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why i've chosen to be open about my trans* identity
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- Опубліковано 17 бер 2013
- an overview of starting college thinking i'd be stealth, and my choice/results of choosing to open up again!
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ah yes, definitely a good question. i've had this conversation with my mum many times. i think in many ways my book will be more than just about being trans, but i also am pretty proud and feel most fulfilled by my contributions and interactions within the trans community :] as i move forward next year, however, the book and my music are my main focuses, as well as working to find a career/job path that i feel meets my needs of helping others and using creative outlets!
Whenever I'm having a rough day, I always come to your channel to watch your videos. It really helps me get through hard times, so thank you for being so open about your journey. You are such a wonderful inspiration, and a truly beautiful person =)
definitely a tough choice to make, but i hope that whichever path you decide works out well :] i started hormones 7 months before entering college and definitely passed - however, no one there will know you even if you havent started hormones, you could simply brush it off with saying you've had delayed puberty or whatnot if you wanted to be super stealth. feel it out when you get there - it took me over a year to decide :]
Watching this just kicked my day and mood up several notches! I love to hear about how well you're doing and that you're happy, and I can't wait to buy and read your book whenever that happens! No pressure ;P
i just don't even know why you would wonder that! but in any case, in the past, i acted completely normally. no different. my periods never affected me much.
any questions that start with "this may be insensitive, but" are usually insensitive, my friend.
You are a huge inspiration to me. Coincidentally I've chose recently in the past few months to be as open as I can as well about being FTM. It makes me feel a lot more comfortable about myself. It gives me hope I'm not alone.
You're such an inspiration, Sky, honestly! I'm always threating about whether or not I'm being too feminine. I'm not on T yet and won't be for a long time but I'm always conscious of everything I do. If I rest on one foot a little I freak out and have to correct the way i'm standing. Things like the way I laugh or show affection to people. It's almost annoying as like you said, I'm nearing the middle of the spectrum. Thank you,your videos help to know it's ok to be comfortable within yourself :)
You are truely an amazing person. To be open and out about you're transition is wonderful. You are very inspiring and I love watching you're videos cause they make me smile :) keep up the amazing work you are doing
I really appreciate your willingness to share your journey. It's not only good for you but you're doing good things for other people, trans, of course, but also cis by promoting understanding.
You do have a wide range! I'm a 17 year old girl and I'm not trans, you just inspire me and help me see life from a different pov. Also I just wanted to say u always seem so happy. I love your attitude!!
You are such an inspiration to me Sky, you don't even know it. I'm currently trying to work up the courage to come out as FTM trans to my parents, so I've watched your videos more and they are such a big help! Keep up being awesome, and have a good day! :D ~Decklan
i definitely have noticed that reaction among folks who know transwomen. it's super unfortunate, and i hate that discrimination is much higher for transwomen than transmen in a lot of cases (school, health, social). the best thing we can hope for is with positive trans* influences, that that stigma will eventually fall away. so keep being you and fight against those awful beliefs by simply existing :]
I think you are so sweet and natural! It's a pleasure to hear you speak about your experience with transitioning. The world would be a better place if more people were like u! :) You are a really smart guy and have a down to earth way of being, thats so great and awesome! I wish you all the best :) U deserve it :)
hey my friend - that is definitely a tough situation to be in. my gut instinct would be to move as well if possible - even if it's just a few hours away to a town with a more liberal mindset. i find college towns are pretty liberal - may be a good place to search as well. but in the meantime, i would probably have chosen to remain stealth as well.
Beautifully clear presentation Sky. I can't help to be impressed with how you manage your life. Enjoy your day and don't forget to take a rest. Jeff
great idea! i mean, i will definitely keep everyone posted via all the social media networks i've impossibly connected myself too heh. i'm estimating the book will be done in a year or so, so there is time ;]
I just wanted to say that I think you are a wonderful human being. It takes a lot of courage for many people to truly be themselves irrespective of their gender identity. Some never attain that self peace of being who they are inside. For a young person such as yourself, to have such insight and maturity is inspirational. I wish you all the best in life :)
theyve been great overall/in the end! i will make an updated family video as well when i make a series of coming out ones :]
you know, you have vocalized a lot of how i feel about myself, feeling closer to being male on the spectrum, but probably middle of the road in masculinity to femininity. i identify as genderqueer, though. i have been watching a lot of ftm vids lately but i need some more years to think about how much of my bodily dysphoria originates from my biology (i'm 22 but this is new for me). also, i've been a casual viewer for a while and think you are the most adorable guy. you make me smile.
I am very thankful for you documenting a lot of your journey and the many different aspects pertaining to urself as well.
Hey man keep it up. You're the happiest person I've seen and that's saying a lot. I'm not trans, but I watch a lot of transitioning videos and it's amazing how much happier they are in the body they feel they should have been born in. Anyways, I'm rambling, but just keep being you.
Being "stealth" in college has been one of the hardest things for me to do, yet when I think about it, I'm not actually stealth. As you said - I don't tell the whole world but I'm also not afraid to talk about it. It's good to know that there's other people out there who are the same way, especially somebody like you (seeing as how you're huge in the youtube trans* community)
hey my friend, that's totally fine. it is something i cant fix until i get a new computer or webcam - i actually tried recording this on my digital camera before and it wouldnt even move over to my computer - that's how old and slow it is, so the mic is super old too. apologies, i definitely understand and want to get a better video camera! :]
my top surgery was roughly 7,500$ but it depends on your surgeon - can range from 4k to 10k i've seen :]
You're soo comforting you make me feel grounded:)
Best of luck mate!
hey my friend - definitely don't worry about it too much! check with your school if they offer gender-neutral or lgbt housing - i was housed with a girl i found on facebook beforehand who was totally cool with it - res life told me i would have to have a single since no one else signed up for gender neutral housing and i wanted a roommate - after the girl left at thanksgiving (personal issues), i chose a guy friend as my roommate :] ask res life what your options are ahead of time!
Oh wow, I just made a video discussing this topic recently, so it's really cool to see that someone else feels the same way! I'm still pre-everything right now, so of course there's always a chance that my feelings will change as I go through with my transition, but as of now I really have no desire to go stealth. It just feels like I'd be living in fear all over again, and that's the last thing I want.
Wow. I'm so glad that you're happy with being out. Thanks for sharing, this video made me smile.
You are who you are and it's good to be open. You're a good guy and I love your vids. You rock!
I'm so glad you're happy with your choice. Everyone deserves to be happy with their life, yet few are able to get to that point.
even though I'm not trans i really look up to you as a person.and I'm sure I'm not the only one. keep up the good work. and we all love you sky.
thanks! it's not though - its a common problem with older macbooks - the video camera reflects off the white space and records it as noise. there's no solution except expensive editing software and if so, i would probably just get a computer instead (which i am planning! i have tried everything!)
I love the way you speak, oh my god.. You sound so educated & intelligent x
i thankfully havent been harassed by guys who can't accept me as a trans man. i've actually been more attacked and unaccepted by other folks within the LGBT community which saddens me :/
looks aside, your articulacy and courage are incredibly respectable traits. gl with all your future plans!
Hey! It's amazing the way you've changed! You look more confident! I wish I had the chance to talk to you at least once. You are such a beautiful person (in and out). Keep it up!!! I wish you the best, and a happy life! :D XOXOXO
totally understandable! i feel similarly :] and i will do my best to make a more specific series of coming out videos, with different ones talking about: coming out in high school, coming out in college, coming out after passing 100% as male, and coming out to a dating partner after passing 100% as male. any of those sound unnecessary/any i should add? :]
You have one of the sweetest smiles I've ever seen.
you can google 'hudsons ftm guide' which has a lot of good information about physical transitioning :]
A great guy, a great person! Such a positive inspiration to all the people of the world.
You're such a handsome man, and I love how you are open about it, you're a role model for other Trans people and even for I.
speaking from the point of view of a cisgender female, you are an inspiration. Ohmigosh I am just amazed at how open and proud you are and I think you are an excellent human being and a great spokesperson for the LGBT community :)
T usually stops it. mine stopped after my first shot, but some folks it can take a few months to even a year depending how strong their estrogen is even while on T. T won't stop it permanently - there's eventually a point where it becomes a health risk to have the two hormones competing (happened to me about 2 years on T sadly, they say before 5 often) and the individual may have to choose surgery or stopping T or altering hormones in some way.
you are such an inspiration. Thank you for just being you.
I'm stealth and it's not because I'm ashamed of who I am. It might be because of my location but GLBT people are always treated different here. If I was open I would be afraid that people would always think of me different or ask about my genitals. I couldn't deal with that. Thanks for all you do for the community though Sky. I have a feeling you're going to foster a lot of understanding between the cis and trans worlds in your life.
Thanks for your response. I'll try again! I can do it :)
You remind me so much of my brother (he was born a boy) You even sound like him!! Wow! I'm not trans gender, but I still follow all of your videos and TheRealJazzbertie. It's amazing and I love educating myself about other people tackling their life challenges.
I want your book. Seriously. It would be so amazing. If I could pre-order it now, I would.
why don't you live in england? honestly you are so beautiful it makes me weep. also, it's absolutely incredible how far you have come since the beginning. i have so much respect for you.
Glad to hear people are supporting you and you feel comfortable. I like hearing about your creative endeavors. Maybe your UA-cam channel can be a companion to your book. It would be interesting if they referred to each other. Cheers!
I'll also add: you have a strength of character most people don't have. If you lived in a more conservative area I could see you taking the reins and effecting some big changes. I don't think I have the guts or vision to do anything like that. My only hope is to move far away. It's just not financially feasible at the moment. But I'd love to hear your opinions on guys like us, who are stuck being stealth, with no relief in the near future, where slip-ups could be potentially lethal. Take care.
Thank you so much for being you...it helps me to be okay with...being me.
That's awesome! It makes me happy to see you happy! :)
There are many surgeries you can get, it just depends. There are internal surgeries (removal of female organs- more common) and external (obviously adding on a prosthetic penis- less common).
Stealth is not worth it. the less that you have to hide about yourself, the better. Then again, I also come from a different background. I have Cerebral Palsy, so I am used to people asking questions and so forth. This is why being out to everyone does not bother me.
I love how you brought up the cisgendered concept. A lot of people need to be exposed to this term since it is such a binary and a "box" as you've said. There are too many binaries and sometimes the trans community gets sh*t for that. I think a lot of pressure is also placed on the T community because of our binary world we live in...black/white, male/female, democrat/republican, etc. You know what I mean? People assume that EVERY member of the T community reverts to being cisgendered...
even if the internet is nowadays more powerful than books, a book is always there, and the internet is more fleeting, so, bonne chance avec ton livre!
Dear god, I'm so glad I'm not the only one who's having issues with this! I always tell my friends and they just think I'm weird, but the only people who's ever had issues with me being trans were (besides my parents) people from the LGBT community, it's really sad. :/
my name is skylar. my birth name was not skylar however.
You're a gorgeous guy, all the best to you and good luck with your book. :)
I have an ex, and he still has this as an issue it's just like infrequent and random, other than that he was open about his frustration about it.
I recall stories of stuff lie, his Hockey games being interrupted by this sort of thing (not being able to anticipate it).
Im so glad that you're happy
The world needs at least some trans* people to be open or the stigma will never disappear. You come across as an 'average' person, whatever one might define that is, and that is less scary to people who have no experience with gender variance. There are so many faces of trans* identity that don't get seen if no one speaks out.
Hi Sky, how are you?
I wrote a lot of emails to Anna, in these months.
I just wanted to tell you that you guys are my inspiration, thank you for helping me. Me and my boyfriend are so greateful for you, guys. I learnet to love him because of you.
Rome is waiting for you, can't wait to see you!
Lots of love
I really have a hard time living in a "red" state. I sucks because I have to keep my opinions to myself for my own SAFTEY! We can't even talk about gay rights! I makes me sick. I'm completely straight but I believe that everyone has the right to love who they will now matter what gender. You give me hope for the world!
Because of you I look at transgenders WAY different. You're super cool!
You're so sweet. You have a great heart.
you are so amazing
ur a gorgeous person no matter what sex! very brave also. props to u!!!
youre literally perfect
you are amazing, I admire your courage and I have to admit that you are very handsome, and you have an amazing smile :)
You're awesome skylar :3
Dude, you're gorgeous.
you will always be beautiful no matter what.. ur personality is just killing.. dear
I love your videos, there simply amazing.
you are just so amazing! Thank you
You're great, my friend!
In my mind we're already married
omgg huge voice change!!!
Your voice is really lovely!
-_- sorry for the girly descriptive words.. haha, basically I really like the way it sounds :D
Hey Sky. I've been watching your videos for over two years now and they give me hope. I am stealth, and suffer from the same things that troubled you when you tried that route. You live in a more liberal part of the country, and people you know in real life turned out to be accepting and cool--but here on the internet, there's people from all over the world, and you get rude comments sometimes. And that's how most people are where I'm from: ignorant and proud. Do you have any thoughts/advice?
They're just jealous how you turned out more handsome then they could. ;)
You have essentially outlined all the reasons I have also chosen to be open about my trans identity.
Just a head's up - I sent you a message here on UA-cam about an art project I'm working on, of sorts. Would love it if you'd take a look! :)
i could nevah.
you're beautiful..
Love you Sky :)
please could you do another photo comparison video I really liked the last ones thankyou
Your an amazing young man.
So gorgeous.
Congrats! well done, man :)
I know this is super unrelated LOL but your computer sounds like its overheating try giving it more space where the cooling fan is just a helpful hint
My brother used to go to Saint Rose!
I would be interested in know how you go about coming out to people ( professors, coworkers, new friends) at point in transition where you pass 100% as male. I also wish to be out as trans because its more comfortable but being far enough in transition no one knows unless I tell them, which I don't know how to do without it seeming like a big deal I guess. Sometimes I feel that I would be burdening them with unnecessary personal information.
Sky, i really want to watch this but I just can't. :( i'm getting terrible headache from the audio. There's a really a high pitch tone! :(
I was just wondering if his girlfriend would consider herself straight. Because he was a guy at heart, but she was attracted to him in a girls body. You know what I mean?
You're awesome and I want to watch all your videos, but like lilsis said, they have a really high pitched buzz in the background, and I can't get through it, I'm sorry :(
Of course I know what the channel is about; this is one of the channels I watched a lot before starting one to document my own transition.
Wondering about what surgery he's had etc, it's his choice if he's open to questions like that. I didn't comment on that. But I'm still confused as to how your attraction to girls comes into this at all; he is a guy and, whatever his body (currently, or in the past or future) that's what matters. So why does you maybe liking girls come into this? Do explain.
sky... i am 34 years old and have been begging the dr's to do a hysterectomy because i dont want kids.. how did you convince them?!?!?!
You have an Elijah Wood face. Also your hand print tattoo reminds me of Brother Bear.