When my exN came home & told me he was leaving & moving out of state, I simply shrugged & said, "that's fine, it's your life & your choice." The look of shock on his face was priceless! 😅 He expected me to grovel & beg him not to leave! No way! I had checked out emotionally months prior so I was delighted by the news! Haven't had any contact for almost 3 yrs & it's going to stay that way forever!
I can think like a psychopath when I need to protect myself. I mean, hey, I learned from the best. After everything he did to me, I know the tricks of the psychopathic mind. He is a covert narcissist/psychopath. "It's the quiet ones you need to watch out for."
One thing i notice is that their excitement about the new supply drops off when you dont care, b/c half of their happiness comes from it bothering you. So when you dont care they arent having as much fun as before
This is exactly what happened with my ex female narc in January 2023. She pretended to want to discard me but she was actually hoovering me and triangulating me against low hanging fruit supply most likely recycled supply. I definitely shocked her and have not been hoovered and its been nearly 5 months. I believe her pride and ego will not allow her to come back. I am done with her forever. She can rot in hell with her "new supply".
After over 25 years he said, "There is nothing between you and I. You should move on." My response, "Excellent. I accept," I walked. We haven't spoken since, over a year now. Thanks for your videos. They're helpful when i need a refresher/reminder.
This is exactly what happened. She said to me after a huge argument that “she was done”. I said, “are you done”, and she said yes. I filed for divorce the next day. Threw her ass out and it was a downward spiral from that moment on. She underestimated my resolve. I WAS DONE. Bitter sweet but necessary.
She never deserved me. She had never had anyone in her life like me, whether family or friend. I can not be controlled. I know where I am going. SHE knows where I am going. SHE knows what I am, and with each second that passes by, never to return, the well of her inescapable realization will set in further and further, until one day she somehow manages to find me, somehow, through her binoculars of envy, and learns that everything I ever told her about what I will do in this life of brevity, is true, and that I really am not only the one that got away, but the one that, without malice, will haunt her dreams forever. She doesn’t stand a chance against me. She could have all the luck in the world and she still can never touch me. The discard awakened a primal force of nature in me that I did not know was in me. What it did was awaken the wolf. I’m so grateful for this experience. My being exists on a higher place because of it.
Excellent bud , same with me , i have my ex wife to thank for my awakening, broken down until I had no self esteem ,my life in tatters then discarded , now remade ten times stronger without her , awakened , conscious,confident, I saw her recently and the shock on her face said it all , she can’t process the fact that I have moved on , bought a new home , got fit , earning big , looking healthy and happy and vibrating like a tuning fork , in her head she thought I was incapable and she was leaving me in the gutter , and her mind cannot comprehend what she is seeing , I just feel it’s pure karma , she won’t admit fault in any way that our marriage ended ,
@@edgewalker7459 good for you. This will be the inciting incident that produces new emotional, physical, financial, cerebral habits that link us to our destinies. When the wolf awakens and he begins to embody you, it is a masculine drive that these jezebel female narcissists want a part of the energy. Our DNA can literally change through experiences like these. The shock on her face was because she tried to seriously harm you, like she actually wanted to really hurt you, and the ego shot of what you’ve done informs her subconscious that she can’t fuck with you. When the wolf awakens and gets that six pack, that money, reads 50 pages of world class literature a day, boxes against the bag, the day when she finally sees me again in the physical, if it ever even comes, she will literally drop to her knees. I have become an actual different person. You must rebirth!
Haha love the wolf comment. Ya the lone wolf sometimes. We do good in packs though too ;) Jezebel can be in men too. Perhaps, it is more of an Ahab situation for me not really sure tbh. Personally, I think there are multiple things going on there. As dirty as they do you. Pray from a distance that they find Jesus and therapy. These people desperately need deliverance.
You just told my story. I am grade A supply. I know it. I knew it. I REPEATEDLY told It It would regret losing me. I saw every single narc flag. Every single one. I called every single one. I never stopped being vocal. I did not put it all together until It was gone. THAT'S when the NARCISSIST word hit me! During the discard, It had packed Its 5 duffle bags worth of belongings and lined them up against the wall. I got excited. I saw the drawers were empty. It was serious. The overwhelming joy I felt at the prospect of freedom. I felt so good I was nervous. It was amazing, not too long before I literally thought I'd die if It left me. Now the prospect had me feeling better than I had in a loooonng time. I wondered if the sadness was going to hit me later. I started offering It duffle bags I didn't need. Asked if It needed me to help find boxes. It kept telling me no. That thing spent a month packing and re-packing those same 5 duffle bags. That's when I realized it was a game. It was just trying to affect me. It was trying to get me to try and persuade It to stay. Afterall, I did tell it I "needed" It. I refused to let it affect me though. Especially knowing that was the goal. It empowered me. I started to see how weak It was. What a joke It was. I ignored it for the longest. Instead I was upbeat and chipper. I finally asked "When are you actually leaving?" It was gone two days later. It owes me thousands of dollars. I accepted that I'd never see it. I didn't care. I was free. I had my home back. My life back. My son had his mom back! I'd recover financially somehow. It moved a thousand miles away. I thought it was over. Nope. It was texting, wanting to be friends. I had poured soooooooooooo much love on this thing. Had vowed to love It forever no matter what......told It "My love is different." Ha! I also told It that I wanted all narcs to burn in hell. Told It that my brother is a narc and he is dead to me. My mother is a narc, dead to me. Sooo, yeah, I'm an empath. But will become a narcs worst nightmare. Once that lightbulb lit up for me, all bets off! Ain't no love here. It won't get another thing from me. My vow to GOD. Nothing. It messed up and left a couple college basketball memorabilia behind. Once I told It I figured out EXACTLY what It is, It did not respond AT ALL. Nothing. It then tried to make arrangements to have a friend pick up It's trophies. NOT! Not while you owe me thousands of dollars. I know I won't see it. But I'll be DAMNED if It will be made whole while I'm not made whole. Nope. Told it I'll cut my losses and It will have to cut theirs. Next thing I know a Sheriff is banging on my door trying to serve me. It filed a small claims case against me. The Sheriff never got to serve me. It will have to get it how It can get it. Nothing means nothing. No Contact means no contact. I don't know if It thinks It will actually get the trophies through the courts but I am for certain the purpose is to affect me and get a rise out of me. I'm not offering any of it. Nothing. I did not fight back at all while It was here. I was doormat. Didn't even know I was in a fight. Thought I was in a loving relationship and just being patient and tolerant. Now that I KNOW I was just being used.....It can forget about it.
I eventually realized I was just feed to the narcissist. So I Responded by shutting the lid tight. I gave her full closure and witnessed collapse before going. Never look back unless you are intending to travel in that direction. My power is travelling forwards.
@@joebhouse How many people who deal with a pathological narcissist know that they have encountered human evil? And more importantly, how many people who have experienced this know how to RESOND? How does one RESPOND to human evil. This I am formulating now for a book. I think I have the solution. It's worked for me, now I have the task of letting others know.
Thank you, that was well and gently said. I met my narcissist in March 2022 on a dating site. We were only together for barely a month, and I noticed some behaviors that were red flags and ended it. He became furious and started to harass me and I went "no contact" and still am. I didn't understand what went wrong and I had to do some soul searching and reading I came across articles on youtube about Narcissism and it described him perfectly. Apparently, I caused a narcissistic injury and he had not been "discarded" before and it seems he can't accept that, and is trying to make a return. Even though it was only a month, a year ago, I am still sorting and healing, and I am very guarded and have stopped dating. I did dodge a bullet, but he did so much harm in one month?! Plus he is still running a smear campaign about me. He just won't stop. I feel sorry for those that have spent years with these people, the emotional damage must be horrific.
I had this exact scenario, and it was 4 months and I was so shocked by how much chaos he brought into my life. He hacked my laptop & phone ! So, I totally relate to & understand the mess that man brought to you in a short amount of time. It’s horrifying how destructive they are. Good on you for spotting those flags so fast ! It shows you how much you truly value yourself, please be proud of quickly dodging that demonic bullet. 🤍
That's what those Demons do,when they can't manipulate you or get you,they will be running a Smear campaign about you,to make you look bad in the eyes of people's,I will advice you not to feel sad about it,just keep on being good,I'm a Narc Survivor like you,hope we can be friends?
I never once chased after him or rang him randomly or text him unless he text me first. 4 ridiculous silent treatments too. I don't know who the hell they think they are, I asked him that too in my final text. He definitely underestimated me.
This is powerful because it describes exactly what I just went through. 6 months in, I broke up over text and went hard no contact. It's been 3 months. Not easy but doing it. A bullet is right!!!
I left and came back ( willingly after she begged) 9 or 10 times over 8 years. After she paraded her new SO in front of me , I finally had had enough of all the lies, deceits and never ending cheating and walked. Her final words to me were, ' I'm not coming running after you this time'...over my shoulder I said, 'Is that a promise? as I'm never,ever coming back'. That was 10 months ago and we've never exchanged a word since 😊, I can feel me getting stronger and stronger and I can do this , easily, till the end of time.
I a hard painful lesson disrespected me to the fullest I never had a man treat me like that Walked out the door.. and ain't never going back to that Devil 😈😈😈
And our karma comes everyday with every other relationship or situationship we get into. We go after what we want not need because it feels easier to do so. And what we need “love, affection, etc.” we aren’t ready to give because we haven’t healed enough or even know ourselves well enough on even how to give it without being scared that giving it may leave us even more hurt then before. We don’t go for the good ones, we go for the ones that make it easy, that are more comfortable and even then they too hurt us. It’s SELF SABOTAGE!
Not care in the sense you believe because you would like to Believe everyone is empathic however they know when "a good score" leaves them behind and they will never get another you. And they remain constantly "looking for you"(but there is only one you). Again their disordered Spirits n minds will drive them crazy for the loss no matter how much of a front they put on. Most humans experience regret. Just its processed differently. Most going into self destructive behaviors..they believe hurting themselves hurts you...I know it's crazy 😅 some reason they may think u care that much hopefully u don't.
@@Dop3D33pQuotes agreed, we will do everything in our power to “hurt you” because you hurt us because we want your attention, love and affection again and we think doing these things will get you to “see us” and maybe even want to save us from ourselves, but once you save us we may just do it all again. It’s hurts it really does, but save yourself the drama and live your life because healing trauma is not easy, do everything you can to get better and live a life you actually enjoy because you’ll be better off! And though we may damage you, that hurts us too, but we won’t be able to do anything about it because you want our love, changed behavior, etc. but it just may not ever come for good atleast. We damage control, we want to save things when it’s too late and even if you do “save us”/once our basic needs are met, we won’t trust you because we are scared that you may want to revenge on us. It’s a loop hole of fuckery that we can’t even understand. So save yourself the pain and unnecessary sufferings, don’t ignore the red flags from the beginning, don’t get into it because you can get in too deep! Being bitter doesn’t hurt us, because we too know that hurt people hurt people and that will make us think that you are just like us and the world is doomed. ITS A TRAUMA FUCK LOOP
We don’t deserve you, so if you are healthy and healed just run because our brains and heart is fucked! We often want to change when it’s too late and even then the change won’t last if we didn’t actually heal our traumas
Spot on, once I realised I was dealing with someone with NPD and studied the disorder i completely changed after 28yrs of ABUSE i started not to engage started to ignore him, basically played him at his own game and wasn't going back he was furious.
He sure did fall prey to his cunning scheming actions. He gambled and lost more than he could ever have imagined. And I just walked away. I never needed him anyway, I'm independent 💯. Thank you for your great channel. The visuals are stunning 😍
The Narc created a huge made up argument & said he deserved better than me & I said “I agree, I’m taking a nap. Good luck.” And the level of harassment & hacking bc I genuinely didn’t care & was disgusted by him at this point & went no contact, had him spiral out of control. Had to file a police report. And he’s still haven’t heard a reply from last message I wrote above & it’s been 3 yrs. He’ll never recover from that kind of injury. Oh well.
You are by far my favourite UA-cam account on narcissism, your calm voice is what I often drift off to sleep listening to as it’s at night that I get racing thoughts about my ex narcissist, I listen first thing in the morning too and repeatedly as you explain it all effortlessly and it’s helping immensely! You truly have a gift 💜
Push me too far. I fell off the cliff a long time ago and he knows this. And his daughters mom I guarantee you she figured him out the day of the accident but never told me. I would have never been able to do what she did when it comes to not telling someone what they should know. It’s absolutely NUTS!😵💫😵💫😵💫😵💫
She had me, then dumped me like a piece of trash. I simply ignored her after that, and she didn't like that. She's been chasing me for a year and when I say let's talk, she'll sidestep that for whatever reason so after she lied to me again, I told her I have no time for you, she continued. Why put a person through all that shit if you want them? Weird!
@@empressb444 I think you are right. I've never chased women, liked being married for most of my adult life. Been single for 4 years. I try to stay away from women because they just cause trouble. 😝
The best result from a relationship with a person with narcissistic traits is go deep and awaken your self worth, discover your purpose and potential, love and embrace yourself. Laugh , have joy and have fun.
That’s me! I’m the one that got away. This is exactly my story … our relationship was over at the 3 month mark. Definitely dodged a bullet. He told me over a text (after I called out his unacceptable behavior) that we needed to end the relationship. So … I went silent immediately!!! I didn’t even text back … I gave him what he wanted. Relationship OVER! I know he’s mystified and probably pissed. Me too 😂 Game Over!
I paid all the bills, so I simply piled up all of her belongings outside on the lawn, and when she came home, I informed her she no longer lives here. While we were married, She already bought her own house to live in with her mother, lying and saying it was her mother’s house (who had been unemployed for 40 years) and was spending half her time there, so it was no big deal for her.
Asa an empath i cannot avoid narcissist personalities and i have greater tolerance to the extent that i have faced death (like missed accidents) and i learnt that these people need me and i am getting more more tolerant only because i do not get harmed like i have always been protected by something and it does not impact me anymore to the extent where i believe that narcissist is my victim rather than other way round. i feel they feed off me to stay aligned otherwise they will destroy their own life and others, its like i am compensating others by keeping narcs under control.
The one girl that he claims was the one married someone else and had a little girl. That’s the story, as far as I’m concerned I think everything he told me about his life is a lie and I will never believe anything he says. Hopefully I don’t have to listen to anything he has to say 👍
Hi Joe just find your channel. Thank you for doing this videos full of clear insights that help us understand the emotional tricks of narcissists that are so difficult to believe. I hope your channel continues growing and helps so many naive people that have to learn about narcissism and begin to defend themselves.
I agree to a point. It’s exactly what happened to me but she only tried a weak hoover and had already groomed the next supply. I left on the 10th Jan and the next supply had commented on social media that she was in love by the 24th. So that means she dived into new supply at some pace to get to that point. They are truly evil people who should be marked for all to avoid. Mine was called Sandy Patou from France
I think he was not done with me because during the “final” discard when I was in denial mode he said “please stop contacting me for a while, it’s over”. For a “while”? Someone who is really done with you won’t say that. Much to his surprise I’m sure, I went no contact. I never contacted him, not after “a while”, not ever again! Now it’s been many years and from what I know his life sucks, definitely got his karma.
I'm in a similar situation currently after 12 years married. He actually filed for divorce on June 8th. He's shacked up with the secretary from his work. I'm in need of major healing
LMAO😂 thank you for this video this is exactly what happened to me my ex narcissist mother, family and ex-lover😅 did not know who I was, took me for granted🤡 when I drop the bomb and walked away from them ALL,👻boy were they surprised, I would waste my energy or time, again on these time-wasters🧛🏽♂️ living my best life super empath👁 AWAKEN🎉
My mother discarded me. Told her I hope she had a Plan B. She did. My sister. I assumed they’d kill each other. But, my sister, being younger and probably being frustrated and somewhat abusive, was what my mother was stuck with. Even when my mother called me once and told me that my sister was really angry with her, I told her I could call 911 for her. But, I wasn’t coming. I wasn’t getting in the middle of something, when I knew both of them considered me the scapegoat. My mother had told me that I might have to take abuse from my sister. Mom died last year and, during probate, you could say that I have had to take abuse from my sister. But, as I now own mom’s house and my sister owns mom’s other house, which is in worse condition, only a few doors away and because I’m quiet, but relentless, I’ve won, to a point. “Winning” wasn’t really my goal though. I’d much rather my money still be alive. Still owning her home. But, when narcissism is a factor in families, beautiful memories are rarely a part of it. I’ll have to try to make my own.
It's been about five months since my ex narc pushed me away. I cut contact and left. I've recently heard that within a month of the push away she had jumped on the Richard Carousel of three different dudes. I must be healing due to the fact that I accepted the news and I am at peace with it. Prayer and meditation works. Doing the work on yourself works. Healing works. The really good news is that she has given me at least three reasons to never take her back. Gonorrhea! Hahahaha!!!
Hey Joe... Your videos are amazing and I thank you for making these.. But I like at the end when you said "Thanks for watching" Lets me know the podcast is over instead of me thinking my phone is acting nuts... Thanks Joe... ❤️❤️
Spot on my ex narcissist got a $165,000 check after her dad passed away a week later out of the blue f*ck you I don’t need you nobody has ever done the things I did for that trash! So I said ok bye I even helped he move out of my house what I didn’t know is she already had new supply and she left 6 big boxes at my house everyday I’m telling her take the rest of your stuff and every time that I told her that she would just run out the door so I had a talk with my daughters after school care lady! She said get her stuff out off your house ASAP! She should have took everything when she left so I packed all her stuff in my car and dropped it off at her place! Come to find out this nut job was telling the new supply that I wouldn’t give her stuff back! A few days later she left the new supply I’ve been no contact for 3 years I’m just finding out her and her daughter and family members have been stalking me the whole damn time! These people honestly need to be in a mental hospital I don’t understand who stalks people that want nothing to do with them it’s sad!!
Its been almost 2 months since I was discarded, she was a covert narcissist. We were both the same age 34. She was quite beautiful, charming and came across kinda meek/ timid. Love bombed the hell out of me , I thought I had met my soulmate. After only being together not even a month she told me she was pregnant. I was shocked but embraced it and became quite excited. I have a son from a previous relationship he will be six this year but have always wanted to have a daughter too. I had shared that with her of course. She told me she wanted a family and to settle down, exactly what I was looking for. The night before Thanksgiving she woke me up in the middle of the night crying and said she had a miscarriage. Screwed my head up pretty bad. Not even a month later after my bank account and soul were both drained she started giving me the silent treatment and then came the discard over text while I was at work. I had no idea what I had just gone through. I didn't even know what a narcissist was much less a covert one. I thought a narcissist was just a conceited person. I did research. Alot. It turns out she faked the whole thing the 6 wk pregnancy and the miscarriage.
last relationship he coined three times: what would you do if I left? I replied each time, leave sooner than later, I need to know where to go from after you leave. he sat there: :o
My narcissistic ex-spouse doesn’t care that I “got away,” and I wouldn’t care how that abuser felt about it anyway. Our divorce was mutually, desired, and we are both better off, because of it. This topic doesn’t interest me, “algorithm.”
Where I was sucked in was he didn't love bomb me straight away it was quite a few weeks in. He asked me out 4 times on 4 different occasions first all of which I declined after he sent me a friend request.
I appreciate your content so much, but I just want t know if these information comes from personal experience or from you being educated on this subject? or could be both?
Ugh its honestly better done bc there was more torture then joy. Doses of great sex. Meh. Too Much Abuse to self and other, their destructive and they're too selfish-self centred and mean on top of that. The testing is on-going crazy making. Sad Story.
Wow Joe this video is so timelyCurrently 3 months no contact I walked away because his attention span was dwindling after 9th hoover. I finally got it I could see him messaging new supply right next to me saying it was his brother, taking the phone to the bathroom, challenging me when I felt in a happy mood, changing his plans last minute... I gave him chance after chance I was a complete naive doormat at the beginning of the 3yr relationship, he thought he had me for life because of my forgiving nature. In year 3 each time I went back he got bored and distracted by the 3rd meetup. Actually by end of year 2 or earlier it was all sinking in and the dots were starting to connect powerfully so I knew I had to extricate myself slowly and with a push from the universe I did it, everything lined up and I had everything in my power to move forward in order to leave him and his mind games behind.
I'm dealing with this right now with my wife. The level of mind control, accusing me of sleeping with her family members, has slowly but surely taken me away from my family. It's all about her and her family. She deflects everything I see her clearly doing as I'm the one actually doing these messed up things. She takes that phone to the bathroom to pee, shower, wash her hands and I Bet not touch it. Text messages ALL times of night and wee hours in the morning. Always on social media and the Facebook messenger ALWAYS going off and it's her cousin, her son, her sister, her best friend OMG the list goes on. 9 years in and I'm finally taking the steps to move and she doesn't know. I'm Crying Soooooo hard just writing this. How can people treat someone they claim to Love like this. 😢😢😢😢
he pushed me away & the only way to make him understand i am not some toy is to never speak to him again. rest in peace to who i thought i loved. he never existed! 🪦🪦🏴☠️
The game ends when you say it’s game over and you walk away and stay away.
When my exN came home & told me he was leaving & moving out of state, I simply shrugged & said, "that's fine, it's your life & your choice." The look of shock on his face was priceless! 😅 He expected me to grovel & beg him not to leave! No way! I had checked out emotionally months prior so I was delighted by the news! Haven't had any contact for almost 3 yrs & it's going to stay that way forever!
😅❤❤❤❤❤ would love to see his face!
Please don't call him yours don't claim that demon 💯
😆 Good 4 u
I Love it! Taking Back your Power, Ownership of your Life and Moved TF On !! Right F- ken' On!!
Good for You!
The one who was pushed away....got their freedom!
Those of us who have the ability to love and care deeply also have the ability to not love and care deeply when necessary
🎉😅 thank you we'll said
Those of us who have the ability to love and care deeply also have the ability to not love and care deeply when necessary☯☯☯ Well Put!
I can think like a psychopath when I need to protect myself.
I mean, hey, I learned from the best. After everything he did to me, I know the tricks of the psychopathic mind.
He is a covert narcissist/psychopath.
"It's the quiet ones you need to watch out for."
Well said. I will remember your words
Facts
One thing i notice is that their excitement about the new supply drops off when you dont care, b/c half of their happiness comes from it bothering you. So when you dont care they arent having as much fun as before
Valid point
They hate it when they realize they don’t have the power to make or break you! Like they do all their other minions….
That is very true and an excellent point.
If they show me they don't care about me, i'll show them how little i care about them. Be strong and never to forgiving out there.
Exactly spitfire
Always forgive but don’t forget the experience
Never deny your intuition and the ability of self worth. In the end it’s all you have . Don’t give up on you !
I hope he is unhappy forever, and I hope it haunts him for the rest of his life.
Sounds like he still has power over you. Let him go
This is exactly what happened with my ex female narc in January 2023. She pretended to want to discard me but she was actually hoovering me and triangulating me against low hanging fruit supply most likely recycled supply. I definitely shocked her and have not been hoovered and its been nearly 5 months. I believe her pride and ego will not allow her to come back. I am done with her forever. She can rot in hell with her "new supply".
Nice Bro 🎉
sorry but they never leave, and she will be back , just a warning ! read my comment
Same here 6 months now Cheers to us 👏💕
Congratulations my man on taking your life back and on your victory against that narcissist. 👍👏👏👏👏👏👏👏✊🏆🏅
I love this comment ❤
After over 25 years he said, "There is nothing between you and I. You should move on." My response, "Excellent. I accept," I walked. We haven't spoken since, over a year now. Thanks for your videos. They're helpful when i need a refresher/reminder.
This is exactly what happened. She said to me after a huge argument that “she was done”. I said, “are you done”, and she said yes. I filed for divorce the next day. Threw her ass out and it was a downward spiral from that moment on. She underestimated my resolve. I WAS DONE. Bitter sweet but necessary.
Same here.
Best thing ever! 💪✊❤
Over & done. 😊
Yes me too
And that's how you call Narky's bluff
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She never deserved me. She had never had anyone in her life like me, whether family or friend. I can not be controlled. I know where I am going. SHE knows where I am going. SHE knows what I am, and with each second that passes by, never to return, the well of her inescapable realization will set in further and further, until one day she somehow manages to find me, somehow, through her binoculars of envy, and learns that everything I ever told her about what I will do in this life of brevity, is true, and that I really am not only the one that got away, but the one that, without malice, will haunt her dreams forever. She doesn’t stand a chance against me. She could have all the luck in the world and she still can never touch me. The discard awakened a primal force of nature in me that I did not know was in me. What it did was awaken the wolf. I’m so grateful for this experience. My being exists on a higher place because of it.
Excellent bud , same with me , i have my ex wife to thank for my awakening, broken down until I had no self esteem ,my life in tatters then discarded , now remade ten times stronger without her , awakened , conscious,confident, I saw her recently and the shock on her face said it all , she can’t process the fact that I have moved on , bought a new home , got fit , earning big , looking healthy and happy and vibrating like a tuning fork , in her head she thought I was incapable and she was leaving me in the gutter , and her mind cannot comprehend what she is seeing , I just feel it’s pure karma , she won’t admit fault in any way that our marriage ended ,
@@edgewalker7459 good for you. This will be the inciting incident that produces new emotional, physical, financial, cerebral habits that link us to our destinies. When the wolf awakens and he begins to embody you, it is a masculine drive that these jezebel female narcissists want a part of the energy. Our DNA can literally change through experiences like these. The shock on her face was because she tried to seriously harm you, like she actually wanted to really hurt you, and the ego shot of what you’ve done informs her subconscious that she can’t fuck with you. When the wolf awakens and gets that six pack, that money, reads 50 pages of world class literature a day, boxes against the bag, the day when she finally sees me again in the physical, if it ever even comes, she will literally drop to her knees. I have become an actual different person. You must rebirth!
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Wow Great comment. 🙏💪
Haha love the wolf comment. Ya the lone wolf sometimes. We do good in packs though too ;) Jezebel can be in men too. Perhaps, it is more of an Ahab situation for me not really sure tbh. Personally, I think there are multiple things going on there. As dirty as they do you. Pray from a distance that they find Jesus and therapy. These people desperately need deliverance.
You validate all my thoughts which really strengthens my resolve and diminishes the trauma bond. Thank you!!
so true
You just told my story. I am grade A supply. I know it. I knew it. I REPEATEDLY told It It would regret losing me. I saw every single narc flag. Every single one. I called every single one. I never stopped being vocal. I did not put it all together until It was gone. THAT'S when the NARCISSIST word hit me! During the discard, It had packed Its 5 duffle bags worth of belongings and lined them up against the wall. I got excited. I saw the drawers were empty. It was serious. The overwhelming joy I felt at the prospect of freedom. I felt so good I was nervous. It was amazing, not too long before I literally thought I'd die if It left me. Now the prospect had me feeling better than I had in a loooonng time. I wondered if the sadness was going to hit me later. I started offering It duffle bags I didn't need. Asked if It needed me to help find boxes. It kept telling me no. That thing spent a month packing and re-packing those same 5 duffle bags. That's when I realized it was a game. It was just trying to affect me. It was trying to get me to try and persuade It to stay. Afterall, I did tell it I "needed" It. I refused to let it affect me though. Especially knowing that was the goal. It empowered me. I started to see how weak It was. What a joke It was. I ignored it for the longest. Instead I was upbeat and chipper. I finally asked "When are you actually leaving?" It was gone two days later. It owes me thousands of dollars. I accepted that I'd never see it. I didn't care. I was free. I had my home back. My life back. My son had his mom back! I'd recover financially somehow. It moved a thousand miles away. I thought it was over. Nope. It was texting, wanting to be friends. I had poured soooooooooooo much love on this thing. Had vowed to love It forever no matter what......told It "My love is different." Ha! I also told It that I wanted all narcs to burn in hell. Told It that my brother is a narc and he is dead to me. My mother is a narc, dead to me. Sooo, yeah, I'm an empath. But will become a narcs worst nightmare. Once that lightbulb lit up for me, all bets off! Ain't no love here. It won't get another thing from me. My vow to GOD. Nothing. It messed up and left a couple college basketball memorabilia behind. Once I told It I figured out EXACTLY what It is, It did not respond AT ALL. Nothing. It then tried to make arrangements to have a friend pick up It's trophies. NOT! Not while you owe me thousands of dollars. I know I won't see it. But I'll be DAMNED if It will be made whole while I'm not made whole. Nope. Told it I'll cut my losses and It will have to cut theirs. Next thing I know a Sheriff is banging on my door trying to serve me. It filed a small claims case against me. The Sheriff never got to serve me. It will have to get it how It can get it. Nothing means nothing. No Contact means no contact. I don't know if It thinks It will actually get the trophies through the courts but I am for certain the purpose is to affect me and get a rise out of me. I'm not offering any of it. Nothing. I did not fight back at all while It was here. I was doormat. Didn't even know I was in a fight. Thought I was in a loving relationship and just being patient and tolerant. Now that I KNOW I was just being used.....It can forget about it.
Wasn't depending on them from the beginning, thank you. I am strong, I am positive, I am calm I am happy.
Amen
I eventually realized I was just feed to the narcissist. So I Responded by shutting the lid tight. I gave her full closure and witnessed collapse before going.
Never look back unless you are intending to travel in that direction. My power is travelling forwards.
Travelling forward, spot on 👌 what many people don't realize is, the wisdom which comes from it all, can actually open so many new doors!
@@joebhouse How many people who deal with a pathological narcissist know that they have encountered human evil? And more importantly, how many people who have experienced this know how to RESOND?
How does one RESPOND to human evil. This I am formulating now for a book. I think I have the solution. It's worked for me, now I have the task of letting others know.
Thank you, that was well and gently said. I met my narcissist in March 2022 on a dating site. We were only together for barely a month, and I noticed some behaviors that were red flags and ended it. He became furious and started to harass me and I went "no contact" and still am. I didn't understand what went wrong and I had to do some soul searching and reading I came across articles on youtube about Narcissism and it described him perfectly. Apparently, I caused a narcissistic injury and he had not been "discarded" before and it seems he can't accept that, and is trying to make a return. Even though it was only a month, a year ago, I am still sorting and healing, and I am very guarded and have stopped dating. I did dodge a bullet, but he did so much harm in one month?! Plus he is still running a smear campaign about me. He just won't stop. I feel sorry for those that have spent years with these people, the emotional damage must be horrific.
I had this exact scenario, and it was 4 months and I was so shocked by how much chaos he brought into my life. He hacked my laptop & phone ! So, I totally relate to & understand the mess that man brought to you in a short amount of time. It’s horrifying how destructive they are. Good on you for spotting those flags so fast ! It shows you how much you truly value yourself, please be proud of quickly dodging that demonic bullet. 🤍
You did well to catch on quickly and dodge that bullet. I wasted 2 years with the fake, evil Narcissist. It's been a steep learning curve!
That's what those Demons do,when they can't manipulate you or get you,they will be running a Smear campaign about you,to make you look bad in the eyes of people's,I will advice you not to feel sad about it,just keep on being good,I'm a Narc Survivor like you,hope we can be friends?
@@semplybalanced3210how do U know he hacked your phone & laptop?? How can I tell if mine is hacked?
@@semplybalanced3210Thank you so much, but don't forget about yourself, you made it out, and you will be ok...
Who cares what the narcissist realizes. They are a narcissist.
I’m not the first person they did this to, but I am the last!
Narc collapsed
The hole they dug for me, they are now in. A bunch of rotten bones!
SILENCE IS THE BEST REVENGE FOR SOMEONE WHO DOESN'T VALUE YOUR WORDS!! WHICH NARCISSIST!!! I BEEN FREE FROM COVERT NARCISSIST 😂😂😂
That stupidity is deep. Not tolerable.
To bad so sad.
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Exactly this happend to me “im breaking up eith your for good this time”… “ok, fine”
Message after i left. Hi.. u ok? 😂 freaks aint they
I never once chased after him or rang him randomly or text him unless he text me first. 4 ridiculous silent treatments too. I don't know who the hell they think they are, I asked him that too in my final text. He definitely underestimated me.
The narcissist is like: Ctrl+Z... Ctrl+Z... I SAID CTRL+Z!?...
This is powerful because it describes exactly what I just went through. 6 months in, I broke up over text and went hard no contact. It's been 3 months. Not easy but doing it. A bullet is right!!!
I left and came back ( willingly after she begged) 9 or 10 times over 8 years. After she paraded her new SO in front of me , I finally had had enough of all the lies, deceits and never ending cheating and walked. Her final words to me were, ' I'm not coming running after you this time'...over my shoulder I said, 'Is that a promise? as I'm never,ever coming back'. That was 10 months ago and we've never exchanged a word since 😊, I can feel me getting stronger and stronger and I can do this , easily, till the end of time.
I a hard painful lesson disrespected me to the fullest I never had a man treat me like that Walked out the door.. and ain't never going back to that Devil 😈😈😈
These Narc's DO NOT CARE...
And our karma comes everyday with every other relationship or situationship we get into. We go after what we want not need because it feels easier to do so. And what we need “love, affection, etc.” we aren’t ready to give because we haven’t healed enough or even know ourselves well enough on even how to give it without being scared that giving it may leave us even more hurt then before. We don’t go for the good ones, we go for the ones that make it easy, that are more comfortable and even then they too hurt us. It’s SELF SABOTAGE!
Not care in the sense you believe because you would like to Believe everyone is empathic however they know when "a good score" leaves them behind and they will never get another you. And they remain constantly "looking for you"(but there is only one you). Again their disordered Spirits n minds will drive them crazy for the loss no matter how much of a front they put on. Most humans experience regret. Just its processed differently. Most going into self destructive behaviors..they believe hurting themselves hurts you...I know it's crazy 😅 some reason they may think u care that much hopefully u don't.
@@Dop3D33pQuotes agreed, we will do everything in our power to “hurt you” because you hurt us because we want your attention, love and affection again and we think doing these things will get you to “see us” and maybe even want to save us from ourselves, but once you save us we may just do it all again. It’s hurts it really does, but save yourself the drama and live your life because healing trauma is not easy, do everything you can to get better and live a life you actually enjoy because you’ll be better off! And though we may damage you, that hurts us too, but we won’t be able to do anything about it because you want our love, changed behavior, etc. but it just may not ever come for good atleast. We damage control, we want to save things when it’s too late and even if you do “save us”/once our basic needs are met, we won’t trust you because we are scared that you may want to revenge on us. It’s a loop hole of fuckery that we can’t even understand. So save yourself the pain and unnecessary sufferings, don’t ignore the red flags from the beginning, don’t get into it because you can get in too deep! Being bitter doesn’t hurt us, because we too know that hurt people hurt people and that will make us think that you are just like us and the world is doomed. ITS A TRAUMA FUCK LOOP
We don’t deserve you, so if you are healthy and healed just run because our brains and heart is fucked! We often want to change when it’s too late and even then the change won’t last if we didn’t actually heal our traumas
@@starrjanai2623 you're speaking from a narcissist perspective. So are you a narc?
Spot on, once I realised I was dealing with someone with NPD and studied the disorder i completely changed after 28yrs of ABUSE i started not to engage started to ignore him, basically played him at his own game and wasn't going back he was furious.
He sure did fall prey to his cunning scheming actions. He gambled and lost more than he could ever have imagined. And I just walked away. I never needed him anyway, I'm independent 💯. Thank you for your great channel. The visuals are stunning 😍
Thank you that deserves a standing ovation 💯❤✌🏿👊🏿
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The Narc created a huge made up argument & said he deserved better than me & I said “I agree, I’m taking a nap. Good luck.” And the level of harassment & hacking bc I genuinely didn’t care & was disgusted by him at this point & went no contact, had him spiral out of control. Had to file a police report. And he’s still haven’t heard a reply from last message I wrote above & it’s been 3 yrs. He’ll never recover from that kind of injury. Oh well.
A beautiful video. You're a gem. I'm so lucky to have found your work. It's appreciated.
You are by far my favourite UA-cam account on narcissism, your calm voice is what I often drift off to sleep listening to as it’s at night that I get racing thoughts about my ex narcissist, I listen first thing in the morning too and repeatedly as you explain it all effortlessly and it’s helping immensely! You truly have a gift 💜
Great insight! The Narcissist is stupid, mine was a stupid snipe and I'm so happy and prosperous without her. My life is exciting while Her's is dull.
Push me too far. I fell off the cliff a long time ago and he knows this. And his daughters mom I guarantee you she figured him out the day of the accident but never told me. I would have never been able to do what she did when it comes to not telling someone what they should know. It’s absolutely NUTS!😵💫😵💫😵💫😵💫
She had me, then dumped me like a piece of trash. I simply ignored her after that, and she didn't like that. She's been chasing me for a year and when I say let's talk, she'll sidestep that for whatever reason so after she lied to me again, I told her I have no time for you, she continued. Why put a person through all that shit if you want them? Weird!
She doesn't want you, she just likes the chase
@@empressb444 I think you are right. I've never chased women, liked being married for most of my adult life. Been single for 4 years. I try to stay away from women because they just cause trouble. 😝
@@markh4926That's why I stay away from men. Works both ways.
This illustration resonates with me, and it's no contact for the narcissist.!
The best result from a relationship with a person with narcissistic traits is go deep and awaken your self worth, discover your purpose and potential, love and embrace yourself. Laugh , have joy and have fun.
Yes pushed me to far, have not done anything but work on myself, 2 months no contact,
Exactly more stupid then stupid
Under estimated me beyond belief
So beautiful !!! 😍 I watched three times , the images are breathtaking ! Thank you for great Sunday gift, Joe ! 🤗❤
Thank you, you just explained the whole situation I was in with them. I ended up leaving and I’m never going back.
Become mrs A, do not be mrs B! Im in no contact for 6 weeks soon. It is hard! I go through darkness and though times but I’ll survive.
God bless you spiritually, mentally, physically, and financially in Jesus name amen!
That’s me! I’m the one that got away. This is exactly my story … our relationship was over at the 3 month mark. Definitely dodged a bullet. He told me over a text (after I called out his unacceptable behavior) that we needed to end the relationship. So … I went silent immediately!!! I didn’t even text back … I gave him what he wanted. Relationship OVER!
I know he’s mystified and probably pissed. Me too 😂
Game Over!
I paid all the bills, so I simply piled up all of her belongings outside on the lawn, and when she came home, I informed her she no longer lives here. While we were married, She already bought her own house to live in with her mother, lying and saying it was her mother’s house (who had been unemployed for 40 years) and was spending half her time there, so it was no big deal for her.
I did say okay, and walked.
You are the greatest.!
Well, I'm not sure about 'the greatest' but...
Ok Ok, I'll take it 😁
@@joebhouse Take it🏆🎉
Asa an empath i cannot avoid narcissist personalities and i have greater tolerance to the extent that i have faced death (like missed accidents) and i learnt that these people need me and i am getting more more tolerant only because i do not get harmed like i have always been protected by something and it does not impact me anymore to the extent where i believe that narcissist is my victim rather than other way round. i feel they feed off me to stay aligned otherwise they will destroy their own life and others, its like i am compensating others by keeping narcs under control.
That's one way to look at it
Thank you Joe, you explain it so well, gives us strength to deal with them, I like that you explain what the narcissists feeling and going through.
I feel like you are specifically talking about my situation ❤❤❤
The one girl that he claims was the one married someone else and had a little girl. That’s the story, as far as I’m concerned I think everything he told me about his life is a lie and I will never believe anything he says. Hopefully I don’t have to listen to anything he has to say 👍
Your so right, nothing Good
Ever comes from it 👍
Hi Joe just find your channel. Thank you for doing this videos full of clear insights that help us understand the emotional tricks of narcissists that are so difficult to believe. I hope your channel continues growing and helps so many naive people that have to learn about narcissism and begin to defend themselves.
I agree to a point. It’s exactly what happened to me but she only tried a weak hoover and had already groomed the next supply. I left on the 10th Jan and the next supply had commented on social media that she was in love by the 24th. So that means she dived into new supply at some pace to get to that point. They are truly evil people who should be marked for all to avoid. Mine was called Sandy Patou from France
It’s crazy the desire to succumb, to someone.
I need healthy.
I think he was not done with me because during the “final” discard when I was in denial mode he said “please stop contacting me for a while, it’s over”. For a “while”? Someone who is really done with you won’t say that. Much to his surprise I’m sure, I went no contact. I never contacted him, not after “a while”, not ever again! Now it’s been many years and from what I know his life sucks, definitely got his karma.
I discarded a malignant narc still currently married to gone no contact and plan on filing for divorce asap
I'm in a similar situation currently after 12 years married. He actually filed for divorce on June 8th. He's shacked up with the secretary from his work. I'm in need of major healing
@@ladyvirgo9514you will realize later she did you a favor
Empaths are always win and the one gods choosen ❤❤❤
LMAO😂 thank you for this video this is exactly what happened to me my ex narcissist mother, family and ex-lover😅 did not know who I was, took me for granted🤡 when I drop the bomb and walked away from them ALL,👻boy were they surprised, I would waste my energy or time, again on these time-wasters🧛🏽♂️ living my best life super empath👁 AWAKEN🎉
My mother discarded me. Told her I hope she had a Plan B. She did. My sister. I assumed they’d kill each other. But, my sister, being younger and probably being frustrated and somewhat abusive, was what my mother was stuck with. Even when my mother called me once and told me that my sister was really angry with her, I told her I could call 911 for her. But, I wasn’t coming. I wasn’t getting in the middle of something, when I knew both of them considered me the scapegoat. My mother had told me that I might have to take abuse from my sister. Mom died last year and, during probate, you could say that I have had to take abuse from my sister. But, as I now own mom’s house and my sister owns mom’s other house, which is in worse condition, only a few doors away and because I’m quiet, but relentless, I’ve won, to a point. “Winning” wasn’t really my goal though. I’d much rather my money still be alive. Still owning her home. But, when narcissism is a factor in families, beautiful memories are rarely a part of it. I’ll have to try to make my own.
Thank you. I needed this
But the narcissist has a new supply, so how is he worried about me being escaped?.
Just w8 😂 will vome back trust
It's been about five months since my ex narc pushed me away. I cut contact and left. I've recently heard that within a month of the push away she had jumped on the Richard Carousel of three different dudes. I must be healing due to the fact that I accepted the news and I am at peace with it.
Prayer and meditation works.
Doing the work on yourself works.
Healing works.
The really good news is that she has given me at least three reasons to never take her back.
Gonorrhea! Hahahaha!!!
thank you ❤
Hey Joe... Your videos are amazing and I thank you for making these.. But I like at the end when you said "Thanks for watching" Lets me know the podcast is over instead of me thinking my phone is acting nuts... Thanks Joe... ❤️❤️
Joe B House helped save my LIFE!!
Spot on my ex narcissist got a $165,000 check after her dad passed away a week later out of the blue f*ck you I don’t need you nobody has ever done the things I did for that trash! So I said ok bye I even helped he move out of my house what I didn’t know is she already had new supply and she left 6 big boxes at my house everyday I’m telling her take the rest of your stuff and every time that I told her that she would just run out the door so I had a talk with my daughters after school care lady! She said get her stuff out off your house ASAP! She should have took everything when she left so I packed all her stuff in my car and dropped it off at her place! Come to find out this nut job was telling the new supply that I wouldn’t give her stuff back! A few days later she left the new supply I’ve been no contact for 3 years I’m just finding out her and her daughter and family members have been stalking me the whole damn time! These people honestly need to be in a mental hospital I don’t understand who stalks people that want nothing to do with them it’s sad!!
I got away. #witness
Thank you
Its been almost 2 months since I was discarded, she was a covert narcissist. We were both the same age 34. She was quite beautiful, charming and came across kinda meek/ timid. Love bombed the hell out of me , I thought I had met my soulmate. After only being together not even a month she told me she was pregnant. I was shocked but embraced it and became quite excited. I have a son from a previous relationship he will be six this year but have always wanted to have a daughter too. I had shared that with her of course. She told me she wanted a family and to settle down, exactly what I was looking for. The night before Thanksgiving she woke me up in the middle of the night crying and said she had a miscarriage. Screwed my head up pretty bad. Not even a month later after my bank account and soul were both drained she started giving me the silent treatment and then came the discard over text while I was at work. I had no idea what I had just gone through. I didn't even know what a narcissist was much less a covert one. I thought a narcissist was just a conceited person. I did research. Alot. It turns out she faked the whole thing the 6 wk pregnancy and the miscarriage.
Best video ever👋👋👋
last relationship he coined three times: what would you do if I left?
I replied each time, leave sooner than later, I need to know where to go from after you leave.
he sat there: :o
So true.
Lucky escape phew thank you God 🙏
The only problem for them is its way 2 real around here. Its all real no fake shit so they trap themselves with their words
I haven’t yet dodge that bullet
My narcissistic ex-spouse doesn’t care that I “got away,” and I wouldn’t care how that abuser felt about it anyway. Our divorce was mutually, desired, and we are both better off, because of it.
This topic doesn’t interest me, “algorithm.”
Where I was sucked in was he didn't love bomb me straight away it was quite a few weeks in. He asked me out 4 times on 4 different occasions first all of which I declined after he sent me a friend request.
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I appreciate your content so much, but I just want t know if these information comes from personal experience or from you being educated on this subject? or could be both?
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It was me 😊
not sure if your the same Joe House from school. David K says hello. from HT.
back in the 90's
Ugh its honestly better done bc there was more torture then joy. Doses of great sex. Meh. Too Much Abuse to self and other, their destructive and they're too selfish-self centred and mean on top of that. The testing is on-going crazy making. Sad Story.
Who's the norsissist ??? You are mean am i norsissist??? You are mixing both that's what I am asking...
Wow Joe this video is so timelyCurrently 3 months no contact I walked away because his attention span was dwindling after 9th hoover. I finally got it I could see him messaging new supply right next to me saying it was his brother, taking the phone to the bathroom, challenging me when I felt in a happy mood, changing his plans last minute... I gave him chance after chance I was a complete naive doormat at the beginning of the 3yr relationship, he thought he had me for life because of my forgiving nature. In year 3 each time I went back he got bored and distracted by the 3rd meetup. Actually by end of year 2 or earlier it was all sinking in and the dots were starting to connect powerfully so I knew I had to extricate myself slowly and with a push from the universe I did it, everything lined up and I had everything in my power to move forward in order to leave him and his mind games behind.
I'm dealing with this right now with my wife. The level of mind control, accusing me of sleeping with her family members, has slowly but surely taken me away from my family. It's all about her and her family. She deflects everything I see her clearly doing as I'm the one actually doing these messed up things. She takes that phone to the bathroom to pee, shower, wash her hands and I Bet not touch it. Text messages ALL times of night and wee hours in the morning. Always on social media and the Facebook messenger ALWAYS going off and it's her cousin, her son, her sister, her best friend OMG the list goes on. 9 years in and I'm finally taking the steps to move and she doesn't know. I'm Crying Soooooo hard just writing this. How can people treat someone they claim to Love like this. 😢😢😢😢
I SURE DO!!! MOVED OUT OF STATE..BLOCKED HIM FOR INFINITY AND BEYOND ..NO SOCIAL MEDIA I LIVE IN PEACE NOW
he pushed me away & the only way to make him understand i am not some toy is to never speak to him again. rest in peace to who i thought i loved. he never existed! 🪦🪦🏴☠️