"You should lower your expectations/beauty standards" This one line speaks to me on so many levels because it's true. So many people out there have very specific expectations of what is beautiful and usually the prom queen is chosen on who people think is the prettiest. I compare myself to other girls constantly and I know that I'm "not cut out for prom queen". I'm 6'0, weigh about 140 lbs, usually wear clothes that are more comfortable than cute, and almost never wear makeup. Whenever I see teen romance movies with a prom queen I get so insecure because the girl who wins is exactly who I'd expect to take the crown.
Yes, I completely agree with you. Our world is fossilized on certain "beauty standards" and all people who do not respect them are considered "ugly" and almost "unsuitable" for society. The "prom queen" is just an effect of this: the people who are elected, are the ones that respect society's ideal beauty standards. This makes me insecure, just like you. For years I have tried to approve myself (failing haha) to these "beauty standards" because I thought that if I were not the same as the others, then no one would have loved me. I put my "style" aside because I was afraid of people's judgment and how they would judge me if they saw that I was "different". But in recent years I have met some fantastic people who have made me realize that these "beauty standards" are useless, as each of us is beautiful, fantastic, and extraordinary in his own way. Our differences in personality, style, body shape, etc... make us all perfect in our imperfection. So sweetheart you don't have to get down like this: society and its way of thinking will be your biggest enemy, but I know and I am sure that you will be able to win this battle. And finally, a little tip, if they make you feel bad and unfit, you shouldn't watch romantic movies. Much better if you join my army of penguins and other adorable creatures. On weekends we try to conquer the world. Our goals? Create a world where everyone can be happy. So... are you one of us? P.s leaving aside the army of penguins, I hope that my comment can be of some help to you. Have a great day because you deserve it 🌸🖤
Shut up, count your calories I never look good in mom jeans Wish I was like you Blue-eyed blondie, perfect body Maybe I should try harder You should lower your expectations I'm no Quick-Curl Barbie I was never cut out for Prom Queen [Post-Chorus] If I get more pretty, do you think he will like me? Dissect my insecurities I'm a defect surgical project It's getting hard to breathe There's plastic wrap in my cheeks Maybe I should try harder You should lower your beauty standards I'm no Quick-Curl Barbie I was never cut out for Prom Queen If I'm pretty, will you like me? They say beauty makes boys happy I've been starving myself, carving Skin until my bones are showing Teach me how to be okay I don't want to downplay my emotions They say beauty is pain You'll only be happy If you look a certain way I wanna be okay I wanna be okay
Most people only care about the looks of a girl or boy. I just need to tel you looks aren’t everything what matters is how the person on the inside is because if you are really pretty but have a bad heart then I would probably put personality over prettiness
I really love the comments of vents songs, I feel comforted reading the comments seeing that people are also going through what I am going through, I would spend most of my time listening to vent songs than normal songs
I think that we are being too much influenced by standars (like how you must look like) and we are litteraly being eaten alive by social pressure. I always had problems with this, and I have always worried about the way that I look and if, as I was, I could have been accepted in the "group". But now, I am learning to not care about what they think and simply don't give a fuck. I know that it's hard but you must be only what you wanna be: girl, this is your life not somebody else's. And don't let nobody take it away from you. Hugs
Here's something for all of you: No matter how ugly you think you are, you will always be perfect in my heart and eyes. Everyone is perfect, no one is ugly. Remember that
To the 5 people who disliked this video: just because you don’t have these insecurities doesn’t mean you should dislike it and make people feel like their insecurities are useless and flawed because everyone has an insecurity so don’t dislike it just because you don’t like it you dislike it if it is rude if I don’t like a video I leave it alone so they don’t notice I didn’t like it it would be amazing if you guys could could do the same so the people making the videos don’t feel like complete crap thank you for reading this and if you read this all don’t worry everything happens for a reason don’t worry too much you are good enough know someone loves you even if they are a complete stranger I just want you all to be happy love you all bye♥️
Hey sweetie! I totally understand your point but I don't have nothing against dislikes! Dislikes are a way for people to express their opinion. So, as long as they express their dissent through dislikes or constructive comments (and not insults), then I'm ok with it! I also think that criticisms (always constructive ones) help you to grow and understand your strengths! On the other hand, always receiving praise is a good thing, but sometimes you need to know the opinions of both parts. Hope you've understan my point of view, and thank you for the sweet message at the end of your comment! Have a nice day 🖤
Everyone tells you it’s gonna be okay. But is it? There’s always gonna be something you feel terrible about so you just have TRY to be happy as yourself because it’s the shot you’ve got at life. But trying isn’t always enough. No matter how hard you might try it will never be quite be enough for someone. But as I said just try. But I won’t say trying is easy or something you want to do. After all I don’t try to help myself anymore so I don’t what I’m saying to be honest.
I completely agree with you. They all say that it's gonna be okay and alright, but for example look at all this situation we are going on in this period. We are not certain that it's going be ok, but we hope that it will be. And yes, insecurities and bad people can eat your self esteem alive, but there are also people that can help you changing. And yes, try but maybe you shouldn't be obsessed by it. Btw I can see a rainbow out of my window so 𝓎𝒾𝓀𝑒𝓈 𝒻𝑜𝓇𝑒𝓋𝑒𝓇~
Sadly, I admit that I relate to it too... But! Please don't stop fighting against being slave of other people's opinion. Be beautiful, be colorful and just be yourself ✨❤
Do... do they really tell you this? Listen up babe: are they your doctors? No. So they CAN'T, and I say CAN'T even think of expressing an opinion on your body. No matter what you do they will always see you as an ugly person. And you know why? Because they can't see beauty, because they don't want to see you beautiful, because they don't know humanity. They live only FOR hate and TO hate. Hate is the sentiment that guides man towards irremediable destruction; because, at the cost of taking a satisfaction that is NO MORE EMPTY SATISFACTION, we destroy our neighbor with insults, that do not admit the existence of Beauty at all. They do not admit the existence of humanity, Because people are art. And art is beauty. In all his forms, art is beautiful. It is beautiful because it reinvents itself with our infinite creativity. A painting MUST NOT BE CONSIDERED BEAUTIFUL FOR AN ESTABLISHED FEE, Because art is feeling, it is upheaval IT IS REVOLUTION; It is explained by its images, its smiles, its contrasts and its unrepeatable genius AND IT IS PERFECT AS IT IS. You cannot chain it to a simplification Art is completeness, uniqueness and, again, Humanity. So a picture REMAINS BEAUTIFUL IN spite of all the insults And the problem is precisely for those who do not understand it, for those who envy it and for those who would not know how to do the same because they are blinded by hatred. And you fight hate with love. So you MUST love yourself. Every part of you is a beautiful piece of art: your eyes are beautiful cristals, your face is a lovely canvan, and your body is a marble sculpture. Every fragment of you it is unique in the all wide world. You are all beautiful. You ARE beautiful. And you have to do everything to ensure that this beauty illuminates the world of your colors. So you MUST love yourself. Because how we will love each other by making it clear that insults do not make us women less beautiful. So we will have our freedom! (and... sorry for the long comment)
Hasn't everyone experienced friends being harsh or ignoring them, even with loved ones and those who are close to them. It's not just a problem for boys or girls
What does T. W stands for? Sorry but I don't know all the acronyms... But if you can't eat you should see straigthaway a doctor or at least you should ask someone competent!
So true everything im Starving myself right know and nobody noticed it because my bones are so thick that they think that is me... And a bestie of mine nows that and she's proud that I can still do it...
Let me understand: is your friend proud of this, even though she knows about your eating disorder? I hope I have misunderstood, because if it is not so then she is not a great friend... However, I advise you to open up with your parents and your friends. I know it's hard to do it, it's hard to show "who you really are", but if they really love you, than they will understand and help you get out of this difficult period... Good luck 🖤✨
Anyway, I think you should totally tell her... You said she's one of your best friends so she totally cares about you a lot. Don't shut yourself up, talk to the people who care about you! You'll find all together a solution, I'm sure about this!
Then you should talk about this problem and the consequences it has on your body and more importantly, on your life and psyche. They definitely don't do it on purpose, but misinformation can sometimes lead to serious problems. Talk to your family about this problem, explain it, and they will understand
Hey are you all right? You shouldn't be focusing on such negative thoughts... Try to get a break from social medias (they usually give veeeery negative vibes, you know) or maybe talk about it with someone. Don't bottle it up my friend, don't stress yourself with all of this hata towards yourself. It's hard but you can do it 💪
I know, the situation is not simple... The world is being devastated by wars, diseases, climate change, and, above all, incompetent politicians who do nothing about it. But we must not stop fighting. Fighting for everyone's rights, and for a better place to live. Don't weep on yourself, do something that make you feel good, alive. Watching a movie, making a drawing can be considered futile things, but it is precisely the little things that make us appreciate life. Have a nice day and remember, stay strong ✊
You can do it to get better, don't give up! Do not allow anorexia/bulimia to get the better of you. You're not alone. If you feel like talking about it, I'm here for you 🖤
it's ironic how the people who are physically and geographically further away from you, are the ones closest to you and the ones who understand you better... Be strong, sweetie 🖤
Why do you need to hate yourself? If you was me, you could see how much I think you're a wonderful and special person ❤️ you don't deserve to feel this bad, you deserve just happy things! And remember, I'm always there for you ❤️✨
Everything seems backwards. Bad signs are good and good signs mean that I am ugly. Literally passing out or being dizzy is now somehow a good thing. I know it's wrong and I feel terrible for saying it because I know I need to stop but I don't know what to do about it.
Sadly, I know what you're talking about. I think that a lot of this "pessimism" and "negativity" comes from social media. Don't get me wrong, there are a LOT of gold people out there, but there are also people who only think about hurting others (both psychologically and physically), making them feel like nothing, making them feel like there is no place for them in the world... So my advice is to temporarily detach yourself from reality. I have done this lately, I thought a little more about myself than about what other people were saying. But now no more negative thoughts! Go outside (with your mask on of course eh eh ) and show the world your beautiful colors! 🖤🌸
"You should lower your expectations/beauty standards"
This one line speaks to me on so many levels because it's true. So many people out there have very specific expectations of what is beautiful and usually the prom queen is chosen on who people think is the prettiest. I compare myself to other girls constantly and I know that I'm "not cut out for prom queen". I'm 6'0, weigh about 140 lbs, usually wear clothes that are more comfortable than cute, and almost never wear makeup. Whenever I see teen romance movies with a prom queen I get so insecure because the girl who wins is exactly who I'd expect to take the crown.
Yes, I completely agree with you. Our world is fossilized on certain "beauty standards" and all people who do not respect them are considered "ugly" and almost "unsuitable" for society. The "prom queen" is just an effect of this: the people who are elected, are the ones that respect society's ideal beauty standards. This makes me insecure, just like you. For years I have tried to approve myself (failing haha) to these "beauty standards" because I thought that if I were not the same as the others, then no one would have loved me. I put my "style" aside because I was afraid of people's judgment and how they would judge me if they saw that I was "different". But in recent years I have met some fantastic people who have made me realize that these "beauty standards" are useless, as each of us is beautiful, fantastic, and extraordinary in his own way. Our differences in personality, style, body shape, etc... make us all perfect in our imperfection. So sweetheart you don't have to get down like this: society and its way of thinking will be your biggest enemy, but I know and I am sure that you will be able to win this battle. And finally, a little tip, if they make you feel bad and unfit, you shouldn't watch romantic movies. Much better if you join my army of penguins and other adorable creatures. On weekends we try to conquer the world. Our goals? Create a world where everyone can be happy. So... are you one of us?
P.s leaving aside the army of penguins, I hope that my comment can be of some help to you. Have a great day because you deserve it 🌸🖤
OMG!! this is awesome i was actually looking for a video with perfect sound as well! P.S cute picture :D
Thank you sooooo much!! You are way too kind!!!
Shut up, count your calories
I never look good in mom jeans
Wish I was like you
Blue-eyed blondie, perfect body
Maybe I should try harder
You should lower your expectations
I'm no Quick-Curl Barbie
I was never cut out for Prom Queen
[Post-Chorus]
If I get more pretty, do you think he will like me?
Dissect my insecurities
I'm a defect surgical project
It's getting hard to breathe
There's plastic wrap in my cheeks
Maybe I should try harder
You should lower your beauty standards
I'm no Quick-Curl Barbie
I was never cut out for Prom Queen
If I'm pretty, will you like me?
They say beauty makes boys happy
I've been starving myself, carving
Skin until my bones are showing
Teach me how to be okay
I don't want to downplay my emotions
They say beauty is pain
You'll only be happy
If you look a certain way
I wanna be okay
I wanna be okay
Why this video is way cooler then we all expected OwO
Most people only care about the looks of a girl or boy. I just need to tel you looks aren’t everything what matters is how the person on the inside is because if you are really pretty but have a bad heart then I would probably put personality over prettiness
True
I really love the comments of vents songs, I feel comforted reading the comments seeing that people are also going through what I am going through, I would spend most of my time listening to vent songs than normal songs
Why is this me. Exept for the fact I'm blonde and have blue eyes, but I always dye it. I'm so insecure
I think that we are being too much influenced by standars (like how you must look like) and we are litteraly being eaten alive by social pressure. I always had problems with this, and I have always worried about the way that I look and if, as I was, I could have been accepted in the "group". But now, I am learning to not care about what they think and simply don't give a fuck. I know that it's hard but you must be only what you wanna be: girl, this is your life not somebody else's. And don't let nobody take it away from you. Hugs
Same
Awww sometimes I wish I had blue eyes and blonde hair and this song also reminds me of myself❤
I used to have blonde hair, but I dyed my hair brown to not stand out. But now I feel so basic. I don’t know what to do
Here's something for all of you:
No matter how ugly you think you are, you will always be perfect in my heart and eyes. Everyone is perfect, no one is ugly. Remember that
❤❤
wtf I ALWAYS CRYING WHEN I LISTENING TO THIS OH PLEASE
Yeah, it's so sad right? And the fact that is describing our whole world it makes this even more sad
@@gollum_sensei yes... It does...
To the 5 people who disliked this video: just because you don’t have these insecurities doesn’t mean you should dislike it and make people feel like their insecurities are useless and flawed because everyone has an insecurity so don’t dislike it just because you don’t like it you dislike it if it is rude if I don’t like a video I leave it alone so they don’t notice I didn’t like it it would be amazing if you guys could could do the same so the people making the videos don’t feel like complete crap thank you for reading this and if you read this all don’t worry everything happens for a reason don’t worry too much you are good enough know someone loves you even if they are a complete stranger I just want you all to be happy love you all bye♥️
Hey sweetie! I totally understand your point but I don't have nothing against dislikes! Dislikes are a way for people to express their opinion. So, as long as they express their dissent through dislikes or constructive comments (and not insults), then I'm ok with it! I also think that criticisms (always constructive ones) help you to grow and understand your strengths! On the other hand, always receiving praise is a good thing, but sometimes you need to know the opinions of both parts. Hope you've understan my point of view, and thank you for the sweet message at the end of your comment! Have a nice day 🖤
So relatable love this somg ❤❤❤
i love this
This song literally speaks to me
i love this so much, sorry im a little late on commenting but i really like this✌❤
yeah this song is really nice~
Everyone tells you it’s gonna be okay. But is it? There’s always gonna be something you feel terrible about so you just have TRY to be happy as yourself because it’s the shot you’ve got at life. But trying isn’t always enough. No matter how hard you might try it will never be quite be enough for someone. But as I said just try. But I won’t say trying is easy or something you want to do. After all I don’t try to help myself anymore so I don’t what I’m saying to be honest.
I completely agree with you. They all say that it's gonna be okay and alright, but for example look at all this situation we are going on in this period. We are not certain that it's going be ok, but we hope that it will be. And yes, insecurities and bad people can eat your self esteem alive, but there are also people that can help you changing. And yes, try but maybe you shouldn't be obsessed by it.
Btw I can see a rainbow out of my window so 𝓎𝒾𝓀𝑒𝓈 𝒻𝑜𝓇𝑒𝓋𝑒𝓇~
Certified BOXBOX Nightcore Music
What's BOXBOX? 👀👀
As emotional and inspirational this song is; this song is so cute and cool to listen to.
I can listen to this all day.
Oh wait, I have done.❤️🎧😎❤️
I can completely relate to this song....
Sadly, I admit that I relate to it too... But! Please don't stop fighting against being slave of other people's opinion. Be beautiful, be colorful and just be yourself ✨❤
Gollum Sensei 😔But I feel fat.....and that’s what everyone tells me.....
Gollum Sensei And I just wanna tell you I like your Natsuki profile picture.
Do... do they really tell you this? Listen up babe: are they your doctors? No. So they CAN'T, and I say CAN'T even think of expressing an opinion on your body. No matter what you do they will always see you as an ugly person.
And you know why?
Because they can't see beauty, because they don't want to see you beautiful, because they don't know humanity.
They live only FOR hate and TO hate.
Hate is the sentiment that guides man towards irremediable destruction; because, at the cost of taking a satisfaction that is NO MORE EMPTY SATISFACTION, we destroy our neighbor with insults, that do not admit the existence of Beauty at all.
They do not admit the existence of humanity,
Because people are art.
And art is beauty.
In all his forms, art is beautiful.
It is beautiful because it reinvents itself with our infinite creativity.
A painting MUST NOT BE CONSIDERED BEAUTIFUL FOR AN ESTABLISHED FEE, Because art is feeling, it is upheaval
IT IS REVOLUTION;
It is explained by its images, its smiles, its contrasts and its unrepeatable genius
AND IT IS PERFECT AS IT IS. You cannot chain it to a simplification
Art is completeness, uniqueness and, again, Humanity.
So a picture REMAINS BEAUTIFUL IN spite of all the insults
And the problem is precisely for those who do not understand it, for those who envy it and for those who would not know how to do the same because they are blinded by hatred.
And you fight hate with love.
So you MUST love yourself.
Every part of you is a beautiful piece of art: your eyes are beautiful cristals, your face is a lovely canvan, and your body is a marble sculpture.
Every fragment of you it is unique in the all wide world.
You are all beautiful.
You ARE beautiful.
And you have to do everything to ensure that this beauty illuminates the world of your colors.
So you MUST love yourself.
Because how we will love each other by making it clear that insults do not make us women less beautiful.
So we will have our freedom!
(and... sorry for the long comment)
Thank you babe 🖤🌸
you cant please everyone after all but you can please yourself
I can definitely relate to this song
"I've been starving myself carving skin until my bones are showing." relatable lmao
1:22 They say beauty is pain*
On musixmatch it says "vain" and on genius it says "pain"... But it makes more sense with the second one lol
Hasn't everyone experienced friends being harsh or ignoring them, even with loved ones and those who are close to them. It's not just a problem for boys or girls
Okay, guys, everybody everybody so I listen to the song so much. I hear everywhere I love this song
This song: *about an eating disorder*
Me: 💃💃💃💃
Amazing
Thank you dear friend ❤️
0:01
All “perfect” girls also have their hardship.
I'm going trough T. M plz help me
Wait... I don't understand your problem
I have T. W i can't Ate i hurt myself everyday
What does T. W stands for? Sorry but I don't know all the acronyms... But if you can't eat you should see straigthaway a doctor or at least you should ask someone competent!
@@gekko_chan9785
I hope you're doing okay now
@@gollum_sensei TW means Trigger Warning
This is so relatable😔
Aww sweetheart, hope that everything is going well ❤️
It like this song is about me 😭
Just relate so much to this
I understand how you feel...
This song I love it😘
It's just how I look at myself and how I feel🥺✨
And I'm happy to talk to you🌸✨
Yes me to, I'm so happy that you commented under this video and that we met each other!
@@gollum_sensei yeah I'm soo happy and always feeling better after I talked to you
Aww 🖤🌸
idk but I relate so much in this line- 1:05 - 1:16 ☹
Hey are you doing ok?
:D
Love you
Love you too 🖤
"Teach me how to be okay."
So true everything im Starving myself right know and nobody noticed it because my bones are so thick that they think that is me...
And a bestie of mine nows that and she's proud that I can still do it...
Let me understand: is your friend proud of this, even though she knows about your eating disorder? I hope I have misunderstood, because if it is not so then she is not a great friend... However, I advise you to open up with your parents and your friends. I know it's hard to do it, it's hard to show "who you really are", but if they really love you, than they will understand and help you get out of this difficult period... Good luck 🖤✨
No that the thing she thinks my eating habits are like a Diet and she is proud off me that I can take that so long...
And my parents don't understand what a real eating disorder is about.
Anyway, I think you should totally tell her... You said she's one of your best friends so she totally cares about you a lot. Don't shut yourself up, talk to the people who care about you! You'll find all together a solution, I'm sure about this!
Then you should talk about this problem and the consequences it has on your body and more importantly, on your life and psyche. They definitely don't do it on purpose, but misinformation can sometimes lead to serious problems. Talk to your family about this problem, explain it, and they will understand
i hate my stomach fr
*Trying harder*
When I was young,I usually think that I can cut my stomach to be slim.Now,I still think about it
Hey are you all right? You shouldn't be focusing on such negative thoughts... Try to get a break from social medias (they usually give veeeery negative vibes, you know) or maybe talk about it with someone. Don't bottle it up my friend, don't stress yourself with all of this hata towards yourself. It's hard but you can do it 💪
@@gollum_sensei tq and I will try
Me who can only hear the lyrics plastic wrap in my cheese ✌️
Loool
Welcome to July 2020... worlds gone to crap and above that all I’m just sitting here wallowing in misery, relating to this on a whole bother level..l.
I know, the situation is not simple... The world is being devastated by wars, diseases, climate change, and, above all, incompetent politicians who do nothing about it. But we must not stop fighting. Fighting for everyone's rights, and for a better place to live. Don't weep on yourself, do something that make you feel good, alive. Watching a movie, making a drawing can be considered futile things, but it is precisely the little things that make us appreciate life. Have a nice day and remember, stay strong ✊
@@gollum_sensei thank you dude... I needed to hear this today ❤️
Aww you're welcome 🖤 And if you need to talk just use the comment section❤ I know how relaxing it can be to talk to someone~
this is really cool but no hate i think its "beauty is pain" not "beauty is vain"
Mhh that's interesting, because in some sites it's written "vain" and in others "pain"... But you're right, guess that pain makes more sense
I wanted to add this to my gym playlist sadly its not on spotify? ;-;
Yeah, the nightcore version isn't on Spotify, but there's the normal version on it :))
I gained 10 pounds and I literally don’t know what to do😔
You can do it to get better, don't give up! Do not allow anorexia/bulimia to get the better of you. You're not alone. If you feel like talking about it, I'm here for you 🖤
@@gollum_sensei thank you so much. Strangers on the internet are always so much nicer than everyone else in my life
it's ironic how the people who are physically and geographically further away from you, are the ones closest to you and the ones who understand you better... Be strong, sweetie 🖤
I don’t relate with i love someone and i want them to love me i just want to fit in 😔
Exactly, we all "crave" for love. We all want to feel appreciated and loved for who we are...
Nightcore 🪅🔥🔥
I gained two pounds again can someone tell me how to lose them again... I hate myself for that so badly....
Why do you need to hate yourself? If you was me, you could see how much I think you're a wonderful and special person ❤️ you don't deserve to feel this bad, you deserve just happy things! And remember, I'm always there for you ❤️✨
this song is so cringe but i relate to every single lyric in this song
Yeaah, when we find something cringe is probably because we relate to lol
Hi
Hi ^^
mi cancion
Feel you ❤️
Everything seems backwards. Bad signs are good and good signs mean that I am ugly. Literally passing out or being dizzy is now somehow a good thing. I know it's wrong and I feel terrible for saying it because I know I need to stop but I don't know what to do about it.
Sadly, I know what you're talking about. I think that a lot of this "pessimism" and "negativity" comes from social media. Don't get me wrong, there are a LOT of gold people out there, but there are also people who only think about hurting others (both psychologically and physically), making them feel like nothing, making them feel like there is no place for them in the world... So my advice is to temporarily detach yourself from reality. I have done this lately, I thought a little more about myself than about what other people were saying. But now no more negative thoughts! Go outside (with your mask on of course eh eh ) and show the world your beautiful colors! 🖤🌸
Thank you, I will take your advice. I really want to get better if I can. Have a good day and thank you once again.