Thank you! This is exactly what I needed. I realized that this is my condition. I have been trying to deal with past issues and get healing and it's been slow. I didn't know why. I didn't realize unto now, that I turned off my heart when I was a teenager and I've just been existing ever since.
Crying is a hard thing. Especially for people put through the Prison system and have been shamed for such displays of emotion. It’s something I will have to learn how to do.
I was neglected and verbally abused as a child. I turned off the valve a long time ago. At the first sight of rejection, I disconnect. I want to have tough conversations with loved ones to get answers and I can't I pray that God heals me and helps me to grow so I can connect better with God, my husband, and children
Thanks once again mark... Facing the painful stuff and crying, sobbing wailing if u have too . When both my patents passed i ran out side my home and wailed... Glad i didnt bityle the grief up,i think id be nuts by now if i had have.. tears and grief are a way to express the painful things i our lives... ITS OK NOT TO BE OK.. The Lord is with us in it...
Thank you for sharing truth that changes hearts. Have seen little transformation in my heart during my faith walk. Get numb cz I feel like an unproductive believer.
This has been an amazingly helpful video. Thank you for sharing your experience and wisdom. You are a very thorough and able teacher. Please pray for the one that I am praying for, and reaching out to to offer help. Thank you again, Mark.
I started checking out when my Mom was dying of cancer. She died when I was 10 years old. I didn't even cry. Diagnosed with Stage IV cancer and I am REALLY numb and checked out at 58. All things are possible with God. Thank you for this video.
Thank you... I have to shut the pain off at times or it will swallow me and suck anyone around me into the vortex. This is all beyond me. I have experienced Gods constant fellowship of love and personal attention in the past when I deserved it the least. Then....... I thought it would be wise to get into a church body. It went swimmingly for a while. I thought it WISE to fully participate in every aspect. Gods voice became a distant memory. I thought that would surely change. I tried to stay confident, telling myself it's just me that needs to be humble and moldable and trade the reading list from God for their ALL consuming classes, meetings, encounters, on and on and on......plus a work load that was already maxxed out. Oh and three of my six children to do for. No husband to help in any way at all. Victim? I'm so hurt right now. I get RAGE here in my home on wheels.....at night, in private. My children tell me to go to a shelter. WHAT??? HUH??? I'm NOT a refugee. Three of them live IN THE SAME TOWN. What a royal piece of you know what I must be. O kept quiet for a while ya know being the world class sinner that they perceive me to be. I guess I thought they UNDERSTOOD me and what " I " went through yada yada as THEY were trying to grow up. I was obsessed with their father....20 years. Well enough for now. Gotta go get my cat who absconded last night. He'll be watching for the car. It's been a year and a half so far. Heat wave tonight 51. Wish I was 51. Ha ha ha ha, no I don't..... well maybe a little. Mark.... You really really really helped 😊 BLESS YOU AND YOUR LOVELY WIFE
Love this perspective on pain - second message this morning for me on our internal breaker box !! I am enjoying your self love book too - THANKYOU Mark DeJesus - a change is coming.
What is the likelihood if you took the easy way out and shut off, and instead took over addictive behaviors...etc. So you deal with various levels of depression but as one begins to realize there is grief to do...but people around us want us to move on -- enough grief move on. So you push on trying to put the grief and negativity behind....but it's the turned off part but it isn't really healed. As you say, it backfires and returns...somewhere else. So you come to learning to press in to the pain and inviting Jesus in to the pain but you feel that pain so you cry and all that pain is surfacing but others are again saying all kinds of things that adds to the pain. Anyhow... thought - provoking and good video. Ty😥💗
Father God, thank you for making me fully present in the here and now, thank you for making everything work like it should work, praise you God for deliverance and abundance of life! In accordance with this word and psalm 38:8, psalm 143:4, romans 9:2-3, hebrews 3:13, acts 28:27, luke 24:32, 2 corinthians 6:14-18 I bind to hell all numbness of heart in my life, the lives of my family, friends, colleagues, neighbours, acquitances, opponents and the body of Christ while binding one to fully sensitive and open to the truth of God his word, binding to hell being unequally yoked and having any common share with those being numb of heart and those not fully sensitive and open to the truth of God his word, in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah! ❤
Watching Finland v. Sweden ice hockey match on Father' Day evening here in Finland. Oh yes..Father's Day is in November in Finland. Just flicked through my phone and came upon this message. I have not been able to cry over 6 miscarriages I went through. I have no children. I am married at the moment to a man I met as I was turning 40. We did not even try for children as my history with pregnansies was so difficult. I can not cry for the loss. I don't know how. For years I thought God hates me. Now I know he doesn't. I don't know how to approach this. Many people tell me I will meet my babies in heaven..I don't have any answer to that.
Ive been following all your videos and though not an instant relief from my situation of mind battle i find relief that i feel you help me draw nearer and nearer to GODs grace and mercy.. i been longing to feel the joy , love and peace that GOD is offering to all HIS creatures and im askung GOD to give me wisdom and courage to align my life according to HIS Holy will.
Hi, thank you for this video. My brother cut me out of his life and the pain was immense, we are still living together and he refuses to talk to me as he drowns himself in his computer. This numbness is now taking over with me not having any emotions or care once again. But I always feel the pain and let it run its course. I hope I can recover sooner than later.
I have been to so many counsellors for so many years and a lot of money and prayed for so long i don't understand why its been so hard and im still waiting still feeling so sad every day
Do you have any videos on dissociation? I searched on your website and didn’t find anything. Thank you! 😊 This video is a great complement to the lesson in your nurture course on why we check out.
@@marktdejesus Ok. 🙂 It’s hard to keep track when there’s a lot of overlap between topics! I try not to submit any questions you’ve already covered. “Learning to Feel Safe in Your Thoughts When By Yourself” with you and Melissa is the one search result I found on your website (such a good video, by the way-it hit me completely differently than it did a couple months ago).
In our (American) , society, we all have had to "make" ourselves hard out of necessity. It's been ingrained into us since early "school days" of not showing weakness or emotions.
This is me I had too cut off my family they are narcissist toxic and spiritual abuse and religious trama and I’ve not got over my grief of my mom she pasted away last year and my family members shun me and I feel like I’m all alone
I know what you mean and feel. My family are narcissistic as well and my mother told me she didn’t love me any more, so difficult to hear that when she put me throw hell but of course she blames me for our relationship not working. I hope God will heal our hearts ♥️.
Be aware ur identity is a Beloved child of God and after following Marks advise then pray eph 3.14 to 19 turn these bible verses into a pray. Ask God to give us revelationary heart felt experiential Knowledge if his Love for U which surpasses your understanding ,and to help you understand the extraordinary power he acts in favour of us who believe.😅
Talk to your minister or any mature Christian but it must be someone you trust. God will guide you. Come before the Lord every morning and give Him each day. Sin only hurts you but let that pain bring you closer to God, don't run away in shame. Keep praying that you will hate that sin as much as God does because He loves you and that sin only destroys your spirit and your witness. I'm in the same situation and this is what I'm doing to deal with my particular problematic sins.
😔😢🥺❤️🩹🕊️🏳️🌅🌕🧠 And the other issues that go along with it makes issues and challenges even harder or what makes you don't do well or fail or issues with being tested for your good character or beliefs in what to do etc. ❤️🩹
Or when not dealing with or not to deal with... And the did say you do have a high pain tolerance in other areas... And that does make us turn like into a bad evil person or manipulated/manipltions or needed self care and love or becomes so self focused etc.
Heart Energies inbalances and also related to chakras or doing too much or not enough preform or survive/do as you are told mindset else issues if life being and the balance harmony with the love God/self/ others etcand what has overtaken and overwhelmed. And the universe or divine Orchestrated events🤔🥺❤️🩹🧠
Thank you! This is exactly what I needed. I realized that this is my condition. I have been trying to deal with past issues and get healing and it's been slow. I didn't know why. I didn't realize unto now, that I turned off my heart when I was a teenager and I've just been existing ever since.
So great to hear! Bless you!
Mee too but it started much earlier for me .. in childhood about 3 years old..
Crying is a hard thing. Especially for people put through the Prison system and have been shamed for such displays of emotion. It’s something I will have to learn how to do.
I was neglected and verbally abused as a child. I turned off the valve a long time ago. At the first sight of rejection, I disconnect. I want to have tough conversations with loved ones to get answers and I can't I pray that God heals me and helps me to grow so I can connect better with God, my husband, and children
My prayer is that the Father will bring healing and restoration to them and yr family... InYahshuas name.. BLESS you.
@@julietreagus7043 thank you. God has begun a work in me and I know things are better than at the time of my initial post 10 months ago.
Thanks once again mark... Facing the painful stuff and crying, sobbing wailing if u have too . When both my patents passed i ran out side my home and wailed... Glad i didnt bityle the grief up,i think id be nuts by now if i had have.. tears and grief are a way to express the painful things i our lives... ITS OK NOT TO BE OK.. The Lord is with us in it...
I shut down as a little girl. I’m afraid of what may come up. I’m willing to try.... such a good video. Thank you, Mark!
Thank you for sharing truth that changes hearts. Have seen little transformation in my heart during my faith walk. Get numb cz I feel like an unproductive believer.
How are you doing now?
Youre not the only one hun.
This has been an amazingly helpful video. Thank you for sharing your experience and wisdom. You are a very thorough and able teacher. Please pray for the one that I am praying for, and reaching out to to offer help. Thank you again, Mark.
So glad to know that!
I started checking out when my Mom was dying of cancer. She died when I was 10 years old. I didn't even cry. Diagnosed with Stage IV cancer and I am REALLY numb and checked out at 58. All things are possible with God. Thank you for this video.
Thank you... I have to shut the pain off at times or it will swallow me and suck anyone around me into the vortex. This is all beyond me. I have experienced Gods constant fellowship of love and personal attention in the past when I deserved it the least. Then....... I thought it would be wise to get into a church body. It went swimmingly for a while. I thought it WISE to fully participate in every aspect. Gods voice became a distant memory. I thought that would surely change. I tried to stay confident, telling myself it's just me that needs to be humble and moldable and trade the reading list from God for their ALL consuming classes, meetings, encounters, on and on and on......plus a work load that was already maxxed out. Oh and three of my six children to do for. No husband to help in any way at all. Victim? I'm so hurt right now. I get RAGE here in my home on wheels.....at night, in private. My children tell me to go to a shelter. WHAT??? HUH??? I'm NOT a refugee. Three of them live IN THE SAME TOWN. What a royal piece of you know what I must be. O kept quiet for a while ya know being the world class sinner that they perceive me to be. I guess I thought they UNDERSTOOD me and what " I " went through yada yada as THEY were trying to grow up. I was obsessed with their father....20 years. Well enough for now. Gotta go get my cat who absconded last night. He'll be watching for the car. It's been a year and a half so far. Heat wave tonight 51. Wish I was 51. Ha ha ha ha, no I don't..... well maybe a little. Mark.... You really really really helped 😊 BLESS YOU AND YOUR LOVELY WIFE
Love this perspective on pain - second message this morning for me on our internal breaker box !! I am enjoying your self love book too - THANKYOU Mark DeJesus - a change is coming.
Very insightful and helpful. thank you!
I needed this, thank you
What is the likelihood if you took the easy way out and shut off, and instead took over addictive behaviors...etc. So you deal with various levels of depression but as one begins to realize there is grief to do...but people around us want us to move on -- enough grief move on. So you push on trying to put the grief and negativity behind....but it's the turned off part but it isn't really healed. As you say, it backfires and returns...somewhere else. So you come to learning to press in to the pain and inviting Jesus in to the pain but you feel that pain so you cry and all that pain is surfacing but others are again saying all kinds of things that adds to the pain. Anyhow... thought - provoking and good video. Ty😥💗
Really good stuff . Thanks
Ty this video help me . I closed off my heart when I was child .
My emotions shutdown as a child too
Hi Mark, is there more teaching available on this? It’s sooo good.
Thank you so much for this. Definitely sharing.
This is so insightful and just what I needed
Father God, thank you for making me fully present in the here and now, thank you for making everything work like it should work, praise you God for deliverance and abundance of life! In accordance with this word and psalm 38:8, psalm 143:4, romans 9:2-3, hebrews 3:13, acts 28:27, luke 24:32, 2 corinthians 6:14-18 I bind to hell all numbness of heart in my life, the lives of my family, friends, colleagues, neighbours, acquitances, opponents and the body of Christ while binding one to fully sensitive and open to the truth of God his word, binding to hell being unequally yoked and having any common share with those being numb of heart and those not fully sensitive and open to the truth of God his word, in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah! ❤
Watching Finland v. Sweden ice hockey match on Father' Day evening here in Finland. Oh yes..Father's Day is in November in Finland. Just flicked through my phone and came upon this message. I have not been able to cry over 6 miscarriages I went through. I have no children. I am married at the moment to a man I met as I was turning 40. We did not even try for children as my history with pregnansies was so difficult. I can not cry for the loss. I don't know how. For years I thought God hates me. Now I know he doesn't. I don't know how to approach this. Many people tell me I will meet my babies in heaven..I don't have any answer to that.
Ive been following all your videos and though not an instant relief from my situation of mind battle i find relief that i feel you help me draw nearer and nearer to GODs grace and mercy.. i been longing to feel the joy , love and peace that GOD is offering to all HIS creatures and im askung GOD to give me wisdom and courage to align my life according to HIS Holy will.
Where u numb?
I Ignore or suppress my negative feelings to be strong for my son and I. I have not spent time grieving.
Hi, thank you for this video. My brother cut me out of his life and the pain was immense, we are still living together and he refuses to talk to me as he drowns himself in his computer. This numbness is now taking over with me not having any emotions or care once again. But I always feel the pain and let it run its course. I hope I can recover sooner than later.
How are u now?
@@Relifurious12-pr4lgThings haven’t been any better.
I have been to so many counsellors for so many years and a lot of money and prayed for so long i don't understand why its been so hard and im still waiting still feeling so sad every day
Ello! How are ya?
hi carol I also have been to so many counselors with no change I pray and pray and it doesn’t get better only feel empty I hope your doing better ❤
Do you have any videos on dissociation? I searched on your website and didn’t find anything. Thank you! 😊 This video is a great complement to the lesson in your nurture course on why we check out.
Somewhere. I forget where. It's incorporated into shame video teachings I think.
@@marktdejesus Ok. 🙂 It’s hard to keep track when there’s a lot of overlap between topics! I try not to submit any questions you’ve already covered. “Learning to Feel Safe in Your Thoughts When By Yourself” with you and Melissa is the one search result I found on your website (such a good video, by the way-it hit me completely differently than it did a couple months ago).
8:10... key point... (process, [it], out)... Allow ourselves to (feel)!
In our (American) , society, we all have had to "make" ourselves hard out of necessity. It's been ingrained into us since early "school days" of not showing weakness or emotions.
This is me I had too cut off my family they are narcissist toxic and spiritual abuse and religious trama and I’ve not got over my grief of my mom she pasted away last year and my family members shun me and I feel like I’m all alone
I know what you mean and feel. My family are narcissistic as well and my mother told me she didn’t love me any more, so difficult to hear that when she put me throw hell but of course she blames me for our relationship not working. I hope God will heal our hearts ♥️.
Yes it’s difficult
Made 6 yes ago and here I am finding it on the perfect terrible life days
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Be aware ur identity is a Beloved child of God and after following Marks advise then pray eph 3.14 to 19 turn these bible verses into a pray. Ask God to give us revelationary heart felt experiential Knowledge if his Love for U which surpasses your understanding ,and to help you understand the extraordinary power he acts in favour of us who believe.😅
I have this but i believe it's from repetetive sin any advice?
Look in to childhood emotional neglect. 💖
Talk to your minister or any mature Christian but it must be someone you trust. God will guide you. Come before the Lord every morning and give Him each day. Sin only hurts you but let that pain bring you closer to God, don't run away in shame. Keep praying that you will hate that sin as much as God does because He loves you and that sin only destroys your spirit and your witness. I'm in the same situation and this is what I'm doing to deal with my particular problematic sins.
Did it get any better? Your numb heart that is?
😔😢🥺❤️🩹🕊️🏳️🌅🌕🧠
And the other issues that go along with it makes issues and challenges even harder or what makes you don't do well or fail or issues with being tested for your good character or beliefs in what to do etc. ❤️🩹
Or when not dealing with or not to deal with...
And the did say you do have a high pain tolerance in other areas... And that does make us turn like into a bad evil person or manipulated/manipltions or needed self care and love or becomes so self focused etc.
Heart Energies inbalances and also related to chakras
or doing too much or not enough preform or survive/do as you are told mindset else issues if life being and the balance harmony with the love God/self/ others etcand what has overtaken and overwhelmed.
And the universe or divine Orchestrated events🤔🥺❤️🩹🧠
God always has access to us and within us we don't need to "let" God have "his" way with us 🤔❤️🩹
❤