yesss & it’s not even on purpose i’m just a better listener than i am a talker 🥲🥲 i only start to talk a lot when i get super comfy & that feels like it takes 4everrr
the thing about being mysterious is that people who just don't like you get to keep their unjustified opinion of who you are because they never see the real you, you need confidence and positivity to pull it off without being perceived as weird or quiet
last bit was so funny and relatable some times mysterious people don't intentionally keep themself a mystery. Usually people who are loud and like to overshare, don't really give any other person a safe space to open up. When you are so lost in yourself your mysterious friend wouldn't want to reveal their vulnerable side to you. a keen ear also needs a keen ear.
It's about choosing the right people who earn and deserve your vulnerability and openness. Also working with your attacment style. I've had a fear that people won't find me and my life interesting and attractive if I'm honest, open and sincere. Which is false. Dynamics where people run when you open up is not about your lack of coolness but rather not being able to be emotionally available (intimacy issues etc.). People do project onto me that I'm judgy, mean and cold. But it's fair. I have high standards and if it repells you then good. I love raw honesty but you gotta get over your fear of being seen and judged to talk to me. I'm as much human as you.
As a mysterious person I totally agree with everything she mentioned it’s really hard opening up to people sometimes it becomes so unhealthy living that way but that’s just the way I am I really do wish sometimes to be one of these people who can just be themselves around everyone especially when I was in my teenage years but I have learned to accept myself as I am and it’s surprising to see that people actually wanna be mysterious instead of what I have always wanted but from this episode I have learnt that everything has pros and cons and the real struggle is to know how to balance between both aspects ❤
Exactly, we don’t wanna be exposed to oversharing, and we’re rarely interested so we don’t bother to share either But hey, you’re cool the way you are, you don’t need mystery
I’ve never felt more alone than when i was in my mysterious era. Also been the obsessed one over a mysterious guy and it hides the truth bc at the end you’re full of expectations and you’ll try to squeeze the person into your idea of them. I think authenticity is a really good and important quality to put up there
I kinda switched from being super private, super "mysterious" about my life (for absolutely no reason) to being super open and super honest and all it took is for one person to tell me "You don't have to be so mysterious, ya kno'"
Being mysterious is definitely a way to be sure someone is actually interested in getting to know who you really are. I’d say mine is a result of being terribly open and getting burned enough times to have the “omg everyone knows too much” crisis that then closed me shut until I have a memorable experience with someone and can remember their name.
kinda off topic but every mysterious girl has a super open, oversharing best friend and every super open girl has a mysterious bestie and i just love that. it just works so much better that way for some reason
in my case it depends on the environment. at work i am super mysterious. online too. with my friends i am super open and vulnerable. with my family members i am 50/50. 😅
Everyone will see different people as mysterious. Also some people are just introverts, some are anxious. Don’t think the kitchen Psychologie term of “mysterious” is helpful to anyone.
whats the difference between (mysterious') and (not available) ? ppl who dont like to share and who are guarded are not available because of trust issues or stuff like that, and what is mysterious people ? is it just ppl who are doing it on purpose ? to make themselves more interesting ? so its ilke, basically acting? thats kind of silly
I've not been a mysterious person a day in my life. I watched the movie, French Kiss when I was younger and they talk about the sexy allure of French women and that they are utterly mysterious. So it makes me feel like I am neither sexy nor alluring hahaha
I dont know if i identify as a mysterious person. I do think i am more of a listener rather than a talker. I know many things about everyone, but they dont know much about me.
In short, Emma wants to be cooler/more desirable than she already is and infect people's minds more than she already does. She also doesn't want to feel more disconnected from people (more than she already feels is happening to her) either by being mysterious or oversharing her stuff. She also doesn't feel comfortable with not knowing who the fuck mysterious people are and confuses mystery with coldness. For whoever is reading this, and I would ask Emma herself, who do you want to love you more? or who do you want to care more about you? Dear Emma, you are going through a classic neurosis. Since you have the financial means, start a psychoanalysis right now.
is worse when you are mysterious, i feel like i don’t have real connections, if something happens i have no one that i can call
Giiiirl then it’s on us to kick off our mysterious shoes! Get to minglin’ 😘🩵
Same
You could be mysterious but have one or two good friends or family members and that’s it
yesss & it’s not even on purpose i’m just a better listener than i am a talker 🥲🥲 i only start to talk a lot when i get super comfy & that feels like it takes 4everrr
the thing about being mysterious is that people who just don't like you get to keep their unjustified opinion of who you are because they never see the real you, you need confidence and positivity to pull it off without being perceived as weird or quiet
A lot of the time people you think are "mysterious" are actually just boring people with good taste.
Hahaha that’s so me
@@emiports6478 minimal drama, just vibing
The grass is always greener
I’ve definitely used being mysterious as a defence mechanism
last bit was so funny and relatable some times mysterious people don't intentionally keep themself a mystery. Usually people who are loud and like to overshare, don't really give any other person a safe space to open up. When you are so lost in yourself your mysterious friend wouldn't want to reveal their vulnerable side to you. a keen ear also needs a keen ear.
It's about choosing the right people who earn and deserve your vulnerability and openness. Also working with your attacment style. I've had a fear that people won't find me and my life interesting and attractive if I'm honest, open and sincere. Which is false. Dynamics where people run when you open up is not about your lack of coolness but rather not being able to be emotionally available (intimacy issues etc.). People do project onto me that I'm judgy, mean and cold. But it's fair. I have high standards and if it repells you then good. I love raw honesty but you gotta get over your fear of being seen and judged to talk to me. I'm as much human as you.
As a mysterious person I totally agree with everything she mentioned it’s really hard opening up to people sometimes it becomes so unhealthy living that way but that’s just the way I am I really do wish sometimes to be one of these people who can just be themselves around everyone especially when I was in my teenage years but I have learned to accept myself as I am and it’s surprising to see that people actually wanna be mysterious instead of what I have always wanted but from this episode I have learnt that everything has pros and cons and the real struggle is to know how to balance between both aspects ❤
Exactly, we don’t wanna be exposed to oversharing, and we’re rarely interested so we don’t bother to share either
But hey, you’re cool the way you are, you don’t need mystery
i try so much not to be that mysterious because i want and need more connection with people but it is just not me. sometimes its a curse.
I’ve never felt more alone than when i was in my mysterious era. Also been the obsessed one over a mysterious guy and it hides the truth bc at the end you’re full of expectations and you’ll try to squeeze the person into your idea of them. I think authenticity is a really good and important quality to put up there
Maybe they're trynna figure out who they are too
I kinda switched from being super private, super "mysterious" about my life (for absolutely no reason) to being super open and super honest and all it took is for one person to tell me "You don't have to be so mysterious, ya kno'"
Being mysterious is definitely a way to be sure someone is actually interested in getting to know who you really are. I’d say mine is a result of being terribly open and getting burned enough times to have the “omg everyone knows too much” crisis that then closed me shut until I have a memorable experience with someone and can remember their name.
kinda off topic but every mysterious girl has a super open, oversharing best friend and every super open girl has a mysterious bestie and i just love that. it just works so much better that way for some reason
Omg i really really love the analogies you make.You are hands down the best relationship expert I have ever known.
in my case it depends on the environment. at work i am super mysterious. online too. with my friends i am super open and vulnerable. with my family members i am 50/50. 😅
Everyone will see different people as mysterious. Also some people are just introverts, some are anxious. Don’t think the kitchen Psychologie term of “mysterious” is helpful to anyone.
Exactly because people say I’m a mysterious person but they don’t know that I’m just a very anxious girl who loves to be alone
I totally agree emma! and its so hard to be mysterious when u are not hahaha, I feel you
I like your videos. Even your vlogs, very calming
so refreshing to wake up have breakfast while listening to you
Mysterious people - no comment
Be real...never compromise who you are🎉
I think I’m still falling
whats the difference between (mysterious') and (not available) ? ppl who dont like to share and who are guarded are not available because of trust issues or stuff like that, and what is mysterious people ? is it just ppl who are doing it on purpose ? to make themselves more interesting ? so its ilke, basically acting? thats kind of silly
We want a main channel video🙏🙏🙏
I've not been a mysterious person a day in my life. I watched the movie, French Kiss when I was younger and they talk about the sexy allure of French women and that they are utterly mysterious. So it makes me feel like I am neither sexy nor alluring hahaha
I dont know if i identify as a mysterious person.
I do think i am more of a listener rather than a talker.
I know many things about everyone, but they dont know much about me.
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Yes Emma
Talk about making friends
Is it being mysterious or is it being nonchalant?
Loll..I don't drink .I over share 🎉
what do I care if people know me
I can't even spell anymore
First confessions - by monzerat fontes……..
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Girl. Be you🎉
My hot take: being mysterious is incredibly boring
In short, Emma wants to be cooler/more desirable than she already is and infect people's minds more than she already does. She also doesn't want to feel more disconnected from people (more than she already feels is happening to her) either by being mysterious or oversharing her stuff. She also doesn't feel comfortable with not knowing who the fuck mysterious people are and confuses mystery with coldness. For whoever is reading this, and I would ask Emma herself, who do you want to love you more? or who do you want to care more about you?
Dear Emma, you are going through a classic neurosis. Since you have the financial means, start a psychoanalysis right now.
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