Am I Settling in My Relationship? (Masterclass ROCD/Anxiety)

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  • Опубліковано 29 гру 2021
  • In today's video, I attached the Masterclass we did in the ROCD Course/Community. It's a topic the community members picked as we talked about the word "settling" in relationships.
    Do you fear that you're settling?
    Do you hear stories about settling which make you obsess?
    What is settling anyway?
    How can you use this trigger as a way to awaken into your heart and relationship?
    We talk about this, and so much more!
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 52

  • @watermeloonseeds
    @watermeloonseeds 20 днів тому +2

    I am thankful that i have a caring partner
    I am thankful that my partner is a true man
    i am thankful that my partner compromises
    I am thankful that my partner is accepting
    I am thankful that my partner is always there for me

  • @Merve-fu6vq
    @Merve-fu6vq 2 роки тому +31

    My biggest value is serenity and for the past 3 months I have been feeling fear of missing out so much that forgot that I enjoy this calm and peaceful lifestyle. I don't even like parties and sleep around but I thought I did and start questioning my beautiful relationship. Thank you so much for this reminder!

  • @conkesoo
    @conkesoo Рік тому +6

    It’s really comforting and relaxing seeing that there’s a full community of people that are actually passing through the same thing as me.
    Everything is going to be okay and we’ll recover from this hard thing.

    • @Awakenintolove
      @Awakenintolove  Рік тому

      #YANA and yes there is hope in healing from ROCD/RA. ❤

  • @call_me_yegor
    @call_me_yegor 4 місяці тому +2

    I am thankful for my girlfriend never leaving my side
    I am thankful for myself holding out for this long
    I am thankful for us being strong
    I am thankful for my girlfriend being herself like always
    I am thankful for my girlfriend because she is someone I can trust

  • @witchybunbun8065
    @witchybunbun8065 2 роки тому +4

    My values are commitment, honesty, kindness, and loving to the fullest.

  • @bibichillieblue
    @bibichillieblue Рік тому +5

    I feel it is my mom and my sister who first triggered my anxiety. My sister said after 2 years in she felt like she wanted to look elsewhere because she felt she was too young to settle (she didn’t by the way, she is with her bf since 12 years ). My mom also said in the same discussion that she dumped my dad after 2 years and she dated a few guys before they started dating again ( they are divorced now though). My mom said it was inevitable and I will have to experience that, when I never, ever wanted that. But now that is have been 2+ years, I wonder sometimes if they are right. I feel it is so cruel to tell someone that, though. Just let people live their life!!
    Ps : Why did they feel the need to date other guys when in the end they ended up with the same guy?? Makes no sense to me…

  • @kerollaynemoreira7536
    @kerollaynemoreira7536 2 роки тому +9

    It's always great to come to this channel and see that the stuff I'm extremely worried about and that I think is a personal issue that only I have is actually super common for other people with rocd

  • @LesleySASMR
    @LesleySASMR 2 роки тому +8

    Kiyomi, I could just cry from sheer gratitude that I found your videos/podcast. I’ve never felt so seen, heard, and supported. 💛

  • @robertocarloshess
    @robertocarloshess 2 роки тому +9

    Hi Kiomi, thank you so much for your videos! Can you do something on How to deal with the sadness, guilt and regret that comes with having hurt someone you loved and having wrecked a relationship, mainly because of ROCD?

  • @danielletomo4230
    @danielletomo4230 Рік тому

    Honesty, learning

  • @brookeoliviab
    @brookeoliviab 2 роки тому

    Thank you 🙏🏽

  • @World.21
    @World.21 2 роки тому +2

    Important subject, HNY Kyomi ❤

  • @honeymoney23
    @honeymoney23 2 роки тому +7

    THANK YOU! This was so powerful!! And right on time. Exactly what I needed. Bless you for using your gift to help us all come back to ourselves

  • @hannelore2170
    @hannelore2170 2 роки тому +8

    Sometimes it's really tough that everything is in English. After looking through the whole episode, I am not sure if I understood "settling" correctly ...
    And somehow I just feel triggered after this episode. Do I use my partner to grow? And what if the process is done? Then do I push him away?
    Sometimes it's really tough that there isn't any content in my native language. : /

  • @squishybat
    @squishybat 2 роки тому +1

    hi! i watched the video few times (not even joking hahah) and i am still not 100% sure how are values kind of connected with settling. like, if we have values that our relationship meets, are we not settling? i just got a little confused but i really needed this video because settling just became a newest obsession of mine. thank you!!

  • @anonymousbee
    @anonymousbee Рік тому +2

    I have a fear that I cannot grow in my current relationship. Like I will be stuck. He's very loving and secure. However, I, a people pleaser look for security in others. I feel like I will be subsumed in the relationship or not reciprocated to. If i give to him or others, I will be taken advantage of. But he is so chill. Over time he has grown more secure. But I was secure earlier and shaky now. I think I have gamophobia and committment issues. I have a lot of work to do. Like I cannot filll my own cup enough to give to others.

    • @Awakenintolove
      @Awakenintolove  Рік тому

      we so understand love. please know that yana and there is hope in healing. It is really vital to do inner work to find liberation from ROCD and relationship anxiety. -AIL Team

  • @dessiesworld126
    @dessiesworld126 2 роки тому +5

    What do I do if my anxiety has transferred into my future career. Now when I try to do singing I get anxiety and fear I’ll leave my boyfriend behind. 😭

  • @amylynnkroening2238
    @amylynnkroening2238 8 місяців тому

    i even went to a psychic for this 😭

  • @lilynorris5230
    @lilynorris5230 Рік тому +1

    has anyone ever had the thought “even if this is rocd, i don’t feel happy, and i want to leave” but i CANT i don’t want too but i do but i don’t, i’m SO CONFUSED, somebody please tell me they’ve experienced this😭

    • @lilynorris5230
      @lilynorris5230 10 місяців тому +1

      @@luigi-dr9nu you’ve had this particular thought also?😭🫶

    • @lilynorris5230
      @lilynorris5230 10 місяців тому

      @@luigi-dr9nu do you ever have thoughts that say “i don’t love him” or “i don’t want to be with him”

  • @sidakkaur2644
    @sidakkaur2644 2 роки тому +2

    Hi I have a question please help me. I have a feeling that I dont love my boyfriend, I mean its not those thoughts that what if etc, its a total feeling, I know I have rocd, but right now its a feeling that I dont love him but on the other hand I can't lose him at all. Can you please help what is this? I am really very stressed🥺

    • @kinga5326
      @kinga5326 2 роки тому +1

      I have very similar feeling to you.

    • @sidakkaur2644
      @sidakkaur2644 2 роки тому

      @@kinga5326 have you figured it out what it is?

    • @zuzaadler3943
      @zuzaadler3943 2 роки тому +2

      Hey, no reassuring here, it's apparently what you need to feel in order to heal rn❤️ YANA, i had same for last month and it's better now!

    • @sidakkaur2644
      @sidakkaur2644 2 роки тому +1

      @@zuzaadler3943 hey, that's Really great. I am also better right now☺

    • @gwenpoblete1614
      @gwenpoblete1614 2 роки тому

      @@sidakkaur2644 how did you overcome it

  • @kinga5326
    @kinga5326 2 роки тому +1

    Hi, is that normal that I am neutral to my bf, I think I want to other boy, I think I dont love my bf? Please help... Somentimes I dont know what I want to feel 😭😭😭😭 Im so sad and scary about fact that I dont love my boyfriend... please help me...

    • @zuzaadler3943
      @zuzaadler3943 2 роки тому

      Hey, how are you now?

    • @lilynorris5230
      @lilynorris5230 Рік тому

      how are you now?

    • @kinga5326
      @kinga5326 Рік тому

      @@zuzaadler3943 Hey, I didn't saw your comment before. I'm still with my boyfriend, I still have rocd and thoughts but I'm albo irritated to my boyfriend. This is so hard.

    • @kinga5326
      @kinga5326 Рік тому +1

      @@lilynorris5230 hey, I didn't saw your comment before. I'm still with my boyfriend but I still have thoughts and it's very hard. I'm irritated to my partner and other things... This is very hard

    • @lilynorris5230
      @lilynorris5230 Рік тому

      @@kinga5326 i’m still struggling 7 months later, i have thoughts like “i don’t want him” and they scream at me, and it makes me question everything, do you have those? and i also have one that’s constantly coming about that goes “even if this is rocd, i don’t want him”