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Watch Growing Up Hip Hop NY from almost 7 yrs ago. Irv and his ex wife said so much disrespect things about Ashanti and tried to make Ashanti look horrible when he tried to justify the relationship to his ex wife. He was trying to get back with his ex wife and said something to the extent of, “you going to let a b!+*% who was only good at sucking my 🍆 keep coming between your love for me. Let it go. She was easy.” That’s when I realized he was an entire female!
I guess for me, why hasn’t anyone come forward to vouch for Ashanti that Irv told people not to do business with her? Where are the so called staff that Ashanti is claiming were all told not to deal with her? Why hasn’t Nelly spoke up in her behalf?
Exactly he's a weirdo and I do believe Ashanti when she said she believes that he wishes death on her. He's one of those abusers who see it as if I cannot have you then nobody can. Then trying to threaten her and sabotage her career he is sick in his head.
And shame on Angie for attempting to censor her. I fucking hate women like that. She IS HER ELDER AND KNOWS ASHANTI WAS ABUSED. Let 👏🏽 that 👏🏽woman👏🏽SPEAK!!!
Ladies please protect yourselves. There's a lot of predators out there. This was so sick and disgusting. I hope Ashanti gets all of her flowers. Her music is apart of my childhood.
And I absolutely LOATHE all the fake tough males that have said nothing in her defense. Have y’all realized that not one man has stood up for Ashanti publicly? Yet… they all wanna masturbate to her privately. I hate this place
He tried to groom her while he was married, sabotaged her career, threatened her, is obsessed with her and still trying to control her - May she flourish
If a person keeps bullying and bullying a person eventually they’re going to attack back . Ashanti tried the Beyoncé route for years and at some point they get tired . Ashanti not wrong for speaking out.
I know how Ashanti feels‼️ to be a person that loves privacy, personal space, and not responding to any negativity at all......folks be mad they can't control you smh
Irv is mad because he doesn't have control over Ashanti and she is doing very well, living life without him. He is infatuated with her and is mad he can't have her. A lot of men honestly feel like this. They are dangerous lunatics.
That's messed up. Had this toxicity not occurred, she would have been a lot further in music and entertainment. Irv knew this and wanted to sabotage her, just for being wanted. I hate when men cannot accept being rejected well. They sabotage you, hate you, and even murder you. I don't doubt Ashanti's claim of feeling he wishes her dead. It's the case of "if I can't have you, then no one else will."
A lot of people talk about it, but most people don't listen because it is usually the ones considered 'D class or irrelevant' and gets labeled jealous or bitter.
For her to say she believes Irv wishes her harm is alarming. The public needs to be aware of her safety and what she’s saying because as much as he talks about her is a bit obsessive.
Yea but u know I’m not sure how anyone wouldn’t agree with her when I saw the drink champs interview he did I definitely got that vibe like he wanted her unalive
Yeah he's giving the vibe if I can't have you no one else can... OR if you want to continue to be successful then do x, y and z. He's giving the vibe that I'll never let you go. He's giving the vibe as previously mentioned- obsessive and it's a scary vibe. Like he's REALLY angry and could be vengeful.
Agreed. I thought the same thing when I saw the documentary. She probably hates what happened between them and feels ashamed to have to relive it every time he opens his mouth about it.
@@rahbeeuh yeah apparently she was signed to jive before murder inc but jive let her go because they didn’t know that what to do with her! I’m glad it all worked out as far a career for her at murder inc, BUT ITS OBVIOUS HE GROOMED HER! Sadly though, this was the music industry then & now.
@@nenej12 i remember that. She was a minor over at Jive. It's unfortunate how they basically keep artist they don't know what to do with hostage until they're dropped or bought out of their initial contract. Good that things worked out for Ashanti. May she remain as safe as possible. Irv always gave off creeper vibes
We need a #survivingirvgotti movement!!! Ashanti sounds like she was abused while actually not trying to throw him under the bus, STILL!! Watching her speak it gave me chills, felt like Ike and Tina.
Ike obsessed over getting to Tina till he died. She said he was always trying to get her address from her kids. She said she couldn't rest till she heard he was dead, that was the only time she knew it was truly over. Male entitlement needs to stop. The mental illness.
He painted her as a villain, but no one believed it for a second. He’s ruined his reputation (being abusive toward his wife on TV) while Ashanti stayed silent. So, her speaking up now makes it feel like a nail in the coffin for his disgusting & arrogant a**. He looks even more insane.
This is a prime example of when a good woman gets involved with a narcissistic abuser. No matter what those sickos never let you go and if you get away they try everything in their power to ruin your life! Smh
People forget how commercially successful Ashanti was back then: - World Record for Fastest/Biggest Debut Album for a Female Artist (Billboard and Guinness World Record) - "Foolish" went #1 for 11 weeks and one of the greatest selling songs of all time - 1st solo artist in history to have 2 top spots on Billboard Hot 100 - 1st solo artist in history to have 3 top spots on the Billboard Hot 100 - The World's top selling female artist of 2002 - Billboard Woman of the Year 2002 - 4 #1 Hits on the Billboard Hot 100 (including the songs that Jennifer Lopez stole from and tried to take credit for due to Irv Gotti evil politics) - A profusion of awards including many Bilboard, American Music Awards and a Grammy Etc Ashanti could've continued to have global succes, but the music industry did her wrong plus the federal government when they had investigated Irv Gotti and Murda Inc. Ashanti should've had global stardom longevity like Beyonce, Alicia Keys, Rihanna and Britney Spears for the 2000s decade. But Ashanti's first year in the music industry was enough and many artists have not accomplished what she did in their whole career. Funfact: Ashanti was supposed to be a 90s Pop star and was supposed to rival Brandy, Britney Spears and many teenage Pop stars, but she didn't want to be a teenage Pop star and want from label to label. I think she was signed to Bad Boys with Diddy. She also had a full ride scholarship to the prestigious Ivy League Princeton University 😲😲😲 Nonetheless Ashanti is a legend.
I hope Ashanti drops some new music and blows up again bigger than ever! There are tons of ppl that will show her support after what she has been thru. She definitely should've been BIGGER
Poor Ashanti I am so glad she survived that abuse. I always felt like that was some predatory stuff and she just confirmed it. Nobody should ever have to have sex if they don’t want to or feel pressure to. It’s not right 🙅🏽♀️🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 prayers and blessings to Ashanti. ♥️ her so much.
Some do that’s why he keeps going like he do. He has supporters towards the situations and nobody in his face is on the opposing side everybody laughing and chopping it up like it’s cool
All of these males have feminine qualities and traits they’re always winning and complaining about everything but the things that need to be focused on 🤦🏾♀️
Why do we have a habit of attaching negative traits in a man feminine qualities? I must be the only one that thinks being a woman is bomb and refuses to accept the fact that when a man is petty he's acting like a woman. Real women don't act like that. He's acting like an insecure, abusive little boy
@@TheLovesnowangel being talkative and catty isn’t a negative thing for women it’s quite natural. it becomes negative or frowned upon when a man displays these traits and behaviors THEY ARE MEN OR SAY THEY ARE . I associate those characteristics with women and women are feminine so if see a man kiss and tell or gossip or want to argue about everything it is very womanly and feminine 🤷🏾♀️
It sounds like Ashanti went through her own Tommy Mottola/Mariah situation. So sad, but happy to see she came out on top. Her new single is also a jam btw.
Definitely obsessive, narcissistic behaviour, the traits are all there. Happy for Ashanti that she was able to get over all of that. A lot of women out there are still in the same situation as she was in 😢
Definitely sociopathic narcissistic behavior and I can relate too. My ex still is trying to come at me 15 years later and I moved out of state. Demon Jezebel
@@queenana9 yup I have 3 relatives who are sociopathic NPDs they enjoy spreading seeds of strife and confusion but they’re decaying from the inside out. Other two have NPD and their lives are falling apart. Don’t mess with a child of God.
Protect Ashanti at all costs!!!!! The fact that she said she feels he wants her dead is alarming!!! And it needed to be put out there! It is also alarming that after 20 years, Irv is still bitter, and butt hurt about Ashanti! What in the world would make him think she should've ever treated their dealings as anything other than what she did? He had other women and a wife. At this point, Irv need to seek help and get a counselor. How u upset she was with Nelly and u got a whole wife? The loyalty he felt Ashanti didn't have, had Nothing to do with the label, but everything to do with him. He felt that Ashanti should have felt the same way about him that she did Nelly. Ashanti deserves all her flowers cause she could've emptied the clip and buried him. Not to mention, she is an artist and writer and a beautiful woman. Keep singing Ashanti and God Bless
He has no smoke for the men who actually betrayed him and the men who indicted him tho smh. Men can be such cowards always punching down at women/children but leave the men who made them suffer alone.
💯🎯 She was still being restrained on this interview she could have called him much worse but she’s too classy for that. Much respect to her she operates like a queen and a true lady. She ain’t teased or worried about him.
He was definitely in love with her and he’s weird because his ego cant handle that she didnt want him like that and he cant control her, sex is very powerful, he seems obsessed or something, and he definitely feels some entitlement over her since he thinks he made her a well known singer Do u see why its important to never cross that line in a business relationship, he’s gross for pressuring her into that
I'm so proud of the strong and independent black woman Ashanti is she's doing it with such grace and poise even though it is sad that Irv said such inappropriate things about her to try to sabotage her booming career keep going strong Ashanti.
Irv is wrong and immature af. If you have been in a dv relationship you know when a man says, “I made you” you better be planning your 🤫 escape. Cause the next thing he most likely will say is, “If I can’t have you no one will.” So glad she was able to walk away and be the strong queen she is today. Empressive thanks for keeping us informed ❤
I really don't see it as if their relationship was anything sexual. Ashanti just isn't giving off that vibe through her body language and expression while with Irv. It looks like friendship combined with the icky feeling, and I could sense the pressure. She looks extremely uncomfortable in his arms.
Clearly there was sex. “Dealing with each other” means sex to city folks. She just really didn’t want the sex. It was sex to sing, that’s why she has no vibes about it.
Even if they did have sex, you can tell from seeing how he was hanging all over her and her just taking it that the feelings weren’t mutual. He made it in his mind that he was entitled to her. That’s really why he’s mad.
@@passionatebliss4591 there was definitely sex, because why did he feel like she specifically needed to be loyal to him?? Or come support him at every trial?? If she was only just his artist he definitely wouldnt have felt that she owed him that support, they were deff f*cking
Clearly there was sex if you read between the lines , she wouldn’t have said they “dealt with each other” had it not been you just don’t say that about platonic relationships , but on her end you can tell it was circumstantial ..she didn’t want to but she felt she had to due to the pressure from him and her wanting to record.
She was assulted and she is cleaning it up by saying they “dealt with each other.” The fact that she said he had feminine tendencies, can you imagine how that will set him off? He cusses about when she was silent. If she ever said he assaulted her, then he would truly kill her. We all can read between the lines that this was coerced sex. And that’s why she mentioned he would wish death on her, she’s trying to protect herself cause after everyone watches this, the sexual assault think pieces will follow.
I low key feel for what Ashanti went through. Going through manipulative and controlling men is scary and it makes you unclear on what to do. Im glad she’s been back in the studio. I love her song that came out two years ago with Ty Dolla Sign (Say Less) and i love her recent single she dropped (Falling for you) keep it up Queen. Hopefully I can see you at a concert performing!
🗣️🎙️Irv really needs to STOP 🛑 saying “he MADE Ashanti”. 😤Truth be told they MADE EACH OTHER’s careers. It was a MUTUALLY BENEFICIAL partnership. Ashanti’s pen game is LIT🔥 & LEGIT❕She actually penned ✍🏼 a lot of hit songs for major artists ie J-Lo and others back in the early 2000s. She was always very talented as a songwriter and had a great voice for hooks and hip hop collabs. Irv needs to be thankful because without Ashanti Murder Inc would not have went as mainstream as it did. He owes her an apology and needs to put some RESPECT on her name or STFU once for all, and stop whining and crying over spilled milk. Somebody please get SZA on the line❕ 🤳🏽🤪
He manipulated the situation and I don’t like how he tried ti play Ashanti’s hard work. He ha her cover JLO Voice overs and profited off it. Fat Joe put his foot 🦶 down and kept Ashanti on his record
In the documentary..When Irv told the story of how he and Ashanti began “dating” I instantly knew that it was a forced situation where she went along with his notions because she was in a tough spot…or a scary spot..this is called Sexual Intimidation and it happens a lot with celebrity men in general…Keke Palmer talked about it happening with Trey Songs..Irv said he and Ashanti had been in the studio all night..he was probably drinking and high off pills, as he stated he would be frequently…he said he that she would wear some SWEATPANTS that showed her booty…smh as if she was wearing SWEATPANTS to be sexy for him smh…then he said he went to take her home that night and as she was walking in her home, she turned to say bye to him and he grabbed her, kissed her and grabbed her butt…his words….he’s a pig and he forcefully began a sexual relationship with her based off intimidation and threatening to end her career…he’s evil and preyed on her
A lot of men in status feel like this….y’all remember when ludacris said “how you ain’t gone cut, girl I’m me! I’m the got dam reason you in vip” and just in general how the black woman is portrayed in their lyrics..smh ugh
A major major narc. He used all the narc tactics on her. Disgusting🤮. He thinks he will forget her if she dies whereas it will be worse. This punk is a weak demon. Im glad she is finally fighting back. He is sad that she still shines even though he wanted to dim her light. A lot of BM are like this although i know he is latin.
@@queenana9 He's not afro latino lfmao 🤣🤣🤣. I guess Fat Joe, Cardi B Evelyn Rosado and Gina Rodriguez are black too as well. These ppl are not afro latinos. You need to have black parents to black not a black ancestor down the line
I remember when Impressive made a video and said Irv was "protective" towards Ashanti and I was like Nah, this is Controlling not protective. I'm glad Ashanti came out and told the truth. It's important for women to recognize the sign of abuse and not take it as "awe he is just protective"
@@ddee8 Not only that, Irv was giving her songs away to other artists when she wanted to get put on herself. She wrote two songs for J.Lo (the "I'm Real" & "Ain't It Funny" remixes), sang backup on both and 1 of which she didn't want to give but was pushed to by Irv. Irv almost gave two more records Ashanti wrote & sung to J.Lo as well ("Rescue" & the "What's Luv?" with Fat Joe) but she & Fat Joe put their feet down & said no. Irv got in the way of A LOT of endorsement deals/artist collaborations meant for her that would've helped her career. Whether it was his overbearing ways or the FBI investigation to the label, Ashanti found out soon that Irv was bad for business.
@@KRSonbe Shanti was his side chick. He literally had no respect for her for a few reasons. She also loves predators around her and endorses them (her dad) so the maltreatment is normal to her. Shes not innocent at all, and it makes sense she was so easily manipulated. Glad it was her and not someone who actually has morals
@@KRSonbe the testimony of the abused. She ended up meeting Ashanti bc of this whole fiasco coming to light years ago, only to realize all Ashanti wanted was to silence her.
I finally watched Ashanti’s interview with Angie Martinez and everything she said just makes so much sense regarding why career took a turn after 2004 and how Irv Gotti stifled numerous opportunities. He is really is a nasty piece of work.
I’ve experienced men like Irv… It’s a scary situation to be in, especially when you’re young, naïve and helpless…. Vile…just vile. I’m glad she’s doing great and still ignoring him.
Ashanti was DEFINITELY messing with a married man 😂😂 but in Karen Steffains book she said Irv was with her and not Ashanti when his wife called accusing him of sleeping with Ashanti
I remember watching Irv’s reality show years ago. He treated his wife like trash and was very much a narcissist. I only wish Ashanti would have gotten away from him a long time ago. His ego couldn’t take her not being into him.
Same with Big Pun, he was extremely horrible. There's a docu from early2000s And they went n named a dam street after that mofo. How we tearing down statues of assholes in history but then naming streets after newer assholes!?
Irv Gotti is so bitter 😭😂 Weak men hate when women don’t let anyone manipulate them. Why would a married man get intimate with a young woman he is supposed to mentor in the first place? “That’s what men do” is not a valid argument. He just wanted to display his power over her. I lost it when he wanted her to get the same account in order to control her finances. He couldn’t get his way, because Ashanti respects herself, that’s why he got bitter and tries to destroy her reputation even after all these decades. Ashanti is doing great for herself. The number and quality of hits, hooks and songs she wrote is incredible.
I honestly think Ashanti respected Irv highly and maybe even kinda got groomed into a relationship with him...Sorry what do I know, but when you're young and naive you can make bad decisions...
Yes I agree! His approach & actions were very predatorial. She was such a sweet girl, well raised and family oriented. He is so disrespectful towards his ex-wife for bringing all this old unwanted news to the public! He's very misogynistic!
@@DeeJoyce I am so happy mentioned. This man is self-absorbed that he is not considering his kids and ex-wife when he is doing these disgusting interviews 🙄.
THIS IS WHY YOU ARE TO NEVER MESS WITH A MARRIED MAN OR WOMAN! PERIOD!!!!! SEPARATED NEVER MEANS DIVORCED!!!! SHE SHOULD HAVE WALKED AWAY IMMEDIATELY REGARDLESS, AND FIGURED OUT ANOTHER WAY TO PURSUE HER CARER AS SHE DID IN THE IN THE END ANYAWY! SHE HAD A CHOICE AND SHE CHOSE WRONG AND BECAUSE SHE DID SHE SUFFERED FOR IT! I GLAD SHE HAS LEARNED AND GROWN FROM IT. HAPPY FOR HER AND NELLY MATRIMONY AND FAMILY TO COME!!!!
What I got from this is Ashanti was forced to give it up to Irv in order to keep her job. That's why she doesn't consider the situation a 'relationship'. A whole married man using that tired 'I'm married but separated' line.
I agree with you Empressive, Irv used his position of power to coerce Ashanti! Unfortunately, this is a norm for men and women in the music and film industry!
This is sad. I’m sure she’s not the only artist who has been through this. Let’s hope this opens the floodgates for more revelations because this cycle has got to end
When I watched that Irv Gotti documentary I got the feeling that Irv took advantage of Ashanti and that's why she never claimed their "relationship" or "counted" him because she had to do it to advance her career. Irv definitely came off as a crazed maniac so I could see him threatening her life & I could see how she could have been pressured to go further than she ever wanted to.
Irv’s legal issues was a blessing in disguise for Ashanti to get away for this villain. I need him to shut the hell up and leave this lady alone. He’s a predator!
I'm glad she finally chose to speak out against this ABUSIVE MANIPULATIVE BULLYING BEHAVIOR! She was definitely young & shouldn't have had to endure so much within a record label.
I’m so happy that she spoke up! I’m sure most of us saw through Irv anyway but it was important for Ashanti to tell her side! I’m proud of her and may she continue to heal and grow and glow like she always does! ❤
Classic "Abusive/Sexual Harassment/Me Too" situation that I am so thankful that Ashanti has not only survived, but is truly thriving IN SPITE of this man's wicked heart & publicly evil efforts to harm her (personally, professionally, mentally, psychologically, etc.). She has some of the most unlikely allies speak out for her and call out this man including Fat Joe. I am TEAM ASHANTI, and I'm so happy to see that she is doing so well, that she is thriving I know there are Women all over in "different industries" who can relate to her & her story right now in this moment more than ever. ♥️🙏😇💯
Definitely praying for her and her healing🙏🏾. Ashanti has such a beautiful soul and is a legend and deserves respect. I hope he gets his karma and everything coming to him.
We need to stop painting abusive behaviour as love. Irv was never in love with Ashanti. He wanted control of her and he couldn’t have it. He was used to getting his way because of the power he had, but Ashanti didn’t need him. That’s what has turned him so crazy about her. He couldn’t have his way. And I don’t know why people are acting shocked that they were never in a relationship. That was pretty obvious to me.
I'm so glad that she was finally comfortable to speak on Irv Gotti and her time at Murder INC. It must feel good to finally tell your truth! We love you, Ashanti. ❤❤❤
I loved this interview and her new song! I respect her take on Irv and i would love to hear more about her friendship with Ja Rule. They still do shows together so I’m always wondering how does that work.
This was touching. My heart truly goes out to Ashanti, she’s the victim in this situation, on going smear campaign. From being manipulated and pressured into something she was not comfortable with did not want to deal with. She’s a brave woman who I will be supporting harder.❤
He has no smoke for the men who actually betrayed him and the men who indicted him tho smh. Men can be such cowards always punching down at women/children but leave the men who made them suffer alone.
@@YurFavDva Ashanti Should Have Kept Her Mouth Shut, Because She Left Some Things Open For Opinions. She Sound Like She's Saying She Was Bullied To Behave Like His Girlfriend.
Had the same experience with my ex boyfriend. Lord knows what other lies he told people and it took me a long time, even after we ended, to undo the manipulation. From therapy to distractions like new hobbies such as sewing. My mother had to help me comb my hair. I didn't eat, drink or moved from the same place in days, not even bathing because he told me so much that broke me down. I adore Ashanti for being as strong as she was throughout Irv's slander. I never believed him anyway
I'm so sorry that you were in a very toxic relationship I can relate as well I was in a toxic relationship for five and a half years but now I am with an amazing answer treats me like the queen that I am and that I know that I am I hope you find peace
@@melissaaltidor5147 i wasn't even able to do my exams because of the stuff he said and he still blamed me for it saying that "I was victimizing myself". It was crazy. I hope you've also healed, love is still real and alive and we both deserve better
@@pettybee3860 believe me I have healed from the initial trauma but you know they are still some things that trigger me every so often especially because he attacked my you know just my whole way of being like he kept me from my friends I got into some things with my family because I thought I was defending somebody that's supposed to love me and that wasn't the case like he cheated on me with my ex-best friend got her pregnant while dating me he thought he could have his cake and eat it too and I wasn't with that you know I try to make it work because I'm a hopeless romantic and like you said love is still real and it's still something to be had but it took a really long time I left that relationship 7 years ago and since then I've been in a very happy place like I said in my previous comment I am in a very happy relationship with an amazing guy that I am so in love with and he treats me like the queen that I am yes we have her problems like ups and downs like any you know any other couple but it's nothing in comparison to what I went through and I know exactly how you feel when I when you said I should say that you know your ex said that you were playing the victim and you know I know how that feels because he made me feel bad like I was doing something wrong as well and that showed me his true colors you know so I get it I'm so sorry but I'm hope you find peace as well like I'm I'm very happy very happy where I am right now I'm with an amazing man that has two beautiful children from another relationship that they love me as well so it was it's been great and I can't wait to marry him and have kids of her own but no I've been amazing
He put her through so much there was artists who wanted to work wot her but irv blocked it 🤦🏿♀️ but shes on top right now very smart buisness woman and her mom as her manager shes blessed 🙏🏿
I remember watching Gotti's reality show; it was torturous watching his wife feel immense sorrow. He seems like a person who knew he was in control of Ashanti's career, and if you don't do what I say.... I always thought Ashant's career should have been bigger because when she and Beyonce came out, they were neck and neck. I am happy she's in a better place.
To me, Ivy definitely has that “If I can’t have you, no one will” mentality. Men who act or think this are very dangerous and sickening individuals. I Pray that Ashanti seek healing from this and protection.
5:03 Ashanti: When someone is in PAIN they act out of character… And I see A LOT of FEMININE QUALITIES… (in Irv)” Me: Oouch, I know HE FELT that one. 🥴😩🤭
He's a cancer.... I'm a cancer. So I know he in his feelings and salty about all of ish. I mean clearly, he did several interviews ONLY talking about her. Sounds love 😷 to me. Lol P.S. even tho I'm a cancer, I don't believe in that cry baby shit. Pick up you're feelings and go 🤷🏾♀️
The most shocking thing about that interview was that she literally stopped making music because Irv blocked every avenue for her to record with anyone else and would not record with her. It shows her strength that she still broke free even knowing her career would suffer.
Yes, I respect her. I’m sure that the weight of that man’s hold over her was so much heavier than losing some of her commercial success. But it can’t have been easy to break free. Thank God she got out of that and is thriving now!
That’s what I thought. Ashanti didn’t like him but felt uncomfortable and pressured because her career was at stake if she got in his bad side. Many women struggle with this. But I’m glad she is telling her story. This will help me to establish boundaries with people… when others want to impose their will
Just a bitter man mad he never got the girl he wanted nor what he wanted out of her. Some folk are truly this sick, time doesn't mean a thing to them, they just live in this misery. Its really true, when the narcissist can no longer control you, they will do everything they can to control the narrative ABOUT you.
She was almost coerced into a relationship with that man. It’s not outright rape but it can be likened to it. I’ve been in situations like this and it’s terrible to go through that experience. So sorry Ashanti. May God help you heal ❤❤❤
That is rape, she can’t say it, but she made sure to let us know that he possibly wishes death on her. She knows we all can read between the lines, and he is really gonna pop off.
Basically Ashanti gave it up,but eventually she felt like her back was against the wall.irv felt like he was in relationship,but she felt like she was in a situation
Love how Ashanti keeps it classy. The new ladies in the business could learn a lot from her. You can answer questions without telling us ALL your business.
Never understood why Ashanti’s career just diminished like that, it’s all clear now. Just sad and it’s always the same type of men who abuse their power to get what they want. Because without the power they would never be able to access such a gem. Ladies learn to recognise the signs early and save yourselves. Love & light ❤🙏🏾
We have two words in French to describe someone like irv: pervers narcissique. And the best way to survive when you're their prey is by cutting ties entirely and never interacting with them ever again. Ashanti did a great job. Kudos.
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Watch Growing Up Hip Hop NY from almost 7 yrs ago. Irv and his ex wife said so much disrespect things about Ashanti and tried to make Ashanti look horrible when he tried to justify the relationship to his ex wife. He was trying to get back with his ex wife and said something to the extent of, “you going to let a b!+*% who was only good at sucking my 🍆 keep coming between your love for me. Let it go. She was easy.” That’s when I realized he was an entire female!
I guess for me, why hasn’t anyone come forward to vouch for Ashanti that Irv told people not to do business with her? Where are the so called staff that Ashanti is claiming were all told not to deal with her? Why hasn’t Nelly spoke up in her behalf?
He abused her and still wants to control her. Sicko. I’m proud of her.
Exactly he's a weirdo and I do believe Ashanti when she said she believes that he wishes death on her. He's one of those abusers who see it as if I cannot have you then nobody can. Then trying to threaten her and sabotage her career he is sick in his head.
Exactly
And shame on Angie for attempting to censor her.
I fucking hate women like that.
She IS HER ELDER AND KNOWS ASHANTI WAS ABUSED.
Let 👏🏽 that 👏🏽woman👏🏽SPEAK!!!
That photo slop
He was a whole married MESS
Ladies please protect yourselves. There's a lot of predators out there. This was so sick and disgusting. I hope Ashanti gets all of her flowers. Her music is apart of my childhood.
💯✅🥰💕😍
This reminds me of Eminem obsession with Mariah
That’s that music business though, those men always want the cookie
Notice NO MALE STOOD UP FOR HER.
You are your own defender ladies.
Act like it.
@@alluringbliss4165 Yeah… sad too, cause its almost always the guy who could never get a girl until he got the 💰💰.
I hate men that tries to bully women. That's one of the reasons women are so independent til this day.💯💯💯
And I absolutely LOATHE all the fake tough males that have said nothing in her defense.
Have y’all realized that not one man has stood up for Ashanti publicly?
Yet… they all wanna masturbate to her privately.
I hate this place
Girl YES me too. Men that bully women are a bunch of bitches 😂
@@missjade9943 big facts
Let the church say AMEN.
🎯 yet they're all over social media crying about "submission" and passports 🤦🏽♀️🫠
He robbed us of Ashanti’s true full potential.
All these men ; agents of destruction.
I’m happy she gets to speak her truth before it’s too late.
Facts I’m so happy people are seeing this
Now we know why female and child artists fall off, some male predator in the industry tormented them.
She's been an artist since PUN and BiG both said she write beyond her years all a hail the princess of hip hop and RNB ! Ashanti
Hose choose 🍇
@@testtest2609women predators too
He tried to groom her while he was married, sabotaged her career, threatened her, is obsessed with her and still trying to control her - May she flourish
If a person keeps bullying and bullying a person eventually they’re going to attack back . Ashanti tried the Beyoncé route for years and at some point they get tired . Ashanti not wrong for speaking out.
Oh Lord!!! 😂
I agree!
@M. Chi People always have to bring Beyonce into everything.
I know how Ashanti feels‼️ to be a person that loves privacy, personal space, and not responding to any negativity at all......folks be mad they can't control you smh
Just… don’t respond lien Beyoncé does!! I feel like when you respond you feed the bullies what they want.
Irv is mad because he doesn't have control over Ashanti and she is doing very well, living life without him. He is infatuated with her and is mad he can't have her. A lot of men honestly feel like this. They are dangerous lunatics.
Well said!
💯💯
Yep! He’s still feeling her.
Exactly he is mad she moved on to bigger and better things lol a lot of men and woman hate what they can’t have or doesn’t have any control them
BIG FAXX !!
That's messed up. Had this toxicity not occurred, she would have been a lot further in music and entertainment. Irv knew this and wanted to sabotage her, just for being wanted. I hate when men cannot accept being rejected well. They sabotage you, hate you, and even murder you. I don't doubt Ashanti's claim of feeling he wishes her dead. It's the case of "if I can't have you, then no one else will."
Which is why irv gotti was down to help Tommy Mottola Sabotage mariah Carey
He is weirdly obsessed with her 😳
Well said
Fact....you are soooooo correct. A part of him feels like he owns her. So F..king sad
Nah he’s been , he gave her carrier to jLo. Shits crazy
As a HR professional this is a clear case of Quid Pro Quo harassment. What a tough spot to be in. I'm glad she shared her story.
As a HR Director I said the same thing….
It seems like this happens a lot in the entertainment industry.
This is the secret part of the music business that no one talks about. Stay strong ashanti!!
A lot of people talk about it, but most people don't listen because it is usually the ones considered 'D class or irrelevant' and gets labeled jealous or bitter.
For her to say she believes Irv wishes her harm is alarming. The public needs to be aware of her safety and what she’s saying because as much as he talks about her is a bit obsessive.
Yes. She has to be careful with him
Yeeeeea his drink champs interview was so crazy it’s like the drunker he got the madder at her he got
Yea but u know I’m not sure how anyone wouldn’t agree with her when I saw the drink champs interview he did I definitely got that vibe like he wanted her unalive
Yeah he's giving the vibe if I can't have you no one else can... OR if you want to continue to be successful then do x, y and z. He's giving the vibe that I'll never let you go. He's giving the vibe as previously mentioned- obsessive and it's a scary vibe. Like he's REALLY angry and could be vengeful.
Fortunately Irv don't run quat !! anymore... Now he's just full of talk and hate.... And it's all about the past...
Grooming and manipulation was heavily at play. I hope Ashanti has been able to work on healing because that sounds like it was a terrible situation.
Agreed. I thought the same thing when I saw the documentary. She probably hates what happened between them and feels ashamed to have to relive it every time he opens his mouth about it.
Her momma was right there like her Siamese twin . It's baffling that she let it get that far.
@@rogers5622 what was her mom gonna do? If they didn't play the game, bye bye dreams
@@rahbeeuh yeah apparently she was signed to jive before murder inc but jive let her go because they didn’t know that what to do with her! I’m glad it all worked out as far a career for her at murder inc, BUT ITS OBVIOUS HE GROOMED HER! Sadly though, this was the music industry then & now.
@@nenej12 i remember that. She was a minor over at Jive. It's unfortunate how they basically keep artist they don't know what to do with hostage until they're dropped or bought out of their initial contract. Good that things worked out for Ashanti. May she remain as safe as possible. Irv always gave off creeper vibes
Ashanti: "When someone is hurt they kind of act out of character.."
More like, when someone is hurt their TRUE character is revealed.
Big FACTS!
We need a #survivingirvgotti movement!!! Ashanti sounds like she was abused while actually not trying to throw him under the bus, STILL!! Watching her speak it gave me chills, felt like Ike and Tina.
right!
Exactly!
Ike obsessed over getting to Tina till he died. She said he was always trying to get her address from her kids. She said she couldn't rest till she heard he was dead, that was the only time she knew it was truly over. Male entitlement needs to stop. The mental illness.
We need 50cent!!
Ashanti sister was abused but Ashanti was mentally, verbally, and emotionally abused by Irv. I’m praying that both ladies can heal and move forward.
He painted her as a villain, but no one believed it for a second. He’s ruined his reputation (being abusive toward his wife on TV) while Ashanti stayed silent. So, her speaking up now makes it feel like a nail in the coffin for his disgusting & arrogant a**. He looks even more insane.
Ashanti was really honest in this I respect her honesty.
She's lying and you know it!! Women lie like that about having sex with certain guys...and you know what I'm talking about.....
@@joedoe6251 I'ma seer. I do know. 🔮👁️
Yes , she confirmed everything I thought about their situationship
A seer?? Yeah ok....a fake seer....😂
Seers do not make it to heaven...Deut.18:10 & 11. You better get out of that abomination practices....2Cor. 6:17 & 18.✌
I love ashanti - she knows how to be classy and clap back so effortlessly 😏
Yup. I love that about Ashanti. She's very classy but knows how to stand up for herself
Very true and she also responds carefully
I love how she talks, so clam and confident
I love how she talks, so clam and confident
She is great at press.
I like how Ashanti has remained classy despite all the bs she has gone through in the industry.
This is a prime example of when a good woman gets involved with a narcissistic abuser. No matter what those sickos never let you go and if you get away they try everything in their power to ruin your life! Smh
yup
I knew it...she was dealing with Irv because she felt like she had to. He's disgusting
Imagine how many other female artist had to go through the same thing, smh these males are pathetic.
Ewww he is lol 😵💫😮💨
Tea those studio relationships are toxic as hell.. My gosh
Yet no one checks these dudes for literally abusing their power. It makes no sense
@@dinkyboss they sometimes are on payroll...
People forget how commercially successful Ashanti was back then:
- World Record for Fastest/Biggest Debut Album for a Female Artist (Billboard and Guinness World Record)
- "Foolish" went #1 for 11 weeks and one of the greatest selling songs of all time
- 1st solo artist in history to have 2 top spots on Billboard Hot 100
- 1st solo artist in history to have 3 top spots on the Billboard Hot 100
- The World's top selling female artist of 2002
- Billboard Woman of the Year 2002
- 4 #1 Hits on the Billboard Hot 100 (including the songs that Jennifer Lopez stole from and tried to take credit for due to Irv Gotti evil politics)
- A profusion of awards including many Bilboard, American Music Awards and a Grammy
Etc
Ashanti could've continued to have global succes, but the music industry did her wrong plus the federal government when they had investigated Irv Gotti and Murda Inc. Ashanti should've had global stardom longevity like Beyonce, Alicia Keys, Rihanna and Britney Spears for the 2000s decade. But Ashanti's first year in the music industry was enough and many artists have not accomplished what she did in their whole career.
Funfact: Ashanti was supposed to be a 90s Pop star and was supposed to rival Brandy, Britney Spears and many teenage Pop stars, but she didn't want to be a teenage Pop star and want from label to label. I think she was signed to Bad Boys with Diddy. She also had a full ride scholarship to the prestigious Ivy League Princeton University 😲😲😲
Nonetheless Ashanti is a legend.
You lost me at the end 😂
@@leoniejustin the legend part ?
@@Mimidabraatt The Princeton part
@@leoniejustin the go sit down and do your research part 🖱️🖱️🖥️
Ashanti has 2 number 1s on billboard hot 100 not 4
Feminine energy !😂😂😂 she hit the nail on the head!
Yep!!
I hope Ashanti drops some new music and blows up again bigger than ever! There are tons of ppl that will show her support after what she has been thru. She definitely should've been BIGGER
Poor Ashanti I am so glad she survived that abuse. I always felt like that was some predatory stuff and she just confirmed it. Nobody should ever have to have sex if they don’t want to or feel pressure to. It’s not right 🙅🏽♀️🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 prayers and blessings to Ashanti. ♥️ her so much.
You can look and tell that she was uncomfortable around him even on some of the pictures they took
Nobody gives AF about what Irv is saying. Never did, never will
Totally agree
NOBODY!!!!!!!
💯🙌
Exactly 🎉
Some do that’s why he keeps going like he do. He has supporters towards the situations and nobody in his face is on the opposing side everybody laughing and chopping it up like it’s cool
Ashanti was right. That’s why he’s BUTT HURT after two decades. He acts messy and loud for attention. Feminine qualities 🤭🤷🏽♀️ Nore too
All of these males have feminine qualities and traits they’re always winning and complaining about everything but the things that need to be focused on 🤦🏾♀️
Very feminine qualities.
Why do we have a habit of attaching negative traits in a man feminine qualities? I must be the only one that thinks being a woman is bomb and refuses to accept the fact that when a man is petty he's acting like a woman. Real women don't act like that. He's acting like an insecure, abusive little boy
He's giving small peen vibes
@@TheLovesnowangel being talkative and catty isn’t a negative thing for women it’s quite natural. it becomes negative or frowned upon when a man displays these traits and behaviors THEY ARE MEN OR SAY THEY ARE . I associate those characteristics with women and women are feminine so if see a man kiss and tell or gossip or want to argue about everything it is very womanly and feminine 🤷🏾♀️
It sounds like Ashanti went through her own Tommy Mottola/Mariah situation. So sad, but happy to see she came out on top. Her new single is also a jam btw.
Was Mariah Carey also kinda bullied by Tommy
@@nthuthukomdluli1052 Mad man controlled my girl's life most of her career even after she divorced him
@@nthuthukomdluli1052 yes and blackballed. There’s a reason why Mariah Carey only had five Grammys. He had to academy snub her so many times.
Yeah, you’re right, just watched another youtuber who did a great video on that
My thoughts exactly
I Believe Ashanti 100% smh she is so unproblematic and sweet. She didn’t deserve all that
So happy she rose from that toxic situation. I hope she stays careful too. Love her new song! "Falling for You" is a great.
Definitely obsessive, narcissistic behaviour, the traits are all there. Happy for Ashanti that she was able to get over all of that. A lot of women out there are still in the same situation as she was in 😢
Definitely sociopathic narcissistic behavior and I can relate too. My ex still is trying to come at me 15 years later and I moved out of state. Demon Jezebel
@@queenana9 yup I have 3 relatives who are sociopathic NPDs they enjoy spreading seeds of strife and confusion but they’re decaying from the inside out. Other two have NPD and their lives are falling apart. Don’t mess with a child of God.
@@n.g.l. Yes! I have know many of them that were around me and they have been getting dragged. God’s Chosen
Protect Ashanti at all costs!!!!! The fact that she said she feels he wants her dead is alarming!!! And it needed to be put out there! It is also alarming that after 20 years, Irv is still bitter, and butt hurt about Ashanti! What in the world would make him think she should've ever treated their dealings as anything other than what she did? He had other women and a wife. At this point, Irv need to seek help and get a counselor. How u upset she was with Nelly and u got a whole wife? The loyalty he felt Ashanti didn't have, had Nothing to do with the label, but everything to do with him. He felt that Ashanti should have felt the same way about him that she did Nelly. Ashanti deserves all her flowers cause she could've emptied the clip and buried him. Not to mention, she is an artist and writer and a beautiful woman. Keep singing Ashanti and God Bless
He has no smoke for the men who actually betrayed him and the men who indicted him tho smh.
Men can be such cowards always punching down at women/children but leave the men who made them suffer alone.
He did the same with singer Lloyd Irv is a dangerous cancer he has low self esteem and a narcissist
💯🎯 She was still being restrained on this interview she could have called him much worse but she’s too classy for that. Much respect to her she operates like a queen and a true lady. She ain’t teased or worried about him.
Omg what is wrong Irv, who is still this mad years and years later? His bitterness is so insane, I mean just let go and let God
The devil 👿 can’t do that.
+Ice Princess wow that’s sooo deep. And sooo true 💯
He was definitely in love with her and he’s weird because his ego cant handle that she didnt want him like that and he cant control her, sex is very powerful, he seems obsessed or something, and he definitely feels some entitlement over her since he thinks he made her a well known singer
Do u see why its important to never cross that line in a business relationship, he’s gross for pressuring her into that
No bullshit. This is lunacy.
Right
I'm so proud of the strong and independent black woman Ashanti is she's doing it with such grace and poise even though it is sad that Irv said such inappropriate things about her to try to sabotage her booming career keep going strong Ashanti.
I’m so happy she’s owning her space and her music again, we were missing her in the music game for a while. Sick that abuse was the cause of it
Irv is wrong and immature af. If you have been in a dv relationship you know when a man says, “I made you” you better be planning your 🤫 escape. Cause the next thing he most likely will say is, “If I can’t have you no one will.” So glad she was able to walk away and be the strong queen she is today. Empressive thanks for keeping us informed ❤
True. The smartest thing she did was not have a baby by him.
Red flag..
@@DeeDiamond2981 true
Yes!!! I wish she’d pin this comment because it’s facts. There’s ALWAYS red flags in an abusive relationship and this is a major one.
I really don't see it as if their relationship was anything sexual. Ashanti just isn't giving off that vibe through her body language and expression while with Irv. It looks like friendship combined with the icky feeling, and I could sense the pressure. She looks extremely uncomfortable in his arms.
Clearly there was sex. “Dealing with each other” means sex to city folks. She just really didn’t want the sex. It was sex to sing, that’s why she has no vibes about it.
Even if they did have sex, you can tell from seeing how he was hanging all over her and her just taking it that the feelings weren’t mutual. He made it in his mind that he was entitled to her. That’s really why he’s mad.
@@passionatebliss4591 there was definitely sex, because why did he feel like she specifically needed to be loyal to him?? Or come support him at every trial?? If she was only just his artist he definitely wouldnt have felt that she owed him that support, they were deff f*cking
Clearly there was sex if you read between the lines , she wouldn’t have said they “dealt with each other” had it not been you just don’t say that about platonic relationships , but on her end you can tell it was circumstantial ..she didn’t want to but she felt she had to due to the pressure from him and her wanting to record.
She was assulted and she is cleaning it up by saying they “dealt with each other.” The fact that she said he had feminine tendencies, can you imagine how that will set him off? He cusses about when she was silent. If she ever said he assaulted her, then he would truly kill her. We all can read between the lines that this was coerced sex. And that’s why she mentioned he would wish death on her, she’s trying to protect herself cause after everyone watches this, the sexual assault think pieces will follow.
He took advantage of her dreams. I hate when people do stuff like that to young women. It really puts them in a trap
Ikr? Like why mess with their heads and make them believe they have to have relations for their dreams to come true? So sick!
She suppose to redo her album,I’m definitely gonna support
There's so much more information available today to help women avoid these abusive relationships. That's why they like us young, naive, and confused.
I low key feel for what Ashanti went through. Going through manipulative and controlling men is scary and it makes you unclear on what to do. Im glad she’s been back in the studio. I love her song that came out two years ago with Ty Dolla Sign (Say Less) and i love her recent single she dropped (Falling for you) keep it up Queen. Hopefully I can see you at a concert performing!
Oh you sipping no just take your face down and stick your tongue out
She not innocent
@@camarymurray8966 she not they both had a part to play in this but Irv is definitely crazy 🤷🏾♀️
She revealed so much and still held back and held in the rage bc she is gracious and don't entertain that energy!
Lady like LIBRA ♎
🗣️🎙️Irv really needs to STOP 🛑 saying “he MADE Ashanti”. 😤Truth be told they MADE EACH OTHER’s careers. It was a MUTUALLY BENEFICIAL partnership. Ashanti’s pen game is LIT🔥 & LEGIT❕She actually penned ✍🏼 a lot of hit songs for major artists ie J-Lo and others back in the early 2000s. She was always very talented as a songwriter and had a great voice for hooks and hip hop collabs. Irv needs to be thankful because without Ashanti Murder Inc would not have went as mainstream as it did. He owes her an apology and needs to put some RESPECT on her name or STFU once for all, and stop whining and crying over spilled milk. Somebody please get SZA on the line❕
🤳🏽🤪
He manipulated the situation and I don’t like how he tried ti play Ashanti’s hard work. He ha her cover JLO Voice overs and profited off it. Fat Joe put his foot 🦶 down and kept Ashanti on his record
Plz. He held her back.
You cannot make someone talented tho.She is talented so therefore he ain’t made shit.She let him be apart of her magic if anything 💅🏾
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💯👏🏽
I believe every word! And the funny thing is, she didn't even need to say all of this. He told on himself while running his mouth so much.
Wishing Ashanti nothing but the best!!
In the documentary..When Irv told the story of how he and Ashanti began “dating” I instantly knew that it was a forced situation where she went along with his notions because she was in a tough spot…or a scary spot..this is called Sexual Intimidation and it happens a lot with celebrity men in general…Keke Palmer talked about it happening with Trey Songs..Irv said he and Ashanti had been in the studio all night..he was probably drinking and high off pills, as he stated he would be frequently…he said he that she would wear some SWEATPANTS that showed her booty…smh as if she was wearing SWEATPANTS to be sexy for him smh…then he said he went to take her home that night and as she was walking in her home, she turned to say bye to him and he grabbed her, kissed her and grabbed her butt…his words….he’s a pig and he forcefully began a sexual relationship with her based off intimidation and threatening to end her career…he’s evil and preyed on her
Well said.
Yes, ma’am.
This is why they like young girls ☝🏾 to manipulate and take advantage of them
@S Rice 💯
A lot of men in status feel like this….y’all remember when ludacris said “how you ain’t gone cut, girl I’m me! I’m the got dam reason you in vip” and just in general how the black woman is portrayed in their lyrics..smh ugh
A major major narc. He used all the narc tactics on her. Disgusting🤮. He thinks he will forget her if she dies whereas it will be worse. This punk is a weak demon. Im glad she is finally fighting back. He is sad that she still shines even though he wanted to dim her light. A lot of BM are like this although i know he is latin.
Right! And he’s a Black Latin
Black is genetics and Latin or American is where they’re from
@@queenana9 He's not afro latino lfmao 🤣🤣🤣. I guess Fat Joe, Cardi B Evelyn Rosado and Gina Rodriguez are black too as well. These ppl are not afro latinos. You need to have black parents to black not a black ancestor down the line
Yup
I like how she didn't deny anything between then she just didn't call it a "relationship" she called it what it was a "situation"
Every BM in the industry is quiet, yet their silent speak so loud. #TeamAshanti
He sounds obsessed with her?!
The fact he keeps speaking on her.
I remember when Impressive made a video and said Irv was "protective" towards Ashanti and I was like Nah, this is Controlling not protective. I'm glad Ashanti came out and told the truth. It's important for women to recognize the sign of abuse and not take it as "awe he is just protective"
@@ddee8 Not only that, Irv was giving her songs away to other artists when she wanted to get put on herself. She wrote two songs for J.Lo (the "I'm Real" & "Ain't It Funny" remixes), sang backup on both and 1 of which she didn't want to give but was pushed to by Irv. Irv almost gave two more records Ashanti wrote & sung to J.Lo as well ("Rescue" & the "What's Luv?" with Fat Joe) but she & Fat Joe put their feet down & said no. Irv got in the way of A LOT of endorsement deals/artist collaborations meant for her that would've helped her career. Whether it was his overbearing ways or the FBI investigation to the label, Ashanti found out soon that Irv was bad for business.
@@KRSonbe Shanti was his side chick. He literally had no respect for her for a few reasons. She also loves predators around her and endorses them (her dad) so the maltreatment is normal to her. Shes not innocent at all, and it makes sense she was so easily manipulated. Glad it was her and not someone who actually has morals
@@theREALESTrealistUNPOPULAR What proof do you have that her dad is a predator?
@@KRSonbe the testimony of the abused. She ended up meeting Ashanti bc of this whole fiasco coming to light years ago, only to realize all Ashanti wanted was to silence her.
@@theREALESTrealistUNPOPULAR Holy victim blaming lol. That's all you did there. And nobody buys that sh*t anymore except for predators. Byeee.
I finally watched Ashanti’s interview with Angie Martinez and everything she said just makes so much sense regarding why career took a turn after 2004 and how Irv Gotti stifled numerous opportunities. He is really is a nasty piece of work.
I’ve experienced men like Irv…
It’s a scary situation to be in, especially when you’re young, naïve and helpless….
Vile…just vile. I’m glad she’s doing great and still ignoring him.
I remember she lied and said that they never slept together, now she’s switching up.
Ashanti was DEFINITELY messing with a married man 😂😂 but in Karen Steffains book she said Irv was with her and not Ashanti when his wife called accusing him of sleeping with Ashanti
I remember watching Irv’s reality show years ago. He treated his wife like trash and was very much a narcissist. I only wish Ashanti would have gotten away from him a long time ago. His ego couldn’t take her not being into him.
His poor wife was treated like crap. I hope she moved on and found true love or is at least happy in her life.
Same with Big Pun, he was extremely horrible. There's a docu from early2000s
And they went n named a dam street after that mofo. How we tearing down statues of assholes in history but then naming streets after newer assholes!?
Irv Gotti is so bitter 😭😂 Weak men hate when women don’t let anyone manipulate them. Why would a married man get intimate with a young woman he is supposed to mentor in the first place? “That’s what men do” is not a valid argument. He just wanted to display his power over her. I lost it when he wanted her to get the same account in order to control her finances. He couldn’t get his way, because Ashanti respects herself, that’s why he got bitter and tries to destroy her reputation even after all these decades. Ashanti is doing great for herself. The number and quality of hits, hooks and songs she wrote is incredible.
I honestly think Ashanti respected Irv highly and maybe even kinda got groomed into a relationship with him...Sorry what do I know, but when you're young and naive you can make bad decisions...
Yes I agree! His approach & actions were very predatorial. She was such a sweet girl, well raised and family oriented. He is so disrespectful towards his ex-wife for bringing all this old unwanted news to the public! He's very misogynistic!
@@DeeJoyce 💯
@@DeeJoyce I am so happy mentioned. This man is self-absorbed that he is not considering his kids and ex-wife when he is doing these disgusting interviews 🙄.
She was manipulated into messing with him, and was intimidated by his punk ass. He really thought he was a Gotti family member.
@@ELamy802 this! He’s so plainly sad and pathetic. These dudes really think having bread is a substitute for having a soul
THIS IS WHY YOU ARE TO NEVER MESS WITH A MARRIED MAN OR WOMAN! PERIOD!!!!! SEPARATED NEVER MEANS DIVORCED!!!! SHE SHOULD HAVE WALKED AWAY IMMEDIATELY REGARDLESS, AND FIGURED OUT ANOTHER WAY TO PURSUE HER CARER AS SHE DID IN THE IN THE END ANYAWY! SHE HAD A CHOICE AND SHE CHOSE WRONG AND BECAUSE SHE DID SHE SUFFERED FOR IT! I GLAD SHE HAS LEARNED AND GROWN FROM IT. HAPPY FOR HER AND NELLY MATRIMONY AND FAMILY TO COME!!!!
What I got from this is Ashanti was forced to give it up to Irv in order to keep her job. That's why she doesn't consider the situation a 'relationship'. A whole married man using that tired 'I'm married but separated' line.
She should write a book. I'd buy it!
Ashanti says she is gonna do her own documentary. That is why I wanna see.
@@amiehampton7070 💯
I agree with you Empressive, Irv used his position of power to coerce Ashanti! Unfortunately, this is a norm for men and women in the music and film industry!
This is sad. I’m sure she’s not the only artist who has been through this. Let’s hope this opens the floodgates for more revelations because this cycle has got to end
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Irv has no reason to dislike Ashanti. She made him money, he should respect her for that and move around.
This lady went through a lot,babe my hug's and you are getting some flowers
When I watched that Irv Gotti documentary I got the feeling that Irv took advantage of Ashanti and that's why she never claimed their "relationship" or "counted" him because she had to do it to advance her career. Irv definitely came off as a crazed maniac so I could see him threatening her life & I could see how she could have been pressured to go further than she ever wanted to.
I like how she never admits she was with Irv but he just keeps running his mouth about how they messed around. Smdh
Irv’s legal issues was a blessing in disguise for Ashanti to get away for this villain. I need him to shut the hell up and leave this lady alone. He’s a predator!
I'm glad she finally chose to speak out against this ABUSIVE MANIPULATIVE BULLYING BEHAVIOR! She was definitely young & shouldn't have had to endure so much within a record label.
She also has an Afro beat song “Energy” and it’s a vibe. ❤ one of the few with so much good and authenticity. I’m going to support her in every way.
I’m so happy that she spoke up! I’m sure most of us saw through Irv anyway but it was important for Ashanti to tell her side! I’m proud of her and may she continue to heal and grow and glow like she always does! ❤
Ashanti was a heavy hitter in the early 2000s. Wish people still gave her her props and respect she deserves ❤
Classic "Abusive/Sexual Harassment/Me Too" situation that I am so thankful that Ashanti has not only survived, but is truly thriving IN SPITE of this man's wicked heart & publicly evil efforts to harm her (personally, professionally, mentally, psychologically, etc.). She has some of the most unlikely allies speak out for her and call out this man including Fat Joe. I am TEAM ASHANTI, and I'm so happy to see that she is doing so well, that she is thriving I know there are Women all over in "different industries" who can relate to her & her story right now in this moment more than ever. ♥️🙏😇💯
@Tamieka Augusta bc she was clearly uncomfortable with the way he was hanging all on her in old VH1 clip! Cringe 😬
Empressive, I’ve been listening to you since I was in grad school and now I’m 30. I just wanna say that I’m proud of your growth
Definitely praying for her and her healing🙏🏾. Ashanti has such a beautiful soul and is a legend and deserves respect. I hope he gets his karma and everything coming to him.
I believe every word she stated.
We need to stop painting abusive behaviour as love. Irv was never in love with Ashanti. He wanted control of her and he couldn’t have it. He was used to getting his way because of the power he had, but Ashanti didn’t need him. That’s what has turned him so crazy about her. He couldn’t have his way. And I don’t know why people are acting shocked that they were never in a relationship. That was pretty obvious to me.
Irv was getting hurt about ashanti but still legally married....clown
I'm so glad that she was finally comfortable to speak on Irv Gotti and her time at Murder INC. It must feel good to finally tell your truth! We love you, Ashanti. ❤❤❤
I loved this interview and her new song! I respect her take on Irv and i would love to hear more about her friendship with Ja Rule. They still do shows together so I’m always wondering how does that work.
This was touching. My heart truly goes out to Ashanti, she’s the victim in this situation, on going smear campaign. From being manipulated and pressured into something she was not comfortable with did not want to deal with. She’s a brave woman who I will be supporting harder.❤
She never said if they slept together or not ,
@@YurFavDva that wasn’t the point 🙄
He has no smoke for the men who actually betrayed him and the men who indicted him tho smh.
Men can be such cowards always punching down at women/children but leave the men who made them suffer alone.
@@enyonamagbemadzo8684 I don’t give a Dam that’s what I wanna know , is there a problem?
@@YurFavDva Ashanti Should Have Kept Her Mouth Shut, Because She Left Some Things Open For Opinions. She Sound Like She's Saying She Was Bullied To Behave Like His Girlfriend.
Had the same experience with my ex boyfriend. Lord knows what other lies he told people and it took me a long time, even after we ended, to undo the manipulation. From therapy to distractions like new hobbies such as sewing. My mother had to help me comb my hair. I didn't eat, drink or moved from the same place in days, not even bathing because he told me so much that broke me down. I adore Ashanti for being as strong as she was throughout Irv's slander. I never believed him anyway
I’m glad that you made it through Sis. What doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger. I had the same thing happen. ❤
I'm so sorry that you were in a very toxic relationship I can relate as well I was in a toxic relationship for five and a half years but now I am with an amazing answer treats me like the queen that I am and that I know that I am I hope you find peace
@@melissaaltidor5147 i wasn't even able to do my exams because of the stuff he said and he still blamed me for it saying that "I was victimizing myself". It was crazy. I hope you've also healed, love is still real and alive and we both deserve better
@@melissaaltidor5147 thank you so much
@@pettybee3860 believe me I have healed from the initial trauma but you know they are still some things that trigger me every so often especially because he attacked my you know just my whole way of being like he kept me from my friends I got into some things with my family because I thought I was defending somebody that's supposed to love me and that wasn't the case like he cheated on me with my ex-best friend got her pregnant while dating me he thought he could have his cake and eat it too and I wasn't with that you know I try to make it work because I'm a hopeless romantic and like you said love is still real and it's still something to be had but it took a really long time I left that relationship 7 years ago and since then I've been in a very happy place like I said in my previous comment I am in a very happy relationship with an amazing guy that I am so in love with and he treats me like the queen that I am yes we have her problems like ups and downs like any you know any other couple but it's nothing in comparison to what I went through and I know exactly how you feel when I when you said I should say that you know your ex said that you were playing the victim and you know I know how that feels because he made me feel bad like I was doing something wrong as well and that showed me his true colors you know so I get it I'm so sorry but I'm hope you find peace as well like I'm I'm very happy very happy where I am right now I'm with an amazing man that has two beautiful children from another relationship that they love me as well so it was it's been great and I can't wait to marry him and have kids of her own but no I've been amazing
He started it, whatever she says now it is what it is 😂
He put her through so much there was artists who wanted to work wot her but irv blocked it 🤦🏿♀️ but shes on top right now very smart buisness woman and her mom as her manager shes blessed 🙏🏿
I remember watching Gotti's reality show; it was torturous watching his wife feel immense sorrow. He seems like a person who knew he was in control of Ashanti's career, and if you don't do what I say.... I always thought Ashant's career should have been bigger because when she and Beyonce came out, they were neck and neck. I am happy she's in a better place.
To me, Ivy definitely has that “If I can’t have you, no one will” mentality. Men who act or think this are very dangerous and sickening individuals. I Pray that Ashanti seek healing from this and protection.
Yes. U hit the nail on the head
5:03 Ashanti: When someone is
in PAIN they act out of character… And I see A LOT of FEMININE QUALITIES… (in Irv)”
Me: Oouch, I know HE FELT that one. 🥴😩🤭
The only thing I don't agree with is Irv wasn't acting out of character. Like the saying goes "when someone shows you who they are believe them"
He's a cancer.... I'm a cancer. So I know he in his feelings and salty about all of ish. I mean clearly, he did several interviews ONLY talking about her. Sounds love 😷 to me. Lol
P.S. even tho I'm a cancer, I don't believe in that cry baby shit. Pick up you're feelings and go 🤷🏾♀️
Don't be surprised if he responds back
@@Patti326 If he does it would show how much of B he is. Wow Irv after 20years of separation you're still hurt dam! Lol!!
@@CHANGEISGOOD24 I agree
The most shocking thing about that interview was that she literally stopped making music because Irv blocked every avenue for her to record with anyone else and would not record with her. It shows her strength that she still broke free even knowing her career would suffer.
Yes, I respect her. I’m sure that the weight of that man’s hold over her was so much heavier than losing some of her commercial success. But it can’t have been easy to break free. Thank God she got out of that and is thriving now!
How awful 💔 - Praying for Ashanti’s peace and protection 🙏🏾
That’s what I thought. Ashanti didn’t like him but felt uncomfortable and pressured because her career was at stake if she got in his bad side. Many women struggle with this. But I’m glad she is telling her story. This will help me to establish boundaries with people… when others want to impose their will
Just a bitter man mad he never got the girl he wanted nor what he wanted out of her. Some folk are truly this sick, time doesn't mean a thing to them, they just live in this misery. Its really true, when the narcissist can no longer control you, they will do everything they can to control the narrative ABOUT you.
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Period
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I love Ashanti. I’ve seen her live multiple times she’s shown so much love to my city. She is so humble and I believe her 100%
She was almost coerced into a relationship with that man. It’s not outright rape but it can be likened to it. I’ve been in situations like this and it’s terrible to go through that experience.
So sorry Ashanti. May God help you heal ❤❤❤
She alluded to that in the interview. Irv better leave sis alone before she tell the full story
That is rape, she can’t say it, but she made sure to let us know that he possibly wishes death on her. She knows we all can read between the lines, and he is really gonna pop off.
Coercion is form of “r” and “sa” and the victim is has not not given consent and is under duress.
This is called “quid pro quo.”
Y’all really crazy in these comments 😂
Basically Ashanti gave it up,but eventually she felt like her back was against the wall.irv felt like he was in relationship,but she felt like she was in a situation
Love how Ashanti keeps it classy.
The new ladies in the business could learn a lot from her.
You can answer questions without telling us ALL your business.
This is so sad and it shows how men can lie when there have lost control
@Nevin Reid Don't forget about Ma$e
I LOVE ASHANTI'S CONTINUED WORK & DRIVE TOWARDS BEING AN ACTIVE AND SUCCESSFUL ARTIST 💛👑⭐️
Never understood why Ashanti’s career just diminished like that, it’s all clear now. Just sad and it’s always the same type of men who abuse their power to get what they want. Because without the power they would never be able to access such a gem. Ladies learn to recognise the signs early and save yourselves. Love & light ❤🙏🏾
We have two words in French to describe someone like irv: pervers narcissique. And the best way to survive when you're their prey is by cutting ties entirely and never interacting with them ever again. Ashanti did a great job. Kudos.