"my husband is a good man" that statement said it all. When your subconscious is telling you the truth but your mind is trying to justify what you want to believe.
The 1st wife is in a workhorse marriage. He's trying to tell her if her good guy doesn't share the load or give her some relief she won't last, if the load isn't shared... She's working, doing 100% of the 'real' childcare, 100% of the cooking & cleaning & shopping, & being the supportive sweetie pie wifie. He's a couch hubby with a job & high expectations...lk she said she's trapped with this man. All caged animals want to be free...
The first woman could also see a doctor and check her blood and everything. She looks so burnt out. I had a heavy burn out, after it a whole lot of my teeth was going bad. My body was missing all, vitamins, minerals, so much essential stuff. And my nervous system ... the doctor said, what has happened in your body and specially to your nervous system, is like atom war, atom bomb in your nervous system, -so true! it took me years to get better. I learnt more about health in the past years than ever before ❣❤🧡🍀🌹
honesty is important, it is hard and could start some small problems but in the long run it will save the relationship for sure. just talk it out never keep negative feeling in your chest people.
The second lady (in the blush top) sounds like she dated my ex husband. he would rather spend 2000 us to rent a yacht for 4 hours to entertain his "friends" with a dj and champagne, just for 4 hours, but didn't have 2000us for rent every month. he would spend on his credit card for bottle service and cigars for everyone in the club, but didn't have cash in his wallet and couldn't afford groceries. he would change his car very often to the flashiest cars but they were leased. he didnt own a single thing. rent an expensive suit etc. he was A NARCISSIST. A grandios narc.
I have to do the same and I'm married to a great strong black man. This is the problem with today's society some of you have no clue about inflation. Everything is going up with the exception of wages. If you're not rich pr born into money, you may have to sacrifice to get to where you want to be.
Yep, you can have a good man or woman but both come into the marriage with different expectations. You need to try hard to have some of the conversations premaritally. People these days knock Premarital Counseling but it would save a LOT of marriages of people still did it.
Being a mom is HARD work but...unlike any other work mom are very much pressure...by society...and to live up to all the expectations of ones spouse...then the kids then the in law. Exhausting...
Let’s be honest… he knows being a mom isn’t the hardest job in the world but he also knew it would garner applause. That my friends is called basic manipulation 101.
The guy spend all his money on her and it wasn't a problem until her credit get burned if you are with a man and he is spending money foolishly how long do you plan to stay with him
Woman number 1...stop working? I wish there was not this expectation on women to do all the things. Her problem would be solved if she could be a sahm.
The First Lady .....the thing u need to say .. is that your husband is “one of your kids ..”coz he does much of nothing ... don’t say he is a good man ......also I imagine before you got married ..your wish .....was to ............be married and have many .......kids .. and now .. ..REALITY has set........cams on .....what u think marriage was all about ... did u think it laying out on the beach and drinking...mamosas lol
first lady should cut her work hours to be more present as a wife and mother. an extra hour once a week won't cut it. right now she is prioritizing her job... why are you working full time? Her husband will feel neglected and more prone to adultery. The therapist was not very helpful IMO.
Some jobs will cut you if you start cutting hours. However, I recently tried the method you mentioned and it most definitely did my marriage a world of good. You make a ton of sense.
Maybe she likes her job and/or maybe they need the money, some ppl need to have a purpose outside of the family. But why does she have to do everything re. the family/house duties? Why do women need to be perfect & men just need to be, not put any work in the family duties?...Why can't her husband take care of the child and/or dinner from time to time?...if her husband helps her get a break once a week, like the guy suggested, then she'll be in the mood to ''take care'' of her husband ;) win-win.
I wonder what her husband should do in order to be more present as a husband and father. I wonder why mothers are expected to do everything when kids have two parents for a reason...she can also feel neglected from her husband's laziness which can make her more prone to adultery too. Bet u didn't think that there was two ways to look at it n that the woman doesn't always have to do all the compromising. She has feelings and is entitled to a break too. Everyone does.
what is with the idea that being a mother is the hardest job in the world? i get that mothers fill a very important role in their children's lives but lets not over hype that role. there are other jobs that are so much harder. eg coal miners, soldiers on the front lines, police officers, emergency room doctors, paramedics, firefighters, construction workers. this constant reinforcement of the idea that being a mother is the hardest job in the world gives many women the self entitled viewpoint that is breaking many would be relationships. just my 2 cents. i would be more than willing to have a civil discussion with anyone about this in the comments.
ignorant comment coming from a dude. i believe they're just acknowledging the fact that being a mother is simply a hard job. noone said the jobs u listed werent also hard. She mentioned her job. Im sure if she said paramedics, he would say the same. However, she mentioned HER job, which is equally as hard. U made no point
....being a parent is 24hours a day, 7 days a week, 52 weeks a year...you are literally responsible for another human being that's dependent on you for everything. Do you have a child?...are you a parent?
Getaaseben Mulatu Bill Burr has a hilarious rant on a comedy bit saying the exact same thing that I completely agree on. Also how bout the single father's that raise the kids by just himself ... it's all the same, respect to both.
I am a mother and basically it is a job which never turns off. I think other parents are overwhelmed, when they don't get the support for themselves, as they would like too. As a parent, you are thinking and acting not just on behalf of yourself, but for your child 24 hours a day. Sleep deprivation is a common thing among parents with no help. I also work in one of the occupations you mentioned and it is a task trying to balance all the responsibilities, bills, quality care and time that a child needs to be a well balanced individual, that I desire my child to be. I'm of the opinion, that Mothers and Fathers who care about their children, say that it is hard, because as a parent they want to give the best to their child in both tangible and intangible means. It is always a juggling of resources especially time. I think you are trying to compare the danger and purpose level of the jobs you called, as examples to compare with being a mother. It is not comparable in the sphere you think it is, but it is just as challenging in the softer skills of life, such as time management and communication. What task can I give priority to now that would benefit me or my child? No one gives you a manual on being a parent. Each child is unique, even if you discuss your child with another parent, there is no guarantee that that method would work in parenting. In my "dangerous" job I can get a manual or find someone to help or solve a problem faster than I would for a child. It takes trial and error and a lot of faith and prayer to choose a parenting style that works. So my friend, when you decide to be a parent or not, just remember, everyone's journey is different.
y he had to use divorce couple's as an example😏😕 to try n put that in her mind n gave her idea's😏👎 dont want to c black people happy n married with a good husband... ugggh!😏
I don’t believe her.She sounds like she’s just tired of being married or she’s thinking about an affair.The reason I said that is because she said her husband is a good man.Why did she have to say that? And then taking one child to ballet and cooking your tired!? And she’s been married eight years? She just sounded bored to me and like there was something else going on.I raised five,cooked and worked and everything else that goes with that! And she’s tired!? Umm!
I liked this guy's advice...he is very good.
That first woman looked so burnt out it's sad 😥
She needs a break, Big Time.
This guy is soo good!
So good yet couldn’t keep his own marriage together..
Agreed… Having conversations early in the relationship about money starts good habits and avoids problems later on.👍🏼
"my husband is a good man" that statement said it all. When your subconscious is telling you the truth but your mind is trying to justify what you want to believe.
Exactly! It's disappointing seeing working mothers end up with men who don't carry their weight around the house. She's your wife not your mother.
Ikr? And they demand 50/50 financially but yet don't lift a finger around the house.
Aicha S amen
+OfficialMyDo bruhhh why am hollering at your reply😂😂
Sadly, if his mother did everything for him he has no intention to do it when he knows a women will do it for him. Hence the situation she is in.
This is deep...😢
I really needed to hear it 👉have a time for yourself,and be honest !!!
The 1st wife is in a workhorse marriage.
He's trying to tell her if her good guy doesn't share the load or give her some relief she won't last, if the load isn't shared...
She's working, doing 100% of the 'real' childcare, 100% of the cooking & cleaning & shopping, & being the supportive sweetie pie wifie.
He's a couch hubby with a job & high expectations...lk she said she's trapped with this man.
All caged animals want to be free...
The first woman could also see a doctor and check her blood and everything. She looks so burnt out. I had a heavy burn out, after it a whole lot of my teeth was going bad. My body was missing all, vitamins, minerals, so much essential stuff. And my nervous system ... the doctor said, what has happened in your body and specially to your nervous system, is like atom war, atom bomb in your nervous system, -so true! it took me years to get better. I learnt more about health in the past years than ever before ❣❤🧡🍀🌹
Why is Steve always a better listener than the "experts?" Don't tell people in happy relationships about divorced people. That framing is not helpful.
He is so interesting to listen to. Great advice 👍
honesty is important, it is hard and could start some small problems but in the long run it will save the relationship for sure.
just talk it out never keep negative feeling in your chest people.
The second lady (in the blush top) sounds like she dated my ex husband. he would rather spend 2000 us to rent a yacht for 4 hours to entertain his "friends" with a dj and champagne, just for 4 hours, but didn't have 2000us for rent every month. he would spend on his credit card for bottle service and cigars for everyone in the club, but didn't have cash in his wallet and couldn't afford groceries. he would change his car very often to the flashiest cars but they were leased. he didnt own a single thing. rent an expensive suit etc. he was A NARCISSIST. A grandios narc.
If he was is a 'good husband" she doesnt need to ask him to help out. Both are working. It should be 50/50.
Welcome to Africa mentality 😂😂
He could be a good man and come into the marriage with different expectations. They need to talk it out
She might as well be a single mom. She works AND comes home to do everything. Smh.
J Q you didn't hear the other side
OfficialMyDo I don't doubt that :)
I have to do the same and I'm married to a great strong black man. This is the problem with today's society some of you have no clue about inflation. Everything is going up with the exception of wages. If you're not rich pr born into money, you may have to sacrifice to get to where you want to be.
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Prestige Hair that’s all fine and all but why are YOU doing all the sacrificing?
great small tips.
simply talk with the person(s) who u r concerned about and who you think and believe can help you out before its too late!!!
«being a mom
is the hardest job»
and
this man talks about honesty?!
Being a mom is the hardest job? Bill Burr begs to differ.
The divorce lawyer is very easy on the eyes 😁
Very sexy indeed
I LOVE U SO MUCH STEVE ❤️❤️❤️YOUR BEST PERSON AND THE ONLY ONE WHO MAKES ME LAUGH EVERY DAY u even make me cry of laughter 😂😂😘keep up the good work
This is true my mom wanted 30 mins a day during the week to be alone then she was good to go.
Great advice!!
You are great mom!
Good advice
I bought James Sexton's book
how is it
@@afiyaburwell9512 almost finish, great book for real.. I do shows on relationships due to that book
great...
Thank you
I love his guy!
why, oh why, when there is an ad, does it have to be soooo loud??? please, whomever is doing these videos, please tone down the too loud music!!
Now this is funny😂
He just knows how to tame the dragon ... I will read that book
we get it you have an office
😂😭😭💀💀
Yep, you can have a good man or woman but both come into the marriage with different expectations. You need to try hard to have some of the conversations premaritally. People these days knock Premarital Counseling but it would save a LOT of marriages of people still did it.
The first mum is exhausted and if he isn't helping her know he sure as hell won't be after this.
yup, he’s advices we’re better than Dc Phil. He makes me sleepy. (I’m binge watching Steve Harvey’s vid)
The white girl is trying to get into her boyfriend's books to find out just how much he's making.
If they plan on marrying, she has every right to know
This is the type of woman I want to stay far away from.
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Being a mom is HARD work but...unlike any other work mom are very much pressure...by society...and to live up to all the expectations of ones spouse...then the kids then the in law. Exhausting...
Just don't have kids y'all
No kids.... amen!!
Das yo boyfriend! Ugh. Why are people so financially involved with people they aren't married to??
Because when you are in a relationship, you are also suppose to be securing your future and your children future also? It’s not just blind love?
Because they're stupid.
Let’s be honest… he knows being a mom isn’t the hardest job in the world but he also knew it would garner applause. That my friends is called basic manipulation 101.
Where is Steve's answer? Am still waiting for the jokes!
The guy spend all his money on her and it wasn't a problem until her credit get burned if you are with a man and he is spending money foolishly how long do you plan to stay with him
The second woman is very attractive
👌👌👌👌👏
is his last name REALLY "sexton"?
why do women leech off of men financially
Woman number 1...stop working? I wish there was not this expectation on women to do all the things. Her problem would be solved if she could be a sahm.
I just hope she's understand what he mean, if someone missunderstand what he said.... She gonna get a divorce...
The First Lady .....the thing u need to say .. is that your husband is “one of your kids ..”coz he does much of nothing ... don’t say he is a good man ......also I imagine before you got married ..your wish .....was to ............be married and have many .......kids .. and now .. ..REALITY has set........cams on .....what u think marriage was all about ... did u think it laying out on the beach and drinking...mamosas lol
So glad I never had kids!!! Yay!!!
What is sexton???
Ma Lo his last name lol
Get a job 2nd lady...have ur own $
Being a mom isn't the hardest job. There are jobs that are more difficult.
Like what?
@@nthabisengmahlo6593 Being a single dad 😂 We aren't that amazing
There are. Roofing in July as a red head for example. Or building a house. But you don’t do those things 24/7. That’s the difference.
When you are a good one .....it's the hardest thing in the world ever ! You don't know it till you are one
Other jobs are 40 hrs and offer a 2 day break. Whereas being a mom is a never ending job.
Being a mother is hard work but that comes with the territory doesn't it??
first lady should cut her work hours to be more present as a wife and mother. an extra hour once a week won't cut it. right now she is prioritizing her job... why are you working full time? Her husband will feel neglected and more prone to adultery. The therapist was not very helpful IMO.
Some jobs will cut you if you start cutting hours. However, I recently tried the method you mentioned and it most definitely did my marriage a world of good. You make a ton of sense.
Maybe she likes her job and/or maybe they need the money, some ppl need to have a purpose outside of the family. But why does she have to do everything re. the family/house duties? Why do women need to be perfect & men just need to be, not put any work in the family duties?...Why can't her husband take care of the child and/or dinner from time to time?...if her husband helps her get a break once a week, like the guy suggested, then she'll be in the mood to ''take care'' of her husband ;) win-win.
I wonder what her husband should do in order to be more present as a husband and father. I wonder why mothers are expected to do everything when kids have two parents for a reason...she can also feel neglected from her husband's laziness which can make her more prone to adultery too. Bet u didn't think that there was two ways to look at it n that the woman doesn't always have to do all the compromising. She has feelings and is entitled to a break too. Everyone does.
kemji24 i agree. I actually think she should quit working altogether. Or switch to very part time
W.T.F.
what is with the idea that being a mother is the hardest job in the world? i get that mothers fill a very important role in their children's lives but lets not over hype that role. there are other jobs that are so much harder. eg coal miners, soldiers on the front lines, police officers, emergency room doctors, paramedics, firefighters, construction workers. this constant reinforcement of the idea that being a mother is the hardest job in the world gives many women the self entitled viewpoint that is breaking many would be relationships. just my 2 cents. i would be more than willing to have a civil discussion with anyone about this in the comments.
ignorant comment coming from a dude. i believe they're just acknowledging the fact that being a mother is simply a hard job. noone said the jobs u listed werent also hard. She mentioned her job. Im sure if she said paramedics, he would say the same. However, she mentioned HER job, which is equally as hard. U made no point
....being a parent is 24hours a day, 7 days a week, 52 weeks a year...you are literally responsible for another human being that's dependent on you for everything.
Do you have a child?...are you a parent?
Getaaseben Mulatu Bill Burr has a hilarious rant on a comedy bit saying the exact same thing that I completely agree on. Also how bout the single father's that raise the kids by just himself
... it's all the same, respect to both.
I am a mother and basically it is a job which never turns off.
I think other parents are overwhelmed, when they don't get the support for themselves, as they would like too.
As a parent, you are thinking and acting not just on behalf of yourself, but for your child 24 hours a day.
Sleep deprivation is a common thing among parents with no help. I also work in one of the occupations you mentioned and it is a task trying to balance all the responsibilities, bills, quality care and time that a child needs to be a well balanced individual, that I desire my child to be.
I'm of the opinion, that Mothers and Fathers who care about their children, say that it is hard, because as a parent they want to give the best to their child in both tangible and intangible means. It is always a juggling of resources especially time.
I think you are trying to compare the danger and purpose level of the jobs you called, as examples to compare with being a mother. It is not comparable in the sphere you think it is, but it is just as challenging in the softer skills of life, such as time management and communication. What task can I give priority to now that would benefit me or my child?
No one gives you a manual on being a parent. Each child is unique, even if you discuss your child with another parent, there is no guarantee that that method would work in parenting. In my "dangerous" job I can get a manual or find someone to help or solve a problem faster than I would for a child. It takes trial and error and a lot of faith and prayer to choose a parenting style that works.
So my friend, when you decide to be a parent or not, just remember, everyone's journey is different.
Being a parent isn’t a job it’s an obligation
Hit the gym lady
y he had to use divorce couple's as an example😏😕 to try n put that in her mind n gave her idea's😏👎 dont want to c black people happy n married with a good husband... ugggh!😏
gold digger ftw!
C Joe
You probably have no gold to dog
I don’t believe her.She sounds like she’s just tired of being married or she’s thinking about an affair.The reason I said that is because she said her husband is a good man.Why did she have to say that? And then taking one child to ballet and cooking your tired!? And she’s been married eight years? She just sounded bored to me and like there was something else going on.I raised five,cooked and worked and everything else that goes with that! And she’s tired!? Umm!
Good advice