The Family Man - Teaching Love
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- Опубліковано 20 сер 2024
- The Family Man is a movie that sets up one reality, then takes place mostly in an alternate reality, and doesn't want you to ask too many questions about how it got there. It just wants your heart.
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The older I get, the more I appreciate this movie. It's very underrated.
Well said.
No actually its not - punish yourself because of mutual decisions made about what might have been is just sadistic torture - Cage aint getting those decades back and their paths are so far diverged the life that was shown can NEVER materialize. It is an exercise of utter futility. Their kids at the end part of the movie would likely see their parents BURIED before they graduate college or perhaps even HS. There is a reason this movie bombed - it is just a bad story. No disrespect to Cage - but Cage couldn't save writing that bad.
@@MeshMN First of all... whether it's good or not is your opinion. Look at all the posts on this movie, and by that I mean on all the separate videos, not just this one. They are overwhelmingly positive. Very, very few negative ones. Also you can't judge a movie solely by it's box office performance. Did you know that "The Wizard of Oz", "It's A Wonderful Life", "Shawshank Redemption" , to name three, all did poorly at the theater? They are all considered smash hits, but by your criteria they are no good. You have no idea if the promotion was behind this movie or not. Many movies do great once they are released to rent. So lighten up a little.
Notice in every scene where the snow is falling around Jack his life is about to change (before entering the store at the beginning & before he goes back to his single life while walking the dog) - at the end while the credits roll, you see them having coffee with snow falling behind them. Their lives were about to change.
Great observation
What crushed me was knowing that he'll never be reunited with his children as he knew them. I saw this in the theater with my first love, back in 2000. Even now, I've never loved anyone the way I loved her. We didn't end up making it, and twenty years later, I am Jack Campbell from the universe where she is the Tea Leoni who looks through me. She's got a husband and three boys now, and I'm happy for her. But I can still feel her as I once knew her.
Thanks so much for sharing that. It's remarkable what a great job this movie does at stirring the deeper emotional wells within us, and allowing us to reflect on our own lives.
God I dread that feeling. The one that got away :(
Love is like old tax returns, hold them for year, and then cut them loose.
Can't imagine how that's gotta feel. I hope God's treated you well otherwise.
@@chrismiller3563 Oh I'm fine, thank you. Everyone's fine. This hasn't happened to you yet? Are you a young man?
This movie is a masterpiece
Tea Leoni played the ideal wife in this movie. She is beautiful and has such a wonderful personality. She deserves praise for her performance.
This movie is beyond words! When I saw it for the first time it affected me greatly because of the mistakes I’ve made in my life. I truly pray to the Lord which I know he won’t do, to let me wake up tomorrow morning next to my wife and my kids in the next room, working at a tire store, living in a blue-collar neighborhood with blue-collar best friends.!
I have watched this film so many times. I finally bought a blu ray copy 3 weeks ago.
Beautiful film.
when this movie came out 20 yrs ago, i felt like i was the only person in my social circle who was truly touched by it. especially being a divorced dad at the time w/a young daughter. so it's nice to see that others also have been moved by it. 'fish out of water' is certainly not a new concept, but i've always felt this film did a much more effective job than many critics gave it credit. also, nicholas cage's character needed a false reality to realize how important love was, or kate was, in his life a decade after leaving his girlfriend at the airport. tea leoni's character (wow she was absolutely fantastic in this role), at end of the movie at another airport, was able to see the same vision from jack that she saw years earlier, without living an alternative life's glimpse. her heart was the one i came away most affected by walking out of the theatre then, and still today,
This film is timeless...a classic .... just like a time piece it needs all the parts to be working together....
My hat goes too the (casting agency *)
from the leads roles the supporting actors all the way down to the dog lol..
A gem of a movie...
I'm at a crossroads in life of where I'm beginning to jump start my career towards the success I've always imagined but at the same time my girlfriend of 4 years wants to settle down and start a family... on the surface I am all for this, and love her a lot. But deep down the thought of having kids and marriage itself kind of scares me when I think more and more about it... I just finished watching this movie for the first time and it definitely gave me perspective. Much needed perspective which I hadn't truly pondered on until I watched this movie. Being single in my late 20s to mid 30s is the peak of a man's life, having a family can interfere with that lifestyle. But at the other hand, if I was to choose my career over my love and possibly starting a family with her, I would be left meaningless and lonely. Much like the protagonist in this movie. I've always dreaded change in my life and also get very emotionally attached to people too... sometimes I'm not sure if I'm with my girlfriend because I love her or because I fear losing her... but deep down I know I am miserable when she is out of the picture because we've had on/off moments. Life is so complicated, relationships make it even more complicated. But it's the special moments that make it all worth it. I hope I make the right decisions.
It's always difficult to decide about relationships and futures. As with life there are so many on/off moments, it's hard to know. I think everyone really has to decide for themselves and have a sense of what they want deep down.
For what it's worth I spent a lot of my 30's single and can report that, while having all my time to myself (for the most part) is great, the evenings and weekends can get tough when the people around you have moved on with families and life.
One can’t have long term success without a family. Look at most successful business persons, all of them have good families with kids.
My favorite Christmas Movie of all time, watch it every Christmas eve 😊❤️❤️😊
That sounds like a great tradition 😊
This and it’s a wonderful life
what many people miss is that in reality, Kate was just like him. Single, no family, without kids, focused on her job and career. They both failed. And the last days in the alternate universe was a glimpse of the world in which they had both: career and family.
I think Kate's also had the dream in which she was with jack and had the kids. Once he starts mentioning their names at the airport she realized it was more than a dream.
Wow, I've seen this movie on VHS tape, recorded from TV. I watched it several times in my early 20ies, before my marriege. The soundtrack really touched me, it is really a masterpiece from Danny Elfman. It also reminds me of the end dream-scene of Raising Arizona. For me things didn't turn out as planned, but at age of 40 I still hope it will work out :)
I hope everything still works out for you!
FK yeah! I saw this as a single guy and now a family man....I get it!
I appreciate you watching. I'm always surprised that people watch this video and even more so when they comment on it. Thank you!
This is my favorite movie! True love, great acting! Finally scene is so deep and touching! Thank you for great video! Special movie about love, family and true values!
Thanks very much for watching!
Groundhog Day meats It's a Wonderful Life.
Just watched it now. It was so amazing and deep touching.
One of the best movies of all time
This is on my top movies list ~ I have watched it at least 15-20 times. I was such a die hard Nicolas Cage fan, back in the day, that I would positively melt watching him on screen. I honestly don't know if anyone else could have done this role but him, or with Tea Leoni (they have wonderful, unprecedented chemistry together). Absolutely one of my most favorite films during my lifetime ~ a little bit like "It's A Wonderful Life" and "Scrooge". I just watched it the other night. The script is fabulous, and the secondary actors are so good! Don Cheadle is remarkable, and the kids are great. The scenes are wonderful. So darn good! A hard to beat Christmas movie.
One of the best Christmas movies of all time. Up there with A Wonderful Life, A Christmas Story, Home Alone, and The Shop Around the Corner. Actually sort of surprised that modern Hollywood made and released it, to be honest. It's so opposite of most of the other values they push.
The story goes that Brett Ratner found the script and was so moved by it he fought to make it tirelessly because he felt so strongly that he had to make it. He even did research on Nic Cage and gave the main character things that Cage had (like the car) so when Cage read it he was like, "this is me!"
@@FilmFlux Wouldn't be surprised to learn that Ratner was a frequent visitor of Epstein Island.
Just re watched this movie. wanted to experience it as an adult. they really don’t make movies like this anymore. great movie.
Love this film. Good review
Thank you kindly
Anne is so sweet especially the part on alien attack. That's really sad after Jack's 2nd Xmas she is no longer existed.
She's such an integral part to making the movie work. She might be my favourite part. I wonder what happened to that actor
Thank you, I needed this.
Thank you so much for watching.
I love this movie so much...
This is one of my favorite movies. I think it is perfect for marriages where one person is on the Autism Spectrum (Aspergers). All Kate wants is for him to say he loves her... often. It is the fuel she needs to keep going.
Love this movie
Kate’s hair never changed, it was different in the beginning when they were saying goodbye then went their separate ways.
That's a good point!
This channel needs more exposure, keep up the good work!
I really appreciate the comment. Thank you!
I don’t know how you did it. Actually I do know how you did it. I watched this movie so many times and you just made it better. You’re in the right career. I was raised on movies also. Best channel on UA-cam so far. Keep up the good work👍🙏
One of the few people who commented on what I said in the video, rather than the movie itself. Greatly appreciated, friend. Thank you.
What would you do if you knew you were going to disappear tomorrow? What would you tell your wife?
For that matter, what would you tell anyone you love?
The Secret is to live every day and every moment like it is a glimpse and can be taken away from anyone in the blink of an eye.
But...ahh..to live in the moment and to love fully and without reserve...
This movie taught me a lot. I cried watching it
I’ve watched this movie for the last week, back to back. It’s great, I always noticing something different everytime I watch it, oh we have no WiFi that’s why I’m watching it so much lmaoooooo I have 30 other DVD’s too
All I Can say is "I DIDN'T KNOW."
I really love this movie which for whatever reason never attained the notoriety it deserves. It truly shows what's important in life.
Extremely well done.
Thank you so much
Good job brother I was just visiting my parents and we watched this film together. Merry Christmas. I really enjoyed your analysis.
A Merry Belated Christmas to you as well. Thank you so much for your comment. Few people seem to comment on the analysis, so I appreciate it.
@@FilmFlux I felt like watching the analysis but I don’t anted insight into why I live this film. You helped me a lot!!! Thanks :)
Back when I seen this movie in 2002 I was immature and didn't appreciate my family. It changed my outlook of my life and my then wife and my kids. It changed my life forever
I really like this video, it tells the story I didn't understood. Thanks for making it clear and teaching me to love even deeper this movie.
You're very welcome. Thank you so much for watching.
@@FilmFlux By the way, your work is inspiring, not that you are the only one on Ytb analyzing movies, but I wonder how can you do such thing, I mean is there any way to enhance critical thinking the way you do it?
Thanks for the reply👍🏻
@@roman8950 Of course. I love talking about this stuff and I'm just learning myself (though we all are, always). I guess it depends on what kind of critical thinking you want to do, and what format you like to learn in. Articles? UA-cam video essays? Reviews? I'll give you three of my favourite sources to learn from, but I'm happy to talk more about this with you.
1) FilmCritHulk - Probably the best writer about film in our day. For his early work he talks like the Hulk, and in Hulk speak, so you have to be able to jive with that. His new work is written normally. One of my favourite works of his is about understanding cinematography: birthmoviesdeath.com/2013/01/09/film-crit-hulk-smash-hulk-vs.-tom-hooper-and-art-of-cinematic-affectation
2) Every Frame a Painting - This is the God of all video essayists. He's a professional editor, so he's got a lot to teach. Here is my favourite video of his on how Jackie Chan does Action: ua-cam.com/video/Z1PCtIaM_GQ/v-deo.html
3) Roger Ebert - Probably the most legendary voice in film criticism. When he was alive, if I was ever confused about how I felt about a movie (something that still happens all the time) I would go and read his review on it. There's such a simplicity to his writing. He doesn't talk above you, he talks to you. Sometimes he sets the movie in its time period just to help the reader understand. This isn't his best review by any means, but I think about it a lot: The Fountain: www.rogerebert.com/reviews/the-fountain-2006
@@FilmFluxYou really are passionate about cinematography, aren't you? ❤🎥
Thank you so much, I will definitely check all the sources you shared, I love learning just like you do, for me this is gold!
I think movies are such a potent asset for humans to know better our nature, understand life's experiences and dig down beneath the surface is what really makes us whole.
Thanks for such reviews and keep it up 👏🏻!
One of my favorite holiday movies. Second only to It's a Wonderful Life.
Thank you for this beautiful expose of my favorite holiday movie of all time. You've expanded my appreciation for a story I've dearly cherished for over 2 decades
Watch this every Christmas Eve. A true classic.
You should definitely have more subscribers!! 💯
I'm so glad to see that my non-Sailor Moon content did not disappoint. Thanks so much for watching and commenting on all these vids, and your high praise and kindness!
I think this film is about our choices in the life it could be change all .
Always my favourite film of all time. I cry everytime i watch it ❤
Beautifully put...
Thank you kindly
My favorite holiday movie by far.
cool concept of a movie in this messed up world, people gonna need it
Thanks for the video
Thank you so much for watching
beautiful story.thanks mate, for the another video about it
Thank you kindly!
This Video Almost Made Me Cry And When What Would You Say To Your Wife If You Know That Your Leaving I Would Say No Matter How Big Or Small This Moment Feels It’s Big And I Want You To Now That I’ll Love You Forever No Matter How Many Arguments We Have I’ll Love You Forever
Man nail it in exactly what that movie mean I completely feel same way .
Its a great movie. One I think every American need to see, because it shows the contrast between two of the main American Dreams, and what the US has to a degree tried to sell to the world as being the way to live. Now both dreams are a lie outwardly, one is a lie inwardly too....but the other is actually real inwardly, and touches on the deeper essence of what life is supposed to be about.
Not a nihilistic nothingness living as a accident of nature or "survival of the fittest", but a deeper consciousness which shows that the REAL goes beyond the physical needs, survival, and a pre-determined reality we have no control over or choice in. For those who understand it, its proof that free-will and choice is real, and that we all consist of more than our physical make-up and what we can be taught by parents and society. It shows you the absurdity of seeing materialism as the only reality.
Yes to see all of that requires a heart, which most people perhaps especially in the US seem to have lost. But I challenge everyone to study and find out which one of the two realities is more real, and which one of them is more fulfilling, purposeful and desirable. This movie hits home with me....as I have 2 or 3 times in my life been faces with the choice presented in this movie. The first time I chose family, the second time I chose career and the third time I chose family again. But it is in choosing the truth as my greatest value that it has been clear to me which of the two realities is better and why.
You might look at Hollywood and Billionaires and watch how most there try to have it all, but most fail at especially the family life as they try to have a very demanding career. With a world where family life is under attack and it is really tough to find anyone who would choose the family life and so is even worth banking on for such a choice, it should be clear to see what we are loosing and that this loss is NOT evolution.
By far the best performances out of these two actors . Top 10 movies of all time with Danny elfman on the score
one of my fav movies ever!
This was one of my favorite films growing up and I enjoy it more and more as the years go by. They just don't make films like this anymore. It had that early 2000's optimism, quasi-religiosity, no wokeness or political messages, really a great movie. I'm also very familiar with the area where the movie is set so it felt like this family could be a neighbor.
My favorite Xmas movie.
Nice video, beautiful message
Very much appreciated. Thank you kindly
@@FilmFlux yezzir, thank you. Have a beautiful day as well
I been living this hell for over 2 years. I wish I had been giving the second chance like Jack
I'm sorry to hear that. Is it anything you can change?
You are right, this movie is a sleeper.
This is Nicolas Cage’s best role! And our favorite Christmas movie! Wyatt, it’s such a sleeper movie my husband and I just can’t understand it
C'est un très bon film, profond, qui parle du destin...
Two Thumbs, and two big-toes up.
Here's my question. Who is Cash? Like what's his deal? What are his goals? Even if it was to get Kate and Jack together they will never get the life he had in the alternate reality. Maybe they get married but their kids, friends, and home will be different. Heck, they themselves will be different. Regardless of how things turn out, that has to be hard to accept. Don't get me wrong, I love the movie but I just think it's going to be a tough uphill climb from their coffee date.
I think Cash is purely a plot device. He explains what is happening for the audience, and when Jack asks questions the audience would have, he just gives generic answers.
The film is more interested in a naive, hopeful look at family life and love. Your questions are valid, but they skirt the fantasy of the movie because they are based in reality.
Life is never easy and trouble free and I've never heard of a trouble free marriage either that's not even the point of the movie. Love is the point of the movie for all we know they might end up not being able to even have children like in the movie Up yet that didn't stop that couple from loving each other either.
In the very beginning airport scene, Kate tells Jack “I don’t know what this life is going to look like, but I know it has the both of us in it”. At the end, in another airport, we don’t know what their life is going to look like, but we know they’re both in it together. In the very last frame, as they’re sitting across from each other at the table, Kate reaches out and touches Jack. That’s it. A done deal. True Love wins. ❤️❤️
That’s the point.
@@FilmFlux Agreed. Jack seems to have this great life with the wife + kids but there are also well-sanded clues hidden in the movie. Alternate Jack hid a bottle of alcohol in a drawer. Alternate Jack seemed to be on the edge of an affair with a local neighbor. Alternate Jack was probably overshadowed by his father-in-law given he worked at the man's dealership. Life isn't going to be perfect regardless of the path you choose. I felt like the movie papers over some of the 'bad' aspects of the Alternate Jack life, but, yes, it's a fantasy.
The deleted scene where his high school friend Arnie couldn't care less about him... I wish you woulda included that too. Still a great video
I just watched this last week and for me they are better off single. Glad we are now in 2024 where we don't pushed everyone to get married. The qualify of life is now a goal be it single or double.
Aw
Perfect
Great movie. But one unfortunate subtext of the movie is that a man should subjugate his ambitions for the sake of the family. This was shown to be the case when Tea convinced Jack not to move up a corporate ladder but instead stick to the comfortable family home.
Actually what she said specifically was that she would move to the city so he could pursue his dreams "because I choose us." In this moment she's teaching him what love is. I'm not so sure he knew beforehand. Putting others before himself is something he had never done before. I think if she ultimately didn't let him decide, subjugating ones ambitions for the sake of one's family would be a more clear subtext. But he has that option, and he chooses not to take it.
@@FilmFlux I would say it teaches us to choose love over money, which is always good.
There is more what if comes into my mind when i watch this movie . What life i have if i choose the other side decisions.
Nice movie ever
I met my Girlfriend on Dec 4 and we broke up.
You are right about these commentary but in reality it does not work that way.
The best thing I did was to let go and wished her all the best.
I guess the commentary really only applies to relationships where the two people are right for each other.
I always took don Cheadle character as the devil in this movie messing with the characters for his own sick game
He's supposed to be the embodiment of fate, not the devil!
Another good movie would be one where the other has the glimpse from someone else appearing in likeness, only more alike themselves and can then move on.
❤❤❤❤
Thanks for sub spanish!!!
Are you requesting Spanish subtitles, or are you happy with the English ones? I could probably run the script through Google translate.
@@FilmFlux Hello, your video already has the translation to choose from in the options.
I found this movie morally sadistic.
Cage is punished for doing a good deed and wanting nothing in return, apparently annoying a disgruntled angel somehow: this angel sends Cage BACK in time where he marries his girlfriend and has a family. The entire movie is Cage trying to reconcile WHY he is there and somehow learns to LOVE his kids - then comes the sadistic part * POOF * they aren't REAL despite the little girl finally saying welcome back Daddy and loving him. The only thing this movie accomplishes is to make people feel bad about all the "what might have been" decisions we all make. This in NO WAY WHATSOEVER teaches Cage about love having lost decades that aren't coming back. Now the writer ATTEMPTS to right the horrendous wrong this entire movie actually is by making Cage somehow decide that after decades passed, oh lets pursue her NOW? Sorry - there is a reason this movie bombed - it's because it is just a horrific story of what might have been.
Jack (Cage) is shown that, even though he didn't realize it, he wasn't nearly as happy with his life as he thought he was. The glimpse made him realize that he was still in love with Kate after all those years. After the credits roll, I believe that his life is going to be better than it would've been had he not reconnected with her.