What Leads to an INFP Getting Angry?

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  • @jenniferegilmez7873
    @jenniferegilmez7873 2 роки тому +62

    I remember once someone was hurting my cat and I punched him , it was just an overwhelming rage. I was probably like 10 at the time ,but I completely agree when I do feel rage it's so strong it takes me awhile to cool down but it's also such a rare thing for me.

  • @debb0r
    @debb0r 2 роки тому +72

    Now it all makes sense. Because I sometimes am shocked of the way I get upset and people often tell me I overreact or am too emotional. But it now makes sense to me.

    • @GeekPsychology
      @GeekPsychology  2 роки тому +11

      Yeah. People either tell me I'm over emotional or too calm (more the latter one now that I'm older)

    • @attleemenie1893
      @attleemenie1893 Рік тому +3

      They call me crazy because of my sudden unger and now 1 year after my unintentional outburst i just can't go there talk like nothing happen, i feel gult for my anger even if i wasn't in the wrong. So i'm just in my zone now , i've reduce my interaction with people like more than before, i don't like being angry too much emotion for me to handle. So thanks you for your advice😊.

  • @Coach13013
    @Coach13013 2 роки тому +53

    As a younger man INFP I had terrible rage.. but the fights were rarely mine..few would pick on me. It was for others, family or someone being bullied. I could be cold hearted plotting revenge for weeks.
    Once angry it takes sleep to get out of it.. I'm much better now.

    • @GeekPsychology
      @GeekPsychology  2 роки тому +8

      Yeah. I tend to sleep or blur my vision when I get angry :)
      Finding ways to help the underdogs is good - just gotta make sure it's a smart approach to it.

    • @ravenwaves6785
      @ravenwaves6785 10 місяців тому +1

      My experience also. Bully me all you want. Bully my friends and teenage me would make sure you never dared again.

  • @Truepurple7
    @Truepurple7 7 місяців тому +8

    Apperantely, I'm qualified as an INFP-T which means I could get irritated easily if someone is talking too much or anything that annoys me. When I get into a rage, it can get really intense, but that doesn't usually happen. When I am angry most of the time, I just try to ignore everyone and get some alone time to cool down but when something is provoking me, it can get ugly sometimes and I don't wanna be like that. As a kid, my anger issues were just really bad because I would keep exploding when I would get provoked. This video also described me pretty well because all the things said in the video were all like me.

  • @SEVENTHREEANDNINE
    @SEVENTHREEANDNINE Рік тому +8

    We get angry when people act rudely. Nothing to be ashamed of. Yes multiple perspectives. But when you see the manipulation, abuse, taken for a fool.. yup watch out but mostly I walk away and doesn’t matter who, unless a genuine apology, that’s not the energy I need to absorb. Protect your energies INFPs. Coming from someone whose a mature INFP. Championed the underdog and the narcissist unwittingly. So yes maybe I was the fool!

  • @gordwedel7231
    @gordwedel7231 Рік тому +11

    I would say that INFPs have such intense introverted feelings, when we get over-stressed and unfixable problems build and converge, the lid can blow! It's as much a surprise to the INFP as it is to the recipient.

    • @amoldivo
      @amoldivo 2 місяці тому

      It's rarely a surprise (at least to me), I mean we know what we're doing and why... It's just the society don't like people who gets angry, we just want everyone to be passive and suck it up inside... Except that they wouldn't care of the root of the problem(s)...
      Yes, often times I need to explain (logically, even though it's not supposed to be logical since it's emotional / feelings), and sometimes need to apologise even though we aren't the one who made the mistake (problem) initially... And it's like; wait a second, I'm not the one who's wrong! I have the right to be angry!! (And I continue my ranting within... 😕😵‍💫)... Well, sometimes it's just better to keep some secret / anger inside, I guess...

  • @tracyzimmerman7912
    @tracyzimmerman7912 2 роки тому +20

    You don't want to see me angry. It's not pretty at all.

    • @GeekPsychology
      @GeekPsychology  2 роки тому +5

      Yeah. I always said that too. "I'm the calmest person you could meet... if you make me angry, then you've done something really bad" :P whether that's true or not, I'm not 100% sure tho.

  • @monicamiles4544
    @monicamiles4544 6 днів тому

    I did my healing mostly on my own. To begin my healing journey, I had to look and feel deeply within myself on who I am and why I am. I then started working on my shadow self. Research, Journaling, Isolation, and hiking. Then I started counseling to get down to the nitty-gritty from childhood abuse from narcissistic mother. And abandonment issues from my absent father. I went through a lot of emotional abuse from people because it was all I knew. Until I knew better. Authenticity is me today 💛✨️💥

  • @nin_tan
    @nin_tan 2 роки тому +31

    I expected a dive into the shadow functions, but I guess my definition of angry may lean more towards the extreme. When my Te comes out unwillingly I feel that I just become more matter-of-fact and distant, rather than releasing a build-up of rage. And some passive-aggression and sarcasm for sure.
    Maybe a follow-up topic?

    • @GeekPsychology
      @GeekPsychology  2 роки тому +1

      You want a follow-up on the shadow functions? What about them? Just like... what they are?

    • @nin_tan
      @nin_tan 2 роки тому

      @@GeekPsychology Mmmm, I guess how a full mental breakdown of an INFP happens? When we truly become not ourselves in a blind rage, seemingly trying to use all of the shadow functions at once. Whatever we did doesn't even make sense to ourselves after the fact because they're used so poorly.
      It might be too case-by-case. If so, I guess how they manifest in INFPs individually.

  • @ANDROMEDAtheartist
    @ANDROMEDAtheartist 2 роки тому +19

    Sometimes my empathetic side directly conflicts with my perfectionistic commanding side. Some of that "commanding" E-T function is very useful. It's almost like being numb on the inside to get it done. But yes, it's difficult to recognize when I'm getting too stressed. Then sarcasm ensues, followed by silent brooding, then I basically snap. Lol. Spot on with this.

    • @GeekPsychology
      @GeekPsychology  2 роки тому +2

      Keep working at it and shift that part of yourself into something that's helpful ^^ You got it!

  • @infpsoul8956
    @infpsoul8956 2 роки тому +35

    i don't really get angry easly.if i get angry i stay quite and don't talk to anyone..the funny thing is that when i get angry i start to cry .and i hate that..😤

    • @GeekPsychology
      @GeekPsychology  2 роки тому +5

      I don't either - well, I didn't know how much I did until I started tracking it.
      Do you know why you cry? And why you hate that you do? Might be good to journal / draw a picture about!

    • @devangikacha1477
      @devangikacha1477 3 місяці тому

      me toooo..

  • @Six4hooper
    @Six4hooper 2 роки тому +5

    It’s kinda funny how it matches up wit how I think I’m pretty chill but if I’m stressed or mad and don’t get the space I ask for I’ll explode then look at myself like u couldn’t just hold it together

  • @etherealdreamerart
    @etherealdreamerart 2 роки тому +10

    This lesson is helping me develop my INFP female main protagonist. 😁

  • @Raphsophomes
    @Raphsophomes 2 роки тому +12

    As an isfp i can agree. Thinking of te as a person with wants and needs is fun and also functional honestly lol. I got a commander erwin in my head u guys, TATAKE, TATKE!

    • @GeekPsychology
      @GeekPsychology  2 роки тому +3

      It is really a wonderful model to help with personal understanding and development. I wish it was mine! I just adapted it from parts therapy.

    • @Raphsophomes
      @Raphsophomes 2 роки тому

      @@GeekPsychology its rare to see people using mbti and cognitive functions for not just optimization but self love and a sentimental value for the unconscious self like yung shouted from the rooftops lol. Keep it up i really love your ideas

  • @joy-nq2ge
    @joy-nq2ge 2 роки тому +6

    Your voice is so pretty

  • @wallybonejengles5595
    @wallybonejengles5595 Рік тому +1

    I don't often speak up about a problem. But when I do, i oh boy. Call me Sigmund because no one can stop my psychoanalysis of every terrible thing you have ever done. And it's like. I'm not even mad about those particular details by that point. I'm mad because you can be better. It hurts to see when people don't want to be and are resigned to being awful. It's impossible to meet my insane standards 100 percent. But I just want you to see the you that I see. The Golden God inside begging and screaming to come out.
    Sorry for that tangent.

  • @somduttapahari5733
    @somduttapahari5733 Місяць тому

    You know I have gone through this ttyranny stage and then regreted it a lot... Thank you

  • @SolitareHeartz
    @SolitareHeartz 2 роки тому +17

    Wow you sum it very nicely. I am so scared that I was like a werewolf with my emotions. From chill healing empath to a cold intense person. It is stress and feel side shuts off and the thinking mind takes over. It is kinda nice to show that mad/angry isn't bad but has a purpose. The way you tocuhed on the chain of acceptable emotions that the public and society perhaps sees as acceptable. Everyone wants you to be happy and positive, if you can't mad/annoyed is ok, but god forbid being depressed. It is so hard going thru life with the depression.

    • @GeekPsychology
      @GeekPsychology  2 роки тому +2

      You don't have to go thru life with depression. You can change. You just have to know how to use your mind/body/head/heart to your advantage.

  • @Cuspofrevolution
    @Cuspofrevolution 8 місяців тому

    When I get triggered particularly in argument like being shouted at then I will get angry and the tears and the plunge into sadness and darkness occur. It takes me a few days to recoup. It's a hard thing to handle especially when it happens it's like a cascade effect or domino's and the most destructive person I take it out on is myself. I rarely want to even talk to any living being for days. It's a weakness of mine and a struggle I am still learning about and finding ways to lessen or find a way to redirect that thought and monorail of feelings.

  • @yellowswallowtail33
    @yellowswallowtail33 2 роки тому +7

    Thank you so much for making this video. I am currently in a situation with a narcissist and the levels of crazy that is thrown my way has me having a lot of extreme anger because of the injustice and blatant insidious level of hate for no reason along with manipulating, gaslighting etc... hits me to my core and I understand that I'm falling right into the trap and outcome that said person wants to pull out of me. I feel out of control and very far from who I enjoy being. it is very true that we are as infps very passionate and very convicted when it comes to Injustice, bullying and hatred in this world. a lot of friends and family are having a hard time understanding that I choose not to hold my emotions back and stand up against said person meaning I would have to play along with his game and I choose not to and I choose to stand up and be a voice for this kind of behavior which sometimes can have an outcome that's undesirable for my side but I refuse to lay down and take this kind of abuse. I feel that as infps have a drive for peace love and togetherness so strong that it's off the charts compared to a lot of other personalities.... we can change the world and I like that.

  • @NicoleM_radiantbaby
    @NicoleM_radiantbaby 2 роки тому +4

    Literally angry as I'm watching this. Thanks for putting it into perspective...

  • @solusman8200
    @solusman8200 Рік тому +3

    Can you talk about INFP grudge? Because I've been feeling it for the past 2 weeks & my imaginative mind has come up with a very detailed plan to get justice & make that person experience the same pain they gave me.
    They won't see it coming because I've figured out what makes them tick. I've lost any empathy i ever had for that person, & the thought of them being crushed makes me feel good.
    But on the other hand this apathetic goal oriented side of mine actually gets things done 😅

    • @squirrelsyrup1921
      @squirrelsyrup1921 5 місяців тому

      Good thing is, because you are INFP you will make a detailed plan but not do it.

  • @Hephzibah624
    @Hephzibah624 2 роки тому +3

    It just feels like I get stressed out by so much less stuff in life than most of my friends/family members... For example, I am only taking 3 college courses while my friends are taking 5 to 6 courses. I don't know how they can be such machines, but I am easily stressed enough. :(

  • @omarvanderloo7270
    @omarvanderloo7270 2 роки тому +2

    You are perfectly right as always, for me personally as a young infp who is just going to turn 17 sometimes it feels so exhausting being so empathic and nobody cares, they don't take feelings serious enough at this age, this teenager like to tremble on your feelings and I mostly stay patient, but when I get really stressed out I tell them beforehand to stop stepping on my moral values, but they do and then not normal values but my core values, it is like calling a Huracán I will make them feel what I feel with words. Afterwards, I regret pretty much that I needed to explode like that it also drains me instantly, but I fix it but still think they should know and lay my point on the table normally I keep quiet but when I explode people are mostly surprised how much I know about them.

  • @violet9530
    @violet9530 Рік тому

    I'm a INFP with minor anger issues, but this approximately how it goes for all INFPs.
    We always have a with a hidden inside ourselves. You push us to the limit, you break the pillow open, you get a mound of bricks in forehead, and THE MARK WILL BE LEFT THERE FOR 3 YEARS.
    Unfortunately the brickwall will fall on you. Fortunately if the brickwall is small you can dig yourself out and get a new pillow, but if it's big, you need to spend a very long time trying to get out.
    This is what INFP anger is like, though since I'm a more expressive INFP, it doesn't coop up inside me like a wall.

  • @AlasEtéreas
    @AlasEtéreas 2 роки тому +4

    I agree. And I feel that I constanctly go into Te grip and I become demanding, very strict and with very little patience. The good side of Te grip is that while yes, I do get very angry, I also gain a lot of energy and I can be productive lol.

    • @GeekPsychology
      @GeekPsychology  2 роки тому +4

      Mmhmm. Te grip makes me micromanage things too and think I always know what's best.

    • @lazyjane1223
      @lazyjane1223 2 роки тому

      @@GeekPsychology do infps need a lot of space like numbing out with shows, ignoring texts and their phones..? How must space is too much?

    • @GeekPsychology
      @GeekPsychology  2 роки тому +3

      INFPs don’t need those things. They (we) need to be convicted about something and create a life around it.
      Numbing and escaping is just differing to comfort instead of pushing to live a more fulfilling life.
      It’s not easy. But being in the process of living in alignment is a necessity. It doesn’t have to be full alignment - but the more it is, the less time there is to veg out.

    • @lazyjane1223
      @lazyjane1223 2 роки тому

      @@GeekPsychology Thank you! I am currently dating an INFP and he seems to need a lot of space and time away by himself numbing out with Netflix or sleep. He can go missing for 8 hours or more without telling anyone. If this space is interrupted, he gets angry, frustrated, irritated.
      Is this a common unhealthy sign and coping for infp..? How can I deal with it? Appreciate your advice!

  • @yellowswallowtail33
    @yellowswallowtail33 2 роки тому +2

    Also, GREAT advice!!!!

  • @JenniferThePigeonFancier
    @JenniferThePigeonFancier Рік тому

    Thank you for this.

  • @HaruClarus
    @HaruClarus 2 роки тому

    idk why but i can never watch your video only once and understand, i get lost in thought midway and forget of my existence

    • @GeekPsychology
      @GeekPsychology  2 роки тому +3

      It's hypnotic! Or boring. Or both.

    • @HaruClarus
      @HaruClarus 2 роки тому +1

      @@GeekPsychology i think the voice is too relaxing

  • @michaelcortez9954
    @michaelcortez9954 2 роки тому

    I kept getting distracted by your features so i had to keep restarting the video 😂
    When I get stressed my Te goes into hyperdrive and then I crash and burn.
    Appreciate your videos and outlook

  • @kathrynleannazuck9305
    @kathrynleannazuck9305 2 роки тому +5

    Thank you

  • @sarasara-io7lo
    @sarasara-io7lo 22 дні тому

    I'm an infp and I hate getting angry because I don't know how to balance emotions... Often I just have to figure out why I'm angry so in the meantime I start crying of anger.... It's so stressful for me

  • @justinsilvis6276
    @justinsilvis6276 Рік тому

    I lost what I was going to say when I saw the katanas... Which ones are those..

  • @tco_oj
    @tco_oj 2 роки тому +7

    I like your voice

    • @GeekPsychology
      @GeekPsychology  2 роки тому +4

      Thanks. I hated it for almost 20 years because of some childish comments in school. It's ok now :)

    • @tco_oj
      @tco_oj 2 роки тому +3

      @@GeekPsychology I'm so sorry.. I just want to say that your voice is so calming :)

    • @GeekPsychology
      @GeekPsychology  2 роки тому +1

      Thanks ^^
      It’s not an issue anymore

  • @julia.no.X
    @julia.no.X 2 роки тому +2

    Look forward to this one 😉.

  • @justinsilvis6276
    @justinsilvis6276 Рік тому

    Thank you I've been on my dark side tooo long. I thought since upside down crosses are considered evil than an upside down satanic cross must mean good... That's were I'm at

  • @abbyherold2905
    @abbyherold2905 Рік тому

    thank you

  • @getyourpopcornready7238
    @getyourpopcornready7238 5 місяців тому

    Facts 👌

  • @scourneene
    @scourneene 2 роки тому

    This is awesome...ya simple lists rule...

  • @fr-kr8sj
    @fr-kr8sj Рік тому

    Well as I say it we have 3 deferent mode (thoghts) and a different default mode
    1. Vibe mode to explain it if I put it in coversatin it's close to
    person a : can you do that for me
    Infp: ok
    Pearson b : while on it please do that also for me
    Infp:ok
    Person a : and that.that.that.get it done before xx:xx:xx please
    Infp: ok
    Infp:(Starts)
    2.mode g this is more like f off mode the phone battery is dead and you can't push it any longer also the most downgraded(low energy)and low temper mode like the phone is on 100°c temperature
    3. Mode e : feel like let's do this and also the most creative and active mode

  • @rhiannabrittany13
    @rhiannabrittany13 Рік тому

    I’ve always thought of INFP’s as empathic, but not Empaths?? FI is not the empath function that is FE (our counterpart ENFJ ) my very best friend is an ENFJ & we react nothing alike when it comes to “receiving other peoples pain” I can easily put myself in other people shoes and try to imagine what it must be like for them, that is empathy but it does not translate to be an empath. She quite literally feels stress or sadness or pain on another person‘s behalf and takes on those feelings herself whether it’s somebody close to her or a complete stranger. That is what being an empath means no?

    • @GeekPsychology
      @GeekPsychology  Рік тому

      Yeah. I couldn’t get a better word. “Priest” was too painted with emotions and assumptions. ^^

  • @estoryaniinin1510
    @estoryaniinin1510 2 роки тому

    Please use loud mic so that I can hear what you say very well. And not getting shocked of very loud advertisement because I made the volume full to hear you. 😅😅😅😅

    • @GeekPsychology
      @GeekPsychology  2 роки тому

      Hmm... I adjust the audio to -3 dbs average (which I read is the right choice) and it sounds fine on my phone and computer...
      I'll... see what I can do. It's always been an issue :)

  • @Laynasmuse
    @Laynasmuse 2 роки тому

    🙏🏻

  • @ABCarnage
    @ABCarnage 2 роки тому

    Hey Matt, could you share your birth date, time and place, please? It would greatly help. Thanks. Edit: I want to see if there is a corelation between Jungian Functions and Human Design System.

    • @GeekPsychology
      @GeekPsychology  2 роки тому +7

      Wat

    • @ABCarnage
      @ABCarnage 2 роки тому

      @@GeekPsychology some explanation is needed. I am studying Human Design and want to see if there are some correlations between the Jungian Functions (INFP).

    • @soaphope3398
      @soaphope3398 2 роки тому +6

      That’s a super creepy question

    • @angeloscofield1384
      @angeloscofield1384 2 роки тому +3

      Would you like to get his Social Security number too?

    • @wepsar
      @wepsar 2 роки тому +3

      Cool idea, terrible execution

  • @PerfectPetProductions
    @PerfectPetProductions 2 роки тому +2

    The angry people are called Narcissists. Toxic fumes eminate from them. Limit your exposure as much as humanly possible.

    • @GeekPsychology
      @GeekPsychology  2 роки тому +2

      Stay away from the crazy makers, that's for sure.

    • @MsSirAndy
      @MsSirAndy 2 роки тому

      @@GeekPsychology INFP's are narcissists

  • @micahalyssagoyena9314
    @micahalyssagoyena9314 2 роки тому

    😂😂😂😂😂

  • @yellowgetbright
    @yellowgetbright Рік тому

    When someone judge me. Especially appearance.

  • @fn5758
    @fn5758 10 місяців тому

    Thank you