My parents were amazing, loving and supportive. I still went off the deep end...had a ball and everything ended up okay. Good parenting only let me ground yourself after the fact lol
Supportive. I truly believe I wouldn't be where I am if it wasnt for them. Because even if the world said your not good enough and I'd feel like giving up, they would push me to continue going
I was born in 1977 and raised in the 80s. I graduated high school in 1995 and college in 2000. As a kid, I had a mom who struggled with depression. So she could go back and forth between the extremes of being a helicopter mom to being absent. She also raised me to believe I was awesome and could grow up to be anything I wanted. She would sometimes discipline me and my younger sister if we misbehaved, but not often. My dad was the disciplinarian. Even though he worked a lot to provide a good life for us, he was often absent and when he was home he was usually irritable. His parenting style could be somewhat militant. He was a man of few words and he didn't always communicate clearly unless he got angry. But he taught my sister and I good work ethic and problem solving skills. Unlike my mom however, our dad rarely ever praised us. There weren't a lot of deep personal discussions with our dad. But with our mom it was very opposite. So there was an odd balance. I used to get teased and bullied in grade school and junior high. Whereas my mom's solution would be to coddle me and tell me how amazing I am, my dad's approach would be to tell me to "suck it up and quit crying." He taught me wrestling moves and how to throw an effective punch, boxing style, and by the end of junior high, nobody bothered me anymore because I had beat the crap out of everyone. I never lost a fight, even though I was a very scrawny kid. I had my dad's temper. Every fight I got in was like the fight at the end of "A Chistmas Story" when Ralphie took a snowball to the face from a bully and then went berzerk! When I got older, the strong work ethic my dad instilled in me enabled me to find work easy and take a genuine interest in any task I was assigned, and do it to the best of my ability. If there was anything I didn't understand, I would take the time to learn about it. I have worked a wide variety of jobs since I was 16, and I always get complimented on my work performance in whatever I do. My dad taught me how to stand up for myself and recognize bullshit when I detect it. So all the things I didn't like about my dad growing up as a kid paid off as an adult. He never tried to be my buddy. He was 100% dad. Contrasted with my mom, it was the opposite. The things I loved about my mom came around to bite me after college. I went off into the world with a big head, believing I was destined for greatness. When the world began to knock me down on my face, I grew bitter and resentful. By my 30s I was a mIserable and cynical alcoholic. At age 32 I was diagnosed with bipolar II and Asperger's Syndrome. I struggled in recovery for the next 10 years. I am 43 years old now and have a new lease on life. My parent's raised me to go to church, but it wasn't strictly enforced, even though we went every Sunday. It was just something we did. I fell away from faith during college but as I got older I began going to church on my own. I found solace and strength in the message and it gave me the perseverance to push forward. With all due respect to my parents I want to say for the record that my parents are terrific people. They are still happily married. As they've aged I've seen them balance each other. My dad is a gentler and more communicative person who has mellowed out a lot. My mom has much more confidence and ambition and no longer struggles with depression. They both have displayed tremendous perseverance and growth. They don't back away from challenges and they've never given up. I understand they were young parents when I was a kid, and they were just trying to figure things out and doing the best they could. Overall, I think I turned out okay. I take responsibility for the mistakes I made as an adult. The worldview and inflated ego I had during high school and college can't be solely contributed to my mom. I got a lot of comments from friends and teachers that reinforced this notion that I was someone special whose name should be in lights. The brokenness of alcoholism recovery did a lot to tear down my pride and develop a healthier self-image. My parents have been very supportive during these difficult years. They would put their foot down when necessary and also be right there at my side when things got critical. I love my parents. They made their share of mistakes, but I can't accuse them of not trying. They invested a lot of their energy into raising my sister and I. My sis is a nurse practitioner who is happily married with 2 kids. I have worked in both the mental health and addiction recovery fields helping others go through what I went through and I am currently taking classes online to become a pastor.
Thanks for sharing, I have 3 boys and only my youngest shows interest in reading because I am at home reading and teaching him. My oldest reads really big word since he was 6 or 7. My middle one hates reading, and I blame myself for working too much at around the time I could of made it fun to read to him...I have regret it so much. If I can go back I would of not pay any mind to nothing else but my child and just work a regular schedule that would allow me to be there more for my child (middle).
Thanks for this post. Playful/Loving Parent 0 - 7 years old Teacher- 7 - 14 years old Friend - 14- 21 years old 25-35 is late to start being their friend
Great blackboard presentation, Patrick! Thank you! My parents raised me under #s 8 and 15, I’m so thankful they did! They may have been very strict but I turned out ok! I worked hard right after graduating high school, no college. When i got married, i had no debt whatsoever, my loving husband of 25 years, we maxed out our 401K savings contribution when we were working, didn’t spend lavishly, budgeted our monies very smartly, we have owned 3 homes, all paid for and comfortably retired now in Arizona! Sadly, today’s generation, the future of this country, look where we are at? Honestly, Where were the parents of this generation? My Mom always reminded me and my siblings, your character, the way you behave, will always reflect on your parents! She was right! Thank you Mom & Dad, hope you’re both looking down at me and I hope I make you both proud! ❤️
I can't describe the way you explain things Patrick. Thank you so much I'm not a parent yet , not a business owner yet , but I'm learning a loooot about life from you. Much love ♥️ much respect.
1 thing I remember my dad doing was he didn’t help me pay for my car accident because I didn’t have insurance. I was 16 and $800 seemed like a lot of money to me. Wether my dad did it on purpose or not to not help me. I learned that not everyone will not always help when you need it. Since 2011 I have yet to this day to ask my parents for financial help.
Pat I love all your videos, some of them are 'bulls eye' right where I need to grow. But the most excited I am when you put out a video on parenting. As a parent of 3 year old twins, I want to help them with setting up positive values and principles. I am eager to hear your style and wisdom on this topic. I hope you make more of this content. Thank you
Really fascinating share and honestly I think I'm a combination of quite a few that were listed. I LOVE the point that you make about seeing the individual characteristics of a child and tailoring to that
I started reading to my son as soon as he was born. He's a year old now and I read to him everyday. I have a collection of library books for him. I have quantum physics and engineering books for babies and toddlers that I read to him. I am also teaching him multiple languages and sign language as well. I am teaching him advanced education now because I want to be as educated as possible. My parents did not value education and I don't want to be a parent that sets my child up for failure.
You presented alot to think about as a parent and I'm greatful! I dont want to keep the cycle of abuse I exsperienced. Im going to try a curency of books too! I want my son and daughter to succeed in life
Reading is paramount to a meaningful and purposeful life. My son is 19 months old and knows every letter of the alphabet. He can count to 10, speaks in short sentences and can "read" words that are constantly highlighted/repeated in books.Ex. Beep! Beep! Beep! in The Little Blue Truck UA-cam has made me a better man. Thanks Patrick!
... 1. Identify your style of parenting 2. Decide what values and principles do you want to pass down to your kids. 3. Decide on what kind of routine, structure, creativity and fun can you create at different stages for your kids. 4. Decide what currency in your house for them to get what they want. 5. Figure out who and how can you leverage to help with the development process of your kids.
I enjoyed your podcast on parenting styles immensely! The techniques and examples of how you implement them were clear and useful. My wife and I are about to have our first kid and I'm going to watch this again with her and discuss ways to help our kid be the best they can be. Thank you, and God bless you and your family!
Who else is stuck with parents that are like number 7? Sometimes really demotivating when you want to build something that is a bit risky like starting a own business
This is when you need to call on 'you' to become a great filter. Parents remember what they went through growing up and do not want you to have the same fears. Just feel the fear, mitigate risks (they may have valid points, but not unsolvable), get educated, focus on what you want, filter out their fears (they are THEIR fears, not yours), and go for it!
My parents preached college to me since I was born, and grades were paramount. I was worried more about grades than about the knowledge. Man, I regret listening to it in my opinion. They were so "get a job" focused. Back then I did not even consider other avenues like entrepreneurship and now I got college debt and work a job I really do not like too much. I should have just followed my passions, and now I am looking to undo that. When my kids are born I am preaching a different philosophy.
Hated everything about their “parenting” Loved Nothing about their “parenting “ Until today hated it ! Happy to have them in my life .. thankful for having them , but I WISH they were more in tune with HOW TO INTEREST WITH THEIR CHILD !!!!
Patrick please we need more of this, we need more, what books are your most recommended? We need to know this. Please would love to hear from you back .Thank you Patrick I listen to you when I sleep and when I wake up. Would love more on this topic
I am style 15, which I did not expect to be represented, it is just something I do because I like teamwork. My mom was a combination 5 of them rolled into one and my dad was style 12.
I like your strategies. Should create more content on the specific strategies. I also have a 7 year old and 5 year old. 7 year old does not want to read. So this is a great idea to get him motivated to read
It's great that reading as currency works for your kids. It's not good for all personalities though. If I was forced or made do something, I quickly started hating it. I started learning much more stuff after finishing school and never stopped. While at school, I was lazy.
*I try to be different than my parents. Maybe my parent had to work 24-7 and that affects your kids. Kids want to see you, talk to you, and so on. Be a parent, not a stranger.* 😉
This was a great video. I was thinking about this from the mindset of a teacher because I don't have my own children and still took a lot from this. My currency to get anything from me are correct answers in my class: a job (passing out papers) to going to the bathroom.
My parenting style is a mix of 'one parent household, structure, values and principles' . My parents raised me similar, the only thing different was 'religious'
My parents were bulldozer + helicopter + critical + religious. Social anxiety, not believing in myself for life... Still try to control every step of my life.
My mom was the: helicopter parent and the one parent household My dad is the definitely the religious parent and also one parent household with a little mix of military
I think you have to give the child a free space and let him/her fill it with what he/she wants instead of telling him what you think is right for them, like reading books play sports... let them find their own currency, maybe he doesn't like reading books but he likes to write... your work as a parent is to show him/her the paths and let them choose what path they want to walk as long as he/she chooses a path that is healthy for them...
How were your parents?
What kind of a parent are you?
My parents were amazing, loving and supportive. I still went off the deep end...had a ball and everything ended up okay. Good parenting only let me ground yourself after the fact lol
Supportive. I truly believe I wouldn't be where I am if it wasnt for them. Because even if the world said your not good enough and I'd feel like giving up, they would push me to continue going
My parents were a combo of many of those both good and bad and I am similar. They weren’t perfect but were darn close. We all are a mix of many.
My father was absent. My mother was passive and tried to be a dictator.
My husband and I are a mixture of 2: Structure and Religious.
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Chalkboard Patrick is everything. How I first encountered this channel. When you see the chalkboard you know it’s gonna be good.
So True! I loved his breakdown on Iran. It clicked for after that lesson.
Hundred 😂
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@@stomper2888 it means 100 percent, I was addressing Casey saying ‘when you See the Chalkboard you know it’s gonna be good’
@@ItsMistaTee oh so you mean 100%
Just listening to Pat makes me smart, imagine he being around you everyday what kinda positive influence he has on that person. Wow
I was born in 1977 and raised in the 80s. I graduated high school in 1995 and college in 2000. As a kid, I had a mom who struggled with depression. So she could go back and forth between the extremes of being a helicopter mom to being absent. She also raised me to believe I was awesome and could grow up to be anything I wanted. She would sometimes discipline me and my younger sister if we misbehaved, but not often. My dad was the disciplinarian. Even though he worked a lot to provide a good life for us, he was often absent and when he was home he was usually irritable. His parenting style could be somewhat militant. He was a man of few words and he didn't always communicate clearly unless he got angry. But he taught my sister and I good work ethic and problem solving skills. Unlike my mom however, our dad rarely ever praised us. There weren't a lot of deep personal discussions with our dad. But with our mom it was very opposite. So there was an odd balance. I used to get teased and bullied in grade school and junior high. Whereas my mom's solution would be to coddle me and tell me how amazing I am, my dad's approach would be to tell me to "suck it up and quit crying." He taught me wrestling moves and how to throw an effective punch, boxing style, and by the end of junior high, nobody bothered me anymore because I had beat the crap out of everyone. I never lost a fight, even though I was a very scrawny kid. I had my dad's temper. Every fight I got in was like the fight at the end of "A Chistmas Story" when Ralphie took a snowball to the face from a bully and then went berzerk!
When I got older, the strong work ethic my dad instilled in me enabled me to find work easy and take a genuine interest in any task I was assigned, and do it to the best of my ability. If there was anything I didn't understand, I would take the time to learn about it. I have worked a wide variety of jobs since I was 16, and I always get complimented on my work performance in whatever I do. My dad taught me how to stand up for myself and recognize bullshit when I detect it. So all the things I didn't like about my dad growing up as a kid paid off as an adult. He never tried to be my buddy. He was 100% dad. Contrasted with my mom, it was the opposite. The things I loved about my mom came around to bite me after college. I went off into the world with a big head, believing I was destined for greatness. When the world began to knock me down on my face, I grew bitter and resentful. By my 30s I was a mIserable and cynical alcoholic. At age 32 I was diagnosed with bipolar II and Asperger's Syndrome. I struggled in recovery for the next 10 years. I am 43 years old now and have a new lease on life. My parent's raised me to go to church, but it wasn't strictly enforced, even though we went every Sunday. It was just something we did. I fell away from faith during college but as I got older I began going to church on my own. I found solace and strength in the message and it gave me the perseverance to push forward.
With all due respect to my parents I want to say for the record that my parents are terrific people. They are still happily married. As they've aged I've seen them balance each other. My dad is a gentler and more communicative person who has mellowed out a lot. My mom has much more confidence and ambition and no longer struggles with depression. They both have displayed tremendous perseverance and growth. They don't back away from challenges and they've never given up. I understand they were young parents when I was a kid, and they were just trying to figure things out and doing the best they could. Overall, I think I turned out okay. I take responsibility for the mistakes I made as an adult. The worldview and inflated ego I had during high school and college can't be solely contributed to my mom. I got a lot of comments from friends and teachers that reinforced this notion that I was someone special whose name should be in lights. The brokenness of alcoholism recovery did a lot to tear down my pride and develop a healthier self-image. My parents have been very supportive during these difficult years. They would put their foot down when necessary and also be right there at my side when things got critical. I love my parents. They made their share of mistakes, but I can't accuse them of not trying. They invested a lot of their energy into raising my sister and I. My sis is a nurse practitioner who is happily married with 2 kids. I have worked in both the mental health and addiction recovery fields helping others go through what I went through and I am currently taking classes online to become a pastor.
Great
Great message bro. Thank you for sharing
Thanks for sharing. Wishing you the best. God bless you
Thank you for sharing! Keep working hard
Wow what a testimony. Become a good pastor.
I read the Percy Jackson series to my son when he was 4 years old. He's 14 now and reading has been his life since.
Thanks for sharing, I have 3 boys and only my youngest shows interest in reading because I am at home reading and teaching him. My oldest reads really big word since he was 6 or 7. My middle one hates reading, and I blame myself for working too much at around the time I could of made it fun to read to him...I have regret it so much. If I can go back I would of not pay any mind to nothing else but my child and just work a regular schedule that would allow me to be there more for my child (middle).
Awesome
Thanks for this post.
Playful/Loving Parent 0 - 7 years old
Teacher- 7 - 14 years old
Friend - 14- 21 years old
25-35 is late to start being their friend
Great blackboard presentation, Patrick! Thank you! My parents raised me under #s 8 and 15, I’m so thankful they did! They may have been very strict but I turned out ok! I worked hard right after graduating high school, no college. When i got married, i had no debt whatsoever, my loving husband of 25 years, we maxed out our 401K savings contribution when we were working, didn’t spend lavishly, budgeted our monies very smartly, we have owned 3 homes, all paid for and comfortably retired now in Arizona! Sadly, today’s generation, the future of this country, look where we are at? Honestly, Where were the parents of this generation? My Mom always reminded me and my siblings, your character, the way you behave, will always reflect on your parents! She was right! Thank you Mom & Dad, hope you’re both looking down at me and I hope I make you both proud! ❤️
I can't describe the way you explain things Patrick. Thank you so much I'm not a parent yet , not a business owner yet , but I'm learning a loooot about life from you. Much love ♥️ much respect.
Loved how my mom gave me the freedom to be me and instilled confidence for me to be aware I can do great things
Hi Patrick, I would love to see book recommendations for personal development for kids.
Yes @valuetainment that would be a great list. Looking through books for my kids at this moment
Pat gets the best blow.
I’m structured and independent thinking and my husband is militant. It’s all about communication balance patience and compassion
This was great. Best parenting advice I’ve seen!
I CRY. Big thank you so much
1 thing I remember my dad doing was he didn’t help me pay for my car accident because I didn’t have insurance. I was 16 and $800 seemed like a lot of money to me. Wether my dad did it on purpose or not to not help me. I learned that not everyone will not always help when you need it. Since 2011 I have yet to this day to ask my parents for financial help.
As a parent, this video really speaks to me. Thanks for sharing Pat!
Have a blessed day guys
Thank you, you too.
We had a family meeting at least once a week. Single parent. I taught my kids we were a team. I was strict with their association.
Thank you Patrick. You’re slowly becoming an American treasure!
Personality is both given and formed, its a flexible thing.
THANK YOU FOR YOUR VALUABLE WISDOM...VERY MUCH APPRECIATED...
Great video . please more videos on parenting! What to do when kids are home how to keep them busy ? How to make your kids listen to you .
Pat I love all your videos, some of them are 'bulls eye' right where I need to grow.
But the most excited I am when you put out a video on parenting. As a parent of 3 year old twins, I want to help them with setting up positive values and principles.
I am eager to hear your style and wisdom on this topic. I hope you make more of this content.
Thank you
Really fascinating share and honestly I think I'm a combination of quite a few that were listed. I LOVE the point that you make about seeing the individual characteristics of a child and tailoring to that
Patrick if I could only speak with you for 5 minutes on the phone it would make my year.
Same!
Great video! I love the currency to have with your children.
I started reading to my son as soon as he was born. He's a year old now and I read to him everyday. I have a collection of library books for him. I have quantum physics and engineering books for babies and toddlers that I read to him. I am also teaching him multiple languages and sign language as well. I am teaching him advanced education now because I want to be as educated as possible. My parents did not value education and I don't want to be a parent that sets my child up for failure.
I am all of those and my dad was standoff and never really focus on our mental wellbeing. My dad was tough and made us earn everything we got.
Great video, you have a talent in presenting common sense in a way that is easily understood.
Love this so much. Mines not reading yet but he loves being read to. I will appreciate reading more than grades!
Delayed gratification, love it. I never heard of that before, but I'm sure it shows your kid some appreciation.
You presented alot to think about as a parent and I'm greatful! I dont want to keep the cycle of abuse I exsperienced. Im going to try a curency of books too! I want my son and daughter to succeed in life
This is a great video and a nice reality check. I love experiencing the evolution of your content
Strategic with business and parenting i like it😄
Yes! Intentional teaching
Reading is paramount to a meaningful and purposeful life. My son is 19 months old and knows every letter of the alphabet. He can count to 10, speaks in short sentences and can "read" words that are constantly highlighted/repeated in books.Ex. Beep! Beep! Beep! in The Little Blue Truck
UA-cam has made me a better man. Thanks Patrick!
This is by far an interesting video. Thanks dude!
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1. Identify your style of parenting 2. Decide what values and principles do you want to pass down to your kids.
3. Decide on what kind of routine, structure, creativity and fun can you create at different stages for your kids.
4. Decide what currency in your house for them to get what they want.
5. Figure out who and how can you leverage to help with the development process of your kids.
I enjoyed your podcast on parenting styles immensely! The techniques and examples of how you implement them were clear and useful. My wife and I are about to have our first kid and I'm going to watch this again with her and discuss ways to help our kid be the best they can be. Thank you, and God bless you and your family!
Some are a mix of kinds. I should know because I know a lot of kids who have these kinds of parents.
Pat all your vids are pure gold. 2021 = 10m subs.
Hey Mr. Bet-David please continue the podcast
Hands down best channel on UA-cam!
Who else is stuck with parents that are like number 7? Sometimes really demotivating when you want to build something that is a bit risky like starting a own business
This is when you need to call on 'you' to become a great filter. Parents remember what they went through growing up and do not want you to have the same fears. Just feel the fear, mitigate risks (they may have valid points, but not unsolvable), get educated, focus on what you want, filter out their fears (they are THEIR fears, not yours), and go for it!
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Love this... Would be really cool to know some books that helped you with parenting
Excellent analysis and presentation Pat! Extremely important knowledge that we all need to know and learn
Best yet. Thank you for always sharing your mindset. I'm about to have first kid with my wife in October. This is gold.
Such a great evergreen video! Thanks
My parents preached college to me since I was born, and grades were paramount. I was worried more about grades than about the knowledge. Man, I regret listening to it in my opinion. They were so "get a job" focused. Back then I did not even consider other avenues like entrepreneurship and now I got college debt and work a job I really do not like too much. I should have just followed my passions, and now I am looking to undo that. When my kids are born I am preaching a different philosophy.
Tell them:" you need jesus in your life."
Thanks Pat!! VERY VALUABLE!! 😎
Pure gold! I need to watch it again!
My favorite type of video
Your biceps are getting huge.
I'm reading a book on trauma called The Body Keeps the Score, this video just gave me a huge insight as to where a lot trauma may come from
Where?
Hated everything about their “parenting” Loved Nothing about their “parenting “
Until today hated it ! Happy to have them in my life .. thankful for having them , but I WISH they were more in tune with HOW TO INTEREST WITH THEIR CHILD !!!!
Patrick, appreciate this discussion. Nailed it! Parents need to pinpoint their style in order to stay focus.
This is just the direction I needed, thank you
You definitely have you finger on the pulse Pat. Keep it up
No more Unusual suspects podcast?? I was loving it!!
I know right!
loved this. Thanks Pat
Hey Pat, you must be a great dad. Your kids are lucky!
I can’t wait for the book to be released! Ordered for 17th September in the UK
Wow man!!thank you for this🙏🏽
I am so glad you did this topic. I wondered how successful people ran their households thank you for sharing.
I really like the blackboard videos, keep it coming Pat
Patrick please we need more of this, we need more, what books are your most recommended? We need to know this. Please would love to hear from you back .Thank you Patrick I listen to you when I sleep and when I wake up. Would love more on this topic
12:57 thank you Patrick 💪
Chalkboard Patrick is just so goated.
Wow Pat your looking buff!!! Muscle definition is coming out!!!
Great job. My mom was the best mom.
Awesome advice! Thank you for producing this.
Brilliant, love from India ❤️
So Valuable.
Great stuff. I salute you, Patrick.
I’m stealing that book currency ! Great input
Grades are temporary- reading is for life. Very logical. It is the simple concepts that are truthful and accurate.
Thank you Pat
I am style 15, which I did not expect to be represented, it is just something I do because I like teamwork. My mom was a combination 5 of them rolled into one and my dad was style 12.
Please share more on values and principles that you pass to kids. Those are helpful.
I like your strategies. Should create more content on the specific strategies. I also have a 7 year old and 5 year old. 7 year old does not want to read. So this is a great idea to get him motivated to read
😢Kindly bring back the podcast please....
It's great that reading as currency works for your kids. It's not good for all personalities though. If I was forced or made do something, I quickly started hating it. I started learning much more stuff after finishing school and never stopped. While at school, I was lazy.
incredible! so much value in every video you put out... thank you.
*I try to be different than my parents. Maybe my parent had to work 24-7 and that affects your kids. Kids want to see you, talk to you, and so on. Be a parent, not a stranger.* 😉
this is great Patrick. I can't wait for the book.
Thank you for making these videos PBD 💗I find them very helpful and can’t wait to read your new book
This was a great video. I was thinking about this from the mindset of a teacher because I don't have my own children and still took a lot from this. My currency to get anything from me are correct answers in my class: a job (passing out papers) to going to the bathroom.
Excellent Video 👍
I have a little of a few, but mostly structured.
My parenting style is a mix of 'one parent household, structure, values and principles' . My parents raised me similar, the only thing different was 'religious'
i have been waiting for this one
My parents were bulldozer + helicopter + critical + religious. Social anxiety, not believing in myself for life... Still try to control every step of my life.
My mom was the: helicopter parent and the one parent household
My dad is the definitely the religious parent and also one parent household with a little mix of military
Love your video PBD
Nothing like a good ol' chalkboard video by PBD!
Simply awesome and very informative!
Hey Patrick can you make a video on what schools or mentors would be a great fit for children please. Thank you for your work!
Future looks bright
I think you have to give the child a free space and let him/her fill it with what he/she wants instead of telling him what you think is right for them, like reading books play sports... let them find their own currency, maybe he doesn't like reading books but he likes to write... your work as a parent is to show him/her the paths and let them choose what path they want to walk as long as he/she chooses a path that is healthy for them...
more parenting videos please!