Why YOU feel guilty saying no to the narcissist
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- Опубліковано 24 січ 2024
- Putting up boundaries takes practice #narcissism #narcissist #narcissistic
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My narc sisters will defend random strangers against me their blood relation. But when they fall sick,they literally expect me to come take care of them. HELL NO
Yessssss!! They defend everyone, even other narcissists who have harmed you and your children. This is totally crazy!
Mine is the same way. She'll practically lick their buttons and have no problem throwing me under a bus in defense of these people. But when she needs something I'm the one helping. The sad thing is: none of these folks hang around. A few times I've been around these toxic people she gravitates towards and they treat her so disrespectfully that I get so mad, since she's my blood relative. These folks don't pull that crap on me 'cause my body language says "do not cross my boundary". I've made peace with the fact that she's a narcissist and ignore her most of the time.
I feel the same way!!!
My whole family is this way!
When I realised what a loser he was I felt empowered. Some of the things he’d accused me of mirrored his own behaviour. Saying no is so much easier and he can no longer control or manipulate me and he’s devastated. I no longer feel guilty saying no.
I’ll tell you what, I said I didn’t want to run errands anymore for the narcissist because I didn’t feel appreciated . Narcissist had nothing to say, no apologies at all. That told me everything I needed to know. I made the right choice guilt free.
When you discern that you are dealing with a narcissist say NO should be our default setting. Our best friend.
once you know about narcissists and get the wisdom and knowledge, saying NO becomes a great pleasure of life.
being able to sidestep toxic idiots becomes a superpower.
cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁
Your advice and your attitude are a great source of reassurance and support. Currently going through this whole thing with my sister who always throws a tantrum whenever things don't go her way. The last time it came up I've finally said no and I'm going to stand with what I said.
Knocked another one out of the park.
Profound
Deep
Crystal clear
Thank you D
I wholeheartedly agree with you Danielle. I was disrespected by a narc recently and it was the last straw. I simply ignored them to their face and they went scurrying away. I felt no guilt 😂 I am feeling my strength in my NO and it’s freeing and joyful ❤🎉
That's great advice. I'm always stuck because my parents adopted me, got me through high school, and gave me so much, but now I'm being treated like I was just a foster child the whole time. There's just no way I can cut the cord emotionally, but there's also no way I can let them keep sabotaging my endeavors.
Yes yes...healthy person appreciates that.
At work - I said I can't come on sunday.
My boss said- What you do on sunday!
That was very surprising for me
so true, boundaries are on lock
Always a pleasure watching your videos full of knowledge and wisdom
Thanks sis❤️🩹
⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Empaths have their own "Muscle-Memory Dynamic" played against them...
Great content,as always🙏💗
I’m not in a relationship because it’s invisible.
They'd choose not to kill themselves just to keep their source alive.
If it's their own source they will extend it from time to time, minus the gratitude it might bring or return.
To then find the humour.
Good one ty Ms Danielle
On a side note, get your Blood Pressure checked. Because that always takes a hit. Ended up on five different BP and Heart meds.
Pretty sure I know the cause of that.😮
Where you always walking too lol
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Thank you so much for your educational videos..
Does there actions match there words ? ( If not ) Just go NO CONTACT.... No excuses...just Leave quickly...no conversation needed just turn n Go✌️