How Do You Know When It’s Time to Say Goodbye to a Pet? | Vet Advice
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Dr. Greenway discusses euthanasia in cats and dogs. In this video we discuss making the decision, when is the right time to make the decision, not feeling guilty, quality of life vs quantity of life, avoiding pain and suffering and celebrating your pet’s life.
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I just put my dog of 14 years to sleep and I never felt so powerless in my life until now, I know she’ll be watching over me wherever she is, I love you Luna rest at ease my baby girl.
My heart goes out to you. It’s a horrible time. Tomorrow my vet comes to our home to put down my Wee Man. I feel like my chest is going get cave in. He is 16 years old. ❤️
My baby’s name is also Luna. I think we have to say goodbye to her today. She’s only almost three years old but had to suffer through 2 surgeries in just one week. After the second surgery, we thought she would be fine, but she started bleeding profusely again. I don’t want her to suffer any longer.
This is the hardest decision I’ve ever had to make.
@@elsamanaloto it is horrible. It’s as if there is a feeling of guilt, along with the terrible sadness. Very few people seem to fully understand it. They are our companions, we do a lot of things with them, and we love them.
It helped me to talk about it.
@@almccallie4314 I think most people understand.
@@jamesfiero3255 if they’ve been through it. If not, no…I don’t think they do. I can tell by their reactions.
Today was the worst day for me. This is the only video that gives me an ounce of peace.
For me as well and yes, this video has given has also given me some comfort.
Putting my 12 year old Doberman Bella to sleep tomorrow morning. Saddest time of my life ever. My best friend, my love... My heart is hurting. I had to get valium prescribed by my doctor as I'm having a mental health crisis I dont want a life without Bella in it!!! I wish this was all a bad dream!
My doctor prescribed meds to,,,,sometimes we all need a little help....there our family.......
I’m so so sorry. I truly feel your pain as I said good bye to my 17 yr old baby in august. I don’t have human kids so she truly was like my child. It’s so surreal isn’t it? I’m lucky as I’m 43 and never dealt with loss like this. I hope you’re hanging in there and trying to focus on all of the amazing memories you had with your sweet Bella. That’s all we can do. I still cry almost every day but because of the love and joy my fur baby brought to my life, I will eventually adopt another pup, maybe even a senior who is overlooked at the shelter. Maybe eventually you’ll feel ready to do the same but until then just take good care of yourself so you can be a doggie mom again one day💜
I am so sorry for your loss
I feel exactly the same way. I pray that we meet again. The thought my Brady is gone forever is excruciating.
12 good years
Same boat as you were in Sophie. I don't want to imagine my life without my Bella. She is 15. Arthritis in both hips. I know she is in pain. I decided the best thing I can do for her now, is to let her go. I don't want to at all. Set up for the vet to come to my house on 10-9. So hard. I break down everyday thinking about it.
The part about feeling guilty is so true. I had to go trough it 5 times already. In your head you know it's an act of limitless love for your pet but I feel guilty.
It's never easy, even when you know that they will no longer be suffering. It's important to remember to try your best to celebrate your pets life and to not make this the memory that you hold onto.
roden70 😥😢😭 So true
Im so sad..... i have to do this very soon and i feel like a murderer..... how im supposed to kill the one who adores me? Someone please help me...im going crazy 😢
@@pascal5522 You know in your mind that you spare the one that loves you a lot of suffering. You give your furry friend a soft death instead of a struggle. You act out of love and compassion, you are far from a murderer! My heart goes out to you. Be strong and be a good friend untill the end. ❤
@@pascal5522 i’m probably gonna have to do that this Saturday. We’ve had him since 2008. He’s lived for 16 years. It’s killing me, but I know it’s the best decision. I’d rather him go like this, than if Im not there with him.
Had to say goodbye to my little guy only a few hours ago....he was the best, loving, funny dog ever. A little king charles cavalier who lived to about 13 1/2 years old and I'm grateful for all of the happy memories he gave us and that we've had together. We all knew it was going to be difficult to say goodbye but giving him peace and a path away from his suffering at the end brought some peace to the moment. Remember, pets may only be a part of our lives but to them, we're their whole lives. Be with them when it matters most.
Im sorry to hear that may his soul rest in peace just know that you gave him the best live he could have, Im sorry for your loss and I wish you the best,
It's more painful to see your loved one in pain than it is not to see them at all.
When they are suffering...it's time.
Today my 11 year old terrier, Lady, was put to sleep. Grief is everywhere I look, because she was a constant in my life. I can't believe she's gone.
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I said goodbye to my dog yesterday at the vets and it was the hardest thing I have ever been through.
So sorry.
I’m sorry 😢
I agree😢
My little girl of 15 was put to sleep yesterday.
She was a rescue cat of 5 years of age when I first saw her. As I walked into the enclosure, she walked straight up to me and right then I knew she had picked me.
Her loyalty, love & companionship through the darkest times of my life is something I will never forget.
The tears just won’t stop.
I will love you forever Fred, my little furry girl.
My senior cat was sick, lost weight, and I thought it was her time to go. She gradually improved, eating better, and being more active a couple of weeks ago, and she seems pretty good now. I'm glad I waited.
I had a senior cat (16), and the vet recommended we put her down at 15, but a year later she was still going... She was very weak, but always happy because I was there. Then one night it all went downhill. She slumped down, and just waited to die. I sat with her, giving her pets, but she was just too weak to even purr. Eventually about an hour later I could feel her stop breathing, and it made me so very sad. I pet her some more to ease the realisation that she's gone. I then put her in a box with a towel, took her to the emergency pet care (only place open) and just by walking in with a box and no pet, they could understand what happened. I got to the desk and they said "do you want to cremate her", and I said yes, but I asked them to take out the towels as they were sentimental to me. I now have her ashes in my room, to forever remember her. This was four and a half months ago.
Sometimes pets will have a second wind only to end up getting worse again. It's up to the owner when the right time is, but I've heard it is better to be a little early than too late.
I needed to hear this. Saying goodbye to my 18 yr old cat tomorrow morning. 😢
Sorry for your loss. Going through it right now too, I think it’s time for my cat. I don’t want to to wait until it gets so bad and she’s completely gone.
Hello there jennifer your cat was a great age , the live a long time , we had julie she was 20 ,she had gum C ,,cant say the word ,,she was such peoples cat great personality they are amazing pets .
We put down our beloved Molly today, a stray shepherd/whippet (?) mix that I rescued off the streets of south-central LA. When I first saw her, she was about 5 months, filthy, bitten by another (we think) dog and limping badly. I skipped work that day & brought her straight to our vet. That was the summer of 2010. About 3 weeks later, we discovered she loved to run run run! We'd take her to our local pet store to watch her go nuts with all the toys to choose from! Pure sweetness from head to tail! About 1-1/2 years ago, out of the blue, she had a seizure after our daily walk. By this time, she was 12 and we knew, at her age, we wouldn't put her through surgeries, so we went with meds.
In January of this year, she had a 'grand mal' seizure---she seized for almost 24 hours. The emergency clinic we rushed her to pulled her through---to the amazement of the vets there and our vet! It was rough getting her back to a new 'normal', but she was able to move about quite well, ate well and even, from time to time, wanted to play! But, as with any anti-seizure meds, they began to take a toll on her organs. We had her tested regularly and would adjust the meds accordingly. No matter what we tried, we could tell her energy, her ability to maneuver and the happiness in her eyes and face waned. Starting a few weeks ago, all she wanted to do was sleep. The only thing that remained normal was eating--due to the meds, most likely. She did have 'good' days and bad---just like the doc in this video said....and, like he said, we felt guilty for the thought our letting our baby girl go. That it would be our decision to make made it all the more painful.
This morning, while I was laying with her on the floor, she looked at me like I'd not seen her do before - just stared right at me. I had no doubt Molly loved us unconditionally. She 'told' us every day! It never occurred to me dogs could communicate a deep empathy toward us, as if to say, 'don't feel bad--it's OK to let me go'. I do believe it now.
My God....this is hard. They are our family. But I'm comforted that I'm the one feeling badly in this moment and not Molly. That's what we owe them for the years of joy and love they unquestioningly give to us. And the hurt I feel in this moment will pass, I'm sure. We've got scads of happy (and funny!) videos and pictures of her. I look forward to a few days from now, when I'm able to look at them & smile.
I had to have my cat euthanize 3 weeks ago. He was a orange tabby I named Cheetos . He was a very loving and loyal cat . He was only 1 year and 2 months old . He was diagnosed last year with feline leukemia and a month ago he got cancer . He started to suffer and i had to take him to the vet . Because of covid 19 i wasn't allowed inside so they brought him out to me to say goodbye . It was the hardest thing and most heartbreaking thing i ever had to do in my whole life . I love you Cheetos and I'll miss you but I'll see you in heaven .
Rip😢 this is so sad, Covid ruins everything❤️🩹
I had that happen with my boxer - the first day of the shutdown. The hardest thing was taking her collar off and giving her away to get treatment.
I'm sorry you went through it too. It was so awful.
Another important piece of advice is to try your best to not show emotion until the pet has passed. They react to your emotions and the calmer you are the calmer they will be as they pass on. I know this can be difficult, however, we should try our best to at least limit our distress as mush as possible during the procedure for the benefit of our pet.
Thank you for that good piece of advice.. My. 15 y 4 mo old Havanese Jack. I'm having it done tom at Vets.. & its killing me but ill be talk calm & loving to him until its over.
Sometimes saying goodbye and letting go can be the greatest selfless act of love and kindness we can give. I think that's true for many things in life. 😢
So true!
YES! 1000% agree.
I totally agree, great summary 🙏
I love you spikey! 11.27.2023 you took a part of my heart 😞
I adopted a 15 year old cat from my local shelter. I named her Hope and she gave me 4 of the best years of my life. Having to let her go was the roughest decision I knew I had to make. I loved her. I always will.
I am dealing with this today. My dog has advanced Cushing Syndrome and his hind leg muscles have atrophied where he can't even stand let alone walk. He looks at me and I struggle not knowing if he is asking me for help or to end this and to let him be free. This is a pain I wish on no one but as sad and as much sorrow as this brings, it doesn't come close to matching the amount of joy and fun Jake and I had through his 12.5 years. The clock is my enemy as I have just over 90 more minutes before I must take him to the vet for this one final appointment. I have been an emotional mess all day and I am going to miss him tremendously.
As I was watching this, my cat actually jumped up to me and now she's lying on my stomach, purring. I'm in tears knowing that I'll have to say goodbye to her one day, but until then, I'll take care of her to the best of my abilities.
It sounds like you're a very loving caregiver, enjoy all the time you have 😊🐾
That’s the best we can do. ❤️
Its painful, but it was very gentle. You see them relax and let go. Their pain is gone. They have joined their ancestors.
I am also feeling immense guilt and struggling to make the decision. My 12.5 year old girl still comes on walks with me, still eats, and has sporadic bursts of energy. But she's slowed down a lot in the last couple of months and she was diagnosed with Cushing's disease 2 years ago. She's become very lethargic and she seems confused sometimes. She struggles to stay awake for more than a few minutes when she's comfortably sitting down, and her head is unsteady on her neck. Additionally, she's had extremely frequenty UTIs for the last couple of years, and she had a seizure a month ago. She lost control over her bladder overnight earlier this week.
She doesn't have the same spark for life that she used to, and seems depressed. I feel terrible because despite her mounting health issues and 4 medications, she still has the energy and life to do most of her normal activities, though much more slowly and with less energy. I can't help feeling that it's too early, but I spent several hours today closely tuning into her and I got the feeling that it is time. I know that Cushing's is terminal and that she will continue to decline, not improve, over time.
Still, I feel absolutely horrible and guilty about it, and I fear I always will.
Our dog has this too.😢
She has lost so much weight and cant go up and down the steps anymore. It's so sad to see
My poor girl has several mast cell tumors. They've grown and are spreading. I still feel like she wants to be here but the tumors have gotten bad in a short amount of time. I don't want her to be in pain because I waited too long. I also don't want to have to say goodbye too soon. It's such a hard decision and you're right. It's easier to make the decision when they're already suffering. It's that much harder when you want to prevent suffering. Thank you for what you said about celebrating their life in the upcoming days to saying goodbye. I'm trying my hardest not to cry around her. I just want her to know she's loved and be comfortable.
My dog has a broken pelvis, cataracts in both eyes, an ear with some infection and is urinating blood. We are putting her down next week, please pray for me..
We put down our chihuahua that’s been with us for 17 years and oh god this has been a terrible day, I still can’t accept that she’s gone my heart is in so much pain
I needed to hear this, I said good bye three hours ago and guilt had been sitting on my shoulder and won’t get off my shoulders😢. I feel slightly better that I should celebrate it’s life and know she isn’t suffering or uncomfortable.
I had to do this two days ago. I still feel guilty. She was 14 years and 8 months. Her mama died while she was only 5 weeks old. Mine was a very small dog so they aren't weaned as fast as bigger dogs. I had to feed her and a sister with a syringe trying to get them to feed on their own. It was a week or more. The sister was given to a good home. But man, those eyes who completely trusted me brings me guilt. She could barely see with her cataracts but she looked my direction all the time. The whole last year she just wanted yo sleep behind my chair. Her health had declined. But she loved her food. I noticed her stools would sometimes smell like something rotting and she was having accidents. I had to lift her up and down the majority of the time. She no longer sat on my lap or enjoyed being outside. I knew it was time but I'm still heartbroken and feel so guilty.
@@cathyann6835 I think about my dog almost every day and it’s been 2-3 weeks. I’m sure we’ll feel better as time passes and know they’re no longer suffering. We should remember all the good times, and fun memories we had.
@@Sergio-gm4gv yeah, I'm trying. I kept feeling like she was in bed with me last night. Every time I start crying I try remembering how much she'd declined and her body failing. I know she wasn't the same and was worn out. She gave my fingers a lick when we got to the vets office. Her doggy kiss. She was my support through some rough years I'd had starting 2013. It was just so hard letting her go.
@@Sergio-gm4gv it will get Better , i live on A Beautiful Farm in Ontario we had to put down 4 horses 3 dogs in the past 6 years ,,, Celebrate their lives every DAY ... My Beautiful Golden Doodle Brindle will be Next he turned 11 yesterday But he still has lots of Energy Eats Well and is very Happy just he has slowed Down a wee bit and walks slower unless he see's a Chipmunk or Bunny ... hope he is around for another 2 or 3 years ... love you Teddy Bear ... cheers Sergio .
We said goodbye to our cat Probie yesterday. I played with her every day and she sat on my wife’s lap and comforted her as my wife has cancer. She was everything to us and we are devastated. Diagnosed with bone cancer but hung in 2 1/2 more years to 15 1/2.
This is exactly what I needed to hear. We have done everything possible but don't want her to hurt any more. And thank you for suggesting celebrating their life that evening. I think having a little celebration will be very helpful for my kids.
We are really pleased that our video was helpful. Having to euthanize a pet is such a difficult decision because we love our pets but it can also be a time to celebrate and commemorate the time enjoyed together. All the best to you guys:) - The HCFP Team
I lost my Maltese Candy girl on 6/14/23. Nothing has ever been this hard for me to get through. She gave me 12 years of unconditional love. I miss you sweet girl 😢😢😢😢
We have to take in our 12yr old cat tomorrow. He’s had an awesome life, spoiled even! Last night he had beef livers and some simple chicken. He loved it! He eats an insane amount of food everyday but, just isn’t absorbing the nutrients. He’s just skin and bones at this point. He’s lost balance in his hind legs and an odor that is indescribable in the last week. Not looking forward to tomorrow but, we know it’s time.😪
I needed this video, and the comments. Though I wish none of us would have to go through this it is comforting knowing youre not alone. I have to say good bye to my dog today and its breaking my heart but I know that it is the right thing for both of us to not suffer anymore from his cancer and open tumors. God bless all of our babies
My 14 year old was put down 2 days ago because we decided not to put her through aggressive surgery for pyometra. We were told she probably wouldn't make it out and we considered the fact that she also had multiple mammary tumors. Im sad that she couldn't stay with us longer but I'm happy she didn't suffer through that pain.
Took my 14-year-old Australian Shepard (Standard) for a 1.5-mile walk today, not as long as we have done before since he is no longer able to make those walks we use to bike on and he ran in those days. I had to carry him home on my shoulders (it embarrassed him and he let me know it). He has to be on a leash now (cataracts and hearing loss) and I keep him close, we live in the country. He never lets me out of his sight, forever on watch, guarding the entrance to any room I am in while in the house and if I am working in the yard he sets up a secure perimeter and watches over me, usually with his back towards me and guarding for threats. I know that day will come one day but damm it has been a good run. He does not appear to be in any pain so we are coasting into the Silver Years, both of us. A time of transition for both of us.
Update. I purchased a cart to put him while I bike and he now spends every Saturday morning on a 2-hour bike ride on a bike trail system. He loves it.
So grateful for this Doctor who is obviously a great human being - helping others go through this heartbreaking experience. I am going to have to let my sweet soul dog Mia down today and my heart is just shattered. I dread coming home and not having my side kick. She’s been with me through a decade of all kinds of life’s journeys - up and down. I am going to miss her terribly and her tippy taps through the house and hogging half of my bed. 😢💔
Well done great advice , its important to have videos like this with good solid caring advice , i have a beautiful creature who has been with me for almost fourteen wounderful years he has kidney failure , he is a Westhighland White terrier Mr Bailey is his name , so tmro the 11th of April he will go asleep and go to doggie heaven , its sad its actually heartbreaking but he cant be allowed to be in pain , he has been a wounderful companion to Lucy and Molly Mai , they will miss him as they were a wounderful trio , they loved going over the fields for walks and meeting cattle that are grazing ,god bless Mr Bailey
My 2 year old Shepard mix has neuroblastoma (cancer growing into spinal cord) it’s very rare. We sadly had to make a appointment to put him down. He can’t control his bladder and is really struggling to get up and he has a sad look in his eyes like he’s telling me he’s tired it really breaks my heart. Thanks for making this video.
sorry to reopen old wounds but scrolling through comments I saw yours I am in the same boat. My Idefix was diagnosed with neuroblastoma about a year ago and we tried everything. He was operated once and 2 days after he was like a new dog but the tumor regrew after only a month. We did a second surgery and radioteraphy and he was somewhat fine for 5 months but it is back since about two weeks. Right now he cant really use his back legs and pee on his own. Vet gave some steroids that potentially could give him some time but even though he is eating, drinking, I see that he would like to be with me I also see how he is in pain. But the guilt is killing me thinking it is to early because he has good moments but he is not walking anymore, his spine is hurting (i can tell when I touch it he makes that pain sounds), but at the same time I dont think that me or him want to see this going even worse in this next weeks...
Went through this last night with my Bichon. He lived 17.5 years. Such a great dog. ❤😢
So sorry for your loss. Sending prayers of comfort and healing to you. I am weighing the decision to put my dog down. She is extremely sick right now and after watching I think it's the best because she's in so much pain. I have had her for 15 years. May God bless all of us who love our pets forever. 💚💚✨✨
@@jaznchic thank you. I know it isnt easy. Sending prayers to you as well no matter what choice is made. My dog was just at the point where he wouldnt get up to eat and hadnt eaten in a few days. I think my other dogs sensed he wasnt well. Its def a hard situation to go through 😔
one of the best advice videos I've seen... been so distracted by letting our cat go a week ago, watched videos before and after... but a key piece of info is in this video: you are the decider, and that will make you feel guilty, but don't do that as you have taken care of this animal as you have done its whole life. And it is a truth. Still doesn't make it easier, but it is a truth.
Yes and it's a process. Try not let the recent traumatic experience of saying goodbye overshadow the lifetime of positive memories you’ve built during your relationship with your cat. Wishing you all the best.
And the truth wil set you free.
My guy Dan, and I are enjoying our oldest kitty Beegi. We got him as a feral cat in 2009. Today he’s 14 years old, and his health is declining.
He’s got diabetes, and his spine is deteriorating. But, he’s still eating, drinking, and enjoying life. He’s just not moving around as much, and sleeps al of the time.
He loves me. He loves his human dad. His best buddy is his feline adopted brother Snow. They love cuddling together.
Dan, and I know it’s going to be hard on Snow. When Beegi crosses the rainbow bridge.
Beegi crossed the rainbow bridge on October 3rd, 2023. It was a hard time, for Dan, and I. It still hits me hard to this day.
Because he reminded me of my childhood kitty. She was all black in her fur just like he was, and she was such a sweet kitty. Just like Beegi.
Both my Wife an I agreed that our baby boy "CHEVY" took his last breath at home on his favorite spot on the couch on Nov. 26th 2023 this yr. It hurts like Hell even writing this message!!
I needed to hear this today... my senior GSD is having more bad days than good lately ( we have exhausted all ways to remedy that).. This is the worst part of pet stewardship.
It is but we always try to stress to pet parents no matter what to try to focus on celebrating your pets life and all of the wonderful memories you've shared. Wishing you and yours truly all the very best.
My chiwahwah was 15.5 yes old. Blind , deaf , quit eating , drinking , couldn't poop , teeth falling out ( gums in bad shape). I had her euthanized today..April 2nd 2024 , I'm still crying. Your video made me realise quality is everything to a dog...thank you. You made it easier.
I had a dream about my mini schnauzer Sparky last night. Even though I know logically I did the right thing, I still feel like crap doing it.
I am going to have to put my bunny of 7 years tomorrow morning. he has suffered through 2 dental surgeries in the last 4 months and has become weak and frail. But the infection just cannot be stopped, the medications have out so much strain on his kidneys, even my vet thinks it is going to be very hard for him. Even though i know all this, i feel torn to shreds. my buddy who gave me company through all my life's tough times is no longer gonna be with me. This thought gives me anxiety but i know what needs to be done.
Thank you for the video, your words helped a lot
Thank you so much for this great advice! I have to have my cat euthanized today and as difficult as it is I know I'm making the right decision and I'm so thankful that I get to be with him during this time. We have had 10 wonderful fun years together and I believe I have given him a great life. Thank you again
Thank you, I just had to say goodbye to my French Bulldog, Odin, 2 days ago, he was 14 and rapidly declining.. It was extremely difficult, but it would have been selfish not to and let him suffer.
Very good statement! OWNERS DECIDE about life termination seeing low quality of pet.
Most people wait too long. Sometimes you feel it’s early but it is not. It is also a pocketbook decision. Just the tests and the vet visit can cost many hundreds of dollars with multiple issues. If a bunch of issues at the same time, it’s probably time and forget about the tests because the quality of life with the multiple med side effects wont be good. Finally children don’t get a say in the decision. It is what it is. We do what’s best for the pet, not what the kid wants. Quality of life over quantity.
Thank you for this video. We had a very hard time deciding if our 12 year old German Shepherd Dog should cross the rainbow bridge. She was barely eating for the past two weeks. She lost substantial weight and was quite skinny. Her enthusiasm dropped considerably. She was so tired. We realized it was time to say goodbye before she suffered. It's such a tough decision, but being reaffirmed from others makes it so much more comforting. Again, thank you for the video.
my lab is going through the same thing.. I am taking him to see his vet thursday and I think its time. He is barely eating and is having a very hard time walking. This is the hardest thing... im so sorry about your shepherd. Im sobbing just writing this. I hope they will let me be with him when the time comes. This is so hard.
My famale GSD is 13... struggling to walk..constantly falls...and whines a lot. I know she's in pain. She still manages to have some sort of energy for my 6yr old son. But it's hard to even think about putting her down...
@@Tita-jy5ge sounds like it’s time for a decision.
We have to say goodbye to ours today 😭
@@k10h73 so sorry to hear about it... Mine akita is going through lymphoma and is not feeling very well... I love her so much and she gave so much love and happy moments to our family..
This was exactly how I came to the difficult decision yesterday about My cat Maggie she was thirteen years old and had renal kidney failure and when I woke up yesterday I had no idea that by the time I went to bed lastnight Maggie would be at peace I just somehow knew instinctively that her quality of life was going away and she was depressed and probably in pain she tried to be her usual self at time but she slowly was not eating ,grooming socializing etc. and was extremely under weight. I miss her yes but I am relieved she is not suffering and I did not prolong her life for me instead I gave her the gift of no more pain. Thanks for telling us not to feel guilty because I did feeling like she was still quite coherent and still used her cat box but other than this she was not healthy or happy.
Thank you. I listen to you, and you are so right. I look back one year ago how zippy and happy my Auggie was. Now it wasn't there. Auggie had cancer. But was in remission. Next it was his prostate, and he couldn't pee. The final sign, he stopped eating. He looked at me and he was sad. I called my vet and he picked the time for me to come in. It was quick and easy. The next day I went to work to clear my mind.
My 16 year old border collie has had a rough year so far. He has dimensia, no bladder control, and has trouble walking and getting up. I know he’s not doing well but I’d hate to see it get worse. Thank you for this video, it helped me realize that he has had a very good, long, spoiled life and it may be time to let go. 😔
So sorry to hear about this. It's important to remember if you do decide to go this route that euthanizing a beloved pet that is suffering and having more bad days than good days is an act of compassion. And that's exactly it, you have given him a good life and although it may be difficult at first, remember all of the wonderful memories and time you've spent together. Celebrate your relationship with your pup and try not to dwell on that final process. Wishing you all the best. - The HCFP Team
I was so sure I made the right decision when I put my 18 yo cat down, but now 3 weeks later, I start to doubt myself again. These videos really help me to reassure myself I made the right decision. When I made the decision, it was completely selfless, i did it for her, to end her pain and suffering. I did not consider how much suffering I would experience after her passing (she was my childhood kitty, I grew up with her). I’ve been thinking about her EVERYDAY since she left and I’m in so so much pain. I guess this is why I’m doubting myself again because I can’t live without her 😢😢
(Funny thing I noticed, this vet looks like a blond Jimmy Kimmel 😆)
I'm going through that now. The guilt and doubting myself. It's only been 2 days. I didn't realize how much my heart would be breaking and missing her.
@@cathyann6835 I’m so sorry for your loss! I totally understand how you’re feeling. The first few weeks were the worst for me. My heart literally felt broken and I was too sad to walk into my empty house that I slept in my car one night. But things will get better ❤️. Take it easy and give yourself time to process everything. It’s normal to have doubts, to feel guilty, to feel depressed, to blame yourself, but you’ll move on someday. Personally it took me about a year to stop blaming myself and to accept everything. I still miss my baby every single day, but I know she’s in a better place now and she’s happy. Make something to keep your kitty’s memory with you: a necklace, keychain, tattoo, etc. I’ll be glad to chat with you if you wanna talk about your kitty ❤️
@@fvnt0miix953 thank you for your kind words. It was actually my dog I had to put to sleep. My sister and I bred our dogs because we both wanted a pup and so did a family member and friends. The mama dog died from cushings disease the pups were 5 weeks old so we had to train them to eat food. (They were little dogs so they take longer to wean than bigger breeds). When she was around 5 years old, I got really sick with an autoimmune condition. My children had just left the home and my husband drove truck over the road, so my dog was my support and companion. There's a lot more about the stuff I went through, but she was always there. I didn't realize how much she was a emotional support animal until she was gone. Now I understand why people have emotional support animals.
That being said, 10 days before I had the appointment for my dog, my cat who was 9 died unexpectedly. He was a rescued feral kitty when I got him with an underlying health condition. The vet originally suggested putting him to sleep as a kitty but he pulled through the initial rough spot and treatment. The life expectancy for him was around 5 with that condition but he lived to a little over 9. He played with my dog. They would chase each other around, hide and jump out at each other making me laugh when my dog was younger. Both slept with me and were devoted to me. So I lost 2 pets within 10 days. I was and am going through a rough patch. I want to wait before I get another cat because I don't want to be replacing the one who's gone and expect the same personality. It wouldn't be fair. Thank you again.
@@cathyann6835 Oh gosh, I can’t imagine losing 2 beloved pets in 10 days! You’re definitely going thru a tough time and I totally agree with your decision to not get a pet right away, I think it’s too early as well. I believe the emotional support you received from your dog was mutual, you saved her life and the spiritual connection that you have built together will last forever. You seem like a great loving person with a kind heart and I’m sure you gave both your dog and cat the best you could, so please don’t feel guilty. I know you probably feel like you could’ve done certain things differently, but we can’t change the past no matter how much we would like to, so try to forgive yourself.
The first few weeks after loosing my cat were painful, but it was the most beautiful spiritual journey for me. She visited me a lot in my dreams and she even came to tell me she’s okay on the 2nd night after she passed away. It was the most surreal experience, one that I’ll cherish forever ❤️. That night, I saw her sitting there looking at me and then a big pair of hands carried her up gently. Right as she disappeared, I felt a strong and calming energy wave flowing down my body from head to toe, filling every blood vessel. I received 3 messages: I’m safe, don’t cry too much, don’t blame yourself. There was no sound, I guess telepathy would be the best way to describe it. The energy wave was so strong that it paralyzed me, but I also didn’t want to move because how calm it made me feel. When I woke up again a few hours later, that energy was still in my body. Some people can say it’s just a dream, but I’ve never had a “dream” this powerful and detailed. All this to tell you, your babies are in a safe place free from pain and agony now. They are running and playing together in their new home and everything is okay now ❤️
Had to take my boxer of about 14 years to the local shelter for humane euthanasia.
I just miss him so much, I wish the life expectancy was more.
This past weekend we put our Shitzu mix to sleep, he was 16 yrs old. It was not easy but we felt his quality of life was deteriorating and he had cancer for 3 years but wasnt effecting him till the last 6 months. He slowly couldn't eat dry food only wet and didn't bark anymore. If he ate too much he sometimes threw up and barely went out and was lethargic. When we took him the vet agreed it was best. He wasnt in serious pain yet but his quality of life went downhill in the past month. We felt guilty thinking if there was anything we could do differently. But when we saw what he was doing the past 2 weeks and my wife said he had that look of "I am tired and can't anymore" she knew.
You have encompassed the psychology of this event to perfection. Thank you so much! It helped me so much today with this decision.
Oh we are so happy to hear that you found it helpful :) Hearing that means so much! All the best :)
I had to euthanize my cat (Roger) 7 months ago due to kidney disease. He was spending most of his time hiding and sleeping. He didn't want to play anymore. Even though I know I did the right thing, I still feel guilty. He was my best friend, and I miss him terribly. :(
I know how you feel. Cats are amazing companions. My buddy is starting to fade away now, it breaks my heart. Will probably have to make that decision now. So he doesn't suffer. It's devastating.
Hi Mike, so sorry to hear about this. That is understandable but it sounds like you did the most compassionate thing. Try not to make this the sum total of your relationship and focus as much as possible on the all the wonderful memories you've shared together! Wishing you all the best.
please dont feel guilty you did the right thing for Roger , they cant talk so we dont know how much pain they are in or suffering , his spirit is in cat heaven now he is fine and pain free,, god bless Roger .
I had to put my cat down today. He was only 2& 8 months old
True that not the easiest choice in the world to say Goodbye to your best friend
This is the best advice on this I have found. It’s so hard and the guilt has been keeping me from setting it up. Thank you for this.
I am absolutely going through it right now. My best friend, my boy who is a Golden retriever mixed with a Pomeranian who we rescued back in February 2012 is not doing so good. Last April he had kidney failure, and he got a dialysis which saved his life then, but that's around the time we found out he has cancer. My boy is at the point where he isn't really going for walks anymore, but he is still drinking water but is not eating that much. I haven't been able to see him in the mornings but in the afternoon and evenings is when I see him, and I spend time with him and that's when he will try to eat a little of food. My mother just told me this evening that I think they are planning on putting him down tomorrow or Wednesday and I have been literally battling with myself telling myself and them that it's too early and he is still fighting and still has some life in him. I keep hoping that my boy can hold off long enough until I get the money that is needed for him to get his surgery to make an attempt to save him from the cancer but that is me just hoping there is a chance that I can save him. I know my parents are probably right that it is time for him to pass the rainbow bridge but I am just not ready for him to go yet. This really is the hardest decision, but I just hope my parents don't do this behind my back and take him to get put down when I am not there because that will really crush me, and the worst part is my Birthday is literally this weekend.
He's a good honest vet.
Thank you for making this video. It gave me tremendous comfort after going through this a couple days ago
I Agree...
No animal should have to suffer when there's no joy and is suffering from old age. The owner that loves his animal will think for it to put it down when he is suffering and there is no cure for his animal. That is what you call an animal lover.
Thanks for the candid discussion. I am searching for justification for ending my pet's life. This has helped.
Hi Pat, glad to hear it was helpful.
My heart is aching. I made the call. Maybe she only needed more pain meds. I'm kicking myself now. I can't stand this. She was my best friend for 12+ years. Oh God, I just want to be with her again. I can't stand this and the guilt is tearing me up. Help please.
You know you did the right thing..vets plead,,,a week to soon is better than a week late...
For some people it is the end of their world for others it is nothing ..My dog is suffering I just can't do it . Thinking about it makes me cry . I pray that she die peacefully . I can't kill her . I will never have a dog again . It is to painful .
The pet on the other side will.never blame you.
@@Evelyn-zg9gp thank you.🙏💖
Just know; You did your best. What you did was compassionate and right.
I had to say goodbye to my 19 year old cat today. The guilt is killing me.
I just had to euthanize my cat tonight 1/27/23. It was of course, very difficult. I had her for 15 years. I had it done at my vet and requested the vet that had treated her for some time to do it. I am heartbroken. My cat had stopped using the litter pan. She was eating a bit and drinking some water, but she wasn’t putting on weight. I knew it was time to say goodbye. Her quality of life was certainly dimensioning. Those little eyes looking up at you only make it harder.
I needed to hear this today, thank you.
We are thinking about getting our dog put to sleep, she is showing obvious signs of dementia, urinating in the house if we leave her in the house even for short periods, pacing in the night time, but sleeping a lot more during the day. Our vet has told us to consider Euthanisia. She got me through the most difficult period of my life and im finding it very hard to think about letting her go.
2:53 My beloved, faithful and trustworthy 15 yr old GS will be euthanized at home 5 days. She needs assistance in getting up, tremendous weakness in her hind legs when trying to walk, & losing bowel control. Had as a 16 week old pup…. She’s given and taught me SO MANY life lessons. I can’t imagine my life without her.
Feeling. So. Much. Loss. & Pain.
I feel so!! Damn guilty!!! And powerless!!!
I believe I needed to hear this. Thanks alot. Tomorrow my 14 year old baby boy, will ne put to sleep. This is the hardest decision of my life, your minds constantly asks, is it too early? Does he have more to live but I am deciding to take it way. Our vet said that will be the best decision, as he is having great pain, for one week he cant walk and get out. The worst part is, I am away and my mom tells he cant stand pain any more.. I hope this will be easier by time.. but I will never stop loving him…❤
BEST VIDEO on the internet about euthanasia, thank you!
Thank you for talking about this. My cat got dealt a really rough hand with cancer. It really helped me during a tough time. It's still sad, but I feel more like it's the right thing.
One of the thing doctors say is of it's possible to stay with your pet.Mostly they know it's time to go and they look for you with there eyes in the office.I bbn promised all my cats that I'll be there holding their paws as they cross over(if I have to make the decicion)..I wanna rock them as I would rock my child and tell them I'll be with them when the pass through the rainbow bridge.
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This is the best advice out there. Short and to the point. Thank you. I shared this with my friends because this vet seems like a good person with the best insight I have found looking through so many videos for good info on this.
Carrie Shin I agree
We so appreciate hearing that and are happy that it resonated with you! Feedback like this really helps confirm why we do what we do. All the best :) - The HCFP Team
Thank you! :)
I’m having a hard time because my dog has good minutes and bad minutes... not days! It’s so hard, but it’s terminal. 😢
Hi Kathryn, sorry to hear about what you guys are going through. Don't let this overshadow the lifetime of positive memories you've built during your relationship with your pet and try to celebrate the time you had together. Wishing you both the very best.
I had to euthanize my cat last week after he suffered for a while with a brain tumor. I talked to a friend about not knowing when I should let him go, and my friend told me I would know when it was time, and he was right. I came home from work last Tuesday and I suddenly felt in my heart that ti was time to let him go, and later that day he let me know I was right, as he looked up at me with his tired eyes almost to tell me it was his time and I had to let him go. I know his soul is finally happy and free again, although I did feel initial guilt, I still know it was the best thing for him. My point being you will know in your heart, and maybe your poor pup will tell you too, when it's the right time, and there will be little doubt.
Betty Smith Im sorry for your loss! 🙏❤️ I had the same experience. I knew that morning when my dog was cowering, shaking, and wouldn’t even eat bacon. While I was waiting for a traveling vet who euthanatizes animals in the home, I gave him a triple dose of his pain meds, and he felt better. What was he going to do, get addicted? His last meal was bacon and vanilla ice cream. A vet once said that better a day too early than a day too late.
My cat is 21 years old. Within the past week she is having problems so I am taking her to the vet in a couple of days. She eats, drinks, urinates,etc. Sleeps with me - gives me kitty kisses. My husband dies suddenly last year. She keeps herself clean. All my friends tells me that I am a good cat mommy to her. Which I have to remember I have done everything that I can for her. I will wait and see see what the vet says.
Thank you so much for posting this video. I had to put my 12 year old cat to sleep on saturday and for the past 6 months he's been declining and then he started to get better and then last week he just started looking worse and it's like you said, are the good days outweighing the bad. I knew I had to make the decision and it was so hard but I know he was starting to suffer and the vet told me "we can try and do these treatments and it's not going to be comfortable for him but I can't force you one way or the other." I thought about it, I prayed about it, and I got to have one last night with him before I took him in and he and I just bonded and I was so sad but when I took him in I knew it was the right thing to do. I would prolong his life just for MY sake and it wouldn't be right for him. I'm glad you mentioned guilt because I feel guilty knowing there was a treatment on the table to try but putting him through all that wouldn't be a way to live....... he died with dignity. To me, that's the only thing givnig me comfort right now. Knowing that I gave him an act of kindness.......... I am so devsastated but I know that holding on would only hurt him in the long run
Hi Bobby, it's our absolute pleasure. You have to remember that you have provided so much love and care for your cat throughout its whole life. Try not to let this become the sum total of your feelings about a lifetime with your pet. Celebrate this special animal that shared a part of your life and that you gave so much of yourself too! Wishing you all the best :) - The HCFP Team
I really do appreciate your kind response. You're right. I was looking through old photos and videos of him and I had not really realized exactly how bad his health had declined these past 6 months. To me, I knew he was losing weight and everything but I would just be optimistic and feed him 3x's a day with the canned food and he was eating the dry food whenever he wanted. Looking at pictures from even 2 years ago, I knew he wasn't the same. I know he was holding on as long as he could as well, but when a cat starts to go hide and he starts to sleep a lot more than usual I know those are the signs of a cat who's sick and dying. I really really miss him and I love him but I know I did him the best thing someone can do for the animal that they love.. the ability to die with dignity and grace. The vet sent me a card saying how sorry they were and I'm going to donate the rest of the cat stuf that I have to them.. I'm sure they can use something from it.
That's right and it's great you're putting those toys to good use! Take care and remember to celebrate the time you had with your kitty! :)
Yeah. It's been a month now and I still think about him a lot. It's hard losing a constant companion. Whenever I'd come home from work he'd be there waiting for me on the stairs right in front of the door or he'd be looking out the window as I went to get the mail first and he'd go greet me... I just miss him so much. Especially late nights like tonight when he and I used to spend a lot of time together. Whenever I see a cat I think about getting another one but I feel like I would just be replacing him and I really don't want to look at this in morbid terms like this but in the end in another 10-15 years I'd have to go through this all over again. I really think he's going ot be the last cat I ever have. I really can't get emotionally attached to another animal and lose them like my little Chaos. I talked to my councillor about it and told him I felt guilty knowing threre was an option on the table and if I did it who knows what may or may not happen but the vet didn't seem to be optomistic about it and he put me in this position of pay this extrodinary amount of money up front and for the rest of his life he'd require treatments but they were not sure what was wrong. First they said it was his kidneys, then they said his liver, then they said he had diabeties... and they were basing it off of a very limited blood panel that I could barely afford and if I did submit to this treatment plan it would be 350 every 2 weeks and once they had the meds straightened out it would be 300 every 6 weeks. I know I couldn't pay that. I was put in an impossible situation.. mmy councillor told me "well there you go, you had no choice... don't put so much pressure or blame on yourself. The vet could have made other payment arrangments or taken your financial situation into consideration for the benefit for the cat's wellbeing but I don't think he saw a good prognosis so you did the right thing by not subjecting your cat to a rigerous round of treatment after treatment just for the sake of holding on." So I am starting to believe that. I still miss him terribly and wish he was here, but that's how life goes..
Went through this 3times cried 😢 every time I went through this
I asked my Dad - he said "You'll know". And, yes. I did.
This is the best "when is it time" videos I've seen. I like the questions, is he interacting? Eating?interested in going outside? I keep saying to myself "it's okay for him to be old, he's allowed to be old, I can let him be old, I can take care of him so it's okay" if he loses the interaction, eating, interest or is painful or uncomfortable then yes, it's time.
Thank you for your kind words! We are glad to hear that you found this video helpful. All the best :) - The HCFP Team
I have to let my 14 year old weimaraner go, her back legs went out yesterday im beyond devastated
Oh no, I'm so sorry to hear that :( - my cat is very sick too, I guess I have to say goodbye to her ealier than I thought it would be
Today my German Shephard/Coonhound mix of 12 years couldn't make it up the stairs. I'm struggling with the decision but I think I may take him in tomorrow. He's been my friend since I was 14 years old. I'm gonna miss my Scooby.
My 14.5 year old Shep mix has the same back leg issues. I know the time is coming soon and it's killing me. She is my/our eight dog.
I Had to put my dog down today! Just when i thought this year couldnt get any worse! Sweet dreams 😫😘😫
Hold your head high. You gave your dog everything it needed, and just when it was needed.
Some of what he says is ok. I have a situation here with my 13 or 14 year old cocker spaniel. She has dementia. Her left front shoulder is causing some discomfort as she limps. Her hind hips are weak thus she cant handle slippery floors. She sleeps lots. Her teeth are not so good. BUT her gum color is good, her appetite is ferocious. Her stools are a good composition and color. Her urine is good. She is blind and deaf but she knows our house so gets around ok. Yes there are some that say.. put her down but when you know your dog for 13 years and really know their demeanor ... you weigh the situation. My thoughts are .. When she no longer wants to eat or drink. When her stools are diarrhea/or blood, When she no longer wants to get up and her breathing is erratic. When she enters any of those stages then it is time.
Great advice. Thanks!
thank you for posting.
*Thank you Doc for this video. Really helped me understand this process better. Thank you.*
This guy is incredible. Thank you sir!
Thank you. It's been nerve-wrecking thinking and deliberating about this for my nineteen-year old tortie with mouth cancer. You bring clarity and comfort to the situation. I appreciate it.
Thank you that was helpful 👍🏽
Well said, thanks for making this video.
Thanks for your kind comments. All the best:) - The HCFP Team
Our cat is there....tears roll down my eyes as I type. Thank you for this video.
Thank you for this.
Perfect Adivice Thankyou ❤
Thank you very much… This video helped extremely! 🙏🏼
You're very welcome, glad to hear that it helped. 😌
The words I took comfort in is that you shouldn’t wait until you have to do it. Our Probie was eating and drinking but had great difficulty walking and kept falling. Then we found her laying in a pool of her own urine. This is humiliating for a cat. My wife and I agreed, it’s time.
Very good advice.
This is very helpful ❤
Thank you
My boy is 14 he's a husky lab mix and has definitely started to slow im so sad that I believe his time is coming soon but this definitely helps