NEVER, EVER CHEAT. Breaking up with someone is heartbreaking, but at least that’s honesty. Cheating is lying, betrayal, cold, and so much more. She was right to leave him
@@bioshock8787cheaters end up truly falling in love one day … they end up staying loyal to said person. And that person end up cheating on the ex cheater . And that’s exactly what they deserve. Remember that.
I'm not agreeing with him cheating. But I can only imagine how hard it is to take care of someone who doesn't want to take care of themselves. I don't feel bad for her. The years of neglect on herself was a choice.
@@jkosh2046 I do feel bad for him having to do that, but it just showed that she didn’t meet his expectations. He should have left her. He would have had guilt, yes, but he would also be able to find a woman out there that meets his expectations and someone who is right for him. Breakups are never easy, but cheating is the worst thing anyone could do. He had other ways to end it with her properly, but he chose to do it this way. Such a shame
And no one need to dip their partner just after surgery. No real man do that. Just rapists. Threats to make someone not dare to not say no is rape and people defend it. It's disqusting to read many comments that felt sorry for the dude not able to get fu.... when she was in hospital and after surgery
I’m not supporting cheating and abuse, however, that was a lot for the husband. I don’t know why some women thinks that a man is always an answer to their situations. Sometimes we need to be alone, to fix ourselves, heal from our brokenness before we enter into new relationships.
Really wtv you're saying doesn't make any sense.... he chose to be a full time care taker, no one forced him to do so... in any situation cheating is unforgivable🙂
Husband is a human being he has needs too as a man. Lupe should make the right choice either keep him or let him go. Lupe should make herself as a first priority, take care about your self first. There will be a man somewhere waiting for you.@@Rockedict0174
Then he should have left instead of cheating on her and treating her like shit 🤷 ... If you're in a relationship and you're drowning then you should talk about it, sort it out. Not just be an arse hole.
If man can't have intimate with a wife they will look somewhere else. Don't take your marriage or husband for granted. Take care of yourself and be attractive for your husband. Man wants trophy wife. If he is loser, it's better let go.
The audacity that he asked for intercourse right after surgery! I am happy that she is no longer with him. He is a bum and was using her! I hope she is happy today and healthy
Hardly anyone is monogamous in the true sense of the word and there's men that wouldn't do all that even if the woman was looking like a model. Im so shocked that all these women who are morbidly obese have men and I see so many women single who are beautiful, intelligent and accomplished. Is it that once your standards are lowered you are more likely to find SOMEBODY? Is it that these women appeal to men who like to feel useful and caretake? It's an intriguing phenomena truly...
He chose to be her full time caregiver. He could have left, but he chose to stay. I’m sure she receives a disability check, that is usually the case in situations like these. They are in it for the money. You can tell he doesn’t work.
Leaving your toxic husband, moving to another place, and immediately hopping into a new relationship and talking marriage super quickly?? Sounds like a recipe for disaster. She needed therapy immensely before entering another union with a new man, while still being married to the husband she just left like a month prior. Yes, her husband was apparently a piece of work, but so is she. Who does that? Gonna bring all that trauma into a new relationship if she isn't healed.
If you hadn’t noticed there was a two year gap before she started seeing that other man, at 6:02 2years and one month later she talks about being together for a month so that means she waited two years roughly before getting into a serious relationship. Which is not bad the majority of people from what studies say people take roughly 6 months to get over someone and sometimes longer depending on how much that person meant to you..
These comments are so disgusting. Sure, he took care of her, but he mentally abused her until she agreed for intercourse, he didn't even take it seriously when she needed to go to the hospital because of it. He was also the reason she was gaining so much weight in the first place, and he cheated because Lupe couldn't please him. Open your eyes, you guys need help if you're still defending this maniac after reading my comment. Edit: watched more of the video and realized he also stole her stuff after she dumped him.
She is not a baby, she is the own reason to gain wait not him. Stop blaming people for our own mistakes. He cheated thats wrong but he also was forced to take care of her and this is marriage two people should act in it not one. For the tv, while she is laying in bed I am pretty sure he was the bread winner
@marymarzz she has a lot of blame in this situation also. She layed in bed all day and he bathed and wiped her ass every day. How many men do you think would do that for a woman in her condition? You know he was a loser and cheater but she kept him around because she needed her ass wiped. Once she lost weight then she dumped him. She is looking for a caretaker just like she found in the next guy. Let's see if this one stays long.
Actually, that husband had been with her through thick and thin. He is wiping her ass. All of his hard works should NOT be forgotten and erased and replaced with the word 'Cheater'. Lupe should be at least grateful for all the hardships he went through for her care. It's Lupe who was using him. Once she lost weight and able to take care of herself, she dumped him. Until then she stayed with him knowing about him cheating.
Thank you for acknowledging him and his effort through out their relationship; I was thinking the same thing as I read through the comments… cheating isn’t right, but he did stay with her while she was at her heaviest and helped her
Some ppl need somewhere to live so they move fast, move in and take whatever they can can get & do what they gotta do to have a place to lay their head.
Some ppl need somewhere to live so they move fast, move in and take whatever they can can get & do what they gotta do to have a place to lay their head.
CHEATING NEVER SOLVES ANYTHING. If you’re that u happy with your wife then LEAVE. Do her the favor of getting out of her life so she doesn’t have to put up with your cheating ass.
You can still leave before cheating. You can discuss things with your partner. You can get counseling. There is a lot you can do instead of cheating. bunch of enablers and cheating apologists
Her 1st guy went through alot, wiping her down, feeding her, taking her to doctors appointments , moving and lifting her all that is a full time job. Don't think 2nd guy will be around for long
Трудно ему пришлось. Чем эта гора может заниматься, кроме как лежать на спине. Сколько нужно съесть еды, чтобы стать этим ? Да простит МИЛОСТИВЫЙ АЛЛАХ 🤲, СВЯТ ОН И ВЕЛИК, НАШИ ПРЕГРЕШЕНИЯ.
People sitting and protecting Richard. Dude asked to get laid right after surgery. Getting drunk. Cheating. Yeah, a real keeper. Edit: Yes, I mean Gilbert. Sorry about that.
Right, lol. I do understand both sides of the situation, but him wiping her ass is not equivalent to him being a cheater and a drunk. He put her through a lot emotionally which is probably how she ended up gaining the weight in the first place.
He has been taking care of her and she calls it abuse. Yes it is wrong he cheated, but she abused this marriage for years when she was completely relying and throwing everything on her husband
She knew he was a cheater. She just pretended not to notice because she needed him to bathe and wipe her ass. No man will do that for as long as he did. Let's see how long this new man hangs around. She didn't look happy with him.
Can u blame her husband for cheating. Dude he still took care of her for long in her worst time. Cheating is different but he can't be that bad if he stood with her
Insisting on sex and then bursting her suture is abuse. No one is all good or all bad. Gilbert was her caretaker. That’s so hard to do, but that doesn’t mean he gets to put her life in danger
Thank you! He was her caretaker, is that taking good care of someone, to demand intimacy after surgery ? He been messing around, why aren't you relieving yourself now, instead of expecting this from her right after surgery?😢
@@aleathacoleman6413 why don’t they take precautionary measures before it gets too late? They get very bulky and can’t move themselves without support. Most of them need to undergo surgery for losing that much mass.
@@ankita19871 A lot of people take precautions like seeing a clinician for help with weight gain. Unfortunately, it may take years if not decades to get properly diagnosed. Medication adjustments may take months or years. They may not work. Changes in diet and including exercise may or may not help with weight loss. Everyone's experience with weight gain is different.
Iono. I feel empathy for them both. He was candid about his sexual suppression (possibly not having other needs met by his wife) after caretaking for so long, and it drove him to drink and cheat. Meanwhile, she’s dealing with someone who broke a vow (through sickness and in health), however, as with any addiction, she also seems to have gotten to a point where her object of addiction was the center of her life. I’ve often thought that dealing with someone with an addiction feels like dealing with someone in an affair- it’s just not with a person. Addiction is hard on the addicted and extraordinarily hard on partners/anyone taking care of that person. Now did he and the people around her enable her by bringing her huge portions of food when she wanted, it appears so. Would I have left him? Absolutely. It was obvious that, just like her, he started getting in a bad place mentally, which was possibly directly related to coping with his life with her. He was wrong for all his self-indulgent actions in the end. Period. But all in all, how can I vilify just him? Both people’s choices and actions harmed one another. Both people had MAJOR issues with self control. Both became focused on how to get their physically needs met to the detriment of their health, physically, emotionally, and/or relationally. Both could no longer truly take care of one another- he couldn’t emotionally take care of her and she couldn’t physically (which led into emotionally) take care of him. Even in her talk about this next relationship she focused on how she herself is taken care of versus them taking care of each other. Iono. I hope both her and her ex are continuing to invest in their health and are on a path to emotional and mental healing. ❤️🩹
One of the things in the video that I saw Lupe do was exercising using movement of her arms with small dumb-bells -even though she was laying down. Which I think more weight loss candidates should constantly do movements activities even though they are laying down. Constant movement even if just waving their arms in circular patterns is better than laying there as a statue. It would also be more of a change of mental state because they would be doing something toward their goal which they can actually do in that direction. Later as the pounds come off, adhering to Dr. Now's diet plan, they will be able to stand and expand their exercising. But initially do what they can - i.e. movement of arms, hands.
I agree. And especially if they also have bad hips, knees, back pain, etc they can do exercises lying down or sitting and they can build up their stamina and strength and see positive results.
I'm sorry, but you need to NOT count on a man to take care of you!! Take months, even years to be happy with yourself - by yourself and take care of yourself! To quote the fabulous Ru Paul - " if you can't love yourself, how in the hell are you gonna love somebody else? Can I get an amen up in here?"
Obviously she has self love issues if she was 600 pounds. Some people need someone by them to help them through life and others are pk being by themselves. People deal with things differently.
She should be seeing a therapist, not looking to a man for love and validation. No good will ever come from looking to someone else to validate your self worth. What happens when this new guy cheats or decides to leave? She is right back to square one feeling unworthy of love. It's a dangerous headspace for someone to be in.@celiabrown153
I agree. He was sticking around and helping her. I can only imagine how frustrated he was in his life. It seems like he loved her to do all that caretaking for her, but it looks like he was miserable inside too. He was probably very lonely. Maybe they were just a bad combination. Hope they both are doing good now
Nobody us seeing his side ! He needed love and being cared too he is human but … he lost we cheated! I dont understand why is she dating again while still progressing?
@@shesatthereandprayed4224 you sound ridiculous. Enablers and cheating apologists be crazy. And btw he treated her like shit. You didn’t even learn their story and you’re making excuses for him. Grow up
@@GwenApMannanan i will let u be because u are one sided on your comment ! Nobody enabled nothing here it was just a suggestion to consider the trauma of others ! Anyways I am grown and well set up Madam ! Hugs and good night
When you marry to someone you promise to be with them through sickness and in health. He was her husband, that was his job that HE signed up for. If he wanted someone else he should’ve decided that before marrying her, then being honest with her rather than cheating and mentally abusing her. God bless you tho🫶
@@OurGodlsGreater yeah I know but geesh she lied to him from the beginning. She catfished him too. The marriage was built upon a lie and he still cared for her. God bless you as well hun
@@nickidrew5113 She shouldn’t have lied to him and catfished him, but imo he shouldn’t have made that oath if he wasn’t willing to live up to it. Have a blessed day/night🤍🤍
What we must consider is that he might actually enjoy the state she was in. There is some kind of fetish related to this, I forgot the name. And her losing weight might have been the catalyst for the cheating. She also needs to take time on her own. Moving on that quickly is insane.
So Gilbert had to get laid right after that skin surgery? Dang. I can’t say that was right. EDIT: can’t make it to a single session of psychotherapy. Now she is getting in her own way.
Good for you Lupe! That is an incredible miraculous journey. You are so brave. Extremely proud of you for staying with it. I pray you always keep in touch with your self care of love of self. Praise the Lord for carrying you through. 🙏🕊🕊🕊Blessings for your new rebirth🌹🙏🕊🕊🕊
My son’s ex wife has been married 5 times! Within 2 weeks of leaving my son and talking about getting back together, she was moving in with her ‘soul mate’. I assume he’ll be husband number 6. Ugh, some people just can’t be alone. And with all the loose skin and the weight loss, she probably felt if he told her that he cared, then she should jump into it head first. I’ve lost 200 pounds and the loose skin is driving me crazy. I couldn’t even imagine trying to date with it though. Thank God my husband is around for me. We’ve been together for 21 years.
Really working hard not to gain weight it literally scares me.....not for my husband or anyone just for myself...I hope she heals and all others who are in such condition
Relationship is to support eachother till end unconditionally when it's feel like toxic so need to move on bcz it will affect health she is such a strong woman I'm feeling proud how she struggle for weight loss finally she did it❤😊👍🏻
If I gained so much weight that I couldn't take care of myself and completely depended on my man to provide and bathe me, I wouldn't be surprised if he did cheat. Honestly, I wouldn't blame him either. I wouldn't want him to be miserable because I am miserable. It takes a certain kind of person to care for someone who doesn't care about themselves. In reality, they both were bad for each other.
💯💯💯 my thoughts exactly. Yeah he cheated. But he also bathed her, wiped her ass, wheeled her ass wherever she needed to go because she was immobile…fuck I wouldn’t blame my husband. ‘Yeah he might’ve fucked you…but then he came home & wiped my ass and took care of all of my daily needs because I can’t take care of myself & if I can’t take care of myself and my needs then it’s highly likely I’m incapable of taking care of any of HIS needs either but yet here he is anyways.” Maybe my mentality is just fucked up? But hell he does all that shit for her and then it’s a lose/lose. He cheats - he’s an asshole so he pressures HER for sex - he’s an asshole. The timing was inconsiderate and fucked her stitches up and she had to go to the ER for it…bet she probably wishes he would’ve just got it from somewhere else and then came back home and resumed caretaker role instead but not too many people would admit to thinking that because they like playing the victim roll instead (“poor me, he had sex with another woman. The fact that I can’t/wont/just don’t want to help him bust a nut while he is literally taking care of a 600lb baby essentially that he calls his wife is irrelevant though.”) smh I hope her new dude knows he’s just the rebound caretaker so I wouldn’t get TOO invested in that new ‘1 month long yet moved in already because we’re ‘in love’ relationship” FFS I would just be flattered that even after seeing the absolute WORST parts of me, my body, and living like t hat every single day that my husband could even get it up to fuck me at all in the first place. And WANTED to, not just stomach it because *I* wanted sex lol.
Keep your chin up, Lupe! Please focus on your relationship with YOURSELF before you commit to another serious relationship with someone else! Friends are good, but you’ve got to find peace within your own self first. My two cents, sending you my warmest wishes.
I hope she heals and most importantly not relapse back into her previous weight. Imo, both she and her new partner need to adopt a healthy and sustainable lifestyle
The women is ungrateful That guy has seen the worst of her no one would care for her like he did And ofcourse when u take care of someone for that period it would make anyone exhausted Nvm wish he gets a good wife she gets a good husband
Family members have a bigger part in these peoples lives more than they will ever admit. Family enables her and keeps feeding her crap. Make her get up and make her own food. I have 0 sympathy for these people. They want someone to wait on them hand and foot. Give me a break.
You been with this new guy for a month and you moved in with him already come on now honey you can't be doing that stuff focus on yourself nobody else right now
@@Potato-me4wu definitely it's wrong, but IDK, if I had to wipe my hypothetical man's a$s, bathe him in bed constantly and he had that size, eventually I guess he wouldn't be the dashing handsome guy I fell in love with, yes, you promised for better or worse, but the flames switch turns off forever with such sights 😅
Well I really don’t understand why she allowed herself to get that big, the thing is food is good I cannot deny that fact but it’s only meant to be consumed when we are hungry but I hope she get the help she needs
Can't completely blame the man some things are hard to do and not everyone is strong , at least he was there when she needed him most that's what is important
NEVER, EVER CHEAT. Breaking up with someone is heartbreaking, but at least that’s honesty. Cheating is lying, betrayal, cold, and so much more. She was right to leave him
always cheat.
@@bioshock8787cheaters end up truly falling in love one day … they end up staying loyal to said person. And that person end up cheating on the ex cheater . And that’s exactly what they deserve. Remember that.
I'm not agreeing with him cheating. But I can only imagine how hard it is to take care of someone who doesn't want to take care of themselves. I don't feel bad for her. The years of neglect on herself was a choice.
@@jkosh2046 I do feel bad for him having to do that, but it just showed that she didn’t meet his expectations. He should have left her. He would have had guilt, yes, but he would also be able to find a woman out there that meets his expectations and someone who is right for him. Breakups are never easy, but cheating is the worst thing anyone could do. He had other ways to end it with her properly, but he chose to do it this way. Such a shame
And no one need to dip their partner just after surgery. No real man do that. Just rapists. Threats to make someone not dare to not say no is rape and people defend it. It's disqusting to read many comments that felt sorry for the dude not able to get fu.... when she was in hospital and after surgery
I’m not supporting cheating and abuse, however, that was a lot for the husband. I don’t know why some women thinks that a man is always an answer to their situations. Sometimes we need to be alone, to fix ourselves, heal from our brokenness before we enter into new relationships.
Really wtv you're saying doesn't make any sense.... he chose to be a full time care taker, no one forced him to do so... in any situation cheating is unforgivable🙂
Husband is a human being he has needs too as a man. Lupe should make the right choice either keep him or let him go. Lupe should make herself as a first priority, take care about your self first. There will be a man somewhere waiting for you.@@Rockedict0174
Exactly... Quite easy to blame this man, living with a person that much selfdestroying and assist her every day is not something everybody woul do...
Then he should have left instead of cheating on her and treating her like shit 🤷 ... If you're in a relationship and you're drowning then you should talk about it, sort it out. Not just be an arse hole.
If man can't have intimate with a wife they will look somewhere else. Don't take your marriage or husband for granted. Take care of yourself and be attractive for your husband. Man wants trophy wife. If he is loser, it's better let go.
I felt bad for the husband at first, but the fact he made her have sex just after surgery is absolutely disgusting. What an animal.
He really was a vile disgusting trash bag 🗑️😤🤨.
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WHY SUCH A HURRY to find a new man??? Learn to love yourself first.
But if she's comfortable what's the issue
A lonely person is always horny.
@@MargaretAlexander-t8r confortable so what? thats not the issue..
She's using men for her mobility
The audacity that he asked for intercourse right after surgery! I am happy that she is no longer with him. He is a bum and was using her! I hope she is happy today and healthy
Bad thing is that Gilbert is with another 600 lbs patient now & he even went with her to Dr. Now’s office and he was shocked.
That's ridiculous....She just lay in bed stuffing her face, while he was her slave and provider .
She was using him?
Why not. That's the least she can do for him. He a man at the end of the day
Can u tell me which video is that?@@GiGiBabs04
He was her full time care taker... I dont agree that cheating was right here, but give the guy credit for what he must have done for years...
That’s called gaslighting
No one forced him to, he made a choice. If he didn't like it, he was able to leave. He didn't need to be abusive.
Hardly anyone is monogamous in the true sense of the word and there's men that wouldn't do all that even if the woman was looking like a model.
Im so shocked that all these women who are morbidly obese have men and I see so many women single who are beautiful, intelligent and accomplished.
Is it that once your standards are lowered you are more likely to find SOMEBODY?
Is it that these women appeal to men who like to feel useful and caretake?
It's an intriguing phenomena truly...
He chose to be her full time caregiver. He could have left, but he chose to stay. I’m sure she receives a disability check, that is usually the case in situations like these. They are in it for the money. You can tell he doesn’t work.
As a caregiver he was in control of what she ate on a day-to-day basis.
I have noticed that the majority of these people experienced mental, physical, or sexual abuse
They're literally building a wall around them, using food
Leaving your toxic husband, moving to another place, and immediately hopping into a new relationship and talking marriage super quickly?? Sounds like a recipe for disaster. She needed therapy immensely before entering another union with a new man, while still being married to the husband she just left like a month prior. Yes, her husband was apparently a piece of work, but so is she. Who does that? Gonna bring all that trauma into a new relationship if she isn't healed.
Yes! Leave the men behind until you are completely healthy!
Complete agree! Why does she look so angry when talking about her new man?
That part
If you hadn’t noticed there was a two year gap before she started seeing that other man, at 6:02 2years and one month later she talks about being together for a month so that means she waited two years roughly before getting into a serious relationship. Which is not bad the majority of people from what studies say people take roughly 6 months to get over someone and sometimes longer depending on how much that person meant to you..
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👀 GIRL... BE SINGLE & HEAL, just focus on you 100%. No distractions
Plus why you wanna bring children into your mess. Not wise
@@chiquitacapers8155right no wise at all.
How in rhe heck did she another partner?
She needs to be in a relationship so that someone can wipe her ass.
These comments are so disgusting. Sure, he took care of her, but he mentally abused her until she agreed for intercourse, he didn't even take it seriously when she needed to go to the hospital because of it. He was also the reason she was gaining so much weight in the first place, and he cheated because Lupe couldn't please him. Open your eyes, you guys need help if you're still defending this maniac after reading my comment.
Edit: watched more of the video and realized he also stole her stuff after she dumped him.
Yeah he thinks sex is more important than her health. He even bought her donuts after seeing her blood sugar was over 400. He doesn’t love her at all.
She is not a baby, she is the own reason to gain wait not him. Stop blaming people for our own mistakes. He cheated thats wrong but he also was forced to take care of her and this is marriage two people should act in it not one. For the tv, while she is laying in bed I am pretty sure he was the bread winner
@@hkjm29 and it ignoring everything else I said. Like I said, you need help if ur still defending him.
@marymarzz she has a lot of blame in this situation also. She layed in bed all day and he bathed and wiped her ass every day. How many men do you think would do that for a woman in her condition? You know he was a loser and cheater but she kept him around because she needed her ass wiped. Once she lost weight then she dumped him. She is looking for a caretaker just like she found in the next guy. Let's see if this one stays long.
@@deebell8727 what? She left him bc he was cheating and overall being a terrible person. She didn’t leave him when she lost weight.
Actually, that husband had been with her through thick and thin. He is wiping her ass. All of his hard works should NOT be forgotten and erased and replaced with the word 'Cheater'. Lupe should be at least grateful for all the hardships he went through for her care. It's Lupe who was using him. Once she lost weight and able to take care of herself, she dumped him. Until then she stayed with him knowing about him cheating.
Very good points. I agree.
Thank you for acknowledging him and his effort through out their relationship; I was thinking the same thing as I read through the comments… cheating isn’t right, but he did stay with her while she was at her heaviest and helped her
@@karenjohnson5634 Thanks
@@ashleylara7127 Indeed. These people in the comments section do not have the ability to think around all the facts.
Yep. I agree
So she found another caregiver and they moved in together after just one month. Ok. Hope she continues to heal mentally and physically.
Some ppl need somewhere to live so they move fast, move in and take whatever they can can get & do what they gotta do to have a place to lay their head.
Some ppl need somewhere to live so they move fast, move in and take whatever they can can get & do what they gotta do to have a place to lay their head.
Love the brutal honesty of the doctor!
God bless his soul,cuz its not easy dealing with these patients
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CHEATING NEVER SOLVES ANYTHING. If you’re that u happy with your wife then LEAVE. Do her the favor of getting out of her life so she doesn’t have to put up with your cheating ass.
I don’t agree with cheating I’m not sure the guy should be labeled so badly. He became a caregiver. It must have been very lonely and isolating.
I agree, he was lonely and exhausted. Taking care of her was killing him inside. She also didn't seem all that appreciative of his care taking
I agree...all attention was on her, his need for love was being disregarded
Exactly, everyone quick to judge him. He's human being with his own needs that cannot be met by her... Wish them both happiness.
💯 agree
You can still leave before cheating. You can discuss things with your partner. You can get counseling. There is a lot you can do instead of cheating. bunch of enablers and cheating apologists
I wish all the doctors in USA truly care about the patients like this doctor most of them are about money
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It is a hard situation for both!!! I wish the best for both!!! I hope they can forgive and forget and have a happy life.
While I get what you are saying there is a word for what he was, enabler.
She's vulnerable. Easy to see. She needs to learn to stand up for herself and her boundaries.
But they literally never told us where she is now 😭
Lupe!❤ im so proud of you 🎉
Second to your comment 🎉super proud
How she had surgery and he asking for sex from her … that’s fkn crazy
Typical men
Didn't she say it was a month since her surgery
@@prettygirlleanna1 so … a month isn’t ish … didn’t you see her stitches pop open … are you completely unaware ?
400lbs. That's incredible.
Kudos to the doctor for keeping it real!
Her 1st guy went through alot, wiping her down, feeding her, taking her to doctors appointments , moving and lifting her all that is a full time job. Don't think 2nd guy will be around for long
Gilbert pressured her into sex. Then lost it. AND cheated! She's a smart strong woman!!! ❤
Трудно ему пришлось. Чем эта гора может заниматься, кроме как лежать на спине.
Сколько нужно съесть еды, чтобы стать этим ?
Да простит МИЛОСТИВЫЙ АЛЛАХ 🤲, СВЯТ ОН И ВЕЛИК, НАШИ ПРЕГРЕШЕНИЯ.
@@janelle9707 that was acculy rape
People sitting and protecting Richard. Dude asked to get laid right after surgery. Getting drunk. Cheating. Yeah, a real keeper.
Edit: Yes, I mean Gilbert. Sorry about that.
You mean Gilbert?
not the second guy! The first , Gilbert
Right, lol. I do understand both sides of the situation, but him wiping her ass is not equivalent to him being a cheater and a drunk. He put her through a lot emotionally which is probably how she ended up gaining the weight in the first place.
@@sweetgirl4u247 that rape what he did. If she don't feel she can sa no it's rape
@@MindTheBusinessThatPaysYou then he need to end relationship. Not fu** others or rape her
He was there for her and her letting herself get to this point is her own fault I don’t blame the guy for this she needs to forgive him
He has been taking care of her and she calls it abuse. Yes it is wrong he cheated, but she abused this marriage for years when she was completely relying and throwing everything on her husband
She knew he was a cheater. She just pretended not to notice because she needed him to bathe and wipe her ass. No man will do that for as long as he did. Let's see how long this new man hangs around. She didn't look happy with him.
I definitely agree with you
True, I agree with you.
Bro who ask someone to have sex after a surgery?? You are insane
I disagree
She was ridiculous thinking anyone should endure the abuse if her irresponsibility . He should have left instead if cheating
I know what cheating means,this is what I will say Gilbert was patient,not all men can do the works he did,most would’ve ran
He pressured her for sex right after major surgery and ripped her stitches. And when he left he took all of her stuff.
He is a bad person.
Watching this and cheering her on!! She deserved so much better and i hope she found it with her new guy!!! Proud of you!!!
i'm so proud of herr
Who wouldn’t cheat on a person that can’t even show love and respect to themselves? She couldn’t even be intimate with him…
NOTHING justifies cheating, you really don’t like someone or are tired of a relationship? LEAVE. Don’t cheat, it’s disgusting.
Can u blame her husband for cheating. Dude he still took care of her for long in her worst time. Cheating is different but he can't be that bad if he stood with her
Clearly didn’t even watch the whole of this video muchless the rest of their story
@@GwenApMannanan i did but I don't see her that sweet either. U r clearly not getting what I meant so forget it
Insisting on sex and then bursting her suture is abuse. No one is all good or all bad. Gilbert was her caretaker. That’s so hard to do, but that doesn’t mean he gets to put her life in danger
ARE YOU SERIOUS y tf would he ask her for sex after that major surgery ain’t no way I’m glad she left YES MAAM good for her
Thank you! He was her caretaker, is that taking good care of someone, to demand intimacy after surgery ? He been messing around, why aren't you relieving yourself now, instead of expecting this from her right after surgery?😢
@@pamelaholland404 right it literally made her rip open ain’t no way.
I’ll never understand how people become that large.
Hormones, medicine, genetics, poor diet, lack of exercise, digestive problems, absorption issues, and other diseases affects a person's weight.
@@aleathacoleman6413 why don’t they take precautionary measures before it gets too late? They get very bulky and can’t move themselves without support. Most of them need to undergo surgery for losing that much mass.
@@ankita19871 A lot of people take precautions like seeing a clinician for help with weight gain. Unfortunately, it may take years if not decades to get properly diagnosed. Medication adjustments may take months or years. They may not work. Changes in diet and including exercise may or may not help with weight loss. Everyone's experience with weight gain is different.
It was a ridiculous relationship from the get-go. But I’m proud of Lupe and her success.
Iono. I feel empathy for them both. He was candid about his sexual suppression (possibly not having other needs met by his wife) after caretaking for so long, and it drove him to drink and cheat. Meanwhile, she’s dealing with someone who broke a vow (through sickness and in health), however, as with any addiction, she also seems to have gotten to a point where her object of addiction was the center of her life. I’ve often thought that dealing with someone with an addiction feels like dealing with someone in an affair- it’s just not with a person. Addiction is hard on the addicted and extraordinarily hard on partners/anyone taking care of that person.
Now did he and the people around her enable her by bringing her huge portions of food when she wanted, it appears so. Would I have left him? Absolutely. It was obvious that, just like her, he started getting in a bad place mentally, which was possibly directly related to coping with his life with her. He was wrong for all his self-indulgent actions in the end. Period.
But all in all, how can I vilify just him? Both people’s choices and actions harmed one another. Both people had MAJOR issues with self control. Both became focused on how to get their physically needs met to the detriment of their health, physically, emotionally, and/or relationally. Both could no longer truly take care of one another- he couldn’t emotionally take care of her and she couldn’t physically (which led into emotionally) take care of him. Even in her talk about this next relationship she focused on how she herself is taken care of versus them taking care of each other. Iono.
I hope both her and her ex are continuing to invest in their health and are on a path to emotional and mental healing. ❤️🩹
This was such a good observation !
One of the things in the video that I saw Lupe do was exercising using movement of her arms with small dumb-bells -even though she was laying down. Which I think more weight loss candidates should constantly do movements activities even though they are laying down. Constant movement even if just waving their arms in circular patterns is better than laying there as a statue.
It would also be more of a change of mental state because they would be doing something toward their goal which they can actually do in that direction. Later as the pounds come off, adhering to Dr. Now's diet plan, they will be able to stand and expand their exercising. But initially do what they can - i.e. movement of arms, hands.
I agree. And especially if they also have bad hips, knees, back pain, etc they can do exercises lying down or sitting and they can build up their stamina and strength and see positive results.
Wait, but did she get hip surgery?? I gotta know! 😭
That doctor was not foolin around he meant business.
Keep your head up. God bless you. You got this!!!
See theres someone for everybody ❤
Always ❤
Yup ❤ Love is everywhere
The body is so amazing lupe plz take it slow in your new relationship
I'm sorry, but you need to NOT count on a man to take care of you!! Take months, even years to be happy with yourself - by yourself and take care of yourself! To quote the fabulous Ru Paul - " if you can't love yourself, how in the hell are you gonna love somebody else? Can I get an amen up in here?"
Obviously she has self love issues if she was 600 pounds. Some people need someone by them to help them through life and others are pk being by themselves. People deal with things differently.
She should be seeing a therapist, not looking to a man for love and validation. No good will ever come from looking to someone else to validate your self worth. What happens when this new guy cheats or decides to leave? She is right back to square one feeling unworthy of love. It's a dangerous headspace for someone to be in.@celiabrown153
@lorig-ski and that's your opinion and your entitled to it. Everyone deals with things differently.
Makes you wonder why the new guy is there? How can these women get these men?.
Agreed to many hurt people throwing more hurt around. Some people deal in insidious ways.
She’s looking so much better now she can live life
She needs all the support she can get.❤ No matter who it is.
This is amazing
She lost so much weight and she looks like an heathy and determined woman and fighter
She found another enabler and didn't do what she's supposed to do.
You are right my friend, how are you doing?
You are such a super strong woman ❤ keep going! We’re rooting for YOU!! You take care of YOURSELF FIRST!! Love yourself ❤
I wonder how Lupe is doing now.
I heard she passed away. Idk if that's true.
She is alive. You can look up her progress on google. By the article I read, she’s doing really well now.
@@anabatt1075someone please confirm this
I am so proud of her she will have that hip surgery and shed the extra pounds soon enough.
God loves this women and us all
Her husband went through hell
I agree. He was sticking around and helping her. I can only imagine how frustrated he was in his life. It seems like he loved her to do all that caretaking for her, but it looks like he was miserable inside too. He was probably very lonely. Maybe they were just a bad combination. Hope they both are doing good now
You two clearly didn’t watch the whole video or know the whole story
Nobody us seeing his side ! He needed love and being cared too he is human but … he lost we cheated! I dont understand why is she dating again while still progressing?
@@shesatthereandprayed4224 you sound ridiculous. Enablers and cheating apologists be crazy. And btw he treated her like shit. You didn’t even learn their story and you’re making excuses for him. Grow up
@@GwenApMannanan i will let u be because u are one sided on your comment ! Nobody enabled nothing here it was just a suggestion to consider the trauma of others ! Anyways I am grown and well set up Madam ! Hugs and good night
Why would he give her gastric sleeve and not the bypass??
I don’t blame him. He was a caretaker, not her lover.
When you marry to someone you promise to be with them through sickness and in health. He was her husband, that was his job that HE signed up for. If he wanted someone else he should’ve decided that before marrying her, then being honest with her rather than cheating and mentally abusing her. God bless you tho🫶
@@OurGodlsGreater yeah I know but geesh she lied to him from the beginning. She catfished him too. The marriage was built upon a lie and he still cared for her. God bless you as well hun
@@nickidrew5113 She shouldn’t have lied to him and catfished him, but imo he shouldn’t have made that oath if he wasn’t willing to live up to it. Have a blessed day/night🤍🤍
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@nickidrew5113 then he should break up with her, not cheat. Cheating is disgusting and dishonest, there is no excuse.
What we must consider is that he might actually enjoy the state she was in. There is some kind of fetish related to this, I forgot the name. And her losing weight might have been the catalyst for the cheating. She also needs to take time on her own. Moving on that quickly is insane.
So Gilbert had to get laid right after that skin surgery? Dang. I can’t say that was right. EDIT: can’t make it to a single session of psychotherapy. Now she is getting in her own way.
she is making progress! dont let anyone slow you down!
Wow wow wow she did great!!! I hope she reaches her goal.
Good for you Lupe! That is an incredible miraculous journey. You are so brave. Extremely proud of you for staying with it. I pray you always keep in touch with your self care of love of self. Praise the Lord for carrying you through. 🙏🕊🕊🕊Blessings for your new rebirth🌹🙏🕊🕊🕊
You got this girl. Push forward you look amazing ❤❤❤
My son’s ex wife has been married 5 times! Within 2 weeks of leaving my son and talking about getting back together, she was moving in with her ‘soul mate’. I assume he’ll be husband number 6. Ugh, some people just can’t be alone. And with all the loose skin and the weight loss, she probably felt if he told her that he cared, then she should jump into it head first.
I’ve lost 200 pounds and the loose skin is driving me crazy. I couldn’t even imagine trying to date with it though.
Thank God my husband is around for me. We’ve been together for 21 years.
Sure jan
I guess he was a feeder and she was his victim
You are awesome, I just lost 60 pounds and I feel great hope you do too because we deserve to feel good about ourselves plus look great!
this man is one In a million .such men are rare these days .
Please don’t come back with that man!!! You will have a beautiful future!
I don't know how the husband put up with Lupe as long as he did!!!!!
lol, how are you doing 👋👋
Really working hard not to gain weight it literally scares me.....not for my husband or anyone just for myself...I hope she heals and all others who are in such condition
That guy has every right to run.
Relationship is to support eachother till end unconditionally when it's feel like toxic so need to move on bcz it will affect health she is such a strong woman I'm feeling proud how she struggle for weight loss finally she did it❤😊👍🏻
Once is a cheater is always one
Her first BF did a lot! Can’t blame him for cheating as to care for someone like this is way beyond a normal relationship.
How ungrateful I am for my good health
She needs to remember a number is a number, keep positive and keep going.
Wait a minute did she just say HE was holding HER back??
She has done INCREDIBLE despite what came her way. Not perfect (no one in life is) but she’s WINNING
Her husband literally did everything for her easy on him
Yeah, except the sex part
If I gained so much weight that I couldn't take care of myself and completely depended on my man to provide and bathe me, I wouldn't be surprised if he did cheat. Honestly, I wouldn't blame him either. I wouldn't want him to be miserable because I am miserable. It takes a certain kind of person to care for someone who doesn't care about themselves. In reality, they both were bad for each other.
💯💯💯 my thoughts exactly. Yeah he cheated. But he also bathed her, wiped her ass, wheeled her ass wherever she needed to go because she was immobile…fuck I wouldn’t blame my husband. ‘Yeah he might’ve fucked you…but then he came home & wiped my ass and took care of all of my daily needs because I can’t take care of myself & if I can’t take care of myself and my needs then it’s highly likely I’m incapable of taking care of any of HIS needs either but yet here he is anyways.” Maybe my mentality is just fucked up? But hell he does all that shit for her and then it’s a lose/lose. He cheats - he’s an asshole so he pressures HER for sex - he’s an asshole. The timing was inconsiderate and fucked her stitches up and she had to go to the ER for it…bet she probably wishes he would’ve just got it from somewhere else and then came back home and resumed caretaker role instead but not too many people would admit to thinking that because they like playing the victim roll instead (“poor me, he had sex with another woman. The fact that I can’t/wont/just don’t want to help him bust a nut while he is literally taking care of a 600lb baby essentially that he calls his wife is irrelevant though.”) smh I hope her new dude knows he’s just the rebound caretaker so I wouldn’t get TOO invested in that new ‘1 month long yet moved in already because we’re ‘in love’ relationship” FFS I would just be flattered that even after seeing the absolute WORST parts of me, my body, and living like t
hat every single day that my husband could even get it up to fuck me at all in the first place. And WANTED to, not just stomach it because *I* wanted sex lol.
Keep your chin up, Lupe! Please focus on your relationship with YOURSELF before you commit to another serious relationship with someone else! Friends are good, but you’ve got to find peace within your own self first. My two cents, sending you my warmest wishes.
Hello 👋
A new full time caregiver???
Does she still require full time care??? Who is the bread winner???
I'm so glad she got rid of him.
I don't blame her husband was cheating on her that was her fault. She didn't take care of her self until that heavy.
I hope she heals and most importantly not relapse back into her previous weight. Imo, both she and her new partner need to adopt a healthy and sustainable lifestyle
The women is ungrateful
That guy has seen the worst of her no one would care for her like he did
And ofcourse when u take care of someone for that period it would make anyone exhausted
Nvm wish he gets a good wife she gets a good husband
Family members have a bigger part in these peoples lives more than they will ever admit. Family enables her and keeps feeding her crap. Make her get up and make her own food.
I have 0 sympathy for these people. They want someone to wait on them hand and foot. Give me a break.
You been with this new guy for a month and you moved in with him already come on now honey you can't be doing that stuff focus on yourself nobody else right now
You are looking great Lupe Fantastic Job
Lupe u must understand ur husband he gave his entire life in taking care of u if he did something wrong you must understand it
Cheating is still wrong
@@Potato-me4wu definitely it's wrong, but IDK, if I had to wipe my hypothetical man's a$s, bathe him in bed constantly and he had that size, eventually I guess he wouldn't be the dashing handsome guy I fell in love with, yes, you promised for better or worse, but the flames switch turns off forever with such sights 😅
Well I really don’t understand why she allowed herself to get that big, the thing is food is good I cannot deny that fact but it’s only meant to be consumed when we are hungry but I hope she get the help she needs
I have never seen such a huge person 😮. It's must be very hard and dangerous.
She got a free nurse. Eye-candy.
He was a bum.
😂😂😂
Don't blame other people when they are no longer part of your life, don't talk to others that talk or tell you about the people you are done with.
Feel sorry for Lupe
I have been single for 2 years now
I want a serious relationship
A God fearing person
That's lovely ❤
How many men would even stay as long as he did??
A good, supportive partner will make a world of difference!!! Happy for you sweetheart!!! ❤
Can't completely blame the man some things are hard to do and not everyone is strong , at least he was there when she needed him most that's what is important