@@wendellknight2072 woa! Where have you been lately?! Boys are absolutely being told to become women. Especially if they show a sliver of femininity. Plays with a "girl toy", gets his nails painted by his sisters, etc.. They push them to go trans
Yes! The teachers were pressuring me to medicate my son. I started taking him to the park before school to let him run around before class. To me ripping a kid out of bed and expecting them to sit all day and work with a pencil makes no sense to me🤦♀️
it doesn't make sense at all Melissa and it just destroys a little boys' love of learning and hurts their adventurous spirit. That spirit is where creativity, daring, and leadership start being formed
That's why I make my kids ride their bikes to school, and make them spend time outside every day. Kids just can't sit all day like depressed adults, it's so bad.
Years ago, my cousin & 2 classmates were let out of class for 2 minutes between each class to run around the school. This release of energy allowed them to focus on their next class. No medication, just some "common sense" application, they were young boys with a lot of energy that needed at outlet. I knew kids that would sneak the cigarette between classes because it actually (chemically) calmed them down. Good? No-it was a coping mechanism. But if a "professional" can medicate someone into compliance with the expected norm....hey (PS: studies have shown that boy's biorhythms are different than girl's, they do better (at classes) LATER in the day, whereas girls do better earlier.) Schools that start later, have their boys performing better. It has to do with their sleep patterns. Your solution works, (I will add that) after school, 1st, some quick food, then have him work out or be active for at least 30 minutes. Anything he likes to do. Anything but sitting. Even working on (or making) something. I had chores. Homework always came later after dinner, but since I stayed up later...it worked. Good luck, and blessings to you.
As a police officer who has worked in schools for 8 years now, I can confirm everything you are saying. I have also seen a dramatic increase in disrespectful and explosive violent behavior amongst students of all ages. Most the time the response to this kind of behavior is medication... Fortunately my wife is an amazing educator and is able to homeschool our kids very effectively and has aspirations of starting a part time christian one room school house concept for our community. I love that you guys are sharing what you have seen and are doing to your large audience. Homeschool for the win!
I keep hearing of more and more people doing the home school house/ teacher thing lately. More smart parents are realizing public schools are bad in every way.
Unless you can provide your children with a well-rounded childhood with events, socializing with peers, and sports homeschooling is a bad idea. Take it from someone who was homeschooled.
We're going to need a greater quantity of affordable Christian schools, if not that, at least secular schools free of the woke ideologies. - Father of 2 Girls
Agreed! Why can't the church step into that role? There are tons of great teachers in churches. My wife has a vision of developing a free christian education in our community through the local church.
I am 19 and I was public schooled until sophomore year of high school. When I got set up in a coop I was blown away by what the homeschool kids knew. When I have kids, Lord willing, I will home school them
@@WarriorPoetSociety I graduated earlier this year, and my parents, grandparents, aunt and uncle, and church family worked together to homeschool me, my cousin, and my 3 siblings. (Actually, my siblings got me a WPSN subscription for a graduation gift, they’re awesome) I am forever grateful to my parents for deciding to homeschool us for so many reasons. I’ve been protected, kept in church, brought up to be a patriot listening to Rush Limbaugh, and have been raised close to all my family. As someone who was homeschooled, I highly recommend it! Keep doing what your doing John, great content. 👍
I wouldn’t homeschool them. Don’t have kids until you can afford a private school or move to a school district that supports your values. I was homeschooled until 9th grade when I was sent to a private school. I was academically leaps and bounds above my peers but socially I was far behind. Even as an adult, I have social problems, agoraphobia, am obese, and have a slew of health problems from spending my childhood at a kitchen table scribing like a Medieval monk. Kids need socialization, travel, various types of social encounters, friends their age, physical education, sports, and exercise. Unless you can provide that for your child, and few homeschooling parents have those resources available to them, then send your kids to a private school or move to a school district that supports your values.
That's a you problem. I was homeschooled and turned out just fine. My socialization was at church. Public school now is just LGBTQ propaganda and indoctrination.
@@thomascraig6814 Or you could find some sort of tutorial or at least a community of people (which are widely available in the US besides states like Montana and Alaska. You just have to look) and have your kid(s) interact with people from an early age. There are many good private schools with good values in my area with great values, but from my experience a good amount of kids there don’t give a crap about what their parents think because most of their influence is from each other not adults so they’ll just go to college and end up like most people in the US stupid people with stupid degrees. Basically public schooling and even private schools are usually a recipe for disaster no matter how many “good values” they have.
LOVED THIS! My son has been home schooled since 5 - is now 12. He would have been one of those boys who couldn't sit still, couldn't use whole sentences yet at 3, wasn't ready to read yet at 5.... and being home-schooled allowed him to learn and grow the right way. He is at or above his "grade" in reading now. He gets to have breaks between subjects to play Lego, he has plenty of time to ride his bike throughout the day. Parents, don't dismiss home-schooling! My daughter is 15 and doesn't have the pressure of boyfriends, social media, etc. Her dad is one of her best friends. She knows what she likes and what she doesn't. Thank you Warrior Poet Society, look forward to more of your videos!
I do hate to see a great teacher leave that war zone, but she had to choose her kids and I absolutely am glad she did it. My hope is there are other like-minded teachers that have raised kids or no kids that can help win back the fallen institution of public school
The day public schools went headlong into the trash was October 17, 1979. That's the day President Carter signed the Department of Education Organization Act.
Exactly! I'm a former licensed teacher turned homeschool mom. You two are speaking so much truth, I hope more listen and take this to heart. God bless you!
Amen! We have 4 boys and a girl, homeschooled only so far. Our eldest is a 13 year old boy and shocks adults everywhere with his confidence, character, servanthood and ability to converse with anyone. We have really enjoyed studying history along side classical curriculum and the Tuttle Twins books. We have also joined a martial arts studio where we all (mom and dad included) take classes together at the same time. Its important to cultivate whatever fruit we wish to see in our children. They grow up so fast and its a joy to see our eldest step into manhood.
@@aeneas116116 Agreed. I’m concerned that people who have no prior martial arts experience are still caught up in the illusions of the 80s when traditional Karate was supposed to be the solution. When put to the test it wasn’t training effective techniques for modern real life street scenarios. Breaking boards and kata might look and sound impressive to the untrained, but it’s only an illusion of strength that has no real world application. Zero. (Sorry for preaching a bit here mate, I’m writing this to hopefully challenge other readers who may choose not to interact here.) When it comes down to the most effective techniques, unarmed fighting consists of basically striking, takedowns and grappling. The most effective striking arts are Boxing and Muay Thai, the most effective takedowns are Wrestling and Judo, the most effective grappling is Brazilian Jiu Jitsu and Sambo. Devote at least 2 years to one in each of the three categories, and then maintain them, and you’ll be prepared for most unarmed situations. But they are only of limited value when a bat/ bludgeon implement, knife/ edged weapon (including a broken glass bottle which represents a deadly threat) or a firearm is introduced in to the equation. As long as people know the limits of their art and their personal limits. There’s so much more to add, but I don’t want to labour the point.
So helpful! I retired three years ago when I found out my daughter was pregnant, after many years of unsuccessful attempts, sold my house, and moved to be a full time, live in grandpa. His mom and dad work from home and see him throughout the day on work days. I can’t agree with you more on how important every year is to a child’s development. Like you, we took him to a speech therapist. Our experience was better than yours in that she explained that he was only a little behind on speaking, but at less than three years old, was able to comprehend on a five year old level. They basically said don’t worry, he is on track. Just including your children in your day to day life as an equal member of the family, and remembering they are developing children will make them more confident, more inquisitive, and more capable teens and adults.
Dad was in the military, mum was British. Once dad was sent to a base w/out facilities for families. We moved to England for a yr. When we moved back to US my younger sister's teacher wanted to send her to a speech therapist because she had a Manchester accent! Mum had fun with her! 😆😆😆
Thank you for this. No one loves my kid more than my wife & I. That right there makes us qualified. Terrific take-away to store in my frontal cortex. Thanks again 👍
I was homeschooled from the get go. Hooked on phonics and my mom's lap was my "pre-k". I was reading 6th grade level books by the time I was 6 years old. It allowed me to advance far beyond what level I was supposed to be according to the school system. I was able to complete my last 3 years of high school in a single year. In the mean time I was helping to teach kindergarten. When I took the asvab I got a 125 gt score, where the others my age with the "same level" of education were struggling. Heck, I scored better than a lot of college guys. Thing is, I learn visually but also through touch. I wouldn't have gotten that in public school. I wouldn't be able to come back at night time to that one subject I had a hard time understanding. So much I wouldn't have done or been able to do. I would've been left behind. My friends and family in public education always said I wouldn't be on their level. I ended up above.
Nicely done. For contrast, I went to a private Christian school in Florida up to 5th grade. Middle school was public and highschool was a private military school. My GT was 124.
Even if your metrics weren’t better than your public school peers, home schooling is still the best option. Through testing and grading, public schooling kills the joy of learning.
My wife and I have been watching your channel for years now and we appreciate how you guys talk about important issues that actually need to be talked about. Thank you guys for all you do!
it doesn't pull in the views that more trendy stuff does, but we've been given a platform to steward well. We do some fun and silly stuff, but I do live for the impactful, deep-talk stuff like this. Warrior Poets for life!
My son was put on Vyvanse when he was four. He was diagnosed with ADD and they said he had a learning disorder and a speech impediment. He was struggling in school and teachers were giving up on him. One day he started crying (about 7 years old) before school and I sat down to talk to him. He said he didn’t like how the medicine made him feel. I immediately called his mother and told her I was taking him off the medication. She had worries and told me we needed to talk to the doctor about it first. So I called his physician and asked if their were any negative effects to stopping the medicine and I was told that it wouldn’t harm him, but the doctor argued that he really “needed” to stay on it. Well, me being the hard headed person I am, decided I was going to listen to my child and not the doctors and teachers. I took him off and he hasn’t been on since. He is now 12 years old and hasn’t been on the medicine in five years. He is doing well in school, (due to a lot of hard work and long nights of studying together) and recently made the archery team. He loves shooting his bow, running and exercising with his older brother and doesn’t have to feel like a zombie due to a foreign medication that isn’t supposed to be in his body. It’s the best decision I have ever made. (And I’m always right, so that’s saying something 😂) Thanks for the message guys. Hopefully there is a parent out there that needed this to make a change in their child’s life and that it gives them the courage to go through with it. These are difficult decisions we have to make as parents. The most important thing is letting our young boys experience what we got to and live the way God intended them to live. Playing in the mud and picking up bugs. Rough housing with other boys and playing outside. This society is trying to eliminate masculinity and that can’t happen for the future of the human species. God bless you both. Thanks.
John, you and Becca are awesome! Ya'll made my day! All children are precious and many don't get a chance to be normal in the public school system. Thanks again for all you and Becca and your team at WPSN do!
Thanks Eric! Fun fact: we plan to bring a 'How to Educate your Kids' class to WPSN before long. The wise Matt Beadreau of Apogee is working on the project now as we speak!
1st kid in my grade school to be diagnosed add and doped on ritalin, 4th grade. Felt "slow" all the time. Complained constantly and eventually my parents listened and took me off it. And I decided it was not my fault the rest of the world could not think at my speed and adapted to function at their speed. And have managed to survive. Screw the ones that want docile kids, let them be kids.
As a homeschooling mama of soon to be 8 sons (and one daughter), the message of #savetheboys speaks to my heart! 💙 Boyhood is NOT a disease! 🙌🏻 Homeschooling a bunch of wild boys sure doesn’t look anything like what most people think “school” would or should look but, man, is it rewarding when I see my boys growing into incredible men! (Also, seasoned boy mom tip: Ditch the TV and get a WPS subscription! 😁👍🏻)
Good for you!! I have 6 younger brothers and my parents homeschooled and let them be boys and they are all doing great! All took different paths and have different speeds/ways of learning/strengths, but all are hard workers and real men. Half of them got married last year and I already have 2 new nephews. :)
You guys are the absolute best! Being a boy myself, it is really difficult for us to "sit quietly" at our desks. Certainly, we need discipline, but let us run wild (reasonably) too... :)
Our son was diagnosed with moderate to severe autism and ADHD. He began intervention at 18 months. He went to school early in programs designed for this behavior and it really helped; however, he was so smart that he had to go to regular classes and that's where the problems began. He required a break every 20 minutes and still he was hyperactive. I could see the stress on the teachers faces. Finally we pulled him from traditional schooling and we are home schooling. He is grades beyond his peers and is a far happier kid. It's not for everyone, but I believe these folks are right about boys and I'm gals they spoke out. Thanks!!
Awesome !!!! Great message !!! Structure, rules, and great area to play… Boys (and men!!) Have a huge desire to be your hero !!!! Help them to figure out how to be
Appreciate the support for HomeSchooling! We did that early years and enjoyed with our kids. The kids learned from each other and our family became strong. I thoroughly enjoyed the extra time with our young son, and as you say, “That time cannot be brought back.” I appreciate you all speaking the truth about so many things!🇺🇸
Came back from fishing all-day as part of our home education freedom. Neighborhpod kids were just getting released from school. My kids have read thousands of books, since they go to the library every week. Public school isn't education. It's an institutional model for training mass conformity, which is the most anti-American program in US history.
Starting my journey with homeschools far so good, all three are pre-schooling age and they can all read and do math already… it would be criminal to send them to school in 2years to relearn ABCs with 6yr olds 🤦♂️. It amazes me how much they learn with teachers that genuinely care.
@@MakerBees333 There isn’t an arbitrary standard that some magic person has the ability to set for everyone, so it’s fun to see what kids will do with a little help. There really isn’t a need to push them because they already want to absorb so much. It’s more of a steering job. With modern access to information and libraries galore, the opportunities for a home-based model are endless. Who says I can’t incorporate reloading and shooting into our curriculum? Aircraft construction, avionics, art, drone piloting...
As a 18 year old going to college who went to a private Christian school I can say our school faculty really cared and loved us. And wanted us to grow up right. And I love the part where John talks about taking medication, since the beginning of education no one needed these things to help them work.it just takes determination and hard work. I love your vids John even my principle from my school watches and supports you 💪
My wife and I are about to welcome our first child( a boy) in the next 24 hours and this video is exactly what I needed to watch right now. From the moment I knew we were having a boy I planned on raising a little warrior poet. Thank you so much John for fighting to keep the warrior poet spirit alive and well in this society.
Thank you so much for posting this. My family is staring down the barrel of these choices right now with our 2-1/2 year old son and it's nice to know we're not the only ones out there dealing with this.
My youngest had read over 1000 books by the age of 6. We just take him to the library just 1x per week, along with his older sisters, who have also read thousands of books. They also do soccer, dance, homeschooling groups in our neighborhood, and whatever we want to do as a family. My 3 younger kids have never seen the inside of a classroom.
As a homeschool mother who sacrificed EVERYTHING to get er done, there is no better advice we homeschool moms and dads can give than JUST DO IT. Our biggest take away for you is you control their influences. You’re fighting financially and emotionally now, just think about when little tommy comes home at 5 w a horrible attitude, worse mouth and is wearing a tutu. All jokes aside, our kids have turned out better than the rest and every single struggle you face, other homeschool families have faced along side you. The fights, the stretching, the budgets, the battles, even the spiritual attacks. But brother, it’s beyond worth it to save your flesh and blood. Support that home school mama. It’s the hardest job ANYONE will ever have to give up everything for her husband and be the moral director and educator for his babies.
@@LRRPFco52 Awesome on yall. You got it down and I’m sure can tell everyone the same as any of us: Forced socializing isn’t healthy socializing. We too do soccer baseball 4H scouts and all kinds of church stuff along side homeschool meet ups and field trips. (We don’t agree w what the scouts and 4H have done btw and celebrated gender confusion) As most of us at homers, we all know the importance of them building solid good bonds and not being forced to sit next to their bully and say yes, when they should be learning to say no.
I need more Good Dad content. I'm trying to find the way with my kids, with out good fatherly examples in my life, I feel like I could be doing things all wrong.
I think that question 'am I doing things all wrong' is important to keep us questioning and refining what we do and how we do. Ask the question, I think, is definitely the right practice
Just by questioning if you're doing things right you show you care more than a lot of dads out there. #1 is be present - every parent I see is head down in their phone not even acknowledging their children a lot of the time. You can be firm/discipline them when needed, but always examine yourself to see if you're doing that out of love - out of a desire to make your kids better adults. It all comes down to balance from what I've experienced so far.
You’d be surprised at what can happen with a box of worms and fishing pole. Even a small pile of dirt and a toy truck but the secret is that you get dirty and stinky right along with them. Got girls? Go ahead and let them do your hair and face, talk about hilarious and you will be the coolest dad around. Also give them space but be there to listen to them even when it’s really trivial stuff. You see, their little issues to you are great big issues to them. You have already started the process so off you go to be a great dad. 😊
As a recent homeschool momma to 4 boys (and one girl!), this is so great! Our boys have struggled through public school and we finally decided to pull the plug and bring them home. We are seeing “the lights” come back on for them! This lifestyle works so much better for us. I would LOVE to see more homeschool content videos. Maybe some ideas from Mrs. Poet on how she organizes her day, her favorite resources, favorite read alouds, etc. Just overall more homeschooling content to help out all of us newcomers! Thank you so much for your content! It gives me hope!
Ha! We did the same thing with our daughter. The public school tried to tell us she was broken so we yanked her from those people and homeschooled her. They failed her. She is thriving now. She’s dual enrolled in college and high school, member of a home school co-op, youth at church and employed at Chicfila. Thank God for home schooling.
I got lucky. My son turned out to be an unmedicated pretty awesome human. I do however regret making him into a professional student for 16 of his first 21 years.
Very encouraging. Dad of 3 boys here, and Lord willing, doing a good job letting them be boys. We moved our kids out of public school for many of the same reasons. Great message Mr. and Mrs. Poet.
Save the boys! This whole idea gives me a mental image of a few members of a ship’s crew going below deck in the middle of the night to wake the rest of the crew
Thank you for this. My wife and I had our first son in March, and are consistently having the conversation regarding the future of his education. It always points back to the same conclusion - he's not going to sit in a classroom. He's only seven months old and we can already tell a difference in his development because we give him a controlled environment to explore, play and learn; not to mention, he's got people he trusts leading and teaching him. I will never understand why parents are so willing to outsource the development of their children to untrustworthy adults who aren't invested in them.
Amen amen amen AMEN! I couldn't agree more. Our boys don't need meds. They might just need to run around the house a couple times to help them settle. It was great to see your family at the Homesteaders of America conference! Keep it up!
We have six children and five are boys and I loved this video. We also started homeschooling last year and it has been such a blessing for our children. Thanks for all your great content!
You're wife is awesome! The state of Education today is just awful. I agree that it was SOOO different when I was in school. I applaud your actions on behalf of your kids!
This is good inspiring stuff. I’m nervous about homeschooling my 4 year old and this is the kind of mental reinforcement I need. There’s no way I am going to throw my kid to the wolves (public school).
I fear what they are teaching boys now in the school. I am blessed to have had a strong Christ centered education. I do know the difference is they consistently had strong mentors such as yourself leading the way. Thank you brother.
I was an EC teacher before my son was born. I wrote IEPs and held those same meetings you’re talking about. I was appalled at some of the stuff I had to do and at what the students were forced into. I would not want my son to go through that.
Thank you both. Spot on like your beautiful wife said no one loves your children as much as you! I fought this for years and refused to give in to drugs for my son. He is currently a US MARINE 0311 and near completion at Sniper school.
I completely agree, I had this happen to me as a kid I had "adhd" and my mom had me going from one pill to the next until she just said she couldn't handle me and gave me over to my dad, and then eventually had my brother given over to my dad too, and it was all good for awhile no pills, but then slowly our dad started abusing us for years, until we were finally able to leave. Now I know that sounds bad but im still young and going through all of this even tho it was bad has helped me in other ways. We didn't know it all the time but our mom was trying to control everything and how both of our lives were going to end up. And her politics had gotten into us as well. And over a few years of being on my own and being my own man I found you guys and many other people in the preparedness/firearm/homesteading/self sufficient life style because of having to deal with all that trauma. So to anyone else reading this, even if something like this happens to you, you WILL overcome it and you can do this!
My family is home schooling my 1, 3, and 5 year olds. It’s such hard work but so rewarding. I will never feed my beautiful babies to the cold and bloody teeth of the social machine. We love you guys, God bless.
All my boys are grown now but I relate to this. My oldest was in 8th youngest in kindergarten and I really felt God called me to homeschool them. There were so many things that were squeezing the boy life out of them. My youngest would've definitely been put on drugs had I kept them in public school and the middle boy who was in 4th had the creativity crushed in him. Best thing we ever did for our family too.
My coworker is in his mid 40s now, he told me back in public school he could had made profit by selling his prescribed Ritalin pills to his classmates. As of me being 30 now, back in either elementry or middle school I was diagnosed with OCD and one day had a meltdown in the classroom so I was prescribed Zoloft, my parents told me it turned me into a zombie they called my name a dozen times then Id slowly turn towards them in a slow zombie like response so they stopped. I also heard that here in USA theres 110 per 1000 who are prescribed antidepressants. I had a coworker out of the Navy who is on like 6 different SSRIs for her PTSD, so to "fix" the problem they just throw a bunch of pills at you? Nice, maybe think of what new problems may replace the old problem and evaluate if the new problem is less bad, worse, or unchanged as the old problem. Here in California theyre mandating all public school kids get the vax with the QR code & vax card to prove theyre vaxxed, this is one more of multiple reasons that you may want to pull your kids from public school.
We are right there with y'all on everything that wad said. When we got married we faced many opinions on our decision to homeschool our future kids and they would not be put on behavioral meds. Now with 2 boys I love their craziness. #SaveTheBoys
As a father of two boys, this very subject is something that was really important to us. One way that we found to help in raising our boys to be Men of Character and strength was Trail Life USA. I started a troop in my town through a local church so that my boys could participate and so i could be involved. It's a fantastic organization and I'd love to see Warrior Poet Society and Trail Life USA do some kind of collaboration! Y'all have very similar goals and passions!
Couldn't agree more with this. I can't imagine sending my kids off all day to to just sit down and sit still all day. Your time as a child is too short. I know lots if parents that medicate their children and it ahocks me that parents buy it up and think there is something weing with their kids. Parents are the ones that are broken.
Your first homeschooling video years ago was the final straw that moved us to homeschooling. This story though hits me at home it's almost a carbon copy of what we went through. Always appreciate these videos.
As an ADHD boy who has never taken medication for it, I am *SOOO THANKFUL* that my parents sought teaching resources to help me cope and grow rather than drugging me like public school wanted. Overcoming those challenges has made me so much stronger as a person. Now I'm a licensed engineer with a beautiful wife who is homeschooling our 2 kids.
Please do share some of the specific things they taught you that helped most with organization & discipline necessary for school & college! Thank you ❤
I'm very thankful to my parents because while i've never been diagnosed with ADHD my school wanted me tested for it and placed on medication and my parents thankfully said no!
@@woodfamily5229 One of the biggest helps was learning that white noise is a VERY useful tool. The noise itself has varied from a loud fan to a playlist with a type of music, but having certain background noises can play a huge role in allowing you to focus effectively. Another big help is to realize that ADD/ADHD is not just easily distracted, but also the opposite, tunnel vision. It's possible for me to become so overwhelmingly focused on a topic that I completely lose track of time. Being able to realize this and allow myself to get tunnel vision on things I need to, but also to avoid or pull myself out of tunnel vision when I don't need to. As for organization, it's *CRITICAL* to develop some sort of system. For me a big thing is having a dedicated place for things and being disciplined enough to put them back where they go when I'm finished has made it so much easier on my already forgetful brain. Hope that helps!
@@JDStone-jg8cg One benefit of getting tested was that it helped knowing what was going on so that I could learn how to deal with it. But I absolutely agree that medicating kids is not the way to go.
Yes!! Thank God for calling us to homeschool. I was a teacher, and those similar experiences are part of the reason why I feel so strongly it’s best to homeschool
I started following probably based in a fear mindset during co vid. So many great instructional videos but nothing compares to this. You and your wife is the next level. Far more important work is being done here 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼👍🏼✊🏼
This hits home because we have a soon to be 3 year old boy. He is 1000% boy and it shows.. I know exactly what would happen if we put him in public school.
Brace yourself! Three year old boys are wild. 😆 I looked out the back door to the patio yesterday, and saw the 3 year old with his pants down. So I ran out to inform him the patio isn’t an acceptable place to relieve himself, and he had already done ALL his business ON THE PATIO! Just when I think I’ve seen it all, a toddler does something unthinkable. I watched/helped my mom raise 6 awesome boys and I’ve learned a lot of patience and to just accept and encourage boyhood.
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS VIDEO. SO MANY great homeschool parents start out with "We don't know what we're doing but it ain't gonna be this." God bless you two and your family!
@@WarriorPoetSociety awesome to hear, thank y’all for your dedication to all of us and to eachother. It’s incredible (I’m a woman w a good papa bear) to see a strong mama and her papa bear that protects her through their growth together. Leaders! Thank y’all!
I always appreciate videos like this on your channel! As someone who is about to become a father of his first child, I’d love to hear more like this, advice, anecdotal practices and stuff like that. Its valuable!
God bless you guys for speaking about this. What you say is absolutely true. Boys are fidgety, creative, and need to be active. 10 yrs ago as a Sunday school teacher of young boys at my church, I had a mom approach me on this topic. School wanted to put little “Tommy” on drugs to slow him down. She asked my what I thought. I said ,”your little Tommy is no different than any other boy his age. Active, creative, has a need to move, and best of all, he’s the sharpest boy in my class. If they put him on drugs it will absolutely kill his spirit. As a single mom I understand it’s difficult, but I see nothing wrong with him that more activity and a little discipline won’t take care of.”Public schools don’t wanna deal with it, so drugs are the answer. NOT! It’s so wrong makes my wanna cry for these kids.
Drugs do not solve the problem of untrained boys with bad behavior. The children and parents are just more miserable and the excuses (that they have a disorder) don’t help. It’s like a bandaid that constantly falls off.
@@WarriorPoetSociety absolutely! My wife and I agreed to homeschooling, difficult part is we sacrifice everything (including being able to have a larger community with groups like WP).. But for all the sacrifices we wouldn't trade a thing for our child!
John, I had something like this start in kindergarten with my youngest son, 2 days in I found out that he had been treated without dignity, being put in an isolated room for a time out... sheesh! Sure, he is diagnosed with autism but SO much of his behaviors are AGE APPROPRIATE! This was 6 years ago... homeschooling and a mix of our private school are the right fit for all 3 of my kids. We are lucky, their PE includes jiu jitsu, they have plenty of time to get out those wiggles and are surrounded by others with shared values. Thank you both for sharing!
@@WarriorPoetSociety Tell me about it, even though I have trained BJJ for years, asking the kids "What did you learn today" is getting a little more interesting! I got to roll up my 9 year old daughter yesterday - LOL!
The part about behavior, labels, medication and those things following you around reminded me of when my family moved to US. I was in middle school and because I had a limited knowledge of English, I was put in an ESL class (English as Second Language). My parents got the advice that they needed to get me transferred out of it ASAP, otherwise “I would always be an ESL kid.” After some time, I learned more English, I was getting good grades in that class, my parents talked to the school and got me transferred. Meanwhile, the other kids even with better grades and knowledge of English were still in that class. I went from getting good grades in the ESL class to getting mediocre grades in a regular English class, but I was surrounded by native English speakers and I learned English much faster. That has opened some important opportunities for me and I ended up going to a magnet high school as a result. Also, by the time I was in high school my accent was almost gone. A few years later, no one would know that I wasn’t born in US. Sometimes I feel like the goals of ESL classes may not be set correctly because it would put the teacher in a conflict of interest. If I had to guess, the current goal of a typical ESL class is “teach the kid English,” similar to what the goal of a regular English class might be. However, the goal of the ESL class should be “get the kids to a point where they can participate in a native English class.” The goal of ESL class should be to make ESL class obsolete, which is probably problematic for the teacher. Anyway, the earlier a person gets on the right, or at least better, path in their life, the less they will have to fight later on in life since they will already be closer to the good outcomes than people who were not traveling in the right direction.
Going through this mental battle myself as trying to decide on home schooling my daughter (and eventually my son). Thanks for the open frank discussion you had.
Y'all are beautiful souls and your boys are extremely lucky. My mom went full mama bear when the school did the whole "ritalin rant". Happily, I had amazing teachers who realized that I was just bored after I got my work done. They gave me more work, not drugs. God bless.
Great content as always You guys. I am a Former Marine and was homeschooled all the way until high school and love what you put out John. One thing I think that is missing though is the absolute importance of shielding our boys of the prevalence of porn. When I was young you had to sneak a playboy or hustler magazine, now, with the ease of a simple search, our boys are exposed with the most perverse and grotesque pornography imaginable. This twists and distorts the sexuality of young men and I believe is one of the biggest influences of the depression and anxiety of young men today. As a Marine and being deployed, I struggled with porn addiction for years and until God broke the chains of that sin with the help of my wife. It is of the most importance to us to keep our kids eyes and minds pure of the disgust that is so readily available with the technology of today. Love your input on this subject. Thanks Guys
AMEN !!!!! Raising three boys, then young men and now MEN. Work ethos, knowing directs and happiness. STRONG men start with STRONG parents ! RLTW brother... 1st Bat vet here !
Thank you for speaking earnestly. When my wife volunteered to homeschool 14 years ago I didn't know if it could work. But now we can testify to what you've said here. It's been a long and gnarly road but we are so thankful for the life we've shared with our kids.
One more thing I'll say is homeschool is a good bandaid for now, but long-term we *NEED* to fix the public education system. Homeschooling is expensive, demanding, and just isn't widespread enough to make the cultural difference we need in this country. Can't forget that some people also just aren't cut out for homeschooling, and know they can't teach their kids everything a proper school could if it wasn't as woke and corrupt as it is now.
I will say that millions of people have joined the homeschool movement in the last couple years and it is much larger now that people realize. I'd say it will have some massive cultural implications in the years ahead. You are right though, we do need to fix the public education system
You can't fix what was specifically designed to break you. Study John Dewey's "My Pedagogic Creed". It's very short, not long at all. He outlines what compulsory school in the US was really meant to be.
👏👏👏bravo guys, as a current public school employee it is tough to get through to these kids that have no support at home. Keep doing what you're doing. God bless
My son's childhood was disgusting and pathetic before we adopted him. One of the things we were most eager to do, was throw him into a pit of nephews so that they could teach him how to be a real boy. All the rough housing scared him at first, but it was absolutely transformative!! He's not the pathetic loser that his bio family was training him to be, he has turned into a real boy, able to bond with other boys, and shoulder what limited responsibility we thrust on him. We can't afford to let our nation's sons be pressed down and permanently damaged.
I have to add: both of my kids are on IEPs, my son is perfectly willing to work, but due to trauma and possibly ADHD, he has a beast of a time retaining what he learns! He definitely needs help with the three Rs (which are all he needs from a classroom). He progresses every week, and we have no intention to medicate anything except illnesses.
@@Heather-xm9ul If you have him on an IEP then he can't serve in the military but at least you're helping him with his future. If he is truly ADHD medication will help him
@@TheInfantry98 Joes who had IEPs join all the time. Even if they do decide to make that a disqualifier, neither of my kids should be in the woke cesspool that replaced the military. The army I joined still pretended to have principles, after a decade, it had no redeeming qualities. Too woke, too soft, too worthless.
AMEN for this video. The problem is not the kids! It's the system that has produced teachers unable to cope and ill prepared to deal with real world humans! We raised 2 boys without any meds and they have become outstanding conservative contributors to society that pay taxes and try to help others do better. Were they perfect - absolutely not, but they are great citizens now at 30+.
I was born in 1957 I didn't go to kindergarten I went right into 1st grade, St Paul's Catholic school. Fortunately back in the 60s and 70s that was THE BEST education in South Philly. SEMPER FI 🙏🇺🇲✌️
The medication thing is serious. It was the worst mistake my mother ever made. I felt like a complete zombie. Finally I made the decision myself to just stop taking it. After school when I got home I would go and hang out in the woods for hours. I think it saved my life.
@@Tony.795 it’s gotten more common as time goes on. A lot of people in the circles I listen to point to the Federal Board of Education turning everything cookie cutter as the culprit. The school days typically have gotten longer and there’s less and less physical activity that students are able to do. Hamstrings boys specifically it girls also aren’t done any favors
What a fantastic video! When our son was in 2nd grade, we had a teacher, school counselor, and a psychiatrist tell us our son had ADHD and needed to be medicated. The teacher was freaking out about him drawing tanks, guns, and knives on his folders. Gee, go figure with a cop for a dad and numerous relatives being in the military. We told them to pound sand. The next year, he had a FANTASTIC male teacher and he flourished, a 180 degree turn in academic achievement.
There is no substitute for a pair of good parents.
There is - a pair of stellar parents
@@hoppinggnomethe4154 shining star is in the love and I
Clarification, for a Dad & a Mom, Married, living in the same house & MARRIED
Yooo, American Virtue in the house!
ayo it's Monsieur Z
Also, teach your boys to grow into men before society tries to convince them to be girls.
SO TRUE.
@@WarriorPoetSociety Keep up the great content!
Actually I don't believe that this is really happening to our boys but I will say this there is a reason that we always say let boys be boys
100% right. If we don't let boys be boys they will never be men
@@wendellknight2072 woa! Where have you been lately?! Boys are absolutely being told to become women. Especially if they show a sliver of femininity. Plays with a "girl toy", gets his nails painted by his sisters, etc.. They push them to go trans
Yes! The teachers were pressuring me to medicate my son. I started taking him to the park before school to let him run around before class. To me ripping a kid out of bed and expecting them to sit all day and work with a pencil makes no sense to me🤦♀️
it doesn't make sense at all Melissa and it just destroys a little boys' love of learning and hurts their adventurous spirit. That spirit is where creativity, daring, and leadership start being formed
That's why I make my kids ride their bikes to school, and make them spend time outside every day. Kids just can't sit all day like depressed adults, it's so bad.
My mother told me they tried to medicate me back in the mid 80s, Because " I couldn't set still". So it's been going on for a while.
Years ago, my cousin & 2 classmates were let out of class for 2 minutes between each class to run around the school. This release of energy allowed them to focus on their next class. No medication, just some "common sense" application, they were young boys with a lot of energy that needed at outlet.
I knew kids that would sneak the cigarette between classes because it actually (chemically) calmed them down. Good? No-it was a coping mechanism. But if a "professional" can medicate someone into compliance with the expected norm....hey
(PS: studies have shown that boy's biorhythms are different than girl's, they do better (at classes) LATER in the day, whereas girls do better earlier.) Schools that start later, have their boys performing better. It has to do with their sleep patterns. Your solution works, (I will add that) after school, 1st, some quick food, then have him work out or be active for at least 30 minutes. Anything he likes to do. Anything but sitting. Even working on (or making) something. I had chores. Homework always came later after dinner, but since I stayed up later...it worked. Good luck, and blessings to you.
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As a police officer who has worked in schools for 8 years now, I can confirm everything you are saying. I have also seen a dramatic increase in disrespectful and explosive violent behavior amongst students of all ages. Most the time the response to this kind of behavior is medication... Fortunately my wife is an amazing educator and is able to homeschool our kids very effectively and has aspirations of starting a part time christian one room school house concept for our community. I love that you guys are sharing what you have seen and are doing to your large audience. Homeschool for the win!
How is it based on race? What I see is 90% African American kids are ruining schools for the others
I keep hearing of more and more people doing the home school house/ teacher thing lately. More smart parents are realizing public schools are bad in every way.
Unless you can provide your children with a well-rounded childhood with events, socializing with peers, and sports homeschooling is a bad idea. Take it from someone who was homeschooled.
We're going to need a greater quantity of affordable Christian schools, if not that, at least secular schools free of the woke ideologies.
- Father of 2 Girls
Agreed! Why can't the church step into that role? There are tons of great teachers in churches. My wife has a vision of developing a free christian education in our community through the local church.
I am 19 and I was public schooled until sophomore year of high school. When I got set up in a coop I was blown away by what the homeschool kids knew. When I have kids, Lord willing, I will home school them
glad to hear it!
@@WarriorPoetSociety I graduated earlier this year, and my parents, grandparents, aunt and uncle, and church family worked together to homeschool me, my cousin, and my 3 siblings. (Actually, my siblings got me a WPSN subscription for a graduation gift, they’re awesome)
I am forever grateful to my parents for deciding to homeschool us for so many reasons.
I’ve been protected, kept in church, brought up to be a patriot listening to Rush Limbaugh, and have been raised close to all my family.
As someone who was homeschooled, I highly recommend it!
Keep doing what your doing John, great content. 👍
I wouldn’t homeschool them. Don’t have kids until you can afford a private school or move to a school district that supports your values. I was homeschooled until 9th grade when I was sent to a private school. I was academically leaps and bounds above my peers but socially I was far behind. Even as an adult, I have social problems, agoraphobia, am obese, and have a slew of health problems from spending my childhood at a kitchen table scribing like a Medieval monk. Kids need socialization, travel, various types of social encounters, friends their age, physical education, sports, and exercise. Unless you can provide that for your child, and few homeschooling parents have those resources available to them, then send your kids to a private school or move to a school district that supports your values.
That's a you problem.
I was homeschooled and turned out just fine. My socialization was at church. Public school now is just LGBTQ propaganda and indoctrination.
@@thomascraig6814 Or you could find some sort of tutorial or at least a community of people (which are widely available in the US besides states like Montana and Alaska. You just have to look) and have your kid(s) interact with people from an early age. There are many good private schools with good values in my area with great values, but from my experience a good amount of kids there don’t give a crap about what their parents think because most of their influence is from each other not adults so they’ll just go to college and end up like most people in the US stupid people with stupid degrees. Basically public schooling and even private schools are usually a recipe for disaster no matter how many “good values” they have.
LOVED THIS! My son has been home schooled since 5 - is now 12. He would have been one of those boys who couldn't sit still, couldn't use whole sentences yet at 3, wasn't ready to read yet at 5.... and being home-schooled allowed him to learn and grow the right way. He is at or above his "grade" in reading now. He gets to have breaks between subjects to play Lego, he has plenty of time to ride his bike throughout the day. Parents, don't dismiss home-schooling! My daughter is 15 and doesn't have the pressure of boyfriends, social media, etc. Her dad is one of her best friends. She knows what she likes and what she doesn't. Thank you Warrior Poet Society, look forward to more of your videos!
Thank you, great video. Shared with my daughter who was a teacher but quit because of the politics. She now homeschools her two kiddos.
I do hate to see a great teacher leave that war zone, but she had to choose her kids and I absolutely am glad she did it. My hope is there are other like-minded teachers that have raised kids or no kids that can help win back the fallen institution of public school
That's fantastic, she is worth so much more than any public school could ever understand.
The both of you are spot on with everything you said !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
My favorite definition of a boy. Noise with dirt on it! Just love it!
The day public schools went headlong into the trash was October 17, 1979. That's the day President Carter signed the Department of Education Organization Act.
Exactly! I'm a former licensed teacher turned homeschool mom. You two are speaking so much truth, I hope more listen and take this to heart. God bless you!
Amen! We have 4 boys and a girl, homeschooled only so far. Our eldest is a 13 year old boy and shocks adults everywhere with his confidence, character, servanthood and ability to converse with anyone. We have really enjoyed studying history along side classical curriculum and the Tuttle Twins books. We have also joined a martial arts studio where we all (mom and dad included) take classes together at the same time. Its important to cultivate whatever fruit we wish to see in our children. They grow up so fast and its a joy to see our eldest step into manhood.
That's what winning at parenting looks like!
I know it’s unsolicited advice, but out of curiosity which martial art?
Out of curiosity which martial art?
Yeah I would suggest boxing and juijitsu
@@aeneas116116 Agreed. I’m concerned that people who have no prior martial arts experience are still caught up in the illusions of the 80s when traditional Karate was supposed to be the solution. When put to the test it wasn’t training effective techniques for modern real life street scenarios. Breaking boards and kata might look and sound impressive to the untrained, but it’s only an illusion of strength that has no real world application. Zero. (Sorry for preaching a bit here mate, I’m writing this to hopefully challenge other readers who may choose not to interact here.)
When it comes down to the most effective techniques, unarmed fighting consists of basically striking, takedowns and grappling. The most effective striking arts are Boxing and Muay Thai, the most effective takedowns are Wrestling and Judo, the most effective grappling is Brazilian Jiu Jitsu and Sambo. Devote at least 2 years to one in each of the three categories, and then maintain them, and you’ll be prepared for most unarmed situations. But they are only of limited value when a bat/ bludgeon implement, knife/ edged weapon (including a broken glass bottle which represents a deadly threat) or a firearm is introduced in to the equation. As long as people know the limits of their art and their personal limits. There’s so much more to add, but I don’t want to labour the point.
So helpful! I retired three years ago when I found out my daughter was pregnant, after many years of unsuccessful attempts, sold my house, and moved to be a full time, live in grandpa. His mom and dad work from home and see him throughout the day on work days. I can’t agree with you more on how important every year is to a child’s development. Like you, we took him to a speech therapist. Our experience was better than yours in that she explained that he was only a little behind on speaking, but at less than three years old, was able to comprehend on a five year old level. They basically said don’t worry, he is on track. Just including your children in your day to day life as an equal member of the family, and remembering they are developing children will make them more confident, more inquisitive, and more capable teens and adults.
you're a good grandpa and a good man Loren. Well done poet
Dad was in the military, mum was British. Once dad was sent to a base w/out facilities for families. We moved to England for a yr. When we moved back to US my younger sister's teacher wanted to send her to a speech therapist because she had a Manchester accent! Mum had fun with her! 😆😆😆
Good stuff! As a former HS teacher of 11 yrs, and a homeschool dad of 7 yrs, your take is spot on!
thank you!
Thank you for this.
No one loves my kid more than my wife & I. That right there makes us qualified.
Terrific take-away to store in my frontal cortex.
Thanks again 👍
I was homeschooled from the get go. Hooked on phonics and my mom's lap was my "pre-k". I was reading 6th grade level books by the time I was 6 years old.
It allowed me to advance far beyond what level I was supposed to be according to the school system.
I was able to complete my last 3 years of high school in a single year.
In the mean time I was helping to teach kindergarten.
When I took the asvab I got a 125 gt score, where the others my age with the "same level" of education were struggling. Heck, I scored better than a lot of college guys.
Thing is, I learn visually but also through touch. I wouldn't have gotten that in public school. I wouldn't be able to come back at night time to that one subject I had a hard time understanding. So much I wouldn't have done or been able to do. I would've been left behind.
My friends and family in public education always said I wouldn't be on their level. I ended up above.
I hear testimonials like this all the time. That is awesome. Good for you man
im a visual learner and actually pretty smart and had to find that out on my own accord. public/catholic school made me feel dumb and so did me peers
Nicely done. For contrast, I went to a private Christian school in Florida up to 5th grade. Middle school was public and highschool was a private military school.
My GT was 124.
Even if your metrics weren’t better than your public school peers, home schooling is still the best option. Through testing and grading, public schooling kills the joy of learning.
@CatusBrutus I was homeschooled until high school. Trust me. It’s a bad idea.
My wife and I have been watching your channel for years now and we appreciate how you guys talk about important issues that actually need to be talked about. Thank you guys for all you do!
it doesn't pull in the views that more trendy stuff does, but we've been given a platform to steward well. We do some fun and silly stuff, but I do live for the impactful, deep-talk stuff like this. Warrior Poets for life!
My son was put on Vyvanse when he was four. He was diagnosed with ADD and they said he had a learning disorder and a speech impediment. He was struggling in school and teachers were giving up on him. One day he started crying (about 7 years old) before school and I sat down to talk to him. He said he didn’t like how the medicine made him feel. I immediately called his mother and told her I was taking him off the medication. She had worries and told me we needed to talk to the doctor about it first. So I called his physician and asked if their were any negative effects to stopping the medicine and I was told that it wouldn’t harm him, but the doctor argued that he really “needed” to stay on it. Well, me being the hard headed person I am, decided I was going to listen to my child and not the doctors and teachers. I took him off and he hasn’t been on since. He is now 12 years old and hasn’t been on the medicine in five years. He is doing well in school,
(due to a lot of hard work and long nights of studying together) and recently made the archery team. He loves shooting his bow, running and exercising with his older brother and doesn’t have to feel like a zombie due to a foreign medication that isn’t supposed to be in his body. It’s the best decision I have ever made. (And I’m always right, so that’s saying something 😂) Thanks for the message guys. Hopefully there is a parent out there that needed this to make a change in their child’s life and that it gives them the courage to go through with it. These are difficult decisions we have to make as parents. The most important thing is letting our young boys experience what we got to and live the way God intended them to live. Playing in the mud and picking up bugs. Rough housing with other boys and playing outside. This society is trying to eliminate masculinity and that can’t happen for the future of the human species. God bless you both. Thanks.
So glad to hear it 😊
As a man expecting his first child, a son, in a couple of months... This hit me hard. Thank you.
Your message is spot on! The public school system is designed to create adult to have to rely on the system and not be able to think for themselves.
John, you and Becca are awesome! Ya'll made my day! All children are precious and many don't get a chance to be normal in the public school system. Thanks again for all you and Becca and your team at WPSN do!
Thanks Eric! Fun fact: we plan to bring a 'How to Educate your Kids' class to WPSN before long. The wise Matt Beadreau of Apogee is working on the project now as we speak!
@@WarriorPoetSociety awesome! Looking forward to it! 😁
Mr. and Mrs. WPS, this is one of the best bits of content you’ve put out. Thank you.
1st kid in my grade school to be diagnosed add and doped on ritalin, 4th grade. Felt "slow" all the time. Complained constantly and eventually my parents listened and took me off it. And I decided it was not my fault the rest of the world could not think at my speed and adapted to function at their speed. And have managed to survive. Screw the ones that want docile kids, let them be kids.
Love your honesty.
As a homeschooling mama of soon to be 8 sons (and one daughter), the message of #savetheboys speaks to my heart! 💙 Boyhood is NOT a disease! 🙌🏻 Homeschooling a bunch of wild boys sure doesn’t look anything like what most people think “school” would or should look but, man, is it rewarding when I see my boys growing into incredible men! (Also, seasoned boy mom tip: Ditch the TV and get a WPS subscription! 😁👍🏻)
Good for you!! I have 6 younger brothers and my parents homeschooled and let them be boys and they are all doing great! All took different paths and have different speeds/ways of learning/strengths, but all are hard workers and real men. Half of them got married last year and I already have 2 new nephews. :)
"It's an over throw of your values, for theirs."
Well said, Sir. Well said.
You guys are the absolute best! Being a boy myself, it is really difficult for us to "sit quietly" at our desks. Certainly, we need discipline, but let us run wild (reasonably) too... :)
Our son was diagnosed with moderate to severe autism and ADHD. He began intervention at 18 months. He went to school early in programs designed for this behavior and it really helped; however, he was so smart that he had to go to regular classes and that's where the problems began. He required a break every 20 minutes and still he was hyperactive. I could see the stress on the teachers faces. Finally we pulled him from traditional schooling and we are home schooling. He is grades beyond his peers and is a far happier kid. It's not for everyone, but I believe these folks are right about boys and I'm gals they spoke out. Thanks!!
Thank you John
you're welcome!
Awesome !!!! Great message !!!
Structure, rules, and great area to play…
Boys (and men!!) Have a huge desire to be your hero !!!! Help them to figure out how to be
good word Jeff. And thanks!
@@WarriorPoetSociety positive voice for America
Hey! If she wants too, please have Mrs. Poet on more often! Our family loves having her insight too
Thanks Aaron! I intent to!
Appreciate the support for HomeSchooling! We did that early years and enjoyed with our kids. The kids learned from each other and our family became strong. I thoroughly enjoyed the extra time with our young son, and as you say, “That time cannot be brought back.”
I appreciate you all speaking the truth about so many things!🇺🇸
happy to Tim and thanks for doing your part
Came back from fishing all-day as part of our home education freedom. Neighborhpod kids were just getting released from school.
My kids have read thousands of books, since they go to the library every week.
Public school isn't education. It's an institutional model for training mass conformity, which is the most anti-American program in US history.
Starting my journey with homeschools far so good, all three are pre-schooling age and they can all read and do math already… it would be criminal to send them to school in 2years to relearn ABCs with 6yr olds 🤦♂️. It amazes me how much they learn with teachers that genuinely care.
@@MakerBees333 There isn’t an arbitrary standard that some magic person has the ability to set for everyone, so it’s fun to see what kids will do with a little help. There really isn’t a need to push them because they already want to absorb so much. It’s more of a steering job. With modern access to information and libraries galore, the opportunities for a home-based model are endless.
Who says I can’t incorporate reloading and shooting into our curriculum? Aircraft construction, avionics, art, drone piloting...
@@LRRPFco52 Exactly! That what I keep telling my wife when I keep filling the Amazon cart with Robots and electronics 😆
As a 18 year old going to college who went to a private Christian school I can say our school faculty really cared and loved us. And wanted us to grow up right. And I love the part where John talks about taking medication, since the beginning of education no one needed these things to help them work.it just takes determination and hard work. I love your vids John even my principle from my school watches and supports you 💪
My wife and I are about to welcome our first child( a boy) in the next 24 hours and this video is exactly what I needed to watch right now. From the moment I knew we were having a boy I planned on raising a little warrior poet. Thank you so much John for fighting to keep the warrior poet spirit alive and well in this society.
Hope your wife had a safe delivery. Do your best, Poet! I know you'll be a great father
I wish I could like this video fifty times. I have two boys and I feel exactly the same way.
I have no words. This video will prove invaluable to me and my future family. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences!
Thank you so much for posting this. My family is staring down the barrel of these choices right now with our 2-1/2 year old son and it's nice to know we're not the only ones out there dealing with this.
My youngest had read over 1000 books by the age of 6. We just take him to the library just 1x per week, along with his older sisters, who have also read thousands of books.
They also do soccer, dance, homeschooling groups in our neighborhood, and whatever we want to do as a family.
My 3 younger kids have never seen the inside of a classroom.
As a homeschool mother who sacrificed EVERYTHING to get er done, there is no better advice we homeschool moms and dads can give than JUST DO IT.
Our biggest take away for you is you control their influences. You’re fighting financially and emotionally now, just think about when little tommy comes home at 5 w a horrible attitude, worse mouth and is wearing a tutu.
All jokes aside, our kids have turned out better than the rest and every single struggle you face, other homeschool families have faced along side you.
The fights, the stretching, the budgets, the battles, even the spiritual attacks.
But brother, it’s beyond worth it to save your flesh and blood.
Support that home school mama. It’s the hardest job ANYONE will ever have to give up everything for her husband and be the moral director and educator for his babies.
@@LRRPFco52
Awesome on yall. You got it down and I’m sure can tell everyone the same as any of us:
Forced socializing isn’t healthy socializing.
We too do soccer baseball 4H scouts and all kinds of church stuff along side homeschool meet ups and field trips. (We don’t agree w what the scouts and 4H have done btw and celebrated gender confusion)
As most of us at homers, we all know the importance of them building solid good bonds and not being forced to sit next to their bully and say yes, when they should be learning to say no.
Pretty cool that you guys care deeply about this, that you both for your service to attempt and bettering society little by little.
we do care and we want to make a difference! Thanks Rusty
The more I watch and learn of you, the more I appreciate your values and clear messages. Thank you. Happy Veterans Day and thank you for your service.
I need more Good Dad content. I'm trying to find the way with my kids, with out good fatherly examples in my life, I feel like I could be doing things all wrong.
I think that question 'am I doing things all wrong' is important to keep us questioning and refining what we do and how we do. Ask the question, I think, is definitely the right practice
Just by questioning if you're doing things right you show you care more than a lot of dads out there. #1 is be present - every parent I see is head down in their phone not even acknowledging their children a lot of the time. You can be firm/discipline them when needed, but always examine yourself to see if you're doing that out of love - out of a desire to make your kids better adults. It all comes down to balance from what I've experienced so far.
You’d be surprised at what can happen with a box of worms and fishing pole. Even a small pile of dirt and a toy truck but the secret is that you get dirty and stinky right along with them. Got girls? Go ahead and let them do your hair and face, talk about hilarious and you will be the coolest dad around. Also give them space but be there to listen to them even when it’s really trivial stuff. You see, their little issues to you are great big issues to them. You have already started the process so off you go to be a great dad. 😊
I honestly didn't expect so much positivity, thank you guys and please keep the parenting stuff coming.
As a recent homeschool momma to 4 boys (and one girl!), this is so great! Our boys have struggled through public school and we finally decided to pull the plug and bring them home. We are seeing “the lights” come back on for them! This lifestyle works so much better for us.
I would LOVE to see more homeschool content videos. Maybe some ideas from Mrs. Poet on how she organizes her day, her favorite resources, favorite read alouds, etc. Just overall more homeschooling content to help out all of us newcomers! Thank you so much for your content! It gives me hope!
Ha! We did the same thing with our daughter. The public school tried to tell us she was broken so we yanked her from those people and homeschooled her. They failed her. She is thriving now. She’s dual enrolled in college and high school, member of a home school co-op, youth at church and employed at Chicfila. Thank God for home schooling.
God bless you!!!! I’ve been saying this for years. What ever happen to kids just having their own personality.
I got lucky. My son turned out to be an unmedicated pretty awesome human. I do however regret making him into a professional student for 16 of his first 21 years.
Awesome.......... similar issues, took mine out in 5th and never looked back.... now she is 25 and great young adult
The world needs more parents like you! Thanks!! Greeting from Cape Town.
Very encouraging. Dad of 3 boys here, and Lord willing, doing a good job letting them be boys. We moved our kids out of public school for many of the same reasons.
Great message Mr. and Mrs. Poet.
Oh how I wish I had been homeschooled. This approach to parenting is so refreshing !
Save the boys! This whole idea gives me a mental image of a few members of a ship’s crew going below deck in the middle of the night to wake the rest of the crew
What an incredible mom and educator!!! Much respect to both of you.
God bless you folks.You are talking about my youngest son !!! I resisted the system, and thank God my son's light is still on !!!
Thank you for this. My wife and I had our first son in March, and are consistently having the conversation regarding the future of his education. It always points back to the same conclusion - he's not going to sit in a classroom. He's only seven months old and we can already tell a difference in his development because we give him a controlled environment to explore, play and learn; not to mention, he's got people he trusts leading and teaching him. I will never understand why parents are so willing to outsource the development of their children to untrustworthy adults who aren't invested in them.
Amen amen amen AMEN! I couldn't agree more. Our boys don't need meds. They might just need to run around the house a couple times to help them settle.
It was great to see your family at the Homesteaders of America conference! Keep it up!
My opinion…y’all are spot on. Thank you for speaking out!
We have six children and five are boys and I loved this video. We also started homeschooling last year and it has been such a blessing for our children. Thanks for all your great content!
Christopher Reeves would stand for this!
wow 😳
Sheesh 😂
You're wife is awesome! The state of Education today is just awful. I agree that it was SOOO different when I was in school. I applaud your actions on behalf of your kids!
More people need to address this, thank you so much.
no problem brother. Happy to talk the deep talk about stuff that matters most
This is good inspiring stuff. I’m nervous about homeschooling my 4 year old and this is the kind of mental reinforcement I need. There’s no way I am going to throw my kid to the wolves (public school).
I fear what they are teaching boys now in the school. I am blessed to have had a strong Christ centered education. I do know the difference is they consistently had strong mentors such as yourself leading the way. Thank you brother.
I was an EC teacher before my son was born. I wrote IEPs and held those same meetings you’re talking about. I was appalled at some of the stuff I had to do and at what the students were forced into. I would not want my son to go through that.
If only more parents were like the two of you🙏🏻
GOD bless the Lovell's! I wish the best for your family.
Thank you both. Spot on like your beautiful wife said no one loves your children as much as you! I fought this for years and refused to give in to drugs for my son. He is currently a US MARINE 0311 and near completion at Sniper school.
I completely agree, I had this happen to me as a kid I had "adhd" and my mom had me going from one pill to the next until she just said she couldn't handle me and gave me over to my dad, and then eventually had my brother given over to my dad too, and it was all good for awhile no pills, but then slowly our dad started abusing us for years, until we were finally able to leave. Now I know that sounds bad but im still young and going through all of this even tho it was bad has helped me in other ways. We didn't know it all the time but our mom was trying to control everything and how both of our lives were going to end up. And her politics had gotten into us as well. And over a few years of being on my own and being my own man I found you guys and many other people in the preparedness/firearm/homesteading/self sufficient life style because of having to deal with all that trauma. So to anyone else reading this, even if something like this happens to you, you WILL overcome it and you can do this!
My family is home schooling my 1, 3, and 5 year olds. It’s such hard work but so rewarding. I will never feed my beautiful babies to the cold and bloody teeth of the social machine. We love you guys, God bless.
All my boys are grown now but I relate to this. My oldest was in 8th youngest in kindergarten and I really felt God called me to homeschool them. There were so many things that were squeezing the boy life out of them. My youngest would've definitely been put on drugs had I kept them in public school and the middle boy who was in 4th had the creativity crushed in him. Best thing we ever did for our family too.
My coworker is in his mid 40s now, he told me back in public school he could had made profit by selling his prescribed Ritalin pills to his classmates. As of me being 30 now, back in either elementry or middle school I was diagnosed with OCD and one day had a meltdown in the classroom so I was prescribed Zoloft, my parents told me it turned me into a zombie they called my name a dozen times then Id slowly turn towards them in a slow zombie like response so they stopped. I also heard that here in USA theres 110 per 1000 who are prescribed antidepressants. I had a coworker out of the Navy who is on like 6 different SSRIs for her PTSD, so to "fix" the problem they just throw a bunch of pills at you? Nice, maybe think of what new problems may replace the old problem and evaluate if the new problem is less bad, worse, or unchanged as the old problem. Here in California theyre mandating all public school kids get the vax with the QR code & vax card to prove theyre vaxxed, this is one more of multiple reasons that you may want to pull your kids from public school.
We are right there with y'all on everything that wad said. When we got married we faced many opinions on our decision to homeschool our future kids and they would not be put on behavioral meds. Now with 2 boys I love their craziness. #SaveTheBoys
As a father of two boys, this very subject is something that was really important to us. One way that we found to help in raising our boys to be Men of Character and strength was Trail Life USA. I started a troop in my town through a local church so that my boys could participate and so i could be involved. It's a fantastic organization and I'd love to see Warrior Poet Society and Trail Life USA do some kind of collaboration! Y'all have very similar goals and passions!
Couldn't agree more with this. I can't imagine sending my kids off all day to to just sit down and sit still all day. Your time as a child is too short. I know lots if parents that medicate their children and it ahocks me that parents buy it up and think there is something weing with their kids. Parents are the ones that are broken.
Homeschooling Rocks! My daughter is thriving coming out of 6 years of public schooling.
Your first homeschooling video years ago was the final straw that moved us to homeschooling. This story though hits me at home it's almost a carbon copy of what we went through. Always appreciate these videos.
All I can say is Amen to everybody's comments and God bless you brother. Sappers lead the way!
As an ADHD boy who has never taken medication for it, I am *SOOO THANKFUL* that my parents sought teaching resources to help me cope and grow rather than drugging me like public school wanted. Overcoming those challenges has made me so much stronger as a person. Now I'm a licensed engineer with a beautiful wife who is homeschooling our 2 kids.
Please do share some of the specific things they taught you that helped most with organization & discipline necessary for school & college! Thank you ❤
I'm very thankful to my parents because while i've never been diagnosed with ADHD my school wanted me tested for it and placed on medication and my parents thankfully said no!
@@woodfamily5229 One of the biggest helps was learning that white noise is a VERY useful tool. The noise itself has varied from a loud fan to a playlist with a type of music, but having certain background noises can play a huge role in allowing you to focus effectively.
Another big help is to realize that ADD/ADHD is not just easily distracted, but also the opposite, tunnel vision. It's possible for me to become so overwhelmingly focused on a topic that I completely lose track of time. Being able to realize this and allow myself to get tunnel vision on things I need to, but also to avoid or pull myself out of tunnel vision when I don't need to.
As for organization, it's *CRITICAL* to develop some sort of system. For me a big thing is having a dedicated place for things and being disciplined enough to put them back where they go when I'm finished has made it so much easier on my already forgetful brain.
Hope that helps!
@@JDStone-jg8cg One benefit of getting tested was that it helped knowing what was going on so that I could learn how to deal with it.
But I absolutely agree that medicating kids is not the way to go.
@@EngNerdGMN thank you!
Yes!! Thank God for calling us to homeschool. I was a teacher, and those similar experiences are part of the reason why I feel so strongly it’s best to homeschool
I started following probably based in a fear mindset during co vid. So many great instructional videos but nothing compares to this. You and your wife is the next level. Far more important work is being done here 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼👍🏼✊🏼
Thanks for being on mission with us Ryan
That was a great message. Hope parents are paying attention. God bless you both.
This hits home because we have a soon to be 3 year old boy. He is 1000% boy and it shows.. I know exactly what would happen if we put him in public school.
haha, 1000%! LOVE IT
Same boat here. All these thoughts have been going through my mind recently with my two young boys.
Brace yourself! Three year old boys are wild. 😆 I looked out the back door to the patio yesterday, and saw the 3 year old with his pants down. So I ran out to inform him the patio isn’t an acceptable place to relieve himself, and he had already done ALL his business ON THE PATIO! Just when I think I’ve seen it all, a toddler does something unthinkable. I watched/helped my mom raise 6 awesome boys and I’ve learned a lot of patience and to just accept and encourage boyhood.
@@Rosie_C I get it very well already. He's getting close to 4 and it's been quite a ride. Everyday is something new.
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS VIDEO. SO MANY great homeschool parents start out with "We don't know what we're doing but it ain't gonna be this." God bless you two and your family!
More parenting videos please! We all need to hear someone else relating to the rest of us Trail Blazers!
we intend to and thanks!
@@WarriorPoetSociety awesome to hear, thank y’all for your dedication to all of us and to eachother.
It’s incredible (I’m a woman w a good papa bear) to see a strong mama and her papa bear that protects her through their growth together.
Leaders! Thank y’all!
I always appreciate videos like this on your channel! As someone who is about to become a father of his first child, I’d love to hear more like this, advice, anecdotal practices and stuff like that. Its valuable!
God bless you guys for speaking about this. What you say is absolutely true. Boys are fidgety, creative, and need to be active. 10 yrs ago as a Sunday school teacher of young boys at my church, I had a mom approach me on this topic. School wanted to put little “Tommy” on drugs to slow him down. She asked my what I thought. I said ,”your little Tommy is no different than any other boy his age. Active, creative, has a need to move, and best of all, he’s the sharpest boy in my class. If they put him on drugs it will absolutely kill his spirit. As a single mom I understand it’s difficult, but I see nothing wrong with him that more activity and a little discipline won’t take care of.”Public schools don’t wanna deal with it, so drugs are the answer. NOT! It’s so wrong makes my wanna cry for these kids.
Just say no to drugs....except the ones from us!
Drugs do not solve the problem of untrained boys with bad behavior. The children and parents are just more miserable and the excuses (that they have a disorder) don’t help. It’s like a bandaid that constantly falls off.
Amen!!! You guys are 100 percent on point!!!
thanks Josh!
@@WarriorPoetSociety absolutely! My wife and I agreed to homeschooling, difficult part is we sacrifice everything (including being able to have a larger community with groups like WP).. But for all the sacrifices we wouldn't trade a thing for our child!
John, I had something like this start in kindergarten with my youngest son, 2 days in I found out that he had been treated without dignity, being put in an isolated room for a time out... sheesh! Sure, he is diagnosed with autism but SO much of his behaviors are AGE APPROPRIATE! This was 6 years ago... homeschooling and a mix of our private school are the right fit for all 3 of my kids. We are lucky, their PE includes jiu jitsu, they have plenty of time to get out those wiggles and are surrounded by others with shared values. Thank you both for sharing!
where was that PE when I was a kid!!!! Wow
@@WarriorPoetSociety Tell me about it, even though I have trained BJJ for years, asking the kids "What did you learn today" is getting a little more interesting! I got to roll up my 9 year old daughter yesterday - LOL!
You two remind me of my parents. I love them so much. Those values you’re teaching your kids work every-time.
The part about behavior, labels, medication and those things following you around reminded me of when my family moved to US. I was in middle school and because I had a limited knowledge of English, I was put in an ESL class (English as Second Language). My parents got the advice that they needed to get me transferred out of it ASAP, otherwise “I would always be an ESL kid.” After some time, I learned more English, I was getting good grades in that class, my parents talked to the school and got me transferred. Meanwhile, the other kids even with better grades and knowledge of English were still in that class.
I went from getting good grades in the ESL class to getting mediocre grades in a regular English class, but I was surrounded by native English speakers and I learned English much faster. That has opened some important opportunities for me and I ended up going to a magnet high school as a result. Also, by the time I was in high school my accent was almost gone. A few years later, no one would know that I wasn’t born in US.
Sometimes I feel like the goals of ESL classes may not be set correctly because it would put the teacher in a conflict of interest. If I had to guess, the current goal of a typical ESL class is “teach the kid English,” similar to what the goal of a regular English class might be. However, the goal of the ESL class should be “get the kids to a point where they can participate in a native English class.” The goal of ESL class should be to make ESL class obsolete, which is probably problematic for the teacher.
Anyway, the earlier a person gets on the right, or at least better, path in their life, the less they will have to fight later on in life since they will already be closer to the good outcomes than people who were not traveling in the right direction.
Going through this mental battle myself as trying to decide on home schooling my daughter (and eventually my son). Thanks for the open frank discussion you had.
Let's Go Bekah! Great Content!
Y'all are beautiful souls and your boys are extremely lucky. My mom went full mama bear when the school did the whole "ritalin rant". Happily, I had amazing teachers who realized that I was just bored after I got my work done. They gave me more work, not drugs. God bless.
Great content as always You guys. I am a Former Marine and was homeschooled all the way until high school and love what you put out John. One thing I think that is missing though is the absolute importance of shielding our boys of the prevalence of porn. When I was young you had to sneak a playboy or hustler magazine, now, with the ease of a simple search, our boys are exposed with the most perverse and grotesque pornography imaginable. This twists and distorts the sexuality of young men and I believe is one of the biggest influences of the depression and anxiety of young men today. As a Marine and being deployed, I struggled with porn addiction for years and until God broke the chains of that sin with the help of my wife. It is of the most importance to us to keep our kids eyes and minds pure of the disgust that is so readily available with the technology of today. Love your input on this subject. Thanks Guys
Hey man, do you mind me asking for some tips to break porn and fap addiction?
AMEN !!!!! Raising three boys, then young men and now MEN. Work ethos, knowing directs and happiness. STRONG men start with STRONG parents ! RLTW brother... 1st Bat vet here !
As a mother of boys I approve of and have observed this message #truth
thank you!
Thank you for speaking earnestly. When my wife volunteered to homeschool 14 years ago I didn't know if it could work. But now we can testify to what you've said here. It's been a long and gnarly road but we are so thankful for the life we've shared with our kids.
One more thing I'll say is homeschool is a good bandaid for now, but long-term we *NEED* to fix the public education system. Homeschooling is expensive, demanding, and just isn't widespread enough to make the cultural difference we need in this country. Can't forget that some people also just aren't cut out for homeschooling, and know they can't teach their kids everything a proper school could if it wasn't as woke and corrupt as it is now.
I will say that millions of people have joined the homeschool movement in the last couple years and it is much larger now that people realize. I'd say it will have some massive cultural implications in the years ahead. You are right though, we do need to fix the public education system
You can't fix what was specifically designed to break you. Study John Dewey's "My Pedagogic Creed".
It's very short, not long at all. He outlines what compulsory school in the US was really meant to be.
I genuinely needed this. As a father who has no idea what he's doing. Thank you.
👏👏👏bravo guys, as a current public school employee it is tough to get through to these kids that have no support at home. Keep doing what you're doing. God bless
My son's childhood was disgusting and pathetic before we adopted him. One of the things we were most eager to do, was throw him into a pit of nephews so that they could teach him how to be a real boy. All the rough housing scared him at first, but it was absolutely transformative!! He's not the pathetic loser that his bio family was training him to be, he has turned into a real boy, able to bond with other boys, and shoulder what limited responsibility we thrust on him. We can't afford to let our nation's sons be pressed down and permanently damaged.
I have to add: both of my kids are on IEPs, my son is perfectly willing to work, but due to trauma and possibly ADHD, he has a beast of a time retaining what he learns! He definitely needs help with the three Rs (which are all he needs from a classroom). He progresses every week, and we have no intention to medicate anything except illnesses.
wonderful testimony. Glad the social dynamic proved so helpful
@@Heather-xm9ul If you have him on an IEP then he can't serve in the military but at least you're helping him with his future. If he is truly ADHD medication will help him
@@TheInfantry98 Joes who had IEPs join all the time. Even if they do decide to make that a disqualifier, neither of my kids should be in the woke cesspool that replaced the military. The army I joined still pretended to have principles, after a decade, it had no redeeming qualities. Too woke, too soft, too worthless.
That's a fantastic story although I would deeply caution you against medications for trauma!
AMEN for this video. The problem is not the kids! It's the system that has produced teachers unable to cope and ill prepared to deal with real world humans! We raised 2 boys without any meds and they have become outstanding conservative contributors to society that pay taxes and try to help others do better. Were they perfect - absolutely not, but they are great citizens now at 30+.
I was born in 1957 I didn't go to kindergarten I went right into 1st grade, St Paul's Catholic school. Fortunately back in the 60s and 70s that was THE BEST education in South Philly. SEMPER FI 🙏🇺🇲✌️
The medication thing is serious. It was the worst mistake my mother ever made. I felt like a complete zombie. Finally I made the decision myself to just stop taking it.
After school when I got home I would go and hang out in the woods for hours. I think it saved my life.
Is this common in the US?
@@Tony.795 it’s gotten more common as time goes on. A lot of people in the circles I listen to point to the Federal Board of Education turning everything cookie cutter as the culprit. The school days typically have gotten longer and there’s less and less physical activity that students are able to do. Hamstrings boys specifically it girls also aren’t done any favors
What a fantastic video! When our son was in 2nd grade, we had a teacher, school counselor, and a psychiatrist tell us our son had ADHD and needed to be medicated. The teacher was freaking out about him drawing tanks, guns, and knives on his folders. Gee, go figure with a cop for a dad and numerous relatives being in the military. We told them to pound sand. The next year, he had a FANTASTIC male teacher and he flourished, a 180 degree turn in academic achievement.