No matter what trials and tribulations I may go through as a biracial woman, I NEVER wish to have blue eyes and pale, white skin. I love who I am...just the way I am.
This was beautiful Penny 💜🎃💜 thankyou for sharing it. I was very similar at that time in my life as well & much for the same reasons.... People can be cruel. You are just as gorgeous now as you were then. Ilysm thanks again babe! 🙏💋🌜🌹✨
I remember being called fat when I was kid by my family and now that I’m older I call myself fat they tell me I’m not which frustrates me because they were the ones to call me that in the first place 🙄
I think almost all of us have been through an anti-girl, “I hate pink.” phase. I was out here saying I hate pink whilst having hot pink walls, a light pink carpet and a pink duvet set in my room. 💀
Right? Plus all the shades it comes in makes it so versatile. Hot pink makes a bold statement, bubblegum pink is fun and playful, dusty pink is understated and sophisticated, and pastel pink is young and innocent looking to name a few
I love the colour pink too but wearing it and having it on my walls is a no no for me I think I go for a light grey for walls and decor and clothing brown and black . C:
I got ridiculed for not shaving my legs in middle school, I'm like bro... we're 12 why are we worried about body hair. That same day I cried when I went home after a girl started dragging me for how much body hair I had lol. They always asked me why I didn't shave (and I simply wasn't allowed to and I didn't mind). Idk middle school was really weird.
I've never felt comfortable showing my body. Even the first time with my boyfriend, or the first time seeing a gynecologist -it took a lot of emotional strength and was incredibly uncomfortable. There's no way i was showing a roomful of my peers. Add to that that i was bullied like crazy in 6th grade, and i made myself find a way around it. All the way throughmiddle and high school, i changed in and out of my uniform inside locked bathroom stalls, and wiped myself down with wet wipes rather than shower in there ; i just showered as soon as i got home.
Yeah, and that's why I started shaving my body when i was only 8-9💀 now I'm 16 and I don't want to shave my arms because it's useless and annoying but I feel so ashamed when others see hair on my arms... i know, there's nothing wrong with me, but i still remember, how my "friends" made a fun of me when I was a kid...
Honestly never watched a video that I could relate to more. My stories more the opposite of yours. I grew up as a "tomboy" hated pink, hated make up, hated dresses, everything. I hated other girls for acting "girly" and I had that anti-woman mindset you said about by thinking that all woman who used make-up where shallow. I've realised now that I was just projecting my insecurities onto other people and have learned to be a better person. I like "girly" things now like doing my hair or skincare and I've never been more confident in my life because of it. Edit: I wrote this comment like 2 years ago so I doubt anyone's going to see this but I thought I'd update it. Turns out I'm not a girl. I'm trans (FTM) and I made this comment when I was still in denial of that fact. That doesn't mean what I said before was untrue; just that I didn't fully understand things back then. My experience isn't rly something I can fully explain in just a UA-cam comment but that "anti-woman" mind set had was just a weird mix of gender dysphoria and jealously that others could fit in but I couldn't and me "embarrassing my girly side" was just my way of rejecting the fact that in trans. I still like girly things now but I also understand that gender is more then just the artificial social divides we place on men and woman and anyone is free to do whatever they want. And for me that means being a queer trans man :]
Same. I grew up having the same mindset and sometimes it's still hard not to think that way but now that I've come to a point in life where I've realized that I didnt need to choose between being a "tomboy" or "girly" but whatever I feel like it's less stressful and that I shouldn't judge others the same way
I just wear what i wanna wear, my parents say I dress like a “lesbian” which is a toxic thing to say. But at the same time I like wearing feminine clothes too. Just wear what you want it doesn’t matter what people think
@@xxqueenxiexx1314 There's nothing wrong with lesbians or gay people, for that matter, I just don't want to be thought of as a different sexuality than I am
there is girly and there's the opposite. The point is that we've to feel free to be one thing or the other, do what we like and don't feel pressured to something.
@@ScientificAnomalies876 I don't think that's what the original commentor meant. Yes, biologically women and men are different. But when it comes to self expression (like style, voice, hair etc...), we are all different. There's no point of having social standards to be consider as a man or woman when we all have different taste. It's like saying, just because I am a girl/woman, I should like makeup. Or a man should never get their feet done because that's a woman thing. No, men should get their done because they like to take care of their body, simple as that. People should be doing things because they like it not because society says that's what you should do to be considered a man or woman.
@@ScientificAnomalies876 I’m sorry but who do you think you are? It’s just a question just why would you hate men just because of some stupid people I’m sure you’re the type of friend that will encarge a girl to hit a boy but when the boy hit her back you would call him out stop the stupid mindset I’m getting tired of this shit we’re mentally the same and we’re deffrent physically
@@ScientificAnomalies876 no, they meant that we as a society shouldn’t put gender to stuff like makeup and clothes and just freely express ourselves :)
When I was 8 I was raped. It induced an eating disorder and furthered my anxiety because I already had a speech impediment.. I am half latina half french and I look like a white person, whereas all my siblings have the Mexican completion and looks. I felt alienated from my family. I wouldn't speak out of fear, I was healing from a trauma so terrible and had no one to help me. I didn't seek treatment until I was 22. I'm 23 now and am doing much better having worked through trauma therapy. But I was only able to have intense biweekly therapy sessions for months because my husband is active duty military and it's covered by insurance. My heart goes out to those unable to get help.
I spent a lot of middle and high school learning that I am allowed to have the phenotypes of Hispanic women without hating them. It's always nice to know you're not alone.
@M A A phenotype is the expression of a genotype - basically the outward appearance of a gene/trait. For example black hair is a phenotype of whatever the gene for black hair is.
Phenotypes of a hispanic women? what do you mean by that? Hispanics can be ginger, blonde, brunette, any complexion. I dont really understand this comment, but atleast you are happy with yourself and thats what all matters💕
Girl you're making me feel things. I struggled with how people perceived me my whole life. Everything from my weight to my facial hair. I felt so much shame for no reason. I'm not perfectly happy with myself now but gosh I'm so much better than i was
Yeah, the internalized misogyny can really get you when you’re at your lowest. It hit me really hard, and it didn’t help my closeted status or self esteem. It’s nice to know that this experience can transcend life experiences or skin color.
i feel u girl! i grew up a tom boy until went to high school and started to be more girly. i really hated keeping up with my appearance. idk why i couldnt just play games, sports and wear baggy and comfortable like boys. i use to be so jealousy of my brothers too how they can roam around doing the hell they want. they didnt have to be stuck with feminine roles like cooking, cleaning, forcedly have to be caring for others and on top of that stay pretty. now im older and feeling like a women gets me mixed up because for the longest time i grew up not wanting to conform to female roles. now i think being a women is truly embracing yourself and just fully being.
I know exactly how you feel I got bullied through out school I'm 19 with no friends I never dated or kissed anyone before but I'm glad I'm not the only one 💖💖💖
I wasn’t really ever bullied but really have faced internal conflict with myself. I’m 17 and have no friends, never been in a relationship, ect. It’s nice to know other people haven’t too.
It is so frustrating because everyone has a unique style and appearance. Growing up in a Hispanic household, it is tough (not sure for everyone), but in my case - it is expected to have long hair and need to have a certain body shape. As well, being feminine 😅 I honestly am happy that I am not super feminine and accepted who I am. Penny it is so true! You should be yourself!
Penny this is exactly what I needed to hear in these moments, I literally cry on a daily basis because I feel like a cow I’m currently 5 months pregnant with ny second child but I sometimes feel frustrated and disgusted that other women look gorgeous while pregnant and after labor they look like they have never had a baby and I have been feeling so unattractive... this has really helped me change the way I think about myself I need to learn to love my body for how I am...it makes me angry that I feel envious of other women when I should feel happy and blessed with how I am.
Krystal!!!!!! I bet you glow like the sun. God bless you for bearing a child. I pray you both live glorious lives!! 💛 I feel modesty and keeping ourselves away from others eyes, and having a good man beside us, is ultimately amazing. May God grant you a good man if you don’t have already !!!💛 x
I’m not sure if this way of thinking would help you (we’re all different) but I’ve come to look at childbirth like a war and I came out the other side a warrior- my scars and trauma from that experience are my battle scars and I’m proud of them! And the best part is that afterwards I created life instead of taking it! ☺️ However it helps you to see it- you’re beautiful and your child will think you’re the prettiest, strongest, smartest person on the planet (at least until they’re a teen;)...
As a hairy latina, i relate to this soooo much!!! It only took one boy mentioning my hairy arms to make me so self conscious that I only wore long sleeves and pants throughout my elementary school years. And in SoCal, that meant wearing a jacket in 109 degree weather. Luckily I got over it starting middle school but now that I'm entering college I'm thinking of saving up money to get my forearm hair lasered.
Omg SAME! I have very hairy arms for a Latina and I always wore a jacket into school even high school but that was years ago and now that I’m older stuff like that doesn’t even matter lmao and I’m actually confident for once in my life!
6-8 grades were the WORST years of my life. I'm in my 40's, and I am still not a girly-girl. I only really started to care about my appearance in my 30's. I only dress up on special occasions, and have maybe 2 dresses and 1 skirt to my name. So yeah, I feel ya sis!
I am absolutely mind blown. Every thought you had, I related to every bit of it!!! I too, went through the high school tomboy phase for a few years and gained the toxic mindset that I was better for it. I wanted to stand out from other girls by being modest, but I thought the only way to be modest was to reject being feminine and become masculine instead. Now I am learning I can be both modest and feminine, and I’m learning to embrace my femininity, but I am literally putting on make up right now and was starting to feel guilty. Thinking I’m just trying to fit in with other women.😭 thank you so much for making this video. I feel so understood!🥰❤️
Thank you so much for sharing! This was really similar to my own school experience as a "tomboy" and a girl that didn't have the cute bras and panties, had the hairy arms and legs. 😥 In my 30s I've now embraced my weird and am proud of my "geeky" hobbies instead of embarrassed.
I’m also Latina Puerto Rican / Mexican and wanted the darker skin hair and eyes because I feel like I’m not Latina enough because my skin is light , hair is dark brown and eyes are green but I have just the right amount of Latina to not be seen as white either so I just hang with Africans and Asians because the are more accepting of me then my own and it’s so sad
This also happens to males. I don't understand why people don't see the beauty of the heart,kindness. Like I always tell my kids" You BE YOU if someone does not like you. Don't think is YOU. There is something wrong with them" you don't need that person in your life. See the beauty inside a person it's not always the beauty from outside that beauty goes away with age. The beauty from your heart will never age. God Bless
Yes. But not necessarily just by being a Lil different. Not having hate in your heart. It's sad how society is. How having social media and being a follower.
I am so glad you made this video and also talked about your “anti girly” phase because I remember a few years ago you had posted a blog post about makeup and why you don’t wear it and I remember it felt a bit shamey towards women who do choose to wear makeup everyday. I loved you at the time but the blog post put me off and I was also going through an “anti girly” phase at that point and I felt like I was also failing my personal mission by doing anything traditionally feminine. I’m glad we came out of that phase being better and not judging other women for how they choose to look though. I am similar to you, most of my everyday life I prefer less traditionally feminine clothes and minimal makeup but I also feel great when I do wear a dress and full makeup. Thanks again for this video Penny, keep up the good work! 💜
You're so inspirational Penny! I've struggled with a lot of the same things and your growth and confidence has helped me a lot to accept myself as I am.
I needed this video so bad like I’ve lived my middle school, high school, and partially adulthood feeling so confused as to why I feel this way. Every other girl I would try to explain wouldn’t get it and I always felt so out of place. I don’t mind being more masculine at all and I’m in the phase of feeling guilty for trying to be girly. Thank you for making this video because I’ve been watching your videos for years now and always felt like you helped me understand so much. Your wisdom has truly blessed my life
Same girl! I was in 5th grade and already a 34c while the rest of the girls hadn’t yet developed. The girls hated me and i was completely ostracized from class that year. I was so alone and often thought of just running away.
WOW WOW WOW. Girl I hardly ever comment on videos, but this video and this message right here are REAL! I need to save this video to show my daughter one day when she is old enough to understand this. Literally what a lot of us go through in school. I remember elementary school being the worst. I had an Elmo lunch box and kids use to laugh at me. I also had hairy legs and honestly every phase brings out a new "flaw" to be critized for. Thank you for sharing!
Thank you so much for this video all my life I’ve been criticized for not being “girly”enough or being to girly and it frustrated me so much and also having hair on my arms and I got so self conscious but I learned to love myself ☺️
Girl I am just like you, but I’m on the journey to getting there as you are at the moment. I’m 20 right now and lately I’ve been trying to dress more “feminine”, but I feel that just trying to be more feminine is not me. I’m a female yet I like to be tomboyish and dress like it. Yet I don’t dress completely masculine nor completely feminine. Im a bit of both and low key I love being that way. Plus I’ve been working on my inner femininity due to your hair vids. I grew up with a single father, so I never learned how to do feminine things. You’re teaching me how to do basic things a mom would teach her daughter through your hair vids. Watching your channel makes me feel accepted just the way I am. Plus you’re an educated woman, and I’m on that path of education as well. You hella inspire me Penny. Thanks homie 🌱😌🤙🏽
Wow this is ultra transparent and I love it. Transitioning from elementary to middle school was a major shock for me. I was always too innocent and naive around my peers. I felt pressure to show my body and not show my intelligence. Thank you for being this vulnerable and sharing.
I remember when I was in 7th grade I just started wearing skirts, and a boy I liked asked me in front of everyone why was my legs so hair. Haven’t worn a skirt since . Thank you so much for this video, I needed this💕
This is something i went through i was the darkest mexican in class i would get called names and told i was not mexican because how dark i was i was soo dramatized i would spend hours washing my hands until the would be peeling saying and asking why i was this color as this was not enough i was the tomboy in a crowd of girly gurls which made me feel soo ugly and never capable of being beautiful it is sad that kids have to go through this eventual i had to toughin up my skin and i started defending myself and accepting myself with that came me being angry and getting into fights and lashing out which is no good i still struggle as a 30 year old with my looks even though alot of people can tell me im soo beautiful i never really got over my insecurities i love how you always talk about these types of things penny and i applaud u for wat u are out here doing this is the type of influencers i think can make a difference in helping others that struggle with these problems
Penny always helped me to gain my confidence! She made me feel comfortable for not wearing makeup and made me stop trying to be someone that I’m not 💙 i love you penny!& and please upload more of these types!
I look at Martin and I always say he’s the luckiest man alive for winning your heart, I don’t need one but if I ever get a girlfriend I hope she’s just like you, not only as bootyful but with that same mentality and overall amazing vibes
Thank you for sharing. I always tell people not to be afraid or ashamed of their story, and to share it often. Our experiences shape us into the the people we are, and in sharing them we can often help others, even if it’s simply letting someone know you’ve experienced something similar to what they’re going through. There’s comfort in knowing you’re not the only one.
ive never seen a more relatable video in my life.I am also a girl who got bullied for body hair and for being. more masculine.I started despising girly stuff because others didn't view me as feminine enough.That wad until i stopped giving a f and started stepping into my feminine energy in highschool.I got way happier for stop caring
I agree with the point of being either “too girly or not girly enough” that was a constant struggle for me Nd at the end of the day we just need to be happy and comfortable
Oh Penny! I am so sad that you spent all those great years struggling to love yourself. You are such an inspiration to young girls and women with this message! God bless you for sharing it.
I did not want this video to end. It was like listening to someone talk about my life story. I always thought this was a unique experience only I went through so hearing your story brought tears to my eyes. I can relate to every step. Thanks for sharing 🤎 You have a new subscriber! 👍🏽
Thank you talking about this, some of what u talked about happened to me in elementary and middle school I would take so much of my time trying to make myself beautiful, caking on tons of makeup and always holding myself to this impossibly high standard because “it was working for all the other girls” and at some point I just couldn’t anymore I was so mentally and physically exhausted so very slowly I tried to put effort into things that made me feel good and feel beautiful and feel like myself, I embraced my curly hair, wore what I wanted, hung out with people who liked me and that I liked and most importantly I started taking care my mental health saw professionals and am doing so much better Thanks for letting me share this, I really hope our young people stop trying to hold themselves to such high standards for both men and women
Oh I remember being picked for how much body hair I had, which was everywhere lol I can’t believe I let that get to me when I was in MS & HS, now idgaf. (:
More of these videos!!! I used to think that masculine qualities was the only way to be strong and started undermining more traditionally feminine qualities. Its nice to know that someone went through the same thing as me:)
wow... I have to admit this is extremely comforting to hear. I also went through very similar phases in my life with those same associated mindsets. It's always other people that want to impose their thoughts and opinions of who we are, even when they haven't taken the time to get to know who that is in the first place. Thank you for sharing this painful and extremely relatable journey of growth and transformation and self-realization. Go on with your bad self! You're awesome just the way you are.
Si sierto, i remember you sometimes commenting things here and there así como "hate" if girls wore makeup and im really a big "fan" of you that there was a point i questioned myself for wearing makeup or being girly. I mean i still love you, and your content pero that did made me feel a bit insecure.
I love you so much I remember in elementary and middle school every would literally make fun of my hair arms so much that when I was in 2nd grade I started shaving with my mom’s razor and would constantly cut myself it more happened it elementary school me and my friend I am Brazilian and my friend was Korean and we would get made fun of me for my curly hair and my hairy-ness and now I love my curly hair ❤️❤️
@@natc1008 oops sorry I forgot to finish yes it is crazy now I look back and realize that is crazy to do my other friends didn’t start shaving till middle school 6, 7 ish
Girl when you said you was called a hairy gorilla I felt that in my soul . I’m half Latina and I was called Priscilla the gorilla for so many years and wasn’t allowed to shave until I was 12 ! To this days I’m not comfortable in my body I don’t like the way I look . I don’t get attention from women or men .
I relate!!!! Omg! I loved this so much. Please more content like this! Also I’ll always be disappointed that you aren’t a lesbian or attracted to women 😪 cuz ya pretty hot 🥵 but she married so I’m looking respectfully
First part of the Video is literally a Mexican girls life!!😫🔥 I feel like I can relate to you so much. This was so inspiring! I lack confidence a lot but This definitely helped boost my confidence. This was very needed. Thank you❤
Currently shifting from being nOt LiKe oThEr gIrLs to being a confident woman but there is still a long journey ahead of me, I'm glad there is more people sharing their stories because I still feel like this is not being talked enough. We are still being bombarded with tropes in media and movies that basically says tomboy= good but needs a makeover, dressed in pink= bad materialistic bitchy princess
You are beautiful and man did i feel all of that . i understand your journey completely and I am comfortable with me too. I wear makeup and love wearing pants and hoodies ❤. Thanks Penny .
Colourism and texturism still exist in caribbean communities but I think we’re a little more accepting of different ethnic features and body types (like in carnival costumes)
You don’t know how much I needed this video. I’m an extremely hairy girl myself, to the point where just looking at my body hair made me cry because I never felt “feminine” enough. I’m so glad you shared your story of accepting and loving yourself. It’s still hard at times but I think I’m finally learning to accept myself the way I am and not give in to society’s expectations on women.
God bless! Believe in your heart and confess with your mouth that Jesus Christ is our Lord and Savior and died on a cross for our sins so we can live again in Heaven where there is no pain or suffering! God is our Father and Creator and raised His Son Jesus from the dead! Confess and repent of your sins and God will freely forgive you! Trust in God and live for Jesus as He died for you! 💕.
Thank you for sharing! I know your story can inspire many young to change their ways for the better, so keep on “ranting!” I went through similar experiences when I was younger. I was teased relentlessly for being “fat.” (FYI, I was tiny compared to the “fat” kids nowadays) Because of that I became painfully shy, didn’t have many friends, and couldn’t wear designer clothes (my parents couldn’t afford to buy designer clothes, anyway). As I got older, I dealt with a lot of suppressed anger, which led to depression and more issues with my weight, as I usually stuffed my feelings down with food and other negative behaviors. As an adult, it has been a long road in discerning what areas of my life to accept and what areas to change.
Who gives a fuck?! Be you unapologetically!!! Fuck those morons that make you question your self worth. You're fucking kicking ass, inspiring a TON of people, and I appreciate your use of your platform. The immense GROWTH is something to be proud of and we're proud of you!!!!! Thanks for sharing and spreading positivity!!!
Thank you for being so honest. Young people have so much pressure on them to conform to societies 'norms' and can be ridiculed for being different. Everyone needs to know it's ok to be yourself ❤️
Penny, this kind of thing is why I love your content. You're so inspiring & you speak about experiences that most of us have had but feel like it's difficult to vocalize. Thank you for being you & being genuine. 💕
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love you penny ❤️
Everyone needs to be able to love themselves and be able to say im enough everyday
Thanks Penny
These are my favorite kind of vedios, love youuuu. ❤️
No matter what trials and tribulations I may go through as a biracial woman, I NEVER wish to have blue eyes and pale, white skin. I love who I am...just the way I am.
This was beautiful Penny 💜🎃💜 thankyou for sharing it. I was very similar at that time in my life as well & much for the same reasons.... People can be cruel. You are just as gorgeous now as you were then. Ilysm thanks again babe! 🙏💋🌜🌹✨
I swear in a Latino household they roast you so much that you hate yourself
True
I remember being called fat when I was kid by my family and now that I’m older I call myself fat they tell me I’m not which frustrates me because they were the ones to call me that in the first place 🙄
Yes and to the point where it's so normal that you just shrug it off even though you know deep down what they said hurts
yep :/
Y luego te preguntan por qué ya no hablas con ellos
Girl u don't know how u helped me move from that toxic mentality of being "feminine"
it is definitely difficult! but once you learn that you are valid as you are, you just feel happier
Nice. Good for you.
Me too!
And now with Instagram girls... So annoying
Me too!
I think almost all of us have been through an anti-girl, “I hate pink.” phase. I was out here saying I hate pink whilst having hot pink walls, a light pink carpet and a pink duvet set in my room. 💀
I love pink now! It's dope
Pink is actually a pretty color and it's so wierd that it's described as a "girlish" color. Even boys can love pink it's completely normal
@@therealsabey5142 I know right! It’s such a cute colour.
Right? Plus all the shades it comes in makes it so versatile. Hot pink makes a bold statement, bubblegum pink is fun and playful, dusty pink is understated and sophisticated, and pastel pink is young and innocent looking to name a few
I love the colour pink too but wearing it and having it on my walls is a no no for me I think I go for a light grey for walls and decor and clothing brown and black . C:
“only of the fish and the bread” 🤣🤣
and veggie tales lol
Not to mention cake
@@PennyTovar yessssss. That was my favourite show growing up
I would like to know what that means! Lol
@@PennyTovar BRUH OMG VEGGIE TALES🤣🤣
I got ridiculed for not shaving my legs in middle school, I'm like bro... we're 12 why are we worried about body hair. That same day I cried when I went home after a girl started dragging me for how much body hair I had lol. They always asked me why I didn't shave (and I simply wasn't allowed to and I didn't mind). Idk middle school was really weird.
Middle school broke me, I relate sm
Same happened to me. It was the worst..
I understand. Keep up !
I've never felt comfortable showing my body. Even the first time with my boyfriend, or the first time seeing a gynecologist -it took a lot of emotional strength and was incredibly uncomfortable. There's no way i was showing a roomful of my peers. Add to that that i was bullied like crazy in 6th grade, and i made myself find a way around it. All the way throughmiddle and high school, i changed in and out of my uniform inside locked bathroom stalls, and wiped myself down with wet wipes rather than shower in there ; i just showered as soon as i got home.
Ugh I had a similar experience but in ELEMENTRARY SCHOOL. So ridiculous...
Making fun of kids with body hair is so frickin toxic
ya. it’s a normal thing
It ruined my life under age 10
Yeah, and that's why I started shaving my body when i was only 8-9💀 now I'm 16 and I don't want to shave my arms because it's useless and annoying but I feel so ashamed when others see hair on my arms... i know, there's nothing wrong with me, but i still remember, how my "friends" made a fun of me when I was a kid...
Penny you’re so pretty. When people show confidence & acceptance of themselves they immediately shine & their beauty comes through.
I totally agree. Confidence is the most beautiful thing that come one could have
not to mention she's just plain HOT
TRUTH! Best comment ever! ❣️✝️
I needed to hear this comment. I’m on my low point right now
@@UA-campoops221 I hope it gets better for you, I’m sorry that it’s hard rn♥️♥️♥️
Honestly never watched a video that I could relate to more. My stories more the opposite of yours. I grew up as a "tomboy" hated pink, hated make up, hated dresses, everything. I hated other girls for acting "girly" and I had that anti-woman mindset you said about by thinking that all woman who used make-up where shallow. I've realised now that I was just projecting my insecurities onto other people and have learned to be a better person. I like "girly" things now like doing my hair or skincare and I've never been more confident in my life because of it.
Edit:
I wrote this comment like 2 years ago so I doubt anyone's going to see this but I thought I'd update it. Turns out I'm not a girl. I'm trans (FTM) and I made this comment when I was still in denial of that fact. That doesn't mean what I said before was untrue; just that I didn't fully understand things back then. My experience isn't rly something I can fully explain in just a UA-cam comment but that "anti-woman" mind set had was just a weird mix of gender dysphoria and jealously that others could fit in but I couldn't and me "embarrassing my girly side" was just my way of rejecting the fact that in trans. I still like girly things now but I also understand that gender is more then just the artificial social divides we place on men and woman and anyone is free to do whatever they want. And for me that means being a queer trans man :]
Agree. Very good video.
Definitely, I was the same
Lol still low key hate pink and say... Ewwwww that's girly👀🙄
Same lol
Same. I grew up having the same mindset and sometimes it's still hard not to think that way but now that I've come to a point in life where I've realized that I didnt need to choose between being a "tomboy" or "girly" but whatever I feel like it's less stressful and that I shouldn't judge others the same way
I just wear what i wanna wear, my parents say I dress like a “lesbian” which is a toxic thing to say. But at the same time I like wearing feminine clothes too. Just wear what you want it doesn’t matter what people think
I'm the same way, a mix of feminine and masculine. I'm so afraid of people assuming i'm lesbian though, lol
@@joydasko5171 why are you "afraid" of being called a lesbian?? You can just say that you're not lmao
@@xxqueenxiexx1314 There's nothing wrong with lesbians or gay people, for that matter, I just don't want to be thought of as a different sexuality than I am
@@joydasko5171 no I get it just the way you worded it kinda threw me off you're all good
@@xxqueenxiexx1314 Ah, that's okay lol
“From gorl to wOmAn”🤣
Took me out 😂
@@Psilocymen sameeeee🤣
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3:17 got me too 😂😂
@@starbellysneetch8856 I like your user, got a good laugh
And the people said AMEN!!!!
Amen
Amen.
Amen
I love her wardrobe. I also like men and also love “boyish” clothes.
👍🏾. I understand.
Same
@@btbudgets I understand
@@ralphkeeldar4726 k?
@@sxukablajt6299 Hi, thx for your message. What do you mean by K ? Good luck ! 👍
When is society going to realize there is no such thing as "girly", "womanly", or "manly" and accept the fact people are just people.
there is girly and there's the opposite. The point is that we've to feel free to be one thing or the other, do what we like and don't feel pressured to something.
@@ScientificAnomalies876 I don't think that's what the original commentor meant. Yes, biologically women and men are different. But when it comes to self expression (like style, voice, hair etc...), we are all different. There's no point of having social standards to be consider as a man or woman when we all have different taste. It's like saying, just because I am a girl/woman, I should like makeup. Or a man should never get their feet done because that's a woman thing. No, men should get their done because they like to take care of their body, simple as that. People should be doing things because they like it not because society says that's what you should do to be considered a man or woman.
@@ScientificAnomalies876 I’m sorry but who do you think you are? It’s just a question just why would you hate men just because of some stupid people I’m sure you’re the type of friend that will encarge a girl to hit a boy but when the boy hit her back you would call him out stop the stupid mindset I’m getting tired of this shit we’re mentally the same and we’re deffrent physically
@@ScientificAnomalies876 no, they meant that we as a society shouldn’t put gender to stuff like makeup and clothes and just freely express ourselves :)
@@ashs7462 I think they mean “we’re not the same” but “ we need equal rights” that’s what I’m saying. Men and women will always be different
When I was 8 I was raped. It induced an eating disorder and furthered my anxiety because I already had a speech impediment.. I am half latina half french and I look like a white person, whereas all my siblings have the Mexican completion and looks. I felt alienated from my family. I wouldn't speak out of fear, I was healing from a trauma so terrible and had no one to help me. I didn't seek treatment until I was 22. I'm 23 now and am doing much better having worked through trauma therapy. But I was only able to have intense biweekly therapy sessions for months because my husband is active duty military and it's covered by insurance. My heart goes out to those unable to get help.
That's so sad.
That's brave to share! Thank you for sharing and you are so strong!
Good for you for getting help!!❤️❤️
I hope you're feeling better. The person who hurt you deserves to rot in prison,.
❤️ I’m so proud of you 👍
I spent a lot of middle and high school learning that I am allowed to have the phenotypes of Hispanic women without hating them. It's always nice to know you're not alone.
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@M A A phenotype is the expression of a genotype - basically the outward appearance of a gene/trait. For example black hair is a phenotype of whatever the gene for black hair is.
Phenotypes of a hispanic women? what do you mean by that? Hispanics can be ginger, blonde, brunette, any complexion. I dont really understand this comment, but atleast you are happy with yourself and thats what all matters💕
@@gigi_lulz I’m assuming she means native/indigenous women.
Girl you're making me feel things. I struggled with how people perceived me my whole life. Everything from my weight to my facial hair. I felt so much shame for no reason. I'm not perfectly happy with myself now but gosh I'm so much better than i was
Yeah, the internalized misogyny can really get you when you’re at your lowest. It hit me really hard, and it didn’t help my closeted status or self esteem. It’s nice to know that this experience can transcend life experiences or skin color.
i feel u girl! i grew up a tom boy until went to high school and started to be more girly. i really hated keeping up with my appearance. idk why i couldnt just play games, sports and wear baggy and comfortable like boys. i use to be so jealousy of my brothers too how they can roam around doing the hell they want. they didnt have to be stuck with feminine roles like cooking, cleaning, forcedly have to be caring for others and on top of that stay pretty. now im older and feeling like a women gets me mixed up because for the longest time i grew up not wanting to conform to female roles. now i think being a women is truly embracing yourself and just fully being.
“Huh, I don’t have those things?” 😩💕
She described me in so many languages on how I used to be back then, and I ain’t even mad👀” ily penny!
"I don't have to prove that I'm a woman, because I am" THAT'S THE POINT GIRLS, YEEEEAH
I know exactly how you feel I got bullied through out school I'm 19 with no friends I never dated or kissed anyone before but I'm glad I'm not the only one 💖💖💖
you can get through it. sending you love ans support wherever you are and hoping u find people who appreciate you because u definitely deserve it ❤
I wasn’t really ever bullied but really have faced internal conflict with myself. I’m 17 and have no friends, never been in a relationship, ect. It’s nice to know other people haven’t too.
@@yc2877 Same, sending love from england
@@joemana9707 Thank you love 💖💖💖
@@demenobody1099 Thank you love 💖💖
It is so frustrating because everyone has a unique style and appearance. Growing up in a Hispanic household, it is tough (not sure for everyone), but in my case - it is expected to have long hair and need to have a certain body shape. As well, being feminine 😅
I honestly am happy that I am not super feminine and accepted who I am.
Penny it is so true! You should be yourself!
Penny this is exactly what I needed to hear in these moments, I literally cry on a daily basis because I feel like a cow I’m currently 5 months pregnant with ny second child but I sometimes feel frustrated and disgusted that other women look gorgeous while pregnant and after labor they look like they have never had a baby and I have been feeling so unattractive... this has really helped me change the way I think about myself I need to learn to love my body for how I am...it makes me angry that I feel envious of other women when I should feel happy and blessed with how I am.
Krystal!!!!!! I bet you glow like the sun. God bless you for bearing a child. I pray you both live glorious lives!! 💛 I feel modesty and keeping ourselves away from others eyes, and having a good man beside us, is ultimately amazing. May God grant you a good man if you don’t have already !!!💛 x
You are beautiful and are going through one of the most magical processes. Blessings and health to your family💖
Jesus looks at you and thinks your a
💫✨masterpiece ✨💫beautifully hand made by the lord himself😌
Your body is nurturing your future child, and that is absolutely beautiful!
I’m not sure if this way of thinking would help you (we’re all different) but I’ve come to look at childbirth like a war and I came out the other side a warrior- my scars and trauma from that experience are my battle scars and I’m proud of them! And the best part is that afterwards I created life instead of taking it! ☺️ However it helps you to see it- you’re beautiful and your child will think you’re the prettiest, strongest, smartest person on the planet (at least until they’re a teen;)...
As a hairy latina, i relate to this soooo much!!! It only took one boy mentioning my hairy arms to make me so self conscious that I only wore long sleeves and pants throughout my elementary school years. And in SoCal, that meant wearing a jacket in 109 degree weather. Luckily I got over it starting middle school but now that I'm entering college I'm thinking of saving up money to get my forearm hair lasered.
Omg SAME! I have very hairy arms for a Latina and I always wore a jacket into school even high school but that was years ago and now that I’m older stuff like that doesn’t even matter lmao and I’m actually confident for once in my life!
Same guurl! 😢 let's stay strong everybody 💗
Amen
Ah the dreaded ‘not like other girls’ phase. We all go through it to some degree.
Yep
Me, seeing VS is supporting this kind of video: 👁️👄👁️
that was my same reaction when they reached out to me lol but I am glad they are trying to be better
@@malaja I remember, I think it was the first vid I saw on her channel, sponsor rly took me out LOLZ
6-8 grades were the WORST years of my life. I'm in my 40's, and I am still not a girly-girl. I only really started to care about my appearance in my 30's. I only dress up on special occasions, and have maybe 2 dresses and 1 skirt to my name. So yeah, I feel ya sis!
I am absolutely mind blown. Every thought you had, I related to every bit of it!!! I too, went through the high school tomboy phase for a few years and gained the toxic mindset that I was better for it. I wanted to stand out from other girls by being modest, but I thought the only way to be modest was to reject being feminine and become masculine instead. Now I am learning I can be both modest and feminine, and I’m learning to embrace my femininity, but I am literally putting on make up right now and was starting to feel guilty. Thinking I’m just trying to fit in with other women.😭 thank you so much for making this video. I feel so understood!🥰❤️
Classmates and everyone: be yourself
Thank you so much for sharing! This was really similar to my own school experience as a "tomboy" and a girl that didn't have the cute bras and panties, had the hairy arms and legs. 😥
In my 30s I've now embraced my weird and am proud of my "geeky" hobbies instead of embarrassed.
I love it when you do this kind of content. Please do it whenever you feel like it. It‘s inspirational for so many!
I am mexican and never wanted lighter skin or blue eyes, i love being mexican, i am proud of being mexican
Good for you?
@@crystalcara02 bby this was never meant to be a negative comment, i am simply sharing a little part of my experience
I’m also Latina Puerto Rican / Mexican and wanted the darker skin hair and eyes because I feel like I’m not Latina enough because my skin is light , hair is dark brown and eyes are green but I have just the right amount of Latina to not be seen as white either so I just hang with Africans and Asians because the are more accepting of me then my own and it’s so sad
Girl same 🇲🇽 I love myself ❤️ and everyone should too
Hate to break it to you , but most aren’t . I’m glad penny made this video
This also happens to males. I don't understand why people don't see the beauty of the heart,kindness. Like I always tell my kids" You BE YOU if someone does not like you. Don't think is YOU. There is something wrong with them" you don't need that person in your life. See the beauty inside a person it's not always the beauty from outside that beauty goes away with age. The beauty from your heart will never age. God Bless
100% yes! Men who fall outside of the binary are relentlessly bullied, beaten and some are even killed. It's so disturbing :/
Yes. But not necessarily just by being a Lil different. Not having hate in your heart. It's sad how society is. How having social media and being a follower.
I'm so glad we're starting to talk about the "not like other girls" mentality and how it's detrimental to basically everyone.
Preach it girl, Preach it, I like what you said. My generation doesn't understand that what matters most is what is on the internal.
Welcome to Penny's TED talk
You, at age 25, have figured out life lessons that I eventually learned at age 38. Thank you for being a positive force!
I relate to this so much !! Thank you for sharing ❤️
“Male” clothes are comfy as fuck. I also love a good skirt or dress.
I am so glad you made this video and also talked about your “anti girly” phase because I remember a few years ago you had posted a blog post about makeup and why you don’t wear it and I remember it felt a bit shamey towards women who do choose to wear makeup everyday. I loved you at the time but the blog post put me off and I was also going through an “anti girly” phase at that point and I felt like I was also failing my personal mission by doing anything traditionally feminine. I’m glad we came out of that phase being better and not judging other women for how they choose to look though. I am similar to you, most of my everyday life I prefer less traditionally feminine clothes and minimal makeup but I also feel great when I do wear a dress and full makeup. Thanks again for this video Penny, keep up the good work! 💜
I remember that! Ugh so cringey. I hate my past self. But I have grown, and want to share that growth
Me having gender dysphoria and watching this video like 🤔 I want to be a gurl but I am trapped in a Male body 😂😂 love u penny u inspired me so much 🥰
The fish and the bread 😂🤣 I know this supposed to be serious, but that made me laugh.
You're so inspirational Penny! I've struggled with a lot of the same things and your growth and confidence has helped me a lot to accept myself as I am.
i recognized myself so much in your story, thank you for this video
I needed this video so bad like I’ve lived my middle school, high school, and partially adulthood feeling so confused as to why I feel this way. Every other girl I would try to explain wouldn’t get it and I always felt so out of place. I don’t mind being more masculine at all and I’m in the phase of feeling guilty for trying to be girly. Thank you for making this video because I’ve been watching your videos for years now and always felt like you helped me understand so much. Your wisdom has truly blessed my life
Same girl! I was in 5th grade and already a 34c while the rest of the girls hadn’t yet developed. The girls hated me and i was completely ostracized from class that year. I was so alone and often thought of just running away.
WOW WOW WOW. Girl I hardly ever comment on videos, but this video and this message right here are REAL! I need to save this video to show my daughter one day when she is old enough to understand this. Literally what a lot of us go through in school. I remember elementary school being the worst. I had an Elmo lunch box and kids use to laugh at me. I also had hairy legs and honestly every phase brings out a new "flaw" to be critized for. Thank you for sharing!
i love the fact that you don't care about people's opinions girl you're such a queen and ily
Thank you so much for this video all my life I’ve been criticized for not being “girly”enough or being to girly and it frustrated me so much and also having hair on my arms and I got so self conscious but I learned to love myself ☺️
Girl I am just like you, but I’m on the journey to getting there as you are at the moment. I’m 20 right now and lately I’ve been trying to dress more “feminine”, but I feel that just trying to be more feminine is not me. I’m a female yet I like to be tomboyish and dress like it. Yet I don’t dress completely masculine nor completely feminine. Im a bit of both and low key I love being that way. Plus I’ve been working on my inner femininity due to your hair vids. I grew up with a single father, so I never learned how to do feminine things. You’re teaching me how to do basic things a mom would teach her daughter through your hair vids. Watching your channel makes me feel accepted just the way I am. Plus you’re an educated woman, and I’m on that path of education as well. You hella inspire me Penny. Thanks homie 🌱😌🤙🏽
Haha 'only the fish & the bread' 🐟🍞
We are enough 🌺✨ I remember you sharing this in your blog back in the day, thank you for sharin your story.
I diedddddd when she said that 😩😩😩😂😂😂😭😭😭😩😩😩
I can’t stand how funny she is 😂😂😂
Wow this is ultra transparent and I love it. Transitioning from elementary to middle school was a major shock for me. I was always too innocent and naive around my peers. I felt pressure to show my body and not show my intelligence. Thank you for being this vulnerable and sharing.
I remember when I was in 7th grade I just started wearing skirts, and a boy I liked asked me in front of everyone why was my legs so hair. Haven’t worn a skirt since .
Thank you so much for this video, I needed this💕
This is something i went through i was the darkest mexican in class i would get called names and told i was not mexican because how dark i was i was soo dramatized i would spend hours washing my hands until the would be peeling saying and asking why i was this color as this was not enough i was the tomboy in a crowd of girly gurls which made me feel soo ugly and never capable of being beautiful it is sad that kids have to go through this eventual i had to toughin up my skin and i started defending myself and accepting myself with that came me being angry and getting into fights and lashing out which is no good i still struggle as a 30 year old with my looks even though alot of people can tell me im soo beautiful i never really got over my insecurities i love how you always talk about these types of things penny and i applaud u for wat u are out here doing this is the type of influencers i think can make a difference in helping others that struggle with these problems
In an Egyptian household they turn your biggest insecurity into a nickname for you 😭
Same in Tunisia girl 😭😭😭
as an Algerian, felt that 😭
I feel this 🤣🤣
as a mexican, i FELT THAT
I dont understand. More clear please
Penny always helped me to gain my confidence! She made me feel comfortable for not wearing makeup and made me stop trying to be someone that I’m not 💙 i love you penny!& and please upload more of these types!
I look at Martin and I always say he’s the luckiest man alive for winning your heart, I don’t need one but if I ever get a girlfriend I hope she’s just like you, not only as bootyful but with that same mentality and overall amazing vibes
Confidence is everything, my friend, you'll find the one
Thank you for sharing. I always tell people not to be afraid or ashamed of their story, and to share it often. Our experiences shape us into the the people we are, and in sharing them we can often help others, even if it’s simply letting someone know you’ve experienced something similar to what they’re going through. There’s comfort in knowing you’re not the only one.
im so glad you got through this! :D you helped me a lot too and nobody should go through this :) 🥠🥠
ive never seen a more relatable video in my life.I am also a girl who got bullied for body hair and for being. more masculine.I started despising girly stuff because others didn't view me as feminine enough.That wad until i stopped giving a f and started stepping into my feminine energy in highschool.I got way happier for stop caring
I agree with the point of being either “too girly or not girly enough” that was a constant struggle for me Nd at the end of the day we just need to be happy and comfortable
Oh Penny! I am so sad that you spent all those great years struggling to love yourself. You are such an inspiration to young girls and women with this message! God bless you for sharing it.
ok, but is nobody gonna talk about how pretty she looked in her high school photo on the lil card thingy
Ok but you didn't have to make me cry this much Penny😭💜
Omg are we the same soul in different bodies?! :o I relate so much to your story
I did not want this video to end. It was like listening to someone talk about my life story. I always thought this was a unique experience only I went through so hearing your story brought tears to my eyes. I can relate to every step. Thanks for sharing 🤎
You have a new subscriber! 👍🏽
I wish UA-cam had a love button next to like, cause like just isn't enough right now.
Thank you talking about this, some of what u talked about happened to me in elementary and middle school I would take so much of my time trying to make myself beautiful, caking on tons of makeup and always holding myself to this impossibly high standard because “it was working for all the other girls” and at some point I just couldn’t anymore I was so mentally and physically exhausted so very slowly I tried to put effort into things that made me feel good and feel beautiful and feel like myself, I embraced my curly hair, wore what I wanted, hung out with people who liked me and that I liked and most importantly I started taking care my mental health saw professionals and am doing so much better
Thanks for letting me share this, I really hope our young people stop trying to hold themselves to such high standards for both men and women
Oh I remember being picked for how much body hair I had, which was everywhere lol I can’t believe I let that get to me when I was in MS & HS, now idgaf. (:
More of these videos!!! I used to think that masculine qualities was the only way to be strong and started undermining more traditionally feminine qualities. Its nice to know that someone went through the same thing as me:)
“Only of the fish and the bread”
😂😂
I can relate 100%
We didn’t talk about sex because we weren’t suppose to have sex. We were just clueless.
wow... I have to admit this is extremely comforting to hear. I also went through very similar phases in my life with those same associated mindsets. It's always other people that want to impose their thoughts and opinions of who we are, even when they haven't taken the time to get to know who that is in the first place. Thank you for sharing this painful and extremely relatable journey of growth and transformation and self-realization. Go on with your bad self! You're awesome just the way you are.
I have always felt that way but i love you for talking about it☺
Blessings ❤
Si sierto, i remember you sometimes commenting things here and there así como "hate" if girls wore makeup and im really a big "fan" of you that there was a point i questioned myself for wearing makeup or being girly. I mean i still love you, and your content pero that did made me feel a bit insecure.
I love you so much I remember in elementary and middle school every would literally make fun of my hair arms so much that when I was in 2nd grade I started shaving with my mom’s razor and would constantly cut myself it more happened it elementary school me and my friend I am Brazilian and my friend was Korean and we would get made fun of me for my curly hair and my hairy-ness and now I love my curly hair ❤️❤️
Also Brazilian. My mom would bleach my arm hair and leg hair until I starting shaving my legs... Such a weird thing to do to a 10 yo
@@natc1008 oh my gosh my mom is Brazilian and she would do that to me too 😂 was so little
@@natc1008 oops sorry I forgot to finish yes it is crazy now I look back and realize that is crazy to do my other friends didn’t start shaving till middle school 6, 7 ish
I love whenever you tell a story you are braiding your hair, there is something satisfying about it
I love your videos!!! I've been watching you for years 😊💕 also I def relate 🥺😳
Girl when you said you was called a hairy gorilla I felt that in my soul . I’m half Latina and I was called Priscilla the gorilla for so many years and wasn’t allowed to shave until I was 12 ! To this days I’m not comfortable in my body I don’t like the way I look . I don’t get attention from women or men .
I relate!!!! Omg! I loved this so much. Please more content like this! Also I’ll always be disappointed that you aren’t a lesbian or attracted to women 😪 cuz ya pretty hot 🥵 but she married so I’m looking respectfully
I love the message you gave at the end , be yourself everyone don't feel pressured to look a certain way!🥰
I think I had the "I'm not like other girls" phase when I was in like elementary school
And look at me now. I'm not even a girl no more bruh
First part of the Video is literally a Mexican girls life!!😫🔥 I feel like I can relate to you so much.
This was so inspiring! I lack confidence a lot but This definitely helped boost my confidence. This was very needed. Thank you❤
notif squad!! love you penny!
Its crazy you felt this way, the very first time I saw you I was speechless over how beautiful you are!!
Currently shifting from being nOt LiKe oThEr gIrLs to being a confident woman but there is still a long journey ahead of me, I'm glad there is more people sharing their stories because I still feel like this is not being talked enough. We are still being bombarded with tropes in media and movies that basically says tomboy= good but needs a makeover, dressed in pink= bad materialistic bitchy princess
Same same Penny🤍 Thank you for always being so real and transparent
Thanks again Penny your’e like my older sister
:o Your videos really do help me I’m so happy you replied
You are beautiful and man did i feel all of that . i understand your journey completely and I am comfortable with me too. I wear makeup and love wearing pants and hoodies ❤. Thanks Penny .
In the Caribbean it's SOO different everyone just accepts each other 👁️👄👁️
I’m from the Caribbean and I never felt accepted 😕
Colourism and texturism still exist in caribbean communities but I think we’re a little more accepting of different ethnic features and body types (like in carnival costumes)
Well at least in my skl it isn’t like that ig I’m lucky
@@angelina-zs3bl I will agree for the most part that everyone is accepting...but everyone has different experiences
@@SuhannaDeSilva so true
You don’t know how much I needed this video. I’m an extremely hairy girl myself, to the point where just looking at my body hair made me cry because I never felt “feminine” enough. I’m so glad you shared your story of accepting and loving yourself. It’s still hard at times but I think I’m finally learning to accept myself the way I am and not give in to society’s expectations on women.
God bless! Believe in your heart and confess with your mouth that Jesus Christ is our Lord and Savior and died on a cross for our sins so we can live again in Heaven where there is no pain or suffering! God is our Father and Creator and raised His Son Jesus from the dead! Confess and repent of your sins and God will freely forgive you! Trust in God and live for Jesus as He died for you! 💕.
Thank you for sharing! I know your story can inspire many young to change their ways for the better, so keep on “ranting!” I went through similar experiences when I was younger. I was teased relentlessly for being “fat.” (FYI, I was tiny compared to the “fat” kids nowadays) Because of that I became painfully shy, didn’t have many friends, and couldn’t wear designer clothes (my parents couldn’t afford to buy designer clothes, anyway). As I got older, I dealt with a lot of suppressed anger, which led to depression and more issues with my weight, as I usually stuffed my feelings down with food and other negative behaviors. As an adult, it has been a long road in discerning what areas of my life to accept and what areas to change.
Wait WHAT?! You're being reached out by Victoria secret and accepted it after you said that you rather get more organic or better under clothing?
Who gives a fuck?! Be you unapologetically!!! Fuck those morons that make you question your self worth. You're fucking kicking ass, inspiring a TON of people, and I appreciate your use of your platform. The immense GROWTH is something to be proud of and we're proud of you!!!!! Thanks for sharing and spreading positivity!!!
Thank you for being so honest. Young people have so much pressure on them to conform to societies 'norms' and can be ridiculed for being different. Everyone needs to know it's ok to be yourself ❤️
Penny, this kind of thing is why I love your content. You're so inspiring & you speak about experiences that most of us have had but feel like it's difficult to vocalize. Thank you for being you & being genuine. 💕
I wish I could like this a million times. This meant a lot to me, thank you penny. You’re such a great influence on so many.♥️♥️♥️
Please make more videos like these. If I heard this in high school it would’ve completely changed my thinking