone understands.
She just publicly admits that she abuses him physically and verbally. She says ''kids learn from their parents and that is why he is a liar like his dad'' but what about her? Does she not realize that he is learning from her as well? He is learning how to be emotionally manipulaive and abusive....great parenting, really. This woman pisses me off. The whole family is afraid of her.
@@vion7246 i'm asian but this is wrong for sure, lying isn't good but he's a kid. Kids and even adults lie. Everyone lies. The problem is that the way the mom punishes him does effect him. It makes him lie as a habit. Also, what kind of normal mom says to their other children, "wouldn't it be great if it was just the two of you?" That's messed up.
@@vion7246 both of you are dumb
@@vion7246 No its not. You dont see that he learnt lying, because of the CRAZY caning. 30 times! Its traumatizing. It happened when he was very little and not just now and it keeps happening. Imagine living in FEAR of when she will scream shout manipulate and The punishment should match the crime and parents after punishing the child should always sympathize and comfort the child, say that they did so for the child and no matter they love the child. MY BOYFRIEND IS COMPLETELY TRAUMATIZED FROM HIS CHILDHOOD. This slick woman reminds me of his mother. She blames me for her problems now and I literally always told him not to lie and always be nice. She beat him up, a 26 year old adult, with shoes belts hangers etc for two days straight and grounded him, confined him, and took his communication away, gave him silent treatment, made him eat alone , no one talk to him etc. until he turned into and emotionless corpse. It took me a month to return him to half of what he used to be. When she thought she had broken him and controlled him, he decided to act just as angry and scary back at her. He didnt do this in the FIRST place because he was so NUMB for days on end. Just like the guy in the video, he learned to become emotionally manipulative in nature. Once he processed his feelings he went berserk on her and got his life back. Do you wanna know WHY ? Cause I called the house when SHE was suspected of having COVID, when SHE was sick and tried to HELP HIM TAKE CARE OF HER. She didnt appreciate how much I cared, how well he listened to me, and she LOST it. She tried to manipulate him by popping pills, he had to pick all of it out of her mouth, all 12 of them. I called again and said please I dont care if you swear at or shout at me, lets please TALK this out. She announced in a lilting patronizing voice that she was kicking her son out and "You two are on your own now". She didnt realise that we are both adults with adult friends and jobs. she was probably a loser at my age. She married at 18 to an absolute uneducated ass. She didnt know much about life then, and thought we are the same. When I tried to talk, it didnt help, and to prevent a physical fight, I sent someone over.Its COVID, no shelter, nothing is open, and the weather was too bad. They kicked him out without his phone his cards and his wallet. SHE LEFT HIM TO DIE. When they found that he got help and was capable of living on his own, they confined and abused him instead. THIS ISNT DISCIPLINE, ITS CALLED BEING A CRAZY CONTROL FREAK WHO DOESNT CARE HOW SHE GETS HER WAY.
I noticed that the son was looking scared and shaking a lot, I feel bad for him
Ella Mae the mom was biting her lips and glaring at him whenever her son talks too 😑 like she was ready to hit him but they're far apart. I can't imagine what could happen when they come home after this show
right...i was really worried and scared for him. his mental state must not be very healthy with all this fear and anxiety.
@@gakkibear i was just thinking the mom is prob gonna rip his ass into two :/ and the cycle continues smh
my house is big enough for one more person. I’ll take him
That mother thinks she's doing a great job being a Mom. News flash: you are not. The world can tell.
I cant believe that the mother would say things like “I would rather have my other two kids” and “How great would it be if it were just you two?”. That’s so horrible and heartbreaking. This is verbal and emotional abuse and she is literally beating this child. This woman needs to get herself some help. Jimin does not deserve this. He’s lying because he can feel the resentment his mother has towards him and he wants to be loved and praised. He literally looks terrified this entire episode. My heart is breaking for him. Jimin, I’ll come rescue you ☹️
That is so true.. And I think He is a good kid. He doesnt even have resentment to his mother.
Lovely Blue I totally agree. He doesn’t even seem angry when she says these things, he seems so heartbroken and alone. It really hurts my heart
She dis not deserve a child
rasha Same bruh, same smh
How everyone ignored that she says these awful things as if it's nothing even though that may be the main cause of his lies & he also said he's hurt the most by her saying she doesn't want him
The mother is the problem here
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@@farawahida4578 same
He clearly wants his mothers love so he lies about doing well in order to get it. She’s mother dearest and has anger problems she was probably raised in a home with lots of anger. The older son will rebel worse. It’s sad and it’s abuse.
Brittany Blessed OMG YES😭😭😭 i feel so sorrry fr jimin
The mother has anger issues, and gets angry over the little of things. Her husband and kids lie because they are scared of her. Hell I would be too. Not only did she wet him and tossed him outside in winter, but verbally abuse him as well.
K Jackson no. The kids and husband are obviously at fault
@@norastifler How are the kids obviously at fault though? Just look at Jimin. He's obviously very scared of his mother. And on top of being scared, she verbally abuses him and kicks him out of the house in the winter time. She even went as far as to ask to cut ties with him. You can't help but understand why the child would lie to his mom. Im not saying that Jimin isn't also at fault, but you can't possibly say that the kids and husband are obviously in the wrong here when the mother is also a HUGE problem.
@@norastifler that makes no sense
Jimin was literally trembling for majority of this episode
I've noticed the same thing, he is nervous and seems to have anxiety it's so upsetting.
Damn.. kicking your kid out when he is that young (especially in winter) is too much. They should switch seats
Sone2539 I was kicked too. Not a big deal
@@norastifler wait.. you was "kicked" or you was "kicked out"
Sone2539 kicked out
@@norastifler really? what happened?
i had a friend like that.. he got a super good score on the psat and sat and even got the scholarship but the problem was that he didn’t get a perfect score. In the act he got above 53 (on 60) and got many medals for science and math but he didn’t get all so his mom threw all his stuff out in the freezing cold and burnt all of his diaries albums etc and he now is in Harvard.. but it was super hard for him i remember when he came to my house crying his soul out. In Korea it’s a huge thing kicking kids out
His mom that need help. Go seek help from expert about her anger management. This is not a problem with her kid. It's her problem.
Exactly
Jimin is so strong after all those hard words, he can still hold back his tears 😭 Jimin, we love you 💖
He looks so scared...im actually sorry for him and he gets beaten up..I mean people who say this is asian culture is terrible because no asian go the extent of this mother.This mother needs help,not her son!
sashatzy my mom does this, now i have huge about of mental illness.
Are you an Asian by any chance? I'm Asian and my parents still beat the crap out of me for the most stupid reasons. Its probably much worse than the one in the concern
@@Lina-cl7zt 😢
I used to get beaten by the belt, kneel on grains for hours until I get bruises, and get things thrown at me ever since I could remember. The only time it stopped was when my teacher found out about the abuse and threatened my father of child authorities. Asian parents do go really far and parents do not have to be Asian to do those things. Abuse comes in many forms
@@graviitea Yes i agree! I hope that ur safe now! I think some asiana parents take it very far and when u confront them abt it,they will just say that's "this is the Asian style of disciplining children" which is such a stupid excuse!! Anyone who do to this extent where their children starts getting bruises,injuries and scars or mental issues are so WRONG! THIS IS ABUSE NOT DISCIPLINING!
This mom is too needy in my opinion. Her expectation o the children is just to unhealthily high so the kids cannot do anything with that but lie. The mother verbally expresses somewhat twisted her affection to her children as if that is her right. She seems to need help on that and on emotion control.
It's great she admits to her wrong doings about verbally abusing him and doing such things to him but she's not talking about changing herself. I think she's the problem and not her son or husband. The son has trauma from those past experiences and lies to his family so he can be loved because his mom is always bullshitting to him. Just look at how nervous he is in this video. Look at the way she glares at her own son but try to be the good person in this. It's so annoying because my mom is the same, always trying to make her story the saddest out of all them sad mom stories, totally ignoring everyone else's opinion, positive suggestions and stories about themselves.
She did talk about changing herself though. She said she wouldn't use corporal punishment on him anymore, just discipline involving removing privileges.
Clearly she's the one who has a problem. It reminds of an abusive relationship - there are people who lie to their partners to avoid getting into arguments. He is lying because he knows how she will react if he tells her the truth. She gave birth to him, abused him, and now she's bitching that life would be better without him. What nerve she has...
M Djalo So true . . .
You took that out of my mouth. Sometimes parents think that their child is always a problem when they literally raised and educated them like..
eXCUSE mE she has the audacity to say "How great would it be if it were just you two?" seriously this woman, you abuse your son verbally and mentally and you expect him to learn from that?!? He's lying because he's scared of you!! Shouldn't that open your eyes to show that how you treat him is instigating the problem?!? Yes, children learn from their parents but in this case it is your fault that your son keeps lying. All he wants to do is make you proud
He genuinely looks terrified and literally trembling holding the mic. Ahhhh im crying for him >.< D'''': His siblings are so sympathetic It warmed my heart
this mother is so nasty, why didn't they confront her on her abusive actions 😒
Because they might get sued. Reputation is very precious in SK society. That's why if you have a criminal in the family, you get shunned. Being the child of a criminal is like a death sentence.
IKR I’m actually so mad he should be the one sitting on that concern seat how can they ignore her abusing him physically and worse mentally we can heal physically but mentally there will always be scar a reminder what he has been through when he gets older she may change her behaviour but I’m sorry women the damage is already done and he got the permanent scar the host should enlighten her about abuse how it can affect anyone and how can it can damage a person especially a child?? Hello counsellor should really step up there game and hire a professional psychologist I feel sorry for the boy he looks so timid in front of his MOM
Every child seek moms comfort to feel good but he can’t even do that
In most Asian countries, caning is a normal and acceptable form of disciplining children (but not all). Westerners will be quick to shout "abuse!", but I think it's a cultural thing... Unfortunately, thus the line between "discipline" and "abuse" is blurry...
저엄마 보면서 나도 엄마지만 너무 화가납니다. 아들이 완전 경직되있네 얼마나 쳐맞았으면 ....
어머님, 큰아들도 둘째 만큼 이쁘다는 헛소리하지 마시고 일단 우울증 증세가 있는 것 같으니 의사 한번 만나 보세요.
진짜 애들 걱정 되서 하는 말입니다 특히 첫째요.....
Shouldnt it be the other way around? It feels like Jimin shouldve written his concern about his mom. Lol
i absolutely agree
This poor kid... he just wants her love so he tries to hide his mistakes so he doesn't get hurt anymore
@ the mom's friend who's kid was gone for 3-4 days I LAUGHED so hard. That was a major highlight of this episode.
_She abuses her son, and she had the AUDACITY to sit there and complain?? Families are people you can be close with, people you can open up to with no feeling of fear or uneasiness. If her son and husband lies because of her, it can be concluded that SHE is the problem._
She probably couldn't accept that she's the one with the problem. Good news is that the whole SK+international fans of this show watched this so I'm hoping that her relatives/co-workers can knock some sense into her.
she deadass said "im happy with just only my two child" right in front of his first son.... i feels so bad for him. Looking at how discourage he act in front of his mother breaks my heart..
She is a toxic mother.
But I think she realuzed her mistake... That's probably why she talked about that and why she cried.
The mother has a problem. She needs to figured things out to communicate better with her love ones. She seem a bit too emotional...
Firstly, when has a child ever felt safe, loved, protected enough to be truthful to parents who beat them and abuse them physically and mentally. It’s usually the children with more ‘liberal’ open minded parents that can be more truthful to their parents.
It’s looking like mandatory parents classes are needed. It’s strange isn’t it? You have to study and practice for a driving test but having a child when people are clearly not suitable is so easy.
Secondly, a kid doesent choose you, doesent choose to have parents. It is entirely the parents decision to have kids. (Depending on the circumstances) A child is not something you buy in the shop and decide to take back. I presume the women decided to have kids. I am stunned that she thinks she can select between them. A women doesent go through months of pregnancy to pick and choose which kid she will love and give more attention to.
That lady is not a mother. You DO NOT tell your kid life would be better without you.
She clearly has psychological issues. I am not a therapist or pshchoanalyst, or whatever. But from what I have observed the fact that she becomes enraged with little white lies shows her incessant need to control. Abuse has many forms and she was unaware and manipulative enough to blame the issues on her son and husband.
EVERYONE lies, especially kids.
We are not born with a system that tells us wrong from right, we learn from our mistakes. The audience might laugh, I did at parts but that should not take away the fact that this women needs help.
I find it amazing how people can get married, have children and be this emotionally unhinged.
Their are many issues that I have missed but I’d be here forever if I had to list the range of problems with this concern.
Well said!👏👏 Poor boy he was nervous the whole time! The worst thing a mom can say to her child is that she prefers her other children 😢😢 poor boy all he wanted was his mom's warmth ,love and compliments.. usually when a teacher compliments we just feel happy, but when our mom compliments we get really happy and boost our confidence to do more!!
Totally agreed, they should talk to professionals, this show doesn't help for serious cases like this
I know.. I agree that sooo many parents are really shitty and abusive, I wish there were more help and support in schools so kids could feel safe at least there.
honey.. you are the one who needs help not your son 🙄🤦🏽♂️
애가 그래도 선하네~^^
16살이면 비뚤어질 나이인데도 너무 착해
He was shaking the whole time😢😢😢
거짓말을 좀 했다고 계속 죽을죄라도 지은듯이 혼내고 체벌하네..그러니까 애가 항상 눈치보면서 겁을 내니까 거짓말을 계속 하게 되는거지;;;
엄마가 뭐가 뭔지 전혀 인지못하시는데, 자랑하며 이야기할 입장이 절대 아닌데. .아들아 힘내렴 ㅜㅜ
ㄹㅇ 왜 저 사람이 사연자로 나오냐 ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ
She is complaining but the reason why he is like that is because of the way she raised him . Physically and verbally abusing him .
i just want the child to be happy .. bless him Lord
I want this jimin to become as succesful as bts jimin and show his mom .....
Waaahhh .... If my mom said tht i would be "okay fine bye bye i can be alone"
The mother is crazy
THEY NEED REAL COUNSELLORS THIS SHOW
This mother has got some nerve coming on acting all innocent. you literally verbally abuse your child, saying harsh words too him, beating him. jimin looks scared to even look at his mom. I’m so angry. The mom is the damn problem not him. She needs help!! jimin honey I will come and rescue you
Wow!! When I first heard this concern I thought I would be on the mom's side. But NO!! I am shocked!! The things she said to Jimin....
He looked terrified
The mother is crazy! I hope the son will be okay in his future
the mother is the problem.
with that said... oh my goodnesssss all three kids are so freaking adorable!!! can i adopt them all?
엄마가 고집이 세고 독선적이네요. 아무 문제도 아닌 걸 가지고 문제는 어머니인데요. 자기의 화를 애한테 푼 것 같애요. 제가 그랬어요.
공포감을 조성하니까 누구든 쉬쉬 하고 눈치 보더라고요. 옳은 것만 주장하는 것보다 사랑의 엄마, 애가 무슨 얘기라도 할수 있는 엄마가 되기로 했답니다. 애들과 친구가 되었어요.
Like she never lied.
the son should be sitting there not his mom...
this is like a spider web with so much lies all tied to this mothers reaction once she finds out that they lied... also how could a mother be such harsh tongue... like kicking a kid out in the winter, telling her kids i wish it was only the two of us .. obviously that's gonna cause hurt, lies and more deceit... she needs to get her act together, teach her kids its ok if you make mistakes, but pls don't lie to me and stop saying harsh things.. she's the problem not the kid...
"hello tv people can you pls make my son stop lying even though im the one who created them by punishing him harshly whenever he tells the truth and blaming it on his dad oxoxoxoxoxoxo"
the boy looks terrified he looks like he's gonna burst into tears at any moment
My heart is broken for this kid...
This siblings are so adorable.
This is so heartbreaking to watch. What type of parent says those things to their son. Saying that she happier without her husband and Jimin 😭 ❤️ u can see how sad Jimin is this whole episode 😭
9:27 I’m a Psychology Professor & work closely with families in🇬🇧All the mother described & seeing the boy, he displays many signs of Autism, a specialist would be able to diagnose what if so, what level & what he needs as a individual to thrive. It’s too often children get labelled naughty but, their not naughty they have a condition that can be controlled & go on to live normal lives. Also Autistic children/adults are very clever. At a point they find 1 passion & thrive beyond their age. We ask families we work with, to pay attention to what they engage in most. When someone is autistic or has ADHD & families keep calling them naughty, punish, instead of getting doctors appointment, the person will internally struggle & do certain, “naughty” things. As families don’t know what healthy changes to make, after a few appointments that work & help child/adult to control whatever they do because their frustrated & don’t have support, to spread their wings & thrive in life. Instead of coming on a TV SHOW! Take your child to see a doctor, if you feel your child is out of control. Better to be safe than sorry & IF he is, when he sees my mother took me on a global platform slammed me, didn’t help me & I didn’t ask for the condition - it will be heartbreaking. So anyone reading this, if your child acts up that it effects your life so much, be safe, responsible parents & take your child to see a doctor 1st. Stop calling them naughty because theirs always a root cause, if it’s not a medical condition, it’s something going on behind closed doors at home, which is the cause. Don’t be ashamed to take your child please, I promise if your child is autistic/ADHD you’ll be so proud & shocked with some change how much better they’re able to do beyond belief. Don’t belittle children - period! Unfortunately in Asian/Indian communities parents won’t do the right thing & feel if they do people will talk. Thankfully in🇬🇧it’s not a taboo subject & so many parents are getting children checked. Care about your child & not others. 🙏 11:28 I wish she was in🇬🇧she would be in prison, for verbal, mental & physical abuse. She proudly talks about it & should I hope the he is ok & if anyone reading knows him, please look after him. He’ll 100% have PTSD from childhood trauma 😢
Child abuse is everywhere. Black kids get beat with stuff like broom stick to :/ the only thing about this is it’s sad that they’re speaking publicly about this and no one is gonna do anything about it
Come on "black kids" its an international thing .... the belt too I guess you havent experiece it.......
Najma Said Ali First of all, you don’t know me so don’t tell me what I have or haven’t experienced. I’m black and I have been beaten with switches,shoes, belts,and etc. And I never said it was ONLY black kids but the majority of black kids do go through it. I understand that other races get beaten with stuff to. I never said anyone else didn’t
Najma Said Ali And literally the first Sentence I said was “Abuse is everywhere”
The mother is the onr who needs help!
It is the mother.
Like what her neighbor friend said, her righteousness can't stand small petty lies.
"My first love" being the name of his son on her phone book touched me.
Mental and physical abuse.😣
여기에 엄마가 아니고 큰아들이 나와야 할것같아요..엄마가 무섭네요..
The mom is the problem!! Jimin Just afraid, I feel so bad.
10:22 wow, look at how the mom reacts to her son exposing her abusive behavior. She's caught and she knows
i want to say im lucky that i have good mother that always support me.
worst mother of the year award goes to..
(when the boy was first revealed i noticed that his expression were scared and he was shaking a bit you can really tell that he's received a lot of abuse from his mother, gosh i wish i could help him.)
I thought he was in the wrong until he said his mom beats him. And you can clearly see the whole atmosphere in the studio change. Dongyub's jaw falls to the floor lol. In that moment I was completely on the kid's side.
wow "Go on and live with your dad" how can they even laugh at this? I felt like hearing my mom, this is what she always says whenever we have a confrontation, it's horrible, it makes you feel trapped because in my case i couldn't even imagine moving out as it would automatically mean changing school (i have social anxiety), you feel like you have nowhere to turn to. She doesn't realize how traumatizing that is. I haven't watched the whole thing yet but i feel like him and I are in a very similar situation i'm so sorry that he had to go through this (living w a mom like that and now even being mocked on national tv because of it).
"He lies like he breathes air"..and I eat like I breath air😂😂(yes it concerning dont know y I'm laughing)😔
I can truly relate to him. My family was the same and mostly everything he said I could relate to. I also lied a lot because us people who are in same or similar situations are scared of our family getting angry at us so I would always lie to my parents but just got my punishment which involved all the abusive acts that his mum did. For girls, I realised that if you grow up with the experience of abusive acts done by family you end up being mum's little helper and that everyone who relates this it can lead to depression as I had it 2 years ago from all the horrid flashbacks. I hope we can stop this in our society.
so, the problem is their mother.
Don’t have kids if you gonna have expectations and not love them when they don’t reach it. Or just don’t have kids period if you can’t treat them right....
They need to call child services , because you should not be scared of your mother you should respect your mother to do what she asks of you, but to straight up fear her. Smh 🤦🏾♀️
Missy Not like that. I don’t have respect to a person like her calling mother , sorry
You know what , i want to take Jimin with me , he litteraly shivers and his face looks so worried and sad , it breaks my heart
The mother is the problem lol
0:35 Ha Sungwoon 💙💙💚💚💚
*Sigh*
엄마가 좀 독하고 강한성품 같아요 아들이 문제가아니고 부모가 문제로 보이네요.큰아들이 보는앞에서 직접적인 차별이 얼마나 아들에게 큰상처일지.아들이 언제나 어린아이가 아닙니다.부모는 언제나 젊지 않습니다.너무 안타깝네요.
how does she expect her son to be honest when all she does when he makes a mistake is beating him with a broom and kicking him out in winter and sprayed water?? the mom is sick.
jimin come over here and let me hug you 😡💗
If your son tells you he's doing well in school he obviously wants you to be proud of him she should acknowledge that
I love these episodes where the complainer becomes the one who should be in the hot seat
Amen Lord please bless this little boy he is so sweet and innocent and it just melts my heart that his mom could say such things to him and I sincerely do hope that hello counselor invites guests who are specialists in family problems to help solve them also she might not look it but I feel like the boy's mom looks like she really wants to change
the kid should be the one concerned
My father did the same to me too. He beat me, physically and mentally. He cursed and verbally abused me. So my mother told me to lie. And that's become habit. Lies buried with bigger lies and buried with another lies again...
I think the mother needs to manage her anger, that’s the thing that makes all her kids and her husband lie to her.. and verbally abuse is still an abuse, it hurts too
엄마 성격이 장난 아니겠다 애가 넘 힘들겠다
Why did it end on a note about the son's lies? The mother's verbal and emotional abuse are the biggest root here ffs ohmygod hello counselor needs to step up and have a psychiatrist or some specialist in the field
10:30 in the Philippines all of us experienced that. Including. Clothes hanger, belt, and slippers.
I can related to this kid partially because my mom yell all the time but she wants to be me as a good kid. sometimes I scared unconscious whatever i do something what if my mom yell me. So, I think this kid is also like me.although He doesn’t like to lie , he thinks that the matter is resolved and he doesn’t get slap and get out of the house when he lie.
Weird how everything about the mom here is like my own mom lol
makeupbyemi me 2 lol and especially that part when my mother hits me and I run away and then she hits me more because she’s posted off lol 😂
the mother can't stand a lie but the words that came out from her mouth as dangerous as a lie.
When you have your kid's number saved as 'My First Love' then please keep showing in your actions too.
Asian parents do this mistake of only being a stick and completely missing on the carrot part. A kid needs balance of both and yes stick need not to be the literal stick. Physical abuse surely not necessary.
It doesn't hurt to say a few nicer things to your kid. Those must be the words said in the heat of the moment but for a kid, it's imprinted that he is no longer required in your life. You don't understand but it's a mind shattering statement from one's mother.
the mother seems like having 2 faces....1 she acts innocence, another she's very mean/selfish...scaryyy........
“ Your dad is someone I needed to meet” 🤣🤣 rudee but funny
I hope the mom fixes the relationship with her son.
She treats raising her children like she would her office job.
Did she ever taught about why he lies.. he is legit protecting himself from her.. smh and she got the guts to admit how she abuses him ..
when you relate to the kid cause your mother said the exact same things to you seriously over a hundred times. Almost every week for the past 5 or 6 years
This guy is just like every country's government 😂😂😂😂
*Baby Cloud Fairy Ha Sungwoon-shi* 😍😍💕💕
People need to stop laughing at abuse. If this is a light family show then they should choose the subject accordingly. I am very concerned about the child.
아들 문제가 아니였네요. 아이고 어머니…
I think y'all in the comment should be on this show so all of you said some sense to this mother
i think we can all collectively agree the mom is the problem, not the other family members
The son looked so scared
I feel so bad
Who else thought that Jin oppa might have taught sungwoonie that ahjae joke 😂😂😂