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INFP: Holds a grudge against all the obnoxious nuances of people. Also INFP: Worries everyone else also holds a grudge against them for their minor things.
Oh I forget tho.... And then remember everything the next time they do something to piss me off And then feel the build up really straining me And then forget again 😂😂😂
My exboyfriend (ENFP) once said to me: I get so terrified whenever you get quiet. I never noticed that about myself until he pointed out. He preferred whenever I argued with him. He knew my silence meant I lost it, like the calm before the storm. So accurate.
I once lost a match in call of duty and started punching my phone non stop. I ended up with 4 busted knuckles and one broken knuckle. Instant regret when I walked in the shower 😔
@Alex Imersiv I have the same problem. I tend to overreact when I’m angry. But that’s because I have problems controlling my anger. Never have I let anyone see that part because, if I’m honest. I’m ashamed of it, it’s not a good look on people.
One person has seen me get really angry before because everything bottled up, a whole week of pure bs and i lost it (don't ask me how i managed to stay calm for a whole week, idk either). She saw me get annoyed or even shout a few times and considered it as 'angry' but when the week of bs happened (and after she saw me burst out all my anger), she just laughs at people's remarks that i'm angry when i shout. Glad she's still an acquaintance 'til now though. -Potato, INTJ
@@MVangelmx very true. There's a reason why I entered the I.T field because the majority of my time I'm around things that are not people. unfortunately there is still some human interaction involved but its not as much as some fields.
100%😂...I was once super depressed in the shower and then just realized that my faucet looks like sid from ice age and had to laugh for 10min straight while crying...#enfplife😂
INFP. after 2 hours of unloading hears "This isn't about me anymore... hasn't been for the last hour after you brought everyone else into the conversation as well. Now we're into hypotheticals"
Even though I am INFJ, I can relate. 🤣 Usually after keeping my cool in the public area, I go home, scream into my pillow, burst into tears and cry for a couple hours, and then do artwork or poetry describing how hard my life is.
Lol I bottled up my feelings about my bf wearing his ex's hoodie and exploded when he switched hoodies with some girl from work. "Has the hoodie always bothered me? Yes. Have I been bottling up these emotions of jealousy and rage for the past two months? Yes! Am I going to do anything, but timidly tell you I have a problem with this and hope that you stop? No, that's exactly what I'm doing..."
@@ZephyrAuraa he did take it seriously, and made sure to avoid me while he thought I was still mad (the little "dispute" we had lasted for two days- really it was me shutting down and not talking to him the first day and him avoiding me the next so that he wouldn't upset me again; I told him how I felt after I cooled down and collected myself). He hasn't done anything like that since. I ended up giving him some tools and a hoodie for Christmas, and he seems to be living in that new hoodie now😂 When we talked, I found out it was the only hoodie he had at the time since his ex still has his (they wore each other's hoodies), so I asked if getting him a hoodie would be a good idea and he said it would. He's never looked so happy in any hoodie before and I love how he seems to cuddle himself in it lol He's learned to read me and I've learned to be more communicative, so all is well rn😁 Thank you for your kind words!
I think my sister's an INFP. She remembers a tea set my brother and I broke when she was in preschool. I wonder if I'm an INFP. I sometimes get it as a survey result..but I don't hold hard feelings against people. I forgive at my own expense, even if it's difficult to forget.
As an INFP I can say that the very worst meltdowns of my life have pretty much been me bringing up every horrible thing the other person did to me over the past twenty years and how they have utterly destroyed my soul. Of course it takes me twenty years to finally get to that point.
Damn it this is just so relatable and then my inner mind speaks up and tells me " okay idiot, you are probably over reacting a lot ,your tear ducts are fucking swollen and are dry so you better get yourself up again, wash your face hydrate yourself to re fill your ducts and get out of the washroom with the same neutral cool attitude you are know for".
I once yelled at a bus driver who accused me of not having a ticket after a long, horrible day. I'm not proud of it but I snapped and unfortunately he was there :(
Incredibly true. The greatest fight I had with my father started with a disagreement about letting the cat outside. It was like 4 years ago, I've been that angry only once since then.
love TJ breakdowns, it's so fun and methodical, always brings fond memories of me pissing off my brother ... it's like a lottery win - yes! I got him to react moment xD no worries though he knows how to push my buttons and always wins anyway.... *sigh i can at leat take this win damit!
I think it's more a point of being prone to silent seething rage, and if it's an object that should operate one way and malfunctions on the wrong day, it might get a claw hammer to the disk tray and thrown out the window like a Generation 1 Playstation 2 after giving a Disc-Read Error. Don't read into how specific that example is.
INTJ here, and I've been told by two partners that my silent rage is terrifying, and I really struggled to understand why. For me, it's just putting the lid on the pot before it boils over. I'd rather be silent than incoherent.
I just end up crying to my ENFJ twin and we both talk about how everything we do is our own faults and ranting to eachother about minor instances that built up to this point that made us want to snap. And then when I lose my cool in front of someone I automatically apologize and I feel like I walk on egg shells in front of them from now on.
Yep I don’t let people see me lose my cool, because I don’t want to show weakness or vulnerability, people will take advantage of a chance to hurt you sometimes, and you never know who might do that so it’s best to keep your poker face around those you can’t be sure you can trust. Also it wouldn’t make me feel better to lose my cool in front of someone, I prefer to save it for when I get home and then lose my shit in private. Even when I was little I would hold in my tears when I got hurt if I was around other kids. Idk I’ve always been the same
I'm offended that you would ever think that I would tell someone everything that I've bottled up for years outside of talking to the mirror in the bathroom and yelling at myself instead and then getting mad at a Lego that I stepped on because I don't ever talk about my problems with the people I actually have an issue with
Review from an INTJ: Very accurate 😂 Love the touch of not saying a word, I never understood why people had to yell when they're angry when body language, facial expressions, and silent rage communicates anger in a much more impactful and intimidating way
We do it because it feels good to yell when you’re frustrated and upset. Though I do the silent rage thing too (people tell me it’s terrifying). - ENTJ
The problem with me (as an INFP) is that I'm mad about all this stuff but when it finally bursts out of me, I can't remember specific circumstances! So it seems like I'm just ranting about nothing 😔 But it's so important to me. Frustration.
As an ISTP I relate to this 100%. I don't get pissed off often. It's actually pretty hard to make me so mad that I go into a meltdown, but when you do, oh boy, you better leave me alone until I cool off. For your own safety.
I remember when I tore in half a slipper of 9 year old in a hospital, because he threw it at me. I was 13 year old and considerably weak, so it's actually surprising that I managed to do that.
@@user-un8hy5dd3jas an ISTP whenever i hit someone jokingly they tell me u should stop hitting people or else you'll break someone one day... i didn't believe them until i broke in half a huge plate with one bare hand 💀
I'm an INFP with a terrible memory though, so I get angry at thousands of little things, bottle it up, and then when it finally comes out and I'm asked for examples, I'm like "uhhhh... *cries in INFP*"
@@zachattack087 that's me! i don't even remember what i had for breakfast today so when i finally want to talk about all the things that have been bothering me i realise that i don't remember them anymore. i'm still angry tho and i can't tell the person why because i forgot
As an INFJ, I literally had a meltdown because I was trying to keep in my frustration towards my neighbors and I broke down and cried outside their house. The twig literally snapped in my head. Its so overwhelming trying to keep it together and maintain the nice facade towards people you just honestly wanna yell at.
When l text people Im always writing like: "And even if...., however.... if instead.... but if..... so if... so basically if this then x, if that then y, if none then z, but in the very unlikely case it's both, then we could do this, otherwise we could do that" And at the end they all tell me "yes yes chill" and "yes yes don't worry" and "but man don't worry" and "yes but relax" But Im not anxious lol
3:58 I'm INTJ and I can confirm this. Before we smash anything with a hammer, we must first take a moment to calculate whether the catharsis will be worth more than the value of the thing being smashed. 98.7% of the time the answer is yes.
Actually this is what I did to my laptop yesterday I was angrily taping and it was so loud that my mom yelled at me. Now I'm seeing this and it makes me embarrassed 🤣
Frank, somehow you manage to get the INTJs to come out of the woodwork, comment, communicate, interact. It is a rare thing to see so many INTJs in one place interacting with one another. It is unusual to find others I can relate to so thanks for doing what you do. 😊 Appreciate your ongoing commitment, wit and humour!
INTJ, yes, that cold, ice-cold anger that finally burst up in physical violence, so accurate, poor videogame controllers of mine, I've broken half a dozen of them
INTJ; insanely accurate, down to the closed-eyed, deep breath clenched face and the little flash of controlled insanity/murderous intent in the eyes at the end 🤣🤣🤣
Infp was so accurate, I always try to be nice with people so I usually prefer to stay silent when they do me wrong, and at some point I find myself too overwhelmed and I just freak out. And then when I calm down, the only thing I get is a bunch of regret and then I hate myself more than ever...
3:26 I do that 😂 but only with very close people, like my husband or my family. And after like one hour, if that person didn’t read it I usually regret everything i said and try to delete it. But if they read it, oh boy, it doesn’t always ends well. Sometimes I just write the message but don’t send it till I calm down, so I can edit it before i regret or just don’t send it at all.
I keep scratch pads around the house so I can write my frustrations down and get it all out. Then tear it up when I’ve called down. Burn it. Then flush the ashes. Seems to work for me
@@myheartwillstopinjoy8142 as an INTJ, I have to agree. I tried comforting my sobbing sister - she'd just been dumped. She asked me to stop because i was terrible at it.
@@danicleckley5404 aw, but you tried and that's the most important thing ❤️ my sis is an INTJ and she comforted me for the first time in my life after 18 years lol, but I was so glad to recieve comfort from her that I honestly didn't mind that brief and extremely awkward side hug she gave me 😂😂 She said what she said, but I'm sure she was happy to have you, please keep comforting her when she feels down ❤️
As an INTJ, this is very accurate. I kind of lack social interactions so what I usually get mad on are objects. And that hammer thing was oh, if I was mad at my laptop I'll use an axe.
As an INTJ, our actual meltdown is when our typically excellent thinking and analyzing brain goes into overdrive, and "goes off the tracks", but keeps going and we lose rationality. Not by becoming emotional, but by being very wrong. Happens due to anxiety, trying to solve a romantic problem most commonly.
@Marie, you all are usually much more succinct about it than some of us. ENTJ in public is hilarious, tho, that observational humor is a gift. The different sets of masses are much too temporary for INFP to call out, but we appreciate you calling them out because principles. One thing I've noticed, tho: why do ENTJs disappear when INFPs finally meltdown? 😈 -INFP
INTPs : *over analize messages, doubt of the whole relation they shared with the concerned person, review the last month to know if they've done anything wrong, think they are a terrible person, cry, question everything and fear the next interaction with the person.*
I think this has to do with the person in general because I would not have cared because I'm not very emotional and would have just texted back that I loved her too. (I'm INTP)
@@taz9951 The current quiz has -A (assertive) and -T(turbulent) versions of each that is basically how emotionally stable you are. This exact example may come down to which side of that coin you land on, though of course a turbulent person is more likely to have a breakdown to begin with though I suppose it's fair to say that it may not be of this type. I'm definitely very far on the turbulent side. That said I think the real point here he was getting at was our tendency to fixate on details.
@@kioku618 Yeah I can acknowledge that I do fixate on details a lot so that would make sense. It was just the emotional part that got me as I'm very bad at emotions and I can only recognize what emotion i'm feeling if it's somewhat extreme (EX: thinking of homicide = angry, tears streaming down my face = sad, and the happy feeling is a little harder to recognize for me). Pretty sure i'm bipolar. Im also INTP-T though I might be a little closer to A.
@@kioku618 yup, im an intp and got stacked on turbulent. I am not lying when I say EVERY single time I send a text (which has been proof read, scrapped, rewritten, and rhetorically analyzed) my brain starts skipping through minefields of meltdowns. This comment itself has been rewritten a few times lol.
I think, as an INTP, that punctuation in texts is exceedingly important. I've often worried about the meaning of someone's texts because they didn't have very explanatory punctuation for what they said. I think it's funny that you had the meltdown over only having a period after "love you". I have honestly thought the same way.
My sister is an infp and what he said was so accurate! she bottles everything up until it comes pouring out in a stream of frustration and hurt, and she will bring up every single bad thing I did to her in the last ten years.
Yeah... but I would never destroy a computer. Like, what's the point of destroying something? What's the outcome? Are you less angry? I don't think so... and you now don't have a computer:) - INTJ
I'm an INTJ, and that is pretty accurate. Whenever something gets on my nerves there's just the death glare of silent rage. When I was in highschool, all I had to do was look at my fellow students to get the message across that they were ticking me off by putting their feet on the back of my desk and shaking my desk while I was trying to work. All I had to do was look at them, and they took their feet off my desk without a word. When I'm angry, other people realize it when I look at them. Resting death face, I guess. But if it becomes an issue, I have to explain to people why I am angry with them, and if no one lets me explain my reasons or logic for being angry at them, I lose it, because it's hard for me to understand why they don't care 'why' I am angry with them. And if no one is there, I tell myself out loud why I am angry with them, and how to fix the person's behavior. But if I take it out on someone my anger usually comes out as a twisted form of passive aggression. Though honestly it's the small things that make me angry. There can be chaos, drama, everybody crying, people talking about stressful topics and such, and I just work through it all. It's small little things that get on my nerves, slowly building up over the week until I either take it out on someone with passive aggression, talk it out with someone I trust who won't question me every second, or I release the anger and stress by doing something productive or fun. It's similar to when I'm sad. I recognize I'm sad and what is making me sad. Thinking about it makes me more sad, but then I question if I should keep being sad, and then I recognize I hate being sad and miserable, until I finally do something productive or fun to make me stop being sad. Encouraging words from family often helps. My INFP dad is better at that than my ISTJ mother. My mother tries to console me by telling me it could be worse, and throws harsh realities of the future at me. My dad just listens and gives me hope for the future, or empathizes with what I'm going through by relating to his own experience with it. I know my mother is trying to help, but throwing the harsh reality of what could be worse at me is not exactly helpful to my current situation, and often doesn't even relate to the specific issue I'm dealing with or decide to open up to her about. ISTJs are often thought to be cold and insensitive, but my mother really does think she is helping me by listing off ways it could be worse. Like somehow telling me how bad it could be makes what I'm going through now seem less bad by comparison. I know she thinks of it in a way to cheer me up, but it only makes me more upset to think about how much worse it could be. Instead of seeing my situation as better by comparison, I instead end up thinking about the worst. She tries to help, but it just stresses me out more in the process. I had a talk with her a while back about it, and I finally said "You keep throwing all these harsh realities at me that I'm going to have to face one day, and I already know. But it's not helpful to what I'm going through 'right now.'" She gave me a puzzled look, but I could tell she latched onto the part of it not being 'helpful.' "When I open up to you, all I need, all I'm looking for is some encouragement or kind words to help me feel better and move on." My mother continued to look at me, but she was silent for a moment. "Like how?" she asked. "Well, you know; like 'I know you're a very smart girl. I know you can get through this.' You know, just kind words like that. Just encourage me instead of throwing harsh realities at me that I already know will become relevant one day," I said. "...I'm not really very good at that. But I can try to be more encouraging." -mom. It was the first time I'd actually reached this kind of understanding with her. INTJ daughter focused on what's in her head and ISTJ mother focused on reality and what's around her. ISTJs aren't insensitive or cold. It's just that they show love with a practical sense of logic that can come across as cold. Like maximizing the worst you'll face later to try and make you feel better about the problem you're having right now. Even if it's not exactly comforting, I think it's important to understand that when they do that they're trying to help you, even if it causes more stress to the person they're trying to help. I think a hard part for ISTJs is learning to be more encouraging and supportive with how they show their love and care for others, adding more warmth to their words, and focusing on the here and now instead of projecting so far into the future. For INTJs, I think we need to sometimes realize people don't always want to be 'fixed' and instead just want some encouragement and sympathy. It's very hard for me to just 'be there' for someone. I always try to fix their issue with a solution, and if there is no solution, I feel helpless and don't know how to make someone feel better without feeling awkward. Like, if I can't help you with your problem, then how can I help you at all? With time, I've come to realize sometimes all I have to say is 'I'm sorry you're going through that. That doesn't sound fun. I hope you feel better soon.' I try to show I care instead of jumping straight to fixing their problem. Like my mother, I can come across as insensitive when someone is upset and my way of 'helping' is to try and fix the problem without offering any sort of comfort to the person first. I have been told, by a creative writing instructor, that I was lacking in empathy, and when I heard that I was indignant. "I don't read to 'feel' an emotion. I read to learn something, or to find some valuable lesson or takeaway, or because it is a topic I am interested in. I don't read a book to feel sad, or angry, or depressed. Yet that's all my peers seem interested in writing about in this class. It's just a competition to see who can write the most tragic life story, without anyone rising above it or having a deeper message to it." I find it hard to empathize with people, especially strangers, because I don't know what they've gone through. Most of the time I fear I would say the wrong thing, make them even more upset somehow, or intrude on their privacy. For all I know they want to be left alone, and it's not really any of my business. But I have at least tried harder in recent years to show more empathy for my friends and family. If they tell me what's wrong, I ask if they're okay, how they're feeling, and how it must not be fun to go through that. And I mean it. I just had to be willing to listen to their heart before I listened with my head.
Hey - that's a great analysis you've given for yourself and family - maybe you'd be a good clinical psychoanalyst or researcher. As a nerdy ISFJ nurse/therapist I've learned that even the TJ types appreciate a little tenderness when having a meltdown. Otherwise, "fixing" without letting the "feelings flow" will often fall flat 😔
my first INFP meltdown happened at 15 y/o. I talked back a lot (and was always grounded) but had never actually yelled at my parents b4. We all sat in stunned silence for an hour inside that car. I thought for sure i'd get beat up afterwards but nothing happened and none of us ever talked about it again.
I've watched a few of these sketches today, and the ENTJ type matches one of my old co-workers completely. I guess I know that now. The INTJ one is accurate, up until we realize how much it'll cost to replace the computer and either destroy something cheaper or scream internally for the next hour.
I'm an INFP but I get furious at objects. I've been known to mercilessly pummel the corner of a countertop that was inconsiderate enough to run into me.
Holy crap, that INFP one is accurate. My brother (an INFP) got really mad at me, recently, had a rage-fit, and started bringing up stuff that happened 10 years ago (like this ONE TIME I didn’t let him sleep over, after he had gone out partying) 😂 Edit: Just got to the INTJ one. Yup, that’s also accurate. 👌 - INTJ
INTJ was mostly likely in his head along the dozen of dozen's of other Potentional scenarios that could happen, but if parallel worlds truly do exist then every scenario did happen.... right?
"No one has ever seen me lose my cool before" - well, being locked down and alone most of the time has surely made it easier to lose it more frequently.
As an INTJ who works in IT, you nailed it. I had that exact reaction when my computer didn't return from sleep mode this morning after locking it to get coffee. Minus the hammer, but the facial expression was dead on! utter annoyance at something that shouldn't have happened slowing down my plan of action without a word said.
As an ENFP I do one of two things- 1) "What I'm never depressed, I totally didn't have a mental breakdown this week. I mean would someone having a bad time be able to sing Happy from Despicable Me? No!!" 2) Dark humor jokes to cover up the fact that my pain is real
am i the only enfp who's upfront about it and doesn't pretend to be happy all the time? bc i don't lie about feeling depressed. but i do make jokes about it or add lmao at the end of a really sad sentence if I'm talking to someone I'm not sure I can trust with handling my intensity yet.
as an infj I can calm myself a lot of the time, but there have been very few times it's gotten too overwhelimg and I end up losing my temper for like one or two seconds and it usually ends up being kinda extreme during those seconds. I can calm myself down really quick so it's like a tiny tiny glimpse of what I'm feeling. I mean I've never lost my shit in front of anyone but my close family and I'm literally terrified for the day when other ppl see me lose it but until then ig i'll just continue dying on the inside lmaooo
Hack : Invest 5 minutes of your time to cry privately in a bathroom stall instead of wasting half an hour failing to repress your feelings and looking completely insane ! ✨
Ha! I thought I was the only one who did this! 😅 I even had a favourite stall at work that was my melt down safe place. 🚽👍 I do recommend this especially if you have an overly expressive face like me and are not capable of hiding your emotions well. 😫
(ENFP) I dunno, my imaginary friends are so real that I don't need a sock puppet prop and yes, they all have names... 🙄 I just look over at them. start talking and they answer me back. Voila...problems resolved and venting has relieved stress...but no real people friends because everyone thinks I am insane. Also, meltdowns occur daily not weekly and are usually about some injustice in the world, a cause I believe in, or some personal failure to achieve a specific goal. Oh, and the 4-year-old imaginary friend has the very best ideas. Do you really wonder why we accept everyone else without judgement? We are way more "out there" than most people.
I talk to myself or to the air 24/7, so usually it’s just me alone in a room venting my problems to... the wall. That or making up a song on the spot about them and singing it to feel better.
@oryan Pre school = thought my sensor brother was defective. Kindergarten - 1st grade = OMG there are more of them. 2nd - 8th grade = I must be stupid. Took IQ test during high school and talked some schoolmates into taking it too = I was 140 and the rest were under 130. OK, so I am not stupid. Started college and thought maybe I am crazy? Discovered MBTI = Life changing moment. There are others like me! Whoo-hoo! I discovered "work-around" and "tricks" to become more productive.
There was a time when my keyboard's laptop acted weird. For some reasons, the ctrl button is always active. I'm trying to act calm until that function accidentally made me lose many unrecoverable data....THEN & THERE I'M SNAPPED & PULLED OUT ALL THE BUTTON IN THE KEYBOARD!!! I didn't scream or anything, I was just sooooo upset
Really? I’m the exact opposite and I was sure it totally represented intjs; not only breaking objects makes no sense bc it does not accomplish anything, it costs money and you have to clean up? I could never no matter how badly I wanted to. There’s also the factor of losing your cool, my pride would never allow that either
ENFP here, you hit the nail on the head. We don't like letting people know we have issues, but sometimes, we want to let people know in a subtle way. During a meltdown, it would be more like what you did.
Thank you for helping me realize that... that does make sense. I do too hate telling people when I have an issue or that I am struggling with something. I assume that they will just not care nor listen... I just presumed that it was a mental health thing of mine. Huh. - An ENFP
i don’t like letting people know but i’m impulsive and don’t know how to keep my mouth shut lol! but if i’m close with someone and they open up to me i’ll do the same
Okay so i watched so many of your videos tonight and they were pretty accurate but ENFJ having a meltdown is absolutely on point dude!!!! It is hauntingly relatable
I had that ISTJ rant this afternoon. INTJ here. Also I don't break my things. I may want too, but I want my money more. There is always a cost benefit analysis going on in my head.
I'm an ISTJ and that rant put words to what I've been thinking for years....but I also relate to feeling extreme violence towards my laptop....but that's a side effect of being a programmer, I think.
I do ISTJ rants when I have PMS. Otherwise it’s just a sledgehammer to the dysfunctional object... but only in my daydreams. Because in an hour I’ll miss the thing and wish I hadn’t lol
Me INFJ living with my INTJ Roommate: Her: "Do you have my Witchcraft books?" Me: "Yes why?" Her: "Someone stole the light of my boyfriends bike." Me: "Ah you want to curse them." Her: "I will make them suffer." A few WEEKS later i open the door for her when i see how she looks grumpy to a neighbor that geeted her. Me: "Why didn't you..?" Her: "I am unfriendly and mean to everyone in this apartment building, till i know who stole the light of my boyfriend." Me: "Ah I see." This conversations make my day, she is like the Grinch but in pretty xD love her
I completly agree with your friend, j am a INTJ too so I know I would do that too (if also have a list of pleople that are not in the list, and the only way to get on that list would be to prove inocense)
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I’m learning a lot with your videos, that is improving my listening so much, tkss from Brazil
@@giishaw92 I agree with you 100%! This is definitely one of my FJ faves! FJ still looks adorable losing his cool in 16 different ways OMG 😂🤣💖
Is that how you find your date
"Buy me a coffee"
Tell me if it works😁
INFP: Holds a grudge against all the obnoxious nuances of people.
Also INFP: Worries everyone else also holds a grudge against them for their minor things.
I actually worry because I'm holding a grudge against every persons minor things.
So true!
So friggin true
Oh I forget tho....
And then remember everything the next time they do something to piss me off
And then feel the build up really straining me
And then forget again
😂😂😂
True!! 🤣🤣
INFP's
- So, you don't have meltdowns every week? Huh. That's weird.
:,)
Lol relatable
My meltdowns come in so many forms sometimes I cannot control it...
please define "meltdown"
- INTP
DUDE-
So true
My INFP's meltdowns involve saying "It's fine" while developing a stomach ulcer.
Accurate
LMFAOOOOO yessssss!!!!
NOOO
so accurate
So fucking true
As an INFJ, I am so scared about when the time comes and I finally lose my shit.
Me too!
It's so damn accurate. And I'm trying so hard not to.. 😂😂
Same 😭
I’ve never even seen me lose my shit before but I imagine me screaming
Literal worry.
INTJ is the creepiest so far in this vid. I mean, he said nothing, just annoyed, and suddenly came with a hammer. 😂
because we are like a heating kettle; Once we reach boiling point, we quietly and swiftly deal with the problem, even if it means detaching from it
The worst part is that, as an INTJ, I can confirm that things can go from 0 to 100 real quick.
😂😂😂 agreed. He was definitely the scariest one.
My sister is an intj, should I be scared of her
@@jayofsunshineusa2113 nope, as long as she breaks hers and not yours 😂
As an INTJ, I would like to formally confirm that the moment of silence prior the technological carnage really spoke to me.
My exboyfriend (ENFP) once said to me: I get so terrified whenever you get quiet. I never noticed that about myself until he pointed out. He preferred whenever I argued with him. He knew my silence meant I lost it, like the calm before the storm. So accurate.
I once lost a match in call of duty and started punching my phone non stop. I ended up with 4 busted knuckles and one broken knuckle. Instant regret when I walked in the shower 😔
@Alex Imersiv I have the same problem. I tend to overreact when I’m angry. But that’s because I have problems controlling my anger. Never have I let anyone see that part because, if I’m honest. I’m ashamed of it, it’s not a good look on people.
One person has seen me get really angry before because everything bottled up, a whole week of pure bs and i lost it (don't ask me how i managed to stay calm for a whole week, idk either). She saw me get annoyed or even shout a few times and considered it as 'angry' but when the week of bs happened (and after she saw me burst out all my anger), she just laughs at people's remarks that i'm angry when i shout. Glad she's still an acquaintance 'til now though.
-Potato, INTJ
I'm an INTP. but INTJ's meltdown more relate for me... I'm quiet while angry and acted on it when I got alone at home
I love how INTJ’s meltdown is unrelated to society or people (like all the other personalitys) and is just because of a technological dysfunction
Yeah we rather stay quite than complaining 🤣
Machines are our best friend 🤣
We’re used to always being disappointed in humanity and society, it doesn’t hurt us anymore, now technology failing us hurts on a another level.
@@MVangelmx lol wow you explained that so clearly bro 😂💖🤭
@@MVangelmx very true. There's a reason why I entered the I.T field because the majority of my time I'm around things that are not people. unfortunately there is still some human interaction involved but its not as much as some fields.
I'm an INTJ and I feel extremely vulnerable with how accurate this is.
Me too. 😅
This is so accurate. My husband has done this!!!!
Agreed 🤣
He even got the INTJ facial expression right 🤣
applicable to people, places, and things.
No matter how sad we are, we ENFPs will always smile and do something weird.
true🤣
Damn straight 😔
*Does the worm away*
Yes absolutely 💯
Every. Single. Time.
100%😂...I was once super depressed in the shower and then just realized that my faucet looks like sid from ice age and had to laugh for 10min straight while crying...#enfplife😂
INFP. My pillows are deaf from me screaming into them.
INFP. after 2 hours of unloading hears "This isn't about me anymore... hasn't been for the last hour after you brought everyone else into the conversation as well. Now we're into hypotheticals"
Totally me.
Even though I am INFJ, I can relate. 🤣 Usually after keeping my cool in the public area, I go home, scream into my pillow, burst into tears and cry for a couple hours, and then do artwork or poetry describing how hard my life is.
Are you ok bruh?
@@bozidarnikolic1042 i love it how you are actually concerned
The INTJ one needs to be a GIF. ABSOLUTE NEED.
Yes!!
I 3rd this!
As soon as he said “For the last 20 years I’ve been bottling up everything you’ve done” I immediately said INFP because......... that is me 💀😂.
Lol I bottled up my feelings about my bf wearing his ex's hoodie and exploded when he switched hoodies with some girl from work. "Has the hoodie always bothered me? Yes. Have I been bottling up these emotions of jealousy and rage for the past two months? Yes! Am I going to do anything, but timidly tell you I have a problem with this and hope that you stop? No, that's exactly what I'm doing..."
@@dmm7736 LOL oh noooo! Fr though I hope he considers your feelings & takes what you say seriously.
@@ZephyrAuraa he did take it seriously, and made sure to avoid me while he thought I was still mad (the little "dispute" we had lasted for two days- really it was me shutting down and not talking to him the first day and him avoiding me the next so that he wouldn't upset me again; I told him how I felt after I cooled down and collected myself). He hasn't done anything like that since. I ended up giving him some tools and a hoodie for Christmas, and he seems to be living in that new hoodie now😂
When we talked, I found out it was the only hoodie he had at the time since his ex still has his (they wore each other's hoodies), so I asked if getting him a hoodie would be a good idea and he said it would. He's never looked so happy in any hoodie before and I love how he seems to cuddle himself in it lol
He's learned to read me and I've learned to be more communicative, so all is well rn😁
Thank you for your kind words!
Ikr Idk if I am an INFP but that Scenario matched me so well
I think my sister's an INFP. She remembers a tea set my brother and I broke when she was in preschool.
I wonder if I'm an INFP. I sometimes get it as a survey result..but I don't hold hard feelings against people. I forgive at my own expense, even if it's difficult to forget.
As an INFJ - that is horrifyingly accurate 😂
No one can ever tell. Not a single soul.
Yeah I feel really exposed nooo
I would rant out to my wall. Helps in keeping stuff discreet.
INFJ all the way.
as always.
*Timestamps* ヾ(•ω•`)o
0:00 ISTP
0:09 ENFP
0:27 ESFP
0:36 ESFJ
0:50 INTP
1:02 ISFJ
1:23 ENTP
1:46 ISTJ
2:05 ENFJ
2:19 ESTJ
2:31 ESTP
2:45 ENTJ
2:56 ISFP
3:12 INFP
3:33 INFJ
3:51 INTJ
Thank you!
Thank you so much :D
Hey thanks fam!
ISFP is at 2:58 btw!!
Thank you!
As an INFP I can say that the very worst meltdowns of my life have pretty much been me bringing up every horrible thing the other person did to me over the past twenty years and how they have utterly destroyed my soul. Of course it takes me twenty years to finally get to that point.
Me as an infj having a meltdown: *shuts door and cries buckets*
After the meltdown: *comes out of room and washes my face as if nothing happened*
Damn it this is just so relatable and then my inner mind speaks up and tells me " okay idiot, you are probably over reacting a lot ,your tear ducts are fucking swollen and are dry so you better get yourself up again, wash your face hydrate yourself to re fill your ducts and get out of the washroom with the same neutral cool attitude you are know for".
I do that too! -Infp
@@Elsa-zj8zr feel ya my friend😭
@@IceePhoenix inf family lol
@Estrella Lazzari let's do a crying club :'D
Ouch ouch ouch. Yep. We INFP's hold EVERYTHING in until one minor thing happens that makes us explode. Yep.
So painfully true. I can go weeks without a meltdown, gradually letting everything build up until BOOM! All because of some minor annoyance. 😩
happened to me the other week, and i always cry when i have a meltdown... it wasn't pretty ngl
EVERYTHING
I once yelled at a bus driver who accused me of not having a ticket after a long, horrible day. I'm not proud of it but I snapped and unfortunately he was there :(
Incredibly true. The greatest fight I had with my father started with a disagreement about letting the cat outside. It was like 4 years ago, I've been that angry only once since then.
Title should be FJ being a mood for 4 minutes straight.
LOL true!!
😂🤣
INFP is super accurate. I cannot count how many times I’ve gone off on people. In my diary where no one can hear or see it.
LMFAOOO SAMEE
The diary is the exact place to put it. I don't often complain, but when I do, it's in a journal where no one will ever read it.
SAME DARLING
I didn’t feel like the infp was was accurate to me until you said this and I remembered all the times I went off in my journal… 🗿
Writing in ALL CAPS to emphasize the rage that we'll never release out loud
As an INTJ I can say that the moment of silence is the logical brain reaching no other solutions.
Fr
love TJ breakdowns, it's so fun and methodical, always brings fond memories of me pissing off my brother ... it's like a lottery win - yes! I got him to react moment xD
no worries though he knows how to push my buttons and always wins anyway.... *sigh i can at leat take this win damit!
Am I the only one who’s glad to see something else than about the US election?
Me. FJ is my cure.
That’s why I’m here my happy place
It is about having a meltdown.... indirectly about the us election for sure😂
If anyone needs an emotional support Canadian, I'm here
No, youre not, especialy ceince i live in the europe and underage, its doesnt really interest me :/
INTJ: Why do Objects always insult me like this.
Thanks... I really needed that laugh.
@@IExpectedBSJustNotThisMuchBS that's depressing.......🤣
INFJ: Objects insult me too. I feel it.
The audacity disrespect omg
I think it's more a point of being prone to silent seething rage, and if it's an object that should operate one way and malfunctions on the wrong day, it might get a claw hammer to the disk tray and thrown out the window like a Generation 1 Playstation 2 after giving a Disc-Read Error.
Don't read into how specific that example is.
As an Infp, the bottling everything inside then exploding with anger is so relatable.
INTJ here, and I've been told by two partners that my silent rage is terrifying, and I really struggled to understand why. For me, it's just putting the lid on the pot before it boils over. I'd rather be silent than incoherent.
“Because no one has ever really seen me lose my cool before...”
As an INFJ, I feel attacked bruh! 🥴
I just end up crying to my ENFJ twin and we both talk about how everything we do is our own faults and ranting to eachother about minor instances that built up to this point that made us want to snap. And then when I lose my cool in front of someone I automatically apologize and I feel like I walk on egg shells in front of them from now on.
I'm an infj and what he said was true tho in my case
@@moonlightlunar44 I know right! 🙌🏼
Hilariously accurate for what the ego wishes!
Yep I don’t let people see me lose my cool, because I don’t want to show weakness or vulnerability, people will take advantage of a chance to hurt you sometimes, and you never know who might do that so it’s best to keep your poker face around those you can’t be sure you can trust. Also it wouldn’t make me feel better to lose my cool in front of someone, I prefer to save it for when I get home and then lose my shit in private. Even when I was little I would hold in my tears when I got hurt if I was around other kids. Idk I’ve always been the same
I'm offended that you would ever think that I would tell someone everything that I've bottled up for years outside of talking to the mirror in the bathroom and yelling at myself instead and then getting mad at a Lego that I stepped on because I don't ever talk about my problems with the people I actually have an issue with
Okay, me
Your infp?
I felt that in my soul.
@@veeeeeeeee7 yep
This is literally me dealing with all my issues
Review from an INTJ: Very accurate 😂
Love the touch of not saying a word, I never understood why people had to yell when they're angry when body language, facial expressions, and silent rage communicates anger in a much more impactful and intimidating way
When you're angry, you wanna look intimidating?
Yeah that's some psychopath stuff, rather than intj lol
when you are angry, you try to think of every single possible way to look intimidating? yea as an intj i dont think this is an "intj" trait
@i .candy Intimidation usually equals less social interaction and more respect from those inferior. Win-win.
Yep. Though the quietness doesn't happen with me. I explode.
We do it because it feels good to yell when you’re frustrated and upset. Though I do the silent rage thing too (people tell me it’s terrifying).
- ENTJ
As an INFJ, this is truly on point. I want to maintain the facade that I am cool and collected, though I want to scream my head off at times
INTJ is accurate, except that last part happens mostly inside our heads.
Mostly.
Yes
I keep almost snapping my iPad in half. I should prob not do that. -INTJ
yea
Or we just go for the more durable stuff like calculators and textbooks
My daughter is an INTJ and you should see her building furniture from IKEA. FJ was deadly accurate with it... even the face expression.
The problem with me (as an INFP) is that I'm mad about all this stuff but when it finally bursts out of me, I can't remember specific circumstances!
So it seems like I'm just ranting about nothing 😔
But it's so important to me. Frustration.
Gets mad about all the things stacking up
Brings it up
"What did i do?"
-television fuzz noises-
same
oof i’m the opposite, i told my ex word for word the exact conversations we had that led to me wanting to break up lmao
Enfp. Same...
Yes! Preach!
You know it's INTJ when you see it
As an ISTP I relate to this 100%. I don't get pissed off often. It's actually pretty hard to make me so mad that I go into a meltdown, but when you do, oh boy, you better leave me alone until I cool off. For your own safety.
I was thinking I don't do that but then again remember I tortured my bully teachers in my thoughts and then I am happy again 🤣 same ISTP
I remember when I tore in half a slipper of 9 year old in a hospital, because he threw it at me. I was 13 year old and considerably weak, so it's actually surprising that I managed to do that.
@@user-un8hy5dd3jas an ISTP whenever i hit someone jokingly they tell me u should stop hitting people or else you'll break someone one day... i didn't believe them until i broke in half a huge plate with one bare hand 💀
As an INFP this is so accurate. I may not show it but I remember Every. Little. Thing you have ever done. Ever. 😂
I'm an INFP with a terrible memory though, so I get angry at thousands of little things, bottle it up, and then when it finally comes out and I'm asked for examples, I'm like "uhhhh... *cries in INFP*"
@@zachattack087 ME ME ME ME ME ME
@@zachattack087 yeah when I let it out don’t expect me to back up anything I say with anything it’s not happening
@@zachattack087 that's me! i don't even remember what i had for breakfast today so when i finally want to talk about all the things that have been bothering me i realise that i don't remember them anymore. i'm still angry tho and i can't tell the person why because i forgot
Yep. This blessing and curse, totally
The INTJ meltdown is real. The collosal amount of annoyance when he closed his eyes.. I felt that in my spirit. 😂😂😂 - INTJ
I KNOW THATS WHAT GAVE IT AWAY FOR ME LMAOOOO
Accurate AF!! When he walked away I was like “SLEDGEHAMMER! SLEDGEHAMMER!!!!” 😂😂😂
As an INFJ, I literally had a meltdown because I was trying to keep in my frustration towards my neighbors and I broke down and cried outside their house. The twig literally snapped in my head. Its so overwhelming trying to keep it together and maintain the nice facade towards people you just honestly wanna yell at.
the istp hitting things is very true, and the method is very efficient.
Well I just cope or curse...
INFP: so you want to see me having a meltdown? Come when you have your entire day free.
Underrated comment XD
Underrated and accurate!
I relate...
The INTP overthinking text messages from people and having a meltdown is so relatable
😔 indeed
I just dissect those messages like a frog in a science lab
@@icecubes9056 Yep, and then I start wondering why people don't talk to me much oof.
@@hilol499 I wonder why too......
When l text people Im always writing like:
"And even if...., however.... if instead.... but if..... so if... so basically if this then x, if that then y, if none then z, but in the very unlikely case it's both, then we could do this, otherwise we could do that"
And at the end they all tell me "yes yes chill" and "yes yes don't worry" and "but man don't worry" and "yes but relax"
But Im not anxious lol
Then overthinking about what to say for 3 hours then feeling like what you say is stupid... Everything's fine (I hate texting)
3:58 I'm INTJ and I can confirm this. Before we smash anything with a hammer, we must first take a moment to calculate whether the catharsis will be worth more than the value of the thing being smashed. 98.7% of the time the answer is yes.
Omg that's so trut 😂😂
"I wanted to upgrade anyway, and everything important is saved to the cloud." - my INTP husband.
When I started the video, I thought "if INTJ isn't entirely silent, it's not accurate." Sure enough, you never disappoint.
3:52 as an INTJ, I confirm this is 100% accurate 🤣😂
My anger can only be described as deathly silence.
Actually this is what I did to my laptop yesterday I was angrily taping and it was so loud that my mom yelled at me. Now I'm seeing this and it makes me embarrassed 🤣
Me: ~is having a meltdown~
My boy Frank: I see you, I love you, and I completely understand
Frank, somehow you manage to get the INTJs to come out of the woodwork, comment, communicate, interact. It is a rare thing to see so many INTJs in one place interacting with one another. It is unusual to find others I can relate to so thanks for doing what you do. 😊 Appreciate your ongoing commitment, wit and humour!
INTJ, yes, that cold, ice-cold anger that finally burst up in physical violence, so accurate, poor videogame controllers of mine, I've broken half a dozen of them
INTJ; insanely accurate, down to the closed-eyed, deep breath clenched face and the little flash of controlled insanity/murderous intent in the eyes at the end 🤣🤣🤣
Yeah, as a fellow INTJ i felt that on a personal spiritual level! lol
I still miss the eye rolling or it's just my personal habit
Okay I'm an INTJ and yeah lmao.
Totally me, the pause is longer though.
This is totally me lmao~intj
So, ENTJ's meltdown is just any other day for us INTJs. (Which is also scaringly accurate, thank you very much.)
lmao, we usually never even think of giving up. Not trying is obvio a sign of depression for me.
Yep 👍😧
Yes, my exact thoughts!
And you wont even bother to say how wrong they are so you just there like👁👄👁
@@suhanikadian4229 you too? I usually keep a track at my depressive syntomps just by how much I'm considering taking a whole day off
Infp was so accurate, I always try to be nice with people so I usually prefer to stay silent when they do me wrong, and at some point I find myself too overwhelmed and I just freak out. And then when I calm down, the only thing I get is a bunch of regret and then I hate myself more than ever...
3:26 I do that 😂 but only with very close people, like my husband or my family. And after like one hour, if that person didn’t read it I usually regret everything i said and try to delete it. But if they read it, oh boy, it doesn’t always ends well.
Sometimes I just write the message but don’t send it till I calm down, so I can edit it before i regret or just don’t send it at all.
I keep scratch pads around the house so I can write my frustrations down and get it all out. Then tear it up when I’ve called down. Burn it. Then flush the ashes. Seems to work for me
"16 personalities comforting someone."
Oh yes. This would be fun to watch. Over and over again!
Already expecting INTJ not knowing what to do, and INFP become sadder than the person they should comfort 😂
@@myheartwillstopinjoy8142 as an INTJ, I have to agree. I tried comforting my sobbing sister - she'd just been dumped. She asked me to stop because i was terrible at it.
@@danicleckley5404 aw, but you tried and that's the most important thing ❤️ my sis is an INTJ and she comforted me for the first time in my life after 18 years lol, but I was so glad to recieve comfort from her that I honestly didn't mind that brief and extremely awkward side hug she gave me 😂😂
She said what she said, but I'm sure she was happy to have you, please keep comforting her when she feels down ❤️
@@myheartwillstopinjoy8142 yeah. My attempt made her laugh in the end, and she thanked me for trying.
The INTJ is always so accurate...
As an INTJ, this is very accurate. I kind of lack social interactions so what I usually get mad on are objects. And that hammer thing was oh, if I was mad at my laptop I'll use an axe.
As an INTJ, our actual meltdown is when our typically excellent thinking and analyzing brain goes into overdrive, and "goes off the tracks", but keeps going and we lose rationality. Not by becoming emotional, but by being very wrong. Happens due to anxiety, trying to solve a romantic problem most commonly.
Yep. Very true.
"This isn't something you can argue your way out of"
*ENTP.exe has stopped working*
My motto is I can argue through anything
As an INTP, I felt that too
That's just a challenge. I'm taking down the bureaucracy.
tell me why that EXACT scenario has happened to me 😭
@@bellumxyz1421 they are counterparts, the difference is the extroversion to the introversion basically
"You all are so stupid..."
INTJ here, but *man* ENTJ is relatable sometimes.
Well they are your extroverted counterpart. I'm an INFP and some days I totally relate to the ENFP.
@Marie, you all are usually much more succinct about it than some of us. ENTJ in public is hilarious, tho, that observational humor is a gift. The different sets of masses are much too temporary for INFP to call out, but we appreciate you calling them out because principles.
One thing I've noticed, tho: why do ENTJs disappear when INFPs finally meltdown? 😈 -INFP
@Marie, it's funny.
I have an ENTJ friend who is srsly about to catch it... when I can catch him.
@Marie , 😄😄😄
Exactly. And with pleasure.
-ENTJ
INTPs : *over analize messages, doubt of the whole relation they shared with the concerned person, review the last month to know if they've done anything wrong, think they are a terrible person, cry, question everything and fear the next interaction with the person.*
I think this has to do with the person in general because I would not have cared because I'm not very emotional and would have just texted back that I loved her too. (I'm INTP)
Yes! Exactly!
@@taz9951 The current quiz has -A (assertive) and -T(turbulent) versions of each that is basically how emotionally stable you are. This exact example may come down to which side of that coin you land on, though of course a turbulent person is more likely to have a breakdown to begin with though I suppose it's fair to say that it may not be of this type. I'm definitely very far on the turbulent side. That said I think the real point here he was getting at was our tendency to fixate on details.
@@kioku618 Yeah I can acknowledge that I do fixate on details a lot so that would make sense. It was just the emotional part that got me as I'm very bad at emotions and I can only recognize what emotion i'm feeling if it's somewhat extreme (EX: thinking of homicide = angry, tears streaming down my face = sad, and the happy feeling is a little harder to recognize for me). Pretty sure i'm bipolar. Im also INTP-T though I might be a little closer to A.
@@kioku618 yup, im an intp and got stacked on turbulent. I am not lying when I say EVERY single time I send a text (which has been proof read, scrapped, rewritten, and rhetorically analyzed) my brain starts skipping through minefields of meltdowns. This comment itself has been rewritten a few times lol.
The ENFJ is so relatable it's like you stalked me during meltdown
We don’t crash too often, but when we do it’s bad.
Scarily accurate!
I don't have a meltdown.
I literally just melt down. 😂😭
😂😂😂
✨ *Timestamp for yall* ✨
0:01 _ISTP_ *CRAFTER*
0:09 _ENFP_ *CHAMPION*
0:27 _ESFP_ *PERFORMER*
0:36 _ESFJ_ *CAREGIVER*
0:50 _INTP_ *THINKER*
1:02 _ISFJ_ *PROTECTOR*
1:23 _ENTP_ *DEVIATOR*
1:47 _ISTJ_ *INSPECTOR*
2:06 _ENFJ_ *GIVER*
2:19 _ESTJ_ *DIRECTOR*
2:32 _ESTP_ *PERSUADER*
2:45 _ENTJ_ *COMMANDER*
2:56 _ISFP_ *ARTIST*
3:12 _INFP_ *MEDIATOR*
3:33 _INFJ_ *ADVOCATE*
3:52 _INTJ_ *ARCHITECT*
thank yooo 💕💕💕
@@thatbee1106welcome :) ✨
Thank you so much!
@@Zarai_Numbers welcomeee ✨
I love the organized fonts and clarity! 😍 Thank you!!! ~ 💖 ESFJ
I think, as an INTP, that punctuation in texts is exceedingly important. I've often worried about the meaning of someone's texts because they didn't have very explanatory punctuation for what they said. I think it's funny that you had the meltdown over only having a period after "love you". I have honestly thought the same way.
My sister is an infp and what he said was so accurate! she bottles everything up until it comes pouring out in a stream of frustration and hurt, and she will bring up every single bad thing I did to her in the last ten years.
As an INTJ and programmer, I knew the hammer was coming the moment I saw the computer
Erin Morikawa as a fellow INTJ I have to disagree, I would have used a sledgehammer (and to be honest probably worn safety glasses).
Yeah... but I would never destroy a computer.
Like, what's the point of destroying something? What's the outcome? Are you less angry?
I don't think so... and you now don't have a computer:)
- INTJ
@@pmj_studio4065 They're joking
This is so wrong
I was expecting a rocket launcher
Intj: click click click click click... SMACK
That one was SO on point I laughed out loud 😂🤣 and I'm not even an INTJ!
I'm an INTJ, and that is pretty accurate. Whenever something gets on my nerves there's just the death glare of silent rage. When I was in highschool, all I had to do was look at my fellow students to get the message across that they were ticking me off by putting their feet on the back of my desk and shaking my desk while I was trying to work. All I had to do was look at them, and they took their feet off my desk without a word. When I'm angry, other people realize it when I look at them. Resting death face, I guess. But if it becomes an issue, I have to explain to people why I am angry with them, and if no one lets me explain my reasons or logic for being angry at them, I lose it, because it's hard for me to understand why they don't care 'why' I am angry with them. And if no one is there, I tell myself out loud why I am angry with them, and how to fix the person's behavior. But if I take it out on someone my anger usually comes out as a twisted form of passive aggression. Though honestly it's the small things that make me angry. There can be chaos, drama, everybody crying, people talking about stressful topics and such, and I just work through it all. It's small little things that get on my nerves, slowly building up over the week until I either take it out on someone with passive aggression, talk it out with someone I trust who won't question me every second, or I release the anger and stress by doing something productive or fun. It's similar to when I'm sad. I recognize I'm sad and what is making me sad. Thinking about it makes me more sad, but then I question if I should keep being sad, and then I recognize I hate being sad and miserable, until I finally do something productive or fun to make me stop being sad. Encouraging words from family often helps. My INFP dad is better at that than my ISTJ mother. My mother tries to console me by telling me it could be worse, and throws harsh realities of the future at me. My dad just listens and gives me hope for the future, or empathizes with what I'm going through by relating to his own experience with it. I know my mother is trying to help, but throwing the harsh reality of what could be worse at me is not exactly helpful to my current situation, and often doesn't even relate to the specific issue I'm dealing with or decide to open up to her about. ISTJs are often thought to be cold and insensitive, but my mother really does think she is helping me by listing off ways it could be worse. Like somehow telling me how bad it could be makes what I'm going through now seem less bad by comparison. I know she thinks of it in a way to cheer me up, but it only makes me more upset to think about how much worse it could be. Instead of seeing my situation as better by comparison, I instead end up thinking about the worst. She tries to help, but it just stresses me out more in the process. I had a talk with her a while back about it, and I finally said "You keep throwing all these harsh realities at me that I'm going to have to face one day, and I already know. But it's not helpful to what I'm going through 'right now.'" She gave me a puzzled look, but I could tell she latched onto the part of it not being 'helpful.' "When I open up to you, all I need, all I'm looking for is some encouragement or kind words to help me feel better and move on." My mother continued to look at me, but she was silent for a moment. "Like how?" she asked. "Well, you know; like 'I know you're a very smart girl. I know you can get through this.' You know, just kind words like that. Just encourage me instead of throwing harsh realities at me that I already know will become relevant one day," I said. "...I'm not really very good at that. But I can try to be more encouraging." -mom. It was the first time I'd actually reached this kind of understanding with her. INTJ daughter focused on what's in her head and ISTJ mother focused on reality and what's around her. ISTJs aren't insensitive or cold. It's just that they show love with a practical sense of logic that can come across as cold. Like maximizing the worst you'll face later to try and make you feel better about the problem you're having right now. Even if it's not exactly comforting, I think it's important to understand that when they do that they're trying to help you, even if it causes more stress to the person they're trying to help. I think a hard part for ISTJs is learning to be more encouraging and supportive with how they show their love and care for others, adding more warmth to their words, and focusing on the here and now instead of projecting so far into the future. For INTJs, I think we need to sometimes realize people don't always want to be 'fixed' and instead just want some encouragement and sympathy. It's very hard for me to just 'be there' for someone. I always try to fix their issue with a solution, and if there is no solution, I feel helpless and don't know how to make someone feel better without feeling awkward. Like, if I can't help you with your problem, then how can I help you at all? With time, I've come to realize sometimes all I have to say is 'I'm sorry you're going through that. That doesn't sound fun. I hope you feel better soon.' I try to show I care instead of jumping straight to fixing their problem. Like my mother, I can come across as insensitive when someone is upset and my way of 'helping' is to try and fix the problem without offering any sort of comfort to the person first. I have been told, by a creative writing instructor, that I was lacking in empathy, and when I heard that I was indignant. "I don't read to 'feel' an emotion. I read to learn something, or to find some valuable lesson or takeaway, or because it is a topic I am interested in. I don't read a book to feel sad, or angry, or depressed. Yet that's all my peers seem interested in writing about in this class. It's just a competition to see who can write the most tragic life story, without anyone rising above it or having a deeper message to it." I find it hard to empathize with people, especially strangers, because I don't know what they've gone through. Most of the time I fear I would say the wrong thing, make them even more upset somehow, or intrude on their privacy. For all I know they want to be left alone, and it's not really any of my business. But I have at least tried harder in recent years to show more empathy for my friends and family. If they tell me what's wrong, I ask if they're okay, how they're feeling, and how it must not be fun to go through that. And I mean it. I just had to be willing to listen to their heart before I listened with my head.
Hey - that's a great analysis you've given for yourself and family - maybe you'd be a good clinical psychoanalyst or researcher. As a nerdy ISFJ nurse/therapist I've learned that even the TJ types appreciate a little tenderness when having a meltdown. Otherwise, "fixing" without letting the "feelings flow" will often fall flat 😔
my first INFP meltdown happened at 15 y/o. I talked back a lot (and was always grounded) but had never actually yelled at my parents b4. We all sat in stunned silence for an hour inside that car. I thought for sure i'd get beat up afterwards but nothing happened and none of us ever talked about it again.
As an INFP writer, my meltdowns are immortalized in poems. Hopefully, millenia from now, my meltdowns will keep on giving lol!
If it weren't for my depression I wouldn't write anything lol.
So freaking true! I'm ENFP/INFP and I relate to that so much!
Same here
Hehe me too
yesterday i has a mental breakdown in class and forgot my camera was on❤️thriving
edit: thankfully i'm infp, so no one noticed🥰
I hope you feel at least a little better now
@@keiyta228 aww thanks!! and i'm army too
@@-sbocciare2277 Glad you feel better, stay strong you can do this! I purple you!! 💜💜💜
Same...lol
@@keiyta228 i purple you too!!!💜💜💜thank you for the encouragement!!
I've watched a few of these sketches today, and the ENTJ type matches one of my old co-workers completely. I guess I know that now.
The INTJ one is accurate, up until we realize how much it'll cost to replace the computer and either destroy something cheaper or scream internally for the next hour.
As an INTJ I can confirm that I do as a matter of fact get mad at random objects.
I'm an INFP but I get furious at objects. I've been known to mercilessly pummel the corner of a countertop that was inconsiderate enough to run into me.
Holy crap, that INFP one is accurate.
My brother (an INFP) got really mad at me, recently, had a rage-fit, and started bringing up stuff that happened 10 years ago (like this ONE TIME I didn’t let him sleep over, after he had gone out partying) 😂
Edit: Just got to the INTJ one. Yup, that’s also accurate. 👌
- INTJ
Your brother is an INFP and he went out partying? Was he forced against his will?
INFJ Meltdown is legitness me.
Me: I'm not crazy *Has the crazy eyes look* I'm fine. I'm Okay. TOTALLY NOT FREAKING OUT!
😂😭
Literally me all of this past week😭😭😂😂 my friends were like you are not fine and I was like nope I'm definitely fine
yeah i’m an INFJ aswell and i can say that’s me
Me a few hours ago
So relatable
INTJ was mostly likely in his head along the dozen of dozen's of other Potentional scenarios that could happen, but if parallel worlds truly do exist then every scenario did happen.... right?
Okay but I'm ENFP and this is exactly how I act when having a meltdown.
So basically INFP's everyday life?
Yeah. And that too in our mind.
We have mental breakdowns every few hours :')
Yes, I think that's the reason for some people it's makes infp annoying
Is there a support group? Growing concerns.
Right?!?!?! Haha
The INTJ one is scarily accurate
(ENFP) Yes. It made me spit out my tea. I laughed out loud on that one.
I am a INTP but that one was more me then anything.
My dad is an INTJ. I grew up quite familiar with the sounds of computers and tools getting repeatedly struck. Lol.
I laughed so fuckng hard :D
I've had several of these moments, 😂
4:03 lethal forces
As an ISFJ, I can attest that this is 1000% true
As an INFP - all I can say is accurate - down to the warning.
"No one has ever seen me lose my cool before" - well, being locked down and alone most of the time has surely made it easier to lose it more frequently.
Yeah same. I'm an ENFJ, so I share 3 letters. I've never lost my cool, except once this lockdown when I was misunderstood on text.
ENTJ here- loool you know you’ve broken us when we can’t insult someone with a witty, clever remark 🤣🤣
as an enfp:
I have never before been so offended by something I 100% agree with.
Yeah that about sums it up (INTJ life amiright)
As an INTJ who works in IT, you nailed it. I had that exact reaction when my computer didn't return from sleep mode this morning after locking it to get coffee. Minus the hammer, but the facial expression was dead on! utter annoyance at something that shouldn't have happened slowing down my plan of action without a word said.
Yes. Just. Yes.
Thankyou Frank. I felt really crazy this week, now I feel sane.(a good thing).
My husband is an ISTJ and your depiction of them was so painfully accurate that I couldn't help groan laughing. 😂😅😐
As an ENFP I do one of two things- 1) "What I'm never depressed, I totally didn't have a mental breakdown this week. I mean would someone having a bad time be able to sing Happy from Despicable Me? No!!"
2) Dark humor jokes to cover up the fact that my pain is real
Same here ... Enfp 👏
Me too
am i the only enfp who's upfront about it and doesn't pretend to be happy all the time? bc i don't lie about feeling depressed. but i do make jokes about it or add lmao at the end of a really sad sentence if I'm talking to someone I'm not sure I can trust with handling my intensity yet.
Same. With a lot of isolation while I think I'm ok because I watch funny stuff on youtube.
INFP and same
Yes! The ENFP is spot on😂
Only, the talking sock would be a multicoloured mess💀
Haha, that was such a Michael Scott moment X'D. Hilarious!
@@c.s.70 PRISON MIKE!
as an infj I can calm myself a lot of the time, but there have been very few times it's gotten too overwhelimg and I end up losing my temper for like one or two seconds and it usually ends up being kinda extreme during those seconds. I can calm myself down really quick so it's like a tiny tiny glimpse of what I'm feeling. I mean I've never lost my shit in front of anyone but my close family and I'm literally terrified for the day when other ppl see me lose it but until then ig i'll just continue dying on the inside lmaooo
Wow, I I just started watching your videos and you are really accurate
Hack : Invest 5 minutes of your time to cry privately in a bathroom stall instead of wasting half an hour failing to repress your feelings and looking completely insane ! ✨
@Audrey Boudreau Glad my expertise in managing meltdowns could help !
This should be a skit in one of the the "5 Minute Life Hack" videos.. 😆
Half an hour? _Amateur_. I’ve been doing it for 27 years.
Ha! I thought I was the only one who did this! 😅 I even had a favourite stall at work that was my melt down safe place. 🚽👍 I do recommend this especially if you have an overly expressive face like me and are not capable of hiding your emotions well. 😫
Me when I dealt with several ad campaign competitions to get new clients at the same time.
the enfp one is too accurate... it's my life in a nutshell...
- this was written by the sock puppet gang
(ENFP) I dunno, my imaginary friends are so real that I don't need a sock puppet prop and yes, they all have names... 🙄 I just look over at them. start talking and they answer me back. Voila...problems resolved and venting has relieved stress...but no real people friends because everyone thinks I am insane. Also, meltdowns occur daily not weekly and are usually about some injustice in the world, a cause I believe in, or some personal failure to achieve a specific goal. Oh, and the 4-year-old imaginary friend has the very best ideas. Do you really wonder why we accept everyone else without judgement? We are way more "out there" than most people.
I talk to myself or to the air 24/7, so usually it’s just me alone in a room venting my problems to... the wall. That or making up a song on the spot about them and singing it to feel better.
Mom's an ENFP and yep. It's accurate. 😅
Yea. Why he calling me out like this
@oryan Pre school = thought my sensor brother was defective. Kindergarten - 1st grade = OMG there are more of them. 2nd - 8th grade = I must be stupid. Took IQ test during high school and talked some schoolmates into taking it too = I was 140 and the rest were under 130. OK, so I am not stupid. Started college and thought maybe I am crazy? Discovered MBTI = Life changing moment. There are others like me! Whoo-hoo! I discovered "work-around" and "tricks" to become more productive.
Hey!
I'm an INTJ, and I completely agree with my part...
U always make amazing videos on these MBTI Types, which r so relatable..
Great job again... 🤗
You absolutely portrayed the ENFJ PERFECTLY! … I was literally saying most of that a few minutes ago 🤣😂🤣
Yep
INTJ hit me hard, i literally throw everything when im having a breakdown. then regret it later
And get more annoyed because you have to pick it all up later. 🙃
INFJ, same. Punched a few holes in walls too (rare tho).
@@chaitea2658 Ha, so true!
There was a time when my keyboard's laptop acted weird. For some reasons, the ctrl button is always active. I'm trying to act calm until that function accidentally made me lose many unrecoverable data....THEN & THERE I'M SNAPPED & PULLED OUT ALL THE BUTTON IN THE KEYBOARD!!! I didn't scream or anything, I was just sooooo upset
Really? I’m the exact opposite and I was sure it totally represented intjs; not only breaking objects makes no sense bc it does not accomplish anything, it costs money and you have to clean up? I could never no matter how badly I wanted to. There’s also the factor of losing your cool, my pride would never allow that either
ENFP here, you hit the nail on the head. We don't like letting people know we have issues, but sometimes, we want to let people know in a subtle way. During a meltdown, it would be more like what you did.
Thank you for helping me realize that... that does make sense. I do too hate telling people when I have an issue or that I am struggling with something. I assume that they will just not care nor listen... I just presumed that it was a mental health thing of mine. Huh.
- An ENFP
i don’t like letting people know but i’m impulsive and don’t know how to keep my mouth shut lol! but if i’m close with someone and they open up to me i’ll do the same
I remember as a kid when I would just walk around reluctantly and express my annoyance simply through my stubborn yet subtle facial expressions.
Well when i try telling people when I'm sad or dissapointed it's always like between laughing and crying idk why
I relate because i'm torn appart between telling everyone i'm sad And telling nobody I am. But in the end, I spoke way more than I expected
I just can’t get enough. Ty ... Infj
Okay so i watched so many of your videos tonight and they were pretty accurate but ENFJ having a meltdown is absolutely on point dude!!!! It is hauntingly relatable
I had that ISTJ rant this afternoon. INTJ here. Also I don't break my things. I may want too, but I want my money more. There is always a cost benefit analysis going on in my head.
I'm an ISTJ and that rant put words to what I've been thinking for years....but I also relate to feeling extreme violence towards my laptop....but that's a side effect of being a programmer, I think.
Same, I make all my decisions by if it’s worth it
I do ISTJ rants when I have PMS. Otherwise it’s just a sledgehammer to the dysfunctional object... but only in my daydreams. Because in an hour I’ll miss the thing and wish I hadn’t lol
Me INFJ living with my INTJ Roommate:
Her: "Do you have my Witchcraft books?"
Me: "Yes why?"
Her: "Someone stole the light of my boyfriends bike."
Me: "Ah you want to curse them."
Her: "I will make them suffer."
A few WEEKS later i open the door for her when i see how she looks grumpy to a neighbor that geeted her.
Me: "Why didn't you..?"
Her: "I am unfriendly and mean to everyone in this apartment building, till i know who stole the light of my boyfriend."
Me: "Ah I see."
This conversations make my day, she is like the Grinch but in pretty xD love her
hahahaha my INTJ used to say, "when I am angry at one person I am angry at all of them" 🤣🤣 they cute when they do that
I completly agree with your friend, j am a INTJ too so I know I would do that too (if also have a list of pleople that are not in the list, and the only way to get on that list would be to prove inocense)
I'm an INFJ too and lately I got an INTJ friend and you can't believe how our dynamic is the same like this conversation 😂😂
3:33
"I'm not supposed to be the one who needs consoling or loses their cool.
_I'm not supposed to screw up, blow up, to have feelings, too."_