22:59 I think OP is an unreliable narrator. He didn't even report the conversations in an understandable way, but just dismissed the girl's words as unreasonable and without logic.
OP keeps trying to downplay how much he and his gf fight and how significant the fights are...I think their relationship is more toxic than he's letting on. They should break up.
No, he wasn't. My ex was like this. Like the exact same story. My uncle HATED him. My uncle always said he couldn't pinpoint it, but didn't like him. My ex would make me believe he just didn't want me happy, there was a cultural difference, and my uncle and I weren't making any sense. It wasn't until 2 years later that I finally he was a narcissist, and that was gaslighting.
The way that #2 brushes off past problems and minimizes the concerns that she's expressing to him is clear gaslighting. He seems likely to be emotionally and maybe verbally (and now physically) abusive, and he's pretending that he isn't aware of it and that she's constantly overreacting and emotional. It seems that she was attempting to cope with the emotional mistreatment, but once it progressed to him pushing her in her back, hard enough for her to stumble forward she was uncomfortable with the progression of his mistreatment/abuse. Smart girl, I'm proud of her. I feel sorry for any woman who gets stuck with him.
My mom and sister are like this. Mom would do this with both my sis and me, and while my sis hated it, she would also do the same to me. Had me doubting myself with literally everything. They even tried to wedge themselves between my now husband and me. But we've been going strong, flaws and all, and they've since tried and relentlessly failed to mimic my relationship. Absolutely wild... and mentally/ emotionally stressful.
Congratulations on your marriage! But I thought it was illegal to marry one's mom...? 😂😂 Sorry, just joking, but my gratulations on your marriage are real. I'm glad you were able to overcome such obstacles. Well done!
As someone who's been w a filipino man for over 12 yrs, OP definitely left out a TON of important information. There was definitely a lot of ignorance of & not bothering to understand cultural differences & values too. Extended family are more involved, older family members are highly respected, & opinions from them matter a lot (like just as much as parents, homes in the philippines are also multi-generational). Filipinos living in other countries are also very hospitable to those who are there temporarily, like for school or work visas. My hubbys parents do this, so have we, and so have others, letting temp filipinos live with them/us for little to no pay so they have more to take back home to help their families. The USD $ in the Philippines is very strong & the country is fairly poor. I believe this is why so many filipinos work abroad, bcuz most other international currencies are stronger than the Philippine peso.
That op is very obviously young but it's really concerning how he keeps dismissing his ex gf's thoughts and feelings as "illogical". Wanting to break up for any reason is a valid reason, you're not entitled to being in a relationship with her!
Don't date someone that's obsessed with trying to please someone else. The relationship will always be you, your partner, and that other person. If they truly loved you and wanted to be with you, they would be regardless of what anyone says.
I am wondering if OP's GF in the second story is using the aunt as an excuse. Instead of just being honest with him and telling him that she doesn't want to be in a serious relationship with him, she is using the aunt excuse to keep that little opening to be able to break up later. I have a feeling that she doesn't want to be with him at all. I don't think OP is really listening to her, but she isn't acting like anyone that wants to be in a relationship. Besides, if you have to chase someone this hard - that is not the relationship for you. Do not ever lower yourself to this type of behavior. It was only 8 months, dude... walk away.
My ex was abusive and he pushed me and tried to minimize it. Don't minimize people putting hands on you. They are broken up, he just doesn't accept it. Literally haven't been back together lol. This is am i the ex post or something.
The last story seems like OP was the other woman from the beginning she just didn't realize it until now. Also I'm pretty sure he has social media she's just blocked on everything
2nd story op sounds like an unreliable narrator. There's also the fact he keeps dismissing how much she cares about her aunt's thoughts of him. As someone from a culture where family opinions matter to the point it affects most life decisions, it's a priority that most of the external family likes my partner (it's not actually for me but I've seen it enough to know). On top of that, her aunt is a life line as a student. If she lost her aunt, she would be forced to return home
I relate to the first story so much. Only difference, my mom would have shown up and dragged me out of my boyfriend’s house if I stayed over night. She is the reason I broke up with a boy I was still in love with at 19 and the reason why I was married to someone else by 21. Getting married was my only way to get out from under her. Thankfully it worked out. My husband is amazing and we’re still in love after 18 years of marriage. Looking back, I could have found myself in a really terrible situation.
The mom is scared to lose her baby and even as an adult treats her like this. I think this girl needs to tell her mother how she feels!! She needs to know she is too critical or maybe talk to dad .
When I (23 at the time) was still staying with my mom she started pressuring me to get a different Job with a bigger salary so I can move out of her house. I was seeing my then boyfriend for 6 months at that time. We decided to move to Nigeria together and then my mom suddenly freaked out that I wanted to move away and out of her house. 3 years later we live in South Africa together and we are now married and planning to start a family together. Just keep going Op from first story. Your mom won't kick you out she loves you too much.
This mum keeps control with what I call, "the invisible leash of guilt". I've experienced this first hand. It's awful. I'm sure she has also said to her that no-one will want her if she doesn't stay pure. Hence the curfew. But at the same time won't want you to leave or get married. The guilt trip will still continue. Unfortunately the effects of this are long lasting and carry into relationships in various ways.
The mom in the first story reminds me so much of my own mom. I was a child, nowhere near OP’s age, and she’d get jealous of me having friends who were guys. She would make me stop after school clubs because my guy friends were there. There were even time that she’d be mad at me for hanging out with my own dad. To me it sounds like OP’s mom needs to work on her jealousy because her behavior is not okay at all.
first story: the mum is not childish, she is emotionale blackmailing op and Manipulation her and her siblings. i regognize her behavior from my own mum.
Op is not a reliable narrator. He pushed her harder than he thinks, and dismissed everything his girlfriend said as illogical. Sounds like a significant cross cultural disconnect. This happens to couples without completely different backgrounds. His girlfriend needs to be more direct and he needs to spend some time just listening to what she is saying.
1st story: once each of my 4 kids reached 18, I only asked them to keep me updated when they go out when they still lived with me. Just for safety. I didn’t give curfews, etc. Helicopter parents do more harm than good. I deal with so many kids of helicopter parents in the clinic I work at as they don’t know how to fill out our forms, don’t know how insurance works, etc.
I understand the whole no shoes inside thing, but please, if you insist on it have somewhere guests can sit to remove or put on their shoes. It is astonishingly difficult to be wobbling around on one leg, trying to unlace a boot when you have dodgy knees
To the girl with the overbearing mom, I would say try to get your boyfriend and your mom together with you to do something for them to bond a little bit maybe and for her to see that he makes you happy and how likable he is because it sounds like even though it’s her own fault she’s feelingleft out and it might help
When my husband and I were just boyfriend and girlfriend we lived in an apartment for 3 years and then moved back home to save up for the house we now own. His mother never approved of him being with me but I never let that bother me because he truly loved me. While being back at home, he would stay at my parents house on his days off. One night when he went back to his parents house he immediately called me pissed off. He said that his mother was yelling and threatening to kick him out because he spent his days off with me and that there was no reason for him to live at their house if he was not going to be there.....( My husband was around 28 at the time) He also was the only one out of his siblings that had to pay rent while living back at home. His mother also tried to set him up on a date with some random chick when we had already been together for 3 years.. she was a piece of work in the beginning of our relationship but ultimately she only made him want me more. 15 years strong
Omg i have that same book! Its hard to realize you are more mature then your parents. Unfourtunatly i have no contact with my mom now since i have two toddlers now.
9:59 Yes technically OP is a fresh adult. Though, my mom let go the moment I turned 18 because she believed she raised me right and if I needed guidance I’d go to her. My Dad on the other hand never treated me with respect and was awful to me till I moved in with my now husband. I was no longer under his roof so he knew he could tell me what to do anymore. So I think OP needs to move out.
Part of the reason my first boyfriend broke up with me is how toxic my parents were. I know op struggle. Yet when i ended up wirh someone toxic suddenly they stopped caring about my dating. My next relationship will definitely be more private and secret. Not handling that mess again.
As a Filipino myself, I understand most people can't come to the US whenever they please. It's a very long and complicating process. And if they have aunts or uncles that live in the US that can help sponsor them and take them in to make a better life for themselves, we are indebted to them and hold them to the highest regard. So I think that's where the Filipino gf is coming from. Like if I had to guess (which is a common scenario I see from our culture is) the aunt is probably telling her "why waste your time on a guy that's not going to get you anywhere when you are here to make your life better and that's what you should be focused on right now". That's just my thoughts to help people from outside our culture understand. :)
12:31 unpopular opinion this girl might be too young for how codependent she’s becoming in this relationship and the mom asking her to respect her house rules is reasonable
In the first story I feel like we're not getting all the info. Honestly I see no red flags from the sisters and brothers (maybe the one comment from the brother). Also as a mom, I have to question, did OP communicate that she was going to stay the night or go to her boyfriend's? I know it's her own life, BUT as a mom I would be worried SICK if my kid was gone all night with no phone call or even a simple text. Also sometimes others see the red flags of a relationship that maybe the person in a relationship doesn't see.... Idk seems like we need more info
I haaaaaaaaatttteeeee shoes indoor unless ya got some slippers . Keeps the house much more clean and you can really see what kind of person someone is by their feet / footwear
@@physicsfaith From the footwear aspect- how clean are the persons' shoes? What's the conditions of the shoes? Are the shoes flashy or plain? Are they smelly? Cleanliness of someone's shoes shows how they like to present themselves, if they have pets, or likes to walk off the beaten path. Clean exterior = cares for exterior presentation, Clean interior = cares for internal self, and vice versa for those equations. Condition of the footwear can reveal how often that shoe is worn. How worn a shoe is , is dependent on type of shoe. Got some cute heels with a scuff? o, just a bit clumsy. A lot of scuffs? probably a drunk or doesn't have a lot of self value. Hiking boots, how shaved down are the bottoms of the shoes, how aged, how dirty or stained ya get the gist? condition of the footwear also can reveal tolerance of a person Any who, flashy or plain. Does the person like attention or likes to blend in the background? Smell can reveal hygiene. I can believe yall can extrapolate from that. I forgot type, lol. Shoes can reveal financial status as well, financial understanding, or someone who wants to peacock Bonus info, how they care for their feet vs shoe is important too. its a big indicator of whether the person is more honest / how they present themselves vs how they really are on the inside.
Story 1, parents house, parents rules. If she wants to do her own thing, she needs to move out. Just because you move out, doesn’t mean you have to live by yourself. There is these things called roommates. There are plenty of people that have moved out at 18 years of age because they did not want to be under their parents rules. Parents can be toxic therefore grow some balls and move to be independent. Story 2: that dude definitely doesn’t understand Asian culture. Families play a large role and any upfront to family or perceived family, which means anybody that is close to the family is auntie and uncle and cousin regardless of blood. You can’t treat family members no matter how distant they are from you like they don’t matter. An American/western mindset is completely different. This dude’s words show how he doesn’t have the level of respect needed for Asian cultures.
I see both sides, at that age you should focus on your education and career so that you have options in life. Sometimes your family sees something you don’t as well. Like major red flags and maybe your mom wants you to find a man who can financially support you and a family or sees something major flaws that you can’t because you love him. You are really young, if he has a great job and is mature enough to care for you then do it. If he isn’t listen to your mom. However who you are at 18 and 19 won’t be who you are as you get older. But if you can’t support yourself on your own and he can’t either, tread carefully. The world isn’t kind and family is important…..
The last story is kinda wierd, i feel like, IF he was telling the truth about visiting a friend and met her and fell in love with her, the logical next step would be breaking things off with op, i mean should he wait until shes not in a crisis to break up with her, and it seems like she is in alot of crisises
Sorry to say this. I took a break from watching all my faves. Including y'all. To build up a few marathons worthy of a day off. This episode is my 1st back in. It was truly horrible. Are you really so dang broke to have 5011247 commercials? I believe I just watched my last episode too and I'm sorry I couldn't even finish it. Good luck.
I could be wrong but I believe percy Jackson has blue eyes 😅😅.. in the movie medusa said "let me see your eyes..I hear they're as blue as your fathers oceans" like TOTALLY could be wrong because its a movie duh but I always assumed because of that scene 💀🤌😭❤️🤌 In the words of wasabi girl *help*
8:30 I've listened, and I'm convinced that OP is very immature and an unreliable narrator. Allow me to stand on my soap box. First of all. OP is 18. OP should be focusing on herself. Not spending all night out at her boyfriend's and beefing with her mother. She is a legal adult still acting like a bratty teenager. Her mother is not jealous of her own daughter. She is concerned. OP is too starry-eyed, planning her whole a$% future around this boy. A man is not a plan. And OP never mentioned paying any bills. If someone is bankrolling your whole life, they get to set some expectations. An 11pm curfew is super reasonable. They have curfews at a lot of college dormitories. Anyways, I have a almost 10 year old daughter. She is a pretty little girl and all the little boys have crushes on her. When I say a boy is not good enough for her I mean just that. None of these yucky boys are good enough for my little girl. 😤
Once you pass the friend stage, and becomes a dating couple you can not go back to friends. But I wonder if OP might be a narcissist? It’s hard to breakup with someone who hasn’t ever listened to you, sounds like she’s done but is trying to be nice. But obviously there are things he has ignored or at least not registered
Second story gave me definitely unreliable narrator vibes. I think he was progressive in some forms of abuse and she had enough. The very last statement of how the relationship shouldn't be thrown away because of illogical reasons or "hormones" he's literally just dismissing her concerns and blaming her lack of wanting to be with him on hormones. He's "clearly" the victim here and she's just being an irrational hormonal woman. Dude is absolutely toxic. Throw him in the bin. Anyone who has been through this with a narcissistic man knows exactly whats going on. Just ew.
I’ve updated a few Filipino girls, this kind of reaction. I hate to say is literally baked into the culture, anytime something goes wrong. They start playing these games. Women over. There are taught that the more dramatic and ridiculous they act, it’s supposed to convey the more serious they are.
22:59 I think OP is an unreliable narrator. He didn't even report the conversations in an understandable way, but just dismissed the girl's words as unreasonable and without logic.
OP keeps trying to downplay how much he and his gf fight and how significant the fights are...I think their relationship is more toxic than he's letting on. They should break up.
thank you! I started getting a serious vibe that OP is an unreliable narrator tbh
I have to say. Is he really listening to her? Cuz all he says is “she’s saying things that don’t make sense.”
I've had ppl do that to me when they just didn't like what I was saying 😂 it's definitely a cope
No, he wasn't. My ex was like this. Like the exact same story. My uncle HATED him. My uncle always said he couldn't pinpoint it, but didn't like him. My ex would make me believe he just didn't want me happy, there was a cultural difference, and my uncle and I weren't making any sense. It wasn't until 2 years later that I finally he was a narcissist, and that was gaslighting.
Doesn't listen, dismisses her opinions and physically 'corrected' her. Also doesn't take no for an answer and uses coercion. He's gross.
The way that #2 brushes off past problems and minimizes the concerns that she's expressing to him is clear gaslighting. He seems likely to be emotionally and maybe verbally (and now physically) abusive, and he's pretending that he isn't aware of it and that she's constantly overreacting and emotional. It seems that she was attempting to cope with the emotional mistreatment, but once it progressed to him pushing her in her back, hard enough for her to stumble forward she was uncomfortable with the progression of his mistreatment/abuse. Smart girl, I'm proud of her. I feel sorry for any woman who gets stuck with him.
Imo they both suck they birh did things that were toxic and stupid they're so bad for each other.
Yeah... the mom is not jealous of her daughter's boyfriend. She is jealous of her own daughter
My mom and sister are like this. Mom would do this with both my sis and me, and while my sis hated it, she would also do the same to me. Had me doubting myself with literally everything. They even tried to wedge themselves between my now husband and me. But we've been going strong, flaws and all, and they've since tried and relentlessly failed to mimic my relationship. Absolutely wild... and mentally/ emotionally stressful.
My mom gave me those options 17 years ago so I left with everything I needed and we've been married for 8 years now.
Congratulations on your marriage!
But I thought it was illegal to marry one's mom...?
😂😂 Sorry, just joking, but my gratulations on your marriage are real. I'm glad you were able to overcome such obstacles. Well done!
So it took 9 years for them to marry you? That's as big as a red flag as this dude giving a promise ring at a few months.
@@Tyedyedhero the fact you think people need to be married is a red flag. Marrie is a trap for women and there is no rush for it.
As someone who's been w a filipino man for over 12 yrs, OP definitely left out a TON of important information. There was definitely a lot of ignorance of & not bothering to understand cultural differences & values too. Extended family are more involved, older family members are highly respected, & opinions from them matter a lot (like just as much as parents, homes in the philippines are also multi-generational). Filipinos living in other countries are also very hospitable to those who are there temporarily, like for school or work visas. My hubbys parents do this, so have we, and so have others, letting temp filipinos live with them/us for little to no pay so they have more to take back home to help their families. The USD $ in the Philippines is very strong & the country is fairly poor. I believe this is why so many filipinos work abroad, bcuz most other international currencies are stronger than the Philippine peso.
That op is very obviously young but it's really concerning how he keeps dismissing his ex gf's thoughts and feelings as "illogical". Wanting to break up for any reason is a valid reason, you're not entitled to being in a relationship with her!
Don't date someone that's obsessed with trying to please someone else. The relationship will always be you, your partner, and that other person. If they truly loved you and wanted to be with you, they would be regardless of what anyone says.
2nd story: YOU CAN BREAK UP WITH ANYONE FOR ANY REASON. He's an asshole for not respecting her clear decision.
I am wondering if OP's GF in the second story is using the aunt as an excuse. Instead of just being honest with him and telling him that she doesn't want to be in a serious relationship with him, she is using the aunt excuse to keep that little opening to be able to break up later. I have a feeling that she doesn't want to be with him at all. I don't think OP is really listening to her, but she isn't acting like anyone that wants to be in a relationship. Besides, if you have to chase someone this hard - that is not the relationship for you. Do not ever lower yourself to this type of behavior. It was only 8 months, dude... walk away.
My ex was abusive and he pushed me and tried to minimize it. Don't minimize people putting hands on you. They are broken up, he just doesn't accept it. Literally haven't been back together lol. This is am i the ex post or something.
2nd story sounds very gaslighty? She's saying everyone she knows hates him, basically? Flip flopping on topics? I dunno... something is up there...
The last story seems like OP was the other woman from the beginning she just didn't realize it until now. Also I'm pretty sure he has social media she's just blocked on everything
2nd story op sounds like an unreliable narrator. There's also the fact he keeps dismissing how much she cares about her aunt's thoughts of him. As someone from a culture where family opinions matter to the point it affects most life decisions, it's a priority that most of the external family likes my partner (it's not actually for me but I've seen it enough to know). On top of that, her aunt is a life line as a student. If she lost her aunt, she would be forced to return home
I think OP in the second story is potentially an unreliable narrator.
My thoughts exactly
Agreed
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Or completely clueless.
Are you guys doing ok with the wild fire in LA?
I relate to the first story so much. Only difference, my mom would have shown up and dragged me out of my boyfriend’s house if I stayed over night. She is the reason I broke up with a boy I was still in love with at 19 and the reason why I was married to someone else by 21. Getting married was my only way to get out from under her. Thankfully it worked out. My husband is amazing and we’re still in love after 18 years of marriage. Looking back, I could have found myself in a really terrible situation.
The mom is scared to lose her baby and even as an adult treats her like this. I think this girl needs to tell her mother how she feels!! She needs to know she is too critical or maybe talk to dad .
When I (23 at the time) was still staying with my mom she started pressuring me to get a different Job with a bigger salary so I can move out of her house. I was seeing my then boyfriend for 6 months at that time. We decided to move to Nigeria together and then my mom suddenly freaked out that I wanted to move away and out of her house. 3 years later we live in South Africa together and we are now married and planning to start a family together. Just keep going Op from first story. Your mom won't kick you out she loves you too much.
This mum keeps control with what I call, "the invisible leash of guilt". I've experienced this first hand. It's awful. I'm sure she has also said to her that no-one will want her if she doesn't stay pure. Hence the curfew. But at the same time won't want you to leave or get married. The guilt trip will still continue.
Unfortunately the effects of this are long lasting and carry into relationships in various ways.
22:44 ooooo she’s hating herself for taking him back. She’s projecting. They’re clearly toxic for each other
The mom in the first story reminds me so much of my own mom. I was a child, nowhere near OP’s age, and she’d get jealous of me having friends who were guys. She would make me stop after school clubs because my guy friends were there. There were even time that she’d be mad at me for hanging out with my own dad. To me it sounds like OP’s mom needs to work on her jealousy because her behavior is not okay at all.
first story: the mum is not childish, she is emotionale blackmailing op and Manipulation her and her siblings. i regognize her behavior from my own mum.
Op is not a reliable narrator. He pushed her harder than he thinks, and dismissed everything his girlfriend said as illogical. Sounds like a significant cross cultural disconnect. This happens to couples without completely different backgrounds. His girlfriend needs to be more direct and he needs to spend some time just listening to what she is saying.
Lord. That last OP must have pissed off every god in the universe. That’s sitcom level bad luck.
1st story: once each of my 4 kids reached 18, I only asked them to keep me updated when they go out when they still lived with me. Just for safety. I didn’t give curfews, etc. Helicopter parents do more harm than good. I deal with so many kids of helicopter parents in the clinic I work at as they don’t know how to fill out our forms, don’t know how insurance works, etc.
Came here as soon as I saw the short for this.. I want the full story! Lol
With the first story: blue collar works aren't working until 10pm. Ever. Dude is a red flag.
I understand the whole no shoes inside thing, but please, if you insist on it have somewhere guests can sit to remove or put on their shoes. It is astonishingly difficult to be wobbling around on one leg, trying to unlace a boot when you have dodgy knees
To the girl with the overbearing mom, I would say try to get your boyfriend and your mom together with you to do something for them to bond a little bit maybe and for her to see that he makes you happy and how likable he is because it sounds like even though it’s her own fault she’s feelingleft out and it might help
When my husband and I were just boyfriend and girlfriend we lived in an apartment for 3 years and then moved back home to save up for the house we now own. His mother never approved of him being with me but I never let that bother me because he truly loved me. While being back at home, he would stay at my parents house on his days off. One night when he went back to his parents house he immediately called me pissed off. He said that his mother was yelling and threatening to kick him out because he spent his days off with me and that there was no reason for him to live at their house if he was not going to be there.....( My husband was around 28 at the time)
He also was the only one out of his siblings that had to pay rent while living back at home. His mother also tried to set him up on a date with some random chick when we had already been together for 3 years.. she was a piece of work in the beginning of our relationship but ultimately she only made him want me more. 15 years strong
Omg i have that same book! Its hard to realize you are more mature then your parents. Unfourtunatly i have no contact with my mom now since i have two toddlers now.
9:59 Yes technically OP is a fresh adult. Though, my mom let go the moment I turned 18 because she believed she raised me right and if I needed guidance I’d go to her.
My Dad on the other hand never treated me with respect and was awful to me till I moved in with my now husband. I was no longer under his roof so he knew he could tell me what to do anymore.
So I think OP needs to move out.
Part of the reason my first boyfriend broke up with me is how toxic my parents were. I know op struggle. Yet when i ended up wirh someone toxic suddenly they stopped caring about my dating. My next relationship will definitely be more private and secret. Not handling that mess again.
As a Filipino myself, I understand most people can't come to the US whenever they please. It's a very long and complicating process. And if they have aunts or uncles that live in the US that can help sponsor them and take them in to make a better life for themselves, we are indebted to them and hold them to the highest regard. So I think that's where the Filipino gf is coming from. Like if I had to guess (which is a common scenario I see from our culture is) the aunt is probably telling her "why waste your time on a guy that's not going to get you anywhere when you are here to make your life better and that's what you should be focused on right now".
That's just my thoughts to help people from outside our culture understand. :)
12:31 unpopular opinion this girl might be too young for how codependent she’s becoming in this relationship and the mom asking her to respect her house rules is reasonable
6:32 POOR OP
I freaking lost it at the last story, some good ‘dead weight’ Sam u cheeky bastard you
In the first story I feel like we're not getting all the info. Honestly I see no red flags from the sisters and brothers (maybe the one comment from the brother). Also as a mom, I have to question, did OP communicate that she was going to stay the night or go to her boyfriend's? I know it's her own life, BUT as a mom I would be worried SICK if my kid was gone all night with no phone call or even a simple text. Also sometimes others see the red flags of a relationship that maybe the person in a relationship doesn't see.... Idk seems like we need more info
I haaaaaaaaatttteeeee shoes indoor unless ya got some slippers . Keeps the house much more clean and you can really see what kind of person someone is by their feet / footwear
I’ll bite… just what do u learn about a person from their footwear?
@@physicsfaith From the footwear aspect- how clean are the persons' shoes? What's the conditions of the shoes? Are the shoes flashy or plain? Are they smelly?
Cleanliness of someone's shoes shows how they like to present themselves, if they have pets, or likes to walk off the beaten path. Clean exterior = cares for exterior presentation, Clean interior = cares for internal self, and vice versa for those equations.
Condition of the footwear can reveal how often that shoe is worn. How worn a shoe is , is dependent on type of shoe. Got some cute heels with a scuff? o, just a bit clumsy.
A lot of scuffs? probably a drunk or doesn't have a lot of self value. Hiking boots, how shaved down are the bottoms of the shoes, how aged, how dirty or stained ya get the gist? condition of the footwear also can reveal tolerance of a person
Any who, flashy or plain. Does the person like attention or likes to blend in the background?
Smell can reveal hygiene. I can believe yall can extrapolate from that.
I forgot type, lol. Shoes can reveal financial status as well, financial understanding, or someone who wants to peacock
Bonus info, how they care for their feet vs shoe is important too. its a big indicator of whether the person is more honest / how they present themselves vs how they really are on the inside.
Story 1, parents house, parents rules. If she wants to do her own thing, she needs to move out. Just because you move out, doesn’t mean you have to live by yourself. There is these things called roommates. There are plenty of people that have moved out at 18 years of age because they did not want to be under their parents rules. Parents can be toxic therefore grow some balls and move to be independent.
Story 2: that dude definitely doesn’t understand Asian culture. Families play a large role and any upfront to family or perceived family, which means anybody that is close to the family is auntie and uncle and cousin regardless of blood. You can’t treat family members no matter how distant they are from you like they don’t matter. An American/western mindset is completely different. This dude’s words show how he doesn’t have the level of respect needed for Asian cultures.
I see both sides, at that age you should focus on your education and career so that you have options in life. Sometimes your family sees something you don’t as well. Like major red flags and maybe your mom wants you to find a man who can financially support you and a family or sees something major flaws that you can’t because you love him. You are really young, if he has a great job and is mature enough to care for you then do it. If he isn’t listen to your mom. However who you are at 18 and 19 won’t be who you are as you get older. But if you can’t support yourself on your own and he can’t either, tread carefully. The world isn’t kind and family is important…..
The last story is kinda wierd, i feel like, IF he was telling the truth about visiting a friend and met her and fell in love with her, the logical next step would be breaking things off with op, i mean should he wait until shes not in a crisis to break up with her, and it seems like she is in alot of crisises
Sorry to say this. I took a break from watching all my faves. Including y'all. To build up a few marathons worthy of a day off. This episode is my 1st back in. It was truly horrible. Are you really so dang broke to have 5011247 commercials? I believe I just watched my last episode too and I'm sorry I couldn't even finish it. Good luck.
I could be wrong but I believe percy Jackson has blue eyes 😅😅.. in the movie medusa said "let me see your eyes..I hear they're as blue as your fathers oceans" like TOTALLY could be wrong because its a movie duh but I always assumed because of that scene 💀🤌😭❤️🤌 In the words of wasabi girl *help*
why do they keep saying it's from their subreddit when it isn't???
8:30 I've listened, and I'm convinced that OP is very immature and an unreliable narrator. Allow me to stand on my soap box. First of all. OP is 18. OP should be focusing on herself. Not spending all night out at her boyfriend's and beefing with her mother. She is a legal adult still acting like a bratty teenager. Her mother is not jealous of her own daughter. She is concerned. OP is too starry-eyed, planning her whole a$% future around this boy. A man is not a plan. And OP never mentioned paying any bills. If someone is bankrolling your whole life, they get to set some expectations. An 11pm curfew is super reasonable. They have curfews at a lot of college dormitories. Anyways, I have a almost 10 year old daughter. She is a pretty little girl and all the little boys have crushes on her. When I say a boy is not good enough for her I mean just that. None of these yucky boys are good enough for my little girl. 😤
Once you pass the friend stage, and becomes a dating couple you can not go back to friends. But I wonder if OP might be a narcissist? It’s hard to breakup with someone who hasn’t ever listened to you, sounds like she’s done but is trying to be nice. But obviously there are things he has ignored or at least not registered
Second story was messy and toxic af my goodness.
Multiple Personality Disorder?
Second story gave me definitely unreliable narrator vibes. I think he was progressive in some forms of abuse and she had enough. The very last statement of how the relationship shouldn't be thrown away because of illogical reasons or "hormones" he's literally just dismissing her concerns and blaming her lack of wanting to be with him on hormones. He's "clearly" the victim here and she's just being an irrational hormonal woman. Dude is absolutely toxic. Throw him in the bin. Anyone who has been through this with a narcissistic man knows exactly whats going on. Just ew.
I’ve updated a few Filipino girls, this kind of reaction. I hate to say is literally baked into the culture, anytime something goes wrong. They start playing these games. Women over. There are taught that the more dramatic and ridiculous they act, it’s supposed to convey the more serious they are.
Poor Sophia, can’t even recognize her white privilege and cultural ignorance in this episode throughout multiple stories lol.
Can you explain?
There's too many ads on this video. I got two within less than 5 minutes.
It’s rough. I got UA-cam premium to stay sane.
10 likes in 8 minutes.fell off