I recently had an issue with an adult student with special needs. He exhibited harassing behaviors and his parents knew that he did these things and needed to warn us so that we could deal with it accordingly. They did not because "they hoped that it would just go away." Spoiler, it didn't.
My concern with the auPair story is that once the middle son came back from the Library without OP, the older son left quickly, and then the mom called OP Frantically wondering WHERE SHE WAS. You could read the older son leaving to a friends as trying to run away from trouble - or going after OP. I think it's the latter especially with the middle constantly following her and the mother more concerned about OPs immediate location. I think OP being at the library then going back for her things - she likely evaded the older son. Terrifying.
First story is normal shit women deal with daily. I mean , it's not good or nice , but idk about traumatizing. That's a little dramatic , I mean the EXACT thing happened to me when I was 11 and the guy was in his 40s . That didn't even traumatized me.
@@onthecasejeannie Trauma is an experience the body has many different responses to, including blocking out the real fear and pain it causes. There are things that in the moment did traumatize me even if I didn't know it then, but now do not bother me because I healed. Just because it didn't affect you harshly doesn't mean it didn't affect you at all, nor does it make it right, nor does it mean it won't traumatize someone else. Don't minimize the trauma responses of others simply because you have different responses to behaviors forced on you by gross people. In a way that is both victim blaming AND a trauma response in and of itself.
@@onthecasejeannieMaybe if some people didn't keep normalizing it as being fine it wouldn't keep happening. Stop doing the work for these pos's. You're clearly in some kind of denial, if you think a grown man doing something like this to you when you were a child had no effect. If it didn't have any effect, why do you still remember it? Why are you so defensive about someone else calling the same event SA? Because you're scared to deal with it for real. That is a YOU problem and does not give you the right to downplay someone else's experience.
@@onthecasejeannie1) it's very possible it left an effect on you you either aren't aware of or that your mind "covered up" because the brain likes to "erase" bad experiences or feelings to protect us. 2) even if being assaulted by a grown man at 11 somehow left 0 trauma on you, you are in the incredibly tiny minority and cannot use your experience as the standard for everyone else. And deminishing someone else's feelings or traumatic experience because "yours wasn't so bad" is wrong.
@@onthecasejeannie just because YOU were not traumatised, that may not be the same experience for others. What a ridicilous thing to say. STOP NORMALISING SA.
37:30 Ty for reorienting us after that story. This story really made me start feeling bad after numerous SA incidents throughout my life and at 25, i still feel shame, numbness, loss, anger, sadness, anxiety, etc. Its rough. I literally saw the guy who assaulted me in college a month ago, and it made me have a breakdown. Im trying to be better and its hard. But again, thank you. I feel a bit better
He's already had a negative impact on you. DO NOT let him do the same to your education. That is YOURS, that YOU are paying for. Sending love and strength🫂🩷
I remember reading the second story. There’s so much more to it. As it turns out Jane essentially was the golden child because she was adopted and the parents wanted her to not feel alienated. But Jane wasn’t the typical golden child. She realized that she wasn’t being treated fairly and shared her spoils with OP as much as she could starting at 6 years old. While she was a good person, she was very sheltered and naive. There was a revelation that cause there to be a split between the older and younger siblings. The older sister was collecting money from Jane for OP’s B-day gift every year. It was tickets for soccer match in England. But the older sister was pocketing it. Jane didn’t question it because OP was going to the match every year on his own dime. She assumed it was gift. When that came out, all hell broke loose.
Story 1 (21:06) @Sophia: As a german girl myself, i could tell you, that germans "therapie culture" isn't the same as in the US. Compared to the US, mental "illness" and getting a therapie is hard. Even when i was diagnosed with depression, i had to wait 6 months to get a therapist (and thats fast, if you aren't in the ward, because you are an immediate danger to yourself or other ppl around you). And you are just granted a therapie for a couple of sessions and have to prove your regular doc, that therapie works out (you improve), but also that you need more sessions, if you're not "fit enough" to handle your "problems" on your own. Also, society is just slowly accepting mental problems as such. Most of the time they tell you "i/we had it so much harder in life", "don't be such a weakling, do what's expected of you" and other things like that. Like my parents, when i was diagnosed with depression, they just took it seriously when i wanted to end it once and for all.
I should have been diagnosed with depression and anxiety at age 8, but that was so long ago that American mental health care was much the same as what you're describing. It took me trying to OD and having myself committed to a psych unit to get medication. I've had to change doctors so many times for being dismissive jackasses. But I have an excellent care team all around now, from my primary care doctor to all my various specialists I have to see, and my primary doctor handles all my meds, including my antidepressants. And he listens to me, a rare quality in doctors. Anyway, I'm glad you only had to wait 6 months and I hope the mental health care in Germany improves quickly. 🩷
My birthday was happy merry Christmas December 23rd I technically have 2 younger brothers and a younger sister. Both boys are 💩 my sister is the youngest and grew up to be an awesome mother!
1st story…I would be asking for the parents of the boy to pay for my flight home since it was *their don* that caused the safety issue. Kinda like if an apartment complex or landlord had an issue that caused a tenant to move, usually the landlord is responsible for the displacement. I would at least check into it
Please if possible add TW for future SA related stories- I play these when driving so I can’t safely turn off the stories but this one was very hard for me this morning Sending love to all survivors
She needs the tell the parents. This almost adult male is showing major red flags and if it’s not addressed now, what’s stopping him from date rape or something similar once he’s out in the world?
19:38 I was in an abusive relationship from March 2019 through December 2021 and was saved by my SIL. During our time together, my ex harmed me in both my childhood home (where my parents still live) and my grandmother's house. Three years later, I still have a hard time being in either house because the memories come rushing back, and my body goes into survival mode. Therapy and time away have helped, but I never sleep well when I visit my family. OP staying in that home could put her mental and physical health at risk, especially knowing he could somehow return.
Those parents wrote off the first incident as a one off teenage incident. Kids are stealthy around their parents and they weren't paying attention to the cues the younger sibling was surely showing. I'm betting he was intimidated by his older brother but tried to be nice or face repercussions. A fair few parents would take their older son's side with the latest nanny incident. The parents made the correct decision getting the older son out of the house for the sake of the other children. Though, I bet he is living a cushy life, sending money to him and the relatives. IMO, a police report should have been filed for future reference and him thrown out. He's also an adult now and doesn't have to comply with interventions they might have in mind. He is calculated and stalks his prey, waiting for opportunities. Some people are born predators and will never change no matter their upbringing or intervention.
Found the story on Reddit. It sounded like the oldest son had a history of scary behavior and the parents knew about it. He was due to turn 28 a week after OP talked to them. They promised to have him stay with an aunt until he turned 18 the next week after which they were going to dump him on an Uncle in the Netherlands. No effort on the parents part to actually deal with the son's problems. The Agency that OP worked for had never had a contract with the family before. She speculated that they had used another Agency before her contract. Last reported she was not going back to the family.
hello! Big fan of your youtube channel, i listen to you while i work or clean, how Sofia narrates the stories is always very lovely, John is hillarious and Sam as well, you have made me laugh so much and brighten my day so, thank you for that! Now... listening to the first story... i also want to put a little something out there that i would like for people to know and to be careful of... i was also an AuPair and... i had a similar experience happen to me... i was also in germany and i was thinking of staying after my year of this program, since i have the nationality, and this family was helping me with the documentation, im mentioning this for you to keep in mind... this didnt get so far as the OP in the first story but... it was really bad, so bad that i had to get out of the house before my time ended because it got to the point they got agressive... there was a lot of gaslighting and manipulation... there was a big pression of me not leaving because they were helping me with the documents so i felt pressure to stay and help with the 4 kids they had...they used the fact that had depression and anxiety against me and that they were helping me to excuse they behaviour and acctions towards me... i ran away in the middle of the night to a hotel my dad booked and then they dared to call my family and say, and i cuote: "we dont know where she is, she got erratic suddenly and missbehaved with us" like if i was crazy, but my family already knew what happened and they confronted them and told then that they were almost keeping me hostage in their home becuase they didnt want to let me leave... the main agressors in this case was 1: the father of this family... and then the mother enableling his behaviour... the kids were 2 and 3 so they couldnt do anything (their 3 sets of twins for any future confusion on why i dont say 4 ages for the 4 kids) i want to tell this to everyone: germany is not a bad country, but... this people were... horrible... thank you for this videos. they really make people that go through this want to stand up and speak what happened... thank you for giving us a voice...
Whooooooo is this bearded beauty?!? ☠️ 😮💨 butttt, on that first story. I am so super proud of her for having the strength to get out and do what she had to do to keep herself safe. As someone who was r*’d by someone I knew… there were signs but I just kept brushing them off. That kid absolutely would have escalated and I’m so happy she is ok now 🙌🏼
I'm only 4 mins into the first story but I been in that situation and completely knew how she feel. I lived with people in there homes I thought safe. I'm going to keep watching to see what she does/say. But in my experience this happens please do something and take it serious. I was 18 at the time and boy was 16. He was quite. Noone suspected his temper. Completely ignoring it is a no. It got worse because of. Being harassed will escalate if not taking very serious just because of age. He cussed me out alot (when rejected). I was graped at night twice by him and it haunts my mind couldnt defend myself. My room was the living room had no door. Please take serious if ever in situation like that in general.
Dude, if one of my siblings even wished me happy birthday in the last 15 years, that was a win. I haven't gotten a present from any of them for just as long (maybe longer) despite me doing my best to bring gifts from China every time I visit and making sure I ask someone to wish them happy birthday for me even if I can't do it myself (China sometimes blocks communication). They might be doing the same of asking a parent to help, in which cause maybe none of us are wishing each other happy birthday because our parents don't forward the messages....
Mental health is not taken super serious in Germany. When I lived there about was on the edge of my break down I was put on a 3 month waiting list to get a therapist.
Sibling birthdays: I used to make my brother his favorite pie and drop it off at his house while he was at work. And for my birthdays, he would give me fresh pineapples. My ex, when we were together, worked with my brother so on my birthday, he would usually come home with flowers for me and hand me my pineapple and say, "Chris says happy birthday." It was a great mutual tradition. I miss my brother. Sorry for rambling a bit, I was getting emotional, lol.
Also 17-year-olds is not a child He's just about 18 he's aware of what he's doing and I would really get away from there immediately I might even leave pack your stuff up don't let them know that you're gonna go because even if they talk to him this kind of behavior that he's doing is worse and they might be alone with you 1 day and just do worse to you I would just leave call your agency have somebody come pick you up pack your bags and be ready to go and until they're there to pick you up I would just tell them you know I would let to know what's happening at that moment but I would not stay there because they're not gonna be able to control this behavior and unless one of those parents stays with you 2047 you never know when he might pull a stunt like that again or worse it's not worth the time he's that creepy
If she is working there through an agency she should reach out to the agency. There are likely other houses in the area that she could be placed in for that same job. It’s unfortunate that she would have to leave the two kids she’s with now since she likes them, it’s not worth her compromising her own safety.
Ehhhhhhhhhh..... Lots of parents don't want to see their children's faults.... And when they do, they blame them on the victims.... Anything to keep the image of perfect family in their minds.
Yeah the parents need to do more than send him away to some anthro uncle's house they need to have this kid have therapy because she's gonna be an adult soon out in the world doing God only knows what women cause you feel like you can it's just gross and Danny too stop him from being that kind of person you need to actual mental help for him to get over that or if it's possible but you can't unleave that kind of kid onto the world that's just wrong and then expect her to stay there too they could come back when they're not there so that would be crazy
I love watching this show but yall keep going off on so many tangents and rants I had to keep skipping to get back to the story… I’m slowly getting turned away from this show because it keeps happening.
German houses aren't like American houses. You can't just "know" how to get in. Plus - the son was being shipped off to the Netherlands, literally another country. Put it might be better to Scott's the drama anyways when the son wants to visit eg. I get that you downplay it if your hormonal 14 years old acts a bit creepy (not when he gets physical), especially when he was a nice kid before puberty. They should have get him some therapy and monitor him more. But I think it's human, to want to see the best in your kid and hindsight is 20/20.
First story: 4:50 mark: Alex:_ And also I feel like if the parents aren’t crazy, as a woman, if you’re like, “your son grabbed me,” most parents would hopefully be like, “oh my god…” Sophia: I’m so sorry, that will never happen again. Guy: …exactly. No, as a parent, your job isn’t to blindly believe some person who accuses your child of anything without proof. In a vacuum, that’s a very disturbing comment. You guys have read stories where an OP has been lied about and the parents blindly believed the accuser and you’ve given the parents shit. For this story, it’s no different. Now, we *_ARE *_** operating under the belief system that OP is telling the truth, but in a vacuum, and completely removed of the context, you shouldn’t ***_BLINDLY_* believe someone accusing your child of shit. Your job as a parent is to have your child’s back. OP *_SHOULD_* just leave, gtfo there, tell the parents, but ultimately and most importantly protect herself. 7:45 mark: OH MY GOD WHO CARES ABOUT YOUR FUCKING PLANE TICKET!!! Just gtfo there, you have to protect yourself, your fucking money is irrelevant when you’re in danger. Goddamnit, use some fucking critical thinking skills or some fucking self preservation actions. “Oh BuT mY tIcKeT.” Your money will seem *_AWFULLY FUCKING IRRELEVANT_* when you’re possibly hurt by this guy. 8:35 mark: I’m sorry, how tf am I or anyone else supposed to give a fuck about you and your safety when *_YOU_* don’t even give a fuck about your safety. He’s not “hAlF yOuR aGe,” he’s basically an adult. And yea, you weren’t able to do anything presumably because you’re a much smaller woman than he is man. God, such wallowing and self pity and keeping herself in a bad situation and only exposing herself to making it worse. This should’ve been a very short story: I was an au pair, I loved the 2 younger boys, the oldest boy (17) got inappropriate with me and assaulted me, I felt I wasn’t strong enough to defend myself, I got the fuck outta there and told the host parents. I also informed the agency that this family’s oldest son is a predator. *THAT FUCKING SIMPLY AND SHORT.*
I usually like listening to your brother and John? read but can you stop interrupting so much?! It’s gotten worse and worse lately since you’ve changed people. There used to be a flow and you would get Sam and them interrupting sometimes but with a funny joke or comment but now it’s annoying. You keep going and going with the interruption that i honestly just stopped watching this time. Save it till the story is actually been read THEN comment. Or make your joke but continue on. Yall just made me stop at around the 10 minute mark and I actually just went to aita to find the story to read it instead. I miss Sam and Jon, are they coming back? or is it just you from now on? Cuz I’ll be honest don’t want to watch it anymore if it’s just you anymore. No offense intended
It's procast they obviously gonna have opinions and conversations and you can always go on their page and look for Sam and John, she is Sam little sister btw
I can't tell you why everyone stopped watching. I can only tell you why I did. It's Sophia. She's a buzz kill. You guys are funnier without the political correct bs. All your most popular videos predate her. I'm not saying fire her. I'm saying make her a part of your brand. Don't allow her to stifle your brand. Sometimes, a person is a b#?@h, not a stinky butt or whatever. Connotation matters.
Everyone stopped watching? I doubt that. Personally, I've been watching less too, but it has been more of a time issue and when I was back, there were too many new faces. I liked John and Sam, but I also liked the dynamic Sophia and Riley had. I'm glad Sophia is there, at least there's one woman's perspective. If you'd rather listen to a bunch of men, without Sophia or "political correct bs", there are PLENTY of options out there.
The first girl is not mature enough to be caring for children if this is her reaction to the children being inappropriate. She needs to find another job.
I recently had an issue with an adult student with special needs. He exhibited harassing behaviors and his parents knew that he did these things and needed to warn us so that we could deal with it accordingly. They did not because "they hoped that it would just go away."
Spoiler, it didn't.
My concern with the auPair story is that once the middle son came back from the Library without OP, the older son left quickly, and then the mom called OP Frantically wondering WHERE SHE WAS. You could read the older son leaving to a friends as trying to run away from trouble - or going after OP. I think it's the latter especially with the middle constantly following her and the mother more concerned about OPs immediate location. I think OP being at the library then going back for her things - she likely evaded the older son. Terrifying.
First story is normal shit women deal with daily. I mean , it's not good or nice , but idk about traumatizing. That's a little dramatic , I mean the EXACT thing happened to me when I was 11 and the guy was in his 40s . That didn't even traumatized me.
@@onthecasejeannie Trauma is an experience the body has many different responses to, including blocking out the real fear and pain it causes. There are things that in the moment did traumatize me even if I didn't know it then, but now do not bother me because I healed. Just because it didn't affect you harshly doesn't mean it didn't affect you at all, nor does it make it right, nor does it mean it won't traumatize someone else. Don't minimize the trauma responses of others simply because you have different responses to behaviors forced on you by gross people. In a way that is both victim blaming AND a trauma response in and of itself.
@@onthecasejeannieMaybe if some people didn't keep normalizing it as being fine it wouldn't keep happening. Stop doing the work for these pos's. You're clearly in some kind of denial, if you think a grown man doing something like this to you when you were a child had no effect. If it didn't have any effect, why do you still remember it? Why are you so defensive about someone else calling the same event SA? Because you're scared to deal with it for real. That is a YOU problem and does not give you the right to downplay someone else's experience.
@@onthecasejeannie1) it's very possible it left an effect on you you either aren't aware of or that your mind "covered up" because the brain likes to "erase" bad experiences or feelings to protect us. 2) even if being assaulted by a grown man at 11 somehow left 0 trauma on you, you are in the incredibly tiny minority and cannot use your experience as the standard for everyone else. And deminishing someone else's feelings or traumatic experience because "yours wasn't so bad" is wrong.
@@onthecasejeannie just because YOU were not traumatised, that may not be the same experience for others. What a ridicilous thing to say. STOP NORMALISING SA.
37:30 Ty for reorienting us after that story. This story really made me start feeling bad after numerous SA incidents throughout my life and at 25, i still feel shame, numbness, loss, anger, sadness, anxiety, etc. Its rough. I literally saw the guy who assaulted me in college a month ago, and it made me have a breakdown.
Im trying to be better and its hard.
But again, thank you. I feel a bit better
He's already had a negative impact on you. DO NOT let him do the same to your education. That is YOURS, that YOU are paying for. Sending love and strength🫂🩷
@nninabrown thank you so much ❤️
I remember reading the second story. There’s so much more to it. As it turns out Jane essentially was the golden child because she was adopted and the parents wanted her to not feel alienated. But Jane wasn’t the typical golden child. She realized that she wasn’t being treated fairly and shared her spoils with OP as much as she could starting at 6 years old. While she was a good person, she was very sheltered and naive. There was a revelation that cause there to be a split between the older and younger siblings. The older sister was collecting money from Jane for OP’s B-day gift every year. It was tickets for soccer match in England. But the older sister was pocketing it. Jane didn’t question it because OP was going to the match every year on his own dime. She assumed it was gift. When that came out, all hell broke loose.
OP was also the only sibling diagnosed autistic 🤨
Story 1 (21:06) @Sophia: As a german girl myself, i could tell you, that germans "therapie culture" isn't the same as in the US. Compared to the US, mental "illness" and getting a therapie is hard. Even when i was diagnosed with depression, i had to wait 6 months to get a therapist (and thats fast, if you aren't in the ward, because you are an immediate danger to yourself or other ppl around you). And you are just granted a therapie for a couple of sessions and have to prove your regular doc, that therapie works out (you improve), but also that you need more sessions, if you're not "fit enough" to handle your "problems" on your own. Also, society is just slowly accepting mental problems as such. Most of the time they tell you "i/we had it so much harder in life", "don't be such a weakling, do what's expected of you" and other things like that. Like my parents, when i was diagnosed with depression, they just took it seriously when i wanted to end it once and for all.
I should have been diagnosed with depression and anxiety at age 8, but that was so long ago that American mental health care was much the same as what you're describing. It took me trying to OD and having myself committed to a psych unit to get medication. I've had to change doctors so many times for being dismissive jackasses. But I have an excellent care team all around now, from my primary care doctor to all my various specialists I have to see, and my primary doctor handles all my meds, including my antidepressants. And he listens to me, a rare quality in doctors. Anyway, I'm glad you only had to wait 6 months and I hope the mental health care in Germany improves quickly. 🩷
And even therapy costs an arm and a leg in the United States along with medical 😢
omg that’s so sad , stories like these make me so grateful for the free therapy sessions in the UK. Wishing you the best and sending love snd hugs! 💗
Second story: The siblings are wild for blaming OP for keeping score, when they just spent the whole evening comparing stuff!!! Hypocrite much???
the children that are benefiting rarely want attention brought to it
My birthday was happy merry Christmas December 23rd I technically have 2 younger brothers and a younger sister. Both boys are 💩 my sister is the youngest and grew up to be an awesome mother!
1st story…I would be asking for the parents of the boy to pay for my flight home since it was *their don* that caused the safety issue. Kinda like if an apartment complex or landlord had an issue that caused a tenant to move, usually the landlord is responsible for the displacement. I would at least check into it
Please if possible add TW for future SA related stories- I play these when driving so I can’t safely turn off the stories but this one was very hard for me this morning
Sending love to all survivors
Thank you I was 5
She needs the tell the parents. This almost adult male is showing major red flags and if it’s not addressed now, what’s stopping him from date rape or something similar once he’s out in the world?
Or who is to say he isn’t already doing this to girls???👀👀👀
If he is confidently picking victims and actually progressing to abusing them in front of his sibling? He's def done this before.
I bet the 14 year old hung out with her so much to keep the older brother away!
Parents didn't just hope but left their son with OP actively
19:38 I was in an abusive relationship from March 2019 through December 2021 and was saved by my SIL. During our time together, my ex harmed me in both my childhood home (where my parents still live) and my grandmother's house. Three years later, I still have a hard time being in either house because the memories come rushing back, and my body goes into survival mode. Therapy and time away have helped, but I never sleep well when I visit my family. OP staying in that home could put her mental and physical health at risk, especially knowing he could somehow return.
Those parents wrote off the first incident as a one off teenage incident. Kids are stealthy around their parents and they weren't paying attention to the cues the younger sibling was surely showing. I'm betting he was intimidated by his older brother but tried to be nice or face repercussions.
A fair few parents would take their older son's side with the latest nanny incident. The parents made the correct decision getting the older son out of the house for the sake of the other children. Though, I bet he is living a cushy life, sending money to him and the relatives.
IMO, a police report should have been filed for future reference and him thrown out. He's also an adult now and doesn't have to comply with interventions they might have in mind. He is calculated and stalks his prey, waiting for opportunities. Some people are born predators and will never change no matter their upbringing or intervention.
Found the story on Reddit. It sounded like the oldest son had a history of scary behavior and the parents knew about it. He was due to turn 28 a week after OP talked to them. They promised to have him stay with an aunt until he turned 18 the next week after which they were going to dump him on an Uncle in the Netherlands. No effort on the parents part to actually deal with the son's problems. The Agency that OP worked for had never had a contract with the family before. She speculated that they had used another Agency before her contract. Last reported she was not going back to the family.
Do you mean turn 18?
I just got to say I love you guys all of you. I love the way you tell the stories and I also love the views of how y'all feel about the story
hello! Big fan of your youtube channel, i listen to you while i work or clean, how Sofia narrates the stories is always very lovely, John is hillarious and Sam as well, you have made me laugh so much and brighten my day so, thank you for that! Now... listening to the first story... i also want to put a little something out there that i would like for people to know and to be careful of... i was also an AuPair and... i had a similar experience happen to me... i was also in germany and i was thinking of staying after my year of this program, since i have the nationality, and this family was helping me with the documentation, im mentioning this for you to keep in mind... this didnt get so far as the OP in the first story but... it was really bad, so bad that i had to get out of the house before my time ended because it got to the point they got agressive... there was a lot of gaslighting and manipulation... there was a big pression of me not leaving because they were helping me with the documents so i felt pressure to stay and help with the 4 kids they had...they used the fact that had depression and anxiety against me and that they were helping me to excuse they behaviour and acctions towards me... i ran away in the middle of the night to a hotel my dad booked and then they dared to call my family and say, and i cuote: "we dont know where she is, she got erratic suddenly and missbehaved with us" like if i was crazy, but my family already knew what happened and they confronted them and told then that they were almost keeping me hostage in their home becuase they didnt want to let me leave... the main agressors in this case was 1: the father of this family... and then the mother enableling his behaviour... the kids were 2 and 3 so they couldnt do anything (their 3 sets of twins for any future confusion on why i dont say 4 ages for the 4 kids) i want to tell this to everyone: germany is not a bad country, but... this people were... horrible... thank you for this videos. they really make people that go through this want to stand up and speak what happened... thank you for giving us a voice...
Whooooooo is this bearded beauty?!? ☠️ 😮💨 butttt, on that first story. I am so super proud of her for having the strength to get out and do what she had to do to keep herself safe. As someone who was r*’d by someone I knew… there were signs but I just kept brushing them off. That kid absolutely would have escalated and I’m so happy she is ok now 🙌🏼
I'm only 4 mins into the first story but I been in that situation and completely knew how she feel. I lived with people in there homes I thought safe. I'm going to keep watching to see what she does/say. But in my experience this happens please do something and take it serious. I was 18 at the time and boy was 16. He was quite. Noone suspected his temper. Completely ignoring it is a no. It got worse because of. Being harassed will escalate if not taking very serious just because of age. He cussed me out alot (when rejected). I was graped at night twice by him and it haunts my mind couldnt defend myself. My room was the living room had no door. Please take serious if ever in situation like that in general.
Love Malcom in the Middle!
I too had a crush on Francis lol
Don’t hear people talking about it very often anymore!
Dude, if one of my siblings even wished me happy birthday in the last 15 years, that was a win. I haven't gotten a present from any of them for just as long (maybe longer) despite me doing my best to bring gifts from China every time I visit and making sure I ask someone to wish them happy birthday for me even if I can't do it myself (China sometimes blocks communication). They might be doing the same of asking a parent to help, in which cause maybe none of us are wishing each other happy birthday because our parents don't forward the messages....
Mental health is not taken super serious in Germany. When I lived there about was on the edge of my break down I was put on a 3 month waiting list to get a therapist.
dang; op in the last story- the parents sacrificed financial stability for three of their children, while op had to PAY to be their son
Sibling birthdays: I used to make my brother his favorite pie and drop it off at his house while he was at work. And for my birthdays, he would give me fresh pineapples. My ex, when we were together, worked with my brother so on my birthday, he would usually come home with flowers for me and hand me my pineapple and say, "Chris says happy birthday." It was a great mutual tradition. I miss my brother. Sorry for rambling a bit, I was getting emotional, lol.
He’s literally two years younger than her not ’half her age’.. I don’t understand her logic here really. It’s an almost grown man.
She is 24 he is 17, thats not 2 years younger
He stopped when she *froze" stopped reacting. To him. Totally will escalate.
OPIt’s like you guys don’t even care about me!
Mom: 👀😬
Story1 in germany u wait sometimes Over 1 year to get a Place at a Therapie even longer to a clinic
More of this content, please. Sophia an a super-empath!
I really like Sophia's work, I think that the comments that are saying that she's "ruining" the show are pretty classic sexism at work.
Also 17-year-olds is not a child He's just about 18 he's aware of what he's doing and I would really get away from there immediately I might even leave pack your stuff up don't let them know that you're gonna go because even if they talk to him this kind of behavior that he's doing is worse and they might be alone with you 1 day and just do worse to you I would just leave call your agency have somebody come pick you up pack your bags and be ready to go and until they're there to pick you up I would just tell them you know I would let to know what's happening at that moment but I would not stay there because they're not gonna be able to control this behavior and unless one of those parents stays with you 2047 you never know when he might pull a stunt like that again or worse it's not worth the time he's that creepy
Always look for your country's consulate if it gets bad.
41:43 YEAH…. You TELL HER
45:10 mark:
There was actually 5 brothers in Malcom in the Middle, the youngest one was born later on in the show.
Story 1 I feel bad for op. I would have gone to the police.
If she is working there through an agency she should reach out to the agency. There are likely other houses in the area that she could be placed in for that same job. It’s unfortunate that she would have to leave the two kids she’s with now since she likes them, it’s not worth her compromising her own safety.
Hey OK storytime fam!!!🤗
Hey girl hey, how are you?
surely the mother would like to know about the son!
Ehhhhhhhhhh..... Lots of parents don't want to see their children's faults.... And when they do, they blame them on the victims.... Anything to keep the image of perfect family in their minds.
@@zoeb3573 I know , it is very sad.
Turn your ads settings down. 5 ad breaks in 22min is ridiculous.
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How long have I been gone? Who are these two boys?
3:14 Freaking terrifying!
Yeah the parents need to do more than send him away to some anthro uncle's house they need to have this kid have therapy because she's gonna be an adult soon out in the world doing God only knows what women cause you feel like you can it's just gross and Danny too stop him from being that kind of person you need to actual mental help for him to get over that or if it's possible but you can't unleave that kind of kid onto the world that's just wrong and then expect her to stay there too they could come back when they're not there so that would be crazy
I love watching this show but yall keep going off on so many tangents and rants I had to keep skipping to get back to the story… I’m slowly getting turned away from this show because it keeps happening.
I blame spicy sites for putting such ideas in people's head
Stuff like this predates spicy sites ...
German houses aren't like American houses. You can't just "know" how to get in. Plus - the son was being shipped off to the Netherlands, literally another country. Put it might be better to Scott's the drama anyways when the son wants to visit eg.
I get that you downplay it if your hormonal 14 years old acts a bit creepy (not when he gets physical), especially when he was a nice kid before puberty. They should have get him some therapy and monitor him more. But I think it's human, to want to see the best in your kid and hindsight is 20/20.
First story:
4:50 mark:
Alex:_ And also I feel like if the parents aren’t crazy, as a woman, if you’re like, “your son grabbed me,” most parents would hopefully be like, “oh my god…”
Sophia: I’m so sorry, that will never happen again.
Guy: …exactly.
No, as a parent, your job isn’t to blindly believe some person who accuses your child of anything without proof. In a vacuum, that’s a very disturbing comment. You guys have read stories where an OP has been lied about and the parents blindly believed the accuser and you’ve given the parents shit. For this story, it’s no different.
Now, we *_ARE *_** operating under the belief system that OP is telling the truth, but in a vacuum, and completely removed of the context, you shouldn’t ***_BLINDLY_* believe someone accusing your child of shit. Your job as a parent is to have your child’s back. OP *_SHOULD_* just leave, gtfo there, tell the parents, but ultimately and most importantly protect herself.
7:45 mark:
OH MY GOD WHO CARES ABOUT YOUR FUCKING PLANE TICKET!!! Just gtfo there, you have to protect yourself, your fucking money is irrelevant when you’re in danger. Goddamnit, use some fucking critical thinking skills or some fucking self preservation actions. “Oh BuT mY tIcKeT.” Your money will seem *_AWFULLY FUCKING IRRELEVANT_* when you’re possibly hurt by this guy.
8:35 mark:
I’m sorry, how tf am I or anyone else supposed to give a fuck about you and your safety when *_YOU_* don’t even give a fuck about your safety. He’s not “hAlF yOuR aGe,” he’s basically an adult. And yea, you weren’t able to do anything presumably because you’re a much smaller woman than he is man. God, such wallowing and self pity and keeping herself in a bad situation and only exposing herself to making it worse.
This should’ve been a very short story: I was an au pair, I loved the 2 younger boys, the oldest boy (17) got inappropriate with me and assaulted me, I felt I wasn’t strong enough to defend myself, I got the fuck outta there and told the host parents. I also informed the agency that this family’s oldest son is a predator. *THAT FUCKING SIMPLY AND SHORT.*
Ope
First like and comment?
I usually like listening to your brother and John? read but can you stop interrupting so much?! It’s gotten worse and worse lately since you’ve changed people. There used to be a flow and you would get Sam and them interrupting sometimes but with a funny joke or comment but now it’s annoying. You keep going and going with the interruption that i honestly just stopped watching this time. Save it till the story is actually been read THEN comment. Or make your joke but continue on. Yall just made me stop at around the 10 minute mark and I actually just went to aita to find the story to read it instead. I miss Sam and Jon, are they coming back? or is it just you from now on? Cuz I’ll be honest don’t want to watch it anymore if it’s just you anymore. No offense intended
The guys are worse, what are you talking about?
ps. It's called sharing opinions and discussion, not just bullshitting.
It's procast they obviously gonna have opinions and conversations and you can always go on their page and look for Sam and John, she is Sam little sister btw
I can't tell you why everyone stopped watching. I can only tell you why I did. It's Sophia. She's a buzz kill. You guys are funnier without the political correct bs. All your most popular videos predate her. I'm not saying fire her. I'm saying make her a part of your brand. Don't allow her to stifle your brand. Sometimes, a person is a b#?@h, not a stinky butt or whatever. Connotation matters.
Everyone stopped watching? I doubt that.
Personally, I've been watching less too, but it has been more of a time issue and when I was back, there were too many new faces. I liked John and Sam, but I also liked the dynamic Sophia and Riley had.
I'm glad Sophia is there, at least there's one woman's perspective. If you'd rather listen to a bunch of men, without Sophia or "political correct bs", there are PLENTY of options out there.
@annac.scadlock7126 yes. Numbers don't lie.
I’m sorry but that is NOT sexual assault. That’s HARASSMENT. Not assault. Please PLS learn the damn difference.
He grabbed her. That's assault. GTFO of here.
The first girl is not mature enough to be caring for children if this is her reaction to the children being inappropriate. She needs to find another job.
There is a difference between being inappropriate and physically assaulting someone.
Wow the victim blaming
This is a wildly wrong take
There is no reason whatsoever to blame the victim!
Sorry for this confusion
@@christinegraham2579I hope/think you meant to write that there is NO reason whatsoever to blame the victim.
Typos happen my friend. 😉🩷