How to Overcome Shyness
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- Опубліковано 8 вер 2024
- The true origins of shyness lie not in under-confidence but, very often, in self-hatred. We will be able to face social situations with energy and self-belief when we finally become able to like ourselves a little more.
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"A lack of confidence is often put down to something we call shyness. But beneath shyness, there may lie something more surprising, pernicious and poignant. We suffer from a suspicion of ourselves that gives us a sense that other people will always have good reasons to dislike us, to think ill of us, to question our motives and to mock us. We then become scared of the world, speak in a small voice, don’t dare to show our face at gatherings and are frightened of social occasions because we fear that we are ideal targets for ridicule and disdain. Our shy manner is the pre-emptive stance we adopt in the face of the blows we feel that other people want to land on us. Our shyness is rooted in a sense of unworthiness..."
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Once you realise nobody really cares, especially not strangers, it helps a lot 🙃
Speak for yourself. Everyone LOVES me as soon as I step in the room😎
@@vangelissopamena then you have no reason to click on a video called "How to overcome shyness" , good for you 👍
for me thats not even it, i just hate small talk so i never know what to say to make things less awkward kcjdjd
Knowing is only half the battle. There are many psychotherapist who know everything in theory, but their life is a wreck. Besides the problem isn't if they care, the problem is that WE care what they think of us
Once you realise that even if people do care, I doesn't matter in the end
I hate when people say “you are so quiet” it makes me distance myself from them even more. Like i do want to talk more, but i have nothing to say.
Same 😭
Or more like we'd have more things to say IF we felt safe and comfortable enough to share them...
"A wise man speaks because he has something to say. A fool speaks because he has to say something." -- Plato
You're good as you are, don't worry 😂
I remember when I was in secondary school in Year 7 and a couple of girls in my class said the exact same thing to me and literally my response was "I know."
I always used to question my personality and ask my father for advice and he said to me that to reply I have nothing to say and something on the lines of that "I am a quiet person."
Now I'm older and mature I don't really care what the world has to say or think about me anymore. Life does that to you when you learn to stop caring and worry about more important things like one's mental health for example!
same.
and i aware that people often do "small talks", what i feel boring, but sometimes i go with it, because it can direct us to deeper conversations, where i have things to say.
Also, my best advice to get over social anxiety would be to learn to laugh at yourself and to not take yourself too seriously(this is not to say what you feel is not valid). I cannot stress enough how much it has boosted my confidence to simply let myself understand I'm human and i make mistakes. I should be comfortable with that. Life can be silly sometimes and I'm a silly Billy.
Agreed wholeheartedly
We must learn to be comfortable with being uncomfortable.
@@anomalus625 thank you for that wisdom my friend. I have just taken a screenshot of this advice. I had woken this morning with very uncomfortable emotions and l have to work on this concept. Mary
but sometimes you laugh at yourself too much it looks pathetic
Yes but No. I must be perfect before i deserved to be Even able to talk to women. Untill so, ill Rot up in loneliness and darkness, exactly as I deserve.
While it's true that other people don't care, it's also true that they do judge. It's something that's made in a snap and then soon forgotten. Bullies exhibit their judgment, while the polite ones keep it to themselves. So I don't think that thoughts of other people finding you unfunny or awkward are completely unfounded. Perhaps the only way is to know this and still forge ahead and care a little less for our dignity.
I disagree. Who did you judge today? To much energy to judge others
I agree ,but mostly they judge to pass time,not that they care or whatever. To have something to talk about and bullies for something to show off or justfy their behevior.
Lots of bullying is done because many of them find that what they are doing isn't wrong at all. Like with what happens with people who have certain traits ,like maybe a different religion. If someone is a Muslim ,they might bully him just because "Muslim are all evil".
@@Manyshapes yeah they do, the most common conversation I hear is about others,how some are so capable, so smart ,so social while others so stupid, assholes ,evil etc.
When things were at their very worst:
2 Suns, Cross in the sky, 2 comets will collide = don`t be afraid - repent, accept Lord`s Hand of Mercy.
Scientists will say it was a global illusion.
Beware - Jesus will never walk in flesh again.
After WW3 - rise of the “ man of peace“ from the East = Antichrist - the most powerful, popular, charismatic and influential leader of all time. Many miracles will be attributed to him. He will imitate Jesus in every conceivable way.
Don`t trust „pope“ Francis = the False Prophet
- will seem to rise from the dead
- will unite all Christian Churches and all Religions as one.
One World Religion = the seat of the Antichrist.
Benedict XVI is the last true pope - will be accused of a crime of which he is totally innocent.
"Arab uprising will spark global unrest - Italy will trigger fall out"
"The time for the schism in the Church is almost here and you must get prepared now"
The Book of Truth
i gotta be honest, it sounds like youre projecting, i used to think everyone judged everyone else in public really hard, but it turns out i was just a bitch and judged others too much.
I’ve realised that shyness has protected me more than confidence has. It’s the social anxiety that has been wrecking with my life.
Know thyself and thou shalt not be shy..
can you describe what you mean with your social anxiety? now that you separate it from shyness...
@@GUSTAVOPINGPONGsocial anxiety is WAYY bigger than shyness, that’s basically the difference
When I was in my 20s I worried what others thought of me. In my 40s, I didn't care what anyone thought. In my 60s I have realized that no one was ever thinking about me in the first place.
I read that the more you age the more inconsiderate you become about what people think of you. How does that happen? How exactly did you go through your journey of not caring and realizing that people never cared.
@@jeeshaanjoshi It just happens dude. As time passes, you experience more and more situations and contacts with people and each time you may learn a little, your brain may store a bit more information that it understood after those interactions, mostly unconsciously, until one day you have a sort of epiphany and realize a truth you didn't before, you feel it strongly within yourself, you believe in it. Such as, noone actually cares about my existence, and that becomes your new reality and thus you will feel and act accordingly.
@@jeeshaanjoshi I looked up the word 'inconsiderate: thoughtlessly causing hurt or inconvenience to others.' My thoughts on this topic have never changed. I have never knowingly inflicted that on anyone regardless of my age. I can't equate being inconsiderate with having a lack of a need for acceptance and approval. These are way different concepts. If people don't understand me, I recognize no obligation to make myself understood. In my youth, I felt differently about that. If we play our cards right, then a certain degree of wisdom comes with age. It is through that lens that we start to realize that people weren't judging us as much as we thought.
This reminds me of this saying "Shyness has a strange element of narcissism, a belief that how we look, how we perform, is truly important to other people." Andre Dubus III. Often many of us waste our life worrying about impressing other people, even when we know that most of them even don't really care or appreciate. Is it because we are too lonely or any other reasons?
Thanks for sharing the video. May all of us stay strong not to impress others, but impress ourselves 🌞
I suspect shyness is a neurological mechanism that has survived our societal and cultural evolution. From what I understand, I think it was meant to be a check on our behaviour and personality in tribal setting. Must be so, since shyness is a common phenomenon irrespective of where a person comes from
@@sid4563 Shyness is also kind of a fear of imminent shame and shame was much more dangerous in the setting you described. Back then shame could have meant that one was exiled from the community because they did something that was too bad or harmful that it became a danger to the tribe. Being disregarded or even exiled likely meant death, if one was not outright killed. It is not needed as much today because society is much more stable and safe, but the fear of the community turning against oneself did not evolve as much in our species. That is my understanding of the subject.
I agree with shyness maybe being part narcissism. We're obviously overly thinking of ourselves. Maybe even thinking that all of our actions need to be perfect and informed. We dare not want others to think we're "normal", "flawed", and "imperfect". We want others to see us as beautiful, different, exceptional. And we want to avert any type of judgement from others. So we go through life abbreviating ourselves and our actions, to not be exposed as the simple, flawed, still learning, person that we are, and we dont have all the answers and charm like that star of the movie.
@@khloe38 THANK YOU for this 🙌
@@khloe38 yep good comment
I've always enjoyed my shyness. I felt it was a reflection of calm in an aggressive world.
Sometimes being at the back was the best choice. Not always.
At the same time probably missing many good things in your life because of shyness.
Shyness can work for females, not for males.
@@m2pozad iam male 23,an architecture student, it's true it will affect a male greater being shy...i dont interact with classmates mostly, except few who don't hurt/judge me...i also feel most people avoided me during these years deliberately to avoid my talkative nature..i have not even done anything bad for them except isolating myself with great regret of missing college funtimes...now it's been 2 months after college,i have no friends to guide or share my thoughts...many see me as a competetor and noone really cared to ask when i was sitting alone..i have tried talking also but eventually they have avoided me....now searching for job, no money, feeling shame on myself to be like this....i dont where my life goes in this condition 🙃
@@yinyang8254 Dude, don't do this alone, isolation is a disaster in the making. Get into counseling and a gym. They are both interesting and can even be fun. They will change everything. Before you know it you'll be flexing for the chicks.
@@m2pozad 🥰thanks for your reply dude... I'll do what you said..👍☺️☺️
I shared few things quite directly here because in real situation i have trust issues😅..and everyone may think iam weak..
Thanks bro once again
I’m shy but also talkative. You know that type of feeling?
Depends on who I'm with, some people make me clam up and with some people I'm chatterbox
Do you put your foot in it or talk too much like me?
Me!
Yes. I don’t speak in a crowd of people I don’t but talk in a room of people I do out of anxiety. 🤷♂️
Then you should feel right at home at parties. You can just start talking and people around will hear a word of phrase that gets their attention and join the conversation. Maybe some will leave the conversation because it's not stimulating and others will take their place. And conversations don't tend to stick to one subject but segue into others. So just keep talking and people will take notice.
I saw a UA-cam video that said shyness is actually just a lack of interest in other people and tbh I think that’s always felt more true for me than the stuff in this video. I’m only shy with people I couldn’t really care less to get to know.
Never thought of it in that way before. Shyness seems to go away easier once someone starts speaking about something that interests you a lot because it makes them interesting for talking about it.
that's being asocial
i think thats just disinterest, shyness is when you feel judged not just mere boredem.
I've said this a thousand times:
I'm not shy, I'm just too considerate
I am overly critical of myself, I think that it's due to my family. I internalize everything anybody says, and don't realize when I put too stock into what they say. I try to solve every problem, but it sometimes just needs to be let go.
I feel you girl. Just know that you are enhough as just you. You are not your deeds or your faults. You are a breathing wonderful creature. Let it go and celebrate just being you.
I have measured my growth in the number of School of life lessons I've learnt and realised
You are smart
how many comments did School of Life read until it found one praising them and 'loved' it, and it alone ?
As someone who used to suffer from quite severe shyness and social anxiety, these are some of the things that have helped me over the years:
1. Trace back the origin of your anxiety, if possible, and analyze that situation. Why did that event shape you and doesn't it bear any _real_ meaning (you'll find likely not)?
2. Remember that almost everyone suffers from an egocentric bias and will mostly think about *their* own demeanor, not yours. Also: A mistake in your eyes might not be a mistake to others.
3. Seek support from your friends and family.
4. Have plenty of time to (mentally) prepare for social gatherings. Ask people for earlier invites. Bye-bye impromptu meetup stress.
5. Journal your progress, what you think you did well after events. Positive affirmations based on your own actions were key for me - a real self-efficacy booster. 6. Always keep in mind just bc you're not comfortable in social contexts, doesn't mean you don't have other qualities - qualities that others would like to have. What's focal is causal, don't let that fool you into thinking your social life defines you.
Much love :)
When I told my mom about my social anxiety she made fun of me and gossiped about me so idk
When you’re shy, an introvert and have social anxiety all at once 🙂👌
✌🏻☹
i have social anxiety but am an extrovert... thats also really fun 🙂 i love people but i just cant...
Atleast social media comforted us that there are many like ourselves
I relate, I have all of this all my life! 😭
Isolating has really taken a toll on me. I want to connect with people but it’s excruciating to initiate conversation because surely the other person has a million better things to do than aimlessly communicate with me…
Maybe you'd be surprised how we humans actually don't have such many better things to do like we like to believe... After all we're nothing but walking dots of star dust existing for the blink of an eye in this infinite universe....
nah that's not true, everyone is really lonely. I never met anyone who wasn't lonely
Everyone admires the bold; no one honors the timid
The Bible says " The meek will inherit the earth" so at least Jesus knew the humble ones were the real winners. I think Buddah preached a similar philosophy.
@@mrshaneobuenosnodgrass3328
you can't be meek without being strong. timid is to run from your fears and insecurities. nothing admirable there.
And so it should be that way
Why should they?
''The (so called) bold'' do endless damage, and bore the rest of us to tears with their façade. One is (properly) INSPIRED to act boldly based upon some great belief or heroic cause. The rest are just ACTING bold and fool no one. Also be wary of the admiration of ''everyone''. It doesn't exist. Even Elvis Presley famously conceded that there was no way to please everyone! Those who have sought the rarest, most beautiful, and/or most melodic birds of the teeming rainforests, know that these same are also the most timid. The wild rooster, with his tiresome screeching is the epitome of bold, and comes to a quick end under the claws of the predator. One wise comment quotes Jesus and references Buddha in support of the timid and meek (in the Buddhist sense this would equal gentle, and harmless). I'd add the ancient wisdom of the Taoist masters who specifically cautioned against any bearing except meekness (the Taoist classics were mostly written in the ''Warring States'' period, when even walking down the road was dangerous). ''The sage carries him/herself down the road, humble as dust'', and lives out their allotted days, as Master Khan advised Grasshopper, as he made ready to leave the temple. Grasshopper promptly killed an obnoxious nobleman (how bold), and paid for the act for the rest of his days.
It helped me to realize that many people are in a similar situation, insecure and afraid to appear weird. We are not solitary weirdos, haunted by self-soubt, who are sorrounded only by people overflowing with confidence. And even if we meet people who seem to be very confident: They are either faking it and therefore also insecure, or they are really confident and don't have any need to be rude. People who are really mean and use your insecurities against you are relatively rare - at least in my experience. When you start to make the first steps, you will notice that as well Good luck!
AND people who bring you down are so insecure that they feel threatened by others, so more insecurity! lol
My main issues are self-hatred, feeling inferior, and constantly comparing myself to others. It causes me to isolate very badly and to be afraid of almost everything outside of my apartment. I have no idea how to overcome any of them. I see the typical advice from people like saying that people don't actually care, but I still think people are very judgmental and it doesn't seem to help me at all and I can't change my thinking patterns. Even when I'm going out in public I have constant anxiety that I might do something wrong and someone might notice. I'll notice something about a complete stranger and feel inferior to them even though I don't know them. I'm not sure how to overcome any of this.
This. We’re literally the same :(
i have this and more, the exposure therapy doesn't work any more just makes it worse, and worse, i doesn't go away
You are not going to talk with even one of those judgmental people you think you meet everyday. Don't over hype yourself think of yourself as tiny speck in tiny planet living for a tiny tiny lifetime . Lot less time to worry then .
As side note watch Derek by Ricky gervais, it is good.
Same I feel my entire life is uncomfortable
I am sad to read that you feel like this. Maybe try self-compassion. I know it is easy to say, but i really think it can help. A little bit every day.
"People only see what you choose to reveal."
-Frank Underwood
I feel like a failure and no one likes me or wants to be my friend. I really feel like no one really wants to know me. That’s how I honestly feel. I’ve felt this for so long.
Know yourself and be your friend bro I promise you it's gonna feel so much better living this way
@@yumenotiha1989 it starts to feel lonely tho
@@yumenotiha1989 that's a bad advice right there, it's the opposite of what that person really needs. Its obviously loneliness and the urge to connect with another being and become part of something more and greater than just yourself. It is a basic deep unmet need and your advice is fundamentally incapable of solving it in any way and simply goes nowhere in these types of situations
If you're shy, the first step is to recognize that it's not your fault. Shyness can be caused by genetics or upbringing, but either way it's something you have some control over.
Shyness does not have to lead to self-hatred.
If balanced, it can allow for slow careful and thoughtful steps in life.
It can provide an insight you won't get by rushing in to circumstance.
Unworthiness was stated as the originating source for shyness.
I doubt people know the differences between timidity, shyness, social anxiety, loner, slow to warm up, avoidant, or trauma.
@@m2pozad sadly, many never will...
this !!
This is the most accurate description of shyness I have ever heard. Most descriptions shy away (sorry) from describing the memory of past abusive criticism.
This video was so on point to my current situation...it's been about a month and a half that I've come to London, a completely strange place, and alone. I've been told my some people I met that I should be tougher and not be so shy. It puts so much pressure on me and makes me feel exposed; I ask myself whether they can see right through me and how I lack confidence or how apologetic I am at even the smallest things, how I don't see myself worthy of their tiny kind gestures....thanks for this video!
I also experienced London as a giant, lonely beast. Best of luck!
That was my experience too 2 years ago when I moved overseas. Different city and country but similar experience. There was so much unwelcome and unprocessed anxiety about how I would mess up
I keep expecting to hear Alain’s voice, it has a soothing effect
It’s both amazing and a little eerie how accurately they describe the condition of shyness. But I think the fact that I feel like they do it so well only goes to show how common it is and how similar humans are
i dont even know what i am anymore. I can go to parties and talk to everyone. I can also isolate myself and not speak to anyone for days. I get super lonely and I join bunch of events. I also cut off everyone in my life and become totally alone. I can also be super personable but I can also be super antisocial. I hate people. but also I love people. I don't even understand my own personality but i can say Im tired and I wish I was more consistent lol It's just about how I feel that day and my social life is chaos
Yep, I can be talkative one day and dead silent the next, I must confuse people sometimes!
*“Reduce the complexity of life by eliminating the needless wants of life, and the labors of life reduce themselves.” - Edwin Way Teale*
*"Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking." - Marcus Aurelius*
Maybe not on topic, but blobfish actually looks pretty good in it's environment, not crushed by the pressure
well, that's a good analogy for shy people. they're the most fun when they feel comfortable with you
Due to the pandemic, lack of resources and crises in some parts of the world has made lots of people jobless and the financial status of some families aren't okay & this leading to increase in crime rate in our society.
That's right but here in china things aren't so, due to good leadership. Perhaps;many are in search of good and reliable source of income.
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As someone with autism it was a social conflict making me force myself to mask. Looking in the eyes gave me high anxiety. Doesn't matter how much I do it now, I get anxiety because it's instinctive. That can't be trained out.
It's very true that on a large scale no one cares about our perceived or real shortcomings. The problem starts when we are in environments that people are resentful and derisive out of own issues with not having much of a life. Like trolls in social media or gossip mongering with malicious intent in places of work that can cause serious harm (and not only mental). In these cases the blows come hard and fast and before you know what's happened. So making sure you do not attract attention is serious business. The published media is another example of how people's characters can be decimated before any of us can point out that there is little to no evidence. So shyness maybe a good tool in some cases to avoid some of the blows.
Taking cold showers everyday helps with this a lot
A very nice way to say "No one cares. Get over yourself"
When I finally realized that everything is not all about me I found self-acceptance and felt more confident around others.
what helped me with my confidence is having someone to look up to. why does this person so charming and u can't help being drawn to them? it's because they're confident with their skin
This channel gets me
This channel is not shy about 'liking' every comment praising them
Stop apologizing for who you are and be yourself.
It's kinda crazy how deeply convinced you can be people notice everything about you in public and at the same time feeling like nobody cares about you at all as if you're invisible.
Just depends on the moment and what you want to get out of it.
Because for the most part we are invisible, but the second we stray from our approved paths, that’s when they’ll strike, without temperance or mercy
@@michaeladams6154 Ooh there you said it. Very right!
Indeed, changing our "distorted view of self-perception" is a great first step in overcoming shyness. Though the challenge is that many shy people know they want to change but just don't know how. Changing the mindset & attitude is a great first step
A lot of ppl think I'm shy. Im not, I'm just super introverted and quiet in general.
We suffer from suspicions of ourselves!🙇
The narrator sounds like Emma Watson
Since I'm a weak coward I'm trying to better myself
The fact that you want to better your self tells me you have some admirable qualities 😊
Glad they made this, but i’m def learning more from the comments than the actual video. Thanks, guys ❤️
Why I am so shy, I don't want to be like this forever, I hope tomorrow I woke up with full of confident🙏😢
Shyness is nice. Shyness can stop you, from doing all thr things in life you’d like to.
@Todd Starbuck So if there’s something you’d like to try… Ask me, I won’t say no. How could I?
Wow the whole description of shyness is so uncomfortably accurate in the way that School of Life often is. I'm glad that I'm on the path of looking at where those feelings of inadequacy and "not good enough" came from and I'm starting to realize that they don't hold any power over me.
For me, they mostly come from my feeling that my dad didn't love me as a child. But now I'm starting to realize that he loved me in his own way that I didn't recognize as his expression of love.
You got it! I did the same. Revisited my child self with self-love, and compassion sprung forth for my parents.
Makes sense that the shyness depicted here has stooped shoulders....trying to make themselves as unnoticeable as possible...can truly connect
Whoa whoa whoa, wait- *Shyness* and low self esteem/confidence (even self hatred) are _totally_ different things!
Different but linked.
@@Xzulth01 Interesting point of view- Care to explain?
Sadly, while we think that our shyness is a form of protection, it makes us lose important oportinities to learn and gain new things. We fear people's criticism, when actually they don't care that much about our defects and mistakes, at least not as much as we ourselves do. And in case they judge us, we should learn to find a way to make that feedback as constructive (and not destructive) as possible. We should learn to take the comments and the advice that nurture us and dismiss what may cause any discomfort or any other negative feelings. Why not, if we stop thinking about our fears for a moment and try to listen to others more to understand them and support them, it will be more enriching and will help us develop our emotional intelligence much more. We'll see that, just like us, they're fighting their own demons and have their own struggles. Finally, we should never live just to meet the expectations of others. We just have one life, which should not be wasted in insecurities that will become regrets later.
I was a quiet kid but was always labeled as shy, which isnt bad, but I knew it wasn't me haha
When people talk about how awkward and weird you are behind your back, after making what was thought to be a good impression on them then it's hard to believe it's simply a cognitive distortion.
@Mila Zoe well said
I've seen this myself, people stoop down to others levels and imitate them when they get comfortable with them but will adjust their character around other people. With me, being quiet, you get what you get, I'm more of an observer of people.
"We can cast aside our introverted circumstance once we realise the distortions of our self perception" is the main take away here
Unconditional Love for oneself helps.
My childhood shyness turned into social anxiety in my teenage years. But im fighting it, i may get the feeling like im about to die when i need to approach someone but i still do it and pretend im perfectly calm. Some people wouldn't even believe me if i told them what goes on in my head, how miserable i feel with every social interaction because i'm good at acting like im not panicking every second of my life.
I dont allow social anxiety to control my actions, because it is already controling my mind.
I find these videos very fascinating. I think it's quite clever (particularly with the "How To.." videos on this channel) that instead of being barraged with the clichéd (and quite subliminally accusatory) 5 or 10 steps to achieve 'X', they explain the psychologies, philosophies and sociologies of the underlying issues and behaviours that actually led us to click on the video.
I find I'm more forgiving of my flaws by the end of the video, instead of being stressed out about not knowing how to achieve steps 2, 6 and 7.
people do think like that and act like that. that's been my experience. but every time they talk about me and laugh at me it doesn't bother me, because I know they have the same flaws. we are all flawed. no one is perfect
I just overcame my shyness, I messaged a classmate for a grouping and now we're bffs. Yeyyy, it's actually been a while since I laughed a lot because she pranked me.
.. "our leprous condition"....interesting.. Has a strong link with our self-image..... I believe.... Definitely!! .. 🤔.... Perhaps the self-esteem is a key factor here! 👍🏻
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So…. how exactly? I feel like i watched a video that said all and nothing at the same time
Just what I was thinking. “Just don’t worry about it” oh wow, my problems are solved!
- We have Suspicion that Other People will have good reasons to dislike us,to think ill of us, to question our motives, and mock us. We then became sacred of the World, speak in a small voice, don't dare to show our face at gatherings and are frightened of Social Occasion because we fear that We are Ideal targets for Ridicule and disdain.
- Our Shyness is rooted in a sense of Unworthiness.
I remember one time I had to present something through zoom call with my camera turned off. It didn't help. I was out of breath and was shaking uncontrollably. I just want to talk normally as I do in the bathroom.
It's a self-fulfilling prophesy
trust me, shyness will be on trend in near future
It is already
I admit that i'm shy, but man why did i cry while watching this??
This video made me aware of flaws i didn't know i had and the animals i look like, now i feel a little bit more shy, thanks guys :(
I always liked this quote: "When you're 20 you care what everyone thinks of you, when you're 40 you don't care what everyone thinks of you, and by 60 you realize nobody ever thought of you anyway." If only we could speed this up, to truly realize and feel this before 60!
At least they have videos tht will instantly counteract medical conditions like severe anxiety...thank God for this channel...like wtf who listens closely to this thinking this actually is gunna change there condition at all like wtf
Tfw your self-hatred is so deep the message at the end is completely lost on you and you can't even attempt to adopt that kind of mindset because your low self-esteem/self-loathing won't let you
The judgement we fear from others is often a reflection of the judgement we give out. In a way, being less harsh in our judgements towards others greatly helps us be less afraid of what other people think. Our insecurities and worries are validated by the fact that we think those negative thoughts about other people ourselves, so why couldn’t they do the same? In learning to think kindly towards others, you learn to think kindly of yourself.
I used to feel out of place everywhere I went, but I overcame it by simply reminding myself that I belong just like everyone else. I need to constantly remind myself that no one cares. The people giggling behind me are not laughing at me and the ones whispering are not talking about me.
I overcame my shyness but now I'm trying to relearn to be the last one who speaks in the room and keep it short and concise
Ok. Thanks for putting me under the spotlight.
This is my everyday journey!
I just had difficulty talking to my new classmates because of my lack of communication skills and then I saw this video popping up on my feed...hmm yt gods do exist
Same situ.
Im 32 years old man and I discovered shyness as a result of toxic parents parenting, like example always comparing you to others, parents with no moral support for their kids... Im glad I risk myself to have a live in partner and have 2 kids, even my mom dont agree with all my decisions, all those shyness slowly disappear but it still hunt me still this day, all of those self-esteem issue that i regret during college years for not being confident, I blamed all those because of toxic parenting...
I think you’ll also find that there’s a genetic component to shyness and sensitivity in general.
Oh no this hit me really hard 😢 thank you for this video, this very thing happened to me in 2019, and even now I still feel like I am recovering
You will make it. Baby steps!
how do this woman speaking knows everything i feel????? describing it quite accurately
I have selective shyness and I'm trying to overcome it one step at a time....
Every time I listen a new video by The Shool Of Life, I'm surprised, how right the video is.
I think shyness is a good thing to have, i see people who are shy but very confident.
There is one thing I have come to know , and that is almost no one in this world is here to give you confidence or help you increase it. Even 99.9% of parents don’t give confidence to their children, not because they are bad parents but because they simply don’t know how to. In society also as you grow up, often if you are confident enough you will come across a lot of people who like to destroy your confidence because they don’t like the idea of someone who has come to peace with their imperfections and is confident. I also believe the majority of people in the world don’t have a healthy sense of confidence , but this is no surprise, based on the above statement. I think shyness is deeply rooted in lack of confidence and I think people should know that , confidence is a skill that you need to learn, and not expect it from anyone, meaning don’t expect the world to build up your confidence, develop it yourself.
"Why you standing far behind, come front. You'll give food order this time. Y u shy?"
Didn't know how to describe my shyness. I guess I can copy script of this video. It's 100% accurate.
Don't worry nice peeps, I'm improving.
Am i the only one who feels shy around people i know and confident with strangers?
sounds unreal
her:
me: so do you like bread
já comeu pão com vinagrete?
People say im quiet but its just cause I have nothing to say 😂. I hate having to force myself to make small talk but I do it anyway just to be polite
I use to be very awkward and shy, but now I feel very confident and got laid.
R u spying on us how you uploaded the video on the we need 😂
"we run away from our shadow, we live in fear of being swatted away and killed" realize this will never happen. it someone wants to "kill" you, they're the one with the selfish problems. my grandma told my uncle who was nervous in social situations: "what are they going to do? shoot you?" he was never socially awkward again. life is way too short to live in unnecessary fear, love yourself and love life.
I just one day decide to fake it then I faked it a little more then I was confident.
Yes,I feel shy in returning wrong goods i bring home , asking for left changes from shopkeepers ,conductors .A bad hairstyle can ruin my day ,this is me.
Low self-esteem basically. Good video.
The world is so busy thinking about you. So don't be shy.
You know you have traits that are often misunderstood or looked down upon and are supposed to not be shy. How can you not be shy when the world is full of people waiting to mock or pick on you? The answer is, you have to come to terms with yourself and who you are and why you are how you are. If you can understand and forgive yourself, you won't need anyone's evaluation of you to tell you who you are. You'll know better than anyone, and you can just giggle at the sorry attempts to brand you as those things you've heard countless times from people who are too dumb or too toxic to see anything else in front of them.
Use logic and critical thinking, and nothing can touch you.
All fair points.. seems like we ran out of ideas for animation near the end..
due to my shyness is hard to concentrate on what is being said in a conversation, when is my turn to say something or answer a question I stuttered, I can’t help rushing to talk fast and I have noticed even though people pretend they understood what I said, is not true..once I noticed how bad and insecure I am doing in the conversation or meeting, all I am thinking is when is going to be over. I am almost 50 now, seems like I will die this way