I’m as mono-racial as it gets: 75% Nigerian, 25% Bantu. Growing up in Nigeria I did not experience women having problems manage their hair-no matter how short or thick. In fact, my hair was often praised for its thickness. That said, there was girl whose hair was even thicker, longer and coilier than mine and we all envied her. I only learned that my hair was “unmanageable” after moving to the US. When I made the decision to stop patronizing hair salons, my hair magically became manageable.
Let us know then! The people of the US, have had their culture stripped from them! Not only are we a mixed African people, we no longer live in Africa, so, with those circumstances in tact, our hair would be seen as something “unmanageable“ How bout you help out and tell me how you and that other girl do it! I’ll take any and all notes for the girlies.
@@visioncake0222 We never saw our hair as a problem, unmanageable or defective in the first place. We have hair which we maintained, just like you do with any other part of your body. Other races condition you to view your lips, butt, skin color and hair are defective. That is, until they figured out how to recreate those same features using plastic surgery. Then they condition you to elevate those same features they devalued on you, when it’s on THEM. It’s a sophisticated form of gaslighting and mental abuse. This same group of people have conditioned you to accept biological males as women, yet you can’t accept the hair that grows out your own scalp? 🤦🏾♀️ Gaslighting works on people with low self esteem an poor boundaries. Change your mindset, work on your self esteem, police your boundaries are your self image will change. No way can anyone convince me to glue another woman’s hair on my scalp in order to look beautiful. I’m beautiful as I am. And so are you.
@Nike-vx6li that’s the first time I’ve heard someone say model your fashion after your hair, very interesting and I would like to try it, I’m slim, thick, but What if you’re just thick and not slim?
@@princessigbo2631 I mean you didn’t give me any notes on how to take care of our hair, except for telling me that we have to change our minds at first, WHICH! Is VERY important. So I guess you’re just trying to say that the routines we do here are all the same routines you guys do over there the only difference is is that you don’t see your hair as problematic. Okay 👍🏾 ✍🏽📑📝thanks! 😊
AND I agree… a lot of people lack efficiency and understanding regarding their own hair. My hair can take a lot of time if I want to nurture it and be extra (because I have certain goals) but most of the time it fits seamlessly into my life (and my self image), and is not a burden. I love my hair so much. These videos and conversations are so important. Your vids need more visibility.
Hey sis! Just wanted to say thank you so much for all of the love and support! I've been binge listening to your videos since I found out about them. I, so, appreciate you for the work that you are doing to help, build, and elevate those of us in the community. So many of us get so caught up in the external work with learning our hair but we forget to do the internal work to dismantle our negative sigmas and traumas as it relates to how we view ourselves and our hair. Keep up the great work and continue speaking the hard truths! ❤️
Hi! Thank you so much for watching 💕 Your channel was a huge part of me practically learning to cherish my hair as you really cut through all the noise and continually uplift highly textured hair no matter what! I'll always be grateful for your content and I'm so glad that you've been appreciating mine ❤❤❤
The fact that my hair could stand up to a relaxer and still keep the curl, shine, health, and length retention is proof that our hair is beautiful and strong ❤️
Yeah the “woe is me” natural hair UA-camrs really leave a bad taste in people’s mouth. I understand that you may not like your hair, but it’s offensive when they call their hair “ugly” when there’s people out there that have the same hair texture who look to you for inspiration. It’s crazy
I never understood this sentiment ''Natural hair is unmanageable'' ''It's hard''. IMO It's the easist hair by far😂 I leave my hair alone in braids (no extension) for weeks and my wash day only takes 40 min or less. I loveeee my hair
The comment of the stylist is so sweet and makes me feel so treasured ❤ Coily hair is gorgeous and the tighter the better🎉 it is a huge privilege to be born with it
I agree. I’m so sick of women telling me my hair looks good on me but not them. That doesn’t make any sense you’re black, it’s your God given hair. It’s 2024 it’s time to wake up. I love my tight coily thick 4 c hair.
I am a client of Narada aka Afrikan Hair God!! He is the truth!!!! That was the best salon experience I’ve EVER had. I’m extremely picky about detangling, and he detangled my hair better than me! Finally can go to a salon and not feel like my hair journey is being set back but instead, furthered.
Not to mention the braids he gave me are FIRE! I’ve been getting nonstop compliments from everyone. So to see the backlash he’s getting on TikTok is really upsetting considering how much he cares about natural hair.
I love when they attack a non blavk person for saying ignorant things about afro textured hair but they given them the audacity to boldly say such by always saying rubbish about their hair. “My hair cant 4c this” is their go to line.
With natural hair, of you're not familiar with taking care of it there can be challenges to doing your hair. But I feel like if you truly love your hair you'll do whatever you can to fix whatever problem you have. When I was newly natural, I had an issue detangling my hair with brushes and combs and what did I do? I didn't relax it and instead I listened to my hair and started finger detangling. Positive affirmations definitely help and it's boosted my confidence in my hair
I watched her video and even commented that she should consider locs. Relaxer doesn’t even sound like a solution that makes sense for her hair type seeing as she’s prone to alopecia, has fine hair stands and even mentions how she doesn’t like how flat her hair looks straightened. I think whats happened is that Danielle covet’s naturally straight hair. She doesn’t want her hair to become more manageable in the ways that are natural to it like putting it in natural twists, she just wants long (preferably straight behaving) natural hair. It’s sad but at the same time I understand her frustration after having an alopecia trigger earlier this year. She just seems resigned from even seeing Fluff Nugget which is sad to see after following her for 5-6 years now
She would hate locs because you still have to take care of your hair and she would still have the same texture. Locs isn’t a scapegoat for not liking your texture 🤷🏾♀️.
I don't think she wants preferably straight hair I think she she wants thick and bigger hair but without it shrinking to her head especially after all the work she put in and and I think she just wants an easier wash day/everyday hair care routine but she did say she knows relaxed hair won't TECHNICALLY be easier she's just trying to figure out which cons (natural hair or relaxed hair) outweigh the other cons I don't think she wants naturally straight hair she just wants something different because what she's been working towards (big thick fluffy without shrinking hair) for idk 4 years now isn't coming any time soon
3:19 you're so right. As someone with direct west african heritage, it took me forever to understand the AA mindset about hair. I get it now, but I don't agree with the "struggle". People sometimes come at me when I say curly hair is easy on IG, assuming that because I don't have the tightest of curl textures that I have no experience handling them. Like. I do have family 😂 I find tight textures WAY easier than mine on any given day. (I love my hair it just tangles super easy, and took me a bunch of experimenting to figure it out. Plus I keep colouring it😅.) I can comb, braid, twist, blowout & press any texture of hair at this point, and I still find the best to work with to be the tightest coils. The hair just stays where you put it. Such a joy to handle. ❤ We have to get back to the 60s mindset. So many people rocked their natural hair, at home, at work, causual, corporate, in their mundane lives, and as internationally renowned popstars. And all people used was water, hair grease, and afrosheen. 😁 When it comes to SP I guess sometimes people have to go through the struggle to find what they like 🤷🏽♀️ "You cannot market yourself as a joke and then get upset when everyone laughs." 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
honestly this ua-cam.com/play/PLoE_smnkNHDBnmIXZbv1L6tcf-QnV8vw9.html&si=4OznvHKpJid5Iaht has been the best most comprehensive alternative i've seen so far, clearly made by someone that cares about highly textured hair unlike the original 'system'
I think the lingo around the natural hair convos need to change. Natural hair is “time consuming” and that comes with its own set of problems that I’m not about to gaslight people over. But none of the hairstyles/maintenance are rocket science. As long as you’re coming from a place of care and love for your hair, you’ll find a regimen that works for you. Still, I’d be lying if I said I don’t envy my husband’s 2 min hair routine 😂. Aesthetically, I prefer my natural hair curl pattern though.
I had my hair relaxed from age 6 until age 36-37. It took a few years for me to understand my natural hair. It was frustrating but I just kept patient. The lightbulb came on when my stylist was detangling my hair….with a brush. No wide toothed comb has touched my hair since. Total game changer. Proper detangling for me unlocked the potential in my hair and my ability to care for it as someone with zero skill in doing hair. Who knew something that simple could be what saves me time and frustration. Patience is key.
I have a very thick head of 4b/4c hair, also Nigerian, and I completely agree. I’ve realized that the easiest way to take care of my hair is to listen to it and not force it to be what it isn’t. My routine is super simple: Shampoo bar, liquid conditioner, and a leave-in conditioner bar (As I am) that conveniently defines my hair as well. I can actually wash my hair daily because the leave-in conditioner product eliminates the need to use conditioner. I just shampoo my hair right after using soap on my body, then put the leave in on my hair and lotion on my body after. Done. Extremely quick. I detangle with the liquid conditioner before using the leave-in 1 or 2x a week, and it takes a maximum of 30 minutes to detangle because my hair is always hydrated. Usually 10 minutes or less. Even when I washed my hair twice a week and not every day, detangling time was WAYY shorter than when I washed once a week. What has worked for me is knowing that I only brush through my hair when wet and with a slippy conditioner. It makes things soooo easy and I wish more black people would do the same or something that works for their natural hair and schedule.
Ngl. I always thought my hair was corse. Until I did my hair on live and a few comments told me that they wish they had my pattern and they told me they were full african. A lot of American blacks are mixed up. I never thought about how much more kinky other ppl in the diaspora could get. I mainly keep my hair straight because it’s easier to manage for me. I wish that the girls that wear their natural hair would stop playing on their audiences intelligence, some of those girls even have texturizers and they LIEEEE. They dont hate their hair because it kinky, they hate their hair because it’s NOT a wig. I blame frontals ! They come up of the natural hair content then all of a sudden they hate it… they pander for views then complain they hate their hair to the same viewers looking to someone for natural hair tips …. Weird behavior. I did an ancestry test in mainly Nigerian 🎉 lol
You have to understand, though, that in America many of these black women are not raised by or around women who know how to teach them proper hair care from a young age, which is the real reason why it's a "struggle" for them. Even if they learn later in life, it's not something that has been naturally engrained into their healthcare routine, so they automatically see that as something being imposed on them rather than something that's just regular. You also have to understand that being in a country where less than 15% of people are black just leads to a different way of looking at yourself. There is no way around that. If you're raised in Nigeria or another African country where the majority of the people around you are of a similar look and genetic makeup than you, it's not something you can understand. I'm not saying their mindset is "correct" but you have to give people with different experiences some grace. That being said, yes there are people who are choosing to lean into their hair misery and are "committed to struggle mode" as you say. That's not ever going to be helpful. But there's a reason why you've never beefed your hair the way American girls do even if your mother wasn't particularly skilled with your specific hair pattern. Still though, I don't condone relaxers. If you have alopecia, that's NOT going to help! And if you are finnicky about putting your hair in certain protective styles for aesthetic reasons like this person apparently is, then you have to deal with the consequences without being salty.
That excuse only goes so far though. Many of these people just want to fit a beauty standard that is the complete opposite of what they are. I.e Eurocentric beauty. I’d understand if we were talking about biracials or people who only live near salons that do straight hair but we also gotta call a spade a spade. If they wanted to, many of them would. And that’s just it, the truth is many don’t. I’m sure there’s plenty of salons that do natural hair in the USA. Even if it’s just braids. you’re telling me that the the reason many these women don’t like their hair is cause they don’t have at least ONE person to help/ they can go to? Yeah.. idk about that
@@ca678.4 I don't know where you read an 'excuse'. I'm talking facts and reality. And you're the one who brought in the whole "EuRoCeNtRiC BeAuTyStAnDaRds" BS you can miss me wih it. Our people have been straightening their hair since hundreds of years before anyone saw or would have reason to want to emulate anything they do, so I don't play that game accusing Black women who prefer a straight style of trying to copy white people. We have always loved to wear out hair all sorts of ways because its the most versatile. You can find references to straightening tools in the BIBLE. Some girls may be after that, but you natural hair obsessives accuse every single black woman who likes or prefers a straight style of that, and it's gross and not your place if you don't know them. "I'm sure there's plenty of salons...." um, no you're not. You don't live in America, you are making an assumption that validates your personal argument. That's not how facts and data works sweetie. That's why I pointed out the percentage of Black people in the US. Less than 15%. If you're in a major metropolitan area, sure, you can probably find a spot. But smaller cities and towns? Places where the Black population can be lower than 1%??? Nah. You're not going to find a salon that caters to Black people there because they wouldn't be able to stay in business do the math. This channel creator says she "wants you to be best friends with your hair" That's a very cute, nice idea but it's also a very juvenile and privileged one. A lot of American black women aren't looking to be "best friends" with their hair, or even feel any type of way about it; they just don't want to have to worry about it not being presentable and/or healthy. They're women living below the poverty line. They're struggling to make ends meet. They're single mothers working 2-3 jobs to survive. They don't have the time to "go on a natural hair journey". If that's what you guys are doing on the continent, great. But don't try to speak for or over other Black women whose lives and struggles you don't know anything about. On here talmbout "They don't even have ONE person? idk about that." Exactly. You DON'T know about that so let me fill you in. Yes there are plenty of people like that and I know some of them. People who came up in foster care or were adopted as well. So yeah your response doesn't really have anything to do with what I was pointing out initially. Y'all just have a narrative you've made about women who don't see their hair the same way you do and it's really not cool.
My hair has always been very thick and I suffered at the hands of many “stylists”. I believe people want black women to hate their beauty because I’ve come to rejoice in the volume. We’re allowed to be beautiful as is ❤
I agree I love @afrikanhairgods comprehensive playlist 🙌. It made natural hair seem so simplified versus all the rhetoric I would be fed in videos about how hard to manage type 4 hair is.
I was embarrassed by my hair due to my medication thinning my hair out & didn’t make time to prep my hair before & after work but getting locs was the best decision I have ever made it’s my compromise ❤️ I have a new love for my hair, it’s thick again, makes it easier to get ready for work, very manageable as well.
Natural hair and Locs have the same logic, in that "IT'S ONLY AS COMPLICATED AS YOU MAKE IT" or the "LESS IS MORE" mentality will get you farrr. Literally it was easier to wash n detangle my hair when it was longer but because I'm lazy af and there's no braiders who can do my hair with the same gentleness I give it(when I want to do a different style cus sometimes u want the braids) . I'm just letting it loc . But before that I would just do the twists with my own hair and leave it, it's great no stress for weeks until the next wash and u could see ur length n kept u away from doing too much in that time. I think if you either aren't ready to embrace ur hair as is and want to do too much simultaneously, you're going to have a tuff time. I'm from South Africa, 4C+ is the hair texture if you're black, lets not even get into Khoi san hair. Having our hair is a blessing man. I wish more people could just make peace with how it want's to be and not shoot it down cus insulting a feature on ur body isn't isolated on the internet, everyone else with that feature is being insulted too. bah anyways that's just me rambling, I'm just a random stranger reminding ya'll to respect ur bodies, cus no one else will.
The idea of embracing one’s natural hair is still fairly new. Most of us grew us with relaxers being imposed on us, with our hair being shamed and mocked. Obviously there’s going to be growing pains as many unlearn these negative stereotypes. I’d love to see an exchange of knowledge from non Americans. It seems like we’re missing something and making things harder, so let us know your process. I haven’t followed any hair UA-camrs in a while, if anyone could recommend reliable creators I’d appreciate it. As someone with sickle cell, my hair is a struggle for me. I got locs recently though. Some of you may find it laughable that it took me all day to do my hair, sometimes I broke it into 2 days. Sure some of these women complaining probably don’t struggle with health being an obstacle. But regardless it’s a learning & unlearning process. I wish them well on their journey.
Yup.. they JUST discovered that the chemicals in relaxers and such was ruining black womens health and yet so many were in defense of it. It will take a very long time to unlearn this hatred for BLACK hair for a significant portion of the community. Maybe a few more decades or so
lol I like how put so much loc inspo in this video because when I watched starpuppy I kept thinking thinking locs could be a good option for her considering all the things she complains about BUT locs also need one to be at peace with their natural texture so I guess she's not there.
19:06 & 22:32 exactly! type 4 hair is just as easy as any other hair texture to do. most of us are still learning though 🫶🏾💕 my wash day used to take 8+ hours, but now that i understand the basics of hair care, hair growth, hydration, and moisture m, my wash day takes 3 hours once a week: one to wash and detangle, another to apply products and style, and another hour to diffuse to reduce tangles, shrinkage, dry time, etc. 🥰🩷
OMG Can we please stop making our hair more complicated than it is? I feel like we’re trapped in a scene from “School Daze.” Why can’t we seem to move beyond the texture of our hair???
As a Cameroonian who was born ànd raised in Cameroon, there was never a day when I had issues because my hair is thick. Also AA complaining about their hair being thick or 4c don’t even have the level of thickness that we have as Africans. They have type 4C hair along of the time we Africans have type 4Z hair and we don’t complain this much.
I’ve been watching you for few months and I love how much your channel has grown since. You speak so much truth in your videos and it’s so nice to know that there are people who truly understand the beauty in the hair God has given us. Keep going sis 👏🏿 Out of curiosity, what mic do you use when recording your content? I’m trying to start up my UA-cam
I remember this black guy asking me what my hair type was. I said I don’t know. He was adamant on knowing what type it was, I suppose to check off some list he had in his head. I said I don’t know and I don’t care! He accused me of lying 😂 where I’m from we don’t subscribe to the hair type systems so heavily like Americans do, but that’s not to say there’s no texturism here. Still have that “good hair” vs “bad hair” mentality.
There needs to be more awareness specifically about coarse hair. I wish I could walk into any hair salon in a “black” community and have my hair gently detangled washed and styled for a decent price. I at least expect our community salons to cater to coarse hair
@@thisiscoilette I’ve been in a better space lately. Still in my healing journey but God is faithful. Looking forward to having you back, but definitely take the time you need 💗
Well, we gotta be honest. The origin and complexity of the hate for 4c hair is rooted in being black in America. I know that sounds cliche asf, but it's an absolute truth that is often forgotten. The experience of being black in America is extreme with the social dynamics, these are some of the consequences we see trickling down into individuals.
I don’t think it’s fair to judge Danielle’s hair woes by measuring it against yours. Not everyone has the same skill when it comes to doing hair. (Which Danielle clearly struggles with) Also it doesn’t matter if you have same hair type, especially when dealing with hair loss. Is there an absolute “solution” for everyone. Are we not individuals? I personally also take the 8hrs a month to handle my hair but it’s still time consuming. Everyone doesn’t want to sit for 8hrs and depending on their lifestyle everyone can’t.
@@korqui.p I don’t think Danielle struggles with skill at all - a lot of her styles come out bomb. She struggles with acceptance imo. And even when her hair was thriving, she has always beefed her shrinkage. I didn’t say that you have to like the solution, but complaining like it doesn’t exist is the issue.
If you’re sitting for 8 hours doing your hair that’s absolutely your fault. No way In hell it should take anybody that long to do their hair unless they are trying to do something to it that it’s not natural to what their hair can do. That’s an entire work day.
So you’ll spend the 8 hours added up straightening hair, and ironing it, but with natural hair it’s too much? listen that excuse doesn’t work anymore. The truth is if you actually like the texture/your natural hair you wouldn’t care how long you took on it. (Not you specifically, but plural) These people go to videos of people with straight long hair fantasizing about brushing it for hours but when it comes to natural hair even 5 minutes is too much. Smh Ask these people if they would rather 8 hours maintaining straight hair or 8 hours maintaining their natural hair. See what answer you get.
@@korqui.p This is not about hair skill. It’s about mindset. That’s like saying you need to be an Olympic gymnast like Simone Biles in order to love your own body.
I’m Nigerian as well lol, i have thick coily hair. I would say 4b, we have a LONG WAY to go when it comes to our hair, i think the Americans are even farther ahead than us in accepting our God given hair. But i believe with time the narrative and mentality will change.
The fact that relaxers were expected at single digit ages is wild to me. The natural hair movement might have started with the right intentions, but the capitalism of it all created product junkies and “gurus” which is why people are returning to relaxers despite the obvious. This is about more than managing hair, it’s about managing comments, environments, emotions, self image, budgets, and one’s peace.
I agree whole heartedly, but you can't escape the matrix until someone extends a hand. We didn't even know we there was another option....I appreciate your perspective, but laughing feels a bit much
Why sometimes I feel like natural hair looks better on a smaller frame woman. I see natural styles on smaller women and it looks so fierce. Not that it doesn’t look good on bigger or curvy women but on small women it’s so cute.
I’m as mono-racial as it gets: 75% Nigerian, 25% Bantu.
Growing up in Nigeria I did not experience women having problems manage their hair-no matter how short or thick. In fact, my hair was often praised for its thickness. That said, there was girl whose hair was even thicker, longer and coilier than mine and we all envied her.
I only learned that my hair was “unmanageable” after moving to the US.
When I made the decision to stop patronizing hair salons, my hair magically became manageable.
Let us know then! The people of the US, have had their culture stripped from them! Not only are we a mixed African people, we no longer live in Africa, so, with those circumstances in tact, our hair would be seen as something “unmanageable“
How bout you help out and tell me how you and that other girl do it!
I’ll take any and all notes for the girlies.
@@visioncake0222 We never saw our hair as a problem, unmanageable or defective in the first place. We have hair which we maintained, just like you do with any other part of your body.
Other races condition you to view your lips, butt, skin color and hair are defective. That is, until they figured out how to recreate those same features using plastic surgery. Then they condition you to elevate those same features they devalued on you, when it’s on THEM. It’s a sophisticated form of gaslighting and mental abuse.
This same group of people have conditioned you to accept biological males as women, yet you can’t accept the hair that grows out your own scalp? 🤦🏾♀️
Gaslighting works on people with low self esteem an poor boundaries.
Change your mindset, work on your self esteem, police your boundaries are your self image will change.
No way can anyone convince me to glue another woman’s hair on my scalp in order to look beautiful. I’m beautiful as I am.
And so are you.
@Nike-vx6li that’s the first time I’ve heard someone say model your fashion after your hair, very interesting and I would like to try it, I’m slim, thick, but What if you’re just thick and not slim?
@@princessigbo2631 I mean you didn’t give me any notes on how to take care of our hair, except for telling me that we have to change our minds at first, WHICH! Is VERY important. So I guess you’re just trying to say that the routines we do here are all the same routines you guys do over there the only difference is is that you don’t see your hair as problematic. Okay 👍🏾 ✍🏽📑📝thanks! 😊
@@visioncake0222 If you watch the video, you will be directed to check out Narada's haircare 101 playlist. All the info you need is there. 👍🏼
AND I agree… a lot of people lack efficiency and understanding regarding their own hair. My hair can take a lot of time if I want to nurture it and be extra (because I have certain goals) but most of the time it fits seamlessly into my life (and my self image), and is not a burden. I love my hair so much.
These videos and conversations are so important. Your vids need more visibility.
@@EfikZara Thank you! 💕
You and your hair are GORGEOUS, I couldn’t see how you couldn’t love it!! 😩❤️
Hey sis! Just wanted to say thank you so much for all of the love and support! I've been binge listening to your videos since I found out about them. I, so, appreciate you for the work that you are doing to help, build, and elevate those of us in the community. So many of us get so caught up in the external work with learning our hair but we forget to do the internal work to dismantle our negative sigmas and traumas as it relates to how we view ourselves and our hair. Keep up the great work and continue speaking the hard truths! ❤️
Hi! Thank you so much for watching 💕 Your channel was a huge part of me practically learning to cherish my hair as you really cut through all the noise and continually uplift highly textured hair no matter what! I'll always be grateful for your content and I'm so glad that you've been appreciating mine ❤❤❤
Natural Hair youtubers trying not to lower the self esteem of people who watch their channel to feel better about their hair (Challenge: Impossible)
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The fact that my hair could stand up to a relaxer and still keep the curl, shine, health, and length retention is proof that our hair is beautiful and strong ❤️
African Hair God is so real and informative.
Yeah the “woe is me” natural hair UA-camrs really leave a bad taste in people’s mouth. I understand that you may not like your hair, but it’s offensive when they call their hair “ugly” when there’s people out there that have the same hair texture who look to you for inspiration. It’s crazy
I hope this video gets a lot of views.
I never understood this sentiment ''Natural hair is unmanageable'' ''It's hard''. IMO It's the easist hair by far😂 I leave my hair alone in braids (no extension) for weeks and my wash day only takes 40 min or less. I loveeee my hair
The comment of the stylist is so sweet and makes me feel so treasured ❤ Coily hair is gorgeous and the tighter the better🎉 it is a huge privilege to be born with it
I agree. I’m so sick of women telling me my hair looks good on me but not them. That doesn’t make any sense you’re black, it’s your God given hair. It’s 2024 it’s time to wake up. I love my tight coily thick 4 c hair.
I am a client of Narada aka Afrikan Hair God!! He is the truth!!!! That was the best salon experience I’ve EVER had. I’m extremely picky about detangling, and he detangled my hair better than me! Finally can go to a salon and not feel like my hair journey is being set back but instead, furthered.
Not to mention the braids he gave me are FIRE! I’ve been getting nonstop compliments from everyone. So to see the backlash he’s getting on TikTok is really upsetting considering how much he cares about natural hair.
I love when they attack a non blavk person for saying ignorant things about afro textured hair but they given them the audacity to boldly say such by always saying rubbish about their hair. “My hair cant 4c this” is their go to line.
With natural hair, of you're not familiar with taking care of it there can be challenges to doing your hair. But I feel like if you truly love your hair you'll do whatever you can to fix whatever problem you have. When I was newly natural, I had an issue detangling my hair with brushes and combs and what did I do? I didn't relax it and instead I listened to my hair and started finger detangling. Positive affirmations definitely help and it's boosted my confidence in my hair
I watched her video and even commented that she should consider locs. Relaxer doesn’t even sound like a solution that makes sense for her hair type seeing as she’s prone to alopecia, has fine hair stands and even mentions how she doesn’t like how flat her hair looks straightened. I think whats happened is that Danielle covet’s naturally straight hair. She doesn’t want her hair to become more manageable in the ways that are natural to it like putting it in natural twists, she just wants long (preferably straight behaving) natural hair. It’s sad but at the same time I understand her frustration after having an alopecia trigger earlier this year. She just seems resigned from even seeing Fluff Nugget which is sad to see after following her for 5-6 years now
Omg yes locs would be perfect for her
She would hate locs because you still have to take care of your hair and she would still have the same texture. Locs isn’t a scapegoat for not liking your texture 🤷🏾♀️.
I don't think she wants preferably straight hair I think she she wants thick and bigger hair but without it shrinking to her head especially after all the work she put in and and I think she just wants an easier wash day/everyday hair care routine but she did say she knows relaxed hair won't TECHNICALLY be easier she's just trying to figure out which cons (natural hair or relaxed hair) outweigh the other cons I don't think she wants naturally straight hair she just wants something different because what she's been working towards (big thick fluffy without shrinking hair) for idk 4 years now isn't coming any time soon
You have to get them done every 2 months
@chichi2425 and that's fine. She should accept how her hair behaves. Once she accepts it she would learn to love it and care for it. Imo
So much self hate.
3:19 you're so right. As someone with direct west african heritage, it took me forever to understand the AA mindset about hair. I get it now, but I don't agree with the "struggle". People sometimes come at me when I say curly hair is easy on IG, assuming that because I don't have the tightest of curl textures that I have no experience handling them. Like. I do have family 😂 I find tight textures WAY easier than mine on any given day. (I love my hair it just tangles super easy, and took me a bunch of experimenting to figure it out. Plus I keep colouring it😅.)
I can comb, braid, twist, blowout & press any texture of hair at this point, and I still find the best to work with to be the tightest coils. The hair just stays where you put it. Such a joy to handle. ❤
We have to get back to the 60s mindset. So many people rocked their natural hair, at home, at work, causual, corporate, in their mundane lives, and as internationally renowned popstars. And all people used was water, hair grease, and afrosheen. 😁
When it comes to SP I guess sometimes people have to go through the struggle to find what they like 🤷🏽♀️
"You cannot market yourself as a joke and then get upset when everyone laughs." 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
I wish we can abolish the hair typing system.
honestly this ua-cam.com/play/PLoE_smnkNHDBnmIXZbv1L6tcf-QnV8vw9.html&si=4OznvHKpJid5Iaht has been the best most comprehensive alternative i've seen so far, clearly made by someone that cares about highly textured hair unlike the original 'system'
We love green beauty@@smelly1060
We need to get our head out of the west.😭 Ourself imagine is so messed up and confused.
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This in a nutshell. 👍🏾
I think the lingo around the natural hair convos need to change. Natural hair is “time consuming” and that comes with its own set of problems that I’m not about to gaslight people over. But none of the hairstyles/maintenance are rocket science. As long as you’re coming from a place of care and love for your hair, you’ll find a regimen that works for you. Still, I’d be lying if I said I don’t envy my husband’s 2 min hair routine 😂. Aesthetically, I prefer my natural hair curl pattern though.
I had my hair relaxed from age 6 until age 36-37. It took a few years for me to understand my natural hair. It was frustrating but I just kept patient. The lightbulb came on when my stylist was detangling my hair….with a brush. No wide toothed comb has touched my hair since. Total game changer. Proper detangling for me unlocked the potential in my hair and my ability to care for it as someone with zero skill in doing hair. Who knew something that simple could be what saves me time and frustration. Patience is key.
I have a very thick head of 4b/4c hair, also Nigerian, and I completely agree. I’ve realized that the easiest way to take care of my hair is to listen to it and not force it to be what it isn’t.
My routine is super simple: Shampoo bar, liquid conditioner, and a leave-in conditioner bar (As I am) that conveniently defines my hair as well.
I can actually wash my hair daily because the leave-in conditioner product eliminates the need to use conditioner. I just shampoo my hair right after using soap on my body, then put the leave in on my hair and lotion on my body after. Done. Extremely quick.
I detangle with the liquid conditioner before using the leave-in 1 or 2x a week, and it takes a maximum of 30 minutes to detangle because my hair is always hydrated. Usually 10 minutes or less.
Even when I washed my hair twice a week and not every day, detangling time was WAYY shorter than when I washed once a week.
What has worked for me is knowing that I only brush through my hair when wet and with a slippy conditioner. It makes things soooo easy and I wish more black people would do the same or something that works for their natural hair and schedule.
Ngl. I always thought my hair was corse. Until I did my hair on live and a few comments told me that they wish they had my pattern and they told me they were full african. A lot of American blacks are mixed up. I never thought about how much more kinky other ppl in the diaspora could get. I mainly keep my hair straight because it’s easier to manage for me. I wish that the girls that wear their natural hair would stop playing on their audiences intelligence, some of those girls even have texturizers and they LIEEEE. They dont hate their hair because it kinky, they hate their hair because it’s NOT a wig. I blame frontals ! They come up of the natural hair content then all of a sudden they hate it… they pander for views then complain they hate their hair to the same viewers looking to someone for natural hair tips …. Weird behavior. I did an ancestry test in mainly Nigerian 🎉 lol
You have to understand, though, that in America many of these black women are not raised by or around women who know how to teach them proper hair care from a young age, which is the real reason why it's a "struggle" for them. Even if they learn later in life, it's not something that has been naturally engrained into their healthcare routine, so they automatically see that as something being imposed on them rather than something that's just regular. You also have to understand that being in a country where less than 15% of people are black just leads to a different way of looking at yourself. There is no way around that. If you're raised in Nigeria or another African country where the majority of the people around you are of a similar look and genetic makeup than you, it's not something you can understand. I'm not saying their mindset is "correct" but you have to give people with different experiences some grace. That being said, yes there are people who are choosing to lean into their hair misery and are "committed to struggle mode" as you say. That's not ever going to be helpful. But there's a reason why you've never beefed your hair the way American girls do even if your mother wasn't particularly skilled with your specific hair pattern.
Still though, I don't condone relaxers. If you have alopecia, that's NOT going to help! And if you are finnicky about putting your hair in certain protective styles for aesthetic reasons like this person apparently is, then you have to deal with the consequences without being salty.
The best comment here!
That excuse only goes so far though. Many of these people just want to fit a beauty standard that is the complete opposite of what they are. I.e Eurocentric beauty. I’d understand if we were talking about biracials or people who only live near salons that do straight hair but we also gotta call a spade a spade. If they wanted to, many of them would. And that’s just it, the truth is many don’t. I’m sure there’s plenty of salons that do natural hair in the USA. Even if it’s just braids. you’re telling me that the the reason many these women don’t like their hair is cause they don’t have at least ONE person to help/ they can go to? Yeah.. idk about that
@@ca678.4like that person said Africans and African Americans live in two different worlds
@@ca678.4 I don't know where you read an 'excuse'. I'm talking facts and reality. And you're the one who brought in the whole "EuRoCeNtRiC BeAuTyStAnDaRds" BS you can miss me wih it. Our people have been straightening their hair since hundreds of years before anyone saw or would have reason to want to emulate anything they do, so I don't play that game accusing Black women who prefer a straight style of trying to copy white people. We have always loved to wear out hair all sorts of ways because its the most versatile. You can find references to straightening tools in the BIBLE. Some girls may be after that, but you natural hair obsessives accuse every single black woman who likes or prefers a straight style of that, and it's gross and not your place if you don't know them.
"I'm sure there's plenty of salons...." um, no you're not. You don't live in America, you are making an assumption that validates your personal argument. That's not how facts and data works sweetie. That's why I pointed out the percentage of Black people in the US. Less than 15%. If you're in a major metropolitan area, sure, you can probably find a spot. But smaller cities and towns? Places where the Black population can be lower than 1%??? Nah. You're not going to find a salon that caters to Black people there because they wouldn't be able to stay in business do the math.
This channel creator says she "wants you to be best friends with your hair" That's a very cute, nice idea but it's also a very juvenile and privileged one. A lot of American black women aren't looking to be "best friends" with their hair, or even feel any type of way about it; they just don't want to have to worry about it not being presentable and/or healthy. They're women living below the poverty line. They're struggling to make ends meet. They're single mothers working 2-3 jobs to survive. They don't have the time to "go on a natural hair journey". If that's what you guys are doing on the continent, great. But don't try to speak for or over other Black women whose lives and struggles you don't know anything about. On here talmbout "They don't even have ONE person? idk about that." Exactly. You DON'T know about that so let me fill you in. Yes there are plenty of people like that and I know some of them. People who came up in foster care or were adopted as well. So yeah your response doesn't really have anything to do with what I was pointing out initially. Y'all just have a narrative you've made about women who don't see their hair the same way you do and it's really not cool.
@Jessica.Shawnte that is a excuse
I love all the pictures of the beautiful locked ladies. Our Afro textured hair is amazing.
My hair has always been very thick and I suffered at the hands of many “stylists”. I believe people want black women to hate their beauty because I’ve come to rejoice in the volume. We’re allowed to be beautiful as is ❤
I agree I love @afrikanhairgods comprehensive playlist 🙌. It made natural hair seem so simplified versus all the rhetoric I would be fed in videos about how hard to manage type 4 hair is.
I love African hair god so much ❤️ he’s so educational and keeps it real
I was embarrassed by my hair due to my medication thinning my hair out & didn’t make time to prep my hair before & after work but getting locs was the best decision I have ever made it’s my compromise ❤️ I have a new love for my hair, it’s thick again, makes it easier to get ready for work, very manageable as well.
Natural hair and Locs have the same logic, in that "IT'S ONLY AS COMPLICATED AS YOU MAKE IT" or the "LESS IS MORE" mentality will get you farrr.
Literally it was easier to wash n detangle my hair when it was longer but because I'm lazy af and there's no braiders who can do my hair with the same gentleness I give it(when I want to do a different style cus sometimes u want the braids) . I'm just letting it loc . But before that I would just do the twists with my own hair and leave it, it's great no stress for weeks until the next wash and u could see ur length n kept u away from doing too much in that time. I think if you either aren't ready to embrace ur hair as is and want to do too much simultaneously, you're going to have a tuff time. I'm from South Africa, 4C+ is the hair texture if you're black, lets not even get into Khoi san hair. Having our hair is a blessing man. I wish more people could just make peace with how it want's to be and not shoot it down cus insulting a feature on ur body isn't isolated on the internet, everyone else with that feature is being insulted too.
bah anyways that's just me rambling, I'm just a random stranger reminding ya'll to respect ur bodies, cus no one else will.
The idea of embracing one’s natural hair is still fairly new. Most of us grew us with relaxers being imposed on us, with our hair being shamed and mocked. Obviously there’s going to be growing pains as many unlearn these negative stereotypes. I’d love to see an exchange of knowledge from non Americans. It seems like we’re missing something and making things harder, so let us know your process. I haven’t followed any hair UA-camrs in a while, if anyone could recommend reliable creators I’d appreciate it. As someone with sickle cell, my hair is a struggle for me. I got locs recently though. Some of you may find it laughable that it took me all day to do my hair, sometimes I broke it into 2 days. Sure some of these women complaining probably don’t struggle with health being an obstacle. But regardless it’s a learning & unlearning process. I wish them well on their journey.
Yup.. they JUST discovered that the chemicals in relaxers and such was ruining black womens health and yet so many were in defense of it. It will take a very long time to unlearn this hatred for BLACK hair for a significant portion of the community. Maybe a few more decades or so
lol I like how put so much loc inspo in this video because when I watched starpuppy I kept thinking thinking locs could be a good option for her considering all the things she complains about BUT locs also need one to be at peace with their natural texture so I guess she's not there.
But all in all i am so glad you are speaking out!!
19:06 & 22:32 exactly! type 4 hair is just as easy as any other hair texture to do. most of us are still learning though 🫶🏾💕
my wash day used to take 8+ hours, but now that i understand the basics of hair care, hair growth, hydration, and moisture m, my wash day takes 3 hours once a week: one to wash and detangle, another to apply products and style, and another hour to diffuse to reduce tangles, shrinkage, dry time, etc. 🥰🩷
Yes! Once it clicks it becomes so straightforward 🥰💕
OMG Can we please stop making our hair more complicated than it is? I feel like we’re trapped in a scene from “School Daze.” Why can’t we seem to move beyond the texture of our hair???
As a Cameroonian who was born ànd raised in Cameroon, there was never a day when I had issues because my hair is thick.
Also AA complaining about their hair being thick or 4c don’t even have the level of thickness that we have as Africans. They have type 4C hair along of the time we Africans have type 4Z hair and we don’t complain this much.
wow! thank you so much for the comprehensive hair care link
I’ve been watching you for few months and I love how much your channel has grown since. You speak so much truth in your videos and it’s so nice to know that there are people who truly understand the beauty in the hair God has given us. Keep going sis 👏🏿
Out of curiosity, what mic do you use when recording your content? I’m trying to start up my UA-cam
@@d_o_abe Thank you! ❤️ I use the Tonor TC30 I think, found it on Amazon x
I remember this black guy asking me what my hair type was. I said I don’t know. He was adamant on knowing what type it was, I suppose to check off some list he had in his head. I said I don’t know and I don’t care! He accused me of lying 😂 where I’m from we don’t subscribe to the hair type systems so heavily like Americans do, but that’s not to say there’s no texturism here. Still have that “good hair” vs “bad hair” mentality.
Danielle doesn’t like twist because her hair is thin. She said that years ago
There needs to be more awareness specifically about coarse hair. I wish I could walk into any hair salon in a “black” community and have my hair gently detangled washed and styled for a decent price. I at least expect our community salons to cater to coarse hair
Missing you and your content Coilette. I hope all is well with you ❤
@@healwithmare Hi Mare, thanks for checking in! Hope you’ve been well too ❤️ working on coming back as soon as I can x
@@thisiscoilette I’ve been in a better space lately. Still in my healing journey but God is faithful. Looking forward to having you back, but definitely take the time you need 💗
Well, we gotta be honest. The origin and complexity of the hate for 4c hair is rooted in being black in America. I know that sounds cliche asf, but it's an absolute truth that is often forgotten. The experience of being black in America is extreme with the social dynamics, these are some of the consequences we see trickling down into individuals.
I don’t think it’s fair to judge Danielle’s hair woes by measuring it against yours. Not everyone has the same skill when it comes to doing hair. (Which Danielle clearly struggles with) Also it doesn’t matter if you have same hair type, especially when dealing with hair loss. Is there an absolute “solution” for everyone. Are we not individuals? I personally also take the 8hrs a month to handle my hair but it’s still time consuming. Everyone doesn’t want to sit for 8hrs and depending on their lifestyle everyone can’t.
@@korqui.p I don’t think Danielle struggles with skill at all - a lot of her styles come out bomb. She struggles with acceptance imo. And even when her hair was thriving, she has always beefed her shrinkage. I didn’t say that you have to like the solution, but complaining like it doesn’t exist is the issue.
If you’re sitting for 8 hours doing your hair that’s absolutely your fault. No way In hell it should take anybody that long to do their hair unless they are trying to do something to it that it’s not natural to what their hair can do. That’s an entire work day.
8 hours ? No
So you’ll spend the 8 hours added up straightening hair, and ironing it, but with natural hair it’s too much? listen that excuse doesn’t work anymore. The truth is if you actually like the texture/your natural hair you wouldn’t care how long you took on it. (Not you specifically, but plural) These people go to videos of people with straight long hair fantasizing about brushing it for hours but when it comes to natural hair even 5 minutes is too much. Smh
Ask these people if they would rather 8 hours maintaining straight hair or 8 hours maintaining their natural hair. See what answer you get.
@@korqui.p This is not about hair skill. It’s about mindset. That’s like saying you need to be an Olympic gymnast like Simone Biles in order to love your own body.
I’m Nigerian as well lol, i have thick coily hair. I would say 4b, we have a LONG WAY to go when it comes to our hair, i think the Americans are even farther ahead than us in accepting our God given hair. But i believe with time the narrative and mentality will change.
The fact that relaxers were expected at single digit ages is wild to me. The natural hair movement might have started with the right intentions, but the capitalism of it all created product junkies and “gurus” which is why people are returning to relaxers despite the obvious. This is about more than managing hair, it’s about managing comments, environments, emotions, self image, budgets, and one’s peace.
I agree whole heartedly, but you can't escape the matrix until someone extends a hand. We didn't even know we there was another option....I appreciate your perspective, but laughing feels a bit much
I realise how my laughing could be miscontrued. Just to be clear, I am not laughing at her -- just in disbelief at the entire situation.
right and then they shame people for liking straight hair or weave 🤣
Why sometimes I feel like natural hair looks better on a smaller frame woman. I see natural styles on smaller women and it looks so fierce. Not that it doesn’t look good on bigger or curvy women but on small women it’s so cute.