It makes sense because when you walk outside, nobody looks like an influencer. Everybody has realistic bodies. I feel like if you lock yourself in a room scrolling for hours observing all of the perfect bodies your perception of how bodies should look like will change
Not really, while this is true that no body is perfect..i've seen some amzing bodies on the streets in London, like it made me feel like a walking rug honestly. They were too unreal but they were real at the same time so..
Exactly, and also she's pretty, and skinny. A lot of the time it's overweight and average looking people saying it, which is totally fine, but it just feels a bit better when someone who is pretty and skinny says it. I kind of automatically forget that pretty people have personalities and problems as well. I blame a lot of my problems on my insecurities, and I forget that pretty people are insecure to, so I forget they can have problems. Such an unhealthy mindset.
We're all beautiful and unique. I'm older and growing up thank god wasn't bombarded with the images of "perfection", created by advertising agencies. That's all it is. Never compare yourself to anyone else. You are perfect the way you are. (Just remember to keep hydrated!)😜Really & truly there's so much more to life than this b.s. I lost my leg in an accident & have so many scars and chronic pain. But I'm happy. I'm setting up my own business next year, I can walk & talk, something I had to relearn to do. Also as a Graphic designer there's nothing photoshop can't fix!
I think most men already know that... I would be terrified of someone if they actually looked like these instagram models. They already look creepy and scary.
That's the biggest problem, as evidenced by some of the male comments you find on unretouched photos like these. Also, the edited/filtered photos you see on swipe (dating) apps just reinforces the belief that there's that "perfect" woman out there that a guy just hasn't met irl yet.
i agree. but i've realized with experience is that those men are actually kids. they want to impress their friends and other people, and impressing others is their priority. so we should take that as a red flag and stay away from those type of men
The problem with this is a vicious cycle these days in social media society. I think it starts quite young, with pre-teen girls wanting to look or be like older women they admire and idolise, and then by the time teenage boys become interested in girls in general, they're seeing a lot of "perfect" (aka unrealistic) girls in social media, and thus expecting it in real life. This then extends into older boys and guys who expect AND want it, and THIS is the problem. Oh, and REAL men want REAL women. In my day (I'm 42), during my teens we had no internet, social media hadn't even been heard of, and no one our age had the means to alter photos, or even look at them before getting them developed! NO selfies existed. We had supermodels and I know I aspired to look like them, and sort of did as I was naturally slim and tall, but that was it. It wasn't EXPECTED that we look like them. And there was no way to pretend, apart from stuffing your bra. lol. The ratio of the visibility of natural reality vs the visibility of "mostly unrealistic idealism" was VERY much skewed in the direction of natural reality. Now, it isn't.
it's crazy how weird your real body suddenly looks when you've been staring at the edited one. which reminds me: I made my own body dysmorphia calm down by going to saunas and nude beaches. looking at real people in real bodies not being afraid to show it all and not looking at you showing it all is very 'normalising' and healing.
Another option is 1700's paintings. They were considered risqué in their day. But look at what the painter thought was drop dead gorgeous enough to paint. A body that looks exactly like mine.
@@seameology i guess being able to feed yourself properly is a form of status and signals wealth and is therefor attractive. heroine chic is the poor people look of the 17 hundreds. like omg you can't even afford a piece of stale bread for your crooked teeth.
@@camilledumeige3 Yep. They want to cry about being called out for their lies, when they created modern beauty standards particularly on social media! It's so infuriating. No, they didn't invent unrealistic body standards, but they are reinforcing them.
because we are told endlessly to fake it until we make it, so we form our idealized selves and then torture ourselves never quite reaching them. Its awfulllllllllll, you're right.
Omg, it's true! We all KNOW we're doing it! lol. What would happen if there was a Zoom Instagram influencer convention and one girl appeared in her natural state. Would there be stunned silence? Would everyone be rendered mute in faux shock!?
That body editing app is insane?! Makes you wonder what is real or fake out there. Thanks for these videos, it’s so important for everyone to know this sort of editing is possible and that our bodies are enough no matter what weight/shape we are 💞
Sometimes when i feel bad about my self image I will watch one of Stephanie's videos. I get uplifted by her positivity, and also I love to see the real photos of women, because I realize that they are beautiful without all the retouching, and that makes me feel beautiful.
I'm old and sound like a boomer, but I miss the days when we just lived our lives. We didn't focus so much on posing and "capturing the moment" because most of us didn't carry a camera around all the time. We weren't so paranoid about what we looked like because our minds had not been warped by false images ( except in the magazines). I don't even look at these images on IG; it's too disturbing. Take a break from "influencers" y'all; use your eyes and observe the real world around you.
I agree and I actually miss the old bodies of back than. They were beautiful and natural. Now it’s all botched bodies and they still auto tune the pics n videos.
I agree and I'm glad that you brought up the point of magazines. I personally think that pictures in magazines are less harmful than instagram pictures because in case of a magazine we all know that it's professional, people posing there are models/actors, they pump incredible money into perfect outfits, editing etc. Meanwhile in case of instagram, some people still think that influencers don't retouch their photos too much. We perceive people in magazines as professionals and influencers on instargram as regular people so we assume that their photos are almost natural. And then we feel bad, because if this 'regular girl' on social media looks perfect on pictures, why can't we? Are we ugly? It sometimes even happens subconsciously, even if we know that influencers retouch photos. It's ingrained deep in our minds, that's crazy.
Every summer, when I go to the beach and start to see real bikini bodies I realize my body is ok..and normal. If the only bikini bodies we see are from magazine or social media we can think that's the norm,when it's actually the other way around.
@@xx-ze2zt Exactly. As a teenager growing up, I knew the magazine photos were not real life. They did make us long to look a certain way, but it didn't last long. There were less photos being taken of us, so less worry about looking perfect. Photos were just seen as a way to commemorate the occasion and say, "I was there!"
I also remember every girl would tan topless (in the Netherlands at least), which became impossible when the internet took off :p Think last time i tanned topless in public was mid 00's.
It's so sad to see when their natural photos get such awful comments. If people showed as much loved for the natural images as for the edited ones.. you'd most likely see that more influencers would feel confident to post less edited photos. Unfortunately, though, trying to give off this unattainable image of beauty is how a lot of the brands which endorse and pay these influencers want to market themselves. As helping people reach this level of unattainable beauty, body etc.
I think the reason the influencers get such "aweful" comments on natural photos is because they try to trick the public into thinking that they do NOT look like that. I feel that if they edit so much to appear perfect when they are FAR from it puts them in a situation in which they will get "aweful" comments. If they were honest to begin with instead of trying to portray themselves as perfect or flawless, they would not get those hateful comments. If you are going to Pretend you are something you clearly are NOT then you should be prepared for the backlash!
@@hayozz1647 Understandable, but if those influencers started their social media with posting unedited pictures most of them would not have come as far as where they stand now. There's been "tests" before where people would post similar pictures, and the more the picture was edited the more attention and positive response it got. (until it was too edited, and then the picture would get negative response). I hope we are at a turning point. If so many media influencers post similar pictures, maybe someone who doesn't edit their face and body will stand out from the crowd and get more attention.
This is beyond disturbing what’s going on with social media. People need to wake up. So MUCH FAKE out there. Yet so many STILL believe it’s real. Thank you for all your fact based videos. You bring so much awareness that’s needed out there. Keep them coming. 💖😊
I think one thing that Does make me angry about the influencers that lie is that dudes I've come to know in real life have started to think they're real and put women down, as if they hand any right to judge
Wow! The guys really need to stop judging women and wanting us to be prefect. I bet those guys don’t compare themselves to Bradley Cooper or any other model or actor because some men are so full of shit even when they have no reason to be 🤣🤣
These videos really help making me realize no one looks like that, it's pointless and insane for me to hate my body just because it looks HUMAN. Being on social media is hard when you have an ED and body dysmorphia, you're surrounded by this bs :/
I find that not following people whose content is mostly about showing their body and whose pictures make you insecure about your own (and who might be using these apps) really helps self-esteem. Think about this: Instagram is like a huge shelf filled with photo albums accessible to the public... if you were in a waiting room and had access to this shelf, would you pick a photo album that has been photoshopped and that makes you feel bad? Or choose something interesting and upbuilding for you? (Beautiful landscapes for example, that have not been photoshopped)
I feel you, Im recovery for an ED and have body dysmorphia. mostly because I was in an abusive relationship but I found myself being compared to his exes, celebrities he found attractive, wrestlers, etc that I look nothing like. It destroyed me but I broke up with him last year a few days before we went into lockdown. Now I’m on my own I’m starting to be more comfortable with how my body looks, I still have off days where I think I’m fat but I know I’m actually healthy, I’d rather look a bit bigger but healthy than look like I’m dead or have rumours about me being on drugs. These videos massively help me. Some of these celebrities (Kim, kylie, etc) have actually helped me too though, I have an hourglass and constantly tried to hide how big my hips were compared to my waist since my mom pointed it out in front of everybody, then I hated it until recently. I wish people would stop using editing apps and brands touching up photos, it literally can destroy mental health, self esteem, everything and it’s not worth it for fake people, the ones who truly love you don’t care how you look, they love you for you and care about your happiness.
If anything, it's the IG models that are stressed out about keeping that consistent look and standard they set for each other. Let the lil people like us just look great as we are. Fit and healthy obv.
My daughter just turned 8 and I think I'm gonna save this for when she needs it, sooner rather than later im sure. As much as we don't focus on bodies and what we hate about ours, it's still gonna happen. I dread it.
I love how you highlight and talk about these things. Honestly, if this kind of content had been around when I was younger, it would have made a world of difference. Thank you for what you do!
Seriously just last night I was telling my boyfriend how disgusting I felt and how I didn’t want him to touch me and I just wasn’t feeling beautiful. And then watching this and seeing things that their bodies have that my body has really makes me feel OK in my own skin. Thank you so much for everything that you do, you have no idea how much this just changed my whole day.
Omg you absolutely beautiful human. I’ll bet your boyfriend absolutely loves your perfect body ❤️ curves, bellies and all that jazz are what make us beautiful! You’re amazing! Xx
good for you. there is no need for any of us to feel ugly especially when that word itself really has no real definition or meaning behind it anyway. all it is is just standards that someone created and eventually majority followed. but it willl always be subjective and will change throughout the years. Best to do is to just accept and love your body and face no matter what shape it's in whether you fall in the "right category" in that certain time or not. in the early 2000's i was mad fun of for my thicker thighs (i had guys in college saying behind my back how they "wouldnt do me"cause of my chubby thighs. then +- 15 years later and suddenly my body was deemed desirable. but it will never be enough ofcourse. it doesnt matter though cause when you love and accept yourself no critics from the outside can ever hurt you. its almost like loving yourself creates like a shield around your body and every insult or critique or insecurity or beauty standard just bounces right back off. i highly recommend it :)
Its not body shaming, its letting these young girls know that natural beauty & self confidence is way better than any filter can do. Keep your head high & embrace your natural beauty.
A lot of these "influencers" have 10's to 100's of millions of followers, yet I've never heard of them. Must be doing something right if this is what I'm missing.
I absolutely love that you put videos out about what's reality. This generation really needs a reality check. There is so much more to life than looks. I'm glad social media wasn't around like this when I was growing up because I would have felt so ugly and would have hated everything about me . Smh it's a shame.
Women's bodies fluctuate all the time it's such a normal thing we as women deal with. These influences makes it out like they never gain or lose weight there bodies always are the same shape all year round. not possible
The first time I put a filter on my face it made me feel gorgeous. You could choose the level of beauty. The higher the smoother was my skin. I felt terrible when I went back to my normal level of beauty lol. My skin was regular, it wasn't as smooth. I actually felt really ugly. Imagine doing that to your face and your whole body. And how about having thousands of people wanting to look like you and praising you for your looks? Based on something that is not even real... I am sure it makes you feel even more insecure 😔
I was thinking the same thing. I agree with Stephanie that all those women still look beautiful. However, how do you even step in public looking one way, when you've convinced every other person that you look a different way? I've never met a celebrity or even social media influencer in real life but the difference would come off as a shock.
I personally wouldn't feel right deceiving people. There's a whole lot more going 9n with them than insecurity. What kind of lack of conscience must they have to sell diet products when they really need to sell the nsme of the app.
The interesting thing, social media is full of perfect women, but when I go out I can't come across those perfect women👀 *Btw, I am not saying there aren't any beauties in real life, on Instagram wherever I look many women have same lnsta beauty, but IRL chances are very low to come across someone who completely look like on those pics.
These videos are my THERAPY, they are such a good reality check, and seeing the things that i'm insecure about on my body, on influencers bodies too is SO reassuring. please make these videos forever x
Me tooooo, it’s crazy that I never even thought about physical things being used and it not only being digitally altered. Advertisements and posts like these really should come with a specific logo or something that shows it was altered and that it’s just not real
Thank you my wife needs this so much. I showed her some of your videos and she really benefits from them. Also, I work with a lot of young people and sadly some teen boys already think that women actually are supposed to look like this and 'real life women' are just not putting in enough effort.
Wow... I've always been super self-conscious about how wide my ribcage is. Your comment about your torso being so short that you need room for your internal organs really opened my eyes, because I too have a short torso. Thank you!
I honestly think that influencers need to be held accountable more often, or at least more girls should really just try to uninstall Instagram or at least unfollow these girls. A couple of years ago I spent most of my summer working a mostly solitary job indoors, and then spent most of my free time on Instagram, and my confidence in my body became so so so low. It’s not even that I was convinced that I looked bad, it’s that I genuinely felt as though I didn’t look normal. It wasn’t until I went to the beach later that summer, and actually saw people’s bodies in bikinis that I realized how much my mind was deceived into thinking that those edited photos were the “norm”. Even then, I don’t think that even really fit people who don’t edit should also be considered “beauty goals”. I don’t think the standard should be anything that is only attainable if you put countless of hours in the gym and restrict your eating (not just calories but just eating as though you’re a heavy trainer) . Those things shouldn’t be considered the norm for an everyday person who simply does not have the time, energy or money to give themselves to that. Especially considering the fact women just do have more fat percentage naturally and we shouldn’t work so hard to try to eradicate that.
You are SOOO right. 🥲🥲🥲 why is THAT the goal?! Why are women made to feel like “if your not working THIS much your not working hard enough?! Why are we (and I’m including boys as well) encouraged to see THE STANDARD as the peak of your goals. Like as if it’s going to be the best thing you will ever achieve?! This is soo insulting I can’t even describe. 🤦♀️ this isn’t what I call “PERFECT”
Totally agree. I can't feel bad for people who create that fake reality and still lie to their audience on daily basis. What are they doing to people is so messed up...
So true, they are so toxic... I would ban them from social media... They give young or not so young but insecure woman bad feeling about themselves.... How many girls became anorexic, even they commit suicide just because of them... And after that these influencers look like a big sack of potato... It is not about that that you hide your imperfections, because you have some blemishes or something.... You give yourself a totally new, fake body and face... Clap clap 21st century....
Yeah I’m not playing nice when it comes to this. I personally think we should all shame these people and companies until they stop doing all this editing. I don’t want to see *Goals* in the comment section I want to see “This is a highly edited image and since I can’t see what this product looks like on a real human body I’m not going to buy it.” These companies might as well use manikins.
This video literally makes me feel so much better about my body! They’re just like us and normal is beautiful! Keep posting this king of videos I really enjoy enjoy them so much!
I have a 14 year old granddaughter who is 5’6” and still growing, and she has a weight issue. She is always comparing herself to her sister who is 11, an much thinner. I’ve always told her that you were the best influencer to watch on UA-cam, and I hope she will some day soon. Love ya Steph!!😘🥰💕💕
Most poignant comment from you in this video, "I've never seen a body like hers in real life." These social media posts are so damaging to young girls and women. I am so glad you're highlighting these massive problems.
I really like the idea of the “lighting/angles/posing” goals appreciation. I’m horrible at taking pictures tbh. I’ve always had to avoid Instagram because of how it’s made me feel about myself, even though I appreciate the beauty I see there. I want to learn how to confidently take photos and I feel like that’s how I can relate/connect to these Instagram women. I wish there were more photos/videos about how to better present yourself in those situations - I feel like I’d fall in love with an influencer like that - like real people with confidence enough to not worry how they look all the time, but with a mind to help others have confidence. The really problem here is that women are actively competing against each other to be most attractive. Confident people don’t feel the need to compete or be fake. Thanks so much for your perspective, hun! Lovely and kind as always.
Whenever I’m feeling bad about myself. Ate too much or if I’m lookin in the mirror not seeing results, I watch one of your videos. Remind myself that pictures in general are not real. Their just not. Even if they’re not trying to be deceptive.
Honestly this video really just opened my eyes all these years ever since I was in elementary I was always insecure and had the mindset of becoming skinnier to look prettier and look better in different styles and this video just helped me prover that I don’t need to become skinner to dress the way I want to I realized I only live once and shouldnt care about peoples opinions
Oh man, almost EVERY woman has cellulite! No matter how thin, curvy or toned and fit! I've had cellulite since I was 18 and weighed only 50kg at 5'7" in height! I was naturally very slim, but it was still there, at the sides and back of my butt. I still looked damn good! Now, I'm 42, still 5'7" (I haven't shrunk yet, lol) and weigh 62kg (and would look seriously emaciated if I weighed 50kg now as my body shape has changed in over 20 years, as it should), and still have the same cellulite in the same places but also now on the front of the thighs too in some of the more unflattering lighting. I don't love it, but I still look DAMN GOOD!
I have a workout I do and it really gets rid of the cellulite. I think the main thing is to stretch the muscle you are working out right after for a minute. Just stretch far enough to feel the tension. I think 95% of women have cellulite. It bothers me as well but sadly we dont see ourselves sometimes the way others do. I wish every women could see their beauty and be confident.
@@stephanielange I literally just screamed and scared the shit out of everyone around me when I saw you answered! I love your channel. Thank you for all the hard work you do to bring us such great content.
i need to be reminded of this all the time, instagram always makes me feel terrible about myself. Thanks Stephanie for speaking on this subject in a way that is balanced and doesn't shame the influencers who do this, because they are under an enormous amount of economic pressure to do this stuff.
in short, I just want to thank you that I learnt this at 11yrs and not any older because I feel like it could cause a mental disaster if I didn’t know earlier. thank you so much stephh 💕
Ive always hated my belly. I thought it's big. Because I'm in no way fat but my belly just bulges. So when she showed her real waist size, I was blown away. Because that's how big my belly is (maybe just a tad bit bigger) and it's actually not that bad. I was just so used to seeing flat tummies so I thought mine was big. Thank you for being so real! ❤️ I feel better about my belly now.
Im literally sobbingggggg. I just got signed as a model and my confidence has been plummetting due to me feeling like other girls online are so much better than me. Last night I was looking in the mirror at my hip dips and stomach pouch and butt and legs and boobs wondering if I was good enough or pretty enough. I think most of us realize social media is fake but it's great to have that reminder. We are all beautiful and needed and that's what I needed to hear today ❤️
You are beautiful. I have hip dips too and don't give a damn - I never even realised I should until one day I saw a post on Pinterest or something about it, and other than being a little pissed off that someone else thought they had a right to make me insecure, I love my hips. Plus, humans have guts! Humans need guts. Guts are good. If you did not have guts, you might have a very flat stomach, but you'd also be dead. That would not be good. Your body needs somewhere to put them, and in return they keep you up and able to pursue modelling. Give your guts a hug :) The other girls online are beautiful, yes, just like you are beautiful. Normal anatomy does not make you less-than. It makes you a healthy human. :)
I feel like this is similar to stuff you’ve said before. HOWEVER, I feel like we need to hear this MORE THAN ONCE! Because we are brainwashed. Thank you.
THIS. This is what I needed after a few weeks of dealing with low self esteem (which is rare for me). I really needed to see this, so thank you! Keep making these PLEASE!
@@stephanielange Dear Stephanie, I'm so happy having come across your video channel recently. I've been struggling with low self-esteem and body image issues since I hit puberty, developing an eating disorder in my pre-teens, which was a very, very long time ago when the Internet and social media did not exist yet. As glad as I am that my 11-year-old self was not exposed to the toxic beauty standards displayed by so many of today's Instagram influencers (which may have exacerbated my disorder) I must admit that I regret not having had a positive role model like you who raises people's awareness of the unattainability of these beauty standards and promotes a more realistic self-image. So on behalf of all the girls and women to whom your message may make a life-changing difference, thank you very much for your channel.
I remembered feeling insecure during vacay at the beach, I felt ashamed of my body, and I was wishing I had a body like model on instagram. Then I made myself look at every girl at the beach, looking at their features, not one of them had the “perfect” figure that the girls on instagram have, they all had regular human bodies. It just made me realize how media forces women to have a body that isn’t even achievable.
I love the fact that you point out all the positives about the influencers in real life....that really makes me feel more beautiful too! Thank you so much for not tearing them apart but just shining a light on how stunning they are as their natural selves. You're amazing! 💞
I'm so lucky I married a man that loves my curves (butt, boobs, thighs) and doesn't expect me to starve myself. I do workout and eat healthy but I don't obsess over my weight, cellulite etc. I just try to be healthy and joyful each day and be thankful to God for my health👍🏻 God bless, beautiful sister ❤️
@@jessieh9127 that's fantastic👍🏻 I try to be healthy but I'm a naturally curvy girl and torturing myself to be a size 2 doesn't sound like much fun lol
@@maryclark1049 Definitely isn't! Long story short, my parent wanted me to be a size four to show off her tall "skinny" daughter so I was anorexic for a long time. Got healthy and then met my husband. SO glad your husband loves you for you also!!!
I think you beinf happy around him and not cranky because you are hungry helps hahaha. At work I had women being obsessed with their diet, and they were so cranky and emotional...because they were starving themselves. Its so dangerous and not fun to be around those people.
This is one of the best videos you’ve done babes. I love that you showed the ig vs reality pictures and made out normal and didn’t rip these girls actual bodies to shreds like some UA-camrs do. That just propagates the desire to appear flawless even more. ❤️
Hi queen! I didn't even know you just posted this, I just thought I hadn't seen it yet. Your content is so positive, I'm so happy you exist. You're wonderful and I hope this comment brightens your day!
Stephanie I truly mean this from the bottom of my heart THANK YOU. For talking about this controversial topic and using your platform to help lift up others. You really are a beautiful human being inside and out with makeup or without. I’m almost 40 years old and hearing you talk about these very real struggles women go through on a daily bases have opened my heart to loving and accepting myself more than I ever have. Thank you and God bless....
I’m super self conscious about my body but then I also feel really sexy in certain poses in the mirror. So I really understand this. I need to love my relaxed body more because it’s the exact same body I love in certain poses.
I feel the exact same!! Thanks for commenting this ❣️ sending you lots of love, and just like you said, let's try love our bodies more when they're relaxed and comfortable and natural :)
Exactly! We have wombs and intestines!!!!! I am so thankful I grew up before the internet! It was hard enough wanting to look like Cindy Crawford who has a NORMAL fit body but at least that was attainable through healthy eating and a good exercise routine! I cry for the girls today who feel so ashamed of perfectly good bodies because of these editing programs! The fact that Khloe was embarrassed of such a gorgeous healthy picture broke my heart for her. Thanks for these videos!!!!!! You’re a sweetheart and your message is SO important!
On Stephanie's Channel I learnt: - How to apply makeup without looking like a dessert 🎂 - About cool things like the Venus trimmer or the Wild deodorant 💇♀️ - About self worth and confidence 🐱🏍 Thank you Stephanie! My life is actually better because of you 💕😍
I might be very late to find this video. But this has made my day a lot! Thank you so much! I'm 34 years old and been trying to lose a lot of weight. And i'm struggling because it seems my body cannot accept any kind of diet anymore. I really wanna live my life without thinking what other people would say about my look.
This helped boost my confidence... I see those little bods and deny myself special treats bc I want to be thinner...when in actuality, I look great for being 44.... BUT images of itty bitty leads me to believe that's what I should strive for....so sad...i feel body image expectations are being scrutinized more than previous decades...i appreciate these REAL life videos so much... I hope one day we have a breakthrough accepting the way we look and loving ourselves more 💕💕
Thank you!! Finally, a woman wanting to lift each other up instead of bringing each other down through body shaming. I wouldn't even want to look like most of those edited pictures and videos. It's like a plastic surgeon tried to turn them into Mega-Barbies. Enough ladies!!! Let's root each other on and stop tearing each other down! Love you Stephanie!!
I am so happy I came along on this channel. I have teenage granddaughter and up and coming pre teen coming of age. I always wondered how these girls all looked perfect. You have my support and I believe this is so crazy. Thank you so so much for bringing this to our girls becoming women. Enough pressures in life, they don't need to keep having the idea of a perfect body, face, complexion and hair everyday. Healthy is correct way to teach them. Keep your videos coming. Thank you, Peggy
I sincerely hope all this editing and unattainable perfection ends by the time my 9 year old daughter becomes a teen. But, if not, I’ll be sitting her down and showing her this video and many of your others, Stephanie. Your videos are so positive and real. Also, I’m so bloody glad that social media was not a thing when I was a teen in the 90s!
They were editing models since the late 90’s in every magazine, billboard, etc, prior to social media. Photo editing to make waists small was huge in the Victorian Era, and people don’t realize. All this to say that no, by the time our daughters are teens this will not have ended. Start teaching her now🤷🏻♀️ she’s already surrounded by society’s messages about bodies.
@@Hippidippimahm Yeah, but back then teens didn't have a smart phone in their pocket with which they stared at instagram circusfreaks for hours on end. Yes, we have a big task ahead as parents. Our sons and daughters are gonna be preyed upon at every corner, so limit online time + educate them about porn, about algorythms, about violence, about photoshop, about addictions, about digital footprint etc.
Gosh, Stephanie, I love you. The way you hype these girls up when you're looking at their natural, candid photos makes me so happy I could cry. You don't tear them down or body shame them or make fun of them or berate them. Ily. Thank you.
THANK YOU FOR THIS VIDEO!!! I am a mum of 2 and have been fussing over my food intake and working out to look at my "mental ideal" of a body but I am STRUGGLING. Seeing this video has helped me immensely. It's ok to have a pouch that won't go away and it's okay to have dimples. Just enjoy life. Be healthy, practice healthy habits but don't stress over achieving these "goal bodies."
I’ve been binge watching some of your videos tonight after you randomly showed up on my recommendation. You have made me feel so much better about myself. Im hitting my 30s and have 2 kids! So my body is so not what it use to be. But you have made me feel beautiful. Thank you ❤️
If they did, I can only imagine the amount of women calling the dude out for being a horrible person for exposing her etc. followed by a bunch of comments telling the gal to drop her man 💀 I sometimes hear women blaming men for standards but it’s 2021, we all know women are contributing to this heavily on social media. Heck, Kim K basically set the new trending body type.. 😪
their women will most likely castrate if they were to ever expose them lol.....well at least these men know what real womens bodies look like. theres alsoa whole generation of boys and also men that have obtained this completely unrealistic high standard of their "type" that crept into their mind through glamourous porn and instagram.
This is sooo spot on. I compete in female bodybuilding and can tell you now , obtaining abs and being ''lean'' is really HARD! Like the amount of cardio and dieting on a 'cut' or 'prep' is not something that is sustainable forever, even then its tan, lighting, posing and dehydration etc. I much prefer my body when I've put weight back on post show and feel curvy and strong. I feel social media has such power for good and positivity but its really difficult to bring yourself back to earth and realise normal bodies don't look like this! I fear for 10 years olds who are growing up with this in their face all the time.
These videos you make are so important and so needed nowadays, we all should feel beautiful being ourselves but we tend to forget and it is great to be reminded. I personally don't have instagram because it makes me feel like I am not good enough in any aspect of my life so thank you for reminding us that we are Stephanie! Your channel is great, you're beautiful and you're helping so many people, keep it up girl!
I used to watch Netflix while I eat, but now I watch you. I’ve stayed so much more consistent it taking better care of myself, because I don’t feel like I have to strive for something that doesn’t exist anymore, thank you!! Like for real thank you so much❤️🤞🏽
I'm really happy you're using your platform to discuss these things. I have an ED and had to delete instagram, it's so toxic. And dammit, people edit videos now wth. Thank you so much for doing this!
Glad I’m one of the first ones here! Influencers these days are all taking the easy way out, competing to be in the same little spot it’s hard to tell apart of their unique stance even if they do have one. They don’t have to. We don’t have too. It’s all about being beautiful inside out. Thanks for always being the voice of reason, Stephanie
Yeah, I needed this. Going to the lake tomorrow with my boyfriend and his friends and I’ve been stressing for days about how I’ll look. That I have a little lower tummy fat, my love handles are too big, I have thick thighs with cellulite, etc. and the thing is, I know I’m not large be any means yet, I’m trying everything to slim down before we go. This made me feel a little better. Thank you.
Thank you, as usual, for delivering a healthy dose of reality to our social media obsessed world. It's stunning how much these beauty standards really do influence us, even when we know most pictures on Ig are retouched. I guess we all need a reminder once in a while! Love your message. I always feel better about myself after watching your videos!
Thank you so much for speaking out on this! As a person who was always skinny, I have gained quite a bit of weight during the pandemic and seeing these ‘perfect’ bodies really got to me and made me feel less worthy. We need this and we need to normalise REAL bodies! ❤️
I am fitness enthusiast and take care of myself. I'm in good shape but when I used to look at those pictures on social media I would often wonder that there is something more going on in there, beyond right lighting & filters, may be butt or boob lifts, surgeries etc. but I never expected that there are app that completely transform bodies even in videos. And these influencers freely lie. That’s an eye opener and thank you for your amazing post. By the way you are an incredibly beautiful and gorgeous women, better than those you talk about. Impressed ❤
I’ve been struggling with body image and confidence for most of my life and at 30 am finally ready to confront a lot of these issues. This style of content makes it a bit less scary to let go of insecurities I’ve held for so long. Thank you for exposing the lies of social media in such a kindhearted way.
You are doing women and young girls a great service! Thank you for helping bring us to reality~ so many out there need to hear this. You are so positive and kind, and you're right~ these influencers don't need go be shamed and told to diet~ I agree, it takes skill to know how to work ones' angles, how to present the light, and that we should let them be able go be their natural weight and celebrate life. We don't need to starve ourselves or spend the day exercising until we drop! We need to eat healthy, take control of our lives, and if we are trying to find that special someone, let them love you for how you look in reality! You need to be comfortable as yourself! You have internal organs~ let them have space to do their job well and have the space to do it so you remain healthy! Well done, Stephanie! You are awesome!
I feel like we all need to put our phones down, and go out into the world and our perception of reality will be much healthier.
Perfectly said.
That's true!
Just you. 😑 You need to put your phone down.
@Mu Mi you sound delusional. 😐
@Mu Mi 🙄
It makes sense because when you walk outside, nobody looks like an influencer. Everybody has realistic bodies. I feel like if you lock yourself in a room scrolling for hours observing all of the perfect bodies your perception of how bodies should look like will change
100%
My gosh, you're right ✌🏼
100%!!!!
Nooo actually I have seen some amazing women at the beach
Not really, while this is true that no body is perfect..i've seen some amzing bodies on the streets in London, like it made me feel like a walking rug honestly. They were too unreal but they were real at the same time so..
This woman is changing lives and everything she says is so dang valuable. This is the kind of ‘influencer culture’ I wish to see in the future
These are the videos I’d show my daughter if she was old enough
Exactly, and also she's pretty, and skinny. A lot of the time it's overweight and average looking people saying it, which is totally fine, but it just feels a bit better when someone who is pretty and skinny says it. I kind of automatically forget that pretty people have personalities and problems as well. I blame a lot of my problems on my insecurities, and I forget that pretty people are insecure to, so I forget they can have problems. Such an unhealthy mindset.
This makes me feel so much confident about myself.
this is making me to appreciate my body
SAME!!
Sameeeee!
I love these videos
We're all beautiful and unique. I'm older and growing up thank god wasn't bombarded with the images of "perfection", created by advertising agencies. That's all it is. Never compare yourself to anyone else. You are perfect the way you are. (Just remember to keep hydrated!)😜Really & truly there's so much more to life than this b.s. I lost my leg in an accident & have so many scars and chronic pain. But I'm happy. I'm setting up my own business next year, I can walk & talk, something I had to relearn to do. Also as a Graphic designer there's nothing photoshop can't fix!
The real problem is convincing the men who want women like this that perfect women don't exist..
For 💯
I think most men already know that... I would be terrified of someone if they actually looked like these instagram models.
They already look creepy and scary.
That's the biggest problem, as evidenced by some of the male comments you find on unretouched photos like these. Also, the edited/filtered photos you see on swipe (dating) apps just reinforces the belief that there's that "perfect" woman out there that a guy just hasn't met irl yet.
i agree. but i've realized with experience is that those men are actually kids. they want to impress their friends and other people, and impressing others is their priority. so we should take that as a red flag and stay away from those type of men
The problem with this is a vicious cycle these days in social media society. I think it starts quite young, with pre-teen girls wanting to look or be like older women they admire and idolise, and then by the time teenage boys become interested in girls in general, they're seeing a lot of "perfect" (aka unrealistic) girls in social media, and thus expecting it in real life.
This then extends into older boys and guys who expect AND want it, and THIS is the problem.
Oh, and REAL men want REAL women.
In my day (I'm 42), during my teens we had no internet, social media hadn't even been heard of, and no one our age had the means to alter photos, or even look at them before getting them developed! NO selfies existed.
We had supermodels and I know I aspired to look like them, and sort of did as I was naturally slim and tall, but that was it. It wasn't EXPECTED that we look like them. And there was no way to pretend, apart from stuffing your bra. lol.
The ratio of the visibility of natural reality vs the visibility of "mostly unrealistic idealism" was VERY much skewed in the direction of natural reality. Now, it isn't.
it's crazy how weird your real body suddenly looks when you've been staring at the edited one. which reminds me: I made my own body dysmorphia calm down by going to saunas and nude beaches. looking at real people in real bodies not being afraid to show it all and not looking at you showing it all is very 'normalising' and healing.
Wow. That is genius.
@@bs-gi3gs I highly recommend it. give yourself some peace of mind.
Another option is 1700's paintings. They were considered risqué in their day. But look at what the painter thought was drop dead gorgeous enough to paint. A body that looks exactly like mine.
@@seameology i guess being able to feed yourself properly is a form of status and signals wealth and is therefor attractive. heroine chic is the poor people look of the 17 hundreds. like omg you can't even afford a piece of stale bread for your crooked teeth.
Everyone looks exactly the same, that in itself is unrealistic.
This! Bodies, hair, makeup, all looks the same.
It's the Kardashian curse.
@@camilledumeige3 Yep. They want to cry about being called out for their lies, when they created modern beauty standards particularly on social media! It's so infuriating. No, they didn't invent unrealistic body standards, but they are reinforcing them.
@@camilledumeige3 And they all sound like Kardashians too!
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why are we all knowingly lying to each other lmao 💀💀
It’s disturbing at this point.🤦🏾♀️😒
because we are told endlessly to fake it until we make it, so we form our idealized selves and then torture ourselves never quite reaching them. Its awfulllllllllll, you're right.
Omg, it's true! We all KNOW we're doing it! lol. What would happen if there was a Zoom Instagram influencer convention and one girl appeared in her natural state. Would there be stunned silence? Would everyone be rendered mute in faux shock!?
RIGHT LMAOO
fr it’s kinda embarrassing 😭💀
That body editing app is insane?! Makes you wonder what is real or fake out there. Thanks for these videos, it’s so important for everyone to know this sort of editing is possible and that our bodies are enough no matter what weight/shape we are 💞
Sometimes when i feel bad about my self image I will watch one of Stephanie's videos. I get uplifted by her positivity, and also I love to see the real photos of women, because I realize that they are beautiful without all the retouching, and that makes me feel beautiful.
Your beautiful
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I'm old and sound like a boomer, but I miss the days when we just lived our lives. We didn't focus so much on posing and "capturing the moment" because most of us didn't carry a camera around all the time. We weren't so paranoid about what we looked like because our minds had not been warped by false images ( except in the magazines). I don't even look at these images on IG; it's too disturbing. Take a break from "influencers" y'all; use your eyes and observe the real world around you.
I agree and I actually miss the old bodies of back than. They were beautiful and natural. Now it’s all botched bodies and they still auto tune the pics n videos.
I agree and I'm glad that you brought up the point of magazines. I personally think that pictures in magazines are less harmful than instagram pictures because in case of a magazine we all know that it's professional, people posing there are models/actors, they pump incredible money into perfect outfits, editing etc.
Meanwhile in case of instagram, some people still think that influencers don't retouch their photos too much. We perceive people in magazines as professionals and influencers on instargram as regular people so we assume that their photos are almost natural.
And then we feel bad, because if this 'regular girl' on social media looks perfect on pictures, why can't we? Are we ugly?
It sometimes even happens subconsciously, even if we know that influencers retouch photos. It's ingrained deep in our minds, that's crazy.
Every summer, when I go to the beach and start to see real bikini bodies I realize my body is ok..and normal. If the only bikini bodies we see are from magazine or social media we can think that's the norm,when it's actually the other way around.
@@xx-ze2zt Exactly. As a teenager growing up, I knew the magazine photos were not real life. They did make us long to look a certain way, but it didn't last long. There were less photos being taken of us, so less worry about looking perfect. Photos were just seen as a way to commemorate the occasion and say, "I was there!"
I also remember every girl would tan topless (in the Netherlands at least), which became impossible when the internet took off :p Think last time i tanned topless in public was mid 00's.
I am one of those young girls whom Stephanie was taking about. This is what we all need to hear so thanks you Stephanie. You are an angel. 🙂
It's so sad to see when their natural photos get such awful comments. If people showed as much loved for the natural images as for the edited ones.. you'd most likely see that more influencers would feel confident to post less edited photos. Unfortunately, though, trying to give off this unattainable image of beauty is how a lot of the brands which endorse and pay these influencers want to market themselves. As helping people reach this level of unattainable beauty, body etc.
So very true x
I think they get awful comments because they’re being deceitful and people don’t like that. It comes off as if they are lying about themselves.
I think the reason the influencers get such "aweful" comments on natural photos is because they try to trick the public into thinking that they do NOT look like that. I feel that if they edit so much to appear perfect when they are FAR from it puts them in a situation in which they will get "aweful" comments. If they were honest to begin with instead of trying to portray themselves as perfect or flawless, they would not get those hateful comments. If you are going to Pretend you are something you clearly are NOT then you should be prepared for the backlash!
@@hayozz1647 Understandable, but if those influencers started their social media with posting unedited pictures most of them would not have come as far as where they stand now. There's been "tests" before where people would post similar pictures, and the more the picture was edited the more attention and positive response it got. (until it was too edited, and then the picture would get negative response).
I hope we are at a turning point. If so many media influencers post similar pictures, maybe someone who doesn't edit their face and body will stand out from the crowd and get more attention.
Absolutely! It's so sad.
"Waists no bigger than their necks" well that for sure made me look at things differently.
Comic books.
This is beyond disturbing what’s going on with social media. People need to wake up. So MUCH FAKE out there. Yet so many STILL believe it’s real. Thank you for all your fact based videos. You bring so much awareness that’s needed out there. Keep them coming. 💖😊
I think one thing that Does make me angry about the influencers that lie is that dudes I've come to know in real life have started to think they're real and put women down, as if they hand any right to judge
I was literally just saying this to my husband because I've heard real men say things like this and it makes me want to shake them
Wow! The guys really need to stop judging women and wanting us to be prefect. I bet those guys don’t compare themselves to Bradley Cooper or any other model or actor because some men are so full of shit even when they have no reason to be 🤣🤣
well men don't need much help to be assholes, so what about not blaming women for misoginists? 😕
@@valquiriavalio8680 the women did not create misogonists, but lying about the fake imagery does help them
@@valquiriavalio8680 true
These videos really help making me realize no one looks like that, it's pointless and insane for me to hate my body just because it looks HUMAN. Being on social media is hard when you have an ED and body dysmorphia, you're surrounded by this bs :/
Exactly that ❤️ the bodies you see on social media portray an unrealistic way for humans to look. None of us look like this! X
I find that not following people whose content is mostly about showing their body and whose pictures make you insecure about your own (and who might be using these apps) really helps self-esteem. Think about this: Instagram is like a huge shelf filled with photo albums accessible to the public... if you were in a waiting room and had access to this shelf, would you pick a photo album that has been photoshopped and that makes you feel bad? Or choose something interesting and upbuilding for you? (Beautiful landscapes for example, that have not been photoshopped)
I feel you, Im recovery for an ED and have body dysmorphia. mostly because I was in an abusive relationship but I found myself being compared to his exes, celebrities he found attractive, wrestlers, etc that I look nothing like. It destroyed me but I broke up with him last year a few days before we went into lockdown. Now I’m on my own I’m starting to be more comfortable with how my body looks, I still have off days where I think I’m fat but I know I’m actually healthy, I’d rather look a bit bigger but healthy than look like I’m dead or have rumours about me being on drugs. These videos massively help me. Some of these celebrities (Kim, kylie, etc) have actually helped me too though, I have an hourglass and constantly tried to hide how big my hips were compared to my waist since my mom pointed it out in front of everybody, then I hated it until recently. I wish people would stop using editing apps and brands touching up photos, it literally can destroy mental health, self esteem, everything and it’s not worth it for fake people, the ones who truly love you don’t care how you look, they love you for you and care about your happiness.
people who gym and eat healthy look like that not these lazy influencers who depend on apps to look this.
If anything, it's the IG models that are stressed out about keeping that consistent look and standard they set for each other. Let the lil people like us just look great as we are. Fit and healthy obv.
Thanks for this one Steph - my daughters are 8&9, turning 9&10 - I’ve saved this video to watch as a family sometime soon 💗
You sound like such a good momma ❤️😊 A very important lesson for youngsters esp females .
My daughter just turned 8 and I think I'm gonna save this for when she needs it, sooner rather than later im sure. As much as we don't focus on bodies and what we hate about ours, it's still gonna happen. I dread it.
These themes should be showed in schools to be honest
I love how you highlight and talk about these things. Honestly, if this kind of content had been around when I was younger, it would have made a world of difference. Thank you for what you do!
I agree.
....you can still do with hitting the gym and not overeating. when your face is getting fat....it means you're gorging on snacks. 😐
I so agree!!!
Seriously just last night I was telling my boyfriend how disgusting I felt and how I didn’t want him to touch me and I just wasn’t feeling beautiful. And then watching this and seeing things that their bodies have that my body has really makes me feel OK in my own skin. Thank you so much for everything that you do, you have no idea how much this just changed my whole day.
Omg you absolutely beautiful human. I’ll bet your boyfriend absolutely loves your perfect body ❤️ curves, bellies and all that jazz are what make us beautiful! You’re amazing! Xx
good for you. there is no need for any of us to feel ugly especially when that word itself really has no real definition or meaning behind it anyway. all it is is just standards that someone created and eventually majority followed. but it willl always be subjective and will change throughout the years. Best to do is to just accept and love your body and face no matter what shape it's in whether you fall in the "right category" in that certain time or not. in the early 2000's i was mad fun of for my thicker thighs (i had guys in college saying behind my back how they "wouldnt do me"cause of my chubby thighs. then +- 15 years later and suddenly my body was deemed desirable. but it will never be enough ofcourse. it doesnt matter though cause when you love and accept yourself no critics from the outside can ever hurt you. its almost like loving yourself creates like a shield around your body and every insult or critique or insecurity or beauty standard just bounces right back off. i highly recommend it :)
But you look beautiful.
@@KrisD007 thank you so much!! You are too!!
@@stephanielange I am just seeing this 🤍🤍🤍 🥺🥺 thank you so much 😊 for everything!!!
As a teenage girl i can't tell you in how many ways you changed my unhealthy mind . Truly from the bottom of my heart , THANK YOU!😊
Its not body shaming, its letting these young girls know that natural beauty & self confidence is way better than any filter can do. Keep your head high & embrace your natural beauty.
What natural weight can change
A lot of these "influencers" have 10's to 100's of millions of followers, yet I've never heard of them. Must be doing something right if this is what I'm missing.
I would probably follow them if they modeled their real bodies. They are gorgeous without all the editing.
Same lol
Yep same
Same lmao
I’m sure most of their following comes from preteens around the world
I absolutely love that you put videos out about what's reality. This generation really needs a reality check. There is so much more to life than looks. I'm glad social media wasn't around like this when I was growing up because I would have felt so ugly and would have hated everything about me . Smh it's a shame.
Women's bodies fluctuate all the time it's such a normal thing we as women deal with. These influences makes it out like they never gain or lose weight there bodies always are the same shape all year round. not possible
I feel like a different size every morning lol
I’m a 40 year old dude and hell my body fluctuates I woke up with 2 abs and by 5 I had a dad bod.
“If the universe wanted you to look like this it would have created you as a Bratz doll in a toy shop not a human woman” 👏 THIS
I felt that so much. Like I also have a short torso so obviously my tummy will spill over a bit. I am learning to love myself now
The first time I put a filter on my face it made me feel gorgeous. You could choose the level of beauty. The higher the smoother was my skin. I felt terrible when I went back to my normal level of beauty lol. My skin was regular, it wasn't as smooth. I actually felt really ugly. Imagine doing that to your face and your whole body.
And how about having thousands of people wanting to look like you and praising you for your looks? Based on something that is not even real... I am sure it makes you feel even more insecure 😔
I was thinking the same thing. I agree with Stephanie that all those women still look beautiful. However, how do you even step in public looking one way, when you've convinced every other person that you look a different way? I've never met a celebrity or even social media influencer in real life but the difference would come off as a shock.
That app was really scary!!!
I personally wouldn't feel right deceiving people. There's a whole lot more going 9n with them than insecurity. What kind of lack of conscience must they have to sell diet products when they really need to sell the nsme of the app.
The sad part is no one is honest now a days and people are dying for an unreal standard because of it.
this omfg. i feel like guys play a huge role in fixing this issue, Insta models have contorted what they see as “natural”
The interesting thing, social media is full of perfect women, but when I go out I can't come across those perfect women👀
*Btw, I am not saying there aren't any beauties in real life, on Instagram wherever I look many women have same lnsta beauty, but IRL chances are very low to come across someone who completely look like on those pics.
because "perfections" are an illusion and don't exist. We are all perfectly imperfect.
Working in the clubbing industry for a few years there is only 2 people ive met who look the same as their social media. Its incredibly rare.
I used to just assume it was because all these beautiful people must live in places like Los Angeles or something lol
We have perfectly filtered women. 🤣😂
Tbh, I work in a makeup store and I feel like a lot of girls who come by look like this 😅
These videos are my THERAPY, they are such a good reality check, and seeing the things that i'm insecure about on my body, on influencers bodies too is SO reassuring. please make these videos forever x
The butt pads blew my mind and I'm pretty pissed about it lol.
"it's just squats! Buy my workout course!" 🙄
I saw a video once of someone who looked very similar and I thought...must be butt pads. I was right!!
Me tooooo, it’s crazy that I never even thought about physical things being used and it not only being digitally altered. Advertisements and posts like these really should come with a specific logo or something that shows it was altered and that it’s just not real
That one definitely upset me the most too!
You should have seen my face when I found out women use push up bras
Thank you my wife needs this so much. I showed her some of your videos and she really benefits from them. Also, I work with a lot of young people and sadly some teen boys already think that women actually are supposed to look like this and 'real life women' are just not putting in enough effort.
Tragic culture of deceit
It's very unfair to everyone.
Wow... I've always been super self-conscious about how wide my ribcage is. Your comment about your torso being so short that you need room for your internal organs really opened my eyes, because I too have a short torso. Thank you!
I honestly think that influencers need to be held accountable more often, or at least more girls should really just try to uninstall Instagram or at least unfollow these girls.
A couple of years ago I spent most of my summer working a mostly solitary job indoors, and then spent most of my free time on Instagram, and my confidence in my body became so so so low. It’s not even that I was convinced that I looked bad, it’s that I genuinely felt as though I didn’t look normal.
It wasn’t until I went to the beach later that summer, and actually saw people’s bodies in bikinis that I realized how much my mind was deceived into thinking that those edited photos were the “norm”.
Even then, I don’t think that even really fit people who don’t edit should also be considered “beauty goals”. I don’t think the standard should be anything that is only attainable if you put countless of hours in the gym and restrict your eating (not just calories but just eating as though you’re a heavy trainer) .
Those things shouldn’t be considered the norm for an everyday person who simply does not have the time, energy or money to give themselves to that. Especially considering the fact women just do have more fat percentage naturally and we shouldn’t work so hard to try to eradicate that.
There is no such thing as beauty goals😁
You are SOOO right. 🥲🥲🥲 why is THAT the goal?! Why are women made to feel like “if your not working THIS much your not working hard enough?! Why are we (and I’m including boys as well) encouraged to see THE STANDARD as the peak of your goals. Like as if it’s going to be the best thing you will ever achieve?! This is soo insulting I can’t even describe. 🤦♀️ this isn’t what I call “PERFECT”
I agree. i decided to delete my instagram account because my selfsteem was beeing seriously damaged
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I’m sorry, I ain‘t feeling sympathy with these influencers. People who contribute and capitalize off of these toxic standards are the problem.
Totally agree. I can't feel bad for people who create that fake reality and still lie to their audience on daily basis. What are they doing to people is so messed up...
Yes
So true, they are so toxic... I would ban them from social media... They give young or not so young but insecure woman bad feeling about themselves.... How many girls became anorexic, even they commit suicide just because of them... And after that these influencers look like a big sack of potato... It is not about that that you hide your imperfections, because you have some blemishes or something.... You give yourself a totally new, fake body and face... Clap clap 21st century....
Especially khloe
Yeah I’m not playing nice when it comes to this. I personally think we should all shame these people and companies until they stop doing all this editing. I don’t want to see *Goals* in the comment section I want to see “This is a highly edited image and since I can’t see what this product looks like on a real human body I’m not going to buy it.” These companies might as well use manikins.
This video literally makes me feel so much better about my body! They’re just like us and normal is beautiful! Keep posting this king of videos I really enjoy enjoy them so much!
I have a 14 year old granddaughter who is 5’6” and still growing, and she has a weight issue. She is always comparing herself to her sister who is 11, an much thinner. I’ve always told her that you were the best influencer to watch on UA-cam, and I hope she will some day soon. Love ya Steph!!😘🥰💕💕
I hope so too.
Awesome
Most poignant comment from you in this video, "I've never seen a body like hers in real life." These social media posts are so damaging to young girls and women. I am so glad you're highlighting these massive problems.
I really like the idea of the “lighting/angles/posing” goals appreciation. I’m horrible at taking pictures tbh. I’ve always had to avoid Instagram because of how it’s made me feel about myself, even though I appreciate the beauty I see there. I want to learn how to confidently take photos and I feel like that’s how I can relate/connect to these Instagram women. I wish there were more photos/videos about how to better present yourself in those situations - I feel like I’d fall in love with an influencer like that - like real people with confidence enough to not worry how they look all the time, but with a mind to help others have confidence. The really problem here is that women are actively competing against each other to be most attractive. Confident people don’t feel the need to compete or be fake.
Thanks so much for your perspective, hun! Lovely and kind as always.
Whenever I’m feeling bad about myself. Ate too much or if I’m lookin in the mirror not seeing results, I watch one of your videos. Remind myself that pictures in general are not real. Their just not. Even if they’re not trying to be deceptive.
Honestly this video really just opened my eyes all these years ever since I was in elementary I was always insecure and had the mindset of becoming skinnier to look prettier and look better in different styles and this video just helped me prover that I don’t need to become skinner to dress the way I want to I realized I only live once and shouldnt care about peoples opinions
i'm just glad to see the real photos, a lot more women have cellulite than i realized.. one of my biggest insecurities ugh
Oh man, almost EVERY woman has cellulite! No matter how thin, curvy or toned and fit! I've had cellulite since I was 18 and weighed only 50kg at 5'7" in height! I was naturally very slim, but it was still there, at the sides and back of my butt. I still looked damn good!
Now, I'm 42, still 5'7" (I haven't shrunk yet, lol) and weigh 62kg (and would look seriously emaciated if I weighed 50kg now as my body shape has changed in over 20 years, as it should), and still have the same cellulite in the same places but also now on the front of the thighs too in some of the more unflattering lighting. I don't love it, but I still look DAMN GOOD!
80-90% of women have cellulite. It's normal!
No matter how lean I get, cellulite is always there. We basically all have it. It’s completely normal
@@ANME1rocker we may all have it & it's normal but i still hate it! lol
I have a workout I do and it really gets rid of the cellulite. I think the main thing is to stretch the muscle you are working out right after for a minute. Just stretch far enough to feel the tension. I think 95% of women have cellulite. It bothers me as well but sadly we dont see ourselves sometimes the way others do. I wish every women could see their beauty and be confident.
Is it just me, or do their bodies just look so much HOTTER without the filters?! Like damn girl you look amazing
We did the same comment💕
Right these filtered photos just look way too unrealistic its a little bizarre and uncanny even
Right! The girl around 7:08 looks like Marilyn Monroe she is so pretty and I hope she realises it too
I can’t put into words how much better I feel about myself when you make these videos Stephanie. Thank you so much 🥰
That makes me so happy! ❤️
@@stephanielange I literally just screamed and scared the shit out of everyone around me when I saw you answered! I love your channel. Thank you for all the hard work you do to bring us such great content.
Me too
i need to be reminded of this all the time, instagram always makes me feel terrible about myself. Thanks Stephanie for speaking on this subject in a way that is balanced and doesn't shame the influencers who do this, because they are under an enormous amount of economic pressure to do this stuff.
You’re amazing Amber! ❤️❤️❤️
Hi hi! Best thing that I’ve done for my mental health and self esteem was deleting instagram. 🌸
Hi Amber. If these people make you feel bad about yourself, then why not stop following them?
in short, I just want to thank you that I learnt this at 11yrs and not any older because I feel like it could cause a mental disaster if I didn’t know earlier. thank you so much stephh 💕
Ive always hated my belly. I thought it's big. Because I'm in no way fat but my belly just bulges. So when she showed her real waist size, I was blown away. Because that's how big my belly is (maybe just a tad bit bigger) and it's actually not that bad. I was just so used to seeing flat tummies so I thought mine was big. Thank you for being so real! ❤️
I feel better about my belly now.
The amount of confidence this girl provides me is insane!!!
Im literally sobbingggggg. I just got signed as a model and my confidence has been plummetting due to me feeling like other girls online are so much better than me. Last night I was looking in the mirror at my hip dips and stomach pouch and butt and legs and boobs wondering if I was good enough or pretty enough. I think most of us realize social media is fake but it's great to have that reminder. We are all beautiful and needed and that's what I needed to hear today ❤️
You are beautiful.
I have hip dips too and don't give a damn - I never even realised I should until one day I saw a post on Pinterest or something about it, and other than being a little pissed off that someone else thought they had a right to make me insecure, I love my hips. Plus, humans have guts! Humans need guts. Guts are good. If you did not have guts, you might have a very flat stomach, but you'd also be dead. That would not be good. Your body needs somewhere to put them, and in return they keep you up and able to pursue modelling. Give your guts a hug :) The other girls online are beautiful, yes, just like you are beautiful. Normal anatomy does not make you less-than. It makes you a healthy human. :)
You are beautiful ❤ Please don't let the pressure of that industry wear down your confidence.
Something that makes me sick to my stomach is the fact that womens BODIES have TRENDS! That’s so dehumanizing.
I feel like this is similar to stuff you’ve said before. HOWEVER, I feel like we need to hear this MORE THAN ONCE! Because we are brainwashed. Thank you.
THIS. This is what I needed after a few weeks of dealing with low self esteem (which is rare for me). I really needed to see this, so thank you! Keep making these PLEASE!
I hope you never doubt yourself again! You’re so amazing and one of a kind and you deserve to adore yourself! X
@@stephanielange Dear Stephanie, I'm so happy having come across your video channel recently. I've been struggling with low self-esteem and body image issues since I hit puberty, developing an eating disorder in my pre-teens, which was a very, very long time ago when the Internet and social media did not exist yet. As glad as I am that my 11-year-old self was not exposed to the toxic beauty standards displayed by so many of today's Instagram influencers (which may have exacerbated my disorder) I must admit that I regret not having had a positive role model like you who raises people's awareness of the unattainability of these beauty standards and promotes a more realistic self-image. So on behalf of all the girls and women to whom your message may make a life-changing difference, thank you very much for your channel.
I remembered feeling insecure during vacay at the beach, I felt ashamed of my body, and I was wishing I had a body like model on instagram. Then I made myself look at every girl at the beach, looking at their features, not one of them had the “perfect” figure that the girls on instagram have, they all had regular human bodies. It just made me realize how media forces women to have a body that isn’t even achievable.
I love how safe you kept the video. “Posing goals, angle goals” dope phrases. I edit my photos too, why? Cause I’m fucking insecure
I loved that reframing too! That's a much more applicable way of thinking than "body goals".
I love the fact that you point out all the positives about the influencers in real life....that really makes me feel more beautiful too! Thank you so much for not tearing them apart but just shining a light on how stunning they are as their natural selves. You're amazing! 💞
Thank you! I am 31 and still didn’t understand just how deceptive social media is. This is so confidence boosting!
I'm so lucky I married a man that loves my curves (butt, boobs, thighs) and doesn't expect me to starve myself. I do workout and eat healthy but I don't obsess over my weight, cellulite etc. I just try to be healthy and joyful each day and be thankful to God for my health👍🏻
God bless, beautiful sister ❤️
I'm also blessed with a husband that loves my curves ☺️ When I get down about my body he lifts me up!
@@jessieh9127 that's fantastic👍🏻
I try to be healthy but I'm a naturally curvy girl and torturing myself to be a size 2 doesn't sound like much fun lol
@@maryclark1049 Definitely isn't! Long story short, my parent wanted me to be a size four to show off her tall "skinny" daughter so I was anorexic for a long time. Got healthy and then met my husband. SO glad your husband loves you for you also!!!
Jessie H for some reason UA-cam keeps taking down my comments
I think you beinf happy around him and not cranky because you are hungry helps hahaha. At work I had women being obsessed with their diet, and they were so cranky and emotional...because they were starving themselves. Its so dangerous and not fun to be around those people.
It’s the digital editing ON TOP of the surgical editing, when will it end?
This is one of the best videos you’ve done babes. I love that you showed the ig vs reality pictures and made out normal and didn’t rip these girls actual bodies to shreds like some UA-camrs do. That just propagates the desire to appear flawless even more. ❤️
Being a teenager in 10th grade, this makes me feel much more confident in myself! I also watch more of your videos and I love your content💜.
This is great! I’m so glad that it makes you feel more confident 😊
Me too! I'm a 9th grade (almost tenth grade) student and her videos make me feel so much better about myself
@@alysss_zoc yess, as they should
I am also in tenth grade and these videos has helped me a lot too.
Me too
Hi queen! I didn't even know you just posted this, I just thought I hadn't seen it yet. Your content is so positive, I'm so happy you exist. You're wonderful and I hope this comment brightens your day!
Thank you so much!! Love ya! x
I am 67 years old. Thank you for pointing this out. I have literally, almost killed myself, trying to look perfect!❤❤
Stephanie I truly mean this from the bottom of my heart THANK YOU. For talking about this controversial topic and using your platform to help lift up others. You really are a beautiful human being inside and out with makeup or without. I’m almost 40 years old and hearing you talk about these very real struggles women go through on a daily bases have opened my heart to loving and accepting myself more than I ever have. Thank you and God bless....
I’m super self conscious about my body but then I also feel really sexy in certain poses in the mirror. So I really understand this. I need to love my relaxed body more because it’s the exact same body I love in certain poses.
I feel the exact same!! Thanks for commenting this ❣️ sending you lots of love, and just like you said, let's try love our bodies more when they're relaxed and comfortable and natural :)
The effors that you put in your videos >>>>>❤❤❤
Exactly! We have wombs and intestines!!!!! I am so thankful I grew up before the internet! It was hard enough wanting to look like Cindy Crawford who has a NORMAL fit body but at least that was attainable through healthy eating and a good exercise routine! I cry for the girls today who feel so ashamed of perfectly good bodies because of these editing programs! The fact that Khloe was embarrassed of such a gorgeous healthy picture broke my heart for her. Thanks for these videos!!!!!! You’re a sweetheart and your message is SO important!
It's wrong to shame their natural photos, but let's just not forget that they're part of the problem.
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I love this woman so much. She makes me feel so good about myself!
On Stephanie's Channel I learnt:
- How to apply makeup without looking like a dessert 🎂
- About cool things like the Venus trimmer or the Wild deodorant 💇♀️
- About self worth and confidence 🐱🏍
Thank you Stephanie! My life is actually better because of you 💕😍
Ahhh love you 😍
We Women really do be doing THE MOST now days.. And most guys think it's real LMFAO
I might be very late to find this video. But this has made my day a lot! Thank you so much! I'm 34 years old and been trying to lose a lot of weight. And i'm struggling because it seems my body cannot accept any kind of diet anymore. I really wanna live my life without thinking what other people would say about my look.
This helped boost my confidence... I see those little bods and deny myself special treats bc I want to be thinner...when in actuality, I look great for being 44.... BUT images of itty bitty leads me to believe that's what I should strive for....so sad...i feel body image expectations are being scrutinized more than previous decades...i appreciate these REAL life videos so much... I hope one day we have a breakthrough accepting the way we look and loving ourselves more 💕💕
Thank you!! Finally, a woman wanting to lift each other up instead of bringing each other down through body shaming. I wouldn't even want to look like most of those edited pictures and videos. It's like a plastic surgeon tried to turn them into Mega-Barbies. Enough ladies!!! Let's root each other on and stop tearing each other down! Love you Stephanie!!
I am so happy I came along on this channel. I have teenage granddaughter and up and coming pre teen coming of age. I always wondered how these girls all looked perfect. You have my support and I believe this is so crazy. Thank you so so much for bringing this to our girls becoming women. Enough pressures in life, they don't need to keep having the idea of a perfect body, face, complexion and hair everyday. Healthy is correct way to teach them. Keep your videos coming. Thank you,
Peggy
This is so important. Thank you, Stephanie!
I sincerely hope all this editing and unattainable perfection ends by the time my 9 year old daughter becomes a teen. But, if not, I’ll be sitting her down and showing her this video and many of your others, Stephanie. Your videos are so positive and real. Also, I’m so bloody glad that social media was not a thing when I was a teen in the 90s!
They were editing models since the late 90’s in every magazine, billboard, etc, prior to social media. Photo editing to make waists small was huge in the Victorian Era, and people don’t realize. All this to say that no, by the time our daughters are teens this will not have ended. Start teaching her now🤷🏻♀️ she’s already surrounded by society’s messages about bodies.
@@Hippidippimahm Yeah, but back then teens didn't have a smart phone in their pocket with which they stared at instagram circusfreaks for hours on end.
Yes, we have a big task ahead as parents. Our sons and daughters are gonna be preyed upon at every corner, so limit online time + educate them about porn, about algorythms, about violence, about photoshop, about addictions, about digital footprint etc.
thank u sooo much for this video! it's very difficult to love yourself when all u see in social media are those perfect bodies and faces ...
Gosh, Stephanie, I love you. The way you hype these girls up when you're looking at their natural, candid photos makes me so happy I could cry. You don't tear them down or body shame them or make fun of them or berate them. Ily. Thank you.
'angle goals' 'lighting goals' 'posing goals'
Wow - never thought about it that way, thank you!
Yes, but those shouldn't be "goals".
THANK YOU FOR THIS VIDEO!!! I am a mum of 2 and have been fussing over my food intake and working out to look at my "mental ideal" of a body but I am STRUGGLING. Seeing this video has helped me immensely. It's ok to have a pouch that won't go away and it's okay to have dimples. Just enjoy life. Be healthy, practice healthy habits but don't stress over achieving these "goal bodies."
This made me cry, thank you so much for this ❤️ myself and all my female friends feel so much pressure, it’s exhausting. Thank you xx
I’ve been binge watching some of your videos tonight after you randomly showed up on my recommendation.
You have made me feel so much better about myself. Im hitting my 30s and have 2 kids! So my body is so not what it use to be. But you have made me feel beautiful.
Thank you ❤️
I just love her. She feels like a warm older sister
There needs to be more awareness of this. I only wish boyfriends of these unrealistic woman on the internet spoke out and told us all the real truths!
If they did, I can only imagine the amount of women calling the dude out for being a horrible person for exposing her etc. followed by a bunch of comments telling the gal to drop her man 💀 I sometimes hear women blaming men for standards but it’s 2021, we all know women are contributing to this heavily on social media. Heck, Kim K basically set the new trending body type.. 😪
their women will most likely castrate if they were to ever expose them lol.....well at least these men know what real womens bodies look like. theres alsoa whole generation of boys and also men that have obtained this completely unrealistic high standard of their "type" that crept into their mind through glamourous porn and instagram.
@@TJ-1234 completely agree with you
Stephanie PLEASE do your "no makeup" makeup look! I've been waiting so long for that video 😍
Ahhh I have to edit it!! I’ll try and get it up this week! X
@@stephanielange I cant wait!!!
This is sooo spot on. I compete in female bodybuilding and can tell you now , obtaining abs and being ''lean'' is really HARD! Like the amount of cardio and dieting on a 'cut' or 'prep' is not something that is sustainable forever, even then its tan, lighting, posing and dehydration etc. I much prefer my body when I've put weight back on post show and feel curvy and strong. I feel social media has such power for good and positivity but its really difficult to bring yourself back to earth and realise normal bodies don't look like this! I fear for 10 years olds who are growing up with this in their face all the time.
"Loads of room for their organs" made me instantly feel better about having a longer torso.
These videos you make are so important and so needed nowadays, we all should feel beautiful being ourselves but we tend to forget and it is great to be reminded. I personally don't have instagram because it makes me feel like I am not good enough in any aspect of my life so thank you for reminding us that we are Stephanie! Your channel is great, you're beautiful and you're helping so many people, keep it up girl!
I used to watch Netflix while I eat, but now I watch you. I’ve stayed so much more consistent it taking better care of myself, because I don’t feel like I have to strive for something that doesn’t exist anymore, thank you!! Like for real thank you so much❤️🤞🏽
I'm really happy you're using your platform to discuss these things. I have an ED and had to delete instagram, it's so toxic. And dammit, people edit videos now wth. Thank you so much for doing this!
Girl same 🙏🏼I feel so much better since I deleted Instagram off my phone
Glad I’m one of the first ones here! Influencers these days are all taking the easy way out, competing to be in the same little spot it’s hard to tell apart of their unique stance even if they do have one. They don’t have to. We don’t have too. It’s all about being beautiful inside out. Thanks for always being the voice of reason, Stephanie
Yeah, I needed this. Going to the lake tomorrow with my boyfriend and his friends and I’ve been stressing for days about how I’ll look. That I have a little lower tummy fat, my love handles are too big, I have thick thighs with cellulite, etc. and the thing is, I know I’m not large be any means yet, I’m trying everything to slim down before we go. This made me feel a little better. Thank you.
Thank you, as usual, for delivering a healthy dose of reality to our social media obsessed world. It's stunning how much these beauty standards really do influence us, even when we know most pictures on Ig are retouched. I guess we all need a reminder once in a while! Love your message. I always feel better about myself after watching your videos!
Thank you so much for speaking out on this! As a person who was always skinny, I have gained quite a bit of weight during the pandemic and seeing these ‘perfect’ bodies really got to me and made me feel less worthy. We need this and we need to normalise REAL bodies! ❤️
I am fitness enthusiast and take care of myself. I'm in good shape but when I used to look at those pictures on social media I would often wonder that there is something more going on in there, beyond right lighting & filters, may be butt or boob lifts, surgeries etc. but I never expected that there are app that completely transform bodies even in videos. And these influencers freely lie. That’s an eye opener and thank you for your amazing post. By the way you are an incredibly beautiful and gorgeous women, better than those you talk about. Impressed ❤
Totally here for it! Loving the shoulders today!
I’ve been struggling with body image and confidence for most of my life and at 30 am finally ready to confront a lot of these issues. This style of content makes it a bit less scary to let go of insecurities I’ve held for so long. Thank you for exposing the lies of social media in such a kindhearted way.
You are doing women and young girls a great service! Thank you for helping bring us to reality~ so many out there need to hear this. You are so positive and kind, and you're right~ these influencers
don't need go be shamed and told to diet~ I agree, it takes skill to know how to work ones' angles, how to present the light, and that we should let them be able go be their natural weight and celebrate life. We don't need to starve ourselves or spend the day exercising until we drop! We need to eat healthy, take control of our lives, and if we are trying to find that special someone, let them love you for how you look in reality! You need to be comfortable as yourself! You have internal organs~ let them have space to do their job well and have the space to do it so you remain healthy!
Well done, Stephanie! You are awesome!
This is a reality dose for me to remind myself that I m beautiful the way I m. Thanks for that.
This series has SERIOUSLY helped me. THANK YOU.