I'm on the spectrum and over prepared and studied for child birth as well. I chose to get induced and get epidurals with all 4 of mine. I'm not messing around with any pain. I got to take naps and chill. You were very brave attempting to go without it.
So glad I was induced both times lol.... no questioning when to leave. I planned for epidural both times for my sanity... why suffer when science can help? Was my birth moto. My first born had the heart rate issues too... I relate to your story. I cut the cord for my second born. My husband did it for the first. :)
Thanks for being here. I used to have a now deleted channel documenting my adult autism diagnosis journey. I had a baby 4 months ago. I considered coming back to share my experiences because yes we need to support each other. When I found out I had an unplanned pregnancy I could not find anything on pregnancy from an autist. I had prodromal labor from valentine's day night untill giving birth on feb 18 2021. In the middle of the snow storm of the century! We had our birth plan written out in a plastic schook report thingy along w our choice of male/female names clearly spelled out. I knew I wouldn't be able to talk and luckily the nurses and OB respected everything I had on there. I got to have the lights out except for a small little desk lamp until the baby actually came out, then the big lights came on.
Congratulations momma! I appreciate that, I also found a missing gap on UA-cam of fellow autistic moms sharing their labor and delivery story. It’s always wonderful to hear more voices.
@@kaylaprinsloo-steiner9437 looking forward to hearing more from you. Perhaps I'll still put my story out there. I went from not thinking we did not want/couldn't handle having a kid to now not wanting to imagine life without her!
@@autismenlightenment I 💯 believe in the value of telling our stories, so if you have the energy and time, I think it would be wonderful to hear your experiences. Sensory issues as a momma are no joke, but I also cannot imagine my life without my daughter. Despite the challenges. I’ve been thinking about doing more autistic mom content but we will see ❤️
I had a baby just before the WHO declared it a pandemic. I definitely agree with the advice of handing in a printed birth plan early. I did so a month and a half or so before I was due. I didn't have a back and forth to and from the hospital because I had a last minute induction because of a pregnancy condition diagnosed the day before my due date. I am thankful I didn't have to have pitocin because I was already dilated enough for the induction to be done by manually breaking my water. The epidural kept me from grasping the fact that my delivery was kind of on the dangerous side for me until after. I ended up with a 3rd degree tear and almost needed a transfusion, but when the nurse asked for someone to bring her olive oil to ease the situation with lubrication, I asked if the olive oil was extra virgin. And then I got so frustrated that she didn't laugh at my amazing joke that I went on to explain it between contractions before giving up entirely on her sense of humor.
Thank you for sharing. I am 85% sure I have autism and don't think I can go through 9 months of pregnancy and especially the labor/delivery due to all the sensory stuff, changes, uncontrollable things, the lack of sleep, exhaustion, pain, and then boom... having to manage a new born when you're actually trying to rest and heal from a major physical event. I am very sensitive to loud and sharp noises and a newborn cry is something that would make me want to stab myself. I would definitely get postpartum depression. I just don't know how people do it. Extremely disappointing because I always though I would have kids. lol I love how you talk about all the pain and intense otherworldly experience of it but then are able to say how magical it was. Kudos.
That’s so tough, and honestly if I knew about my diagnoses before I had her, things might be different, so I totally understand. All I can say is that you come first. Of you do choose to have kids eventually get all the help you can! Like save up maybe for a night nurse for the first couple weeks. Get a dula! Prepare, Prepare, prepare. It’ll still be a lot though, not gonna lie.
Cuteness overloaded .
I'm on the spectrum and over prepared and studied for child birth as well. I chose to get induced and get epidurals with all 4 of mine. I'm not messing around with any pain. I got to take naps and chill. You were very brave attempting to go without it.
So glad I was induced both times lol.... no questioning when to leave. I planned for epidural both times for my sanity... why suffer when science can help? Was my birth moto. My first born had the heart rate issues too... I relate to your story. I cut the cord for my second born. My husband did it for the first. :)
Thanks for being here. I used to have a now deleted channel documenting my adult autism diagnosis journey.
I had a baby 4 months ago.
I considered coming back to share my experiences because yes we need to support each other.
When I found out I had an unplanned pregnancy I could not find anything on pregnancy from an autist.
I had prodromal labor from valentine's day night untill giving birth on feb 18 2021. In the middle of the snow storm of the century!
We had our birth plan written out in a plastic schook report thingy along w our choice of male/female names clearly spelled out.
I knew I wouldn't be able to talk and luckily the nurses and OB respected everything I had on there. I got to have the lights out except for a small little desk lamp until the baby actually came out, then the big lights came on.
Congratulations momma! I appreciate that, I also found a missing gap on UA-cam of fellow autistic moms sharing their labor and delivery story. It’s always wonderful to hear more voices.
@@kaylaprinsloo-steiner9437 looking forward to hearing more from you. Perhaps I'll still put my story out there. I went from not thinking we did not want/couldn't handle having a kid to now not wanting to imagine life without her!
@@autismenlightenment I 💯 believe in the value of telling our stories, so if you have the energy and time, I think it would be wonderful to hear your experiences. Sensory issues as a momma are no joke, but I also cannot imagine my life without my daughter. Despite the challenges. I’ve been thinking about doing more autistic mom content but we will see ❤️
@@kaylaprinsloo-steiner9437 thank you for the encouragement!
Pretty badass.
I had a baby just before the WHO declared it a pandemic. I definitely agree with the advice of handing in a printed birth plan early. I did so a month and a half or so before I was due. I didn't have a back and forth to and from the hospital because I had a last minute induction because of a pregnancy condition diagnosed the day before my due date. I am thankful I didn't have to have pitocin because I was already dilated enough for the induction to be done by manually breaking my water. The epidural kept me from grasping the fact that my delivery was kind of on the dangerous side for me until after. I ended up with a 3rd degree tear and almost needed a transfusion, but when the nurse asked for someone to bring her olive oil to ease the situation with lubrication, I asked if the olive oil was extra virgin. And then I got so frustrated that she didn't laugh at my amazing joke that I went on to explain it between contractions before giving up entirely on her sense of humor.
Thank you for sharing. I am 85% sure I have autism and don't think I can go through 9 months of pregnancy and especially the labor/delivery due to all the sensory stuff, changes, uncontrollable things, the lack of sleep, exhaustion, pain, and then boom... having to manage a new born when you're actually trying to rest and heal from a major physical event. I am very sensitive to loud and sharp noises and a newborn cry is something that would make me want to stab myself. I would definitely get postpartum depression. I just don't know how people do it. Extremely disappointing because I always though I would have kids.
lol I love how you talk about all the pain and intense otherworldly experience of it but then are able to say how magical it was. Kudos.
That’s so tough, and honestly if I knew about my diagnoses before I had her, things might be different, so I totally understand.
All I can say is that you come first. Of you do choose to have kids eventually get all the help you can! Like save up maybe for a night nurse for the first couple weeks. Get a dula! Prepare,
Prepare, prepare. It’ll still be a lot though, not gonna lie.