isfp here; we are good at accepting problems when we know there *is* a resolution (car being towed example). Emotional issues are rather complex for me, however, because we cannot see the end result.
i thought i was an INFP for a long time but recently found out i'm more like an ISFP. i think being an anxious, depressed ISFP led me to think i truly am an INFP but descriptions about ISFP feel more true to me. it feels more like home.
wow we're strangely relatable, I believe I am INFP, and you know they say infp are biggest procrastinator, it led me to be more pracastinate way worse than before, then I do the test again twice I got ISFP
Yes!!! I took the mbti test when i was going through a depression and got infp. A few month later, i started to feel more like myself and took the test again and got isfp.
@@Lynn-ip9sh I think it has to do with the fact that you worked on your cognitive functions! Usually the 1st and 4th function are the ones that lead us to being an unhealthy version of our type. Usually don't even know what is wrong because it comes so natural to you, but people around you can notice.
Yes, complaining is rare in ISFPs. If at all, it comes after they made a judgement. I love this about all the SP types, they got that strong Se plus a personal view on the matter. And they know that complaining wont lead them anywhere.
@@Lesyeuxouverts not only when there's no way out of situation, there can happen randomly, for example, I complain about EVERYTHING no matter what situation it is, but I think I am just an unhappy little person.
I find the "act" of complaining - whining, sighing, commenting on the perceived unfairness - is like a vent for ISFPs. We tend to complain as a way of connecting with other people, to create that first 'bond' between us, allowing us to open up and share without being too personal. In the end, it's useful when others ask for input on what could be changed, as ISFPs have already probably written up a mental checklist of everything "wrong". However, it is not so useful when you can't think of anything else to talk about, and your complaints just sound like pathetic whinging.
Isfp here. I'm glad I heard you. Must say that I admire the time and energy you spend in understanding other personalities. Your pov about isfp in general is strikingly true. So basically Ne is non existent so we can't prognosticate future events and people's intent at all. We take everything for how it presents us at " that very point ''. We do sense the subtle changes in the atmosphere around us. And if there is some sort of negative energy right at that moment we can sense it and feel accordingly. Putting it simple, if an arachnophobiac isfp's car breaks down in the middle of somewhere he won't freak out just because his car broke-down. meanwhile, he is gonna definitey freak out real soon if he sees a spider on his shirt. We are quick with our reflexes and quick with letting go of those fears once things pass by. We want to give people a better experience through our (Se) so we dislike feeling negative (bcz let's just say it's hard to contain your emotions and act normal). There is so much depth to how an ISFP behaves and since we struggle about explaining our own emotions and inner state, it's hard for many ppl to get to know us at all.
As an ISFP, you were spot on with how we solve our problems. We don't freak out because we know that every problem can be fixed. We know to take a breather and take things as they come because just thinking about all the bad won't help anything. But yeah, what you said is so on-the-nose. Life is simple. Very chill lol Edit: My mom was very straight on being an independent woman and wouldn't spend a lot of time with me but I was spoiled with things and stuff. As I grew with that I understood that things go away, just like people. We are left to observe the world around us and that's how I think ISFP's have found the beauty in the simplest things. Things come and go, like problems, but that's what makes people and those close to us even more special.
I found that ISFPs and INFPs go together really well. ISFPs are fascinated by that strong Ne, while INFPs can rely on the ISFP to be comfortable with the physical world with their strong Se =)
I am an INFP married to an ISFP (30years) we are so compatible and learning more about her now is awesome. As an infp, I help her think outside the box, she helps ground me, that is our greatest difference, and I am sooooo thankful for her.
As an ISFP at age 62 I decided I wanted to play drums in the church band. One lady from church has a drum set that she let me borrow. I then for 1 1/2 years of lessons drum lessons. I am making my dream come true, but first I have a lot to learn and tons of practice.
I'm an ISFP and I started playing drums at 19 and loved it.. believe me we're natural in drumming so don't get discouraged by your age, due to my inner feeling function we can express so much on the kit and be creative with it :)
Recent been trying to figure out if I’m an ISFP or INFP but I’ve always had a strong desire to play drums since I was a teen but never pursued it I’m probably more of an ISFP then, though I also relate to the INFP type
12:55 is so true.. When my father and brother died 4 years ago, except for the time when I first saw their dead bodies, I didn't breakdown completely, I was thinking "ok so what next? what to do now?" While my mom was completely devastated and it made me think if I was a cold hearted person :( But, now everything's back to normal now. We are happy that we atleast have eachother :)
I think you are right in that ISFPs speak fluently with deeds rather than words. The Fi-Ni is their identity, which they would incorporate into the observable reality Se-Te. INTJeresting!
ISFP here. Your comment about how we see and approach problems is so true. I only vent about some problems to a few close friends, and it's just venting. I will already have solutions in mind. Of course I also value my friends' input but I am not expecting help. I will specifically ask for help when I really need help. And yes, I take people and face value...until they show me otherwise. Thank you for valuing the core strengths of ISFPs.
Nice video! As an ISFP the way I take decisions is just like you described. Before doing anything I ask myself if I'm ok with the possible consecuences that might arise from my decision, if I decide to do it then there's no point in complaining or feeling bad because it's like I already commited to all the good and bad things that the decision presented in the first place. This is mainly the reason why it might appear that when problem arises I don't freak out about them, I was already aware of them and didn't consider them big enough to stop me from doing something.
Wow I’m astonished at the Sincerity in your discussion about personality type that is not your own. I had to laugh when you mention your friend always tested INFJ INFP but was actually ISFP because that is exactly what I experienced as well. Honesty I didn’t disagree with a single this you said. I think you’re freaking awesome for going for what you want to do and what you believe in. Takes guts. Courage. You’re well spoken and knowledgeable about these topics. I enjoyed the video. Could have been edited a little bit and a lil more prep work but hey nbd still a great video and I’m glad I watched it. So thank you. This is also the first time in my life I’ve ever taken the time to write a comment on someone’s UA-cam video. Seriously. Ever. Keep doing what makes you you. Cheers!
Chantel Wensley I’m an INFP who used to dreamt of traveling the world without leaving her house but now I finally managed to made my dream came true. I’ve been backpacking around the world for year now.. my life become so adventure that I’m an adventurer and that I believe I’m learning and growing to be ISFP. (Sorry for my English, yep that’s basically INFP who will say sorry for everything and yet I’m still INFP haha)
Yep, pretty much. As an ISFP I have done both of these things in the same night. I Play in a band that frequently travels half a world away from where i live (australia to europe) to play gigs to rooms full of 1000+ people 30-40 nights in a row.... and an hour and a half later been lying in my "cot" on the tour bus hoping nobody comes to me with a personal issue.... or frankly any conversation at all, because I know if they do I'll spend all bloody night making sure everyone is ok, because I wouldn't be able to sleep otherwise.
OMG you're so intuitive, so right! just bumped into this video. I mistyped for infp and always wondered why they say we're depressed since I was never a sad person or isolated or weird. I was always into beauty, color, light, warmth, that comfy vibe, always made a beautiful warm life around me I need to stay in all the time ,I love fluffy dogs and nature, music, am active, that makes me very optimistic at heart and uplifting to others too. Everyone feels so good in my home, and acknowledge my style and taste and that's not an INFP thing. I still mistype as an INFP but I know I'm not one. You tube videos are way more claryfing than the actual test. I sometimes mistyped for infj too which is way NOT! :)) It's very tricky really since you don't have any reference, you don't really know how other people function, you don't really know what overthinking is (as you said) cause you can't compare. You're basically stuck in your own little bubble world as we all are and have to figure it all out, and there are the inferior functions you need to develop. It's all so subconscious.
Se tends to lend a *toughness* to the person, that are more evident in estp and esfp, but is more muted in isfp and istp, and comes out in surprising and unexpected ways.
Exactly! I think that was her point when she was contrasting INFPs and ISFPs. Fi types can struggle a lot with worry and anxiety, but with ISFPs, Fi is being tempered by the boldness and fearlessness of Se.
melancholika k most people that meet me think i’m a softie. I am i have a hard time saying no(i’m getting better at it). I am very mellow and people think they can Take advantage of me but when i snap i snap hard. It doesn’t get very often physical but sometimes it does A classmate(she streams more INFP as me. I used to think i am INFP/ISFP but she is more ISFP) like she lets people walk over her way too much. Like she never stands up for herself. I can be very bitchy when annoyed
At 13:00 that's so true for me, for instance I don't panic when something does wrong. Like generally I stay pretty calm in those situations. Also, I agree Rumi probably is an ISFP and the other man you mentioned. We do see the beauty of the simplicity. I have an INFP friend who doesn't understand how to reach his desires and that doesn't make sense to me. I tell him. If you want to do it, do it. It's simple. Just do what you wanna do and it'll work out in the end.
This was really helpful and insightful, thank you. It allowed me to understand how I really am an ISFP, as I kept getting INFP results. But I could really relate to everything you were saying! ☺️
Great video Meghan! Again, you amaze me with how much insight you have into other types. You were on the nose about pretty much everything. As an ISFP I actually feel sad for people who don't see the simplistic beauty of life. Of course, there are a lot of disadvantages of this type compared to other ones also. Sometimes we tend to oversimplify things a bit.
This reminds me of my art history teacher. He was telling about an artist’s paintings he finally got to see irl. But it wasn’t as he hoped because he already knew everything and saw it a ton of times through pictures. And he was kind of let down. He said he was jealous of the people who do experience this feeling then they see it for the first time. How some people next to him were actually crying or in disbelief. He was jealous of them being capable of feeling that emotion he cannot and wished he could trade. I will for always remember that comment because on one side I cannot relate with that feeling of jealousy. I would probably think about those people ‘this is so beautiful, they’re crying because of a painting!’ instead. But I also felt sad he thinks he is missing out on an experience.
If people are lazy and they're not acting in any way like they want to change it then ISFPs believe that they simply don't want to achieve a different way of being --> that shit hit me like really hard. That was accurate as heck
Pretty spot on, and we do dream big, we want marriage and intimacy all the time. Everything else pales in comparison to human connection on that level of depth.
As an ISFP I do control my emotions except for school tests where all my anxiety comes and stress... I do have a quite good control over my emotions so much that I appear cold sometimes. It’s just that I can’t really stand criticism(over things I’m working on and passionate. Where I put my heart 100%) and if it comes from people I love it will be quite of a dramatic show. And all my nerves come speaking to an audience as I don’t have much experience doing so. Also my language is too simple and literal to be an intuitive. Like metaphorical language doesn’t come easy with me. And I’m usually “in my face” and my intuitive friends always come with complicate things and I’m like”I never thought about it that way”. And my intuitive classmates always complicate themselves too much(I do sometimes that too but most of time I think I complicate myself but actually I’m not) and I’m always like “Why”. When you can do it more simple
Isfp one of my philosophies is if I I see something and I’m not sure I want it, that if I have to think to hard about it then I know I don’t really want it.
this was a really insightful video :)) as an isfp, i also want more enfjs in my life! one of my dearest friends is one, and she can get me to open up and talk about anything like rarely anyone else...she has this incredible sincerity and depth and always surprises me with her thought process and empathizes so much. people often think isfps are rather shallow...but i love getting insight into people's minds, it's so inspiring. it's harder for me to come up with really complex things, but my enfj friend has told me she appreciates that i can get her "back to the ground" and that she likes my artistic nature (big cliché, but for a reason), so we seem to be complimenting each other pretty well!
Dude one thing I’ve noticed is us isfps get addicted to shit really easily. I’ve been addicted to food, drugs, video games, pain, sex, hobbies, like honestly everything I like I love
I think it's more like, if it's enjoyable for us ISFPs, we fall for it hard, like food, games etc. But if it doesn't, then we wont even touch / try it again, ever.
It's like living like you are burdened with a secret of making everyone happy but you are unable to share it unless given the random chance and while they try and listen to a language they don't understand, you constantly have to improvise and a lot of the time live with an unfilled reality but at least you still have the honest feeling of whatever it is (happy, inspiring, and other times woeful and destructive)
Duddee yess what you said about ISFPs being like "If they show they are disinterested, believe them." and NFPs feeling like it's on them to fix it or that there are reasons we can't see behind why or why not they are showing a lack of interest, so we don't really know. Hahaha, this literally happened to me when I was showing interest towards an ISFP and all the ISFPs on personality cafe showed me the way out of that one. LOL. But that is literally the best dating advice for any NFP - to take what personality they are showing you or take what the person it is they are showing you at face value. To not make excuses for them or try to see the "metaphysical realm" of what could or could not be there. But to take what is happening to you in front of your face at face value. And to also try to show people our personalities in front of others' faces rather than theorize or fantasize about the relationship. Not paying attention to the actions of others and our very own inaction keep us from moving things forward in life and understanding life more through life experience rather than in our metaphysical realm or theory hidden in our brains. ISFPs in that simplicity have taught me so much in just the way they live. Our similarities with Fi and Te help me relate enough to then see their more simplistic and straightforward view rather than in my weirdo dream world that is super impractical to a point that infuriates me hahaha
I generally enjoy your videos, and really appreciate the thought you put into them and enjoy your speaking style, so thank you. I wanted to add a comment though on what you said about Fe being more evolved than Fi as I think there is a gross misunderstanding of Fi on the internet by those with Fe, and by some who actually think they have Fi, and do not. My mother is an INFP/ISFP and often discusses MBTI theory with my INTP brother and so, I often overhear them talking and will just let you know what she says as I think it will help others to understand by someone who uses Fi in a very intense nature. Keep in mind this is a theory they are discussing and are still working on, but all of MBTI is just a theory right now. Fi is introspective and aligns it'self with holistic truths, values, and morals, at least for those with Fi in their first or second slot. Fi, atleast for my mother and some others who have it in their first slot, is something where they seek to keep their selves authentic and honest, and spend the majority of their day, every day, putting together this framework of objective morality, but not only objective, but values that they believe are in a gray area. This helps those that may have a moral quandary as to why something may be black and white morally, and why some things are not, and should be more in the, " live and let live" category, if there is a moral squabble. Fi dominant people, atleast INFPS, are truth seekers and the equivalent of the INTP in the "Feeling" world. Both build immense frameworks.. Jung said that FI and TI are the same in all respects but what Ti thinks, Fi feels. I agree mostly with this assessment, except that INFPS and perhaps some Isfps spend a great deal of time thinking logically, and assessing their values to make sure they are consistent in this large framework they have built. And many times because they believe a certain value is objectively moral, will put aside their own feelings and go with what is objectively true. Just a side note, there is this misconception that INFPs and ISFPs do not do logic, and this simply isn't true, my mom scored very high in deductive and inductive logic tests better than and/or equal to several logical thinking types who took the test, and so do a lot of Fi dominant people. They simply understand that sometimes the moral thing is the right thing to do, even if it is not always efficient, but can also can make hard decisions and put aside their feelings if they believe it is the most logical, according to the framework they have built. MBTI , they believe, has a lot of misconceptions built around Fi and that is another topic altogether.... Just as the INTP spends their day understanding impersonal frameworks and then they put forth their hard work, and the INTJ and other thinking types then use this in some fashion, the INFP spends their days working on a moral framework for the feeling types and puts forth their "judgement" so that the FE types can put them to use. This isn't to say that the Fi dominants or at least INFPs are the moral authority in all areas, but they are the best equipped for it or gifted for it in a secular setting. . Of course age, mental health, physical health, and upbringing can all play a part in the accuracy of their gift, as it can with any type. INTPs use Ti to introspect on a theory, then NE to analyze it from every angle and to doubt truth so that they search for accuracy, then Si so that they don't go too far out in left field, or to simply look to the past for wisdom in their search for truth, and finally their extroverted feeling helps them to put it forth and take action. It is the same for the INFP, who has Fi to introspect on their own moral behavior, then NE to analyze it from every angle and also to cause them to doubt the facts so that they check more for accuracy, then Si to compare to those who came before them and what they thought, and then Te to make a firm and permanent decision, then it goes to the framework area marked, "objective." Which takes some time for it to get to the point of being able to be marked objective as they have NE as their second functions which makes them doubt and search for certainty. Unfortunately, not to get off topic, but when an INTP doubts the facts he is called a genius, but when an INFP doubts the facts they are labeled illogical . There are obviously going to be some issues in comparing the framework of the INTP with the INFP, and using the word objective as an adjective for moral values. As I said, they spend their lives building this framework, and a person needs to be very introspective to build a framework. A person can not even be very logically consistent, if they are not very introspective. This is where Fi, in your first function slot, really shines, atleast with INFPs. So, just as Ti is not selfish, but is introspective, Fi is also very introspective. And though it is very self focused, it ultimately serves a purpose for the group and individual alike. Just picture a person internally with a microscope policing their every thought and action and comparing it to the information on their framework and making sure it not only aligns but is logically consistent. I believe the INFP was gifted to be a form of judge, but not a modern one, as modern judges obviously need to be able to sometimes make quick decisions. . I think they are the ones most well equipped and gifted, after a certain amount of years of building their framework, in writing moral laws and such, and as this framework grows and matures, this equips them to make quicker judgments that are accurate in mediating and using their gifts in other areas of moral quandaries. That is really over simplifying it, because Fi dominants or at least INFPS, spend immense amounts of work analyzing morality and putting it in it's proper place. I often find that those who are FE dominant, do not understand this and simply think it is more of a selfish feeling function. Because Fi works the way it does, it forces the gifted dominant user to be honest, and to tap into the immense framework they built, which would allow them to deal as a better mediator in a moral quandary, a better philosopher, champion of under dogs, political activist, and dare I say moral judge etc....Think of this the next time you think of a corrupt judge and wonder if you didn't wish they were someone with dominant Fi who not only has given most moral questions their proper and painfully exhausting analytical weight, but the person who is authentic and honest too. And though this gift obviously works while they are young, it is limited, because their framework is still being built.....so while young Fi dominants still have some important insights that other types need, they really shine as they have been in their element 20 years or more. Fi, also is very concerned with the harmony of the group, just not at the expense of an individual, if this individual hasn't violated a core value and deserves their rescuing., which wll be determined by moral logic in their framework as every moral thought and decision is. And of course there are going to be those who object to some of what I said about using a logical frame work in regards to objective morality, but that is an entire other discussion. Fi dominants care very much for the group, and that is why they do what they do. Someone has to be able to go against the group and make sure what the group thinks, is morally correct. Someone has to question the traditions that Fe works so hard to guard. Someone has to make sure the group isn't drinking the Kool Aid. That is why you see Fi dominants not trusting the group, or at least INFPs do this, and instead analyzing and going through their truth seeking functional stack and accessing their framework to make sure everything pans out. They love the group, they want to join in, but the group has to align with their morals, as no one puts as much thought to it as they do. Where as Fe wants to align with the group, Fi wants the group to align to it. There is a reason for that. Fi dominants, or at least INFPs, are truth seekers and that is how the community works and utilizes each others gifts. And as the Fi gives their corrections or judgments and Fe uses them, Fe strongly guards the group and helps preserve this truth and spreads it to others. This is why they are both needed greatly, but Fe is not in any way shape or form more superior or evolved. If anything Fe can not really function, healthily without Fi. Think of Fi as giving Fe it's booster shots. It helps to inoculate against bad moral judgement and thinking. And again not every INFP is going to be as accurate as the next because there are some issues that are going to cause differences in opinion as to what goes to the objective stack and what goes to the "live and let live" stack. This is their theory, thus far, but they are still working on it.
Intj here. I have really good friend which is ISFP for almost 6 years ( since college). I just know his personality last month when he tested ( I usggested for him and he is happy all the results are so relatable) . For a whole time being his friend, I think he is adventurous, not afraid to go to any length to chase what he want, he got many languages to master ( like Chinese, Japanese, indonesia and little English), and somehow he is so laid back. He is compromize when face any problem, he is so sociable but actually he admit he always make sure to have alone time since he need it. We are resonate so well from hard-working, sharing our experience about deep and value. And at least he has sense of humor He has keen on his appearance too. He is commits to long term relationship with his gf since high school to 2 years after college yet they broke up. I can see ISFP is got hurt so bad but they can cut off with people they dont like if someone hurt their trust or their feeling. But nonetheless, You are the blessed soul to have ISFP around you. Next, dfferent story different friend. Recently, I got to meet new friend that I have interested. I just know him for less than a week and he tried to test his mbti and also his result is ISFP. No wonder we can talk for hours and get along so easily even before I realized his mbti type. I can say INTJ-ISFP will gonna be a good friend for sure but for relationship , they have much more load of works yet they are amazing team as life partner. He also interested in me and so do I. hope I can be more tolerate and open up, get to know him better. Somehow his laid back trait made me boiling up but other than that, his whole being is all I have prayed for. I never this opening up to someone and so does he. I will try even though I know consequences. I will try harder so I wouldn't hurt him especially with my savageness/bluntness. Bless you all, ISFPs in the world
I’m an ISFP (guy) married to an Infj (girl) it’s the Perfect Relationship. I promise except for all the emotional baggage by the two but it’s easy to figure out, a lot of self reflection from both sides
Wow, great insight on the ISFP type, Meghan! I am an ISFP and I am very driven by my end goals. It is true, once I figure out what I want my life to look like... boom, it’s like it’s as good as done. And then grin and bare it because here comes the work! I loved how you explained how we think in a primal sense, because so often the solutions, while multi faceted, are not that complicated. Thank you for seeing the positive in our personality rather than just being over simplistic people.
I was blown away by the simplicity of the poem Meghan read too. My brother and I are very pronounced N-types who overcomplicating things, sometimes to hilarious proportions in the eyes of our friends. We have another brother I'm pretty sure is ISFP. He's just as smart but he's so much better at getting straight to the point and he's got a great sense of humor along the way. Simplicity with deep insight is a great lesson and a great gift. It' something I have to keep relearning.
I believe you're wrong about ISFPs do not overthink like other types do. As an ISFP I constantly overthink in many situations daily! Mostly when I work with children, employees and parents in kindergarten. I also overthink 8 hours a day and I think it's a good thing since I learn a lot from my thoughts. Suddenly I can remember things from the past that is not about the present or in a situation where I am supposed to focus about a topic someone aske me about. That makes me look like as if I zone out and look blank. You can ask ISFPs more about this if you haven't.
@@MeghaMuse No you're wrong about that! If you knew how stressful it would be to think about more than 5 perspectives then your mind will feel like it's on fire as if you can faint at any time. Please try to understand and don't underestimate how ISFPs feel. We get easily misunderstood and that is one of the big problems that make us feel weird and left out. My life has always been like that and I love being by myself. I've learned to not deal with people because they cause me pain no matter what kind of person they are. ✌
@@NK97er honestly, same for me as an isfp. I easily get overthinking n anxious about many problems at the same time. And i cant express ny feeling, so i choose to not show it. People tend to not understand about me.
@@NK97er my ex was an ENFJ. Doesn't get me, wants to change me, master manipulator for his own end, basically just wanted me to be someone else. Which basically boils down to non acceptance and lack of respect for who I am. That's why he's an ex. He just wouldn't allow me to be who I am. I avoid this type like the plague now.
I tested as an ISFP-T, and honestly taking this test kills me every time because I can't judge myself. At all. (Who knows, I might not be ISFP) I'm still in the middle of watching this video, and you might say something later that contradicts this, but I just want to say that personally, I have dreams and desires, but because I also view the practical side of things, I honestly question whether I can even chase those desires at all. So I can't relate when you said that isfps are driven towards their goals?
I used to identify as INFP a lot, however i have been made to see how i use Se a lot and thus i would be more ISFP. Your video here has helped me see things a little bit more clearly, especially now that i am aware i may have had the intuitive bias. I still think INFPs have a beautiful set of functions that pair well with each other but i am way more interested in aesthetics and such than NFs seem to be. That is one thing that was knawing at me inside on and off. My partner would sometimes tell me i comment on sense-based things a lot. And looking back, i have mostly done well in my environments in general. So now i want to look at things anew from that fresh perspective, see what i learn. And yes, a lot of the things you said fit me too. The car example, i could understand tho i have not been in this situation before.
I'm an ISFP and didn't realise the 'eh, we'll figure it out, nbd' attitude was part of it. Like if the car broke down or something broke in the house and people are freaking out and I'm like, it's fine, stop worrying, no one died.
An inverted INTJ hah! Makes sense why I might like them as much as I do. Like using similar functions but with a different focus? As an INTJ I admire many of the things you've said about them and what I've learned from other sources. The point they can be very confident in who they are and have such a soft spot for others while so masterful in the physical world. We have similar traits yet compliment each other in areas we wish we were better in. From what I've researched so far people say the two types (INTJ-ISFP) are not compatible in much of any way. I find it hard to believe but I suppose I need more experience with them. Sure, the two may possibly take more work to understand and work together but if the two are at least relatively mature (which I think both strive for) and share similar or same values then It could probably make for an amazing duo. I do however understand that last part could be said for most types in a similar situation, lol. Just saying I'm thinking the two may get along better than most might think. Totally would love to hear your further thoughts on ISFPs.
I’m an INFP who used to dreamt of traveling the world without leaving her house but now I finally managed to made my dream came true. I’ve been solo backpacking around the world for year now. my life become so adventure that I’m an adventurer and that I believe I’m learning and growing to be ISFP. Traveling the world taught me how to take things easy when things will not go as you expect. Of course it will never go as you expect especially traveling in a challenge country such as in Africa country. I learned how to be calm, because I know everything is gonna be ok and being calm help me to focus and solve the problem easier and wisely ( I used to freak out a lot ) and I don’t complain because I know I will not get anything positive out of it. And I don’t regret things because I can find good things in everything. in the past years I’ve achieved so many goals and many dreams. Get out of my shell or even overcome my social phobia. For now I even dream bigger and strongly believe I can make all the dream not to be only just dream, I may overthink more than the ISFP but I’ll go for it anyway even I know it not going to be an easy road and that make it more fun and challenge! (Sorry for my English, yep that’s basically INFP who will say sorry for everything and yet I’m still INFP haha) check out my journey on instagram: daisyishappydaisyishappy
That resonated with me more than any of your other videos, I might be isfp. Side note, I still think that getting a snack pack of oreos for like 3$ is a good purchase 💁🏻♂️
I’m an ISFP and I’d have given you the same response 😂 Keep doing videos! You’re informative and easy to listen to. people will pick up on you’re sincerity. I do judge people’s achievements by my own standards and i was “misdiagnosed” with the wrong type the first few times around lol
oh my gosh, you are so right. as an isfp, desire itself is the most important thing, and i will do whatever to keep my desire, journey is not to be avoid. but i think infp want to get rid of their desire as soon as possible, they want the result instead of the journey which explains why they like shortcut.
"They seem to have a lot of control over their emotions" ...HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA not me at least. But still I think you said a lot of correct thinks about ISFPs and I could really relate, good job, because I feel like not that much people seem to really understand ISFPs. :)
I'm a INFP married to an ISFP and he's my best friend in the entire world🖤🥰🥰🥰 Oh and btw...please make an INFP video. Hearing you talk about it almost made me cry🖤🖤🖤
20:19 yessss and that burning feeling in heart from ignoring a passion !! Lik my dream is to go live abroad rn and like it’s a hard process but I know in my heart of hearts that it WILL happen bc I literally will not be satisfied until it does ahahah
Omg the car towed part, made me remember how i lost my phone in a mall and was me like meh , i might get it in the information help desk. (Luckily got it).But My friend was more freaked out then me.😅
Oh my gosh. I’ve mistyped as an ISTP because for some reason I have good use of Ti. However my use is Very heavy I’ve found now that I understand what it is. And your tow truck example made me laugh. That is 100% EXACTLY how I respond to things. Hahaha Thanks for the uploads. Very helpful and insightful.
Also disorganization is big problem. Part of ET ..,very underdeveloped. Has held me back in life. Thwarted me in achieving. …however love my creativity and I can see 10 ways to solve any problem using sensing. It’s my raison d etre
ISFP and i’m a master of complaining. Previously mistaken myself as ENFP or INFP. I absolutely despise the phrase”Everyone likes this/Everyone does this”. Yeah everyone breaths but there aren’t many things everyone does. And i hate this generalization. Like i’m friends with popular squad i am not popular myself. Like i love kanye West and i love Taylor and my best friend was like”Taylor or Kanye. You can’t be both”. I’m like “I can.” Even though i also notice when many people go in a particular direction My mom’s like”Go and become an ITst. All your classmates go there”. And i’m like:no. I want to be a fashion designer. It’s their problem they love IT i don’t.” I do sometimes shame myself for having desires though but the feeling doesn’t last long My ISFP ass gets triggered when you are “ISFPs are....” like We’re not al The same. And not everything Gonna fit everyone My best friend is INTP and it’s such an obvious difference between a sensor and an intuitive. I used to think i’m intuitive because i am a dreamer but there is such a difference between her and me. By being with her i actually realize i am so sensor it actually hurts. Like i usually try to make the most out of a moment but she always finds something to spoil it. Like we were on a trip 1 month before Maths exam. Our teacher brought us to a trip to study. Me and my ESFJ friends partied until morning and barely paid attention to class because “we wanted to have a good time”. She was so stressed. Went to bed early and shit. I think i overthink a lot. She overthinks twice as much as i do. Sometimes by overthinking i ruin everything too though(tertiary ni) She asked me where do i plan to live when grow up(We’re 16). I’m like “On earth” My mom is ENFJ my dad is INTJ and they always spoil my moments with “what if” and then i start to overthink as well. Like they induce my fears of failure(with my INTP friend) they induce every doubt i have
From an INFP's perspective, ISFPs seem better at concretely identifying their priorities, desires, and likes. Whereas, being an INFP, I think those things for us tend to be more abstract and more difficult to express or put into words, so perhaps we tend to feel more misunderstood or disconnected from others. Oh also ISFP's are more consistently better-dressed than us.
2:08 this is something I had to work on myself as well - the shame I feel for wanting to pursue what I want. The feeling of guilt of liking something. But when I look at this guilt from outside in another person it seems ridiculous. Like tell me ONE good reason for it? 😂
Yep I totally thought I was an INFJ or an INFP for a few years before realising I'm a sensing type and I'd missed the truth. Everything makes sense now 🌈🌸🦄 (those are ISFP sparkles not ENFP, I thought I was that type too for a bit) Oh and I fully believe that if we desire something it means we're able to do it. Totally. The mere fact that we want to create that life means we can.
You are so right on.I always thought i was infp,until i took the test again.Im isfp. i Deffantly like go be agressivevon what i want. .Im more obersavant to the world.
I'm an ISFP with social anxiety, if my car got towed I'd freak the fuck out because that requires me interacting with a ton of strangers (and on top of that, I've never had to deal with that kind of situation before so I'd be relatively clueless on how to handle it) but yeah, if I were thrust into a bad situation that I _knew_ how to handle, I wouldn't freak out quite so much, especially if I didn't have to interact with strangers to do it!
That bit about car towing, INFP me might freak out at first because I'd feel like I've just screwed up again by forgetting the time/rules. But then I can imagine proceeding with Si, especially if I've handled similar conflicts before. It's not really a complex problem, just more bureaucracy, formalities, money, and time. I really believe that anyone can be decently good at anything, they just have to practice using their strengths and adapt them to handle various situations.
Is there a definite way to differentiate between ISFP/INFP? I still find it hard to pinpoint. Every time I feel 80% certain I'm one type, I start thinking "ah, but that thing you just did/thought? That's more IxFP than IxFP" and so on. It's like, the descriptions are different and obvious enough when thinking of other people, but when you're analysing yourself you see more nuances than are written about and don't want to put a label on yourself that may be wrong. I would really like to figure out which one I am though! Thanks for your great channel and interesting insights. :)
Faye Zauberholz Even I'm stuck in that from time to time! ISFP here, but I do see the INFP traits in myself, maybe because ISFP & INFPs are double observers
Interesting; someone else in other comments who I was talking to about it said I was most probably INFP and the confusion was Ne coming up with different possibilities. What would you say are some descriptions or points that you don't relate to about INFPs (which make you more certain that you're ISFP).
Zauberholz I’m an isfp, I’d say infp is more idealistic and isfp doesn’t worry about things they can’t control which is unlike an infp also I love twenty one pilots too
I am an INFP married to an ISFP (30 years) I am an idealist and get cought up somewhere in deep thought (n) my wife is very grounded and in reality. I try to get her to think outside the box, while she tries to keep me in the real...hope this helps
I still have some confusion but I've stuck with INFP so far, seems to fit the best. Although I'm reasonably grounded and trust my senses in the way an ISFP might, I think I do focus on things outside of my control and generally think too much on everything a lot of the time haha. I'm an enneagram 4w5 if that makes any difference; I'd reckon an ISFP 4w5 would be much more easily confused with an INFP due to the idealistic nature of the 4 and the detached-from-the-now cerebral 5 (hence my confusion). Ah perhaps I'll never be certain! I'll stick with INFP I suppose, it does "feel" like the right one.
1:04 it’s funny the first time I did the test the results was that I’m istj but then with getting deep into mbti I learned that I am isfp and I really felt connected to the personality discretion
Intuition brains expresses A to Z with lots of specifics. Isfp brains expresses itself with less words and to the point. As an isfp i drain myself talking to much!
Really?! So im infp then?! So confusing😂 my head hurts from this mbti thing, still confuse which type i am, oh whatever, just got to continue living as usual👋👋👋
Lucky ISFPs how astutely they can identify their desires and then nurture it. That's also what I admire about the ISFP I know. He's unflinching. It's annoying but I admire it at the same time. Me being an INFJ, it's like being dumped all the desires I'll have in my lifetime. And the problem is which one to prioritize? Which one is more important at the moment? It frustrates me how simple-minded that person is...lol but when he wants something, he achieves it and masters it.
Fi may come across as less evolved than Fe, but again it depends on how you use it. Read into the tantra therapy healing process for instance. The real tantra. The origin. You will see a wise way of healing yourself and the world through tantra and how Fi can be used right there.
I am an INFJ and my GF is an ISFP, so I am gathering information about her type for a better understanding for both of us. Just some advice. Slow down, gather your thoughts, give your subject in this case the ISFP a name like Jane or something. It's more relatable, and easier to follow and understand. Not everyone can follow the jargon. You'll reach a wider audience if you adjust your approach a bit. Also get out of the habit of inserting "like." I'm only saying this because I believe you and your viewers will benefit from this. Keep making videos, keep helping others. We all need help from time to time.
I usually don’t tell people my goals because I’m so confident over them yet they always find a way to bring me down...better tell them after it’s done
This is so true ❤️❤️
Yesss I can’t 100% relate to this...
Yesssss, I always do this.
Omg ye
isfp here; we are good at accepting problems when we know there *is* a resolution (car being towed example). Emotional issues are rather complex for me, however, because we cannot see the end result.
Yeah, I would almost call it fun if my car was being pulled haha. just because something unusual is happening
I never really knew how to put this but this is exactly how i feel
True. My continous dilemma
i thought i was an INFP for a long time but recently found out i'm more like an ISFP. i think being an anxious, depressed ISFP led me to think i truly am an INFP but descriptions about ISFP feel more true to me. it feels more like home.
THIS
wow we're strangely relatable, I believe I am INFP, and you know they say infp are biggest procrastinator, it led me to be more pracastinate way worse than before, then I do the test again twice I got ISFP
Yes!!! I took the mbti test when i was going through a depression and got infp. A few month later, i started to feel more like myself and took the test again and got isfp.
@@Lynn-ip9sh I think it has to do with the fact that you worked on your cognitive functions! Usually the 1st and 4th function are the ones that lead us to being an unhealthy version of our type. Usually don't even know what is wrong because it comes so natural to you, but people around you can notice.
so true, ISFPs are a big "everything happens for a reason " people
Ikrr
Yes, complaining is rare in ISFPs. If at all, it comes after they made a judgement. I love this about all the SP types, they got that strong Se plus a personal view on the matter. And they know that complaining wont lead them anywhere.
Well I am ISFP and complaining is my daily thing tbh so I take it as a fake news, thank u
@@datdumbass6633 ikr, me too. I think the complaining part comes up when you see no way out of the situation.
@@Lesyeuxouverts not only when there's no way out of situation, there can happen randomly, for example, I complain about EVERYTHING no matter what situation it is, but I think I am just an unhappy little person.
Someone Random i’m ISFP(mistaken myself for ENFP for a long time) i am master at procrastination many times but somehow i manage to be productive.
I find the "act" of complaining - whining, sighing, commenting on the perceived unfairness - is like a vent for ISFPs. We tend to complain as a way of connecting with other people, to create that first 'bond' between us, allowing us to open up and share without being too personal.
In the end, it's useful when others ask for input on what could be changed, as ISFPs have already probably written up a mental checklist of everything "wrong". However, it is not so useful when you can't think of anything else to talk about, and your complaints just sound like pathetic whinging.
Isfp here.
I'm glad I heard you.
Must say that I admire the time and energy you spend in understanding other personalities.
Your pov about isfp in general is strikingly true.
So basically Ne is non existent so we can't prognosticate future events and people's intent at all.
We take everything for how it presents us at " that very point ''.
We do sense the subtle changes in the atmosphere around us.
And if there is some sort of negative energy right at that moment we can sense it and feel accordingly.
Putting it simple, if an arachnophobiac isfp's car breaks down in the middle of somewhere he won't freak out just because his car broke-down.
meanwhile, he is gonna definitey freak out real soon if he sees a spider on his shirt.
We are quick with our reflexes and quick with letting go of those fears once things pass by.
We want to give people a better experience through our (Se) so we dislike feeling negative (bcz let's just say it's hard to contain your emotions and act normal).
There is so much depth to how an ISFP behaves and since we struggle about explaining our own emotions and inner state, it's hard for many ppl to get to know us at all.
As an ISFP, you were spot on with how we solve our problems. We don't freak out because we know that every problem can be fixed. We know to take a breather and take things as they come because just thinking about all the bad won't help anything. But yeah, what you said is so on-the-nose. Life is simple. Very chill lol
Edit: My mom was very straight on being an independent woman and wouldn't spend a lot of time with me but I was spoiled with things and stuff. As I grew with that I understood that things go away, just like people. We are left to observe the world around us and that's how I think ISFP's have found the beauty in the simplest things. Things come and go, like problems, but that's what makes people and those close to us even more special.
I found that ISFPs and INFPs go together really well. ISFPs are fascinated by that strong Ne, while INFPs can rely on the ISFP to be comfortable with the physical world with their strong Se =)
Someone Random thank u for saying it! Introverts can get with introverts. 🙃😊😊
I am an INFP married to an ISFP (30years) we are so compatible and learning more about her now is awesome. As an infp, I help her think outside the box, she helps ground me, that is our greatest difference, and I am sooooo thankful for her.
As an ISFP at age 62 I decided I wanted to play drums in the church band. One lady from church has a drum set that she let me borrow. I then for 1 1/2 years of lessons drum lessons. I am making my dream come true, but first I have a lot to learn and tons of practice.
I'm an ISFP and I started playing drums at 19 and loved it.. believe me we're natural in drumming so don't get discouraged by your age, due to my inner feeling function we can express so much on the kit and be creative with it :)
That's so awesome William!
Recent been trying to figure out if I’m an ISFP or INFP but I’ve always had a strong desire to play drums since I was a teen but never pursued it
I’m probably more of an ISFP then, though I also relate to the INFP type
12:55 is so true..
When my father and brother died 4 years ago, except for the time when I first saw their dead bodies, I didn't breakdown completely, I was thinking "ok so what next? what to do now?" While my mom was completely devastated and it made me think if I was a cold hearted person :(
But, now everything's back to normal now. We are happy that we atleast have eachother :)
I think you are right in that ISFPs speak fluently with deeds rather than words. The Fi-Ni is their identity, which they would incorporate into the observable reality Se-Te. INTJeresting!
herra Nietzsche-Outinen good way of putting it.
As an ISFP I wonder: How are you able to have and even more so express your thought in such a way. great! And very accurate. Astonishing!
ISFP here. Your comment about how we see and approach problems is so true. I only vent about some problems to a few close friends, and it's just venting. I will already have solutions in mind. Of course I also value my friends' input but I am not expecting help. I will specifically ask for help when I really need help. And yes, I take people and face value...until they show me otherwise. Thank you for valuing the core strengths of ISFPs.
I’m an infj who’s fortunate to have an isfp mother and I agree with you absolutely! Such a beautiful type.
That sounds absolutely lovely Orla!! :) Mine is an ENFP, and that "fits" so well too :)
"if i want it then i'm uniquely qualified to get it" --> i like that
ISFP. We just need the space to evolve
Nice video! As an ISFP the way I take decisions is just like you described. Before doing anything I ask myself if I'm ok with the possible consecuences that might arise from my decision, if I decide to do it then there's no point in complaining or feeling bad because it's like I already commited to all the good and bad things that the decision presented in the first place.
This is mainly the reason why it might appear that when problem arises I don't freak out about them, I was already aware of them and didn't consider them big enough to stop me from doing something.
Agree. I'm an ISFP.
Wow I’m astonished at the Sincerity in your discussion about personality type that is not your own. I had to laugh when you mention your friend always tested INFJ INFP but was actually ISFP because that is exactly what I experienced as well. Honesty I didn’t disagree with a single this you said. I think you’re freaking awesome for going for what you want to do and what you believe in. Takes guts. Courage. You’re well spoken and knowledgeable about these topics. I enjoyed the video. Could have been edited a little bit and a lil more prep work but hey nbd still a great video and I’m glad I watched it. So thank you. This is also the first time in my life I’ve ever taken the time to write a comment on someone’s UA-cam video. Seriously. Ever. Keep doing what makes you you. Cheers!
Isfp seem to be able to get the magic fluffy stuff out that infp and infj have on the inside
Chantel Wensley I’m an INFP who used to dreamt of traveling the world without leaving her house but now I finally managed to made my dream came true. I’ve been backpacking around the world for year now.. my life become so adventure that I’m an adventurer and that I believe I’m learning and growing to be ISFP. (Sorry for my English, yep that’s basically INFP who will say sorry for everything and yet I’m still INFP haha)
Yep, pretty much. As an ISFP I have done both of these things in the same night. I Play in a band that frequently travels half a world away from where i live (australia to europe) to play gigs to rooms full of 1000+ people 30-40 nights in a row.... and an hour and a half later been lying in my "cot" on the tour bus hoping nobody comes to me with a personal issue.... or frankly any conversation at all, because I know if they do I'll spend all bloody night making sure everyone is ok, because I wouldn't be able to sleep otherwise.
OMG you're so intuitive, so right! just bumped into this video. I mistyped for infp and always wondered why they say we're depressed since I was never a sad person or isolated or weird.
I was always into beauty, color, light, warmth, that comfy vibe, always made a beautiful warm life around me I need to stay in all the time ,I love fluffy dogs and nature, music, am active, that makes me very optimistic at heart and uplifting to others too. Everyone feels so good in my home, and acknowledge my style and taste and that's not an INFP thing.
I still mistype as an INFP but I know I'm not one. You tube videos are way more claryfing than the actual test. I sometimes mistyped for infj too which is way NOT! :))
It's very tricky really since you don't have any reference, you don't really know how other people function, you don't really know what overthinking is (as you said) cause you can't compare. You're basically stuck in your own little bubble world as we all are and have to figure it all out, and there are the inferior functions you need to develop. It's all so subconscious.
Se tends to lend a *toughness* to the person, that are more evident in estp and esfp, but is more muted in isfp and istp, and comes out in surprising and unexpected ways.
agreed! You guys seem soft, but you are tough! Scratch that.. you are soft AND tough. not mutually exclusive, lol
Exactly! I think that was her point when she was contrasting INFPs and ISFPs. Fi types can struggle a lot with worry and anxiety, but with ISFPs, Fi is being tempered by the boldness and fearlessness of Se.
melancholika k most people that meet me think i’m a softie. I am i have a hard time saying no(i’m getting better at it). I am very mellow and people think they can Take advantage of me but when i snap i snap hard. It doesn’t get very often physical but sometimes it does
A classmate(she streams more INFP as me. I used to think i am INFP/ISFP but she is more ISFP) like she lets people walk over her way too much. Like she never stands up for herself. I can be very bitchy when annoyed
At 13:00 that's so true for me, for instance I don't panic when something does wrong. Like generally I stay pretty calm in those situations.
Also, I agree Rumi probably is an ISFP and the other man you mentioned. We do see the beauty of the simplicity. I have an INFP friend who doesn't understand how to reach his desires and that doesn't make sense to me. I tell him. If you want to do it, do it. It's simple. Just do what you wanna do and it'll work out in the end.
This was really helpful and insightful, thank you. It allowed me to understand how I really am an ISFP, as I kept getting INFP results. But I could really relate to everything you were saying! ☺️
Great video Meghan! Again, you amaze me with how much insight you have into other types. You were on the nose about pretty much everything. As an ISFP I actually feel sad for people who don't see the simplistic beauty of life. Of course, there are a lot of disadvantages of this type compared to other ones also. Sometimes we tend to oversimplify things a bit.
This reminds me of my art history teacher. He was telling about an artist’s paintings he finally got to see irl. But it wasn’t as he hoped because he already knew everything and saw it a ton of times through pictures. And he was kind of let down. He said he was jealous of the people who do experience this feeling then they see it for the first time. How some people next to him were actually crying or in disbelief. He was jealous of them being capable of feeling that emotion he cannot and wished he could trade. I will for always remember that comment because on one side I cannot relate with that feeling of jealousy. I would probably think about those people ‘this is so beautiful, they’re crying because of a painting!’ instead. But I also felt sad he thinks he is missing out on an experience.
If people are lazy and they're not acting in any way like they want to change it then ISFPs believe that they simply don't want to achieve a different way of being --> that shit hit me like really hard. That was accurate as heck
Pretty spot on, and we do dream big, we want marriage and intimacy all the time. Everything else pales in comparison to human connection on that level of depth.
As an ISFP I do control my emotions except for school tests where all my anxiety comes and stress... I do have a quite good control over my emotions so much that I appear cold sometimes. It’s just that I can’t really stand criticism(over things I’m working on and passionate. Where I put my heart 100%) and if it comes from people I love it will be quite of a dramatic show. And all my nerves come speaking to an audience as I don’t have much experience doing so.
Also my language is too simple and literal to be an intuitive. Like metaphorical language doesn’t come easy with me. And I’m usually “in my face” and my intuitive friends always come with complicate things and I’m like”I never thought about it that way”. And my intuitive classmates always complicate themselves too much(I do sometimes that too but most of time I think I complicate myself but actually I’m not) and I’m always like “Why”. When you can do it more simple
Beauty of extroverted sensing: reminding that the most simple things to say are the ones that make the most sense ⭐
Isfp one of my philosophies is if I I see something and I’m not sure I want it, that if I have to think to hard about it then I know I don’t really want it.
"The obstacle IS the way" i think is the saying~~
Jt Wright Absolutly!
So, what is the personality type of Ryan Holiday?
this was a really insightful video :)) as an isfp, i also want more enfjs in my life! one of my dearest friends is one, and she can get me to open up and talk about anything like rarely anyone else...she has this incredible sincerity and depth and always surprises me with her thought process and empathizes so much. people often think isfps are rather shallow...but i love getting insight into people's minds, it's so inspiring. it's harder for me to come up with really complex things, but my enfj friend has told me she appreciates that i can get her "back to the ground" and that she likes my artistic nature (big cliché, but for a reason), so we seem to be complimenting each other pretty well!
I’m the same with your friend, I’ve gotten infj and infp sooo many times but once I learnt about isfp everything clicked for me. It just felt right.
Dude one thing I’ve noticed is us isfps get addicted to shit really easily. I’ve been addicted to food, drugs, video games, pain, sex, hobbies, like honestly everything I like I love
Do you rap
Yuni Kxrn no lmao I just listen to it
emo rap extraordinaire well I try to make such songs x)
I think it's more like, if it's enjoyable for us ISFPs, we fall for it hard, like food, games etc.
But if it doesn't, then we wont even touch / try it again, ever.
Isfps sound awesome.
Isfp is such a soft word. I love hearing it, writing it....is so nice lol
Thankyou you answered my prayer. The internet does needs people like you, believe in yourself. An INTJ
It's like living like you are burdened with a secret of making everyone happy but you are unable to share it unless given the random chance and while they try and listen to a language they don't understand, you constantly have to improvise and a lot of the time live with an unfilled reality but at least you still have the honest feeling of whatever it is (happy, inspiring, and other times woeful and destructive)
Duddee yess what you said about ISFPs being like "If they show they are disinterested, believe them." and NFPs feeling like it's on them to fix it or that there are reasons we can't see behind why or why not they are showing a lack of interest, so we don't really know. Hahaha, this literally happened to me when I was showing interest towards an ISFP and all the ISFPs on personality cafe showed me the way out of that one. LOL. But that is literally the best dating advice for any NFP - to take what personality they are showing you or take what the person it is they are showing you at face value. To not make excuses for them or try to see the "metaphysical realm" of what could or could not be there. But to take what is happening to you in front of your face at face value. And to also try to show people our personalities in front of others' faces rather than theorize or fantasize about the relationship. Not paying attention to the actions of others and our very own inaction keep us from moving things forward in life and understanding life more through life experience rather than in our metaphysical realm or theory hidden in our brains.
ISFPs in that simplicity have taught me so much in just the way they live. Our similarities with Fi and Te help me relate enough to then see their more simplistic and straightforward view rather than in my weirdo dream world that is super impractical to a point that infuriates me hahaha
I’m an ISFP and I’ve always tested as an ISFP too, because I’m a rlly typical ISFP
I generally enjoy your videos, and really appreciate the thought you put into them and enjoy your speaking style, so thank you. I wanted to add a comment though on what you said about Fe being more evolved than Fi as I think there is a gross misunderstanding of Fi on the internet by those with Fe, and by some who actually think they have Fi, and do not.
My mother is an INFP/ISFP and often discusses MBTI theory with my INTP brother and so, I often overhear them talking and will just let you know what she says as I think it will help others to understand by someone who uses Fi in a very intense nature. Keep in mind this is a theory they are discussing and are still working on, but all of MBTI is just a theory right now.
Fi is introspective and aligns it'self with holistic truths, values, and morals, at least for those with Fi in their first or second slot. Fi, atleast for my mother and some others who have it in their first slot, is something where they seek to keep their selves authentic and honest, and spend the majority of their day, every day, putting together this framework of objective morality, but not only objective, but values that they believe are in a gray area. This helps those that may have a moral quandary as to why something may be black and white morally, and why some things are not, and should be more in the, " live and let live" category, if there is a moral squabble.
Fi dominant people, atleast INFPS, are truth seekers and the equivalent of the INTP in the "Feeling" world. Both build immense frameworks.. Jung said that FI and TI are the same in all respects but what Ti thinks, Fi feels. I agree mostly with this assessment, except that INFPS and perhaps some Isfps spend a great deal of time thinking logically, and assessing their values to make sure they are consistent in this large framework they have built. And many times because they believe a certain value is objectively moral, will put aside their own feelings and go with what is objectively true.
Just a side note, there is this misconception that INFPs and ISFPs do not do logic, and this simply isn't true, my mom scored very high in deductive and inductive logic tests better than and/or equal to several logical thinking types who took the test, and so do a lot of Fi dominant people. They simply understand that sometimes the moral thing is the right thing to do, even if it is not always efficient, but can also can make hard decisions and put aside their feelings if they believe it is the most logical, according to the framework they have built. MBTI , they believe, has a lot of misconceptions built around Fi and that is another topic altogether....
Just as the INTP spends their day understanding impersonal frameworks and then they put forth their hard work, and the INTJ and other thinking types then use this in some fashion, the INFP spends their days working on a moral framework for the feeling types and puts forth their "judgement" so that the FE types can put them to use. This isn't to say that the Fi dominants or at least INFPs are the moral authority in all areas, but they are the best equipped for it or gifted for it in a secular setting. . Of course age, mental health, physical health, and upbringing can all play a part in the accuracy of their gift, as it can with any type.
INTPs use Ti to introspect on a theory, then NE to analyze it from every angle and to doubt truth so that they search for accuracy, then Si so that they don't go too far out in left field, or to simply look to the past for wisdom in their search for truth, and finally their extroverted feeling helps them to put it forth and take action. It is the same for the INFP, who has Fi to introspect on their own moral behavior, then NE to analyze it from every angle and also to cause them to doubt the facts so that they check more for accuracy, then Si to compare to those who came before them and what they thought, and then Te to make a firm and permanent decision, then it goes to the framework area marked, "objective."
Which takes some time for it to get to the point of being able to be marked objective as they have NE as their second functions which makes them doubt and search for certainty.
Unfortunately, not to get off topic, but when an INTP doubts the facts he is called a genius, but when an INFP doubts the facts they are labeled illogical .
There are obviously going to be some issues in comparing the framework of the INTP with the INFP, and using the word objective as an adjective for moral values.
As I said, they spend their lives building this framework, and a person needs to be very introspective to build a framework. A person can not even be very logically consistent, if they are not very introspective. This is where Fi, in your first function slot, really shines, atleast with INFPs. So, just as Ti is not selfish, but is introspective, Fi is also very introspective. And though it is very self focused, it ultimately serves a purpose for the group and individual alike.
Just picture a person internally with a microscope policing their every thought and action and comparing it to the information on their framework and making sure it not only aligns but is logically consistent. I believe the INFP was gifted to be a form of judge, but not a modern one, as modern judges obviously need to be able to sometimes make quick decisions. . I think they are the ones most well equipped and gifted, after a certain amount of years of building their framework, in writing moral laws and such, and as this framework grows and matures, this equips them to make quicker judgments that are accurate in mediating and using their gifts in other areas of moral quandaries.
That is really over simplifying it, because Fi dominants or at least INFPS, spend immense amounts of work analyzing morality and putting it in it's proper place. I often find that those who are FE dominant, do not understand this and simply think it is more of a selfish feeling function.
Because Fi works the way it does, it forces the gifted dominant user to be honest, and to tap into the immense framework they built, which would allow them to deal as a better mediator in a moral quandary, a better philosopher, champion of under dogs, political activist, and dare I say moral judge etc....Think of this the next time you think of a corrupt judge and wonder if you didn't wish they were someone with dominant Fi who not only has given most moral questions their proper and painfully exhausting analytical weight, but the person who is authentic and honest too.
And though this gift obviously works while they are young, it is limited, because their framework is still being built.....so while young Fi dominants still have some important insights that other types need, they really shine as they have been in their element 20 years or more.
Fi, also is very concerned with the harmony of the group, just not at the expense of an individual, if this individual hasn't violated a core value and deserves their rescuing., which wll be determined by moral logic in their framework as every moral thought and decision is.
And of course there are going to be those who object to some of what I said about using a logical frame work in regards to objective morality, but that is an entire other discussion.
Fi dominants care very much for the group, and that is why they do what they do. Someone has to be able to go against the group and make sure what the group thinks, is morally correct. Someone has to question the traditions that Fe works so hard to guard. Someone has to make sure the group isn't drinking the Kool Aid. That is why you see Fi dominants not trusting the group, or at least INFPs do this, and instead analyzing and going through their truth seeking functional stack and accessing their framework to make sure everything pans out.
They love the group, they want to join in, but the group has to align with their morals, as no one puts as much thought to it as they do. Where as Fe wants to align with the group, Fi wants the group to align to it. There is a reason for that. Fi dominants, or at least INFPs, are truth seekers and that is how the community works and utilizes each others gifts. And as the Fi gives their corrections or judgments and Fe uses them, Fe strongly guards the group and helps preserve this truth and spreads it to others.
This is why they are both needed greatly, but Fe is not in any way shape or form more superior or evolved. If anything Fe can not really function, healthily without Fi. Think of Fi as giving Fe it's booster shots. It helps to inoculate against bad moral judgement and thinking.
And again not every INFP is going to be as accurate as the next because there are some issues that are going to cause differences in opinion as to what goes to the objective stack and what goes to the "live and let live" stack.
This is their theory, thus far, but they are still working on it.
I'm an isfp, and my best friend is an enfj. I'm glad that she's in my life
Intj here. I have really good friend which is ISFP for almost 6 years ( since college). I just know his personality last month when he tested ( I usggested for him and he is happy all the results are so relatable) . For a whole time being his friend, I think he is adventurous, not afraid to go to any length to chase what he want, he got many languages to master ( like Chinese, Japanese, indonesia and little English), and somehow he is so laid back. He is compromize when face any problem, he is so sociable but actually he admit he always make sure to have alone time since he need it. We are resonate so well from hard-working, sharing our experience about deep and value. And at least he has sense of humor He has keen on his appearance too. He is commits to long term relationship with his gf since high school to 2 years after college yet they broke up. I can see ISFP is got hurt so bad but they can cut off with people they dont like if someone hurt their trust or their feeling. But nonetheless, You are the blessed soul to have ISFP around you.
Next, dfferent story different friend.
Recently, I got to meet new friend that I have interested. I just know him for less than a week and he tried to test his mbti and also his result is ISFP. No wonder we can talk for hours and get along so easily even before I realized his mbti type. I can say INTJ-ISFP will gonna be a good friend for sure but for relationship , they have much more load of works yet they are amazing team as life partner. He also interested in me and so do I. hope I can be more tolerate and open up, get to know him better. Somehow his laid back trait made me boiling up but other than that, his whole being is all I have prayed for. I never this opening up to someone and so does he. I will try even though I know consequences. I will try harder so I wouldn't hurt him especially with my savageness/bluntness.
Bless you all, ISFPs in the world
I’m an ISFP (guy) married to an Infj (girl) it’s the Perfect Relationship. I promise except for all the emotional baggage by the two but it’s easy to figure out, a lot of self reflection from both sides
Wow, great insight on the ISFP type, Meghan! I am an ISFP and I am very driven by my end goals. It is true, once I figure out what I want my life to look like... boom, it’s like it’s as good as done. And then grin and bare it because here comes the work! I loved how you explained how we think in a primal sense, because so often the solutions, while multi faceted, are not that complicated. Thank you for seeing the positive in our personality rather than just being over simplistic people.
Love your passion and admiration for this type! Definitely inspired me to see their beauty! Thanks, Meghan.
-An Infj
I was blown away by the simplicity of the poem Meghan read too. My brother and I are very pronounced N-types who overcomplicating things, sometimes to hilarious proportions in the eyes of our friends. We have another brother I'm pretty sure is ISFP. He's just as smart but he's so much better at getting straight to the point and he's got a great sense of humor along the way. Simplicity with deep insight is a great lesson and a great gift. It' something I have to keep relearning.
I believe you're wrong about ISFPs do not overthink like other types do. As an ISFP I constantly overthink in many situations daily! Mostly when I work with children, employees and parents in kindergarten. I also overthink 8 hours a day and I think it's a good thing since I learn a lot from my thoughts. Suddenly I can remember things from the past that is not about the present or in a situation where I am supposed to focus about a topic someone aske me about. That makes me look like as if I zone out and look blank. You can ask ISFPs more about this if you haven't.
You don’t value Ne or Ti, so you will reject that kind of overthinking. I’m sure you get worked up in your own way
@@MeghaMuse No you're wrong about that! If you knew how stressful it would be to think about more than 5 perspectives then your mind will feel like it's on fire as if you can faint at any time. Please try to understand and don't underestimate how ISFPs feel. We get easily misunderstood and that is one of the big problems that make us feel weird and left out. My life has always been like that and I love being by myself. I've learned to not deal with people because they cause me pain no matter what kind of person they are. ✌
@@MeghaMuse By the way you have the same mbti type as my sister so I understand why you don't get us ISFPs.
@@NK97er honestly, same for me as an isfp. I easily get overthinking n anxious about many problems at the same time. And i cant express ny feeling, so i choose to not show it. People tend to not understand about me.
@@NK97er my ex was an ENFJ. Doesn't get me, wants to change me, master manipulator for his own end, basically just wanted me to be someone else. Which basically boils down to non acceptance and lack of respect for who I am. That's why he's an ex. He just wouldn't allow me to be who I am.
I avoid this type like the plague now.
I tested as an ISFP-T, and honestly taking this test kills me every time because I can't judge myself. At all. (Who knows, I might not be ISFP) I'm still in the middle of watching this video, and you might say something later that contradicts this, but I just want to say that personally, I have dreams and desires, but because I also view the practical side of things, I honestly question whether I can even chase those desires at all. So I can't relate when you said that isfps are driven towards their goals?
Me too. I’m an isfp for shore
I used to identify as INFP a lot, however i have been made to see how i use Se a lot and thus i would be more ISFP. Your video here has helped me see things a little bit more clearly, especially now that i am aware i may have had the intuitive bias. I still think INFPs have a beautiful set of functions that pair well with each other but i am way more interested in aesthetics and such than NFs seem to be. That is one thing that was knawing at me inside on and off. My partner would sometimes tell me i comment on sense-based things a lot. And looking back, i have mostly done well in my environments in general. So now i want to look at things anew from that fresh perspective, see what i learn.
And yes, a lot of the things you said fit me too. The car example, i could understand tho i have not been in this situation before.
I'm an ISFP and didn't realise the 'eh, we'll figure it out, nbd' attitude was part of it. Like if the car broke down or something broke in the house and people are freaking out and I'm like, it's fine, stop worrying, no one died.
I mean why would you freak out in that situation, that wouldn't change anything? Just accept it lol
ISFP, yeah we control our body and body lenguage but were still defenitly freaking out inside.
ISFP here, thank you for this video! It was helpful. Could you talk about a toxic ISFP?
An inverted INTJ hah! Makes sense why I might like them as much as I do. Like using similar functions but with a different focus? As an INTJ I admire many of the things you've said about them and what I've learned from other sources. The point they can be very confident in who they are and have such a soft spot for others while so masterful in the physical world. We have similar traits yet compliment each other in areas we wish we were better in.
From what I've researched so far people say the two types (INTJ-ISFP) are not compatible in much of any way. I find it hard to believe but I suppose I need more experience with them. Sure, the two may possibly take more work to understand and work together but if the two are at least relatively mature (which I think both strive for) and share similar or same values then It could probably make for an amazing duo. I do however understand that last part could be said for most types in a similar situation, lol. Just saying I'm thinking the two may get along better than most might think.
Totally would love to hear your further thoughts on ISFPs.
Can you pour knowledge on ISFP and INTJ interactions? Based on your studies and experience of course
ISFPs and ENFJs are actually romantically compatible.
Not when an enfj is too demanding ut will anger an isfp when their space get destroy
I tested 3 times as ENFP, but actually ended up being an ISFP. I just didn’t understand what the test was asking me... lol
When you told us what you wanted in life = whole body goosebumps...
someday I will be able to do that, just say what I want....
ISFP here. Completely accurate.
wow you're spot on (ISFP here)
More isfp videos please..? This was quite informative, need moreeee♥️
I’m an INFP who used to dreamt of traveling the world without leaving her house but now I finally managed to made my dream came true. I’ve been solo backpacking around the world for year now. my life become so adventure that I’m an adventurer and that I believe I’m learning and growing to be ISFP. Traveling the world taught me how to take things easy when things will not go as you expect. Of course it will never go as you expect especially traveling in a challenge country such as in Africa country. I learned how to be calm, because I know everything is gonna be ok and being calm help me to focus and solve the problem easier and wisely ( I used to freak out a lot ) and I don’t complain because I know I will not get anything positive out of it. And I don’t regret things because I can find good things in everything.
in the past years I’ve achieved so many goals and many dreams. Get out of my shell or even overcome my social phobia. For now I even dream bigger and strongly believe I can make all the dream not to be only just dream, I may overthink more than the ISFP but I’ll go for it anyway even I know it not going to be an easy road and that make it more fun and challenge!
(Sorry for my English, yep that’s basically INFP who will say sorry for everything and yet I’m still INFP haha) check out my journey on instagram: daisyishappydaisyishappy
That resonated with me more than any of your other videos, I might be isfp.
Side note, I still think that getting a snack pack of oreos for like 3$ is a good purchase 💁🏻♂️
I’m an ISFP and I’d have given you the same response 😂 Keep doing videos! You’re informative and easy to listen to. people will pick up on you’re sincerity. I do judge people’s achievements by my own standards and i was “misdiagnosed” with the wrong type the first few times around lol
I am an isfp and i complain alot but i still do thing to get it done.
Literally everything you said is true about my fiancee. Great video.
oh my gosh, you are so right. as an isfp, desire itself is the most important thing, and i will do whatever to keep my desire, journey is not to be avoid. but i think infp want to get rid of their desire as soon as possible, they want the result instead of the journey which explains why they like shortcut.
I used to think “if It happened it happened” and freak out on the inside. Ahh back to thinking in the ixfp debate xD
first 1:15 min of the video, and I already found it relatable.
"They seem to have a lot of control over their emotions" ...HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA not me at least. But still I think you said a lot of correct thinks about ISFPs and I could really relate, good job, because I feel like not that much people seem to really understand ISFPs. :)
I know this comments from 2 years ago but, you may be an ISFP-T a turbulent Isfp.
I'm a INFP married to an ISFP and he's my best friend in the entire world🖤🥰🥰🥰 Oh and btw...please make an INFP video. Hearing you talk about it almost made me cry🖤🖤🖤
I subscribed right away my first ever video by you....and I rarely subscribe to anything! I love your thoughts!!
aww omg thank you so much!!! :D
'artsy open-minded' i like this
Wish u post more about isfp. U r view is highly appreciated.
I agree with 10:38 so accurate! Never someone talked about this point, btw am still not sure if I am isfp or infp
20:19 yessss and that burning feeling in heart from ignoring a passion !! Lik my dream is to go live abroad rn and like it’s a hard process but I know in my heart of hearts that it WILL happen bc I literally will not be satisfied until it does ahahah
I complained a lot but I also try to solve the problem too while complaining
Wow you know us so well! I'm ISFP & I really enjoyed this. Thanks!
Thank you, that is lovely...
Omg the car towed part, made me remember how i lost my phone in a mall and was me like meh , i might get it in the information help desk. (Luckily got it).But My friend was more freaked out then me.😅
Oh my gosh. I’ve mistyped as an ISTP because for some reason I have good use of Ti. However my use is Very heavy I’ve found now that I understand what it is.
And your tow truck example made me laugh. That is 100% EXACTLY how I respond to things. Hahaha
Thanks for the uploads. Very helpful and insightful.
Also disorganization is big problem. Part of ET ..,very underdeveloped. Has held me back in life. Thwarted me in achieving. …however love my creativity and I can see 10 ways to solve any problem using sensing. It’s my raison d etre
ISFP and i’m a master of complaining. Previously mistaken myself as ENFP or INFP. I absolutely despise the phrase”Everyone likes this/Everyone does this”. Yeah everyone breaths but there aren’t many things everyone does. And i hate this generalization. Like i’m friends with popular squad i am not popular myself. Like i love kanye West and i love Taylor and my best friend was like”Taylor or Kanye. You can’t be both”. I’m like “I can.”
Even though i also notice when many people go in a particular direction
My mom’s like”Go and become an ITst. All your classmates go there”. And i’m like:no. I want to be a fashion designer. It’s their problem they love IT i don’t.”
I do sometimes shame myself for having desires though but the feeling doesn’t last long
My ISFP ass gets triggered when you are “ISFPs are....” like We’re not al The same. And not everything Gonna fit everyone
My best friend is INTP and it’s such an obvious difference between a sensor and an intuitive. I used to think i’m intuitive because i am a dreamer but there is such a difference between her and me. By being with her i actually realize i am so sensor it actually hurts. Like i usually try to make the most out of a moment but she always finds something to spoil it. Like we were on a trip 1 month before Maths exam. Our teacher brought us to a trip to study. Me and my ESFJ friends partied until morning and barely paid attention to class because “we wanted to have a good time”. She was so stressed. Went to bed early and shit. I think i overthink a lot. She overthinks twice as much as i do. Sometimes by overthinking i ruin everything too though(tertiary ni)
She asked me where do i plan to live when grow up(We’re 16). I’m like “On earth”
My mom is ENFJ my dad is INTJ and they always spoil my moments with “what if” and then i start to overthink as well. Like they induce my fears of failure(with my INTP friend) they induce every doubt i have
From an INFP's perspective, ISFPs seem better at concretely identifying their priorities, desires, and likes. Whereas, being an INFP, I think those things for us tend to be more abstract and more difficult to express or put into words, so perhaps we tend to feel more misunderstood or disconnected from others. Oh also ISFP's are more consistently better-dressed than us.
2:08 this is something I had to work on myself as well - the shame I feel for wanting to pursue what I want. The feeling of guilt of liking something. But when I look at this guilt from outside in another person it seems ridiculous. Like tell me ONE good reason for it? 😂
Yep I totally thought I was an INFJ or an INFP for a few years before realising I'm a sensing type and I'd missed the truth. Everything makes sense now 🌈🌸🦄 (those are ISFP sparkles not ENFP, I thought I was that type too for a bit)
Oh and I fully believe that if we desire something it means we're able to do it. Totally. The mere fact that we want to create that life means we can.
You are so right on.I always thought i was infp,until i took the test again.Im isfp. i Deffantly like go be agressivevon what i want. .Im more obersavant to the world.
I'm an ISFP with social anxiety, if my car got towed I'd freak the fuck out because that requires me interacting with a ton of strangers (and on top of that, I've never had to deal with that kind of situation before so I'd be relatively clueless on how to handle it)
but yeah, if I were thrust into a bad situation that I _knew_ how to handle, I wouldn't freak out quite so much, especially if I didn't have to interact with strangers to do it!
Same! Although i would just be annoyed of having to talk to people 😭
I m an ISFP and Rumi is my favorite poète in the Islamic Sufism since I was 15 😂💙💙 I even thought about tattooing his name on my hand
Thank you
~ ISFP
That bit about car towing, INFP me might freak out at first because I'd feel like I've just screwed up again by forgetting the time/rules. But then I can imagine proceeding with Si, especially if I've handled similar conflicts before. It's not really a complex problem, just more bureaucracy, formalities, money, and time. I really believe that anyone can be decently good at anything, they just have to practice using their strengths and adapt them to handle various situations.
Introverted feelers run by values, not desires. And can be really stubborn about their values.
But if youknow what your values are, you also know what desires are worth pursuing.
Yes, if desires and values Align then nothing like it.
I disagree... our desires form our values
Is there a definite way to differentiate between ISFP/INFP? I still find it hard to pinpoint. Every time I feel 80% certain I'm one type, I start thinking "ah, but that thing you just did/thought? That's more IxFP than IxFP" and so on. It's like, the descriptions are different and obvious enough when thinking of other people, but when you're analysing yourself you see more nuances than are written about and don't want to put a label on yourself that may be wrong. I would really like to figure out which one I am though! Thanks for your great channel and interesting insights. :)
Faye Zauberholz
Even I'm stuck in that from time to time! ISFP here, but I do see the INFP traits in myself, maybe because ISFP & INFPs are double observers
Interesting; someone else in other comments who I was talking to about it said I was most probably INFP and the confusion was Ne coming up with different possibilities. What would you say are some descriptions or points that you don't relate to about INFPs (which make you more certain that you're ISFP).
Zauberholz I’m an isfp, I’d say infp is more idealistic and isfp doesn’t worry about things they can’t control which is unlike an infp also I love twenty one pilots too
I am an INFP married to an ISFP (30 years) I am an idealist and get cought up somewhere in deep thought (n) my wife is very grounded and in reality. I try to get her to think outside the box, while she tries to keep me in the real...hope this helps
I still have some confusion but I've stuck with INFP so far, seems to fit the best. Although I'm reasonably grounded and trust my senses in the way an ISFP might, I think I do focus on things outside of my control and generally think too much on everything a lot of the time haha. I'm an enneagram 4w5 if that makes any difference; I'd reckon an ISFP 4w5 would be much more easily confused with an INFP due to the idealistic nature of the 4 and the detached-from-the-now cerebral 5 (hence my confusion). Ah perhaps I'll never be certain! I'll stick with INFP I suppose, it does "feel" like the right one.
1:04 it’s funny the first time I did the test the results was that I’m istj but then with getting deep into mbti I learned that I am isfp and I really felt connected to the personality discretion
Intuition brains expresses A to Z with lots of specifics.
Isfp brains expresses itself with less words and to the point.
As an isfp i drain myself talking to much!
Really?! So im infp then?! So confusing😂 my head hurts from this mbti thing, still confuse which type i am, oh whatever, just got to continue living as usual👋👋👋
{isfp} Ysss we overthink. & even more so for those of us that are empaths.
I love Rumi 😍 btw I'm an isfp here
Lucky ISFPs how astutely they can identify their desires and then nurture it. That's also what I admire about the ISFP I know. He's unflinching. It's annoying but I admire it at the same time. Me being an INFJ, it's like being dumped all the desires I'll have in my lifetime. And the problem is which one to prioritize? Which one is more important at the moment? It frustrates me how simple-minded that person is...lol but when he wants something, he achieves it and masters it.
Fi may come across as less evolved than Fe, but again it depends on how you use it. Read into the tantra therapy healing process for instance. The real tantra. The origin. You will see a wise way of healing yourself and the world through tantra and how Fi can be used right there.
Loved the video
I am an INFJ and my GF is an ISFP, so I am gathering information about her type for a better understanding for both of us.
Just some advice. Slow down, gather your thoughts, give your subject in this case the ISFP a name like Jane or something. It's more relatable, and easier to follow and understand. Not everyone can follow the jargon. You'll reach a wider audience if you adjust your approach a bit. Also get out of the habit of inserting "like." I'm only saying this because I believe you and your viewers will benefit from this.
Keep making videos, keep helping others. We all need help from time to time.
You give great insight, Maybe prepare a more precise outline for you to still be spontaneous and clear and avoid unnecessary regressions 😅
You have beautiful hair!