same but I saw that she got more and more confident so honestly, I wished they made her dance longer because I want her to think "I just did that... I JUST DID THAT!" and be reminded of her days back when she performed in front of many people while she belly danced.
Whenever I look around, I alway find everyone genuinely beautiful. I never see any sort of ugliness in them. But whenever I look at myself and compare myself to those people, I find myself very hideous. I feel like I am the only one who is ugly. I hate my face. I refuse to click pictures of myself. Whenever I see people like her say that they're ugly, I feel like they're belittling me even more. I know it's not their fault that they think that way but I still can't help that feeling. 'Ugly' by 2ne1 represents what I think about myself very accurately. When someone compliments me on my looks, i feel like they're mocking me even more. It's an insecurity that I can never get over even when I try. Luckily, it doesn't really affect me that much when I have to interact with other people.
I feel the same way. When I see people saying "ugh I look so ugly today. naw, who am i kidding, I look ugly everyday" I feel guilty for looking uglier than them yet not complaining. It's super hard to take in compliments too, because I just focus on the things wrong with my looks and think "if only this wasn't this way, if only my ___ looks like their ___". I don't have depression or other mental health issues but I'm not too fond of degrading myself while telling others to love themselves. When I say those things, I feel that everyone in this world (except me) should love themselves and that I should think of myself as hideous. Maybe I think that way, because I know about the disgusting parts of my inner self/ the flawed parts of my mind. In any case, I don't think I could ever truly get over it. I'm glad that I'm not alone in thinking this way, but I hope that along with me, you will also slowly stop thinking so low of yourself. Best of luck
I feel u. I sometimes have thoughts abt how much i want to disappear from somewhere bcuz i feel like my ugliness is affecting the scene. Idk how to explain it but it's like i feel that i'm too ugly to even exsist. I like wearing masks on public. I always just wear simple clothes bcuz i feel that i'm too ugly to wear pretty clothes. I never do my hair bcuz i feel like everyone will be secretly mocking me for even trying to look good. Not only my face, i hate my body and my ugly posture too. I know that other ppl dun care abt my appearance that much, but i can't help having these thoughts. It's like having an inner voice screaming at me how ugly i'm everyday.
i still feel the same way :( i have autism, depression and anxiety. since elementary school, i was bullied because of my physical appearance and my autism. they did it every single day to the point where i tried to starve myself and abuse myself physically, verbally and mentally. they did it until before my first year of high school. i was never bullied in grade 9. i moved to a different high school in grade 10 and i was bullied constantly for physical appearance and my autism again. they called me a spider kid because i barely wear makeup and wear pretty clothes. if i wear pretty clothes, i get ridiculed, so i stay in comfortable clothes. i’m in grade 11 and almost everyone at my school hates me. they ignore me and i want to move back to my old school but the school system won’t let me. sooo imma be stuck until i graduate :( i look ugly in so many ways. i had a boyfriend from grade 9-10 and he compared me to his other girlfriends, saying that they’re more beautiful than i am and i feel like i’ve been impaled by betrayal. today, i wear comfortable clothes; sweats, hoodies, leggings, etc. i keep my hood up because i hate my hair, my body, my face and everything about it. i have friends who support me. i don’t really talk to anyone in school. i have some friends outside of school.
We, humans are so fragile. When someone points out something about us finding it weird, we take it to the heart and lower our self esteem in the mean time. 😭
When I was 14, my friend pointed out gaps in my teeth, which I had never noticed/cared about before, and that made me extremely self-conscious. I stopped smiling/ laughing out loud when I was around people. I'm 22 now and I've since had my teeth fixed, but I'm still incredibly self-conscious about smiling/ laughing around others :/
I can relate so much because I have a lower mandible problem, I've never paid too much attention to it because it never hurt, or anything and it's not that serious but my aunts keep pointing out that I should get braces then the corrective surgery and all. The 10 years-old me couldn't give two crap about it tbh, but then I was forced to wear a dental appliance, then the talk about surgery etc, and I started to be extremely conscious about it. I really started losing confidence, and asking people if it was really obvious, if it was really ugly? All it took was 2-3 people giving their unasked opinions. It took me 10 years to get some confidence back.. u_u Honestly, sometimes people should just keep their comments/opinions to themselves...
Her feelings are extremely on point especially for those with acne and deep acne scars/imperfect skin. The stress on physical appearance in most events is so vexing on one's self esteem.
I have a lot of acne and acne scars. In Korea it's less common due to genetic, and it could be a lot more problematic a case like mine in Korea. I just, it's okay to be like that unless you take dangerous pills.
OF COURSE IS A CONCERN! This problem can lead her to depression and/or anxiety, suicide and even eating disorders, she NEEDS help, urgently, before something tragic happens. And for everyone who can relate to her, please, PLEASE, I'M BEGGING YOU, *SEEK HELP*, y'all are beautiful, talented and you deserve to be loved, don't let people make you feel less than your actual value as a person.
i .candy no it actually sounds like an actual problem and like she’s hiding something that happened to her. This isn’t just introversion or typical social anxiety you can tell by her body language and how she speaks. She’s actually scared and nervous of others responses and reactions as if someone drilled into her she was ugly or less than. It’s actually very sad.
@@SONEawesomeness Yes but dealing with that having good friends and loving people surrounding you I think is better than going to a therapist. And I'm saying this as someone who went to therapy and who has a couple of loving best friends.
I can relate to her, i agree that she should seek professional help, but in my case, I'm afraid to since mayne I'm only overreacting?? Ksksksk plus I'm only in high school and i don't have much money
Why should we stop saying smth that might be true ? He might actually like her, yes, some people are being 'toxic' against their crush because they don't know what to do ... So yes MAYBE he liked her, it has nothing to do with 'romanticising' toxic behaviour'.
@@khletus8511 It's not something that should be socially acceptable, being mean to people because you "like them." Boys who express their love like that should end up alone.
@@ellie7646 I never said it was good or bad. it's just that he/she is implying that we shouldn't romanticise toxic behaviour, but nobody is doing that. Why would he/she say that they're 'romanticising toxic behaviour' while they're just stating a possibility ? It's a fact that some boys/teens are being harsh to the one they love. It's not something that people imagined, it hasn't been invented, people aren't romanticising anything. So, it's not just an 'idea' that we can stop. Btw I'm sure there are a lot more people than you think that are like this, just not on that level. I believe it's a natural behaviour, some people are just crossing the line .
I’m sorry to read all your comments that you can relate. Always remember you are not only beautiful, but loved. Focus on growing your confidence. Especially don’t let anyone bring you down. 🌸🎀💕
Seungyeon, the sister of the one who sent this concern is very very similar to me 'cause everything that they said about her was almost like mine. Like her, wanting to be a flight attendant but my second dream job was to be a flight attendant. But when she was six she did belly dancing and me on my sixth birthday I wanted to get modeling classes so I got it and Being a model was my first ever dream job since I was 4 and when I hit puberty my personality changed like hers. I was really really self-conscious on what I look. I also thought of me being so ugly since I was 8 and until now I thought that why was I born this way and why do I look like this but some of my friends in school says that I look pretty Which I always disagree on. I also hid my talents which are singing and acting which I've been doing since I was 5 but I NEVER had the plan to show it until in school my teacher told me to sing and I have a really small voice so when I was done singing my classmates kept saying 'i couldn't hear your voice' so I cried on the corner of our classroom and my teachers tried to cheer me up but I didn't until the next day I kept cried for the 3 nights and for the 3 days they said ' did you Lip sync?' so I pretended to laugh and take it as a joke then I asked our teacher if I could go to the comfort room so when I got there I kept crying 'cause they were saying that from the last 3 days. After that I told myself to never perform again. But last month my classmate dared my to fake cry like for acting which I'm quite good at and I did it then she said 'You're so good at acting' and again I disagreed. I told myself once that the next school year I will not have friends 'cause all my friends are going to leave my school espy my BFF since the last school year she she will to London and study there forever. I am Right now 9 years old and turning 10 on August 26 this year. And I am the person in my Profile. I am half Chinese btw
Sooyeon Kam Hey Sooyeon, thank you for being brave and sharing your story with all of us. Yes, it is brave. I don’t want want to discredit you by saying „you’re only 10“, but it is like that. You seem very mature and i was similar to you at that age. But still your personality and your confidence will mature more and more when you get older. I always was uncomfortable with my looks too so i started using a full face make up at approx 12 - every day. When I was 14 i couldn’t leave the house without make up on because i thought i was too ugly. Fast forward: i am 26 now, i only use a little bit of make up to enhance my beauty instead of concealing and hiding my real face, the real me. It took a while to realize that. Maybe you should start singing in front of people close to you and then a smaller group of people. But you also don’t have to do it if you are really uncomfortable with it. But isn’t singing about passion, about having fun and feelings? Trust me, I’m a horrible singer, yet i enjoy singing with my friend (she’s a terrible singer too, but its the most fun with her, because she focuses on having fun instead of aiming for perfection). ☺️ btw you look very cute and pretty and your English is perfect, sure you’re only 10? 😄 i hope that helps you a little bit and you aren’t sad anymore, because they said these things (i guess it wasn’t their intention to hurt you, sometimes we don’t realize how much such simple words can hurt others. maybe you can go to one of them, someone who is nice, and tell them how you feel, maybe this will help you too and probably s/he will apologize). Have a wonderful week dear 💕🌸
@@niken1707 since I was young I was teased bc of my face and my crush told me I was ugly and an animal since than I feel worthless and unable to love myself, it hurts but I feel her so much sorry for the Ted talk
sis, beauty is not about your physical appearance, its about our heart and i'm sure that u r a way more beautiful in that aspect. So, don't be insecure about your looks :)
I'm sure that you're very beautiful. You'll experience it,when you start telling your negative thoughts otherwise. I hope you get better sweetie. I know it's not easy. But remember that you're unique❤
When I started to have sympathy towards myself, and understood I or anyone didn't deserve bad treatment, I started to look at myself differently. I didn't look for my faults in my appearance, but at the person that was looking at me from the mirror. I also got a haircut and changed schools during the time. All my new friends were men or non-binary. The pressure was so much less. I had recently fought with my friends from highschool and it was my fault, so I wanted to be kinder to everyone around me. I think it affected how I treated myself too. And my friends were so good to me. I never doubted being beautiful enough. I also thought that just because I'm a woman, doesn't mean I have to look good all the time when I'm just going home in the buss or buying groceries, because everyone should be equal and no one should be harrassed. I think it's a combination of learning to have more mercy on people including yourself, and being accepted by good people.
She looks very anxious all the time, and people who don't have anxiety just won't understand her problem. My anxiety isn't as severe as hers but i can relate to her
This is a case of social anxiety and low self esteem Edit: Man, I relate, however I don't lock myself in my house because of it. It takes years of dedication and a change of mindset to better ones self
“ MAYBE HE LIKED YOU “ No , insulting people or poking fun at someone’s insecurity shouldn’t be a compliment . That kid was just upright mean , don’t make excuses for them .
true but I think their intention wasn't to validate his actions, but to fictionalize something about his rotten personality to let her think more positively about the situation.
I can relate to her. Meeting new people makes me nervous bc I think they'll think I'm ugly. I can't see people in the eyes bc I'm shy. Because if all these I feel like I missed so much in high school and college. Now I can't find a job bc I'm shy and that's not a good quality....
because of insensitive people like those who criticised her appearance, it has scarred her for life :( people used to do that to me as well and u can’t help but feel self-conscious whenever u go, unfortunately
I used to be like her. People around me used to make fun of me, calling me fat and ugly. I was timid and cried almost every night until I read a quote which said confidence is not being loved by everyone but real confident is I’m going to be okay even if no one loves me. It just hit me hard. I stopped starving myself to sleep and began to eat whatever I like. I would shake my head and feel bad for people who judge my looks because they are blinded by the ridiculous beauty standards. Just eat whatever that makes you feel happy. Treat yourself. That smile that you make, when you get to eat or do what you like, is what you called real beauty. You guys don't know how beautiful you are when you smile. Don't let any beauty standard take your smile away. You are beautiful in your own way. Not everyone will appreciate your beauty and that’s okay. The right one will come at the right time. Don't let anything or anyone determine your beauty. Your real beauty is so powerful that no beauty standards can measure it.
Coming from someone with Body Dysmorphia, I hope she sees someone. Because I currently am. It is exhausting for friends and family, but it’s more so exhausting from the person. I won’t wish it on my worse enemy.
If you don't mind me asking how do you get treated for bd? My family says I have a distorted view of how I look, but I've just grown used to living my life this way =(
Yuji Kim I see a therapist. So far we’ve explored different techniques. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Reality therapy, and Dialetical Behavioral therapy. I’m also with a group of other individuals who suffer from anorexia, Borderline personality disorder and BD. It’s a long process but the goal is to refocus my thought pattern, and change my distorted pictures. There’s also reality therapy which basically shows me all the things I’m doing right, and with this my family get to tell me how they feel about me. Not how I think they feel. I’m also on some meds as they help regulate my mood, because it’s soul sucking. It consumes my waking thoughts, and creates suicidal ideation. If this describes you, please see someone. It’s 2019, and having a mental health issue is not something to be ashamed of. Anyways, have a good day. You got this!
@ZoKi yeah, seeing counselor is one of the option too beside push urseld. I've been there too. It's hard for me till the point of i need help from professionals and i gain myself confidence. It depends on people. Some can think for themselves but some need some help to push themselves(help)
Yes, still being on the show has its own advantages on helping the problem. It's extremely important talking about that. Counseling could always help and it doesn't work that well if you don't speak with a lot of people like in the show. Moreover, counseling in Korea is a taboo, it's hard to accept that everyone would need that. The people on counseling are seen as they had serious mental issues, and we know reality is not like that
Am i the only one crying here because i can relate to her a lot n surprise to see that I'm not the only one who's like that.. But you look beautiful, you don't need to get your eyes done nor your nose
I know!! it's really hard 😢 But believe me everything has a solution... pick one thing at a time and start working on it... don't stress out or feel hopeless, it just takes time and consistency and you will be the person you wanna be FIGHTING!!!💪💪💖💖
Be confidence sister, i know that this word is kinda too general and everyone must have said the word before, it just the right word for everyone in this situation i think, and one more i would like to tell that, being shy is totally different with being introvert, as introvert myself i'm ok with having to talk with many person, its just i'm choosing not to speak in front of everyone everytime, and prefer being alone to regain energy, as for the true definition of introvert itself, that is the way someone regain their energy with just being alone meanwhile extrovert person choose to regain their energy by socializing with person, so introvert totally is not shy :) ... everyone be CONFIDENCE !!!! :)
She’s gorgeous. Also it seems like mild anxiety or social anxiety?? Not wanting to talk to people, struggling to start conversations, feeling like you’re being watched and judged everywhere you go?? I hope she overcomes it’s and gets better.
If you're insecure and reading this, I want to let you know that looks aren't anything, at all! a pretty face isn't permanent anyway, only a personality is. whenever you feel like you aren't pretty enough, know that atleast your personality is worth more than your looks. you're kind, you're intelligent, you're mature and you know what to say. you're beautiful whether you think that or not
sometimes i worry that this show doesn’t handle the situations that well, but this episode made me really happy it felt like she was getting more and more confident as she talked. it helped that they are so encouraging and keep joking about to not make it too serious, i’m cheering her on!! 💪🏼💪🏼
I think a lot of us can relate with her to some extent which is very sad. We all care how other people see us, what they think of us. But I really wish she would do things despite this feeling. Even ugly people achieve things in life. Even ugly people can be confident and get a job they wanted. She is not even ugly, she is so beautiful but her thoughts are keeping her paralysed.
The worst time for me was when I was in my teens. I’m 21 now and it’s been better but I still feel uncomfortable everytime I go outside. I’m very conscious of people’s stares.
Same as me happened in my teens .. I was so shy because I thought I was so ugly and because of that I hated myself and I still I cant even look 5 seconds in someone eyes without getting nervous and flustered and I have still problems facing someone ( I couldn't even tell the boy that I liked like one simple hi without feeling miserable and pathetic I can't even I hate myself for bringing me in this state ..
Maknae Klass It’s okay, you’ll overcome it even if it takes a while😊 I’m also slowly trying to gain confidence. It might be hard and takes some time but you’ll definitely gain strength 💗 fighting!!
She's so beautiful I can't believe she would find herself to be so ugly!! No matter what you look like, you'll always be gorgeous to some and ugly to others. I think everyone needs to be better about being as vocal with our compliments as we can sometimes be with our criticisms. It's a shame she's had so many bad experiences, but she deserves to love herself more!
It's very important for kids to be taught to value other things about themselves, not appearance, things like kindness, being open and friendly, having a sense of humor, doing our best, focusing on positive activities rather than looking in a mirror and being self critical. The more we focus on ourselves, the unhappier we are.
My cousin is the exact same. I can't stress enough how frustrating it is when they don't see what everyone else sees in them. She has always been the prettiest girl in our whole school. Everyone in our school knew her for her looks, from middle schoolers to high schoolers. She had guys proposing her from 2 grades below her to 2 grades above her. But when she graduated school she went from being so loved by everyone to not getting any attention from people at all. Because she never had to work on her looks and she was naturally pretty she didn't know how to work on her looks, for eg dressing up trendy, doing makeup, posting pictures online. She didn't do any of that so she stopped getting attention from people for her looks. So that's when here self esteem really started to deteriorate. She started becoming so timid and not confident at all, she wouldn't put makeup on or dress up nicely cause she doesn't have confidence that she'd pull it off. It just hurts seeing someone so bright and confident and charming and nice lose herself right in front of you and you can't do anything about it. No matter how much i try to convince her that she's pretty she just lacks confidence i just don't seem to get through her head. I feel helpless watching her get more and more anxious around people.
With this show concept, why don't they invite someone with real credential for example psychologist or professional counselors to consult these people? From what I see, these people need real and serious counseling instead of advice from host and guests that doesn't seem to fully understand their problems.
@@sabrina16477 Most of the korean show I watched really emphasise on professional opinion. If there are really professional help, they going to show it to the audiences. Plus this show make no mention at all about the real expert except when they show the clips of doctor when the person had to go to hospital for treatment. I'm not hating this show but there should be a professional counselor on the spot to give real counseling since this show pretty much based on that.
@@teddyyo8146 they have to meet the person other times too, they cant determine a patient after one meet. Also, most questions made from the host are what a psycologist needs. Also, they did have professionals sometimes, but they cant always come.
It is not one of those show. Just to identify if it is a concern and not to solve it. That is why it is called "Hello Counselor." Just the first step ...
@@ellies521 The average height of a 7th grader in Korea is 5'1 and 110lbs. 135 would be considered overweight if she was average height or less just going by BMI.
jmi I guess that’s just harder for Westerners to grasp because we tend to have bigger breasts and butts compared to Koreans. When I was in 7th grade I already had a C cup and decent sized butt naturally and I stayed around 120(5’1), but now I’m a D and work out regularly to keep my flat stomach but I guess according to BMI I’m overweight for a 5’2 girl being 130...
In my opinion Being beautiful is nothing but being kind to everyone is important in life and also i want to say that she is beautiful enough to become an actress
She's just like me. I'm feeling so ugly while my friends keep complimenting me and i was like "what r u talking about?" AND OMG MY DREAM IS TO BECOME A FLIGHT ATTENDANT TOO, IS SHE ME??? and again, I DON'T VOICE OUT TOO IF I GET ANGRY TO SOMEONE NO MATTER HOW BAD THAT PERSON TO ME
oh god, she already beautiful, korean standar like white and skinny girl, her eyes is big for me, why she is not good enough?! why people still comment on her when she already perfect?! i wish she became more strong to hear any comment and start to dont thinking other people comment
As a Korean who was raised in Paris, I had to face racist remarks a lot. In elementary school and middle school, people would laugh at my face, saying my eyes were always closed, that my nose was inexistant, that I was so yellow that I could be starred in the Simpsons... At almost 22, I have zero confidence in me and zero self esteem. Makeup and contact lenses help me build enough confidence to go outside but without them, I become very shy and uncomfortable. Ofc, it was worse before (I couldn't even look at my own family). I am slowly trusting myself and I hope this young and beautiful girl can too !
omegasage j’appartiens à une ethnie persécutée aussi donc j’essaie de lutter contre tout autre forme de racisme Parce que je sais que ça fait espérant qu’on changera au mieux un jour
I can totally relate to her. I try to not look at people when I talk because I don’t want people to see all my flaws and I get really self conscious about it. I can’t even look at my friends eyes😕
This is so relatable. I have body dysmorphia and have really low self confidence. I've been living with an ed for almost 2 years now. Because of my low self esteem, I rarely go out of my house and due to this I missed out on many opportunities.
I lost many years of my life bcoz I hate my body and feel so freaking ugly 😢 dropped out of college and just trapped in my parent house for years..... IT REALLY BREAK MY HEART WHEN I REALISE WHAT I LOST DURING THE PAST YEARS 😢😢😢😢 I can totally relate to her 😞
What is lost can never be regained but that is why you must look to the future to see what you CAN GAIN. Do not trap yourself further, you deserve to experience life like how what you want to!
I can relate to her , I used to be shy I had depression cuz I thought I was not pretty , sometime I stay at home for weeks and rarely go out , what changed me that I try to do the things that make me happy , wear beautiful dresses and put makeup more important take care of my body and my face , i teach myself to be confident , kind , polite, I hope that girl get better! ❤️
It's so sad that myself and so many others can relate to this. I even dropped out of high school because of my social anxiety + negative appearance of myself and now have 0 friends and never leave my house... I'm trying to overcome this and I hope everyone else suffer with these problems can too! 💕
I became homeschooled throughout high school because of the same reasons as you. I’m now in college and I am forced to go to class in person for some classes, so I am facing my fears. I know that in order to achieve the goals I want to in life and become the person I wish to be, I have to overcome these hurdles. I really hope we both can overcome this, I know we can :)
ill tell you one thing: you care more about these things and you fear that others will criticize you but in reality no one gives a fck so dont worry about these things and do things wuthout getting concerned about the reactions. everyone goes to study anyways
I have social anxiety, but over the past year I've gotten so much better. I'm still kind of shy and nervous around strangers, but I'm working on it. My looks were always a problem, especially since I've suffered from acne for about 9 years (since 2nd or 3rd grade), and I was never happy with my body. I was never bullied, thankfully, but it hurt that no boys ever took an interest in me. I'm learning to not worry about finding a boyfriend, and I finally love myself for who I am. Don't let your thoughts and someone else's opinion rule your life. The people who are tearing you down may actually be jealous of you and what you've accomplished. We are all beautiful in our own ways, so don't get so hung up on how you look. You really are a beautiful human.
Body dysmorphia...horrible. I developed a binge eating disorder than anorexia and never left the house for months...I'm relapsing back into an ed I have a complex that I'm fat and too ugly for the world to accept so it's meaningless... I can't afford plastic surgery, therapy or get a job and I'm just trapped in anxiety and depression.
RandomIsMyLif3 hey dont worry it’ll be okay someday u will be okay just try ur best to live and not think bout these things so stay stromg and know that u can do it and it doesn’t matter wht the scale says wht matters is ur happiness plz be happy and healthy
@@kbsworldtv thanks kbs,it's one thing to be self conscious of your looks--but when people have latent mental health problems that can be triggered from how society expects you to look and pressure... your sense of reality and self image can become warped and ruminating worries and thoughts shouldn't be critisized as having a bad world view and just needing to be more positive. she might have a more complicated issue.
I can relate so much. Scared to talk to people ,thinking they don’t like me or they still didn’t talk to me because they don’t wanna be my friend are all things I ask my self with new people. What happens if they find me annoying or just stupid or dumb , what is when they talk to me nicely even if they absolutely hate me. This are things I ask myself every day. I feel guilty eating to much because I think people will think I’m fat but still I eat so my mum does not have to worry about me and now for a long time I don’t leave my house if I’m not completely covert in clothes , even in Summer. I’m trapped in my anxiety and depression and no one can really help me. My closet friends now but still I think they just forgot everything that I told them and it makes me feel even worse , believing they don’t care about it or I put to much pressure on them telling them that I have such problems. Even to public this comment is hard because I think I’ll just bother people with this. Often I keep my thoughts to myself and when I’m in a conversation with a lot of people I normally stay quite. I make my mind to every them they talk about but I never express it. If I do something wrong I just keep it to myself, not waning to bother anyone with it. It’s hard to live with it and I barely leave my house or meet with friends.
Sessy 3D It’s okay dear,you beautiful just the way you are ❤️.But please when you have problem please let anyone else know so they can help you ❤️.I hope one day you will regain your confident and will be able to keep your head up,don’t think much about what other people think about you ❤️
I have the same problem as you, but I've realized that living this way, I have missed out on a lot of things, so by taking a day at a time, I'm trying to challenge myself. Also, don't worry about what people think of you. You don't need people validation to see your worth and if they don't like you, then smile and move on because in reality you can't please everyone and not everyone is gonna like you. So speak your mind, whether it clashes with other people's thoughts. Also, with your friends, I was in the same postion. When I told them about my ed and how I was on the verge of death, they didn't care. It did hurt, but then I realized that they aren't really my friends if they can't be their when I'm at my worst, so I stopped talking to them. It wasn't till 6 years later ( im now 21) that I end up making 1 amazing friend that checks up on me and she is the only one I hangout with. In the end, learn to love yourself more than anyone can and learn to enjoy being on your own. I know you can do it. Just take a day at a time... Lastly, sorry for this "essay," but these are things I wish someone told me.
I gope God give you someone who will keep on telling to you..that you are beautiful, and you are precious I hope you have someone that love you unconditionally
I know a lot of people can relate to this (including me). It's surely not easy for people like us to suddenly be confident. For me, I still have low confidence but what I did is always thought to myself that people actually don't care much about me and they won't even think much of how I look like or what I did. That drove me to ignore the self consciousness and do what I want to do. Also, I always told about these feelings to my friend who understands. Truthfully, having someone like this helps dealing with the matter a bit better than just being by yourself. A friend/family who understand is all you need.
it's so sad watching this , the beauty standards in Korea is so high right now that girls are becoming so insecure like this . The society needs to realize that it is absolutely not okay to criticize other peoples looks and being rude about it . The poor girl is obviously not ugly but people around her kept telling her to fix her face which clearly does'nt need any . These poor girls have such high beauty standard that it's almost toxic to themselves and I feel sad for them to grow up and live in this sad, judging, and criticising society . My dear please change and be confident about your looks coz girl you beautifuul and this is just too sad ok :'(
Their way to comfort her make me more confident. I think I'm ugly too and I always thought people stare at me and talk about me, I even gave up on engineering university because of my social anxiety. I even lost all my friends because I always refused to go out with them. Oh GOD she is so beautiful
Babe, i think you're very beautiful too. I can also relate to her and i have terrible anxiety,but you must know that your appearance doesn't define who you are. I hope you're getting better!!
While watching this episode I almost cried? I relate to this girl so much. Always constantly degrading oneself and blaming oneself for being born ugly is becoming a bad habit. I'm the girl that is seen as boring because I don't make jokes or express myself outwardly but that's because social anxiety is a hard struggle. If anyone is feeling the same way you're not alone. Learning how to love yourself takes steps at a time.
Try caring about someone else with REAL problems instead of only yourself. Try making OTHERS comfortable instead of waiting for them to make YOU comfortable. Geez.
@@BlueMeaney49 You act as if depression and mental health isn't a real problem? How about you put yourself in my shoes and in those who experience mental breakdowns constantly because us people keep allowing ourselves to be put down by others. Don't say anything if you're only ignorant and selfish.
Focusing on appearance too much can really waste a person's time, I used to be so hung up on my appearance, sometimes still to this day and I wasted so many important events in my life.
Listen lovelies, appearance for most young girls is one of the most stressful self-esteem blowers and in this world you can't please everyone and nor should you try. Beauty fades but characters stays forever and when you get older you realise that the only people that you need in your life are the ones that love you for you and believe me that cover shadows appearance becomes looks become irrelevant! All these insta models have come out and confessed that the pictures they post are not real, they alter themselves to make them look flawless but reality is the truth, beauty standards these days are just ridiculous and young impressionable girls are shown an unrealistic ideology and it needs to stop!! we are all beautiful no matter what they say
Back in highschool, I don't really care about my appearance at first but after I have a crush on this guy, he's always been nice to girls but when I attempted to talk to him, he just kept saying he's too busy and kept pushing me away. That's when I started to become self conscious of my appearance, it's obvious he ignored me because of my looks. And there's this boy who's supposed to be my friend, he's a player like he would literally flirt with every girl in my year except me. I mean, that just proves how ugly I am. Also, he said it in my face "I would never like you, you're really ugly" and my friend was like "no she's not" but he continued "I'm serious she's really ugly" in my fucking face. That's when my self esteem was totally crushed and went down to the negative. Anxiety came and I can barely walk with my heads up, I'll always pretend to check the time. I feel like I'm going to die when I hear people laughing, thinking that they're laughing at my hideous looks. Now that I've graduated, I started using makeup to conceal my insecurities and I'm doing good now, with my makeup. I'll look forward to the day where I will walk out confidently with my bare face like how I do wearing makeup. Also, I've noticed people have been acting nice towards me because I'm finally good looking now, and that's disgusting because no one would ever wanted to know me when I was in high school. That's just how shallow we are. I would just get ignored while my pretty friends get all those greetings from the popular guys, and walk by me like I'm invisible. Me crushing from far away while my pretty friends got all of their crushes, I did make a move but nope not getting it because I look ugly.
It's okay, getting a boyfriend is definitely not the indicator for being pretty or not babe. You should just feel pretty for you and yourself only. Hang in there, sweetie 🖤
@@lnnatic thanks a lot sweetie. I'm proud to say I'm doing well now, obviously not completely, but still I'm a lot better. Thank you seriously this made my day ♡
Nochu come thru Same, a guy called me ugly right in my face and I’ve changed just from that statement. But remember to value your opinion over other peoples. What other people think about you is none of your business, your gorgeous and you know that. Other people’s opinions won’t define who you are :)
@@nochucomethru467 I'm pretty sure you're extremely gorgeous!! I'm currently in high school and i struggle with the exact same thing. I have always felt jealous of the pretty girls who got all admiration from boys... Ever since i was younger, i always compared myself to others. I always feel terrible and anxious :( But,I'm very happy that you're getting better. You can make it. You have a beautiful heart and you're loved❤ Remember, there will always be someone who will love you for who you are,not for the way you look!
@@namjoo8592 I'm glad you think this way. Back then I don't even know that myself is a thing, I don't even know about my own existence that's why I kept torturing myself because of others opinion towards me, because I thought they define me. But now that's not true at all, now that I've realized that I exist. Keep thinking that way, no one deserves to be called ugly cause nobody is actually ugly, it's just that we don't meet the qualifications of the "society beauty standards", which is a total bullshit now that I've realized. They don't set the standards for us, we do that ourselves.
im finally recovering from body dysmorphia. This was how i was- constantly asking for reassurance about my perceived flaws but not listening even when people reassure me, spending hours obsessing over said flaws and now being able to sleep or focus on any yasj because of how much i hated myself. After monrhs of therapy- i love myself.
I'm glad she took a courage to be in the show which means she wants that change in herself. Coz I'm totally like her I never take photos with anyone not even with my parents and I really hate myself for being so. I relate with her in many ways its maybe coz we are introverts but I'm really happy to see her in the show.
I used to be exactly like her...i literally could not make eye contact with people without hyperventilating or my heart racing and my face turning red. Talking? people thought I was mute because i said nothing. I couldn't even order food or make calls because i was so scared? Stemmed from insecurity and childhood trauma. I hope she gradually becomes free of this cage.
Watching her reminded me of my past self. I started changing my thoughts when I was 18 because I knew I was worth more and deserved more. I’m 22 now and I still don’t believe how self-conscious I was before. 😂 I used to be thrilled if someone complimented me but now I compliment myself everyday so others’ criticism doesn’t faze me at all ❤
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"Your appearance is perfect right now. Your thoughts need plastic surgery."
Someone put that on a T-shirt!
On my way!
YAS RIGHT THERE CHIEF
ABSOLUTELY
I'd buy that alright.
i wish i could like your comment a million times...
She stays home for 5-6 days straight.
Literally me.
Same
same but i stay at home for months if there is no school
same
I just like to stay at home only if there is enough food..even a months shud b fine as long as i cn eat many delicious foods
It's too little for me, I don't even get out because I don't have friends I trust enough or I'm comfortable with 😂😂
It’s easy for people to say to be confident and hold your head up high.
But it’s really hard. I relate so hard :(((
yess i know right when someone told me become more confident and tell me i am pretty i just fell like they do this because they pity me
she is totally me because i have no self esteem
I hate when people tell me that, it's not as easy as getting confidence as people say. It's more mentally confusing than that.
@@lafee3760 yesss..im crying
ikr😔😔
Making her dance in front of everyone made me so anxious
Same I covered my eyes watching it I was scared for her
same but I saw that she got more and more confident so honestly, I wished they made her dance longer because I want her to think "I just did that... I JUST DID THAT!" and be reminded of her days back when she performed in front of many people while she belly danced.
Sm I felt that
I skipped it y'll
Same
I nearly cried when it mentioned that she couldn’t order for herself at restaurants. I thought I was the only one.
For real 😭😭
im so related to her ...
Bruh same😂 this is one of the main resons im so skinny if i had the confidence id be ordering all day.
Same
Don't worry, you aren't. Me and my sister were always scared of that, but we eventually learned with each other's help.
Whenever I look around, I alway find everyone genuinely beautiful. I never see any sort of ugliness in them. But whenever I look at myself and compare myself to those people, I find myself very hideous. I feel like I am the only one who is ugly. I hate my face. I refuse to click pictures of myself. Whenever I see people like her say that they're ugly, I feel like they're belittling me even more. I know it's not their fault that they think that way but I still can't help that feeling. 'Ugly' by 2ne1 represents what I think about myself very accurately. When someone compliments me on my looks, i feel like they're mocking me even more. It's an insecurity that I can never get over even when I try. Luckily, it doesn't really affect me that much when I have to interact with other people.
I feel the same way. When I see people saying "ugh I look so ugly today. naw, who am i kidding, I look ugly everyday" I feel guilty for looking uglier than them yet not complaining. It's super hard to take in compliments too, because I just focus on the things wrong with my looks and think "if only this wasn't this way, if only my ___ looks like their ___". I don't have depression or other mental health issues but I'm not too fond of degrading myself while telling others to love themselves. When I say those things, I feel that everyone in this world (except me) should love themselves and that I should think of myself as hideous. Maybe I think that way, because I know about the disgusting parts of my inner self/ the flawed parts of my mind. In any case, I don't think I could ever truly get over it. I'm glad that I'm not alone in thinking this way, but I hope that along with me, you will also slowly stop thinking so low of yourself. Best of luck
This was me 2 years ago, i know How YOU feel 😭😭😭
I feel u. I sometimes have thoughts abt how much i want to disappear from somewhere bcuz i feel like my ugliness is affecting the scene. Idk how to explain it but it's like i feel that i'm too ugly to even exsist. I like wearing masks on public. I always just wear simple clothes bcuz i feel that i'm too ugly to wear pretty clothes. I never do my hair bcuz i feel like everyone will be secretly mocking me for even trying to look good. Not only my face, i hate my body and my ugly posture too. I know that other ppl dun care abt my appearance that much, but i can't help having these thoughts. It's like having an inner voice screaming at me how ugly i'm everyday.
i still feel the same way :(
i have autism, depression and anxiety. since elementary school, i was bullied because of my physical appearance and my autism. they did it every single day to the point where i tried to starve myself and abuse myself physically, verbally and mentally. they did it until before my first year of high school. i was never bullied in grade 9. i moved to a different high school in grade 10 and i was bullied constantly for physical appearance and my autism again. they called me a spider kid because i barely wear makeup and wear pretty clothes. if i wear pretty clothes, i get ridiculed, so i stay in comfortable clothes. i’m in grade 11 and almost everyone at my school hates me. they ignore me and i want to move back to my old school but the school system won’t let me. sooo imma be stuck until i graduate :(
i look ugly in so many ways. i had a boyfriend from grade 9-10 and he compared me to his other girlfriends, saying that they’re more beautiful than i am and i feel like i’ve been impaled by betrayal.
today, i wear comfortable clothes; sweats, hoodies, leggings, etc. i keep my hood up because i hate my hair, my body, my face and everything about it. i have friends who support me.
i don’t really talk to anyone in school. i have some friends outside of school.
Prasanna Rijal I feel the same way:(
We, humans are so fragile. When someone points out something about us finding it weird, we take it to the heart and lower our self esteem in the mean time. 😭
😭😭😭
Exactly
When I was 14, my friend pointed out gaps in my teeth, which I had never noticed/cared about before, and that made me extremely self-conscious. I stopped smiling/ laughing out loud when I was around people.
I'm 22 now and I've since had my teeth fixed, but I'm still incredibly self-conscious about smiling/ laughing around others :/
I can relate so much because I have a lower mandible problem, I've never paid too much attention to it because it never hurt, or anything and it's not that serious but my aunts keep pointing out that I should get braces then the corrective surgery and all. The 10 years-old me couldn't give two crap about it tbh, but then I was forced to wear a dental appliance, then the talk about surgery etc, and I started to be extremely conscious about it. I really started losing confidence, and asking people if it was really obvious, if it was really ugly?
All it took was 2-3 people giving their unasked opinions. It took me 10 years to get some confidence back.. u_u
Honestly, sometimes people should just keep their comments/opinions to themselves...
More like, fragile. Like delicate vases that crack from the inside, and appear fine on the outside
Her feelings are extremely on point especially for those with acne and deep acne scars/imperfect skin. The stress on physical appearance in most events is so vexing on one's self esteem.
Omg yes acne n acne scars 😔
what a cutie it’s so hard for me. I feel disappointed just looking in the mirror
I have a lot of acne and acne scars. In Korea it's less common due to genetic, and it could be a lot more problematic a case like mine in Korea. I just, it's okay to be like that unless you take dangerous pills.
And dont forget when you have psoraisis on your face and body 😩
Yeah, I suffered with acne, I used to have the same thoughts she has. I still do now, but it was heavier
OF COURSE IS A CONCERN! This problem can lead her to depression and/or anxiety, suicide and even eating disorders, she NEEDS help, urgently, before something tragic happens. And for everyone who can relate to her, please, PLEASE, I'M BEGGING YOU, *SEEK HELP*, y'all are beautiful, talented and you deserve to be loved, don't let people make you feel less than your actual value as a person.
I feel like she might have social anxiety.
i .candy no it actually sounds like an actual problem and like she’s hiding something that happened to her. This isn’t just introversion or typical social anxiety you can tell by her body language and how she speaks. She’s actually scared and nervous of others responses and reactions as if someone drilled into her she was ugly or less than. It’s actually very sad.
@@SONEawesomeness Yes but dealing with that having good friends and loving people surrounding you I think is better than going to a therapist. And I'm saying this as someone who went to therapy and who has a couple of loving best friends.
Majo "suicide, and even eating disorders"
I can relate to her, i agree that she should seek professional help, but in my case, I'm afraid to since mayne I'm only overreacting?? Ksksksk plus I'm only in high school and i don't have much money
14:58 can we stop this idea of if a boy is mean to you, he likes you? stop romanticising toxic behaviour.
Thank youuu 👏👏
Why should we stop saying smth that might be true ? He might actually like her, yes, some people are being 'toxic' against their crush because they don't know what to do ... So yes MAYBE he liked her, it has nothing to do with 'romanticising' toxic behaviour'.
@@khletus8511 It's not something that should be socially acceptable, being mean to people because you "like them." Boys who express their love like that should end up alone.
@@ellie7646 I never said it was good or bad. it's just that he/she is implying that we shouldn't romanticise toxic behaviour, but nobody is doing that. Why would he/she say that they're 'romanticising toxic behaviour' while they're just stating a possibility ? It's a fact that some boys/teens are being harsh to the one they love. It's not something that people imagined, it hasn't been invented, people aren't romanticising anything. So, it's not just an 'idea' that we can stop. Btw I'm sure there are a lot more people than you think that are like this, just not on that level. I believe it's a natural behaviour, some people are just crossing the line .
nobody's romanticizing anything, some young boys are CRUEL and don't know how to show affection, it could literally be a possibility
I’m sorry to read all your comments that you can relate. Always remember you are not only beautiful, but loved. Focus on growing your confidence. Especially don’t let anyone bring you down. 🌸🎀💕
Magdalena thanks gurl 😭❤️
Thank you so much for your sweet comment. I appreciate it💕
Seungyeon, the sister of the one who sent this concern is very very similar to me 'cause everything that they said about her was almost like mine. Like her, wanting to be a flight attendant but my second dream job was to be a flight attendant. But when she was six she did belly dancing and me on my sixth birthday I wanted to get modeling classes so I got it and Being a model was my first ever dream job since I was 4 and when I hit puberty my personality changed like hers. I was really really self-conscious on what I look. I also thought of me being so ugly since I was 8 and until now I thought that why was I born this way and why do I look like this but some of my friends in school says that I look pretty Which I always disagree on. I also hid my talents which are singing and acting which I've been doing since I was 5 but I NEVER had the plan to show it until in school my teacher told me to sing and I have a really small voice so when I was done singing my classmates kept saying 'i couldn't hear your voice' so I cried on the corner of our classroom and my teachers tried to cheer me up but I didn't until the next day I kept cried for the 3 nights and for the 3 days they said ' did you Lip sync?' so I pretended to laugh and take it as a joke then I asked our teacher if I could go to the comfort room so when I got there I kept crying 'cause they were saying that from the last 3 days. After that I told myself to never perform again. But last month my classmate dared my to fake cry like for acting which I'm quite good at and I did it then she said 'You're so good at acting' and again I disagreed. I told myself once that the next school year I will not have friends 'cause all my friends are going to leave my school espy my BFF since the last school year she she will to London and study there forever. I am Right now 9 years old and turning 10 on August 26 this year. And I am the person in my Profile. I am half Chinese btw
Sooyeon Kam Hey Sooyeon, thank you for being brave and sharing your story with all of us. Yes, it is brave. I don’t want want to discredit you by saying „you’re only 10“, but it is like that. You seem very mature and i was similar to you at that age. But still your personality and your confidence will mature more and more when you get older. I always was uncomfortable with my looks too so i started using a full face make up at approx 12 - every day. When I was 14 i couldn’t leave the house without make up on because i thought i was too ugly. Fast forward: i am 26 now, i only use a little bit of make up to enhance my beauty instead of concealing and hiding my real face, the real me. It took a while to realize that. Maybe you should start singing in front of people close to you and then a smaller group of people. But you also don’t have to do it if you are really uncomfortable with it. But isn’t singing about passion, about having fun and feelings? Trust me, I’m a horrible singer, yet i enjoy singing with my friend (she’s a terrible singer too, but its the most fun with her, because she focuses on having fun instead of aiming for perfection). ☺️ btw you look very cute and pretty and your English is perfect, sure you’re only 10? 😄 i hope that helps you a little bit and you aren’t sad anymore, because they said these things (i guess it wasn’t their intention to hurt you, sometimes we don’t realize how much such simple words can hurt others. maybe you can go to one of them, someone who is nice, and tell them how you feel, maybe this will help you too and probably s/he will apologize). Have a wonderful week dear 💕🌸
Thank you so much
I can't explain how much I relate to this. She clearly has a social anxiety and it's sad that there's so many of us like that.
Me too.but we don't have to change a thing. the Society needs to stop judging people on these ridiculous beauty standards
yes, me too
Even though i look like a BURNT chicken nugget
I STILL LOVE MYSELF
mochimoomoo 101 love this comment
mochimoomoo 101 SAME
even though I look like a POTATO, I still think of myself as a french fries.
@@christinagonzales1635 I love potatoes 💞💜
@@bloomingflower7341 I also love potatoes coz i love myself
"She thinks she's ugly"
As do most girls. Sad but true.
Some are just too confident.
Yes, some think they are ugly and still are confident. I don't think it was the case of that girl
Me all the time
some only "thinks" they're ugly, but some really got those "ur ugly" words right in front of their face
@@niken1707 since I was young I was teased bc of my face and my crush told me I was ugly and an animal since than I feel worthless and unable to love myself, it hurts but I feel her so much sorry for the Ted talk
This is the first time i can relate to hello counsellor but the thing is this girl is absolutely beautiful.
Then you must be pretty too...
So are u
Same im a rotten potato
i can feel her. I always offer myself to be my friends' photographer rather than being in the picture. I always feel ugly. All the time.
You're not ugly sweetie, i hope you can regain your confidence back,because I'm pretty sure you are beautiful!
Why
atleast u have friends lmao
sis, beauty is not about your physical appearance, its about our heart and i'm sure that u r a way more beautiful in that aspect. So, don't be insecure about your looks :)
Yea same
I wonder what’s it like to have confidence and feel pretty I’ve never experienced that in my life
I'm sure that you're very beautiful. You'll experience it,when you start telling your negative thoughts otherwise. I hope you get better sweetie. I know it's not easy. But remember that you're unique❤
Same
Same here
When I started to have sympathy towards myself, and understood I or anyone didn't deserve bad treatment, I started to look at myself differently. I didn't look for my faults in my appearance, but at the person that was looking at me from the mirror. I also got a haircut and changed schools during the time. All my new friends were men or non-binary. The pressure was so much less. I had recently fought with my friends from highschool and it was my fault, so I wanted to be kinder to everyone around me. I think it affected how I treated myself too. And my friends were so good to me. I never doubted being beautiful enough. I also thought that just because I'm a woman, doesn't mean I have to look good all the time when I'm just going home in the buss or buying groceries, because everyone should be equal and no one should be harrassed.
I think it's a combination of learning to have more mercy on people including yourself, and being accepted by good people.
You will become confident when you realize you dont owe anybody beauty.
She looks very anxious all the time, and people who don't have anxiety just won't understand her problem. My anxiety isn't as severe as hers but i can relate to her
This is a case of social anxiety and low self esteem
Edit: Man, I relate, however I don't lock myself in my house because of it. It takes years of dedication and a change of mindset to better ones self
K Poop yes
I think so too because I have it too
Yes, I'm all too familiar with it sucks
Why can i relate :(
Yeonja is the smartest person on this show. I love her, always dropping gems
“ MAYBE HE LIKED YOU “
No , insulting people or poking fun at someone’s insecurity shouldn’t be a compliment . That kid was just upright mean , don’t make excuses for them .
@ZoKi if you're 5
true but I think their intention wasn't to validate his actions, but to fictionalize something about his rotten personality to let her think more positively about the situation.
ZoKi few years ago, a couple of guys were mean to me but I later found out that they liked me =/
This boy that treated me like shit ended up liking me so it’s possible
He had to say something because she noticed he was staring, and he couldn't say she was beautiful. So he blurted out that she was ugly.
I can relate to her. Meeting new people makes me nervous bc I think they'll think I'm ugly. I can't see people in the eyes bc I'm shy. Because if all these I feel like I missed so much in high school and college. Now I can't find a job bc I'm shy and that's not a good quality....
You'll find a job sweetheart, i'm pretty sure you're beautiful,dont convince me otherwise!
because of insensitive people like those who criticised her appearance, it has scarred her for life :( people used to do that to me as well and u can’t help but feel self-conscious whenever u go, unfortunately
Agree. Sometimes people think that we're only being very overreacting but we won't feel such if we haven't repeatedly experienced being mocked.
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Spoorthi I lol ikr
I used to be like her. People around me used to make fun of me, calling me fat and ugly. I was timid and cried almost every night until I read a quote which said confidence is not being loved by everyone but real confident is I’m going to be okay even if no one loves me. It just hit me hard. I stopped starving myself to sleep and began to eat whatever I like. I would shake my head and feel bad for people who judge my looks because they are blinded by the ridiculous beauty standards.
Just eat whatever that makes you feel happy. Treat yourself. That smile that you make, when you get to eat or do what you like, is what you called real beauty. You guys don't know how beautiful you are when you smile. Don't let any beauty standard take your smile away. You are beautiful in your own way. Not everyone will appreciate your beauty and that’s okay. The right one will come at the right time. Don't let anything or anyone determine your beauty. Your real beauty is so powerful that no beauty standards can measure it.
I'm so proud of you that you got better!!
Strongly agreed! (:
Silver Finnie I took a picture of this and I will be reading it to myself every day
MizyX Ziggy I feel u
Thanks for this ❤
She is not ugly,she is so pretty!! Look at her, even without makeup she us still pretty!! I'm feeling sorry to her,hope she get well,not depressi😀👍
Coming from someone with Body Dysmorphia, I hope she sees someone. Because I currently am. It is exhausting for friends and family, but it’s more so exhausting from the person.
I won’t wish it on my worse enemy.
If you don't mind me asking how do you get treated for bd? My family says I have a distorted view of how I look, but I've just grown used to living my life this way =(
Yuji Kim I see a therapist. So far we’ve explored different techniques. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Reality therapy, and Dialetical Behavioral therapy. I’m also with a group of other individuals who suffer from anorexia, Borderline personality disorder and BD. It’s a long process but the goal is to refocus my thought pattern, and change my distorted pictures. There’s also reality therapy which basically shows me all the things I’m doing right, and with this my family get to tell me how they feel about me. Not how I think they feel.
I’m also on some meds as they help regulate my mood, because it’s soul sucking. It consumes my waking thoughts, and creates suicidal ideation.
If this describes you, please see someone. It’s 2019, and having a mental health issue is not something to be ashamed of.
Anyways, have a good day. You got this!
she's so pretty....... even according to korean beauty standards
She needs professional help rather than being in this show. i hope she could meet counselor
WooWoo Lynn woozi?
@ZoKi yeah, seeing counselor is one of the option too beside push urseld. I've been there too. It's hard for me till the point of i need help from professionals and i gain myself confidence.
It depends on people. Some can think for themselves but some need some help to push themselves(help)
SK? Mental health and councelers? In this economy? Fat no
J K but ur not a psychietrist u shouldnt diagnose
Yes, still being on the show has its own advantages on helping the problem. It's extremely important talking about that. Counseling could always help and it doesn't work that well if you don't speak with a lot of people like in the show.
Moreover, counseling in Korea is a taboo, it's hard to accept that everyone would need that. The people on counseling are seen as they had serious mental issues, and we know reality is not like that
Am i the only one crying here because i can relate to her a lot n surprise to see that I'm not the only one who's like that..
But you look beautiful, you don't need to get your eyes done nor your nose
i relate so much :( because of my low self esteem i became an introvert and have social anxiety now...it’s horrible
Sarah Park thank you 💘
Same here, I hope you'll feel better soon❤❤❤❤
I know!! it's really hard 😢
But believe me everything has a solution... pick one thing at a time and start working on it... don't stress out or feel hopeless, it just takes time and consistency and you will be the person you wanna be FIGHTING!!!💪💪💖💖
It's the same for me too.... Let's hope things will get better for us in the future!:)
Be confidence sister, i know that this word is kinda too general and everyone must have said the word before, it just the right word for everyone in this situation i think, and one more i would like to tell that, being shy is totally different with being introvert, as introvert myself i'm ok with having to talk with many person, its just i'm choosing not to speak in front of everyone everytime, and prefer being alone to regain energy, as for the true definition of introvert itself, that is the way someone regain their energy with just being alone meanwhile extrovert person choose to regain their energy by socializing with person, so introvert totally is not shy :) ... everyone be CONFIDENCE !!!! :)
She’s gorgeous. Also it seems like mild anxiety or social anxiety?? Not wanting to talk to people, struggling to start conversations, feeling like you’re being watched and judged everywhere you go?? I hope she overcomes it’s and gets better.
If you're insecure and reading this, I want to let you know that looks aren't anything, at all! a pretty face isn't permanent anyway, only a personality is.
whenever you feel like you aren't pretty enough, know that atleast your personality is worth more than your looks.
you're kind, you're intelligent, you're mature and you know what to say. you're beautiful whether you think that or not
thank you
sometimes i worry that this show doesn’t handle the situations that well, but this episode made me really happy it felt like she was getting more and more confident as she talked. it helped that they are so encouraging and keep joking about to not make it too serious, i’m cheering her on!! 💪🏼💪🏼
I think a lot of us can relate with her to some extent which is very sad. We all care how other people see us, what they think of us. But I really wish she would do things despite this feeling. Even ugly people achieve things in life. Even ugly people can be confident and get a job they wanted. She is not even ugly, she is so beautiful but her thoughts are keeping her paralysed.
She is so pretty like wow :0
She has very charming feutures, gorgeous
The worst time for me was when I was in my teens. I’m 21 now and it’s been better but I still feel uncomfortable everytime I go outside. I’m very conscious of people’s stares.
Same as me happened in my teens .. I was so shy because I thought I was so ugly and because of that I hated myself and I still I cant even look 5 seconds in someone eyes without getting nervous and flustered and I have still problems facing someone ( I couldn't even tell the boy that I liked like one simple hi without feeling miserable and pathetic I can't even I hate myself for bringing me in this state ..
Maknae Klass It’s okay, you’ll overcome it even if it takes a while😊 I’m also slowly trying to gain confidence. It might be hard and takes some time but you’ll definitely gain strength 💗 fighting!!
She's so beautiful I can't believe she would find herself to be so ugly!! No matter what you look like, you'll always be gorgeous to some and ugly to others. I think everyone needs to be better about being as vocal with our compliments as we can sometimes be with our criticisms. It's a shame she's had so many bad experiences, but she deserves to love herself more!
It's very important for kids to be taught to value other things about themselves, not appearance, things like kindness, being open and friendly, having a sense of humor, doing our best, focusing on positive activities rather than looking in a mirror and being self critical. The more we focus on ourselves, the unhappier we are.
My cousin is the exact same. I can't stress enough how frustrating it is when they don't see what everyone else sees in them. She has always been the prettiest girl in our whole school. Everyone in our school knew her for her looks, from middle schoolers to high schoolers. She had guys proposing her from 2 grades below her to 2 grades above her. But when she graduated school she went from being so loved by everyone to not getting any attention from people at all. Because she never had to work on her looks and she was naturally pretty she didn't know how to work on her looks, for eg dressing up trendy, doing makeup, posting pictures online. She didn't do any of that so she stopped getting attention from people for her looks. So that's when here self esteem really started to deteriorate. She started becoming so timid and not confident at all, she wouldn't put makeup on or dress up nicely cause she doesn't have confidence that she'd pull it off. It just hurts seeing someone so bright and confident and charming and nice lose herself right in front of you and you can't do anything about it. No matter how much i try to convince her that she's pretty she just lacks confidence i just don't seem to get through her head. I feel helpless watching her get more and more anxious around people.
She's actually pretty though... I hope she gains more confidence
Honestly she doesnt need anything more she is absolutely gorgeous
With this show concept, why don't they invite someone with real credential for example psychologist or professional counselors to consult these people?
From what I see, these people need real and serious counseling instead of advice from host and guests that doesn't seem to fully understand their problems.
They are usually behind the scenes.
@@sabrina16477 Most of the korean show I watched really emphasise on professional opinion. If there are really professional help, they going to show it to the audiences. Plus this show make no mention at all about the real expert except when they show the clips of doctor when the person had to go to hospital for treatment.
I'm not hating this show but there should be a professional counselor on the spot to give real counseling since this show pretty much based on that.
@@teddyyo8146 they have to meet the person other times too, they cant determine a patient after one meet. Also, most questions made from the host are what a psycologist needs. Also, they did have professionals sometimes, but they cant always come.
@@teddyyo8146 but i also agree with you about having more professionals, but again they cant do much with one meeting.
It is not one of those show. Just to identify if it is a concern and not to solve it. That is why it is called "Hello Counselor." Just the first step ...
“I was fat in middle school, I weighed 135Ibs”
*Cries while weighing 130Ibs*
Rosie C I don’t understand how they think that 135lbs is fat. That’s a totally normal weight for someone who’s 5’4 or taller.
That's not fat AT ALL!!
Koreans beauty standards are trash tbh
@@ellies521 The average height of a 7th grader in Korea is 5'1 and 110lbs. 135 would be considered overweight if she was average height or less just going by BMI.
jmi Oh, that makes sense.
jmi I guess that’s just harder for Westerners to grasp because we tend to have bigger breasts and butts compared to Koreans. When I was in 7th grade I already had a C cup and decent sized butt naturally and I stayed around 120(5’1), but now I’m a D and work out regularly to keep my flat stomach but I guess according to BMI I’m overweight for a 5’2 girl being 130...
In my opinion Being beautiful is nothing but being kind to everyone is important in life and also i want to say that she is beautiful enough to become an actress
She's literally me, I can see my self to her.
WE ARE ALL BORN BEAUTIFUL. THE GREATEST TRAGEDY IS BEING CONVINCED THAT WE ARE NOT.
She's just like me. I'm feeling so ugly while my friends keep complimenting me and i was like "what r u talking about?"
AND OMG MY DREAM IS TO BECOME A FLIGHT ATTENDANT TOO, IS SHE ME???
and again, I DON'T VOICE OUT TOO IF I GET ANGRY TO SOMEONE NO MATTER HOW BAD THAT PERSON TO ME
I CAN RELATE TO THIS
oh god, she already beautiful, korean standar like white and skinny girl, her eyes is big for me, why she is not good enough?! why people still comment on her when she already perfect?! i wish she became more strong to hear any comment and start to dont thinking other people comment
i would like to be her friend and tell her hes pretty every day:(
As a Korean who was raised in Paris, I had to face racist remarks a lot. In elementary school and middle school, people would laugh at my face, saying my eyes were always closed, that my nose was inexistant, that I was so yellow that I could be starred in the Simpsons... At almost 22, I have zero confidence in me and zero self esteem. Makeup and contact lenses help me build enough confidence to go outside but without them, I become very shy and uncomfortable. Ofc, it was worse before (I couldn't even look at my own family). I am slowly trusting myself and I hope this young and beautiful girl can too !
I'm so sorry you had to go through that. People really don't think before talking :( I'm glad you're gaining your confidence back!! I believe in you!
Fighting! Thank you for working hard :)
Les français banalisent le racisme contre les asiatiques c’est chaud
@@aaby9286 C'est dommage :(
omegasage j’appartiens à une ethnie persécutée aussi donc j’essaie de lutter contre tout autre forme de racisme Parce que je sais que ça fait espérant qu’on changera au mieux un jour
There is literally nothing ugly about her her smile is so damn pretty
I can totally relate to her. I try to not look at people when I talk because I don’t want people to see all my flaws and I get really self conscious about it. I can’t even look at my friends eyes😕
Honestly she's got good features. She reminds me of actress Kim go eun as well! Absolutely beautiful
This is so relatable. I have body dysmorphia and have really low self confidence. I've been living with an ed for almost 2 years now. Because of my low self esteem, I rarely go out of my house and due to this I missed out on many opportunities.
Sehun's Forehead
same, i've had an ed for almost 2 years now
Can I ask what an ed is?
Ugh this was literally me. ALL OF THIS WAS ME. I'm crying feeling so bad for her right now
I lost many years of my life bcoz I hate my body and feel so freaking ugly 😢 dropped out of college and just trapped in my parent house for years..... IT REALLY BREAK MY HEART WHEN I REALISE WHAT I LOST DURING THE PAST YEARS 😢😢😢😢
I can totally relate to her 😞
What is lost can never be regained but that is why you must look to the future to see what you CAN GAIN. Do not trap yourself further, you deserve to experience life like how what you want to!
I'm currently in that situation, it sucks.
@@LonesomeKingdom the more time it gone the harder it will become so plz try hard so that u don't waste ur years like me 🙌🍀
@@janerm3940 I know that what I lost I'll be regretting it for the rest of my life probably💔 but I feel too old and everything is useless now🙌
@@os5989 I think it's too late for that but thank you 🖤
I can relate to her , I used to be shy
I had depression cuz I thought I was not pretty , sometime I stay at home for weeks and rarely go out , what changed me that I try to do the things that make me happy , wear beautiful dresses and put makeup more important take care of my body and my face , i teach myself to be confident , kind , polite, I hope that girl get better! ❤️
I feel her . But i'm so proud of her she danced and talked well I feel like if it was me I would've stuttered and turned red
Seriously, she's one of the most beautiful Asian girl I've seen! She's so pretty! From Belgium
It's so sad that myself and so many others can relate to this. I even dropped out of high school because of my social anxiety + negative appearance of myself and now have 0 friends and never leave my house... I'm trying to overcome this and I hope everyone else suffer with these problems can too! 💕
I became homeschooled throughout high school because of the same reasons as you. I’m now in college and I am forced to go to class in person for some classes, so I am facing my fears. I know that in order to achieve the goals I want to in life and become the person I wish to be, I have to overcome these hurdles. I really hope we both can overcome this, I know we can :)
I can be your friend!!
I dropped out of high school too because of social anxiety, it’s hard to deal with
ill tell you one thing: you care more about these things and you fear that others will criticize you but in reality no one gives a fck so dont worry about these things and do things wuthout getting concerned about the reactions. everyone goes to study anyways
I have social anxiety, but over the past year I've gotten so much better. I'm still kind of shy and nervous around strangers, but I'm working on it. My looks were always a problem, especially since I've suffered from acne for about 9 years (since 2nd or 3rd grade), and I was never happy with my body. I was never bullied, thankfully, but it hurt that no boys ever took an interest in me. I'm learning to not worry about finding a boyfriend, and I finally love myself for who I am. Don't let your thoughts and someone else's opinion rule your life. The people who are tearing you down may actually be jealous of you and what you've accomplished. We are all beautiful in our own ways, so don't get so hung up on how you look. You really are a beautiful human.
Body dysmorphia...horrible. I developed a binge eating disorder than anorexia and never left the house for months...I'm relapsing back into an ed I have a complex that I'm fat and too ugly for the world to accept so it's meaningless... I can't afford plastic surgery, therapy or get a job and I'm just trapped in anxiety and depression.
RandomIsMyLif3 hey dont worry it’ll be okay someday u will be okay just try ur best to live and not think bout these things so stay stromg and know that u can do it and it doesn’t matter wht the scale says wht matters is ur happiness plz be happy and healthy
Hope you get better! Don't let others judge you.
@@kbsworldtv KBS REPLIED I-
KBS World TV WTF KBS??????
@@kbsworldtv thanks kbs,it's one thing to be self conscious of your looks--but when people have latent mental health problems that can be triggered from how society expects you to look and pressure... your sense of reality and self image can become warped and ruminating worries and thoughts shouldn't be critisized as having a bad world view and just needing to be more positive. she might have a more complicated issue.
SHES SO BEAUTIFUL WHAT like literally im serious she is beautiful:(❤️
I can relate so much. Scared to talk to people ,thinking they don’t like me or they still didn’t talk to me because they don’t wanna be my friend are all things I ask my self with new people. What happens if they find me annoying or just stupid or dumb , what is when they talk to me nicely even if they absolutely hate me. This are things I ask myself every day. I feel guilty eating to much because I think people will think I’m fat but still I eat so my mum does not have to worry about me and now for a long time I don’t leave my house if I’m not completely covert in clothes , even in Summer. I’m trapped in my anxiety and depression and no one can really help me. My closet friends now but still I think they just forgot everything that I told them and it makes me feel even worse , believing they don’t care about it or I put to much pressure on them telling them that I have such problems. Even to public this comment is hard because I think I’ll just bother people with this. Often I keep my thoughts to myself and when I’m in a conversation with a lot of people I normally stay quite. I make my mind to every them they talk about but I never express it. If I do something wrong I just keep it to myself, not waning to bother anyone with it. It’s hard to live with it and I barely leave my house or meet with friends.
Sessy 3D It’s okay dear,you beautiful just the way you are ❤️.But please when you have problem please let anyone else know so they can help you ❤️.I hope one day you will regain your confident and will be able to keep your head up,don’t think much about what other people think about you ❤️
I have the same problem as you, but I've realized that living this way, I have missed out on a lot of things, so by taking a day at a time, I'm trying to challenge myself. Also, don't worry about what people think of you. You don't need people validation to see your worth and if they don't like you, then smile and move on because in reality you can't please everyone and not everyone is gonna like you. So speak your mind, whether it clashes with other people's thoughts. Also, with your friends, I was in the same postion. When I told them about my ed and how I was on the verge of death, they didn't care. It did hurt, but then I realized that they aren't really my friends if they can't be their when I'm at my worst, so I stopped talking to them. It wasn't till 6 years later ( im now 21) that I end up making 1 amazing friend that checks up on me and she is the only one I hangout with. In the end, learn to love yourself more than anyone can and learn to enjoy being on your own. I know you can do it. Just take a day at a time... Lastly, sorry for this "essay," but these are things I wish someone told me.
Jenny Lopez Thank you. 🙏🏻I‘ll take that into consideration and hope with the time everything gets better
You just described me. Hang on in there x
I gope God give you someone who will keep on telling to you..that you are beautiful, and you are precious
I hope you have someone that love you unconditionally
OH MY GOD SHE IS SO BEAUTIFUL WTF?
she is beautiful.....I hope she gain her confidence ...
I know a lot of people can relate to this (including me). It's surely not easy for people like us to suddenly be confident. For me, I still have low confidence but what I did is always thought to myself that people actually don't care much about me and they won't even think much of how I look like or what I did. That drove me to ignore the self consciousness and do what I want to do. Also, I always told about these feelings to my friend who understands. Truthfully, having someone like this helps dealing with the matter a bit better than just being by yourself. A friend/family who understand is all you need.
it's so sad watching this , the beauty standards in Korea is so high right now that girls are becoming so insecure like this . The society needs to realize that it is absolutely not okay to criticize other peoples looks and being rude about it . The poor girl is obviously not ugly but people around her kept telling her to fix her face which clearly does'nt need any . These poor girls have such high beauty standard that it's almost toxic to themselves and I feel sad for them to grow up and live in this sad, judging, and criticising
society . My dear please change and be confident about your looks coz girl you beautifuul and this is just too sad ok :'(
Their way to comfort her make me more confident. I think I'm ugly too and I always thought people stare at me and talk about me, I even gave up on engineering university because of my social anxiety. I even lost all my friends because I always refused to go out with them.
Oh GOD she is so beautiful
Babe, i think you're very beautiful too. I can also relate to her and i have terrible anxiety,but you must know that your appearance doesn't define who you are.
I hope you're getting better!!
@@bangtaeandsprite6337 OMG thank you so much. I hope you will deal with your anxiety too. You're such a beautiful and amazing person.
While watching this episode I almost cried? I relate to this girl so much. Always constantly degrading oneself and blaming oneself for being born ugly is becoming a bad habit. I'm the girl that is seen as boring because I don't make jokes or express myself outwardly but that's because social anxiety is a hard struggle. If anyone is feeling the same way you're not alone. Learning how to love yourself takes steps at a time.
Try caring about someone else with REAL problems instead of only yourself. Try making OTHERS comfortable instead of waiting for them to make YOU comfortable. Geez.
@@BlueMeaney49 You act as if depression and mental health isn't a real problem? How about you put yourself in my shoes and in those who experience mental breakdowns constantly because us people keep allowing ourselves to be put down by others. Don't say anything if you're only ignorant and selfish.
she’s actually so beautiful
Focusing on appearance too much can really waste a person's time, I used to be so hung up on my appearance, sometimes still to this day and I wasted so many important events in my life.
i really like this kind of eyes. Deep mono eyelids
Listen lovelies, appearance for most young girls is one of the most stressful self-esteem blowers and in this world you can't please everyone and nor should you try. Beauty fades but characters stays forever and when you get older you realise that the only people that you need in your life are the ones that love you for you and believe me that cover shadows appearance becomes looks become irrelevant! All these insta models have come out and confessed that the pictures they post are not real, they alter themselves to make them look flawless but reality is the truth, beauty standards these days are just ridiculous and young impressionable girls are shown an unrealistic ideology and it needs to stop!!
we are all beautiful no matter what they say
The woman in the light blue shirt at 0:33 is GORGEOUS
I was insecure like her but i became so confident that sometimes i call my self ugly to stay humble 😹😹😹😹😹😹
i actually started crying, shes so sweet and beautiful and i can relate to her, it just makes me sad knowing her struggle :(
Back in highschool, I don't really care about my appearance at first but after I have a crush on this guy, he's always been nice to girls but when I attempted to talk to him, he just kept saying he's too busy and kept pushing me away. That's when I started to become self conscious of my appearance, it's obvious he ignored me because of my looks.
And there's this boy who's supposed to be my friend, he's a player like he would literally flirt with every girl in my year except me. I mean, that just proves how ugly I am. Also, he said it in my face "I would never like you, you're really ugly" and my friend was like "no she's not" but he continued "I'm serious she's really ugly" in my fucking face. That's when my self esteem was totally crushed and went down to the negative. Anxiety came and I can barely walk with my heads up, I'll always pretend to check the time. I feel like I'm going to die when I hear people laughing, thinking that they're laughing at my hideous looks.
Now that I've graduated, I started using makeup to conceal my insecurities and I'm doing good now, with my makeup. I'll look forward to the day where I will walk out confidently with my bare face like how I do wearing makeup.
Also, I've noticed people have been acting nice towards me because I'm finally good looking now, and that's disgusting because no one would ever wanted to know me when I was in high school. That's just how shallow we are. I would just get ignored while my pretty friends get all those greetings from the popular guys, and walk by me like I'm invisible. Me crushing from far away while my pretty friends got all of their crushes, I did make a move but nope not getting it because I look ugly.
It's okay, getting a boyfriend is definitely not the indicator for being pretty or not babe. You should just feel pretty for you and yourself only. Hang in there, sweetie 🖤
@@lnnatic thanks a lot sweetie. I'm proud to say I'm doing well now, obviously not completely, but still I'm a lot better.
Thank you seriously this made my day ♡
Nochu come thru Same, a guy called me ugly right in my face and I’ve changed just from that statement. But remember to value your opinion over other peoples. What other people think about you is none of your business, your gorgeous and you know that. Other people’s opinions won’t define who you are :)
@@nochucomethru467 I'm pretty sure you're extremely gorgeous!!
I'm currently in high school and i struggle with the exact same thing. I have always felt jealous of the pretty girls who got all admiration from boys...
Ever since i was younger, i always compared myself to others. I always feel terrible and anxious :(
But,I'm very happy that you're getting better. You can make it. You have a beautiful heart and you're loved❤
Remember, there will always be someone who will love you for who you are,not for the way you look!
@@namjoo8592 I'm glad you think this way. Back then I don't even know that myself is a thing, I don't even know about my own existence that's why I kept torturing myself because of others opinion towards me, because I thought they define me. But now that's not true at all, now that I've realized that I exist. Keep thinking that way, no one deserves to be called ugly cause nobody is actually ugly, it's just that we don't meet the qualifications of the "society beauty standards", which is a total bullshit now that I've realized. They don't set the standards for us, we do that ourselves.
im finally recovering from body dysmorphia. This was how i was- constantly asking for reassurance about my perceived flaws but not listening even when people reassure me, spending hours obsessing over said flaws and now being able to sleep or focus on any yasj because of how much i hated myself. After monrhs of therapy- i love myself.
This made me tear up, I was like this so I know how it feels :')
she is GORGEOUS. i hope she realizes this really soon
All that shaming to that guest couple was really unnecessary. I felt really uncomfortable when the MC made jokes about them.
You are right that was too much
Oml yes literally for every concern they were brought up.
I'm glad she took a courage to be in the show which means she wants that change in herself. Coz I'm totally like her I never take photos with anyone not even with my parents and I really hate myself for being so. I relate with her in many ways its maybe coz we are introverts but I'm really happy to see her in the show.
She's so pretty
i feel like because she's so pretty, that's why many people staring at her
I used to be exactly like her...i literally could not make eye contact with people without hyperventilating or my heart racing and my face turning red. Talking? people thought I was mute because i said nothing. I couldn't even order food or make calls because i was so scared? Stemmed from insecurity and childhood trauma. I hope she gradually becomes free of this cage.
she’s so adorable🥺🥺
This was good but I don't get how the "counsoulers" don't notice that the girl clearly has social anxiety
I love how her sister is nice and supportive to her
ah, its saddening that she has to go through this. she's so pretty though!
Her story reminds me of gangnam beauty drama I feel bad for her she deserves the world❤😢
I get anxiety walking at work, from my desk to the bathroom and back and my heart beats crazy fast
Watching her reminded me of my past self. I started changing my thoughts when I was 18 because I knew I was worth more and deserved more. I’m 22 now and I still don’t believe how self-conscious I was before. 😂
I used to be thrilled if someone complimented me but now I compliment myself everyday so others’ criticism doesn’t faze me at all ❤
Now she has a reason to stay home ✨ Quarantine ✨
YESSSS!!!! ✨
Beyonce said it's the soul that needs a surgery
I relate to this sooooo sooooo soooo much, I developed depression because I hated how I looked like and people kept pointing out my complexions
WTH! she is soo pretty.
Hey guys dont have low self esteem. Why do you care about others love yorself no matter what.
You are beautiful.
I extremely relate to her social anxiety.
i honestly cry because chaeyeon is so freaking beautiful