Natasha Arvanitis .... I totally agree one kind word to a total stranger could make someone's day… I wish everyone would be a little more compassionate sometimes… Kindness does not cost anything🤷🏻♀️💜😁
This was probably the best 13 minutes I have ever spent watching UA-cam. Not only are you gorgeous physically, you are a wise woman who is an incredibly eloquent speaker. Thank you for passing some love around a female community that, as a group, can quite often be a really tough crowd!!! Much love❤️💕❣❤️💕
So happy to be following this lovely lady too, Sherri!!! Thank you for your kind words, Deanna! She makes 50+ seem more appealing than our 20's lol .....love it🙋🏼🙋🏼🙋🏼💗
Hi @JC More! I really appreciate your lovely comment...You are so sweet and you too are passing the love around...Thank you...we are all in this together... Have an amazing week 💕
Brought tears to my eyes. I moved out of my hometown because of gossip and bullying. Isn't being beautiful all about building character anyway? I recently read something which said: I don't want friends who talk about me behind my back, I want friends who pray for me. I am like you and can feel energy. I simply do not spend time with anyone anymore that drains me. Would rather be alone. Thank you for this incredible video. You must be a wonderful friend to those around you.
Hi Kasey! Thanks so much for your lovely comment... Im sorry you had to experience that, it must have been traumatic...I think it is very healing to spend time alone and regroup before going out into the world again...Have a self care weekend 💕
Omg. Me too. I was happy in high school with the whole town not just my school. After college and a year in Atlanta, I moved home to teach high school. I was single and very rejected by people who had once been my friend's, CHURCH PEOPLE. My social life was in Atlanta, Tallahassee, Jacksonville. I moved to a larger city in my early 30s. Everyone here likes me. I love the people here and would never go home.
I couldn’t agree more with all of your tips! When I hear women talking about another woman, I always say “Really? I really like them” it takes the sting out of the tail of the conversation many times ❤️🇬🇧
I'm so glad I found you. Have you written a book on this and related advice? I have just turned 70 y.o., retired and divorced two years ago. Now I don't know what to do, what to wear, how to carry myself/ present myself. But you are teaching me everything, from makeup, importance of exercise, consider others first. A week ago I met a man while at the exercise club, I haven't been back since, he seemed "interested and interesting".......I panicked. Now I can go back feeling confident; your advice has empowered me and given me a place to start and enjoy my retirement. Thank You! You are special.
I grew up with a sister a year younger than me and she is absolutely beautiful. I was always compared to her and adults were not kind . Now I am 51 and she is 50 and I still am the plain Jane and she is gorgeous. I have struggled all my life with low self esteem. But I do compliment other woman and girls because I know how important it is to be kind. You are so beautiful it seems strange to hear you had low self esteem. Your smile is genuinely that of a beautiful soul.
@Jacqui McArthur Im sending you a big hug 🤗❤️ Start seeing yourself as gorgeous too...You have a kind heart and that is so attractive...Lets imagine that you have 40 years left to live...and your whole belief system changed from thinking physical beauty is the be all and end all....to believing that kindness, caring, compassion, creativity and vitality equals beauty....do you think you could experience the next 40 years in a different way? Do you think you would see yourself as beautiful? Do you think this would be do able? 🙌
@@fabulous50s I am so blown away that you replied. LOL. I have 2 beautiful sons. They think I'm gorgeous so I suppose that is all that matters. Thank you for your kindness!
Jacqui McArthur Oh Jacque, the fact that your sons KNOW you to be beautiful should settle it for you! I so encourage you to begin... from this moment forward to DO... think, speak, act just as Schellea said in her personal response to you. Just do THAT! If you do so, instead of the way you have felt and believed about yourself in the past... you will begin to unfold and bloom, because it IS YOUR TIME to shine! To begin with, you probably will feel ridiculous... and that it is not authentic... but just continue following this plan of action, regardless how you feel about it. Focus more on building others up in a genuine manner, but build yourself up at the same time, inwardly. IF you will do this, consistently, your next 40 years WILL convince you that this truly works! Best wishes in seeing the truth and living it! Practice makes better, so practice only what you want more of! -Hugs!
My sister is just like you! She still to this day at 46 is jealous and people still tell her how gorgeous I am and ask if I am a model in front of her. Mind you she is attractive but just not nearly as good looking as me and as confident as me.
Thank you for this video. I clicked on it thinking it was going to be about makeup or clothes but I was pleasantly surprised. I love that you focused on inner beauty and how to treat others. I’ve just discovered your channel in the last few months and really enjoy the content. I’m 54 and I enjoy watching someone close in age because they can relate more to my life and experiences. Keep up the great work! 💕
I value this statement greatly. It’s hard not to want to criticize a coworker out loud especially if they have gone out of their way to make you look bad so they can make themselves top dog at work. Thank you for sharing 💗
@@coffeebreak247 Yes it's hard yet when we don't react & join their chain of pain their behavior will expose their true motives & people eyes will be opened
Thank you Schellea for this beautiful message. You made me cry and feel better about myself. I never feel confident when walking in a room, yet I know I'm a good person. I never feel like I'm as good as everyone around me. You just taught me some techniques that I can use today. You are truly beautiful on the inside and out - thank you!
Thank you for your kind words @Tracy Price 🙏 I appreciate you taking the time to comment🌸 Start making a mental note of all the good things you have achieved over your lifetime and focus on that...
@@fabulous50s Thank you for your nice reply Schellea ... The day after I watched your video I went to work with a different mind set. I was friendly with a coworker that I would normally avoid & she responded positively to me. It made me feel like a better person. Days later her daughter passed away suddenly & I feel so bad for her. I'm just glad I watched your video. Thank you again!
@@tracyprice3314 I'm so sorry to hear that, Tracy.... it's very beautiful that you were able to send some kindness and love to that coworker... we are all passing more love around because of this beautiful video message!
I don't know why I care so much about the way I look. I just feel like something died when I lost my eggs. I am no longer reproductive..I feel like I don't have a place in this world. It's very confusing. I know that it is stupid. I really want to feel better. I want someone to see me as a valuable person.
My childhood was exactly like that and you’re right, I too developed empathy and a sixth sense. I finally overcame the negative! Thank you, great video! 💓
Funny how this turns around, completely.....The same people/types that I USED to allow me to feel inferior to, I now have a sense of pity for, in a loving way.
Every day, I go out of my way to make someone feel good. It can be anything - the color of nail polish, an article of clothing, pair of shoes, hair color or style... I've also noticed that if its someone who isn't nice, it will soften her heart. After that, we have an instant connection everytime we see one another.
Thanks Lisa Costigan! Can you even imagine? It would be so healing if we all got the chance to go back and reset our belief systems...Have a fabulous day 🌸
This is great! I do Tip #4 frequently at parties: If I find someone standing alone, I go up and start a conversation with that person. Then someone walks by, and I introduce the two of them, trying for a three-way conversation. Eventually, I can continue mingling, but I've just made a connection between two people. It also helps ME not feel awkward at parties. I love your approach to life. Thank you for doing this channel. I also have a question: I like your jewelry in several of your videos. Where do you shop for accessories? Thank you!
What a beautiful message!!!! I am a highly sensitive person and an empath. This has made my life quite difficult in many ways, but I also understand a lot more about people because of it. You are so right about everything you said here, and especially about cruel things from childhood that stick in a person’s mind . Thank you for this wonderful message, it’s so needed in today’s world ❤️🌈🌷😊
The most important thing I’ve learned so far when relating to others is to be the example of what you want to see in a person. It’s the best way to bring out good examples in others that will truly make a difference in the world.
Hi Schellea, I think growing up, you were bullied because others saw your beauty inside and out. It was a beauty that you were not aware of, but clear to others. I developed that 6th sense too, because of the very things you have described here. I can tell immediately who people really are opposed to the people they pretend to be. Great uplifting video.! Thank you.
I am saving this to my favorites...the 8th grade mean girl’s words took decades to overcome. You have good advice for how to engage people in a new social setting. Well done.
@@misskit866 And then she grows up into a drop-dead gorgeous girl. If we only had the confidence we have now and if we only knew back then what we know now, how extraordinary would that have been to have the wisdom and insight to know our worth even if we are not accepted into the world of popularity and acceptance. 🍒🌼🍒
Hi Teresa, I am so sorry your feelings were hurt and that you carried it with you for a very long time. I truly hope your heart and mind are filled with every beautiful thing that brings true happiness. I know exactly what you are talking about, though. The girl who also said a very mean thing to me in front of a mix of 7th and 8th graders was also an 8th grader. I was only in 7th grade. She was tall and thin with long gorgeous silky hair and very beautiful. She was going into modeling. She had the world in her hands but felt the need to elevate herself even higher by hurting my feelings. Those things can stay with us for a long time. I never fit in anywhere. I was always on the outside looking in. When I turned 17, I blossomed and everything changed for me, and I have never looked back. I am confident and happy and love being in my own company and love being me and don't need anyone to validate my existence. However, as Schaella has said, I think my experience has made me empathetic to girls who are going through the same thing I did, and I want to build them up and help give them the confidence to see their beauty and worth so they don't go through the heartache of not being accepted but to be confident enough to be her own person at such a vulnerable and awkward age 💓
This video was so meaningful to me and it will definitely be one that I will watch over and over! I am 65 and still dealing with feelings of not being good enough. Thank you for sharing your personal experiences and knowledge. You are a great motivational speaker! ❤️
I’m crying at just the mere suggestion of what I can be. I was that girl who felt unworthy for many years too. Your channel has added to my recovery. Thank you, Schellae.
It's true, people will do that. I know a man who has 3 daughters. One is very naturally attractive, I nearly gasped the first time I saw her. One I've never seen, he tells me she was so physically beautiful, she was bullied by other females all the time out of jealousy. She ended her life as a teenager. I worked with a woman who was evil toward me. We were both in early 30's. Finally one day, I had the courage to ask why? Because she was envious that I was so thin and had discipline with my diet (healthy) and that she couldn't do it. Another time and job, I worked with a woman who displayed absolute disgust with me. Finally found it was because I got the secretary job she applied for and didn't get it. It's so sad what women do to each other. Women should be supporting each other in sisterhood. We need that more than anything right now.
Thank you for your video. I was bullied in elementary school and told I was ugly. That stayed with me my whole life and I'm now 56 yo and still battle with those feelings. You're beautiful. I enjoy your videos. This one in particular ministered to my heart.
Me too. I never felt pretty, smart, or that I fit in. To make matters worse... we moved a lot with my fathers promotions. So I was always the "new kid." I learned to fake being self assured.... I should win an Oscar. Lol. I'm 56 now.... a bit more confident (a lot more "I dont care what others think.")
Wow! This video made me cry! I understand the bullying and even at 48, the impact of it is still there! Even at my age, I still walk into a room and immediately think people are judging and talking about me! As we know, some adults are no kinder than a lot of kids! But, this video really helps! Thank you!
I didn't consciously realize this, but the most attractive and admirable women in my life do many of these things. Thanks for distilling all this wonderful info into doable tips!
As we say here in Texas, “Preach, Sister!” Watching your video was like having an honest counseling session with a very wise woman! You definitely reminded us what “real beauty” looks like. We all need “real wisdom” to combat the lies the world seems to tell women “over a certain age.” My aunt used to say, “Pretty is as Pretty does.” You certainly display that by taking time to share such an important message! Focusing on others truly brings real validation that we have worth and something left to give! Those people who were mean to you probably have no idea how much they helped you grow into the beautiful person-inside & out-you’ve become!
I completely relate to the first part of this video about being a child and carrying burdens into adulthood. Thank you so much for sharing these wonderful tips. You are a special empathetic person, beautiful inside and out ❤️
Your story is my story. The words that made me feel bad about myself were from my mother. After years of wasting time hating myself and lots of counselling I am finally the person I wish I always was. I am 50 and I have let go of all those negative messages and thoughts. I am free and it is not about how I look but who I am and who I have always been. I agree 100% with what you are saying in this video. You are amazing Keep spreading the message ♥️
Hi, Shellie, yes that is so true, everything you said, I was that shy person, mostly because I grew up with a super critical mother, my faith has helped to focus me from myself to others and it really does work, thanks so much, such an important message for the younger ladies as well as we more mature ladies xxx
Hi Sally God bless you. After my husband died i moved to another city. I started neglecting myself until i saw you on youtube. Im turning 70 jrs and was so excited when you teached us how to aply makeup for woman over 50. And how to care for our hair. I have been using your tips and started getting compliments. I also started feeling happy and starting to feel good. Thank you soo much for all your wonderfull tips. You are absolutely amazing and so beautifull.
"other peoples opinions of us does not matter" we were created by the universe and we were all made perfect just the way we are!! 🙋🏻🙌🏻luv yourself 💜 we don't have to conform to societies ideas of what s beautiful and what's NOT ..… BE YOURSELF!! 🤷🏻♀️💯
Yes I agree, and I'm not talking about not taking care of yourself or your health … I'm talking about self love and acceptance and not always trying to fit in with what everyone else looks like and will be excepted by everyone else… Be the best version of yourself for sure!! 🤷🏻♀️💜 don't live for validation from other people… Please yourself, be happy with yourself!!! 🙋🏻🙌🏻⚡️😉 this is not a competition… When you compare yourself to others you insult yourself!!! 😘🤗
Anita: Perfectly stated! I believe God made me, however, you are spot on! People that try and force their opinions of “responsibility to take care of yourself” do not pay for healthcare or suffer any possible consequences of other people’s choices!” I’ll bet they’re the ones sitting around gossiping about how other people SHOULD be taking care of themselves!
If you haven't written a book yet you absolutely NEED to. I just found you on YT about a week ago and I'm watching every video I can find. You are such an insightful, graceful woman. Thank you for that 💗
I'm highly sensitive in life and was bullied in school never fit in. I did not have the right clothes etc.. I was just always different. As I got older I'm glad to be me and walk my own path. I appreciate you sharing this. Your a caring gentle soul. Hugs xxoo
Hi Schellea, you are beautiful lady inside and out! I grew up very shy and insecure never feeling comfortable in my own skin. Growing up in a dysfunctional family didn’t help ! Growing up with two sisters that were jealous of me was sad. People outside of my family would always complement me on how pretty I was, but never felt pretty. Never was bullied by strangers, but found I was bullied by my sisters. I now work on complementing others and being kind ! It really dose make you feel better about yourself! And people want to be around you. Thank you! For this video😃❤️
You are sooo beautiful in every way 💖 This was sooo uplifting !! And I was thinking how when I am at a party it is not the best looking man or woman that I find beautiful but the person with sparkling eyes, a genuine radiant smile and a warmth about them - that is soooo BEAUTIFUL and attractive 💖 The people that are only judging by looks are not worth the time - especially at this age. Thank you for a beautiful uplifting vid 💖💖💖💖💖
Such a good video I felt like that as a teen and most of my adult life, my Mother was not kind and criticized my looks .If get a compliment now I say thank you instead of trying to put myself down like I had most of my life. Thanks for this video it is the best pep talk
Thanks beautiful free meow! If a mother is comfortable making her child feel bad about herself...the problem is not the child! Please remember this...You are not what someone else thinks of you ❤
Oh my, I’m so sorry you had to experience those bad feelings about yourself growing up. No one should be made to feel that way about themselves. That being said. You certainly have done a wonderful job of healing yourself. I’m sure it took a lot of work and self help to over come that. You are so sweet and caring and inspirational. You are beautiful INSIDE AND OUT. You are a huge inspiration to me. Your videos have become my go to when ever I need tips or information on anything from makeup to self help. Thank you Schellea for sharing. 💕
Thank You Schellea, beautiful video many of us have had the same things, thank you for being caring enough to open up about the pain you endured, and have triumphed over and giving us what works so we can have Victory. You are a beautiful soul...thank you ... Thank You
When I was a young girl my mother told me that they were just jealous of me, I truly didn’t understand what jealousy was . I’m older and wiser and totally understand what jealousy is, I also didn’t let that very awful emotion change who I am , it’s truly about them not me. I can appreciate another woman’s beauty and not be envious, never have never will, it’s almost like I’m devoid of that emotion but I do recognize it when it’s there.
Shell I absolutely love this video! Again you are a total angel brought to us to help women by empowering themselves. I was never the blonde bombshell I am today. I was skinny lanky with mousy Brown hair. That ugly duckling turned into a beautiful Swan but I too had many poor experiences. For me the best thing you touched on was when you walk in the Room shoulders back chin up, own it girl. However I am a culprit of talking about my experiences that I need to work on. We all have talents given to us by God and sometimes they're hard to be seen. There's a saying and show business common never never never talk bad about somebody, No matter how much you don't like them. It's very unbecoming. I hope we can all start trying to raise our daughters to become ladies and not trash talking selfish girls. Forgiveness goes a long way. Have a wonderful day my friends!!!
Hi Beautiful LA Kierstead! I love that you are feeling great about who you are today, despite what you have been through...Sound advice from you xx Have an amazing week ahead ❤️
Your manner, tone, and soft facial expression is so warm...yes you are beautiful, but the light that comes from you is from your heart...I love how your advice is always from a loving place!
This is hands down the best video on UA-cam about beauty. Your tips will help women with their own anxiety, fears and insecurities, while helping people around them, as well. Very wise words, thank you.
You are so sweet and relatable. You show yourself in all honesty, but at the same time you do not self-deprecate. I opened this video not because I'd like to be the most beautiful woman in the room (ie not to compete with other women), but because I want to feel more attractive in my own skin, for my own self and for the man I love. The first part of the video where you tell that you felt unattractive for a long time really moved me. I have too, all my life, to this day. So, thank you for sharing your story and how you've overcome it. You are doing good in the world. I firmly believe that women need to stop seeing each other as rivals, and start uniting and empowering each other. You are doing this. What makes you beautiful is your soul shining through. Hugs.
Thank you so much for your kind words No Name 🙏 I appreciate you taking the time to comment and share your experience. I have the same wish for how women treat each other as you ❤️
Omg Schellea. I do this, I can feel a vibe from people.its a gut feeling. I totally agree with all these things . Schellea you’re such a beautiful person. We definitely need more of this. Kindness and humility. Treating people from all walks of life equally. Thank you for such an uplifting, fresh and honest vid. You’re wonderful. Sending you sunshine from Qld. Off to Tazzie tomorrow to celebrate our 30th wedding anniversary so I’ll be sending you snow tomorrow xxx🌞🙏🌺♥️❄️☃️🌬
You're awesome Tracey Higgins 👍 Thanks for your comment and have an amazing anniversary trip to Tazzie...Its the only part in Australia that I haven't visited...Congratulations ❤👏
I don't usually make comments on videos but this one is close to my heart. I believe everything your saying, its all about how you make the other person feel around you. My son is 19 and in his profession working with much older people than himself. I've told him to let the other people talk and make small comments if he has questions. Not to just be quite...smile and make simple greetings when you meet someone for the first time. As well have a joke to tell that everyone can enjoy on hand. Laughter is always a wonderful way to have someone open up to you. People will remember you when you make them laugh and listened to them. As well one thing I have always done, is when entering into a large room, pause at the entrance of the room before going right in. Almost like your being announced!.. lol It shows you have confidence, gives you a chance to see the entire room and know were the fire exits are.. lol..
This is better than any TED talk I've ever seen! I've heard and read about a lot of this advice. Some of it new to me. You present it in a slightly different way with great examples I haven't seen before. The part you spoke of in the beginning, I absolutely relate to 110%. At 59, I'm still struggling with self-worth and appearance. You reminded me about the part I've heard before about taking the focus off ourself and instead focusing on how we can serve someone. Finally, I do notice those who seem to be with low self-worth/shy (shyness is sign of low self-worth), and I will engage with them and try and help them feel good. I always thought I was just attracted to those more like me, when it would be better to hang with those with high self-esteem who are more positive (and tend to be naturally physically beautiful). The saying to "surround yourself with positive people." They can be intimidating for me, though, to where I feel even worse about myself! Maybe being attracted to shy, quiet people is also a case of having empathy, like you said. Thank you so much for this video!
This is the best video ever. In a me me me world, we all need these tips to be a decent human beings, to care and respect others. We always feel better when we don’t just focus on ourselves and make others feel important
The absolute best video I have seen!!! I have self confidence issues and fear of rejection. I have improved over the past few years and this video will help immensely!!! I also think we are all of the age where we should be supporting each other in a positive manner, not judging or tearing down!
You are indeed a beautiful woman. Ronald Dahl said it well “If you have good thoughts they will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely” One of my favourite quotes.
Connecting with children and teens has never been a probable for me, but connecting with adults has always been a problem. I am an introvert by nature, I also am an empath, and sensitive. Children and teens are open and want to make connections with adults around them, but adults do not. We get our little group of friends, and only want to interact with them! I, by nature hate small talk, but I do attract people all the time, complete strangers who just want someone to listen to them and say they understand their problems. This happens everywhere I go! Strangers come and tell me their life stories. I always pray that I have been the person whom they need to at moment. I think If we are open and honest with each other, become more attractive. I loved what you said about reflecting the one you are with, because now I know why I always reflect the emotion I see if another person’s face as I listen to them. Thanks Schellea, I loved your message in the video. Women are some of the cruelest people I have been around, as we like to tear each other down, when we should be our biggest supporters, as we have our own culture that transcends race, cultures, religion, etc. This message needs to be heard by all women.
Hi Schellea what a beautiful message. You are so right on all points. Yes lose the ego and focus on others. I was painfully shy as a young girl which is really a lack of confidence. It took a long time to come through that but even still struggle with it at times. The one tip about mirroring I learned a long time ago and it truly does work. I am an introvert and learned in order to communicate with extroverts or a dominate personality I had to do just that and it works wonderfully. Thanks so much for sharing this to the world xxoo Jackie
Hi Timeless Beauties Studio by Jacqueline! Thanks so much for your lovely comment... So much respect for introverted personalities doing UA-cam...Not easy...Ladies, may I suggest you check out Jacqueline's channel and give her some love xxx
The beginning made me tear up! I was told I am ugly by several people when I was a teen and it hurt me for a decade so much i would cry for hours at night. Until very recently I realized that those people were truly ugly even if some of them looked physically more attractive than me. I will teach my daughters these tips in case youtube or your video won't be available in the future.
Sending you a big hug julijakeit 🤗 Its one day at a time to rebuild your sense of self worth...and your self worth has nothing to do with the people who hurt you...Leave those thoughts in the past where they belong and decide to focus on your how amazing you are right now ❤️
This is wonderful, thank you very much! As a performing artist, I can confirm how true is what you are saying: stage fright or any negative thoughts kick in only when I am thinking about if I look fine, how will I sound like, is my technique alright, how will my audience like me, what will they think about me, me, ME. But when I sing with the intention of communicating the pictures and emotions in the song, giving nice moments to THEM, it changes everything. Then I can be in my sneakers and an old sweater, with the most minimal make-up, hair undone, problem teeth - and people tell me all the time how beautiful I am, what a gorgeous smile I have, etc. And don't you think this also works just when you walk in the street? I noticed that when I am out walking and can manage not to have any attention on myself or thinking about anything special, but I can truly be in the present and focus on the surroundings, people smile at me very friendly all the time, just strangers who pass by.
Without doubt this is your best video so far! I agree & can relate 100% to everything you shared. I love that you took your earlier negative experiences & turned them into a positive powerful way of living!!
Thank you for this wise lesson. Like you and many others here, I grew up with unkind, mean, and unending derogatory comments, until those outside voices became my voice. Your guidance on how to overcome this is wonderful and truly works. I recognize myself in the woman sitting alone in the farthest corner, wondering how soon she can leave, and will anyone really miss her if she just goes. When I was her, what would have made me feel welcome and at ease--kindness, genuine interest, gentleness--and I try to give that. It isn't easy--I'm in my mid-60s and still learning to overcome my insecurities (why would anyone want to talk to ME?) but learning serve not self really does make me feel beautiful.
Thanks so much for this! I adore your positivity & class. My self condemnation, believing bullies, or even negative talk in my upbringing, history of sexual & spousal abuse, plus societal expectations, has completely demolished my self esteem. Not because it has continued, but because my internal dialogue has cemented it. Thousands of times, while looking in the mirror, or passing a window, or the harsh lights of clothing store dressing rooms, my harsh assessment of myself is my worst bully. When I enter a room, my self talk prevents me from feeling confident. My shoulders slump. My gaze is floorbound. My face is impassive, or even defiant, daring people to judge me. I have been my own worst enemy! Why?! My heart is sweet, & I have such a love for everyone else. What can I do to change this damaging self dialogue? I love your beauty & confidence! Arriving at a point where walking into a crowded room would be exciting instead of inspiring dread, sounds absolutely heavenly. Apparently, my work has just begun.
I loved this video. It was so motivational! I actually do a lot of the things you suggested. I call it "My Shine". Getting my shine on. And it means I'm going to be me and make everyone happy and full of life.
Without a doubt, the BEST Advice EVER! It’s SO True, when we Give of ourselves to Others, when we make the meek feel safe, when we befriend the Lonely or as this Kind & lovely lady stated so eloquently, when we SERVE OTHERS IN NEED, we Grow, we benefit, we prosper. And I don’t mean that in any sort of selfish or self centered way...we Prosper because we become Better more Caring people. When I became a vegan, my life changed so much and entirely for the Better because I became so AWARE (or Woke) of the immense Suffering of Animals! I became less self absorbed and completely EMPATHETIC to the Needs and horrible ways than we cause pain and suffering to animals. To have Compassion, EMPATHY, and love for Others is truly Beautiful and enriches the world and it makes us all Better, Kinder people. When we are OF SERVICE TO OTHERS than I believe we have discovered an important part of Why we were put here. Thank you Shellea
This is a fabulous message and you are so right! Beauty is as beauty does. Early on in my channel I was unfairly attacked by some of the mean types of girls you referenced. I didn’t fight back. I just wished them well and walked away. Don’t associate with the mean girls as you become like those you associate with. I love your approach of focusing on helping others, not ourselves. That is the way to true happiness. Love your videos! You are on God’s path for you helping others in mass. Blessings to you in all you do. You are truly the most beautiful woman in the room, and you help us become more beautiful too. 💝
FiftyPlusBeauty I can’t imagine why someone would treat you that way as you are a woman who is so beautiful, so genuine, fun and wise. You have a lot to share and you’re my sunshine. I love every time I log in to youtube and see you have posted a new video. I learn something new every time I watch you. 😘
Thanks so much for this lovely commnet FiftyPlusBeauty! Beth I acknowledge the kindness in your heart ❤️ Im so sorry you experienced the mean girls! I can say that I was in shock when I realized what was going on behind the scenes here in this space too...Definitely not what I expected...Im happy for you that you walked away with grace...sending you a big hug ❤
Thank you so much for sharing with us. Life can be difficult, but we can each help make life more enjoyable with a little thought and compassion for others. You are wise, appreciated and lovely!! Hugs & Smiles to you!!
I can so relate! I have just started to accept compliments. I never fit in and believed I was not good enough or pretty enough or smart enough...not worthy. I use to think if someone gave me a compliment they had motive or wanted something or were just lying to make me feel better.
I’ve had the same thing happen to me. So I understand. I got bullied from family & others, always. It’s so hard to renew my mind. You sound like you went through the same thing I went through. Ty, for doing this video. P.s. I don’t know why anyone could say these things about you. You are beautiful.❤️
Great tips Schellea! Thanks for sharing all these wonderful lessons you have learnt along the way. I also learn't to hold my head up when I walk in the room, smile and look people in the eye, even offer to shake hands. This is a very charismatic way to introduce yourself and certainly gets peoples attention!! Great to use when going for a job interview!
We shared similar experiences. In my 50's now , is when I've finally begun to accept and love myself, this is confidence. You are a rare, kind soul. Your tips and encouragement have made a World of difference to me. Thank you kindly for sharing your light.
Hello beautiful Schellea! 😀 I love love love this video !!!😍😍😍 I felt really sad though when you talked about your own experience in the intro. You are such a gorgeous lady inside and out! I too suffered from bullying when I was a young teenager. It was at school and I started suffering from depression at that time. Women (or young girls) can be quite cruel indeed. But I developed confidence and self-esteem over time and I have excellent inter-personal skills now. I was quite unpopular at school but now I have tons of friends at work 😀. Thanks a lot for all the hard work you put into making these videos, they are amazing and they really brighten up my days 🌞. Much love, Sophie
Thanks so much for your comment Sophie Acapella! It seems like we don't have a leg to stand on when we are young and vulnerable...Im happy that you have found your true self and lots of friends as an adult... and I'm sure you have true compassion too...Have a fabulous day 🌸
This was one of the most profound videos I have watched on UA-cam so far. I wish every 14-year-old girl could watch this video and develop these graceful social skills. Thank you for a wonderful take on being attractive!
Whenever another woman starts to gleefully gossip about someone we both know, I interrupt her by saying " You are telling me this because...?" It kills the conversion stone dead!
I’ve had breast cancer and lost my right breast some people call me ugly as I was going through it and lost my hair but I’ve learned inside that I am beautiful. Inside and out and when my husband kisses my breast scar I know I am the most loved in all ways x
Thankyou for this common sense advice that we know but dont think about when we are in these situations!!! You are a beautiful genuine woman...it just shows right thru the screen!!! Much Love!!will try these tips!!❤🌹
I believe this has been the most inspirational UA-cam video I have ever seen. I would have thought your youth was entirely charmed and protected as you project such self confidence and radiate inner beauty and kindness. To now know that we all seem to face the same obstacles is enlightening for me. I admit that I see myself as one who can’t wait to share my own experiences that are similar to stories being told and I need to work on that - I think I feel that I need to be entertaining to be liked. What a lot we women have to work through just to feel like we are enough. With tears in my eyes and gratitude in my heart Thank you Shellea!!
Thanks so much Terry Ensslen!I acknowledge the kindness in your heart ❤️ Charmed and protected was what I would dream of as a child..But as I can see now, that wouldn't have served the me I have become...Thanks so much for taking the time to comment ❤️
I sat here for 5 minutes trying to think of the right comment to make. I wanted it to bring a little joy to your day so here it is. Thank you. Your words mattered to me.
Fantastic video!! I call that knowing the Holy Spirit. And u brought a point to me. Me who really does not trust. I can trust the Holy Spirit to let me know if this person has good intentions or bad. Thank you for the reminder
I have had that same low esteem experience and reactions. You are awesomely beautiful, so they were probably jealous. You give hope to us all! To hang with a negative group reflects on you. Definitely walk away.
From the first video of yours that I watched, I felt your energy and the calmness inside of you and that pulled me in to subscribe and want to listen to you. I have always tried to make other women feel comfortable around me, though many times, if they do not wish to receive because they have a preconceived conception of me or just don't feel the good energy I have, they walk away, It used to bother me, but now I just think it's sad that someone lost out on some good energy!
Such a great video I can really relate. I went through the same thing as a child and young lady never feeling good about myself, yet now when I look back at old photots I was nothing like the images I had in my head, I wasn't fat and my nose fit my face yet I never saw that back then and grew up shy and unsure of myself. Once I hit 50 I saw past that any my confidence has grown, love your advice your a gift to us ladies over 50.
Very good advice! I especially like the mirroring technique you shared. Have never thought of doing that. Thank you for sharing wise tips that are simple yet powerful!
Thank you for emphasizing that true beauty comes from within - from taking the time to actually listen to others & NOT fall into the whole assanine 'gossip trap'. You are absolutely correct about that too....if they talk about everyone else that way, honey they are gonna be talkin' about YOU that way too. #1 Lesson:. Be Kind. That's it!! 😊
This is the type of woman I am becoming. Notice I said “I am becoming”, instead of “I want to be”.😉 Thank you for these tips. It’s not about me, it’s about them.
As Maya Angelou said, "people will forget what you said and people will forget what you did, but people will always remember how you made them feel".
One of my life's mantras!
Natasha Arvanitis that’s the truth
Natasha Arvanitis .... I totally agree one kind word to a total stranger could make someone's day… I wish everyone would be a little more compassionate sometimes… Kindness does not cost anything🤷🏻♀️💜😁
@Natasha Arvanitis 🙂 So True ❤
Kimberly Dickson ❤️
This was probably the best 13 minutes I have ever spent watching UA-cam. Not only are you gorgeous physically, you are a wise woman who is an incredibly eloquent speaker. Thank you for passing some love around a female community that, as a group, can quite often be a really tough crowd!!! Much love❤️💕❣❤️💕
Well said!
I agree 100%! So happy to be following her. :)
So happy to be following this lovely lady too, Sherri!!! Thank you for your kind words, Deanna! She makes 50+ seem more appealing than our 20's lol .....love it🙋🏼🙋🏼🙋🏼💗
JC More totally agree with you. She’s so amazing. Everything she says is true, especially about listening to people. Glad I came across her channel.
Hi @JC More! I really appreciate your lovely comment...You are so sweet and you too are passing the love around...Thank you...we are all in this together... Have an amazing week 💕
Brought tears to my eyes. I moved out of my hometown because of gossip and bullying. Isn't being beautiful all about building character anyway? I recently read something which said: I don't want friends who talk about me behind my back, I want friends who pray for me. I am like you and can feel energy. I simply do not spend time with anyone anymore that drains me. Would rather be alone. Thank you for this incredible video. You must be a wonderful friend to those around you.
Hi Kasey! Thanks so much for your lovely comment... Im sorry you had to experience that, it must have been traumatic...I think it is very healing to spend time alone and regroup before going out into the world again...Have a self care weekend 💕
Omg. Me too. I was happy in high school with the whole town not just my school. After college and a year in Atlanta, I moved home to teach high school. I was single and very rejected by people who had once been my friend's, CHURCH PEOPLE. My social life was in Atlanta, Tallahassee, Jacksonville. I moved to a larger city in my early 30s. Everyone here likes me. I love the people here and would never go home.
I couldn’t agree more with all of your tips! When I hear women talking about another woman, I always say “Really? I really like them” it takes the sting out of the tail of the conversation many times ❤️🇬🇧
YES! It often stops them in their tracks and they stopped talking about that person too!
I love your tip Maria In Her 50s! Thanks for sharing with us 🙏
Youre a good influence Meeps! Have a fabulous day 🌸
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I'm so glad I found you. Have you written a book on this and related advice? I have just turned 70 y.o., retired and divorced two years ago. Now I don't know what to do, what to wear, how to carry myself/ present myself. But you are teaching me everything, from makeup, importance of exercise, consider others first. A week ago I met a man while at the exercise club, I haven't been back since, he seemed "interested and interesting".......I panicked. Now I can go back feeling confident; your advice has empowered me and given me a place to start and enjoy my retirement. Thank You! You are special.
Sending positive vibes. You are going to do 👍
I grew up with a sister a year younger than me and she is absolutely beautiful. I was always compared to her and adults were not kind . Now I am 51 and she is 50 and I still am the plain Jane and she is gorgeous. I have struggled all my life with low self esteem. But I do compliment other woman and girls because I know how important it is to be kind. You are so beautiful it seems strange to hear you had low self esteem. Your smile is genuinely that of a beautiful soul.
@Jacqui McArthur Im sending you a big hug 🤗❤️ Start seeing yourself as gorgeous too...You have a kind heart and that is so attractive...Lets imagine that you have 40 years left to live...and your whole belief system changed from thinking physical beauty is the be all and end all....to believing that kindness, caring, compassion, creativity and vitality equals beauty....do you think you could experience the next 40 years in a different way? Do you think you would see yourself as beautiful? Do you think this would be do able? 🙌
@@fabulous50s I am so blown away that you replied. LOL. I have 2 beautiful sons. They think I'm gorgeous so I suppose that is all that matters. Thank you for your kindness!
Jacqui McArthur Oh Jacque, the fact that your sons KNOW you to be beautiful should settle it for you! I so encourage you to begin... from this moment forward to DO... think, speak, act just as Schellea said in her personal response to you. Just do THAT! If you do so, instead of the way you have felt and believed about yourself in the past... you will begin to unfold and bloom, because it IS YOUR TIME to shine! To begin with, you probably will feel ridiculous... and that it is not authentic... but just continue following this plan of action, regardless how you feel about it. Focus more on building others up in a genuine manner, but build yourself up at the same time, inwardly. IF you will do this, consistently, your next 40 years WILL convince you that this truly works! Best wishes in seeing the truth and living it! Practice makes better, so practice only what you want more of! -Hugs!
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My sister is just like you! She still to this day at 46 is jealous and people still tell her how gorgeous I am and ask if I am a model in front of her. Mind you she is attractive but just not nearly as good looking as me and as confident as me.
What a beautiful soul you are. Thank you for caring about people xx
You're amazing @Anita Rickey! Thanks for taking the time to comment ❤️
Thank you for this video. I clicked on it thinking it was going to be about makeup or clothes but I was pleasantly surprised. I love that you focused on inner beauty and how to treat others. I’ve just discovered your channel in the last few months and really enjoy the content. I’m 54 and I enjoy watching someone close in age because they can relate more to my life and experiences. Keep up the great work! 💕
Hi Candy Mitchell and a warm welcome to fabulous50s! I'm happy you are here...Thanks so much for watching and have an amazing weekend 💕
Candy- I wrote my public comment before reading any others. After reading yours, it seems we have had the same experience.
Leigh-Ann H I love these videos. I do watch some younger youtubers but having someone closer in age knows what I’m experiencing.
My Nana has a saying ... what Suzie says about Sally says more about Suzie than Sally ... l always remember that !!! 😊
Hi biggyziggy 577! Sounds like a smart Nana. Have a fabulous day 🌸
I value this statement greatly. It’s hard not to want to criticize a coworker out loud especially if they have gone out of their way to make you look bad so they can make themselves top dog at work. Thank you for sharing 💗
Nana has a lot of wisdom!!!!
@@coffeebreak247 Yes it's hard yet when we don't react & join their chain of pain their behavior will expose their true motives & people eyes will be opened
I live by that rule!!
Thank you Schellea for this beautiful message. You made me cry and feel better about myself. I never feel confident when walking in a room, yet I know I'm a good person. I never feel like I'm as good as everyone around me. You just taught me some techniques that I can use today. You are truly beautiful on the inside and out - thank you!
Thank you for your kind words @Tracy Price 🙏 I appreciate you taking the time to comment🌸 Start making a mental note of all the good things you have achieved over your lifetime and focus on that...
@@fabulous50s Thank you for your nice reply Schellea ... The day after I watched your video I went to work with a different mind set. I was friendly with a coworker that I would normally avoid & she responded positively to me. It made me feel like a better person. Days later her daughter passed away suddenly & I feel so bad for her. I'm just glad I watched your video. Thank you again!
@@tracyprice3314 I'm so sorry to hear that, Tracy.... it's very beautiful that you were able to send some kindness and love to that coworker... we are all passing more love around because of this beautiful video message!
I don't know why I care so much about the way I look. I just feel like something died when I lost my eggs. I am no longer reproductive..I feel like I don't have a place in this world. It's very confusing. I know that it is stupid. I really want to feel better. I want someone to see me as a valuable person.
My childhood was exactly like that and you’re right, I too developed empathy and a sixth sense. I finally overcame the negative! Thank you, great video! 💓
Melissa Bledsoe Im sending you a big hug 🤗❤️
Funny how this turns around, completely.....The same people/types that I USED to allow me to feel inferior to, I now have a sense of pity for, in a loving way.
Every day, I go out of my way to make someone feel good. It can be anything - the color of nail polish, an article of clothing, pair of shoes, hair color or style... I've also noticed that if its someone who isn't nice, it will soften her heart. After that, we have an instant connection everytime we see one another.
I loved reading your comment Melinda! ❤️
If only we knew in our 20s what we know now...great video 💞💞
I sent this video to my 23 yo daughter!
Dorothy Jenrette that’s awesome 🥰🥰
Thanks Lisa Costigan! Can you even imagine? It would be so healing if we all got the chance to go back and reset our belief systems...Have a fabulous day 🌸
Dorothy Jenrette ❤️
Lisa Costigan Great idea! I’m sending it to my 30 year old daughter.
This is great! I do Tip #4 frequently at parties: If I find someone standing alone, I go up and start a conversation with that person. Then someone walks by, and I introduce the two of them, trying for a three-way conversation. Eventually, I can continue mingling, but I've just made a connection between two people. It also helps ME not feel awkward at parties. I love your approach to life. Thank you for doing this channel. I also have a question: I like your jewelry in several of your videos. Where do you shop for accessories? Thank you!
What a beautiful message!!!! I am a highly sensitive person and an empath. This has made my life quite difficult in many ways, but I also understand a lot more about people because of it. You are so right about everything you said here, and especially about cruel things from childhood that stick in a person’s mind .
Thank you for this wonderful message, it’s so needed in today’s world ❤️🌈🌷😊
Thanks for taking the time to comment @Linda Bilsbury! I can guess you are a very kind person 🌸
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Back in the day my sweet Mom would say , it's not how you look but how you act. :-) Great video
Thanks Deborah Allen! Same with my Mum...Have a fabulous day 🌸
#Truth! Thank you!
AND...
( Matthew 7:12 says to treat other people the way you want them to treat you.)
Hi Shelley Oswald! Thanks so much for watching...Have a great weekend 💕
The most important thing I’ve learned so far when relating to others is to be the example of what you want to see in a person. It’s the best way to bring out good examples in others that will truly make a difference in the world.
Hi Schellea, I think growing up, you were bullied because others saw your beauty inside and out. It was a beauty that you were not aware of, but clear to others. I developed that 6th sense too, because of the very things you have described here. I can tell immediately who people really are opposed to the people they pretend to be. Great uplifting video.! Thank you.
Thank you Sallie C! Kind comments come from kind people ❤️
I've just turned 47, but I love to be part of your community even if I am 3 years early. Thank you for your smile and for the gentleness you spread 😊
I totally agree with you! In Italy they would call it: sei luce que entra - you are the light coming in! Ciao belissima💕
That's beautiful Anja H! Thank you and have an amazing day ❤️
In Egypt, I have heard, "Here comes the honey"- as you bring in the sweetness. 😊
That is so beautiful, Anja! And so is your name ❤️
I am saving this to my favorites...the 8th grade mean girl’s words took decades to overcome. You have good advice for how to engage people in a new social setting. Well done.
I feel your pain! Boys in 9th grade homeroom, "Yeah, she's really nice, too bad she's so ugly."
@@misskit866 And then she grows up into a drop-dead gorgeous girl. If we only had the confidence we have now and if we only knew back then what we know now, how extraordinary would that have been to have the wisdom and insight to know our worth even if we are not accepted into the world of popularity and acceptance. 🍒🌼🍒
Hi Teresa, I am so sorry your feelings were hurt and that you carried it with you for a very long time. I truly hope your heart and mind are filled with every beautiful thing that brings true happiness. I know exactly what you are talking about, though. The girl who also said a very mean thing to me in front of a mix of 7th and 8th graders was also an 8th grader. I was only in 7th grade. She was tall and thin with long gorgeous silky hair and very beautiful. She was going into modeling. She had the world in her hands but felt the need to elevate herself even higher by hurting my feelings. Those things can stay with us for a long time. I never fit in anywhere. I was always on the outside looking in. When I turned 17, I blossomed and everything changed for me, and I have never looked back. I am confident and happy and love being in my own company and love being me and don't need anyone to validate my existence. However, as Schaella has said, I think my experience has made me empathetic to girls who are going through the same thing I did, and I want to build them up and help give them the confidence to see their beauty and worth so they don't go through the heartache of not being accepted but to be confident enough to be her own person at such a vulnerable and awkward age 💓
This video was so meaningful to me and it will definitely be one that I will watch over and over! I am 65 and still dealing with feelings of not being good enough. Thank you for
sharing your personal experiences and knowledge. You are a great motivational speaker! ❤️
I’m crying at just the mere suggestion of what I can be. I was that girl who felt unworthy for many years too. Your channel has added to my recovery. Thank you, Schellae.
Sending you a big hug PoetrySkep 🤗 Stay fabulous ❤🌸
You may have been bullied because you were very attractive and smart and they were jealous. I bet anything! XO
Cathy McVeigh Im sending you a big hug 🤗❤️
Cathy McVeigh yes! I agree with you on that! 👍😉
It's true, people will do that. I know a man who has 3 daughters. One is very naturally attractive, I nearly gasped the first time I saw her. One I've never seen, he tells me she was so physically beautiful, she was bullied by other females all the time out of jealousy. She ended her life as a teenager. I worked with a woman who was evil toward me. We were both in early 30's. Finally one day, I had the courage to ask why? Because she was envious that I was so thin and had discipline with my diet (healthy) and that she couldn't do it. Another time and job, I worked with a woman who displayed absolute disgust with me. Finally found it was because I got the secretary job she applied for and didn't get it. It's so sad what women do to each other. Women should be supporting each other in sisterhood. We need that more than anything right now.
I agree with that comment
My mother always said they were just jealous
Thank you for your video. I was bullied in elementary school and told I was ugly. That stayed with me my whole life and I'm now 56 yo and still battle with those feelings. You're beautiful. I enjoy your videos. This one in particular ministered to my heart.
I could cried looking at this beautiful lady everything you went through is exactly the way I grew up.
Lily G Im sending you a big hug 🤗❤️ Thank you
Me too. I never felt pretty, smart, or that I fit in. To make matters worse... we moved a lot with my fathers promotions. So I was always the "new kid."
I learned to fake being self assured.... I should win an Oscar. Lol. I'm 56 now.... a bit more confident (a lot more "I dont care what others think.")
Wow! This video made me cry! I understand the bullying and even at 48, the impact of it is still there! Even at my age, I still walk into a room and immediately think people are judging and talking about me! As we know, some adults are no kinder than a lot of kids! But, this video really helps! Thank you!
I didn't consciously realize this, but the most attractive and admirable women in my life do many of these things. Thanks for distilling all this wonderful info into doable tips!
Thanks so much for watching Meredith Jackson! Have a great weekend ❤️
I am guilty of giving my own experiences when someone is sharing theirs. I need to stop that.
It's really great that you are aware of that! Sending you big hugs from Australia xx
I am too. Sadly. I get caught up with gossip and want to give my input as if this is gonna make me popular!! No it won’t!!
Yes perception can heal or hurt ! Don’t ever take what others think , you are your own person !
Hi Elizabeth Ann ferrario! Thanks so much for watching...Have a great weekend 💕
As we say here in Texas, “Preach, Sister!” Watching your video was like having an honest counseling session with a very wise woman! You definitely reminded us what “real beauty” looks like. We all need “real wisdom” to combat the lies the world seems to tell women “over a certain age.” My aunt used to say, “Pretty is as Pretty does.” You certainly display that by taking time to share such an important message! Focusing on others truly brings real validation that we have worth and something left to give! Those people who were mean to you probably have no idea how much they helped you grow into the beautiful person-inside & out-you’ve become!
Thanks Lulu I really appreciate your comment...Thanks for taking the time to say hi ❤️
I completely relate to the first part of this video about being a child and carrying burdens into adulthood. Thank you so much for sharing these wonderful tips. You are a special empathetic person, beautiful inside and out ❤️
Thank you for your kind words Connie Hewitt 🙏 I appreciate you taking the time to say hi 🌸
Your story is my story.
The words that made me feel bad about myself were from my mother.
After years of wasting time hating myself and lots of counselling I am finally the person I wish I always was.
I am 50 and I have let go of all those negative messages and thoughts.
I am free and it is not about how I look but who I am and who I have always been.
I agree 100% with what you are saying in this video.
You are amazing
Keep spreading the message
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Hi, Shellie, yes that is so true, everything you said, I was that shy person, mostly because I grew up with a super critical mother, my faith has helped to focus me from myself to others and it really does work, thanks so much, such an important message for the younger ladies as well as we more mature ladies xxx
Hi chrissie hopkins! Thanks so much for sharing your comment...Stay fabulous 💕
Hi Sally God bless you. After my husband died i moved to another city. I started neglecting myself until i saw you on youtube. Im turning 70 jrs and was so excited when you teached us how to aply makeup for woman over 50. And how to care for our hair. I have been using your tips and started getting compliments. I also started feeling happy and starting to feel good. Thank you soo much for all your wonderfull tips. You are absolutely amazing and so beautifull.
"other peoples opinions of us does not matter" we were created by the universe and we were all made perfect just the way we are!! 🙋🏻🙌🏻luv yourself 💜 we don't have to conform to societies ideas of what s beautiful and what's NOT ..… BE YOURSELF!! 🤷🏻♀️💯
Anita Carter the problem with this mentality is being “yourself” should not excuse your responsibility of taking care of your bodies and be healthy.
Anita Carter totally agree!
Yes I agree, and I'm not talking about not taking care of yourself or your health … I'm talking about self love and acceptance and not always trying to fit in with what everyone else looks like and will be excepted by everyone else… Be the best version of yourself for sure!! 🤷🏻♀️💜 don't live for validation from other people… Please yourself, be happy with yourself!!! 🙋🏻🙌🏻⚡️😉 this is not a competition… When you compare yourself to others you insult yourself!!! 😘🤗
Anita: Perfectly stated! I believe God made me, however, you are spot on! People that try and force their opinions of “responsibility to take care of yourself” do not pay for healthcare or suffer any possible consequences of other people’s choices!” I’ll bet they’re the ones sitting around gossiping about how other people SHOULD be taking care of themselves!
If you haven't written a book yet you absolutely NEED to. I just found you on YT about a week ago and I'm watching every video I can find. You are such an insightful, graceful woman. Thank you for that 💗
Just your voice and the way you speak makes me feel so relaxed. You are such a genuine and kind person. Love all your videos.
Thank you for your kind words Colleen S 🙏 I appreciate you taking the time to say hi 🌸
I'm highly sensitive in life and was bullied in school never fit in. I did not have the right clothes etc.. I was just always different. As I got older I'm glad to be me and walk my own path. I appreciate you sharing this. Your a caring gentle soul. Hugs xxoo
Hi Badfingerbabe777... I love and appreciate different! Thanks so much for watching...Have a great weekend 💕
I had a same experience and still at 62 I doubt myself I work in progress thanks so much for sharing ❤️
We are all a work in progress Denise Younger! ❤ Have a fabulous day 🌸
Hi Schellea, you are beautiful lady inside and out! I grew up very shy and insecure never feeling comfortable in my own skin. Growing up in a dysfunctional family didn’t help ! Growing up with two sisters that were jealous of me was sad. People outside of my family would always complement me on how pretty I was, but never felt pretty. Never was bullied by strangers, but found I was bullied by my sisters. I now work on complementing others and being kind ! It really dose make you feel better about yourself! And people want to be around you. Thank you! For this video😃❤️
Hi Beautiful Lola Kathol! Stay fabulous...Have an amazing week ahead ❤️
Taking a daily effort for ones self and changing the inner message of self love is sooo important! ❤️
So important Melissa Bledsoe! Have a fabulous day 🌸
So much good sense. Keep away from negative people who just bring you down and stay positive yourself to attract positive people.
Thanks so much Jan Cross! 🌈🦋
You are sooo beautiful in every way 💖 This was sooo uplifting !! And I was thinking how when I am at a party it is not the best looking man or woman that I find beautiful but the person with sparkling eyes, a genuine radiant smile and a warmth about them - that is soooo BEAUTIFUL and attractive 💖 The people that are only judging by looks are not worth the time - especially at this age. Thank you for a beautiful uplifting vid 💖💖💖💖💖
Everything you said can be summed up like this; smile, be nice and show respect. It really is that simple!
Such a good video I felt like that as a teen and most of my adult life, my Mother was not kind and criticized my looks .If get a compliment now I say thank you instead of trying to put myself down like I had most of my life. Thanks for this video it is the best pep talk
Thanks beautiful free meow! If a mother is comfortable making her child feel bad about herself...the problem is not the child! Please remember this...You are not what someone else thinks of you ❤
fabulous50s you are such a sweet lady
Oh my, I’m so sorry you had to experience those bad feelings about yourself growing up. No one should be made to feel that way about themselves. That being said. You certainly have done a wonderful job of healing yourself. I’m sure it took a lot of work and self help to over come that. You are so sweet and caring and inspirational. You are beautiful INSIDE AND OUT. You are a huge inspiration to me. Your videos have become my go to when ever I need tips or information on anything from makeup to self help. Thank you Schellea for sharing. 💕
Thank You Schellea, beautiful video many of us have had the same things, thank you for being caring enough to open up about the pain you endured, and have triumphed over and giving us what works so we can have Victory. You are a beautiful soul...thank you ... Thank You
I appreciate you taking the time to comment Shelly Reese! Have a beautiful day 🌸
When I was a young girl my mother told me that they were just jealous of me, I truly didn’t understand what jealousy was . I’m older and wiser and totally understand what jealousy is, I also didn’t let that very awful emotion change who I am , it’s truly about them not me. I can appreciate another woman’s beauty and not be envious, never have never will, it’s almost like I’m devoid of that emotion but I do recognize it when it’s there.
Donna Ocasio ❤️
Shell I absolutely love this video! Again you are a total angel brought to us to help women by empowering themselves. I was never the blonde bombshell I am today. I was skinny lanky with mousy Brown hair. That ugly duckling turned into a beautiful Swan but I too had many poor experiences. For me the best thing you touched on was when you walk in the Room shoulders back chin up, own it girl. However I am a culprit of talking about my experiences that I need to work on. We all have talents given to us by God and sometimes they're hard to be seen. There's a saying and show business common never never never talk bad about somebody, No matter how much you don't like them. It's very unbecoming. I hope we can all start trying to raise our daughters to become ladies and not trash talking selfish girls. Forgiveness goes a long way. Have a wonderful day my friends!!!
Hi Beautiful LA Kierstead! I love that you are feeling great about who you are today, despite what you have been through...Sound advice from you xx Have an amazing week ahead ❤️
Your manner, tone, and soft facial expression is so warm...yes you are beautiful, but the light that comes from you is from your heart...I love how your advice is always from a loving place!
Kat Brinson ❤️
This is hands down the best video on UA-cam about beauty. Your tips will help women with their own anxiety, fears and insecurities, while helping people around them, as well. Very wise words, thank you.
Im so happy you enjoyed the video Katja Sonkamuotka Thanks for taking the time to share your comment ❤️ Stay fabulous 🌺
You are so sweet and relatable. You show yourself in all honesty, but at the same time you do not self-deprecate. I opened this video not because I'd like to be the most beautiful woman in the room (ie not to compete with other women), but because I want to feel more attractive in my own skin, for my own self and for the man I love. The first part of the video where you tell that you felt unattractive for a long time really moved me. I have too, all my life, to this day. So, thank you for sharing your story and how you've overcome it. You are doing good in the world. I firmly believe that women need to stop seeing each other as rivals, and start uniting and empowering each other. You are doing this. What makes you beautiful is your soul shining through. Hugs.
Thank you so much for your kind words No Name 🙏 I appreciate you taking the time to comment and share your experience. I have the same wish for how women treat each other as you ❤️
Omg Schellea. I do this, I can feel a vibe from people.its a gut feeling. I totally agree with all these things . Schellea you’re such a beautiful person. We definitely need more of this. Kindness and humility. Treating people from all walks of life equally. Thank you for such an uplifting, fresh and honest vid. You’re wonderful. Sending you sunshine from Qld. Off to Tazzie tomorrow to celebrate our 30th wedding anniversary so I’ll be sending you snow tomorrow xxx🌞🙏🌺♥️❄️☃️🌬
You're awesome Tracey Higgins 👍 Thanks for your comment and have an amazing anniversary trip to Tazzie...Its the only part in Australia that I haven't visited...Congratulations ❤👏
I don't usually make comments on videos but this one is close to my heart. I believe everything your saying, its all about how you make the other person feel around you.
My son is 19 and in his profession working with much older people than himself. I've told him to let the other people talk and make small comments if he has questions. Not to just be quite...smile and make simple greetings when you meet someone for the first time. As well have a joke to tell that everyone can enjoy on hand. Laughter is always a wonderful way to have someone open up to you. People will remember you when you make them laugh and listened to them.
As well one thing I have always done, is when entering into a large room, pause at the entrance of the room before going right in. Almost like your being announced!.. lol It shows you have confidence, gives you a chance to see the entire room and know were the fire exits are.. lol..
Thanks for taking the time to share your comment with us Carmen Parsons! Have a great day 🌈
I love everything about this video! So much truth to what you said.
Hey Monique MoMo! I'm happy you enjoyed the video...Have an amazing day 🤗
This is better than any TED talk I've ever seen! I've heard and read about a lot of this advice. Some of it new to me. You present it in a slightly different way with great examples I haven't seen before. The part you spoke of in the beginning, I absolutely relate to 110%. At 59, I'm still struggling with self-worth and appearance. You reminded me about the part I've heard before about taking the focus off ourself and instead focusing on how we can serve someone. Finally, I do notice those who seem to be with low self-worth/shy (shyness is sign of low self-worth), and I will engage with them and try and help them feel good. I always thought I was just attracted to those more like me, when it would be better to hang with those with high self-esteem who are more positive (and tend to be naturally physically beautiful). The saying to "surround yourself with positive people." They can be intimidating for me, though, to where I feel even worse about myself! Maybe being attracted to shy, quiet people is also a case of having empathy, like you said. Thank you so much for this video!
This is the best video ever. In a me me me world, we all need these tips to be a decent human beings, to care and respect others. We always feel better when we don’t just focus on ourselves and make others feel important
Hi Liya Smiles! Thanks so much for your lovely comment... Have an amazing week 💕
The absolute best video I have seen!!! I have self confidence issues and fear of rejection. I have improved over the past few years and this video will help immensely!!! I also think we are all of the age where we should be supporting each other in a positive manner, not judging or tearing down!
A smile is the most infectious thing you can wear...
Love it Cruising Mimi ❤️
You are indeed a beautiful woman. Ronald Dahl said it well “If you have good thoughts they will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely” One of my favourite quotes.
Thank you for this beautiful message Schellea, you are so eloquent and so wise. I hope you’re having a wonderful April, much love 🌸☀️
Thanks beautiful Jules McKay! Have an amazing Sunday ❤️
Connecting with children and teens has never been a probable for me, but connecting with adults has always been a problem. I am an introvert by nature, I also am an empath, and sensitive. Children and teens are open and want to make connections with adults around them, but adults do not. We get our little group of friends, and only want to interact with them! I, by nature hate small talk, but I do attract people all the time, complete strangers who just want someone to listen to them and say they understand their problems. This happens everywhere I go! Strangers come and tell me their life stories. I always pray that I have been the person whom they need to at moment. I think If we are open and honest with each other, become more attractive. I loved what you said about reflecting the one you are with, because now I know why I always reflect the emotion I see if another person’s face as I listen to them. Thanks Schellea, I loved your message in the video. Women are some of the cruelest people I have been around, as we like to tear each other down, when we should be our biggest supporters, as we have our own culture that transcends race, cultures, religion, etc.
This message needs to be heard by all women.
Hi Schellea what a beautiful message. You are so right on all points. Yes lose the ego and focus on others. I was painfully shy as a young girl which is really a lack of confidence. It took a long time to come through that but even still struggle with it at times. The one tip about mirroring I learned a long time ago and it truly does work. I am an introvert and learned in order to communicate with extroverts or a dominate personality I had to do just that and it works wonderfully. Thanks so much for sharing this to the world xxoo Jackie
Hi Timeless Beauties Studio by Jacqueline! Thanks so much for your lovely comment... So much respect for introverted personalities doing UA-cam...Not easy...Ladies, may I suggest you check out Jacqueline's channel and give her some love xxx
The beginning made me tear up! I was told I am ugly by several people when I was a teen and it hurt me for a decade so much i would cry for hours at night. Until very recently I realized that those people were truly ugly even if some of them looked physically more attractive than me. I will teach my daughters these tips in case youtube or your video won't be available in the future.
Sending you a big hug julijakeit 🤗 Its one day at a time to rebuild your sense of self worth...and your self worth has nothing to do with the people who hurt you...Leave those thoughts in the past where they belong and decide to focus on your how amazing you are right now ❤️
Great advice, not only women but men's can learn from this. TFS
Thanks beautiful Eloise Green! Have an amazing day ❤️
This is wonderful, thank you very much! As a performing artist, I can confirm how true is what you are saying: stage fright or any negative thoughts kick in only when I am thinking about if I look fine, how will I sound like, is my technique alright, how will my audience like me, what will they think about me, me, ME.
But when I sing with the intention of communicating the pictures and emotions in the song, giving nice moments to THEM, it changes everything. Then I can be in my sneakers and an old sweater, with the most minimal make-up, hair undone, problem teeth - and people tell me all the time how beautiful I am, what a gorgeous smile I have, etc.
And don't you think this also works just when you walk in the street? I noticed that when I am out walking and can manage not to have any attention on myself or thinking about anything special, but I can truly be in the present and focus on the surroundings, people smile at me very friendly all the time, just strangers who pass by.
Hi Gerák Andrea énekes - Andrea Gerák, Singer! I loved reading your comment, lots of wisdom there. Have a great day 🌸
Without doubt this is your best video so far! I agree & can relate 100% to everything you shared. I love that you took your earlier negative experiences & turned them into a positive powerful way of living!!
Hey April T! I'm happy you enjoyed the video...Have an amazing day 🤗
Thank you for this wise lesson. Like you and many others here, I grew up with unkind, mean, and unending derogatory comments, until those outside voices became my voice. Your guidance on how to overcome this is wonderful and truly works. I recognize myself in the woman sitting alone in the farthest corner, wondering how soon she can leave, and will anyone really miss her if she just goes. When I was her, what would have made me feel welcome and at ease--kindness, genuine interest, gentleness--and I try to give that. It isn't easy--I'm in my mid-60s and still learning to overcome my insecurities (why would anyone want to talk to ME?) but learning serve not self really does make me feel beautiful.
Thank you for your pearls of wisdom!😊💕
Thanks Linda Field! Have a fabulous day 🌸
Thanks so much for this! I adore your positivity & class.
My self condemnation, believing bullies, or even negative talk in my upbringing, history of sexual & spousal abuse, plus societal expectations, has completely demolished my self esteem. Not because it has continued, but because my internal dialogue has cemented it. Thousands of times, while looking in the mirror, or passing a window, or the harsh lights of clothing store dressing rooms, my harsh assessment of myself is my worst bully. When I enter a room, my self talk prevents me from feeling confident. My shoulders slump. My gaze is floorbound. My face is impassive, or even defiant, daring people to judge me. I have been my own worst enemy! Why?!
My heart is sweet, & I have such a love for everyone else. What can I do to change this damaging self dialogue?
I love your beauty & confidence! Arriving at a point where walking into a crowded room would be exciting instead of inspiring dread, sounds absolutely heavenly. Apparently, my work has just begun.
I loved this video. It was so motivational! I actually do a lot of the things you suggested. I call it "My Shine". Getting my shine on. And it means I'm going to be me and make everyone happy and full of life.
I love this Melinda Smith! Have a fabulous day 🌸
Without a doubt, the BEST Advice EVER! It’s SO True, when we Give of ourselves to Others, when we make the meek feel safe, when we befriend the Lonely or as this Kind & lovely lady stated so eloquently, when we SERVE OTHERS IN NEED, we Grow, we benefit, we prosper. And I don’t mean that in any sort of selfish or self centered way...we Prosper because we become Better more Caring people. When I became a vegan, my life changed so much and entirely for the Better because I became so AWARE (or Woke) of the immense Suffering of Animals! I became less self absorbed and completely EMPATHETIC to the Needs and horrible ways than we cause pain and suffering to animals. To have Compassion, EMPATHY, and love for Others is truly Beautiful and enriches the world and it makes us all Better, Kinder people. When we are OF SERVICE TO OTHERS than I believe we have discovered an important part of Why we were put here. Thank you Shellea
This is a fabulous message and you are so right! Beauty is as beauty does. Early on in my channel I was unfairly attacked by some of the mean types of girls you referenced. I didn’t fight back. I just wished them well and walked away. Don’t associate with the mean girls as you become like those you associate with.
I love your approach of focusing on helping others, not ourselves. That is the way to true happiness. Love your videos! You are on God’s path for you helping others in mass. Blessings to you in all you do. You are truly the most beautiful woman in the room, and you help us become more beautiful too. 💝
FiftyPlusBeauty I can’t imagine why someone would treat you that way as you are a woman who is so beautiful, so genuine, fun and wise. You have a lot to share and you’re my sunshine. I love every time I log in to youtube and see you have posted a new video. I learn something new every time I watch you. 😘
Snuppeline. Bless you!! What a kind thing to say. I truly appreciate that!! I hope you are having a wonderful weekend!! 💝😌💝
Thanks so much for this lovely commnet FiftyPlusBeauty! Beth I acknowledge the kindness in your heart ❤️ Im so sorry you experienced the mean girls! I can say that I was in shock when I realized what was going on behind the scenes here in this space too...Definitely not what I expected...Im happy for you that you walked away with grace...sending you a big hug ❤
Wow, Thank you Shelley, I'm loving all your tips and starting to feel great about myself. X
Thank you so much for sharing with us. Life can be difficult, but we can each help make life more enjoyable with a little thought and compassion for others. You are wise, appreciated and lovely!! Hugs & Smiles to you!!
Hi D. H.! Thanks so much for your lovely comment... Have an amazing weekend 💕
I can so relate! I have just started to accept compliments. I never fit in and believed I was not good enough or pretty enough or smart enough...not worthy. I use to think if someone gave me a compliment they had motive or wanted something or were just lying to make me feel better.
Love your positive messages, Shellea!
Hi Kimberly Dickson! Thanks so much for watching...Have a great weekend 💕
I’ve had the same thing happen to me. So I understand. I got bullied from family & others, always. It’s so hard to renew my mind. You sound like you went through the same thing I went through. Ty, for doing this video. P.s. I don’t know why anyone could say these things about you. You are beautiful.❤️
Great tips Schellea! Thanks for sharing all these wonderful lessons you have learnt along the way. I also learn't to hold my head up when I walk in the room, smile and look people in the eye, even offer to shake hands. This is a very charismatic way to introduce yourself and certainly gets peoples attention!! Great to use when going for a job interview!
I love your tip Susan S! Thanks for sharing with us 🙏
We shared similar experiences. In my 50's now , is when I've finally begun to accept and love myself, this is confidence. You are a rare, kind soul. Your tips and encouragement have made a World of difference to me. Thank you kindly for sharing your light.
Sending you a big hug Tam 🤗 Stay fabulous 💕💕
Hello beautiful Schellea! 😀 I love love love this video !!!😍😍😍
I felt really sad though when you talked about your own experience in the intro. You are such a gorgeous lady inside and out!
I too suffered from bullying when I was a young teenager. It was at school and I started suffering from depression at that time.
Women (or young girls) can be quite cruel indeed.
But I developed confidence and self-esteem over time and I have excellent inter-personal skills now. I was quite unpopular at school but now I have tons of friends at work 😀.
Thanks a lot for all the hard work you put into making these videos, they are amazing and they really brighten up my days 🌞. Much love, Sophie
Thanks so much for your comment Sophie Acapella! It seems like we don't have a leg to stand on when we are young and vulnerable...Im happy that you have found your true self and lots of friends as an adult... and I'm sure you have true compassion too...Have a fabulous day 🌸
This was one of the most profound videos I have watched on UA-cam so far. I wish every 14-year-old girl could watch this video and develop these graceful social skills. Thank you for a wonderful take on being attractive!
Great advice as usual, especially about the gossiping... women are very quick, sadly, to drag others down.
Hi Bernita Jenkins! Thanks so much for watching...Have a great weekend 💕
Whenever another woman starts to gleefully gossip about someone we both know, I interrupt her by saying " You are telling me this because...?" It kills the conversion stone dead!
I’ve had breast cancer and lost my right breast some people call me ugly as I was going through it and lost my hair but I’ve learned inside that I am beautiful. Inside and out and when my husband kisses my breast scar I know I am the most loved in all ways x
I'm sending you a big hug Michelle 🤗 Sound like you have a wonderful husband ❤️
Thankyou for this common sense advice that we know but dont think about when we are in these situations!!! You are a beautiful genuine woman...it just shows right thru the screen!!! Much Love!!will try these tips!!❤🌹
Hi Rhea Rhea! Thanks so much for your lovely comment... Have an amazing week 💕
I believe this has been the most inspirational UA-cam video I have ever seen. I would have thought your youth was entirely charmed and protected as you project such self confidence and radiate inner beauty and kindness. To now know that we all seem to face the same obstacles is enlightening for me. I admit that I see myself as one who can’t wait to share my own experiences that are similar to stories being told and I need to work on that - I think I feel that I need to be entertaining to be liked. What a lot we women have to work through just to feel like we are enough. With tears in my eyes and gratitude in my heart Thank you Shellea!!
Thanks so much Terry Ensslen!I acknowledge the kindness in your heart ❤️ Charmed and protected was what I would dream of as a child..But as I can see now, that wouldn't have served the me I have become...Thanks so much for taking the time to comment ❤️
The first person I tried this on said
"Have you been drinking?"
😂😂😂😂😂
Keryn Gasparini what happened was they sensed a little intimidation because you were becoming more confident.
😂😂😂
Lol!!!
I so relate to your story. From my early childhood and throughout my adult life, I have never thought of myself as attractive.
Love this!💖 So needed to hear it! Thank you for sharing!
Hi AK Bold! Thanks so much for watching...Have a great weekend 💕
I sat here for 5 minutes trying to think of the right comment to make. I wanted it to bring a little joy to your day so here it is. Thank you. Your words mattered to me.
Thanks for your comment Margie Lee! It worked 🙂 Have a fabulous day 🌸
Fantastic video!! I call that knowing the Holy Spirit. And u brought a point to me. Me who really does not trust. I can trust the Holy Spirit to let me know if this person has good intentions or bad. Thank you for the reminder
Hi kimbers 123! Thanks so much for watching and have a beautiful week 💕
I have had that same low esteem experience and reactions. You are awesomely beautiful, so they were probably jealous. You give hope to us all! To hang with a negative group reflects on you. Definitely walk away.
From the first video of yours that I watched, I felt your energy and the calmness inside of you and that pulled me in to subscribe and want to listen to you. I have always tried to make other women feel comfortable around me, though many times, if they do not wish to receive because they have a preconceived conception of me or just don't feel the good energy I have, they walk away, It used to bother me, but now I just think it's sad that someone lost out on some good energy!
Anastasia Anastasia ❤️
Such a great video I can really relate. I went through the same thing as a child and young lady never feeling good about myself, yet now when I look back at old photots I was nothing like the images I had in my head, I wasn't fat and my nose fit my face yet I never saw that back then and grew up shy and unsure of myself. Once I hit 50 I saw past that any my confidence has grown, love your advice your a gift to us ladies over 50.
Very good advice! I especially like the mirroring technique you shared. Have never thought of doing that. Thank you for sharing wise tips that are simple yet powerful!
Hi Sherry M! Thanks so much for watching...Have a great weekend 💕
Thank you for emphasizing that true beauty comes from within - from taking the time to actually listen to others & NOT fall into the whole assanine 'gossip trap'. You are absolutely correct about that too....if they talk about everyone else that way, honey they are gonna be talkin' about YOU that way too.
#1 Lesson:. Be Kind.
That's it!! 😊
Wow....so many people need to hear this! Fantastic video! My story sounds just like yours❤️
Hey Angelika Kopek! I'm happy you enjoyed the video...Have an amazing day 🤗
This is the type of woman I am becoming. Notice I said “I am becoming”, instead of “I want to be”.😉 Thank you for these tips. It’s not about me, it’s about them.