I've ended this zamana of jahaliyat with me( chasing girls and having affairs) by understanding these lines of hassan nisar "Haram janwar ka ghost qeemay wali machine mei dalne se Halal qeema nahi nikleyga" jab affairs rkh ker kharab result hi niklne hain to ap ko ye kaam nahi kerna chahiye.Same goes with Mastubration my semen is my energy i should use my energy for better purpose instead of wasting and feeling guilty.Divert your mind and choose your purpose use your energy on that purpose.Ajkal ki duniya mei insan ka maqsad he usko zinda rkhta hai.
It's very important to do so..and young men must get their focus on most important things..sex has a role to play in our lives and sexual needs must be addressed as much as they are needed and not more. In todays society sexual need is given far greater importance than what needs to be .
Its because nobody calls them out on it... Not even some mothers. Just disgusting. There is no excuse, there are always other options. You always have choices which is up to you to choose what is best for everyone involved. Don't be selfish... If you want to save your marriage, having affair is not the answer. Having an affair is an escapism, face your issues... Whatever you are looking for in others, find it in yourself.
Ma'am please allow people to post about their problems anonymously so that they can find ease in this life through your knowledge and guidance,Thank you!
Ager shadi ke baad bhi murd orr urton ke sath rang ralyan manata he orr bivi ko khaber nahi hone deta bivi intahai atbaar kerti he,lekin ager 55saal mae pata lagta he ke wo to be wafa tha how to handle.
Amazing analysis!!! Ur right. I am in my mid 50s, through Facebook , 6 to 7 of my childhood male friends contacted me saying I was their crush while growing up and offered to have an affair 😥😥
My opinion: "Habits" play huge part as well. Since some decades, in our Pakistani Society the intermingling of opposite genders have been accepted. They say "Its Okay! Dost hi to hay". Well, Mohabbat ka doosra naam Dosti hay :)) People have habits of talking their intimate issues with friends of opposite gender. Maybe, Taqwa will help! Ub jazba to bharak gaya, control shayad TAQWA say aaye? Oh no sorry, instead of the word "control" I should use the word "Deal". So yea, I think they can deal with their bharkay hoay juzbaat with Taqwa!
@@easylifeasanzindagi47 I remember a pair of girl and boy, in my university. They used to sit together SO intimately close.....I dont have words...I thought they MUST be husband and wife. I never asked them though. Later after some years when I got married, I met this girl online and she said that she is married to this guy who lives in USA and she is miserable with him. And I KNOW that this guy is NOT that boy in our class. So now I wonder....ub wo kaheen is ko dobara mil jaaye, to kya honay wala hay? Sochain. Again I will say aadatain should be changed. Ijaazat mili thee jub hi to itnay qareeb aye.
@@sarwatsheikh8278 yes the problem is dear we are normalizing these things. Like larka or larki ki dosti is ok. Just by saying they are just friends. How could they be just friends.
Madam bohat c kamiyon k bawjood people dont cheat. True that jo log spiritually connected hain they know no cheating can fill their emptiness. Marriage counseling is must before marriage. Must teach our kids. I get ur meaning of love
Eram api ma sha Allah. You are amazing. I love listening to you. But l hv one request. When you are talking in urdu. It would b really nice if you keep talking in Urdu. I live in USA. And l understand. You are not doing it purposely or to show off. And its ok to talk in English. But l think it ll b easier for majority of Pakistani women to understand if you focus on urdu. But at the same time english podcast will also b beneficial for ladies living abroad. If you can do English podcasts separately. This is just my suggestion. If you dnt like. Completely ignore it. And keep on doing the grea work. 😊
I'm a bacha in my late thirties contemplating marriage but the thought in itself seems challenging. I am also a very spiritual person. Will marriage fulfill me sexually or will it burden?
Deen sey doorie nahi bulkey it's not the basic understanding of the deen . If no understanding of deen then it's doorie from deen though your atire is full on Islamic like full on veil or beard etc Aslamoalykum wa rahmat Allahi
hi medam i see your video about feminism it is true and you say and prove truly with quran it is fully true but in other video about pardah without with by only asking it is your matter with allah that you are wrong please read in quran about pardah why you ask that it matter with allah that allah says in quran about parah if anyone do wrong path we cannot questions or action with because his matter with allah when allah says in quran stop the wrong or evil works
Aurtain jawab den zara. Agar biwi beemar ho aur shoher ki jinsi zarurat poori na kar sakay. Khandan doosri shadi kerne nahi deta. bacho ki khatir divorce nahi de sakta insan. To shohar kya karay ga? Affair nahi karega to zehni mareez ho jayga. Karobar disturb jo jayga. Bas baychara kisi gharib aurat ko dhond ker, uska kharcha utha ker us se zarurat poori ker leta hai. Ye hai affair ki hakeekat. Ap aurten batayeh k agar aisa mard affair na kare to kya kare?
Will be looking forward to your course on pre and post marriage counselling. It's an absolute must in our community and religion.
Yes i agree.
I've ended this zamana of jahaliyat with me( chasing girls and having affairs) by understanding these lines of hassan nisar "Haram janwar ka ghost qeemay wali machine mei dalne se Halal qeema nahi nikleyga" jab affairs rkh ker kharab result hi niklne hain to ap ko ye kaam nahi kerna chahiye.Same goes with Mastubration my semen is my energy i should use my energy for better purpose instead of wasting and feeling guilty.Divert your mind and choose your purpose use your energy on that purpose.Ajkal ki duniya mei insan ka maqsad he usko zinda rkhta hai.
It's very important to do so..and young men must get their focus on most important things..sex has a role to play in our lives and sexual needs must be addressed as much as they are needed and not more. In todays society sexual need is given far greater importance than what needs to be
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God bless you Iram. You gained such a valuable knowledge and now sharing it to benefit others.
Its because nobody calls them out on it... Not even some mothers. Just disgusting. There is no excuse, there are always other options. You always have choices which is up to you to choose what is best for everyone involved. Don't be selfish... If you want to save your marriage, having affair is not the answer. Having an affair is an escapism, face your issues... Whatever you are looking for in others, find it in yourself.
Ma'am please allow people to post about their problems anonymously so that they can find ease in this life through your knowledge and guidance,Thank you!
Amazing as usual... but I have a question, how can I contact you privately?
Ager shadi ke baad bhi murd orr urton ke sath rang ralyan manata he orr bivi ko khaber nahi hone deta bivi intahai atbaar kerti he,lekin ager 55saal mae pata lagta he ke wo to be wafa tha how to handle.
I love you very much to make life strong.
What an excellent video of wisdom on affairs ..temptations ... ..superb
Amazing analysis!!! Ur right. I am in my mid 50s, through Facebook , 6 to 7 of my childhood male friends contacted me saying I was their crush while growing up and offered to have an affair 😥😥
Yunhi to koi free nahi ho jata. Kuch to lift karvai hogi apne. Burhapay main jawani. Hahaha
Excellent video !!
My opinion: "Habits" play huge part as well. Since some decades, in our Pakistani Society the intermingling of opposite genders have been accepted. They say "Its Okay! Dost hi to hay". Well, Mohabbat ka doosra naam Dosti hay :)) People have habits of talking their intimate issues with friends of opposite gender. Maybe, Taqwa will help! Ub jazba to bharak gaya, control shayad TAQWA say aaye? Oh no sorry, instead of the word "control" I should use the word "Deal". So yea, I think they can deal with their bharkay hoay juzbaat with Taqwa!
You are right. We are getting so used to these things that taqwa can save us.
You are right. Taqwa is what is missing
@@easylifeasanzindagi47 I remember a pair of girl and boy, in my university. They used to sit together SO intimately close.....I dont have words...I thought they MUST be husband and wife. I never asked them though. Later after some years when I got married, I met this girl online and she said that she is married to this guy who lives in USA and she is miserable with him. And I KNOW that this guy is NOT that boy in our class. So now I wonder....ub wo kaheen is ko dobara mil jaaye, to kya honay wala hay? Sochain. Again I will say aadatain should be changed. Ijaazat mili thee jub hi to itnay qareeb aye.
@@shireensaira2395 Yes!
@@sarwatsheikh8278 yes the problem is dear we are normalizing these things. Like larka or larki ki dosti is ok. Just by saying they are just friends. How could they be just friends.
Madam bohat c kamiyon k bawjood people dont cheat. True that jo log spiritually connected hain they know no cheating can fill their emptiness. Marriage counseling is must before marriage. Must teach our kids. I get ur meaning of love
How are you say you islamically devout and having affair, two are not compatible, fear of Allah does not allow this behaviour
Eram api ma sha Allah. You are amazing. I love listening to you. But l hv one request. When you are talking in urdu. It would b really nice if you keep talking in Urdu. I live in USA. And l understand. You are not doing it purposely or to show off. And its ok to talk in English. But l think it ll b easier for majority of Pakistani women to understand if you focus on urdu. But at the same time english podcast will also b beneficial for ladies living abroad. If you can do English podcasts separately. This is just my suggestion. If you dnt like. Completely ignore it. And keep on doing the grea work. 😊
bhot achi batain karti han pleas Urdu Bola kahain ma umar ki ma'am hon
Awesome👏👍
I'm a bacha in my late thirties contemplating marriage but the thought in itself seems challenging. I am also a very spiritual person. Will marriage fulfill me sexually or will it burden?
I want to take erum Saeed how can I talk
Absolutely agree
Deen sey doorie nahi bulkey it's not the basic understanding of the deen .
If no understanding of deen then it's doorie from deen though your atire is full on Islamic like full on veil or beard etc
Aslamoalykum wa rahmat Allahi
So true
Assalamualaikum
they have a lot of time , they need a hobby start reading books and helping people around u don g small things
hi medam i see your video about feminism it is true and you say and prove truly with quran it is fully true but in other video about pardah without with by only asking it is your matter with allah that you are wrong please read in quran about pardah why you ask that it matter with allah that allah says in quran about parah if anyone do wrong path we cannot questions or action with because his matter with allah when allah says in quran stop the wrong or evil works
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She looks a like pakistani singer moni begum
Aurtain jawab den zara.
Agar biwi beemar ho aur shoher ki jinsi zarurat poori na kar sakay. Khandan doosri shadi kerne nahi deta. bacho ki khatir divorce nahi de sakta insan. To shohar kya karay ga? Affair nahi karega to zehni mareez ho jayga. Karobar disturb jo jayga.
Bas baychara kisi gharib aurat ko dhond ker, uska kharcha utha ker us se zarurat poori ker leta hai. Ye hai affair ki hakeekat. Ap aurten batayeh k agar aisa mard affair na kare to kya kare?
Aur agr eik aurat apny shohar ko pehly 4e saal 24-7 available ho shohar k liye Phir bhi Wo isko dhoka d to aurat zehni mareez nae hojayegi ???????
@Anum Khan great answer
In kameenay mardo ko sirf apni paree hoti hai. Khud zo marzipan may aye karay khair hai.
ur eyebrows are uneven
Honestly, shut up!
baji g, life is good in it after all