I know the audio mutes for a second at the end around 39:40 all i say there is that i'm moving to los angeles bc seasonal depression in seattle is too bad lol. hope u r all doing well :-)!
This is a video that every TikTok creator should see. The app creates a mental illusion, and creators who want to monetize to a livable extent still don’t understand that. Get out now, or figure out the next step. Thanks Ro Ramdin we love Ro Ramdin.
As for the last part: I’ve had this same issue on IG. I’ve reported CP, animal cruelty, direct violent threats, scams - ALL have come back as “not violating community guidelines”. They don’t even read reports from me anymore, the last one they looked at was April 2021. I posted a “close friends” story that had 2 people on it that said “men are cruel” and I got an IMMEDIATE strike against my entire account and couldn’t like or comment for 5 days.
I’ve had similar things happen: the worst was a guy who blatantly sexualizes his elementary age sister on his account, IG denied my report. Meanwhile, i got a strike for posting about being disabled and chronically ill.
I found multiple comments making fun of r*pe victims, women, and trans people. Of course I reported them, but the same thing happened they, "did not violate community guidelines." I also often see gore and animal cruelty on tiktok, and even that doesn't get taken down. Meanwhile my harmless art content keeps getting shadowbanned. I keep hearing about LGBTQ creators getting shadowbanned, banned, or their content taken down just for advocating or sharing experiences. It really shows who tiktok is run by, and who's side they're on.
Yes oh my fucking God thank you so much I have the exact same problem and was so wishing there was a way to see how frequent that was. Especially the animal cruelty shit, it's so fucking weird and upsetting!!!!!
Same exact thing happened to me!! I reported several videos for blatant nudity, self harm, and animal cruelty (one was a video of someone putting a goldfish through a blender 😢) and none of them were removed. Instead they immediately took down a post by me because I made the caption ‘men r dogs bb girl’ 😕 ig sure love protecting men and then no one else huh
omg reported a literal p3do and nothinf happened but i vented abt my mental health and i was banned for a day and almost lost my account instagram is so stupid
As a Chinese person, I just wanna say thank you for acknowledging the blatant sinophobia of that “my Data is being collected by the Chinese government!!” sentiment. I always laugh when I hear people say that, as if Oracle, one of the oldest American tech company hasn’t bought out tiktok years ago.
Nah it's wild how quick people will put something down or mock it cuz it's from China. Like I'm sure china couldn't care less about having the info of a billion preteens who love danganronpa. They've got their own citizens to look after
also i don't know about y'all but i'd much rather have another nation spying on me than my own. there's not much china could do with whatever info i'm putting out onto the digital reality, but my country could definitely find a few things to be upset over if they wanted to go full orwellian.
This was me and my sister. She came out when she was a teenager because she started to date a “woman” (who is actually a trans man) and they made it so much of who they were at the time (going to pride, wearing rainbows, advocating for LGBTQIA+ rights, etc) that I felt like I didn’t want to step on any toes. But I was also bi and in the closet, and they had unintentionally said some pretty hurtful things to me about how I wasn’t allowed at the pride parade in SF because I was “just an ally.” I was scared to come out as bi because I was already in a long-term committed relationship with a “man” (who actually is a trans woman) and so it didn’t really “matter” (except I was still in the closet and it did matter to me to feel like I was hiding a part of myself which never feels great). Now I’m out and for me it’s a huge relief to finally be my true self (although I still get haters because bi erasure is real). Thankfully we have made up but it still hurts me when I think back on how they treated me when they didn’t know I was in the closet. So if you’re reading this, be kind! You never know who is actually in the closet!!! Anyway, Happy Pride Month! 🌈 🏳️🌈
The dad of a girl from my hometown is extremely homophobic. Her brother is gay, she is a lesbian, but he doesn't know. One day she told me about how as they were arguing about something, their two male cats started having sex outside the window and he himself made a joke about how his son is out with a dude constnatly and she's only going out with women. He's still in denial though.
i work at a daycare and when i talk to these kids i can tell that tiktok has a massive effect on them. They just repeat everything they see on social media as if it’s fact. i’m genuinely scared of what social media exposure is going to do to the next generation of kids, so many are being given unfiltered internet access and i fear the algorithm will rot their brain
I know people who have clicked a link and then seen real live human beings d3capitat3d in a shower … and people let there kids just go on it .. admittedly so have my parents but Jesus
It rots adults’ brains too. People just watch what appeals to them & content that validates their worldview. I agree it’s probably more harmful to the impressionable, immature & developing minds of youngsters but I frequently meet grown humans that use “popular” online opinions and recurrent social media themes/messages/culture to defend their prejudices & bigotry. Sadly this is the way of the digital lives we lead in today’s digital world. That being said, Ro is just about the most fabulous human with the highest quality online content and intelligent commentary I have come across in a long while.
I have a grown (50+) coworker who genuinely thinks everyone has the same tiktok feed, and everything said in that tiktok feed is fact (because if it has thousands of likes, it must have been vetted by thousands of people). She's taken to eating random things from her yard and under her kitchen sink thinking it'll get her high. She believes that "they" are changing titles, lyrics and entire melodies of famous pop songs. She thinks she can file a form and not pay income tax anymore. She'll take time off of work because tiktok told her that society will be collapsing tomorrow (probably because of trans people). And she's voraciously seeking out more of this "hidden knowledge". What's most jarring is the juxtaposition between her real life and her inner world. She's been here the longest, knows pretty much everything about our job, trains in new people, and is just generally the rock of this shift. But once she's finished answering a work related question, what comes out of her mouth next in no way resembles the world we live in. It's like if a small dog walked up to you and started singing 'Chocolate Rain'. I stay off of tiktok. If it can get her, it can get any of us.
i try to get on tiktok once every few months cause its so easy for content to be seen on there, but i always have to cut it off cause it turns me into a literal ipad kid
trust me we’re all deranged. None of my content has gotten ANY reach and I’ve been on the app for like a year and I think that’s probably a good thing. I don’t wanna be doxxed lol
They are. The kids on my bus are hypocritical. "Bullying is bad, everyone slayss!!!" They then proceed to bully anyone who exist with a different opinion or a slightly different personality. Someone literally kicked a kid in the shin over sports. Sorry for kind of venting but it proves they are.
As a non-native Eng speaker it's so fucking hard to keep up with your humor Ro, my brain keeps shutting down every second. But you're so funny it's somehow worth it when I actually catch up💀💀
Ok I have a brain injury but I think even if I didn’t, Ro is just so quick on delivery (which is a comedic gift Ro!) I still feel like English is their first language people still need to rewind a few times. I’m thinking I’m going to start watching one speed lower. Don’t know if it’d be helpful to you (probably not) but you’re not alone!
@@jplace2020 same im a native english speaker but even with subtitles on my brain gets too jumbled sometimes, so setting videos to a slower speed can help! although this is kinda a nice change from having to normally set videos faster because of my adhd and sometimes i feel like people talk too slow in videos
just hearing the defeat in your voice when you said "nothing really changed..." is so telling of the exhaustion everyone feels, the waiting for fairness. We truly are, a society starved of compassion and equality.
I’m someone who unfortunately has a lot of very visible self harm scars. I refuse to put trigger warnings on my body or cover up just to post tik toks that will probably only be seen by a few friends. Someone reported every single video on my first tik tok account for self harm. My account wasn’t deleted, but I was locked out permanently. The videos are still up, but I’ve lost ownership of them. I don’t want to take the account down because I love to look back at the content I made during a really transitional time in my life and see how far I’ve come, but I can’t help feeling disheartened when every single video has a warning on it.
i'm two months clean from twitter, and i want tiktok to be cut off next. once last year i quit for a month after doing a group project on the attention economy bc i too am a commie. but i came crawling back because now that i've been exposed to being spoonfed easy entertainment like that, reading/watching tv/youtube all feel like effort. and i get so depressed and burnt out sometimes that anything that requires effort seems impossible. and other reasons too but today is one of those days so comment over. also thanks for validating my decision to drop out of college i was a lit major
i feel this - it’s hard to slow down again and enjoy things like, doing nothing, being outside, reading a book… just sitting down and focusing on something… it’s so hard to do. gotta break the cycle
I had tiktok for 2 days. I can’t remember if she sent me a video and I noticed that tic tok basically installs itself on your device. Doesn’t just show you the video, but cues up others like it, I didn’t have to do a thing! From that one video it kept giving me even more cute dog videos. But I knew the evils of the Ap. As for time, if I spend hours on YT I’m usually learning something and watching supreme vids like Ro’s whose wit and ability to put her feelings into words mystifies me. I looked online and found out how to get it off my device. I’ve never been so happy to leave something after reading your experience. I have severe chronic pain and permanent injuries from when a transport truck and another car tag teamed my car on a highway. My injuries are pretty much invisible (which is a whole different issue). But WTF tic-tic? ( not a spelling error, they are a parasite attaching themselves to people. Real life, people have disabilities and need devices to help them. That this could educate or just normalize seeing people of all ages using mobility aids. What happened to you angers me so much my stomach hurts. Did they give you a reason? I’d love to hear how mobility aids goes against their tos. The spin they’d need to use would probably change the direction of the Earth spin group on its axis. Maybe even make it rotate like doing somersaults. And the distance tech companies have put between us instead of making us closer (yeah im ready for Boomer comments) but smart phones didn’t exist until my mid-20’s) but my god it’s ruined us. I could bore you with a huge list but one of my friends (the minority who thinks these apps are great) can’t tell me looking in my eye because she can have a group of people over but her eyes rarely move from her FB page. It sounds cliched but it’s true. I’m sorry this is so long a have a tbi also from my accident. I don’t want to be alive to see the children raised by these racist, ableist, brain melting, AP’s reach age 25. Really it’s rare to live through two completely different ways of living. I believe there’s so many of this incel shit comes from how little people interact in person. Sure they’ve always been around but not like this and that shit gets passed around and these men clearly believe or don’t know about women is shocking. But what do they do? Have them as classmates (not much talking there) and Porn Hub. Ok, I’ll shut up now 😬
You make me feel so seen. TikTok made me realize I was not cis or straight, something I had thought impossible. I got crazy amounts of queer content and my friends did not, I eventually understood it. I am grateful for the shared knowledge on the app, but it gives me a gross feeling knowing that the place where so many young queer people feel so safe and seen, is the place they are least welcome, even hated.
Come to tumblr! I've been there for 12 years and the queer section I'm in is great. Posts are reverse chronological lime FB *used* to be, the blacklist feature for tags is fantastic, there's no algorithm so you curate your own experience, and you can just go into the tags and search gay stuff til you find blogs you want to follow :)
Yeah TikTok is not good for my ADHD. All jokes aside, it feeds into creating a shorter attention span and the algorithm sucks me into hyperfocus that’s far harder to snap out of than UA-cam for me. With most UA-cam content I can at least play it in the background while I do other things or when I do get sucked in, it’s usually something educational. I’m glad to have deleted the app almost immediately and to have now removed myself from other social media platforms for the foreseeable future. With UA-cam, I am much more discerning of the content I consume. I also feel less bombarded by advertisements as someone who pays for the monthly subscription, it’s a huge relief. Edit to add that I am now subscribed to your patreon ❤️
I do not have ADHD but have been experiencing the same problem with my attention span becoming more used to shorter content and mindless scrolling. I think it's a huge problem with the app and I can't even imagine how that would affect people with ADHD. I also weirdly feel like my anxiety has worsened as I procrastinate on the app and put off important tasks. The app itself I feel is awful for anyone with attention problems or procrastination problems.
This is exactly why I refuse to download it. I’d sit there and scroll for hours like I do on Pinterest (it’s better once you get on the art side and not wedding dress bakery minion meme side) and Instagram, both of which I had to delete
This is the exact reason that I deleted my tiktok in favor of UA-cam as well. I have lost days to tiktok before in ways that I’ve never had with UA-cam.
I moved tiktok to a more hidden place on my phone after I realized I would spend genuinely all day on the app and refused to take care of my most basic needs. It was causing my depression to get even worse cause I wouldn’t shower or brush my teeth. A year later I’ve finally deleted the app, and I’m doing so much better mentally now that I’ve been off for so long. Not missing out by not being on the app since others are picking up the style/they’re being posted other places but that’s another problem for another day
Really loved this video. I'm not on TikTok but as a trans guy & someone who also grew up online, the app worries me because you're encouraged to show yourself to strangers when you post. So scary to me. I was someone who used a thousand fake names and was still an idiot, but now I just worry so bad for younger people on the platform. It's got to be especially harrowing as a queer person...
I feel you, I’m so used to anonymity on the internet, I’m more comfortable with ppl never knowing my face or name, or at least sparsely. I’m always shocked when I see so many regular ppl share their face their name their life their friends their family on TikTok so easily, it’s scary to me. It’s too trusting, I was always taught as a kid to never put too much info on the internet or let strangers know who you are online
When you’re anonymous the hatred feels less personal. I’ll get randos saying stupid shit every once in a while but I don’t read it, block and move on. It has to do with broad aspects of “me”, but I can dissociate from it. The second it becomes personal it hurts so, so much more. I tried briefly to make educational content about a stigmatized disorder I have (you can guess from the username lol) because there’s so much misinformation and so few representations of experiences like mine. I posted maybe 5 videos? All plain text on screen w/ music, no identifying info, my last one had vocal audio but I used a voice changer. On EVERY video I got at least one comment (often several) accusing me of faking/insulting my disorder, and in several instances had people calling me slurs for being queer. I had like 100 subscribers, these people were seeking me out to be cruel. Last video I was talking about the grief of losing my friend, and I got a comment saying they deserved to die because I was queer and it was God’s way of punishing me or some shit. That was what made me call it quits, delete all my vids and give up. All that to say- That’s what I got when I was still mostly anonymous. I cannot IMAGINE what it would be like to share your face, your voice, online when talking about personal things like that. I cannot bear to think how much deeper the cruel words would cut once the anonymity is gone.
I'm a trans guy too and still look fairly feminine. I try to keep my TikTok very random and lighthearted and stupid because if I try to post anything related to real life issues or being trans I know it's just going to cause me trouble or not be seen by many people at all. It's either you go viral by getting pushed and shared to bullies, or your content gets likes from your community until a hater reports it. I'm not particularly charismatic and I'm "old" (31). So the app can't get anything *from* me other than maybe selling me those ketamine antidepression pills or other ads that monetize my mental illness LOL!!!!
Exactly. I got a tiktok to humor my friends a few months ago, and for the most part they're pretty great people qnd none of them had their full names on there. But I'd see so many people who just put their full names and age on their profile, and the most you got from me was a few short videos of my face, my first name and my Pronouns. I've stopped using it more than checking what my friends have tagged me in maybe twice a month at best, qnd my life hasn't really changed without it lol.
Another impact tiktok has had on the culture of social media is on the “fifteen seconds of fame.” It has become easier for a creator to blow up, but when it happens, they burn out very fast as it is nearly impossible to sustain the influx of followers tiktok tends to throw at trending people.
the farther i get into this video the more glad i am that i never slipped and fell into using my tiktok account that i made to promote youtube videos that i ended up not making.
This video is terrific; tiktok was ruining me until I totally dropped it in November. Thanks for making a coherent video that isn't just "social media bad" :)
Tiktok knew I had ADHD before I did lol, it got me to do research and to finally seek out an official diagnosis. On the other hand it also promotes a lot of false and reductive information about neurodivergency because its engaging and gets views.
I deleted TikTok but it’s irreparably broken me. I keep finding myself on UA-cam shorts or Instagram reels without even noticing. I’ll like black out and have been scrolling for twenty minutes before I get brought back to my body by content so factory generated that my brain restarts. Tumblr is the only social media (besides Twitter which I refuse to touch out of spite) that hasn’t tried to Frankenstein pieces of tiktok onto itself, but blogs i follow keep posting untagged owl house spoilers so all of social media is hell, isn’t it.
I recommend downloading web extensions, I have one for shorts and they aren't as easy to watch as before, and ironically I think tumblr isn't as bad as twitter or tiktok
I'm so glad I deleted TikTok last August. Like you, I would spend hours on it and I couldn't even remember more than 5 videos I watched. I think I spent like 6 hours just scrolling one time. It really polluted my brain and made my attention span so short that I couldn't even watch a 10 minute UA-cam video. My life is so much better without it Great video as always, Ro!
I deleted it a few months ago to focus on exams. Recently I felt like I needed to redownload it since I had a lot mutuals on there but I couldn't barely handle it for 5 mins. Its like I could feel it sucking me in..
literally needed this so bad. Im a creator on tiktok and just got banned for no reason, they refuse to contact me back. But we have our rise, our hayday and our fall and we go back into normalcy. Over and over again. I am so tired
it happened to me too, back in january. utterly exhausting. i had my followers submit reports, and tiktok said that i needed to contact them about it (even thought i already had). when i contacted them, they sent back auto-responses unrelated to the topic at hand, and then stopped responding all together. same situation for DMing them on twitter and emailing every address i could get my hands on. the DMs are run by bots and the email addresses are completely unmannned. it feels like we’ve just…been abandoned.
Haven’t watched the video yet but I’m so glad I was never into social media as a child. I basically took the “stranger danger” message and the “don’t give your real name on the internet” very seriously and refused to show any bit of my life on every social except for extremely vague references. If it were up to me there would be zero trace of my face on the internet. Then there’s my youngest sister who regularly uses Tik Tok and I fear for what could happen to her mental health. I refuse to use the app because it was basically impossible to filter content and the constant stream of stuff overloaded my brain. I can’t imagine how bad my attention span would be if I did use it… I can’t even use Twitter for too long without my brain screaming to close the app. Now I just watch hour long UA-cam videos as background noise.
I just don't feel comfortable with showing parts of my life/my face where everyone can see it, I'm a very private person, I don't even use Instagram because of this
god ro this is FANTASTIC. the part discussing the experience of being a tiktok creator hit really hard, it is such a weird experience to have and it’s so hard to explain to people who haven’t had it happen to them
especially as a jewish creator, when i tell people about the things people have gotten away with saying to me so many are just appalled by it but i’ve gotten to this point where i’m so desensitized to it that i just come to accept it as a part of reality, which is so so horrifying
Bruh same. My 54 year old mom got so addicted shed literally ignore everything else. I'd leave for work and she'd be on it, come home and she's still on it. She'd pass out and wake up and get on it at like 11pm. At one point she literally opened it up mid way through my brother talking to us and started watching stuff out loud. Like I was in genuine shock. I'm usually the one being told to get off my phone while family is over. It got to the point she decided to switch to an old phone from 2009 or so, so she couldn't use tiktok. She quickly switched back to her smartphone, deleted the app but very quickly jumped to youtube shorts
@@temp_unknown maybe download her some casual games, like candy crush or something. Old people usually like spending their time on these games, maybe she'll switch up
@@temp_unknown depends on your relationship with her but you can talk it out of her and convince her to pick up a hobby, or recommend some mobile games
I absolutely agree with what you said about going to tiktok when everything ran out of content. It was just so easy to get more. I've been tiktok free for a month now and only by removing the app from my home page and putting it somewhere less visible. At first I was scared of quitting cuz of fomo but now that I've stopped I really don't care anymore
the last part felt so real and frustrating, its an anger i've been having on tumblr lately that's just recently amped up as it was recently pointed out one of tumblr's staff is a consumer of content made by terfs and antisemites (it was hp and aot) and the person who offhandedly pointed it out made a remark about it being why terfs don't face consequences on that app. the person got their account banned completely, thr staff's blog was hidden, the entire post and all the reblogs of it vanished, scorched fucking earth. as someone who has spent *hours* going down rabbit holes of terf blogs reporting every post tagged as terf and reporting blogs with hateful, transphobic, racist and just disgusting post histories and hearing absolutely nothing back, its so frustrating to see how quick apps will then turn to slap punishments down for poc or lgbtqa+ users
having never struggled with substance abuse i think quitting tiktok is the closest ive ever been to what its like to go sober. my mood, memory, and attention span have all improved. i originally only quit because i was leaning on it too hard when i was depressed to avoid my thoughts instead of actually dealing with them. it is amazing how much better i feel without it. i'll still watch tiktoks when they get reposted elsewhere, or sent to me by my friends, because i think there is still a wealth of humor and creativity that tiktok brings out in droves unlike any other platform. but that doesn't change the fact that the app itself was aiding and even encouraging my inability to process emotion in a healthy way, as it often times promoted to me stories of queer sadness and harmful content about eating disorders, both of which i experience in real life, and seriously don't want to be forced to see in the online spaces i choose to inhabit. no matter what i did, no matter how many times i scrolled past, marked as "not interested," blocked the creator even, i would still get shown more. tiktok aimed to upset me as much as it aimed to entertain, and i am glad i realized i don't need to put up with the former to achieve the latter. i am unbelievably better off without tiktok, and i do honestly encourage everyone to have a serious think about how the app is really making them feel. and thank you, ro, for this video. as someone who was already aware of most of what you talked about, it still made me feel less alone in my feelings about such a dominating presence in social media. it can be hard to articulate or speak out about it, or to think it's even worth the effort. it is, and i'm glad you thought so, too.
15:30 holy shit this is a real old person/boomer moment, but: I never realized how growing up with social media in your life from a young age helps shape how you consume other media/art, and I'm kind of glad I grew up without it. I'm glad Facebook wasn't much of a thing beyond the Harvard, Mass. area until I was like 14 or so, and I didn't get on it until I was about 18 (Facebook was the earliest social media platform most people I knew were actively using; I didn't know anyone on MySpace and most people didn't use Google or UA-cam as "social media" per se; they were just for specific purposes, like email or hosting/watching videos).
I deleted tiktok from my phone back in January because I came to the realization that it brought on massive anxiety! And I wasn’t even someone who uploaded tiktoks! I maybe uploaded one friends-only viewable tiktok. But just being on tiktok and watching tiktok stressed me out to no end. And literally made me feel like my life was getting taken away. And this comes from someone who is chronically online!! I’ve spent 7 hours on Twitter this week since Sunday 4 days ago! Tiktok is just a whole other beast. And the algorithm is so good, that whenever it falters or resets (which it did for me often) it was terrifying. So I packed up all the videos from my favorites folder and left for good. Do I have massive fomo? every day! do I often want to go on there, even just to see one video or content creator? yes. but that place is bad news for meeeeee
personally i hate data collection. i know in a small way that it has become a necessary evil, but so has being alive and that hasnt stopped any depression episodes or occasional suicidal thoughts (: but for real, i support the general movement for Open Source and free software that isnt fucking spying on my every move. and also i have ADHD and crave that sweet sweet dopamine, so i absolutely despise any and all social media recommendation algorithms because they're just trying to manipulate and take advantage of me 24/7 (: gamer
i deleted it and was fine for a year, redownloaded it recently and i think all my progress has gone completely out the window and im exactly where i started
I was a content creator for 4 years, starting in 2018 when I was 19 I first got into twitch streaming and it quickly made me more money than my irl job. i was constantly given “opportunities” due to my online “clout”. looking back these were shallow attempts at a pump and dump content strategy. nobody I have worked with through influencing has ever turkey cared about me or how the shittiest industry alive effected me. I started doing porn and was immediately met with a loving and caring community, people who noticed when I was upset and wanted to genuinely help. i always had in my mind that porn had to be the worst industry who doesn’t care about the women it pops out, and that’s true to a point. but tiktok and instagram are SO SO SO much worse. i could go on about mental illness algorithms or the constant bullying comments, pedos, etc. Tiktok is BAD Also: Tiktok is the WORST paying social media site. Hank green has a great video about why their payout model sucks. my whole thing was “get the views on tiktok, then get them to a different platform to monetize them. this is why so many tiktok creators are streamers or musicians or UA-camrs. I have been tiktok free for 3 weeks now and THANK GOD
I deleted TikTok because my adhd was getting worse and my phone addiction was getting worse as well. TikTok was not doing me any favors and I think it was a good personal decision for me
everyone of my most recent mental breakdowns have been caused by subtle romanticizing of my mental illness on tiktok. it goes hmm you have depression???? ur entire fyp is depression relatable quirky content now ❤️
The algorithm actively filtering out “ugly” disabled, “would someone bully this person” people is so sad. And it applies with my content (on another account). I’ve always thought I got shadow banned because my videos were never getting recommended and my sub count just stopped growing all together years ago. 😢
This is the exact reason I’ve always been terrified to download tiktok. I don’t feel “better” for having never gotten the app, I’m just so easily addicted to social media that the ultimate addictive app isn’t a grasp I’d be able to escape from
I’m so glad I got off of TikTok after using it for 2 months, This app is so chaotic 💀. Also off topic but Ro always looks gorgeous even in the tshirt she should do a closet haul or outfit inspo!
i'm very happy you brought up how cringe old tiktok used to be. i don't know how to explain this, but tiktok now is both more sanitized and more cruel than it was those years ago.
I don’t have the tiktok app, but whenever I ‘run out’ of content on other social media platforms I immediately turn to tiktok compilations of UA-cam... I say this in reference to the line you said on how tiktok is where you turn when you are bored with everything else. Even though I don’t have an account, I still fell prey to this addictive notion. It’s honestly borderline horrifying just how pervasive this app is, and how it has such a similar psychological effect of every person.
I don't use tiktok cuz im 25 and attempting to have a life- but i am grateful that TT brings cool funny peeps like u to us :) oh- and DIY tiktok trickling down into yt- mama loves a good DIY project!!
I had to quit twitter and fb in 2020. I’m a queer homemaker in my twenties who had just moved to a new (more rural) town with their wife. I was (and am) INCREDIBLY lonely most of the time. COVID both exacerbated my isolation and reduced it as my wife was now working at home. Even before this starting in 6th grade in the late 2000s, I have always been supplementing my social life with internet friends/social media. Even though it meant letting go of my social crutch, I still had to quit. I would just open Twitter and scroll for hours. I hated it and I would still keep doing it! It was making me lose hours of the day and get behind on chores or miss out in doing actual fun things. It was making me miserable. I was still lonely but more anxious and terrified that I would never actually be a good person or be good at anything or any other types of insecurities social media breeds. I’ve gotten to the point where I can check them every few weeks and not stay long. It’s better that way for me. I’ll use Reddit but I’m trying to limit that, too, because it ALSO makes me miserable- just in a different way. I wrote all this b/c I realized sort of early on that I am EXACTLY the type of person susceptible to TikTok scrolling. So I’ve never gotten one. I have vague feelings of fomo for sure! And there’s lots of niche things I know have thriving communities there. But it’s not worth it. Esp b/c so many youtubers I watch will discuss relevant parts of TikTok for me anyway lmao
29:00- when you started talking about how POC creators have to fight a racist algorithm/guideline strikes it reminded me of the documentary "coded bias", which talks a lot about this kind of stuff. i watched it for one of my film classes last year and it's such a worthwhile watch, especially in regards to this tiktok stuff. that plus this video is making me rethink how i consume media on tiktok. like it's hard because the app is designed to be purposefully and there are some really cool creators out there but i don't think i can handle it anymore. your monologues at the end of your videos also always add so much heart and soul to the topic you're covering and makes everything feel like you truly DEEPLY care about it, i'm so glad that i got reccomended your NFT video from seven months ago. keep up the amazing work!
17:04 oof. I’ll always remember the time when I was 12 and I was watching daytime tv, some countdown series on the scariest movie scenes of all time. I was getting interested in the horror genre at that age. Two of the top listings in succession revolved around the graphic rape scene from clockwork orange, and sexual torture and murder of a girl based on a true story. I was just a little kid barely able to comprehend sex and being shown graphic images of assault and far too many verbal details of prolonged sexual torture. I remember feeling panic, turning off the TV, laying down crying and feeling sick. It haunted me when I was reminded of certain media or heard about crimes against women. I still feel fear, deep sadness and even violent rage when I think about those scenes or the people who perpetrated them in real life. even tho it didn’t directly happen to me. It ended up being traumatic to some degree. It really taught me from an early age that young girls and women in particular are main targets for some of the worst fates immaginabile. I remember thinking all girls like me want is to live happy and free with the people who love us and experience our life and dreams and the world, and there are so many men who would like to steal and snuff all that inner richness out for a fetish. It made me angry and scared. I think I was just unlucky that I caught something so upsetting on TV. But more to the point, tik tok videos push content about horrific true crime and depraved horror movie reviews with the algorithm to a very young audience. I imagine a lot of young viewers find it scarring and traumatic and it’s not just a fluke but a large number of teens and preteens being directly exposed to this
another freaking banger ive been feeling this about tik tok as well. I think it's because social media has developed without too many checks and balances
youtubers are always saying "I know what you're thinking" and I think it's time once and for to stand up and say that I am not. I am not thinking, or at least I don't know what I'm supposed to be thinking. I'm a little too enthralled by the narrative you've crafted, but I do appreciate the credit you give to me for my ability to both listen and parse what you're saying in real time.
the more I learn about people's experiences with tiktok the more I'm glad I never got into it. even the youtube shorts tab will sometimes have me roped in for hours at a time, so dissociated I'm blind to my surroundings, and that's with a terrible algorithm that always seems to show me worse videos the longer I watch them. I can't imagine how much I'd be sucked into tiktok if I used it
Oh my god yes! I consciously chose to never get tiktok, despite my friends sending me funny tiktoks and then not being able to see them because i didnt have an account. I would just be like 🤷🏼♀️ whoops, guess i can’t see the fun tiktok. But i just knew from previous experience with Vine back in the day.. i wouldnt be able to use tiktok without being obsessed and deteriorating my mind even more. So i just stayed in my lane, watching youtube vidoes and even avoiding tiktok compilations lol. I love a good compilation vid. But then UA-cam started with the shorts and i thought it was stupid. But they just keep prioritizing them and i see them all over the app and i have gotten lost in that sweet sweet endless quick content. Idk how to even compare it to anything because in the moment it feels like you are really enjoying it, and despite spending too long watching them, it feels like hey, this is harmless, i mean how could it be bad to watch some funny/ interesting videos and maybe even learn a little something! Nothing wrong with that! But then…. You are addicted and you just cannot even get any long form entertainment and suddenly you must consume only bite sized pieces of content and laugh at it for half a second before you move on to the next video and yea it was a fun way to spend time but i maybe watched 50-100 short videos and cannot remember anything past the last two videos. And so what did i even gain besides fleeting happiness. Its just so damn strange how i will be consuming this content and it legit feels like im being more productive than if i were to sit and journal my thoughts for a little bit, which would be good for my mental health. But this short form content just tricks my brain into feeling like any silence means i am wasting my life.
im so glad that when i was still in school, social media apps were still very much a new thing - as a teenager, i was on facebook!! and that was seen as cool!!!! so you can imagine how long ago that was lmao. like 50% of people in my grade didnt even have a smartphone when i was around 14. i recently went to visit a grade school class bc of my bachelors project, and firstly the kids were wonderfup, but secondly i offhandedly mentioned that i have an instagram where i post my art, and one kid said "oh write that down for me" which kind of blasted my brain bc i didnt really Remeber that 9 year olds have their own smartphones now with internet access.... damn. im so sorry to those kids, but thanks to the one that liked my art lmao
I havent watched the video yet but I deleted tiktok about a month ago now and I realized how much more free time I have now that I'm not spending every second I get to go on tiktok and scroll for literal hours. My screen time has went from spending an average of 8-10 hours to 3-5 since I've deleted it. I feel happier and I have more motivation to do something that's not on my phone. I was borderline addicted to tiktok and I guarantee others are too that's why tiktok is so successful cause they profit off of people being addicted to their app. So yea that's my personal experience and problem with tiktok, and if anyone who is reading this is even considering deleting the app just do it, it'll be better for you I promise :))
As someone who's been using and occasionally posting on tiktok since 2019, thank you for addressing a ton of the many many issues the platform has. I'm so glad more and more creators are being critical of the apps structure, moderation, payment, algorithm etc
I love your insight you share so much, and the humor and style are very lovely too! Even though some of the topics you discuss are difficult, you deliver information and thoughts so well and realistically that it’s (personally) easier to follow. I’m glad your channel is growing, and I hope you are doing well! -from a trans lad trying to learn more and take care of his mental health. :)
I wanted to add that not too long ago I had posted a trans day of visibility related post on instagram, and was called the T-slur. When I reported the comment not long after I got the classic “lol we’re to busy to deal with that, sorry luv”. However the next day, a fellow queer artist I follow got a post taken down because their caption said “I want to use a magnifying glass on him and set him on fire like an ant (this is a joke)” about a FICTIONAL character (the riddler…) . Now hey, if there was an algorithm in place that deleted stuff that said things like “I want to set him on fire” then ah well, that’s unfortunate, not every algorithm is perfect. But it’s pretty damn clear that’s not the case, so why were they free to delete an artists post, and too busy to delete a transphobic comment the day before? I don’t know, but it feels gross.
@@MyriadLad bro Instagram and Tiktok are the *worst* about the posts they take down/keep up. I mean UA-cam is pretty bad too, but those two are just on another level. I feel for you. Even if the reporting does nothing, always delete and block. It’s not ideal but it is something.
the sense of isolation i’ve felt as a “youtube kid” when around other people now can sometimes be a lot. other people had some form of meaningful media or socialization but i had epic meal time and dan and phil playing the sims.
Your acting in the opening skit is like a perfect Kyle Mooney, and I mean that with the highest compliment. His digital shorts for SNL like "The Fight" are probably the best that show has had this past decade.
I used tiktok for a big part of 2020, and my brain got so crowded with looped 10 second long song fragments and stupid voice overs that I forced myself to delete the app. And I recommend it to everyone who also scrolls mindlessly through tiktok just as I did! I became much calmer and less stressed :)
one of my favorite videos of yours now. The ideas and incredibly deep themes you discuss shine through in every video in so many different ways, its inspiring
I got into Tumblr at like age 13 and it's the main social media I used until Discord came around. I'm still on Tumblr tho. The good news about Tumblr is clearly it isn't catering ads to my interests considering it's advertising Manscaped and Viagra at me. Either it thinks I'm a hairy person with a dick and ED, or it's not personalizing my shit. Is it stealing my data? Fuck it I know. But if it is it sure ain't using it for ads at least. Which i respect.
The sheer weight of the knowledge bombs and the amount of A+ comedy here had me exhausted by the end, Rose. Fucking LOVED it! I am so glad to have subscribed to your channel!!! ❤️
no because i seriously had to delete tik tok because it used to make me so angry LMAO i would get so tired of seeing the same tired jokes or ignorant discourse that i just left, i feel so much better without it and i'm not really missing out on anything tik toks are posted everywhere lol
deleted tiktok at the beginning of march after seeing my screen time and seeing i had spent 24 hours on tiktok in that week. an entire day of the week spent mindlessly scrolling through content i wouldn't remember in five minutes, let alone an hour. i felt so disgusted with myself, it was such a wakeup moment for me. i had completely destroyed my attention span, i constantly reached for it any time i was a little bit bored/uncomfortable/wanted to be distracted. not to be hyperbolic, or make light of addictions, but i honestly think it worked similarly to a slot machine in my head. just constant scrolling until i found a video that engaged my brain enough to get that dopamine hit, and then more scrolling and scrolling in order to try and get it again. deleted it, and in the past couple of months i've read way more, engaged with my creative hobbies, and got more comfortable with myself and small moments of boredom. i know that there are people who can engage with tiktok in an healthy way, but i definitely am not one of them and i have a feeling that the actual number of healthy tiktok users is much smaller than one might think. not saying i'm perfect now, i still spend an ungodly amt of time online, including on tiktok clones (lol reels and shorts) but youtube or instagram's algorithms are as attuned as tiktok's, and i find it easier to turn it off and disengage. it's kinda terrifying that i find shittier versions to be better for me in the end. and at this point, i don't think i'll reinstall tiktok again, it is just too dangerous for my brain. i don't know if there's really a point to this comment, just wanted to share my experience. i'm glad that someone else is talking about this (esp from the creator side) and that you vocalize my issues with the app so well. i find it terrifying to realize that tiktok is now some kid's first exposure to social media, jesus instagram/tumblr rotted my brain enough in middle school, i can't imagine what tiktok would do. anyways, i found you on tiktok, and i'm glad that i've been able to keep up with your content post-tiktok (altho i guess i don't know if you're still posting on tiktok or not lol). thanks ro!
the beauty standards are… evil tbh.. like i would have had much more crippling self perception issues if such a seemingly attainable but completely artificial version of eurocentric attractiveness was fed to me constantly… it’s been said before but kids have no public awkward phases that allow them to be tweens and teens and not like… products for consumption for internet views
this video, like all your videos, is fantastic. the points in here are ones that have crossed my mind a lot as someone who used to use tiktok for cosplay and art, and you've articulated them and more so well and engagingly.
Simultaneously annoyed that I didn't find your channel sooner, and glad that there's such a backlog to catch up on. Really enjoying the content. Love your work.
God you are literally one of the FUNNIEST most easily watchable creators on this platform. Such a breath of fresh air. Just great stuff. Relatable emotional moments when they come up and great bits that don't get annoying at all, absolutely golden. just in awe of this lass.
As someone with adhd, tik tok is especially very predatory as addiction is such a huge issue in regards to all that. I already struggle enough, the last thing I needed is to download an app I've had since 2018 that does nothing but consume my life and burn the words "for you" into the top of my phone screen
I find social media exhausting as an artist. I want people to like and appreciate my art but it's not sustainable to create fully finished work daily and I don't want to post progress pictures because they make me feel bad.
I attempted so many times to make some comment that would matter but honestly I can just sum it up with Ro Ramdin you are genuinely an amazing creative beautiful mind and I don't think I can even fully thank you for all you've chosen to make and share. Happy pride month keep doing things that make you happy you absolute icon
I know the audio mutes for a second at the end around 39:40 all i say there is that i'm moving to los angeles bc seasonal depression in seattle is too bad lol. hope u r all doing well :-)!
great video as always, good luck with moving!
as a washingtonian who also lived in california for a few years, moving back here totally was a shock wow! i hope you enjoy the sun❤️
congrats!
lol i thought it was an intentional joke!
wtf im in seattle
your videos keep getting better, which is insane because I previously didn't think that would be possible
ah, a man of taste
whats up pal bro buddy
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Hey guy
This is a video that every TikTok creator should see. The app creates a mental illusion, and creators who want to monetize to a livable extent still don’t understand that. Get out now, or figure out the next step. Thanks Ro Ramdin we love Ro Ramdin.
thanks mud i love yuouuu
my two favorite commentary youtubers
Let's all love Ro
@@Cuntypostaldude Lain? fan?
As for the last part: I’ve had this same issue on IG. I’ve reported CP, animal cruelty, direct violent threats, scams - ALL have come back as “not violating community guidelines”. They don’t even read reports from me anymore, the last one they looked at was April 2021.
I posted a “close friends” story that had 2 people on it that said “men are cruel” and I got an IMMEDIATE strike against my entire account and couldn’t like or comment for 5 days.
I’ve had similar things happen: the worst was a guy who blatantly sexualizes his elementary age sister on his account, IG denied my report.
Meanwhile, i got a strike for posting about being disabled and chronically ill.
I found multiple comments making fun of r*pe victims, women, and trans people. Of course I reported them, but the same thing happened they, "did not violate community guidelines." I also often see gore and animal cruelty on tiktok, and even that doesn't get taken down. Meanwhile my harmless art content keeps getting shadowbanned. I keep hearing about LGBTQ creators getting shadowbanned, banned, or their content taken down just for advocating or sharing experiences. It really shows who tiktok is run by, and who's side they're on.
Yes oh my fucking God thank you so much I have the exact same problem and was so wishing there was a way to see how frequent that was. Especially the animal cruelty shit, it's so fucking weird and upsetting!!!!!
Same exact thing happened to me!! I reported several videos for blatant nudity, self harm, and animal cruelty (one was a video of someone putting a goldfish through a blender 😢) and none of them were removed. Instead they immediately took down a post by me because I made the caption ‘men r dogs bb girl’ 😕 ig sure love protecting men and then no one else huh
omg reported a literal p3do and nothinf happened but i vented abt my mental health and i was banned for a day and almost lost my account instagram is so stupid
As a Chinese person, I just wanna say thank you for acknowledging the blatant sinophobia of that “my Data is being collected by the Chinese government!!” sentiment. I always laugh when I hear people say that, as if Oracle, one of the oldest American tech company hasn’t bought out tiktok years ago.
Nah it's wild how quick people will put something down or mock it cuz it's from China. Like I'm sure china couldn't care less about having the info of a billion preteens who love danganronpa. They've got their own citizens to look after
lot of the Chinese corporation paranoia feels like a retread of the Japanese corporation paranoia of the 80s doesnt it?
also i don't know about y'all but i'd much rather have another nation spying on me than my own. there's not much china could do with whatever info i'm putting out onto the digital reality, but my country could definitely find a few things to be upset over if they wanted to go full orwellian.
Oracle didnt buy out tiktok lmao
Since when was tiktok bought by an American company?
"pretending ure not fruity bc your sibling already is" that was ghostwritten by my sister after I was outted in 7th grade, now look at us! both trans
cnat believe youre both goth and trans
My sister and I came out to each other and came out to our parents together, strength in numbers haha
This was me and my sister. She came out when she was a teenager because she started to date a “woman” (who is actually a trans man) and they made it so much of who they were at the time (going to pride, wearing rainbows, advocating for LGBTQIA+ rights, etc) that I felt like I didn’t want to step on any toes. But I was also bi and in the closet, and they had unintentionally said some pretty hurtful things to me about how I wasn’t allowed at the pride parade in SF because I was “just an ally.” I was scared to come out as bi because I was already in a long-term committed relationship with a “man” (who actually is a trans woman) and so it didn’t really “matter” (except I was still in the closet and it did matter to me to feel like I was hiding a part of myself which never feels great). Now I’m out and for me it’s a huge relief to finally be my true self (although I still get haters because bi erasure is real). Thankfully we have made up but it still hurts me when I think back on how they treated me when they didn’t know I was in the closet. So if you’re reading this, be kind! You never know who is actually in the closet!!! Anyway, Happy Pride Month! 🌈 🏳️🌈
HEY same here
The dad of a girl from my hometown is extremely homophobic. Her brother is gay, she is a lesbian, but he doesn't know. One day she told me about how as they were arguing about something, their two male cats started having sex outside the window and he himself made a joke about how his son is out with a dude constnatly and she's only going out with women. He's still in denial though.
i work at a daycare and when i talk to these kids i can tell that tiktok has a massive effect on them. They just repeat everything they see on social media as if it’s fact. i’m genuinely scared of what social media exposure is going to do to the next generation of kids, so many are being given unfiltered internet access and i fear the algorithm will rot their brain
It’s already ruined my little brother lol I have to constantly remind him what’s real and what’s probably a dumb rumor
I know people who have clicked a link and then seen real live human beings d3capitat3d in a shower … and people let there kids just go on it .. admittedly so have my parents but Jesus
It rots adults’ brains too. People just watch what appeals to them & content that validates their worldview. I agree it’s probably more harmful to the impressionable, immature & developing minds of youngsters but I frequently meet grown humans that use “popular” online opinions and recurrent social media themes/messages/culture to defend their prejudices & bigotry. Sadly this is the way of the digital lives we lead in today’s digital world. That being said, Ro is just about the most fabulous human with the highest quality online content and intelligent commentary I have come across in a long while.
That's batshit. Toddlers and young children have absolutely no business being on TikTok. And for that, yes, I will blame their parents/guardians.
I have a grown (50+) coworker who genuinely thinks everyone has the same tiktok feed, and everything said in that tiktok feed is fact (because if it has thousands of likes, it must have been vetted by thousands of people).
She's taken to eating random things from her yard and under her kitchen sink thinking it'll get her high.
She believes that "they" are changing titles, lyrics and entire melodies of famous pop songs.
She thinks she can file a form and not pay income tax anymore.
She'll take time off of work because tiktok told her that society will be collapsing tomorrow (probably because of trans people).
And she's voraciously seeking out more of this "hidden knowledge".
What's most jarring is the juxtaposition between her real life and her inner world.
She's been here the longest, knows pretty much everything about our job, trains in new people, and is just generally the rock of this shift.
But once she's finished answering a work related question, what comes out of her mouth next in no way resembles the world we live in.
It's like if a small dog walked up to you and started singing 'Chocolate Rain'.
I stay off of tiktok. If it can get her, it can get any of us.
I can't believe how quickly you've already come to almost 100K subscribers. You absolutely deserve it. You don't miss
i actually have a million but thanks
@@roramdin my bad. I knew I should've dropped that math minor sooner
I am so glad I finally found a video that actually puts into words why Tik Tok is bad without just “lol tik tok bad cringe”
Especially since, as she touched on, the majority of cringe is just making fun of marginalized folks/subcultures. Like… just let them be guys
i had tiktok for a less than a week and i already felt it permanently deteriorating my brain. i don’t know how kids today aren’t more deranged
trust me, they are so deranged
i try to get on tiktok once every few months cause its so easy for content to be seen on there, but i always have to cut it off cause it turns me into a literal ipad kid
trust me we’re all deranged. None of my content has gotten ANY reach and I’ve been on the app for like a year and I think that’s probably a good thing. I don’t wanna be doxxed lol
They are, did you hear about the students that murdered their teacher because they did bad on a test
They are. The kids on my bus are hypocritical. "Bullying is bad, everyone slayss!!!" They then proceed to bully anyone who exist with a different opinion or a slightly different personality. Someone literally kicked a kid in the shin over sports. Sorry for kind of venting but it proves they are.
As a non-native Eng speaker it's so fucking hard to keep up with your humor Ro, my brain keeps shutting down every second. But you're so funny it's somehow worth it when I actually catch up💀💀
Ok I have a brain injury but I think even if I didn’t, Ro is just so quick on delivery (which is a comedic gift Ro!) I still feel like English is their first language people still need to rewind a few times. I’m thinking I’m going to start watching one speed lower. Don’t know if it’d be helpful to you (probably not) but you’re not alone!
@@phoenixgirl70 yeah I'm just rewinding back every now and then to understand everything properly, but your advice sounds great, I'll try next time!
English is my only language, and I still have to rewind sometimes to catch a joke! That’s why Ro’s videos are so great to watch again :)
Tip from an “English is my sole language” speaker: watch on .75x speed!!
@@jplace2020 same im a native english speaker but even with subtitles on my brain gets too jumbled sometimes, so setting videos to a slower speed can help! although this is kinda a nice change from having to normally set videos faster because of my adhd and sometimes i feel like people talk too slow in videos
just hearing the defeat in your voice when you said "nothing really changed..." is so telling of the exhaustion everyone feels, the waiting for fairness. We truly are, a society starved of compassion and equality.
I’m someone who unfortunately has a lot of very visible self harm scars. I refuse to put trigger warnings on my body or cover up just to post tik toks that will probably only be seen by a few friends. Someone reported every single video on my first tik tok account for self harm. My account wasn’t deleted, but I was locked out permanently. The videos are still up, but I’ve lost ownership of them. I don’t want to take the account down because I love to look back at the content I made during a really transitional time in my life and see how far I’ve come, but I can’t help feeling disheartened when every single video has a warning on it.
oh god, ew. "putting trigger warnings on my body" sits so wrong w me. im sorry
im a person who's scarred to hell and ive genuinely had people ask me in real life to cover my arms cause they're triggering.
@@biggestastiest that's soooo stupid i'm sorry :(
i'm two months clean from twitter, and i want tiktok to be cut off next. once last year i quit for a month after doing a group project on the attention economy bc i too am a commie. but i came crawling back because now that i've been exposed to being spoonfed easy entertainment like that, reading/watching tv/youtube all feel like effort. and i get so depressed and burnt out sometimes that anything that requires effort seems impossible. and other reasons too but today is one of those days so comment over. also thanks for validating my decision to drop out of college i was a lit major
i feel this - it’s hard to slow down again and enjoy things like, doing nothing, being outside, reading a book… just sitting down and focusing on something… it’s so hard to do. gotta break the cycle
as someone who is disabled and have gotten their videos taken down for using mobility aids. i’m so glad you’re talking about this ro. ❤️
I had tiktok for 2 days. I can’t remember if she sent me a video and I noticed that tic tok basically installs itself on your device. Doesn’t just show you the video, but cues up others like it, I didn’t have to do a thing! From that one video it kept giving me even more cute dog videos. But I knew the evils of the Ap. As for time, if I spend hours on YT I’m usually learning something and watching supreme vids like Ro’s whose wit and ability to put her feelings into words mystifies me. I looked online and found out how to get it off my device.
I’ve never been so happy to leave something after reading your experience. I have severe chronic pain and permanent injuries from when a transport truck and another car tag teamed my car on a highway. My injuries are pretty much invisible (which is a whole different issue). But WTF tic-tic? ( not a spelling error, they are a parasite attaching themselves to people. Real life, people have disabilities and need devices to help them. That this could educate or just normalize seeing people of all ages using mobility aids. What happened to you angers me so much my stomach hurts. Did they give you a reason? I’d love to hear how mobility aids goes against their tos. The spin they’d need to use would probably change the direction of the Earth spin group on its axis. Maybe even make it rotate like doing somersaults. And the distance tech companies have put between us instead of making us closer (yeah im ready for Boomer comments) but smart phones didn’t exist until my mid-20’s) but my god it’s ruined us. I could bore you with a huge list but one of my friends (the minority who thinks these apps are great) can’t tell me looking in my eye because she can have a group of people over but her eyes rarely move from her FB page. It sounds cliched but it’s true. I’m sorry this is so long a have a tbi also from my accident. I don’t want to be alive to see the children raised by these racist, ableist, brain melting, AP’s reach age 25. Really it’s rare to live through two completely different ways of living. I believe there’s so many of this incel shit comes from how little people interact in person. Sure they’ve always been around but not like this and that shit gets passed around and these men clearly believe or don’t know about women is shocking. But what do they do? Have them as classmates (not much talking there) and Porn Hub. Ok, I’ll shut up now 😬
@@phoenixgirl70are you by chance on medication of some kind
You make me feel so seen. TikTok made me realize I was not cis or straight, something I had thought impossible. I got crazy amounts of queer content and my friends did not, I eventually understood it. I am grateful for the shared knowledge on the app, but it gives me a gross feeling knowing that the place where so many young queer people feel so safe and seen, is the place they are least welcome, even hated.
My feed is all queer content but alas I’m still cis and straight. But I’m an ally. And I enjoy the side of tik tok I’m on.
i had a similar experience of realizing i was queer but it came from youtube reccomending me queer tiktok compilations
Come to tumblr! I've been there for 12 years and the queer section I'm in is great. Posts are reverse chronological lime FB *used* to be, the blacklist feature for tags is fantastic, there's no algorithm so you curate your own experience, and you can just go into the tags and search gay stuff til you find blogs you want to follow :)
@@UA-camSupportSucks YES TUMBLR IS HELLSITE #1
There is no better feeling then checking your feed and seeing Ro at the top! INSTANT dopamine kick
Yeah TikTok is not good for my ADHD. All jokes aside, it feeds into creating a shorter attention span and the algorithm sucks me into hyperfocus that’s far harder to snap out of than UA-cam for me. With most UA-cam content I can at least play it in the background while I do other things or when I do get sucked in, it’s usually something educational. I’m glad to have deleted the app almost immediately and to have now removed myself from other social media platforms for the foreseeable future. With UA-cam, I am much more discerning of the content I consume. I also feel less bombarded by advertisements as someone who pays for the monthly subscription, it’s a huge relief.
Edit to add that I am now subscribed to your patreon ❤️
I do not have ADHD but have been experiencing the same problem with my attention span becoming more used to shorter content and mindless scrolling. I think it's a huge problem with the app and I can't even imagine how that would affect people with ADHD. I also weirdly feel like my anxiety has worsened as I procrastinate on the app and put off important tasks. The app itself I feel is awful for anyone with attention problems or procrastination problems.
This is exactly why I refuse to download it. I’d sit there and scroll for hours like I do on Pinterest (it’s better once you get on the art side and not wedding dress bakery minion meme side) and Instagram, both of which I had to delete
This is the exact reason that I deleted my tiktok in favor of UA-cam as well. I have lost days to tiktok before in ways that I’ve never had with UA-cam.
I moved tiktok to a more hidden place on my phone after I realized I would spend genuinely all day on the app and refused to take care of my most basic needs. It was causing my depression to get even worse cause I wouldn’t shower or brush my teeth. A year later I’ve finally deleted the app, and I’m doing so much better mentally now that I’ve been off for so long. Not missing out by not being on the app since others are picking up the style/they’re being posted other places but that’s another problem for another day
Hey, congrats! Good on you!
I have a very addictive personality and I only had tik tok for a few months before I had to get rid of it. I’m glad I did!
Same! I deleted the app a while back and I've been so much more happier :)
i love how ro is cosplaying her mic in this video. insane choice and we adore you for it
Really loved this video. I'm not on TikTok but as a trans guy & someone who also grew up online, the app worries me because you're encouraged to show yourself to strangers when you post. So scary to me. I was someone who used a thousand fake names and was still an idiot, but now I just worry so bad for younger people on the platform. It's got to be especially harrowing as a queer person...
I feel you, I’m so used to anonymity on the internet, I’m more comfortable with ppl never knowing my face or name, or at least sparsely. I’m always shocked when I see so many regular ppl share their face their name their life their friends their family on TikTok so easily, it’s scary to me. It’s too trusting, I was always taught as a kid to never put too much info on the internet or let strangers know who you are online
When you’re anonymous the hatred feels less personal. I’ll get randos saying stupid shit every once in a while but I don’t read it, block and move on. It has to do with broad aspects of “me”, but I can dissociate from it. The second it becomes personal it hurts so, so much more.
I tried briefly to make educational content about a stigmatized disorder I have (you can guess from the username lol) because there’s so much misinformation and so few representations of experiences like mine. I posted maybe 5 videos? All plain text on screen w/ music, no identifying info, my last one had vocal audio but I used a voice changer. On EVERY video I got at least one comment (often several) accusing me of faking/insulting my disorder, and in several instances had people calling me slurs for being queer. I had like 100 subscribers, these people were seeking me out to be cruel. Last video I was talking about the grief of losing my friend, and I got a comment saying they deserved to die because I was queer and it was God’s way of punishing me or some shit. That was what made me call it quits, delete all my vids and give up.
All that to say- That’s what I got when I was still mostly anonymous. I cannot IMAGINE what it would be like to share your face, your voice, online when talking about personal things like that. I cannot bear to think how much deeper the cruel words would cut once the anonymity is gone.
@@thedestroyasystem I'm so sorry you had to go through that :( I hope you're feeling better now. Stay strong!
I'm a trans guy too and still look fairly feminine. I try to keep my TikTok very random and lighthearted and stupid because if I try to post anything related to real life issues or being trans I know it's just going to cause me trouble or not be seen by many people at all. It's either you go viral by getting pushed and shared to bullies, or your content gets likes from your community until a hater reports it. I'm not particularly charismatic and I'm "old" (31). So the app can't get anything *from* me other than maybe selling me those ketamine antidepression pills or other ads that monetize my mental illness LOL!!!!
Exactly. I got a tiktok to humor my friends a few months ago, and for the most part they're pretty great people qnd none of them had their full names on there. But I'd see so many people who just put their full names and age on their profile, and the most you got from me was a few short videos of my face, my first name and my Pronouns. I've stopped using it more than checking what my friends have tagged me in maybe twice a month at best, qnd my life hasn't really changed without it lol.
“I was desperate to be liked and I was so unlikeable” Ro I think we have the same life
Another impact tiktok has had on the culture of social media is on the “fifteen seconds of fame.” It has become easier for a creator to blow up, but when it happens, they burn out very fast as it is nearly impossible to sustain the influx of followers tiktok tends to throw at trending people.
the farther i get into this video the more glad i am that i never slipped and fell into using my tiktok account that i made to promote youtube videos that i ended up not making.
Just a slug (✿◠‿◠)
This video is terrific; tiktok was ruining me until I totally dropped it in November. Thanks for making a coherent video that isn't just "social media bad" :)
i deleted it a few months ago but then i regot it a few weeks ago to post my drawings. im less addicted to it now tho.😁
I deleted it in November as well…. Such a good decision
Tiktok knew I had ADHD before I did lol, it got me to do research and to finally seek out an official diagnosis. On the other hand it also promotes a lot of false and reductive information about neurodivergency because its engaging and gets views.
I deleted TikTok but it’s irreparably broken me. I keep finding myself on UA-cam shorts or Instagram reels without even noticing. I’ll like black out and have been scrolling for twenty minutes before I get brought back to my body by content so factory generated that my brain restarts. Tumblr is the only social media (besides Twitter which I refuse to touch out of spite) that hasn’t tried to Frankenstein pieces of tiktok onto itself, but blogs i follow keep posting untagged owl house spoilers so all of social media is hell, isn’t it.
I recommend downloading web extensions, I have one for shorts and they aren't as easy to watch as before, and ironically I think tumblr isn't as bad as twitter or tiktok
I'm so glad I deleted TikTok last August. Like you, I would spend hours on it and I couldn't even remember more than 5 videos I watched. I think I spent like 6 hours just scrolling one time. It really polluted my brain and made my attention span so short that I couldn't even watch a 10 minute UA-cam video. My life is so much better without it
Great video as always, Ro!
I deleted it a few months ago to focus on exams. Recently I felt like I needed to redownload it since I had a lot mutuals on there but I couldn't barely handle it for 5 mins. Its like I could feel it sucking me in..
literally needed this so bad. Im a creator on tiktok and just got banned for no reason, they refuse to contact me back. But we have our rise, our hayday and our fall and we go back into normalcy. Over and over again. I am so tired
it happened to me too, back in january. utterly exhausting. i had my followers submit reports, and tiktok said that i needed to contact them about it (even thought i already had). when i contacted them, they sent back auto-responses unrelated to the topic at hand, and then stopped responding all together. same situation for DMing them on twitter and emailing every address i could get my hands on. the DMs are run by bots and the email addresses are completely unmannned. it feels like we’ve just…been abandoned.
Haven’t watched the video yet but I’m so glad I was never into social media as a child. I basically took the “stranger danger” message and the “don’t give your real name on the internet” very seriously and refused to show any bit of my life on every social except for extremely vague references. If it were up to me there would be zero trace of my face on the internet. Then there’s my youngest sister who regularly uses Tik Tok and I fear for what could happen to her mental health. I refuse to use the app because it was basically impossible to filter content and the constant stream of stuff overloaded my brain. I can’t imagine how bad my attention span would be if I did use it… I can’t even use Twitter for too long without my brain screaming to close the app. Now I just watch hour long UA-cam videos as background noise.
I just don't feel comfortable with showing parts of my life/my face where everyone can see it, I'm a very private person, I don't even use Instagram because of this
god ro this is FANTASTIC. the part discussing the experience of being a tiktok creator hit really hard, it is such a weird experience to have and it’s so hard to explain to people who haven’t had it happen to them
especially as a jewish creator, when i tell people about the things people have gotten away with saying to me so many are just appalled by it but i’ve gotten to this point where i’m so desensitized to it that i just come to accept it as a part of reality, which is so so horrifying
you know it's bad when my mother of 2, has a husband and a full time job, downloaded tiktok and is beyond addicted to it
Bruh same. My 54 year old mom got so addicted shed literally ignore everything else. I'd leave for work and she'd be on it, come home and she's still on it. She'd pass out and wake up and get on it at like 11pm.
At one point she literally opened it up mid way through my brother talking to us and started watching stuff out loud. Like I was in genuine shock. I'm usually the one being told to get off my phone while family is over.
It got to the point she decided to switch to an old phone from 2009 or so, so she couldn't use tiktok.
She quickly switched back to her smartphone, deleted the app but very quickly jumped to youtube shorts
My soon to be retired mother is absolutely addicted...how do I help her?
@@temp_unknown maybe download her some casual games, like candy crush or something. Old people usually like spending their time on these games, maybe she'll switch up
@@temp_unknown depends on your relationship with her but you can talk it out of her and convince her to pick up a hobby, or recommend some mobile games
Rose sitcom dropping when?
I absolutely agree with what you said about going to tiktok when everything ran out of content. It was just so easy to get more. I've been tiktok free for a month now and only by removing the app from my home page and putting it somewhere less visible. At first I was scared of quitting cuz of fomo but now that I've stopped I really don't care anymore
my insomina has gotten really bad lately and seeing this video at the top of my feed really brightened the start of a very long night. thank you ro
I feel you with the insomnia! I hope it gets better soon it's honestly the worst thing for the start of my days :")
i feel like i haven't had 2 good nights of sleep in a row for 2+ years and 1/3 i don't sleep at all... solidarity, it's rough.
the last part felt so real and frustrating, its an anger i've been having on tumblr lately that's just recently amped up as it was recently pointed out one of tumblr's staff is a consumer of content made by terfs and antisemites (it was hp and aot) and the person who offhandedly pointed it out made a remark about it being why terfs don't face consequences on that app. the person got their account banned completely, thr staff's blog was hidden, the entire post and all the reblogs of it vanished, scorched fucking earth. as someone who has spent *hours* going down rabbit holes of terf blogs reporting every post tagged as terf and reporting blogs with hateful, transphobic, racist and just disgusting post histories and hearing absolutely nothing back, its so frustrating to see how quick apps will then turn to slap punishments down for poc or lgbtqa+ users
i would so watch the ro and mo show. i'd be a diehard fan.
having never struggled with substance abuse i think quitting tiktok is the closest ive ever been to what its like to go sober. my mood, memory, and attention span have all improved. i originally only quit because i was leaning on it too hard when i was depressed to avoid my thoughts instead of actually dealing with them. it is amazing how much better i feel without it. i'll still watch tiktoks when they get reposted elsewhere, or sent to me by my friends, because i think there is still a wealth of humor and creativity that tiktok brings out in droves unlike any other platform. but that doesn't change the fact that the app itself was aiding and even encouraging my inability to process emotion in a healthy way, as it often times promoted to me stories of queer sadness and harmful content about eating disorders, both of which i experience in real life, and seriously don't want to be forced to see in the online spaces i choose to inhabit. no matter what i did, no matter how many times i scrolled past, marked as "not interested," blocked the creator even, i would still get shown more. tiktok aimed to upset me as much as it aimed to entertain, and i am glad i realized i don't need to put up with the former to achieve the latter. i am unbelievably better off without tiktok, and i do honestly encourage everyone to have a serious think about how the app is really making them feel. and thank you, ro, for this video. as someone who was already aware of most of what you talked about, it still made me feel less alone in my feelings about such a dominating presence in social media. it can be hard to articulate or speak out about it, or to think it's even worth the effort. it is, and i'm glad you thought so, too.
15:30 holy shit this is a real old person/boomer moment, but: I never realized how growing up with social media in your life from a young age helps shape how you consume other media/art, and I'm kind of glad I grew up without it.
I'm glad Facebook wasn't much of a thing beyond the Harvard, Mass. area until I was like 14 or so, and I didn't get on it until I was about 18 (Facebook was the earliest social media platform most people I knew were actively using; I didn't know anyone on MySpace and most people didn't use Google or UA-cam as "social media" per se; they were just for specific purposes, like email or hosting/watching videos).
Fine, you convinced me to join your patreon. MOTHER I AM PATRONIZING THE ARTS.
I deleted tiktok from my phone back in January because I came to the realization that it brought on massive anxiety! And I wasn’t even someone who uploaded tiktoks! I maybe uploaded one friends-only viewable tiktok. But just being on tiktok and watching tiktok stressed me out to no end. And literally made me feel like my life was getting taken away. And this comes from someone who is chronically online!! I’ve spent 7 hours on Twitter this week since Sunday 4 days ago! Tiktok is just a whole other beast. And the algorithm is so good, that whenever it falters or resets (which it did for me often) it was terrifying. So I packed up all the videos from my favorites folder and left for good. Do I have massive fomo? every day! do I often want to go on there, even just to see one video or content creator? yes. but that place is bad news for meeeeee
TikTok knew I was queer and ADHD before I did…it was kinda baffling so I understand your statement on that
personally i hate data collection. i know in a small way that it has become a necessary evil, but so has being alive and that hasnt stopped any depression episodes or occasional suicidal thoughts (:
but for real, i support the general movement for Open Source and free software that isnt fucking spying on my every move.
and also i have ADHD and crave that sweet sweet dopamine, so i absolutely despise any and all social media recommendation algorithms because they're just trying to manipulate and take advantage of me 24/7 (:
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Deleted tiktok in June 2021 and my mental health improve immediately. My #1 advise to people to this day is to delete the app.
i deleted it and was fine for a year, redownloaded it recently and i think all my progress has gone completely out the window and im exactly where i started
- new ro video
- it's 40 minutes
- day made
I was a content creator for 4 years, starting in 2018 when I was 19 I first got into twitch streaming and it quickly made me more money than my irl job. i was constantly given “opportunities” due to my online “clout”. looking back these were shallow attempts at a pump and dump content strategy. nobody I have worked with through influencing has ever turkey cared about me or how the shittiest industry alive effected me. I started doing porn and was immediately met with a loving and caring community, people who noticed when I was upset and wanted to genuinely help. i always had in my mind that porn had to be the worst industry who doesn’t care about the women it pops out, and that’s true to a point. but tiktok and instagram are SO SO SO much worse. i could go on about mental illness algorithms or the constant bullying comments, pedos, etc. Tiktok is BAD
Also: Tiktok is the WORST paying social media site. Hank green has a great video about why their payout model sucks. my whole thing was “get the views on tiktok, then get them to a different platform to monetize them. this is why so many tiktok creators are streamers or musicians or UA-camrs.
I have been tiktok free for 3 weeks now and THANK GOD
Wow, this is such an interesting perspective in so many ways. Thanks for sharing!
Ro has an uncanny knack for covering topics I happen to be thinking about at the moment
I deleted TikTok because my adhd was getting worse and my phone addiction was getting worse as well. TikTok was not doing me any favors and I think it was a good personal decision for me
"5'7" when I Was in 5th grade" damn ro roasting short kings right out the gate
everyone of my most recent mental breakdowns have been caused by subtle romanticizing of my mental illness on tiktok. it goes hmm you have depression???? ur entire fyp is depression relatable quirky content now ❤️
The algorithm actively filtering out “ugly” disabled, “would someone bully this person” people is so sad. And it applies with my content (on another account). I’ve always thought I got shadow banned because my videos were never getting recommended and my sub count just stopped growing all together years ago. 😢
This is the exact reason I’ve always been terrified to download tiktok. I don’t feel “better” for having never gotten the app, I’m just so easily addicted to social media that the ultimate addictive app isn’t a grasp I’d be able to escape from
That intro skit is giving me "high school freshman science project video" acting.
I’m so glad I got off of TikTok after using it for 2 months, This app is so chaotic 💀.
Also off topic but Ro always looks gorgeous even in the tshirt she should do a closet haul or outfit inspo!
i'm very happy you brought up how cringe old tiktok used to be. i don't know how to explain this, but tiktok now is both more sanitized and more cruel than it was those years ago.
i remember the straight tiktok vs alt tiktok war. oddly enough i have nostalgia for that. (i was on team alt)
this is my favorite lore that someone’s set up for a sponsorship ever
I'm too ancient for TikTok, but I'm always down for Rose's thoughts! Her mind is like a kaleidoscope, busy and beautiful!
Love this shit. Hope you’re mental health is cool, I’m sure being on UA-cam is a nightmare. Still the funniest creator I’ve subbed to in years
I don’t have the tiktok app, but whenever I ‘run out’ of content on other social media platforms I immediately turn to tiktok compilations of UA-cam... I say this in reference to the line you said on how tiktok is where you turn when you are bored with everything else. Even though I don’t have an account, I still fell prey to this addictive notion. It’s honestly borderline horrifying just how pervasive this app is, and how it has such a similar psychological effect of every person.
I don't use tiktok cuz im 25 and attempting to have a life- but i am grateful that TT brings cool funny peeps like u to us :) oh- and DIY tiktok trickling down into yt- mama loves a good DIY project!!
I had to quit twitter and fb in 2020. I’m a queer homemaker in my twenties who had just moved to a new (more rural) town with their wife. I was (and am) INCREDIBLY lonely most of the time. COVID both exacerbated my isolation and reduced it as my wife was now working at home. Even before this starting in 6th grade in the late 2000s, I have always been supplementing my social life with internet friends/social media.
Even though it meant letting go of my social crutch, I still had to quit. I would just open Twitter and scroll for hours. I hated it and I would still keep doing it! It was making me lose hours of the day and get behind on chores or miss out in doing actual fun things. It was making me miserable. I was still lonely but more anxious and terrified that I would never actually be a good person or be good at anything or any other types of insecurities social media breeds.
I’ve gotten to the point where I can check them every few weeks and not stay long. It’s better that way for me. I’ll use Reddit but I’m trying to limit that, too, because it ALSO makes me miserable- just in a different way.
I wrote all this b/c I realized sort of early on that I am EXACTLY the type of person susceptible to TikTok scrolling. So I’ve never gotten one. I have vague feelings of fomo for sure! And there’s lots of niche things I know have thriving communities there. But it’s not worth it. Esp b/c so many youtubers I watch will discuss relevant parts of TikTok for me anyway lmao
29:00- when you started talking about how POC creators have to fight a racist algorithm/guideline strikes it reminded me of the documentary "coded bias", which talks a lot about this kind of stuff. i watched it for one of my film classes last year and it's such a worthwhile watch, especially in regards to this tiktok stuff. that plus this video is making me rethink how i consume media on tiktok. like it's hard because the app is designed to be purposefully and there are some really cool creators out there but i don't think i can handle it anymore.
your monologues at the end of your videos also always add so much heart and soul to the topic you're covering and makes everything feel like you truly DEEPLY care about it, i'm so glad that i got reccomended your NFT video from seven months ago. keep up the amazing work!
17:04 oof. I’ll always remember the time when I was 12 and I was watching daytime tv, some countdown series on the scariest movie scenes of all time. I was getting interested in the horror genre at that age.
Two of the top listings in succession revolved around the graphic rape scene from clockwork orange, and sexual torture and murder of a girl based on a true story. I was just a little kid barely able to comprehend sex and being shown graphic images of assault and far too many verbal details of prolonged sexual torture. I remember feeling panic, turning off the TV, laying down crying and feeling sick. It haunted me when I was reminded of certain media or heard about crimes against women. I still feel fear, deep sadness and even violent rage when I think about those scenes or the people who perpetrated them in real life. even tho it didn’t directly happen to me. It ended up being traumatic to some degree. It really taught me from an early age that young girls and women in particular are main targets for some of the worst fates immaginabile. I remember thinking all girls like me want is to live happy and free with the people who love us and experience our life and dreams and the world, and there are so many men who would like to steal and snuff all that inner richness out for a fetish. It made me angry and scared.
I think I was just unlucky that I caught something so upsetting on TV. But more to the point, tik tok videos push content about horrific true crime and depraved horror movie reviews with the algorithm to a very young audience. I imagine a lot of young viewers find it scarring and traumatic and it’s not just a fluke but a large number of teens and preteens being directly exposed to this
another freaking banger ive been feeling this about tik tok as well. I think it's because social media has developed without too many checks and balances
youtubers are always saying "I know what you're thinking" and I think it's time once and for to stand up and say that I am not. I am not thinking, or at least I don't know what I'm supposed to be thinking. I'm a little too enthralled by the narrative you've crafted, but I do appreciate the credit you give to me for my ability to both listen and parse what you're saying in real time.
the more I learn about people's experiences with tiktok the more I'm glad I never got into it. even the youtube shorts tab will sometimes have me roped in for hours at a time, so dissociated I'm blind to my surroundings, and that's with a terrible algorithm that always seems to show me worse videos the longer I watch them. I can't imagine how much I'd be sucked into tiktok if I used it
Oh my god yes! I consciously chose to never get tiktok, despite my friends sending me funny tiktoks and then not being able to see them because i didnt have an account. I would just be like 🤷🏼♀️ whoops, guess i can’t see the fun tiktok. But i just knew from previous experience with Vine back in the day.. i wouldnt be able to use tiktok without being obsessed and deteriorating my mind even more.
So i just stayed in my lane, watching youtube vidoes and even avoiding tiktok compilations lol. I love a good compilation vid.
But then UA-cam started with the shorts and i thought it was stupid. But they just keep prioritizing them and i see them all over the app and i have gotten lost in that sweet sweet endless quick content. Idk how to even compare it to anything because in the moment it feels like you are really enjoying it, and despite spending too long watching them, it feels like hey, this is harmless, i mean how could it be bad to watch some funny/ interesting videos and maybe even learn a little something! Nothing wrong with that!
But then…. You are addicted and you just cannot even get any long form entertainment and suddenly you must consume only bite sized pieces of content and laugh at it for half a second before you move on to the next video and yea it was a fun way to spend time but i maybe watched 50-100 short videos and cannot remember anything past the last two videos. And so what did i even gain besides fleeting happiness. Its just so damn strange how i will be consuming this content and it legit feels like im being more productive than if i were to sit and journal my thoughts for a little bit, which would be good for my mental health. But this short form content just tricks my brain into feeling like any silence means i am wasting my life.
im so glad that when i was still in school, social media apps were still very much a new thing - as a teenager, i was on facebook!! and that was seen as cool!!!! so you can imagine how long ago that was lmao. like 50% of people in my grade didnt even have a smartphone when i was around 14. i recently went to visit a grade school class bc of my bachelors project, and firstly the kids were wonderfup, but secondly i offhandedly mentioned that i have an instagram where i post my art, and one kid said "oh write that down for me" which kind of blasted my brain bc i didnt really Remeber that 9 year olds have their own smartphones now with internet access.... damn. im so sorry to those kids, but thanks to the one that liked my art lmao
I havent watched the video yet but I deleted tiktok about a month ago now and I realized how much more free time I have now that I'm not spending every second I get to go on tiktok and scroll for literal hours. My screen time has went from spending an average of 8-10 hours to 3-5 since I've deleted it. I feel happier and I have more motivation to do something that's not on my phone. I was borderline addicted to tiktok and I guarantee others are too that's why tiktok is so successful cause they profit off of people being addicted to their app. So yea that's my personal experience and problem with tiktok, and if anyone who is reading this is even considering deleting the app just do it, it'll be better for you I promise :))
As someone who's been using and occasionally posting on tiktok since 2019, thank you for addressing a ton of the many many issues the platform has. I'm so glad more and more creators are being critical of the apps structure, moderation, payment, algorithm etc
I love your insight you share so much, and the humor and style are very lovely too! Even though some of the topics you discuss are difficult, you deliver information and thoughts so well and realistically that it’s (personally) easier to follow. I’m glad your channel is growing, and I hope you are doing well!
-from a trans lad trying to learn more and take care of his mental health. :)
I wanted to add that not too long ago I had posted a trans day of visibility related post on instagram, and was called the T-slur. When I reported the comment not long after I got the classic “lol we’re to busy to deal with that, sorry luv”. However the next day, a fellow queer artist I follow got a post taken down because their caption said “I want to use a magnifying glass on him and set him on fire like an ant (this is a joke)” about a FICTIONAL character (the riddler…) . Now hey, if there was an algorithm in place that deleted stuff that said things like “I want to set him on fire” then ah well, that’s unfortunate, not every algorithm is perfect. But it’s pretty damn clear that’s not the case, so why were they free to delete an artists post, and too busy to delete a transphobic comment the day before? I don’t know, but it feels gross.
@@MyriadLad bro Instagram and Tiktok are the *worst* about the posts they take down/keep up. I mean UA-cam is pretty bad too, but those two are just on another level. I feel for you. Even if the reporting does nothing, always delete and block. It’s not ideal but it is something.
Ro Ramdin made me like a video endorsing vitamins and probiotics.
the sense of isolation i’ve felt as a “youtube kid” when around other people now can sometimes be a lot. other people had some form of meaningful media or socialization but i had epic meal time and dan and phil playing the sims.
I wonder if Tik Tok's madness is one of the things Nikola Tesla thought of when he predicted the internet?
Your acting in the opening skit is like a perfect Kyle Mooney, and I mean that with the highest compliment. His digital shorts for SNL like "The Fight" are probably the best that show has had this past decade.
It's a serotonin slot machine.
That opening skit. Pretty funny.
I used tiktok for a big part of 2020, and my brain got so crowded with looped 10 second long song fragments and stupid voice overs that I forced myself to delete the app. And I recommend it to everyone who also scrolls mindlessly through tiktok just as I did! I became much calmer and less stressed :)
one of my favorite videos of yours now. The ideas and incredibly deep themes you discuss shine through in every video in so many different ways, its inspiring
I got into Tumblr at like age 13 and it's the main social media I used until Discord came around. I'm still on Tumblr tho.
The good news about Tumblr is clearly it isn't catering ads to my interests considering it's advertising Manscaped and Viagra at me. Either it thinks I'm a hairy person with a dick and ED, or it's not personalizing my shit.
Is it stealing my data? Fuck it I know. But if it is it sure ain't using it for ads at least. Which i respect.
The sheer weight of the knowledge bombs and the amount of A+ comedy here had me exhausted by the end, Rose.
Fucking LOVED it!
I am so glad to have subscribed to your channel!!! ❤️
no because i seriously had to delete tik tok because it used to make me so angry LMAO i would get so tired of seeing the same tired jokes or ignorant discourse that i just left, i feel so much better without it and i'm not really missing out on anything tik toks are posted everywhere lol
the fact ro is the funniest person ive never known
Clicked for the title, stayed because you know how to put a progress bar in your ad reads 👌🏼💯
Only a Ro Ramdin video could make me wonder if AO3 9/11 fanfics really exist. Good shit.
(they do.)
ro’s videos are so good bc i said i was going to sleep and now i’m like 15 minutes into this….. ok sleepy time now
im in love with how you have a progess bar for your ad reads, god tier feature, everyone should do that
As long as hate speech drives engagement, platforms will resist taking it down 💀
i really like ur eye makeup during the ad also getting a notif you uploaded prob made my night
New Ro dropped? Fuck episode 2 of Kenobi for now. I need this.
god how did i just now find your videos i love u so much
deleted tiktok at the beginning of march after seeing my screen time and seeing i had spent 24 hours on tiktok in that week. an entire day of the week spent mindlessly scrolling through content i wouldn't remember in five minutes, let alone an hour. i felt so disgusted with myself, it was such a wakeup moment for me. i had completely destroyed my attention span, i constantly reached for it any time i was a little bit bored/uncomfortable/wanted to be distracted. not to be hyperbolic, or make light of addictions, but i honestly think it worked similarly to a slot machine in my head. just constant scrolling until i found a video that engaged my brain enough to get that dopamine hit, and then more scrolling and scrolling in order to try and get it again.
deleted it, and in the past couple of months i've read way more, engaged with my creative hobbies, and got more comfortable with myself and small moments of boredom. i know that there are people who can engage with tiktok in an healthy way, but i definitely am not one of them and i have a feeling that the actual number of healthy tiktok users is much smaller than one might think. not saying i'm perfect now, i still spend an ungodly amt of time online, including on tiktok clones (lol reels and shorts) but youtube or instagram's algorithms are as attuned as tiktok's, and i find it easier to turn it off and disengage. it's kinda terrifying that i find shittier versions to be better for me in the end. and at this point, i don't think i'll reinstall tiktok again, it is just too dangerous for my brain.
i don't know if there's really a point to this comment, just wanted to share my experience. i'm glad that someone else is talking about this (esp from the creator side) and that you vocalize my issues with the app so well. i find it terrifying to realize that tiktok is now some kid's first exposure to social media, jesus instagram/tumblr rotted my brain enough in middle school, i can't imagine what tiktok would do. anyways, i found you on tiktok, and i'm glad that i've been able to keep up with your content post-tiktok (altho i guess i don't know if you're still posting on tiktok or not lol). thanks ro!
the beauty standards are… evil tbh.. like i would have had much more crippling self perception issues if such a seemingly attainable but completely artificial version of eurocentric attractiveness was fed to me constantly… it’s been said before but kids have no public awkward phases that allow them to be tweens and teens and not like… products for consumption for internet views
this video, like all your videos, is fantastic. the points in here are ones that have crossed my mind a lot as someone who used to use tiktok for cosplay and art, and you've articulated them and more so well and engagingly.
Simultaneously annoyed that I didn't find your channel sooner, and glad that there's such a backlog to catch up on. Really enjoying the content. Love your work.
God you are literally one of the FUNNIEST most easily watchable creators on this platform. Such a breath of fresh air. Just great stuff. Relatable emotional moments when they come up and great bits that don't get annoying at all, absolutely golden. just in awe of this lass.
As someone with adhd, tik tok is especially very predatory as addiction is such a huge issue in regards to all that. I already struggle enough, the last thing I needed is to download an app I've had since 2018 that does nothing but consume my life and burn the words "for you" into the top of my phone screen
I find social media exhausting as an artist. I want people to like and appreciate my art but it's not sustainable to create fully finished work daily and I don't want to post progress pictures because they make me feel bad.
I attempted so many times to make some comment that would matter but honestly I can just sum it up with Ro Ramdin you are genuinely an amazing creative beautiful mind and I don't think I can even fully thank you for all you've chosen to make and share. Happy pride month keep doing things that make you happy you absolute icon
I found your channel recently and I’m obsessed. You have such good takes that really make me reconsider my own positions. Keep up the good work