Please tell this to the therapists whom I told about my mother's decades of manipulation, lies, deceit and humiliation. "Oh, you must understand her, she's just afraid of losing you." Sure. But because she needs to use me. It has nothing to do with so-called motherly love.
@@riyajacob2909That's exactly right and you'd know that they do everything possible to keep it at bay, which is understandable, especially in the case of extreme childhood trauma issues! Another point is that some highly narcissistic people do end up taking their own lives if it gets too much, for whatever reason. It doesn't make it okay to take it all out on loved ones, or anyone else, for that matter, though. 🙁
Please, please have someone else on the bench, as I was never in a relationship with the narc. We had zero in common. My kindness sometimes gets me in trouble. I have things to work on, particularly boundaries.
They were abandoned via parents of all basic emotional needs and taught to perform for hand claps instead of consistency, hugs, validation of reality, caring, parental mirroring, resilience, self calming, routine, reliability, stamina, responsibility, hygiene, self care, self talk, reassurance, concern of others, pet care, reality testing, object relations, empathy, kindness, diaper changing, manners, right n wrong, feed bact to developed super ego, no ability to assimilate new information, developed fantacy world with them as king or queen, never learned to regulate self, verbally, emotionally..ouch got me a blister..I'll stop 🙂 if y'all curious ✓ our Dr Piaget's stages of development..it will shine light
I can fully attest to every word of that. I was putting it all together before I even knew this was a thing. You get this feeling like your just an appliance and they think they can just say whatever mean spirited thing they want to you and youre just gonna take it.
I am a sheet of paper!!! Excellent analogy!!! Well right now my narc has a Sharpie trying to write all over me. Thanks for the videos, they help very much.
Honestly this is so sad. They’re dying inside, and keep sabotaging any chance for love or healthy relationship. My narc was not completely evil. I wish she could get better. I’ll never take her back, but I still want her to get better…
These videos are great!! Thanks for sharing! I'm trying to get through to someone who has been the victim of severe narcissistic abuse for many, many years and has a really bad case of identification with the aggressor. This person is on ig but I can't seem to find your videos there? Do you have an ig page? I'd love to share your videos in my stories so this person can see them!
Because their mother the main care giver never met their needs and their father was emotionally unavailable and now as adults just see how they abandon their own children and turn you into a single parent because their father was emotionally unavailable or absent
Abandon them now..it doesn't matter..nothing about them matters ever again..free up some hard drive space .they see ppl in a framework in their child hood insane brain movie as a character to benefit them .none of which you'll ever know about cause we all bite at their distractions .I asked her point blank in a calm low voice directly in front w/eye contact, " who abused and neglected you in child hood" ..no answer, I didn't care she knows I know as I showed her my back
Please tell this to the therapists whom I told about my mother's decades of manipulation, lies, deceit and humiliation.
"Oh, you must understand her, she's just afraid of losing you." Sure. But because she needs to use me. It has nothing to do with so-called motherly love.
As far as im concerned they have no shame.
Bingo!
@@nothingbutthetruth564,they show it like that.they are full of shame
@@riyajacob2909That's exactly right and you'd know that they do everything possible to keep it at bay, which is understandable, especially in the case of extreme childhood trauma issues!
Another point is that some highly narcissistic people do end up taking their own lives if it gets too much, for whatever reason. It doesn't make it okay to take it all out on loved ones, or anyone else, for that matter, though. 🙁
Narcissists want you to make excuses and allowances for their behavior.
They hate themselves most and that ego is never going to let them rest.
I LEFT AND DIDN'T LOOK BACK!
Please, please have someone else on the bench, as I was never in a relationship with the narc. We had zero in common. My kindness sometimes gets me in trouble. I have things to work on, particularly boundaries.
Very well said. Thank you!
Oh my god you just described everything I was going through with a hundred percent accuracy!
I turned into a shell of who I once was, I’m now trying day to day to start my new life
Baby Steps, day by day, and Self compassion, be gentle with yourself,it takes time but is achievable ✨💚✨
@@angelakeely5859 Thank you kindly for the support!
I am there too. Working on getting myself back!! Stay strong 💪🏻 ✨️
You've got this!!
@@angelakeely5859 Thank you I appreciate the support!
@@trying2survive602 Good luck!
They were abandoned via parents of all basic emotional needs and taught to perform for hand claps instead of consistency, hugs, validation of reality, caring, parental mirroring, resilience, self calming, routine, reliability, stamina, responsibility, hygiene, self care, self talk, reassurance, concern of others, pet care, reality testing, object relations, empathy, kindness, diaper changing, manners, right n wrong, feed bact to developed super ego, no ability to assimilate new information, developed fantacy world with them as king or queen, never learned to regulate self, verbally, emotionally..ouch got me a blister..I'll stop 🙂 if y'all curious ✓ our Dr Piaget's stages of development..it will shine light
They fear loss of control over people in their lives, so they fear abandonment.
I can fully attest to every word of that. I was putting it all together before I even knew this was a thing. You get this feeling like your just an appliance and they think they can just say whatever mean spirited thing they want to you and youre just gonna take it.
You are gifted.. this was a great explanation!❤
I am a sheet of paper!!! Excellent analogy!!! Well right now my narc has a Sharpie trying to write all over me. Thanks for the videos, they help very much.
Honestly this is so sad. They’re dying inside, and keep sabotaging any chance for love or healthy relationship. My narc was not completely evil. I wish she could get better. I’ll never take her back, but I still want her to get better…
🎯Bullseye Accurate Video Danielle is the.....💣
Outstanding analogy. ❤
These videos are great!! Thanks for sharing! I'm trying to get through to someone who has been the victim of severe narcissistic abuse for many, many years and has a really bad case of identification with the aggressor. This person is on ig but I can't seem to find your videos there? Do you have an ig page? I'd love to share your videos in my stories so this person can see them!
Thanks Danielle
"You abandoned me...just like all the others."
"I see. Well, have you really taken the time to consider how deeply you truly suck?"
100% accurate
Those who have been abused by narcissists are also highly fearful of abandonment and rightfully sy
Agreed 100%
Because their mother the main care giver never met their needs and their father was emotionally unavailable and now as adults just see how they abandon their own children and turn you into a single parent because their father was emotionally unavailable or absent
I’m fine with that just wish you had told me sooner for even more satisfaction.
Abandon them now..it doesn't matter..nothing about them matters ever again..free up some hard drive space .they see ppl in a framework in their child hood insane brain movie as a character to benefit them .none of which you'll ever know about cause we all bite at their distractions .I asked her point blank in a calm low voice directly in front w/eye contact, " who abused and neglected you in child hood" ..no answer, I didn't care she knows I know as I showed her my back
💯💯💯