The true test of if they bear good fruit shows up when a man (or woman) doesn’t feel like it. They don’t avoid the hard conversations, commitment, compromises and compassion it takes to get to truly know a partner.
Greetings from the South East Asia, Indonesia! I thank God your video pop up in my timeline, it's really encouraging me ❤ being 30 this year, while the standart in my society I should get married but I haven't found it yet, waiting season is so challenging, but during this time I know God is shapping me into a better version of me! I also love how you mention tha we need to commit to our own church rather than "travel around" just only to find the guy! Thank you both of you, your marriage is such a blessing!
Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤
It is great to hear you guys talking about “calling certain things out of a person”. Wondering if anyone could speak to this: I struggle with the mentality of “oh this person has potential” like what you guys are referring to, vs “let’s fix this person up into what I would like”. I guess I feel like I shouldn’t be idolizing how this person could be in the future if they change..
Just randomly came across your vid and I really enjoyed it! Been trying to figure out how to navigate dating through my religious journey and I loved your insight!
@@ErikaLomeli welcome! So glad you found it. We more videos diving into different areas like knowing he/she is “the one”, boundaries and purity, and more🤍
This was really good, perfect timing haha. Just went on a first date last night but I feel like I need to tell him it’s not going to work. But I’m just not sure agh. He has his life very planned out, his field has a very specific path. And I don’t know if that aligns with the path God has for me.
Don't overlook them just because they are not presented to you in the way that you thought God would/they would. Tread carefully, test the waters and learn more about them. One date is probably too soon to know. God may speak to you in different ways, so don't be so quick to think it is not God's will, more discernment is required. All the best!
@@ChooChoo25953 Okay well update is that I told him over text afterwards that I am just unsure because we are both in our senior year of college in the same city, but then he is in the National Guard and going to be a commercial pilot (doesn't know where his placements will be), and I am hoping to go into humanitarian aid and I was going to move back home to a different state or possibly go abroad for work. And he said we should just be friends and keep sharing Bible verses etc and see what God does. So that is what we have been doing but I am just unsure what to do because it kind of feels like it could be stringing each other along for something that isn't going to work out anyways. and could just lead to more confusion. Aghhh this is just so hard.
@@carryg580Demandez simplement à Dieu ce qu'il en dit... "Demande et tu auras" dit la Parole de Dieu ! 😊 Et attendez patiemment et sagement sa réponse. Car bien évidemment qu'il répondra ! 🙏🏾🕊️✨ Consulter Dieu en tout temps et pour toutes choses, se doit d'être un principe de vie fondamental, pour tous ceux qui croient... C'est la base même de la foi ! 💯 Shalom.
I know this is hard for you to relate to, but I would love for you to speak on the middle-aged single woman. I am 40 I am single. I have a young daughter. I was married and through a series of traumatic experiences am no longer married as of six years ago now. I am very active in our church, I teach Sunday school and cubbies at Awana on Fridays. I am in multiple Bible studies. I work full-time. I’m raising a daughter by myself. I have no idea how to find a God loving husband. Maybe you could interview somebody in this stage of our lives. I get a ton of amazing and thought-provoking information from your podcast and your book and I just feel your wisdom. And I would love to hear you talk on this.
@@bobbihill8604Demandez simplement à Dieu ce que votre coeur désir. Lui seul, peut vous conduire vers cet homme pieux que votre coeur désir. "Demande et tu auras" dit la Parole de Dieu ! 😊 Et attendez patiemment et sagement sa réponse. Car bien évidemment qu'il répondra ! 🙏🏾🕊️✨ Consulter Dieu en tout temps et pour toutes choses, se doit d'être un principe de vie fondamental, pour tous ceux qui croient... C'est la base même de la foi ! 💯 Shalom.
I was presented with an opportunity to call a christian guy out of the immature tendencies and he just did not take it well and insisted that being immature is part of who he is and he never wants to lose that child-likeness
Many young women can’t find their future husband because they’ve filled all the roles a husband will have with multiple boy friends. Start with “breaking up” with all the “platonic” male friends you have and your husband will show up sooner than you can imagine.
Many men won't commit until they have it allllll together. A lot of guys aren't willing to grow with the relationship as they grow with their career. It's been so frustrating throughout my life. However, God was protecting me from the non God fearing men I was allowing.
Can you give an example how to tactfully call your boyfriend out when he's following ungodly women on social media? Like what would be a good conversation starter so you're not coming off as berating or shaming him?
@@Didarina4 for us we always start from prayer. Asking God for the eyes to see one another not where they are but where they can be. That gives the heart posture to not bring it up from anger or angst but hope, this keeps our tone from being demeaning or accusing and allows the ability to sharpen and speak to the other person from a place of wanting better for them and for you both.
27:04 okay, but if there are basically no single young adults at your church, how can you NOT go to another to meet them? If both are committed to their own church, that might mean someone’s gonna have to switch churches? 😵💫 (Well if you get married) Unless God brings my husband to this church or opens my eyes to an existing person, I truly think that my husband might be out on the missions field or something?? Am I crazy for thinking this? Lol
Mmm I believe in Rib-mates and Soul mates. If he was Really the One , you wouldn’t Miss him in a Crowded room. Something about who the person is has to draw them to you. Godly Connection, not the flesh.
I think we want someone we are equally attracted to enough so we won’t treat and be content and happy with the 1 person we are supposed to be with forever
I'm 45.. never married. I wonder if I just haven't been ready despite feeling ready. Other than that.. I am not sure what the wait is about. I have seen other women wait into their 50's. But for sure... I do not want a man who is lukewarm... and that is a lot of what I have seen so far. I'm just not interested.
Too many women are waiting too long to get serious about marriage. A woman's peak attraction period is at age 23. So a woman will be risking it to wait until her 30s to think about marriage.
Too many women have a long laundry list of requirements for a man. It is too long and unrealistic. They need to look for "Mr. Good Enough" instead of "Mr. Perfect".
I respectfully disagree. Christians don’t cause each other to grow. Women don’t cause to grow spiritually, and men don’t cause women to grow spiritually. Only the word of God causes Christians to grow. Deuteronomy 8:3 man does not live on bread alone, but on every word that comes from the mouth of the LORD. Matthew 6:11 Give us this day our daily bread Roman 10:17 So faith comes from hearing, and hearing by the word of Christ. God Bless You guys are doing great work
I wasn’t a fan of this episode :( speaking things into existence stems from new ageism and dating potential is so dangerous and can lead to disappointment and heartbreak. We should date people for who they are not for who they can potentially become. Discipleship and community is the opportunity for us to find our assignment and God given purpose not through dating.
@@sveltelee5545 thank you for your honesty! I think there was sadly some mixed messaging heard. We believe in praying into situations and for relationships so can become and love one another best, we do not believe in manifesting or anything of that nature.
Give me the eyes to see my future spouse is a great prayer!
YES truly!!
I agree!! I’ll be praying this from now on🙏💕
Yes
Yes!
I always pray , “god allow my future husband to be able to see me and recognize me “
Love this! Once I got my eyes fixed, I found my husband. If I hadn't fixed them when I did, I probably would have missed him.
@@RobinStyons powerful!!
How did you fix your eyes if i may ask?
The true test of if they bear good fruit shows up when a man (or woman) doesn’t feel like it.
They don’t avoid the hard conversations, commitment, compromises and compassion it takes to get to truly know a partner.
Greetings from the South East Asia, Indonesia! I thank God your video pop up in my timeline, it's really encouraging me ❤ being 30 this year, while the standart in my society I should get married but I haven't found it yet, waiting season is so challenging, but during this time I know God is shapping me into a better version of me!
I also love how you mention tha we need to commit to our own church rather than "travel around" just only to find the guy!
Thank you both of you, your marriage is such a blessing!
@@marinaberlian wonderful hearing from you and thank you for watching!! Hoping you find so much joy and vision in this season!
Your husband is dope. He has some great points of view, I’m glad you guys found eachother
He's really insightful! Love how he challenges us all
to be better
Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?
His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive
Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤
What a great prayer, give me the eyes to see my future spouse.
It is great to hear you guys talking about “calling certain things out of a person”. Wondering if anyone could speak to this: I struggle with the mentality of “oh this person has potential” like what you guys are referring to, vs “let’s fix this person up into what I would like”. I guess I feel like I shouldn’t be idolizing how this person could be in the future if they change..
Thank you, Christian and Arden! This spoke to my heart.
@@breyonnalowery9962 I’m so glad!!
I'm so grateful for the both of you! Thank you so much!
@@geraldinebaranal7337 thank you for watching!!
Just randomly came across your vid and I really enjoyed it! Been trying to figure out how to navigate dating through my religious journey and I loved your insight!
@@ErikaLomeli welcome! So glad you found it. We more videos diving into different areas like knowing he/she is “the one”, boundaries and purity, and more🤍
I love your podcast! Thank you for sharing your experiences with us.
Yes!! Do the match making! 😂🤍🙏🏼
@@heidirose464 so glad you're here! Thank you!
This was really good, perfect timing haha. Just went on a first date last night but I feel like I need to tell him it’s not going to work. But I’m just not sure agh. He has his life very planned out, his field has a very specific path. And I don’t know if that aligns with the path God has for me.
Don't overlook them just because they are not presented to you in the way that you thought God would/they would. Tread carefully, test the waters and learn more about them. One date is probably too soon to know. God may speak to you in different ways, so don't be so quick to think it is not God's will, more discernment is required. All the best!
@@ChooChoo25953 Okay well update is that I told him over text afterwards that I am just unsure because we are both in our senior year of college in the same city, but then he is in the National Guard and going to be a commercial pilot (doesn't know where his placements will be), and I am hoping to go into humanitarian aid and I was going to move back home to a different state or possibly go abroad for work. And he said we should just be friends and keep sharing Bible verses etc and see what God does. So that is what we have been doing but I am just unsure what to do because it kind of feels like it could be stringing each other along for something that isn't going to work out anyways. and could just lead to more confusion. Aghhh this is just so hard.
@@carryg580Demandez simplement à Dieu ce qu'il en dit...
"Demande et tu auras" dit la Parole de Dieu ! 😊
Et attendez patiemment et sagement sa réponse.
Car bien évidemment qu'il répondra !
🙏🏾🕊️✨
Consulter Dieu en tout temps et pour toutes choses, se doit d'être un principe de vie fondamental, pour tous ceux qui croient...
C'est la base même de la foi ! 💯
Shalom.
@@carryg580Proud of you
Real cool, thanks from France! Loving this couple s dynamic and fresh advice 🎉
@@sevpolo4701 thank you for tuning in!!
I know this is hard for you to relate to, but I would love for you to speak on the middle-aged single woman. I am 40 I am single. I have a young daughter. I was married and through a series of traumatic experiences am no longer married as of six years ago now. I am very active in our church, I teach Sunday school and cubbies at Awana on Fridays. I am in multiple Bible studies. I work full-time. I’m raising a daughter by myself. I have no idea how to find a God loving husband. Maybe you could interview somebody in this stage of our lives. I get a ton of amazing and thought-provoking information from your podcast and your book and I just feel your wisdom. And I would love to hear you talk on this.
@@bobbihill8604 thank you for sharing your story and feedback! I’ll definitely keep this in mind as we bring on future guests🤍🤍
Mia Fields' story may encourage you. While she wasn't 40, she waited a longer time for a husband. Her stories are so faithfilled and encouraging ❤
@@maurandalewis4427 Mia is amazing!!
@@maurandalewis4427 I love her story!!
@@bobbihill8604Demandez simplement à Dieu ce que votre coeur désir.
Lui seul, peut vous conduire vers cet homme pieux que votre coeur désir.
"Demande et tu auras" dit la Parole de Dieu ! 😊
Et attendez patiemment et sagement sa réponse.
Car bien évidemment qu'il répondra !
🙏🏾🕊️✨
Consulter Dieu en tout temps et pour toutes choses, se doit d'être un principe de vie fondamental, pour tous ceux qui croient...
C'est la base même de la foi ! 💯
Shalom.
12min Thats so beautiful! Wow your husband is a man of Jesus.
@@personalchannel9973 I’m a lucky lady no doubt!
I was presented with an opportunity to call a christian guy out of the immature tendencies and he just did not take it well and insisted that being immature is part of who he is and he never wants to lose that child-likeness
@@Adrianafr642 two very different attributes 😬
Very insightful 🙏🏽thank you! Keep them coming
God, thank you for this video. Super relevant topic!
Subscribed!
So glad you're here! Excited to bring more soon
This was so helpful!🩵
Incredible to hear!! We will have more coming soon❤
Thank youu for this video ☺️🤍🤍
@@nairobees thanks for watching!!
Can you do a video sharing how did you guys met and how did you knew he/she was the one please?
@@michellegza love that idea!
22:31 -22:41 🫢
Man…. Ain’t that the truth 😭
Too many fantasies planted in our heads by movies & delulu conversations.
@@katherine3107 it can really alter our perceptions!
Soooooo gooooood!!!!!!!
Amen to this!
Powerful🙏🏼❤️🔥
@@CROrsak 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
@@ChristianBevereAuthor Yall are so sweet to respond to us🫶🏼. Thank you for your yes!! Learning so much, Proverbs 11:25 is your promise 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🥰🥰🥰
Dude looking like Tom Brady ... Haha
Good show guys.
@@masculinevisionary7965 we can see it a little bit 😂 Thanks for watching!
Many young women can’t find their future husband because they’ve filled all the roles a husband will have with multiple boy friends. Start with “breaking up” with all the “platonic” male friends you have and your husband will show up sooner than you can imagine.
@@re4918 ooh good stuff👏🏼👏🏼
Many men won't commit until they have it allllll together. A lot of guys aren't willing to grow with the relationship as they grow with their career. It's been so frustrating throughout my life. However, God was protecting me from the non God fearing men I was allowing.
I been single my whole entire life
Can you give an example how to tactfully call your boyfriend out when he's following ungodly women on social media? Like what would be a good conversation starter so you're not coming off as berating or shaming him?
@@Didarina4 for us we always start from prayer. Asking God for the eyes to see one another not where they are but where they can be. That gives the heart posture to not bring it up from anger or angst but hope, this keeps our tone from being demeaning or accusing and allows the ability to sharpen and speak to the other person from a place of wanting better for them and for you both.
Did you say future husband?
27:04 okay, but if there are basically no single young adults at your church, how can you NOT go to another to meet them?
If both are committed to their own church, that might mean someone’s gonna have to switch churches? 😵💫
(Well if you get married)
Unless God brings my husband to this church or opens my eyes to an existing person, I truly think that my husband might be out on the missions field or something??
Am I crazy for thinking this? Lol
Mmm I believe in Rib-mates and Soul mates. If he was Really the One , you wouldn’t Miss him in a Crowded room. Something about who the person is has to draw them to you. Godly Connection, not the flesh.
I think we want someone we are equally attracted to enough so we won’t treat and be content and happy with the 1 person we are supposed to be with forever
There is no man around me at all 😂
Are you guys expecting?
Speak to the king in a man and not to the immature boy
I'm 45.. never married. I wonder if I just haven't been ready despite feeling ready. Other than that.. I am not sure what the wait is about. I have seen other women wait into their 50's. But for sure... I do not want a man who is lukewarm... and that is a lot of what I have seen so far. I'm just not interested.
Most women over age 30 have a tough time as a single. It is hard finding a man after that age.
Can i say im not religious even tho i agree with what the bible says.
Too many women are waiting too long to get serious about marriage. A woman's peak attraction period is at age 23. So a woman will be risking it to wait until her 30s to think about marriage.
Too many women have a long laundry list of requirements for a man. It is too long and unrealistic. They need to look for "Mr. Good Enough" instead of "Mr. Perfect".
I respectfully disagree. Christians don’t cause each other to grow. Women don’t cause to grow spiritually, and men don’t cause women to grow spiritually. Only the word of God causes Christians to grow.
Deuteronomy 8:3
man does not live on bread alone, but on every word that comes from the mouth of the LORD.
Matthew 6:11
Give us this day our daily bread
Roman 10:17
So faith comes from hearing, and hearing by the word of Christ.
God Bless
You guys are doing great work
I wasn’t a fan of this episode
:( speaking things into existence stems from new ageism and dating potential is so dangerous and can lead to disappointment and heartbreak. We should date people for who they are not for who they can potentially become. Discipleship and community is the opportunity for us to find our assignment and God given purpose not through dating.
@@sveltelee5545 thank you for your honesty! I think there was sadly some mixed messaging heard. We believe in praying into situations and for relationships so can become and love one another best, we do not believe in manifesting or anything of that nature.
There are few great guys who are godly these days and are men and not grown boys. They can be good guys but they are not mine-not compatible with me.
Godly man..
No thanks. It’s not good advice to tell women to call men out of anything. He should be where he needs to be.
@@nelgom7478 oh its incredible because he does the same for you. Being spouses is being partners!
God fearing, 39, Female, 5'9", no kids, will move for love! 😉 just in case you know of someone 😅🙃🫠
30:39
@@felyperez2647 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼