literally same.. i overshare, overexplain, overthink.. and then regret so much later on.. my mind is always so chaotic and messed up because of this, it really does eat me up inside all the time !!
Tbh get rid of the friends that make you feel that way or spend less time with them. I have been having the same feeling (though now to a lesser degree) with two of my friends and I realized that the reason why I'm talking so much about myself with them is because they never say anything about themselves. Three things I realized after I became more aware: 1) even if I ask them direct questions about their life they never give direct answers 2) when I'm talking they are listening very attentively in a weird, non-compassionate way like they are keeping tabs and they remember very odd things about me (like one doesn't even remember my birthday but she remembers the amount of money I got for a gig years ago) 3) Good things that happen in their life are always last minute, sudden, a surprise, they never know, or they forget. Signs like these mean they know all about keeping quiet and choose you as a victim/energy source. Real friends or people who have your best interest won't make you feel that way. I'd say don't hang out with people who are socially or financially beneath you. The same applies to any type of work friends
I did this then assessed why i did it and i believe it's a selfish trait from within to try and show another how well were doing even if were not ... Kind of like a make up to women (no offence girls) but its to hide our inner fears a mask so to speak you need to think deeply in isolation to eliminate this trait it's just from social engineering i think... good luck
0:55 “If people gossip with you, they will gossip about you.” This is so true. My ex-bsf used to gossip about others to me all the time-about family, and even some of our mutual friends. I thought they were just small complaints that people have from time to time, and that our friendship was stronger than that, But, after me and our mutual friends cut them off, we learned that they talked badly about all of us behind our backs. We had shared everything with my ex-bsf. It was a lesson to not share yourselves life with someone if they show even any slight red flags.
I literally know this about one of my good friends. I kind of stopped myself from saying best friend because she has a very loose lips and always talks about her other friends so I know for certain she talks about me. I know people talking and you can’t control it but I’m also not blind and know how people work
I once asked my ex best friend “well u gossip about other people, do you talk about me” and she looked SHOCKED and was like “wellll you’re my BEST friend, so I talk about others to you, but not about you to others”. Big surprise she was lying and I wasted 9 out of 21 of my living years to be her bff cuz she gaslit me about everything and i was too naive to cut her off or stop believing her lies✌️
@@MaffyTaffyHaffywith love, they most certainly can control it. It’s a choice not to gossip + spread possibly false information. As a very opinionated person, I choose not to speak poorly about people everyday. Even as a literal child, when I spoke about others, I made a conscious choice to do it in a fair, truthful, and respectful way (not spreading misinfo, no twisting the truth, being honest if I didn’t know details, etc). Unfortunately that is an excuse your friend is making (I feel that, as my ex bff constantly made excuses for her poor choices and character). I’m not sure how old either of u are, but I hope she matures/gains self security, and I hope you find better friends❤
In my case, I've always been quiet, so people in school told me "you're so mysterious" so I thought I was wrong in being quiet and that I should start talking more, but this video helped me realize I was right in not oversharing from the beggining.
literally me. i don't talk more tho lol, the thing is they think being mysterious is cool for someone, but then they see the sides effect and they don't enjoy it as much. (don't share about your life much, troubles with communication etc) like I get people like it but for me it's more of a struggle
"when you stay private, you don't owe anyone any kind of explanation. you start putting yourself and your own happiness first." thank you so much. i really needed this. after i graduated, i started avoiding myself from my university friends as they are always intrigued what i am doing now. however, i feel uncomfortable with sharing anything about my life.
What you said about being careful who you take advice from, and making sure they're in a healthy relationship before you take relationship advice from them is so important! I once was told to only take advice from someone who has the results I want in whatever category they're offering, and that's the best advice I've ever gotten!
The data harvester and person who wants to take you secretly down is my coworker I have to deal the most with. Nobody likes to talk when she is around.
I have a colleague who is super close with the managers. She’s basically their second eyes. She’s constantly telling managers everyone’s gossip and spreads secrets around the department. She’s been caught chatting shit about every single colleague including me but she asks super nice to my face. She will try so hard to get any gossip. The first day I met her she full on trauma dumped to me and was over sharing about herself so I knew the kind of person she was from day one. I keep my mouth shut about anything in my personal life. She will 100% use it against me
I finally got a grip on this. Journaling , making a video to yourself have sufficed, it’s helped me trust myself to wait and receive my own “ solutions” and helped me to build discernment in conversations, have patience and grace with yourself. I think over sharing can be rooted in lack of trust in self and wanting some type of relief or result instead of sitting with something
As a creative, I like it - creations are precious in the beginning, like a new seedling growing. I'm not concerned about the negative speak or criticism, but she's right, somehow the energy of others can ruin these seedlings early on - once they are ready share away and get feedback. That helps and improves. Early on, agree 100% keep it private
Yeah I've only started paying attention to this too, especially sharing your work on social media. You never know who might be watching you closely there ready to copy- whether intentionally or not- whatever you're doing.
Here's my bigger perspective question: How do we combine the advice of stopping oversharing (so your narrative and information is controlled by you) with the wisdom of authenticity of not caring about how people think of you? I guess I wanna point out this more holistic concern that at the end of the day applying this advice doesn't become about fearing for your own reputation and your survival, rather than being truly motivated by your own self-love that you genuinely love to live a private life and being that way (but in a way that your fear isn't masked by this pretense of self-love, deceiving yourself that you're loving yourself but in reality you're being fearful of the world).
care for yourself by stopping the caring if other people understand you. there is no validation in that.if you think there is, that is not healthy. validate yourself. others need to earn your information and your time.
EXACTLY! It's not so much about "you are sharing too much / not enough" it's simply about owning yourself. If one feels shame for oversharing and they stop sharing because of it, they are catering to the shame/fear. It's more important to address the shadow aspect, understand it, have compassion for it... than dismissing it for protection. For instance, i spent the first portion of my life being very silent, it was a protection mechanism. As i got older and healed more, i started oversharing. It was often followed by shame/discomfort. From there, i understood i felt shame from expressing myself, and so i worked on healing the part of me that is afraid to be in her full expression, by fear of being judged, rejected, etc. When i truly owned my voice is where i truly freed myself, and ironically, since then i've been a lot more silent about my own life, but its coming from a place of empowerment and choice... i just have nothing to prove to anyone so when i do speak up, its coming from the heart. Anyways, there's always nuances to take in consideration.
8:48 Oh, that's so true. Some people just like to argue and minimize the challenges you have overcome because they simply can't put themselves in your shoes. That is very draining, but it's good to suss those people out and make a mental note to keep them at arms length. Initially, only share something you overcame a long time ago, and if they are super judgy, it won't affect you, but now you know how trifling they are and can skip their monologues and gaslighting from then on.
A coworker didn't like something I was doing that was technically not to code, but was how I was taught to do it. Instead of hearing me out about it she immediately went and told my manager. I also noticed that she likes to talk about what a rough time other people are going through and just in general infantilizing both herself and other people. Needless to say I stopped saying ANYTHING to her and made sure she saw as little as possible of my work from then on! The worst part is that she isn't even a schemer. She seems to believe that this is acceptable behaviour. She treats our manager like a teacher at school or some kind of saint that will be understanding and that her behaviour won't cause career damage to her coworkers.
I started going to my local coffee shop to study daily for 2-4 hours and it’s been almost 2years. Recently about 2 months ago the girls started talking to me. They were very curious what I was doing. One of the girls told me they have been trying to talk to me for a long time but because I always order through the app they never had a chance to talked to me. Also I will always be wearing my headset so they didn’t wanted to bother me while I studied. Now all the girls talk to me, they say hi 👋 and chat with me for a bit before their shift starts. I still keep my life very private and only give very little info about myself. One of the girls recently told me they are always talking about me since I’m very quiet and want to know what I do for a living and what I’m studying . I keep things minimum and leave the rest in mystery. Having a private life is very peaceful when people don’t know much about you.
thats so true about if someone wants to know something they will ask, whether it be your day or an explanation. I am not autistic but if someone doesn't specifically ask for my opinion or explanation I'm usually going to give them an answer that's short and sweet. I've also seen people ramble on about a point and I just question are they trying to convince me or themselves
I'm autistic and smalltalk is honestly one of the worst parts of interactions with people because I simply do not understand the purpose of it but if you come at it with the perspective of the poke technique you explained it actually kinda makes sense to me so thanks :)
The way i see it small talk isnt so much about what youre saying, its the fact that being willing/able to make surface level conversation with a person shows that youre a somewhat friendly person to talk to and helps to build rapport; theres a lot of social things like that where its not the content of whats happening thats important, its the fact that a person participates in it that is socially valuable.
For me, I honestly feel happiest when I give people what will inspire them but also remain in my boundaries. This is definitely some kind of unique path to take in life but I personally find it the truest to me and the most deeply satisfying ❤❤❤
Mae your video popped up at like the perfectly timed moment 😵💫 where I'm totally over sharing with new people. Especially persons I'm romantically interested in.
6:49 People will meddle in your business without knowing anything about you, regardless. I just had that happen two days at my highschool reunion. Some people formed super weird assumptions about me without ever talking to me before and approached me with familiarity and "authority" as if I had strayed from the one and only path. It was obnoxious to hear their "tough love" based on some distorted image they had about me in their head. Honestly, it was annoying and rude, but ultimately, irrelevant. I don't live in the same country, and we're not in each other's lives. What people say about me only matters if I let it matter to me, and I learned a long time ago that people who don't pay my bills get no say on my life.
omg I relate literally SO much to feeling angry at people for using my way of showing love as an attack later on, I’m a cancer sun too. This video is literally helping me so much girly tysm 🫶🏻
I'm convinced that a lot of people out here projecting the evil eye onto others aren't even aware that they're doing it. A great deal of unconscious subterfuge going on in this world. Don't hate the blind, just open your eyes to them. 💕
I always said its more powerful to let the thoughts and idea stay inside ur head cuz once u speak u let it out so u stop nurturing and harnessing that energy
Thanks Mae, I really love & appreciate this video:) I like to watch your videos while I workout because I feel like I concentrate and absorb the information & advice that you’re sharing better. I needed this video last week! before I blabbed (againnn) to everyone about me & bfs fight :( they’re def done hearing about it, & I understand bc I do go back & work it out… but this is forcing me to be more private & slow to emotionally vomit… I really miss talking to my therapist, but don’t have insurance to cover therapy rn.. your videos reeeally help!
I just came across this as I have trouble with communication and live with controlling family. I'm very timid so when i get comfortable with people, I overshare things. I want to have more control in my life and I feel like staying quiet about things will add to that
So true. I share my testimony to ppl and get so much hate. Please pray for me and my children. As a single mother things are overwhelming on me. I’m constantly struggling to support my children. The devil has sent people to attack me. I get harassed and called names for simply asking for prayers, but prayers are all I need. God gives me strength to keep going while I struggle to buy groceries and while I struggle to pay rent. Thank you Lord Jesus. 💕❤️
Thank you so much for this, I’m autistic and have a trait with infodumping to people. Especially trauma dumping to people I wasn’t really close to. While it was fun it made me prone to being bullied, people used things against me, etc. I’m learning now to keep certain things to myself and I still am but I feel better about it nowadays, I feel like I can be at peace.
I just found you channel and this is the first video I have seen from you. This helped me a lot. I overshared last week on a date and it really ruined everything. This is keep happening to me and will stop this. I feel so ashamed.
9:46 You can also learn to not care what people think whether they know about it or not. It's a pretty easy practice. If they don't pay your bills, which should be under your name, their opinions about your life are their problem. Done.
I agree I don’t like sharing with people much anymore the last year it ain’t worth it had to learn but it’s what its most people don’t deserve to see you vulnerable side they have to consistently prove to you that they are trust worthy
8:30 Maybe it depends on the people you surround yourself with, but in my experience, if people even ask about your hobbies, which is a big if, it's mostly small talk. If interests don't overlap, they will continue to talk about themselves.
You are right, it happened to me in the worst way with the people I thought I could trust with my life, my sisters. I have an older and younger sister that have always secretly wished me harm. They have never been happy for me and it's taken me a life time to find out the truth. I walked in on witch craft practices against me in my own house when I was supporting them. Strangers are kinder
NO WAY THATS CREAZY. I watched a video a few days ago where you said your goal is 100.000. subs, you had 83.000 then. NOW YOU HAVE 98.100????? You totally deserve it, in a few months i will say I was here before the million. Please keep up the great content queen!
Omg I’m shook right now!!!!!! I’m hearing this 4 years to late! So so so soooooooooooo blessed to have this channel in my life I’m learning so much from you my queen thank you for your golden knowledge ❤❤❤❤
5:01 sure, but I also have an incredibly strong craving to share hahaha. Like I feel like the strongest thing someone can do is be vulnerable without giving a FUCK about what people think or say about you. Like what's the point in obsessing about what someone or other people care or think about you. Be yourself unapologetically. But idk, this was just a thought that popped in my head.
thank you. i overshare out of a desire to be perceived Machiavellian. i was about to do it again. i've learned the hard way the value of privacy, that makes it all the more powerful of a tool... you learn a lot from w
OH MY GOD i struggle with this a LOT. i always come back home regretting how i overshared and it literally eats me up inside
literally same.. i overshare, overexplain, overthink.. and then regret so much later on.. my mind is always so chaotic and messed up because of this, it really does eat me up inside all the time !!
Get a pack of gum and when you feel the urge to overshare, reach for the gum to keep your mouth busy!!
Tbh get rid of the friends that make you feel that way or spend less time with them. I have been having the same feeling (though now to a lesser degree) with two of my friends and I realized that the reason why I'm talking so much about myself with them is because they never say anything about themselves. Three things I realized after I became more aware: 1) even if I ask them direct questions about their life they never give direct answers 2) when I'm talking they are listening very attentively in a weird, non-compassionate way like they are keeping tabs and they remember very odd things about me (like one doesn't even remember my birthday but she remembers the amount of money I got for a gig years ago) 3) Good things that happen in their life are always last minute, sudden, a surprise, they never know, or they forget. Signs like these mean they know all about keeping quiet and choose you as a victim/energy source. Real friends or people who have your best interest won't make you feel that way. I'd say don't hang out with people who are socially or financially beneath you. The same applies to any type of work friends
Same 🙈 we have to learn once and for all
I did this then assessed why i did it and i believe it's a selfish trait from within to try and show another how well were doing even if were not ... Kind of like a make up to women (no offence girls) but its to hide our inner fears a mask so to speak you need to think deeply in isolation to eliminate this trait it's just from social engineering i think... good luck
A fish that keeps its mouth closed avoids the hook
i lost so much people because of oversharing to ppl who i thought were my friends but were my hidden enemies. ty for this!
0:55 “If people gossip with you, they will gossip about you.” This is so true. My ex-bsf used to gossip about others to me all the time-about family, and even some of our mutual friends. I thought they were just small complaints that people have from time to time, and that our friendship was stronger than that, But, after me and our mutual friends cut them off, we learned that they talked badly about all of us behind our backs. We had shared everything with my ex-bsf. It was a lesson to not share yourselves life with someone if they show even any slight red flags.
I literally know this about one of my good friends. I kind of stopped myself from saying best friend because she has a very loose lips and always talks about her other friends so I know for certain she talks about me. I know people talking and you can’t control it but I’m also not blind and know how people work
Same happened to me
I once asked my ex best friend “well u gossip about other people, do you talk about me” and she looked SHOCKED and was like “wellll you’re my BEST friend, so I talk about others to you, but not about you to others”. Big surprise she was lying and I wasted 9 out of 21 of my living years to be her bff cuz she gaslit me about everything and i was too naive to cut her off or stop believing her lies✌️
@@MaffyTaffyHaffywith love, they most certainly can control it. It’s a choice not to gossip + spread possibly false information. As a very opinionated person, I choose not to speak poorly about people everyday. Even as a literal child, when I spoke about others, I made a conscious choice to do it in a fair, truthful, and respectful way (not spreading misinfo, no twisting the truth, being honest if I didn’t know details, etc). Unfortunately that is an excuse your friend is making (I feel that, as my ex bff constantly made excuses for her poor choices and character). I’m not sure how old either of u are, but I hope she matures/gains self security, and I hope you find better friends❤
In my case, I've always been quiet, so people in school told me "you're so mysterious" so I thought I was wrong in being quiet and that I should start talking more, but this video helped me realize I was right in not oversharing from the beggining.
literally me. i don't talk more tho lol, the thing is they think being mysterious is cool for someone, but then they see the sides effect and they don't enjoy it as much. (don't share about your life much, troubles with communication etc)
like I get people like it but for me it's more of a struggle
Мне кажется она больше о том, чтоб не распространятся о своих планах.
"when you stay private, you don't owe anyone any kind of explanation. you start putting yourself and your own happiness first."
thank you so much. i really needed this. after i graduated, i started avoiding myself from my university friends as they are always intrigued what i am doing now. however, i feel uncomfortable with sharing anything about my life.
"not everyone deserves your vulnerability " 💯
What you said about being careful who you take advice from, and making sure they're in a healthy relationship before you take relationship advice from them is so important! I once was told to only take advice from someone who has the results I want in whatever category they're offering, and that's the best advice I've ever gotten!
Your realness offends fake people
So I will be more real then
😹
The data harvester and person who wants to take you secretly down is my coworker I have to deal the most with. Nobody likes to talk when she is around.
I stopped oversharing over a year ago and it was the best decision :)
I have a colleague who is super close with the managers. She’s basically their second eyes. She’s constantly telling managers everyone’s gossip and spreads secrets around the department. She’s been caught chatting shit about every single colleague including me but she asks super nice to my face. She will try so hard to get any gossip. The first day I met her she full on trauma dumped to me and was over sharing about herself so I knew the kind of person she was from day one. I keep my mouth shut about anything in my personal life. She will 100% use it against me
Reminds me of mom
I finally got a grip on this. Journaling , making a video to yourself have sufficed, it’s helped me trust myself to wait and receive my own “ solutions” and helped me to build discernment in conversations, have patience and grace with yourself. I think over sharing can be rooted in lack of trust in self and wanting some type of relief or result instead of sitting with something
WAKE UP the high priestess has POSTED 🎉🎉🎉
As a creative, I like it - creations are precious in the beginning, like a new seedling growing. I'm not concerned about the negative speak or criticism, but she's right, somehow the energy of others can ruin these seedlings early on - once they are ready share away and get feedback. That helps and improves. Early on, agree 100% keep it private
Yeah I've only started paying attention to this too, especially sharing your work on social media. You never know who might be watching you closely there ready to copy- whether intentionally or not- whatever you're doing.
the timing of this video is craaaaazy
Swear
Here's my bigger perspective question: How do we combine the advice of stopping oversharing (so your narrative and information is controlled by you) with the wisdom of authenticity of not caring about how people think of you? I guess I wanna point out this more holistic concern that at the end of the day applying this advice doesn't become about fearing for your own reputation and your survival, rather than being truly motivated by your own self-love that you genuinely love to live a private life and being that way (but in a way that your fear isn't masked by this pretense of self-love, deceiving yourself that you're loving yourself but in reality you're being fearful of the world).
care for yourself by stopping the caring if other people understand you. there is no validation in that.if you think there is, that is not healthy. validate yourself. others need to earn your information and your time.
EXACTLY! It's not so much about "you are sharing too much / not enough" it's simply about owning yourself. If one feels shame for oversharing and they stop sharing because of it, they are catering to the shame/fear. It's more important to address the shadow aspect, understand it, have compassion for it... than dismissing it for protection.
For instance, i spent the first portion of my life being very silent, it was a protection mechanism. As i got older and healed more, i started oversharing. It was often followed by shame/discomfort. From there, i understood i felt shame from expressing myself, and so i worked on healing the part of me that is afraid to be in her full expression, by fear of being judged, rejected, etc. When i truly owned my voice is where i truly freed myself, and ironically, since then i've been a lot more silent about my own life, but its coming from a place of empowerment and choice... i just have nothing to prove to anyone so when i do speak up, its coming from the heart.
Anyways, there's always nuances to take in consideration.
Over sharing is giving your power away! People can’t attack what they don’t know
8:48 Oh, that's so true. Some people just like to argue and minimize the challenges you have overcome because they simply can't put themselves in your shoes. That is very draining, but it's good to suss those people out and make a mental note to keep them at arms length. Initially, only share something you overcame a long time ago, and if they are super judgy, it won't affect you, but now you know how trifling they are and can skip their monologues and gaslighting from then on.
A coworker didn't like something I was doing that was technically not to code, but was how I was taught to do it. Instead of hearing me out about it she immediately went and told my manager. I also noticed that she likes to talk about what a rough time other people are going through and just in general infantilizing both herself and other people. Needless to say I stopped saying ANYTHING to her and made sure she saw as little as possible of my work from then on!
The worst part is that she isn't even a schemer. She seems to believe that this is acceptable behaviour. She treats our manager like a teacher at school or some kind of saint that will be understanding and that her behaviour won't cause career damage to her coworkers.
I started going to my local coffee shop to study daily for 2-4 hours and it’s been almost 2years. Recently about 2 months ago the girls started talking to me. They were very curious what I was doing. One of the girls told me they have been trying to talk to me for a long time but because I always order through the app they never had a chance to talked to me. Also I will always be wearing my headset so they didn’t wanted to bother me while I studied. Now all the girls talk to me, they say hi 👋 and chat with me for a bit before their shift starts. I still keep my life very private and only give very little info about myself. One of the girls recently told me they are always talking about me since I’m very quiet and want to know what I do for a living and what I’m studying . I keep things minimum and leave the rest in mystery. Having a private life is very peaceful when people don’t know much about you.
Oh my GODDESS thank you for sharing this reminder 🙏🏽
I can relate this this alot. I over shared too much and now i regret it and know how to be more private. This was a nice reminder to keep it hush
I feel like i over shared because i wanted to feel heard and needed to expresss myself; i found more productive ways
Stop thinking your important is also a good one
thats so true about if someone wants to know something they will ask, whether it be your day or an explanation. I am not autistic but if someone doesn't specifically ask for my opinion or explanation I'm usually going to give them an answer that's short and sweet. I've also seen people ramble on about a point and I just question are they trying to convince me or themselves
I'm autistic and smalltalk is honestly one of the worst parts of interactions with people because I simply do not understand the purpose of it but if you come at it with the perspective of the poke technique you explained it actually kinda makes sense to me so thanks :)
The way i see it small talk isnt so much about what youre saying, its the fact that being willing/able to make surface level conversation with a person shows that youre a somewhat friendly person to talk to and helps to build rapport; theres a lot of social things like that where its not the content of whats happening thats important, its the fact that a person participates in it that is socially valuable.
This is absolutely true. Privavy allows yu to live life the way you want to - to be your true self. Plus, its safety from bad actors. Love you, lady!
My mom is a oversharer gossipper and I still live with her so it gets hard sometimes 😭😭😭
For me, I honestly feel happiest when I give people what will inspire them but also remain in my boundaries. This is definitely some kind of unique path to take in life but I personally find it the truest to me and the most deeply satisfying ❤❤❤
Mae your video popped up at like the perfectly timed moment 😵💫 where I'm totally over sharing with new people. Especially persons I'm romantically interested in.
Y'all, she's so right in all of this. No lies told at all.
So true- if people gossip with you, they will gossip about you.
You are just fricking beautiful, I can´t! Thank you for everything!
6:49 People will meddle in your business without knowing anything about you, regardless. I just had that happen two days at my highschool reunion. Some people formed super weird assumptions about me without ever talking to me before and approached me with familiarity and "authority" as if I had strayed from the one and only path. It was obnoxious to hear their "tough love" based on some distorted image they had about me in their head. Honestly, it was annoying and rude, but ultimately, irrelevant. I don't live in the same country, and we're not in each other's lives. What people say about me only matters if I let it matter to me, and I learned a long time ago that people who don't pay my bills get no say on my life.
finding out about your channel is power! keep goin queen
I was literally just telling myself that I need to stop oversharing. Definitely needed this video today hahaha
I can relate. Hard to be quiet sometimes. But am learning thas fasho.
omg I relate literally SO much to feeling angry at people for using my way of showing love as an attack later on, I’m a cancer sun too. This video is literally helping me so much girly tysm 🫶🏻
I would like to say that your videos are truly insightful and top-notch. I feel like I just sat through a therapy session.
My ADHD curse with oversharing
My fiancé is the same. Classic ADHD or even autism trait. I’m the total opposite. It’s sort of hilarious.
@@Mysterious_Moon we just love sharing with the people we love 😭🤣🖤
Same!
Same... having ADHD is NOT fun
Literally same
The timing of this is crazy. Desperately need to stop being a yapper 😭😭
Hi girl u look so pretty. Love your videos they're so inspiring
I'm convinced that a lot of people out here projecting the evil eye onto others aren't even aware that they're doing it. A great deal of unconscious subterfuge going on in this world. Don't hate the blind, just open your eyes to them. 💕
Needed this
Thank you soooooooo much.
mother posted at devine timing
I always said its more powerful to let the thoughts and idea stay inside ur head cuz once u speak u let it out so u stop nurturing and harnessing that energy
When i saw the title i thought, ooo yehhhs. Thank you girl. I love your very helpful videos😊
Hi Mae, I love your videos so much
I’m a cancer sun too babes and my oversharing end NOW …. Today ….thank you ❤❤❤
Always remember you don't have enemies it's all in your head there's only people
I LOVE Cancer Suns and Moons. Always end up forming a deep connection instantly.
Thanks Mae, I really love & appreciate this video:) I like to watch your videos while I workout because I feel like I concentrate and absorb the information & advice that you’re sharing better. I needed this video last week! before I blabbed (againnn) to everyone about me & bfs fight :( they’re def done hearing about it, & I understand bc I do go back & work it out… but this is forcing me to be more private & slow to emotionally vomit… I really miss talking to my therapist, but don’t have insurance to cover therapy rn.. your videos reeeally help!
Omg I was thinking about this yesterday and trying to remember which video you mentioned it before. Thanks!
I NEED MORE OF THISSSSS 🙏🏻
So much of this was gold. Thank you for the reminder. ❤
So much truth in what you said about family not being objective . It's so true.
Lots of gold nuggets in this video Mae. Thanks for taking the time to share your thoughts. No complaining, no explaining.
Glad I heard her out !! Without judging her
I listen to this every morning as a daily reminder. In my mysterious era
I just came across this as I have trouble with communication and live with controlling family. I'm very timid so when i get comfortable with people, I overshare things.
I want to have more control in my life and I feel like staying quiet about things will add to that
This is what I needed to hear! Thank you!
Omg i overshare like A LOT, thank u
This is soooo my problem I can’t wait to watch!
Blessing one, right time. Thanks gorgeous ❤
I just started 48 laws of power, really enjoying most of it. Inspiring video as always!
Your voice is very pleasant to hear
I’ve started doing this and ever since then my life has been changing for the better in so many ways
So true. I share my testimony to ppl and get so much hate. Please pray for me and my children. As a single mother things are overwhelming on me. I’m constantly struggling to support my children. The devil has sent people to attack me. I get harassed and called names for simply asking for prayers, but prayers are all I need. God gives me strength to keep going while I struggle to buy groceries and while I struggle to pay rent. Thank you Lord Jesus. 💕❤️
Thank you so much for this, I’m autistic and have a trait with infodumping to people. Especially trauma dumping to people I wasn’t really close to. While it was fun it made me prone to being bullied, people used things against me, etc. I’m learning now to keep certain things to myself and I still am but I feel better about it nowadays, I feel like I can be at peace.
From one cancer sun to another omg thank you so much
Wise advice thank you.
You’ve got some stronggggg Pluto or Scorpio going on. I vibe with that and this message ❤
girl i love you
I just found you channel and this is the first video I have seen from you. This helped me a lot. I overshared last week on a date and it really ruined everything. This is keep happening to me and will stop this. I feel so ashamed.
"Forcing intimacy too fast by oversharing" gottttt me
9:46 You can also learn to not care what people think whether they know about it or not. It's a pretty easy practice. If they don't pay your bills, which should be under your name, their opinions about your life are their problem. Done.
Honestly, this video helped me a lot, thank you girl ❤
I agree I don’t like sharing with people much anymore the last year it ain’t worth it had to learn but it’s what its most people don’t deserve to see you vulnerable side they have to consistently prove to you that they are trust worthy
Thank u for this reminder ❤
Beautiful video 👏👏
Saving your breath also helps save your energy to use more efficiently and be more focused
I just found your video, and it truly has shaken me with good information.
8:30 Maybe it depends on the people you surround yourself with, but in my experience, if people even ask about your hobbies, which is a big if, it's mostly small talk. If interests don't overlap, they will continue to talk about themselves.
You Rock.........Your Light is kind is supportive ...kind.....and intelligent
I learned the hard way! Thank you for spreading awareness!
Truth is words of wisdom you sharing and giving is priceless Thank you for your time and energy and insight
You are right, it happened to me in the worst way with the people I thought I could trust with my life, my sisters. I have an older and younger sister that have always secretly wished me harm. They have never been happy for me and it's taken me a life time to find out the truth. I walked in on witch craft practices against me in my own house when I was supporting them. Strangers are kinder
Greetings from Poland! 🎉❤
Yeah i dont wanna keep oversharing my plans to my friends anymore, now im working on my own ❤❤
NO WAY THATS CREAZY. I watched a video a few days ago where you said your goal is 100.000. subs, you had 83.000 then. NOW YOU HAVE 98.100????? You totally deserve it, in a few months i will say I was here before the million. Please keep up the great content queen!
I always thought being vulnerable to your friends made your friendship stronger, turns out i was wrong.
09:25 When you stay private, you don't invite or owe anyone any kind of explanation
Trust me,if i'm subscribed it means you are special and you will be great on that thing and what comes to you on the future.congratulations.
Omg I’m shook right now!!!!!! I’m hearing this 4 years to late! So so so soooooooooooo blessed to have this channel in my life I’m learning so much from you my queen thank you for your golden knowledge ❤❤❤❤
New subscriber from Jamaica, I love your energy❤
Oh wow, didn't expect her to be Cancer ! Now it all make sense to me why I relate so much to her videos ! I'm a Cancer too ❤ 14 July ❤
5:01 sure, but I also have an incredibly strong craving to share hahaha. Like I feel like the strongest thing someone can do is be vulnerable without giving a FUCK about what people think or say about you. Like what's the point in obsessing about what someone or other people care or think about you. Be yourself unapologetically. But idk, this was just a thought that popped in my head.
I think there is a balance. You May not care what people think of you but they could do things to harm you.
Thanks--I need this!
thank you. i overshare out of a desire to be perceived Machiavellian. i was about to do it again. i've learned the hard way the value of privacy, that makes it all the more powerful of a tool... you learn a lot from w
Hi Sister, this video showed up at the right time. This is a reminder to keep my mouth shut when completely necessary!