I should have stayed alone and not have married my now husband. Marriage for me sucks I have never felt so humiliated alone and hurt in my life. I hope marriage goes well for others and they don't have to suffer the misery I am in with no way out.
I agree, but for all we know, he may have been trying to tell her that all along maybe not in so many words, but sometimes women (myself included) tend to hear what they want to hear & tune out rest. She may have thought he would change his mind or perhaps he was just tense, or she may have been too caught up in "her wedding" to really hear what he had to say. To a lot of brides, it's all about them& their day where they reign for a few hours. They just want a wedding, & have no concept of what marriage is supposed to be about.
I know of a young couple in their early 20's where the groom did not actually propose to the bride @ not in the traditional way (something like an offhand "someday we will"). She finally weighed him down & she ended up paying for everything including her ring. Her reason for wanting to marry; because all her friends were & she was the only one who wasn't. A very good way to start a marriage.
Sapphire586 maybe it wasn’t but maybe you can work out in the end that I can be sure of or maybe it won’t I have nothing against people in their early 20s Marrying there’s nothing wrong with being married young It all depends on who you marry and if they are mature enough But even though she did not the best occasion to marry him maybe she might find happiness in the end with this man or possibly not
I don't agree. I think that it was probably better to call off the wedding than be in an unhappy marriage. What he should be ashamed of is not telling her to her face that he didn't want to get married
My story might be a little different. Back in 1994, I thought I met the man of my dreams. We dated and supposedly fell in love, we were together for approximately 4 years and we were engaged within the first 2 years of knowing each other. Every time I brought up setting a date and planning the wedding, my fiance would start an argument to avoid sitting down with me to plan. In the fourth year of us being together, I got tired of waiting and decided to end the relationship. He seemed so relieved, but I was very upset and felt like I wasted 4 years for nothing. My cousin saw him a week later with his ex-girlfriend, and that hurt me even more. Ladies, we should never waste our time with a man who doesn't seem happy in a relationship with us. We have to understand that our time is valuable and that we do have our biological clocks ticking away. I wrote a Kindle ebook, it's a romance called, Don't Throw The Rice Yet. I will leave a link for you to check it out if you're interested. There is also a trailer I will share. www.amazon.com/Dont-Throw-Rice-Leslie-Trotter-ebook/dp/B07BMHMFGH/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1551205584&sr=8-1&keywords=don%27t+throw+the+rice+yet ua-cam.com/video/PLcE5KIK2II/v-deo.html
First off I got to say is I’m sorry that that happened to you But I’m glad you found something great to help you with that problem that you probably were heartbroken but you found a way to mend the heartbreak
The American tradition is that the father of the bride pays for the wedding. This makes it easy for the groom to break off the engagement. Had he spent some of his own money, and helped plan the wedding, he wouldn't of been able to break it off so easily. The brides should SUE the grooms in court!
When you’re talking about a lifetime commitment, the dude probably had a reality check and decided to end it. And we don’t know his side. She could be a nightmare, for all we know.
Wow this is why I gave my heart to Christ first and fasted for a year before marrying my husband. I really didn’t want to make the mistake of marrying the wrong person.
I know how it feels...awful feeling and I know that it hurts like hell especially if someone puts it all online and you have to tell the other half to take it down......
I don't understand how people can spend so much money for one day. You can just get marry in the courthouse and use that money for something more useful like a business or a home or anything that will help you in the long run.
My friend paid $100 for her dress. It was designed for prom. She looked sooooo gorg and it was super smart of her to realize she'd look fab whether cloaked in a garment of $100 or $1,000. 🙌
i had something silimar to that so last year in 2023 my sister was supposed to get married on labor day weekend in sedona so 11 days before i saw my mom at my football game and at 1st i thought maybe southwest did not wanna leave her behind but when i got home from filming the game we had to get ice cream and i thought maybe we were gonna do ice cream party before the wedding and then when we got home my mom was in tears and she said the wedding got called off and i was shocked and upset and it was so heartbroken
Well I can say is that I’m glad things worked out for these rights despite their former fiancé’s calling off the wedding and breaking their hearts but still managed to find happiness in the end that’s one thing I don’t get about guys like this you weren’t ready for marriage or you feel like this woman is not the right one for you to marry so why did you propose to them Or as for Kylie‘s ex fiancé I can say is why did you wait a week before the wedding was to take place rather than between those two years you were engaged to her that you decided you didn’t want to marry her and most of all you did it by text rather than saying it to her face if you’re going to break up with somebody you should always do it to their face no matter how much it hurts it’s better to do it in person but I’m glad it turned out good For these two brides in the end
@@brilliantmind9729 You're absolutely correct Liz. No smart man should marry a woman that is drowning in debt. Especially student loans because they can't be terminated even through a bankruptcy court.
I’d still keep the wedding if I was her and I would marry myself. It would be a great family and friends reunion and perfect opportunity for family to help heal the bride’s devastating heart break. Why waste a perfectly planned ceremony right?
I’ve been in so many weddings!! I was like incame with the wedding package. One friend was going to marry her guy, we planned an elaborate wedding ever.!! Should’ve known since then when he did Rae about one detail for the wedding. And he didn’t pay a cent to a 20;000 plus for their wedding. He just had to show up, he did. They had a beautiful wedding, 4-6 days later they had a tiny disagreement over a cake mix. He left for a drive to cool off and is still cooling somewhere! Lol!!😂😂😂. Another wedding I was in. After fhe traditional dinner the night before the wedding and maybe the wedding party and bride, groom etc., decorate the venue. We did that and the bride and groom fought the entire as if we weren’t there. The mothers of both bride and groom are crying the fathers are the ready to rumble!! Because by now the insults are getting personal as each families of the brides side and the grooms side start attacking each other so then the physical fight starts!!! Their yelling oh hell no are you going to talk to my mother that way!!! And giving my dad these looks!!! Are ups all crazy, the bride is a me,ting mess by now and given up on decorations. But daddy’s little girl is crying because of YOU he’s determined to knock the punk out!!! Until finally the bride says ITS OFF, READ MY LIPS OVER!!! Then do the future in laws all start hugging and comforting the bride. But held her ground. Saying if this is what happens to all you married women then I want no part of it. And I love him, but not LOVE HIM ENOUGH TO PUT UP WITH HIS FAMILY!!! And like the runaway bride she’s running out the door and into,the night!!! Lol!!!!! Smart girl!!! You’ve got to really LOVE the one your with, time doesn’t change much, and pretending takes to much work. When you wake up one day and realize I’m so lonely what did I agree to all those many yrs ago or 1 yr. ago.........
About 6 months before the wedding she started getting a little too close to a guy friend... then just a few weeks before the wedding i learned of a little get-together she was planning with him. Once that trust was gone it was over.
Why would you want to marry somebody that doesn't want to be with you. Women seems to go overboard and forget the man they are marrying. You always hear them say my wedding. Never allowing him to be a part of the planning. Screaming at him becoming a Bridezilla. He starts to take at look her behavior and changes him mind. Some guys feels pushed not knowing how to say no. Women better start listening what he's not saying. Overreacted and over spending. Women says they been dreaming about their sense they a little girl. Even they are saying their 💒 wedding not our wedding. I agree waiting to the day or week of calling off its not good to happen. Next time make him feels included and listen to some of his ideas. Include his family too. Don't act like a spoiled brat.
🙋♂️ Question: if there were only two options which of these do you think is better… Is it better to call your fiancé on the day of the wedding and cancel it OR is it better to go through with the wedding and then get immediately divorced right afterward? Thoughts?
You do find true happiness, even if it is being alone. Trust me, being alone is better than being in a bad relationship/marriage.
Hudson1910 Hell yes!
Very true!
I should have stayed alone and not have married my now husband. Marriage for me sucks I have never felt so humiliated alone and hurt in my life. I hope marriage goes well for others and they don't have to suffer the misery I am in with no way out.
Strongly agree.
You don't want to marry her, that's OK. Just why wait until the last minute to call it off?
SFV Native by text no less! What a loser.
I agree, but for all we know, he may have been trying to tell her that all along maybe not in so many words, but sometimes women (myself included) tend to hear what they want to hear & tune out rest. She may have thought he would change his mind or perhaps he was just tense, or she may have been too caught up in "her wedding" to really hear what he had to say. To a lot of brides, it's all about them& their day where they reign for a few hours. They just want a wedding, & have no concept of what marriage is supposed to be about.
Better to find out before the wedding than after.
Sweet Kylie... you are a true hero! I'm SO impressed with how you handled that. I know you've found the man of your dreams by now.
Why propose if your not ready?
I know of a young couple in their early 20's where the groom did not actually propose to the bride @ not in the traditional way (something like an offhand "someday we will"). She finally weighed him down & she ended up paying for everything including her ring. Her reason for wanting to marry; because all her friends were & she was the only one who wasn't. A very good way to start a marriage.
Sapphire586 maybe it wasn’t but maybe you can work out in the end that I can be sure of or maybe it won’t I have nothing against people in their early 20s Marrying there’s nothing wrong with being married young
It all depends on who you marry and if they are mature enough
But even though she did not the best occasion to marry him maybe she might find happiness in the end with this man or possibly not
Maybe he didn't want to disappoint her or maybe he experienced peer pressure from his parents to faster get married.
He should be ashamed of himself for calling off the Wedding. God will send her someone better. No Woman deserves that.
I don't agree. I think that it was probably better to call off the wedding than be in an unhappy marriage. What he should be ashamed of is not telling her to her face that he didn't want to get married
Tbh I would want someone to let me know rather than hold it in and be miserable.
Well done! ... good on you girl! ... you're solid! (I'm clapping my approval...lol) xx
Many people get married on their wedding day ! Knowing it’s a bad decision 💯
My story might be a little different. Back in 1994, I thought I met the man of my dreams. We dated and supposedly fell in love, we were together for approximately 4 years and we were engaged within the first 2 years of knowing each other. Every time I brought up setting a date and planning the wedding, my fiance would start an argument to avoid sitting down with me to plan. In the fourth year of us being together, I got tired of waiting and decided to end the relationship. He seemed so relieved, but I was very upset and felt like I wasted 4 years for nothing. My cousin saw him a week later with his ex-girlfriend, and that hurt me even more.
Ladies, we should never waste our time with a man who doesn't seem happy in a relationship with us. We have to understand that our time is valuable and that we do have our biological clocks ticking away. I wrote a Kindle ebook, it's a romance called, Don't Throw The Rice Yet. I will leave a link for you to check it out if you're interested. There is also a trailer I will share.
www.amazon.com/Dont-Throw-Rice-Leslie-Trotter-ebook/dp/B07BMHMFGH/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1551205584&sr=8-1&keywords=don%27t+throw+the+rice+yet
ua-cam.com/video/PLcE5KIK2II/v-deo.html
Unwritten Newbie Writer Rule- no self promos in youtube comments. Bad looks. Save that ish for Twitter. ❤
Sounds like my story. I was with my fiance for 3 years and he married someone else. So i went on a awesome adventure for one whole year!
First off I got to say is I’m sorry that that happened to you
But I’m glad you found something great to help you with that problem that you probably were heartbroken but you found a way to mend the heartbreak
I know the feeling girl! My fiancé did exactly the same a day before our wedding !
All the pressure from friends and family, I’m shocked more people don’t bail.
All money wasted on weddings is gone for good no matter what... lame waste of money seriously
The American tradition is that the father of the bride pays for the wedding. This makes it easy for the groom to break off the engagement. Had he spent some of his own money, and helped plan the wedding, he wouldn't of been able to break it off so easily. The brides should SUE the grooms in court!
Grooms should pay a dowry in the amount of the wedding plans, refundable on completion.
The problem is people are to desperate to get my married. Half these people end up getting divorced eventually.
More like they are desperate for sex.
Of course we're only hearing one side of the story, I bet ge had his reasons.
When you’re talking about a lifetime commitment, the dude probably had a reality check and decided to end it. And we don’t know his side. She could be a nightmare, for all we know.
Wow this is why I gave my heart to Christ first and fasted for a year before marrying my husband. I really didn’t want to make the mistake of marrying the wrong person.
She has freedom now. Good for her.
I know how it feels...awful feeling and I know that it hurts like hell especially if someone puts it all online and you have to tell the other half to take it down......
I don't understand how people can spend so much money for one day. You can just get marry in the courthouse and use that money for something more useful like a business or a home or anything that will help you in the long run.
Lol agree
Forget about the elaborate weddings! You can have something elaborate on your first anniversary
25,000!!!!???? For a wedding dress!? Why!!!????
Cause people are stupid
My friend paid $100 for her dress. It was designed for prom. She looked sooooo gorg and it was super smart of her to realize she'd look fab whether cloaked in a garment of $100 or $1,000. 🙌
I just want to know why anyone would want to spend that kind of money on a one time event. Put it towards a home or car.
Preferably a home, and savings for the children if they plan to have any.
i had something silimar to that so last year in 2023 my sister was supposed to get married on labor day weekend in sedona so 11 days before i saw my mom at my football game and at 1st i thought maybe southwest did not wanna leave her behind but when i got home from filming the game we had to get ice cream and i thought maybe we were gonna do ice cream party before the wedding and then when we got home my mom was in tears and she said the wedding got called off and i was shocked and upset and it was so heartbroken
Well I can say is that I’m glad things worked out for these rights despite their former fiancé’s calling off the wedding and breaking their hearts but still managed to find happiness in the end that’s one thing I don’t get about guys like this you weren’t ready for marriage or you feel like this woman is not the right one for you to marry so why did you propose to them
Or as for Kylie‘s ex fiancé I can say is why did you wait a week before the wedding was to take place rather than between those two years you were engaged to her that you decided you didn’t want to marry her and most of all you did it by text rather than saying it to her face if you’re going to break up with somebody you should always do it to their face no matter how much it hurts it’s better to do it in person but I’m glad it turned out good For these two brides in the end
...and he lived happily ever after. If you think the wedding industry is expensive, just wait until you hear about the divorce industry.
You can feel her pain
Wow. I got dumped a week before my wedding because I still have/paying my student loans. He claimed it was too much stress.
coretta haynes I’m so sorry! It’s been a year yeah? I hope you’re doing better...and have found true love💕💕💕
Lol your priority should've been paying off your student loan instead of getting married. He was a smart man for leaving you.
liz beth don’t be a bitch, Liz.
@@brilliantmind9729 You're absolutely correct Liz. No smart man should marry a woman that is drowning in debt. Especially student loans because they can't be terminated even through a bankruptcy court.
@@jimtennison1 what?
That man said “He threw away the winning lottery ticket”
Just wow! She dodge the bullet and found the one for her! 4:30
I’d still keep the wedding if I was her and I would marry myself. It would be a great family and friends reunion and perfect opportunity for family to help heal the bride’s devastating heart break. Why waste a perfectly planned ceremony right?
There are two sides to the story. It’s better to call off a wedding even a week before, versus getting married then a big expensive divorce.
I’ve been in so many weddings!! I was like incame with the wedding package. One friend was going to marry her guy, we planned an elaborate wedding ever.!! Should’ve known since then when he did Rae about one detail for the wedding. And he didn’t pay a cent to a 20;000 plus for their wedding. He just had to show up, he did. They had a beautiful wedding, 4-6 days later they had a tiny disagreement over a cake mix. He left for a drive to cool off and is still cooling somewhere! Lol!!😂😂😂. Another wedding I was in. After fhe traditional dinner the night before the wedding and maybe the wedding party and bride, groom etc., decorate the venue. We did that and the bride and groom fought the entire as if we weren’t there. The mothers of both bride and groom are crying the fathers are the ready to rumble!! Because by now the insults are getting personal as each families of the brides side and the grooms side start attacking each other so then the physical fight starts!!! Their yelling oh hell no are you going to talk to my mother that way!!! And giving my dad these looks!!! Are ups all crazy, the bride is a me,ting mess by now and given up on decorations. But daddy’s little girl is crying because of YOU he’s determined to knock the punk out!!! Until finally the bride says ITS OFF, READ MY LIPS OVER!!! Then do the future in laws all start hugging and comforting the bride. But held her ground. Saying if this is what happens to all you married women then I want no part of it. And I love him, but not LOVE HIM ENOUGH TO PUT UP WITH HIS FAMILY!!! And like the runaway bride she’s running out the door and into,the night!!! Lol!!!!! Smart girl!!! You’ve got to really LOVE the one your with, time doesn’t change much, and pretending takes to much work. When you wake up one day and realize I’m so lonely what did I agree to all those many yrs ago or 1 yr. ago.........
You are such much better off without that loser
I hope you found true love. By now
So sad that her fiance dumped her , what's the reason ?
dudes said nahhh im good hahahah
I called my wedding off the day before... best thing i ever did.
What made you change your mind? What were the signs?
About 6 months before the wedding she started getting a little too close to a guy friend... then just a few weeks before the wedding i learned of a little get-together she was planning with him. Once that trust was gone it was over.
Fuck that! Good thing you called the whole thing off!
You waited ONE DAY BEFORE? What an &^*&^(*&!
Read the above comments Janet.
I would rather live alone period by Steve Irungu Jermaine
Dude looked up the divorce laws in the state 🤣 said hell no
That’s not funny
@@benjaminbingaman1848 Sure it is! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Could have donated it to charity..
Who did Robyn Ludwig's make-up? It's terrible!
But is trashing the dress a good idea tho it costs alot
God had something better for her!
Smart man! If he's reading this, NEVER! get married! #Bachelor4life! 🤣🤣🤣
Terrible..
What a load of rubbish.
It's usually women who call off the 💑 wedding.
There's way more to this than their letting on.
The guys will be better off
The man I merry 12 year ago. His ex wife came in our reception and he walked out with her
O - O
DAMN!!!!
Why would you want to marry somebody that doesn't want to be with you. Women seems to go overboard and forget the man they are marrying. You always hear them say my wedding. Never allowing him to be a part of the planning. Screaming at him becoming a Bridezilla. He starts to take at look her behavior and changes him mind. Some guys feels pushed not knowing how to say no. Women better start listening what he's not saying.
Overreacted and over spending.
Women says they been dreaming about their sense they a little girl. Even they are saying their 💒 wedding not our wedding. I agree waiting to the day or week of calling off its not good to happen. Next time make him feels included and listen to some of his ideas. Include his family too. Don't act like a spoiled brat.
Well said, sister!!!!!!
2 bullets dodged..... MGTOW.
Amen
One of his bros smacked some sense into him!
But of course society portrays men as villains and mommas boy losers.
100 days exactly for me
How are you now
Notice the blond ended up getting married. Men want only blondes.
....what?
🙋♂️ Question: if there were only two options which of these do you think is better… Is it better to call your fiancé on the day of the wedding and cancel it OR is it better to go through with the wedding and then get immediately divorced right afterward? Thoughts?