Why I Got Sober & How it Changed my Life (Two Years No Alcohol)

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  • @w-james9277
    @w-james9277 8 місяців тому +415

    What happened when I stopped...
    1: Saved money
    2: Lost weight
    3: Felt better
    4: Less brain fog
    5: More energy
    6: Less bloated
    7: No feeling embarrassed after social nights
    8: I realised who my true friends were
    9: Sleep better
    10: I realised I was allot more introverted and drinking was a coping mechanism when socialising.
    11: NO HANGOVERS!!
    12 Being able to drive home.

  • @FridaNordstrom
    @FridaNordstrom 9 місяців тому +332

    I stopped drinking because i realized that once i start drinking i don't know when it's time to stop. I didn't drink often but every time I did I always drank a little too much. I have a family history of alcoholics and just decided to stop before it even had a chance to become an issue. I don't trust myself.

    • @AnaWallaceJohnson
      @AnaWallaceJohnson  9 місяців тому +16

      It's so good to know yourself. I understand the inability to stop.

    • @cerra71
      @cerra71 9 місяців тому +19

      This is why I needed to stop too. I didn’t have an off switch

    • @snoozyq9576
      @snoozyq9576 7 місяців тому +4

      Thats so cool to hear. Stopping it early like that can save so many years of suffering. Well done.

    • @roxannerubiano3447
      @roxannerubiano3447 7 місяців тому +3

      This is so me 😊

    • @Wheatthin21
      @Wheatthin21 7 місяців тому +1

      This is exactly my situation. My family has a history of alcoholism and I am cutting it off now before it gets worse.

  • @dlmsarge8329
    @dlmsarge8329 9 місяців тому +289

    I stopped at age 60, after about 45 yrs of drinking, including heavy daily drinking at the end. A "breakfast bourbon" wasn't an uncommon start of my day. For many years I couldn't picture myself living without alcohol but once that illusion was broken the path forward was relatively easy. After more that 4 yrs of living alcohol free I'll never go back to that voluntary enslavement.

  • @archangel_josh
    @archangel_josh 9 місяців тому +90

    My wife and I will be 2 years sober in 4 months. My wife and I were major bender drinkers only on the weekends and would be total hungover wrecks during the week. It didn't start out that way, we used to be normal. We absolutely love being sober, it's a complete super power.

  • @acook213
    @acook213 8 місяців тому +85

    What helped me quit drinking (coming up on a year sober in two days) is realizing that alcohol is just another drug that offers zero benefits and only has downsides. So when I decided to finally quit, I didn’t think “I can’t/shouldn’t ever drink again” - it was more “THANK GOD I don’t ever have to drink again”. This mentality has completely saved me and made sobriety an overall enjoyable and relieving experience, not a punitive one.

    • @lowrezshez
      @lowrezshez 8 місяців тому +4

      gunna keep this mentality in mind, big kudos to you for tomorrow

    • @acook213
      @acook213 8 місяців тому +1

      @@lowrezshez thank you! Allen Carr’s book on quitting drinking helped me with this mindset shift a lot if you find yourself struggling…

  • @miniharez
    @miniharez 9 місяців тому +142

    I quit 4 years ago! I was a party animal for a solid decade. Hang overs became unbearable and my anxiety exponentially got worse. Which most people dont talk about the Mental health side of it. It puts you in an unbalanced state with your body. You have too many high moments (while drinking) and low moments(when you’re not drinking). You never experience that a balanced mood. And lack of normal sleep cycles. This constant chaos with you body, it deteriorates mental health. And for people with depression or social anxiety, it goes from being a crutch to a necessity. so instead of learning how to deal with depression and axiety sober, we stay in a state of arrested development. So these past 4 years have been me learning how to be a functioning emotionally intelligent person, which I should have been doing years ago! And Im a full time musician that plays regularly bar gigs, Rowdy dancing music. I go to concerts sober, I go bowling sober, I go camping sober, and everything else. once you train your brain to be without alcohol you start enjoying everything in a different way. A better way in my opinion.

    • @acook213
      @acook213 8 місяців тому +7

      I love this comment. Everything you said rings true with me. I’m coming up on a year myself in two days, and I’ve really noticed that more balanced mood you described. It’s a slow climb, for sure (in my experience), but it’s DEFINITELY on an upward trend!

    • @PreppedandPolished
      @PreppedandPolished 4 місяці тому

      well said ❤

    • @denisepaulsenful
      @denisepaulsenful 2 місяці тому +1

      Alcohol makes everything worse including anxiety.

    • @TheFISHTANK666
      @TheFISHTANK666 24 дні тому

      Try and get on a program with BACLOFEN works for lots of people andoesnt causcounter dependency

  • @mikereid5226
    @mikereid5226 17 днів тому +4

    Great and entertaining video! I’m 3 days sober 1-13-2025, I’m drinking water and coffee in the morning now, I drank 8 beers a day, I’m feeling positive and I’m going to stop, I always know when I’m going to succeed, cross my finger, I am challenging myself

  • @Lola-cg6yp
    @Lola-cg6yp 8 місяців тому +90

    Quit when I was 39 now 60! Best decision ever! Congratulations it just keeps getting better. 🥰

    • @ishtarb3701
      @ishtarb3701 3 місяці тому +2

      I'm 39 now and dying to just do it and quit once and for all

    • @chrissie.0864
      @chrissie.0864 2 місяці тому

      Curious as to why you are watching this video ? 😊

    • @MrTurbObrown
      @MrTurbObrown Місяць тому +1

      Nice! I quit last year right before my 39th birthday. Getting 40 next week. Still not drinking. I'm a different person now. I'm not social at all and I was when I was drinking. I have less friends now and it's really nice that way. They are better friends now. My life is better now but some issues came up that I never noticed while drinking. But I'm on my way I guess.
      Is there something that's harder now for you too, or was? I mean it's 20 years for you. Much respect!❤

    • @jjms79
      @jjms79 Місяць тому

      Congratulations! I'm 44 and quit a year ago after drinking most of my life. I will someday be in your position, looking back on the positive impacts on my health/mental health and personal development.

  • @fortythreenorth2518
    @fortythreenorth2518 5 місяців тому +59

    I'm 44 and have been drinking since 17. Had sober periods but ultimately relapsed. I keep trying and enjoy these videos.

    • @katarinamills8530
      @katarinamills8530 5 місяців тому +8

      Keep going ...I am 46 and similar Story...it is the best decision...❤🎉

    • @arenikashkashian8296
      @arenikashkashian8296 Місяць тому

      I’m 34 and for 3 years in a row (2017, 2018 and 2019) I went alcohol free from September-February.
      Now, I’m 22 days in, and I’m ready to see what an alcohol free lifestyle is like. 🎉

  • @Slyfer7
    @Slyfer7 2 місяці тому +28

    On a spiritual level. Sobriety feels so soul cleansing. Like I’ve never felt so authentically like myself until after I quit all the reckless ways of dealing with stress. Now I go to the gym, drink relaxing herbal teas and Ashwaghanda.

    • @themostmajestic
      @themostmajestic 5 днів тому

      YES!!!!! This isn’t talked about enough!

  • @lazargajicic9115
    @lazargajicic9115 Місяць тому +20

    I feel proud, so I must share. I quit smoking 5 years ago, and finally quit drinking 1 month ago.

    • @RR-fn6dm
      @RR-fn6dm 26 днів тому

      That’s amazing ❤ congratulations!!!!

    • @staleofte3309
      @staleofte3309 26 днів тому

      Well done 🎉

  • @charlescarbone1683
    @charlescarbone1683 9 місяців тому +50

    I am 7 months sober and also best decision ever made. Brain, personality and integrity restoring..thanks for your depth n honesty.

  • @filmswithjovi
    @filmswithjovi 9 місяців тому +56

    Over 100 days here - so happy you made this!

  • @devrimkureksiz7611
    @devrimkureksiz7611 9 місяців тому +85

    Thanks for sharing this! I have ADHD and that makes me prone to addiction and I've had my fair share of drinking. I have horrible hangovers. I can't seem to stop once I start drinking so I am considering quitting. This helped me, I think I'm going to try to stay sober 1 month to start with. Again, thank you.

    • @knitnkitten
      @knitnkitten 9 місяців тому +11

      Me too. But now 9 years sober🌼 What helped me: 1. Increasing my protein & 'greens' intake - like, a lot of greeens! 2. Deciding what I would drink at social gatherings instead of alcohol... my special 'treat' drink (when you have a glass of something in your hand fewer people make remarks & you feel more 'part of the crowd'. 2. If someone did try to give me grief, telling them I'm allergic to sulphites or alcohol or whatever. You don't have to be honest. Seriously, they don't care - they just want to know why you're not doing what they're doing. 3. counselling for all the crap I realised I was drinking to avoid/take the edge off.

    • @AnaWallaceJohnson
      @AnaWallaceJohnson  9 місяців тому +6

      You can do it! Great recommendations in this thread. Also, I definitely suffered from the inability to stop once I started, so I get it. The first week is the hardest, but you can really do this.

    • @jakegro7825
      @jakegro7825 9 місяців тому +3

      This was my experience too. In Wisconsin the drinking culture is insane, and had been binge drinking the vast majority of weekends since I was 16. I decided to take a 2 week break before my first half marathon in October, and now I just hit 7 months and don't think that I will ever go back to it. My life has gotten objectively better in just about every way

    • @annettebicer7555
      @annettebicer7555 19 днів тому

      Phenomenal craving of drinking. AA will help. Sober 7 years.

  • @littlebookish5287
    @littlebookish5287 9 місяців тому +233

    damn we love a sober queen

  • @kennithminnich
    @kennithminnich 9 місяців тому +28

    11 years of continuous sobriety for me. Thank you for sharing your experience..

  • @ct2co2AZ
    @ct2co2AZ 8 місяців тому +40

    I am still working at my sobriety, recently slipped up this weekend after 173 days and making so many positive changes in my life…but I’m back on the wagon lol. I’m a little bit older than you but I can really relate to your experience. I have no off switch when I drink and go go go until I hate myself. I needed to see this today and I am excited to move back in the right direction. Appreciate this so much!!! All you say is true

    • @wam6465
      @wam6465 8 місяців тому +3

      You CAN do this!!! I have 6 years in June and I never thought it was possible. STAY STRONG!!

    • @butchmichaels69
      @butchmichaels69 8 місяців тому

      I use the Sinclair method to reduce or eliminate alcohol consumption. I recommend everyone struggling with alcohol to talk to their doctor about naltrexone. I got quick relief from the cravings and lost interest in daily drinking. It was effortless

    • @Khaospice10
      @Khaospice10 7 місяців тому +1

      Im the same thing when i start i cant stop 😢

  • @Nina-md3tm
    @Nina-md3tm 9 місяців тому +47

    Haven't even finished watching but wanted to say thanks for sharing!

  • @jobuckley2999
    @jobuckley2999 9 місяців тому +40

    When you are young you never think about getting older. Your 40 and beyond years will thank you because you definitely need your best self as you age. Life actually gets harder as one moves through it.

    • @AnaWallaceJohnson
      @AnaWallaceJohnson  9 місяців тому +5

      Absolutely. My younger self couldn't fathom that those lines on my face would deepen or those hungover mornings I'd never get back

  • @ThePiemoney
    @ThePiemoney 6 місяців тому +19

    Fantastic video. I am currently fly starting my sober journey. Can’t wait to see how my life changes

  • @mickc2339
    @mickc2339 21 день тому +3

    I had one glass of wine on a Saturday night but gave that up because i was throwing the rest away, don’t miss it and feel better on a Sunday morning, good luck to anyone with an alcohol problem ❤

  • @briandougherty3819
    @briandougherty3819 Місяць тому +7

    You're so inspiring and awesome!!! I will have 2 years sober tomorrow (December 22nd)

  • @rushmetofood
    @rushmetofood 9 місяців тому +213

    majority of the time per my experience, people love exclaiming, without pause, "why not?" whenever you turn down a drink or tell them that you don't plan on having kids. Of course no one goes, "why though?" when people go for a second drink or a second child.

    • @AnaWallaceJohnson
      @AnaWallaceJohnson  9 місяців тому +37

      Agreed! Everything feels so norm! Le't make casual tea drinking a thing

    • @GraciebobbyD
      @GraciebobbyD 8 місяців тому +5

      Totally agree. Or ask them”why did you have children.”😊

    • @mudbrick6083
      @mudbrick6083 7 місяців тому +6

      Comparing gifts from God to getting drunk…..

    • @workouts_2024
      @workouts_2024 6 місяців тому +2

      Non drinkers don't mind drinkers but drinkers DO mind non drinkers. That's the number one disadvantage I can think of. I stopped 21 years ago. I never think about alcohol anymore. No cravings, nothing.

    • @j_shelby_damnwird
      @j_shelby_damnwird 4 місяці тому +2

      @@mudbrick6083Yeah that was a weird comparison

  • @KM_Ultra_
    @KM_Ultra_ 9 місяців тому +47

    I don't drink either, so I totally relate with your story. It's crazy that ppl seem more shocked to hear that someone _doesn't_ drink than that they do, especially since it's basically poison!
    P.S. We need a skincare/haircare video! You have this classic beauty & magnetic personality that I love! Wish we could be friends ✨️

    • @nothanks4469
      @nothanks4469 9 місяців тому +3

      I would love a haircare, skincare, and makeup video!

    • @AnaWallaceJohnson
      @AnaWallaceJohnson  9 місяців тому +2

      virtual friends, bby! I'll do updates on skincare and makeup for ya'll!

  • @gwenhughes8650
    @gwenhughes8650 9 місяців тому +19

    I haven't had a drink since September 30, 2023. I love it! It makes me feel more free and more in control. I always know what I've said and I don't burst into tears randomly (usually).

  • @tracyhall4243
    @tracyhall4243 8 місяців тому +13

    I have found this video really helpful and appreciate your honesty about your relationship with alcohol. I'm now 147 days sober and pretty much for all the reasons you have spoken of. I intend to carry on with my sobriety journey. Thank you x

  • @ProtomanZ
    @ProtomanZ 9 місяців тому +13

    Great point you made about addictions costing a lot of money. It's one of the most significant downsides and no one seems to realise how crippling that can be.

  • @marymcdermott9949
    @marymcdermott9949 9 місяців тому +48

    For me, I feel quitting has removed those bookends of the morning (hung over) and the evening time (drinking again). I’m freed from that and I love that freedom.

    • @ashleyalfonso
      @ashleyalfonso 9 місяців тому

      wow, I love this ❤

    • @AnaWallaceJohnson
      @AnaWallaceJohnson  9 місяців тому +4

      I love this as well. I do have a freedom from weight of it all. I don't feel hurt anymore

    • @cerra71
      @cerra71 9 місяців тому +3

      I always said it was a vicious cycle. Sick and tired Monday and Tuesday feel ok Wed only to start over Thursday. What a waste I was.

    • @arenikashkashian8296
      @arenikashkashian8296 Місяць тому

      The detox to retox cycle definitely was a strain on my life. I almost never drank on Sundays, but Thursdays, Fridays and Saturdays were a hot mess! 😮

  • @sarahrainey3779
    @sarahrainey3779 9 місяців тому +16

    thank you for sharing!! extremely relatable mentioning the "social lubricant" factor of alcohol, which is partially why it's so hard to stop.

    • @AnaWallaceJohnson
      @AnaWallaceJohnson  9 місяців тому +3

      Yep! Feels like if you're not doing it, you're not doing it right!

  • @Coral_likethereef
    @Coral_likethereef 7 місяців тому +15

    Mocktails! My husband and I don’t drink and we have made it sorta a challenge when we go out to the bartender for them to create a mocktail drink. We’ve had many delicious ones.

    • @MaffyTaffyHaffy
      @MaffyTaffyHaffy 26 днів тому

      Why? So you can drink a bunch of sugar?
      Why don’t feel the need to conform is a better thing to ask?

  • @brandoncrouse7410
    @brandoncrouse7410 Місяць тому +2

    Lived in NYC for two years. I actually had to move back to Philadelphia area. I was with the wrong crowd. Everyday I was hungover. It’s a shame because I loved being there. I just met all the wrong people. Sober now. Hope you’re well! It’s a tough journey. Just turned 33 and feel so much better without alcohol. Keep it up!

  • @breannagreen352
    @breannagreen352 3 місяці тому +3

    At 22, im one day sober - 2 years after the first time i came into the rooms or explored the possibility i had a problem, and your story is comfortingly similar. i think i got this! thank you for speaking on this.

  • @user-sf3ks1yl5b
    @user-sf3ks1yl5b 27 днів тому +4

    A tip for your motivation in the future; the hangovers will be way worse with age. I've been googling this a lot, and all people say the same; it's getting worse and worse and worse.

  • @Tania.atlasinajar
    @Tania.atlasinajar 9 місяців тому +35

    Hey Ana, been watching you for some time now and I am incredibly proud of you for sharing your journey of sobriety with such openness and *vulnerability* . Your courage in being transparent about your experiences not only reflects your strength but also serves as a *beacon of hope* and inspiration for others who may be on a similar path. Your *willingness* to share will undoubtedly have a profound impact on those around you, fostering a sense of community and understanding. Your *bravery* in confronting your challenges head-on is truly commendable, and I am genuinely touched by your willingness to help others through your story. *Keep shining your light* , for it illuminates the way for so many! I am sending you the biggest and warmest virtual hug ever. 🥰🤗

    • @AnaWallaceJohnson
      @AnaWallaceJohnson  9 місяців тому

      Oh my gosh. You made me tear up! Thank you so, so much for writing such kind words. I really feel the love and support from you and you make me days feel so full. You're wonderful, Tania. Thank you. BIG HUG!

  • @Kobyteef8
    @Kobyteef8 9 місяців тому +13

    Thank you for sharing 🙂 I haven’t officially said “no more drinking” yet, but I have significantly cut down. Your experience really speaks to me! I used to not be able to say no when someone offered a drink. I couldn’t stop drinking once I started. Nowadays, it is awkward sometimes to say “no” to that offered drink, but I always feel so satisfied and happy when I get home after a night out and know I will, fully aware and lucid, take a shower and get ready for bed with no fear of asking “what did I do last night” or having a hangover when I wake up 💜 Going home and taking care of myself after a night out since embracing a more sober lifestyle is now a very important and just-as-nice part of a night out as the actual night out part.

    • @AnaWallaceJohnson
      @AnaWallaceJohnson  9 місяців тому +2

      Absolutely agree with you. For me, that winding down after going out and not drinking and then waking up fresh is such a positive change!

  • @billdoty6438
    @billdoty6438 8 місяців тому +7

    You don’t look like a typical smoker, so glad you found the secret of not needing alcohol to survive or function. Thank you for your story. I haven’t drank since 2006, best decision I made as well. It’s really sad and even a bit frustrating that we live in such an alcohol soaked culture. Quitting saved my life and I just stay away from people who have to drink on every occasion. You have such an interesting personality, lucky husband

  • @r_r_r_r
    @r_r_r_r 9 місяців тому +7

    I went sober for three years and it was absolutely life changing, in similar ways you shared.

  • @Martapwlk
    @Martapwlk 9 місяців тому +15

    I'm an avid watcher, never a commenter but wanted to say thank you for sharing, it's not an easy one to share, but very inspirational ❤

    • @AnaWallaceJohnson
      @AnaWallaceJohnson  9 місяців тому +1

      Thank you so much for being here. And taking the time to say hello

    • @SuperBookdragon
      @SuperBookdragon 8 місяців тому

      I am one of those lucky people that can do one and done...when it comes to drinking . Cookies are another story, have to eat the whole box in one setting lol

  • @nissasbookcorner
    @nissasbookcorner 9 місяців тому +6

    thanks for sharing :) i love the book community bc like it’s another way to be social and share our hobbies that are outside drinking & partying etc. there needs to be more in person spaces for non-drinking centered activities!

    • @AnaWallaceJohnson
      @AnaWallaceJohnson  9 місяців тому +1

      100000% agree. apparently there's a couple of trends of hosting large book clubs in some cities and having tea, etc, etc, which I absolutely love

  • @shellsss44
    @shellsss44 7 місяців тому +3

    “Really really tired at the function” lol so true. I really resonate with everything you said! I also got sober in nyc. I love my life so much more now being sober and love everything you talked about here!

  • @fiddleleaffiction
    @fiddleleaffiction 9 місяців тому +26

    “It felt like I had treated myself and then I was cured.” This spoke to my soul. Thank you for making this video; I needed it so badly. I think I commented on a video of yours last summer saying I was 9 months sober and then guess what I did? Started up with the drinking again and have had nothing but negative outcomes since then. I think it’s time to get sober again. Appreciate your vulnerability so much.

    • @AnaWallaceJohnson
      @AnaWallaceJohnson  9 місяців тому +5

      Big hugs! Sobriety is a big change! It takes time. You got this! took me a looooong time to quit cigs. Quit for 4 months years before and then went right back, but now I'm free of it

    • @HotelSnob
      @HotelSnob 7 місяців тому +1

      So well said 👏🏽

  • @iamelizarosalind
    @iamelizarosalind 3 місяці тому +2

    I have recently committed to going sober, and I'm excited :) this has given me even more motivation :)

  • @zachariahswartz5970
    @zachariahswartz5970 8 місяців тому +17

    This one really resonated with me, I'm a runner as well but also an alcoholic. At my worst I was up to 15 beers a night for years on end.. But I ran at least 2 miles a day and never missed work so I would justify the drinking by running, I was running just so I could drink more. Idk why I wrote this in past tense cause I'm still living that way today tbh.

    • @chocofudge237
      @chocofudge237 7 місяців тому +1

      I also used working out and being responsible at work as and excuse to tell myself that I was still just fine. It worked, until my drinking got too bad and eventually it did impact my ability to go to work, be productive and work out. I got sober almost 11 months ago, and what you gain by dropping the alcohol is just everything. The ability to enjoy things for what they are, to do them because you want to. *If* your drinking consumes your days like it did mine, I hope you get the chance to leave it behind. All the best to you :)

    • @chocofudge237
      @chocofudge237 7 місяців тому

      @@zachariahswartz5970 I feel you. It scared me a lot, too. First thing I did was to get books and podcasts from sober people. "The unexpected joy of being sober" by Catherine Gray really gave me a lot of insight and perspective. That quitting alcohol is actually breaking free. That you can be kind to yourself by choosing sober again and again.
      The first few days and weeks are super hard. It helps to remind yourself that cravings pass after about twenty minutes. All you need to do is breathe and get through it, maybe listen to music or a podcast by someone sober, or take a walk (without your wallet!) or call someone close to you. Try to stay calm and be gentle to yourself. You deserve to be happy and be better. You can un-learn your drinking patterns. They are there and wired in your brain, but you can re-wire it over time.
      If you are too scared to seek rehab, maybe think about getting a specialized therapist. There are also lots of online communities to help you out, Catherine Gray lists many of those in her book.
      I think one of the biggest things is realizing you are not alone and there are many ways out. You can carve your own. I believe in you. Maybe you can get through the first day tomorrow.

    • @chocofudge237
      @chocofudge237 7 місяців тому

      @@zachariahswartz5970 I feel you. I was scared, too. The first days and weeks are the hardest. The first thing I did was reading books and listening to podcasts from sober people. It helped me cope and stay focused, and it gave me a lot of insight and perspective.
      I found it important not to overwhelm myself. If you put too much pressure on yourself ("I can never drink again, I have to do everything right now"), it stresses you out, and drinking is your coping mechanism when you're stressed. It's counterproductive. There's a reason why AA say "only for today". Sometimes, it's just about staying sober for the next ten minutes. If a craving comes, try to stay calm and do something to take your mind off it. Listen to some music, call a friend, take a walk (without your wallet!). Cravings pass after about 20 minutes (that was a relief for me to know).
      If the thought of rehab intimidates you, maybe you could try getting help from a specialized therapist. There are also many online sober communities where you can talk to other recovered/recovering people.
      I hope some of this helps you. Maybe you can get through your first day tomorrow.

    • @tiwiogunye
      @tiwiogunye 6 місяців тому +1

      That's wild. Please go to rehab.

    • @97f782
      @97f782 Місяць тому

      I can relate, I did that for years, I’m 42 days sober. I found once I entered my mid 30s my performance decreased and it helped me start my sober journey. I had many years of great and regrettable memories though. Enjoy your party years!

  • @zissizalana6850
    @zissizalana6850 9 місяців тому +13

    Me too! 2 years 4 months. Not easy at all. But yes pride in myself. Weight loss is another bonus (at least for me ).

    • @AnaWallaceJohnson
      @AnaWallaceJohnson  9 місяців тому +1

      Great job!! Weight definitely feels like it's stable without alcohol

  • @gonzoteacher
    @gonzoteacher 8 місяців тому +11

    18 months here. Relate to your comments about not wanting to go out late. I realized the key to sobriety was experiencing all the benefits. With more time, better health, more money, less agita, way more energy, what's not to like? No way I am ever going back. Life is exciting when there's personal growth. Drinking held me back. I got published for the first time and the biggest raise ever last year.

    • @shreyakilledar3663
      @shreyakilledar3663 7 місяців тому +1

      Congratulations on your achievement! That's amazing 👏

    • @gonzoteacher
      @gonzoteacher 7 місяців тому

      @@shreyakilledar3663 THANK YOU 🙂

    • @Keep-on-ok
      @Keep-on-ok 7 місяців тому

      Congrats! That is amazing!

  • @Sarah_Jean86
    @Sarah_Jean86 9 місяців тому +8

    Thank you for sharing such a vulnerable subject to us. It can possibly help others. Congrats on the sobriety.

  • @missdead1
    @missdead1 5 місяців тому +2

    Good job! Congrats on 2 years ❤ 8 months sober for me and my bf. Its been mostly amazing. Im bipolar and my mood swings had been ruining my life ever since I started drinking. Life is soo much easier now. I dont cry and get depressed and have to lay in bed the rest of the day if I slept bad. It's been life changing truly. Dont miss it one bit!

  • @TylerConnor-g2i
    @TylerConnor-g2i 2 місяці тому +8

    If you STOP you are powerful not POWERLESS!

  • @ms.tinygiant
    @ms.tinygiant Місяць тому +1

    You have the sober glow! Natural beauty ✨

  • @elwarofficial
    @elwarofficial 9 місяців тому +14

    2 years is awesome, respect to you

  • @alixhirschi6600
    @alixhirschi6600 6 місяців тому +2

    I have tried to go sober MANY times before this time when it actually stuck. And you’re right, when you no longer feel that you’re missing anything, you’re ready to move on. And it’s SO freeing! It definitely was a bigger negative in my life than a positive, but even then it was so hard to let go. It’s like a break up haha. But I’ve found solitude in myself along this journey and it’s an amazing feeling. Thank you for making this video!

  • @GLADYOUREHERETP
    @GLADYOUREHERETP 6 місяців тому +2

    Love the honesty! It’s hard to be vulnerable about such intimate things.

  • @jsorge1
    @jsorge1 5 місяців тому +1

    I am so happy for you!!!! I can tell you from personal experience that it gets even better over time. I’m 27 years sober and still feel so grateful each and every day!!!!! Don’t miss it one bit! Have fun on the journey!

  • @CheffScott
    @CheffScott 9 місяців тому +3

    Congratulations on making such a significant change in your life! It takes a lot of courage and determination to quit drinking, especially in a city like New York where the social scene often revolves around it. It's inspiring to hear about your journey and the positive impact it's had on your health and well-being. Keep embracing your new lifestyle and staying true to yourself!

    • @AnaWallaceJohnson
      @AnaWallaceJohnson  9 місяців тому +1

      Thank you so much. I can honestly say the payoff from quitting drinking far outweighs the idea of drinking again!

  • @LONEWOLF..314-S-T-L
    @LONEWOLF..314-S-T-L 5 місяців тому +7

    7 YEARS SOBER NOW MYSELF ... SALUTE 🫡 👍🏾💯

  • @Thisiswhyparamoreparamour
    @Thisiswhyparamoreparamour 9 місяців тому +4

    Hi there Ana,
    I'm a super fan of your videos. You're top 10 in my list of favorite youtubers 😅 This video was absolutely inspirational, I've been sober off opiates i.e: Heroin, Pain pills, Fentanyl, etc. for 13 months now. And its not easy. Its really so cool seeing someone I look up to like you speaking in pure honesty about being an imperfect person and having problems. I love the transparency. Even the duality of being sober vs not at events like wedding parties or wherever. The struggle is real. Thank you for the vulnerability. Stay Lovely as always.

    • @AnaWallaceJohnson
      @AnaWallaceJohnson  9 місяців тому

      Wow, Brandon. That is so inspiring to hear your story. Crossing that 13 month line is so amazing and you should be proud of your progress!! That is truly inspirational!!! It can be so hard in day to day life to see other people living the "normal" lifestyle of drinking and partying, but in reality, the normal we should seek is healthiness and happiness. You're doing it! Proud of you!

  • @llgee1380
    @llgee1380 Місяць тому +1

    It was not boring and thank mucho for sharing the honest personal experience . Much appreciated!

  • @MichaelSalo
    @MichaelSalo 6 місяців тому +2

    I find this an accurate and balanced perspective. The health effects of going sober are outstanding. The social effects can be awkward and isolating from others. I feel we need more options for socializing without alcohol.

  • @ffiontill5924
    @ffiontill5924 9 місяців тому +5

    I don’t really like drinking. I feel awful the next day but I feel like that’s typically what my friends enjoy doing, they never pressure me to drink per say but I feel judged (guess it’s a me problem) but also meeting new people whilst out I feel like that’s typically how people meet new people and they tend to back off if I say I’m not drinking. All this to say, you’ve given me courage to be more comfortable with my resistance to drinking. Thank you for sharing 💗

    • @AnaWallaceJohnson
      @AnaWallaceJohnson  9 місяців тому +1

      I totally run into those issues. It is so accepted! But you've got this. We can make our own fun :))))

  • @BreakingChainsTSM
    @BreakingChainsTSM 6 місяців тому +8

    Good stuff! I’m almost 6 months sober after 40 years of chaos and heavy drinking. Keep up the great content!

  • @kurtpleavin
    @kurtpleavin Місяць тому +1

    One thing I noticed when taking breaks is the difference in response when you say "I'm not drinking for a while/X weeks/months" as opposed I don't drink.
    It's almost like people understand and support the break as opposed to simply not doing it.

  • @Etherchannel
    @Etherchannel 9 місяців тому +3

    This is a great video that really resonates with me. When I get out of the military I started to develop a drinking problem. What is crazy is it's something that didn't happen all of a sudden. It was a slow gradual process over many months of only having a couple of drinks on the weekend to having 3 -4 drinks every day.

    • @AnaWallaceJohnson
      @AnaWallaceJohnson  9 місяців тому

      Thank you for sharing. Yeah, it's such a gradual buildup and then all of a sudden, it's an everyday necessity.

  • @mitchely6942
    @mitchely6942 23 дні тому

    First time on your channel. So nice of you to share yourself and your personality. I'm hooked. I'm subscribed. Thank you!

  • @eddiec3541
    @eddiec3541 7 місяців тому +1

    God bless you! I totally admire people that have gone sober. It’s something that has become challenging for me and I hope to get there soon!

  • @LunaticAstrology
    @LunaticAstrology 7 місяців тому +2

    I adore you!!! Sending to my daughter in her 20s. She will love this. I loved this and am 62. Looking at an alcohol free lifestyle for better health etc. such a great entertaining candid video. Ps. Lived in Manhattan 1987 to 1991. Was same party 🎉 place then.

  • @jwcautomotiveservice5861
    @jwcautomotiveservice5861 8 місяців тому +1

    Thanks for sharing your journey. I really could relate to all you said. I’ve quit before for 3 years & went back to drinking another 5. Nothing good came out of it. I thought I could be more responsible and in the beginning I was but as time went on I totally disregarded everything I learned about how good my life became when I was sober. Now I’m over a year sober and I’m happy I am. I just came to the realization that I don’t care if people don’t care what people think when I don’t drink. They are not me and I can look in the mirror in the morning and truly be honest and proud of what I see. I just know social drinking is not in me so I choose to stay sober & I feel great. There’s a lot more in life to enjoy without drinking for me. Thanks again for your sharing 😊

  • @lynnepaquette4124
    @lynnepaquette4124 7 місяців тому +4

    That's awesome. That's really impressive. Drinking has destroyed my health and my relationships yet I keep making the same mistakes. I'm desperate to stop. I tried AA and therapy. I really believe in AA so I wondered why I failed. I'm considering going back in therapy. I'm recovering from a nasty hangover and my kidneys really hurt. I hope to be where you are. I hope I'm not discouraging people here. It's not hopeless.

    • @stephenr6913
      @stephenr6913 7 місяців тому

      As long as you keep getting up after your fall, you're never defeated.

    • @w.adammandelbaum1805
      @w.adammandelbaum1805 5 місяців тому +1

      AA does not have a good long term record. Try hypnosis. Try professional help instead of hanging out with complaining coffee swilling amateurs. Try ashwagandha when you first quit...subject to your doctor's advice FIRST. (Certain conditions and medications can make that herb a no-no).You use will power, you won't win. You have to kill the desire, then you're not fighting anything. I did it with hypnosis, give it a try. Best of luck... you are solid, booze is only a liquid.

  • @goorgev
    @goorgev 21 день тому

    I so agree, drinking, smoking exacerbates many things, my sensitivity needs to be well taken care of , and I find that quitting smoking helped me sing better and that is better and more in harmony which is all ❤

  • @michaelwebber5345
    @michaelwebber5345 4 місяці тому +2

    Thank you, that was really informative, and you are a captivating speaker. I could listen to you talk about cornflakes for four hours and still love it! Adorable.

  • @nicolemathis6155
    @nicolemathis6155 8 місяців тому +1

    You are hilarious. Great video and I appreciate your honesty. I’ve renegotiated my relationship with substances and I love being sober. I feel like myself times 10 bc I’ve got no guilt now and no hangovers plus my time, skin, control, and skin back!

  • @matthewpocock4824
    @matthewpocock4824 28 днів тому

    Thanks for sharing this. It's quite a bit of personal disclosure. These videos are great motivation for people who want to change their relationship with alcohol.

  • @robotnic
    @robotnic 8 місяців тому +2

    I have no idea when I last had a drink. My partner stopped in 2020 & I never would’ve stopped if they hadn’t. When they stopped I wound down. The thing I find is that the more time passes, the easier it gets. Deciding not to drink while I drank was such a mental wrestling match with myself. I think the benefits pile up the more time passes. Good for you and I hope this helps people!

  • @kelcav4024
    @kelcav4024 8 місяців тому +1

    Thank you for sharing your story. My story is very similar to yours. My drinking got bad during COVID and it became a habit. I tried many times to quit with no success, also thinking that if I just “took a pause” I’d be okay. I haven’t had a drink for 2 months now and have no plans to ever drink again. I was definitely a victim of the wine culture that so many of us have accepted as part of our society now.

  • @goorgev
    @goorgev 21 день тому

    12:30 IS A GREAT POINT! have had some issues with people feeling embarrassed by me taking pictures of them drunk, yet as I am not commonly drinking wouldn’t even think of this as a problem.

  • @live.laugh.love7777
    @live.laugh.love7777 6 місяців тому

    you are such an inspiration for me. i am one month sober and i can relate to a lot of the things you talked about, including wanting to stop drinking because there are people who are close to me who suffer from addiction. i love you and thank you soooo much for posting this video because you are helping people like me realize why we don’t need this garbage in our lives, thank you ❤

  • @HellComestoPlayBloodyBenders
    @HellComestoPlayBloodyBenders 5 місяців тому

    This is a downward spiral that many fight with. It seems like it is so easy to fall back into the "old habits" Congrats on escaping this spiral!

  • @Thedesertguy75
    @Thedesertguy75 2 дні тому

    Man where to begin, i partied with the best of them.....from Vegas, to texas, to Florida, to san diego, to France, to Saudi Arabia, to Utah, to Colorado, to Spain, to Switzerland.....and thats just a part of it......30 years of drinking, traveling,.and living like every day was my last.
    I finally stopped at 49.....now im looking back at the 3 decade tornado.... WOW.....i should be dead.
    Congratulations 🎉🎉🎉🎉

  • @marknakayama1029
    @marknakayama1029 12 днів тому

    Thanks for this video, I've recently decided to quit drinking as well. It's been two months and I noticed considerable change within me and my external relationships, both (mostly) good and (some) bad. I will say that as the days have gone by and I began to self reflect on the poor decision making that I've had in the past, a large part of it was influenced by alcohol. Of course, in the end, ultimately it was my decision to indulge in it and I take full responsibility for every sip that I've ever had. What I discovered was this energy, positivity, focus, and motivation that I never knew I had, or at least had some much of. I don't think I could ever go back to it, I don't want to because how incredibly good I feel. Your video really did explain pretty fully what I am currently going through.

  • @jjms79
    @jjms79 Місяць тому

    I love hearing about your experiences, as they are similar to mine. I quit smoking at age 21 (when you could still smoke in the bars) and I quit drinking alcohol a year ago at age 44 (after almost 30 years of use). I have never felt more youthful, energized, and self-confident. One struggle I've had is processing all of the emotions that I buried during my years of use - it's been a difficult process, but I know it's positive growth.

  • @michellec7677
    @michellec7677 9 місяців тому +3

    Thank you, your follow-up video is fantastic! You are truly inspiring. I recently completed a dry March and it felt amazing. Although I've resumed drinking now, maybe I'll set my sights on achieving three months like you did. I can relate to so many of the things you said. ♥

    • @AnaWallaceJohnson
      @AnaWallaceJohnson  9 місяців тому

      wooo! Do what feels best for you! Sometimes a nice recharge is all you need if you've got it under control

  • @Yoeri22
    @Yoeri22 9 місяців тому +3

    Being happy with yourself is the most important thing ❤
    I too don't drink, for a little different reason namely because i don't like the taste. But i really relate to the social aspect and expectations part. People expect you to drink and when i say no thanks they'll try to spur me on, say I'm boring and such. My good friends don't do that, but me and my friends are in our early 20s and it's very much the case that *the* thing to socialize is to go out and drink

    • @AnaWallaceJohnson
      @AnaWallaceJohnson  9 місяців тому

      oh yes! early 20's you feel impervious. Was just having this conversation with a friend last night. Definitely have fun, but be safe and mindful of when it's too much!

  • @ydorri2460
    @ydorri2460 21 день тому

    I'm on week 2 and feeling very excited to be able to live life hangover free! X

  • @KatiaKatsnelson
    @KatiaKatsnelson 9 місяців тому +4

    Fabulous and unexpected. Thank you so much for sharing. Would love to hear one on smoking.

  • @haleyhart9373
    @haleyhart9373 5 місяців тому

    This is beautiful and I’m so proud of you and your story. I remember in another video you said you didn’t end up finishing Infinite Jest because it got damaged in a flood, though you were enjoying it other than the endnotes. But I really hope you come back to it because of how much it means to former addicts and people in recovery.

  • @denisepaulsenful
    @denisepaulsenful 2 місяці тому +1

    Great story. Our son never made it through his addiction. He passed 4-months ago. Karsten was 27. 😢

  • @drawrobot
    @drawrobot 4 місяці тому

    I’m so proud of you for quitting drinking and smoking. Those are hard ones.

  • @ShadyPlatinum777
    @ShadyPlatinum777 7 місяців тому

    I’m five years clean myself. It’s great to hear your story. Stay strong 💪

  • @thevibrantvixen
    @thevibrantvixen 9 місяців тому +1

    Ana, I am so proud of you. Truly. Life is so much better when you are not poisoning yourself. That it was it was to me. I have not drank for so, so long. Do I miss that ‘other me?’ No, never. I honestly think if I tried, it would kill me - but the way I drank …. Wasn’t good. Oh girl! You keep creating a better and better YOU! All else will follow. Big hug. I am so happy you don’t drink. ❤ And yes, I bet this video will change a life or two.🙏

    • @thevibrantvixen
      @thevibrantvixen 9 місяців тому

      *iS what it was to me … man, one little letter can really botch a sentence!

  • @ronaldbyamukama7218
    @ronaldbyamukama7218 6 місяців тому +1

    Began my journey of sobriety, and the feeling is great.

  • @dionchadfield
    @dionchadfield 8 місяців тому

    Thanks , it’s nice to know we are not alone with our battle with Alcohole , videos like this are great motivation to give up the booze and have a better life . I’ve tried AA and counseling and just keep on harming myself but keep on trying to quit , inspirational videos like this really help , much appreciated . With kind regards , Dion .

  • @ashleybarea4046
    @ashleybarea4046 Місяць тому

    Thank you so much for this video. I find that issues with drinking aren’t taken as seriously when it comes to younger girlies, I’m 28 and currently 5 weeks sober and 9 months nicotine free and the amount of times I’ve been asked if I’m pregnant OR that I’m being dramatic and that I’m just “fun” and shouldn’t stop drinking sucks :(. your video made me feel very seen!

    • @ashleybarea4046
      @ashleybarea4046 Місяць тому

      Also your hair is incredible! How did you curl it?

  • @Barkeroni
    @Barkeroni 9 місяців тому +5

    3 weeks in...knowing i will never have a hangover or do or say something dumb has reduced my anxiety

  • @lemmegetone
    @lemmegetone 9 місяців тому +2

    Thanks for the simple take on drinking. It will go out of “fashion” eventually, you’re just earlier to drop it than the lot

  • @treya7165
    @treya7165 9 місяців тому +1

    Ana. I love the books you read, I really do. I haven't watched your video yet, but I think it's going to mean so much to me (I'm on holiday and will watch it as soon as I get home), but I have been STRUGGLING with alcohol for over four years now. I think this is really going to help me. You've been a role model for me wrt so many things, and I think this will too.

    • @AnaWallaceJohnson
      @AnaWallaceJohnson  9 місяців тому

      I hope this helps just a bit to let you know you're not alone! The struggle really is real, but don't let it define you! You're so much more than that

  • @maxwillson
    @maxwillson 3 місяці тому +1

    I'm going into my 3rd month sober and I'm tired at 10pm no matter what. I was the same way, beer gave me an extra boost, that shit would keep me awake all night. I can't do it anymore being sober. I start falling asleep around 9pm to 10pm.

  • @jaimepardo
    @jaimepardo 9 місяців тому +1

    Great video! Just like you drinking would get me wired & energised...but long story short eventually it stopped being fun & I quit 4 years ago. Best decision I’ve made. I still go out to bars & see friends but I head home when I get naturally tired...which is the same time that the quality of the conversations start to fall off a cliff with the people that have been drinking. I head home & leave them to it. I now wonder why I ever drank. But no regrets, it was fun until it wasn’t 🤷🏻‍♂️

  • @deblawrence8341
    @deblawrence8341 9 місяців тому +1

    I'm so proud of you! We all have something to overcome / deal with - mine happens to be with sugar / chocolate which I have not yet conquered, but it's not easy and I'm always so happy to hear when someone has come out victorious on the other side! At the same time, I totally get where you're come from now that you're not drinking. I've never liked alcohol and have had to explain myself to others my whole life. You have no idea how many drinks have been purchased for me, trying to get me to drink and like alcohol! Ironically, I love chocolate milkshakes and yet, no one has ever offered to buy me one of those. 🥤😋

    • @AnaWallaceJohnson
      @AnaWallaceJohnson  9 місяців тому +1

      hahaha where are the people who offer up milkshakes?!?!?! We need more of those in our life! BUT, I understand the sugar craving. It's so hard. I sometimes break out in small hives if I eat too much sugar, so that helps steer clear

  • @amandaclark2340
    @amandaclark2340 5 місяців тому

    Thank u from me, for being a positive influence in this matter 💛💫💚

  • @liZBBM
    @liZBBM 8 місяців тому +9

    I would love to stop. I don't over drink but can't just have one. Have to keep going.
    I suffer serious sleep regressing each time I stop. I get into awful states of anxiety at night and then can't sleep. But when I do drink I wake up angry even if its just one beer the night before.
    My husband is a functional alcoholic and he finds it sad each time I quit

    • @fidjicz
      @fidjicz 8 місяців тому +1

      Encourage him to start exploring his own existence with booze.

    • @w.adammandelbaum1805
      @w.adammandelbaum1805 5 місяців тому +1

      Ashwagandha

  • @johnroarty9362
    @johnroarty9362 4 місяці тому

    Thanks for sharing your experience. So grateful for the courage youre putting out there. Its healing energy. Peace and much sucess to you.